How YOU Can Stop Being Afraid - Therapist Explains!
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Psychotherapist Georgia Dow describes how you can face and overcome your fears so you can lead a better and more fulfilling life!
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If I wasn't afraid, I'd live my life instead of surviving it.
Yes so true
Same, life seems like a scary journey for me.
I got goosebumps from reading this. Not just because of the way you said it, but because it’s true.
So true..I feel like I've been living in survival mode my whole life so far 😢
Same here 😂
"The master has failed more than the novice has tried." Very wise words indeed.
Since I was a child I have intentionally advanced toward things I want to run from to overcome fears. At a young age I overcame the darkness, bugs, and heights, to name a few things. In my adult life I look forward to advancing toward failure itself. Great video!
wonderful
Please teach me your ways. I’m crippled by fear in so many ways
I found out about your channel from watching your reactions to arcane, and I’m so happy I did, your videos have helped me out a lot and your voice is so soothing. Thank you so much, please keep up the good work!!
thank you for being a part of my community
i have been terrified of the stupidest things and wasn’t comfortable living with myself. then i found you. you helped me rid of all of my fears such as dark, certain videos, death, rejection, all of it. bless you Georgia Dow.
I am afraid of people so much I took your advice and talked with some people and it was horrible pain but the happy news is I slept that night with smile on my face thank you a lot I needed someone to tell me this for a long time
Congrats brave soul
ive been struggling with reading and answering important mails because my anxiety always tells me the contents of the mail will say something bad about me. thanks to this video i got a little more courage to open them today :)
Ptsd? I understand :( I hope you've gotten past it.
I’ve always stayed hidden, be observant and make friends in my head cuz I was scared of approaching since in the past everytime I have made An attempt to make friends, I’ve been bullied, called names, judged, all the fun stuff. This made me stop and I started to detach from the reality and live in my head with these made up scenarios and even I knew that it wasn’t real but that’s when I was less scared. I eventually made friends in undergrad but I only ever had 2 TRUE friends that I had made in HS. My own trust issues made me distant from my friends. I had a lot of pressure put on me since I was a child to help my family out of poverty and the fear grew worse. I went from being an honor roll student to failing my classes in my doctorate program I’m currently in. Everytime I try to think about facing my fears head on, all I get hit with are memories and experiences of my past that had always stopped me. Even now. Somedays I talk myself out of doing something that scare me because the first thought I get is “there’s no point…the judgements people make will last forever and no matter how hard I try, I’ll only be a laughing stock”. I never had problems looking for jobs but now I’m afraid to even look for jobs. You see this fear that I possess is irrational and I know that too yet it’s something I struggle to move past. This video was needed and I can’t appreciate it enough. Thank you so much!!!
Maybe not exactly the same topic but there is this mindset a friend set me on: Utilizing this phenomenon of fear of missing out. If you are in doubt of doing anything - be it in professional or private life, like changing your job, ending a relationship, going all in either of those - ask yourself: are you more afraid of losing this chance and worry for the rest of your life - which is a valid and oh so cruel punishment because there is no real redemption for this - or try it and at least have the chance of succeeding? You may fail either way but the fear of eternal questioning "What if..." is, in my opinion, an incredible motivator and possibly the modern day equivalent to your tiger example.
One of my main problems is that I'm too afraid to keep failing, and I know that this slows down my improvement by a lot, and I just hate myself for it more.. I'm self studying animation right now, and there's so much to learn, and I can't learn as fast because I'm so afraid to try this or that because I'm afraid it'll look or end bad, and at the end I just waste more time playing video games instead cause I'm too stuck, instead of just practicing my planned studies. Being alone and self studying is a nightmare haha!
I have the same problem. Did you overcome it?
i can write a 1000 word essay to thank you, but instead all I would like to say is, you saved my life!
when you think of bad thoughts your enemy is actually your thought , so be positive make it your greatest ally
I'm after 2-year therapy, it's been like 4 months now without therapist insights and I was sooooo "fine" until i've realized that fear is my last obstacle for gaining what I want and it "just" popped out cause I kinda lost my work-stability and came up with idea to start working on my own, and BOOM - fear blocked everything. I came here looking for perfect solution, some words to STOP me feeling the fear.
I'm going to close this tab with a new solution now - that there are no easy ways but the right way or wrong way. And that right way is doing things regardless of fear... which I already knew, but yay sometimes fighting for yourself is the most fearful of fights. Gotta be kind to yourself on the way too.
Thanks for that video, it gave me exactly what I needed, not what I wanted. :)
You look like a bloody good therapist to me.... I'd express myself however the hell I wanted...id care less about people pleasing..id show how I felt& not cover it..I could go on after so many years of an anxiety disorder..we all come good in the end..it's a sometimes crazy game with growth, transformation & awakening..however we get there💥🌈🙏x
My philosophy brain has become uncomfortable with this message. Yes fear of failure is bad, but this isn't because failure is imaginary in the modern world. Even saying the wrong thing can have huge consequences. I think that to avoid a fear of failure you need something to trust in, so that even if you fail and face the full consequences things will ultimately be ok. Then once the risks are bearable the rewards may outwiegh them.
Heck, I'd say that fear of failure is good when it's reasonable chance of unacceptable failure. People with great safety nets under them keep saying how you should not fear failure (and our civilization is quite good at making safety nets for certain people). Sometimes failure means loss of limb, home, life.
@@randomnobodovsky3692 i dont think she is saying you should be totaly fearless and start jumping down stairs and stuff. but dont let fear hold you back. i am a very anxious person and i am in a job i hate, cause i am to anxious to try something new. i had not one but two women i really liked but i banished them from my life cause i thought i wasnt good enough but later i found out, they liked me. there is a place for fear in our lives when its reasonable. but to fear everything and not advancing can also ruining your life and kill your happiness.
I made my 13 year old daughter and her friend come watch this video. Then I asked both of them what they would do?
What a wonderful message. I’m bookmarking this and sharing it often.
I don’t often watch your movie analysis, mainly cause I’m not watching those movies. But your insight is appreciated. I’m still a subscriber. 😉
This made my day. Thank you.
Thank you for posting the video . I really appreciate it !
I seriously needed this. Thank you for what you do 💕
In April I completed a degree in visual arts… all negativity from people and myself be damned.
If I wasn't afraid, I'd destroy parts of my self image.
Great video! Been enjoying your content.
Thank you, I needed this.
Thank you for your advice. It made me feel a lot better.
Probably the most effective delivery I've come across on the subject!! AMAZING content delivered with such passion and authority.
This is actually really helpful! Coming from a girl who really doesn’t find “ motivating” videos very motivating usually!
That is such a wonderful compliment thanks = )
Thank you so much , I needed that
Absolutely brilliant teaching. Thank you for sharing😊
Thanks for the video .
Thank you so much for the video❤
Great video keep up the great work
Great video on over coming fear this is very helpful. Plus this is why I subscribed to your channel.
This video warms my heart! Instills hope, is lovingly encouraging and filled with brilliant Georgia insights! Oooh! And this video seems the PERFECT segue into videos about THE MAN WITHOUT FEAR himself! (Hint Hint: Daredevil? Netfix?) As a university writing major/theater person, I was in rehearsals and performances from 6 AM till 1AM, with classes and studying in between. And writing. Also got to see other plays and musicals, ballets, concerts as part of the curriculum. I often forgot until the day of that I had tickets to something. Wherever I was on campus, I would stop and ask the next girl I saw if she would go with me. That's what I would do again...if I wasn't afraid of, you know, being emotionally destroyed.
Thank you CL you have always been there to support and it is much appreciated.
@@GeorgiaDow Ah! But the REAL credit goes to you for being so supportable. (And did I mention that the Daredevil Netflix shows would make great subject material for videos for you? ;)
Loved it, sooo thanks a lot!!
Awesome.
Thank you so much,
Cheers!!!
best video on yt on this topic. ❤ thank you!!!
Thank you so much, it was helpful
Great video very informative 👍🏼
Oh thank you so much!! May God bless you!! ❤
If I am not afraid…I will study better…i will give practice tests that I have been afraid to give……I will do better in life….. I don’t want to be scared of this….I have lost a lot of what I could have been….so many opportunities just because I felt I might screw it up.
I am a doctor and I am preparing for my Postgraduate Exams which is a week away….and I have not prepared well…..I have been feeling like a man who is on his death sentence……Found this just when I needed it the most!!
I just ❤ this message!
This opened my eyes somehow.
This is very good thank you.
U talk so to the point..ND realistic way ..really it encouraged me helped me..gave me strength hope....thanks lot dear❤
This was beautiful thank you
happy you liked it
You're great, i even can't find exact words to describe how much it does mean to me to watch your videos. I was going through really hard childhood where i got many traumas and I'm literally afraid of everything that mature people do every single day and includes social interactions like post my photos or exhibit in front of others or just to be myself near them. So what i really want to say is thank you for your helping content and please, if you could, make small video about sociophobia🙏🏻
Thank u for this video and all other videos u did
This video is so good
Im very glad you made this video
You're right. Perfect should not be the enemy of good.
Wao! It is so clear.
I fear of being judged and being unable to be creative during an interview. These two are my worst fears due to which I am stuck for 2 whole years.
But after seeing this video I have got confidence to do them inspite of fearing it.
Thankyou..im quite in always fearful heart so i want to be more free and happy so i have decided to watch it daily to remind myself and challenge myself so that my fears will go away more ❤❤
I recently learned it was my fear of failure is what has been holding me back from my career. I came to that realization with your video on Lucifer in Hazbin Hotel. Thank you for helping me realize that through your content.
Thank You
Every time I have pushed through fear, life has gotten worse. I am doing nothing but completely respecting my fear from here on out.
Thanks for the great video, Georgia! It’s actually reaffirmed a lot of the things that my own therapist has talked to me about, and I realize now how seriously I should be taking it.
Also, if I may, I’ve come across a line from Dostoevsky that’s helped me a lot: “Fear is simply the consequence of every lie.” So I think it might help, when we’re afraid, what are we lying to ourselves about? Or what lies have been told to us and we have accepted as truth? Hopefully, that’s some good food for thought for everyone else.
that is an interesting perspective on fear thank you
I absolutely love you, sorry had to say it. What you say the way you say it makes so much sense to me.
Dude this made me cry wth
Aight I'm going to practice singing now! Thanks for the help!
awesome !! let us know how it goes
If I was fearless, I would develop my skills and pursue my passions with a level of perseverance beyond anything I've ever experienced. I'd get singing lessons, piano lessons, dance lessons, become a fantastic artist, public speaker, author, athlete, design clothing, create businesses, become an amazing chef, allow the kind of relationship I desire into my life, be okay with making new friends and just live the life of my dreams. It's crazy because a part of the reason I want to succeed is to be someone I can be proud of and the other big part of the reason is so I can be enough so I can be loved. It's amazing how the thing that people (including me) really want is just love.
Good video!
Your video made me realize that one thing that happens to me quite often is that I get scared or anxious before doing something, which for one reason or another sounds menacing in my mind. Then I do it, and everything goes smoothly. So, while feeling relieved and happy, I think “I was so stupid to be afraid! Why was I afraid? I just made things more difficult for myself”. And while that is true to a certain extent, I realize now it is unfair. I was afraid, so what? With the informations I had at the time, that was my reaction. It’s easy to be bold once things are clear and under control. I am allowed to be afraid and it wasn’t stupid.
Sorry if I went off-topic, I felt the need to write down these thoughts as I was having them in my brain, to try and organize them!
You are such a sweet person, thanks and keep doing what you’re doing 💪 (loved your Arcane reactions videos, I’ll add a couple characters in the poll I’d like to see your analysis on!)
Thank you for sharing that! It's really sweet & true. Thanks for that
I can really relate to those fears. I've been studying at university for a few years, but most nights when I lay down and think about the next day I get incredibly anxious to go to university, although I've gone there so many times and there is nothing there that has ever harmed me before.
I hope your fear and anxiety has gotten better with time, but hey, it's just as okay if it hasn't!
I’m afraid to work. I’m afraid they will get impatient and I get nervous.
That's a great video
A winner in life is someone who has felt the fear, experienced the failure time after time and been knocked down by it, decided to try again “just one more time” every time. People see the end results, but rarely do they consider how challenging that journey was and how that winner never gave up when they were losing. Fear will have you fail by default if you let it prevent you from even starting.
I rationally understand all of that.
I subjectively feel like I'm suffocating when I try anyway
Keep trying and working at it, It can get better
Found out about your channel with the arcane reactions, and i've loved everything about it since then, love how you see things and even more how you talk about and how you say it, wish i could do a sesion with you but my english got so rusty :S
thank you for sharing =)
I am only afraid of physical pain. Like people think I am afraid of being dirty but not the reason I wash my hands so much, one time in high school I was sick I failed the strep throat test but they decided to draw my blood and I some how get strep throat despite failing the test ( how is that possible?! ) So now I wash my hands so I can avoid getting sick and if I am not sick I can avoid extra painful blood draws. The other scary thing is my fear is mostly common in elderly people and I am 25. O_O
Thanks
Your explanation of learning by doing on a neurobiological level, with the neuron bridges and such, just gave me a revelation.
Idioms, examples, analogies etc usually have no effect on me. But an explanation like this, based on actual science blew my mind!! I mean, of course, that's how the brain works, but I never thought of it in this context.
I'm looking to get therapy soon, but was too afraid (hah) up until now, because I expected it to be a waste of time. But now I'm honestly excited to get going. Thank you so much
Thats wonderful news I hope you find a great therapist and feel happier =)
The thing I would do if I wasnt afraid would be to devote my self to selling learning which is a field that scares me a lot
If I wasn't so afraid, I would be able to be truly who I am.
I hope you get to do that for yourself
If I wasn't so afraid of leaving my safe zone I'd probably make amazing art, so I'mma start working on that today
am afraid of tangible things like attackers, illness and death. Chronically, this video was not addressed to me.
I found out that whenever I do something without telling anyone I am way more confident and much more less afraid of failure. Other people's opinions get to me a lot.
I juts had thought that i needed to work out with my fear of failure which is now holding me back from trying to get to the next step in my career. If i didnt have fear i would go on a draft a curriculum and start looking for jobs. I hope i can work with that and get better at just jumping in the pool, because if i keep starig at it nothing will change.
I am learning to code and can SO relate to this - when you code you need to tinker with your product to get it juuust right, but you WILL get it wrong and it WILL NOT work for a very long time, which is very frustrating. And you cannot just read the steps and memorise them, you need to actually tinker in order to learn, because theory is one thing, but when you are actually inside that evironment, all of a sudden things seem sooooo little like that instruction video or book you just watched/read and a lot of people just give up, because things get hard. But the thing is - you cannot get better without struggling and/or failing. So do tell that inner goblin to stuff it, because believe you me - you CAN learn and improve. ;-) Things you do not fully understand yet will click once you have pushed on and gotten the proper context (e.g. when I was still learning the basics I was trying to do a thing and got frustrated because it didn't work, but chose to "soldier on", watched more instructions and found a presentation of a function which let me do exactly what I wanted. you are not dumb, you just don't see the entire picture yet.)
I would start filmmaking and working out and i would study and i would probably go to my grandparents more often
If I wasn’t afraid? I don’t know what I would do, maybe end people’s exposure to fear. But you can’t change anyone’s minds, only they get to do that. I want to live within the truth, but I feel like I can’t without being silenced. I can’t blame them, the truth does hurt but without it we don’t have anything. I want to show people the truths that they have, if I was afraid, I would show the world what it means to live in the truth. I would also prevent any lies to silence the truth as well, this is what I wish to do without the fear.
I am learning to drive a car and it is so difficult for me, I started 6 months ago and I still haven't take an exam cause I feel I am not ready. I received a lot of critics from my teachers and all my friends are surprised that it takes so long time for me, and it feels like tension as well. After watching your video I realized that the only thing I can do (and wanna do) is just to keep trying.❤
Perhaps this will sound a little odd but one of my biggest fears is kinda my favourite thing in the world - my friends. Especially now I'm not in a good position when it comes to my friendships at all. I know I should start overcoming it but I'm not sure where to start but I know that's something that I have to decide and do for my sake. Amazing video! I already send it to a friend of mine that I think need to hear this.
Not at all Odd its very common and I can fully understand it. Those around us are of upmost importance. Thank you for being part of my community
If I wasn't afraid I would be on Billboard top 10.
moving on
I am not scared of the dark, I fear what's in the dark.
What could be.
I am overly cautious to the darkness, what wonders in thier.
What hides?
What lurking.
Maybe nothing, maybe something.
I have to jump off a cliff every time just to leave the house. It's been decades and no, it hasn't gotten better. I just force myself off the cliff every time..every day. It still terrifies me, drives up my heart rate and bp. I need real help but it seems to be nowhere.
Thank you mam
Thank YOU....I fear, but most of it is gone, I'm old, old fixes most things
im in debt by thousands of £ struggling with family who have abondened me ,this has slighty helped actully so many worries and fears ,alwsys looking over my shoulder i have now subcribed im really struggling ,having turned to drink and drugs
U have said this so fucking well I wish I could have a personal conversation with you. Ur so wise. Thank u for this
Sounds like things I always tell beginner artists or also doubting artist who aren't beginners anymore. I always say, that beneatch every great artwork lie at least a hundred torn papers and every single on of them is a part of the master piece in the end. You just don't see them, because they are just hidden behind the master pieces you admire so much... So even if you think you are bad, tell yourself, one day a Master Piece will also lie above your torned papers. But even if I tell things like this to others, I fail to follow my own wannabe wise words. I am scared of almost everything in life, even of myself sometimes.
What would I do, if I would not be afraid? I have no idea. I got these anxieties and fears during my childhood. It's long ago now, but even if my life changed from back then, it so often seems, as nothing would have ever changed. I try and try and it doesn't seem to lead me anywhere. What I try to tell... I can't imagine how it would be to not be afraid. There are things I'd like to do... trying to make my own videogame for example... I started some in the past, but never got far. I have no endurance. I always break up in the middle of the process... or before I started at all, not only with games also with drawings and... well... everything else. Batteries empty... not refillable... even a break doesn't bring it back. Don't know where to take it from. Whats left are doubts and fears... the base I seem to live on. Sometimes I overcome them, but it never lasts long... Always fall back... When a day comes, where I seem to be okay... I get scared of being okay, as it's a terrain I don't know... Don't know what to do, when no thoughts are swirling through my brain. It feels like something is missing, like nothing is left... the fear... the doubts, and then there they are again... It's a circle... How to get away from fears, if you even fear to not being fearful? Does it even make sense?
Anyway, got myself something to write and started jounaling. Started to practice again. Started a while ago for the sake of my health, but... well... endurance... Now you said it helps against depression too, I try and start again and try to keep at it this time, which is the hardest part of it. I need to do something and your Videos helped me a bit, to get to move myself. Hope something will work. However, thanks already.
And sorry if my english may sound strange sometimes, I'm not a native english speaker.
I just started a new job working at Panera bread and every time I think about it I get super anxious. I think it’s mainly fear of the unknown and the fact that I don’t know who I will be working with. I’ve worked at 2 restaurants so I’m comfortable with food but it’s still so anxiety inducing 😭
If I wasnt Afraid, I would probably have more of a social life than I do now. Not saying that i am a hermit, but I would be more open to new experiences that I wouldn't be open to otherwise.
You know what you need to do then =)
@@GeorgiaDow Appreciate it, love your reactions BTW
Ever thought of reacting to horror film characters?
Maybe this is a weird thing but..I wanted to overcome my fear for a long time but somehow I couldn’t. But after I watched Arcane, I started to look at Vi and how she handles certain things..not just with punching of course but mentally! I started to adapt her behavior in some ways. I started to become more confident and be less afraid of what people think. For a long time I was really afraid of what people would think of me but after watching Vi in certain ways and adapting those certain ways..the fear started to slowly fade away…I don’t know if it’s weird but I got my confidence from a fictional character
I will keep your advice in my storage
I think you'll like the show Arcane. Its on Netflix. The first 3 episodes are awesome and more 3 will come this saturday.
Trusting people
Every time death is mentioned im terrified of losing my sister, i could say i don't know why but i do, she is everything ive ever had even when i never had anyone, ive never had anyone even as a little kid, i cannot imagine life without her, and everytime i'm rude to her i regret it so much. I hope she knows i love her.
I freakin love you. Thanks
awwwwie
There's nothing to fear but fear itself.😂
Interesting, ive been wanting to try learning new things lately that I never would have had the courage to do as a kid because I was so shy. I didn't like being the center of attention, but after working in customer service, it's like I don't care anymore whether I'm in the spotlight or not. But lately I've been craving to try doing all the things I was curious about as a kid but was too scared to do. Like fencing or martial arts or learning how to hunt. I could never do these things as a kid but I feel like I can now. I even tried zip lining for the first time ever and I actually had a lot of fun and wasn't scared. It makes me wonder what else I can do. After watching this view it makes me feel like I'm heading in the right direction. My older brother once told me I have a fear of the unknown. I never told him that but he's always been very observant. So I want to try to see and experience as much as I can. Right now I'm even learning to speak Japanese, something I never thought I'd be smart enough to do. I've just been telling myself I don't have to be smart, just determined.
I’m mentally tired, already @ 29. My Mom just offered to pay for a psychologist for me. But I’m afraid to speak.
I love helping others, but I’m afraid of me.
I’d talk to someone that would listen… I’ve tried before in high school twice, but failed.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). If peephole simply confirm to something for fear of consequences nothing has happened to make an actual change