I once read an interesting quote. At 20 I worried what others thought of me. At 40 I didn’t care what others thought of me. At 60 I learned they weren’t thinking about me.
When I was in high school that's all I cared about. As an adult I tried to maintain the airs and be presentable, As I age, what folks think becomes less and less of a priority.
1. Worrying about the opinions of others 2. Accumulating material possessions. 3:14 3. Maintaining social relationships said no longer bring joy. 5:08 4. Chasing societies standards of beauty. 6:53 5. Holding onto activities that no longer bring us joy. 8:54 6. Tolerating toxic relationships. 10:30 7. Comparing yourself to others. 12:12 8. Clinging to outdated goals. 13:21 9. Feeling guilty for prioritizing your own happiness. 14:41
I'll be 75 in a few months, and have been taking a carload of furnishings, clothes, and other things to GoodWill every month without fail. This will continue for a few more years at least. As a former shopaholic, this has really freed me.
Goodwill is a for profit organization. It’s making the upper management rich people. It’s better to take donations to a local organization that help people without trying to support their own high life style.
There are charities, even better that Goodwill, that will pick up from your home... but is has to be more than a couple of boxes 🤣 Disabled American Vets come to mind (DAV)
@@LT-pv7ho Yes and they pay their CEOS a LOT of money while they pay the "disadvantaged barely or above minimum wage". Other charities pay MUCH MORE to the disadvantaged. I never give to Goodwill anymore since I learned how they spend their money off of our goods. Google it, and learn and make informed decisions!
I am 72 and I am happy yet am alone. My wife passed at 2016 and we had no children. Many of my friends have also passed. It is hard to find enjoyable activities. I enjoy this video. One love to me is my relationship to Jesus. ❤
I've been doing guitar since my teens. A hobby as it has turned out. I'm 60 the interest hasn't faded frequency in playing has.(Living conditions really don't permit) I do hope it picks back up. Playing guitar is like an old friend. People think it is just 12 notes but they are so wrong. There is so much music out there.
@@jamespell8091Still pickup my acoustic almost everyday. RUclips instructors showing easy ways to play The Beatles and others artists I love , keep my fingers and voice active. I’m 68 . Hope to play out again someday. Don’t stress about memorizing chords and lyrics anymore. It’s all on my phone , sitting on my lap….for free! Enjoy your picking & strumming brother 😊
I’ll begin my 67th year in a few days. Upon my 63rd year, the 9th 7 year plateau was profound. I hope to embrace my 10th 7 year plateau as a coming of age.
Wish it was as simple as this man tries to assure us... I'm 78, been there, done that... as long as your newfound 'dont give a shite' mindset doesn't allow yourself to shut off those who want to love you... the largest burden of old age is loneliness... my solution, i adopted a mutually loving dog... :)
I’m 73 and I agree. All your dog will ever want is your love and companionship. No passive aggressive attitude, no agenda. Your human “friends” will be there for you only as long as it benefits them.
70 here as well ... happy that I made it thru my four years in the Marines, 1971-75, a year as a police officer, NYPD ... was almost shot off duty by police officers, and almost shot by a 17 year old with a gun. Still with my wife of over 40 years, although as roommates, I'm still content. No time left for changes or getting depressed, just enjoying the time I have left.
Just completed my 70th trip around the sun and looking forward to the next trip if blessed. I listened to the whole message and agree with most of most if not all of what was said. Thanx for sharing.
Now 94 years and live each day as it comes! Two of my children returned home to live! Saves on their rent and is company for us. We all live separate lives and it works.
I have been 70 for the past 6 months, and I can say it's dramatically different than the prior years. This video was spot on for me. Especially number six (letting go of toxic relationships.) which could be one of the hardest for me to achieve. I wish the best for everyone else at this otherwise great stage of life, regardless of the aches and pains along the way.!
70 next year. Can't believe am still alive after all I've been through. But I am fortunate - many of those I went to high school with are gone. Some didn't even make it to 25. A very good video, everyone approaching 70 should watch it, but it's good advice at any age. Remember, tomorrow isn't guaranteed to any of us.
I am 73 - A few years ago I came to the realization that my Brother in law was a drain on me with his narcissistic, holier-than-thou attitude and disrespectful speech to me - since then I have socially ostracized him - he has neither reached out or questioned my choice or made any attempt for reconnect
Funny, we may have the same brother-in-law, several years ago at age 60+ I was in conversation with my Mother-in-law,R.I.P., she was wonderful but, she had gone on about Tim, for the life of me I did not know who she was referring to, after several minutes, I realized she was talking about "Tim"...."oh yeah'... I thought "the Narcissist".....Ha!!!....at her Wake, all he spoke about was him and his accomplishments, It was a embarrassment
Many of these things are good life lessons regardless of age. I’m 74 but my wife is 62 and she is experiencing many of these same things. I think people in their 40s and 50s should pay heed to these. I particularly think the idea of not comparing yourself to others is very important for all.
As an 80 year old I can say that that is a pretty good checklist that I completed before I hit 40. It' is a great life when you learn to let go of meaningless relationships, and material stuff you no longer need. Many of the people I grew up with and grew old with have passed away, but I have new aquaintences that are very dear to me now. Love life, love god, love your family, and do right by people. You will have a nice life.
In my mid 50's I realized all these things and started changing me and my life. At 73 it's all about me and what I want, need and what makes me happy. Things I use to worry over or get upset about I no longer care. Love this video!
As a psychotherapist I spent twenty five years trying to get people to adopt these attitudes BEFORE they become elderly. Especially number one. It was like pulling teeth. Now, at age 77, thinking more rationally about things like external validation, and self-worth, comes with relative ease. Most of my friends and acquaintances that are contemporaries have figured out these nine things simply by virtue of years of experience/learning. This video is an excellent reminder to continue challenging all that nonsense we have learned about self-esteem, and to stop rating ourselves or others. Striving for self-esteem is self-defeating. Striving for self-acceptance is wisdom. Good vid !!
@@WiseAdvice93 i have 5 sons and I haven’t seen them in 15 years. My youngest son has 2 daughters and he refuses to let me see them. My heart ♥️ breaks. I’m depressed most days. Hard to put myself first or move forward
I think we need to redefine elderly. I'm in my late 60s and run, kickboxing, play tennis and weight train. There is biological age vs chronological age. Very different.
@@lindamac45 I also maintain my fitness level, working out at the gym 4 days a week consistently, snowskiing every winter, etc. I'll be 72 next month. In my experience, there is a marked difference between what I could accomplish physically in my 60's to what I can now do in my 70's. Time starts to catch up to all of us. I'm not quitting, but I have noticed the change.
These people are giving up gave up really a long time ago everyday is a gift 🎁 The oldest whining and feeling sorry for yourself and talking about statistics is bull 🐂🐂🐂 You can defy all of the expectations!!!
Wow, I’m going to listen to this again, just to make sure it all sinks in! I’m 71 and widowed for 2 years now. Your advice truly touches me in so many ways. I’m really excited to try putting your advice to work in my life. 🤩
I see some pretty cynical comments. As for me, I found this very validating and helpful. Thanks for an uplifting message. I’m 73 and feel great because I refuse to feel otherwise. Life is always a bit complicated… but gratitude is a very helpful feeling.
All correct observations. However being 70 in 2024 is special cause we remember the real world before the internet and cell phones and the associated values. People born since the year 2000 are going to have very few memories that actually existed free of virtual world. 😞
I'm 76 and rode my e-bike 10 1/2 miles 3 days ago. Walked 13 thousand steps yesterday. Today so far at 5 thousand steps. Stay active physically and mentally. Funny thig is that alcohol makes me tired and I seldom have a cocktail.
I’m 72 and I love this video. I’m still employed full time I love my family and I’m enjoying building my you tube channel. As long as I have my personal relationship with Jesus, I’m preparing for my future home.
Wow you've just confirmed all of my self questioning in the last couple of years. I'm 72 and feel like my new life has just begun. Thank you it's definitely a new mindset and I'm loving it ❤
I am a 71-y-o retired MD. Since my retirement last year, I have thrown out ALL my medical books, diplomas and certificates. Now I don't even think about them. Been there, done that. Now move on!
I'm 74 and reassessing my goals in life. This video has been of great help. I have started going through all the stuff I've hoarded over the years and puzzled why on earth I held on to some stuff! I also enjoy talking to my siblings and my dad (98) while I still can. I have a few physical niggles, but plan to enjoy life for many years yet!
I'm 76 now, and having been a pop culture collector most of those years, I live in a little 2brm apartment, packed to the ceiling with records of all speeds, figures from films and TV, walls lined with posters of The Beatles, Frankenstein, King Kong...a Forry Ackerman wannabe. (Many viewers will know someone like me). Right now, I'm at the stage that I thought I would need these things. Nope. They're keeping me from moving into a much more user-friendly environment. I'm alone, since all but one of my friends have 'gone before me'. The thought of giving nearly everything to a charity thrift shop is very appealing, and your presentation here is a timely nudge in that direction. Perfect serendipity?
@@magichand72 I was once listed as a 'contributing editor' in a F.M. masthead, for mailing them a transcript of a Fay Wray interview I taped (audio) from TV. I think I still have it. But. ???
I'm now 65 years old, but I've always held these values. I do what I enjoy and live my life for myself, not others. It doesn't mean I don't value the opinion of others. I just means that ultimately, I choose what I feel is authentic for myself. Closing the door to something that is no longer relevant opens the door to new possibilities. This is a really great video. Thanks for posting.
As someone who approached and is now in my 70s, this is very valuable information. It has validated much of what I already believed. I hear the word selfish coming from those closest to me, and this is extremely liberating. I am in Stage 4 Parkinson's Disease; I need to hear my own voice. Thank you.
I’m 73 and moving to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, with my husband in 10 months so I’m downsizing and declutterring as fast as I can. Your video is just what I needed to strengthen my resolve 😊
What a shock. being so old (78). They say it is better than the alternative but what a change. I spend a lot of time in my own head thinking about the people that were or are in y life. I love my cats.
I’m 70 and I finally learned to tell people ‘no’. Better late than never. I let only light and love into my life. No negativity or darkness. I’m loving life.
I couldn’t agree more on everything he said, except, at 71 I’m still not ready to get rid of my toys. I tell my kids to do what they want with my “stuff” when Im dead but as long as I’m alive, my junk or toys or possessions or what ever you call them still bring me joy.
Your favorite toys are great, as long as you actually use and enjoy them. Please try not to keep everything, though. You probably don’t want to be remembered for the amount of trash your family had to get rid of after you’re gone.
@ for the amount of money I will leave them when I’m gone they will just have to deal with my toys or I’ll give my cash to someone who won’t complain about daddy’s junk.
Wonderful message. I discovered happiness when I started to think that nothing is or exists. I discovered that the existence of all things resides in my own existence. That was when I started and continued to be absolutely happy. All things come to be in me. I have to learn about all the things I know. Things do not know anything about me. The overvalue I assign to things is a result of my absence of knowledge about myself. I did not need to be 70 years old. I learned all of this when I reached my 50ths.
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73 here...Health is always most important, fitness a close second, stable automated finances, a comfortable affordable home, vehicles for occasional shopping, a home theater AV system, regular hikes, effective weight management, and plenty of tools. By now you should have developed plenty of skills that need exercising given the appropriate tools and equipment. Don't put off buying helpful items, life may be short so enjoy what's left.
At 88, have had to downsize twice. It’s called “gentle death cleaning” by the Swedes. Makes the job easier on the kids after I’m gone. I do not fear death.
I am 71 and feel like I am 51! I still enjoy walking 10 miles everyday when I have the time. And I work for Amazon for 2 months every fall and walk approximately 600 miles during those 2 months . I consider myself blessed!
I’m 77, female, widow and now a nomad and loving it! Can go pretty much when and where I want. Do visit kids and when I’ve had enough, hit the road! There’s a saying in camping, if you don’t like your neighbors, just move. Told my children when the buzzards fly over my camper then they may take me away.
Truth is nothing much matters after 70 given the fact that life expectancy for a male is 76 and for a female it's 78. Even if you're in good shape and have taken care of yourself those numbers whole true. For every 80 something year old person you see walking around With a decent quality of life there's 100 that are in the ground. Just the fact of life. Don't let anything bother you. You can't change other peoples lives or situations unless you leave them a large legacy. Do what you wanna do. Eat what you wanna eat. Go where you wanna go. and remember, after 70 your basically invisible so you can do pretty much whatever you want. Nobody's gonna notice and nobody's gonna give a shit including you!
I rather like your take on life. It is weird at moments though, when I think of how fast it has gone by. We are.....here today, gone tomorrow. Cheers !
I could not agree more. I will be 76 in less than two months. You wouldn't believe how many times I have been called negative for this very take on life. I usually respond, not negative just realistic!!
Totally disagree with almost everything you just said eat what you want do what you want you'll be lucky to make 70 I'm 72 and I work out three times a week I'm in great shape and I plan on living healthy until my 90s. If you want to give up that's your business but don't encourage the rest of the world to kill themself on McDonald's, when they could be feeling great and enjoying good health in their later years I might be stronger now than I've ever been in my life.😊
@ Thanks for your reply. I totally agree with everything you said. You should be proud of yourself that you lead a healthy lifestyle and are still enjoying a quality life. However, the statistics are what they are . What I wrote was not to discourage people but to give folks a reality check. You can plan to be any age you want but the numbers don't lie. I googled how many men in the US today live to be 90 years old. The number was surprisingly high at 11% but that means that 90% of the boys born on the same day you were born are in the ground . In my case I also led a very healthful lifestyle. At 75 years old I was on no prescription medication, climbing mountains in New Hampshire, riding my bike on weekends 20 miles, doing 2 to 3 miles a day either in my home gym or on a track and clearing land by myself in my backyard property for a view of the pond. Then one day while shaving I noticed bruising on my chest. As a surgeon I knew this wasn't a good sign. Bingo! Acute leukemia I out of nowhere.I also planed to live to be 90 like my parents. For sure I'm not gonna be in the 10%. Anyways, I sincerely wish you a happy and healthy long life. God bless!
I grew up in a large joint family of four brothers under one roof. Each brother having his wife and kids. In total, I had 7 siblings and 11 first cousins. As families grew, each unit moved away and in due time, my parents, 3 uncles, 3 aunts, 3 siblings and 7 first cousins passed on. I am now almost 84, enjoying life to the full, along with my wife in our own lovely home & garden in a beautiful coastal belt setting in tropical Goa, India. We periodically visit our two daughters and their families. We thank and praise Jesus for all the blessings bestowed.
Thank you I am now 72 an you have helped me to open my eyes to slow down an do less work am still driving roadtrains here in Australia I will be slowing down very soon ,like next week ,thanks again .
What brings me fulfillment, joy and a sense of peace is a combination chocolate strawberry and raspberry cake, vanilla ice cream ,, after eating a ribeye steak and lobster dinner ! 😊
At the end when he says, "what brings you joy?" I realized nothing does anymore. At 71 every moment is a struggle and I just push through it. I have persistent health problems that either can't be diagnosed or can't be cured. I became a widow less than 2 years ago. My children are too busy for me or don't care. I have a handful of good friends but I never feel joy.
SJBuck Hey 👋 I just want to say I’m about your age. I often feel the same as you. But lately I have found “joy in simple things” like; a day when the “arthritis in my back is not” playing up” and I can “tidy up my home” with no pain. 😜 Or ..Do a bit of gardening. (I’ll suffer the consequences later, but hell.. it’s worth it 🙃 ) Sometimes…I Sit outside on the poach and watch “the birds, bees and other wildlife come to visit my garden.” In early Autumn I often see wild geese “flying overhead me (oh it’s so beautiful, you hear them swarking before they come into view. ) simple things like that “make me smile & bring me joy.” Sometimes l find a “tiny green frog that has jumped 6feet behind my window shutter” (🤔 my how did he get up there? I call him Kermit) I make daily checks behind my wooden shutters for bats (🦇 oh they are fond this spot,) they’re so cute and velvety. But “I open the shutter to let in light” so they find another place to nest. (They are known to carry rabies so I don’t touch or harm them. I just discourage them.) They also leave a mess behind them. But gorgeous to look at. I have a husband who has perennial bronchitis, (he too can & does get “the blues.” Until he gets excited at noticing a plant that has blossomed or the colours of Autumn as we drive, or his favourite football team have won) I we also have an old cat 🐈 (we lost our buddy Monty 🐈⬛ oh it was sad this February) and there’s a sweet robin that follows me around the garden. We have no children, most family members & friends passed. So we’re much on our own like many our age. But you know, we’re happy for each day and wish that you could find joy in similar things as we do. We wish you joy & peace …..try and notice “life around you” There’s many reasons be happy ❤😊 God Bless you.
Thanks for this non fluffy response. When we see friends dying around us, or worse still, in pain and full of sickness etc., it is hard to take. Where is the joy in that? The older we become, the more our friends need us in their old age. Do we not have a responsibility to those friends and family who have helped us through the years in the tough times?
At the young age of 72,I freed myself of most material things that I have collected over many years.They were of no value to me.Most of my friends died,the others are married and I feel their desire to be with only their family. Being single can be great if I can pass on my life skills to a younger generation.
I stumbled across this video, and it is changing my life. I decided to spend less time working on my portfolio and less time posting stuff on social media, and spending more time doing things that give me joy.
I am 66, still working because I want to, not drawing social security yet. I've had 5 close friends in my life. I've lost 3 of them due to death, the most recent was 7-16-24. He was 69 and it was an all of a sudden thing as his wife found him in the shower. The 2 left, well one move 2 states away about 10 years ago and we have lost touch. The other one is 65 and retired. His wife still works but tells me he starts drinking early in the day and is well on way to being drunk when she gets home from her 8-5 job. I don't need to work, but I think work gives me a structured day during the week. I am off on week-ends and love gardening and just being outside. I also own 3 dogs who are part of my family. Great Video!
I am realizing more and more how lucky I am to get to my age. incredible how many die well before 70!! lost a HS buddy in 2016. he was a health nut exercised every day and never ate candy or drank soda pop. died of esophageal cancer!!
I started this before 70. I have cousins I stopped dealing with because they never ever called me though I made a 1000 mile trip to see my grandparents twice a year and then had to drive to Long Island to see my Aunt because my grandparents insisted on it. (They lived in Brooklyn) It's been 45 years since I've spoken to them.
Not 70 yet! I already feel this way. Quite reaffirming. I don't engage in social obligations unless it's absolutely necessary. Happy to be alone with my little kitty. I keep my life very simple. Thanks for this ~
I’m now 72 but feel around 45. However now I only do the things I want to do and only mix with people who have a mutual positive influence. It is very liberating and it brings with it contentment which is a much more realistic goal than happiness.
Passed 70 years this year. Interesting.... We are busier than ever, but the main change we have noticed is how many of our peer group have fallen off their perches in the last couple of years or are now suffering severe illness and/or disability. A 92 year old told us that at 90 there is one benefit - that is there is no peer group pressure. Starting to see that now. Went to 3 funerals this week. Also noticing how people who have isolated themselves for 'peace and quiet' are now having problems getting someone to assist them in their old age. If you are going to isolate yourself, you need to put in place plans for assistance when you can no longer fend for yourself. The last couple of years has been an eyeopener; what we felt that until now was that retirement was easier, now at 70 we are seeing that that party may be over as friends need help in their old age.
My closest family members are gone.. Suddenly lost my Wife of 52-years companionship last year..that really devastated me! Most of my friends are gone... Feel like the last man standing 😮. Each morning when I wake up..l say , thank you LORD for another new day.. a day closer to meet and be judged by YOU 🙏 Am 75-but feel nothing of that Age 😊👍
There's plenty that makes sense from 70 forward.Every time I sleep well and get up late, I feel I'm making up for all of years years when I was a sleep deprived teacher. One of my real joys is listening to Classical music and following the score. What a work out for the brain. My husband and I are still very happy together but I tend to avoid social situations. Mostly they're draining. I can read what pleases me-which happens to be long Victorian novels. Another boost for the brain. I love retirement but I wish I had a genie to clean the house.
1) others opinion doesnt matter as much. 2) no need for material possessions. 3) let go of meaningless social obligations. 4) chasing beauty. 5) omit activities not fulfilling. 6) don't tolerate toxic relationships. 7) comparing self to others. 8) clinging to outdated goals. 9) feeling guilty for prioritizing your own happiness. 10) enjoy a lighter, more fulfilling life.
What a great video! All good points, but #6 and 9 are just pure wisdom! One thing left out is good health and so staying away from bad habits like poor diets, no exercise, excessive drinking, and so on should be mandatory to get to 70 and enjoy life after that. Dumping toxic relationships, of any kind, is huge, no need to be criticized or not appreciated and ditto for not feeling guilty to do stuff that pleases us, after decades of taking care of others. I am 72 and 1/2, I spent decades taking care of others, both professionally and personally and now it is MY time. and with no apology.
I'm 75 and i say do just the opposite. My wife and i are alone, and our children are doing fine, and we can do things we've always wanted to. We recently bought a new c8 corvette, and everywhere we go, people comment on it, and we've had many enjoyable conversations with strangers. Material things like a new car, nice clothes and appearance make you feel good, it's been proven if you dress well, it makes you feel better. Now is the time where we can travel to fun places, instead of being tied down to a job. Dont listen to people who think if you're over 70 you're suppossed to sit at home with a blanket, and watch tv. That's a recipe for giving up and aging really quickly. Now, if you're in poor health or have other burdens, then do as Wise Advise says and just be happy with what you have, but if not, do the opposite and live! you'll feel much better.
I m 74 and have been relatively content with my life especially since I retired at the age of 52. There have been some health as well as practical problems but that is inevitable especially with age. I wouldn’t dispute anything in this video but what I came to realise a long time ago is that people’s behaviour is not random. They do things for a reason often driven by some subconscious need. Work for example gives different people different things and retirement is for some a blessing but for others represents loss ( not just financial). The key to contentment is understandable yourself. Not what you do but why you do it and what needs it meets. People who have no understanding about themselves are like someone who feels hungry but can’t find what satisfies their craving. As people get older with no understanding about what drives them they can and often do become caricatures of what they were with increasing bizarre behaviour.
Thank you very much for the timely message reminder. Am turning 70 next month and can only agree with a lot of the things you said. All the best then, life goes on with new perspectives that make it all worthwhile. Cheers
I'm 75, I say be who you are not who someone else wants you to be. Having said that don't go out of your way to live your life at the expense of others. Love and understanding can go a long way, to ensuring a balance happy life no matter what your age. Don't expect too much and a little can be a bounty, the other way around and you are bound for heart ache and disappointment. Stop and smell the flowers there is no rush, sit and watch the birds. Life is to be enjoyed.
I found your article helpful and reminded me to visit what matters most in my life. For me it is family and helping others. I have everything I need at 75 and honestly can say that I am happy. Life is short so try to enjoy. Thank you for reminding me what's important and healthy.
Arthritis is creeping in at 67, but otherwise I fell healthy and happy. I've been getting rid of possessions that weigh me down. Less is more. I find that now I'm more focused in preserving and prolonging my current healthy status. I'm doing activities that I like and mornings is the most enjoyable part of the day 👍
I am 73 my wife is 69. We watched this together and were nodding with agreement and surprise as we have already realized most of this ourselves over time in the last 15-20 years. Just some before the others in stages of, I guess, what we realized at that time for change appeared. She is retired and I still work 3 days a week as I so enjoy what I do and it gives me purpose. I am horribly goal oriented and like a reason, other than just being, for existing. I am sending this video to my two 40 something children, I see some of these traits in them anyway, for them to learn from. Thank you for the affirmation of what we have come to know and what we still need to realize in our lives.
You can add one more. Find purpose in your life. We all need a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Without purpose, life becomes hollow and depressing. The purpose itself is not important; it just has to be meaningful to you.
This video is helpful as we reflect on life in our elder years. It highlights those things that we can put in their proper place in the journey of life. Thank you for the clarity and encouragements to reflect on life and what we can to to make it better.
I worked hard and was able to reire by 55(68)now.It doesn't matter what others think..most are jealous anyways.I love my life and do what I want not what you want.
I started this thinking in my 40s.... don't wait for 70.... this is good advice for NOW what ever age that is. Teenagers and 20 somethings are obsessed with what others think of their possessions, what clique their are in, getting the latest car or video game. You can have all you can dream of and still not be happy. Live for your self.... not others.
Im about to hit 67, im happy, fairly healthy, free from dogma, i don't care what others say, i eat and consume well, i barely drink alcohol as i don't like it anymore, i still work as a broadcaster and writer because i want to, i live on a small island in the Mediterranean with a equally happy and fairly healthy wife. I never had a silver spoon gifting me wealth and riches, I've had to work hard over the years. But now im free to do what i want to do and im doing it, however long i have left i intend to enjoy every second of it before becoming space dust again. Enjoy, INjoy
Just turned 70 going to do some traveling. Wife and I are experiencing a contagious relationship with me sharing in the responsibility. Hopefully we can work it out as who knows how much time is left. Over wasting time making others happy. Spiritual things are becoming important to me. Grand kids are both fun and enjoyable.
I will be 69 very soon. I admit that I think about my 70’s a lot. Truthfully, I’m surprised I’ve made it this far. I’m hoping to just chill from here on out, do many of your suggestions and continue to create my art (I have an art studio LLC) until I can no longer hold a brush in my hand. One thing I do love is that I am a pretty tough old gal! I ride my bike every day. I walk every day. I paint every day and I work hard in my home. 70 doesn’t intimidate me, I’m going to embrace 70 because I love my life.
Wow! 🤯 This video really hit home! So many of these things are spot on about how priorities change after 70. I especially resonated with the part about not sweating the small stuff anymore. 💯 Thanks for this thought-provoking reminder to live fully in the present! 🙌💖
I'm 74 and live a very simple life in the tropics...I've unburdened myself of all but my most basic needs...my clothing 24/7/365 is a pair of thongs underwear sports shirt shorts...though I do have a few of each...I cut my own hair...am quite friendly but avoid friendships and have quietly disconnected from old acquaintances that simply weren't worth the effort. However...every two years I have to travel to the far south to visit my children and grandchildren...I love them dearly but how I loathe leaving my comfort zone...back to the bitter cold...back to dressing to beat the cold and comply with social norms...and to engage in the interminable family dramas of one sort or another. They find it difficult that I've no interest in moving back despite their well meaning offers...thank god for the internet...that suffices for keeping in contact. I'm an old age pensioner that meets my needs and am contented. What more could I ask for.
@@BrightSeaStar There are drawbacks nothing is ever perfect as you would well know. I live in Townsville...north Queensland a long way from my family in Tasmania and if your close with family this can be an issue although only a flight or two away from them and internet connectivity makes up for this. If your financially secure I'd recommend a unit in a community...I'm not...I just rent. At our age...access to health and support services are not necessarily vital...but important and I'm well served up here. Now...the biggest drawback...heat...it's hot...bloody hot for the three months of summer...offset of course by air conditioning and cool spaces...I tend not to use mine too much and don't at all in the car...(Cos it's not working and I couldn't be bothered getting it recharged)...I tend to time my visits to go south during much of summer. On the other hand...we have eight months of pure bliss weather-wise...I've NEVER worn long trousers...jumpers certainly not a coat even in the depths of our winters up here. You can tell who the natives are...they do. One other drawback is the occasional cyclone...they can be a pain in the backsides...but only if they knock out the services and that's happened twice in 20 years...not bad odds. So I'd recommend that you do make the move...people are friendly and there are huge social opportunities if your interested in that sort of thing. After all...why be cold and miserable half the year when for the rest of your life can be in Foreversummerland. Hope this is helpful.
Perhaps a three or four week holiday come autumn in say Cairns...five hours from Townsville but a truly tropical paradise and a great city to visit...I'm sure you will just love the experience.
My husband and I have already put into practice all of these things mentioned and still have to remind ourselves constantly not to worry about things. Still a work in progress especially for me. Thanks for this interesting video to encourage us that we are doing the right things especially of not engaging with toxic or judgmental people. ❤🙏
I’m 65. I’ll be glad if I even reach 70 and over. Instead of complaining be glad you made it that far. Life spans used to be in the 30’s and 40’s centuries ago.
I have moved to the city! I live in a building of seniors, only 16 apartments in a historic building with tarazo floors and consignor service. I am a Libra, which in my case means my waredrobe is a large part if my personality. So I live in the city, I can leisurely get dressed for lunch, stroll through my surroundings. I am approachable and warm. We have alot of tourists, it's so lovely to elaborate upon their knowledge of the sights. This style of living doesn't cost one cent more then suburban life but people assume all kinds if things so... Bump them! Family included!!?
You Are Very Attractive If You Are 65-81 Years Old and Still Do These 9 Things
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😂I’m 76 and work 24 hrs a week!
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I am 80 , and after listening to you, I am going to change my views and follow yours.
@@nancyhadley6478 I am 76 and work 8-10 hours every day of the week! ❤️🙏🏻😁
I once read an interesting quote. At 20 I worried what others thought of me. At 40 I didn’t care what others thought of me. At 60 I learned they weren’t thinking about me.
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And at 80, I don't care one way or the other.
A very good observation. I am 77 and agree with you!!!
I’m almost 60 and I sure hope I can get to the point where I don’t care what people think!! It’s like being in a prison!
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I'm 75 and doing my best to enjoy what is left in life.
Praise the Lord for another day.
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DITTO THAT!!
@@leecarroll1817 ITS JUST UNFORTUNATE YOUVE BOUGHT INTO THAT BIBLE BS! BUT YOULL FIND OUT WHEN YOU CROSS OVER INTO SPIRIT!
What? I’m 73 and my doc says I’m like I was in my 50’s.
@@mss1974 I'm glad I don't believe I'm like I was in my 50s, no matter who might try to BS me.
I’ve never cared what others think about me, I’ve been a hard working honest man. That’s good enough for me.
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Same here! I'm 71,and like how I've lived my life!
God bless you!
@@Erik-oe7gc Good going! And how did you deal with your moments of mess ups or Oops? We've been there unfortunately. LoL 😂😂.
When I was in high school that's all I cared about. As an adult I tried to maintain the airs and be presentable, As I age, what folks think becomes less and less of a priority.
1. Worrying about the opinions of others
2. Accumulating material possessions. 3:14
3. Maintaining social relationships said no longer bring joy. 5:08
4. Chasing societies standards of beauty. 6:53
5. Holding onto activities that no longer bring us joy. 8:54
6. Tolerating toxic relationships. 10:30
7. Comparing yourself to others. 12:12
8. Clinging to outdated goals. 13:21
9. Feeling guilty for prioritizing your own happiness. 14:41
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Great thanks.
I'll be 75 in a few months, and have been taking a carload of furnishings, clothes, and other things to GoodWill every month without fail. This will continue for a few more years at least. As a former shopaholic, this has really freed me.
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Goodwill is a for profit organization. It’s making the upper management rich people. It’s better to take donations to a local organization that help people without trying to support their own high life style.
There are charities, even better that Goodwill, that will pick up from your home... but is has to be more than a couple of boxes 🤣 Disabled American Vets come to mind (DAV)
@@LT-pv7ho Exactly!!! I just found out the workers there are paid terribly.
@@LT-pv7ho Yes and they pay their CEOS a LOT of money while they pay the "disadvantaged barely or above minimum wage". Other charities pay MUCH MORE to the disadvantaged. I never give to Goodwill anymore since I learned how they spend their money off of our goods. Google it, and learn and make informed decisions!
I am 72 and I am happy yet am alone. My wife passed at 2016 and we had no children. Many of my friends have also passed. It is hard to find enjoyable activities. I enjoy this video. One love to me is my relationship to Jesus. ❤
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I've been doing guitar since my teens. A hobby as it has turned out. I'm 60 the interest hasn't faded frequency in playing has.(Living conditions really don't permit) I do hope it picks back up. Playing guitar is like an old friend. People think it is just 12 notes but they are so wrong. There is so much music out there.
@@jamespell8091Still pickup my acoustic almost everyday. RUclips instructors showing easy ways to play The Beatles and others artists I love , keep my fingers and voice active. I’m 68 . Hope to play out again someday. Don’t stress about memorizing chords and lyrics anymore. It’s all on my phone , sitting on my lap….for free! Enjoy your picking & strumming brother 😊
I’ll begin my 67th year in a few days. Upon my 63rd year, the 9th 7 year plateau was profound. I hope to embrace my 10th 7 year plateau as a coming of age.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I won’t give advice on something I know nothing about but I wish you the best.
Wish it was as simple as this man tries to assure us... I'm 78, been there, done that... as long as your newfound 'dont give a shite' mindset doesn't allow yourself to shut off those who want to love you... the largest burden of old age is loneliness... my solution, i adopted a mutually loving dog... :)
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Told my dog if says one word im selling it.
I’m 73 and I agree. All your dog will ever want is your love and companionship. No passive aggressive attitude, no agenda. Your human “friends” will be there for you only as long as it benefits them.
I have 3 cats that my granddaughters wanted & then lost interest in what a blessing their great company.
Dogs are great company
I am 70, and I have to say this is one of the best things I have ever seen on the internet. Thanks!
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Bernie I'm 82 and I agree with you.
I am 70 a I could not agree more..
70 here as well ... happy that I made it thru my four years in the Marines, 1971-75, a year as a police officer, NYPD ... was almost shot off duty by police officers, and almost shot by a 17 year old with a gun. Still with my wife of over 40 years, although as roommates, I'm still content. No time left for changes or getting depressed, just enjoying the time I have left.
Just completed my 70th trip around the sun and looking forward to the next trip if blessed. I listened to the whole message and agree with most of most if not all of what was said. Thanx for sharing.
Now 94 years and live each day as it comes! Two of my children returned home to live! Saves on their rent and is company for us. We all live separate lives and it works.
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same here at 65 hubby 70 in February
You’re very lucky.
Whatever works best.
Same with me. That’s how things were done “back in the day”…multi generations helping each other carry on.
I have been 70 for the past 6 months, and I can say it's dramatically different than the prior years. This video was spot on for me. Especially number six (letting go of toxic relationships.) which could be one of the hardest for me to achieve. I wish the best for everyone else at this otherwise great stage of life, regardless of the aches and pains along the way.!
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I turned 71 October 21 I'm doing better than at anytime in my life.
70 next year. Can't believe am still alive after all I've been through. But I am fortunate - many of those I went to high school with are gone. Some didn't even make it to 25. A very good video, everyone approaching 70 should watch it, but it's good advice at any age. Remember, tomorrow isn't guaranteed to any of us.
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My family claim I have 9 lives , but I’ve used 6 or 7 already
I am 73 -
A few years ago I came to the realization that my Brother in law was a drain on me with his narcissistic, holier-than-thou attitude and disrespectful speech to me - since then I have socially ostracized him - he has neither reached out or questioned my choice or made any attempt for reconnect
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"The only way to beat the horses, is not to try."
Good for YOU.
Funny, we may have the same brother-in-law, several years ago at age 60+ I was in conversation with my Mother-in-law,R.I.P., she was wonderful but, she had gone on about Tim, for the life of me I did not know who she was referring to, after several minutes, I realized she was talking about "Tim"...."oh yeah'... I thought "the Narcissist".....Ha!!!....at her Wake, all he spoke about was him and his accomplishments, It was a embarrassment
Sounds like it was the best outcome!
I am 83 and life is a joy
Thank you ❤️
I am also 83 and life is a joy for me as well Bless you❤
74 here. Born a bit too late, gonna die too late. Oh well.
God bless you
tes ... life is a joy and Life is the teacher.
Just think of those precious friends that never got to this milestone. 🙏
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September 9,1987 The day everything changed. It seems a lifetime ago, because it was.
I agree most of the people i grew up with are gone 🙏
lucky dogs!
Out of 447 Graduating Members, of my Class in High School; LESS THAN 43 Are Still Around! COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, & NAME THEM ONE- BY- ONE🎵
Many of these things are good life lessons regardless of age. I’m 74 but my wife is 62 and she is experiencing many of these same things. I think people in their 40s and 50s should pay heed to these. I particularly think the idea of not comparing yourself to others is very important for all.
I'm 78 but I feel 77.
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I'd bet you don't look a day over 77 .
@@juniorjohnson5961 Not much.🤥🤥
@@SuperKanonier 😄
As an 80 year old I can say that that is a pretty good checklist that I completed before I hit 40. It' is a great life when you learn to let go of meaningless relationships, and material stuff you no longer need. Many of the people I grew up with and grew old with have passed away, but I have new aquaintences that are very dear to me now. Love life, love god, love your family, and do right by people. You will have a nice life.
so true, this!
All good points
Now you tell me ! Where were you twenty years age! Ahh don't worry about it ,I'll get it right next the time
@GlennShortell haha so funny. Round and round
Great words of wisdom..thanks for sharing
In my mid 50's I realized all these things and started changing me and my life. At 73 it's all about me and what I want, need and what makes me happy.
Things I use to worry over or get upset about I no longer care. Love this video!
That’s inspiring! It’s wonderful that you’ve embraced your happiness and what truly matters. Keep enjoying life!
As a psychotherapist I spent twenty five years trying to get people to adopt these attitudes BEFORE they become elderly. Especially number one. It was like pulling teeth. Now, at age 77, thinking more rationally about things like external validation, and self-worth, comes with relative ease. Most of my friends and acquaintances that are contemporaries have figured out these nine things simply by virtue of years of experience/learning. This video is an excellent reminder to continue challenging all that nonsense we have learned about self-esteem, and to stop rating ourselves or others. Striving for self-esteem is self-defeating. Striving for self-acceptance is wisdom. Good vid !!
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@@WiseAdvice93 i have 5 sons and I haven’t seen them in 15 years. My youngest son has 2 daughters and he refuses to let me see them. My heart ♥️ breaks. I’m depressed most days. Hard to put myself first or move forward
I think we need to redefine elderly. I'm in my late 60s and run, kickboxing, play tennis and weight train. There is biological age vs chronological age. Very different.
@@lindamac45 I also maintain my fitness level, working out at the gym 4 days a week consistently, snowskiing every winter, etc. I'll be 72 next month. In my experience, there is a marked difference between what I could accomplish physically in my 60's to what I can now do in my 70's. Time starts to catch up to all of us. I'm not quitting, but I have noticed the change.
I’ll be 78 in a couple of weeks and there’s a lot of truth in this video. Life is GREAT and I’m looking forward to what’s next!
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These people are giving up gave up really a long time ago everyday is a gift 🎁
The oldest whining and feeling sorry for yourself and talking about statistics is bull 🐂🐂🐂
You can defy all of the expectations!!!
Wow, I’m going to listen to this again, just to make sure it all sinks in! I’m 71 and widowed for 2 years now. Your advice truly touches me in so many ways. I’m really excited to try putting your advice to work in my life. 🤩
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I see some pretty cynical comments. As for me, I found this very validating and helpful. Thanks for an uplifting message. I’m 73 and feel great because I refuse to feel otherwise. Life is always a bit complicated… but gratitude is a very helpful feeling.
Glad it was helpful!
All correct observations. However being 70 in 2024 is special cause we remember the real world before the internet and cell phones and the associated values. People born since the year 2000 are going to have very few memories that actually existed free of virtual world. 😞
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@WiseAdvice93 AI just as I thought ...
I'm 76 and rode my e-bike 10 1/2 miles 3 days ago. Walked 13 thousand steps yesterday. Today so far at 5 thousand steps. Stay active physically and mentally. Funny thig is that alcohol makes me tired and I seldom have a cocktail.
Yes. I never drank much. But after 68 I slowly stopped drinking. Now I never drink alcohol. I don't like it.
so true. I get out of the house each day and try to get in at least 2 hours of vigorous walking. just occasional beer and no recreational drugs.
70 and hardly ever drink Makes me feel bad
72 here and enjoy a nightly cocktail. Whatever makes you happy.
Kindness to others is major keys. I was a widow with 2 children diagnosed with MS. I THANK GOD EVERY DAY!
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Not to all others, sorry. Only to those who deserve our kindness, animals included.
I’m 72 and I love this video. I’m still employed full time I love my family and I’m enjoying building my you tube channel. As long as I have my personal relationship with Jesus, I’m preparing for my future home.
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Wow you've just confirmed all of my self questioning in the last couple of years. I'm 72 and feel like my new life has just begun. Thank you it's definitely a new mindset and I'm loving it ❤
That’s amazing to hear! A new mindset can truly bring new beginnings. Wishing you endless joy in this chapter of life! ❤
I am a 71-y-o retired MD. Since my retirement last year, I have thrown out ALL my medical books, diplomas and certificates. Now I don't even think about them. Been there, done that. Now move on!
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@@WiseAdvice93 Those books weighed a ton! Good riddance!
Me too, now I focus on reading, music, RUclips, travel.
@@rmwtsou I bought a certificate at the flea mkt...put it over the work bench.
@kevinrice7635 Ha ha. So they are worth some money.
I'm 74 and reassessing my goals in life. This video has been of great help. I have started going through all the stuff I've hoarded over the years and puzzled why on earth I held on to some stuff! I also enjoy talking to my siblings and my dad (98) while I still can. I have a few physical niggles, but plan to enjoy life for many years yet!
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I'm 68 and am a very simple life man...happy mind happy heart...
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I'm 76 now, and having been a pop culture collector most of those years, I live in a little 2brm apartment, packed to the ceiling with records of all speeds, figures from films and TV, walls lined with posters of The Beatles, Frankenstein, King Kong...a Forry Ackerman wannabe. (Many viewers will know someone like me). Right now, I'm at the stage that I thought I would need these things. Nope. They're keeping me from moving into a much more user-friendly environment. I'm alone, since all but one of my friends have 'gone before me'. The thought of giving nearly everything to a charity thrift shop is very appealing, and your presentation here is a timely nudge in that direction. Perfect serendipity?
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I’ve sold much on Facebook Marketplace. But did purchase a box of Famous Monsters magazine from youth on EBay. My hobbies clutter the house lol😂
Just do it. I just cleaned out my moms apt as she went to a nursing home. Thinking id miss all those things I remember. Nope, don't miss them.
@@magichand72 I was once listed as a 'contributing editor' in a F.M. masthead, for mailing them a transcript of a Fay Wray interview I taped (audio) from TV. I think I still have it. But. ???
@@smurp1109 My folks, and especially my little brother, pop up in my reverie often. SO often that I don't need any trinket to remind me of them.
I'm now 65 years old, but I've always held these values. I do what I enjoy and live my life for myself, not others. It doesn't mean I don't value the opinion of others. I just means that ultimately, I choose what I feel is authentic for myself. Closing the door to something that is no longer relevant opens the door to new possibilities. This is a really great video. Thanks for posting.
Agree !
Hear, hear!
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As someone who approached and is now in my 70s, this is very valuable information. It has validated much of what I already believed. I hear the word selfish coming from those closest to me, and this is extremely liberating. I am in Stage 4 Parkinson's Disease; I need to hear my own voice. Thank you.
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I’m 73 and moving to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, with my husband in 10 months so I’m downsizing and declutterring as fast as I can. Your video is just what I needed to strengthen my resolve 😊
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What a shock. being so old (78). They say it is better than the alternative but what a change. I spend a lot of time in my own head thinking about the people that were or are in y life. I love my cats.
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I love my cats too
I’m 70 and I finally learned to tell people ‘no’. Better late than never. I let only light and love into my life. No negativity or darkness. I’m loving life.
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I couldn’t agree more on everything he said, except, at 71 I’m still not ready to get rid of my toys. I tell my kids to do what they want with my “stuff” when Im dead but as long as I’m alive, my junk or toys or possessions or what ever you call them still bring me joy.
Yep… 76 and still having fun with all my toys.
Your favorite toys are great, as long as you actually use and enjoy them. Please try not to keep everything, though. You probably don’t want to be remembered for the amount of trash your family had to get rid of after you’re gone.
@ for the amount of money I will leave them when I’m gone they will just have to deal with my toys or I’ll give my cash to someone who won’t complain about daddy’s junk.
Wonderful message. I discovered happiness when I started to think that nothing is or exists. I discovered that the existence of all things resides in my own existence. That was when I started and continued to be absolutely happy. All things come to be in me. I have to learn about all the things I know. Things do not know anything about me. The overvalue I assign to things is a result of my absence of knowledge about myself. I did not need to be 70 years old. I learned all of this when I reached my 50ths.
73 here...Health is always most important, fitness a close second, stable automated finances, a comfortable affordable home, vehicles for occasional shopping, a home theater AV system, regular hikes, effective weight management, and plenty of tools. By now you should have developed plenty of skills that need exercising given the appropriate tools and equipment.
Don't put off buying helpful items, life may be short so enjoy what's left.
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Agreed. Very much on board with your assessment. It has served me well. 72
Pay unwavering attention to your loved ones. It doesn't last forever.
Yeah, it don't! They're all 6' under. For years now.
Excellent advice.
Well said. Age is wisdom, use it in a way that makes you and others happy. Cherish each day and appreciate it.
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Also dwelling on past regrets, we all make regrettable decisions, as the song says…my way, let go of regrets!
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Turned 73 but look 53 .. fotmula never married no kids bought a dog and horse and new guitar strings
At 88, have had to downsize twice. It’s called “gentle death cleaning” by the Swedes. Makes the job easier on the kids after I’m gone. I do not fear death.
One of the most important things is to have a purpose!
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yes! my chickadees and my chipmunks depend on me.
GOD --will give you that purpose!!
I retired at 76 and have enjoyed every moment. I wouldn’t have changed a thing. I love every minute of it left.
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I am 71 and feel like I am 51! I still enjoy walking 10 miles everyday when I have the time. And I work for Amazon for 2 months every fall and walk approximately 600 miles during those 2 months . I consider myself blessed!
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I’m 77, female, widow and now a nomad and loving it! Can go pretty much when and where I want. Do visit kids and when I’ve had enough, hit the road! There’s a saying in camping, if you don’t like your neighbors, just move. Told my children when the buzzards fly over my camper then they may take me away.
That sounds like an incredible life of freedom! Wishing you safe travels and joyful adventures on the road.
Truth is nothing much matters after 70 given the fact that life expectancy for a male is 76 and for a female it's 78. Even if you're in good shape and have taken care of yourself those numbers whole true. For every 80 something year old person you see walking around With a decent quality of life there's 100 that are in the ground. Just the fact of life. Don't let anything bother you. You can't change other peoples lives or situations unless you leave them a large legacy. Do what you wanna do. Eat what you wanna eat. Go where you wanna go. and remember, after 70 your basically invisible so you can do pretty much whatever you want. Nobody's gonna notice and nobody's gonna give a shit including you!
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I rather like your take on life. It is weird at moments though, when I think of how fast it has gone by. We are.....here today, gone tomorrow.
Cheers !
I could not agree more. I will be 76 in less than two months. You wouldn't believe how many times I have been called negative for this very take on life. I usually respond, not negative just realistic!!
Totally disagree with almost everything you just said eat what you want do what you want you'll be lucky to make 70 I'm 72 and I work out three times a week I'm in great shape and I plan on living healthy until my 90s.
If you want to give up that's your business but don't encourage the rest of the world to kill themself on McDonald's, when they could be feeling great and enjoying good health in their later years
I might be stronger now than I've ever been in my life.😊
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Thanks for your reply. I totally agree with everything you said. You should be proud of yourself that you lead a healthy lifestyle and are still enjoying a quality life.
However, the statistics are what they are . What I wrote was not to discourage people but to give folks a reality check. You can plan to be any age you want but the numbers don't lie. I googled how many men in the US today live to be 90 years old. The number was surprisingly high at 11% but that means that 90% of the boys born on the same day you were born are in the ground . In my case I also led a very healthful lifestyle. At 75 years old I was on no prescription medication, climbing mountains in New Hampshire, riding my bike on weekends 20 miles, doing 2 to 3 miles a day either in my home gym or on a track and clearing land by myself in my backyard property for a view of the pond. Then one day while shaving I noticed bruising on my chest. As a surgeon I knew this wasn't a good sign. Bingo! Acute leukemia I out of nowhere.I also planed to live to be 90 like my parents. For sure I'm not gonna be in the 10%. Anyways, I sincerely wish you a happy and healthy long life. God bless!
I grew up in a large joint family of four brothers under one roof. Each brother having his wife and kids. In total, I had 7 siblings and 11 first cousins. As families grew, each unit moved away and in due time, my parents, 3 uncles, 3 aunts, 3 siblings and 7 first cousins passed on. I am now almost 84, enjoying life to the full, along with my wife in our own lovely home & garden in a beautiful coastal belt setting in tropical Goa, India. We periodically visit our two daughters and their families.
We thank and praise Jesus for all the blessings bestowed.
What a beautiful journey and a blessed life! Enjoy your golden years in the serene beauty of Goa. 🙏🌸
Thank you I am now 72 an you have helped me to open my eyes to slow down an do less work am still driving roadtrains here in Australia I will be slowing down very soon ,like next week ,thanks again .
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Completely agree. I’ve been working on this at age 71 while my wife is 12 years younger. It works!
What brings me fulfillment, joy and a sense of peace is a combination chocolate strawberry and raspberry cake, vanilla ice cream ,, after eating a ribeye steak and lobster dinner ! 😊
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I think we’re soulmates!!
Why not ? 🙃👋👋
I am 79 and nothing has really changed for me since I was 49... It is all in the mind
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At the end when he says, "what brings you joy?" I realized nothing does anymore. At 71 every moment is a struggle and I just push through it. I have persistent health problems that either can't be diagnosed or can't be cured. I became a widow less than 2 years ago. My children are too busy for me or don't care. I have a handful of good friends but I never feel joy.
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SJBuck Hey 👋 I just want to say I’m about your age. I often feel the same as you. But lately I have found “joy in simple things” like; a day when the “arthritis in my back is not” playing up” and I can “tidy up my home” with no pain. 😜 Or ..Do a bit of gardening. (I’ll suffer the consequences later, but hell.. it’s worth it 🙃 ) Sometimes…I Sit outside on the poach and watch “the birds, bees and other wildlife come to visit my garden.” In early Autumn I often see wild geese “flying overhead me (oh it’s so beautiful, you hear them swarking before they come into view. ) simple things like that “make me smile & bring me joy.” Sometimes l find a “tiny green frog that has jumped 6feet behind my window shutter” (🤔 my how did he get up there? I call him Kermit) I make daily checks behind my wooden shutters for bats (🦇 oh they are fond this spot,) they’re so cute and velvety. But “I open the shutter to let in light” so they find another place to nest. (They are known to carry rabies so I don’t touch or harm them. I just discourage them.) They also leave a mess behind them. But gorgeous to look at. I have a husband who has perennial bronchitis, (he too can & does get “the blues.” Until he gets excited at noticing a plant that has blossomed or the colours of Autumn as we drive, or his favourite football team have won) I we also have an old cat 🐈 (we lost our buddy Monty 🐈⬛ oh it was sad this February) and there’s a sweet robin that follows me around the garden. We have no children, most family members & friends passed. So we’re much on our own like many our age. But you know, we’re happy for each day and wish that you could find joy in similar things as we do. We wish you joy & peace …..try and notice “life around you” There’s many reasons be happy ❤😊 God Bless you.
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Thanks for this non fluffy response. When we see friends dying around us, or worse still, in pain and full of sickness etc., it is hard to take. Where is the joy in that? The older we become, the more our friends need us in their old age. Do we not have a responsibility to those friends and family who have helped us through the years in the tough times?
At the young age of 72,I freed myself of most material things that I have collected over many years.They were of no value to me.Most of my friends died,the others are married and I feel their desire to be with only their family. Being single can be great if I can pass on my life skills to a younger generation.
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I stumbled across this video, and it is changing my life.
I decided to spend less time working on my portfolio and less time posting stuff on social media, and spending more time doing things that give me joy.
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Thank you for producing this. I turned 70 in August and this is spot on. I am living this.
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I am 66, still working because I want to, not drawing social security yet. I've had 5 close friends in my life. I've lost 3 of them due to death, the most recent was 7-16-24. He was 69 and it was an all of a sudden thing as his wife found him in the shower. The 2 left, well one move 2 states away about 10 years ago and we have lost touch. The other one is 65 and retired. His wife still works but tells me he starts drinking early in the day and is well on way to being drunk when she gets home from her 8-5 job. I don't need to work, but I think work gives me a structured day during the week. I am off on week-ends and love gardening and just being outside. I also own 3 dogs who are part of my family. Great Video!
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I am realizing more and more how lucky I am to get to my age. incredible how many die well before 70!! lost a HS buddy in 2016. he was a health nut exercised every day and never ate candy or drank soda pop. died of esophageal cancer!!
I am 71 , and I have the same feeling . I am not alone,. Thankyou very much.
I'm glad you feel the same way! It’s great to connect with others who resonate with this perspective. 😊
I started this before 70. I have cousins I stopped dealing with because they never ever called me though I made a 1000 mile trip to see my grandparents twice a year and then had to drive to Long Island to see my Aunt because my grandparents insisted on it. (They lived in Brooklyn) It's been 45 years since I've spoken to them.
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Don't think I'd call that a great loss ! 😉
Not 70 yet! I already feel this way. Quite reaffirming. I don't engage in social obligations unless it's absolutely necessary. Happy to be alone with my little kitty. I keep my life very simple. Thanks for this ~
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Agree with your observations. But can also be true for those under 70. The sooner, the better, in my mind.
i need this........i always feel guilty if I do not help my relatives ........thank you.....I am 65.....
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I’m now 72 but feel around 45. However now I only do the things I want to do and only mix with people who have a mutual positive influence. It is very liberating and it brings with it contentment which is a much more realistic goal than happiness.
I’m 70 and feel 100 lol
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Passed 70 years this year. Interesting.... We are busier than ever, but the main change we have noticed is how many of our peer group have fallen off their perches in the last couple of years or are now suffering severe illness and/or disability. A 92 year old told us that at 90 there is one benefit - that is there is no peer group pressure. Starting to see that now. Went to 3 funerals this week. Also noticing how people who have isolated themselves for 'peace and quiet' are now having problems getting someone to assist them in their old age. If you are going to isolate yourself, you need to put in place plans for assistance when you can no longer fend for yourself. The last couple of years has been an eyeopener; what we felt that until now was that retirement was easier, now at 70 we are seeing that that party may be over as friends need help in their old age.
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At 77, morning wood brings me great joy.😂😂😂
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L-Citrulline before bed?
Works for me at 73. 🍆
Being a “dirty old man” helps as well. 😉
yeah but where is it when you need it
What do you do with that?
My closest family members are gone..
Suddenly lost my Wife of 52-years companionship last year..that really devastated me!
Most of my friends are gone...
Feel like the last man standing 😮.
Each morning when I wake up..l say , thank you LORD for another new day..
a day closer to meet and be judged by YOU 🙏
Am 75-but feel nothing of that Age 😊👍
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There's plenty that makes sense from 70 forward.Every time I sleep well and get up late, I feel I'm making up for all of years years when I was a sleep deprived teacher. One of my real joys is listening to Classical music and following the score. What a work out for the brain. My husband and I are still very happy together but I tend to avoid social situations. Mostly they're draining.
I can read what pleases me-which happens to be long Victorian novels. Another boost for the brain. I love retirement but I wish I had a genie to clean the house.
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1) others opinion doesnt matter as much.
2) no need for material possessions.
3) let go of meaningless social obligations.
4) chasing beauty.
5) omit activities not fulfilling.
6) don't tolerate toxic relationships.
7) comparing self to others.
8) clinging to outdated goals.
9) feeling guilty for prioritizing your own happiness.
10) enjoy a lighter, more fulfilling life.
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I got rid of a 50 year toxic friendship. Now, I can't let go or letting Go. It felt that good!
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What a great video! All good points, but #6 and 9 are just pure wisdom! One thing left out is good health and so staying away from bad habits like poor diets, no exercise, excessive drinking, and so on should be mandatory to get to 70 and enjoy life after that. Dumping toxic relationships, of any kind, is huge, no need to be criticized or not appreciated and ditto for not feeling guilty to do stuff that pleases us, after decades of taking care of others. I am 72 and 1/2, I spent decades taking care of others, both professionally and personally and now it is MY time. and with no apology.
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I'm 75 and i say do just the opposite. My wife and i are alone, and our children are doing fine, and we can do things we've always wanted to. We recently bought a new c8 corvette, and everywhere we go, people comment on it, and we've had many enjoyable conversations with strangers. Material things like a new car, nice clothes and appearance make you feel good, it's been proven if you dress well, it makes you feel better. Now is the time where we can travel to fun places, instead of being tied down to a job. Dont listen to people who think if you're over 70 you're suppossed to sit at home with a blanket, and watch tv. That's a recipe for giving up and aging really quickly. Now, if you're in poor health or have other burdens, then do as Wise Advise says and just be happy with what you have, but if not, do the opposite and live! you'll feel much better.
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I love this message. I’m 83, and these are words of wisdom I am still learning.
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I m 74 and have been relatively content with my life especially since I retired at the age of 52. There have been some health as well as practical problems but that is inevitable especially with age. I wouldn’t dispute anything in this video but what I came to realise a long time ago is that people’s behaviour is not random. They do things for a reason often driven by some subconscious need. Work for example gives different people different things and retirement is for some a blessing but for others represents loss ( not just financial). The key to contentment is understandable yourself. Not what you do but why you do it and what needs it meets. People who have no understanding about themselves are like someone who feels hungry but can’t find what satisfies their craving. As people get older with no understanding about what drives them they can and often do become caricatures of what they were with increasing bizarre behaviour.
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Thank you very much for the timely message reminder. Am turning 70 next month and can only agree with a lot of the things you said. All the best then, life goes on with new perspectives that make it all worthwhile. Cheers
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I'm 75, I say be who you are not who someone else wants you to be. Having said that don't go out of your way to live your life at the expense of others. Love and understanding can go a long way, to ensuring a balance happy life no matter what your age. Don't expect too much and a little can be a bounty, the other way around and you are bound for heart ache and disappointment. Stop and smell the flowers there is no rush, sit and watch the birds. Life is to be enjoyed.
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I found your article helpful and reminded me to visit what matters most in my life. For me it is family and helping others. I have everything I need at 75 and honestly can say that I am happy. Life is short so try to enjoy. Thank you for reminding me what's important and healthy.
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Arthritis is creeping in at 67, but otherwise I fell healthy and happy. I've been getting rid of possessions that weigh me down. Less is more. I find that now I'm more focused in preserving and prolonging my current healthy status. I'm doing activities that I like and mornings is the most enjoyable part of the day 👍
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I was getting terrible leg cramps at night and weakness in my leg Had an MRI and just had spinal surgery for cysts on a nerve 70 yo
I am 73 my wife is 69. We watched this together and were nodding with agreement and surprise as we have already realized most of this ourselves over time in the last 15-20 years. Just some before the others in stages of, I guess, what we realized at that time for change appeared. She is retired and I still work 3 days a week as I so enjoy what I do and it gives me purpose. I am horribly goal oriented and like a reason, other than just being, for existing. I am sending this video to my two 40 something children, I see some of these traits in them anyway, for them to learn from. Thank you for the affirmation of what we have come to know and what we still need to realize in our lives.
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You can add one more. Find purpose in your life. We all need a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Without purpose, life becomes hollow and depressing. The purpose itself is not important; it just has to be meaningful to you.
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Oh, it is so true! That’s what I do, and that’s is the way is supposed to be. After 70, we have to enjoy what we have and do. It is our time! 😊❤
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I needed this, it's time for me to have me time the way I want and require it. thank you...
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This video is helpful as we reflect on life in our elder years. It highlights those things that we can put in their proper place in the journey of life.
Thank you for the clarity and encouragements to reflect on life and what we can to to make it better.
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Thank you for articulating my own thoughts and feelings ❤❤❤. I am = interestingly enough- 70 ! ❤
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I worked hard and was able to reire by 55(68)now.It doesn't matter what others think..most are jealous anyways.I love my life and do what I want not what you want.
Why did you ever care what people thought?
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Age is a gift. Many never reach older age.
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All true and true and are all part of my life.I am 72 and I love and respect myself more than anything else.
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I will be 70 on the 16th November and I’m looking forward to it.Thanks for the Video 👍
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Happy birthday. I will be 70 Nov.25th. Hey at least I am younger than you.😀
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Just turned 70 today!
Happy birthday. Many more.
I started this thinking in my 40s.... don't wait for 70.... this is good advice for NOW what ever age that is. Teenagers and 20 somethings are obsessed with what others think of their possessions, what clique their are in, getting the latest car or video game. You can have all you can dream of and still not be happy. Live for your self.... not others.
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Im about to hit 67, im happy, fairly healthy, free from dogma, i don't care what others say, i eat and consume well, i barely drink alcohol as i don't like it anymore, i still work as a broadcaster and writer because i want to, i live on a small island in the Mediterranean with a equally happy and fairly healthy wife. I never had a silver spoon gifting me wealth and riches, I've had to work hard over the years. But now im free to do what i want to do and im doing it, however long i have left i intend to enjoy every second of it before becoming space dust again. Enjoy, INjoy
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Just turned 70 going to do some traveling. Wife and I are experiencing a contagious relationship with me sharing in the responsibility. Hopefully we can work it out as who knows how much time is left. Over wasting time making others happy. Spiritual things are becoming important to me. Grand kids are both fun and enjoyable.
I will be 69 very soon. I admit that I think about my 70’s a lot. Truthfully, I’m surprised I’ve made it this far. I’m hoping to just chill from here on out, do many of your suggestions and continue to create my art (I have an art studio LLC) until I can no longer hold a brush in my hand. One thing I do love is that I am a pretty tough old gal! I ride my bike every day. I walk every day. I paint every day and I work hard in my home. 70 doesn’t intimidate me, I’m going to embrace 70 because I love my life.
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Wow! 🤯 This video really hit home! So many of these things are spot on about how priorities change after 70. I especially resonated with the part about not sweating the small stuff anymore. 💯 Thanks for this thought-provoking reminder to live fully in the present! 🙌💖
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Turn 70 this year. Feeling good and hopeful for the future. This is good advice that I am always following.
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I really appreciate your honesty about life after 70 everything you mentioned is correct
Great video! I'm 71 and have been experiencing many of the things you are talking about
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I'm 74 and live a very simple life in the tropics...I've unburdened myself of all but my most basic needs...my clothing 24/7/365 is a pair of thongs underwear sports shirt shorts...though I do have a few of each...I cut my own hair...am quite friendly but avoid friendships and have quietly disconnected from old acquaintances that simply weren't worth the effort. However...every two years I have to travel to the far south to visit my children and grandchildren...I love them dearly but how I loathe leaving my comfort zone...back to the bitter cold...back to dressing to beat the cold and comply with social norms...and to engage in the interminable family dramas of one sort or another. They find it difficult that I've no interest in moving back despite their well meaning offers...thank god for the internet...that suffices for keeping in contact. I'm an old age pensioner that meets my needs and am contented. What more could I ask for.
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I live in a temperate climate but now at 75 dream a bit of moving to a warmer climate.
What are the drawbacks to where you live, if any ?
@@BrightSeaStar There are drawbacks nothing is ever perfect as you would well know. I live in Townsville...north Queensland a long way from my family in Tasmania and if your close with family this can be an issue although only a flight or two away from them and internet connectivity makes up for this. If your financially secure I'd recommend a unit in a community...I'm not...I just rent. At our age...access to health and support services are not necessarily vital...but important and I'm well served up here.
Now...the biggest drawback...heat...it's hot...bloody hot for the three months of summer...offset of course by air conditioning and cool spaces...I tend not to use mine too much and don't at all in the car...(Cos it's not working and I couldn't be bothered getting it recharged)...I tend to time my visits to go south during much of summer. On the other hand...we have eight months of pure bliss weather-wise...I've NEVER worn long trousers...jumpers certainly not a coat even in the depths of our winters up here. You can tell who the natives are...they do. One other drawback is the occasional cyclone...they can be a pain in the backsides...but only if they knock out the services and that's happened twice in 20 years...not bad odds. So I'd recommend that you do make the move...people are friendly and there are huge social opportunities if your interested in that sort of thing. After all...why be cold and miserable half the year when for the rest of your life can be in Foreversummerland. Hope this is helpful.
Perhaps a three or four week holiday come autumn in say Cairns...five hours from Townsville but a truly tropical paradise and a great city to visit...I'm sure you will just love the experience.
My husband and I have already put into practice all of these things mentioned and still have to remind ourselves constantly not to worry about things. Still a work in progress especially for me. Thanks for this interesting video to encourage us that we are doing the right things especially of not engaging with toxic or judgmental people. ❤🙏
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Always amazed that women after 70 find that their real beauty is not on the outside, but on the inside where it was all along.
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I’m 65. I’ll be glad if I even reach 70 and over. Instead of complaining be glad you made it that far. Life spans used to be in the 30’s and 40’s centuries ago.
I have moved to the city! I live in a building of seniors, only 16 apartments in a historic building with tarazo floors and consignor service. I am a Libra, which in my case means my waredrobe is a large part if my personality. So I live in the city, I can leisurely get dressed for lunch, stroll through my surroundings. I am approachable and warm. We have alot of tourists, it's so lovely to elaborate upon their knowledge of the sights. This style of living doesn't cost one cent more then suburban life but people assume all kinds if things so... Bump them! Family included!!?
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