@@Ravenelvenladyi’m not sure this is exactly what’s she’s talking about but i’ve done research on similar things bc trying to find the meaning of life for years lol but it’s basically (to make it simple and not long asf) you agree to come to earth from a spiritual realm, you have a soul contract and agree to the things you go through to learn lessons and have experiences so children “agree” to be born. which i wont say is false or true, we all have our own beliefs but all i will say is if you do have kids, they are your child FOR LIFE and please go to therapy before or during to ensure you’re mentally well bc it does affect the kids, they aren’t dumb, they know and will copy.
Which act is selfish? 1) Not having children 2) CHOOSING to become a parent, then berating others for not parenting YOUR CHILD(REN) when you don't feel like it.
I’m raised by a single father and he told me to NEVER ever depend on a man, always have my own and to have my own. The only man I ever depended on was him. I’m his only child, he taught me well.
My grandmothers told me never to rely on a man always have your own. They also said being a mum should be a choice not something society forces on you. My dad has 9 kids from three marriages, he was a terrible dad and now he wonders why now he is old, ill and alone. Each time he married he dumped the previous kids for the next bunch of kids.
My father did the same he was married 4 times. Each time never speaking to the last wife and kids. We had a WIVES reunion with all the kids in 2021 It was great meeting my other sibling.
@@six6goddess214 glad you got to meet your half siblings, my dad did his darn best to create friction between his nine kids. The first born of his second wife sent me a letter ( I live in the UK) and placed with the letter was a letter from my dad saying that I should disregard my half brother, remember his mother mistreated my brother and I. He stated that the half sibling was only making contact so that at one point he can ask for a ticket to come to the UK. And this is our so called sperm donor!!
As a woman my main reason to be childfree is that no man deserves me to go through 9 months of pain and suffering just to have 50% of his genes when he never contributed anything to the whole process. Adding to that, he can still decide to get up and leave at any moment
He contributed the seed of life and it’s icky when women downplay the role of men in the life process because they don’t go through childbirth or carry babies, it’s not like they chose to, women didn’t choose to give birth and it isn’t out of their benevolence that they go through all that, it’s literally the hand that nature dealt both sexes. It’s complementary, not a competition.
@@seektruth5750 It is a competition though. Whoever spreads their dna the most wins. Also men’s contribution is lower. Period. That’s quite literally why females in most mammals species are highly selective. Because they risk more to spread their dna. Also go around an ask men if they’d give birth if they could. I do and most say no.
I don’t need a reason, it’s my body, my life, my choice and my relationship. I’m a grown woman, I don’t have to explain myself to anyone or “justify” my choice as if it’s taboo or wrong 😂 I can get behind any woman, or man, that’s self-aware and knows parenthood isn’t for them.
I love the woman that went to HR about that bull her manager tried on her and child free co-workers. Child free people get screwed over all the time in the work place.
I agree women with children have so many excuses to leave work early especially when there practically baby's themselves. I tried to do the same thing the other day went home after 8 hours and they got mad that I didn't stay and help the new girl for 10 hours even though she's 40. Child free women can't have Sundays off if they don't have senoriry yet and there only part time some of these companies are demonic when you really think about it. Who knows maybe they even have to work on Christmas.
@@unicorn73212 And yet working women with children still aren't properly compensated with maternity leave don't receive bonuses and have to make up set hours.
@@daniellarkins3849 There's a solution to that if it bugs you so much. Don't have kids. You should know before you start popping out kids that kids make life difficult, they're the priority and they need time, money, affection and attention. If you're not prepared to do that, don't have kids. It's not the fault of childfree people that a parent decided to become a parent. Nor should it become their burden to pick up slack, get denied holidays, have to work extra hours or other bullshit because their random co-worker decided they wanted kids. Deal with it or don't do it. Can't expect other people to continuously make sacrifices for the choices you made.
@@daniellarkins3849are you going to ask for their social security number too? Damn dude that's not personal, most child free people don't give a single damn about people with children
@@daniellarkins3849 You mean people who don't want kid's don't want to here from you. You denigrate my choice to have kid's and rubbing your choice on us. He may or may not have Friends. If have friends or family with children . It's his choice the reason why?
There is nothing wrong with being a selfish person by nature so long as you don't allow your selfishness to negatively affect others. And I'd say that having children when you know yourself to be selfish is just about the worst thing I can think of.
@@lilymohsyeno it doesn't. However it's a fine enough reason to not want children as well. My little sis is self proclaimed selfish. When people get on her case for not having kids because she's too selfish she just responds with " yes I am. I don't like sharing or taking care of anyone but myself. I'm also lazy af and have killed numerous pot plants because I lost interest in watering them. If I put through an application to adopt a pet I'd be denied because not everyone is responsible enough to own a pet and I'm one of those people. So why would me having a child be a good idea?" She is happy living her life on her own terms. She loves her life as is.
@@lilymohsyeI think it usually is and I think it's okay. I think we need to reconsider the word selfish as not a merely negative one. We should be making selfish decisions, it's our life we're living. Why is society telling us that out own decisions aren't supposed to make us happy? We should be selfish. Choosing to have kids because you want them is selfish, choosing to not have kids because you don't want them is selfish. Good. Make the decisions that will serve your purpose and make you happy. It's literally the point of being alive.
I don't understand how it can be selfish to not have kids when the kids don't even exist yet. Isn't it more selfish to ignore foster kids that already exist because you want to create new ones?
I say this ALL. THE. TIME!!!!! Why do we overlook this? If you want to be a parent so bad, AND you’re a selfless person, why aren’t foster children and adoption your go-to choices? Oh, I know. It’s because you want a little ‘mini me/flesh and blood/legacy’ baby.
@@theretailambassador These people confuse legacy with LINEAGE. Your child is an extension of your LINEAGE, whereas legacy is something non-living you leave behind that people will find more relevant AFTER your death.
Imagine changing your mind when you already have a child too. I feel like my mom definitely regretted having children and even as a kid I could tell because she'd lose her temper very often and blame me for everything.
I hate when companies take advantage of people without kids. I even contemplated using neices pics on my office desk so i can slack and leave work early when i feel like it just bc my "kid is sick".
Do what you can get away with & still keep a roof over your head. A lot of these work places like to LIE & say "we're family here" but it's a complete lie. You don't owe them anything outside of your job description.
I've read some comments along the lines of "Why do you CF people love to flex so much to the world that you're soooooooo happy being child-free? do you need to keep repeating it so you can convince yourself it's the truth?" to which I replied, ”personally, it's because i've been asked countless times why did i choose to be child-free and been told just as many that i will regret it and will grow old lonely and die alone that i have to reassure people that i'll be perfectly fine and i'm genuinely happy" maybe if such people stop asking and making unwarranted opinions about our child-free choices, we'll stop "flexing"
I also want to add that they are also not necessarily flexing but showing other people we can make other choices. The previous generation loves to call childfree people selfish and say how unhappy they are when it's simply not true, you don't need children to have a fulfilled life.
I LOVE people admitting they're too selfish or lazy to have kids, that they just don't wanna, it's too loud, too messy, too expensive - every reason is valid, even (especially) NO reason given is valid; SO many parents I know shouldn't have had kids, regretted it, had them for terrible reasons and messed their kids up - I LOVE LOVE LOVE the trend of becoming self aware enough to spare other human beings the pain of having to grow up unwanted, unsupported, unacknowledged, feeling hopeless because their parents feel hopeless. Power to the child free movement, and may everyone who actually wants kids have them.
I AM 37 NO TOXIC BABY DADDY, NO UNWANTED DRAMA OR TANTRUMS . I CAN SLEEP UNTIL 1 PM WHEN I HAVE NOTHING TO DO THAT DAY . WHEN I FEEL SICK , I CAN LAY IN BED UNTIL I FEEL BETTER . WHEN I CAN TAKE NAP , I CAN GO TAKE A NAP & WHEN I GO I DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH PAYING SOMEONE TO BABYSIT 💖
By deciding to not have kids because you know you will not be the best parent is amazing…sooooo many ppl having children that SHOULD NOT, bringing kids into this world to suffer….anyways do what makes you happy, I’m one and done and I’m happy with my princess
Why are some of these people saying they are selfish?? There is nothing selfish about not taking on a responsibility you don't want, especially when you already have so much of your time wrapped up in just trying not to be homeless.
I used to get questioned a lot by family members but luckily that stopped once my sister and in laws started pumping out the babies for the grandparents.
@@hotindecember1951 those are exactly my goals…. I allowed my family to talk me into college for what they wanted & couldn’t find a job afterwards. Now I’m starting over I have one small business & hope to start another one & im back in school. Work full-time & exercise frequently I don’t have time for a kid. Many married women have to do it all even with their husbands so it’s not a lane I want to go down. Some have told me they want the throw the kids & husbands away lol. My mother said she regretted having the 4 of us. We’re self sufficient like what in the world lol. I do think maybe once I’m a little older & I get the businesses running like I want I may consider fostering & helping kids learn life skills 💕.
Was proud of the woman who stood up to her boss (had to turn the volume off and the captions on though because that sound quality was awful). I do believe parents deserve extra benefits and in some cases special consideration but not in a way that punishes childfree workers the way that manager was blatantly doing.
As a mother of a son, I will ALWAYS tell people to wait to have kids. PLEASE. I would never convince another person to have children, I have one son I don’t know how people do it with multiple kids.
I have lots of friends my age and we don't have kids. Some of us chose not to, some of us had life not give the option. We are now in our 40s and not going to change our minds.
The pie chart guy!! 🤣🤣If I had that work hours garbage happen to me being childfree, Id be reporting them or demanding more money. We have lives too. Well done to her reporting to HR and legal. Being on salary is not an excuse.
I wish the lady with the HR problem would fix her microphone, for the simple reason that, I could happily listen to her all day. She is such a badass for not letting go of a serious problem. Love her!
I have the same reasons at the first woman. Minus the having a husband or having a business. Also love how real she was when doing her routine. Love the authenticity.
Why does someone have to have responsibilities/kids/family to not have to work overtime/to get time off? It doesn't matter if you just go home by yourself sit on your butt and play video games or just sleep or literally anything! It is none of your manager's business, you don't have to be doing something important to get time off. If they try to guilt you, just tell them you're unavailable/have things you need to do, and do not elaborate further, say it's personal if you need to. It ain't their business what you do off the clock, you aren't obligated to work overtime, and everyone deserves time off. The last story was awesome, love that guy who brought all the receipts, seriously gross that the manager thought she could get away with that bs (and included herself even though her kid grown). Even if I had kids, I'd be fighting it too, no one deserves to be treated like that.
When i was 15, i decided not to marry or have kids after seeing how terrible my parents marriage are like and i thought its always gonna be like that since i talked to guys at the time, and they showed that they have the mindset that women belong to the kitchen and should submit to the husband doesnt matter what and husbands have the freedom to do whatever they want..most of then guys say that at the time (11 years ago when i was 15)..so i felt like discouraged to pursue love, i focus on my studies and now my career..i even kept my v card cuz i hated men too much to give in to anyone..but last year, i started getting this maternal feeling.. kids always love me since i was teenager (also elderly people and cats also love me a lot, rarely someone old or a cat dont like me).. so when i started to feel like getting married at 25 last year, i also dont want to accept anybody. I was and has been rejecting some men that wants to marry me because they dont have the same values as me in life (either lazy dude, misogynistic, not ambitious etcetc)..so thats one thing im proud of myself, no matter how desperate, i dont just settle..even one of my crush few years ago wants to have seggs, i declined cuz idk, i feel like i have kept myself pure for so long, i want to save for marriage (but i even reject a guy that said he wants to marry me cuz im innoceent, was such a turn off that i almost puke at how he sees and views me)..earlier this year, i finally met a man that has same values as me in life etcetc but it didnt work out because of different religious view, he is very atheist..and i had a guy with same religious view but i wasnt attracted to him 😂 sometimes i feel like i have fear of intimacy because sometimes when a crush likes me back, i become distant.. i also have body jmage issue because im overweight not obese, but i feel insecure to be naked with anybody so thats also one of the reason why im saving for marriage other than for religious reason(but im not so religious so it is more personal choice)..but now i dont mind when a man says women belong to the kitchen cuz i always love to cook, just not for a man that say the most insensitive words(they are usually the lazy broke type)..i would love to cook for a good man, for my family..to nurture them love them..i have money,i work in IT department..i do chores since i was 5.. and doesnt matter if i die alone for having high standard then im glad i dont settle for low value men that will just give me mental exhaustion
A man hhat says a woman belangt to the kitchen doesn't respect women. I love to cook too but I would never do it as a free Service for a man that doesn't respect me.
I can relate to you so much! I'm 42, still have my v card, never found anyone I felt was worthy of my body, always running into atheists... now I definitely don't want a patriarchal Christian. I'm a Goddess worshiper (shout outs to Kali Ma!) & I think religiously we'd have to be on the same page. I've been picking up in my own room since I was 3, but had other household chores starting age 5 like taking out the trash and vacuuming since those were easy. (I was a really religious Seventh Day Adventist when I made a vow of chastity at 18, but b4 that I was home schooled so teenage boys weren't a problem then. They're more of a problem now, bcuz I'm babyfaced & they hit on me. They really think w/o a car, a job, an education, & being of age that they stand a chance smh) I'm also chonky & don't want anyone seeing me naked lol but I think if I lost the weight I wanted to & had abs that I still wouldn't want anyone looking at me. My body is for me. I will say ABSOLUTELY stay away from low vibrational & low value men (some men who are broke can be high vibrational, but you don't need to take on their bills)! Hahahaha & cats & elderly people (as long as they're not racist) love me, too! Toddlers also love me, but they're little germ machines. I recently stopped my 9yrs of being in childcare. I'm done. Currently I'm on disability (seizures & other medical issues).. I think sometimes I could learn to code & maybe make my own app, but... who knows. It's all a journey.
@@silververnallbells191 most women I know without a man, always have babyface or look really youthful 😂 maybe because of no stress? Absolutely, even if i have lost my weight, i still would prefer to save for marriage.. i have been working out and lost a bit since i made that comment.. mostly because of my health, cuz i started getting asthmatic even tho I'm not like obese or anything but i do eat oily food a lot.. im open minded with knowing guys with different religions view but i start to think maybe a same view in religion and life would make it easier.. been talking to few guys since 7 months ago, but no connections yet.. i figured that i want a high value man, so i want to be high value as well by appearance and internally and intellectually.. btw, i would totally support learning to code.. even as a side income, it will be really useful, or just for fun for now..who knows maybe in future, it comes in useful! Programming is the future jobs, idk imo actually haha i know we're both not that desperate for a man bc we know our value already but i think we're both are open if a good high value man comes into our life so i pray you find the man of your dreams ❤️ ameen
oh for sure. grandma had 6 kids and non was with her on deathbed. No one was a day seen with her or even spending with her.. "unconditional love??" where might i ask?
@@justsomeinternetuser I didn't mean it in that weird spiritual way you describe, I mean it literally. You enter the world just as alone as you leave it again.
I think this situation with employers is honestly a way to manipulate individuals who childfree or childless not by choice and try force them into having kids.
11:08 If I'm ever able to find a fucking job (very hard in my area right now), I'm just going to fake that I have 2 children I mean they are my dogs, but children nonetheless. "How old are your daughter??" "9 and 7" "Omg you had them very young!" "I did indeed" :DD
If everyone had 3 children we would very quickly run out of resources and land space, poverty, homelessness and malnutrition rates would skyrocket the air quality would be much worse (Due to a decrease in trees and an increase in CO2 production) as we take more land many species of animals will go extinct and animals attacking humans will become much more common as we will be the most available food source. Now onto the economy side of things: Let's assume you're doing the legal minimum for your child, so around $20 on food per week (0-3) $40 per week (4-11) $60 per week (12-18), $60 on clothes every year, $300 on medical stuff every year, $500 for a crib (0-3), $1000 for a bed (4-18), $1000 on education every year (6-18), you would still spend roughly $62,000 raising a single child (This is if you are doing the bare legal minimum, so the child will be unhealthy due to decreased medical availability and decreased food consumption, have no entertainment whatsoever, worse education because they will have no school supplies and a worsened sleep due to sleeping on the same bed for 15 years.) Onto the biological and psychological side of things, many people have fertility issues, STDs and/or multiple other barriers. Additionally around 10% of the population is LGBTQIA+ and the only ones out of those people willing to reproduce are bisexuals and aromantics. Some people just don't want to have a child, some people who try experience miscarriages and some just aren't able and/or willing to find a partner. Not to mention that raising a child takes a lot of time and effort, time which many people don't have. Children also cause a lot of stress, which isn't good for your mental health, you would have to balance a job with raising a child that can be tough.
I decided I don't want children. Many reasons of course but it's just I don't want. End of story. This is how I answer people when they ask me why I am childfree
Honestly, I don’t know why people feel the need to tell others about why they choose to remain child free? I’m child free , period. No one will pay my bills, watch my kid when I want to travel, invest in an actual human being to try to help them become functional adults, etc etc. So really , why would I explain anything to anyone?
that's a huge take from the podcast guy who has no children. Don't listen to these bums, because they never worked at a UPS warehouse to understand how hard it is to get that check.
How many mentally unstable and broken adults join society to make harm to other just because some one wants kids and after that being lousy parent! Or being selfish and get laid but wont take responsibility of the result. So Who is selfish.
Everyone does not need to have children. Open disdain for children is another matter. If you live long enough, those “sticky” annoying” etc beings will be the ones taking care of you and the rest of society, not only as nurses and doctors but as sanitation workers, cooks, and grocery delivery. As demographics change and the younger population dwindles, there will be more and more elderly dependent on the generations they disdained. I’d watch the public downing of people I will need before too long.
Don't act like parents don't rely on other people's kids. There are many Moms and Dads in nursing homes who rarely get visit from adult children that have to priortize their own family.
My mother worked in elderly care for a decade and all the people she cared for were parents whose kids wanted absolutely NO PART in caring for them, and most never even so much as called, let alone visited. Parents like to push this belief that their kids are gonna look after them when they're old when that is overwhelmingly NOT the case 99% of the time. Even if you birth 10 kids, chances are they're not going to be the ones wiping your ass and helping you shower when you can no longer do it yourself. Also, I do hate kids, they're sticky and smelly and annoying and gross. That's the 100% truth and I'm entitled to not have to be around kids If I don't want to. Just because they're going to be adults one day doesn't change the fact that right now in this moment, they're sticky, smelly, annoying and gross.
Theres so much pride that comes from being parent. My son is 15 and told me his teachers wife died and he found out today. He was telling me how he feels bad for his teacher and wishes he could take him food or something to show he cares. The pride I felt in that moment was so simple yet so intense. I could see that me and my husband are raising an amazing teenager and his compassion and empathy is something that makes me so happy to hear and see. I know he will grow into being a man who can be respected. I would never get this pride or joy from anything other than being a parent.
That is great. People like you should procreate and produce human beings that are kind and caring. The rest of us will sit back and support you while we sip our mimosas. #childfreeforlife
the lady talking about childfree at work maybe should have just done the overtime because currently it sounds like shes trying to record audio on a wet potato
Years ago when I was in China, America was my dream land, and American people were angels to me. The American people are full of love to human beings and their families. Now that I live in the USA and wittiness the American people go down the road to the hell, I feel so sad, for myself, my children, and my American people.
@@mahlohonololebuso741 Some of us are advanced, but a lot of the Christian fundamentalists/Christofascists are VERY backwards & OK w/causing real harm to women & children.
The only reason I don't really agree with is spite. You feel like you played them but you've only really played yourself. You really gave them that much power over your life.
No power was given to the MIL because the woman didn't really want kids in the first place. Fence sitters are basically people who have FOMO. Her MIL just tipped her completely back to her senses by being such a nasty b*tch. I so admire her level of petty. 😂
@@miranivari3066the power to decide what to do with my body? The power to not sacrifice my life for another? The power to not use my body to further a man’s bloodline? What power? If you want be a incubator, go ahead. Last I check society doesn’t respect women, especially single mothers and do you really want to be stuck being the primary parent? Maybe if I was a man I’d want children but I’m not, and so I’ll be opting out of a lifetime slave contract.
Yikes. Some woman forced her husband to eat spicy foods so that she could have it her way. If a man said he conditioned his wife to finally like something his way, people would be livid.
Hmmm. You have a husband that doesn't want children. Doesn't that disgust you? But work is not a child. Kids are able to behave well. People aren't frustrated that someone doesn't have children. It's that you intentionally don't have children. There's a huge list of problems connected to it. In part, when you're old, the younger generations are responsible to protect and care for the women that couldn't have children or are widowed, (you know how many lonely/family less elderly women get their stuff/money stolen and just end up in bad situations?) but that kind of thing happens, just not intentionally. So "child free" women are relying on other people's children to care for them in their old age instead of investing in their own children. People tend to not like people that only care about money People tend to not like people that don't like other people (crazy right?) People tend to feel frustrated when there's a lack of understanding with real life problems. Unrealistic expectations become normal. Men with that mindset are basically wanting you to mother them so they don't have to have real responsibilities.
So, men expect their kids to mother them then. My parents don't expect me to take care of them because they had me. They didn't have me for their retirement plans. They had me because they wanted to love their kid. My parents live in reality, they know I can't stop paying my Bills to take care of them. What they do is compensate by owning my Bilks when I gave to help them because I'm missing work by helping them. You see how that works? So, either way it goes, I'll be paying someone to take care of me because they can't quit working to take care of me. Might as well bypass having the kids part and just pay someone to take care of me. At least that way I'll have money for retirement. If my caretaker is having problems finding a place to live, they can live in my house rent free.
Here’s a reason to somebody to have kids if you’re not sure that nobody talks about. You have absolutely no one to care for you when you get old in the nursing home. It’s kinda like a scratch my back I’ll scratch yours within time lol
We must also take note that some ppl claiming they don’t want kids secretly know they can’t have kids. They then start spreading made up reasons why they “choose” not to have kids scaring and influencing their light headed followers.
Life is the most precious gift in the world. Kids are the best gift in the world. When you miss such a gift, your life got wasted. Period. You did not live the whole life.
What if your wife divorces you and takes the kids away? Then she lies about you and says you are a monster. Then you need to pay 18 years of child support. Then your kid grows up, commits a crime and goes to jail.... Having a kid... you have to have the right partner? Do you think people should just have a kid with ANYONE? It's very hard to find someone you love. Finding someone that can be a good spouse to help you raise a partner is very hard. So many people cheat on their wives with other lovers. If you have a kid, there is nothing you can do about it. DrLucEnglish... you are a dumbass.
Nope,people life is wasted when they dont want to help to foster or adopt if they cant have kids. Still so many people nowdays misprize that big thing to help a child which is in that position and maybe will end up very bad in future because SO many people think only their blood matter and they are ready to suck donations,long procedures,painful also only to get something that spoil their family life,when intimacy becomes rhoutine like u go doctor and if finally u get this child your life will be not the same or u will divorce,cus the idea for own kid is been the only one thing that is keep your marriage. All this kind procedures promote to cheapen orphaned kids,or if they are been born in bad family and majority wants to foster them because get money everymont. Same is petshops,government alows anyone to breed their animals and put them down like nothing,because like human kids they are product of irresponsible people...Society still is not civilised and is good has so many g.y people nowdays,because they are given chance to kids. And of course to has kid is precious gift,but people continue after that when they has no space for second one,not enough money or time. We see in american movies how normal families start to make savings for collage even before to has kid,right ;) And if they decide to has second one they need to save more money 😂 And again often comes the situation the two parents get tired from life and they divorce. We see this everyday,and maybe 50 percent are not because of drugs,gambling or alcoholic addiction.
the woman in her 50s talking about her amicable divorce looked like she was in her late 20s, early 30s....another reason to be childfree, to stay looking young!
@@CoCo-yv3hl The truth to me is that I feel like have a new life again when my adult kids moved in to my home. I am so grateful for the second life feeling.
@@CoCo-yv3hl I will be happy if my kids stay with me at home after they reach adulthood. My mom stayed with my grandma until her passing away and everybody benefited from that. It is American consumerism what shames kids for not leaving at 18 and for not dumping their parents in poorhouse when they are old because when peoples are single all they have is job and instead of needing one home and other stuff for whole family each family member needs home which drives prices up. I didn't think about having kids until I met my now husband who really wanted kids and I become pregnant, now if I could I would want lots of kids but unfortunately in todays unstable world no more than 3. You haven't lived and grew up if you don't have kids.
Life is wasted??? You must be lucky that a parent didn't tell you they regretted having you, because some of us had that. Not everybody should or can be a parent for many reasons.
Lol my business is my baby....ok lets get an update in 20 years will your business take care of you and be there for you when youre old. It will bring you zero happiness you literslly will not give a crap about you business
Most adults can't retire in the US now due to the bad economy. Social security will collapse eventually. I have saved millions and to be honest, when I am 80... I will still be in very good shape due to excellent exercise. My caretakers will be young and gorgeous. I will pay them to look after me, if needed. Enjoy your annoying kids fighting over your will.
Exactly and if you try to raise kids to be decent people, the society is so sick... The environment and other kids can twist them.@@mirjanapucarevic2105
you are delusional if you think your children are going to be caring for you when you're old. The person wiping your ass for you will be a paid carer, not your kids who will have their own lives to focus on. You're a horrible and selfish person if you expect your kids, who did not ask to be born, to slave away looking after you
Also if you wanted women to be mothers you’d treat them better. You guys also constantly attack single mothers and cheat. So women are more likely to become single mothers, the same people men treat badly. You’ll hate us either way so best to choose the easiest option which is not reproducing
This is so sad the fertility rate is so low in America . Yet we have these people rejoicing they have no one to carry on their blood line. On second thought maybe that's not such a bad idea. We don't need more people thinking like this or we will die off.
As a man, there are so many bad things that to perfectly align for you to raise kids now. 1. Your wife doesn't divorce you and take 70% of everything. 2. You don't get cheated on. 3. You find a suitable partner that isn't selfish. 4. WW3 doesn't occur. We are close. How can you bring children into the world, when you know that a nuclear war is right around the corner? 5. The society is toxic and SUPER liberal. Where would you raise kids? Is there any place that hasn't been perverted in the US? 6. You need at least 2 million USD to raise 2 kids from child birth to adulthood? Who has that money now? 7. Kids tie you down. By that I mean... You must be ready to go to war because you are not getting far with kids when all hell brakes loose.
@@StarPlatinumV 💯👍 Not having a kid = ·Being immune to government's threats to comply with it's will or else have my kids taken from me. ·Not having to see my children brainwashed into getting their genitals mutilated and/or be made to celebrate such barbaric practices and being put in jail if I attempt to intervene in anyway. ·Knowing that when the inevitable conflagration hits (should it not come to pass during my own lifetime) that no one of my blood will be there on the pyre or among those stacking the kindling.
@@lovelymill you dont and that is your right but biology do. If you don have kids your genome will be deleted from the evolutionary tree of life, translated to a human language as if you never existed. LIfe with no purpose. Memory of other fades when you die, your kids are your continuation on this planet. But hey if dont care me to. Just educating you,
I feel bad for these people. Most of these women will be 40 yrs old and crying when the oprion is gone. Your career and free time wont be there to care for you in old age or tske your last breath. What an unfulfilling life to be childless
Adoption is an option. 🙄 You really think your kids will be there for you? Good luck with that. Hope you didn't make any mistakes. (I'll be honest, you'll probably die alone with the attitude you're displaying here)
40? Most women can still give birth in their 40s. It doesn't matter if you're surrounded by people or by yourself. We all cross the rainbow bridge alone. And I will say just because you're no where near as smart as you think you are: YOU DO NOT get to choose when or how you die unless you self delete. Chances of you being alone are extremely high. You need to turn to Kali Ma and overcome your fear of old age and death.
It's stupid education to say don't trust in a man, but these females will trust in the government. What happens to their money when the government renders fiat currency obsolete?
First one,so many people pop out kids that has no future so has enough to foster or adopt. Now people will say-oo is not the same 😂 Well nowdays people still follow their million years old instinct to breed,including to not make abortion when is been their fault with the excuse that every person need to feel what is to have child 😂 And that when u has no stable job,or u are not even married,and all kind thing that need kid to live happy they still reproduce and society encourage them even when they are not 18. 😂 It means parents are the same. This is happen mostly in the rotten America,that is why there has so many homeless zombies from small age. People need to accept that many of them cant take care even for cat! And when they decide to try what will be the result to have kid they end up in broken marriage when they cant bear the family life . That is why so so many men divorce nowdays and some are nowhere to be seen and dont know their kids 😂 I will give u example how century or bad life not always is excuse. My grandfather is been born in poor village family of 4,education that time is not been free except first degree and also he lived since he turned 17 without electricity also...So ,he relocated in the capital and get married and with his job he started to save money to buy apartment to live a normal life. When my grandma somehow got pregnant he told her to make abortion because " He is been born poor and wants all what he earn in his life as money and property to be enough for his only one child " For that years this is been very bold,but smart man,no matter his start in life.
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No child asks to be born. We force them here. Much respect to the childfree.
Children do ask to be born as I see it.
@chelseajohnston25 I agree that on a spiritual level souls CHOOSE to come here. So parents and children make that decision on a soul level.
@@Ravenelvenladypls explain
@@AntoinetteMarie530 My answer is self explanatory.
@@Ravenelvenladyi’m not sure this is exactly what’s she’s talking about but i’ve done research on similar things bc trying to find the meaning of life for years lol but it’s basically (to make it simple and not long asf) you agree to come to earth from a spiritual realm, you have a soul contract and agree to the things you go through to learn lessons and have experiences so children “agree” to be born. which i wont say is false or true, we all have our own beliefs but all i will say is if you do have kids, they are your child FOR LIFE and please go to therapy before or during to ensure you’re mentally well bc it does affect the kids, they aren’t dumb, they know and will copy.
People try to manipulate you when they call you selfish.
It's that simple.
"stay single forever" or "die alone with cats"... don't threaten ME with a good time!
This made me cackle! Thank you! X'D Hear, hear!
Which act is selfish?
1) Not having children
2) CHOOSING to become a parent, then berating others for not parenting YOUR CHILD(REN) when you don't feel like it.
Yes, berating TEACHERS especially! 🙄
true
I’m raised by a single father and he told me to NEVER ever depend on a man, always have my own and to have my own. The only man I ever depended on was him. I’m his only child, he taught me well.
honestly I do not need reasons other that the fact that I simply do not want to have children.
No you don't need any reasons but if people are happy to elaborate why not, might help people on the fence make up their minds?
@Step-Into-Your-Power I agree. Simple as that.
tbh this should be enough
My grandmothers told me never to rely on a man always have your own. They also said being a mum should be a choice not something society forces on you. My dad has 9 kids from three marriages, he was a terrible dad and now he wonders why now he is old, ill and alone. Each time he married he dumped the previous kids for the next bunch of kids.
My father did the same he was married 4 times. Each time never speaking to the last wife and kids. We had a WIVES reunion with all the kids in 2021 It was great meeting my other sibling.
@@six6goddess214 glad you got to meet your half siblings, my dad did his darn best to create friction between his nine kids. The first born of his second wife sent me a letter ( I live in the UK) and placed with the letter was a letter from my dad saying that I should disregard my half brother, remember his mother mistreated my brother and I. He stated that the half sibling was only making contact so that at one point he can ask for a ticket to come to the UK. And this is our so called sperm donor!!
Your grandmothers are very smart women.
Same here
As a woman my main reason to be childfree is that no man deserves me to go through 9 months of pain and suffering just to have 50% of his genes when he never contributed anything to the whole process. Adding to that, he can still decide to get up and leave at any moment
Yep. 100%.
Then again you can uno reverse and ditch the kid on him XD
@@magnarcreed3801 definitely something I’d do
He contributed the seed of life and it’s icky when women downplay the role of men in the life process because they don’t go through childbirth or carry babies, it’s not like they chose to, women didn’t choose to give birth and it isn’t out of their benevolence that they go through all that, it’s literally the hand that nature dealt both sexes. It’s complementary, not a competition.
@@seektruth5750 what’s so difficult about nutting
@@seektruth5750
It is a competition though. Whoever spreads their dna the most wins.
Also men’s contribution is lower. Period. That’s quite literally why females in most mammals species are highly selective. Because they risk more to spread their dna.
Also go around an ask men if they’d give birth if they could. I do and most say no.
I don’t need a reason, it’s my body, my life, my choice and my relationship. I’m a grown woman, I don’t have to explain myself to anyone or “justify” my choice as if it’s taboo or wrong 😂 I can get behind any woman, or man, that’s self-aware and knows parenthood isn’t for them.
I love the woman that went to HR about that bull her manager tried on her and child free co-workers. Child free people get screwed over all the time in the work place.
Companies shouldn't be screwing anyone over child free or not. I know he was trying to be far but that's still not right.
With all that said, it's much harder being a parent or just living in general.
I agree women with children have so many excuses to leave work early especially when there practically baby's themselves. I tried to do the same thing the other day went home after 8 hours and they got mad that I didn't stay and help the new girl for 10 hours even though she's 40. Child free women can't have Sundays off if they don't have senoriry yet and there only part time some of these companies are demonic when you really think about it. Who knows maybe they even have to work on Christmas.
@@unicorn73212 And yet working women with children still aren't properly compensated with maternity leave don't receive bonuses and have to make up set hours.
@@daniellarkins3849 There's a solution to that if it bugs you so much. Don't have kids. You should know before you start popping out kids that kids make life difficult, they're the priority and they need time, money, affection and attention. If you're not prepared to do that, don't have kids. It's not the fault of childfree people that a parent decided to become a parent. Nor should it become their burden to pick up slack, get denied holidays, have to work extra hours or other bullshit because their random co-worker decided they wanted kids. Deal with it or don't do it. Can't expect other people to continuously make sacrifices for the choices you made.
When life gets hard i remember i don't have kids and feel a lot better 😂
Same 😅
Especially when I struggle financially. I can't imagine how bad it would be with a kid. Many people don't even consider that for a second.
I agree with the first woman for the same reasons. I would add that besides loving peace and quiet I also like a clean and clutter free environment!
What exactly do you do for a living? Do you have any friends at all? And what's your personal take on people who actually have children.
@@daniellarkins3849are you going to ask for their social security number too? Damn dude that's not personal, most child free people don't give a single damn about people with children
@@daniellarkins3849 You mean people who don't want kid's don't want to here from you. You denigrate my choice to have kid's and rubbing your choice on us. He may or may not have Friends. If have friends or family with children . It's his choice the reason why?
I cherish being able to chill at home so much!
There is nothing wrong with being a selfish person by nature so long as you don't allow your selfishness to negatively affect others. And I'd say that having children when you know yourself to be selfish is just about the worst thing I can think of.
Not wanting children does not automatically equal selfish.
@@lilymohsyeno it doesn't. However it's a fine enough reason to not want children as well. My little sis is self proclaimed selfish. When people get on her case for not having kids because she's too selfish she just responds with " yes I am. I don't like sharing or taking care of anyone but myself. I'm also lazy af and have killed numerous pot plants because I lost interest in watering them. If I put through an application to adopt a pet I'd be denied because not everyone is responsible enough to own a pet and I'm one of those people. So why would me having a child be a good idea?"
She is happy living her life on her own terms. She loves her life as is.
I’d argue that people who make decisions that don’t let their selfishness effect others are actually selfless.
You have to he selfless to be a parent and frankly there’s a lack of these days🤦♀️
@@lilymohsyeI think it usually is and I think it's okay. I think we need to reconsider the word selfish as not a merely negative one. We should be making selfish decisions, it's our life we're living. Why is society telling us that out own decisions aren't supposed to make us happy? We should be selfish. Choosing to have kids because you want them is selfish, choosing to not have kids because you don't want them is selfish. Good. Make the decisions that will serve your purpose and make you happy. It's literally the point of being alive.
I don't understand how it can be selfish to not have kids when the kids don't even exist yet. Isn't it more selfish to ignore foster kids that already exist because you want to create new ones?
I say this ALL. THE. TIME!!!!! Why do we overlook this? If you want to be a parent so bad, AND you’re a selfless person, why aren’t foster children and adoption your go-to choices? Oh, I know. It’s because you want a little ‘mini me/flesh and blood/legacy’ baby.
@@theretailambassador These people confuse legacy with LINEAGE. Your child is an extension of your LINEAGE, whereas legacy is something non-living you leave behind that people will find more relevant AFTER your death.
AMEN!
I got the "You'll change your mind" by smug people.
I'm 45. I never changed my mind. Thank God I don't have kids.
Imagine changing your mind when you already have a child too. I feel like my mom definitely regretted having children and even as a kid I could tell because she'd lose her temper very often and blame me for everything.
@@lizzy4827 sad, but true. People regret having kids, and who suffers because of it? The kids. Childfree for me!
I hate when companies take advantage of people without kids. I even contemplated using neices pics on my office desk so i can slack and leave work early when i feel like it just bc my "kid is sick".
Honey, companies take advantage of people with kids.
Do what you can get away with & still keep a roof over your head. A lot of these work places like to LIE & say "we're family here" but it's a complete lie. You don't owe them anything outside of your job description.
I've read some comments along the lines of "Why do you CF people love to flex so much to the world that you're soooooooo happy being child-free? do you need to keep repeating it so you can convince yourself it's the truth?" to which I replied, ”personally, it's because i've been asked countless times why did i choose to be child-free and been told just as many that i will regret it and will grow old lonely and die alone that i have to reassure people that i'll be perfectly fine and i'm genuinely happy"
maybe if such people stop asking and making unwarranted opinions about our child-free choices, we'll stop "flexing"
I also want to add that they are also not necessarily flexing but showing other people we can make other choices.
The previous generation loves to call childfree people selfish and say how unhappy they are when it's simply not true, you don't need children to have a fulfilled life.
I LOVE people admitting they're too selfish or lazy to have kids, that they just don't wanna, it's too loud, too messy, too expensive - every reason is valid, even (especially) NO reason given is valid; SO many parents I know shouldn't have had kids, regretted it, had them for terrible reasons and messed their kids up - I LOVE LOVE LOVE the trend of becoming self aware enough to spare other human beings the pain of having to grow up unwanted, unsupported, unacknowledged, feeling hopeless because their parents feel hopeless. Power to the child free movement, and may everyone who actually wants kids have them.
I am happy for the young lady who stood up to the manager.
I AM 37 NO TOXIC BABY DADDY, NO UNWANTED DRAMA OR TANTRUMS . I CAN SLEEP UNTIL 1 PM WHEN I HAVE NOTHING TO DO THAT DAY . WHEN I FEEL SICK , I CAN LAY IN BED UNTIL I FEEL BETTER . WHEN I CAN TAKE NAP , I CAN GO TAKE A NAP & WHEN I GO I DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH PAYING SOMEONE TO BABYSIT 💖
By deciding to not have kids because you know you will not be the best parent is amazing…sooooo many ppl having children that SHOULD NOT, bringing kids into this world to suffer….anyways do what makes you happy, I’m one and done and I’m happy with my princess
Why are some of these people saying they are selfish?? There is nothing selfish about not taking on a responsibility you don't want, especially when you already have so much of your time wrapped up in just trying not to be homeless.
I am so proud of the lady that went to HR. I’m sitting here nodding along with her.
U got to be insane to be marrying & having kids in this wicked environment
You mean Christian fundamentalist. When you say wicked. Leave at that.
Or islamistic. These people are way worse than Christians.
@@jscullyandmulderx25 Muslims do it, too. It's the Abrahamics in general.
@@jscullyandmulderx25Palestinians do it during war time
@@quartermaster1976wild sh**.
I’m 35 & ppl still tell me I’m going to change my mind. I don’t want kids like accept that & go home to your deadbeat adult children still at home
I’m a mother but I know a lot of older women who never had children and they don’t regret their decision. They travel and live however they feel
😂😂😂😂😂
I used to get questioned a lot by family members but luckily that stopped once my sister and in laws started pumping out the babies for the grandparents.
I mean with this market I can’t blame the kids for staying at home. As long as they’re working or in school.
@@hotindecember1951 those are exactly my goals…. I allowed my family to talk me into college for what they wanted & couldn’t find a job afterwards. Now I’m starting over I have one small business & hope to start another one & im back in school. Work full-time & exercise frequently I don’t have time for a kid. Many married women have to do it all even with their husbands so it’s not a lane I want to go down. Some have told me they want the throw the kids & husbands away lol. My mother said she regretted having the 4 of us. We’re self sufficient like what in the world lol. I do think maybe once I’m a little older & I get the businesses running like I want I may consider fostering & helping kids learn life skills 💕.
Was proud of the woman who stood up to her boss (had to turn the volume off and the captions on though because that sound quality was awful).
I do believe parents deserve extra benefits and in some cases special consideration but not in a way that punishes childfree workers the way that manager was blatantly doing.
I'm so proud of all the people who choose to be childfree! Motherhood is not gr8...especially when u r a single mom...
As a mother of a son, I will ALWAYS tell people to wait to have kids. PLEASE. I would never convince another person to have children, I have one son I don’t know how people do it with multiple kids.
we are allowed to be selfish with the biggest decision of our lives
Most men hate and disrespect women like the air they breathe and they don’t even know it. I’m so glad I can just laugh at it now.
I have lots of friends my age and we don't have kids. Some of us chose not to, some of us had life not give the option. We are now in our 40s and not going to change our minds.
So glad I have no family pressure to have kids. What a relief 😅
my parents don't want grandkids, so it's a win-win
The pie chart guy!! 🤣🤣If I had that work hours garbage happen to me being childfree, Id be reporting them or demanding more money. We have lives too. Well done to her reporting to HR and legal. Being on salary is not an excuse.
I wish the lady with the HR problem would fix her microphone, for the simple reason that, I could happily listen to her all day. She is such a badass for not letting go of a serious problem. Love her!
You're not selfish for not wanting to have children. It's your life, your choice. Nobody should shame you and say youreselfish for it
What is it with this generation who have to do personal care publicly…
You don't have to watch it. You can place something on top of the screen and just listen.
I love watching it! It's like deconstructing perfection. Which we need. Too many fake images.
Just like society paints this fake picture of what life should be.
If someone can prove to me that life is a precious gift I will have children.
I accept the decision ppl make to not have children! It is a life changing choice, you can’t take it back once you go there…
I love all these women!! Do you, ladies
I have the same reasons at the first woman. Minus the having a husband or having a business.
Also love how real she was when doing her routine. Love the authenticity.
I LOVE the last story and so glad we got to hear the update!
Three cheers and one "for she's a jolly good fellow" to the lady who wiped the floor with her power crazed manager
Surprised to see HR coming through. I heard they’re usually not on the employee’s side.
Why does someone have to have responsibilities/kids/family to not have to work overtime/to get time off? It doesn't matter if you just go home by yourself sit on your butt and play video games or just sleep or literally anything! It is none of your manager's business, you don't have to be doing something important to get time off. If they try to guilt you, just tell them you're unavailable/have things you need to do, and do not elaborate further, say it's personal if you need to.
It ain't their business what you do off the clock, you aren't obligated to work overtime, and everyone deserves time off.
The last story was awesome, love that guy who brought all the receipts, seriously gross that the manager thought she could get away with that bs (and included herself even though her kid grown).
Even if I had kids, I'd be fighting it too, no one deserves to be treated like that.
It’s wise to know yourself. And I say that as somebody with a kid. One and done btw😂. Support the childfree!
That end story was everything!!!!!!! ❤❤
I really hate the three videos playing at the same time it’s so hard to focus.
R u on the spectrum?😂
When i was 15, i decided not to marry or have kids after seeing how terrible my parents marriage are like and i thought its always gonna be like that since i talked to guys at the time, and they showed that they have the mindset that women belong to the kitchen and should submit to the husband doesnt matter what and husbands have the freedom to do whatever they want..most of then guys say that at the time (11 years ago when i was 15)..so i felt like discouraged to pursue love, i focus on my studies and now my career..i even kept my v card cuz i hated men too much to give in to anyone..but last year, i started getting this maternal feeling.. kids always love me since i was teenager (also elderly people and cats also love me a lot, rarely someone old or a cat dont like me).. so when i started to feel like getting married at 25 last year, i also dont want to accept anybody. I was and has been rejecting some men that wants to marry me because they dont have the same values as me in life (either lazy dude, misogynistic, not ambitious etcetc)..so thats one thing im proud of myself, no matter how desperate, i dont just settle..even one of my crush few years ago wants to have seggs, i declined cuz idk, i feel like i have kept myself pure for so long, i want to save for marriage (but i even reject a guy that said he wants to marry me cuz im innoceent, was such a turn off that i almost puke at how he sees and views me)..earlier this year, i finally met a man that has same values as me in life etcetc but it didnt work out because of different religious view, he is very atheist..and i had a guy with same religious view but i wasnt attracted to him 😂 sometimes i feel like i have fear of intimacy because sometimes when a crush likes me back, i become distant.. i also have body jmage issue because im overweight not obese, but i feel insecure to be naked with anybody so thats also one of the reason why im saving for marriage other than for religious reason(but im not so religious so it is more personal choice)..but now i dont mind when a man says women belong to the kitchen cuz i always love to cook, just not for a man that say the most insensitive words(they are usually the lazy broke type)..i would love to cook for a good man, for my family..to nurture them love them..i have money,i work in IT department..i do chores since i was 5.. and doesnt matter if i die alone for having high standard then im glad i dont settle for low value men that will just give me mental exhaustion
A man hhat says a woman belangt to the kitchen doesn't respect women.
I love to cook too but I would never do it as a free Service for a man that doesn't respect me.
I can relate to you so much! I'm 42, still have my v card, never found anyone I felt was worthy of my body, always running into atheists... now I definitely don't want a patriarchal Christian. I'm a Goddess worshiper (shout outs to Kali Ma!) & I think religiously we'd have to be on the same page. I've been picking up in my own room since I was 3, but had other household chores starting age 5 like taking out the trash and vacuuming since those were easy. (I was a really religious Seventh Day Adventist when I made a vow of chastity at 18, but b4 that I was home schooled so teenage boys weren't a problem then. They're more of a problem now, bcuz I'm babyfaced & they hit on me. They really think w/o a car, a job, an education, & being of age that they stand a chance smh) I'm also chonky & don't want anyone seeing me naked lol but I think if I lost the weight I wanted to & had abs that I still wouldn't want anyone looking at me. My body is for me. I will say ABSOLUTELY stay away from low vibrational & low value men (some men who are broke can be high vibrational, but you don't need to take on their bills)! Hahahaha & cats & elderly people (as long as they're not racist) love me, too! Toddlers also love me, but they're little germ machines. I recently stopped my 9yrs of being in childcare. I'm done. Currently I'm on disability (seizures & other medical issues).. I think sometimes I could learn to code & maybe make my own app, but... who knows. It's all a journey.
@@silververnallbells191 most women I know without a man, always have babyface or look really youthful 😂 maybe because of no stress? Absolutely, even if i have lost my weight, i still would prefer to save for marriage.. i have been working out and lost a bit since i made that comment.. mostly because of my health, cuz i started getting asthmatic even tho I'm not like obese or anything but i do eat oily food a lot.. im open minded with knowing guys with different religions view but i start to think maybe a same view in religion and life would make it easier.. been talking to few guys since 7 months ago, but no connections yet.. i figured that i want a high value man, so i want to be high value as well by appearance and internally and intellectually.. btw, i would totally support learning to code.. even as a side income, it will be really useful, or just for fun for now..who knows maybe in future, it comes in useful! Programming is the future jobs, idk imo actually haha i know we're both not that desperate for a man bc we know our value already but i think we're both are open if a good high value man comes into our life so i pray you find the man of your dreams ❤️ ameen
I have never wished for the life of those that advocate for child-free
Good for you most of us cant even afford to have kid's good luck with that one
Damn... The work stories blew me away! I went to hit the like button on this video but realized i had already liked it 😂
7:36 everyone dies alone .... people aren't that stupid to understand that or are they?
oh for sure. grandma had 6 kids and non was with her on deathbed. No one was a day seen with her or even spending with her.. "unconditional love??" where might i ask?
@@justsomeinternetuser I didn't mean it in that weird spiritual way you describe, I mean it literally. You enter the world just as alone as you leave it again.
I think this situation with employers is honestly a way to manipulate individuals who childfree or childless not by choice and try force them into having kids.
As a Woman who had children and didn't want them. I can tell u. Its not worth it at all. I admire childfree Women.
11:08 If I'm ever able to find a fucking job (very hard in my area right now), I'm just going to fake that I have 2 children I mean they are my dogs, but children nonetheless.
"How old are your daughter??"
"9 and 7"
"Omg you had them very young!"
"I did indeed" :DD
i wanna get married but i don't wanna have kids in this economy
If everyone had 3 children we would very quickly run out of resources and land space, poverty, homelessness and malnutrition rates would skyrocket the air quality would be much worse (Due to a decrease in trees and an increase in CO2 production) as we take more land many species of animals will go extinct and animals attacking humans will become much more common as we will be the most available food source.
Now onto the economy side of things: Let's assume you're doing the legal minimum for your child, so around $20 on food per week (0-3) $40 per week (4-11) $60 per week (12-18), $60 on clothes every year, $300 on medical stuff every year, $500 for a crib (0-3), $1000 for a bed (4-18), $1000 on education every year (6-18), you would still spend roughly $62,000 raising a single child (This is if you are doing the bare legal minimum, so the child will be unhealthy due to decreased medical availability and decreased food consumption, have no entertainment whatsoever, worse education because they will have no school supplies and a worsened sleep due to sleeping on the same bed for 15 years.)
Onto the biological and psychological side of things, many people have fertility issues, STDs and/or multiple other barriers. Additionally around 10% of the population is LGBTQIA+ and the only ones out of those people willing to reproduce are bisexuals and aromantics. Some people just don't want to have a child, some people who try experience miscarriages and some just aren't able and/or willing to find a partner.
Not to mention that raising a child takes a lot of time and effort, time which many people don't have. Children also cause a lot of stress, which isn't good for your mental health, you would have to balance a job with raising a child that can be tough.
"and I was like....I'm 5!" I know this was a serious topic, but that delivery made me laugh😊
10:47 WHOA! She left no crumbs!
I picked the left screen. Which did you pick to watch? Lol
I decided I don't want children. Many reasons of course but it's just I don't want. End of story. This is how I answer people when they ask me why I am childfree
Honestly, I don’t know why people feel the need to tell others about why they choose to remain child free?
I’m child free , period.
No one will pay my bills, watch my kid when I want to travel, invest in an actual human being to try to help them become functional adults, etc etc.
So really , why would I explain anything to anyone?
Children are ungrateful for all your sacrifices. It cost $25,000/year!
that's a huge take from the podcast guy who has no children. Don't listen to these bums, because they never worked at a UPS warehouse to understand how hard it is to get that check.
How many mentally unstable and broken adults join society to make harm to other just because some one wants kids and after that being lousy parent! Or being selfish and get laid but wont take responsibility of the result. So Who is selfish.
God these podcast bros are so effing cringe
Everyone does not need to have children.
Open disdain for children is another matter. If you live long enough, those “sticky” annoying” etc beings will be the ones taking care of you and the rest of society, not only as nurses and doctors but as sanitation workers, cooks, and grocery delivery.
As demographics change and the younger population dwindles, there will be more and more elderly dependent on the generations they disdained.
I’d watch the public downing of people I will need before too long.
Stay healthy, and you won’t need younger caregivers 😅😂
Don't act like parents don't rely on other people's kids. There are many Moms and Dads in nursing homes who rarely get visit from adult children that have to priortize their own family.
couldnt care less
My mother worked in elderly care for a decade and all the people she cared for were parents whose kids wanted absolutely NO PART in caring for them, and most never even so much as called, let alone visited. Parents like to push this belief that their kids are gonna look after them when they're old when that is overwhelmingly NOT the case 99% of the time. Even if you birth 10 kids, chances are they're not going to be the ones wiping your ass and helping you shower when you can no longer do it yourself. Also, I do hate kids, they're sticky and smelly and annoying and gross. That's the 100% truth and I'm entitled to not have to be around kids If I don't want to. Just because they're going to be adults one day doesn't change the fact that right now in this moment, they're sticky, smelly, annoying and gross.
@@gazagxrlx2974 You are responding to something that I neither said nor implied, but your sensitivities aren't my problem.
Winning!
3:15 revenge. 🔥🔥🔥
I can't believe z00mie doesn't have an onlyfans. She's so cute.
Great channel name hahahah
Theres so much pride that comes from being parent. My son is 15 and told me his teachers wife died and he found out today. He was telling me how he feels bad for his teacher and wishes he could take him food or something to show he cares. The pride I felt in that moment was so simple yet so intense. I could see that me and my husband are raising an amazing teenager and his compassion and empathy is something that makes me so happy to hear and see. I know he will grow into being a man who can be respected. I would never get this pride or joy from anything other than being a parent.
That is great. People like you should procreate and produce human beings that are kind and caring. The rest of us will sit back and support you while we sip our mimosas. #childfreeforlife
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the lady talking about childfree at work maybe should have just done the overtime because currently it sounds like shes trying to record audio on a wet potato
Years ago when I was in China, America was my dream land, and American people were angels to me. The American people are full of love to human beings and their families.
Now that I live in the USA and wittiness the American people go down the road to the hell, I feel so sad, for myself, my children, and my American people.
I'm a South African 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦 and I think Americans are advanced in their thinking. They live in the future. Very conscious.
@@mahlohonololebuso741 Some of us are advanced, but a lot of the Christian fundamentalists/Christofascists are VERY backwards & OK w/causing real harm to women & children.
I support childfree women because one of life's toughest ordeal is precisely to put up with a power hungry mother that can NEVER be satisfied.
The only reason I don't really agree with is spite. You feel like you played them but you've only really played yourself. You really gave them that much power over your life.
No power was given. That's your take.
@@themom2250 Yes, it is my opinion.
No power was given to the MIL because the woman didn't really want kids in the first place. Fence sitters are basically people who have FOMO. Her MIL just tipped her completely back to her senses by being such a nasty b*tch. I so admire her level of petty. 😂
What power?
@@miranivari3066the power to decide what to do with my body? The power to not sacrifice my life for another? The power to not use my body to further a man’s bloodline? What power? If you want be a incubator, go ahead. Last I check society doesn’t respect women, especially single mothers and do you really want to be stuck being the primary parent? Maybe if I was a man I’d want children but I’m not, and so I’ll be opting out of a lifetime slave contract.
Kids do random dumb stuff …..
Yikes. Some woman forced her husband to eat spicy foods so that she could have it her way. If a man said he conditioned his wife to finally like something his way, people would be livid.
first woman saying "life is already so expensive" while using makeup products she can go without and be fine
Doesn’t matter 🤷🏾♀️she doesn’t have to give that up for kids and her not having the makeup won’t make life not expensive
Hmmm. You have a husband that doesn't want children. Doesn't that disgust you?
But work is not a child.
Kids are able to behave well.
People aren't frustrated that someone doesn't have children. It's that you intentionally don't have children. There's a huge list of problems connected to it.
In part, when you're old, the younger generations are responsible to protect and care for the women that couldn't have children or are widowed, (you know how many lonely/family less elderly women get their stuff/money stolen and just end up in bad situations?) but that kind of thing happens, just not intentionally. So "child free" women are relying on other people's children to care for them in their old age instead of investing in their own children.
People tend to not like people that only care about money
People tend to not like people that don't like other people (crazy right?)
People tend to feel frustrated when there's a lack of understanding with real life problems. Unrealistic expectations become normal.
Men with that mindset are basically wanting you to mother them so they don't have to have real responsibilities.
So, men expect their kids to mother them then.
My parents don't expect me to take care of them because they had me. They didn't have me for their retirement plans. They had me because they wanted to love their kid. My parents live in reality, they know I can't stop paying my Bills to take care of them. What they do is compensate by owning my Bilks when I gave to help them because I'm missing work by helping them.
You see how that works?
So, either way it goes, I'll be paying someone to take care of me because they can't quit working to take care of me. Might as well bypass having the kids part and just pay someone to take care of me. At least that way I'll have money for retirement. If my caretaker is having problems finding a place to live, they can live in my house rent free.
Here’s a reason to somebody to have kids if you’re not sure that nobody talks about. You have absolutely no one to care for you when you get old in the nursing home. It’s kinda like a scratch my back I’ll scratch yours within time lol
Where are these women that baby their husbands and children at the same time? Haha 🤣 never witnessed that kind of trait in women 😂
We must also take note that some ppl claiming they don’t want kids secretly know they can’t have kids. They then start spreading made up reasons why they “choose” not to have kids scaring and influencing their light headed followers.
Life is the most precious gift in the world. Kids are the best gift in the world. When you miss such a gift, your life got wasted. Period. You did not live the whole life.
No.
What if your wife divorces you and takes the kids away? Then she lies about you and says you are a monster. Then you need to pay 18 years of child support. Then your kid grows up, commits a crime and goes to jail....
Having a kid... you have to have the right partner? Do you think people should just have a kid with ANYONE? It's very hard to find someone you love. Finding someone that can be a good spouse to help you raise a partner is very hard. So many people cheat on their wives with other lovers. If you have a kid, there is nothing you can do about it.
DrLucEnglish... you are a dumbass.
Nope,people life is wasted when they dont want to help to foster or adopt if they cant have kids. Still so many people nowdays misprize that big thing to help a child which is in that position and maybe will end up very bad in future because SO many people think only their blood matter and they are ready to suck donations,long procedures,painful also only to get something that spoil their family life,when intimacy becomes rhoutine like u go doctor and if finally u get this child your life will be not the same or u will divorce,cus the idea for own kid is been the only one thing that is keep your marriage. All this kind procedures promote to cheapen orphaned kids,or if they are been born in bad family and majority wants to foster them because get money everymont. Same is petshops,government alows anyone to breed their animals and put them down like nothing,because like human kids they are product of irresponsible people...Society still is not civilised and is good has so many g.y people nowdays,because they are given chance to kids. And of course to has kid is precious gift,but people continue after that when they has no space for second one,not enough money or time. We see in american movies how normal families start to make savings for collage even before to has kid,right ;) And if they decide to has second one they need to save more money 😂 And again often comes the situation the two parents get tired from life and they divorce. We see this everyday,and maybe 50 percent are not because of drugs,gambling or alcoholic addiction.
That’s not true…think about all these horrible adults…they were once terrible kids!!!
So the gift of life is a child? Some people are fine without that gift.
If someone offers me $100 million for not having kids, I would say go away. Don’t be stupid.
you need to stop commenting on this video, you're obsessed and creepy
If someone offered me 1 million not to have kids, I would take it in a heartbeat. I don't want them anyway. Win/win for me.
Cool best not ask anyone to look after your burden
What if you took the 100 million and adopt some of the 500,000 kids in foster care?
If someone offered me a trillion for having a child, I would refuse. Even being homeless without kids would be preferable to have kids
the woman in her 50s talking about her amicable divorce looked like she was in her late 20s, early 30s....another reason to be childfree, to stay looking young!
Is this how we keep the species going ok do you.
Not my job, I didn’t even ask to be here. You probably don’t even like most of the species yet you wanna make more 😂
Who wants to keep this cruel destructive species going anyway? Going extinct isn't bad for anyone
There are 50,000 children in the American foster care system. Maybe they'll keep humanity going? Just an idea.
Human population is 10 times higher than sustainable. And consumption is 100 times higher
Kids are the most meaningful things in life, without kids life is wasted.
I’m sure parents w/adults kids at home don’t feel that way
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The truth to me is that I feel like have a new life again when my adult kids moved in to my home. I am so grateful for the second life feeling.
I'm sure most mothers don't feel this way.
@@CoCo-yv3hl I will be happy if my kids stay with me at home after they reach adulthood. My mom stayed with my grandma until her passing away and everybody benefited from that. It is American consumerism what shames kids for not leaving at 18 and for not dumping their parents in poorhouse when they are old because when peoples are single all they have is job and instead of needing one home and other stuff for whole family each family member needs home which drives prices up. I didn't think about having kids until I met my now husband who really wanted kids and I become pregnant, now if I could I would want lots of kids but unfortunately in todays unstable world no more than 3. You haven't lived and grew up if you don't have kids.
Life is wasted??? You must be lucky that a parent didn't tell you they regretted having you, because some of us had that. Not everybody should or can be a parent for many reasons.
Lol my business is my baby....ok lets get an update in 20 years will your business take care of you and be there for you when youre old. It will bring you zero happiness you literslly will not give a crap about you business
Your kids aren’t looking after you when you’re old kids aren’t a retirement plan you selfish person
Most adults can't retire in the US now due to the bad economy. Social security will collapse eventually.
I have saved millions and to be honest, when I am 80... I will still be in very good shape due to excellent exercise.
My caretakers will be young and gorgeous. I will pay them to look after me, if needed.
Enjoy your annoying kids fighting over your will.
Children don't care about their parents anymore
Exactly and if you try to raise kids to be decent people, the society is so sick... The environment and other kids can twist them.@@mirjanapucarevic2105
you are delusional if you think your children are going to be caring for you when you're old. The person wiping your ass for you will be a paid carer, not your kids who will have their own lives to focus on. You're a horrible and selfish person if you expect your kids, who did not ask to be born, to slave away looking after you
Smart western men don't want to breed with Western women anyway. So win win😊
Men not being rarted challenge (IMPOSSIBLE)
Check the stats, it’s global. Birth rates are dropping as we speak
Also if you wanted women to be mothers you’d treat them better. You guys also constantly attack single mothers and cheat. So women are more likely to become single mothers, the same people men treat badly. You’ll hate us either way so best to choose the easiest option which is not reproducing
u want a trophy
Cause yall want to fuck up some girl life who won't be able to run
kids are just too annoying
They're very anoyying
I disagree. Parents are MORE annoying, but kids are a close second.
Children aren't annoying, but ignorant ass adults withing shitty interpersonal skills are.
And there BRATS
This is so sad the fertility rate is so low in America . Yet we have these people rejoicing they have no one to carry on their blood line. On second thought maybe that's not such a bad idea. We don't need more people thinking like this or we will die off.
No one’s bloodline is that important!!
Exactly, people are free to do what they want but don't promote it.
As a man, there are so many bad things that to perfectly align for you to raise kids now.
1. Your wife doesn't divorce you and take 70% of everything.
2. You don't get cheated on.
3. You find a suitable partner that isn't selfish.
4. WW3 doesn't occur. We are close. How can you bring children into the world, when you know that a nuclear war is right around the corner?
5. The society is toxic and SUPER liberal. Where would you raise kids? Is there any place that hasn't been perverted in the US?
6. You need at least 2 million USD to raise 2 kids from child birth to adulthood? Who has that money now?
7. Kids tie you down. By that I mean... You must be ready to go to war because you are not getting far with kids when all hell brakes loose.
@@StarPlatinumV 💯👍
Not having a kid =
·Being immune to government's threats to comply with it's will or else have my kids taken from me.
·Not having to see my children brainwashed into getting their genitals mutilated and/or be made to celebrate such barbaric practices and being put in jail if I attempt to intervene in anyway.
·Knowing that when the inevitable conflagration hits (should it not come to pass during my own lifetime) that no one of my blood will be there on the pyre or among those stacking the kindling.
EXACTLY. And I believe the government knows that children are tools of compliance. @@darrellohare2573
2:04 I can give you a very good biological reason why you shold have kids but by listening you i decide taht is better that you do not have kids.
Noby cares what you want
we do not care
@@lovelymill you dont and that is your right but biology do. If you don have kids your genome will be deleted from the evolutionary tree of life, translated to a human language as if you never existed. LIfe with no purpose. Memory of other fades when you die, your kids are your continuation on this planet. But hey if dont care me to. Just educating you,
I can also give you even more biological reasons not to reproduce, especially if you are a woman.
@@lovelymill😂😂😂😂😂
I feel bad for these people. Most of these women will be 40 yrs old and crying when the oprion is gone. Your career and free time wont be there to care for you in old age or tske your last breath. What an unfulfilling life to be childless
Do you know what my parents will be doing? Lol 😂 like I’m not looking after them and you can’t be sure your kids will look after you
Adoption is an option. 🙄
You really think your kids will be there for you? Good luck with that. Hope you didn't make any mistakes.
(I'll be honest, you'll probably die alone with the attitude you're displaying here)
41f here, very happy with my childfree choice. I don’t like children and have never wanted them. I’m curious as to why you’re here?
Oh look you think you are a psychic. Aww that's so cute 😂
40? Most women can still give birth in their 40s. It doesn't matter if you're surrounded by people or by yourself. We all cross the rainbow bridge alone. And I will say just because you're no where near as smart as you think you are: YOU DO NOT get to choose when or how you die unless you self delete. Chances of you being alone are extremely high. You need to turn to Kali Ma and overcome your fear of old age and death.
It's stupid education to say don't trust in a man, but these females will trust in the government.
What happens to their money when the government renders fiat currency obsolete?
Lol when the government makes fiat currency obsolete then won’t it affect the males too?? Lmao stfu😊😅
and what men will do? its not like they wont be affected 😂😂
calling women "females" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Gotta love the way people think only men have money. 😂
Do you care that women are being off an a hourly basis by men?
First one,so many people pop out kids that has no future so has enough to foster or adopt. Now people will say-oo is not the same 😂 Well nowdays people still follow their million years old instinct to breed,including to not make abortion when is been their fault with the excuse that every person need to feel what is to have child 😂 And that when u has no stable job,or u are not even married,and all kind thing that need kid to live happy they still reproduce and society encourage them even when they are not 18. 😂 It means parents are the same. This is happen mostly in the rotten America,that is why there has so many homeless zombies from small age. People need to accept that many of them cant take care even for cat! And when they decide to try what will be the result to have kid they end up in broken marriage when they cant bear the family life . That is why so so many men divorce nowdays and some are nowhere to be seen and dont know their kids 😂 I will give u example how century or bad life not always is excuse. My grandfather is been born in poor village family of 4,education that time is not been free except first degree and also he lived since he turned 17 without electricity also...So ,he relocated in the capital and get married and with his job he started to save money to buy apartment to live a normal life. When my grandma somehow got pregnant he told her to make abortion because " He is been born poor and wants all what he earn in his life as money and property to be enough for his only one child " For that years this is been very bold,but smart man,no matter his start in life.
"somehow get pregnant" is very funny to hear
the audio is really bad on some of the videos, it's hard to listen to