What Does YOUR Body Language Say About YOU? - Therapist Explains!
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Real therapist Georgia Dow details some aspects of body language and how important it is not only for communication, but for our well-being.
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Body language is a good way to get a window into who a person is but eye I feel tell a deeper story of a person attitude and personality, I love to smile so that is my mantra
I have both aspergers and an anxiety disorder, so you can imagine how much of a mess I am sometimes 😂 Thankfully, I’m pretty bubbly, and most people don’t react badly to me or mistake me for being aggressive, but an old manager of mine unfortunately took my lack of eye contact, fidgeting and nervous body language around her as me being shady, and accused me of all sorts of rubbish! Excuse me, ma’am, I’m acting like that because I’m scared shitless of you and your psychotic emotional outbursts, not because I’ve done something wrong 💀 I don’t like the thought that my anxiety might be making other people anxious!
Yes anxiety can really be contagious. thank you for sharing =)
Dear Georgia,
whenever I watch your videos, I feel at peace. It's like getting an actual therapy for me, except I've never felt this secure with any of my therapists. You're so passionate, caring and understanding, and you speak so calmly and kindly about things that I deeply dislike about myself that it kinda makes me feel like all these traits aren't that big of a deal. Not something to be hated or judged for. Can't even put into words how much this feeling means to me, truly soothing. You're incredible. Much love x
Aw thank you for this wonderful thoughtful comment. It means more to me than you know as that is what I hope to do. Thank you for being a part of my community and taking the time to comment
Body language is a great study of survival because we are all part of different cultures. Growing up in entropy I learned so much living in criminal invested neighborhoods versus middle class and upper class cultures. We are very unique and amazing.
I sometimes cover my mouth partly with my fingers, when I'm really interested in listening to someone, as well as leaning forward. I think it's because I'm someone who talkes a lot, and when someone is talking about something I'm interested in I really want to participate, but I also really want shut up and not talk over them.
I have ADHD, anxiety, depression, control issues, some other complicated things. I don't have normal body language. It's also dictated heavily by my energy. Not my mood or anything like that, but if I was chill and just wanted to relax, my demeanor might convince you that I wouldn't care if you died but I'm just tired.
I got the same thing man, packet and all.
Are you still using meds if you don't mind me asking? I got rid of mine 10 years ago due to depression, but now I'm depressed anyways so thinking about going back.
@@jamester0772 I don't have meds for my anxiety and depression. I have strategies to handle my anxiety so good it basically doesn't exist. My depression is mild, I have strategies to manage that. I believe you should use medication, it can really help and if it doesn't, there are millions of medications and different doses that can work better or worse. Plus, you have nothing to lose with meds. If they don't work you don't have to take them. I'm supposed to have medication for my ADHD but I need to have an appointment to check up on me so I can get a refill and I haven't gotten around with it although the medication for my ADHD is extremely helpful.
As someone who is autistic, I have a very hard time reading peoples body language and tone which often makes interactions with people difficult. Usually I will just stay alone because I like being alone where I don't have to worry about that, but when I have to talk to people I just mimic what I see characters do which is very helpful.
So.... the internet is telling me you are a jui jitsu champion? Can we talk about this? Please? Also, great video as usual.
Perfect analysis as always.
Thanks for another great video. Blessings on your day.
I experienced the culture dance when I lived in Spain. It used to kinda freak me out bc they'd get so close, but once I realized why they were getting so close, I was able to adjust accordingly make myself get used to the difference in distance. Very interesting, simple difference I hadn't truly considered before I moved there!
My brother and his nervous laugh, it never clicked for me that it was nerves, which might have made coexistence easier. Problem is I always took it as mocking, not quite understanding his tone, and it only took me close to 40 years to figure out I was somewhere on the low end of the spectrum. Good part is that it's all learned, and since that sort of passive learning never really worked for me, it was just a matter of paying attention to the context in addition to the verbiage. That's probably why writing is a skill, you need to convey all those extra bits like tone and intonation, and the only tools available are rather black and white. The smart ones throw in a picture or two to defy conventions.
80% of communication is non-verbal IIRC, and paying attention will do loads for your understanding of other people, as well as helping you express yourself. At 6'3", I can be a bit intimidating in the flesh, so we make sure to sit down if we want an argument to go anywhere. It's the awareness of little things like that which are a boon to whatever you might be up to. Avoid filler words, DO NOT RUSH YOURSELF, and adopt an open posture is general best practice for introducing yourself. I like that you touched on the range of personal space, Romance countries being comfortable at about an elbow's length away can cause frictions when your Canadian or American friends might be more relaxed at an arm's length, and it's the first thing to notice is how far away someone is standing when they engage.
You can take shortcuts in understanding if it's friends, but whenever it might matter, make sure you're getting your message across by asking for some feedback. Taking care to do this with important parts is also an easy way to double up on teaching something, like a quick 30 second review to make sure it was understood. But that starts bleeding into teaching and there are whole libraries on THAT topic. Getting back to body language, establishing shared mores is usually very helpful, and learning to negotiate those mores also helps your cause.
Great video! Being able to understand body language can be so important, but very difficult. Thanks for the thorough and easy to understand explanations.
I'll keep this up. Thank you
So happy I found your channel, there are so many helpful and interesting videos. Thank you. :)
Glad you like them!
I have body language of course, but I also move around a lot and make faces and physically react to my thoughts sometimes and do a lot of really random expressions. 50% of my movement is my mood, energy, body language, and another 50% is just random.
These r so helpful auagh💕
Thank you 😊
Your video has helped out so much. It made me understand my body language. You look at so many videos and read books. You explain it so clearly
Glad it was helpful!
Very true indeed!
I have naturally very closed body language and it turns people away from even starting up a conversation with you. It's a real struggle because it's subconscious.
What would you say is the impact of growing online communication (without camera) on today's communication. If for instance the first impression of a person cannot be determined by looks, what is it then? The voice? The way they introduce themselves over voice comm?
My own body language and understanding other people's body language was definately for me to under stand because of my Autism. I think I am better now but I do have those misunderstandings like the arm wrap thing most people do it for anger or if they are cold while I do it when I am bored or I do it just because.
Ooh you should do a collaboration with Enigma to talk more about body language
Nicely Done........You mentioned Texting. IMHO, many relationships have taken massive hits because we've moved from Speech to Texting.......I see that as being a HUGE mistake. :) 🙏🏼
I am with you on that Rich. Thanks for your constant support
Had to give this one a like for the opening with that Ursula quote. 😂 Your videos are very well presented though, and I enjoy how you explain things. I have recommended your channel to a few others. Thank you for all your advice, it has helped me and I'm sure many others.
Much appreciated! thank you for recommended it to others
@@GeorgiaDow No problem. I did have a question for you as someone who has suffered through depression do you think my videos would visually summarize depression? I have two. Suffering in Silence (based on a Silent Voice). Highly recommend you look at it was as great dive into suicidal psychology imo. (also a silent voice is a great deep dive into depression) and Invisible scars based on Welcome to the NHK. A video based on what depression may look like to people who don't understand. (based it off my own experience) I combined two separate mediums showing what people will see from the outside vs the person dealing with it personally. If not I completely understand from a youtube perspective. (copyrights can be complicated) Will continue to watch you future videos, and love how you may help others who deal with similar problems. Ty!
even if you do not want to, for a future video you may want to look into " A silent Voice" was looked over a lot in the west, but imo def deep dived into psychology. Was very impressed how it handled depression
Can you do a video on Doom Patrol season 3 episode 8? I feel that’s a great one to cover.
I like leaning on things when I'm talking to people. Like standing and leaning on a table with my elbows on it or on a railing, or leaning against a wall or fences. What would that means or give off?
My body language is awful I fidget and don't make eye contact. Then when I realize that I try to think of ways to relax. Then that causes hyper awareness for me Then I leave the store and sit in the car. I'm also worried people see me as aggressive, because I'm just a big guy. I'm literally afraid of everyone even if they are half my size.
Georgia, is this why you speaking mostly with the back of your hands towards someone? To express innocence and non-aggressive gesture?
Hmm i dont really know. I will think on that one
Georgia! You just gave an online acting class! (By the way...Starting at 2:46...Intimidated right down to my toes...Shudder.) I did several plays, in one I literally "carried a spear" as a royal bodyguard. A friend of mine came with two of her guy friends. The guy friends said they would NOT like to ever meet me on a dark street or alley. She laughed, because all she could see was her huggable lovable friend...no matter the setting or whatever my body language. There once was a discussion about intonation and how many meanings a person could communicate with just the word "dude". There was spacy, friendly , surprised, in awe, confused, excited, disapproving and a fearful "are you a serial killer" kind of thing.
Too kind =) thanks CL
@@GeorgiaDow Ha! The truth is out, and I already know you are TRULY impressive. And I know you're not all about that...but I sincerely do not think that you get the credit you deserve. You are an example to be emulated.
I am 17 years old , i still didn’t go to college but i want to study phycology and I really can’t tell if there is a difference between therapy and phycology so can you tell me what degree or what field did you study because i want to study it too
First of all, that's another great video👍 But I actually have a question about something different. I'm from Germany and I'm thinking about studying psychology. Nevertheless I have to check if I'm actually qualified for the study/ job. So what do you need be good? Like being emphatic or math subjects like statistics etc.
Empathy the care to help others and ability to piece together puzzles and see the world from another persons eyes
@@GeorgiaDow thank you 💫
It's funny how I tried to put the subtitles in English or Spanish but RUclips only give me the automatically Portuguese subtitles 😂😂
What I always wonder is, though, all these types of body languages that "mean" something usually only "mean" that to the recipient. The one doing those types of body languages could very well not be feeling whatever they are giving off, which makes body language incredibly incorrect, and to do it "correct" you actually have to fake it, rather than being natural in most cases.
So is it really all that healthy and fair to judge people by their body language and expect people to give off the "correct" body language? Especially when we also bring in different cultures with different body languages.
For example, I'll never forget how when I still went to kindergarten, day-in-day-out caretakers would ask me why I'm sad or upset and try to motivate me to do something else to have fun, when really I was enjoying myself just fine, I simply wasn't actively smiling.
People often can get it wrong but there are some universalities and if you know someone’s personality type it becomes very stable to figure out. Those who are more emphatic can also read people with scary accuracy
I would continuously smile even at terrible situations. I never do it purposely it's almost subconscious I always have a smile. Even at difficult times I tend to get into trouble because they don't think I take anything seriously.
I hear you. I hope you are appreciated by those around you
@@GeorgiaDow Thank you,
I can never understand my bosses body language. He always makes me so nervous.
My arms were folded and my legs where crossed what dose that say?
you are feeling defensive maybe this video hit too close to home = )
Try to explain this to my husband. He doesn’t get it
maybe have him watch the video
@@GeorgiaDow I would, but it would go over his head.
As an autistic person I find the social dance quite confusing. The video helped me understand how uncanny valley I am. I will have to do the performance of a lifetime if I ever want to get hiert. Why are autistic people seen as creepy even though they are better at doing moral decisions? Shouldn't it be the other way around?
Too busy focusing on that white light on her nose