I love Lux. And that's so incredibly true. Strict parents are also the most oblivious to what's really going on with their kids, because if they acknowledge their kids are doing the opposite of what they are trying to enforce, they will also have to acknowledge it's completely failing. I had extremely permissive parenting and my bf had a strict religious upbringing and I can say with confidence, you should always meet your children in the middle. But honestly, believe it or not, the strict parenting was a much bigger fail. I mean, being allowed to drink and use drugs and do whatever I wanted just took away most of the appeal 😂 and he still has severe psychological problems because of the insidious shame at being human that he was taught. I wish I had been raised better, but at least I don't hate my mother for making me hate myself :( It's a great way to make your kids resent you and get as far away from you as possible when they grow up!
Those flower hats are genuinely great for sensory difficulties as an autistic person, I think it’s quite upsetting he stopped using something that helped him just because of what others may think
I get that, but I don't really get why such a hat is needed. Normal swimming-goggles (I think that is the word for those) would also keep shampoo out of someone's eyes while being more handy and less weird for others. That doesn't mean that I say that it is good that he gave up using that hat, just that I think there are better solutions. But I get that being autistic and used to something means you don't want to replace that (For context: I myself am autistic, I was diagnosed when I was like 4 or 5, I'm turning 18 in 11 days..I get that every autistic persons experience is different, I never had any problems while showering so I can't directly relate and hope my comment doesn't sound offensive)
@@the0neBoioswimming goggles would go across over the hair on the back of your head though, blocking easy access to the hair for showering. (Would be more problematic with long hair though). But on the other hand The shower hat thing is designed to stop soap from being in eyes while providing as much easy access to the full head of hair as possible. Also goggles can shift and let water in if you move the strap to get to the hair, or can fog up and block vision. So the shower flower does seem to actually be the better option. Also In my opinion I think it looks less weird then pulling out goggles for a shower, least the hat is made for showering (though neither should be viewed as weird, especially if it helps people). I’ve never used either for showering, but looking up products and knowing how goggles are when I’ve gone swimming makes me think the hat would actually be better for this purpose
@@the0neBoioI think different things work better for different people. Everyone has different needs and sensitivities. It’s not fair to say because something works for you, it’s “not necessary” for anyone else to do it differently. The same could be said about you. I don’t have sensory issues, so should I be saying that swim goggles aren’t necessary for anyone else?
That's what I was thinking too; I'm not familiar with those hats at all but like, it made me sad that the story ended with him just stopping even though it clearly made him more comfortable. Especially being married and having kids and even using them for the kids; at that point in a relationship I'd hope that'd be something that he could feel comfortable doing/bringing up and that his partner wouldn't take issue with. :(
@@aradia6670i (also autistic) tried out googles for a little while as a kid and also ended up hating it for all the things you described. I eventually just started only ever showering facing away from the shower head, far enough from it and with my head tilted back far enough to avoid any eye contaminants. That definitely made all showers since feel like so much more of a chore than a relaxing act of self-care/hygeine. I’m realizing in real time as I write this that I night need to put a shower flower on my Christmas wish list 🎅
Ohhhh boy was my sexual education class in primary school comprehensive - Ms. Doane, bless her incredible soul, opened the first day of class by telling all of us sixth graders to go up to the whiteboard, grab a marker, and just jot down every single thing we’d ever heard of, seen, or thought we knew about sex. 12-13 year olds, to be clear. That poor board looked like some virgin pervert’s wall-scribbled incoherent sex manifesto by the time we were done with it. She spent the rest of that first class going through every single thing each one of us had written, joke or not, and gave a thorough, objective, and understanding explanation of whatever it was. She even had whoever scribed the weirdest shit elaborate on it enough so she could understand what they meant and give it the same respect. I hope Ms. Doane is slaying so hard these days absolute queen
Okay real talk, even though some kids definitely abused the ability to write what they wanted- that’s such a great thing to do, bless teachers like her
I WISH I had this. But I was so scared of the embarrassment of telling my grandma about the sex ed class, I just didn’t tell her and I skipped school the entire sex ed week.
The one with the flower hat is actually so cute - It helped him greatly and he was just so happy with it; it´s just sad, that he felt the need to stop using them due to this one girl reacting poorly :(
I am so happy my high school taught us how to properly us protection (all forms) and period products. My teacher told us she didn't have to show us how to use them but she did anyways. No one was separated and everyone's questions were answered with no judgment. Like how it should be.
It's definitely good to teach, but I can see why they might not always think it's necessary 😅 there are clear instructions on the package and I think most of us are inclined to check the directions for anything we gotta put *inside* our body 😬
@@LunarEleven yeah maybe for some people reading the instructions are enough but I have a reading related learning disability so instructions are sometimes confusing.
@@LunarElevenJust because it's clear to you, doesn't mean it's clear to everyone. Also, not teaching it and and making it seem taboo to talk about creates shame that makes things worse.
Not a parent but if I ever have kids, as awkward as that conversation would be, I’d rather they be safe??.. it kind of reminds me of growing up- my sister would go to house parties and nights out and very (very) occasionally she would end up calling one of my parents in the middle of the night to ask if they could pick her up because she was sick, or because she missed a bus / train and didn’t have a way home I doubt my parents relished being woken up (or at least being made to get out of bed as I think they used to keep an ear out to make sure we got home ok) - but I do remember they never got mad at her, for drinking or for calling them. Like I say, it happened very very rarely, and I think they always wanted us to know that we could call them, and that they’d rather us call than sneak around and be stranded or walk home alone at night … I don’t know, maybe not the same thing but I do have a feeling that kid (OP) probably won’t trust their mum with something like that again for fear of how she will react, and act, afterwards.
2:15 If OP is being 100% honest than he wasn't the one who fucked up. While the other family of course had the right to not want to accept the playdate, they should not have kept insisting OP was asking the mom on a date when he wasn't. That being said, OP himself is referring to the mom as hot, so I do wonder if consciously or subconsciously he was being flirtatious with the mom.
It also doesn't help that he ran away when the husband got involved, making it seem like she was right, instead of explaining to the husband that you were trying to arrange a playdate with their kids and asking him for *his* number.
i love how you talked about all these stories with such an open mind and no judgement, especially the porn star story. sex work is so stigmatized when its something people do to survive.
My school did have a mixed sex ed class in middle school, but there was one special “girls only” assembly in our last year of grade school (the boys had their own assembly at the same time, in the gym instead of the auditorium) where they gave us a brief rundown about puberty and the changes we would soon be experiencing, and they did show us how to use a pad, but all they said about tampons was “when you’re a bit older, you might decide to switch to tampons, but we recommend starting with pads.” Which, admittedly is fair advice when you’re talking to 10 year olds, but they could have said a bit more than that about them
That story actually made me realize my private Catholic elementary school actually had more comprehensive period product education than my public middle school did. It was in 4th grade and we were separated from the boys for it but I remember the catholic school nurse sitting down and explaining how to use an tampon and demonstrating how to use the applicator and I’m pretty sure she even explained that it wouldn’t make you loose your virginity when one of the girls asked. I don’t remember any talk of period products at all in middle school - maybe they figured all the girls already knew at that point? But all I remember of that sex education was them talking about STDs and nothing about periods or sex itself at all.
10:48 this one is WILD to me because instead of saying yes and giving them a SAFE place she lets them go and be unsafe and try to creep on them that’s so weird and gross to me why would you WANT to see that
Oh she's not trying to creep on them. She's trying to STOP them altogether by having herself and other parents catch them in the act. If you know your mom might stumble on you in the middle of things, it's going to be critically mortifying for most kids and the parents could also decide to punish them for doing it. They'd rather pretend that they can stop their kids from having sex at all when all they're actually doing is forcing them to get more inventive.
My best friend in secondary school had the same tampon problem. she didn’t realize the applicator had to come out because her mom was catholic and never explained how to put a tampon in. THIS GIRL WAS A GYMNAST AND NEEDED TO WEAR TAMPONS.
15:39 seeing pegging as gross instead of just something you are not into is definitively homophobic, I have a far uncle who I only know about because he is gay/bi (he has dated women, but people have claimed he only did it because he was in the closet and it may be true) and many family members talk about how disgusting he is. When my dad said: "I bet he just likes everything, like an omnisexual." This far aunt who is the gay uncle's cousin said: "They are all f-slurs for me, and the women he slept with are degenerates too. I bet that he tells the women he is sleeping him to put some fingers up his ass at some point during sex." I don't like figthing so I didn't say anything while they talked but it just made no sense to me. He is your cousin, why do you even care about his sex life to the point of comming up with weird details that you shouldn't care about at all?
I find it different than homophobia. I don't care if other people do/like pegging, kudos to them, but to me it is disgusting. Anus is where your poop is. Poop is disgusting. While I like butt plugs, even they can be disgusting after taking them out. Putting some object in and out multiple times? No thank you.
Agreed. People like this usually talk about other people's sex life (or life in general) because theirs is very uninteresting to begin with. If the person you're talking about is weird/gross, what does that make of you, who is thinking about them 24/7? Loser bhvr honestly
The flower shower story was a little sad... The story about the tampons is understandable. Those instructions are terrible. I hated those plastic things so I used OB (the best tampons ever made, fight me) which didn't have an applicator. Period products need to be a part of health discussion. I was left on my own, too.
I switched to OB tampons when I lived in Japan for a year because I could bring a years supply with me in my luggage and they would take up minimal space. I liked them so much that when I got back, I just used decided to keep using them. OB tampons are the best.
I stick to OB as well whenever I can get a hold of them. The applicator is just pointless since you should be washing your hands after you go to the bathroom whether you're bleeding or not.
Second story: look on the bright side: you indirectly got your mother and all the other mums into hiking which is good for psychical and mental health.
this was an absolutely INSANE series of fumbles. along the lines of the hair color/piercings for jobs thing, at my last job i applied for a management position because i was already doing all the work a manager does, might as well get the raise and position name change for my resume. i have pink hair and a nose ring, and often did fun makeup looks (similar to yours) for work. keep in mind, this position was NOT a front-facing one. before applying, i had a sneaking suspicion as to why all their management were cis, white, and male (except for one cis, white woman), but i had hope that i would get the positon. nope! who got the position instead? a white, cis man. i truly believe it was because i look and present visibly queer, and i look like a woman (though i am nb). impeccable curation as always, keep up the great work! 💖
I’ve actually heard that a ton of guys don’t know you can just tilt your head back or forward when washing their hair… they just think getting soap in your eyes is normal
@@coki3_crumle670 Have you tried bending all the way forward and keeping your eyes closed until it's all washed out? I always wash my hair upside down bc it's curly and it helps with volume and keeping the curls clumped, but it also helps avoid this problem
I'm 26 now, we don't have applicators at all in my country, but I did try a tampon once when I was 11, my attempt just hurt so I gave up and didn't try tampons again until I was 22. Then I got so frustrated about dealing with my period while working I decided to give tampons another try, and finally figured out how to do it without pain and discomfort.
To be so fair NOBODY has taught me how to use a tampon. I've tried to find accurate videos on how to put one in and I just had to figure it out myself and I'm still not sure I'm getting it right. Stuff like this isn't surprising because of that, we just need better education
I tried to use a tampon for the 1st time when I was 15, and- I did it wrong basically, and even to this day I still struggle with health issues in that area. I would have used a pad, but the school "doesn't allow these kinds of things" so a teacher snuck me a tampon
I hated tampons for a while because they were feeling uncomfortable, but with time I figured out how deep I have to insert them and which position is the best for that. Never had one with an applicator though, I just wash my hands really carefully before and after with soap and warm water, occasionally using hand sanitizer too (typically when not at home). I never had issues with making sense of the instructions (there are pictures!), I just needed to figure out how to do it best. I got the hang of it after two or three periods though, it's not rocket science.
@haylene7521 No, not exactly that. They didn't search our bags for period products lmao- They never provided them at the school and gave "we don't allow those here" as the reason. It was a public school, but very obviously biasedly Christian. And very homophobic. All the teachers were Christian, and would always shit talk students that weren't Christian
29:54 I wish the U.S was that caught up with society but its not. If im not mistaken, some states only RECENTLY passed a law in regards to allowing NATURAL hairstyles/types without discrimination. Meaning prior to that law, a person of color may get told they cant have the job/promotion unless they change their hair. Their natural hair. So we are far away from seeing hair colors and piercings as a right to our own bodies, our employers own our looks. Its often in the dress code description and if we dont abide by it you'll be fired. There are industries growing more increasingly accepting of this, healthcare is one of them. But theres still a lot of ridiculous rules
@@Joe-iq1bu i wish it was that simple but its so many places that are still against fashion colored hair, tattoos and piercings. I have all 3 and i paid for this crap, I'm not taking a minimum wage job to change my appearance. But those are a lot of the jobs that have those codes. Literally even lawyers are starting to be more accepted than a girl with red hair working a burger king.
Between "we'll just pretend you're playing cards!", and deciding to get tattoos and piercings and not care what her bosses think, your mom sounds awesome!
I grew up pretty rural and yeah, that's pretty par for the course (and tbf, not the weirdest spot. Another common hook-up spot was behind the local graveyard). No clue if it was on the ground or against a tree (this is Scotland so I imagine the ground would be pretty damp) as I was chronically single, but yeah, can testify teenagers absolutely do it in the woods
At my schools they taught it. Every year during that module, we would even get little supply baggies that had teen pads, tampons and deodorant in them. And this was 30 years ago, have they stopped doing that?? I, unfortunately, don't have any children, so I don't know too much about how schools are run now. With the exception of the tutoring I give to my 2 4th grade nephews, I'm clueless, and 4th grade was the first year of sex Ed when I was in school, so I don't know if they're gonna do that this year.
@@katherinepadron0628 Wow that sounds great. I didn't have anything like that in school. I did have 'comprehensive' sex ed in like 12th grade which was way too late for most of the class but more than many schools in the US get.
Had a discussion with my parents over colored hair and piercings recently (both do interviews for where they work). My mother says that she thinks it’s bad to hire people with colorful hair as it means they focus more on their appearance than work, and my dad says if he could he would avoid hiring someone because of colorful hair if he legally could. I don’t understand. The focus was the only straight answer I got, but you could argue the same for anyone wearing makeup, or hell, even having their hair dyed natural colors, but it doesn’t happen.
too bad for them that things are changing and if you don't hire people with dyed hair, tattoos, or piercings then you're gonna have trouble finding a workforce. We went to the emergency vet a couple times recently and we had the kindest vet I've ever met and she had pink hair, a sleeve, and IIRC nose rings. Nicest vet I've ever met. If they didn't hire her someone else would have and they would have had to hire someone inferior.
i live in iowa in the U.S. and they have a lot of rules at jobs where you can’t have certain piercings, tattoos, or hair colors. Also a lot of the time black people get in trouble for wearing their hair in certain braids and certain styles. (ie. my afro may be considered unprofessional)
smaller cities tend to be a bit more behind the times. I live in Phoenix and everyone has dyed hair, tattoos, and piercings. can't really get away with it here.
The flower hat person sounds neurodivergent and the gf that left them for wearing it was kinda shitty. Like, your partner wears a cap during a shower, okay? There are shower caps to wear to keep your hair from getting wet, why is this any more weird? People are so judgmental and messed up, I hope their new partner is more understanding and chill about stuff.
It was a hookup. Shower caps are also different because when you make your hair that wet, it often needs to be washed and styled. It can take a while to dry depending on hair type as well
the flower hat story fucking SENT me bruh why are people weird and judgmental. like yeah it's odd to do as an adult but it's not hurting anyone idk why it would be worth ghosting over
i live in the US and i’m trying to get another jobs and yes places can very much not hire you and require you to not have piercings, tattoos, and unnatural colored hair. only recently did a lot of places allow you to have tattoos visible. AND to make it worse only recently was a law passed that made it so you COULDNT discriminate against natural hairstyles which led to discrimination towards people of color largely bc they have hairstyles that people see as “unprofessional” (which is ridiculous) but the fact that it took so long for this is wild, but as far as piercings, tattoos, and hair colors if they don’t want it there’s nothing stopping them
yeah I remember getting my first jobs in the early 2000s and I had a boss tell me to cut my hair because I was a guy. nobody had any kind of piercings or dyed hair. I ended up getting a job at a place that mostly hired artist types so they allowed all of that, I had removed my piercings by then, but I remember in the 2010s starting to see target employees with visible tattoos and thinking that was some good progress. We've had to make several emergency vet visits and the vet who worked there was the nicest vet I have ever met and she had pink hair, nose piercings, and tattoos. I thought that was awesome.
@@Zectifin yeah i had to stop dying my hair and let it be my natural color again because i wasn’t allowed to have it dyed 😭😭 i currently am looking for another job because i have a bad boss and i don’t like working here, hopefully since more people are open about it i can find a place that will allow that !! i don’t understand why how people choose to express themselves is seen as unprofessional !!
In terms of the porn thing, do people not know that porn stars usually don't use their real names? it's definitely not even the same person Side note: I did have a prof with a porn stars name and people smiled at it the first day but didn't care after
The tampon one, omfg. 💀 I hate using them, but when I did rarely use them, I'd fervently _read the instructions_ to make sure I knew what I was doing. It literally says on the box/bag to _not_ leave the plastic applicator inside. 😅 I'm glad they found out the truth and how to properly use them, though.
@@ferninthehouse Right?? I've got sensory issues, so at one point I would've been so bothered and pissed off the pain that I'd have looked up the instructions/alternatives within the same month. 😵💫
I'm Norwegian and absolutely learned how to insert tampons in school, both with and without applicator, even though we generally almost never use applicators in my country
I just found out my name has Links to Paul McCartney's Thrillington Album where he used the pseudonym Percy "Thrills" Thrillington. I love my name even more now.
Forest guy definitely shouldn't have apologized. Now the husband thinks he actually was asking for a date, not a playdate. Imagine the rumors they'll start now
My period horror story: It was only my third period ever. FIRST day of high school. I'm sitting in math class when some mean girls made me aware that I'd bled all over the chair. Math teacher was pissed that I made a mess. And since it was the first day, I didn't even know where the nurses office was. :(
when putting tampons on(in?) the wrong way was mentioned, I didn’t think about the ones with applicators, so I was horrified about the possible wrong ways lol. (personally find no applicator ones easier to insert).
I couldn't figure out tampons without discomfort at 12 so just used pads for 6 years until I gave cups a try and actually read their instructions. Doubt I'll ever try tampons again because cups are so convenient but do kind of regret never learning how they're actually meant to be used 😅
11:46 “aha!!!! I intentionally went look for for my minor son and and his gf, having naughty time in the woods! I caught them and called the called the police!”( you can guess what happened next because this interview was made by the United States penitentiary system, visiting hours are 2 PM to 6 PM) 😂
37:11 also edit on the discrimination laws. Unfortunately, I live in a very conservative area. So although we are legally required to have non-discrimination laws. Conservatives will be conservatives and find a loop that allows them to exploit a system that wasn’t meant for them. You can turn down 10,000 employees because they all come in with piercings and you don’t like piercings. You can have 100 black employees come in And hire absolutely none of them because you don’t like “n word”. You can have an entire white staff that looks like they belong in a cookie cutter neighborhood from the 60s. As long as you don’t tell any of the people you didn’t hire, that the reason you didn’t hire them is because you’re a bigot, you can’t get in trouble for it. You can take somebody to court for speculation. But if they’re a well-behaved narcissist in public no one’s gonna listen to you. The system here has bred a bunch of really good liars. And it’s unfortunate.
Some American states are at-will, which basically removes all protections for non-union employers. As long as you're not terminating someone for a protected reason like racism (and even then, if there's even the faintest veneer of an excuse), you can basically fire anyone, any time.
I just read the instructions my first time using a tampon...the diagrams helped a lot to know how far up it should rest, but it still took a while to figure out the most comfortable angle to insert it at.
herew within first 40 minutes of it being uploaded is insane. I love the content so much you have a unique way of explaining these topics and I appreciate the way you bring foward topics and opinions
Tip If your job is being annoying about a septum piercing: Tragus piercings are the same size (unless you've started stretching them). You can put a tragus piercing in the place of your septum piercing and you won't be able to notice the piercing at all. It's more comfortable than flipping it up in my experience.
I had the same experience with my first time using a tampon! We had gone to the beach as a family and my period started on the drive over, so my mom slipped me a tampon with exactly no instructions I was homeschooled, so no school sex-ed classes, and neither sisters or worldly friends to ask, so I was flying blind I therefore spent the beach day very uncomfortable and only learned my mistake a while later when reading the box lol
29:30 that's actually so true because there are some people that aren't going to have sex so they won't need to know how to put on a condom but someone who gets there period should learn how to use period products
Where I am in Canada, last time i checked, if they hire you with visible bodymods and didn't request you hide them before the hiring then you can't get fired for the exsisting ones. So my advice is actually often to have them showing but like wear small jewlery in piercings.
7:02 could be a mobility thing?? I can def see the uses. In the Black community as kids our parents would wash our hair in the kitchen sink for wash day. I would have KILLED for a flower hat. The amount of shampoo, conditioner and other products I got in my eyes I’m surprised I’m in blind.
@@dutchik5107 some days are easier than others to wash my hair. I may still pick one up for myself and my mom she has shoulder issues so she can’t wash her hair herself sometimes these would make it more comfortable for her and I’d have to hear less of her commentary on my hair washing skills lol
I never wear tampons, when I tried one for the first time when I was 16 cuz I wanted to go swimming my mom saw how I was trying to put it in and was all hunny lower, and I was like what? And that's when I learned where the vagina was located. I never even knew I had that hole down there!!! Wtf xD
The tampon story is why iv always read the instructions on things my whole life, no matter what it is or how simple! I wasn't taught many common things by my parents so I've had many times where I've realised while reading the instructions for things that there was a trick id missed or a better way to do things. It's worth doing imo, it's simple and i find it fun personally
24:30 I remember we were thankfully taught how to use pads and tampons... However, for the longest time, I didn't understand how the uterus sat in the body until I saw a 3D model at the ObGyn
You didn't have that information in your biology book? We basically had a full-scale torso with removable organs and other stuff (like the kind you see in doctor's offices sometimes) in our biology classrooms all the time so that when the teacher was talking about a body part he could show them where they were. (Which was useful because there was a misprint in a batch of biology books where a couple of drawings were missing or in the wrong order, which made it completely non-sensible :D )
My public school sex Ed class in the southeastern US (early to mid 2000s) consisted of older teens telling us what a mistake having pre-marital sex was and watching a documentary about how a teen girl got pregnant with twins and fell out her window at 8 months pregnant because she was sneaking out to see her boyfriend…..
24:50 I grew up in a very conservative, rural town in the US. Our only sex ed was learning about periods (they separated boys and girls) and STDs. But, I'm pretty sure they taught us how to use tampons when we were around 11-12 years old.
about image in careers: i work as a daycare teacher (usa), and my experience is that its honestly more lax than i expected. visible tattoos, dyed hair, facial piercings, are all pretty common. and i live in a pretty conservative area. i think that its more strict in actual schools, probably because you are meant to be more "professional". it also definitely varies depending on the daycare, for example my last daycare had me flip up my septum piercing and we had required tshirts with the schools name, and my current daycare has no standardised dress code (besides common things like length of shorts and appropriate clothing)
Some states have at will employment and in those states you can fire someone without cause, however if you do not list a cause they can just get unemployment.
Im autistic and in the UK. By law discrimination isnt allowed. But they will still do it. I got told i either fail probation with no reference or resign and the reasons were 'performance issues'. These issues were that I made some fixable errors due to being autistic, and i spent time on the toilet due to chronic severe stomach problems. It was also 1 week after o disclosed my autism diagnosis. Discrimination? Obviously. But I was so burned out and due to my communication difficulties and immense social anxiety, i couldn't challenge it. This was also after talking to HR.
Imagine if the guy who got caught had actually hurt himself falling out of the bed and the girlfriend left. Head injuries are no joke I can imagine how easily that could have gone way worse.
14:34 To be honest, I probably wouldn't have the nerve to suggest it, except maybe in the dark. I guess that's kind of pathetic. This might be due to the fundamentalist environment in which I grew up.
Tampons confused when I was younger. My mom totally failed to mention to me that vaginas are a hole! I had my period at 9 and didn’t find this out until 12 from google. My mom gave me my first tampon and kept yelling at me from outside the door to put it in. I was like in where?? 😂
in regards to the tampon story, i am forever grateful my stepmom was too lazy to explain it and just printed out an article with pictures. saved us both the awkward experience of talking about it and taught me how to use them properly. my sex-ed talk in fifth grade was actually pretty nice tho, they separated us by gender and made us watch a video about periods and then passed out little “goodie” bags. i definitely can’t remember everything that was in it but i remember there was some candy, individual midol packs and a good handful of pads, tampons and panty liners. saved my butt (and my pants) when my period came because my stepmom had not had her period in years and they were the only menstrual products in the house.
I don't think we even have plastic applicators for tampons in Germany. I don't use them, but I have seen them in multiple households and here we just have the fluffy Part.
Having a fully fledged opinion on something you know nothing about is simply the American way (gonna assume the couple from the pegging story is American, based on nothing).
The only place where I'd get the "no rainbow dyed hair" thing would be funeral homes and such. While I personally would have no problem with it, because I personally see funerals more as honoring/remembering their life than mourning their passing, it's generally not the best idea to be overly colorful in a space where people are grieving - unless the family/deceased want a colorful funeral.
omg thr tampon one is so real I never tried tampons and my classmates would shame me for that a lot because I wouldn't go swimming on my period couldn't borrow tampons if I forgt my pads, and wouldn't lend tampons to other people. And that's partly because I have sensory issueas and I don't think that would even be comfortable for me, but also because I don't think I would even know how to apply it. Noone ever taught me, and it also amuses me how the girls in my class were so quick to bully me fr not wearing a tampon, but got suddenly emberressed and didn't want to talk about it if I asked them how to even use them
The first time I ever used a tampon, it was one of those with a cardboard applicator. I had no idea it was supposed to come off so I just let it go like that. It was so uncomfortable and when I tried to get it out, it hurt. BAD. I thought I was going to have to call my mom for help. Doing that for 10 years? Excruciating, even if it was a smoother plastic applicator
i assume she thought pegging was something else entirely and that's why she called it gross, i have plenty of situations where i forget what certain sex terms are and have to be constantly checking again to make sure i'm not fucking up. then again, she could have googled it, but sometimes hindsight is 20/20 and so
To kind of answer about the whole thing regarding tattoos and piercings and whatnot, I've heard of a number of people with those things being denied, but they give a generic reason of something like "we chose a different candidate" or whatever. They're not gonna come out and say that your tattoos and piercings, skin color, orientation, religion, any of that is the reason why you are denied from a job, they will find basically any other excuse not to hire you
The woods one pisses me off. I hate when parents force their teenage kids to go and hide and have unsafe sex. I remember trying to do it with my ex in my van or her car and we'd parked behind closed stores in the back alley outside of the cameras and some dude turned on his back lights and came with a flashlight over the top of the fence and forced us to leave. Like leave us alone dude nobody is breaking into your house what the fuck.
In the US! Recently just got fired for no reason at all after 2 years tenure and with no warnings or reason to believe I'd be fired. Now I'm in financial instability! The US is amazing 🙃
wait yeah i never learned how to use a tampon in sex ed either, i learned on my own. i can’t believe that poor girl thought tampons were supposed to feel like that for so long omg. this actually should be addressed like i never even thought about it.
As Luxeria would say " strict parents don't make better kids, they make better liars"
Fellow Luxeria fan yay!
Love her!!
I love Lux. And that's so incredibly true. Strict parents are also the most oblivious to what's really going on with their kids, because if they acknowledge their kids are doing the opposite of what they are trying to enforce, they will also have to acknowledge it's completely failing.
I had extremely permissive parenting and my bf had a strict religious upbringing and I can say with confidence, you should always meet your children in the middle. But honestly, believe it or not, the strict parenting was a much bigger fail. I mean, being allowed to drink and use drugs and do whatever I wanted just took away most of the appeal 😂 and he still has severe psychological problems because of the insidious shame at being human that he was taught. I wish I had been raised better, but at least I don't hate my mother for making me hate myself :(
It's a great way to make your kids resent you and get as far away from you as possible when they grow up!
Omg 😍 Luxaria
who’s luxeria?
Those flower hats are genuinely great for sensory difficulties as an autistic person, I think it’s quite upsetting he stopped using something that helped him just because of what others may think
I get that, but I don't really get why such a hat is needed. Normal swimming-goggles (I think that is the word for those) would also keep shampoo out of someone's eyes while being more handy and less weird for others.
That doesn't mean that I say that it is good that he gave up using that hat, just that I think there are better solutions.
But I get that being autistic and used to something means you don't want to replace that (For context: I myself am autistic, I was diagnosed when I was like 4 or 5, I'm turning 18 in 11 days..I get that every autistic persons experience is different, I never had any problems while showering so I can't directly relate and hope my comment doesn't sound offensive)
@@the0neBoioswimming goggles would go across over the hair on the back of your head though, blocking easy access to the hair for showering. (Would be more problematic with long hair though). But on the other hand The shower hat thing is designed to stop soap from being in eyes while providing as much easy access to the full head of hair as possible. Also goggles can shift and let water in if you move the strap to get to the hair, or can fog up and block vision. So the shower flower does seem to actually be the better option. Also In my opinion I think it looks less weird then pulling out goggles for a shower, least the hat is made for showering (though neither should be viewed as weird, especially if it helps people).
I’ve never used either for showering, but looking up products and knowing how goggles are when I’ve gone swimming makes me think the hat would actually be better for this purpose
@@the0neBoioI think different things work better for different people. Everyone has different needs and sensitivities. It’s not fair to say because something works for you, it’s “not necessary” for anyone else to do it differently. The same could be said about you. I don’t have sensory issues, so should I be saying that swim goggles aren’t necessary for anyone else?
That's what I was thinking too; I'm not familiar with those hats at all but like, it made me sad that the story ended with him just stopping even though it clearly made him more comfortable. Especially being married and having kids and even using them for the kids; at that point in a relationship I'd hope that'd be something that he could feel comfortable doing/bringing up and that his partner wouldn't take issue with. :(
@@aradia6670i (also autistic) tried out googles for a little while as a kid and also ended up hating it for all the things you described. I eventually just started only ever showering facing away from the shower head, far enough from it and with my head tilted back far enough to avoid any eye contaminants. That definitely made all showers since feel like so much more of a chore than a relaxing act of self-care/hygeine. I’m realizing in real time as I write this that I night need to put a shower flower on my Christmas wish list 🎅
Ohhhh boy was my sexual education class in primary school comprehensive - Ms. Doane, bless her incredible soul, opened the first day of class by telling all of us sixth graders to go up to the whiteboard, grab a marker, and just jot down every single thing we’d ever heard of, seen, or thought we knew about sex. 12-13 year olds, to be clear.
That poor board looked like some virgin pervert’s wall-scribbled incoherent sex manifesto by the time we were done with it. She spent the rest of that first class going through every single thing each one of us had written, joke or not, and gave a thorough, objective, and understanding explanation of whatever it was. She even had whoever scribed the weirdest shit elaborate on it enough so she could understand what they meant and give it the same respect.
I hope Ms. Doane is slaying so hard these days absolute queen
Okay real talk, even though some kids definitely abused the ability to write what they wanted- that’s such a great thing to do, bless teachers like her
Doane is also french for border customs. Thought you'd enjoy that!
I WISH I had this. But I was so scared of the embarrassment of telling my grandma about the sex ed class, I just didn’t tell her and I skipped school the entire sex ed week.
@@anonimen31douane!!
@@redactedvt7873 that’s so unfortunate 😭 some institute really should’ve filmed ours to share publicly for those who need it lol
The one with the flower hat is actually so cute - It helped him greatly and he was just so happy with it; it´s just sad, that he felt the need to stop using them due to this one girl reacting poorly :(
I am so happy my high school taught us how to properly us protection (all forms) and period products. My teacher told us she didn't have to show us how to use them but she did anyways. No one was separated and everyone's questions were answered with no judgment. Like how it should be.
It's definitely good to teach, but I can see why they might not always think it's necessary 😅 there are clear instructions on the package and I think most of us are inclined to check the directions for anything we gotta put *inside* our body 😬
@@LunarEleven yeah maybe for some people reading the instructions are enough but I have a reading related learning disability so instructions are sometimes confusing.
@@LunarElevenJust because it's clear to you, doesn't mean it's clear to everyone. Also, not teaching it and and making it seem taboo to talk about creates shame that makes things worse.
Not a parent but if I ever have kids, as awkward as that conversation would be, I’d rather they be safe??.. it kind of reminds me of growing up- my sister would go to house parties and nights out and very (very) occasionally she would end up calling one of my parents in the middle of the night to ask if they could pick her up because she was sick, or because she missed a bus / train and didn’t have a way home
I doubt my parents relished being woken up (or at least being made to get out of bed as I think they used to keep an ear out to make sure we got home ok) - but I do remember they never got mad at her, for drinking or for calling them. Like I say, it happened very very rarely, and I think they always wanted us to know that we could call them, and that they’d rather us call than sneak around and be stranded or walk home alone at night … I don’t know, maybe not the same thing but I do have a feeling that kid (OP) probably won’t trust their mum with something like that again for fear of how she will react, and act, afterwards.
2:15 If OP is being 100% honest than he wasn't the one who fucked up. While the other family of course had the right to not want to accept the playdate, they should not have kept insisting OP was asking the mom on a date when he wasn't.
That being said, OP himself is referring to the mom as hot, so I do wonder if consciously or subconsciously he was being flirtatious with the mom.
yeah, also OP said he was married yet went as far as to describe the woman in a “hot” way and called her what, MILF? idk but thats worrying
It also doesn't help that he ran away when the husband got involved, making it seem like she was right, instead of explaining to the husband that you were trying to arrange a playdate with their kids and asking him for *his* number.
Yeah the way he wrote the story himself, I’m just like could he blame anymore for assuming??
And tbf, there's a very good chance that guys have hit on her this way before.
He shoulda turned and asked the husband for his number instead :p
RUclips counts those specific “bleep” sounds as swear words, btw. It’s why a lot of people switch to gentler sounds to censor words.
i love how you talked about all these stories with such an open mind and no judgement, especially the porn star story. sex work is so stigmatized when its something people do to survive.
@@TreeHopper-yz3sj why do yall insist all bad behavior must be praised and protected? 😂
@@Joe-iq1buliterally nobody is saying that, they are saying you shouldnt be a judgemental prick about people's lives
The flower hat one - If this happens with me, I would probably find it so cute and fall in love
My school did have a mixed sex ed class in middle school, but there was one special “girls only” assembly in our last year of grade school (the boys had their own assembly at the same time, in the gym instead of the auditorium) where they gave us a brief rundown about puberty and the changes we would soon be experiencing, and they did show us how to use a pad, but all they said about tampons was “when you’re a bit older, you might decide to switch to tampons, but we recommend starting with pads.” Which, admittedly is fair advice when you’re talking to 10 year olds, but they could have said a bit more than that about them
That story actually made me realize my private Catholic elementary school actually had more comprehensive period product education than my public middle school did. It was in 4th grade and we were separated from the boys for it but I remember the catholic school nurse sitting down and explaining how to use an tampon and demonstrating how to use the applicator and I’m pretty sure she even explained that it wouldn’t make you loose your virginity when one of the girls asked. I don’t remember any talk of period products at all in middle school - maybe they figured all the girls already knew at that point? But all I remember of that sex education was them talking about STDs and nothing about periods or sex itself at all.
Separating the genders for it is so stupid and fucked up
@@marleymars2223 I agree, but but most of our sex Ed was mixed, so that’s something at least.
@@marleymars2223 I assumed it was so the kids wouldn't be as embarrassed to ask questions.
10:48 this one is WILD to me because instead of saying yes and giving them a SAFE place she lets them go and be unsafe and try to creep on them that’s so weird and gross to me why would you WANT to see that
Oh she's not trying to creep on them. She's trying to STOP them altogether by having herself and other parents catch them in the act. If you know your mom might stumble on you in the middle of things, it's going to be critically mortifying for most kids and the parents could also decide to punish them for doing it. They'd rather pretend that they can stop their kids from having sex at all when all they're actually doing is forcing them to get more inventive.
My best friend in secondary school had the same tampon problem. she didn’t realize the applicator had to come out because her mom was catholic and never explained how to put a tampon in. THIS GIRL WAS A GYMNAST AND NEEDED TO WEAR TAMPONS.
“I’m trying not to curse today, so wish me luck.”
Good f***** luck!! 😂
You made it 27 minutes. I’m proud of you.
15:39 seeing pegging as gross instead of just something you are not into is definitively homophobic, I have a far uncle who I only know about because he is gay/bi (he has dated women, but people have claimed he only did it because he was in the closet and it may be true) and many family members talk about how disgusting he is.
When my dad said: "I bet he just likes everything, like an omnisexual."
This far aunt who is the gay uncle's cousin said: "They are all f-slurs for me, and the women he slept with are degenerates too. I bet that he tells the women he is sleeping him to put some fingers up his ass at some point during sex."
I don't like figthing so I didn't say anything while they talked but it just made no sense to me. He is your cousin, why do you even care about his sex life to the point of comming up with weird details that you shouldn't care about at all?
I find it different than homophobia.
I don't care if other people do/like pegging, kudos to them, but to me it is disgusting. Anus is where your poop is. Poop is disgusting. While I like butt plugs, even they can be disgusting after taking them out. Putting some object in and out multiple times? No thank you.
Agreed. People like this usually talk about other people's sex life (or life in general) because theirs is very uninteresting to begin with. If the person you're talking about is weird/gross, what does that make of you, who is thinking about them 24/7? Loser bhvr honestly
That's such an icky way to talk about someone, especially a family member 😬
this speaks so much more about your aunt than your uncle.
@@Zectifin and that's not even the worst part. From what I've heard, his mom tried to kill herself after finding out he is gay.
The flower shower story was a little sad...
The story about the tampons is understandable. Those instructions are terrible. I hated those plastic things so I used OB (the best tampons ever made, fight me) which didn't have an applicator. Period products need to be a part of health discussion. I was left on my own, too.
I switched to OB tampons when I lived in Japan for a year because I could bring a years supply with me in my luggage and they would take up minimal space. I liked them so much that when I got back, I just used decided to keep using them. OB tampons are the best.
I stick to OB as well whenever I can get a hold of them. The applicator is just pointless since you should be washing your hands after you go to the bathroom whether you're bleeding or not.
depending on the state they can fire you for (mostly) whatever they want. I was fired from a job for "not improving" (didn't know I was doing bad)
Second story: look on the bright side: you indirectly got your mother and all the other mums into hiking which is good for psychical and mental health.
true! or maybe theyll realize how dangerous the woods can be and allow their children to explore themselves safely…
@@boingermoment6002 oh come on; I'm out here trying to see the glass half full and here you are filling the glass with PISS
The screenshot in the thumbnail made my jaw drop. Holy moly.
this was an absolutely INSANE series of fumbles. along the lines of the hair color/piercings for jobs thing, at my last job i applied for a management position because i was already doing all the work a manager does, might as well get the raise and position name change for my resume. i have pink hair and a nose ring, and often did fun makeup looks (similar to yours) for work. keep in mind, this position was NOT a front-facing one.
before applying, i had a sneaking suspicion as to why all their management were cis, white, and male (except for one cis, white woman), but i had hope that i would get the positon. nope! who got the position instead? a white, cis man. i truly believe it was because i look and present visibly queer, and i look like a woman (though i am nb).
impeccable curation as always, keep up the great work! 💖
I’ve actually heard that a ton of guys don’t know you can just tilt your head back or forward when washing their hair… they just think getting soap in your eyes is normal
Sadly I still get it in my eyes :,)
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@@coki3_crumle670 Have you tried bending all the way forward and keeping your eyes closed until it's all washed out? I always wash my hair upside down bc it's curly and it helps with volume and keeping the curls clumped, but it also helps avoid this problem
you can also just close them and let the water wash off the soap before you open them.
@@Zectifin See, this is what confuses me... are they leaving their eyes open?
I'm 26 now, we don't have applicators at all in my country, but I did try a tampon once when I was 11, my attempt just hurt so I gave up and didn't try tampons again until I was 22. Then I got so frustrated about dealing with my period while working I decided to give tampons another try, and finally figured out how to do it without pain and discomfort.
To be so fair NOBODY has taught me how to use a tampon. I've tried to find accurate videos on how to put one in and I just had to figure it out myself and I'm still not sure I'm getting it right. Stuff like this isn't surprising because of that, we just need better education
I tried to use a tampon for the 1st time when I was 15, and- I did it wrong basically, and even to this day I still struggle with health issues in that area. I would have used a pad, but the school "doesn't allow these kinds of things" so a teacher snuck me a tampon
I hated tampons for a while because they were feeling uncomfortable, but with time I figured out how deep I have to insert them and which position is the best for that. Never had one with an applicator though, I just wash my hands really carefully before and after with soap and warm water, occasionally using hand sanitizer too (typically when not at home). I never had issues with making sense of the instructions (there are pictures!), I just needed to figure out how to do it best. I got the hang of it after two or three periods though, it's not rocket science.
@@coki3_crumle670why would your school not allow period products brought into the school? Would they search peoples bags or something?
@haylene7521 No, not exactly that. They didn't search our bags for period products lmao-
They never provided them at the school and gave "we don't allow those here" as the reason. It was a public school, but very obviously biasedly Christian. And very homophobic. All the teachers were Christian, and would always shit talk students that weren't Christian
29:54 I wish the U.S was that caught up with society but its not.
If im not mistaken, some states only RECENTLY passed a law in regards to allowing NATURAL hairstyles/types without discrimination. Meaning prior to that law, a person of color may get told they cant have the job/promotion unless they change their hair. Their natural hair.
So we are far away from seeing hair colors and piercings as a right to our own bodies, our employers own our looks.
Its often in the dress code description and if we dont abide by it you'll be fired.
There are industries growing more increasingly accepting of this, healthcare is one of them. But theres still a lot of ridiculous rules
Or even cultural hairstyles, from what I know (nothing cuz I'm white) no matter what people find an excuse to dislike Poc's hair
@@jordynniccole7434 if you don’t like the dress code, don’t work there 🤡
@@flintfoster8010 dudes with long hair get criticized and told to cut it all the time 😂 especially white guys
@@Joe-iq1bu i wish it was that simple but its so many places that are still against fashion colored hair, tattoos and piercings. I have all 3 and i paid for this crap, I'm not taking a minimum wage job to change my appearance. But those are a lot of the jobs that have those codes. Literally even lawyers are starting to be more accepted than a girl with red hair working a burger king.
@@jordynniccole7434 you cannot force a company to hire you
Between "we'll just pretend you're playing cards!", and deciding to get tattoos and piercings and not care what her bosses think, your mom sounds awesome!
I'm sorry people are doing the do in the woods??? Like... on the floor? Outside? In the freaking WOODS?
EXACTLY MY THOUGHTS 💀💀 who tf is having sex in the WOODS!?!!!! How is this being glossed over!?!!
@@smolexfundie6458 the horny guides you
I grew up pretty rural and yeah, that's pretty par for the course (and tbf, not the weirdest spot. Another common hook-up spot was behind the local graveyard). No clue if it was on the ground or against a tree (this is Scotland so I imagine the ground would be pretty damp) as I was chronically single, but yeah, can testify teenagers absolutely do it in the woods
i mean why not
@@adamssmasher idk seems unhygienic, dangerous, cold and uncomfortable to me
but as an ace who hates going outside, I might be biased lmao
I will never understand why they don't teach tampon or pad use use in school.
At my schools they taught it. Every year during that module, we would even get little supply baggies that had teen pads, tampons and deodorant in them. And this was 30 years ago, have they stopped doing that?? I, unfortunately, don't have any children, so I don't know too much about how schools are run now. With the exception of the tutoring I give to my 2 4th grade nephews, I'm clueless, and 4th grade was the first year of sex Ed when I was in school, so I don't know if they're gonna do that this year.
@@katherinepadron0628 Wow that sounds great. I didn't have anything like that in school. I did have 'comprehensive' sex ed in like 12th grade which was way too late for most of the class but more than many schools in the US get.
we had it about 8 years ago, it was sponsored by always tho lol
Had a discussion with my parents over colored hair and piercings recently (both do interviews for where they work). My mother says that she thinks it’s bad to hire people with colorful hair as it means they focus more on their appearance than work, and my dad says if he could he would avoid hiring someone because of colorful hair if he legally could.
I don’t understand. The focus was the only straight answer I got, but you could argue the same for anyone wearing makeup, or hell, even having their hair dyed natural colors, but it doesn’t happen.
too bad for them that things are changing and if you don't hire people with dyed hair, tattoos, or piercings then you're gonna have trouble finding a workforce. We went to the emergency vet a couple times recently and we had the kindest vet I've ever met and she had pink hair, a sleeve, and IIRC nose rings. Nicest vet I've ever met. If they didn't hire her someone else would have and they would have had to hire someone inferior.
@@Zectifin wrong, lmao young men are the most conservative they’ve ever been in modern American history
@@Joe-iq1bu I have plain hair?? It’s it’s natural hair color and kept at shoulder length, lmao
@@amusedchortles the pronouns are a dead giveaway to not employ you
I feel like I got soap in my eye once and theb never opened my eyes in the shower lol just wash you hair with you eyes closed 🤷🏻♀️🤣
i live in iowa in the U.S. and they have a lot of rules at jobs where you can’t have certain piercings, tattoos, or hair colors. Also a lot of the time black people get in trouble for wearing their hair in certain braids and certain styles. (ie. my afro may be considered unprofessional)
smaller cities tend to be a bit more behind the times. I live in Phoenix and everyone has dyed hair, tattoos, and piercings. can't really get away with it here.
@@Zectifin and the crime rate and cost of living is through the roof 😂 congrats, you get to look like a freak
@@Zectifin also why small towns are a lot safer and more kind 🥰
The flower hat person sounds neurodivergent and the gf that left them for wearing it was kinda shitty. Like, your partner wears a cap during a shower, okay? There are shower caps to wear to keep your hair from getting wet, why is this any more weird? People are so judgmental and messed up, I hope their new partner is more understanding and chill about stuff.
It was a hookup.
Shower caps are also different because when you make your hair that wet, it often needs to be washed and styled.
It can take a while to dry depending on hair type as well
i just had my appointment for testosterone and seeing your upload made the day even better!
the flower hat story fucking SENT me bruh why are people weird and judgmental. like yeah it's odd to do as an adult but it's not hurting anyone idk why it would be worth ghosting over
i live in the US and i’m trying to get another jobs and yes places can very much not hire you and require you to not have piercings, tattoos, and unnatural colored hair. only recently did a lot of places allow you to have tattoos visible. AND to make it worse only recently was a law passed that made it so you COULDNT discriminate against natural hairstyles which led to discrimination towards people of color largely bc they have hairstyles that people see as “unprofessional” (which is ridiculous) but the fact that it took so long for this is wild, but as far as piercings, tattoos, and hair colors if they don’t want it there’s nothing stopping them
yeah I remember getting my first jobs in the early 2000s and I had a boss tell me to cut my hair because I was a guy. nobody had any kind of piercings or dyed hair. I ended up getting a job at a place that mostly hired artist types so they allowed all of that, I had removed my piercings by then, but I remember in the 2010s starting to see target employees with visible tattoos and thinking that was some good progress. We've had to make several emergency vet visits and the vet who worked there was the nicest vet I have ever met and she had pink hair, nose piercings, and tattoos. I thought that was awesome.
@@Zectifin yeah i had to stop dying my hair and let it be my natural color again because i wasn’t allowed to have it dyed 😭😭 i currently am looking for another job because i have a bad boss and i don’t like working here, hopefully since more people are open about it i can find a place that will allow that !! i don’t understand why how people choose to express themselves is seen as unprofessional !!
@@arsene_xx you realize a lot of POC employers don’t like your unkept hair either right?
In terms of the porn thing, do people not know that porn stars usually don't use their real names? it's definitely not even the same person
Side note: I did have a prof with a porn stars name and people smiled at it the first day but didn't care after
The tampon one, omfg. 💀 I hate using them, but when I did rarely use them, I'd fervently _read the instructions_ to make sure I knew what I was doing. It literally says on the box/bag to _not_ leave the plastic applicator inside. 😅 I'm glad they found out the truth and how to properly use them, though.
yeah wtf that one made me lose my shit. how tf do you not realize for 10 years?!
@@ferninthehouse Right?? I've got sensory issues, so at one point I would've been so bothered and pissed off the pain that I'd have looked up the instructions/alternatives within the same month. 😵💫
how dare youtube hide this from me for 9 minutes
15:33 That's so awesome you're supportive of straight men who enjoy pegging
I'm not into it but ill always support men who are
Kinda sad that not caring and saying "I don't get it but good for you man" is still an unknown concept to some people :(
I'm Norwegian and absolutely learned how to insert tampons in school, both with and without applicator, even though we generally almost never use applicators in my country
I just found out my name has Links to Paul McCartney's Thrillington Album where he used the pseudonym Percy "Thrills" Thrillington. I love my name even more now.
Forest guy definitely shouldn't have apologized. Now the husband thinks he actually was asking for a date, not a playdate. Imagine the rumors they'll start now
My period horror story: It was only my third period ever. FIRST day of high school. I'm sitting in math class when some mean girls made me aware that I'd bled all over the chair. Math teacher was pissed that I made a mess. And since it was the first day, I didn't even know where the nurses office was. :(
when putting tampons on(in?) the wrong way was mentioned, I didn’t think about the ones with applicators, so I was horrified about the possible wrong ways lol.
(personally find no applicator ones easier to insert).
The way my eyes popped all the way open at the start of the Tampon one GAL NO!
The shower flower guy. Dawn your crown king!
I couldn't figure out tampons without discomfort at 12 so just used pads for 6 years until I gave cups a try and actually read their instructions. Doubt I'll ever try tampons again because cups are so convenient but do kind of regret never learning how they're actually meant to be used 😅
If you wear cups you can definetly put a tampon in right, without applicator
11:46 “aha!!!! I intentionally went look for for my minor son and and his gf, having naughty time in the woods! I caught them and called the called the police!”( you can guess what happened next because this interview was made by the United States penitentiary system, visiting hours are 2 PM to 6 PM) 😂
37:11 also edit on the discrimination laws. Unfortunately, I live in a very conservative area. So although we are legally required to have non-discrimination laws. Conservatives will be conservatives and find a loop that allows them to exploit a system that wasn’t meant for them. You can turn down 10,000 employees because they all come in with piercings and you don’t like piercings. You can have 100 black employees come in And hire absolutely none of them because you don’t like “n word”. You can have an entire white staff that looks like they belong in a cookie cutter neighborhood from the 60s. As long as you don’t tell any of the people you didn’t hire, that the reason you didn’t hire them is because you’re a bigot, you can’t get in trouble for it. You can take somebody to court for speculation. But if they’re a well-behaved narcissist in public no one’s gonna listen to you. The system here has bred a bunch of really good liars. And it’s unfortunate.
Some American states are at-will, which basically removes all protections for non-union employers. As long as you're not terminating someone for a protected reason like racism (and even then, if there's even the faintest veneer of an excuse), you can basically fire anyone, any time.
I just read the instructions my first time using a tampon...the diagrams helped a lot to know how far up it should rest, but it still took a while to figure out the most comfortable angle to insert it at.
herew within first 40 minutes of it being uploaded is insane. I love the content so much you have a unique way of explaining these topics and I appreciate the way you bring foward topics and opinions
Tip If your job is being annoying about a septum piercing:
Tragus piercings are the same size (unless you've started stretching them). You can put a tragus piercing in the place of your septum piercing and you won't be able to notice the piercing at all. It's more comfortable than flipping it up in my experience.
I had the same experience with my first time using a tampon! We had gone to the beach as a family and my period started on the drive over, so my mom slipped me a tampon with exactly no instructions
I was homeschooled, so no school sex-ed classes, and neither sisters or worldly friends to ask, so I was flying blind
I therefore spent the beach day very uncomfortable and only learned my mistake a while later when reading the box lol
29:30 that's actually so true because there are some people that aren't going to have sex so they won't need to know how to put on a condom but someone who gets there period should learn how to use period products
Wake up guys she posted!
how can people fuck up this bad💀
Where I am in Canada, last time i checked, if they hire you with visible bodymods and didn't request you hide them before the hiring then you can't get fired for the exsisting ones. So my advice is actually often to have them showing but like wear small jewlery in piercings.
7:02 could be a mobility thing?? I can def see the uses. In the Black community as kids our parents would wash our hair in the kitchen sink for wash day. I would have KILLED for a flower hat. The amount of shampoo, conditioner and other products I got in my eyes I’m surprised I’m in blind.
idk personally keeping my eyes closed worked just fine even when getting my hair washed in the sink
@@lilacfields I’m glad that worked for you but it doesn’t for everyone. The shower hats would have been useful for someone like me.
@@TheInvisibleGirl24they are sold now! So at least kids can have them, I'm sure you don't need them anymore
@@dutchik5107 some days are easier than others to wash my hair. I may still pick one up for myself and my mom she has shoulder issues so she can’t wash her hair herself sometimes these would make it more comfortable for her and I’d have to hear less of her commentary on my hair washing skills lol
I never wear tampons, when I tried one for the first time when I was 16 cuz I wanted to go swimming my mom saw how I was trying to put it in and was all hunny lower, and I was like what? And that's when I learned where the vagina was located. I never even knew I had that hole down there!!! Wtf xD
in the states you can absolutely just get fired for no reason
The longer this video went on, the more I loved your mum. She sounds absolutely amazing!
The tampon story is why iv always read the instructions on things my whole life, no matter what it is or how simple! I wasn't taught many common things by my parents so I've had many times where I've realised while reading the instructions for things that there was a trick id missed or a better way to do things. It's worth doing imo, it's simple and i find it fun personally
I LOVE how you start every video with the same info in the same exact cadence.
Today. We shall see a collection of confessed fumbles.
Sad the flower crown clock blocked you king. Respect for moving past it.
For the first time, I'm encountering one of these videos where I was around when the stories were posted. Usually they're older.
I like that the TIFU SubReddit exists and my fear is that I’ll enjoy doom scrolling on it lol
2:59 sometimes I wonder in situations like this if the wife was just trying to remind her husband that she is desirable
19:45 OP is my god damn hero
24:30 I remember we were thankfully taught how to use pads and tampons... However, for the longest time, I didn't understand how the uterus sat in the body until I saw a 3D model at the ObGyn
You didn't have that information in your biology book? We basically had a full-scale torso with removable organs and other stuff (like the kind you see in doctor's offices sometimes) in our biology classrooms all the time so that when the teacher was talking about a body part he could show them where they were.
(Which was useful because there was a misprint in a batch of biology books where a couple of drawings were missing or in the wrong order, which made it completely non-sensible :D )
My public school sex Ed class in the southeastern US (early to mid 2000s) consisted of older teens telling us what a mistake having pre-marital sex was and watching a documentary about how a teen girl got pregnant with twins and fell out her window at 8 months pregnant because she was sneaking out to see her boyfriend…..
I don’t know why 14:30 hit me the way it did but I can’t tell you how long it’s been since I cackled so loud I scared the cats !😂😂😂
24:50 I grew up in a very conservative, rural town in the US. Our only sex ed was learning about periods (they separated boys and girls) and STDs. But, I'm pretty sure they taught us how to use tampons when we were around 11-12 years old.
about image in careers:
i work as a daycare teacher (usa), and my experience is that its honestly more lax than i expected. visible tattoos, dyed hair, facial piercings, are all pretty common. and i live in a pretty conservative area. i think that its more strict in actual schools, probably because you are meant to be more "professional". it also definitely varies depending on the daycare, for example my last daycare had me flip up my septum piercing and we had required tshirts with the schools name, and my current daycare has no standardised dress code (besides common things like length of shorts and appropriate clothing)
Some states have at will employment and in those states you can fire someone without cause, however if you do not list a cause they can just get unemployment.
not your mom pretended yall were playing cards im DEADD
Im autistic and in the UK. By law discrimination isnt allowed. But they will still do it. I got told i either fail probation with no reference or resign and the reasons were 'performance issues'. These issues were that I made some fixable errors due to being autistic, and i spent time on the toilet due to chronic severe stomach problems. It was also 1 week after o disclosed my autism diagnosis. Discrimination? Obviously. But I was so burned out and due to my communication difficulties and immense social anxiety, i couldn't challenge it. This was also after talking to HR.
@@amziedragon6619 why tf would any one want to hire you?
@@amziedragon6619 and of course you whined to HR, there’s a reason your kind doesn’t get hired 😂
Imagine if the guy who got caught had actually hurt himself falling out of the bed and the girlfriend left. Head injuries are no joke I can imagine how easily that could have gone way worse.
14:34
To be honest, I probably wouldn't have the nerve to suggest it, except maybe in the dark. I guess that's kind of pathetic. This might be due to the fundamentalist environment in which I grew up.
Tampons confused when I was younger. My mom totally failed to mention to me that vaginas are a hole! I had my period at 9 and didn’t find this out until 12 from google. My mom gave me my first tampon and kept yelling at me from outside the door to put it in. I was like in where?? 😂
in regards to the tampon story, i am forever grateful my stepmom was too lazy to explain it and just printed out an article with pictures. saved us both the awkward experience of talking about it and taught me how to use them properly.
my sex-ed talk in fifth grade was actually pretty nice tho, they separated us by gender and made us watch a video about periods and then passed out little “goodie” bags. i definitely can’t remember everything that was in it but i remember there was some candy, individual midol packs and a good handful of pads, tampons and panty liners. saved my butt (and my pants) when my period came because my stepmom had not had her period in years and they were the only menstrual products in the house.
22:31 girl, nooooooo 😭😭😭 they come with directions.... Im destroyed.
love the colors around your eyes !
38:39 in the states it's legal to deny you for hair, clothes, tattoos, and piercings
always love her earrings
I don't think we even have plastic applicators for tampons in Germany. I don't use them, but I have seen them in multiple households and here we just have the fluffy Part.
39:06, there are discrimination laws, but it's on the fired employee to prove that the reasoning was discriminatory
the flower hat story is soooo hysterical
Having a fully fledged opinion on something you know nothing about is simply the American way (gonna assume the couple from the pegging story is American, based on nothing).
@@alanlebkuecher9434 you realize this applies to you far more than anyone else right?
35:00 gasp! The plushies!
The only place where I'd get the "no rainbow dyed hair" thing would be funeral homes and such. While I personally would have no problem with it, because I personally see funerals more as honoring/remembering their life than mourning their passing, it's generally not the best idea to be overly colorful in a space where people are grieving - unless the family/deceased want a colorful funeral.
omg thr tampon one is so real I never tried tampons and my classmates would shame me for that a lot because I wouldn't go swimming on my period couldn't borrow tampons if I forgt my pads, and wouldn't lend tampons to other people. And that's partly because I have sensory issueas and I don't think that would even be comfortable for me, but also because I don't think I would even know how to apply it. Noone ever taught me, and it also amuses me how the girls in my class were so quick to bully me fr not wearing a tampon, but got suddenly emberressed and didn't want to talk about it if I asked them how to even use them
The first time I ever used a tampon, it was one of those with a cardboard applicator. I had no idea it was supposed to come off so I just let it go like that. It was so uncomfortable and when I tried to get it out, it hurt. BAD. I thought I was going to have to call my mom for help.
Doing that for 10 years? Excruciating, even if it was a smoother plastic applicator
i assume she thought pegging was something else entirely and that's why she called it gross, i have plenty of situations where i forget what certain sex terms are and have to be constantly checking again to make sure i'm not fucking up. then again, she could have googled it, but sometimes hindsight is 20/20 and so
To kind of answer about the whole thing regarding tattoos and piercings and whatnot, I've heard of a number of people with those things being denied, but they give a generic reason of something like "we chose a different candidate" or whatever. They're not gonna come out and say that your tattoos and piercings, skin color, orientation, religion, any of that is the reason why you are denied from a job, they will find basically any other excuse not to hire you
The woods one pisses me off. I hate when parents force their teenage kids to go and hide and have unsafe sex. I remember trying to do it with my ex in my van or her car and we'd parked behind closed stores in the back alley outside of the cameras and some dude turned on his back lights and came with a flashlight over the top of the fence and forced us to leave. Like leave us alone dude nobody is breaking into your house what the fuck.
In the US! Recently just got fired for no reason at all after 2 years tenure and with no warnings or reason to believe I'd be fired. Now I'm in financial instability! The US is amazing 🙃
Wolf Chan in the dinosaur outfit is so cute
wait yeah i never learned how to use a tampon in sex ed either, i learned on my own. i can’t believe that poor girl thought tampons were supposed to feel like that for so long omg. this actually should be addressed like i never even thought about it.
How is he getting soap in his eyes??? I do t think ive done this even once in my 13 years as an adult. Maybe longer. Seems like a skill issue.
they might not be able to fire people bc of that but they can bully them into quitting
Your laugh is contagious 😊