Are YOU in a Codependent Relationship?- Real Therapist Explains!
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- Опубликовано: 21 фев 2021
- How can being a caretaker be detrimental to your mental health? Are you a caretaker? What does it mean to be co-dependant? Do you put other people's needs ahead of your own? Are you the go to person for everyone else's problems? Then you might be a caretaker and you can fix it!
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Georgia, you might not be my therapist, but you might be my therapist. I cried while watching this video because it made me realize why I always have anxiety and feel like I don't know who I am. From the bottom of my heart, I am so happy to have your videos. Thank you, you are helping so many people.
thank you for that. I wish you the best and thank you for being in my community.
Very well done. Thanks for sharing this, I’ve always had the caretaker issue and ironically when my wife became disabled 2yrs ago what I noticed is the pubic perception of ME changed. I went from being viewed as a selfish martyr to a devoted selfless husband but my actions didnt really change much.
You’ve just shed some light on why my last relationship didn’t work. I’m definitely a caretaker and I should work on that. Can’t wait for your next video!
Thank you for sharing this. I've been struggling in my relationship with my brother because he adopts this care-taking behavior towards his girlfriend, his friends, our parents, and even me, sometimes at a really toxic level. And it's been very hard for me trying to get through to him to explain how it can be a bad thing, for him and the others. He actually wrote an article to disprove what we call in France "savior syndrome" as a valid category in psychology. But even though he does make very strong rational points in it, I couldn't help but perceive behind the words my brother trying to make his way out rationally to avoid looking within. The conversations we had were complicated because, as his sister, I can see that he cannot perceive himself otherwise than this knight in shining armor, and by that I mean that it frustrates me that he occults completely the parts of himself where he also acts in a selfish way, even if he perceives it as sacrifice... But as you mention, there is a lot of family history and trauma to unpack before he can even begin to see this part of him I think... Thank you again.
maybe send him a link and see if it opens up things
@@GeorgiaDow Unfortunaltly he does not speak english at all... but I did send it to his girlfriend to ask her opinion, I know she's been trying to get through him too about this and I thought it might help her.
👀 You have provided many helpful insights. Thanks for sharing this topic. Blessings on your day 👍🏻👍🏻
You, Georgia Dow, are really quite Amazing. 🤍. I won’t even mention my Cat 🐈..... but I Am a Subscribed Bell 🛎 Ringer and Very Grateful that you’re here. 🙏🏼🌹
Hi Georgia, I started making my way through your therapy videos from the beginning. I just wanted to say, what I really appreciate about them so far is that you put equal emphasis on all kinds of relationships. But most other channels seem to center romantic relationships in a large way. For example, most codependency videos I've seen talk about how this manifests in romantic relationships and don't even address that this can be an issue between friends or neighbors or community members, but I loved that you highlighted that.
Educators, clergy, medical professionals (including therapists), first responders (police, fire) some/most lawyers would seem to fit this personality type and find much helpful insight here. I fit the first two categories in my pre-retired life and see myself in this. You provide a valuable service.
So, is Caretaking a common trait? I wonder if that’s why airlines go out of their way to remind passengers to put on their own masks first before helping others. Our natural inclination is to help others...but when the cabin depressurizes, you really do have to take care of yourself FIRST, if only to put yourself in a better position to then help others.
I've heard the term codependent so many times, probably even looked it up some time, but it made so much sense now. I just wanted to say that this short video really helped me understand myself a little bit more.
Love this!
You know how I know I need precessional help? And one less dependent? 🤣 But seriously, great video with a lot of useful info and jumping off points. Thanks so much!
I'm in a codependent relationship. I wouldn't say im a caretaker normally. I do give in and people please a bit, but normally not much. My girlfriend and now wofe has serious anxiety issues. Shes had multiple breakdowns over our relationship. Every time she does I step up and do more. We started off at 50/50 roughly. But now I i do all the domestic labour. Every single bit and more. Imagine a child, not just an adult. That's the level of dependency. I'm genuinely tired and burnt out. What upsets me is she can't see it. She's stressed about her job, her visa, she has an abusive mother. It's all very stressful, bit she puts it all on me. She doesn't have friends and doesn't try to deal with her anxiety properly. Every time people suggest ways of alleviating it she listens politely and then tells me its BS when we get back home because shes "too far gone". But she's never even ttited these methods. Like exercise. Its just so so upsetting.
Yes i am.....we both have 1 hand each......she was born with one and i lost mine in a animal attack......we hold nubs when our hand are occupied
thank you
Hey Georgia great video, is caretaking the same as fixing/rescuing?
This is the most French-Canadian thing on the internet. 😑
I'm so glad to have left this part of the culture behind. I'm trying to get through to my mother about it. She definitely is starting to see it as an issue for me and her at least; that's a start.
Sometime people trap me like this:
Them: Hi Sadie, we're having a party on Saturday. Will you be busy?
Me: No
Them: Great, can you babysit for us?
Me: Sure!
7:08 Hold up, why is it bad to attract borderline people? :/
Btw, have you considered making a video on BPD?