I so admire you. Well done. I am 73 married to my wife for 49 years, cared for her with MS 24 years, full hoist for 7 years, former Baptist Pastor and missionary, had two children who are now both married and I am a grandfather of 4 grandsons. But I am gay, medically proven during electronic shock aversion therapy. It did an enormous amount of damage that is still remains with me today. I hope you are very happy with your partner/husband.
Sorry to hear about this, Ron. It’s total bullshit how many lives were ruined with that sort of ignorance with electroshock therapy, which was always stupid pseudoscience. Not sure if you’re still married or out or whatever, but wishing the best for you.
Im 68 yr old & gay went down thee same road (un)fortunately no kids. Now with my partner,, have had ms for 40 years now in a wheelchair, My wife and I are good friends. I have been very fortunate with both my wife & partner.
I'm not a native English speaker. I've been learning English for 30 years, since I was 11. But this is one of the best speeches (monologues) in English that I have ever heard in my life. Devon, you're so intelligent, eloquent and precise in expressing your thoughts and, above all, so clear, fluent, intelligible and coherent. I was literally able to understand every single word of yours and the monologue is 16 minutes long! You did it in such a brilliant and charming way. Well done, best of luck and regards from Croatia, Europe.
I felt good one day when as a Christian I realized, there's no way that Jesus would mind me loving another man. He would be so joyful If we all just loved each other. I think Jesus today would be turning over a lot of tables in our religious churches. Be happy Devon and Rob. PEACE
Jesus was a bachelor in his thirties. There were no females in his life, but Jesus did run around with 12 other men. 12. They just loved him. They treated him like he was a god. 12 guys and no girls.
Devon......I'm 66yrs young..former LDS..raised, mission, Temple Marriage, Father of 4 children..after 18 yrs could not continue the pretense...after getting myself healed..met my amazing and supportive Husband (married 1991)..I've lost relationship for over 25 years with my Mormon Famy until Reunification 2 years ago..My Brothers and Sisters all supportive..loving..Your life is so enriched for being Devon..
Thank you for this very beautiful testimony. You prove that the most beautiful spirituality is in each of us. If God exists, he is very proud of you. You inspire love and peace. The world needs people like you.
Thank you, Devon, for travelling such a courageous path. I am 73 years old and have been with my husband now for going on 50 years. I wouldn’t trade any of it to be straight. All the best to you and Rob.
I can so identify with you. I grew up Pentecostal and conservative and I was so trapped in self-hate and fear. My fear was so great that it took me a very long time to come out. I wanted to say thank you. What you said about letting go of self-hate and being afraid of the unknow was powerful and I needed to hear that. I remember telling my dad when I came out that I had chosen to believe in Gods love for me but I haven't been doing that so thanks for reminding me to do that.
Coming out is truly a relief...a thousand burden lifted out from your body and soul.I came out when I was 36 yo.I cried whole heartedly.I could not bear with it any longer!..Now I am free.At the age of turning 60 I felt life is more free and relax.I have a boyfriend 30 years younger.Hes been loyal to me.I love him.I could not be bothered of what people would think of me not getting married.We are all gods creation.If you belief in god.
Intelligent, deeply personal and truthful. Feels like I just had an honest conversation with a friend. Devon and Rob I follow you on Instagram and RUclips. May your family be blessed with a long happy life.
Best of luck to him and his partner. Lovely storey we cannont change our feelings of what we really are just accept Other peoples choices and be happy for them. If you watch movies of Biblican Times this was very common. Lovely well spoken man. ❤❤❤
Devon, thank you for sharing a story of coming out that was closer than others I have been blessed to see and hear and become emotionally wrapped up in .
It is truly moving and helpful for many to be able to share your experience, Devon. My wishes for a strong and happy future in your new life. Thank you so much.
Thank you Devon for sharing your story. You're so strong and a wonderful man. I'm following you for a while on Instagram and I think you're awesome and a great dad (not daddie ;)) X
This is an amazing story. I went through something like this when I was 35. Only it wasn't Morman, but, it was a deep religious affiliation. To tell your story required a great deal of bravery. I give you all my best wishes...Thank you for sharing your story..
So by now your video is old news to you, but through the magic of the internet it will continue to inspire, educate, and comfort people for as long as you care to leave it up. Congrats on a candid, stunning, and very beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it. And OMG that smile.
Thanks for sharing you're story Devon! Been thru the same chaos with the baptist church here. You're family is beautiful! If you are ever in Orlando hit me up, Love to meet you.
Devon's decisions and subsequent path will be beneficial to his children. A parent's most important role is to be a role model, and while it is impossible to truly know someone from a 16 minute video, I'd say he is, and will be, a stellar role model. He has shown bravery in the face of adversity, and remained true to himself. Good lessons to pass on.
@Gary Lee I'm intrigued. So you mean to tell me that your life is so well organized that you make time to seek out the vlogs of gay men on RUclips, don't watch the video posts, but post comments stating our superior your life is to theirs. That's truly an interesting use of one's time. Why do you do it? I really want to know. Why?
@Gary Lee Wow, you are a self-confessed troll! Throw a parade! Some day you may decide to come out as a pompous ass to your friends and family...and guess what? They've always known. And as others have suggested, methinks thou dost protest too much.
@Gary Lee LOL!! Oh Dear... you really are sad.. a troll and have not one idea of what you are talking about... And talking about talent... you have zero... what a sad sad person you are.....
Thank you for sharing your story. It really got me when you said that we should not be afraid of it. Am really glad that you had a happy ending despite all the struggles.
Your story is so similar to mine. I was married for 18yrs when I came out. By then my children were young teenagers. Our split was amicable and luckily my children were mature enough to accept my sexuality. My wife went on to remarry 32yrs ago and I met the love of my life. We had a great relationship and my children said they were lucky as they had three dads. All family occasions every body joined in as family. We enjoyed amazing good family times together. Unfortunately my partner passed 20yrs ago with cancer. We all still mourn and think of him. To me that is real family however unconventional it may seem. I am now 78 and feel very blessed.
What a beautifully honest, simple and lovely boy. May he continue to be an inspiration to his family, and may he enjoy all the love from them that he deserves. How great it is that youngsters of his quality keep our civilization going!
Thanks for the time and this testimony. One of the most powerful statements you said was identifying what you were going through as it is just a part of one's journey. No journey is smooth and the "bumps" make us all stronger. You definitely look at peace with your decisions and congratulations on that. Your truth will also make your sons stronger in whatever their path will look like.
Your talk brought tears to my eyes. Immediately I felt sorry for myself, but I'll use my spirituality to deal with that. My ex-wife and I still have some issues. My 2 daughters have difficulties accepting me and I'm old but I want a partner. As I said earlier God will help me work that out. God bless you and yours.
Your an incredibly strong man. Your self honesty and courage puts you a step above the rest. Your also incredibly handsome. Best of wishes to you and yours.
You're the type of guy we can chat with all day. I could use a good chat with you! You have no idea how at ease I feel just listening to you of this video. I am 70, and scared stiff about coming out...At my age, I ask , Why come out now? Then I see how nice and relaxed and happy you are...and THAT's what I wish I had...Happiness!
Thank you Devon for sharing us your beautiful story. It is sad when a belief system works against being authentic but this healing experience in finding true self not only elevates your life and spiritual journey but also on a collective level, myself included. I hope you will continue your beautiful journey and let others - also looking for their true self - to follow to find theirs.
Having seen your previous Far Between video earlier today, I am very pleased to hear that life has worked out for you so much better than you were hoping for at that time. Thank you for sharing the update - happy endings are good to see !
This journey is duplicated time and time again. Thirty seven years ago I knew I was attracted to men but church, culture and family pushed and pushed to marriage. I became engaged to a good woman. Days before the wedding I was in the bishops office in total panic. I asked him what was I to do getting married and also attracted to men. I was told...proceed with marriage, marriage and righteous living will make those feelings go away, and never tell your wife of those feelings. WHAT?!?!?,,,enter into marriage with secrets and lies??? I got married. Weeks into the marriage I was going to have it annulled. Then she came to me saying she was pregnant. That set everything into motion, I could not walk away from my child. Four children later, ten years into the marriage I came out to the wife, mom and sister. Major, major mistake, it was held against me everyday thereafter. Come forward 27 years of marriage, the last child moved out. The wife came to me and asked for a divorce. Took just minutes of my thinking we didn't sleep in the same bed for years, had not had sex more than a few time over the prior years, didn't even vacation together anymore, I said OK. On the same weekend of the divorce being finalized I also quit the Mormon church and came out to my three sons and the other people that mattered. Since then I catch myself occasionally having cramps in my face cheeks. I realize I am smiling to hard. In fact I smile more in the last 10 years than I ever did in the prior 50. 'Tis a horrible sociological experiment/mistake LDS, Inc. made encouraging gay men to marry women. From that many 1000's of divorces have occurred, families destroyed, relationships lost. The divorce rate for mixed sexuality marriages is around 95%.
Thank you, Loren. Although I am not LDS, I also was led by my religion to think that same-sex relationships were sinful, married a beautiful woman, had kids, only to find myself plunged into severe depression. My ex-wife is happily remarried (thank God). I am glad for my incredible kids, but I have never had the male mate my heart desired. Yet, I am content. I wish you great happiness!
Wonderfully spoken. The damage religion and myth has inflicted upon the world is inflicted upon the world is legion. Sorry for what they did to you and your former wife,
Oh dear me....to be honest talk,im 32 years old now,am gay and i was realize it when i was 14,and i still in the closet and my family is too religious that i wasn't able to come out yet,because i know the consequences its was,but one things that i figure it out is, i never ever married a women because i don't want to hurt and ruin their feelings and their life,because i knew it what was pain means when you hurting by someone,no more tears and pain! Hope soon im able to come out to my family and start to find out my soul mate...peace yo!
Very well spoken and a beautiful story, much joy. I cam out after 35 years of marriage at 56 3 kids, I thought what was the point in coming out now. it was the best decision both personally and professionally I am at peace and have a wonderful loving partner to share the rest of my story.
Al, the courage will come I was married for twenty years my sons are 20 & 23 now. I adopted the attitude of I am old enough to make my own decisions and I have someone to hold my hand. Just be true to yourself. Cheers 🥂
You have a one live. You want to live in vein? I was not married with a woman no kids. I'm married now 7 years with me partner. I not want ad the end off me live have to ask myself WHY....
I have always appreciated and respected any and all “coming out” stories. I simply see the telling - or rather, the sharing of each story, as a reflection of the storyteller’s personal inner strength; that person’s very bold, brave, shameless move in which that person tells the world that he, she, or them is willing to unapologetically live their truth and live IN their truth. CHECK IT: Sanctify yourself, set yourself free! Always live your truth and live IN your truth. Bravo, Devon... bravo! And as a fellow human being, as a bisexual person of color, and as a member of the LGBTQ community, I thank you for bravely sharing your story. All my best to you, to your future endeavors, and to each and every day of your wonderful and beautiful life. #LGBTQpeopleareLegion
You don't have to come out of the closet just accept yourself love yourself for who you are and it's nobody's business be yourself be true to yourself love you my friend
I am 75 years old and when I was 15 or 16, I told my mother and father that I was Gay and we had a pretty short conversation. I have been with my partner, Husband, love for 47 years and we still love each other very much. I'm going to tell you many things that are so far removed from any other Gay person, that some of these things you may not believe or you have never thought of them before. I am very masculine and no one has ever guessed me to be gay, not that it matters, and I have never ever hid that I was gay to anyone at all. My high school knew I was gay and I was never bullied by a single person. I was the fastest runner in my high school. I was very well liked and even some girls joked about converting me. I have never been with a female and had never thought about it, not even to hide that I was gay. I think I was maybe six or seven when I knew I was attracted to males. What got me through all this and so much more was the fact that at a very young age, I was very mature, aware of myself and aware of the world around me, I knew what was right and what was wrong for me, I was not persuaded by anything or anyone, except my parents out of respect and love. These attributes you cannot find in hardly any grown man, let alone a teenage boy. And that is what has put me through life. Never been rejected, made fun of or talked about...ever. The other thing that has kept me clear headed is that I have from my early twenties managed to avoid ignorance and I'm talking about the REAL ignorance. If I saw it or heard it, I walked or ran the other way. Ignorance in this world comes in a million different shapes, colors and brains. THERE ARE THREE FORCES IN THIS WORLD RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DEATH OF BILLIONS (YES, BILLIONS OF PEOPLE AND ANIMALS SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME. THEY ARE RELIGION, CULTURE, AND IGNORANCE AND THEY WILL ALL BE HERE ON THIS PLANET UNTIL THE VERY LAST PERSON TAKES THEIR LAST BREATH. THANK YOU FOR READING THIS.
I just saw your video.... wow was so amazing., it’s almost the same about my life., I was so religious too. But sad depression and anxiety I was living on hell. Till I Deside left religion family and friends. Was hard but I was feeling better. I was finally free... I took control of my life and live whatever I want. No more sadness no depresión or unxiety . Of course I still religious guy. I’m a good guy and happy. Thanks for your video make me stronger. Be happy and wish you the best.
So happy for you and your family! I’ve gone through a similar situation in 1995 when I came out. My daughter is now 36 and loves my husband as does her mom. It took us a few years to find our way back to each other as best friends and coparents.
A lot of us who went through the great exodus from the church have sustained a great loss from being cut off from all we have known and believed in all our lives because we were born different - through no fault of our own. Regardless of what the world will say, we who were born this way know we were created by the heavenly father just the way we are. One of the things that helped me was hearing that the church lost more from my departure than I did. Most of us who were born different threw everything we were into the church. We worked harder than most of the straight people I know, and we were the glue that transformed people into community. That is why it is so very difficult to have to leave - but there comes a point in time where you must realize that everyone that you have honest love for in the church harbor nothing but hatred and exclusion for you - because of blind faith and church doctrine.
You’re beautiful inside and out. Kindness glows from you and wish you well as you move through life. If you live honestly, love yourself as well as others, and live to do no harm, what more could any God or faith want - regardless of which religion you were taught.
Mate,so incredibly gorgeous.Love Ur courage story,can relate.You are Ur true self and that's what matters.Im only half out.It will get easier.Bless U and family.xxxxx
Excellent video! Your path to the realization of the truth and what matters in life is inspiring. Hope your life has continued to grow better and better!
Wow! This is such an interesting coming out story. Thank you, Devon, for sharing your life story publicly. Don't lose faith in your idea of God, please. God is infinitely bigger and less restrictive than what our human interpretations of Him are.
Lieve mooie man blijf zelf met alles waar je voor staat ik sta achter je wel in je innerlijke kracht die steun ik en blijf je zelf je straalt het hele maal love you xxx
Well done Devon. I am not a religious person but I have to say that of the few Mormon gay stories I have seen on youtube, the church must be doing something right because they sure have produced some really decent human beings. I am also aware that LDS are grappling with challenging social issues which conflict with the church's teachings. It will be interesting to see how they go. All the best to you and your family.
Doing something right? Nonsense. Read some if the heartbreaking stories below and you’ll see just how LDS does unforgivable damage to gays. And decent human beings can be produced without any need for religion. Gay Mormons face an incredible struggle. All homosexual sexual activity is condemned as sinful by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in its law of chastity, and the church teaches that God does not approve of same-sex marriage. Adherents who participate in same-sex sexual behavior may face church discipline. Members of the church who experience homosexual attractions, including those who self-identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual remain in good standing in the church if they abstain from same-sex marriage and any homosexual sexual activity or sexual relationships outside an opposite-sex marriage. However, all people, including those in same-sex relationships and marriages, are permitted to attend the weekly Sunday meetings.
What a good wqtch. I have been on similar journey. Really resonated with his comment about being a spiritual person and walking away from organized religion. I have done much the same.
Man, I walked from the Catholic church for the same reasons you left the LDS... but I need a church environment..so I am VERY happy to be an Episcopalian....after 64 years being Catholic. Now i feed prople thru two ministries we have thru my Episcopal parish. I hope you are at peace as I am with my decision.
Thanks for sharing your story. Many of us who were raised in a conservative religion have a similar story. And it makes me sad and angry to think of the young people going through the same experience and how little has changed. Like you I lost my faith in the church and religions altogether and that truly freed me.
That’s great, I understand, I’m a southern man, married a nice woman, finally realized I was tired of living a lie, I told my wife I was gay, my wife and I divorced, it was so very hard, I lost everything I built, I lost friends, my family stood by my side, I met a man, fell in love, we’ve been married now for four years, I’m 33 now and I’m so glad I made the choice to completely rebuild my life and I couldn’t be happier. Make yourself happy don’t live a lie because of fear and your not alone there are so many of us out there.
I am always amazed that any gay person can make it to a healthy state in their lives when they start out Mormon. I thought my coming out was tough but it didn't involve religion which to me seems to make it a whole level more difficult no matter what the circumstances.
Thanks Devon in taking time to share this with us as it's profound and very helpful for any other guyz finding themselves in same situation as it still take a lot of courage and determination to assume who really U Are!
Rob: You touched me at my very core. I've tried to write a post to say how but find myself getting too personal for a RUclips post. Thank you. All happiness to you throughout your life's journey.
Thanks for sharing, it filled my heart with hope. It looks to me that your righteousness and honesty with God not only filled your heart with love but allowed God to show you God is greater than organized religion , and I wish you and your family the best
Thank you so much Devon for your conversation. I myself used to be married with my man. And I am very glad after 8 years now. I discovered my real own sedxuality by the age of 44. Thanks again! Be blessed !
I so admire you. Well done. I am 73 married to my wife for 49 years, cared for her with MS 24 years, full hoist for 7 years, former Baptist Pastor and missionary, had two children who are now both married and I am a grandfather of 4 grandsons. But I am gay, medically proven during electronic shock aversion therapy. It did an enormous amount of damage that is still remains with me today. I hope you are very happy with your partner/husband.
sorry to hear that you went through so much crap but hopefully are happy now.
What an awesome comment! Thanks for your honesty and many blessings to you! Wishing you the best!
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Sorry to hear about this, Ron. It’s total bullshit how many lives were ruined with that sort of ignorance with electroshock therapy, which was always stupid pseudoscience. Not sure if you’re still married or out or whatever, but wishing the best for you.
Im 68 yr old & gay went down thee same road (un)fortunately no kids. Now with my partner,, have had ms for 40 years now in a wheelchair, My wife and I are good friends. I have been very fortunate with both my wife & partner.
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I'm not a native English speaker. I've been learning English for 30 years, since I was 11. But this is one of the best speeches (monologues) in English that I have ever heard in my life. Devon, you're so intelligent, eloquent and precise in expressing your thoughts and, above all, so clear, fluent, intelligible and coherent. I was literally able to understand every single word of yours and the monologue is 16 minutes long! You did it in such a brilliant and charming way. Well done, best of luck and regards from Croatia, Europe.
I felt good one day when as a Christian I realized, there's no way that Jesus would mind me loving another man. He would be so joyful If we all just loved each other. I think Jesus today would be turning over a lot of tables in our religious churches. Be happy Devon and Rob. PEACE
Jesus was a bachelor in his thirties. There were no females in his life, but Jesus did run around with 12 other men. 12. They just loved him. They treated him like he was a god. 12 guys and no girls.
Devon......I'm 66yrs young..former LDS..raised, mission, Temple Marriage, Father of 4 children..after 18 yrs could not continue the pretense...after getting myself healed..met my amazing and supportive Husband (married 1991)..I've lost relationship for over 25 years with my Mormon Famy until Reunification 2 years ago..My Brothers and Sisters all supportive..loving..Your life is so enriched for being Devon..
Devon, you are just Beautiful. May you and Rob have a long life together.
They just broke up 😥
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Thank you for this very beautiful testimony.
You prove that the most beautiful spirituality is in each of us.
If God exists, he is very proud of you.
You inspire love and peace. The world needs people like you.
Thank you, Devon, for travelling such a courageous path. I am 73 years old and have been with my husband now for going on 50 years. I wouldn’t trade any of it to be straight. All the best to you and Rob.
I can so identify with you. I grew up Pentecostal and conservative and I was so trapped in self-hate and fear. My fear was so great that it took me a very long time to come out. I wanted to say thank you. What you said about letting go of self-hate and being afraid of the unknow was powerful and I needed to hear that. I remember telling my dad when I came out that I had chosen to believe in Gods love for me but I haven't been doing that so thanks for reminding me to do that.
You are so brave Devon. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
What an incredible story! You are amazing! Thank you so much for being YOU!
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Coming out is truly a relief...a thousand burden lifted out from your body and soul.I came out when I was 36 yo.I cried whole heartedly.I could not bear with it any longer!..Now I am free.At the age of turning 60 I felt life is more free and relax.I have a boyfriend 30 years younger.Hes been loyal to me.I love him.I could not be bothered of what people would think of me not getting married.We are all gods creation.If you belief in god.
Intelligent, deeply personal and truthful. Feels like I just had an honest conversation with a friend. Devon and Rob I follow you on Instagram and RUclips. May your family be blessed with a long happy life.
Keith what is his Instagram name?
Keith, what is Devon and Bob's chanel here on you tube? I want to follow it too
David Lp I would like to know also!!! Hope some one lets us know!!!
@@troyphillips3987 Thanks Troy!!
Best of luck to him and his partner.
Lovely storey we cannont change our feelings of what we really are just accept
Other peoples choices and be happy for them.
If you watch movies of Biblican Times this was very common. Lovely well spoken man. ❤❤❤
Devon, thank you for sharing a story of coming out that was closer than others I have been blessed to see and hear and become emotionally wrapped up in .
It is truly moving and helpful for many to be able to share your experience, Devon.
My wishes for a strong and happy future in your new life. Thank you so much.
Thank you Devon for sharing your story. You're so strong and a wonderful man. I'm following you for a while on Instagram and I think you're awesome and a great dad (not daddie ;)) X
This is an amazing story. I went through something like this when I was 35. Only it wasn't Morman, but, it was a deep religious affiliation. To tell your story required a great deal of bravery. I give you all my best wishes...Thank you for sharing your story..
So by now your video is old news to you, but through the magic of the internet it will continue to inspire, educate, and comfort people for as long as you care to leave it up. Congrats on a candid, stunning, and very beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it. And OMG that smile.
I send you my best wishes, Devon. You deserve to be happy. Have a great life.
Thanks for sharing you're story Devon! Been thru the same chaos with the baptist church here. You're family is beautiful! If you are ever in Orlando hit me up, Love to meet you.
Devon's decisions and subsequent path will be beneficial to his children. A parent's most important role is to be a role model, and while it is impossible to truly know someone from a 16 minute video, I'd say he is, and will be, a stellar role model.
He has shown bravery in the face of adversity, and remained true to himself. Good lessons to pass on.
@Gary Lee Yet you sought out this channel, watched this video, and took the time to post a comment. That's pretty damn close to a Freudian Slip.
@Gary Lee I'm intrigued. So you mean to tell me that your life is so well organized that you make time to seek out the vlogs of gay men on RUclips, don't watch the video posts, but post comments stating our superior your life is to theirs. That's truly an interesting use of one's time. Why do you do it? I really want to know. Why?
@Gary Lee Wow, you are a self-confessed troll! Throw a parade! Some day you may decide to come out as a pompous ass to your friends and family...and guess what? They've always known.
And as others have suggested, methinks thou dost protest too much.
Gary Lee Your Freudian slip is right there for all to see along with matching bra and panties.
@Gary Lee LOL!! Oh Dear... you really are sad.. a troll and have not one idea of what you are talking about... And talking about talent... you have zero... what a sad sad person you are.....
You've been brave enough to burst the bubble and will now reap the benefits for the rest of your life. Wonderful! What a beautiful way to live
Beautifully expressed Devon. Have a wonderful life.
Thank you for sharing your story. It really got me when you said that we should not be afraid of it. Am really glad that you had a happy ending despite all the struggles.
Devon! I wish you all the best. Thank you for sharing your story.
Your story is so similar to mine. I was married for 18yrs when I came out. By then my children were young teenagers. Our split was amicable and luckily my children were mature enough to accept my sexuality. My wife went on to remarry 32yrs ago and I met the love of my life. We had a great relationship and my children said they were lucky as they had three dads. All family occasions every body joined in as family. We enjoyed amazing good family times together. Unfortunately my partner passed 20yrs ago with cancer. We all still mourn and think of him. To me that is real family however unconventional it may seem. I am now 78 and feel very blessed.
What a beautifully honest, simple and lovely boy. May he continue to be an inspiration to his family, and may he enjoy all the love from them that he deserves. How great it is that youngsters of his quality keep our civilization going!
"What if the one thing you try to hide is the one thing that makes you feel alive?!"
Thanks for the time and this testimony. One of the most powerful statements you said was identifying what you were going through as it is just a part of one's journey. No journey is smooth and the "bumps" make us all stronger. You definitely look at peace with your decisions and congratulations on that. Your truth will also make your sons stronger in whatever their path will look like.
Being honest with yourself and others finally set you free. I wish you peace and happiness.
congratulations and thanks for your video. You're amazing. I'm sure you are helping many hurting young people. Great role model.
Your talk brought tears to my eyes. Immediately I felt sorry for myself, but I'll use my spirituality to deal with that. My ex-wife and I still have some issues. My 2 daughters have difficulties accepting me and I'm old but I want a partner. As I said earlier God will help me work that out. God bless you and yours.
Davon! I wish you all the best. Thank you for sharing your story.
Your an incredibly strong man. Your self honesty and courage puts you a step above the rest. Your also incredibly handsome. Best of wishes to you and yours.
You're the type of guy we can chat with all day. I could use a good chat with you! You have no idea how at ease I feel just listening to you of this video. I am 70, and scared stiff about coming out...At my age, I ask , Why come out now? Then I see how nice and relaxed and happy you are...and THAT's what I wish I had...Happiness!
You express yourself so well. I needed to hear this as should many others.
A beautiful and inspiring story that gives hope to many. God Bless you and Thank You!
Thank you Devon for sharing us your beautiful story. It is sad when a belief system works against being authentic but this healing experience in finding true self not only elevates your life and spiritual journey but also on a collective level, myself included. I hope you will continue your beautiful journey and let others - also looking for their true self - to follow to find theirs.
What a great story. Story Your story can be a great inspiration to other people who grew up the same way you did. I know!
Thank you for sharing this. So many of us have experienced this, and it can be hard to help others understand.
Having seen your previous Far Between video earlier today, I am very pleased to hear that life has worked out for you so much better than you were hoping for at that time. Thank you for sharing the update - happy endings are good to see !
This journey is duplicated time and time again. Thirty seven years ago I knew I was attracted to men but church, culture and family pushed and pushed to marriage. I became engaged to a good woman. Days before the wedding I was in the bishops office in total panic. I asked him what was I to do getting married and also attracted to men. I was told...proceed with marriage, marriage and righteous living will make those feelings go away, and never tell your wife of those feelings. WHAT?!?!?,,,enter into marriage with secrets and lies??? I got married. Weeks into the marriage I was going to have it annulled. Then she came to me saying she was pregnant. That set everything into motion, I could not walk away from my child. Four children later, ten years into the marriage I came out to the wife, mom and sister. Major, major mistake, it was held against me everyday thereafter. Come forward 27 years of marriage, the last child moved out. The wife came to me and asked for a divorce. Took just minutes of my thinking we didn't sleep in the same bed for years, had not had sex more than a few time over the prior years, didn't even vacation together anymore, I said OK. On the same weekend of the divorce being finalized I also quit the Mormon church and came out to my three sons and the other people that mattered. Since then I catch myself occasionally having cramps in my face cheeks. I realize I am smiling to hard. In fact I smile more in the last 10 years than I ever did in the prior 50. 'Tis a horrible sociological experiment/mistake LDS, Inc. made encouraging gay men to marry women. From that many 1000's of divorces have occurred, families destroyed, relationships lost. The divorce rate for mixed sexuality marriages is around 95%.
Dude you are fucking stupid as well....
Thank you, Loren. Although I am not LDS, I also was led by my religion to think that same-sex relationships were sinful, married a beautiful woman, had kids, only to find myself plunged into severe depression. My ex-wife is happily remarried (thank God). I am glad for my incredible kids, but I have never had the male mate my heart desired. Yet, I am content. I wish you great happiness!
Wonderfully spoken. The damage religion and myth has inflicted upon the world is inflicted upon the world is legion. Sorry for what they did to you and your former wife,
Oh dear me....to be honest talk,im 32 years old now,am gay and i was realize it when i was 14,and i still in the closet and my family is too religious that i wasn't able to come out yet,because i know the consequences its was,but one things that i figure it out is, i never ever married a women because i don't want to hurt and ruin their feelings and their life,because i knew it what was pain means when you hurting by someone,no more tears and pain! Hope soon im able to come out to my family and start to find out my soul mate...peace yo!
What a lovely young man. Well done my friend. Just be happy xx
Very well spoken and a beautiful story, much joy. I cam out after 35 years of marriage at 56 3 kids, I thought what was the point in coming out now. it was the best decision both personally and professionally I am at peace and have a wonderful loving partner to share the rest of my story.
Great story. Wish I had the same courage. My marriage fell apart, but still closeted, I'm so afraid to loose my kid.
Al, the courage will come I was married for twenty years my sons are 20 & 23 now. I adopted the attitude of I am old enough to make my own decisions and I have someone to hold my hand. Just be true to yourself. Cheers 🥂
You have a one live. You want to live in vein?
I was not married with a woman no kids. I'm married now 7 years with me partner. I not want ad the end off me live have to ask myself WHY....
Brave and kind dude
Super cool, super demanding, super authentic ... Super encouraging. Thank you. Martin
im so glad you were courageous enough to live your truth. What a great example to give your kids.
Thank you for sharing your amazing journey. I am so happy that you found peace, joy and happiness within.
WOW !!! What an inspirational young man. I wish you a great and wonderfull life.
I salute you and for your openness to share and help others.
Love you man!!!
I am so happy for you.
I went thru a lot like you did the friends I have now has been great
Thank you for sharing so honestly and openly. You are having a positive impact that probably reaches further than you can imagine.
Wonderful, heartwarming honesty from a man who clearly has mounds of integrity. Well done.
Awesome. Thanks for sharing. This will help others. You are not alone and I hope you never lose your faith. Be blessed
From the film Grand Hotel: “We were taught to pray and lie.”
I saw your far between video a while back and am so relieved to see this video. I am glad you found your way through.
I have always appreciated and respected any and all “coming out” stories. I simply see the telling - or rather, the sharing of each story, as a reflection of the storyteller’s personal inner strength; that person’s very bold, brave, shameless move in which that person tells the world that he, she, or them is willing to unapologetically live their truth and live IN their truth.
CHECK IT: Sanctify yourself, set yourself free! Always live your truth and live IN your truth.
Bravo, Devon... bravo!
And as a fellow human being, as a bisexual person of color, and as a member of the LGBTQ community, I thank you for bravely sharing your story. All my best to you, to your future endeavors, and to each and every day of your wonderful and beautiful life. #LGBTQpeopleareLegion
I am still in the same closet. I was brought up Fundamentalist Christian. Everything else the same.
You are the most beautiful man I have seen.
You don't have to come out of the closet just accept yourself love yourself for who you are and it's nobody's business be yourself be true to yourself love you my friend
I am 75 years old and when I was 15 or 16, I told my mother and father that I was Gay and we had a pretty short conversation. I have been with my partner, Husband, love for 47 years and we still love each other very much. I'm going to tell you many things that are so far removed from any other Gay person, that some of these things you may not believe or you have never thought of them before. I am very masculine and no one has ever guessed me to be gay, not that it matters, and I have never ever hid that I was gay to anyone at all. My high school knew I was gay and I was never bullied by a single person. I was the fastest runner in my high school. I was very well liked and even some girls joked about converting me. I have never been with a female and had never thought about it, not even to hide that I was gay. I think I was maybe six or seven when I knew I was attracted to males. What got me through all this and so much more was the fact that at a very young age, I was very mature, aware of myself and aware of the world around me, I knew what was right and what was wrong for me, I was not persuaded by anything or anyone, except my parents out of respect and love. These attributes you cannot find in hardly any grown man, let alone a teenage boy. And that is what has put me through life. Never been rejected, made fun of or talked about...ever. The other thing that has kept me clear headed is that I have from my early twenties managed to avoid ignorance and I'm talking about the REAL ignorance. If I saw it or heard it, I walked or ran the other way. Ignorance in this world comes in a million different shapes, colors and brains.
THERE ARE THREE FORCES IN THIS WORLD RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DEATH OF BILLIONS (YES, BILLIONS OF PEOPLE AND ANIMALS SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME. THEY ARE RELIGION, CULTURE, AND IGNORANCE AND THEY WILL ALL BE HERE ON THIS PLANET UNTIL THE VERY LAST PERSON TAKES THEIR LAST BREATH. THANK YOU FOR READING THIS.
I just saw your video.... wow was so amazing., it’s almost the same about my life.,
I was so religious too. But sad depression and anxiety I was living on hell.
Till I Deside left religion family and friends. Was hard but I was feeling better.
I was finally free... I took control of my life and live whatever I want.
No more sadness no depresión or unxiety .
Of course I still religious guy. I’m a good guy and happy.
Thanks for your video make me stronger.
Be happy and wish you the best.
You are so right. Be yourself and you are blessed.
Thank you for a your coming out story. It is inspiring!
So happy for you and your family! I’ve gone through a similar situation in 1995 when I came out. My daughter is now 36 and loves my husband as does her mom. It took us a few years to find our way back to each other as best friends and coparents.
I am so glad you managed to navigate all that, it cannot have been easy, so kudos for that and for finding a better place.
A lot of us who went through the great exodus from the church have sustained a great loss from being cut off from all we have known and believed in all our lives because we were born different - through no fault of our own. Regardless of what the world will say, we who were born this way know we were created by the heavenly father just the way we are. One of the things that helped me was hearing that the church lost more from my departure than I did. Most of us who were born different threw everything we were into the church. We worked harder than most of the straight people I know, and we were the glue that transformed people into community. That is why it is so very difficult to have to leave - but there comes a point in time where you must realize that everyone that you have honest love for in the church harbor nothing but hatred and exclusion for you - because of blind faith and church doctrine.
You’re beautiful inside and out. Kindness glows from you and wish you well as you move through life. If you live honestly, love yourself as well as others, and live to do no harm, what more could any God or faith want - regardless of which religion you were taught.
God bless you for your faith and your courage. You are such a wonderful example to all of humanity.
Smart guy. So winning. Thank you for your openness. This WILL help.
Mate,so incredibly gorgeous.Love Ur courage story,can relate.You are Ur true self and that's what matters.Im only half out.It will get easier.Bless U and family.xxxxx
Dane
so happy for you and Rob and hoping you guys have a wonderful life together
Excellent video! Your path to the realization of the truth and what matters in life is inspiring. Hope your life has continued to grow better and better!
Good for you. I'm very proud of you and for what you did. Well done!!! Carry on...
your awesome guy!!!
Thank you for sharing Devon
Wow! This is such an interesting coming out story. Thank you, Devon, for sharing your life story publicly.
Don't lose faith in your idea of God, please. God is infinitely bigger and less restrictive than what our human interpretations of Him are.
Wat a beautiful vid Devon ur a awesome guy
Whish I could find a Devon !!!
Lieve mooie man blijf zelf met alles waar je voor staat ik sta achter je wel in je innerlijke kracht die steun ik en blijf je zelf je straalt het hele maal love you xxx
When you're so sheltered and homeschooled and come from a cult, you can't be blamed for coming out as gay as newlywed after you just became sexual
Well done Devon. I am not a religious person but I have to say that of the few Mormon gay stories I have seen on youtube, the church must be doing something right because they sure have produced some really decent human beings. I am also aware that LDS are grappling with challenging social issues which conflict with the church's teachings. It will be interesting to see how they go. All the best to you and your family.
Doing something right? Nonsense. Read some if the heartbreaking stories below and you’ll see just how LDS does unforgivable damage to gays. And decent human beings can be produced without any need for religion. Gay Mormons face an incredible struggle. All homosexual sexual activity is condemned as sinful by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in its law of chastity, and the church teaches that God does not approve of same-sex marriage. Adherents who participate in same-sex sexual behavior may face church discipline. Members of the church who experience homosexual attractions, including those who self-identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual remain in good standing in the church if they abstain from same-sex marriage and any homosexual sexual activity or sexual relationships outside an opposite-sex marriage. However, all people, including those in same-sex relationships and marriages, are permitted to attend the weekly Sunday meetings.
What a good wqtch. I have been on similar journey. Really resonated with his comment about being a spiritual person and walking away from organized religion. I have done much the same.
Man, I walked from the Catholic church for the same reasons you left the LDS... but I need a church environment..so I am VERY happy to be an Episcopalian....after 64 years being Catholic. Now i feed prople thru two ministries we have thru my Episcopal parish. I hope you are at peace as I am with my decision.
And Devon, you are one beautiful man.
Thanks for sharing your story. Many of us who were raised in a conservative religion have a similar story. And it makes me sad and angry to think of the young people going through the same experience and how little has changed. Like you I lost my faith in the church and religions altogether and that truly freed me.
That’s great, I understand, I’m a southern man, married a nice woman, finally realized I was tired of living a lie, I told my wife I was gay, my wife and I divorced, it was so very hard, I lost everything I built, I lost friends, my family stood by my side, I met a man, fell in love, we’ve been married now for four years, I’m 33 now and I’m so glad I made the choice to completely rebuild my life and I couldn’t be happier.
Make yourself happy don’t live a lie because of fear and your not alone there are so many of us out there.
I am always amazed that any gay person can make it to a healthy state in their lives when they start out Mormon. I thought my coming out was tough but it didn't involve religion which to me seems to make it a whole level more difficult no matter what the circumstances.
Thanks Devon in taking time to share this with us as it's profound and very helpful for any other guyz finding themselves in same situation as it still take a lot of courage and determination to assume who really U Are!
Rob:
You touched me at my very core. I've tried to write a post to say how but find myself getting too personal for a RUclips post.
Thank you. All happiness to you throughout your life's journey.
Lovely to learn you have found your true life. Wishing you every happiness with your partner. XXX X
ur adorable, im so glad ur happy now !!! blessings!
I send you a lot of Aloha Devon. Thank you for sharing braddah.
Glad to hear your successful story.
Beautiful... you are so brave. Bravo!
Thanks for sharing, it filled my heart with hope. It looks to me that your righteousness and honesty with God not only filled your heart with love but allowed God to show you God is greater than organized religion , and I wish you and your family the best
You fought through a very tough journey I admire you very much.
If a God is creating you to reject who you are then that God can go to its own hell.
Thanks and congratulations on a successful coming out and successful happy life.
beautiful mind ... handsome guy too. :)
thank you so much for the subtitle it helped me a lot
thank you for sharing your story with us
you are really inspiring me to be who i am
I hope you two are very happy. I just wish things would come together for me as well.
Thankful for this channel
Thank you so much Devon for your conversation. I myself used to be married with my man.
And I am very glad after 8 years now. I discovered my real own sedxuality by the age of 44.
Thanks again! Be blessed !