As someone in The Hague, I can confirm everyone is waving Nisipisa flags and sticking Nisipisa posters behind the windows right now, it's quite marvelling to see
My dad passed away as well (Mr. Selfish, am I right 🙄) but one of my favorite things to do with him back in the day was just talk some shit and spill some tea. He loved gossip but would never admit it. I feel like this video is channeling that energy and I love it
And with the third weekly blessed video my suspicions have been confirmed that nisipisa wants to get that mcqueen dress from the previous video. Just like she said, she'll have to make a video every week for two and a half months in order to afford it and at the end of that deadline she'll make an updated dresses that she owns video, with that dress!
The most annoying part of not having a dad is trying to make plans and someone being like "wait but that's Father's day" so you gotta be like ooooh right
I was at my bfs house today (he actually has a dad) and his mom was making all this food and dessert and i was like whats the occasion? literally fathers day lol. its funny bc his mom lost her dad as a child like me and she was like "right? i dont have one either"
Anecdote (unsure if sillygoofy): I was on a quest on Friday (failed on most counts, but that’s the nature of quests) when it started raining. Normally, I love to be fully caught in the rain and just wander around, but I had more to do later on and getting on the subway while wet is kinda gross. I didn’t want to go into the library where I was heading yet (dampness reasons) and I didn’t want to get drenched, so I went into Bryant Park and found an one of those big, always open umbrellas with a chair under it. Then, I listened to the rain (one of my quests was for replacement headphones, so I had to be auditorially present in the real world all day. Normally, I would have been doing phone stuff, but it was wonderful to put it aside for a bit). There were rolls of long thunder and the umbrella, part of a cluster of similar ones, kept off the rain drops but not mist; it was like a saltless sea spray! And the best thing was the smell… wet stones that had been warm all morning, oak trees and the trimmed greens beneath, and the rain itself on everything….. I’d buy that fragrance in heartbeat if someone could bottle it. And then later on I met a friend for soup dumplings. So it was all pretty nice, despite the various other mishaps in the day. Thank you for making videos and letting us into a little piece of your life- it’s a delight. OH also I highly recommend crocheting. It’s good for the hands and brain, portable in a big enough bag, and extremely compatible with audiobooks and podcasts
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing the piece about your dad passing. Mine passed when I was younger too and the piece you said about never getting to know him as a guy is so true. This was so comforting to listen to today, I love our parasocial relationship
the whole "ought to/need to" part about wasting your life and hobbies was the most succinct and accurate description of my own life i've ever heard. i feel fucking seen
A lady stopped me at the store yesterday to ask about something in my cart and she said "not to be all up in your basket" and I thought to myself "Nisipisa would say that"
I know you listed off the stuff in your bag but god this makes me want to watch a classic "whats in my bag" video love the phrase "red tape in my own brain" "so many things to be cognizant of at all times" FELT I feel like the "constant need to improve myself" is a big thing for grad students
I also always carry a bag with me everywhere, if I don't have immediate access to water the second I feel thirsty or lipbalm the second my lips start to feel dry I will get ANXIOUS. A friend gave me her old cargo pants last year and yesterday I went outside without a bag and with my headphones, hand sanitizer, keys, phone, wallet, gum, lipgloss, lipbalm, sunglasses and a whole water bottle shoved into the side pockets. Not the most comfortable but it worked. Also I've rewatched a lot of your makeup related videos from 2019-ish as well as a lot of other stuff 'cause I'm getting more into makeup so I would be very excited about the makeup videos coming back
Thanks for the chat love. Sending love to all of the fatherless girlies today. The only thing that made Father’s Day tolerable to me was having a child with my husband. He and our kid now get to suck up all of the energy of the day and I don’t have to dwell too much on my dad, which is better for me.
I am a librarian and audiobooks definitely count as reading. If they don't, people need to explain why experts recommend to read to your children when they're little. Case closed.
4:25 sure! i love librarians SO much. recently my family has saved up just enough money to visit Italy. one of my goals was to visit a library there, and since the national one Florence is not open to tourists right now, we decided to go to a little one near where we're staying. i can't speak any Italian, but i had been practicing how to say "i like the library" for the whole day, and after i was done reading a children's book that i couldn't understand, i went to the front desk and told the librarian "mi piace la biblioteca!" and she laughed and said thank you, and then told my dad -who can actually speak Italian- "i heard them whispering that to themself since they got here" and i felt to silly, but it was fun.
Finally someone is bringing attention to those of us who have fathers located on another plane of existence! I feel so seen 😊 seriously, this made me smile, thank you; even though it's been almost 15 years, this day still isn't easy for me.
People who say audio books aren't reading are being ableist unwittingly. I never thought of this until someone I knew had an eye problem. Very uncool to be saying that
I was actively picking my cuticles at 26:44 when you mentioned picking your cuticles and the way I JUMPED in horror and tried to fling my hands away from myself as if my grandma had slapped at me for picking 😂
I literally just took up crocheting yesterday! Honestly, as someone with kinda shaky hands, its really frustrating at the very beginning, but once you get the hang of the motions and how to properly hold your yarn, its pretty fun!
I'm so obsessed with this video format ~and~ I felt so hard when you were talking about the feeling of needing constant self improvement oh my gOD. Being in break from uni atm and my over achieving side trying to fight the burnout and be productive is wild. also very excited to see what kinds of new videos you decide to create! i've been around pre window shopping and dearly miss your make-up content :') also also hope youre doing well during this tough month ily
i need you to know that i recently got my first job and i was so nervous even after my shift ended that i came home, had an anxiety attack, and binge watched your videos laying in bed and it calmed me down sfm, thank you for blessing us with your presence queen
Congrats on the job! Starting a new job is always nerve wracking, but I promise you’ll feel a lot more comfortable there once you’ve had a couple weeks to settle into it
"I got to know him as a dad, but not as a person." I relate to this so much! my dad died when I was 11 (I'm 26 now) and there's so much about him that I'll never really know. and that sucks! it's definitely a weird melancholic space to be in, especially on father's day.
For the necklaces- i too was a victim of unsuccessful 2 necklaces but i learned that you have to connect the clasps of each necklace to the other one and make it kind of like a pulley system
I agree about the large bag thing, I have a big heavy bag I carry with me that has everything I could possibly need while I am out, it's so nice to always be prepared. Might I suggest adding a mini flashlight to your tote bag. If something happens you dont want to drain your phone battery by using it for light
My “father”, and I use that term loosely, passed away many years ago. I won’t go into what he was and what he did but Father’s Day has never had any meaning to me. I was always so envious of my friends growing up that had great fathers. I hope that while your Father was on this plane, that he was a good father and showed you all of the love that you deserve!! You are just incredible!!! Much love❤. PS…solo travel scares the literal shit out of me!! I don’t mind being alone at home or work or just running about doing errands but traveling alone??? No thanks!!! I watch to many crime shows about older women being abducted on some random trip they took!! The tote bag!!! I have what my grand daughter calls my “NannyBag” in my purse. It has 1,000 random things in it… tiny scissors, band aids, pads, even though haven’t had a period in 25 yrs, lip stuff, antibiotic ointment, thread and a needle, tweezers and various other articles of pure bullshit!!!😂😂😂
Hey nisa just wanted to say that I’ve been watching you since I was a closeted middle schooler and now I graduated this year. You helped me so Much by showing me that not going to school for the degree that you would be working with your entire life was life changing for me. And that’s not even mentioning the fact you were so openly bisexual and it meant a lot to me. Anyways sorry if this is too much and thank you so much for posting content
this comment is how i learned that nisa is bisexual 🤯 anyway congrats on graduating, i graduated this year too and also experienced being a closeted kid in middle school. hope things are going good for you, friend :)
I love these types of videos it feels like we're friends who've not seen each other in a while and you're catching us up on your life, keep doing whatever makes you happy !!
If you make more videos like this, I would definitely watch. I like hearing your thoughts, even when random, and some of the points you make are so good. My mom died when I was in my 20s, and I still feel like I was getting to know her as a person. There is so much more I wish I had gotten from her as I have aged.
I have never felt more seen than the rant about having hobbies. My s/o has like 2-3 solid hobbies and can't understand that I have 0 desire to carve out time in my day that adds work and takes away lounging. Lounging IS my hobby and I love her
joined the "i have no dad on fathers day" club this year. its rough, but your videos give me alot of comfort. shoutouts to us fartherless babes. ❤ edit: holy shit just finished the video and my dads birthday is near fathers day too. its the 23rd. how weird. dude he must hate being born in pride month
My dad would have hated it too (he died before Pride really cracked the cultural zeitgeist). His birthday was mid July so he got to be closer to the Fourth of July, which was more his jam lol. Sending love ♥️
I joined The Dead Moms Club™ in 2013 on Mother's Day. It's a specific sort of irony, innit? 🙃 But I'm here for you. DPC Members are here for you. We're here to remind you that you are not alone in this, and it will get easier to manage 💙
I recently moved across the country for graduate school because I am a silly goose who thinks paying hundreds of thousands of dollars to work in the entertainment industry is a good idea. I also lacerated my heels after walking about 20 minutes each way and am still limping days later.
i too wear multiple items of jewellery on fathers day to compensate for the fact that my relationship with my father is trans-dimensional. putting another ring on today for good measure thanks to this upload. sending u lots of love miss nisa 💝
I also hate Once I Was 7 Years Old, and you bringing it up gave me war flashbacks to being a sophomore in high school and my at the time boyfriend was obsessed with that song and would constantly play/sing it even when begged him not to
my mom always makes fun of me for eating a cucumber without cutting it up or anything and it's like. theyre crunchy. they're easy to bite. leave me alone
one of the phrases people in the substance abuse recovery community keep saying at me is "don't should on yourself" (said in a way that makes it sound like don't shit on yourself. i can't figure out how to represent that in text) and i am personally still trying at putting that actually into practice but it seems salient
To ahere to your request for a silly goofy story: I got a parking ticket for not having a long enough parking permit at the garage I picked while I was visiting western Ireland. And I can tell that I have been burned by too many silly parking mistakes that I saw the ticket that had an actual picture of my car on it and all I could think was “wow amazing glamour shot.”
Ive been struggling (more than usual) with feeling like nobody around me understands exactly what Im going through (less in the 15-year old angry way and more in the recently disabled and overwhelmed/lonely way) but. I laughed out loud multiple times in the first five minutes. And I feel understood more than I have in months. Maybe of this year. Thank you Nisa ❤
perfect video to watch while going through first ever lesbian heartbreak. i am in love with my beautiful goth best friend and they do NOT like me back. they stayed at my house for a week and drank all of my moms water bottles
my silly little anecdote is that yesterday i went to watch my little brother's dance recital and he's the cutest !!! and i love him!!! ALSO SPEAKING OF MUSICALS the song bff from the spongebob musical is sooooo me and him core. also on behalf of every friend who doesn't wear bags and asks for someone to keep their stuff I'm Sorry bags make me feel unbalanced it feels like im being dragged down by a bag of bricks even if its just a small bag w my wallet keys and phone 😭
I’m so happy you made this video I have a bit of a headache and I was thinking about watching one of your videos because you’re always soothing and entertaining and found video waiting! ❤
So all our dads are just dead?? Love ur trout btw. I typed a whole ass paragraph about needing to remember emotional discomfort doesn't just stack up with no way to resolve it, and how sadness/fear of messing up/feeling stupid for going against your initial judgement about going out to gather experiences can be mended by taking breaks & telling your friends when you are worn out or overwhelmed, and how people don't have a set amount of happiness and a set amount of emotional telomeres (if ykwim) before you get seriously mentally unwell that you have to protect (because your happiness and mental wellness is sort of like spoon theory but with positive and negative emotions instead of gaining energy and losing energy instead of happiness/mental wellbeing being like a limited resource)... But it was schlocky so I deleted it. But I understand the idea because I have depression too and sometimes I'm afraid to do stuff that could drag me into stress and therefore worse depression. Anyways, I love you and your videos. I know around fathers day is tough for you so do some things that help you feel better.
finally someone understands needing a Bag for your Things! i have quite literally always been a bag girlie, i even had a bag collection as a child. buying a specific case for my ipad that turns it into a little laptop was the best thing ive ever done for my bag organization. yes i am also a pisces, why do you ask?
Highly recommend crocheting for something to do with your hands! probably 30 minutes on youtube tutorials for the basics and you can make all sorts of stuff. I made a sweater while watching lectures for school!
My father has been abusive since I was 13. It may have started earlier, but 13 is when I could comprehend the change, that something wasn't normal and right. He's been mainly abusive to me and my mother, largely because by the time it started my older brothers were already out of the house and in college, and partially because we were women. Because the hatred and resentment he had for his mother translated onto us. My brothers know about this. Their wives know about this. But I'm expected to act as if it never happened. Daily. For over a decade. The status of their father as an abusive man is more disturbing to them than my status as a victim of his abuse, and so I am expected to acknowledge my pain, my distrust, and my trauma alone. I thought after having to do the same performance every father's day for 10 years that the rawness of all this was behind me, but sitting here talking with you (yes, in my head, this video is me and you talking) I realize that's not the case. Thank you for making space for the rawness of this holiday. I hope we both heal.
miss pisa, as a femme lesbian with anxiety your bit about carrying other others stuff in your bigass totebag made me feel v seen. Also I'm a librarian and thank you for the Libby love💕
Dead dad gang assemble (and when I was 9 too so mood) - your estranged relationship joke took me out. The birthday close to Father’s Day is also rough. My dad passed on Christmas Eve. The audacity of our parents to turn holidays into double whammies… ALSO unrelated but boston transit stops too early gang assemble. Makes it real hard for a girl to play D&D for her mental health with friends across the city.
1. I needed this video today. 2. I have never related to something so much as i thought i was a bad cook turns out it was just depression. 3. As someone who lost their husband i appreciate the humor and honesty you talked about your dad
I don’t think listening to audiobooks is reading but I don’t think that makes it less valid than reading. It’s just a different way of consuming books, if that makes sense.
I love a sit down and chat about feelings and life video, feels adjacent to Drew Monson’s “Drew Monson #2” videos (some of my favorites on the platform I’ve been having a really tough day being sick and on my period so this video felt like laying on your bed while your friend rants to you about their life (excluding the fact that I don’t know you) Also I’m super curious if you’ve seen the series “this is us”! I think there’s a chance that you’ll find a lot of the themes and situations in it very interesting/relatable
omg the part about constantly improving your life by being "useful" and spending every second being useful is so me !!! like if i'm not busy i'm wasting my time !! it's my personal hell
They make layered necklace clasps that you can hook your necklaces onto before you put them on. It helps keep them from getting tangled. They’re not foolproof, but they still work pretty well.
1) I had the exact same thought about not knowing my mom as a person last night but mostly as a mom. So get out of my brainnnnn 2) my dads bday is around Father’s Day too so also weird time Dead parents clubbbbbbbb Hope you’re hanging in there today!
this was such a treat cuz i always stop crocheting and focus when she starts telling a story on other vids as if she's in front of me (i do the same to my friends)
i sewed myself a little canvas backpack when my last one died of being polyurethane, and by little i mean enormous, capacious. why? because i'm the same way as you are about your tote bag. always in my bag: an umbrella. prescription sunglasses. a handfan. a little bag with painkillers, different painkillers, bobby pins, a glasses wipe, glasses cleaner spritz, a tide pen, spare tampons, hand sanitizer, a mirror, lip gloss, lip balm, a nail file, a tiny nail clipper because i'm not walking around with a hangnail or broken nail, floss, and for some reason dramamine? a different little bag with a travel battery and multiple different kinds of charging cables, plus a couple little plug blocks. a different little bag with black thread, tiny scissors, a tape measure, a pincushion with pins and needles in it, a seam ripper, safety pins. one more tiny bag with pens, spare eyeliner, more painkillers, more tampons, different lip balm, a tiny screwdriver for glasses, different floss, bandaids, different hand sanitizer, and those little biotene lozenges for my adderall mouth™. wow that was so much longer than i expected but the point is i am mostly prepared for Anything so i see you i understand you
The cucumber salad with soy sauce and sugar is probably liangban huanggua, which is not intended to be a salad in the first place and only fits the term by technicality. It's a fun Chinese dish for hot weather!
You should def take up crochet!! I started it at the end of May because I also felt like I was spending too much time scrolling on my phone and it took me about a day to pick up but I started making granny squares to make a blanket and it's pretty easy! It's a great thing to do when you're listening to an audio book or watching TV :)
I feel so bad for waiting a day to watch this lmao. I had to wait for the appropriate time TM to have a nice commentary going while up at ungodly hours needlessley planning for the future. Have enjoyed the video so far (which is, I think 80% through?). thanks for the chill talks, felt like interacting with a real human person (wild.)
i watched the whole thing. i watched it while baking a copycat starbucks lemon loaf. one of my ought-to is i ought to be studying but i baked instead. im getting good at it like u r with cooking. hopefully it comes out good just went in the oven. can u make more of these? i watched ur nail polish video while i baked last time too i just love it it’s like we’re on facetime
We will support you with any type of content you'll make! Be it movie reviews, make up (throwback), "I wanna embody this side of my personality here is what they like" type of vids, we are here for it because your personality is a ray of sunshine, and what we come back to. Not the topic of conversation, but the person who is conversing.
You have to clip the necklaces together! So like you take the clasp of one and attach it to the loop of the other and vice versa so it's actually like, one long looped necklace and then they stay in place relative to eachother!
I don't know if you need this but maybe it will help other people, here's how to get back into reading! (if audiobooks dont suit you) 1) Pick a small, light book. I know you want to read a nice fat novel but I promise you, you'll be really frustrated when you're only reading half a chapter every few weeks and it takes ages and you're forgetting stuff. Pick a small book. 2) Short stories and anathologies are a great way to get into it! If you don't like a story, just skip it. You'll get into the rhythm of reading longer sections and enjoying a full story within a manageable timeframe. This will help a lot to move onto novellas. 3) Start observing what time you do have that's free. Are you scrolling your phone on the way to work/school? Do you find yourself waiting around between meetings or classes? Any time you're scrolling to fill time, you can read. You'd be surprised how much reading you can do in 5 minutes. 4) comics, graphic novels, magazines, zines, pamphlets, that's all reading! it doesnt have to be a book! 5) take offline breaks. turn your computer off, mute your phone, and take an hour to just read. even if you dont read a lot. enjoy being unreachable. enjoy being alone with the words. let yourself be uninterrupted. if anyone else has tips, suggest them too! happy reading!!
oh, 6) you dont have to Read The Right Things. read anything. fuck what youre "supposed" to read. only read what you'll enjoy. if thats kids fic or YA or animal facts or manuals or fanfic or whatever. read it. read anything.
Ugh I am in LA for the next 2 weeks by myself (my travel companion had to return earlier than intended) and I am definitely fighting the urge to just stay in the apartment we rented for the rest of the trip 💀💀💀 not helped by the fact that I don’t have a car here, but I definitely could walk somewhere… but all my stuff is here!!
I'm with you on carrying a big bag with everything in it! Here's a related silly anecdote from many years ago when I was in high school. One summer day, I went to a local theme park with my then-boyfriend and his best friend. Within the first 20 minutes we were there, we walked by this booth and the guy who worked there was desperately trying to get our attention to the point where it would have felt very awkward to ignore him. It turned out he was an age guesser, and he insisted on guessing our ages. If he was off by more than 3 years, the person whose age he guessed incorrectly would win a prize. He was close enough for boyfriend and me, but he guessed friend was way older than he actually was, purely on the grounds that he was tall, so he won a prize. Turns out the prize was a giant stuffed animal...which he then immediately asked me to carry because "hey, you're a girl! You can just put it in your bag, right?" It didn't even fit all the way in my bag. So I spent the entire rest of the day quietly, and at times not so quietly, resenting him as I carried around this prize none of us wanted as a memento of our uncomfortable social interaction with the age guesser dude. Side note, that was the same day I got my thighs sandpapered to all hell on this one ride because apparently at no point during the design, construction, or testing of the ride did they ever have anyone wearing short shorts sit on the seat to discover that the surface was incredibly abrasive. Never in my life will I go on that ride again lol
Хобби
when you said "i should learn a language" and talked about feeling like you need to be in a constant state of improvement i felt that so hard
oh also the whole laptop/purse/backpack monologue🤣
As someone in The Hague, I can confirm everyone is waving Nisipisa flags and sticking Nisipisa posters behind the windows right now, it's quite marvelling to see
I can confirm, it's all over the Dutch news!!
My dad passed away as well (Mr. Selfish, am I right 🙄) but one of my favorite things to do with him back in the day was just talk some shit and spill some tea. He loved gossip but would never admit it. I feel like this video is channeling that energy and I love it
And with the third weekly blessed video my suspicions have been confirmed that nisipisa wants to get that mcqueen dress from the previous video. Just like she said, she'll have to make a video every week for two and a half months in order to afford it and at the end of that deadline she'll make an updated dresses that she owns video, with that dress!
this is like one big compilation of all possible window shopping tangents and storytimes i love it nisa i love you
The most annoying part of not having a dad is trying to make plans and someone being like "wait but that's Father's day" so you gotta be like ooooh right
the way this legit happened to me for today LOL
I was at my bfs house today (he actually has a dad) and his mom was making all this food and dessert and i was like whats the occasion? literally fathers day lol. its funny bc his mom lost her dad as a child like me and she was like "right? i dont have one either"
As a fellow member of the dead dad gang I appreciate this gift of a video on father's day ... Inspired tbh
Anecdote (unsure if sillygoofy): I was on a quest on Friday (failed on most counts, but that’s the nature of quests) when it started raining. Normally, I love to be fully caught in the rain and just wander around, but I had more to do later on and getting on the subway while wet is kinda gross. I didn’t want to go into the library where I was heading yet (dampness reasons) and I didn’t want to get drenched, so I went into Bryant Park and found an one of those big, always open umbrellas with a chair under it. Then, I listened to the rain (one of my quests was for replacement headphones, so I had to be auditorially present in the real world all day. Normally, I would have been doing phone stuff, but it was wonderful to put it aside for a bit). There were rolls of long thunder and the umbrella, part of a cluster of similar ones, kept off the rain drops but not mist; it was like a saltless sea spray! And the best thing was the smell… wet stones that had been warm all morning, oak trees and the trimmed greens beneath, and the rain itself on everything….. I’d buy that fragrance in heartbeat if someone could bottle it. And then later on I met a friend for soup dumplings. So it was all pretty nice, despite the various other mishaps in the day.
Thank you for making videos and letting us into a little piece of your life- it’s a delight.
OH also I highly recommend crocheting. It’s good for the hands and brain, portable in a big enough bag, and extremely compatible with audiobooks and podcasts
i was already really enjoying your comment (you paint a really nice sensory picture!) and also yes crochet enjoyers represent! lol
@@hp8685thanks!! It was a great storm
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing the piece about your dad passing. Mine passed when I was younger too and the piece you said about never getting to know him as a guy is so true. This was so comforting to listen to today, I love our parasocial relationship
As a member of the alive father but astranged because he isn't a great person gang, I appreciate this 💯
Very this 💜💜💜
Gang gang
the whole "ought to/need to" part about wasting your life and hobbies was the most succinct and accurate description of my own life i've ever heard. i feel fucking seen
A lady stopped me at the store yesterday to ask about something in my cart and she said "not to be all up in your basket" and I thought to myself "Nisipisa would say that"
I love this furthering of our parasocial relationship 💖
the thought of wearing multiple necklaces to sleep makes me want to gag, your friend is tougher than any navy seal
I know you listed off the stuff in your bag but god this makes me want to watch a classic "whats in my bag" video love the phrase "red tape in my own brain" "so many things to be cognizant of at all times"
FELT
I feel like the "constant need to improve myself" is a big thing for grad students
I also always carry a bag with me everywhere, if I don't have immediate access to water the second I feel thirsty or lipbalm the second my lips start to feel dry I will get ANXIOUS. A friend gave me her old cargo pants last year and yesterday I went outside without a bag and with my headphones, hand sanitizer, keys, phone, wallet, gum, lipgloss, lipbalm, sunglasses and a whole water bottle shoved into the side pockets. Not the most comfortable but it worked. Also I've rewatched a lot of your makeup related videos from 2019-ish as well as a lot of other stuff 'cause I'm getting more into makeup so I would be very excited about the makeup videos coming back
Thanks for the chat love. Sending love to all of the fatherless girlies today. The only thing that made Father’s Day tolerable to me was having a child with my husband. He and our kid now get to suck up all of the energy of the day and I don’t have to dwell too much on my dad, which is better for me.
I am a librarian and audiobooks definitely count as reading. If they don't, people need to explain why experts recommend to read to your children when they're little. Case closed.
Oh girlie I feel you with the audiobooks downloading Libby and hoopla was truly life changing for my reading
4:25 sure!
i love librarians SO much.
recently my family has saved up just enough money to visit Italy. one of my goals was to visit a library there, and since the national one Florence is not open to tourists right now, we decided to go to a little one near where we're staying. i can't speak any Italian, but i had been practicing how to say "i like the library" for the whole day, and after i was done reading a children's book that i couldn't understand, i went to the front desk and told the librarian
"mi piace la biblioteca!" and she laughed and said thank you, and then told my dad -who can actually speak Italian- "i heard them whispering that to themself since they got here" and i felt to silly, but it was fun.
Finally someone is bringing attention to those of us who have fathers located on another plane of existence! I feel so seen 😊 seriously, this made me smile, thank you; even though it's been almost 15 years, this day still isn't easy for me.
People who say audio books aren't reading are being ableist unwittingly. I never thought of this until someone I knew had an eye problem. Very uncool to be saying that
I was actively picking my cuticles at 26:44 when you mentioned picking your cuticles and the way I JUMPED in horror and tried to fling my hands away from myself as if my grandma had slapped at me for picking 😂
I would definitely pay money to be talked at by nisapisa
I literally just took up crocheting yesterday! Honestly, as someone with kinda shaky hands, its really frustrating at the very beginning, but once you get the hang of the motions and how to properly hold your yarn, its pretty fun!
I'm so obsessed with this video format ~and~ I felt so hard when you were talking about the feeling of needing constant self improvement oh my gOD. Being in break from uni atm and my over achieving side trying to fight the burnout and be productive is wild.
also very excited to see what kinds of new videos you decide to create! i've been around pre window shopping and dearly miss your make-up content :')
also also hope youre doing well during this tough month ily
i need you to know that i recently got my first job and i was so nervous even after my shift ended that i came home, had an anxiety attack, and binge watched your videos laying in bed and it calmed me down sfm, thank you for blessing us with your presence queen
Congrats on the job! Starting a new job is always nerve wracking, but I promise you’ll feel a lot more comfortable there once you’ve had a couple weeks to settle into it
I believe in you!!
"I got to know him as a dad, but not as a person." I relate to this so much! my dad died when I was 11 (I'm 26 now) and there's so much about him that I'll never really know. and that sucks! it's definitely a weird melancholic space to be in, especially on father's day.
girl i NEED to watch a video essay from you !!!! whenever you do decide to branch out in content, there will be many people there to support ♥
For the necklaces- i too was a victim of unsuccessful 2 necklaces but i learned that you have to connect the clasps of each necklace to the other one and make it kind of like a pulley system
WHUT
brb trying this immediately
I agree about the large bag thing, I have a big heavy bag I carry with me that has everything I could possibly need while I am out, it's so nice to always be prepared.
Might I suggest adding a mini flashlight to your tote bag. If something happens you dont want to drain your phone battery by using it for light
I was scooping ice cream last night, the ice cream yeeted itself out of the scoop and landed perfectly in the bowl, that’s my silly story.
My “father”, and I use that term loosely, passed away many years ago. I won’t go into what he was and what he did but Father’s Day has never had any meaning to me. I was always so envious of my friends growing up that had great fathers. I hope that while your Father was on this plane, that he was a good father and showed you all of the love that you deserve!! You are just incredible!!! Much love❤. PS…solo travel scares the literal shit out of me!! I don’t mind being alone at home or work or just running about doing errands but traveling alone??? No thanks!!! I watch to many crime shows about older women being abducted on some random trip they took!! The tote bag!!! I have what my grand daughter calls my “NannyBag” in my purse. It has 1,000 random things in it… tiny scissors, band aids, pads, even though haven’t had a period in 25 yrs, lip stuff, antibiotic ointment, thread and a needle, tweezers and various other articles of pure bullshit!!!😂😂😂
Hey nisa just wanted to say that I’ve been watching you since I was a closeted middle schooler and now I graduated this year. You helped me so
Much by showing me that not going to school for the degree that you would be working with your entire life was life changing for me. And that’s not even mentioning the fact you were so openly bisexual and it meant a lot to me. Anyways sorry if this is too much and thank you so much for posting content
this comment is how i learned that nisa is bisexual 🤯 anyway congrats on graduating, i graduated this year too and also experienced being a closeted kid in middle school. hope things are going good for you, friend :)
I love these types of videos it feels like we're friends who've not seen each other in a while and you're catching us up on your life, keep doing whatever makes you happy !!
If you make more videos like this, I would definitely watch. I like hearing your thoughts, even when random, and some of the points you make are so good. My mom died when I was in my 20s, and I still feel like I was getting to know her as a person. There is so much more I wish I had gotten from her as I have aged.
I have never felt more seen than the rant about having hobbies. My s/o has like 2-3 solid hobbies and can't understand that I have 0 desire to carve out time in my day that adds work and takes away lounging. Lounging IS my hobby and I love her
perfect, a sunday morning podcast from nisa
joined the "i have no dad on fathers day" club this year. its rough, but your videos give me alot of comfort. shoutouts to us fartherless babes. ❤
edit: holy shit just finished the video and my dads birthday is near fathers day too. its the 23rd. how weird. dude he must hate being born in pride month
My dad would have hated it too (he died before Pride really cracked the cultural zeitgeist). His birthday was mid July so he got to be closer to the Fourth of July, which was more his jam lol. Sending love ♥️
@Kate Halstead thank you doll! wishing you all the best too, hope your day has been fine so far. 💞💞
I joined The Dead Moms Club™ in 2013 on Mother's Day. It's a specific sort of irony, innit? 🙃
But I'm here for you. DPC Members are here for you. We're here to remind you that you are not alone in this, and it will get easier to manage 💙
I recently moved across the country for graduate school because I am a silly goose who thinks paying hundreds of thousands of dollars to work in the entertainment industry is a good idea. I also lacerated my heels after walking about 20 minutes each way and am still limping days later.
i too wear multiple items of jewellery on fathers day to compensate for the fact that my relationship with my father is trans-dimensional. putting another ring on today for good measure thanks to this upload. sending u lots of love miss nisa 💝
I also hate Once I Was 7 Years Old, and you bringing it up gave me war flashbacks to being a sophomore in high school and my at the time boyfriend was obsessed with that song and would constantly play/sing it even when begged him not to
im so glad I got to spend father’s day watching this and not missing my dead dad thank u nisipisa ❤
This title is so correct because you are truly truly speaking DIRECTLY at me and everything you’re saying makes so much sense
my mom always makes fun of me for eating a cucumber without cutting it up or anything and it's like. theyre crunchy. they're easy to bite. leave me alone
i loooveee the random way you talk about things! so real while being so effortlessly funny
I would die for nisipisa video essays
As a newer member of the dead dad club, it was nice to have this to listen to today c:
one of the phrases people in the substance abuse recovery community keep saying at me is "don't should on yourself" (said in a way that makes it sound like don't shit on yourself. i can't figure out how to represent that in text) and i am personally still trying at putting that actually into practice but it seems salient
To ahere to your request for a silly goofy story: I got a parking ticket for not having a long enough parking permit at the garage I picked while I was visiting western Ireland. And I can tell that I have been burned by too many silly parking mistakes that I saw the ticket that had an actual picture of my car on it and all I could think was “wow amazing glamour shot.”
Should clarify: the parking lot was in the states while I was in Ireland. I traveled abroad and forgot to pay for my babygirl's (my car's) AirBNB
Ive been struggling (more than usual) with feeling like nobody around me understands exactly what Im going through (less in the 15-year old angry way and more in the recently disabled and overwhelmed/lonely way) but. I laughed out loud multiple times in the first five minutes. And I feel understood more than I have in months. Maybe of this year. Thank you Nisa ❤
perfect video to watch while going through first ever lesbian heartbreak. i am in love with my beautiful goth best friend and they do NOT like me back. they stayed at my house for a week and drank all of my moms water bottles
my silly little anecdote is that yesterday i went to watch my little brother's dance recital and he's the cutest !!! and i love him!!! ALSO SPEAKING OF MUSICALS the song bff from the spongebob musical is sooooo me and him core. also on behalf of every friend who doesn't wear bags and asks for someone to keep their stuff I'm Sorry bags make me feel unbalanced it feels like im being dragged down by a bag of bricks even if its just a small bag w my wallet keys and phone 😭
I just started up crochet a couple of weeks ago and it has absolutely helped me consume less short form content, I HIGHLY recommend it!!
You NEED to know this type of video is awesome and appreciated and I'm so grateful to hear your ramblings
I’m so happy you made this video I have a bit of a headache and I was thinking about watching one of your videos because you’re always soothing and entertaining and found video waiting! ❤
So all our dads are just dead?? Love ur trout btw.
I typed a whole ass paragraph about needing to remember emotional discomfort doesn't just stack up with no way to resolve it, and how sadness/fear of messing up/feeling stupid for going against your initial judgement about going out to gather experiences can be mended by taking breaks & telling your friends when you are worn out or overwhelmed, and how people don't have a set amount of happiness and a set amount of emotional telomeres (if ykwim) before you get seriously mentally unwell that you have to protect (because your happiness and mental wellness is sort of like spoon theory but with positive and negative emotions instead of gaining energy and losing energy instead of happiness/mental wellbeing being like a limited resource)... But it was schlocky so I deleted it. But I understand the idea because I have depression too and sometimes I'm afraid to do stuff that could drag me into stress and therefore worse depression. Anyways, I love you and your videos. I know around fathers day is tough for you so do some things that help you feel better.
finally someone understands needing a Bag for your Things! i have quite literally always been a bag girlie, i even had a bag collection as a child. buying a specific case for my ipad that turns it into a little laptop was the best thing ive ever done for my bag organization. yes i am also a pisces, why do you ask?
Highly recommend crocheting for something to do with your hands! probably 30 minutes on youtube tutorials for the basics and you can make all sorts of stuff. I made a sweater while watching lectures for school!
I just could listen to you talk for hours, ilysm thank you for taking the time to upload so often lately it makes my day
My father has been abusive since I was 13. It may have started earlier, but 13 is when I could comprehend the change, that something wasn't normal and right. He's been mainly abusive to me and my mother, largely because by the time it started my older brothers were already out of the house and in college, and partially because we were women. Because the hatred and resentment he had for his mother translated onto us. My brothers know about this. Their wives know about this. But I'm expected to act as if it never happened. Daily. For over a decade. The status of their father as an abusive man is more disturbing to them than my status as a victim of his abuse, and so I am expected to acknowledge my pain, my distrust, and my trauma alone. I thought after having to do the same performance every father's day for 10 years that the rawness of all this was behind me, but sitting here talking with you (yes, in my head, this video is me and you talking) I realize that's not the case. Thank you for making space for the rawness of this holiday. I hope we both heal.
As someone from England seeing someone eat an unsliced cucumber is WILD - y'all be eating our cucumbers like that over the pond? 😮😮
do you not just go to town on a cucumber?
@@nisipisa Let me give you a NYC response "AAAYYYYOOOOOOOO"
I absolutely require more videos like this
This video is how I be in my head pretending to make a RUclips video at all times
Also I'm downloading this Libya app idc audiobooks are my life now
I knew there was a reason for my feeling of connection to you. I will eat a whole cucumber as a snack on my walk home from the grocery store!!!!!
miss pisa, as a femme lesbian with anxiety your bit about carrying other others stuff in your bigass totebag made me feel v seen.
Also I'm a librarian and thank you for the Libby love💕
I think...u should do this more. It's soo chill.
Dead dad gang assemble (and when I was 9 too so mood) - your estranged relationship joke took me out. The birthday close to Father’s Day is also rough. My dad passed on Christmas Eve. The audacity of our parents to turn holidays into double whammies…
ALSO unrelated but boston transit stops too early gang assemble. Makes it real hard for a girl to play D&D for her mental health with friends across the city.
1. I needed this video today. 2. I have never related to something so much as i thought i was a bad cook turns out it was just depression. 3. As someone who lost their husband i appreciate the humor and honesty you talked about your dad
Perfect video to listen to while I prepare for work, thank you ma’am :’)
Tell your roommate to stop sleeping in necklaces! It's dangerous
I'm always delighted to see a video from you
I don’t think listening to audiobooks is reading but I don’t think that makes it less valid than reading. It’s just a different way of consuming books, if that makes sense.
I love a sit down and chat about feelings and life video, feels adjacent to Drew Monson’s “Drew Monson #2” videos (some of my favorites on the platform
I’ve been having a really tough day being sick and on my period so this video felt like laying on your bed while your friend rants to you about their life (excluding the fact that I don’t know you)
Also I’m super curious if you’ve seen the series “this is us”! I think there’s a chance that you’ll find a lot of the themes and situations in it very interesting/relatable
Also as someone who’s been the “backpack friend” my whole life I felt so seen haha
What eye shadow glitter do you use? It looks so lovely!
On the topic of non-window shopping videos, you should bring back witchcraft and wiggatry! Such an iconic series
Currently chilling and CROCHETING (!!!) after a horrid day at work!! Love u x
omg the part about constantly improving your life by being "useful" and spending every second being useful is so me !!! like if i'm not busy i'm wasting my time !! it's my personal hell
They make layered necklace clasps that you can hook your necklaces onto before you put them on. It helps keep them from getting tangled. They’re not foolproof, but they still work pretty well.
1) I had the exact same thought about not knowing my mom as a person last night but mostly as a mom. So get out of my brainnnnn
2) my dads bday is around Father’s Day too so also weird time
Dead parents clubbbbbbbb
Hope you’re hanging in there today!
this was such a treat cuz i always stop crocheting and focus when she starts telling a story on other vids as if she's in front of me (i do the same to my friends)
i sewed myself a little canvas backpack when my last one died of being polyurethane, and by little i mean enormous, capacious. why? because i'm the same way as you are about your tote bag. always in my bag: an umbrella. prescription sunglasses. a handfan. a little bag with painkillers, different painkillers, bobby pins, a glasses wipe, glasses cleaner spritz, a tide pen, spare tampons, hand sanitizer, a mirror, lip gloss, lip balm, a nail file, a tiny nail clipper because i'm not walking around with a hangnail or broken nail, floss, and for some reason dramamine? a different little bag with a travel battery and multiple different kinds of charging cables, plus a couple little plug blocks. a different little bag with black thread, tiny scissors, a tape measure, a pincushion with pins and needles in it, a seam ripper, safety pins. one more tiny bag with pens, spare eyeliner, more painkillers, more tampons, different lip balm, a tiny screwdriver for glasses, different floss, bandaids, different hand sanitizer, and those little biotene lozenges for my adderall mouth™. wow that was so much longer than i expected but the point is i am mostly prepared for Anything so i see you i understand you
i swear i could listen to u talk abt literally anything for hours and not even notice that any time had passed ur talented
i didn't blink once this entire video
love love love rambly videos like this
MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASE ❤
The cucumber salad with soy sauce and sugar is probably liangban huanggua, which is not intended to be a salad in the first place and only fits the term by technicality. It's a fun Chinese dish for hot weather!
When you went from the cartoon slurps to chomping down on the ice candy i had to blink SO hard to process lol
You should def take up crochet!! I started it at the end of May because I also felt like I was spending too much time scrolling on my phone and it took me about a day to pick up but I started making granny squares to make a blanket and it's pretty easy! It's a great thing to do when you're listening to an audio book or watching TV :)
ur eye makeup is soooo beautiful today nisa
I feel so bad for waiting a day to watch this lmao. I had to wait for the appropriate time TM to have a nice commentary going while up at ungodly hours needlessley planning for the future. Have enjoyed the video so far (which is, I think 80% through?). thanks for the chill talks, felt like interacting with a real human person (wild.)
i watched the whole thing. i watched it while baking a copycat starbucks lemon loaf. one of my ought-to is i ought to be studying but i baked instead. im getting good at it like u r with cooking. hopefully it comes out good just went in the oven. can u make more of these? i watched ur nail polish video while i baked last time too i just love it it’s like we’re on facetime
We will support you with any type of content you'll make! Be it movie reviews, make up (throwback), "I wanna embody this side of my personality here is what they like" type of vids, we are here for it because your personality is a ray of sunshine, and what we come back to. Not the topic of conversation, but the person who is conversing.
I'm sorry you're going through it, thank you for sharing your delightful self with us
You have to clip the necklaces together! So like you take the clasp of one and attach it to the loop of the other and vice versa so it's actually like, one long looped necklace and then they stay in place relative to eachother!
u totally should branch out!! whatever u make ill love it , video essays sound especially cool
this video brought me down from a Catastrophic Anxiety Event TM and the mbta slander was just a nice little cherry on top thank you nisipisa
I don't know if you need this but maybe it will help other people, here's how to get back into reading! (if audiobooks dont suit you)
1) Pick a small, light book. I know you want to read a nice fat novel but I promise you, you'll be really frustrated when you're only reading half a chapter every few weeks and it takes ages and you're forgetting stuff. Pick a small book.
2) Short stories and anathologies are a great way to get into it! If you don't like a story, just skip it. You'll get into the rhythm of reading longer sections and enjoying a full story within a manageable timeframe. This will help a lot to move onto novellas.
3) Start observing what time you do have that's free. Are you scrolling your phone on the way to work/school? Do you find yourself waiting around between meetings or classes? Any time you're scrolling to fill time, you can read. You'd be surprised how much reading you can do in 5 minutes.
4) comics, graphic novels, magazines, zines, pamphlets, that's all reading! it doesnt have to be a book!
5) take offline breaks. turn your computer off, mute your phone, and take an hour to just read. even if you dont read a lot. enjoy being unreachable. enjoy being alone with the words. let yourself be uninterrupted.
if anyone else has tips, suggest them too! happy reading!!
oh, 6) you dont have to Read The Right Things. read anything. fuck what youre "supposed" to read. only read what you'll enjoy. if thats kids fic or YA or animal facts or manuals or fanfic or whatever. read it. read anything.
Ugh I am in LA for the next 2 weeks by myself (my travel companion had to return earlier than intended) and I am definitely fighting the urge to just stay in the apartment we rented for the rest of the trip 💀💀💀 not helped by the fact that I don’t have a car here, but I definitely could walk somewhere… but all my stuff is here!!
Omg saaame Reading Sharp Objects during an already dark time in my life nearly destroyed me!
I'm with you on carrying a big bag with everything in it! Here's a related silly anecdote from many years ago when I was in high school. One summer day, I went to a local theme park with my then-boyfriend and his best friend. Within the first 20 minutes we were there, we walked by this booth and the guy who worked there was desperately trying to get our attention to the point where it would have felt very awkward to ignore him. It turned out he was an age guesser, and he insisted on guessing our ages. If he was off by more than 3 years, the person whose age he guessed incorrectly would win a prize. He was close enough for boyfriend and me, but he guessed friend was way older than he actually was, purely on the grounds that he was tall, so he won a prize. Turns out the prize was a giant stuffed animal...which he then immediately asked me to carry because "hey, you're a girl! You can just put it in your bag, right?" It didn't even fit all the way in my bag. So I spent the entire rest of the day quietly, and at times not so quietly, resenting him as I carried around this prize none of us wanted as a memento of our uncomfortable social interaction with the age guesser dude. Side note, that was the same day I got my thighs sandpapered to all hell on this one ride because apparently at no point during the design, construction, or testing of the ride did they ever have anyone wearing short shorts sit on the seat to discover that the surface was incredibly abrasive. Never in my life will I go on that ride again lol