Do NOT Try to Be More Confident (Do This Instead)
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
- People always tell shorter men to be more confident, but this is horrible advice. You can't just decide to "be more confident". Instead, you have to give yourself reasons to feel confident. Here are five things you can do that will lead to increased confidence:
#1: Dress well
#2: Groom yourself
#3: Learn how to fight
#4: Public speaking
#5: Read more
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REMEMBER: Ignore everything you can't control (height, IQ, skin color, etc.). Instead, focus all of your time and energy on changing and improving the things you CAN control (fitness, dressing well, grooming, skills and social skills).
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Great video man. But
I personally think the thing most guys need to know about this is that women who do not like you because of your height are not worth your time! Plus the things you said here 😁
+G. Kelly very true!
DL Yup. Everyone has preferences. But that doesn’t mean they are deal breakers
Martial arts is a good advice. Not only will you get more confidence out the things you mentioned, but since it's a heavy sport you will also stay in a pretty decent shape which on it's own is a massive boost of confidence and well being.
Wow that was some of the best advice on confidence I’ve seen on RUclips! Great shirt too, the collar really frames your face and the colour pattern and button down style are really on point.
This is some great advice, Brock! It's so true that if you don't give yourself concrete reasons and ways to build your confidence, "trying to be more confident" is a hollow pursuit.
I'm a trans man, and I always felt frustrated, that my parents didn't enroll me to taekwondo as I wanted to. That thought alone took my confidence from me. And later I thought wouldn't it be too late for me to take classes. But if even cis guys are frustrated with that and then make up for it later, I feel some sense of relief.
I think rather than just "read", I would say learn new skills e.g. learn a new language (very useful skills and looks good on cv), take cooking or photography class, take first aid lesson, try out new things (people like someone who knew the best place to eat), travel (one of my goal is to go visit machu picchu), do some volunteering e.g. as a first responder... Not saying that I did all of these things myself (I did some :] ) however I'm sure it will help confidence in the long run.
I know this is an older post .. But anyone just watching this I could not agree more with this video. I got really big and muscular, ( 5'7" , 225 at my heaviest) known as a very strong guy, and even though I always did good in a fight ( I'm talking when I was younger, not smarter lol) I never had true confidence until I started training in MMA. I was training this way before it was popular to. ( If anyone understands what rolling glass Coke bottles over your shins was for, then you know how long ago.). Point is all of a sudden it no longer mattered how big or strong I was when you can fight. I never picked a fight or was an ego manaiac, it's just that this confidence will allow one to be the real you. Not the "I'm ok for a short guy, but if I was taller I'd be even......" attitude & mentality. Not sure if that statement makes sense to most. But Throw in the public speaking you'll kick ass in life and shortness doesn't even factor in your normal thought pattern anymore. Oh one drawback about being a good fighter ... if you're short and learn how to fight, you must accept when trying to verbally defend someone or stand up for yourself... Most taller guy's ego won't back down from a shorter guy. You'll unfortunately have to be ready to fight most times.
I always wondered why I never felt insecure about my height, and I think it's because I already do all of these things. Fellas, it's great advice, take it. I always know I have value beside tall people, and I know if they were to hypothetically attack me, or if something was to go down, I'd be able to respond better. The other stuff is more obvious and great advice too
this is perhaps the best advice i have ever received about increasing my confidence
Number 6 # Regular Exercise. Fit and Healthy body. A short guy should have exercise routine to build up confidence.
For whatever reason I knew you were going to say BJJ.. was looking for comfortable clothes for travel for my upcoming Japan trip and found your channel. Thanks for the advice Brock and of course “OSS” .
Am with you hear am 5.5 and didn't really come out of my shell till I left school and started to work in office environment and started dressing smarter and notice by just dressing smarter the confidence came with it and started to get notice a bit more and even till this day I and without fail when ever am with a group of friends am always the small guy in the group and 9 times out of 10 in the bar and clubs
Meditate. I was always skeptical until I tried it. I use the Headspace app. It really does clear out the clutter swirling around in my head.
Confidence is successful repetition of a task.
Love that.
5'7 here...i think im on the correct path...jus do your best to become a better you..
Most of this stuff denotes that you probably have a better mental health/state than other taller/shorter dudes...
There is an honesty about the way you deliver your message. Loved your video and great advice
+Akshay Nayak thank you, means a lot!
I try to avoid to standing next to tall people haha seriously. Perception is a pretty intense motivator. I never think about my height until I'm around some tall people so I may position myself in the group in a way that doesn't single me out as the short one. Otherwise, being aware of posture, dressing well, learning every day and not giving in to other people's expectations or outdated perceptions when it comes to being short. Define yourself.
It's so nice to see you upload a video! I know it's hard work but you've got potential, it could be your next big thing Brock
Thanks brother! Expect many more of these (and better quality too).
I am tall guy and this is totally practical for me too. lol
I feel even as someone who’s 6’1” (not a flex) this will really help even the tall dudes out there who aren’t confident in the slightest
One correction. Reading alone doesn't give more confidence than tv. You need balance. Technical knowledge, classics, AND being up to date with popular tv.
As the wise man said: "Love yourself! For of what use is your love for your neighbour if you love him only as much 'as yourself'?"
Tried and true advice. Time tested. It’s all true. Don’t think so? Try to argue the opposite of each point. And cool BJJ stuff too.
Once I went to a fancy suit shop and I learned that I'm basically Frankenstein, my torso is kinda medium size but my legs are of large size because I have wide hips, but that's what I need to have in mind when buying clothes and it works.
My guy Brock knows how to fight but he's modest about that too. Respect!
Oh god. You love Jiu jitsu? I’ve practised BJJ for a while. Unfortunately I had to stop because I couldn’t afford it anymore, but I absolutely agree. What you said was so true.
posted in March, 16 so I'm a bit late to the party here but really enjoyed this one Brock.
awesome video, you are a great guy.
+andrewmartin1984 thank you sir!
I like your shirt, Brock. Navy blue and white make a great combination! They look much better together than black and white.
yes finally someone understand that confident is based on reality and not some illusion one have about the way they do things
Wow this (and your video on picking sunglasses I just watched) is actually helpful and not just the cookie cutter easy way out videos that more popular channels always post (iykyk). When I watch those other videos, I can literally guess what they're gonna say, but this one actually had some useful tips. Guess I'll subscribe now
Did you know the Fonz was only 5'6"?
Yes, sir!
You say "only" 5'6". I would cut two fingers to be 5'6". Sincerely, a 5'2" guy.
No need to tap a bigger bro. Listen to the music and be active in outdoor activities will instantly boost your confidence!✌
Be around friends and family and people that make you feel good
I am about 1.75 and 17 years old and I haven't really ever been incecure of my height.
To be more confident I try to push my limits.
5'4" here haha
Arnold Christian
5'2" myself ...
Some interesting points here.
Love the vid, Brock, and the format. Looking forward to more of these. Sweet fitting shirt, btw!
you are uploading great videos, thank you for this....but put some videos on public speaking....i am a student of university, when i give presentation in class, i can not give as effective presentation as others give..i just want to remove this bad habit..so plz make some videos that how to remove this fear.....thankxxx in advance....
take care of yourself.....stay happy and blessed....
Great Video. Thank you for posting. This was informative and helpful.
nice advice, lol sadly it came be used for talll guys as well ... so for us short guys, we are still at a disadvantage. At least we still have the napoleon complex, where the desire to prove ourselves and overcompensate is still there :)
You are amazing!! thank you so much, great video. Your videos are getting better and better. I did subscribe and I will share your videos with family and friends. Great JOB!!
Awesome, thank YOU!
thx for the video! Can't believe I'm watchig this 6 years later lol. But I wanted to say that I kind of hate people who are like on average height idk (like above 5.2 feet ), and who are still complaining:' ugh I'm so short I'm 5.5 feet.' -_-
So happy I found your channel... you are the absolute man. Keep up the amazing work!
+Nick Magliano 🙏
5’5” here
Great video Brock - nice to find out you're also making videos!
Great video!
A good and honest video.
like this video very helpful since I'm now in the dating scene again process of divorcing and I'm 5"5 so again very helpful thank you modest man.
5.4 man i feel ya
Outstanding as always.
short and skinny vs short and muscular?
I think I'll try the taking down a bigger buy things. Awesome video Brock. Have you been working out?
+Malaquias Alfaro Do it! Yes, I've been doing lots of body weight stuff (pull ups, etc.), running and training BJJ.
The Modest Man | Style for Short(er) Men I see those gains!
even standing up height does not matter (I know what I am talking about) , what matters is the extra strength that comes with the extra weight that comes with the extra height.
What also matters is the extra reach a tall guy usually has in his hands and the extra distance a shorter guy needs to cover by punching above the level of his shoulders. A boxing class could teach you to negate that advantage, but let's not pretend that it's not there.
Reach is not really an advantage (that is a comman myth ). Infact if a guy is much taller than his opponent he is actually at a disadvantage, a short guy has a whole body to hit (hence people like Mike tyson becomes experts at body shots) , infact the whole concept of boxing is to chop the tree ,....take the body and the head will present itself. of course there is no clear cut answer but I am convinced (from tons of experience and research) that a short guy especially in a confined space (ring or an octagon) for a limited number of rounds actually has more of an advantage. Covering distance is not as hard as you might think...hence clinches and take downs ....staying away from a shorter guy is much harder and takes a lot of talent and skill and stamina. we most likely will disagree on this and that no problem but I really can go on and on on the subject. Also in Judo a shorter guy is at an advantage (shorter not weaker).
you're talking about trained fighters. we're talking about regular people with no special training. my experience tells me that, all things being equal, height and range are advantages. I do mma and bjj, and have been doing karate all the way throught high school. Haven't changed my mind about that and not sure i will.
as i said , we most likely will not agree. I am convinced about my opinion and it did take me time to realize. Also this "all else being equal" makes logical bookish sense but even that is not that true in my opinion. All else being equal only if a person with particular styles collid. As an extreme example - Say an Ali verses another Ali but with shorter reach ( the longer one will win)....but if say a Frazier fights another Frazier the longer reach will actually be a disadvantage. by the way on paper Frazier should have been the easiest for Ali to fight and yet he was THE hardest by far. Something to think about. Anyway enough of this cause I can go on and I am sure you can also.. just that I honestly think it is a limiting belief this reach and stand up fighting link.
nice, very helpful
+Eddi Knete Glad you like it!
BJJ is awesome.
oss.
+Crashoverall oss 👊🏼
Much like what Jordan Peterson says, don't just have more (unearned) self esteem, become somebody worthy of respect.
Verry good video.
great channel
I need your shirt... Where is it from?
Silas Jackson - www.silasjackson.com/products/the-checkered-purple
Being tall is overrated in my opinion. I'm 6'2" but it's never helped me get a girl, being confident and knowing how to talk comfortably with girls is the key thing. If you ask women most will say they prefer tall men, but in reality they don't really care about height as long as you have a winning personality. I speak from years of experience of being single and tall.
Yeah, but a tall guy can also have those things. They aren't something made exclusively available for short guys for the lack of their height.
And in such a case, women will always go for the taller guy.
I fucking enjoy talking in front of people but for the love of god cant figure out my own haircare to this day.
i do/have done all but learned to fight. I still can't talk to a girl I like😭
it's not about girls. it's about being the best you can be. sooner you get that to your head the sooner you feel you can talk to anyone.
Harry Potter I agree. I look back at this and I feel so embarrassed about the comment. I just don't look at things the same way anymore. Talking to people, especially girls, has definitely gotten easier since I changed how I saw this video
such awesome advice. Totally agree. Your clothing, hairstyle and the way you look are things you can control and play around with. No point in wasting time thinkign about height etc etc.
swing by my channel if u like. I do hair vids and fashion stuff as well.
It is easy, get someone to hypnotise you.
Brock i would like to start BJJ but i am little scared about Cauliflower ears,can you give me some tips?you seem to not have this condition
It hasn't happened to me yet, but it doesn't seem to happen eventually if you train for many years (and often). If you really want to prevent it, your best bet is to wear ear protection (like many wrestlers wear). I know guys at the gym who always wear it. I would probably start if I felt any ear pain or noticed any swelling.
Are you confident?
More and more each year!
The Modest Man good to know
I get people that tell me to be less arrogant lol
You look better with your dress shirt buttoned all the way up to the second button like that.
Great advice but I find it strange bout how he’s talking about dressing well and in the same video has no swagger tht shirt isn’t impressing no one he’s talking about skin care and got a big one by his chin
Went to Toastmasters, was no toast. Very disappointed 2/10.
+Noah Rocklin maybe it was a BOYT chapter (bring your own toast) 😬
How tall are you man?
Arnold Christian he's 5'6
Noah Rocklin thanks man!
Oh man, this video is spoilt by tip #3, which is just nonsense :( I'd replace it with: learn to play a musical instrument! Spend a few hours a week learning to play the guitar, or spend a few hours a week fighting blokes - then see which gets you more chicks! (and more importantly, better quality chicks!). Seriously, scrapping is SO last century, and inherently unstylish. Infinitely more impressive is having the skill to win WITHOUT resorting to fighting! Just ask this ultra-groovy short guy: "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you. Then you win" - Ghandi ;)
As a lifelong musician, I can say that learning a martial art is one of the most fulfilling things I've ever done. Any skill is good - music, martial arts, whatever. Also, anyone who trains martial arts knows that it's not about actually fighting people. It's about fitness, discipline and challenging yourself - and knowing that you could defend yourself if it came to it (which it probably won't but definitely could).