I would literally *marry* someone if they took the time to write out a very detailed list and map of the store for shopping. I’m autistic and find stores extremely stressful so being able to quickly pick up everything without having to stress about if I’m buying the correct stuff would be the best thing ever.
@@hoodieyan5667 you aren’t a bad person! i think the meaning of the diagram is their partner is being intentional incompetent. this way he can’t make any excuses like “well you didn’t say what brand,” or “i couldn’t find it.” needing/wanting extra explanations or details doesn’t make you a bad person :)
@hoodieyan5667 there's a difference between knowing what you need and communicating what makes you more comfortable to your partner vs just being maliciously incompetent so you don't have to do it again
The Husband Stitch should be illegal to perform, it can cause severe complications and pain, all just because her husband told the doctor he'd like her to be tighter after shes LITERALLY JUST GIVEN BIRTH
It is illegal in the US, it's also against the "do no harm" in the Hippocratic Oath, and it's not taught anywhere in the US. You can be arrested and tried for criminal medical negligence if you do this procedure without the consent or knowledge of the person you are performing it on. The only stitches legally allowed in the vaginal area post birth are to close tears, and even then the person you're performing the procedure on can refuse those stitches and there's nothing you can do as a doctor. Best case scenario, it's medical malpractice and you lose your license if it's found that this was done. Worst case, it's lawsuits, prison time, etc
@@PixxiStitch not that I have an answer but I have context from my country. FGM is very common in my country too. So, I'm in a FB women's group in my city. The other day on there I read up.pnnthis woman who's husband was pressuring her for _"the backdoor"_ 👀 since she's too loose after giving birth. He refused to let her wait out the keggels and refused to understand it was still painful and hard for her one month post paturm. He was going to cheat with his ex who used to let him in both ways and she was in there begging for advice to stop it. She wouldn't take anything any advice that involved leaving the man or asking the woman to not cheat. Men like these created the husband stitch.
As a straight-cis man, I completely got the intent of the Chris Evan’s/RDJ/Tom Holland meme backward. I thought it was commentary about how the younger generations are more respectful toward women. It never crossed my mind about how disgusting the intent was.
That's like how I misunderstood the intent of the blow dryer comic. I legit thought it was about weaponized incompetence, like "derp, I can't tell the difference 😂 " not about wanting to be permanently separated from his wife 💀
I feel for them tho(Chris,RDJ,RennerTom and just celebrities in general) Like..so many pictures of them get taken out of context. Like The Chris,RDJ and Jeremy one...they are clearly not posing for a picture(Tom is clearly posing for the pic)..they seem to be talking and oh no..for a single millisec,their eye seems to match the vision view to the woman's chest. BOOM A PICTURE IS TAKEN.
Also, the Cap meme is even more stupid because he had 60 years in Ice, 10 years out of Ice, then 70 years with Peggy. Like yeah, spending a whole extra life-time living would make you look older than having your body frozen like a forgotten Lean Cuisine.
@@Camo1177 yeah the time travel bit makes it complicated and I had nothing better to do, so I looked some stuff up. He was born in 1920, so he'd have been 103 in end game (pre-time travel) and then he went back in time and lived another 74 years from 1949 - 2023, so he'd be around 177 at his post-time travel appearance.
Hearing the lesbian who didn't realize they were one because "you're supposed to hate your male s/o", I. FELT. THAT! I dated a guy for over a year then broke up with him because "I just don't feel that umph, you know? It just feels forced" and I got the weirdest looks from people who asked me about it. I didn't realize until a couple of years later that the lack of feelings was because I wasn't attracted to him. Or any guy, for that matter. It's both funny and frustrating in hindsight. This was 9 years ago and sometimes I still feel like I wasted both mine and his time.
That happened to me too kind of, just before I was sure I'm aroace. I was talking to this girl about how I really don't feel attraction towards that guy I was dating back then and she was like: oh I know that feeling it was the same when I started dating but then I started liking him more with time. And it's just so weird looking back that there are people who jump into longterm relationships like that. It only took a few more weeks after that to say I can't do this anymore this isn't working.
i hate how this behavior in men is so normalized because it keeps people in these weird, abusive relationships bc they think all men are like this (my mom)
Literally also my mom (dad isn’t abusive, just a selfish man-child). It kills me that she thinks I’m nuts for expecting men to pull their own weight at home and be an emotionally competent adult, and worse that I call it out when they come up short.
My fiancés dad married a very manipulative and verbally abusive woman and he’s genuinely convinced that every woman is exactly like her. To be fair he’s been married like 4 times and all the women have basically been abusive assholes
Something interesting I learned in my women's and gender studies class is that in the 1950s marriage was basically mandatory for men because the only way they'd have a good chance of being given a job or promotion is if they were able to show they were good family men. Otherwise they'd be seen as immature men because they couldn't settle down. On top of that, they also felt overwhelmed because their wives relied on them for emotional support and companionship. As a result, the "my wife is like a ball and chain" type of humor emerged because it was supposed to resonate with men feeling overwhelmed by their responsibilities. It's honestly really sad and seeing it persist to today and having it being used as a way to insult and demean someone's partner is really upsetting.
Somehow I failed to appreciate that marriage back then was functionally mandatory for all genders, not just women; this does help explain the jokes from that time, but makes it all the more baffling that they're still being passed around as if they're relevant. I thought most of the "I hate my wife" jokes originated from when divorce was Not An Option; I don't want to think misogyny is so virulent that "jokes" actually get passed around based on "It is funny because the -squirrel- woman gets dead", but the explanation that "comedians" refuse to get new material as the times change is unsatisfying-regardless of how well-supported it is based on the whining that people don't appreciate them punching down anymore.
@@awfuldynne Some guys I suspect were raised by guys from that era and imprinted on it, and never learned to see reality otherwise. Others may actively wish to return to that model. Personally I prefer being able to choose what I do with my life and to marry someone only if both both of us actually want that to happen. But hey, I guess that's what any red-blooded America-hating commie would say, huh?
and these people are so bent about keeping it a "straight thing" when they don't even treat their partners the way they should be treated to begin with
As a straight man - I can confirm. I am genuinely horrified how normalised it is in society for straight couples to just... hate each other. Like most of the boomer humour is just based in "Hurr durr I hate my wife" - like wtf man? Idk I am very uncomfortable with how many people take hating your partner for granted.
@@Hypnos132 Wym it scares you that it will happen with your bf? If he is showing signs of abusive behaviour - you need to dump him ASAP and not fall victim to this normalisation of hatred and abuse among straight couples. I mean, i do not personally know you both, but whatever reason he has for being horrible to you is his problem to fix and to go to therapy for, it isn't yours. You aren't responsible for someone treating you poorly.
The problem is that popular culture, and the wonderful toxic masculinity we marinate in has reinforced men to think sex is a reward for good behavior, and women to reward men for good behavior with sex. The number of jokes I have heard women make saying "I am getting married, so I will never need to give a blowjob or have sex again", or men saying "marriage - where sex goes to die" indicates that the straights ARE NOT OKAY because sex is not seen as something wonderful to share, but as a tool of manipulation by both sides.
Sounds immature on both accounts. I really hate those sexist jokes. As some😢 who's happily married and is in love with his wife, I don't get the whole "I'm married so I don't need to do such and such" Being married doesn't change that stuff. If you cooked and cleaned before becoming a husband that shit ain't changing. If you both like giving and receiving orak sex, that ain't changing. To me it's a red flag if a person is only doing something to get a partner and then change everything once they "got them". Then again I always kept my place clean before meeting my wife and still to this day. I do a lot (without it being a barter system). Things need to get done I do them because I'm adult and I live in the house too.
@@shenone3285 Yeah, no... It can be, don't get it wrong, but those jokes often betray a mysoginistic point of view, and sometimes are what the person thinks! Humour reflects what we think, either we realise it or not
tbh I actually like the grocery list. If I was shopping for my parents or my flat mate couldn't come with me because they were sick, this list would save me a lot of time. Still though, basic grocery obtaining skills are important. Even being able to order them online would do if your partner was sick.
I love these videos cuz I'm a masc presenting nonbinary and my girlfriend and i never have these kinds of issues. We're "straight" to onlookers but we're doing it better than some actual straight people. Needless to say i vote for more monthly updates on the subreddit.
As a femme presenting enby I get that. Though my partner and I do make frequent “your face” jokes, I still love him. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t get the piss taken.
My partner and I are technically in a straight relationship (as he is male and I am female) and I thought it was funny because I saw someone make a joke in our friend group about straight people not being okay and this straight guy was like “but look at them! They are happy!” … you should have seen the look on his face when we both clarified that we are both pansexual and had relationships with different genders we just happened to end up in a “straight” relationship together
Exactly, if someone wanted a child, they could go and adopt, or get a sperm donor. At least the kid would genuinely need their help, and not want to have sex with them.
"Birthday money" what is she, twelve years old? Why would an adult woman need an allowance for their birthday? Just...ew. What a sick self-burn though, like the idea that the man saying this is so awful that they literally have to pay their wife to sleep with them has got me screaming 💀
7:00 - ive actually been in a "relationship" with a guy that would have sex with me while i was lying there clearly not interested. when i finally had told him i'd had enough and we werent speaking anymore he said "you never liked having sex with me anyway". so they are very well aware that the other party isnt enjoying it, they just dont care :)
The sadder part is that being so specific with a grocery list isn’t just so he “won’t mess up” it’s mostly so he won’t have to call her and bother her with dumb questions when she is I’ll. Sadly I have been able to relate with this before.
The only time my husband had to call me when grocery shopping was, when his contact lenses started acting up due to allergies. So he facetimed me to guide him, when he was in front of the period products. It was actually quiet funny for both of us, apart from the allergies.
They feel like dumb questions to you, dumb distinctions to him. A lot of people will be bedridden and still think caring about a super specific detail of their house is the best use of time
@@TarisLuna My partner has pictures of the period products I use, just cos I generally pick them up myself but shit happens. He just has the photo is backup.
As much as I get this, I've been the one to send super specific lists, because if my partner thinks they're doing the right thing and gets the wrong one, that can result in me refusing to eat because it tastes funny. He couldn't tell the difference, but I could, so he had no clue it was that important. And I will get calls because there's so much concern that I won't touch something because it's the wrong thing.
Maybe that's the reason homophobia exists. "Gay" means happy and people are supposed to be miserable in relationships. To be gay is to break the natural cycle of malice and that's a no-no.
Its so real tho as an ace lesbian I didn't know I was gay until college bc I thought all women disliked sex and men but just did it bc they were supposed to 😅
ngl you’re so right at the end. I hated life dating men, now I’m a lesbian and I feel so much more confident and happy. back then I thought my only option was to marry a man ⚰️
2:42 I'd also like to point out that he was with Peggy for more than 20 years, he went back to 1945. The scene of him as an old man takes place in 2021. That's 76 years, not 20. So yeah he's old, living for almost a hundred years will do that Also 3:40, I would actually find that super helpful, I get lost even in stores I regularly shop at, and if it's not something I normally buy, I don't know what brand or size to get. Having a specific list with a map would be amazing.
Yeah I don’t think the list with brands is the worst idea, it’s just the implication that the guy wouldn’t be able to find it in the store himself without a map that’s weird
Why is it that it's always the men upset that they have a wife, when 99% of the time these men are the ones that proposed? Did they think it was going to be like purchasing a robot to clean their house?
This may just be because of my social anxiety & sensory issues, but I would love it if I had a partner make me a detailed shopping list. And if she were sick, it would both help me get done as quickly as possible to get back to her so I could help take care of anything she needs & ease my anxiety of shopping. That is unless I just door dash everything, so I don't even have to leave her side in case she need me or ask her what we need need so I can write down the list & she doesn't have to spend that extra energy to write it down & rest while I got get everything
Why do (and I’m not saying all) straight couples seem to hate eachother so much?! Like why are they together in the first place if they’re not happy? Humanity makes no sense sometimes 😭
@@Hypnos132 idk ive met plenty of gay couples who i would have sworn were twin brothers bickering just like you'd imagine before i found out actually speaking of gay couples, bruh what is with dudes and dating their lookalikes fr fr
Two reasons. 1) humor to cope. 2) societal standards. Ppl are pressured to get married and have kids asap. So you’ll get lots of ppl forced into marriage or ppl who think they want to be married when they don’t.
No cuz the fact ive seen multiple versions of the hairdryer gun one pisses me off so much. It should not be that common to joke about wanting to kill your partner, just get a divorce phycho.
I've never once wanted to kill my ex girlfriend when I was with her. I actually had nightmares of her dying and would wake up screaming because I literally would've rather it been me that died instead of her. With my current girlfriend, I feel the exact same way. I don't care how mad I might get at her, I'll never ever ever want her dead or even joke about wanting her dead.
Im someone who hates shopping and doesnt price compare at all so i think the map list was funny since i buy what im supposed to just not always the right brand
As a queer person in a straight relationship (which is very healthy and lovely) I can say that my past straight relationships that it feels normal to hate your partner a little. When I was with my ex, I knew he hated me a little, and I remember feeling that pure, healthy love didn’t exist and that I wouldn’t be able to be in a relationship that didn’t have some negativity in it because the absence of negativity meant an absence of passion. It’s crazy how people who like the opposite gender are made to believe that the lack of unpleasant feelings are a lack of passion in a romantic relationship
The grocery list could just be an extra anxious person 😂 I'd probably do something like this, and THEN have them video chat me because I'm so anxious and independent to the point that it's hard to receive help. There's two kinds of people: the kind that thinks everything is the same and just throws it in the cart, not caring about the brand. Then there's the person who knows the brands they like and picks their favorite brand when shopping. Mixing these two types of people means the first person probably doesn't do the grocery shopping
My partner and I both have sensory issues, I have a lot of issues with food textures so I have specific brands and stuff I like and she gets overwhelmed by bright lights and lots of chatter. I doubt she'd be going shopping lol
In defense of the "map" 😂😂 it's actually super helpful. Let's face it if you need something so specific sometimes the stores put things in the oddest of places😅
It also baffles me hear the same people who shame others for not being married are often the same ones to make "jokes" about hating their spouse. It's like how can the same type person shame others for not being married or if they're married but not to someone they approve of, such as if it's a gay couple but then act like their marriage is the worst thing that ever happened to them because in my mind if u & this other person is not compatible then don't get married or get divorced as that would be better for everyone involved instead of being miserable & making "jokes" about hating each other simply because of the social pressure to get married & stay married
watching your "checking on the straights" videos always make me value how good of a person and partner my bf is. Of course I'm lucky that our interests and neurodivergencies are compatible, but I didn't realize going into this relationship that I'm also incredibly lucky that my boyfriend ACTUALLY LOVES ME and wants to be around me and is good at communicating his issues and listening when i tell him my issues.
You would be surprised how different men shop vs. women. I love at home with my parents and sister and me and my sister do the grocery shopping 80% of the time. My mom will occasionally do it if we’re busy and my dad never shops. I made him a list to get some things and half the stuff he came back with was completely different from what we normally get. Like I wrote sandwich bread and he got a completely different type then we normally have, like ?????
I love how there are other people in the comments saying that the grocery list was nice. I absolutely agree. As someone who is neurodivergent and practically needs shit spelled out for them, this works. I would marry her if she understands me at this level lol
ugh I hate those sexist restaurant signs, there's one outside a pub near me that says "husband creche. leave him here while you go shopping" and it pisses me off every time I walk past it.
In the same thread as that lesbian not knowing she was a lesbian, I didn't know I was trans until I was 31. I'm afab, and I just thought all women hated having to deal with their breasts and their periods and that women's fashion was stupid for being designed ONLY to accentuate physical features without being practical or comfortable in any way and SERIOUSLY WHAT IS UP WITH FAKE POCKETS?! Don't even get me started on make-up. Now, if you are a woman and you like any/all of those things, awesome. You do you and look amazing and fabulous! It's just not for me and I'd much rather have a nice full beard to style and stroke in contemplation. Honestly I'm just happy I'm not the only one who was confused for so long because of the bullshit society deals towards afab people.
My dad can't shop because he is a huge man child. I am fourteen and have to come with him every time else he'd only come home with stuff we don't need and only he likes. The only reason they're not divorced is because he wouldn't survive on his own: he lived with my nan until he was 40 then moved in with mom.
The Trader Joe’s one is funny because TJ’s is generally a relatively compact grocery store. Generally you can find everything you need within 10 minutes. It’s not like Walmart where you’re basically traversing the width of a small town every time you shop there lmao, needing a list that specific for TJ’s just feels ridiculous
I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and get incredibly stressed out by shopping. It's 10 times worse if I'm doing it for someone else because I'm terrified to get the wrong thing for them and disappointing them. I'll overthink every single thing. I can get it done and would of corse happily do it if the other person wasn't feeling well, but it's an awful expirience (my heartrate gets so high my watch praises me for doing intensive exercise, probably not very healthy though 😂). Someone being so considerate to make me a really detailed and spesific list and map would probably make my heart explode with gratitude. It would be such a kind and helpful thing. I understand that the negative implication from this is that she HAS to make the list or he'll get all the wrong things or not get stuff he couldn't "find". Weaponized incompetense. But depending on the reason for it it could be really sweet. It could also be that she is really specific about the things she wants (there are so many brands and different sizes and stuff) and she did it for her own sake.
the "looking at your wallet and remembering you're dating this psycho" thing genuinely made me laugh because it's similar to how me and my boyfriend are. we are a very friendly and openly making fun of each other type of relationship and he always lovingly complains about how much of a trouble i am. i don't know if the intentions were as sweet in the original post, but what i mean is: a relationship being tiring isn't always the worst thing. sometimes, the person is worth it with all their problems.
OMG! That coming out story could be mine! I’m a lesbian and dated men for the longest time because of comp-het and the fact that nearly all straight women I had around me HATED their partner. It wasn’t until one of my friends got into a mutually respectful and healthy relationship with a man that she pointed out that she does love him and finds him very attractive. She and I are now getting married three months apart; she’s marrying the previously mentioned guy and I’m getting married to the woman of my dreams.
The supermarket thing is real. In long term marriages where the wife did all of that, once they are gone the widowed husband is lost. My aunt trained her husband for months leading up to her death when she realized that she wasn’t going to beat the cancer a second time so he’d be able to look after himself.
I get that the grocery list is a good idea for some people but its kinda annoying that she had to do it while she was sick. Also trader joes is usually very small and has like 3 or 4 aisles max. So you can literally walk the entire store in like 20mins. Being sick and not being able to rely on your partner sucks alot
About the grocery list thing. It could just be he was never taught how to grocery shop well. I wasn't taught certain things and stuff and so I'm behind in various aspects of things even as basic as grocery shopping. So yeah some people especially those with various issues may need more detailed instructions for shopping
Im convinced these men are really unknown age reggressors/age dreamers. What i mean by that, is that it basically is when someone mentally reverts back to a younger age to deal with trauma and or stress. Its a healthy coping mechanism (when not used in excess obviously), but it can be involuntary. This doesnt have to be straight up being mentally a child all the time, this can be shown and expressed in little ways (also why i put in age dreamer, because you dont have to mentally regress to not enjoy/use "childish" coping mechanisms). Like doing reckless and impulsive things, having no filter, being overly emotional (which can be caused by other things obviously). But yeah, the way alot of these men act are like that. And age regression can be in many different ways, it just means reverting to a younger state of mind. And even if they are not i still think it would be a healthier outlet for them anyways lol.
Another side of the 'women hate men and aren't sexually attracted to them' I thought I was a gay transman for most of my teens--only because I was STRONGLY attracted to guys, and I'd been told my whole life that women don't experience sexual attraction at all. I didn't even have a word for it I was so sheltered, but I thought I was 'male-brained' because I thought boys were sexy. Which led to some confusion as to whether I'm actually bi, because I thought my attraction would have to flip to girls if I became male...because i was told 'gay is sinful' Yeah, I never transitioned, I'm not male, I'm just a high libido woman. Telling girls they can't feel horny is so harmful.
14:30 As an AFAB person who is completely repulsed by bjs I can tell you exactly how my birthday would go: I'd ball out having saved up the money in advance to treat myself. And doing it on the chill having already dumped that sorry excuse of a "man"! Hell no! Honey you deserve so much better!
I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and get incredibly stressed out by shopping. It's 10 times worse if I'm doing it for someone else because I'm terrified to get the wrong thing for them and disappointing them. I'll overthink every single thing. I can get it done and would of corse happily do it if the other person wasn't feeling well, but it's an awful expirience (my heartrate gets so high my watch praises me for doing intensive exercise, probably not very healthy though 😂) Someone being so considerate to make me a really detailed and spesific list and map would probably make me explode with gratitude. It would be such a kind and helpful thing. I understand that the negative implication from this is that she HAS to make the list or he'll get all the wrong things or not get stuff he couldn't "find". Weaponized incompetense. But depending on the reason for it it could be really sweet. It could also be that she is really specific about the things she wants (there are so many brands and different sizes and stuff) and she did it for her own sake.
Me and my bf just decided to get married tomorrow a few hours ago and I clicked this. (not as impulsive as it sounds. We've been talking about it for a while snd tomorrow is our anniversary) Just like to remind myself how lucky I am so I don't take him for granted.
I will never understand women who think they owe their men sex. I may not be in the mood for it myself, but the act of pleasing my man even without me wanting to be pleased in return is still such a MASSIVE turn on. Why? Because I'm in love with my man. The only time I would ever say no to him is if I truly feel like absolute garbage. Any other time is perfectly enjoyable, even if I don't enjoy it for myself. I will never think of sex as a chore with my man, because that would imply that I've fallen out of love with him. When you start thinking of your partner as a chore you have to do instead of as a human you want to make happy, your relationship is entirely over.
these videos just remind me how amazing my boyfriend is. i’m seriously so lucky to have him 😭 the first time we got to see each other in person after talking/facetiming for a couple months, we started getting heated and HE was the one that like “hey, i’d love to, but i think we should wait a little longer” he said his friends were so confused when he told them about it after they asked how our night was 💀 like, no ,,,, us waiting actually shows how much we care. it’s not like he said we’re waiting until we’re married (nothing wrong with that!!! just not my personal preference) we realized that it would be better to just enjoy each others company that night. i truly love him :,) basically all my past relationships were dudes who cheated or assaulted/coerced me and was just manipulative. everyone deserves a loving relationship
I feel sorry for all these women who are just laughing at having to mother their boyfriends/husbands and they just think that's normal bc we've been socialised to expect that as women. It's very sad.
The trader joes map was pretty funny cause I (20 M) need to make something like that for my boyfriend/fiance (19 M), we both constantly get lost in the store and I have a lot of sensory problems and cant be in large stores for long, I also have ARFID (an eating disorder often mistaken for extreme pickiness) so I do need specific brands of food otherwise I cant eat them oh wait... she made the map cause her boyfriend doesnt do the shopping... OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I never understood the partner hating humor even when I was younger. It felt gross and weird. Thankfully I'm in a relationship with a neurodivergent man, and it is waaaaaay better than dating most neurotypical men. If he doesn't listen to me, it's because his ADHD has kicked in, and I have to wait or find another way to grab his attention. And the fact that I can just be forward and tell him exactly how I'm feeling, and he does the same is amazing!!!
4:13 actually that’s really helpful. No matter how many times I go in there I don’t know where anything is at. This can also help someone with anxiety. They don’t have to ask where something is if they can’t find it. There are in and out with in 15 minutes
@@wendyjohnson4345it's entirely possible to be an asexual lesbian Asexual doesn't mean zero attraction it's means not experiencing attraction strongly enough or offend enough to be considered Allo So what she's saying is she is asexual and when she does have attraction it's towards women You can also be asexual/ straight And regardless being a lesbian is beautiful woman are awesome 🌈🖤
I feel like the list isn't necessarily bad. What if it's someone with anxiety that needs to get in and out? What if the person didn't have the time to spend 2 hours looking for 1 item. Maybe the items aren't in the most intuitive place. If I were grocery shopping for items that I don't usually get, I would prefer to have a list telling me where the stuff I'm not used to is
Yeah it’s not a bad idea, it’s just the implication that the boyfriend would not be able to find it on his own and that the girlfriend HAD TO make this map that’s kind weird.
Same like- I have ADHD right? So I’m awful with memory and directions and also prices- I also struggle a LOT when I’m given vauge instructions and tend to get distracted. So having a hyper detailed list with specific instructions on how and where to get things and exactly how much money I need to bring would be a GODSEND- I would be so so grateful for some help in those areas because I strugggle so bad and it sucks feeling incompetent or stupid or like I’m not caring enough when I know that’s not true!! Idk it feels weird to make the assumption that the boyfriend is just a bad partner who can’t handle shopping by himself. It could also just be a control issue on the girlfriend’s end! Maybe SHE has anxiety about things not being done how she likes them done and is over preparing to aleveate the stress- maybe she just likes making detailed lists like there are so many ways to read the situation that aren’t this immediate jump to “boyfriend bad” like it still could be- but I just don’t think it is
Flowers are a waste of money tbf, buy your partners potted plants instead. They don't die after a week and a nice year round bloomer will always spice a place up
omg I felt the person who didn't realise they were a lesbian because of how straight people are. I spent my early teen years thinking that all women didn't actually like men or their boyfriends and thought that women were incredible and better than men and that we only marry men because that's what we are supposed to do 😭
listen I think I can get behind the Trader Joe’s map bc if you never go there it is very confusing 😂 it’s not a regular supermarket trip it’s so specific
Dude I forgot Rebecca Zamolo existed (the person with the toddler dating video). I looked up her RUclips channel again and her content is like 75% videos of her and her 1 year old daughter and I am so tired.
The detailed specific shopping list would be a lifesaver for me. I have to have a very specific list for myself, because I have a limited budget and low memory. So shopping for another is even worse. I would JUMP for a chance at that list.
OMG!!! Your eyes are sooo pretty! I was wondering what was making me think that (other than the eyeshadow), then I realized you have grey eyes! I think the rainbow eyeshadow compliment them perfectly.
I would literally *marry* someone if they took the time to write out a very detailed list and map of the store for shopping. I’m autistic and find stores extremely stressful so being able to quickly pick up everything without having to stress about if I’m buying the correct stuff would be the best thing ever.
THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING TOO NGL, I thought I was a bad person for wanting a list like that.
@@hoodieyan5667 you aren’t a bad person! i think the meaning of the diagram is their partner is being intentional incompetent. this way he can’t make any excuses like “well you didn’t say what brand,” or “i couldn’t find it.” needing/wanting extra explanations or details doesn’t make you a bad person :)
MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY
@hoodieyan5667 there's a difference between knowing what you need and communicating what makes you more comfortable to your partner vs just being maliciously incompetent so you don't have to do it again
Yessss
The Husband Stitch should be illegal to perform, it can cause severe complications and pain, all just because her husband told the doctor he'd like her to be tighter after shes LITERALLY JUST GIVEN BIRTH
My fiance just learned about it yesterday and he came to me horrified. He was like "immediate castration" 😂
in many countries it is illegal!
It's defintely not something that is taught in medical school or official training. I wonder what the history of this horrifying practice is.
It is illegal in the US, it's also against the "do no harm" in the Hippocratic Oath, and it's not taught anywhere in the US.
You can be arrested and tried for criminal medical negligence if you do this procedure without the consent or knowledge of the person you are performing it on. The only stitches legally allowed in the vaginal area post birth are to close tears, and even then the person you're performing the procedure on can refuse those stitches and there's nothing you can do as a doctor.
Best case scenario, it's medical malpractice and you lose your license if it's found that this was done. Worst case, it's lawsuits, prison time, etc
@@PixxiStitch not that I have an answer but I have context from my country. FGM is very common in my country too.
So, I'm in a FB women's group in my city. The other day on there I read up.pnnthis woman who's husband was pressuring her for _"the backdoor"_ 👀 since she's too loose after giving birth. He refused to let her wait out the keggels and refused to understand it was still painful and hard for her one month post paturm. He was going to cheat with his ex who used to let him in both ways and she was in there begging for advice to stop it. She wouldn't take anything any advice that involved leaving the man or asking the woman to not cheat.
Men like these created the husband stitch.
As a straight-cis man, I completely got the intent of the Chris Evan’s/RDJ/Tom Holland meme backward. I thought it was commentary about how the younger generations are more respectful toward women. It never crossed my mind about how disgusting the intent was.
me too 💀
That's like how I misunderstood the intent of the blow dryer comic. I legit thought it was about weaponized incompetence, like "derp, I can't tell the difference 😂 " not about wanting to be permanently separated from his wife 💀
I'm a woman and sadly I got it confused too :(
@@HunterLvyiXIIIYep same. I thought he was holding kitchenware lmfao
I feel for them tho(Chris,RDJ,RennerTom and just celebrities in general)
Like..so many pictures of them get taken out of context. Like The Chris,RDJ and Jeremy one...they are clearly not posing for a picture(Tom is clearly posing for the pic)..they seem to be talking and oh no..for a single millisec,their eye seems to match the vision view to the woman's chest. BOOM A PICTURE IS TAKEN.
Also, the Cap meme is even more stupid because he had 60 years in Ice, 10 years out of Ice, then 70 years with Peggy. Like yeah, spending a whole extra life-time living would make you look older than having your body frozen like a forgotten Lean Cuisine.
He looks pretty great for a guy who's like 120 years old
@@Hitchcock00Starlet Also, he lived for 20 something years before the serum, so he is pushing 150 at least.
@@Camo1177 yeah the time travel bit makes it complicated and I had nothing better to do, so I looked some stuff up. He was born in 1920, so he'd have been 103 in end game (pre-time travel) and then he went back in time and lived another 74 years from 1949 - 2023, so he'd be around 177 at his post-time travel appearance.
Hearing the lesbian who didn't realize they were one because "you're supposed to hate your male s/o", I. FELT. THAT! I dated a guy for over a year then broke up with him because "I just don't feel that umph, you know? It just feels forced" and I got the weirdest looks from people who asked me about it. I didn't realize until a couple of years later that the lack of feelings was because I wasn't attracted to him. Or any guy, for that matter. It's both funny and frustrating in hindsight. This was 9 years ago and sometimes I still feel like I wasted both mine and his time.
Saaaaaame but with being ace
That happened to me too kind of, just before I was sure I'm aroace. I was talking to this girl about how I really don't feel attraction towards that guy I was dating back then and she was like: oh I know that feeling it was the same when I started dating but then I started liking him more with time.
And it's just so weird looking back that there are people who jump into longterm relationships like that.
It only took a few more weeks after that to say I can't do this anymore this isn't working.
Lmao literally me forcing myself to "be attracted" to men I actually thought were ugly because I'm a lesbian.
Same but now I'm having to go through a whole divorce for it hahaha..... 😢
Comp het wasted the time, not you! Blame society, it's their fault. I hope you're in a better place now.
i hate how this behavior in men is so normalized because it keeps people in these weird, abusive relationships bc they think all men are like this (my mom)
Literally also my mom (dad isn’t abusive, just a selfish man-child). It kills me that she thinks I’m nuts for expecting men to pull their own weight at home and be an emotionally competent adult, and worse that I call it out when they come up short.
My fiancés dad married a very manipulative and verbally abusive woman and he’s genuinely convinced that every woman is exactly like her. To be fair he’s been married like 4 times and all the women have basically been abusive assholes
Plus they don’t realize it is better to be alone then!
Something interesting I learned in my women's and gender studies class is that in the 1950s marriage was basically mandatory for men because the only way they'd have a good chance of being given a job or promotion is if they were able to show they were good family men. Otherwise they'd be seen as immature men because they couldn't settle down. On top of that, they also felt overwhelmed because their wives relied on them for emotional support and companionship. As a result, the "my wife is like a ball and chain" type of humor emerged because it was supposed to resonate with men feeling overwhelmed by their responsibilities. It's honestly really sad and seeing it persist to today and having it being used as a way to insult and demean someone's partner is really upsetting.
Somehow I failed to appreciate that marriage back then was functionally mandatory for all genders, not just women; this does help explain the jokes from that time, but makes it all the more baffling that they're still being passed around as if they're relevant.
I thought most of the "I hate my wife" jokes originated from when divorce was Not An Option; I don't want to think misogyny is so virulent that "jokes" actually get passed around based on "It is funny because the -squirrel- woman gets dead", but the explanation that "comedians" refuse to get new material as the times change is unsatisfying-regardless of how well-supported it is based on the whining that people don't appreciate them punching down anymore.
I wish I could like a comment twice. Misogyny hurts men too
@@awfuldynne Some guys I suspect were raised by guys from that era and imprinted on it, and never learned to see reality otherwise. Others may actively wish to return to that model.
Personally I prefer being able to choose what I do with my life and to marry someone only if both both of us actually want that to happen. But hey, I guess that's what any red-blooded America-hating commie would say, huh?
I wonder if it also had to do with homophobia; there’d be questions about a man who wasn’t with a woman.
and these people are so bent about keeping it a "straight thing" when they don't even treat their partners the way they should be treated to begin with
The straights:
Mutual respect❌
Hating each other✅
Perfectly described. 👌🏼
As a straight man - I can confirm. I am genuinely horrified how normalised it is in society for straight couples to just... hate each other. Like most of the boomer humour is just based in "Hurr durr I hate my wife" - like wtf man? Idk I am very uncomfortable with how many people take hating your partner for granted.
@@cackle529it sucks and it terrifies me that it will happen with my bf because he’s straight
@@Hypnos132 Wym it scares you that it will happen with your bf? If he is showing signs of abusive behaviour - you need to dump him ASAP and not fall victim to this normalisation of hatred and abuse among straight couples. I mean, i do not personally know you both, but whatever reason he has for being horrible to you is his problem to fix and to go to therapy for, it isn't yours. You aren't responsible for someone treating you poorly.
Domestic abuse is actually more prevalant in gay relationships than normal relationships
The problem is that popular culture, and the wonderful toxic masculinity we marinate in has reinforced men to think sex is a reward for good behavior, and women to reward men for good behavior with sex. The number of jokes I have heard women make saying "I am getting married, so I will never need to give a blowjob or have sex again", or men saying "marriage - where sex goes to die" indicates that the straights ARE NOT OKAY because sex is not seen as something wonderful to share, but as a tool of manipulation by both sides.
Sounds immature on both accounts. I really hate those sexist jokes. As some😢 who's happily married and is in love with his wife, I don't get the whole "I'm married so I don't need to do such and such" Being married doesn't change that stuff. If you cooked and cleaned before becoming a husband that shit ain't changing. If you both like giving and receiving orak sex, that ain't changing.
To me it's a red flag if a person is only doing something to get a partner and then change everything once they "got them". Then again I always kept my place clean before meeting my wife and still to this day. I do a lot (without it being a barter system). Things need to get done I do them because I'm adult and I live in the house too.
sex is something that should be in a committed relationship(ie Marriage) and should not be expected as a reward for being nice(saying this as a guy).
Men like sex, it's as simple as that. These are just the lighthearted jokes people who are married tell
@@shenone3285 Yeah, no... It can be, don't get it wrong, but those jokes often betray a mysoginistic point of view, and sometimes are what the person thinks! Humour reflects what we think, either we realise it or not
@@ezekielrayfield1512it doesn't need to be committed, just consensual on both sides.
tbh I actually like the grocery list. If I was shopping for my parents or my flat mate couldn't come with me because they were sick, this list would save me a lot of time. Still though, basic grocery obtaining skills are important. Even being able to order them online would do if your partner was sick.
I can get that but tbh if my partner whipped that out for me I'd be so offended lol they must think I'm fuckin incompetent is my thought process
@@munchablemothThank you for speaking my mind 😂😂... Even though I'm neurodivergent, this is me.
Cooking for folks with ARFID, I just have to video call and check every item because it's all so specific
I love these videos cuz I'm a masc presenting nonbinary and my girlfriend and i never have these kinds of issues. We're "straight" to onlookers but we're doing it better than some actual straight people.
Needless to say i vote for more monthly updates on the subreddit.
As a femme presenting enby I get that. Though my partner and I do make frequent “your face” jokes, I still love him. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t get the piss taken.
My partner and I are technically in a straight relationship (as he is male and I am female) and I thought it was funny because I saw someone make a joke in our friend group about straight people not being okay and this straight guy was like “but look at them! They are happy!” … you should have seen the look on his face when we both clarified that we are both pansexual and had relationships with different genders we just happened to end up in a “straight” relationship together
Why even have a boyfriend if it's basically like being a part time mom?
@wynn1587I'd rather be single as a pringle. Mmm, pringles. 😋🤤🍟🥔
Exactly, if someone wanted a child, they could go and adopt, or get a sperm donor. At least the kid would genuinely need their help, and not want to have sex with them.
@@chansfeet2500 Sorry, but we, normal women, need a man in our lives.
Maybe it’s a kink💀
@@wendyjohnson4345 I highly doubt you are a woman with what you just said. Women don’t need men
"Birthday money" what is she, twelve years old? Why would an adult woman need an allowance for their birthday? Just...ew.
What a sick self-burn though, like the idea that the man saying this is so awful that they literally have to pay their wife to sleep with them has got me screaming 💀
I thinl they mean, the max amount theyre gonna spend on a gift for her birthday, not that she's getting the money
"20 years with wife" my brother in christ he was with his wife for like 80 years and is now like 130 years old, of course he's elderly
As a (mostly) straight, I very much enjoy your reviews on why we are not okay. XD Another vote for continuing the series.
So you're not straight
@@wrestlemaniac3542 Yeah, labels, y'know? I'm probably like a Kinsey 1 or 2, maybe.
No one’s 100% straight probably
I would not be surprised if the default is bi, but due to heteronormative society moment people don't get it explore or think about it
@@Salikino I mean, Kinsey 0s exist.
7:00 - ive actually been in a "relationship" with a guy that would have sex with me while i was lying there clearly not interested. when i finally had told him i'd had enough and we werent speaking anymore he said "you never liked having sex with me anyway". so they are very well aware that the other party isnt enjoying it, they just dont care :)
Why did you have sex with him and he be your bf?
As a professional lesbian I think you should bring it back :)
Is it a new label or just a way to say lesbian ?
@@inihilisme1511 it’s just a joke, not a new label.
As a professional trans woman I agree
How do you go from amateur to professional?
The sadder part is that being so specific with a grocery list isn’t just so he “won’t mess up” it’s mostly so he won’t have to call her and bother her with dumb questions when she is I’ll. Sadly I have been able to relate with this before.
The only time my husband had to call me when grocery shopping was, when his contact lenses started acting up due to allergies.
So he facetimed me to guide him, when he was in front of the period products. It was actually quiet funny for both of us, apart from the allergies.
They feel like dumb questions to you, dumb distinctions to him. A lot of people will be bedridden and still think caring about a super specific detail of their house is the best use of time
@@TarisLuna My partner has pictures of the period products I use, just cos I generally pick them up myself but shit happens. He just has the photo is backup.
As much as I get this, I've been the one to send super specific lists, because if my partner thinks they're doing the right thing and gets the wrong one, that can result in me refusing to eat because it tastes funny. He couldn't tell the difference, but I could, so he had no clue it was that important. And I will get calls because there's so much concern that I won't touch something because it's the wrong thing.
Maybe that's the reason homophobia exists. "Gay" means happy and people are supposed to be miserable in relationships. To be gay is to break the natural cycle of malice and that's a no-no.
Its so real tho as an ace lesbian I didn't know I was gay until college bc I thought all women disliked sex and men but just did it bc they were supposed to 😅
ngl you’re so right at the end. I hated life dating men, now I’m a lesbian and I feel so much more confident and happy. back then I thought my only option was to marry a man ⚰️
I'm happy for you 🌈🧡
Are you trying to imply all men are bad? Because that ain't true.
2:42 I'd also like to point out that he was with Peggy for more than 20 years, he went back to 1945. The scene of him as an old man takes place in 2021. That's 76 years, not 20. So yeah he's old, living for almost a hundred years will do that
Also 3:40, I would actually find that super helpful, I get lost even in stores I regularly shop at, and if it's not something I normally buy, I don't know what brand or size to get. Having a specific list with a map would be amazing.
Yeah I don’t think the list with brands is the worst idea, it’s just the implication that the guy wouldn’t be able to find it in the store himself without a map that’s weird
@@Hana_H Agreed, there's definitely the undertone of assumption rather than "this is the result of clear communication"
Break up with your boyfriend~ (Not because I want him no because he's more toxic than Chernobyl.)
And yet you dated him
@@professorfoxtrot ? What does this mean? Is this meant to add onto my lyrics or is this a reply to me?
@@geostorm06 don't mind him, he's a troll
@@professorfoxtrotYou would be surprised when you find out how human works
@@pathetic-traveller06 such tremendous foolish as always with the far left.
Why is it that it's always the men upset that they have a wife, when 99% of the time these men are the ones that proposed? Did they think it was going to be like purchasing a robot to clean their house?
As a straight I don’t own these straights
Me neither
This may just be because of my social anxiety & sensory issues, but I would love it if I had a partner make me a detailed shopping list. And if she were sick, it would both help me get done as quickly as possible to get back to her so I could help take care of anything she needs & ease my anxiety of shopping. That is unless I just door dash everything, so I don't even have to leave her side in case she need me or ask her what we need need so I can write down the list & she doesn't have to spend that extra energy to write it down & rest while I got get everything
Why do (and I’m not saying all) straight couples seem to hate eachother so much?! Like why are they together in the first place if they’re not happy? Humanity makes no sense sometimes 😭
Maybe it's because usually it's just a joke, and they don't actually hate each other
@@wendyjohnson4345 hating your partner as a joke isn’t funny
@@Hypnos132 idk ive met plenty of gay couples who i would have sworn were twin brothers bickering just like you'd imagine before i found out
actually speaking of gay couples, bruh what is with dudes and dating their lookalikes fr fr
@@strangerinastrangeland3613 I’ve yet to see a couple like that so I don’t know. Also playful bickering isn’t the same as hate
Two reasons. 1) humor to cope. 2) societal standards. Ppl are pressured to get married and have kids asap. So you’ll get lots of ppl forced into marriage or ppl who think they want to be married when they don’t.
No cuz the fact ive seen multiple versions of the hairdryer gun one pisses me off so much.
It should not be that common to joke about wanting to kill your partner, just get a divorce phycho.
getting a divorce isn't easy, but if you're willing to make jokes like that abt ur partner, then divorce definitely.
I've never once wanted to kill my ex girlfriend when I was with her. I actually had nightmares of her dying and would wake up screaming because I literally would've rather it been me that died instead of her. With my current girlfriend, I feel the exact same way. I don't care how mad I might get at her, I'll never ever ever want her dead or even joke about wanting her dead.
Im someone who hates shopping and doesnt price compare at all so i think the map list was funny since i buy what im supposed to just not always the right brand
Name brand vs store brand is a huge thing to a lot of couples apparently 😅
This is such a thing in my house, but it matters to me. Normal people can't tell, but apparently it matters to me!
3:40 this list would help my autistic ass so fucking much omg
Yeah fr- if you couldn’t remember what brand you normally get or don’t know where something is that could be really helpful
It’s not a bad idea, it’s just the implication that the guy wouldn’t be able to find it in the store that’s kinda weird
As a queer person in a straight relationship (which is very healthy and lovely) I can say that my past straight relationships that it feels normal to hate your partner a little. When I was with my ex, I knew he hated me a little, and I remember feeling that pure, healthy love didn’t exist and that I wouldn’t be able to be in a relationship that didn’t have some negativity in it because the absence of negativity meant an absence of passion. It’s crazy how people who like the opposite gender are made to believe that the lack of unpleasant feelings are a lack of passion in a romantic relationship
You mean you are bi
@@WynnWynn-gl3fkwhich is a form of queer.
@@WynnWynn-gl3fk I’m demisexual but panromantic! It’s a bit of a mouthful to write so I usually just say queer lol
The grocery list could just be an extra anxious person 😂 I'd probably do something like this, and THEN have them video chat me because I'm so anxious and independent to the point that it's hard to receive help. There's two kinds of people: the kind that thinks everything is the same and just throws it in the cart, not caring about the brand. Then there's the person who knows the brands they like and picks their favorite brand when shopping. Mixing these two types of people means the first person probably doesn't do the grocery shopping
My partner and I both have sensory issues, I have a lot of issues with food textures so I have specific brands and stuff I like and she gets overwhelmed by bright lights and lots of chatter. I doubt she'd be going shopping lol
@@awryarbi9902even just the mental load is overwhelming of trying to budget, fit everyone's dietary needs, brand preferences...
In defense of the "map" 😂😂 it's actually super helpful. Let's face it if you need something so specific sometimes the stores put things in the oddest of places😅
13:02 This Tiktok reminds me of the “Phase when you start hating your girlfriend” Tweet
It also baffles me hear the same people who shame others for not being married are often the same ones to make "jokes" about hating their spouse. It's like how can the same type person shame others for not being married or if they're married but not to someone they approve of, such as if it's a gay couple but then act like their marriage is the worst thing that ever happened to them because in my mind if u & this other person is not compatible then don't get married or get divorced as that would be better for everyone involved instead of being miserable & making "jokes" about hating each other simply because of the social pressure to get married & stay married
I totally want the series back again
the jelly and 🐱🍴 one about the child absolutely HORRIFIED me… dropped my joint and stared at the screen for a solid minute
watching your "checking on the straights" videos always make me value how good of a person and partner my bf is. Of course I'm lucky that our interests and neurodivergencies are compatible, but I didn't realize going into this relationship that I'm also incredibly lucky that my boyfriend ACTUALLY LOVES ME and wants to be around me and is good at communicating his issues and listening when i tell him my issues.
You would be surprised how different men shop vs. women. I love at home with my parents and sister and me and my sister do the grocery shopping 80% of the time. My mom will occasionally do it if we’re busy and my dad never shops. I made him a list to get some things and half the stuff he came back with was completely different from what we normally get. Like I wrote sandwich bread and he got a completely different type then we normally have, like ?????
I love the outfit!! Also I’d love to see the series continue
I wish I could get that sweater.
I wonder where she got it
@@patchyworx i honestly wish I had her wardrobe and earrings
@@estella5998 same tho she has the cutest/coolest outfits
i love your sweater!!
I love how there are other people in the comments saying that the grocery list was nice. I absolutely agree. As someone who is neurodivergent and practically needs shit spelled out for them, this works. I would marry her if she understands me at this level lol
I swear, as a straight, I lucked out with a total unicorn of a guy.
im so fucking stupid i thought "but you're dating a guy aren't you gay???" LIKE I FUCKIHG FORGOT. THAT STRAIGHT IS NOT ALWAYS A MAN
YOUR HAIRRR that length looks so good on you!
we absolutely need a monthly check in again sav!
i’m the lesbian that didn’t realize i didn’t like men until 24 😂 that was me, i’m feeling so called out
ugh I hate those sexist restaurant signs, there's one outside a pub near me that says "husband creche. leave him here while you go shopping" and it pisses me off every time I walk past it.
In the same thread as that lesbian not knowing she was a lesbian, I didn't know I was trans until I was 31. I'm afab, and I just thought all women hated having to deal with their breasts and their periods and that women's fashion was stupid for being designed ONLY to accentuate physical features without being practical or comfortable in any way and SERIOUSLY WHAT IS UP WITH FAKE POCKETS?! Don't even get me started on make-up.
Now, if you are a woman and you like any/all of those things, awesome. You do you and look amazing and fabulous! It's just not for me and I'd much rather have a nice full beard to style and stroke in contemplation. Honestly I'm just happy I'm not the only one who was confused for so long because of the bullshit society deals towards afab people.
Lmao I'm trans (ftm) but I still love girly clothes, there's just so much more variety but they really are so impractical 99% of the time
The “keep fighting” at the end of every video makes me smile every time :)
The one about the jello/pudding cups is so horrifying. Imagine growing up and reading that from your parent. Horrendous
My dad can't shop because he is a huge man child.
I am fourteen and have to come with him every time else he'd only come home with stuff we don't need and only he likes. The only reason they're not divorced is because he wouldn't survive on his own: he lived with my nan until he was 40 then moved in with mom.
I'd love the series to be back!!!!
The Trader Joe’s one is funny because TJ’s is generally a relatively compact grocery store. Generally you can find everything you need within 10 minutes. It’s not like Walmart where you’re basically traversing the width of a small town every time you shop there lmao, needing a list that specific for TJ’s just feels ridiculous
I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and get incredibly stressed out by shopping. It's 10 times worse if I'm doing it for someone else because I'm terrified to get the wrong thing for them and disappointing them. I'll overthink every single thing. I can get it done and would of corse happily do it if the other person wasn't feeling well, but it's an awful expirience (my heartrate gets so high my watch praises me for doing intensive exercise, probably not very healthy though 😂). Someone being so considerate to make me a really detailed and spesific list and map would probably make my heart explode with gratitude. It would be such a kind and helpful thing.
I understand that the negative implication from this is that she HAS to make the list or he'll get all the wrong things or not get stuff he couldn't "find". Weaponized incompetense. But depending on the reason for it it could be really sweet. It could also be that she is really specific about the things she wants (there are so many brands and different sizes and stuff) and she did it for her own sake.
I can’t decide if I wanna call this video drastically late or slightly early.
I love this series pls do more
the "looking at your wallet and remembering you're dating this psycho" thing genuinely made me laugh because it's similar to how me and my boyfriend are. we are a very friendly and openly making fun of each other type of relationship and he always lovingly complains about how much of a trouble i am. i don't know if the intentions were as sweet in the original post, but what i mean is: a relationship being tiring isn't always the worst thing. sometimes, the person is worth it with all their problems.
OMG! That coming out story could be mine! I’m a lesbian and dated men for the longest time because of comp-het and the fact that nearly all straight women I had around me HATED their partner. It wasn’t until one of my friends got into a mutually respectful and healthy relationship with a man that she pointed out that she does love him and finds him very attractive.
She and I are now getting married three months apart; she’s marrying the previously mentioned guy and I’m getting married to the woman of my dreams.
The supermarket thing is real. In long term marriages where the wife did all of that, once they are gone the widowed husband is lost. My aunt trained her husband for months leading up to her death when she realized that she wasn’t going to beat the cancer a second time so he’d be able to look after himself.
it’s a little funny seeing the comments abt the sweater bc she’s worn it in at least seven other videos
Yeah but it still looks amazing😂
@@Hana_H it does! i'm just surprised it's suddenly getting more attention bc i immediately recognized it skdjsk
Every time I see these videos they make me so grateful for my husband and the kind soul that he is 😅😅
I get that the grocery list is a good idea for some people but its kinda annoying that she had to do it while she was sick. Also trader joes is usually very small and has like 3 or 4 aisles max. So you can literally walk the entire store in like 20mins. Being sick and not being able to rely on your partner sucks alot
Of those ten dates, guy number three was the best because he used the bathroom in the toilet and everything.
Literally insane.
About the grocery list thing. It could just be he was never taught how to grocery shop well. I wasn't taught certain things and stuff and so I'm behind in various aspects of things even as basic as grocery shopping. So yeah some people especially those with various issues may need more detailed instructions for shopping
Please do more of the straights not being okay! I love it when you call this shit out!
Im convinced these men are really unknown age reggressors/age dreamers.
What i mean by that, is that it basically is when someone mentally reverts back to a younger age to deal with trauma and or stress. Its a healthy coping mechanism (when not used in excess obviously), but it can be involuntary.
This doesnt have to be straight up being mentally a child all the time, this can be shown and expressed in little ways (also why i put in age dreamer, because you dont have to mentally regress to not enjoy/use "childish" coping mechanisms). Like doing reckless and impulsive things, having no filter, being overly emotional (which can be caused by other things obviously). But yeah, the way alot of these men act are like that. And age regression can be in many different ways, it just means reverting to a younger state of mind.
And even if they are not i still think it would be a healthier outlet for them anyways lol.
Another side of the 'women hate men and aren't sexually attracted to them'
I thought I was a gay transman for most of my teens--only because I was STRONGLY attracted to guys, and I'd been told my whole life that women don't experience sexual attraction at all. I didn't even have a word for it I was so sheltered, but I thought I was 'male-brained' because I thought boys were sexy.
Which led to some confusion as to whether I'm actually bi, because I thought my attraction would have to flip to girls if I became male...because i was told 'gay is sinful'
Yeah, I never transitioned, I'm not male, I'm just a high libido woman. Telling girls they can't feel horny is so harmful.
14:30 As an AFAB person who is completely repulsed by bjs I can tell you exactly how my birthday would go: I'd ball out having saved up the money in advance to treat myself. And doing it on the chill having already dumped that sorry excuse of a "man"! Hell no! Honey you deserve so much better!
@lesbianracc yeah, mine's trauma-based but that's hella relatable (and the way some don't wash their hands after 🤮 )
@@swiftie1373 you're fine, it means assigned female at birth
@overlordfemto7523 lol because I'm honest and won't accommodate ridiculous I'm a freak 🤡 clown take
I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and get incredibly stressed out by shopping. It's 10 times worse if I'm doing it for someone else because I'm terrified to get the wrong thing for them and disappointing them. I'll overthink every single thing. I can get it done and would of corse happily do it if the other person wasn't feeling well, but it's an awful expirience (my heartrate gets so high my watch praises me for doing intensive exercise, probably not very healthy though 😂)
Someone being so considerate to make me a really detailed and spesific list and map would probably make me explode with gratitude. It would be such a kind and helpful thing.
I understand that the negative implication from this is that she HAS to make the list or he'll get all the wrong things or not get stuff he couldn't "find". Weaponized incompetense. But depending on the reason for it it could be really sweet. It could also be that she is really specific about the things she wants (there are so many brands and different sizes and stuff) and she did it for her own sake.
Me and my bf just decided to get married tomorrow a few hours ago and I clicked this. (not as impulsive as it sounds. We've been talking about it for a while snd tomorrow is our anniversary) Just like to remind myself how lucky I am so I don't take him for granted.
Do you mean engaged or are you having a little courthouse wedding? This sounds really interesting
Oh have a good one!
Can I just say I love your hair and you look so lush in general ❤
If project 2025 happens people won’t be able to leave their marital partners if incompatible
So just don't get married or like overthrow the government
@@Musicbased39 you sound like the kind of person who’d say so just don’t have sex.
That's why more RUclipsrs need to cover this, including Queer Kiwi. Everyone needs to know about this deranged "project".
@@gtshadowwolf2710 oop no, overthrow the government. The first part was a joke 😭
Wait what's project 2025?
I will never understand women who think they owe their men sex. I may not be in the mood for it myself, but the act of pleasing my man even without me wanting to be pleased in return is still such a MASSIVE turn on. Why? Because I'm in love with my man. The only time I would ever say no to him is if I truly feel like absolute garbage. Any other time is perfectly enjoyable, even if I don't enjoy it for myself. I will never think of sex as a chore with my man, because that would imply that I've fallen out of love with him. When you start thinking of your partner as a chore you have to do instead of as a human you want to make happy, your relationship is entirely over.
Your hair looks amazing!!!! I can’t stop looking at how shiny and colorful it is :D
these videos just remind me how amazing my boyfriend is. i’m seriously so lucky to have him 😭 the first time we got to see each other in person after talking/facetiming for a couple months, we started getting heated and HE was the one that like “hey, i’d love to, but i think we should wait a little longer”
he said his friends were so confused when he told them about it after they asked how our night was 💀 like, no ,,,, us waiting actually shows how much we care. it’s not like he said we’re waiting until we’re married (nothing wrong with that!!! just not my personal preference) we realized that it would be better to just enjoy each others company that night.
i truly love him :,) basically all my past relationships were dudes who cheated or assaulted/coerced me and was just manipulative. everyone deserves a loving relationship
I mostly watch these to watch the hue change of your rainbow hair lol its so beautiful
I feel sorry for all these women who are just laughing at having to mother their boyfriends/husbands and they just think that's normal bc we've been socialised to expect that as women. It's very sad.
The trader joes map was pretty funny cause I (20 M) need to make something like that for my boyfriend/fiance (19 M), we both constantly get lost in the store and I have a lot of sensory problems and cant be in large stores for long, I also have ARFID (an eating disorder often mistaken for extreme pickiness) so I do need specific brands of food otherwise I cant eat them
oh wait... she made the map cause her boyfriend doesnt do the shopping... OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I watch these videos while writing fanfiction, you’re very good at providing audio stimulation
I never understood the partner hating humor even when I was younger. It felt gross and weird. Thankfully I'm in a relationship with a neurodivergent man, and it is waaaaaay better than dating most neurotypical men. If he doesn't listen to me, it's because his ADHD has kicked in, and I have to wait or find another way to grab his attention. And the fact that I can just be forward and tell him exactly how I'm feeling, and he does the same is amazing!!!
He still seems like a child and not worth it
@@WynnWynn-gl3fkno, its just adhd. youre not able to assume things about peoples relationships when they arent asking for advice
Your makeup, hair and sweater are absolutely slaying!! You look amazing as always
4:13 actually that’s really helpful. No matter how many times I go in there I don’t know where anything is at. This can also help someone with anxiety. They don’t have to ask where something is if they can’t find it. There are in and out with in 15 minutes
I would love to see one of this every month!
As an asexual lesbian, screw having a boyfriend. Girlfriends are better.
I love women, best gender out of the 72. /j I'm omni with a preference for everyone but cis men 😭
@@Musicbased39 lol, you're literally just a lesbian. also, you're missing out sweetheart. Men are awesome
@wendyjohnson4345 I'm a man for one, for two, I do date cis men, but because of trauma it makes me hard to fully trust cis men.
@@Musicbased39 I've been mugged by a black man a few years ago. Due to trauma, it's hard for me to trust black people
@@wendyjohnson4345it's entirely possible to be an asexual lesbian
Asexual doesn't mean zero attraction it's means not experiencing attraction strongly enough or offend enough to be considered Allo
So what she's saying is she is asexual and when she does have attraction it's towards women
You can also be asexual/ straight
And regardless being a lesbian is beautiful woman are awesome 🌈🖤
Bring the series back please
I feel like the list isn't necessarily bad. What if it's someone with anxiety that needs to get in and out? What if the person didn't have the time to spend 2 hours looking for 1 item. Maybe the items aren't in the most intuitive place. If I were grocery shopping for items that I don't usually get, I would prefer to have a list telling me where the stuff I'm not used to is
Yeah it’s not a bad idea, it’s just the implication that the boyfriend would not be able to find it on his own and that the girlfriend HAD TO make this map that’s kind weird.
Same like- I have ADHD right? So I’m awful with memory and directions and also prices- I also struggle a LOT when I’m given vauge instructions and tend to get distracted. So having a hyper detailed list with specific instructions on how and where to get things and exactly how much money I need to bring would be a GODSEND- I would be so so grateful for some help in those areas because I strugggle so bad and it sucks feeling incompetent or stupid or like I’m not caring enough when I know that’s not true!! Idk it feels weird to make the assumption that the boyfriend is just a bad partner who can’t handle shopping by himself. It could also just be a control issue on the girlfriend’s end! Maybe SHE has anxiety about things not being done how she likes them done and is over preparing to aleveate the stress- maybe she just likes making detailed lists like there are so many ways to read the situation that aren’t this immediate jump to “boyfriend bad” like it still could be- but I just don’t think it is
@@lavenderisdedagain4554 yeah i would fucking LOVE a list like this
Seeing her post just made my sucky day better
Cis het partnership (choose your mode):
-Controlling "bitch" and whipped boyfriend
-Insecure toxic bf and woman who is in denial
Obsessed with that sweater ✨️
so funny my boyfriend broke up with me couple of days ago lmfao the cosmic irony
Yes please! Bring this back
Flowers are a waste of money tbf, buy your partners potted plants instead. They don't die after a week and a nice year round bloomer will always spice a place up
omg I felt the person who didn't realise they were a lesbian because of how straight people are. I spent my early teen years thinking that all women didn't actually like men or their boyfriends and thought that women were incredible and better than men and that we only marry men because that's what we are supposed to do 😭
listen I think I can get behind the Trader Joe’s map bc if you never go there it is very confusing 😂 it’s not a regular supermarket trip it’s so specific
Dude I forgot Rebecca Zamolo existed (the person with the toddler dating video). I looked up her RUclips channel again and her content is like 75% videos of her and her 1 year old daughter and I am so tired.
Literally saw this a few minutes after being asked out by my new bf
The stray kids plushies in the back makes me happy as a fellow STAY❤
Great Halloween special! Humans are the scariest beings of all!
The detailed specific shopping list would be a lifesaver for me. I have to have a very specific list for myself, because I have a limited budget and low memory. So shopping for another is even worse. I would JUMP for a chance at that list.
The first of the month is two days away…but it’s okay, the straights are just that NOT okay this month!!! 😅
OMG!!! Your eyes are sooo pretty! I was wondering what was making me think that (other than the eyeshadow), then I realized you have grey eyes! I think the rainbow eyeshadow compliment them perfectly.