The people who judge. Have pieces missing within themselves. When you are so happy and full , you are too busy being happy to judge. Thank you for your inspiration.
Yes, yes and yes! People who are on an authentic journey are often more focused on their own growth and fulfilment, which leaves little room for judgment of others. They recognize that happiness and fulfillment come from living in alignment with their true selves, whether that involves having children or not. This mindset fosters a sense of respect for the diverse paths others may take in their lives. Embracing authenticity means understanding that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, and that everyone’s journey is unique and valid.💖
We have NO kids... retired at 47... we have lived overseas and we have been traveling the past 15 years... No money issues and we have good health....... best decision ever with no regrets at all.
I am 58 and childfree. No regrets. I have lots of hobbies and I volunteer. I don't have pets but I love my wildlife in my garden. I am learning to be alone as one day I will be
I'm 49 Asian, my husband is 54 American, we are childfree together for 17 years, and we are still deeply in love and we lead full lives, working, traveling, experiencing countries, cultures and just enjoy our togetherness. There are some moments when we wonder if we'll miss out on those parenting experiences, but there are way more days when we are thankful that we are childfree. The older we get, the more we seem certain and happy with the choice we've made.
I’m single/unmarried and childfree all by choice at 40 years old. I’m NOT financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fit. Best decision I’ve ever made and I have zero regrets.
What are you doing with your life to pay back the individuals, groups, and society as a whole that has given you everything you have? You decided you're not fit to contribute by providing the next generation of people that sustain society, so what are you doing instead?
@@mylesleggette7520who are you to tell her how to live her life ? Women are not entitled to have kids in order «to sustain society ». No one should say to woman what to do with her body.
I just got reminded of, There's a proverb in Gujarati language, it says "Not interfering, is a great service to the world"! Is there a generalized pay-back condition to be part of the earth that everyone has signed before taking birth? As a child, when I look back & reflect, I see that Everyday was a Sunday, being happy doing everything silly added so many colors to the family, so as an individual I guess Everyone has paid back being children themselves. Now as a community of adults, who decides how-much more or Which exact ways One Should Pay-Back To Society? Isn't living a simple, minimal, happily married life One Of The Great Ways To Pay-Back To Society for Newer Generations who are seeking such examples. Is Society a steady-consistent Reality? Or Our own individual constructs/concepts that's lived some weeks of the year. I'm glad you posed the question, it helped me reflect on some other questions. Let's be open and continue to investigate. Isn't posting such beautiful video documents with Society that allows us Random people meet up on commentsSectn and Converse? One way of Paying-back. Can we let the others decide how to navigate our individual lives be it via our intuitions/heart or socially correct ways to live? Did Society ever ask for any pay-back? Or it's just individuals who felt whatever their heartful contributions/interactions/engagements that required in the moment for Society good/bad? We're open to investigate/reflect more on this together. Thankyou. Best regards.
Same here, we're both 54 and don't have children. We did try though, for a number of years, but I think it was more due to the pressure of society and parents, but it didn't happen. We've been married for 31 years and have no regrets. Maybe everything does happen for a reason 🙂
Having kids is a 20 year commitment (or more...!). I have two sons in their twenties now, I have no regrets, they are my pride and joy, but many of my friends have chosen not to have any, and I totally respect that. It's a harsh world out there to raise good and compassionate human beings. Enjoy your life the way you choose to live it. And ignore people who would want you to change it!
I love that you have kids and they light up your life but you don't think everyone else must be poppin out some and can see that it's just different life paths
20 years out of 75 honestly doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m not a parent but I would be happy to spend what is probably less than 1/3 of my time with kids. Especially because they can also enrich your life and bring out traits you never knew you had.
@@Bav92Having kids into this over populated world is doing a crime to the children Born, they have to fight for basic necessities like food, Water due to high inflation.
I would argue that it's actually a life long commitment, because children could potentially need your help forever for some reason like disabilities or syndromes, it is very taboo to talk about the potential about it but it is a real chance so I think it must be taken into consideration when deciding if one wants to have children @@Bav92
I didn't want to have kids, a decision since I was really young. My friends think I will regret it. Today, most of my friends regret having kids and wish they have my life. I know, being honest to myself is the best gift I can give myself.
@ccjohnson6251 It's people like who who make it so much easier for us to not want kids. Lord help us if there are tiny little versions of you running around.
I am 33 and my wife is 30. We both dont feel the need for a child. We are happy together, we enjoy going out together. My mother always says "don't create a new life until you have lived your own life" you meaning do the things you want to do first and then you can have childeren if you choice. And if you don't, that is fine to. 😊
Your mother is a wise woman. My husband I are similar in age to you and your spouse. For the longest time… I was against having kids. Then all of my friends starting talking about having them because a lot of my friends were getting pregnant. I started to feel like maybe I was missing out… and now I’m back to not wanting any kids. Any time I think I want them… and then I am around someone’s child… I instantly change my mind. I want to work on myself more and ensure my husband and I have an amazing life together. I don’t want to struggle financially or have strain in my marriage or identity to have a child.
Never had kids wife and I are late 60's I would be one who agrees with most here until last 5 years were slowing down not as healthy as we once were. Done lot of the things we always wanted to but I do miss family when we were younger we had our parents, grand parents, siblings, cousins many have passed on now. We were the youngest in our families now no one to call or go see we don't even celebrate holidays anymore. Thanksgiving for 2 people why bother I know most here would disagree with me I would have disagreed with me if I was 30 years old. I do regret not having kids.
@Mike-01234 That is sad to hear. Maybe you can adopt a child? I personally have health issues to that are genetic. That is why I don't want to have children to. Next to the fact that as young people we are barely keeping our head above water. It's not good to get a child of I can't give it what it needs
Fellow Childfree by choice person here. Well said, marriage and Motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Stay strong and stay happy !
My partner and i dont have kids and we totally agree on everything you said. We feel like we are having an amazing time and life goes by soo fast, we just dont want to be bogged down with kids. Cheers to a well-made decision. 😜 🍻
I'm 46 been with my wife for 18 years both kinda late bloomers with no children and the straight up hostility we get from so called friends and family is so beyond ridiculous it's actually sad. This coming from people who are out right miserable with their situations.
Some people just cannot see outside the box. I’m glad you have the courage to make choices that are right for you, despite the comments from the peanut gallery. 🙌🏻💫
Thanks for sharing, Jean! I'm very happy to have found your channel. My wife and I also decided not to have kids, and we've been married since we were 23. Each year, we had "the vote" if this was the year. As time went by, we looked at our life together, and decided it wasn't right for us to interrupt what we had, and we continued to grow and be fulfilled with our relationship. We've had some amazing opportunities to travel and gain experiences that wouldn't have been possible if we made other choices. We celebrated 20 years married this week! No regrets! Live YOUR life!
@@JeanVoronkova that’s right. most can’t even take care of themselves (financially and also mentally/physically) yet they want to bring an innocent baby into this world thinking they can ‘take care’ of them?
Having kids changed me as a person. I need less to be happy. My husband + i wrkd hard to start businesses. We will retire soon in our mid 40s + we can travel + enjoy quality time as a family. You know that unconditional love u feel for your pets? It’s times 1000 with humans. I so look forward to seeing them become adults + will appreciate the new freedom that comes too. I love the different chapters that come with being a parent. Being a parent develops patience, appreciation + less focus on oneself which leads to more happiness . You have so much practice at not letting ppl or things trigger u. You learn to let go of needing to control everything + go with the flow. These gifts will help me to never take life for granted + always find joy.
Same here: no kids, a nice investment and retirement portfolio, time, hobbies, healthy relationship! I've got a great life that works for me and I'm happy :)
Such a refreshing take! Im now 31 and for as long as I can remember I have never wanted kids but whenever I say this I am always welcomed with unsolicited opinions/"advice" that 'you'll change your mind one day'. Well my mind hasn't changed yet and I really don't see it changing either. I respect peoples decision to have kids if that is what they want and I wish people would give the same respect back with my decision to not have them. Everyone should live a life they want without judgement.
My 8 year old son is such an important part of my life. The joy I feel when I spend time with him is so special. That said, I don't judge others who don't feel the same way about having kids. We are all different and should have respect for those differences. One path is not better than the other. Thoughtful video Jean...
Hubby and I had our daughter on our 13th year wedding anniversary and couldn't ask for more. We are older parents I 'm 55 and hub just turned 64 2 days ago. She's 13 yo and is the pride and joy of our lives. Being a parent is either you do it or don't do it job. There is no half fast. I have tremendous respect for your decisions. No judging from my part. Good luck on your new businesses.
Your story was very moving. I made the choice to become a parent as a 53 year old in need of a succession plan. I was so terrified of the prospect of raising a baby to an adult that I cried uncontrollably when my partner told me she was pregnant. I am not fond of babies in general but I got used to sleep dep and diaper changes. Now my 17 year old son is my best friend and my life has been unimaginably enriched with him around to teach and learn from. In a year he will be off to university to study engineering and I will be making my way to Bali to retire. I got lucky.. There is no guarantee as to the outcome. You are wise to consider this life-altering choice carefully.
@Dot21234My partner breastfed at night and I did the diaper changes so she could rest. It is important to be honest with yourself as to your energy levels. A 63 year old who is fit and vibrant could pull it off. If not, you might find yourself doing a larger part of the work. Kids start sleeping through the night after 6 months so the stage of parental exhaustion doesn’t go on indefinitely. Sometimes families will help in the early stages.
@Dot21234You’re going to have a child with someone who will almost certainly die before the kid graduates college. Why do you have a partner who is so old if your goal is to have a family? Seems like the child is the one who will suffer, spending most of their life without a father.
I love this. I'm a mother and I love being a mother but I totally see the appeal of a childless/childfree life, so much freedom and fun. You do you girl
Me and my older sister choose to child free too. For her it's because she doesn't like children to begin with, and for me because i enjoy living single. More freedom and i can take care my true self properly. Being people pleaser in the past making me forget to love myself. This world is already jam packed too, making younger generation hard to live. Bless for you all.
This is true for me too. At 37 it’s now time to start looking after myself well and enjoying my life, and I’m actually grateful I didn’t go down the kid-road or it’d all be about that right now, and I’d still be neglecting myself. Best wishes to you 🙂
You do you, and I'm glad you're enjoying living for your self. But please don't spread this nonsense about there being too many people. Every country in the world bar a literal handful has a negative birth rate, and promoting a culture of childlessness only accelerates this trend. The path to a lonely, depopulated world is already laid out, and it will be a struggle to change course.
Such wowserism! There are more births than deaths globally so what’s the problem? If the birth rate is above zero, it’s not negative. There are and will always be humans being born. A smaller population is a good thing. Nothing good can come from more and more and more people.
"I will always be grateful to my parents. They truly loved and supported me. I try to give back to my elderly mother. Looking back, although I had a great life, I can see the struggles my parents went through. As a child, I already felt like, 'I don't want that type of life.' In my twenties, I decided never to have children. Now that I am in my fifties, I realize that only now do I have the maturity to have children. So, I made the right decision."
@@dr.gaosclassroom Yes but he shouldn't be with a much younger woman now just to have kids. He ought to choose a woman in her 40s at the very least to take the chance or adopt or get an ethical surrogate.
Great video and message. Main takeaway is that there are many ways for us humans to live a meaningful, fulfilling mortal and brief life in this eternal reality, and it needs inner reflection to find our own paths. Also, not caring about conventional thinkers is important as they are living an outdated reality and will project their own misery/toxicity onto you. There's only one way to live a miserable life - and that's not living the authentic life meant for you.
Great video. I have a two year old and while I love being a parent and have absolutely no regrets, I can see where having kids is not for everyone- the sleepless nights, the time commitment, the seemingly constant tantrums. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, so people should always respect other's decisions. We all take different paths in life and the route to happiness is different for everyone.
I absolutely respect people with no children, indeed I have some close childless friends, they live more exciting lives for sure….. I have 4 kids myself, and I am damn busy every day. My childless friends are happy, and I am happy too, in our own ways. I love your videos Jean, gives a completely different perspective of life
I'm so warmed by this video and the loving way you explain such a deeply personal decision. I have had the exact same thoughts as you. It's nice to find like-minded others communicating this choice in a way that isn't defensive but clear, confident, and so evidently filled with joy for life.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. Nobody as a right to judge you. It's your life. You only get to live once so life your life not the life others think you should live. ❤❤
I truly enjoyed your video! I am in my mid-60s and have three children and no grandchildren. I do not want grandchildren because of all the worries of society with crime in this day and age. I have three beautiful Grand pups which I love. If I were Young again and childbearing age now I would not have children! Don't get me wrong. I love and adore my children and planned two out of three of them and love all three of them. With all my heart! I would not change a thing. I fully agree on understand where you are coming from with your thoughts. Having children does not make you more of a family. Love and memories that you treasure is what makes a true family. I wish you all the best and enjoy your videos that I have watched. I totally agree with you.
I’m turning 43 only child never been married. I think finding the right partner with similar values is Crucial. To grow old and have friendship with. Having a child it is a blessing and not everyone can have one.
Nobody's Business what you do with your life. And you are contributing and having a valid Life by sharing your experiences with this video and channel. Keep up the great work
I've watched your videos for years and have gotten great value, but this resonated above all the others. To top off no kids I'm also single and very content. Ironically my career as a family photographer gives me great purpose. Thank you Jean for posting a video I'm certain many will grateful for. I know I am.
thanks for leaving us this kind note. It is a very fortunate thing to be as we are, content & living each day with purpose 🌻😍 so happy you're in this place
I have 5 kids yet I agree with what you said. All of it. Lol. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Love your videos. Hugs to you 🤗
I deeply respect you as you respect the choices of others opposite to your own. I wish you and your growing family all the best. Very refreshing to read these
Thank you for sharing this heartfelt video!! I have only one child and am really grateful for having her. However, it is such an individual choice, everyone is different. I saw too many parents who have children for the wrong reasons and regret their decisions. My mother is one of them. She resented that she had children too early (when she was only 17) and never had a chance to live the life she wanted. You can imagine how miserable me and my siblings childhood was. So is my brother. He has a child solely to please my parents and he is not a good father as one can imagine. My decision to have children is purely based on my love for children. I had my first impulse of wanting children in my mid twenties. I always knew that I want children. I think I did a reasonable job raising my child and she is a happy young lady now. So grateful for your video!! Thank you again!
I would never have a child for many reasons. I‘m 33 and married and I‘m very happy without a child. I‘ve so many other plans for me, so many dreams. I live for me and my dreams and that‘s okay.
I feel the same. Always think about it but don't see a big enough reason have have myself right now despite the pressure from others. Your content really resonate with me!
Absolutely! You get to live your life, not someone else's. We are all different and enjoy different things, and that's the beauty of our world. We each have a unique purpose in life, and discovering that is essential. Keep enjoying your authentic life because that's how you illuminate the world.🙌 ❤
Jean, love your honesty. It is my belief that children should always be wanted by both parents as they're a life long commitment. Even when they are adults, as parents, you still worry. I wish our world would allow people to be childless and not place judgement on them. It's not for everyone. I love how you explained this topic and wish you and your husband all the best!
Hi Christine thanks for the kind note. I'm 100% with you. I hate that some children are here in this world and not gettin the attention they would like to have from their parents. We should be allowed to be different when necessary without facing judgment.
It’s everyone’s right to do what’s right for them as a couple. The sad thing is if you want and cannot have. My husband and I tried for years with no success. Long story short we adopted and that was the right choice for us. I believe you can be equally fulfilled with or without children depending on the lifestyle you choose and that both partners agree. I see Jean and her husband living this amazing life and obviously it is the right thing for them. I’m sure many people would be jealous of this beautiful life and I think I would have been very happy living this life up to a certain point. I am so grateful that my husband and I pursued parenthood to the point of adoption as I know in our hearts we would have regretted it had we not.
Great video! We resonated with you both fully. I never had the impulse to have kids, nor did my husband. When you first meet people, one of their first questions is usually, do you have kids? As if something was missing in your life. As you explained, our lives are whole and exciting, and we feel truly fulfilled. We are so glad that we ignored the pressure of society to live a life that is a copy of the masses. We often agree that deciding not to have kids was one of our best decisions!
we have 2 furkids right now.... and actually we're in a very happy place, just right for us... and from that perspective I think I'm at peace & happy with our situation of not having human kids... but i guess it will always be a very individual decision for each person :)
I don't have kid, either, and don't want to have one because I know I am selfish, I want free time, do what I want with my own time ... like if I want to sleep/watch TV, I just go sleep/watch TV any time and in peace ☺️ Hubby is with me. He once told me, better to have niece/nephew, they come and they go home 😂
I knew from 17yrs old I would never have children it’s something I didn’t want to do. Purely selfish reasons, certainly not because I thought the world was an awful place. I have always admired parents. I’m 64 and no regrets. I am midwife. 😊
Wife and I have 2 kids who are adults now. Yes there's challenges raising them (we were not well off), and them having to tolerate our parenting. But to love and be loved by our kids (and now a grandkid too), will always be priceless to us and we won't change that even if we can go back in time. And my younger son is looking forward to have at least 2 kids when married. I'm in Singapore and our Govt fully support (financially too), having children, as many as we want or can.
At the end of Life, it’s all about how you’ve lived YOUR LIFE. Living it to the fullest in your own terms. It’s not selfish at allll. You owe it to you and only you. 90% of the people on this planet cannot even fulfill half of their life’s dreams. Not their fault, that’s just life. It’s challenging. So feel blessed n be proud that you are that tiny percent of happiness and bliss on earth. You do you and God Bless. Embrace it, No regrets ❤
@@shamekabenjamin8010 I lived my life to the fulliest. Traveled more than 25 different countries multiple times. Did everything on my bucket list before getting married and starting a family at 40. That way I have no regrets and don’t feel like I missed out on life. Now With that being said, now that I have two kids, a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Being a parent is the toughest, most exhausting, stressful, NO SLEEP AT ALL for past 5 years. My health took a huge huge dive, aged 10 years in past 5 years. I went from my best version in life to now my worst version in life. Ever. I take really good care of my kids but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting kids. It’s truly truly sacrificing and it’s not for everyone. I speak for millions of parents out there and trust me I talk to everybody. I’m very outgoing and social. One main thing I get from other parents is that I feel constantly exhausted and completely drained. So please be nice in life and don’t judge others 🙏 be understanding and have empathy
Fantastic video. You really have to be honest with yourself whether children are for you or not. I'm 46 and all my life so far I was never once interested in children. If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. With lots of hobbies, as well as being a world traveler, I feel very fulfilled as a person with no children
Beautiful video Sis 💯💯 Totally agree with all the messages.. and really love the peaceful theme and feeling your videos always bring with it. Wish ❤️❤️ You and Hubby V ❤️❤️ have a very meaningful and happy life together 🙏🙏💫💫❤️❤️✨✨🙏🙏
People should stop looking into other's lifes and assuming things! They should look into their own lifes and get THEIR OWN issues done! Consider you spoked for me too!❤
Brave and introspective sharing!!! And often a topic I deep think about. It's the same thing concept as being married or being single - no one is actually better than the other. We choose what we suits us and bring us the best in us. To me the worst is really just doing something because everyone is doing it. ❤❤❤
Amen, Amen. Life is always about a choice, I am 62 this year and always taken care of my parents, I never had children or been married, I believe the happiness I hear in your voice, your married life gave you many blessings without children, Amen, Amen.
SUCH an amazing video, and so eloquent and well put! I recently interviewed Cathrine Forner who said that biologically, only around 25% of people in a community had kids, and the rest of the society were makers, and hunters, and gatherers and helped raise the children or helped the community in one way or another. I love this kind of thinking!
Great video! Thanks for sharing. Being purposeful/intentional about all of my choices has lead me to be child free. In a sense I feel I live more deeply from the core of my soul, I’m free to continue unraveling “me”. This factor has enriched my life more than words could describe. ❤❤
Before we started our hawker stall in 2018, we made a decision to not have kids. The hawker business took all our time, attention and energy literally 24/7. Now that we are early retired, we are living our best lives sans kids. Thanks for making this video. We totally resonate with all your reasons ❤
A big THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts so honestly and reflected. I am 59 and have raised my son (32) as a single working mum. I got married and had him because everyone else around me did so. But my marriage failed within one year and raising him was hard and challenging, but also brought out the best in me. I love him very much and wouldn't want to miss him. However, he does not want kids, his girlfriend neither - it was difficult for me to accept and part of me still hopes they will decide to have kids because I would love to have grand kids. But I know, this is one of the not-so-good reasons you mention. It's them who should WANT and FEEL it to be able to cope with the challenges kids bring along. Yes, they might regret it later on, but I also regret a couple of decisions in my life that are irreversible, and yet I am a happy person, so what's the point.
Jean, thank you for your honesty. Not everyone is supposed to have kids and I think if most people were honest about their reasons for having kids, those reasons are mostly selfish. That responsibility is not the path for everyone. 🙏🏼 Being child free is such a blessing 🙏🏼
I agree what she says at the end of the video. There's no right or wrong. Its your choice. I've met multiple people who have kids and love it, people with kids who secretly regret it, people who are child free who love it, and people who are child free that regret it. I think the difference between all of these people are simply a mixture of good and bad choices and how much they REALLY know themselves. Just hope that no matter if you say to people whether or not you want children....you're right.
Jean, what a beautiful content you make… it’s about contentment, fulfillment and satisfaction in life that you eloquently elaborate. I agree that each individual has a different purpose in life that makes them content. And boy how lovely to see those who are content outside the societal boundaries. Best wishes to you both!
I’m 39 and my husband is 51, we had our son 2 years ago. I never grew up vision boarding kids and instead was such a career woman (and still am, just with tremendous balance) but boy, having that little guy has been my biggest life reward.
@@wheatstonebridgeit’s only too old to have kids when in menopause. Nature makes the rules. Many unexpected pregnancies happen later in life because that’s when women dump the most eggs.
To me your life is soooo beautiful and envious. I’ve always wanted a boy and girl which I got, my life would be incomplete without them Regardless how hard it has been to raise them and I hv 5 grandchildren that are the loves of my life. Honestly I wish my life looked more like yours just with my grown kids and grand kids nearby. Thanks for sharing your beauty life with us 🥰
Totally agree with everything you said. It is a personal choice. My husband and I are childfree and have been together for 27 years. We enjoy our freedom.
Well said! We have the same mindset about this topic and we are very happy with our child free marriage/lifestyle. We love that our friends and family who have kids are enjoying their life as well! All about focusing on what true happiness looks like for each individual. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and points on this topic. Have a wonderful day!
But what if there is someone out there who can’t have children, not by choice, and they feel deeply affected by that, especially with societal pressures and blaming, but then they see you and how fulfilled you are in your life without kids and it helps them to find meaning in their own life despite their circumstances. Then not having children can’t be selfish, God uses everything for good…. And your openness about this topic is so good 😊 it will help those struggling to know life has many options even if the door of having children is closed for you!
It s really about being a « family »…..in the short and the long run. For me, after three kids i educated on my own while working full and overtime……loved with all my heart and gave every second of my life 24/7……and seldom see anymore……🤷♀️. I still cherish those amazing ordinary extraordinary moments of everyday shared with them. I wouldn t be the same today. Would i do it again?………🤷♀️. I totally understand your position. In my wisdom hears now, i wish we, humans, could start now and live for another 60 years 😊. We d be such better parents and life teachers. Thankyou for sharing dear ❤️
I really like your very measured perspective even though you obviously loved having your 3 kids so much. Thank you so much for sharing your story. And very valid point. We'll probably mostly be much better parents if we can live life fully first and then be contented, (hopefully) more learned role models for the kids.
@@IamaNewCreature Fight? With whom, pray tell? My comment was meant to reassure Jean that choosing not to have kids, aka ankle biters, is a wise choice and nothing to feel guilty about. That's all.
@@SuiGenerisAbbie I’m an agreement with you, just saying even if it is ‘legally mandated’ that shouldn’t be a reason to have kids, if you don’t want to.
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"Who cares what other people say or think." Love this line. Peace and freedom are too valuable.
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The people who judge. Have pieces missing within themselves. When you are so happy and full , you are too busy being happy to judge. Thank you for your inspiration.
Yes, yes and yes! People who are on an authentic journey are often more focused on their own growth and fulfilment, which leaves little room for judgment of others. They recognize that happiness and fulfillment come from living in alignment with their true selves, whether that involves having children or not. This mindset fosters a sense of respect for the diverse paths others may take in their lives. Embracing authenticity means understanding that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, and that everyone’s journey is unique and valid.💖
@@tatiananugent8434 beautiful x
Have you ever thought about what you are saying, you sound like a parrot.
We have NO kids... retired at 47... we have lived overseas and we have been traveling the past 15 years... No money issues and we have good health....... best decision ever with no regrets at all.
happy to hear you are happy with your choices and no regrets. Thanks for sharing with me 🙏
that's my goal as well!!!!!! retire early is what I look forward to. im not into kids, like other people's kids, but children is not my thing maybe..
It's not too late. Have some kids!
Great life!
@@jade-oh5wn have some respect. It's not on everyone's path.
I am 58 and childfree. No regrets. I have lots of hobbies and I volunteer. I don't have pets but I love my wildlife in my garden. I am learning to be alone as one day I will be
I'm 49 Asian, my husband is 54 American, we are childfree together for 17 years, and we are still deeply in love and we lead full lives, working, traveling, experiencing countries, cultures and just enjoy our togetherness. There are some moments when we wonder if we'll miss out on those parenting experiences, but there are way more days when we are thankful that we are childfree. The older we get, the more we seem certain and happy with the choice we've made.
I’m single/unmarried and childfree all by choice at 40 years old. I’m NOT financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fit. Best decision I’ve ever made and I have zero regrets.
What are you doing with your life to pay back the individuals, groups, and society as a whole that has given you everything you have? You decided you're not fit to contribute by providing the next generation of people that sustain society, so what are you doing instead?
@@mylesleggette7520 That doesn't make sense.
@@mylesleggette7520who are you to tell her how to live her life ? Women are not entitled to have kids in order «to sustain society ». No one should say to woman what to do with her body.
I just got reminded of, There's a proverb in Gujarati language, it says "Not interfering, is a great service to the world"!
Is there a generalized pay-back condition to be part of the earth that everyone has signed before taking birth?
As a child, when I look back & reflect, I see that Everyday was a Sunday, being happy doing everything silly added so many colors to the family, so as an individual I guess Everyone has paid back being children themselves. Now as a community of adults, who decides how-much more or Which exact ways One Should Pay-Back To Society?
Isn't living a simple, minimal, happily married life One Of The Great Ways To Pay-Back To Society for Newer Generations who are seeking such examples.
Is Society a steady-consistent Reality? Or Our own individual constructs/concepts that's lived some weeks of the year.
I'm glad you posed the question, it helped me reflect on some other questions. Let's be open and continue to investigate.
Isn't posting such beautiful video documents with Society that allows us Random people meet up on commentsSectn and Converse? One way of Paying-back.
Can we let the others decide how to navigate our individual lives be it via our intuitions/heart or socially correct ways to live?
Did Society ever ask for any pay-back? Or it's just individuals who felt whatever their heartful contributions/interactions/engagements that required in the moment for Society good/bad?
We're open to investigate/reflect more on this together.
Thankyou. Best regards.
There are other ways to it forward or help society besides having kids. @mylesleggette7520
I don’t have any children and never thought l would. I am 54 now. Happily married for now 14 years.
Same here, we're both 54 and don't have children. We did try though, for a number of years, but I think it was more due to the pressure of society and parents, but it didn't happen. We've been married for 31 years and have no regrets. Maybe everything does happen for a reason 🙂
My husband and I are 46 and 49 and happily married for 19 years without children.
You have a roommate
@@IvanaRockno, she has a husband
@@IvanaRockYou just jealous because she is childfree.
Having kids is a 20 year commitment (or more...!). I have two sons in their twenties now, I have no regrets, they are my pride and joy, but many of my friends have chosen not to have any, and I totally respect that. It's a harsh world out there to raise good and compassionate human beings. Enjoy your life the way you choose to live it. And ignore people who would want you to change it!
I love that you have kids and they light up your life but you don't think everyone else must be poppin out some and can see that it's just different life paths
20 years out of 75 honestly doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m not a parent but I would be happy to spend what is probably less than 1/3 of my time with kids. Especially because they can also enrich your life and bring out traits you never knew you had.
@@Bav92Having kids into this over populated world is doing a crime to the children Born, they have to fight for basic necessities like food, Water due to high inflation.
@@Bav9220 years is not guaranteed. What if you have a child with special needs? The story changes then. It’s very unpredictable.
I would argue that it's actually a life long commitment, because children could potentially need your help forever for some reason like disabilities or syndromes, it is very taboo to talk about the potential about it but it is a real chance so I think it must be taken into consideration when deciding if one wants to have children @@Bav92
I didn't want to have kids, a decision since I was really young. My friends think I will regret it. Today, most of my friends regret having kids and wish they have my life. I know, being honest to myself is the best gift I can give myself.
LOL stop lying to yourself, I know your friends are lying to you. They say it, to make you feel a little bit better about yourself.
@ccjohnson6251 It's people like who who make it so much easier for us to not want kids. Lord help us if there are tiny little versions of you running around.
@@ccjohnson6251No they are not.
@@ccjohnson6251oh really? Then why they all can't wait when kids grow up and leave the house?😂
I am 33 and my wife is 30. We both dont feel the need for a child. We are happy together, we enjoy going out together. My mother always says "don't create a new life until you have lived your own life" you meaning do the things you want to do first and then you can have childeren if you choice. And if you don't, that is fine to. 😊
Your mother is a wise woman. My husband I are similar in age to you and your spouse. For the longest time… I was against having kids. Then all of my friends starting talking about having them because a lot of my friends were getting pregnant. I started to feel like maybe I was missing out… and now I’m back to not wanting any kids. Any time I think I want them… and then I am around someone’s child… I instantly change my mind. I want to work on myself more and ensure my husband and I have an amazing life together. I don’t want to struggle financially or have strain in my marriage or identity to have a child.
Your mother sounds awesome. You are very lucky!
Never had kids wife and I are late 60's I would be one who agrees with most here until last 5 years were slowing down not as healthy as we once were. Done lot of the things we always wanted to but I do miss family when we were younger we had our parents, grand parents, siblings, cousins many have passed on now. We were the youngest in our families now no one to call or go see we don't even celebrate holidays anymore. Thanksgiving for 2 people why bother I know most here would disagree with me I would have disagreed with me if I was 30 years old. I do regret not having kids.
@Mike-01234 That is sad to hear. Maybe you can adopt a child? I personally have health issues to that are genetic. That is why I don't want to have children to. Next to the fact that as young people we are barely keeping our head above water. It's not good to get a child of I can't give it what it needs
Fellow Childfree by choice person here. Well said, marriage and Motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Stay strong and stay happy !
My partner and i dont have kids and we totally agree on everything you said. We feel like we are having an amazing time and life goes by soo fast, we just dont want to be bogged down with kids. Cheers to a well-made decision. 😜 🍻
Summed up perfectly, I never envisaged kids, I'm 46 now (man) I like a simple life, camper, motorbike, surf when I want, work minimally
Your life is wonderful. Have or not have children is such a personal thing!
I had the same life it waa boring and lonely
@@Dexs59 not the life for you then
Your still young wait till you get older health starts going your perspective will change I was like you once.
@@Mike-01234 indeed things change, who knows what the future will bring, we're all different after all. Thanks for the young comment though 🙂
I'm 46 been with my wife for 18 years both kinda late bloomers with no children and the straight up hostility we get from so called friends and family is so beyond ridiculous it's actually sad. This coming from people who are out right miserable with their situations.
They are jealous.
@@Iuckylukey seems like it
Like the saying goes, "Misery loves company..."
They say these things to you to justify them having kids and obviously still not being content
Some people just cannot see outside the box. I’m glad you have the courage to make choices that are right for you, despite the comments from the peanut gallery. 🙌🏻💫
Thanks for sharing, Jean! I'm very happy to have found your channel. My wife and I also decided not to have kids, and we've been married since we were 23. Each year, we had "the vote" if this was the year. As time went by, we looked at our life together, and decided it wasn't right for us to interrupt what we had, and we continued to grow and be fulfilled with our relationship. We've had some amazing opportunities to travel and gain experiences that wouldn't have been possible if we made other choices. We celebrated 20 years married this week! No regrets! Live YOUR life!
I do not have children. I am 48- 49 ( in August). I do not regret.. in contrary… ! Good luck
I am 46 and definitely also do not regret not having children.
You chose Life! Great choice girl! 👏
Not sustainable way of life for humanity. Liberal and secularism indeed bring humanity into doom
I'm the same, childfree for now. Selfish are those who have kids and abuse them.
yeah i'm with you. Nothing sadder than having kids only to neglect them and resent them for wanting your attention.
@@JeanVoronkova that’s right. most can’t even take care of themselves (financially and also mentally/physically) yet they want to bring an innocent baby into this world thinking they can ‘take care’ of them?
Doesn't matter life is a torture alone, I just don't advice life so I'm out of this vicious circle
Having kids changed me as a person. I need less to be happy. My husband + i wrkd hard to start businesses. We will retire soon in our mid 40s + we can travel + enjoy quality time as a family. You know that unconditional love u feel for your pets? It’s times 1000 with humans. I so look forward to seeing them become adults + will appreciate the new freedom that comes too. I love the different chapters that come with being a parent. Being a parent develops patience, appreciation + less focus on oneself which leads to more happiness . You have so much practice at not letting ppl or things trigger u. You learn to let go of needing to control everything + go with the flow. These gifts will help me to never take life for granted + always find joy.
Same here: no kids, a nice investment and retirement portfolio, time, hobbies, healthy relationship! I've got a great life that works for me and I'm happy :)
what else can you do? You need to accept it, and you might as well try to convince yourself you did the right thing.
@@ccjohnson6251 u mad?
@@ccjohnson6251 U mad?
@@phooongtion Short term thinking is a sign of low IQ
@@ccjohnson6251Wow. Not everyone is meant to be a parent.
this was a beautiful, reasonable, compassionate perspective of a childfree woman, thank you.
“You are called crazy or worse, for dancing because they don’t hear your music.”
Such a refreshing take!
Im now 31 and for as long as I can remember I have never wanted kids but whenever I say this I am always welcomed with unsolicited opinions/"advice" that 'you'll change your mind one day'. Well my mind hasn't changed yet and I really don't see it changing either. I respect peoples decision to have kids if that is what they want and I wish people would give the same respect back with my decision to not have them.
Everyone should live a life they want without judgement.
Everything comes down to the same thing, so long as you're happy and not harming anyone then that what's right for you and your life.
Amen!!
So true. It’s that simple.
My 8 year old son is such an important part of my life. The joy I feel when I spend time with him is so special. That said, I don't judge others who don't feel the same way about having kids. We are all different and should have respect for those differences. One path is not better than the other. Thoughtful video Jean...
Hubby and I had our daughter on our 13th year wedding anniversary and couldn't ask for more. We are older parents I 'm 55 and hub just turned 64 2 days ago. She's 13 yo and is the pride and joy of our lives. Being a parent is either you do it or don't do it job. There is no half fast. I have tremendous respect for your decisions. No judging from my part. Good luck on your new businesses.
Your story was very moving. I made the choice to become a parent as a 53 year old in need of a succession plan. I was so terrified of the prospect of raising a baby to an adult that I cried uncontrollably when my partner told me she was pregnant. I am not fond of babies in general but I got used to sleep dep and diaper changes. Now my 17 year old son is my best friend and my life has been unimaginably enriched with him around to teach and learn from. In a year he will be off to university to study engineering and I will be making my way to Bali to retire. I got lucky.. There is no guarantee as to the outcome. You are wise to consider this life-altering choice carefully.
@Dot21234I was 53 when my son was born and my partner was 40 at the time of giving birth. I will be 70 years old in July.
@Dot21234My partner breastfed at night and I did the diaper changes so she could rest. It is important to be honest with yourself as to your energy levels. A 63 year old who is fit and vibrant could pull it off. If not, you might find yourself doing a larger part of the work. Kids start sleeping through the night after 6 months so the stage of parental exhaustion doesn’t go on indefinitely. Sometimes families will help in the early stages.
@Dot21234You’re going to have a child with someone who will almost certainly die before the kid graduates college. Why do you have a partner who is so old if your goal is to have a family? Seems like the child is the one who will suffer, spending most of their life without a father.
Kids grow up fast before you know it they are having their own kids.
I love this. I'm a mother and I love being a mother but I totally see the appeal of a childless/childfree life, so much freedom and fun. You do you girl
I’m 39 and spend time supporting my friends going through divorce with kids. It’s hell on earth for them. Kids are great when it all goes well.
i do think the saddest is when they get saddled with adult issues that they had nothing to do with...
Me and my older sister choose to child free too. For her it's because she doesn't like children to begin with, and for me because i enjoy living single. More freedom and i can take care my true self properly. Being people pleaser in the past making me forget to love myself. This world is already jam packed too, making younger generation hard to live. Bless for you all.
This is true for me too. At 37 it’s now time to start looking after myself well and enjoying my life, and I’m actually grateful I didn’t go down the kid-road or it’d all be about that right now, and I’d still be neglecting myself. Best wishes to you 🙂
You do you, and I'm glad you're enjoying living for your self. But please don't spread this nonsense about there being too many people. Every country in the world bar a literal handful has a negative birth rate, and promoting a culture of childlessness only accelerates this trend. The path to a lonely, depopulated world is already laid out, and it will be a struggle to change course.
Glad i had good father that has a trad principle and legacy
Such wowserism! There are more births than deaths globally so what’s the problem? If the birth rate is above zero, it’s not negative. There are and will always be humans being born. A smaller population is a good thing. Nothing good can come from more and more and more people.
"I will always be grateful to my parents. They truly loved and supported me. I try to give back to my elderly mother. Looking back, although I had a great life, I can see the struggles my parents went through. As a child, I already felt like, 'I don't want that type of life.' In my twenties, I decided never to have children. Now that I am in my fifties, I realize that only now do I have the maturity to have children. So, I made the right decision."
You are a lucky man!! I think you will be a great father if you choose to be one!!
@@dr.gaosclassroom Yes but he shouldn't be with a much younger woman now just to have kids. He ought to choose a woman in her 40s at the very least to take the chance or adopt or get an ethical surrogate.
Great video and message. Main takeaway is that there are many ways for us humans to live a meaningful, fulfilling mortal and brief life in this eternal reality, and it needs inner reflection to find our own paths. Also, not caring about conventional thinkers is important as they are living an outdated reality and will project their own misery/toxicity onto you. There's only one way to live a miserable life - and that's not living the authentic life meant for you.
Great video. I have a two year old and while I love being a parent and have absolutely no regrets, I can see where having kids is not for everyone- the sleepless nights, the time commitment, the seemingly constant tantrums. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, so people should always respect other's decisions. We all take different paths in life and the route to happiness is different for everyone.
I absolutely respect people with no children, indeed I have some close childless friends, they live more exciting lives for sure….. I have 4 kids myself, and I am damn busy every day. My childless friends are happy, and I am happy too, in our own ways. I love your videos Jean, gives a completely different perspective of life
You are living an authentic life, same goes for everyone who is living their best life. Much love from North Borneo
I'm so warmed by this video and the loving way you explain such a deeply personal decision. I have had the exact same thoughts as you. It's nice to find like-minded others communicating this choice in a way that isn't defensive but clear, confident, and so evidently filled with joy for life.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. Nobody as a right to judge you. It's your life. You only get to live once so life your life not the life others think you should live. ❤❤
I truly enjoyed your video! I am in my mid-60s and have three children and no grandchildren. I do not want grandchildren because of all the worries of society with crime in this day and age. I have three beautiful Grand pups which I love. If I were Young again and childbearing age now I would not have children! Don't get me wrong. I love and adore my children and planned two out of three of them and love all three of them. With all my heart! I would not change a thing. I fully agree on understand where you are coming from with your thoughts. Having children does not make you more of a family. Love and memories that you treasure is what makes a true family. I wish you all the best and enjoy your videos that I have watched. I totally agree with you.
I’m turning 43 only child never been married. I think finding the right partner with similar values is Crucial. To grow old and have friendship with. Having a child it is a blessing and not everyone can have one.
not everyone wants kids
Nobody's Business what you do with your life. And you are contributing and having a valid Life by sharing your experiences with this video and channel. Keep up the great work
Thanks for sharing. I am 51 no kids. Love the freedom.
us too 🌻 life is good :)
I've watched your videos for years and have gotten great value, but this resonated above all the others. To top off no kids I'm also single and very content. Ironically my career as a family photographer gives me great purpose. Thank you Jean for posting a video I'm certain many will grateful for. I know I am.
thanks for leaving us this kind note. It is a very fortunate thing to be as we are, content & living each day with purpose 🌻😍 so happy you're in this place
I have 5 kids yet I agree with what you said. All of it. Lol. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Love your videos. Hugs to you 🤗
I deeply respect you as you respect the choices of others opposite to your own. I wish you and your growing family all the best. Very refreshing to read these
Thank you for sharing this heartfelt video!! I have only one child and am really grateful for having her. However, it is such an individual choice, everyone is different. I saw too many parents who have children for the wrong reasons and regret their decisions. My mother is one of them. She resented that she had children too early (when she was only 17) and never had a chance to live the life she wanted. You can imagine how miserable me and my siblings childhood was. So is my brother. He has a child solely to please my parents and he is not a good father as one can imagine. My decision to have children is purely based on my love for children. I had my first impulse of wanting children in my mid twenties. I always knew that I want children. I think I did a reasonable job raising my child and she is a happy young lady now. So grateful for your video!! Thank you again!
As always, thank you Jean. I see you as a life coach. Your channel continues to inspire me to LIVE and not worry about the small stuff.
This is the most beautiful Childfree video I have ever seen. Thank you. 💕
I would never have a child for many reasons. I‘m 33 and married and I‘m very happy without a child. I‘ve so many other plans for me, so many dreams. I live for me and my dreams and that‘s okay.
Personal choice. As long as you are comfortable n happy with it 🙏🌺
I feel the same. Always think about it but don't see a big enough reason have have myself right now despite the pressure from others. Your content really resonate with me!
Thanks!
Absolutely! You get to live your life, not someone else's. We are all different and enjoy different things, and that's the beauty of our world. We each have a unique purpose in life, and discovering that is essential. Keep enjoying your authentic life because that's how you illuminate the world.🙌 ❤
thanks for this sweet note Tatiana 🙏🌻
Jean, love your honesty. It is my belief that children should always be wanted by both parents as they're a life long commitment. Even when they are adults, as parents, you still worry. I wish our world would allow people to be childless and not place judgement on them. It's not for everyone. I love how you explained this topic and wish you and your husband all the best!
Hi Christine thanks for the kind note. I'm 100% with you. I hate that some children are here in this world and not gettin the attention they would like to have from their parents. We should be allowed to be different when necessary without facing judgment.
It’s everyone’s right to do what’s right for them as a couple. The sad thing is if you want and cannot have. My husband and I tried for years with no success. Long story short we adopted and that was the right choice for us. I believe you can be equally fulfilled with or without children depending on the lifestyle you choose and that both partners agree. I see Jean and her husband living this amazing life and obviously it is the right thing for them. I’m sure many people would be jealous of this beautiful life and I think I would have been very happy living this life up to a certain point. I am so grateful that my husband and I pursued parenthood to the point of adoption as I know in our hearts we would have regretted it had we not.
Great video! We resonated with you both fully.
I never had the impulse to have kids, nor did my husband.
When you first meet people, one of their first questions is usually, do you have kids? As if something was missing in your life.
As you explained, our lives are whole and exciting, and we feel truly fulfilled.
We are so glad that we ignored the pressure of society to live a life that is a copy of the masses.
We often agree that deciding not to have kids was one of our best decisions!
we have 2 furkids right now.... and actually we're in a very happy place, just right for us... and from that perspective I think I'm at peace & happy with our situation of not having human kids... but i guess it will always be a very individual decision for each person :)
When you decide to not have children, you can't imagine what it's like to have them. When you have children, you can't imagine life without them.
I don't have kid, either, and don't want to have one because I know I am selfish, I want free time, do what I want with my own time ... like if I want to sleep/watch TV, I just go sleep/watch TV any time and in peace ☺️
Hubby is with me. He once told me, better to have niece/nephew, they come and they go home 😂
I knew from 17yrs old I would never have children it’s something I didn’t want to do. Purely selfish reasons, certainly not because I thought the world was an awful place. I have always admired parents. I’m 64 and no regrets. I am midwife. 😊
Wife and I have 2 kids who are adults now. Yes there's challenges raising them (we were not well off), and them having to tolerate our parenting. But to love and be loved by our kids (and now a grandkid too), will always be priceless to us and we won't change that even if we can go back in time. And my younger son is looking forward to have at least 2 kids when married.
I'm in Singapore and our Govt fully support (financially too), having children, as many as we want or can.
At the end of Life, it’s all about how you’ve lived YOUR LIFE. Living it to the fullest in your own terms. It’s not selfish at allll. You owe it to you and only you. 90% of the people on this planet cannot even fulfill half of their life’s dreams. Not their fault, that’s just life. It’s challenging. So feel blessed n be proud that you are that tiny percent of happiness and bliss on earth. You do you and God Bless. Embrace it, No regrets ❤
Loved this.. thank you 🙏🏾
@@shamekabenjamin8010 I lived my life to the fulliest. Traveled more than 25 different countries multiple times. Did everything on my bucket list before getting married and starting a family at 40. That way I have no regrets and don’t feel like I missed out on life. Now With that being said, now that I have two kids, a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Being a parent is the toughest, most exhausting, stressful, NO SLEEP AT ALL for past 5 years. My health took a huge huge dive, aged 10 years in past 5 years. I went from my best version in life to now my worst version in life. Ever. I take really good care of my kids but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting kids. It’s truly truly sacrificing and it’s not for everyone. I speak for millions of parents out there and trust me I talk to everybody. I’m very outgoing and social. One main thing I get from other parents is that I feel constantly exhausted and completely drained. So please be nice in life and don’t judge others 🙏 be understanding and have empathy
This is just SUCH a good video. Calm, measured, thoughtful, intelligent. Thank you. for making it. It is my first time seeing your channel.
I think that people that decide not to have children, are very honest with themselves and absolutely not egoistic people. ❤thank you ❤🙏
Fantastic video. You really have to be honest with yourself whether children are for you or not. I'm 46 and all my life so far I was never once interested in children. If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. With lots of hobbies, as well as being a world traveler, I feel very fulfilled as a person with no children
The ONLY people I know happy with their kids are people who have female family members to help them, like a mother, sister, aunt etc.
Beautiful video Sis 💯💯 Totally agree with all the messages.. and really love the peaceful theme and feeling your videos always bring with it.
Wish ❤️❤️ You and Hubby V ❤️❤️ have a very meaningful and happy life together 🙏🙏💫💫❤️❤️✨✨🙏🙏
People should stop looking into other's lifes and assuming things! They should look into their own lifes and get THEIR OWN issues done! Consider you spoked for me too!❤
Brave and introspective sharing!!! And often a topic I deep think about. It's the same thing concept as being married or being single - no one is actually better than the other. We choose what we suits us and bring us the best in us. To me the worst is really just doing something because everyone is doing it. ❤❤❤
Amen, Amen. Life is always about a choice, I am 62 this year and always taken care of my parents, I never had children or been married, I believe the happiness I hear in your voice, your married life gave you many blessings without children, Amen, Amen.
Agree with everything, no urge to have kids here (44 now). You are a wonderful couple! Hello from Moscow ))
SUCH an amazing video, and so eloquent and well put! I recently interviewed Cathrine Forner who said that biologically, only around 25% of people in a community had kids, and the rest of the society were makers, and hunters, and gatherers and helped raise the children or helped the community in one way or another. I love this kind of thinking!
Wow! At last, an overdue question and answer! 👌
Great video! Thanks for sharing. Being purposeful/intentional about all of my choices has lead me to be child free. In a sense I feel I live more deeply from the core of my soul, I’m free to continue unraveling “me”. This factor has enriched my life more than words could describe. ❤❤
So lovely that you feel the way you do.
🌻😊
Before we started our hawker stall in 2018, we made a decision to not have kids. The hawker business took all our time, attention and energy literally 24/7.
Now that we are early retired, we are living our best lives sans kids. Thanks for making this video. We totally resonate with all your reasons ❤
Thank you thank you for talking about this so openly. Just found your channel. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your view, I really feel connected to everything you said.
Wonderful video, thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤
glad it resonated 🙏🌻
A big THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts so honestly and reflected. I am 59 and have raised my son (32) as a single working mum. I got married and had him because everyone else around me did so. But my marriage failed within one year and raising him was hard and challenging, but also brought out the best in me. I love him very much and wouldn't want to miss him. However, he does not want kids, his girlfriend neither - it was difficult for me to accept and part of me still hopes they will decide to have kids because I would love to have grand kids. But I know, this is one of the not-so-good reasons you mention. It's them who should WANT and FEEL it to be able to cope with the challenges kids bring along. Yes, they might regret it later on, but I also regret a couple of decisions in my life that are irreversible, and yet I am a happy person, so what's the point.
Jean, thank you for your honesty. Not everyone is supposed to have kids and I think if most people were honest about their reasons for having kids, those reasons are mostly selfish. That responsibility is not the path for everyone. 🙏🏼 Being child free is such a blessing 🙏🏼
I agree what she says at the end of the video. There's no right or wrong. Its your choice.
I've met multiple people who have kids and love it, people with kids who secretly regret it, people who are child free who love it, and people who are child free that regret it. I think the difference between all of these people are simply a mixture of good and bad choices and how much they REALLY know themselves. Just hope that no matter if you say to people whether or not you want children....you're right.
We have same life perspective as yours. I support you. From Taiwan.
Jean, what a beautiful content you make… it’s about contentment, fulfillment and satisfaction in life that you eloquently elaborate.
I agree that each individual has a different purpose in life that makes them content.
And boy how lovely to see those who are content outside the societal boundaries.
Best wishes to you both!
thanks for this very kind note Handini :)
I’m 39 and my husband is 51, we had our son 2 years ago. I never grew up vision boarding kids and instead was such a career woman (and still am, just with tremendous balance) but boy, having that little guy has been my biggest life reward.
Isnt that way too old to have a kid?
@@wheatstonebridgeyou are being rude
@@wheatstonebridgeit’s only too old to have kids when in menopause. Nature makes the rules. Many unexpected pregnancies happen later in life because that’s when women dump the most eggs.
@@wheatstonebridge 35 and 48...I guess we were lucky :).
@@wheatstonebridge o wow smh 🤦🏾♀️
To me your life is soooo beautiful and envious. I’ve always wanted a boy and girl which I got, my life would be incomplete without them
Regardless how hard it has been to raise them and I hv 5 grandchildren that are the loves of my life. Honestly I wish my life looked more like yours just with my grown kids and grand kids nearby. Thanks for sharing your beauty life with us 🥰
The fact this is controversial says everything and deserves collective reflection, so thank you for (hopefully) getting us to do just that.
Beautiful and intelligent couple❤
Thank you for touching on all these key points with such kindness.
Totally agree! Thank you for saying this so eloquently.
love it 🥰🥰 thanks so much for sharing your experience and thoughts
I think having kids is about having them with the right person.❤
So refreshing, thank you for sharing.
Like your point - people should have kids if they really want them! Life is great anyway. Thanks for sharing your family story, Jean ❤❤
I fully admire you for living your truth and choosing the right path for you and your husband!! You said it all beautifully
You’re so beautiful and intelligent, you guys are lucky to have each other. God bless you both and your marriage. ❤❤❤
Totally agree with everything you said. It is a personal choice. My husband and I are childfree and have been together for 27 years. We enjoy our freedom.
Well said! We have the same mindset about this topic and we are very happy with our child free marriage/lifestyle. We love that our friends and family who have kids are enjoying their life as well! All about focusing on what true happiness looks like for each individual.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts and points on this topic. Have a wonderful day!
More power to you ❤ God bless you
Thank you so much!!!!!! It is not the easy topic for us! But you are so right! Thank you!!!
But what if there is someone out there who can’t have children, not by choice, and they feel deeply affected by that, especially with societal pressures and blaming, but then they see you and how fulfilled you are in your life without kids and it helps them to find meaning in their own life despite their circumstances. Then not having children can’t be selfish, God uses everything for good…. And your openness about this topic is so good 😊 it will help those struggling to know life has many options even if the door of having children is closed for you!
It s really about being a « family »…..in the short and the long run. For me, after three kids i educated on my own while working full and overtime……loved with all my heart and gave every second of my life 24/7……and seldom see anymore……🤷♀️. I still cherish those amazing ordinary extraordinary moments of everyday shared with them. I wouldn t be the same today. Would i do it again?………🤷♀️. I totally understand your position. In my wisdom hears now, i wish we, humans, could start now and live for another 60 years 😊. We d be such better parents and life teachers. Thankyou for sharing dear ❤️
I really like your very measured perspective even though you obviously loved having your 3 kids so much. Thank you so much for sharing your story. And very valid point. We'll probably mostly be much better parents if we can live life fully first and then be contented, (hopefully) more learned role models for the kids.
One of my favorite videos. Thanks for your insight and sharing your experience.
glad it helps :)
People do not need to have kids.
It is not legally mandated after all!
Even if it is ‘legally mandated’, why would you just listen to them? Stand up and fight.
@@IamaNewCreature Fight? With whom, pray tell?
My comment was meant to reassure Jean that choosing not to have kids, aka ankle biters, is a wise choice and nothing to feel guilty about. That's all.
@@SuiGenerisAbbie I’m an agreement with you, just saying even if it is ‘legally mandated’ that shouldn’t be a reason to have kids, if you don’t want to.