@@Jonnyicey Don't see why not. After all, the child free paid their taxes to provide services to help them... And it's usually other people's children who look after other people's parents, anyway... I spend my child-free-by-choice life looking after parents whose children can no longer cope with them, leaving them old, frail and alone and funded by the welfare state, which, in turn, is funded by my childfree taxes. This especially happens because those children have other commitments, such as their own children or grandchildren that they are having to look after because their children chose to have children.
@@Darkless4X if we want society to continue it sort of is an obligation. We can cope with a small amount of childless but the numbers that are predicted will collapse society.
There are many immigrant women where I am and they have many children. All the ones I see who are older than 50 (I think) can barely walk. They shuffle along ten metres behind their husbands. They also seem to have a lot of health problems like diabetes. Having too many kids can ruin your ability to be mobile. Being mobile as we age is very important. Birthing out kids can ruin your pelvic floor. Not being incontinent is important to me.
@Chromegrillz They need to realize it's YOUR choice! As a Catholic, I am supposed to sing you that chorus about the necessity of procreation, how it's selfish not to, blah, blah, blah; but I WON'T! This is because I am ALSO an overthinker and I can think of reasons why some people shouldn't and I'm not here to judge! A few people without children won't lower the birth rate and parenthood ISN'T for everyone!
@@BlueforReasonWe need to give validation to other Childfree people. There is less content about being Childfree, There are lots of content about parenting.
@@BlueforReason Why do you non-childfree people feel the need to watch childfree content? Seems like you’re probably regretting your parenting decision.👀
@@jansleyreal you’ll be surprised how many people our age have decided to live a child free life. All my friends are 38-50 and none of them have any kids. I think many in this generation have really figured that there ain’t nothing positive about having kids with the crazy bs going on and this economy. People complaint about stress, about having difficulty making ends meet bring a child into the mix and it will get even worse. The little time I have is for me to enjoy the way I want. I am already here and that is all that matters to me!!! Throughout this past years I have seen so many people from work getting married and getting divorced, now there are a bunch of single mothers dealing with child support. I actual don’t know how do they get by in this economy. I admire them. I am not trying to be any of that. Just don’t care for it. Peace and silence have more value to me than anything else.
@@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwordsI feel like your argument slightly is like justifying not exercising because you know so many people that either took steroids and died early, got injured, or something negative. I dont think excemptions like the ones you said are justifiable arguments to not do something. Another is like not getting married cuz u see so many people getting divorced. Now i am not one to impose a lifestyle onto you. But Id like to see your opinion in 10-20 even 30 years from now. Again like my other comment, i think hedonism is a spiraling cycle to a silent death. Creating purpose, any purpose, is what gives humans meaning to live. Challenges are part of that. Idk, i think its something beautiful you are missing out on. also… not saying this is you are anyone. But generally people of similar ideologies tend to lack self introspectiveness and reflection. Like say a relationship has never worked out, some may lack the ability to either humble themselves into admitting their own mistakes, or atleast view their situation as “oh well it wasnt meant to be, on to the next”. Just because of such experience, anyone who denounces relationships as a whole would be flawed in thinking.
@@bbing-99coz they are smarter. The brokes are dumb so all they can think about is sex. It makes them feel like they are contributing to something. When in actual fact they are not.
I'm a 55 year old woman who doesn't have children. I've also never been married. I completely relate with what you're saying here. Another thing that is not often discussed is that some people without children pick up the slack in society. For example, I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years with both children and adults in serious, traumatic situations. I don't think I could have contributed in this way if I had my own family. It simply would have been too much given what I saw and experienced on a daily basis. Having a family truly is all encompassing. And I agree with you...I started a one person consulting business and it truly is all encompassing. I couldn't imagine doing this with a family having to cater to the needs of multiple people. All the best to you and your endeavors.
@@chuachua-hj9zd I love kids, but I am glad I did not have children of my own. It would have been too much for me. It really is a huge responsibility and I take my responsibilities seriously. For example, I have an older cat (almost 16 yrs). I am up at night every two hours with her because she is very thirsty and needs to drink water. (She has dementia so she doesn't drink on her own.) I can be there for my cat, but I knew I couldn't do this for a child (it would be too much for me). To have a child, you really need a very supportive partner (and supportive extended family) and raising kids becomes the center of your life. Plus, my childhood was very dark and challenging and I needed time to recover from that. I did not want to pass that on to children of my own. With all this said, I may adopt a teenager in the future if it makes sense to do so. Right now, I started a consulting business and if I am successful, perhaps in the future, I can adopt a 15-17 year old, which makes the most sense because everyone wants a baby and not a teenager. All the best to you with your decision.
I'm childfree too. One of my biggest concern is the deteriorating state of the world we live in. Almost every part of the world is experiencing extreme weather patterns making living impossible. With corrupt government and no support from them it becomes even more difficult. As a female, I've seen the many ways motherhood becomes a burden on women. From lack of affordable healthcare to career taking a hit. It's a punishment for choosing to be a mother. Since I'm CF, I get to explore my talents and work mindfully in my career and life. I'm so proud of the choice I made. Because of it I get to actively engage in things that matter. I'm hosting the first ever CF meet&greet event in my city. So grateful I get to bring people together and help build social connections. Enjoy your Thailand trip. Hope you visit us too someday. Sending you good wishes from India
To be fair, if you look at the past, they had it way worse in regards to family and kids. We've never lived in a better world, so I find this a rather illogical reason not to have kids. However I myself am not having kids too, but that's because of other reasons
@@Fan-zx1lz The world in general has never been safer or better to live in. That's just facts. Pretty sure they had it worse during the world wars, or back in the 1800's and before. There will always be things to worry about. If that's the only reason you don't want a child, then it's better to just admit that you just don't simply want it
I don't really come across childfree people who aren't happy with where they are in life. Makes sense, they spend their time and their money doing what they want to do. Parents will never admit this because the most terrifying thing in the world for a parent to think is that they made a mistake having a child.
I have three teens and if I could back in time, I wouldn't have had them even though I thought all I wanted to be was a mother. I have no problem admitting that, though I never would to them.
@@LouisianaCityboi Actually, the most terrifying thing in the world for a parent are these: 1. To have your child ill; 2. To think they are a bad parent, 3. To not have enough resources to give them all you want. I guess you are hanging out with very exhausted parents who need help. But also, stop being so judgemental and be happy with your own choice.
I have three kids and I can tell you anyone who isn't 100% committed will hate the experience and regret having them. If people objectively considered the reality of having kids, the commitmemt and sacrifice, the fertility rate would be even lower.
One of the biggest kept secrets is most kids are accidents. Very few actually plan their children. It just kind of happens. And then they bear the burden.
Appreciate the honest response here. I m 38 and female and dont want children. My parents passed away decades ago and one reason is that I m not willing to raise a child without any form of additional family support. I also think it s too expensive. I like to travel and between working full time and keeping food and a roof over my head and looking after myself physically I have no idea where kids would fit in.
Idk I just feel A LOT of parents sugar coat the entire experience of having kids. I read the r/regretfulparents subreddit and it is HORRIFYING. It's disturbing the things people go through from mental and physical health failing after kids, to, being debilitating lonely without help from family or friends. It's a MASSIVE gamble especially in this day in time. Rarely do I believe it's this endlessly joyful experience that a lot of people try to portray.
I’m 37 yrs old no husband or kids I’m not against marriage or children but I’m not desperate for it either. I love being child free and I agree parenthood is a life long commitment
Being childfree is a decision i made by age 27. There is nothing selfless about bringing life into this world since people have kids for selfish reasons. In my culture I'm definitely expected to have kids especially as an African and a Muslim.
By what u said, it sounds like u have other reasons. But since u highlighted the selfless bit. Both are selfish and selfless in their own way. (im not saying You said that there is nobility in no children, but there is people who do think that its purely a Selfless act)
For those commenting "who cares", I don't think this video is meant for you. I live in Chicago and I don't want kids, but that isn't a big deal here. When I visited a friend of mine in rural Louisiana, the first question asked everyone asked me was "Where are your wife and kids?" They got very judgmental with my response that I didn't want that, it made me glad that I lived in a place where I didn't have to deal with that. For many people in liberal cities, this video doesn't mean much. For those in small-town 'Murica, it might be a nice reminder you aren't alone.
Thank you for sharing this. This has by far been the most backlash I’ve gotten on a video. It’s kinda interesting actually. The video is really meant for those who feel like they “need” to have kids to fulfill some expectation or life script. Or even for those who also want to be childfree and want to know they are not alone :)
But unfortunately, irreligious and liberal people are hypocrites too. Liberals believe everyone should live their lives in anyway they want. Yet liberals also support and enforce tax laws that benefit married people more than us single people! So they believe that us women should retain the freedom to do and control our bodies how we want but liberal politicians also give more handouts and tax credits to people with kids! This is why Democrats are NO different than Republicans. Both sides are too lazy to invest in people's well-being, so they want people to depend on others by marriage. Plus they want you to make other people rich by you spending money on rings, weddings, anniversaries, honeymoons, having kids, etc. It's already lame enough when conservatives shame you for being single and childless by saying, "But it is G*d's will for people to marry and procreate." And then, irreligious and liberal people shame you by saying "you don't want anyone to grow old with so who'll take care of you later." Sorry folks! We must learn to look after ourselves, learn to network, socialize more, find roommates, talk to your neighbors, talk to your colleagues, and be independent.
I had one at 30 as well. At first my doctor refused because I didn't have kids, but then I showed him my mental health records and then all of a sudden he changed his tune and approved me for the procedure and it was the best decision I ever made. No regrets what so ever.
@@willieportillo5829 I'm an artist (painter and singer ) reiki healer , yoga enthusiast and I have overcome for the most part horrendous bipolar and addiction , I intend to heal others (which I already am) and work with my talents to help people who are suffering with mental illness and addictions , and spread a message with my creative pursuits of healing and raising people into connection with God / and their higher selves. Spread healing basically. My life has been very traumatic, why would I feel comfortable bringing another life into such a traumatic place if that has been my experience? No , id rather wait till the world has changed into what I want to see it as .. and therefore I shall work on that until I see it for myself .. if it's too late for pregnancy by then and I'm old and grey , so be it. Much to work on.
@@willieportillo5829Even if you had kids. What do you plan on doing? Kids don’t guarantee company. They leave you, and there’s no guarantee you will company in the nursing home at 80-90 years old.
Im a parent and to be very honest you are not missing out on much! Those moments that people tell you bring us parents “joy” last .02 seconds before all hell breaks loose and they’re either damaging your sofa with a marker or waking up in the middle of the night when you have to go to work the next morning
I'm child free but this seemed obvious to me. It's a large reason I don't want or even feel the need to have kids. I feel like the burden outways the positives many times over. I feel like humans fundamentally find joy and happiness and experience pain and hardship like the weather. Kids are not going to bring more joy in an average day so long as you are engaging with life. If anything they will suffocate those moments with more chores, obligations, routine, appointments and responsibility. The idea of being present and enjoying what life is feels like it would be next to impossible with kids. I'd be so busy constantly thinking about them my mind would never catch a break. I like to stop and smell the roses. I love it. I know what I have. I have the freedom, the time and the headspace to soak in this thing called life. Kids would be the equivalent of taking on another job. No time. No freedom. No headspace.
@@oaklandsoldier8520or any partner. I’ve tried both. Men, women…being in a couple is just hard for certain people. I’m one of those people. Just me and the dogs these days
"Not only is it very SELFISH but also EXTREMELY SICK to wish for your kids to witness your death or the process of your demise. I want to spare my kids from having to deal with all the stress and sadness that a human being can experience while watching how their own parents are dying, Therefore I decided to have no kids." ― David Benatar
Yeah, was awful watching my father die just after my thirtieth birthday. For months afterwards, every time I closed my eyes I would see him in his final hours and it was heartbreaking. Do miss him but watching someone die is incredibly tough and the whole ‘who will be there at your deathbed’ fear tactic is totally random. Actively dying is not a spectator sport and especially not for small children to witness.
yes so instead absent them of experiencing life… what is more selfish. Also unless your a hedonist, which sadly most seem to approach now. Life is about challenges and purpose. “without darkness there would be no light” same concept. Learn to enjoy life, to accept the challenges as part of a journey.
I used to regret not having kids… then the pandemic happened. Everything became expensive and the future is uncertain. Now I’m so happy I’m single and child-free
I’m childfree by choice as well. It’s a decision I struggled with for years but came to a moral conclusion. Here are my top 10 reasons why I will NEVER have children…. 1. Children are expensive, I can barely support myself. 2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility. 3. It is selfish to bring a child into the world. 4. I like having my autonomy and freedom. 5. Climate change will be a problem in years to come. 6. I’m a vegetarian which would be problematic with children. 7. Possible heath (physical and mental) conditions may come along. 8. The education system is poor. 9. Too much school drama (bullying, shootings and stabbings). 10. I’m too old now (age 40) and there can be risks at this point. Again, those are just 10 reasons but I have so many more reasons (over 100). Being childfree is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made, I have zero regrets.
Im not one to say your reasons arent valid. But could you further emphasize on 3, 8, and 9. I could question others like 7 and 5. But more curious on those other 3. How is it selfish to bring life into the world? And as for the education system. Youd rather do nothing about it? (or maybe you are doing something about it idk) Point is, you are the one teaching your child. Why does a system that you have an option to give your child or guide them through flat out be a reason not too. and 9. Please. Thats like saying u wont go travel cuz lots of car crashes, and robbings. Idk. Also ig if we view your potential future children as actual beings. who are you to limit them of life. Is that not selfish. (btw if you literally cannot take care of them or are over the age, those reasons make sense👌) -
@@Mylisacamplife Im asking a question... because news flash this is a comment section and thus i assume a place for conversation. Im not intending to attack anybody, and if you view it that way then again like ive said before, it may hint at insecurity. Imagine i was to be uninformed on this topic, and when given an overview i believe that yes kids are a good thing and people should have them, and imagine this topic of conversation wasnt as political as people make it out to be, and then a person comes around and says they have hundreds of reasons for why they believe in something that i may initially not believe in. Guess what, ill very likely in a spirit of wanting to LEARN and perhaps change my perspeptive (wait what, we can do that now and days? and have conversations without taking them as attacks)... Point is... i would likely ask that person, hey honestly most of the reasons you brought up dont make alot of sense to me for this and this, i think im still leaning on my side, do you care to explain your position a little better so i can better understand (which i assume they should be able too since they said they have tons of more reasons for having their rigid stance, and if anything, it is the OPPOSITE of insulting because i believe they are smart enough to give me a better reason than the ones that they gave (which honestly i thought i made it clear how they dont make much sense)) Imagine what society MyLisaCamplife you desire to live in that you consider it SUCH A WIRD THING TO DO so much so that they must THINK ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS, before caring to engage in a conversation with someone whom they may disagree with or just not fully understand their point. Infact, how DARE YOU, ask me if i think about my actions. I dont need to explain myself to you. What a weird thing of you to ask from me. just in case you didnt catch on, with that last tine... its called scarcasm, i dont want u commenting again saying how seeee you did it youself. which i frankly wouldnt be surprised if you did based on your answer (this last part is something that you maybe could tell me is rude to comment, but wtv, im a little annoyed lol. have a great day, maybe you can respond and we can have a conversation from this. or be like the rest and shut up. and then perhaps continue to get mad at people without never engaging in conversation and progressing anyone.)
@MaxinetheLoLGamerGirlUSA I guess you are just acknowledging that there is a difference between being ideologically "childfree" and childfree in reality. The ideology of "child-free" is against life, against creation. It is inherently pessimistic, depressive, and self-centered. Its funny that I see a lot of black/minority women that are interested in this "movement" and honestly, I dont want to try to convince you to have children. People like yourself are really not worthy of being present via children in subsequent generations of humans. Enjoy your meaning-filled life which resolves around social media and playing video games. The world will not miss you in 100 years.
I never understood the argument "who will take care of you when youre older." Whats the difference between being pushed in a wheelchair by your kids who see you as a burden, and being pushed in a wheelchair by a nursing home employee? At least you dont have to feel guilty for troubling the nursing home employee.
I think u should have kids but. Yea that argument isnt very strong lol. Also if your reason is because you would rather not burden them. Then take control and get rich and afford to live somewhere nice w other people taking care of u
I think this shows a superficial understanding of what “taking care of someone” means. Like it isn’t just pushing a wheelchair or giving a sponge bath or whatever. It’s calling your parents on the phone, visiting them, talking through life’s struggles, watching out for shady people, fighting for someone if they need it. And yeah, you’d hope everyone is responsible enough to build enough wealth to handle their own living in retirement, but if something happens unexpectedly the only people that will really help are your family. Can’t rely on friends or the government for big stuff. Kids aren’t pets, they’re not dolls, they’re not “little angels”. They’re an investment in the future, a future that you won’t see. They’re not an investment you expect to be “paid back”, it’s enough that they become their own adults with their own future. The return is knowing them and being a part of their lives, being able to help them like you were helped.
32, no kids. not sure if I want any. the world is a chaotic gong show. I don't think you need to have a child of your own to know love, absolutely not. Not everyone needs kids. Live your life, be your authentic self. much love!
I’m 26 yr old man dude and I agree I’m also childfree it sucks that kids nowadays have to suffer due to having bad parents and the economy we live in can’t afford to raise kids it’s a struggle we’re bout to witness population decline people will see what the future will look like.
@@kamra-archive so you think its more moral to just not give them a choice? Is it moral to bring kids to school despite knowing its hard to learn stuff, or sports/athletics despite maybe getting injured or loosing?
I think as woman in America it stems from lack of community, universal healthcare, rights taken away, cost of living, no universal childcare, and the world just becoming a bad place overall. Fertility is down globally because of a lot of these reasons.
The world is less violent than centuries past but white people won’t let anyone feel that because it’s not satisfying to ruin the climate without everyone else feeling crappy too. Also, don’t speak for me. As a Black woman in America...I just don’t particularly desire to carry a child nor be responsible for it as a parent in any capacity. We are not all having the same experiences though for you to loop us in together because BW who do want kids have to consider medical racism that kills us more than other group when pregnancy is involved, climate change we aren’t driving but suffer for via environmental racism when white people’s(richer mostly Spanish Hispanics and certain East Asians too tbh but it’s white supremacy based), landfills are placed by our homes to pollute the air causing youth to have skin and respiratory issues lifelong(if not ruin our water from river dumping rural white towns do that drains into mostly Black cities like Jackson), and the assault against our existence by police, systemic/institutionalized racism unaddressed, and now schools even banning our books, lessons on race, and some wanting the little bit of history they tell about us besides segregation(slavery that they lie about being gone as if the thirteenth amendment doesn’t clearly state it’s not) off school curriculum. Now I personally hope that drives the more baby loving to make even more of us and fight the system but I also totally understand not wanting to risk one’s life or their child’s for that effort. I’ve had medical racism affect me in literal life or death situations more than a couple times. Can’t imagine doing it in a situation where the body is already trying to accommodate another life form. There is no American woman and white women’s voting habits make that very clear, as do white Latinx women’s, and more AA women than I care for even if overall they still vote blue(it all sucks but don’t actively hate yourself for goodness sake)
But the world isn’t bad, and often you’ll find the places struggling have a western source to thank so is the world becoming bad or is just suffering consequences of white imperialism/colonialism that’s ongoing in many cases and never fixed its mess before leaving in others? Like Afghanistan, how dare our CIA ruin their democracy for a power foothold in the area when it was more central, then desert them because “bring home our troops”? Well maybe people signed up for what they did and we shouldn’t interfere if we don’t want to partake when the getting is no longer good. From a society of people living alongside each other how they chose to women not being able to leave their homes or abusive relationships, because our leaders couldn’t stand the idea of a democratically elected communist. Remember these things when saying the world is getting bad as you live safely and Palestinians die because of something British/US forces started and the US is literally participating in. It’s not the world. It’s certain areas that you don’t have to worry about anyway, that are just blooming with conflict from seeds planted long ago, while you say meaningless things and don’t hold your government accountable for their actions in the mess
I work in mental health with abused children, disabilities and all are very real and something people need to think about prior to having kids. Happy you are here! Being a parent is forever too!
I'm 35, never been married and not having kids at all. I have friends that have children. Thank you for explaining why you're child free because i feel the same way. I like to work hard, travel and enjoy my life. Most people in my family have children by multiple men and women.
I am 31 who still live with parents due housemarket disastrous in the Netherlands and some expect me to marry and have children under these circumstances, no thanks I enjoy my freedom and happily! ^=^ Other than that, I don't have the commitment and responsibility it takes to care a child x.x
I lived with my parents until I was 30, I think it’s definitely more common these days anyway. And yes, enjoy your freedom! Life is too short to live it under some societal script.
I made the choice to be childfree when I was 11 years old i don't regret my choice my mother struggled to take care of me and my brother my father was in and out of jail most of my childhood so my mom was the breadwinner
Not asking this scarcastically btw lol but what exactly does this have to do with you and your kids though? Are you gonna treat then bad because of that? Or are you saying your exposing yourself to a bad partner? in which case, should the off chance that YOU decide to choose the wrong partner. Youd rather deprive yourself or ur future children of life?
Reasons number 8 and 10 are often overlooked by aspiring parents and even people in the childfree community, so I'm really glad you included them in your list. As a childfree woman, it's always cool to hear from men in the childfree community because I don't see as much content from you guys. I hope you enjoyed your time in Thailand!
Me and my husband don’t want kids ! I literally have no regrets ! I’m in my 30s and he is in his 40s ! We travel and have so much free time and spare money I couldn’t imagine losing that ! Also i just don’t have the desire to! I have many nieces and nephews and while I do care for them after a while they get on my nerves !!! And they eventually grow into adults and who knows how they will turn out
I was born with a severe bone disease, I got a vesectomy so I wouldn’t pass it on to anyone else. My surgeon even told me he respected my decision and fist bumped me before the operation.
Many years ago I saw, or read, an article about a family where the husband and their two boys all suffered from [insert vile degenerative disease passed on to males] and when asked why they had had children, given husbands problems and then the first boy having inherited it, they simply said “we’re catholic”
Thanks for sharing this! I’m 47 yrs old Asian American female, not married and no kids. I can finally express that i feel quite free to not “fit in” anywhere in spite of all the negative judgements I get directly & indirectly! What’s unfair is that it wasn’t by choice, I just didn’t come across the right partner to create a family with. I find it super manipulative to force something out of desperation for reasons as silly as following what society expects.. instead, take the time to get to know oneself and have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll be surprised on how much you didn’t know and discover.
This was great to hear/see from the other side. I do have a child (one) and I really enjoy hearing stories like this. I feel like this is becoming more and more popular and I think it is fantastic!
Appreciate you stopping by! You are much more open minded than a lot of parents that have been flaming this video, so thank you for the breath of fresh air! I feel like neither path is right or wrong, just personal preference :)
@@jansleyreal I went through a really rough time having my son and have had to have many operations since and it has been a life changing event for me and I can’t have anymore children.. I love my son more than anything, obviously but my life would have been very different physical had I not had children.. I guess that probably helps me see it from both sides. I think it’s beautiful people being fulfilled without having to take that next step that society has created to be the “next step”. It’s a very interesting topic! 😊
Im 21 years old, my mother told me in future am I gonna have kids??.....and I said no cause its too much work.... in my future, I would like to be a free man. No worries, anything.
Then dont tell them or keep your answer short. Everyone doesnt need to know your whole life story or reasons for doing or not doing something. You dont need to prove anything to those idiots.
My husband and I are 36. He got a vasectomy last year. He never wanted kids and I thought I did but I really didn't. I was just going with what everyone else was saying to do. We want to spend our money on what we want. We want to go and travel and do whatever we want. I also just don't want to take the risk of having a child with medical complications. It is absolutely a possibility and it's not something I'm willing to risk. Most importantly I don't want to give birth. Yeah do not want to do that.
I'm 24 & I have chosen not 🚫🙅🤰🏽👶🏽 to bring children's into this world 🌎 or by adopting them at all. Meaning that I am such a very true superhero great Aunt ❤️ 👩🏽❤️. I'm so glad that I have completely decided to become an autistic type of a childfree female person. Yes 😀 most definitely at a 💯% but in a very positive mindset for sure 👍🏽 indeed.
I dont know how my parents raised me. The stress, the effort. Cant do that to another human being. Im a doctor by profession but I dont think i can handle taking care of a child
I (F) Born in 85... I knew i never wanted kids. I definitely knew and would openly state that, by 10 years old. I remember getting anxious as a child, thinking about the expectation of having to get married and have kids. I heard if you stood infront of a microwave, you wouldn't be able to get pregnant ever. 😂 So as a child , i did this.... I might die from something related to that one day. (Stupid kid) But my thoughts never wavered, and I've never been pregnant. I praise and give all my respect to the parents out there. May god bless you and ur family ❤ 🙏
After learning that you have left your job, I was curious whether you have kids to provide for, since the finances would naturally be a concern. Now I know! Having volunteered with many children with autism before, giving birth to a child with birth defects is my biggest fear, and the biggest deterrent for me. None of my peers seem to empathise with me, and they think that I’m just overly pessimistic 😂 (maybe I am haha) Funny that we have a lot in common!
What if you had children and they were healthy? I had this same fear and reasons as well to have this fear. Our Fears are not always true and you should always challenge your mindset and say hey what if my child is healthy?
@@SimplyTakara89 i think it’s because my fear of having an unhealthy child far exceeds my desire to have a healthy child. With a healthy child, I feel that my well-being will only improve slightly. But with an unhealthy child, i think my well-being will go be significantly be hampered
That means you let fear win. It’s so relatable growing up I was told I was a scaredy cat and worried about everything all the time (I still worry too much, working on that). I hate fear because it can be so detrimental to us, fear stopped me from alot of experiences and when I choose to go against fear the greatest things happened as well! I carry the sickle cell trait, if my husband also carried the trait my kids would have the full blown disease. I also carry something else I forget the name but they told me if my husband also carried it my children wouldn’t even really been able to be born something about organs getting to large causing miscarriages well anyway he doesn’t carry any genetics I carry. God is powerful both my children are healthy and like I said my husband carries none of the harmful genes I carry. I also lost my mom 1 month after my daughter was born so yes there’s a lot of fears but fears don’t mean truths…
Yep autistic kids are hard! I work with some of them. Makes me not want to have kids I'm good with them there because I work in classroom and have the teacher and the other support services. I could not imagine dealing with that at home. Makes it a lot easier to deal with them when I do my daily gym sessions after work gets rid of the stress. If I had a kid after work I couldn't go to the gym like that. I truly love being childfree.
Completely understand, I'm the same age and I don't think I'll ever have kids. It's struggle enough just taking care of myself and trying to figure out my path in life lol. It's something that gets snide remarks where I'm from (Asia), especially for women, but it's definitely not worth inflicting an unwilling and unready parent like me on kids who deserve better. As they say, you do you!
I know the struggle of figuring out a life path, it's been one of the biggest things that has haunted me in the past few years. Gaining more clarity each week though! Hope you are too :)
@@jansleyreal And I don't think the process will ever really stop! Which sounds depressing, but I think we can all dedicate small pockets of time to improving ourselves in the tiniest ways every day. I believe we'll all be okay in the end as long as we keep reflecting and taking small actions towards figuring out what brings us fulfilment, and just trying to practice empathy and patience for others around us too.
Dude honestly. I thinka false narrative is that everyone is gonna have shit figured out. Thats the beauty of life, the unknown. However your desire to continue to improve is what makes it worth living. When you first start at something, you accept your gonna suck, and you go from there. No amount of books u read on how to drive will prepare you to drive perfectly the first time you do it. Also theres something to be said that you fall to what you accept. If you had a child, your awareness on not wanting children should allow you to realize that you must work harder now to earn more for them. People back then had it worse and they had children is what im trying to say. But i think the truth is, nobodies perfect. The fact that you would want to be a good parent tho and provide is what i think signals that no matter what. You would be a good parent because you GAF.
Enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Ada makanan 2. Fisik sehat 3. Panjang umur 4. Punya keluarga 5. Ada tempat tinggal bagus 6. Manusia Jujur 7. Saling toleransi 8. Masuk surga 9. Dapat rezeki. 10. Damai dengan orang. 11. Mempunyai pemimpin yang pro rakyat. Dll Gak enaknya jadi manusia = 1. Kelaparan 2. Kadang merasakan sakit , ada yang berkebutuhan khusus ( tidak bisa melihat, tidak bisa mendengar, tidak bisa berbicara ), ada yang sakit berat = stroke , kanker , dll , ada yang kehilangan anggota tubuh . 3. Suatu hari meninggal 4. Ada yang Gak punya keluarga 5. Ada yang tidak punya tempat tinggal atau tempat tinggal jelek 6. Ditipu orang 7. Rasis SARA ( suku , agama, ras dan budaya) , Rasis yang lain. 8. Masuk neraka 9. Harus bekerja kalau mau punya harta 10. Di hina orang 11. Mempunyai pemimpin Tidak pro rakyat Dll. Maka dari itu saya memutuskan tidak punya anak. Ada gak enaknya jadi manusia. Mungkin anak saya mengalami hal buruk tersebut . Yaa walaupun ada enaknya jadi manusia, saya tetap tidak punya anak. ( Indonesia language) .
How old were you when you got snipped? Did you get any hassle about not already having kids? Like you I knew at 16 I didn't want kids. After two near misses when I was 22 it didn't take much for me to jump up on a table. First two docs were dinosaurs who wouldn't do it for me because of my age and not having kids already. Third guy was awesome. Have never regretted it and would do it all over again. Absolutely bang on about the lifelong parent.
I was 30 when I got it done. I didn’t get hassle from people I know because I didn’t tell anyone about it. The doc gave me no hassle, congratulated me actually haha. No regrets from me either!
No regrets being child free at 49 here. By the way, I've been working online from Thailand for the last 10 years, travel a lot every year, and loving life. I've got a great housekeeper/nanny that takes care of my dog while I'm gone....
@@jansleyreal I started off teaching English online and still do it, but my bread and butter is FBA (selling some products on Amazon). By the way, my dog is my child, but she is a whole heck of a lot easier than a human child. haha. Yeah man, we even look a like; same hair style ; )
Hey buddy, I'm from Mexico and I agree with you, society puts a lot of pressure on people who don't want to have children. I don't wanna bring kids into this competitive and insecure world. Sorry if my English is not very good, take care ✌️
Don't let up cuz you likely won't be happy about it. Remember, misery loves company and majority of folks don't want to see you doing better than them.
@Ytorisv you're right, most people with kids in Mexico can be very annoying with their comments, however, they always have financial problems, and as you said before, misery loves company. Thank you for supporting and respecting the freedom to choose not to be parents.
I thought I wanted kids, especially with my last relationship. But now I realize I don’t want them. In a perfect world how my story ends I have a long-term partner and me and her live on my horse farm. We travel the world together.
It’s weird and cringy whenever some parent turns up in the comments and writes about their kids and then makes baseless, judgmental statements about childfree people like they are the bad guys or less than human just because they don’t have kids. Here’s some advice for those small minded parents or pronatalists in general: You’re NOT special. You’re NOT entitled. Don’t go around calling other people selfish just for not having kids like you have and then expect us to give you respect just because you’re mommies and daddies. Nobody cares. If anything, you come off as insecure and jealous. And there’s plenty of data out there about parents who regret ever having kids just as there are people who regret never having any. So quit these nonsensical, meaningless arguments that are designed more to cast anxiety and belittle anyone who doesn’t want to procreate rather than convince anyone of the joys of parenthood.
Excellent video. I never wanted to bring children into this world of wars, hatred, divorce ~ and so much suffering. Parents want children to have grandchildren who would be a reflection of themselves and "marriage". Society, schooling, religion ~ all push children into "having a family." It is not easy to choose to be single. So much pressure of the group thing, to be married. But I have accepted my life choice and have no regrets. Perhaps in a perfect world where people all got along and shared, I could have had children. But NOT in this reality of our world as it is.
39 F childfree I need my rest and sleep and time on my own, I’m an introvert, have anxiety, maybe undiagnosed mildly autistic. I’m a proud cat lady for life ❤
Raising and naturing is a sport, a serious draining sport. Its beautiful to have them and its also beautiful to not have them. It should be ok to not want to have kids, it doesn’t mean one is a monster. Thank you for sharing this, its truly refreshing to hear men being truly honest.
I knew before my teenage years that I didn’t really want kids. But I just thought it was something that was just part of life and I’ll be okay if I just go with it… But as I got older…I really started to have internal conflict with myself because I am in those “child bearing” years. And the thought of no turning back if I chose to have them was just overall a dooming feeling. I am done fighting with myself on it and chose to be 100% child free. I would rather regret not having them than to regret having them. Watching this gave me hope that I can find a partner that wants the same lifestyle as me. Not all men wants kids 😅
ARE WE THE SAME PERSON? I’m 24 and I have every intention on getting my tubes tied. I knew from an early age, that I NEVER wanted to be a mother. NOTHING . About it appeals to me.
I'm happy for you, I joined you🎉❤, got married at 40, my hubby cannot have kids, so it was a dual happy choice for our future, we believe that the world/dangers would also be a great problem for kids, 1-6 yes is the shaping stage, life is short, over populated.
Yes and this is something I have to think about if I were to have a kid of my own. Unfortunately even if you raise a kid well that’s not a guarantee they’ll be a “good” person. Can I still fully love my child if they end up hurting the people in their lives? I don’t think I could and the thought of bringing something into this world I may not fully love means I’m not meant for that.
36, almost 37 year old woman - still no regrets on not having kids. Knew from high school kids just weren’t for me, but was always told “my biological clock” would hit me at some point. Hasn’t so far, and I reckon if it hasn’t by now, it probably won’t (and I’m perfectly happy with that!). Here’s to retiring early! :)
Some men are shamed for not having children (for example, if he's married and both him and his spouse don't want kids), but not shamed to the degree that women are.
I'm a 29 year old female and I'm very glad I didn't hop on the have kids bandwagon. I know for a fact that I wouldn't be a good parent. I also enjoy uninterrupted sleep. When I told people I didn't want to have kids and got the " you'll change your mind" sentence all that did was make me want to prove them wrong.
im 49 and after very nearly becoming a dad (miscarriages in LTR) I went on to choose in my mid 30s that id rather not have kids, i dont regret it. People forget that "because i dont want to" supercedes their opinion everytime.
Honestly things today are pretty terrible too. If I ever had kids, I’d want them to experience life as it was before technology completely took over, like the way we did back in the 90s and earlier 😢
Childfree Kimberly started a channel on this topic. Given all of the cultlike irrational pressure put on individuals to spawn, I completely get why she felt the need to launch that thing. Too many people sell myths and fiction about kids. It is far more irritating in the South. Quite frankly, it harms kids. It's too much pressure to have to be your parent's reason to live.
Thanks for sharing. It is so interesting to hear these stories of how people have figured this out and the reasons for choosing a childless life. I'm 42. I have been thinking about having kids over the years but the circumstances have not been supportive. Now I'm just trying to find an answer for myself, something that gives me peace in this topic. It is not so important which choice to make, but rather how it makes one feel
To each is own! Parenthood ISN'T for everyone! I realize there is a need to maintain a birth rate and sustain a population; but if you're not fit for it, you're not fit for it! Plenty of people are, so don't worry about it!
I grew up in a family of 9 kids with 3 that were either stillborn or passed away early in childhood. I saw how overwhelmed and miserable my parents were. Four of my siblings have Schizophrenia. Three of my sisters got married and had kids and they all hate their marriages. They want us to get married because misery loves company. One of them has a son that is severely autistic. He is very large, very physical, cannot speak a word, is hyperactive, and is getting more and more difficult to manage. Her husband is leaving her after trying to force her to accept a mistress in their lives. Her and one of my other sisters found the worst dirtbags to marry. My opinion did not matter to them 25 years ago when I told them what the true character of those guys were and how bad a decision they were making. Now they act like I owe them by trying to get me to have fights with their husbands to get them to be more compliant with the traditional role of a husband. My oldest sister is the worst and the one that caused all this dysfunctionality in the first place. She has not changed at all. Only one of the married three has a decent guy but that is the one that wants to leave him. I told her that he is decent guy and the only one of the three brother-in-laws that I trust. I told her that she ain't getting any bettter than him because she thought that she could get "one of those nerds that grew up to make 200 million dollars" just by finding a social circle that has those types of guys and plugging in. She said that everyone tells her that she looks like she's 20. I laughed and told her that everyone is afraid to argue with her and just tell her what she wants to hear.
"kids deserve parents who want to be parents" 👏🏻
And parents who are equipped, capable in every way
@@enola_6871 I'll second that!
Omg!! This man is beyond stunning!!! I want to eat his 🎂!!
@@enola_6871 and the childless don't deserve being looked after in old age by other people's children 👏
@@Jonnyicey Don't see why not. After all, the child free paid their taxes to provide services to help them... And it's usually other people's children who look after other people's parents, anyway... I spend my child-free-by-choice life looking after parents whose children can no longer cope with them, leaving them old, frail and alone and funded by the welfare state, which, in turn, is funded by my childfree taxes. This especially happens because those children have other commitments, such as their own children or grandchildren that they are having to look after because their children chose to have children.
Having children is a choice, NOT an obligation.
Based
Everything in life is a choice.
exercise is a choice not an obligation.
Being kind is a choice not an obligation
@@Darkless4X if we want society to continue it sort of is an obligation. We can cope with a small amount of childless but the numbers that are predicted will collapse society.
@@JonnyiceyAI will replace humans, so society won't collapse. If collapsed we can go back to farming and growing own food kind of Life.
@@Fan-zx1lz getting replaced by robots isn't great either
My family angry because I refuse to have kids. Saves me so much money and time.
brilliant, enjoy your life
There are many immigrant women where I am and they have many children. All the ones I see who are older than 50 (I think) can barely walk. They shuffle along ten metres behind their husbands. They also seem to have a lot of health problems like diabetes. Having too many kids can ruin your ability to be mobile. Being mobile as we age is very important. Birthing out kids can ruin your pelvic floor. Not being incontinent is important to me.
@@mmecharlotte it's actually the opposite
@Chromegrillz They need to realize it's YOUR choice! As a Catholic, I am supposed to sing you that chorus about the necessity of procreation, how it's selfish not to, blah, blah, blah; but I WON'T! This is because I am ALSO an overthinker and I can think of reasons why some people shouldn't and I'm not here to judge! A few people without children won't lower the birth rate and parenthood ISN'T for everyone!
@@Hamburglar96 at least your honest... yes it's money saved and time. But you will lose out on so much else
I was 15 when I knew I didn't want children. They gaslit me and told me "We'll see." Lol they SEE now that I wasn't playing!
That’s about the age I figured it out as well. Yeah sounds like they found out! Now you have so much time for yourself :)
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Why do all you child free ppl feel the need to constantly shout that youre childfree....by choice lol. Idk seems like insecurities
@@BlueforReasonWe need to give validation to other Childfree people. There is less content about being Childfree, There are lots of content about parenting.
@@BlueforReason Why do you non-childfree people feel the need to watch childfree content? Seems like you’re probably regretting your parenting decision.👀
Always appreciate the childfree men making videos on this topic; it's mostly women who talk about it. You're a wise man, enjoy the freedom!
Thank you so much, I’m loving the freedom! 😁
This!
@@jansleyrealthe true reason I don't want kids is because the world is far too evil.
Who in their right minds want to bring kids in such decadence.
@@markmunroe-hz8rfexactly lol y would I bring someone I claimed to love here when God sent Lucifer n his minions here
I definitely appreciate it coming from a responsible man.
Never regretted not having kids.
Glad to see another childfree human! Thanks for stopping by :)
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Yeah bro; I’m 49 years old. I have no wife; nor kids; it’s fucking awesome 😎
41, bisexual in a same sex relationship. Never having kids or adopting kids. 😎
@@jansleyreal and remember this Jan the crazy part about having kids you never know what type of kids you're going to have think about it
No wife, no kids, no problems.
No meaning
@@roxy629 In your eyes, but I found purpose outside of that, thank you very much. 😂👍
It's alright while your young but as you age you realise the value of family
@@Jonnyicey I'm in early 40s, I can't let go of my peace, quiet and freedom.
@@roxy629Roxy, why does anyone need kids to feel fulfilled or a wife?
Ever hear of having a girlfriend?
I am 38 and I chose not to have kids, and I am happy with my choice.
Woo that's awesome! 🙌
@@jansleyreal you’ll be surprised how many people our age have decided to live a child free life. All my friends are 38-50 and none of them have any kids. I think many in this generation have really figured that there ain’t nothing positive about having kids with the crazy bs going on and this economy. People complaint about stress, about having difficulty making ends meet bring a child into the mix and it will get even worse. The little time I have is for me to enjoy the way I want. I am already here and that is all that matters to me!!! Throughout this past years I have seen so many people from work getting married and getting divorced, now there are a bunch of single mothers dealing with child support. I actual don’t know how do they get by in this economy. I admire them. I am not trying to be any of that. Just don’t care for it. Peace and silence have more value to me than anything else.
@@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwordsI look up to you 😍🙌🏻
@@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwordsI feel like your argument slightly is like justifying not exercising because you know so many people that either took steroids and died early, got injured, or something negative.
I dont think excemptions like the ones you said are justifiable arguments to not do something.
Another is like not getting married cuz u see so many people getting divorced.
Now i am not one to impose a lifestyle onto you. But Id like to see your opinion in 10-20 even 30 years from now.
Again like my other comment, i think hedonism is a spiraling cycle to a silent death.
Creating purpose, any purpose, is what gives humans meaning to live. Challenges are part of that.
Idk, i think its something beautiful you are missing out on.
also… not saying this is you are anyone. But generally people of similar ideologies tend to lack self introspectiveness and reflection. Like say a relationship has never worked out, some may lack the ability to either humble themselves into admitting their own mistakes, or atleast view their situation as “oh well it wasnt meant to be, on to the next”. Just because of such experience, anyone who denounces relationships as a whole would be flawed in thinking.
yeah you better be, otherwise it would be very difficult for you as it is almost certainly too late anyways...
I'm 39 Years Old And Child Free. I'm Not Bringing My Future Children Into A World Of Pain And Suffering.
@@bbing-99coz they are smarter. The brokes are dumb so all they can think about is sex. It makes them feel like they are contributing to something. When in actual fact they are not.
Real talk 💯
Exactly
Same
how much did children suffer in ww1 and 2? we do not know what suffering means.
Well said man, no one should be told or forced to have kids, it is a choice not a must.
Thank you, and yes exactly!
I'm a 55 year old woman who doesn't have children. I've also never been married. I completely relate with what you're saying here. Another thing that is not often discussed is that some people without children pick up the slack in society. For example, I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years with both children and adults in serious, traumatic situations. I don't think I could have contributed in this way if I had my own family. It simply would have been too much given what I saw and experienced on a daily basis. Having a family truly is all encompassing. And I agree with you...I started a one person consulting business and it truly is all encompassing. I couldn't imagine doing this with a family having to cater to the needs of multiple people. All the best to you and your endeavors.
That’s a very good point, thanks for sharing this, and for your service in healthcare :)
Do you regret not having children? Am asking because I am thinking of doing the same
@@chuachua-hj9zd I love kids, but I am glad I did not have children of my own. It would have been too much for me. It really is a huge responsibility and I take my responsibilities seriously. For example, I have an older cat (almost 16 yrs). I am up at night every two hours with her because she is very thirsty and needs to drink water. (She has dementia so she doesn't drink on her own.) I can be there for my cat, but I knew I couldn't do this for a child (it would be too much for me). To have a child, you really need a very supportive partner (and supportive extended family) and raising kids becomes the center of your life. Plus, my childhood was very dark and challenging and I needed time to recover from that. I did not want to pass that on to children of my own. With all this said, I may adopt a teenager in the future if it makes sense to do so. Right now, I started a consulting business and if I am successful, perhaps in the future, I can adopt a 15-17 year old, which makes the most sense because everyone wants a baby and not a teenager. All the best to you with your decision.
Thanks guys, your wealth , your country and everything will be for our children when you die , being intelligent is a blessing, kiekie , thanks again
@@joulecal7ur supposed to have ur own wealth before having kids to pass it down so watching someone else pockets cause ur kids eating away urs huh
I'm childfree too. One of my biggest concern is the deteriorating state of the world we live in. Almost every part of the world is experiencing extreme weather patterns making living impossible. With corrupt government and no support from them it becomes even more difficult. As a female, I've seen the many ways motherhood becomes a burden on women. From lack of affordable healthcare to career taking a hit. It's a punishment for choosing to be a mother.
Since I'm CF, I get to explore my talents and work mindfully in my career and life. I'm so proud of the choice I made. Because of it I get to actively engage in things that matter. I'm hosting the first ever CF meet&greet event in my city. So grateful I get to bring people together and help build social connections.
Enjoy your Thailand trip.
Hope you visit us too someday.
Sending you good wishes from India
Yay fellow childfree human! I’m glad you’re enjoying your decision and are able to pursue life in a way that’s meaningful to you 🙂
Soo happy for you
To be fair, if you look at the past, they had it way worse in regards to family and kids. We've never lived in a better world, so I find this a rather illogical reason not to have kids. However I myself am not having kids too, but that's because of other reasons
@@SeriksyHer reasons are exactly valid and logical. It is not illogical.
@@Fan-zx1lz The world in general has never been safer or better to live in. That's just facts. Pretty sure they had it worse during the world wars, or back in the 1800's and before. There will always be things to worry about. If that's the only reason you don't want a child, then it's better to just admit that you just don't simply want it
I don't really come across childfree people who aren't happy with where they are in life. Makes sense, they spend their time and their money doing what they want to do. Parents will never admit this because the most terrifying thing in the world for a parent to think is that they made a mistake having a child.
Yep, that’s a very good point. I definitely know some parents who clearly have some regret with having kids
Bingo. They’re so terrified, they have to project onto strangers in comments sections. It’s sad, and very revealing- for them.
I have three teens and if I could back in time, I wouldn't have had them even though I thought all I wanted to be was a mother. I have no problem admitting that, though I never would to them.
@@sjjsc92661I understand cause u don't want to hurt their feelings
@@LouisianaCityboi Actually, the most terrifying thing in the world for a parent are these: 1. To have your child ill; 2. To think they are a bad parent, 3. To not have enough resources to give them all you want. I guess you are hanging out with very exhausted parents who need help. But also, stop being so judgemental and be happy with your own choice.
Being honest, I don't want kids because I had an Fd up childhood...yep, that's my reason
Valid reason
I have three kids and I can tell you anyone who isn't 100% committed will hate the experience and regret having them. If people objectively considered the reality of having kids, the commitmemt and sacrifice, the fertility rate would be even lower.
One of the biggest kept secrets is most kids are accidents. Very few actually plan their children. It just kind of happens. And then they bear the burden.
Makes sense, I know I’m not committed to the idea even 10% so that’s why I made my decision. I appreciate you :)
I can't imagine being tied down with 3 kids
Appreciate the honest response here. I m 38 and female and dont want children. My parents passed away decades ago and one reason is that I m not willing to raise a child without any form of additional family support. I also think it s too expensive. I like to travel and between working full time and keeping food and a roof over my head and looking after myself physically I have no idea where kids would fit in.
@@TheHouseofContemplationthis is facts.
Idk I just feel A LOT of parents sugar coat the entire experience of having kids. I read the r/regretfulparents subreddit and it is HORRIFYING. It's disturbing the things people go through from mental and physical health failing after kids, to, being debilitating lonely without help from family or friends. It's a MASSIVE gamble especially in this day in time. Rarely do I believe it's this endlessly joyful experience that a lot of people try to portray.
I’m 37 yrs old no husband or kids I’m not against marriage or children but I’m not desperate for it either. I love being child free and I agree parenthood is a life long commitment
Woo welcome to the childfree club! 🙌
Their cradle to your grave. Maybe beyond
~ 62 years old, no kids. No regrets either.
That's so awesome to hear!
Late 50's here, same thing. I never caved into social pressure or obligation/guilt manipulation tactics from family members.
Being childfree is a decision i made by age 27. There is nothing selfless about bringing life into this world since people have kids for selfish reasons. In my culture I'm definitely expected to have kids especially as an African and a Muslim.
That’s dope you made that choice for yourself, enjoy it!
By what u said, it sounds like u have other reasons.
But since u highlighted the selfless bit. Both are selfish and selfless in their own way.
(im not saying You said that there is nobility in no children, but there is people who do think that its purely a Selfless act)
For those commenting "who cares", I don't think this video is meant for you. I live in Chicago and I don't want kids, but that isn't a big deal here. When I visited a friend of mine in rural Louisiana, the first question asked everyone asked me was "Where are your wife and kids?" They got very judgmental with my response that I didn't want that, it made me glad that I lived in a place where I didn't have to deal with that. For many people in liberal cities, this video doesn't mean much. For those in small-town 'Murica, it might be a nice reminder you aren't alone.
Thank you for sharing this. This has by far been the most backlash I’ve gotten on a video. It’s kinda interesting actually. The video is really meant for those who feel like they “need” to have kids to fulfill some expectation or life script. Or even for those who also want to be childfree and want to know they are not alone :)
@@jansleyreal You're welcome, I definitely loved the video! Don't let the haters get you down, the video wasn't meant for them anyways.
Hey fellow chicagoan here too! And there's no way I would raise kid to this city! I know I can move, but I'm really established here.
I wouldn't live in Chicago if they paid me 😂
But unfortunately, irreligious and liberal people are hypocrites too. Liberals believe everyone should live their lives in anyway they want. Yet liberals also support and enforce tax laws that benefit married people more than us single people! So they believe that us women should retain the freedom to do and control our bodies how we want but liberal politicians also give more handouts and tax credits to people with kids! This is why Democrats are NO different than Republicans. Both sides are too lazy to invest in people's well-being, so they want people to depend on others by marriage. Plus they want you to make other people rich by you spending money on rings, weddings, anniversaries, honeymoons, having kids, etc. It's already lame enough when conservatives shame you for being single and childless by saying, "But it is G*d's will for people to marry and procreate." And then, irreligious and liberal people shame you by saying "you don't want anyone to grow old with so who'll take care of you later." Sorry folks! We must learn to look after ourselves, learn to network, socialize more, find roommates, talk to your neighbors, talk to your colleagues, and be independent.
I had one at 30 as well. At first my doctor refused because I didn't have kids, but then I showed him my mental health records and then all of a sudden he changed his tune and approved me for the procedure and it was the best decision I ever made. No regrets what so ever.
Same here!!! I just had one and that was it for me!!!
Do you mind telling me what u said cause I want to be sterilized too
Im 33 and i never wanted kids , .. seems like torture lol
I hear you on that haha
Just geniune question.
What do you hope to get out of life, and what do you plan to do for the next 70 80 years of ur life?
@@willieportillo5829 I'm an artist (painter and singer ) reiki healer , yoga enthusiast and I have overcome for the most part horrendous bipolar and addiction , I intend to heal others (which I already am) and work with my talents to help people who are suffering with mental illness and addictions , and spread a message with my creative pursuits of healing and raising people into connection with God / and their higher selves. Spread healing basically. My life has been very traumatic, why would I feel comfortable bringing another life into such a traumatic place if that has been my experience? No , id rather wait till the world has changed into what I want to see it as .. and therefore I shall work on that until I see it for myself .. if it's too late for pregnancy by then and I'm old and grey , so be it. Much to work on.
@@willieportillo5829 I wrote a sufficient answer for this but RUclips must have deleted it !!!
@@willieportillo5829Even if you had kids. What do you plan on doing? Kids don’t guarantee company. They leave you, and there’s no guarantee you will company in the nursing home at 80-90 years old.
You are absolutely correct. Parenting does not stop when the child turns 18. I don't know why people think that.
Grandkids come along🙄
I’m 31, had my vasectomy last year and feel pretty much exactly the same you do. Appreciate you posting your thoughts!
Welcome to the sterile club, it’s great!
Why did you get a vasectomy?
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Im a parent and to be very honest you are not missing out on much! Those moments that people tell you bring us parents “joy” last .02 seconds before all hell breaks loose and they’re either damaging your sofa with a marker or waking up in the middle of the night when you have to go to work the next morning
Thanks for your honesty
Thanks for this. I love parents that are honest
All truth.
I'm child free but this seemed obvious to me. It's a large reason I don't want or even feel the need to have kids.
I feel like the burden outways the positives many times over.
I feel like humans fundamentally find joy and happiness and experience pain and hardship like the weather. Kids are not going to bring more joy in an average day so long as you are engaging with life.
If anything they will suffocate those moments with more chores, obligations, routine, appointments and responsibility. The idea of being present and enjoying what life is feels like it would be next to impossible with kids. I'd be so busy constantly thinking about them my mind would never catch a break.
I like to stop and smell the roses. I love it. I know what I have. I have the freedom, the time and the headspace to soak in this thing called life.
Kids would be the equivalent of taking on another job. No time. No freedom. No headspace.
@kevtb874 Parenting don't stop at 18, keep that in mind. Possible grandkids (babysitting duties) now more added worry, stress and responsibilities.
Kids will drain you in every way and you can never give them enough. They will want more. Just don’t have them.
Just like having a wife
@@oaklandsoldier8520or any partner. I’ve tried both. Men, women…being in a couple is just hard for certain people. I’m one of those people. Just me and the dogs these days
And you will also exhaust and drain your kids by projecting and putting too much expectations and pressure upon them.
"Not only is it very SELFISH but also EXTREMELY SICK to wish for your kids to witness your death or the process of your demise. I want to spare my kids from having to deal with all the stress and sadness that a human being can experience while watching how their own parents are dying, Therefore I decided to have no kids."
― David Benatar
Yeah, was awful watching my father die just after my thirtieth birthday. For months afterwards, every time I closed my eyes I would see him in his final hours and it was heartbreaking. Do miss him but watching someone die is incredibly tough and the whole ‘who will be there at your deathbed’ fear tactic is totally random. Actively dying is not a spectator sport and especially not for small children to witness.
yes so instead absent them of experiencing life… what is more selfish.
Also unless your a hedonist, which sadly most seem to approach now. Life is about challenges and purpose.
“without darkness there would be no light” same concept.
Learn to enjoy life, to accept the challenges as part of a journey.
I have no desire to bring someone here to go through that good point. Side note I like the energy in these child free spaces.
@@lovethyneibor22736 wow so much mental illness amongst the childless, almost like a family keeps you stable.
@@ib272 you are so wise
i will NEVER force another wage slave into this existence
A wage slave? Have you ever tried subsistence farming?
Yup I feel u
Same.
learn to invest,
Never
I used to regret not having kids… then the pandemic happened. Everything became expensive and the future is uncertain. Now I’m so happy I’m single and child-free
I'm turning 40 in a month. Being childfree was the best decision made in life.
I’m childfree by choice as well. It’s a decision I struggled with for years but came to a moral conclusion. Here are my top 10 reasons why I will NEVER have children….
1. Children are expensive, I can barely support myself.
2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility.
3. It is selfish to bring a child into the world.
4. I like having my autonomy and freedom.
5. Climate change will be a problem in years to come.
6. I’m a vegetarian which would be problematic with children.
7. Possible heath (physical and mental) conditions may come along.
8. The education system is poor.
9. Too much school drama (bullying, shootings and stabbings).
10. I’m too old now (age 40) and there can be risks at this point.
Again, those are just 10 reasons but I have so many more reasons (over 100). Being childfree is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made, I have zero regrets.
These are respectable reasons, glad you have no regrets! :)
Im not one to say your reasons arent valid.
But could you further emphasize on 3, 8, and 9.
I could question others like 7 and 5. But more curious on those other 3.
How is it selfish to bring life into the world?
And as for the education system. Youd rather do nothing about it? (or maybe you are doing something about it idk)
Point is, you are the one teaching your child. Why does a system that you have an option to give your child or guide them through flat out be a reason not too.
and 9. Please. Thats like saying u wont go travel cuz lots of car crashes, and robbings.
Idk. Also ig if we view your potential future children as actual beings. who are you to limit them of life. Is that not selfish.
(btw if you literally cannot take care of them or are over the age, those reasons make sense👌)
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No one has to explain themselves to you. What a weird thing to do ?! Do you think about your actions?
@@Mylisacamplife Im asking a question... because news flash this is a comment section and thus i assume a place for conversation. Im not intending to attack anybody, and if you view it that way then again like ive said before, it may hint at insecurity. Imagine i was to be uninformed on this topic, and when given an overview i believe that yes kids are a good thing and people should have them, and imagine this topic of conversation wasnt as political as people make it out to be, and then a person comes around and says they have hundreds of reasons for why they believe in something that i may initially not believe in. Guess what, ill very likely in a spirit of wanting to LEARN and perhaps change my perspeptive (wait what, we can do that now and days? and have conversations without taking them as attacks)... Point is... i would likely ask that person, hey honestly most of the reasons you brought up dont make alot of sense to me for this and this, i think im still leaning on my side, do you care to explain your position a little better so i can better understand (which i assume they should be able too since they said they have tons of more reasons for having their rigid stance, and if anything, it is the OPPOSITE of insulting because i believe they are smart enough to give me a better reason than the ones that they gave (which honestly i thought i made it clear how they dont make much sense))
Imagine what society MyLisaCamplife you desire to live in that you consider it SUCH A WIRD THING TO DO so much so that they must THINK ABOUT THEIR ACTIONS, before caring to engage in a conversation with someone whom they may disagree with or just not fully understand their point. Infact, how DARE YOU, ask me if i think about my actions. I dont need to explain myself to you. What a weird thing of you to ask from me.
just in case you didnt catch on, with that last tine... its called scarcasm, i dont want u commenting again saying how seeee you did it youself. which i frankly wouldnt be surprised if you did based on your answer (this last part is something that you maybe could tell me is rude to comment, but wtv, im a little annoyed lol. have a great day, maybe you can respond and we can have a conversation from this. or be like the rest and shut up. and then perhaps continue to get mad at people without never engaging in conversation and progressing anyone.)
@@willieportillo5829do you have kids if so do you regret them?
I’m 34. I’ve been childfree for the last 13 years. No regrets.
Hell yeah, glad to hear!
@@jansleyreal So she/he became childfree at the age of 21? Did you lose a child or something? WTF...
@HowlingFantods 😂 shit dont sound right.
@@HowlingFantodsit definitely doesn't add up 😂
@MaxinetheLoLGamerGirlUSA I guess you are just acknowledging that there is a difference between being ideologically "childfree" and childfree in reality. The ideology of "child-free" is against life, against creation. It is inherently pessimistic, depressive, and self-centered. Its funny that I see a lot of black/minority women that are interested in this "movement" and honestly, I dont want to try to convince you to have children. People like yourself are really not worthy of being present via children in subsequent generations of humans. Enjoy your meaning-filled life which resolves around social media and playing video games. The world will not miss you in 100 years.
I never understood the argument "who will take care of you when youre older." Whats the difference between being pushed in a wheelchair by your kids who see you as a burden, and being pushed in a wheelchair by a nursing home employee? At least you dont have to feel guilty for troubling the nursing home employee.
I think u should have kids but. Yea that argument isnt very strong lol.
Also if your reason is because you would rather not burden them. Then take control and get rich and afford to live somewhere nice w other people taking care of u
That’s a great point!
I think this shows a superficial understanding of what “taking care of someone” means. Like it isn’t just pushing a wheelchair or giving a sponge bath or whatever. It’s calling your parents on the phone, visiting them, talking through life’s struggles, watching out for shady people, fighting for someone if they need it. And yeah, you’d hope everyone is responsible enough to build enough wealth to handle their own living in retirement, but if something happens unexpectedly the only people that will really help are your family. Can’t rely on friends or the government for big stuff.
Kids aren’t pets, they’re not dolls, they’re not “little angels”. They’re an investment in the future, a future that you won’t see. They’re not an investment you expect to be “paid back”, it’s enough that they become their own adults with their own future. The return is knowing them and being a part of their lives, being able to help them like you were helped.
Good point.
@@willieportillo5829”I think you should have kids.” Stop forcing your horrible beliefs onto people who want to be childfree.
32, no kids. not sure if I want any. the world is a chaotic gong show. I don't think you need to have a child of your own to know love, absolutely not. Not everyone needs kids. Live your life, be your authentic self. much love!
Well said Anna! Thanks for stopping by :)
I’m 26 yr old man dude and I agree I’m also childfree it sucks that kids nowadays have to suffer due to having bad parents and the economy we live in can’t afford to raise kids it’s a struggle we’re bout to witness population decline people will see what the future will look like.
Yeah some people are definitely not fit to be parents, and it's a shame for the kid
which is exactly why if you deem yourself as a good human. Your moral duty is to have kids.
@@willieportillo5829Is it moral to bring souls into a world which is filled with danger?
@@kamra-archive so you think its more moral to just not give them a choice?
Is it moral to bring kids to school despite knowing its hard to learn stuff, or sports/athletics despite maybe getting injured or loosing?
@@willieportillo5829 how can they know it’s a choice if they don’t even exist yet?
I think as woman in America it stems from lack of community, universal healthcare, rights taken away, cost of living, no universal childcare, and the world just becoming a bad place overall. Fertility is down globally because of a lot of these reasons.
The world is less violent than centuries past but white people won’t let anyone feel that because it’s not satisfying to ruin the climate without everyone else feeling crappy too. Also, don’t speak for me. As a Black woman in America...I just don’t particularly desire to carry a child nor be responsible for it as a parent in any capacity. We are not all having the same experiences though for you to loop us in together because BW who do want kids have to consider medical racism that kills us more than other group when pregnancy is involved, climate change we aren’t driving but suffer for via environmental racism when white people’s(richer mostly Spanish Hispanics and certain East Asians too tbh but it’s white supremacy based), landfills are placed by our homes to pollute the air causing youth to have skin and respiratory issues lifelong(if not ruin our water from river dumping rural white towns do that drains into mostly Black cities like Jackson), and the assault against our existence by police, systemic/institutionalized racism unaddressed, and now schools even banning our books, lessons on race, and some wanting the little bit of history they tell about us besides segregation(slavery that they lie about being gone as if the thirteenth amendment doesn’t clearly state it’s not) off school curriculum. Now I personally hope that drives the more baby loving to make even more of us and fight the system but I also totally understand not wanting to risk one’s life or their child’s for that effort. I’ve had medical racism affect me in literal life or death situations more than a couple times. Can’t imagine doing it in a situation where the body is already trying to accommodate another life form. There is no American woman and white women’s voting habits make that very clear, as do white Latinx women’s, and more AA women than I care for even if overall they still vote blue(it all sucks but don’t actively hate yourself for goodness sake)
But the world isn’t bad, and often you’ll find the places struggling have a western source to thank so is the world becoming bad or is just suffering consequences of white imperialism/colonialism that’s ongoing in many cases and never fixed its mess before leaving in others? Like Afghanistan, how dare our CIA ruin their democracy for a power foothold in the area when it was more central, then desert them because “bring home our troops”? Well maybe people signed up for what they did and we shouldn’t interfere if we don’t want to partake when the getting is no longer good. From a society of people living alongside each other how they chose to women not being able to leave their homes or abusive relationships, because our leaders couldn’t stand the idea of a democratically elected communist. Remember these things when saying the world is getting bad as you live safely and Palestinians die because of something British/US forces started and the US is literally participating in. It’s not the world. It’s certain areas that you don’t have to worry about anyway, that are just blooming with conflict from seeds planted long ago, while you say meaningless things and don’t hold your government accountable for their actions in the mess
As a woman in America why is it someone else's responsibility to pay for your child?
Why should your neighbors be taxed so you can have their money?
YOU SOUND LIKE THE ULTIMATE FREELOADER
@@youtubesucks1499those children pay for other people’s pensions so I’m not sure who’s using who here.
I work in mental health with abused children, disabilities and all are very real and something people need to think about prior to having kids. Happy you are here! Being a parent is forever too!
I'm 35, never been married and not having kids at all. I have friends that have children. Thank you for explaining why you're child free because i feel the same way. I like to work hard, travel and enjoy my life. Most people in my family have children by multiple men and women.
I am 31 who still live with parents due housemarket disastrous in the Netherlands and some expect me to marry and have children under these circumstances, no thanks I enjoy my freedom and happily! ^=^ Other than that, I don't have the commitment and responsibility it takes to care a child x.x
I lived with my parents until I was 30, I think it’s definitely more common these days anyway. And yes, enjoy your freedom! Life is too short to live it under some societal script.
1. Kids are annoying.
That's the only reason I need.
Yep that's fair 😂
kids are great you will never experience a level of love without them. When are older then 45 life become very lonely as well. Especially for women.
@@Dexs59 I'm 47 with no kids. Life is wonderful.
@@Dexs59Love? They rob you everything you have. Emotionally, financially, physically. It’s a permanent decision
@@christianfinkbeiner684 Yeah, you're 47. Now try 87, then 93, 95. Without kids. Try it. It sucks, A LOT
40 single and childfree no regrets
Woohoo! 🎉
I made the choice to be childfree when I was 11 years old i don't regret my choice my mother struggled to take care of me and my brother my father was in and out of jail most of my childhood so my mom was the breadwinner
Yeah that sounds difficult for your mom, kudos to you for being childfree
Not asking this scarcastically btw lol
but what exactly does this have to do with you and your kids though?
Are you gonna treat then bad because of that?
Or are you saying your exposing yourself to a bad partner? in which case, should the off chance that YOU decide to choose the wrong partner. Youd rather deprive yourself or ur future children of life?
I have high functioning autism and I can't even take care of myself let alone a child!
Reasons number 8 and 10 are often overlooked by aspiring parents and even people in the childfree community, so I'm really glad you included them in your list. As a childfree woman, it's always cool to hear from men in the childfree community because I don't see as much content from you guys. I hope you enjoyed your time in Thailand!
I'm 44 & childless. I like my me time. I have babysat enough kids to be turned off from wanting to have any.
I think I am more interested in adopting kids rather than having my own. I think the world is overpopulated terribly as it is..
Me and my husband don’t want kids ! I literally have no regrets ! I’m in my 30s and he is in his 40s ! We travel and have so much free time and spare money I couldn’t imagine losing that ! Also i just don’t have the desire to! I have many nieces and nephews and while I do care for them after a while they get on my nerves !!! And they eventually grow into adults and who knows how they will turn out
I was born with a severe bone disease, I got a vesectomy so I wouldn’t pass it on to anyone else. My surgeon even told me he respected my decision and fist bumped me before the operation.
That's legit. You should be exempted from my plan to fine married couples that don't have children on purpose.
Many years ago I saw, or read, an article about a family where the husband and their two boys all suffered from [insert vile degenerative disease passed on to males] and when asked why they had had children, given husbands problems and then the first boy having inherited it, they simply said “we’re catholic”
Never feel bad about not having children no matter what people say. I am 38 and have no regrets.
Thanks for sharing this! I’m 47 yrs old Asian American female, not married and no kids. I can finally express that i feel quite free to not “fit in” anywhere in spite of all the negative judgements I get directly & indirectly! What’s unfair is that it wasn’t by choice, I just didn’t come across the right partner to create a family with. I find it super manipulative to force something out of desperation for reasons as silly as following what society expects.. instead, take the time to get to know oneself and have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll be surprised on how much you didn’t know and discover.
This was great to hear/see from the other side. I do have a child (one) and I really enjoy hearing stories like this. I feel like this is becoming more and more popular and I think it is fantastic!
Appreciate you stopping by! You are much more open minded than a lot of parents that have been flaming this video, so thank you for the breath of fresh air! I feel like neither path is right or wrong, just personal preference :)
@@jansleyreal I went through a really rough time having my son and have had to have many operations since and it has been a life changing event for me and I can’t have anymore children.. I love my son more than anything, obviously but my life would have been very different physical had I not had children.. I guess that probably helps me see it from both sides. I think it’s beautiful people being fulfilled without having to take that next step that society has created to be the “next step”. It’s a very interesting topic! 😊
Wonderful testimony. My hubsand and I are child free in our 20s. I'm 24 and he's 25. We both work and maturing on our journey.
Im 21 years old, my mother told me in future am I gonna have kids??.....and I said no cause its too much work.... in my future, I would like to be a free man. No worries, anything.
I'd rather be in prison for life than to have kids!
The worst part is how judgemental people are when you tell them your reasons. It’s like they don’t wanna understand and tell you what to do
Then dont tell them or keep your answer short. Everyone doesnt need to know your whole life story or reasons for doing or not doing something. You dont need to prove anything to those idiots.
My husband and I are 36. He got a vasectomy last year. He never wanted kids and I thought I did but I really didn't. I was just going with what everyone else was saying to do.
We want to spend our money on what we want.
We want to go and travel and do whatever we want.
I also just don't want to take the risk of having a child with medical complications. It is absolutely a possibility and it's not something I'm willing to risk.
Most importantly I don't want to give birth. Yeah do not want to do that.
Sounds like you all made a good choice!
I'm 24 & I have chosen not 🚫🙅🤰🏽👶🏽 to bring children's into this world 🌎 or by adopting them at all. Meaning that I am such a very true superhero great Aunt ❤️ 👩🏽❤️. I'm so glad that I have completely decided to become an autistic type of a childfree female person. Yes 😀 most definitely at a 💯% but in a very positive mindset for sure 👍🏽 indeed.
I dont know how my parents raised me. The stress, the effort. Cant do that to another human being. Im a doctor by profession but I dont think i can handle taking care of a child
I am 35, still single, Virgin, Happy and Relaxed
I'm 27 n a virgin too good luck hun
@@shaypope4732 great!
29 virgin
32 and virgin
You guys corn history probably sick lol
I (F) Born in 85... I knew i never wanted kids.
I definitely knew and would openly state that, by 10 years old.
I remember getting anxious as a child, thinking about the expectation of having to get married and have kids.
I heard if you stood infront of a microwave, you wouldn't be able to get pregnant ever.
😂 So as a child , i did this....
I might die from something related to that one day. (Stupid kid)
But my thoughts never wavered, and I've never been pregnant.
I praise and give all my respect to the parents out there. May god bless you and ur family ❤ 🙏
Dating as a childfree person is hard, anyone relate?!
Definitely limits the amount of people for sure haha.
@@jansleyreal it really does! Woe is us.
I’d have thought that dating as a person with a child was worse?
After learning that you have left your job, I was curious whether you have kids to provide for, since the finances would naturally be a concern. Now I know!
Having volunteered with many children with autism before, giving birth to a child with birth defects is my biggest fear, and the biggest deterrent for me. None of my peers seem to empathise with me, and they think that I’m just overly pessimistic 😂 (maybe I am haha)
Funny that we have a lot in common!
What if you had children and they were healthy? I had this same fear and reasons as well to have this fear. Our Fears are not always true and you should always challenge your mindset and say hey what if my child is healthy?
@@SimplyTakara89 i think it’s because my fear of having an unhealthy child far exceeds my desire to have a healthy child.
With a healthy child, I feel that my well-being will only improve slightly. But with an unhealthy child, i think my well-being will go be significantly be hampered
That means you let fear win. It’s so relatable growing up I was told I was a scaredy cat and worried about everything all the time (I still worry too much, working on that). I hate fear because it can be so detrimental to us, fear stopped me from alot of experiences and when I choose to go against fear the greatest things happened as well! I carry the sickle cell trait, if my husband also carried the trait my kids would have the full blown disease. I also carry something else I forget the name but they told me if my husband also carried it my children wouldn’t even really been able to be born something about organs getting to large causing miscarriages well anyway he doesn’t carry any genetics I carry. God is powerful both my children are healthy and like I said my husband carries none of the harmful genes I carry. I also lost my mom 1 month after my daughter was born so yes there’s a lot of fears but fears don’t mean truths…
Apparently we do have quite a bit in common! And yeah, that is a real fear, for sure.
Yep autistic kids are hard! I work with some of them. Makes me not want to have kids I'm good with them there because I work in classroom and have the teacher and the other support services. I could not imagine dealing with that at home. Makes it a lot easier to deal with them when I do my daily gym sessions after work gets rid of the stress. If I had a kid after work I couldn't go to the gym like that. I truly love being childfree.
Completely understand, I'm the same age and I don't think I'll ever have kids. It's struggle enough just taking care of myself and trying to figure out my path in life lol. It's something that gets snide remarks where I'm from (Asia), especially for women, but it's definitely not worth inflicting an unwilling and unready parent like me on kids who deserve better. As they say, you do you!
I know the struggle of figuring out a life path, it's been one of the biggest things that has haunted me in the past few years. Gaining more clarity each week though! Hope you are too :)
@@jansleyreal And I don't think the process will ever really stop! Which sounds depressing, but I think we can all dedicate small pockets of time to improving ourselves in the tiniest ways every day. I believe we'll all be okay in the end as long as we keep reflecting and taking small actions towards figuring out what brings us fulfilment, and just trying to practice empathy and patience for others around us too.
Dude honestly. I thinka false narrative is that everyone is gonna have shit figured out.
Thats the beauty of life, the unknown. However your desire to continue to improve is what makes it worth living.
When you first start at something, you accept your gonna suck, and you go from there. No amount of books u read on how to drive will prepare you to drive perfectly the first time you do it.
Also theres something to be said that you fall to what you accept. If you had a child, your awareness on not wanting children should allow you to realize that you must work harder now to earn more for them. People back then had it worse and they had children is what im trying to say.
But i think the truth is, nobodies perfect. The fact that you would want to be a good parent tho and provide is what i think signals that no matter what. You would be a good parent because you GAF.
Im childfree, more not by choice, but it really really helps me watching videos like this.
Whatever your situation, glad the video helped you :)
Enaknya jadi manusia =
1. Ada makanan
2. Fisik sehat
3. Panjang umur
4. Punya keluarga
5. Ada tempat tinggal bagus
6. Manusia Jujur
7. Saling toleransi
8. Masuk surga
9. Dapat rezeki.
10. Damai dengan orang.
11. Mempunyai pemimpin yang pro rakyat.
Dll
Gak enaknya jadi manusia =
1. Kelaparan
2. Kadang merasakan sakit , ada yang berkebutuhan khusus ( tidak bisa melihat, tidak bisa mendengar, tidak bisa berbicara ), ada yang sakit berat = stroke , kanker , dll , ada yang kehilangan anggota tubuh .
3. Suatu hari meninggal
4. Ada yang Gak punya keluarga
5. Ada yang tidak punya tempat tinggal atau tempat tinggal jelek
6. Ditipu orang
7. Rasis SARA ( suku , agama, ras dan budaya) , Rasis yang lain.
8. Masuk neraka
9. Harus bekerja kalau mau punya harta
10. Di hina orang
11. Mempunyai pemimpin Tidak pro rakyat
Dll.
Maka dari itu saya memutuskan tidak punya anak. Ada gak enaknya jadi manusia. Mungkin anak saya mengalami hal buruk tersebut . Yaa walaupun ada enaknya jadi manusia, saya tetap tidak punya anak. ( Indonesia language) .
How old were you when you got snipped? Did you get any hassle about not already having kids? Like you I knew at 16 I didn't want kids. After two near misses when I was 22 it didn't take much for me to jump up on a table. First two docs were dinosaurs who wouldn't do it for me because of my age and not having kids already. Third guy was awesome. Have never regretted it and would do it all over again. Absolutely bang on about the lifelong parent.
I was 30 when I got it done. I didn’t get hassle from people I know because I didn’t tell anyone about it. The doc gave me no hassle, congratulated me actually haha. No regrets from me either!
thank you
Wow. I wonder why doctors are encouraging men to get vasectomies. Are they also anti-natalists and want to control human populations?
No regrets being child free at 49 here. By the way, I've been working online from Thailand for the last 10 years, travel a lot every year, and loving life. I've got a great housekeeper/nanny that takes care of my dog while I'm gone....
That’s incredible Justin, sounds awesome! What kind of work do you do? Sounds like you are me in the future haha
@@jansleyreal I started off teaching English online and still do it, but my bread and butter is FBA (selling some products on Amazon). By the way, my dog is my child, but she is a whole heck of a lot easier than a human child. haha. Yeah man, we even look a like; same hair style ; )
Hey buddy, I'm from Mexico and I agree with you, society puts a lot of pressure on people who don't want to have children. I don't wanna bring kids into this competitive and insecure world. Sorry if my English is not very good, take care ✌️
Don't let up cuz you likely won't be happy about it. Remember, misery loves company and majority of folks don't want to see you doing better than them.
@Ytorisv you're right, most people with kids in Mexico can be very annoying with their comments, however, they always have financial problems, and as you said before, misery loves company.
Thank you for supporting and respecting the freedom to choose not to be parents.
I thought I wanted kids, especially with my last relationship. But now I realize I don’t want them. In a perfect world how my story ends I have a long-term partner and me and her live on my horse farm. We travel the world together.
Every path is different. Also, it's better to have kids when parents want to be parents.
It’s weird and cringy whenever some parent turns up in the comments and writes about their kids and then makes baseless, judgmental statements about childfree people like they are the bad guys or less than human just because they don’t have kids.
Here’s some advice for those small minded parents or pronatalists in general:
You’re NOT special. You’re NOT entitled. Don’t go around calling other people selfish just for not having kids like you have and then expect us to give you respect just because you’re mommies and daddies. Nobody cares.
If anything, you come off as insecure and jealous. And there’s plenty of data out there about parents who regret ever having kids just as there are people who regret never having any.
So quit these nonsensical, meaningless arguments that are designed more to cast anxiety and belittle anyone who doesn’t want to procreate rather than convince anyone of the joys of parenthood.
preach 🙌 neither choice is better or worse, they're just different paths.
Also, your animations are incredible!
You are not selfish for not having kids! You will be the ones left behind the loosers on the game of life 😂
@@LB-ci8pz Life isn’t a game. If you treat it like one then everyone looses equally.
Life is just life. Stop making a competition out of it.
@@CactusCowboyDan life and games are similar, if you're selfish in games you're probably selfish in life 😏
It has been so hard for me to find a man that doesn’t want to have kids, you give me hope. 😊
Excellent video. I never wanted to bring children into this world of wars, hatred, divorce ~ and so much suffering. Parents want children to have grandchildren who would be a reflection of themselves and "marriage". Society, schooling, religion ~ all push children into "having a family."
It is not easy to choose to be single. So much pressure of the group thing, to be married. But I have accepted my life choice and have no regrets. Perhaps in a perfect world where people all got along and shared, I could have had children. But NOT in this reality of our world as it is.
39 F childfree I need my rest and sleep and time on my own, I’m an introvert, have anxiety, maybe undiagnosed mildly autistic. I’m a proud cat lady for life ❤
Raising and naturing is a sport, a serious draining sport. Its beautiful to have them and its also beautiful to not have them. It should be ok to not want to have kids, it doesn’t mean one is a monster.
Thank you for sharing this, its truly refreshing to hear men being truly honest.
Thank you for making this…the childfree community needs more men to speak on this. Thanks for being one of them.
Happy to talk about it!
I knew before my teenage years that I didn’t really want kids. But I just thought it was something that was just part of life and I’ll be okay if I just go with it…
But as I got older…I really started to have internal conflict with myself because I am in those “child bearing” years. And the thought of no turning back if I chose to have them was just overall a dooming feeling.
I am done fighting with myself on it and chose to be 100% child free.
I would rather regret not having them than to regret having them.
Watching this gave me hope that I can find a partner that wants the same lifestyle as me.
Not all men wants kids 😅
oh hell yeah, there's childfree dudes out there! I have 2-3 guy friends alone that are childfree.
@@jansleyreal that’s very refreshing and encouraging to hear 😼
@@Justacreative1 I'm one of them 🙋 not on the fence either it's absolutely a child free life for me
@@makefoxhoundgreatagain842 I love that 💕
ARE WE THE SAME PERSON? I’m 24 and I have every intention on getting my tubes tied. I knew from an early age, that I NEVER wanted to be a mother. NOTHING . About it appeals to me.
so agree. I had one child. was hard work and when she had grown, we saw her rarely. she did not want to be around us.. I was heart broken
I'm happy for you, I joined you🎉❤, got married at 40, my hubby cannot have kids, so it was a dual happy choice for our future, we believe that the world/dangers would also be a great problem for kids, 1-6 yes is the shaping stage, life is short, over populated.
43 here and never wanted kids. I love animals and have 5 furry rescued fur babies and my life is a paradise.
That's amazing, stoked for you!
I’m in my 30s, I’m still single and happy without kids.
your young af
@@willieportillo582930 isn't young homie..😂
The truth about being a kid is that we are loved only when we live up to the expectations of our parents.
Yes and this is something I have to think about if I were to have a kid of my own. Unfortunately even if you raise a kid well that’s not a guarantee they’ll be a “good” person. Can I still fully love my child if they end up hurting the people in their lives? I don’t think I could and the thought of bringing something into this world I may not fully love means I’m not meant for that.
36, almost 37 year old woman - still no regrets on not having kids. Knew from high school kids just weren’t for me, but was always told “my biological clock” would hit me at some point. Hasn’t so far, and I reckon if it hasn’t by now, it probably won’t (and I’m perfectly happy with that!).
Here’s to retiring early! :)
Travel on, baby! Do what fulfills YOU! Life is short. Many, many ppl have burning desire to leave “legacy”. And, many of us do not. 🙂
i`m 36 and been single for about 6 years and i don`t want to have kids. We`re not alone bro.
Respect ✊
I'm childfree at 45. My husband also childfree at 46.
Glad to hear the male perspective,but men also aren't shamed and insulted for not having children. They get a free pass.
Some men are shamed for not having children (for example, if he's married and both him and his spouse don't want kids), but not shamed to the degree that women are.
Talk to the creator about it.
I'm a 29 year old female and I'm very glad I didn't hop on the have kids bandwagon. I know for a fact that I wouldn't be a good parent. I also enjoy uninterrupted sleep. When I told people I didn't want to have kids and got the " you'll change your mind" sentence all that did was make me want to prove them wrong.
good on you, can't argue
Thanks, appreciate you stopping by :)
im 49 and after very nearly becoming a dad (miscarriages in LTR) I went on to choose in my mid 30s that id rather not have kids, i dont regret it. People forget that "because i dont want to" supercedes their opinion everytime.
And then there are people that say that we are responsibilty avoiders. I think i take responsibility in not having kids in my imagination
I live in Richmond as well, and I totally agree. Awesome video.
Honestly things today are pretty terrible too. If I ever had kids, I’d want them to experience life as it was before technology completely took over, like the way we did back in the 90s and earlier 😢
Good on you Janley for actually THINKING..!! …from one child free Richmonder to another 😂😂
Hey fellow Richmonder!
I'm child-free. Wish now that I wasn't. Sure, I had every reason to not have a child when I was younger but now...now it's somehow different.
Think about the impact on everyone else and the planet plus we are headed for increased extinction rates and a diminished quality of life coming up.
@@fuxan😂😂😂😂 Demographics are strongly declining. That argument does not pull anymorw
If you have enough money, then you can adopt a child if you want.
Same here ,i find my calling in travelling and added to that most importantly heal myself out of my mental trauma🌻
Childfree Kimberly started a channel on this topic. Given all of the cultlike irrational pressure put on individuals to spawn, I completely get why she felt the need to launch that thing. Too many people sell myths and fiction about kids. It is far more irritating in the South. Quite frankly, it harms kids. It's too much pressure to have to be your parent's reason to live.
I really love her channel 👍! "No kids for me thanks ☺️!" Just subscribed to her channel not that long ago.
Thanks for sharing. It is so interesting to hear these stories of how people have figured this out and the reasons for choosing a childless life. I'm 42. I have been thinking about having kids over the years but the circumstances have not been supportive. Now I'm just trying to find an answer for myself, something that gives me peace in this topic. It is not so important which choice to make, but rather how it makes one feel
To each is own! Parenthood ISN'T for everyone! I realize there is a need to maintain a birth rate and sustain a population; but if you're not fit for it, you're not fit for it! Plenty of people are, so don't worry about it!
I grew up in a family of 9 kids with 3 that were either stillborn or passed away early in childhood. I saw how overwhelmed and miserable my parents were. Four of my siblings have Schizophrenia. Three of my sisters got married and had kids and they all hate their marriages. They want us to get married because misery loves company. One of them has a son that is severely autistic. He is very large, very physical, cannot speak a word, is hyperactive, and is getting more and more difficult to manage. Her husband is leaving her after trying to force her to accept a mistress in their lives. Her and one of my other sisters found the worst dirtbags to marry. My opinion did not matter to them 25 years ago when I told them what the true character of those guys were and how bad a decision they were making. Now they act like I owe them by trying to get me to have fights with their husbands to get them to be more compliant with the traditional role of a husband. My oldest sister is the worst and the one that caused all this dysfunctionality in the first place. She has not changed at all. Only one of the married three has a decent guy but that is the one that wants to leave him. I told her that he is decent guy and the only one of the three brother-in-laws that I trust. I told her that she ain't getting any bettter than him because she thought that she could get "one of those nerds that grew up to make 200 million dollars" just by finding a social circle that has those types of guys and plugging in. She said that everyone tells her that she looks like she's 20. I laughed and told her that everyone is afraid to argue with her and just tell her what she wants to hear.
Oh my goodness😵💫. Misery definitely loves company. I will never subject myself to ANY of this nonsense.