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  • @honeyskin444
    @honeyskin444 8 месяцев назад +125

    just blocked a man last night 🌚 didn’t mention his child on his dating profile, found out he has a whole 2 year old son. NOPE, i’m good buddy.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +54

      Stay off them dating sites it’s filled of clowns😂

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +17

      Yea a lot of men be lying. Or try to be sneaky. He wrong for that lol 😂

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +12

      ​@TeraChantelle Yes these dating websites are very risky and dangerous.

    • @tashahall1855
      @tashahall1855 7 месяцев назад +21

      With a child that young, he's more than likely still dealing with the mother. No maam , no sir

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@tashahall1855 lol 😆 I agree 👍🏼

  • @Heyguysitsme554
    @Heyguysitsme554 7 месяцев назад +92

    If he doesn’t take care of his own kids, what makes you think he will take care of you. Its common sense. Wish more women understood this.

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +9

      100%

    • @belovettemuse
      @belovettemuse 7 месяцев назад +2

      I don’t know why some women connect or equate baby🟰 love from a man or family.

    • @Heyguysitsme554
      @Heyguysitsme554 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@belovettemuse it appears most women were sold lies. Their children will suffer because of it. I wish things were different.

    • @queeniequeen949
      @queeniequeen949 7 месяцев назад +1

      All of this. ALL OF IT!!!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @coconutwater4531
    @coconutwater4531 7 месяцев назад +83

    If you date a father, you agree to be the last priority in your own relationship.

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +13

      Facts!!!😅

    • @JazzDimpless
      @JazzDimpless 7 месяцев назад +12

      100% facts

    • @asiadp
      @asiadp 7 месяцев назад +4

      🎯

    • @SweetSkies478
      @SweetSkies478 5 месяцев назад +4

      It only works if both people have kids

    • @legallycurvy
      @legallycurvy 3 месяца назад

      I dae a father and im HIS first piority. thats his decision I have to worry about me. I made it this far without children other women should've

  • @TM-nb9zf
    @TM-nb9zf 7 месяцев назад +61

    I had a guy on a dating app tell me "he had a son, but he didnt really take care of him... So it was kinda like it didnt have kids"
    He said this in response of me saying i didnt date men with kids.
    It was so bad, i immediately gelt bad for the child.
    I was like sir, this is LITERALLY WORSE. go be a dad and get out my FACE😂

    • @JazzDimpless
      @JazzDimpless 7 месяцев назад +13

      Had that happen before I was like why would you think I find that attractive but most men just lie to me about they kids because I make it clear I don’t deal with men with children I think it’s disgusting.

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад

      Good. Ive told men on dating apps its a no go because they were a baby daddy. Have all the other desperados dste their degeneracy. Not me.

    • @XYtrumpsXX
      @XYtrumpsXX 7 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah... throwing his kid under the bus to chase some 304 is pretty simpish, if I do say so

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@XYtrumpsXX any man who is on a dating app is not a respectable man himself.

    • @Gemineye444
      @Gemineye444 6 месяцев назад

      I- 😱 I stared at this comment for a good 2 mins straight.
      Idk why I’m still surprised with the mess we hear from this dating pool lol

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 8 месяцев назад +80

    I haven’t had a boyfriend all 2023. No wonder this year has been such a great year!

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +16

      It’s a beautiful year😂❤️

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +3

      😂😂😂 I am single for the first time and a long time. And at first it was hard getting use to being alone. But the more God isolates me the more I am learning more about myself. And I see I deserve a lot better in life. I have learned in order for me to meet and be with an amazing man. I have to become an amazing woman.

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +4

      Keep it up sis 👏🏼 you got this.❤

    • @jjones0822
      @jjones0822 7 месяцев назад +3

      Y'all in here consoling each other 😅

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@jjones0822 lol 😆 😂 we got to that's what it's all about.

  • @Myraisins1
    @Myraisins1 8 месяцев назад +88

    Not only the baby daddies, the other single childless men as well. I often hear child less men parody the same talking points about single mothers. I agree with them and then ask them why not also hold the men accountable. They love to boast that it's not them. Then I pin point the various men in their lives (it's not hard to find) and ask them specific questions. "How many women does your friend XY plan on knocking up? Did you ever talk to him about that?" "Why does your cousin XY not marry his baby mamma?" I have asked my own male family members these questions. They often go silent. These men don't bring those talking points around me anymore.

    • @Kyle_Bu
      @Kyle_Bu 7 месяцев назад

      I hold them accountable. But both groups are bums. Bum men who are irresponsible, and bum women who pick wrong.
      Usually these dudes have multiple baby mommas as the CDC statistics point out: in each race, men tend to be childless or have fewer children than women.
      So, I can separate childless responsible women and men who are also childless and responsible.
      But, a bum man doesn't excuse a woman's poor pick. 🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @Jamaljj
      @Jamaljj 7 месяцев назад

      Cause these men dont care about whoever they knocked up in the first place. All they care about is getting their rocks off nothing more. You cant expect a man to care about your womb more than yourself. Also most men have 0 say if they baby is born or if it gets aborted. Also I say this a child free man I'm no hypocrite.

    • @dredey1971
      @dredey1971 7 месяцев назад +1

      They are not men. The hallmark of a man is him taking responsibility and accountability. And holding those in his circle to the same standard. You have grown boys you are dealing with. Spread the word.

    • @thecollector6746
      @thecollector6746 7 месяцев назад

      What int he entire fsck are you talking about ? Where are you chemically imbalance birds getting this bullsh1t from ? Since when have "Baby Daddies" been "unaccountable" ? Never mind the fact that the Family Welfare system is demonstrably biased against boys and men....never mind the fact that Black Fathers are by far the most present and involved fathers out of EVERY demographic ?

  • @MUde-ph7gr
    @MUde-ph7gr 7 месяцев назад +98

    Child free here. This woman is speaking facts. Men go out and do what they please while the woman is trapped. Call me selfish if you want. None of them will help me raise the child if I had one.

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +16

      She also sounds ignorant as hell saying that she didn't have a choice while I hear women scream all the time. My body, my choice and you could have prevented this by demanding a marriage before a baby. Because if he doesn't even see you as a wife. What makes you think he's gonna commit to you for a long time ,in the relationship regardless of whether you want to get married or not, none of these women ever ask that question because they know they're dating a loser.😅

    • @propainaccessories
      @propainaccessories 7 месяцев назад +15

      @@monejohn9973 it's kinda two fold. We can bring back shame and pressure these men to marry their baby mamas. Stop running in to save them. If all they see is women with other men's kids as their only dating option, that kinda leaves them to go back to their failed family and work it out. Make better choices with who they leave their seed with. But young childless women have rewarded them, becoming baby mama 2 and 3 making it impossible for him to fix his problems. Stop rewarding men for making broken families. Now ex husbands can be a different story but if you are single and childless, you get to make the best option for yourself.

    • @hellothere8347
      @hellothere8347 7 месяцев назад +2

      thats the reality of it. I see it with everybody around me not to put anybody down because thats not what im trying to do and I was playing that sex age with my ex until I realize I really got things to lose now and I don't want to keep hurting God. these guys are not going to help you raise that child they gone knock you up and move on to the next and run the same game. its wack too me like they be so lame to me now.

    • @blasiankiki7831
      @blasiankiki7831 7 месяцев назад +19

      No good men are active (not help) in their kids life. My husband has been FULLY active in our children’s life since day one. When I was single and childless I would NOT date men with children. I still think childless women should NOT date baby daddies. Let him work it out with his BM or find another woman with kids but he should not be in a childfree relationship after fathering a child…

    • @MUde-ph7gr
      @MUde-ph7gr 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@blasiankiki7831 I completely agree with this

  • @shewhowrites101
    @shewhowrites101 8 месяцев назад +71

    Yes! Use their track records as resumes (unless they hit a genuine 180). Employers have no problem weaving thru lacklustered Candidates. Have the same energy as those cut-throat Casting Directors when someone doesn’t qualify. They’re cut w/o questions asked and escorted out Stage Left.

    • @thepragmatist
      @thepragmatist 8 месяцев назад +8

      Great comment.

    • @VeeKayGreenerGrass
      @VeeKayGreenerGrass 7 месяцев назад +8

      👏🏾

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +1

      😅 In order to be this smart, you first gotta have wisdom standards and morals which most of these people don't😅 Think about it this way, people can go to work and keep their hands to their self. Most of the time, but these same people come home beat their kids beat their spouse. Curse out their friends and family. But they will act correct for a dollar,basically ppls Humanity and priorities. are fuc😊ed up.

  • @courtneysmith3497
    @courtneysmith3497 7 месяцев назад +30

    This is beautifully stated. I hope this goes viral. I tell childless women to avoid men with kids all the time. Last month I heard a dude with a son say that he dont date single mothers. The audicity! I had to ask him again to make sure that i heard him right. Then another guy with children came and cosign. The funny thing is, i didn't argue or call him out because, unfortunately, he's going to find a childless woman willing to play stepmom smh! Women start turning them down! Believe me, its men out here with no children. Go be with them.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +6

      I appreciate you so much sis🥹🥹🦋

    • @courtneysmith3497
      @courtneysmith3497 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@TeraChantelle you're welcome💗.

    • @ezzylopez7286
      @ezzylopez7286 7 месяцев назад +11

      These men get so offended when I tell them I agree with their choice and also refuse to have anything to do with men who have kids. Their mouths drop and they look like I just insulted their mothers. Start talking about how awful it is that I'm not giving good men a chance

    • @courtneysmith3497
      @courtneysmith3497 7 месяцев назад +11

      @@ezzylopez7286 I bet they do. I feel like they get so offended because they're not being held accountable enough. They're not being told that enough. I'm telling more women need to send them on their way.

    • @dinkyboss
      @dinkyboss 7 месяцев назад +6

      Exactly! I’m so happy women are getting it together and learning to stay on code. I’m childfree and I’ll be damned if I date a baby daddy ❤

  • @Jacobytru
    @Jacobytru 7 месяцев назад +21

    I am a male and I enjoy watching childless free living because I made up
    My mind a long time ago that I will not have children maybe till I’m married and financially capable. If I don’t have children then I’m ok with that. Men that don’t take care of their children is Low. Just irresponsible behavior and not acceptable and the children will suffer especially in a low income household. I refuse! I want to get my education and travel!

  • @Tariq1058
    @Tariq1058 8 месяцев назад +60

    It's the fact that they never cared sbout whoever they knocked up in the first place. All they care about is getting their rocks off nothing more unfortunately. I respect and honor you.

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 7 месяцев назад

      Typical Patriarchal Order/male mindset/male behavior... male offspring are programmed/trained to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators.

  • @reallifetopicsrevealed7295
    @reallifetopicsrevealed7295 7 месяцев назад +9

    *Some of these males will talk about single moms when THEY are the ones making these single moms. You deserve better ladies. Protect your womb.*

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 8 месяцев назад +20

    I love you because me and you got the same thought process! Men tend to talk about single mom but I do not like baby daddies. I get disgusted because why are you not taking care of your home.

  • @gianelogan9841
    @gianelogan9841 7 месяцев назад +22

    If you not on birth control and wrapped up every time and unmarried… this can be you. Yes they are dead beats but you have to protect you. A relationship is not a marriage. If you tell them no kids until marriage you will see most move on. And that’s okay because they wasn’t planning on staying anyway. Single and child free until married and even marriage is not a promised of a committed man. Lil Sis please stay safe out here. ❤

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +4

      They slip condoms off 2! Thank God I got my period! It's so terrible that in a lot of states in America it's illegal and you can press charges to a guy. Taking off a condom.

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@monejohn9973 I don't even have sex until I've ovulated. so even if the condom slip there's no egg up there for sperm to do anything.

    • @broco6608
      @broco6608 7 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@angelika87 Too bad STD's don't care about ovulation.

  • @NorthMountainFairy
    @NorthMountainFairy 7 месяцев назад +24

    I’ve chosen to be child free all my life, but that was the best choice for me and to disrespect someone for choosing a different path is unfathomable.
    As women we must uplift each other, and she is absolutely right that men must be held accountable, not just for the children they help create, but for the terrible things so many of them do.
    Society has given them a free pass on so much for so long and that sh*t is ending.

  • @mayapapaya77
    @mayapapaya77 8 месяцев назад +37

    Tera, i wish i was as mature as you are when i was your age. I love young girls are taking control of their lives and not making men or anyone a priority and not letting your hormones control you.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +3

      Appreciate you so much❤️

    • @thecollector6746
      @thecollector6746 7 месяцев назад

      Tell us more how you celebrate female mediocrity and blame men for your poor decision making skills.

  • @MySunshine234
    @MySunshine234 8 месяцев назад +22

    It seems like everyone is a baby daddy these days that’s why I have closed down shop and I’m running from them and I don’t want soul ties

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 7 месяцев назад +3

      It's the programming...it starts very early... male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators... it's learned/taught behavior.

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +1

      Get out of the black community. It is very different.

    • @Impossibly_gorgeous
      @Impossibly_gorgeous 7 месяцев назад +3

      Change your circles. I'm surrounded by men without kids.

    • @ZoraDelaney
      @ZoraDelaney 5 месяцев назад +2

      Expand your dating pool to include non-black men.....

  • @weekendnomad5038
    @weekendnomad5038 7 месяцев назад +12

    You’re a good woman. My friend did this and guess where she ended up!? In the same spot as the first baby momma 😭😭😭

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 7 месяцев назад

      Male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break.

  • @beigenegress2979
    @beigenegress2979 8 месяцев назад +61

    I stopped carrying on over men out in public with their kids w/o the wife or kids mom present.
    I am post menopausal and cf. haven’t dated in decades. If I decide to date again, men who are old enough to date me, most likely have adult children and grandchildren. Here is MY accountability for baby daddies: I will not entertain or date ANY man who was not married to the mother of their children’s mother! Me. Whom I will consider dating need to be single via divorce or a through being widowed bec their legal (not common law) wife has died.
    I am not allowing this degeneracy in my life, no matter how many decades ago his child was born or how “young” he was!
    Other than keeping males like this out of my life, I’m leaving the baby daddies to the baby mamas! Not my business as a cf woman!

    • @blasiankiki7831
      @blasiankiki7831 7 месяцев назад +4

      One thing that has happened to me since my first child is me, my husband, and our kid(s) would be in public and people would CONSTANTLY approach us and tell him “Good job young man, you keep doing what your doing and taking care of your family” and I get why they did it but on the other hand I was like is it that bad out there? He was basically getting constant praise from strangers for doing what he is supposed to do. Many times they would barely acknowledge me as if it’s just understood women take care of their responsibilities. I have walked away to go get something (napkins, ketchup) and come back to random women sitting at the table or talking oozing to my husband about how cute his kids are and how they’re such a cute family… it was cute at first but over the years it was sad that it seemed so rare… though it’s way less they still do it.. lol my daughters are 10 and 13.

    • @beigenegress2979
      @beigenegress2979 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@blasiankiki7831 If your husband is blk, the bar is so low for them that just having a job, apartment, no rap sheet makes it seem like they a “big” shot.
      When I used to catch the bus to work, I used to make a fuss over this raggedy dreadlock guy, sagging pants 👖 with his two year old to drop her off at daycare. 😳

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@blasiankiki7831 yes. It is.

  • @queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757
    @queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757 8 месяцев назад +20

    I hold baby daddy accountable too. & before i had a child who is a older teen now, i held them accountable too. & NOW I DEFINITELY HOLD BABY DADDIES ACCOUNTABILITY NOW THAT I SEE MAJORITY OF BM PURPOSELY TRY TO GET OUT OF RESPONSIBILITY & WORK.

  • @dee_believes
    @dee_believes 7 месяцев назад +11

    Absolutely looovvee this! . I never understood why women get into relationships with men that don’t even get their kids at least 50% of the time. And don’t take care of their kids well.

  • @queeniequeen949
    @queeniequeen949 7 месяцев назад +8

    THIS type of content is the daily dose of birth control that I need. Thank you Tera. You are a goddess!!!!!! 🥰🙌🏾💯

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +2

      Appreciate you so much love❤️❤️🥹

  • @terry-annfrancis1252
    @terry-annfrancis1252 8 месяцев назад +22

    Speak on it sis. I agree with you 100%

  • @TheLoveExperience
    @TheLoveExperience 8 месяцев назад +13

    Big facts....You have to learn the right questions to ask in the very beginning as in the day they ask for your number to avoid these deadbeat baby daddies.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  8 месяцев назад +4

      I run so fasssst💀

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 5 месяцев назад +1

      asking questions is ok when they can just lie. I'm all about being quiet and let them tell on their self.

  • @thepragmatist
    @thepragmatist 8 месяцев назад +18

    Hi Tera, Thank you for this video. You are absolutely correct with what you are saying. A man's past will predict his future. It's unfortunate, but people rarely change and the patterns become more ingrained as they become older. I always thought that if a man met a special woman, it would be enough to change him. Ninety-nine percent of the time, that is not the case. Change is internal. Most men will simply jump to another woman if they don't get what they want from you. They won't up their standards. This is something I learned to accept and I realized it has absolutely nothing to do with me. Keep making great videos!

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you! Happy new year❤️

  • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
    @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +7

    For you too be so young, beautiful and woke. It's a blessing 🙌🏼 to witness. God bless you. You are breaking generational curses.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +3

      Thank youuu 🥹❤️

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад

      @@TeraChantelle You're welcome. Thank you for making this video

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@TeraChantelle I have two deat beats ans when my first one had kids with his second baby mama he would see his first born son with me barely one time a year. And his second baby mama didn't care. But once he did it to her it was the end of the world.
      And his married to someone else after his second baby mom. He still barely sees are son and he's 17 years old now. But what can I do. I just have ti pray.
      I would date a man with kids but he has to be active in his kids lives. But I honestly prefer a man without kids.

  • @amandamsomi8447
    @amandamsomi8447 7 месяцев назад +4

    I also send baby daddy’s back to the family they created .😌

  • @user-sp3sy5zi8i
    @user-sp3sy5zi8i 7 месяцев назад +2

    The sense of entitlement of these men is next level…truly shocking. Will never put myself through that again.

  • @serenelyfe5
    @serenelyfe5 8 месяцев назад +16

    Just purchased your book! I can’t wait to read it 😊!

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  8 месяцев назад +5

      I appreciate you so much! Please review it. I would loved to hear feedback🥹❤️

  • @Impossibly_gorgeous
    @Impossibly_gorgeous 7 месяцев назад +6

    The only way to hold a baby daddy accountable is stigmatise them for their baby daddy status. Refuse to date them. Other than that, you can't make him do anything

  • @jenniferariza6997
    @jenniferariza6997 8 месяцев назад +8

    I've never felt a message more!

  • @missxmarvel
    @missxmarvel 7 месяцев назад +11

    Childfree women owe mothers nothing. Go and make better decisions when it comes to choosing a man, in most cases you choose black men, no job, no life goals or anything.
    Mothers should hold the baby daddy and other mothers accountable.
    Leave the childfree woman alone.

    • @_Ridethemaverick
      @_Ridethemaverick 7 месяцев назад

      So basically, you’re okay dating a deadbeat father because you don’t owe a woman who is a mother anything? You’re probably the type to come between a child and parent or believes everything a man says. Dust comes in male and female.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +2

      😂💯

    • @ChocolateBabe_
      @ChocolateBabe_ 7 месяцев назад +8

      Child free woman here... I’m not holding these men accountable. I’m not dating one either. Thee SECOND I realize you got a child some where, I’m leaving with no conversation or warning🤷🏿‍♀️.

    • @missxmarvel
      @missxmarvel 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@ChocolateBabe_ True. Baby daddies are a cold leftover dish another woman ate from. Only a desperate loser would want that.

  • @diamonefowler2948
    @diamonefowler2948 7 месяцев назад +3

    She said what she said....

  • @Billy33753
    @Billy33753 8 месяцев назад +8

    Can’t agree more! Happy new year

  • @lashimba
    @lashimba 8 месяцев назад +9

    Tell them again! ❤️

  • @lajetteholland2905
    @lajetteholland2905 7 месяцев назад +8

    Agreed..... nothing but trouble if your childless please don't date baby daddys

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +3

      💯💯💯

    • @leyland2725
      @leyland2725 7 месяцев назад

      Lols you can't fight biology . Baby daddies always get women

  • @angelika87
    @angelika87 7 месяцев назад +13

    i hold baby dads accountable by...not dating men with baby mommas. if i date a man with children he is either divorced OR if he has a baby mom it's ony ONE child who is MUCH older than 30. i couldnt stomach dating a man with one or more young children who is not with the mother seriously.

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +7

      I dont none. Divorced yes. They are just completely irresponsible to me, and i dont trust them. I 100% doubt they could be good to me.

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 7 месяцев назад

      @@LisaSoulLevelHealing you'll be the next babymoms...thats all you'll be

  • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
    @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +3

    I respect you sis for your opinion, choice, and decision. To not date a man with a baby mama. I completely understand and agree.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you so much ❤️

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад

      @@TeraChantelle You're welcome. Much love ❤️

    • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
      @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад

      @@TeraChantelle You are one of the few You Tubers I ever seen say thank you to your subscribers. I respect that.
      That's how you gain more subscribers by engaging with your subs and showing love and appreciation.
      That is very great customer service skills..I just wanted to let you know that. GOD BLESS 🙌🏼 YOU I HOPE AND PRAY YOUR CHANNEL KEEPS ON RISING.

  • @Emptytopfloor
    @Emptytopfloor 7 месяцев назад +8

    Haven’t finished the video yet, ladies please stop taking in another woman’s reject. It includes single fathers + divorced men. If another woman couldn’t make it work with him, what makes you think you can? No matter what he says, always assume it was his fault. Cheers 🥂

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +3

      You left no breadcrumbs 😮‍💨

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +1

      Divorced men and women now? Why? The behavior of aomeone divorced is much different? There is no nuance in that statement. And most dont have negative things to say about divorced men.
      But yeah, if childfree women dont want ro date divorced NOR baby daddies, make sure they arent over the age of 40. I date mosrly white men, american european, and the ones im dating in my 40s have been married - its part of their culture to get married.

    • @Emptytopfloor
      @Emptytopfloor 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@LisaSoulLevelHealing if I am unmarried, why should I entertain a divorced man?

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад

      @Emptytopfloor I mean. Why would you not? Men who are baby daddies- those are legitimate reasons..they shown they create broken homes.
      Someone divorced with kids show they attempted and tried to do it the functional way, but it didn't work out and better for the 2 adults to part ways and still coparent. What's the issues with that?
      But yes, if that's your standard, sure. I was curious what was wrong with it in your opinion

    • @Emptytopfloor
      @Emptytopfloor 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@LisaSoulLevelHealing
      The issue is that the bar is in hell for men. It’s unfortunate and shameful to accept that women are the reason for such low bar. Because women keep accepting low effort, low standard men. Now men think they don’t have to do any better.
      Do you know how many divorces happen due mens infidelity? Ever since no fault divorce came in there’s no accurate estimate on that because few want to actively dig up dirt. But we do know that 80% of divorces are filed by women. If women are filing then who’s doing the cheating you think? BTW, Ashley Madison is still up and running because (married) men are keeping it profitable. When you ask a divorced man, you think he’ll ever accept his role in to the divorce? From what I know about men, I think not.
      Going into 2024, I wish women would stop accepting below bare minimum low effort guys.

  • @dredey1971
    @dredey1971 7 месяцев назад +2

    I like this. I dont see the same energy for women, but it doesn't matter. Anything to get women to stop dealing with lesser males amongst us and becoming the 3rd or 4th BM.

  • @Happy-ey6yu
    @Happy-ey6yu 7 месяцев назад +4

    At this point, before you even get pregnant, just assume you're going to be left a single mother whether he's a "good" man or not. And if you take that risk and are okay with possibly being left a single mother one day than that's on you. I just assume every man will be a deadbeat and steer clear of them all. They hate being fathers and their actions show that.

  • @monkpool
    @monkpool 7 месяцев назад +3

    Damn. People really suck at committing to relationships and parenthood these days 🤦‍♂️

  • @dinkyboss
    @dinkyboss 7 месяцев назад +3

    You ate with this video! I agree with ever word. ❤

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +2

      Appreciate you so much ❤️

  • @MoorishBrooklyn
    @MoorishBrooklyn 8 месяцев назад +3

    2:48 Lol! I felt that word "fast" in my soul and core when she said it.

  • @LadyJay882
    @LadyJay882 7 месяцев назад +3

    Both baby mamas and daddy’s need to be accountable. Baby Mama, you had control over who you slept with outside of a permanent commitment (ie marriage). THAT is on you. Him being a bumb is on him and I agree. Everyone he meets thereafter should stay away unless he’s proven that he’s handling his biz.

  • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
    @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for this video... I said that people love bashing a single mother that is doing the best for her children. And these men have no problem knocking us up.. But when the baby comes they are M.I. A. Smh.

  • @shylapollard5165
    @shylapollard5165 7 месяцев назад +8

    I dont date guys with kids. No thank you.

  • @VeeKayGreenerGrass
    @VeeKayGreenerGrass 7 месяцев назад +12

    👏🏾👍🏾 Get interested in a man's past. The results of his past actions reflect his thoughts about himself, others and the world. We manifest the world we live in through our emotions.
    * Was he married to the mother of his children?
    * Was he caring for those children, more so without having to be taken back and forth to court for child support? To what extent?
    * His relationship with the child(ren) and what he says about the mother.
    * Are his friends married or once married to the mothers of their child(ren)? If not, are they cordial and handling their responsibility without repeat court intervention?

    • @user-qu2gp8mw9u
      @user-qu2gp8mw9u 7 месяцев назад +2

      Just 🛑 seeking out "relationships" with males. It's the safest and best option. Choose yourself!😊

    • @VeeKayGreenerGrass
      @VeeKayGreenerGrass 7 месяцев назад

      @@user-qu2gp8mw9u there's that too 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @hudsonhamilton5443
    @hudsonhamilton5443 7 месяцев назад +1

    She is so right, men have to start being responsible.

  • @misguidedpearls7456
    @misguidedpearls7456 7 месяцев назад +3

    I refused to date baby daddies most of my life...
    Actually never so far....
    Worked great....
    None of that stress😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
    I wasn't for the play play...
    Sorry

  • @churchsbiscuits
    @churchsbiscuits 7 месяцев назад +5

    Child free women shouldn’t date baby daddies.

  • @mirandaholland773
    @mirandaholland773 7 месяцев назад +1

    Gotta agree with you there 💯

  • @vanessad.2625
    @vanessad.2625 7 месяцев назад +3

    There was a guy I liked and the moment I learned he was a baby daddy, I was like, hell no. There is a pattern, my husband will only be a father to my children that we will have.

  • @Mk-un3mp
    @Mk-un3mp 7 месяцев назад +1

    Priscilla clark

  • @angelbeauty8
    @angelbeauty8 7 месяцев назад +6

    Most people that have children and aren't together with their created family have trauma emotional and serious psychological damage.
    And most of them just move from person to person while dragging their unresolved traumatic situations with them.
    I do love a man, I never felt this way about anyone. I could rest completely in my feminine energy.
    But he has a very young child. He's married and is separating. Works very hard. But drinks and potential drug use as his way of coping.
    I was not intimate just had a good time with him. I miss him a lot but I broke contact.

    • @Akane1313
      @Akane1313 7 месяцев назад +2

      That’s good. You definitely would have eventually felt the weight of those problems and become the person he would later feel comfortable showing his worst sides to. Something it’s likely his current wife and child have already had to experience living with him. Addiction is a serious thing.

    • @_Ridethemaverick
      @_Ridethemaverick 7 месяцев назад +2

      You need to go figure out why you were willing to get involved with a married man at all. Separated=still married.

  • @breonaharrison732
    @breonaharrison732 7 месяцев назад

    Girl that is why I said “ I’ll pay his support”

  • @jjones0822
    @jjones0822 7 месяцев назад +4

    If only y'all could stick to it. You always fold for the right one, throw out the whole movement for a vibe

  • @user-ee3ij6tb9j
    @user-ee3ij6tb9j 7 месяцев назад

    Yep.. we alow it. And we will also stop it‼️‼️‼️

  • @AWholeVibe96
    @AWholeVibe96 8 месяцев назад +7

    Okay. I need to be educated on something. I thought celibacy meant you don’t date at all anyway?
    I’m still new to this concept and don’t understand the purpose of dating if most men want kids, sex, and to be under us all the time 😭.
    Pleaseee do a video on this.

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  8 месяцев назад +12

      Ahhh! I stop dating this year & it was honestly the best decision I made for myself😂

    • @bdott1538
      @bdott1538 8 месяцев назад +2

      To be celibate is to abstain from marriage and sex for religious reasons.
      You can still date and be celibate.

    • @AWholeVibe96
      @AWholeVibe96 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@bdott1538 I was asking for her journey specifically.
      She never mentions anything about her decision being related to religion. But thanks for sharing.

    • @bdott1538
      @bdott1538 8 месяцев назад

      @@AWholeVibe96 understood, I was bringing out the definition in case anyone else had the same question.

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +2

      Celebracy means you don't have sex. I mean it's not that hard to Google it.😅

  • @rochellethundercloud346
    @rochellethundercloud346 7 месяцев назад

    You can't control how others act,this is true,but,you can, however, control how you choose to react.
    If you deal with a dusty,a no count fool,a for the streets dude,a straight up bum,you have control over if you choose to lay down with them,absorb that negative energy,be with them.
    You can control you.

  • @SevenofEleven
    @SevenofEleven Месяц назад

    Yay

  • @weekendnomad5038
    @weekendnomad5038 7 месяцев назад

    This chip of a diamond would cost $60 with the gold I hope it’s not fake!!!

  • @wl6279
    @wl6279 7 месяцев назад +1

    Women should be held accountable when they have your child and the dna says otherwise.
    Unless she tells you before hand that it could be somebody else’s. Most do not.

    • @dorianneutral1787
      @dorianneutral1787 7 месяцев назад +2

      Your statement doesn't make sense. You need to Proofread.

    • @wl6279
      @wl6279 7 месяцев назад

      @@dorianneutral1787 apparently your comprehension level is low, take your time and read it
      fool.

  • @T_Cup
    @T_Cup 7 месяцев назад +3

    While I absolutely agree that CF women should cut off male parents' access to them if they don't show any love or responsibility for their kids, I also don't want to do any unpaid labor. Can't CF men or other male parents carry some of the responsibility of keeping men in line, so that it's not always the job of women to fix what men break?

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 7 месяцев назад

      Can't be done... Patriarchal Order/male mindset/male behavior aka the Brotherhood aka male bonding... male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators... the programming is extremely difficult to break.

    • @adamschaefer881
      @adamschaefer881 7 месяцев назад +2

      Do you support a 50/50 standard for custody rights then?

    • @T_Cup
      @T_Cup 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@adamschaefer881 Of course, if that's what works for both parents. I don't think any parent should have more custody than another unless it's disruptive to the kids

  • @JazzDimpless
    @JazzDimpless 7 месяцев назад +1

    YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

  • @ChildfreeLT
    @ChildfreeLT 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this video. Wild free people should only date childfree people.

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether 8 месяцев назад +2

    Ke ke lol 😂🎉

  • @broco6608
    @broco6608 7 месяцев назад +1

    How 'bout we hold men AND women accountable.

  • @JohnBrown-vn2qw
    @JohnBrown-vn2qw 7 месяцев назад +3

    i don't entertain baby momma's

    • @praxym9293
      @praxym9293 7 месяцев назад +4

      Same

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +5

      Me either 😅I'm a girl & they have been the most lying selfish needy greedy fake friends I ever had 😅 If they are not always begging for something, then they're being jealous of my free time. Just don't see the point of being friends with them.

    • @user-qu2gp8mw9u
      @user-qu2gp8mw9u 7 месяцев назад +1

      Bum, we don't care... This is about accountability for males!🤡☝️

  • @sabali95
    @sabali95 7 месяцев назад

    I have to say that being pregnant is 96% women choice. We are the ones carrying them breastfeeding them we are the ones taking the pill or not... we know when we are ovulating.
    Today we have information that said a man just has to enter and leave thats why God give us the brains. His words are powerful . Im in that situation and trust me I will NEVER be pregnant if i dont want to and if I did that man would be under a microscope ..
    I understand that some women dont care and good for you. But yes most men dont even wanted the kids

  • @drealtheempress1677
    @drealtheempress1677 7 месяцев назад

    It's always a choice Sis... You made the choice when you laid down with thus man. You're too beautiful to think otherwise...

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад +1

      Who?

    • @drealtheempress1677
      @drealtheempress1677 7 месяцев назад +1

      @TeraChantelle The young lady in the beginning of the video that stated she didn't have a choice. She has been exposed 😢 You be doing your thang... Child free here. Impeccable young woman you are... Keep spreading the awareness and keep up the GreatWorks!

  • @bre.._
    @bre.._ 7 месяцев назад

    460 like

  • @bre.._
    @bre.._ 7 месяцев назад +2

    Why did you even have a kid in the first place??
    I get the just wanting to have a kid which is okay but wanting a child because your man said he wants one?? One thing i aill not do is entertsin women who do that...gift men with kids becuse he will leave you and leave his gift behind 😂😂

  • @globalboy1000
    @globalboy1000 7 месяцев назад +3

    Keep your legs Closed. Damn

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  7 месяцев назад

      Damn😮‍💨

    • @ModelingTabi
      @ModelingTabi 7 месяцев назад

      seriously. if u were married, rapped, or made a mistake and then repent for it then ok. but it’s like the woman had a gun to her head to keep spread her legs and sleeping around.

  • @karleomckenzie1106
    @karleomckenzie1106 8 месяцев назад +4

    Hey you might disagree with me a little but I’m not a hater it’s some situation the baby daddy well use women but I want people to understand too oh what if the woman done him wrong I mean every situation is different yes I agree there is men that is playing games but there are women that are playing games too i’m just saying men are the only ones that be playing games I’m not a hater here and I agreed I mean some of what you were saying but I don’t want you to hate me because I disagree with you a little I agreed with some you were saying

    • @TeraChantelle
      @TeraChantelle  8 месяцев назад +1

      Facts💯 it’s all love over here!❤️

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 7 месяцев назад +4

      Even if the woman is playing games. Even if you get tricked and deceived besides not dating a babyDaddy, I don't want to date somebody who's not smart. Who's easily deceived tricked and duped, especially when it comes to a child which is 0 games.😊😅

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 7 месяцев назад

      You're correct, both males and females have been programmed... female offspring are programmed to play sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break/reject.

  • @mikewilson9236
    @mikewilson9236 7 месяцев назад

    Tera I've never seen a woman online or offline with that much lip gloss u have on

  • @user-vg8ox3he1i
    @user-vg8ox3he1i 8 месяцев назад +2

    Im a man. I agree. I also dont date single mothers for the exact same reason. For some reason when I say that i dont date single mothers thats offensive to women, but when a woman says they dont date single fathers that doesnt bother me. Even if I had kids that wouldnt bother me. Its very logical.
    Having kids outside of marriage is a huge red flag. If she divorces the kids father thats another huge red flag. The step father position is a huge L. Massive liability. No man who respects himself should do it.
    So yeah, judge single fathers as harshly as you want, but keep that same energy when men do the same.
    Peace.

    • @bdott1538
      @bdott1538 8 месяцев назад +15

      Getting a divorce shouldn’t be a red flag.
      And those who have the heart to be step parents are commendable.
      But there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone with kids if you don’t want them yourself, or if you have no desire to be a step parent.

    • @AWholeVibe96
      @AWholeVibe96 8 месяцев назад +1

      Your tone is so bitter and angry that it’s probably best that you stay away from a woman’s kids anyway 😂😂😂😂

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@bdott1538 depends how long the marriage lasted. a divorce after 1-5 years...looks bad. a divorce after 10-15 years...not a red flag if people just grew apart.

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +5

      Dust

    • @LisaSoulLevelHealing
      @LisaSoulLevelHealing 7 месяцев назад +6

      ​@angelika87 ever been married? Length of time isnt an indicator of anything

  • @user-qu2gp8mw9u
    @user-qu2gp8mw9u 7 месяцев назад +2

    Just 🛑 seeking out "relationships" with males. It's the safest and best option. Choose yourself!😊

  • @user-qu2gp8mw9u
    @user-qu2gp8mw9u 7 месяцев назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @wrenster34
    @wrenster34 7 месяцев назад

    You have control to keep your legs closed honey, be accountable for your actions