God, I need you. This is beyond my understanding 1. Ask for clarity where is this bond 2. Ask to uproot everything in you that’s not righteous , repent for your part 3. Ask to break this bondage 4. Show me my ways/ Quarantine-No contact / No stalking/ Personal initiatives 5. Spiritual balance and direction, surrender to the Divine Will 6. Return to YOURSELF 7. Accept accountability Get healed, get better, get stronger
I understand! I would not call him a bum, but instead blame myself for the choice that I made. Now, I have to scrape up my broken pieces and get my life straight with GOD
The way you broke it down made me understand every single part of the soul tie I was in. 13 years of pain and trauma has ended in the name of Jesus. Thank you for this message.
This was great. Right in the middle of this message I called the person I’ve been tied to and told him I have to cut ties with him and end it now. I’ve blocked him. I feel the spirit of God surrounding me now. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
Yep! Fell for that with this last dude I just left. Thought he’d be everything my ex husband wasn’t, righteous, successful, brilliant,... he was for a while but then began to fall off. Soon I learned he was fronting just like my divorcée did. I now know and understand the lengths a man will go to to get a woman in the sheets that he wants to keep and mold and thinks he can mold to his will through sex and a forked tongue. I don’t intend to allow that to ever happen again.
@@AchAchoti347 I'm going through a similar experience, its the thought and willpower to cut the ties that's so hard. Mine is deferred hope, I invested my heart and hopes. Now I know if I continue on, its going to get very painful for me.
@Indiangirl I'm watching this is '23 I am SOO happy to have this feed came across my app just recently. Indiangirl may God Forever and ever bless you with all spiritual blessings filled with insight and a yearning to know God more. I'm heading into quarantine having battle a few years huge setback so now I'm going to run for me life!!! Be encouraged. Indiangirl keep your hands in God's hands.
This is how it is... Everyone thinks their religion is right. All religions are right in their own way. God is God and nothing else is God. You never had to go to a preacher, a guru, a rabbi, or a middle man, you just need to go straight to God, and by the way, He never left you, He has been with you the whole time.
@@elainejones4861I didn’t get notifications previously and just seen the likes and comments I’m reading on the back of my comment. 🙈. May god always bless you and protect you, stay blessed ❤
I did it guys! I'm FREE! God is Good! Thank you Pastor, God bless you. Sis don't give up! Make that decision n stick to it. I chose my pain, n now I'm on the path to deliberately heal. I'm ✨single! ✨God is Good!
God will bring you out and will find your true identity in him🤗 I am a living testimony. He brought me and direct me to RC Blakes just surfing on RUclips one early early morning..
Same here. So many lies, betrayal, emotional abuse, stress and over 3 years of litigious divorce with 2 minors involved. It’s so hard to forgive and let it go, but if we don’t shift our minds into a spiritual direction we will end up poisoning ourselves.
Thanks for sharing your story. It has opened my eyes to keep pushing and never give up. You are a strong women and I know that God will send the right person to you and give you double for your trouble.
Took my breath away, Revelation: "Your heart is still tied, because hope is still planted." My current issue right now with a situation I experienced months ago.
Wow! On my way home from work this morning I said, Bishop is my spiritual dad! I’ve been listening to all of his teachings and I feel understood, heard and renewed. I appreciate him and Sister Lisa.
5 yrs in a soul tied relationship. 4 days out of it. Bound by false promises.. FALSE HOPE! of a lifestyle that was never manifested. I prayed to God 2 wks ago to remove EVERYTHING and EVERYONE that is not good for my life. God did exactly that! Now God is revealing to me why I allowed myself to accept a relationship beneath what I deserve. Thank you for this message so fitting for my current situation. ❤👍
I absolutely can relate with you. You have to know your worth and value your life, your emotions, your heart etc and Go free to welcome in what God has for you. 🌸🌷🌼🌺
That’s so encouraging. I divorced a narcissist after 15 years with 4 kids . 2 years later I remarried he seemed like a dream guy but as soon as we married he stoped . I’m exhausted because he neglects everything from paying bills to wanting to make me happy and I feel so hopeless.I’m very tired please pray for me that God helps me to leave . I can’t go on sobbing my bed with tears , and hoping he will change . Blessings
😢sitting here crying begging GOD to heal my heart and free me from my unGODLY soul ties… I thought I was free!!! But as time pass on I’m still hurting 😢I thank GOD FOR THIS WORD
I'm on this same journey and this video gave me everything I need to breakaway and cut this ungodly soul tie. The one thing that hit me the most was when R.C. Blakes mentioned we need to choose our pain. Just think do you want to go through pain wasting your life on something God never gave you OR having the pain of cutting ties with the individual for a little while and heal very soon and also getting healthier and better ? I never thought of it that way so I chose to have temporary pain in order to be where God wants to be. To remove everything from my life that's stopping me from reaching my highest potential and eventually being with the kingdom mate God has for me.❤️❤️
If it was a long relationship, it really takes time to heal. You are so joined to them in your everyday life and activities. It's a large void. You have to get through and get past the pain of that. You also need to forgive. To release them as a weak man (or woman) who does weak and hurtful things. Hold them accountable, count the cost, be very aware of how they hurt and could hurt you again, but let the Holy Spirit really set you free w/ forgiveness. Then the enemy has no legal recourse to your soul to afflict you any more. Holding grudges and going over all the hurts keeps you prisoner. When the thoughts come back to haunt me, I speak forgiveness to them. There's still some pain, the void is closing 3 and a half months out. I've given up on him changing and even if he ever did, there's no way I'd take a chance.
I know this was recorded 8 months ago, but I happen to stumble across this video and I desperately needed it. God bless you, this word was for me! I’ve been so caught up on someone who I know doesn’t even deserve me. This message was something I needed. Thank you so much pastor. God bless you ❤️
I am with you. Just saw this. Been out of my soul tie relationship about seven months. Really shocking and never been involved with a narcissist. He won't happen again. Stay prayed up😇
Wow, It's 6am I been going through with a man whom I am sick & tired of going through with him, I want God to give me directions towards taking the steps towards removing this person out of my life, and work on getting my daughter, grd.kids, relationship back together , I rather be with my family nonsense than an outsider foolishness, this person has no heart just good at pretending, I open my door up to help him, and have regretted every since, I want to get my peace & happiness back by getting this person out of my place & my life for good. Thank you pastor for this word
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️..Pray and Allow your Heart to break.. Been there! The mind is a Battlefield.. Allow your heart to break and miss him. Don’t give in to the temptation and his lies, they only change temporarily to get you back.
Mines to honey but when I tell you my year is not ending like this nor beginning a new year with the BS... that’s what I mean! It’s not worth it your sanity and energy.
@@ntrasmr87 yes !.. I got to leave this situation put it behind me cause I’m loosing myself 2021 cutting all of it out I’m choosing my pain for once in my life
Good morning. I am close to 60, out marriage/relationship. If I heard this 40 years ago, I will not be here and agreeing with every single word of this sermon. Young women...listen carefully and take heed.Everything he says is so true
Absolutely sister....where were our teaches, I am nearly 60 and things had only gotten worse, years of abuse. He said he would kill me if I left and then he tried because I was dying, physically, emotionally spiritually,I was so numb. Hope, for change was always there...
The addiction lies in our false pride to assume that we can “ fix” a Narc. Only God can do that. So the answer is to let go and let God. Surrender. And ask to be restored to sanity. To realize I’m only human.
He has me looking at men on a whole nother level. This is amazing and he's the spiritual father that God has sent to us women for such a time as the times we are living
Accountability is a game changer! The moment you begin to accept the level of damage you personally, single handedly allowed to interrupt your journey-the moment you embrace past trauma as a lesson& end the cycle of self sabotage-the moment you stop entertaining a false figment of weak imaginations that make you feel it’s a way to fix someone else’s sick mind-the moment you disengage the weapon of lust-the moment you remove the shameful secrets and begin to give your testimony--YOUR LIFE WILL BE BETTER! YOUR LIFE WILL BE RENEWED! OPPOSITION WILL CEASE AND OPPORTUNITIES WILL BE RELEASED INTO YOUR SITUATION! GOD IS WAITING ON YOU TO COMMIT TO THE WORK. Faith without works is dead! Holding on to a dead situation is not your portion. 💜 💜 💜
Going through this at the moment. He ate yesterday evening and slept and snored as I spoke my heart out. He negated his morning duties and routine to punish me. Dressed up and left for work without mending things or comforting me. He treated me like I was non existent. I am currently jobless but am not going to use this an excuse to keep stuck. If people want to walk away from you let them go. I will not speak him into staying, respecting me, valueing me, loving me or validating me anymore. I will remember how he makes me feel over how I feel for him. Pray for me guys. I accept the pain that comes with change. May the Holy Spirit destroy all wrong attachments in my life and yours. Stay blessed 🙏
As a 29 year old single woman, I'm just in awe of some of the stories in this comment section. Thank you ladies for being transparent and sharing your experiences. It has reinforced my desire to wait patiently on the man God has for me.
Oh Sweetheart You have no idea! Imagine going thriufh many soul ties. Us promiscuous in our pasts were/are heavily demonized needing so much spiritual work. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!
You must get out of your flesh to overcome the pain. You need to come to the realization that you deserve better than this situation. When you began to believe you truly deserve better you will begin to feel better. Don't focus on time lost, you can't get it back. You are only adding to the time lost by continuing to focus on it.
Watching this in 2022 I needed to hear this. It's a hard journey and letting go Is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I keep going back and reinfecting myself. I pray that after hearing this the holy spirit will guide give me the strength to let go of what God has no longer wants in my life. I pray you all find peace and happiness in your journeys too 🥰🥰
Me too, one week in time, tonight i seperated from my bf....i loved him dearly, but a part of me pushed me to end it for many factors. I wish him the best...
I only got to the 10th minute when I started to feel so much wash over me, every single word was spoken personally to me. On Saturday I was praying for this message, for the steps I have to take. I am burning things tied to him, deleting, repenting, packing my things, praying, praying and praying. My 10 year, toxic soul tie, WILL end in these next few weeks.
@cherryelisa I've got to do the same. I have all his clothes and shoes in my house and it's so much stuff . Either he takes them or I give them away. When I left the house we lived in together "I carried him" with me to my new place, my own space. Why did I do that!
Ridding yourself of those things don’t help, because they can be replaced. You need to get to a place in your life where you are real with yourself. Make up your mind to leave him alone, and stick with it no matter what. Until you make up your mind, you will keep doing it,
Great message Bishop. So many immature men are missing the mark when it comes to treating women as the fragile vessels and Queens that they are. It's imperative ladies to exercise your worth so that these clowns in crowns won't attempt to approach you.
That's it. I've been told by men 'I'm busy'. Making me feel like I'm asking to much. Being intimate and chase you in the beginning is no problem for them. After that the withdrawal and distant attitudes begin Eten you express feelings like explaining hurt, they don't give you affirmation. No, they guilt trip that you are not being reasonable and have to accept what you are getting from them They will act like the victim to busy to send you one little message. No thoughtfulness. Silence Very painful. I'm alone for many years now though relatively young and I decided to to never accept emotional manipulative or immature men. I registered on a dating site bc I was fed up with letting faith rule bc I realised I have to create my own life taking charge. Well.... A man approached me. Seemed like a gentle man and in a way he acted like it but after our first meeting silence began. Heartache started. I fought to not let him know but yesterday I told him how I felt and asking for clarity. Reaction: busy with work and children (from past relationship) talk to you soon. That's it. I sent a thumbs up and I will move on. I feel broken because at first you feel happy... Like finally you meet someone you feel good energy with Confusing part, I felt positive energy and u smiled everytime we video called. My smile felt devine. Now my heart is aching physically for two days. I let go. My heart feels broken. I've been put aside like a radio you switch on and off by some men before so it's hard to discern where my own wounds begin and poor treatment of this man starts. I promised myself that I would never bow down for manipulation or less than I deserve.. It was not about sex with this new man, I'm sure of this but I told him he acts like a little boy wanting to get his way and he admitted he can be like that. Anyway I'm going to restore myself rebuild myself again. This man says things like God bless etc. But a manipulator once called himself a healer but mentally pushed me into doing things crossing my boundaries, calling it prayer. I don't know why but I feel like blowing on my letters while typing. Maybe it's the cleaning wind of God blowing over my life. I'm very sensitive to energies and hidden emotions from my environment so I need to go back to my core where it's me leading. Not behaviors from others/a man. But my heart says:. I love him. What if its our human love we automatically give out to people, including a man who will take our devine nature to love into a prison cell with toxicity and getting nothing in return, while our love in itself was from God in us but misformed by a lower level. Just typing what comes up. This man said to me: You have to look for someone with similar goals like building a life together or having children. He was at least honest saying he is not a homely man but at the same time he held me, held my hand. The hardest part to accept for myself is realising that I felt insecure with this man while I am normally, essentially a strong confident person. It's very true that many men push your physical boundary subtle or openly, rude. Discussions I had to explain to men I'm not having unsafe sex and I only make love not sex. The moment they oppose your truth, boundaries, concerns and values it's bad news. In know it all rationally and I always speak up but they can be so good at dominating a conversation to shut you up. Making you responsible for their needs but when you have an emotional human need they we will not feel responsible for yours........ They will tell you be happy don't worry. The superficial positivity from a narcissist. Their is no deeper connection with these characters. A new day to heal my wounds. I have to keep thinking like a soldier but I also feel a little girl in me who is craving to be hugged and consoled by male arms. This is the deepest root of my pain. Bless your all. I hope God is real I walked with Him but bc of all research about narcissism I also started to doubt if Christian faith was also a fairytale made up by narcissists to control me. But I always felt good about God knowing He is not religion. He is my creator my Friend My Man, My best respectful company. God I miss you hold me in Your arms please.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 First you have to cut all contact with this guy, clearly he was playing your heart and mind to get to your body. After he received what he wanted he fed you excuses, there's no honesty in him in regards to you. Second, the heart can be deceptive, your love was or is one-sided, he doesn't feel the same, it was never in him to love you. Listen to God from here on out, not your thoughts or heart. Third, please heal before involving yourself with someone else. Let this pain become purpose and a message to other women who may be experiencing a similar situation. Our messes are messages and the purpose is greater than us. Keep trusting God and protect your temple/body, your husband alone deserves access when that time comes. I'm praying for your Peace of mind of peace.
Some soul contracts can ONLY be broken by FASTING and PRAYER. Don't be afraid to do the work. Your better life is waiting for you. 33:07 some things can't be counseled out! You gotta invite the HOLY SPIRIT! That's on God💕🙌🏾
Im so ready for fasting and praying.against it all; soul ties. Heart ache, Heart break, Any. And every memory, any longing for him at all. Let the healing begin
23:56 sometimes it’s just you’re tired by your own insecurities and you’ve subconsciously found your identity and your sense of value in your relationship with this individual 57:40 “all of us have seasons and areas in our life where we need someone who are stronger than we are”
Adding to my first reply- What you said is so profound. It cannot be said any better when the Holy Spirit is at the forefront of our spirit and in our mind. Heart too. Which is why I pray every morning for the Holy Spirit to speak for me and not me for me throughout my day. God. bless you, Tina
Amen. I broke up with my ex boyfriend three months ago. He was a cheater and drug addict. He played me for 4 years. He did hit me back in 2018. I didn't hold any hatred against him. Now he is trying to play victim that he didn't have STDs. Never take back your ex because you might get yourself more trouble 🙏🕊️
Divine order 1. Spirit…sensitive to the Holy Spirit…no contradictions w/in my members 2. Soul… falls in alignment behind your spirit 3. Body - My body follows 4. Need to Quarantine 5. Return to your vision 6. Always loose yourself when run behind someone else 7. Center your soul 8. Accept accountability 9. Hard to see the picture when your in the frame… find someone you can be accountable too… 10. Leave that clown in a crown at the zoo in the cage where he belongs with the lock on the cage the throw away the key and run and don’t look back… 11. GOD WE THANK YOU WE CAN DO THIS WITH YOUR INTERVENTION IN JESUS NAME AMEN!!! Folks this may not be in the order pastor spoke but I did my best…
For me , it was a lack of a healthy relationship with my father, so I look for it in other men. I tend to gravitate to what is familiar. Unfortunately, this has been very toxic for me.
I have a absent mother. Abandonment issues was deep. I haven’t even watch the video. I saw it. And I have been outside for a very long time we’re truly don’t care. About this person.It’s so liberating once you are free
@@Geminicricketi it sure is. It’s comforting to know that if you don’t have a biological parent. Sometimes god will replace one with a spiritual mom or dad.
I am beginning to realize that I also followed that pattern. Emotionally unavailable father who dropped his family to the least important aspect of his life. Now am married to a man who is mirroring this behavior.
Thank God he did for me what I couldn't do for myself. He kicked a bum out of my life. He gave me back my vision! I appreciate you allowing Holy Spirit to use you Bishop Blakes, more than words !
Thank you for saying this. I have been down on myself for not having the strength to kick him out because it just hurts and I was afraid he would retaliate. But God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind! I have to trust Him to work it out. But I can’t go back this time. ❤️
Quarantine is a blessing rather than punishment. Using my time wisely. This message was right on time. Thank you. Message received and greatly appreciated 🙏 😊 !
It's getting to a point where I have to listen to this daily. Sometimes all the begging, crying and stalking makes me feel like I'm the clown! He's living his best life and I'm just poisoning myself for a bottom feeder can continue to lie to my face. I need the express lane to Jesus!
Poisoning myself for a bottom feeder to continue to lie to my Face. You said this so eloquent. You are so so Right. I stopped doing this and am now seeking The Lord diligently.
Boy, did I need this. Took notes and will be speaking them regularly. You really have the gift of testimony. I gave 27 years 4 kids to be discarded now that he has a great career and $. We're going through divorce now. I'm quarantined he's with someone new. I would appreciate prayers.
Father in Christ name you Are great and the all seeing only God , who hears the prayers of the Children who call on your name Your promises are a sure thing, you are not a man That you should lie, so thank you Father in Jesus name for helping this woman your child get knowledge and understanding , and your Help in this hurtful situation with her husband. Come Father With your Devine presence to tell her to pray and stand still and watch the work of your hand in all this. Comfort her children.
God defintely answers prayers, I've been praying about this for months and yesterday I was taking to God about Him helping me letting this person go. I have been struggling but I've been getting better with it. I just need to fully let him go. I was on the fence of I care about him and to recognize that he was unhealthy to me although we all make mistakes. I've been stuck in between letting him go or praying for him to change. I just played this video and I pray I recieve the answers and ACT on them as well. Perfect timing!!
So very true. A ministry to women from an authentic place with no hidden agendas than to see us whole. God's blessings Bishop to you, Your wife and entire family. 🙏
I’m thank you for your messages. I’m a fatherless daughter and my mom passed away when I was five. So having strong male influence wasn’t apart of my cards I guess. A lot of my life lessons have been learned by trial and error. So you officially are my uncle now haha. Because this level of accountability is what I have always searched for. 😊 Thank you
“Repent for having made a god out of a person” LORDDDDD 😩😫 i needed to hear that! All of those reasons have a hold on me in some way, different time lines though. I am choosing to attack with love, forgiveness, and spirituality. Most importantly self love and putting myself first!! God, my angels, and my ancestors thank you for your love and guidance to this video! Amen
It was refreshing to hear the word bum again. I grew up in a time when elders would call a bum a bum. They made it clear and plain why someone wasn't for you Now it seems everyone want to water-down and sugar coat a person, a situation.
I been thru this I finally packed everything I owned and left my Husband it hurts so bad I wanted the love he would never give me .It was a game to him
GOD hates divorce. Please read the Bible. Your husband is not a soul ties. He is part of the Convenant you two made before GOD. You can separate but GOD hates divorce. This man is speaking totally against the scriptures. Soul ties is not in the Bible. Second, men shouldn't counsel women, that's his wife's job. Third all this stuff he is talking about is silly women simply trapping themselves in ungodly relationships. When Jesus sets you free, you are free from everything. If you are in a relationship with a man that is not your husband, it is not a soultie that has you in bondage, it's sin.
10 months later and I can’t let go of my 22 yrs of marriage after he left. Thank you for this message. His life went ON and I still can’t sleep and have an EXTREME high level of anxiety. Haunted by visions in my mind playing tricks on me. Left and didn’t look back…. HOWWWW can ppl just do that?????? After so many yrs. Never saw it coming😪 Must listen to this a few times to GET IT. This is ON POINT!!!!
I’m so sorry😪 I know your pain. I don’t understand it either. You’re not alone. My heart goes out to you. The Lord will give you the strength you need to get through it and it will bring you closer to Him which is the best place to be. God bless you 🙏🏼❤️
Powerful!! I’ve been in 4 bad Narcissistic abusive relationships. All of them happen when my defenses are down. When my faith is low, they sweep in so fast. My abandonment issues coupled with enemy attacks leave me paralyzed. I’m stopping this cycle now. This video helped. Thanks.
This is so me history….. I also have abandonment issues and guys they use it to control me. Especially they clam themselves love god, Cause they know I love god. The best defense for women, just don’t do sex, don’t do sex protect you so much from toxic relationships. I made mistakes even I know god’s will. Sisters just don’t do sex and all these problems stay away from your life and u will get the peace you should have in ur life
This is really helping me. Imma listen over and over again. Haven't touched him in almost 3 months and still soul tied to him, and he don't deserve it..🎉🎉
I Absolutely needed to hear this Pastor, thank you! I have been tied to a narcissist for 15 months based on "hope deferred". I pray that the Holy Spirit will deliver me from this bondage 🙏🙌
I am a non Christian but i am a muslim and i really needed this. You are like my own father i dont have a father in my life. But today you save a 25 years old. I write down the prayer (DUA) everything you say.
I was in a verbal abusive relationship with a guy. I was told about this guy by his mother and sister. I thought things would better. It never got better. I recently broke off the relationship six months. I feel so good .
This was for me as well. I never had a father to tell me these things and I just thank God for having mercy on me so that I may hear the truth. I’m very stubborn and these walls I’ve built to block out the truth and him calling me. I try to hide behind my walls but I can’t hide from HIM. I cry like a baby because God calls me even when I’m running away. He knows me and wants me? I always think of how ashamed for all the things I’ve done and always have that I’ll never be good enough in the back of my mind. Some reason I found this channel and everything that comes out of pastors mouth speaks to my soul and calls to me. This man is a true man of god and I look to him as a father because I never had one. Thank you
Your stubborness is your coping or defense mechanism. But stubbornness is not really helpful, it cripples you. Start with reading The Father Daughter talk. God keeps calling on to you because He knows.
I've been in a 20 year relationship, he never married me and we have no children. I'm so broken and it's so hard to move forward, but I can't invest in another 20 years of being a roommate and no goals. That deferred hopes wow.
HONEY I TRULY UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN, BECAUSE I BEEN THERE.I DON'T KNOW IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME LIKE I DO, BECAUSE IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME MANY MEN WILL USE THAT AND PRAY ON YOU R VULNERABILITY AND THE LONGER YOU LET HIM STAY THE HARDER IT WILL GET .YOU ARE SOMEBODY DON'T LET NO MAN DISRESPECT YOU GOD HAS BETTER FOR YOU. I AM WAITING FOR MINE
Baay Matt, I too can identify. In a relationship 22 years come January 29. No marriage, no kids together (I have 2 from a previous marriage, he has non), I'm now 51, he's 48 and saying there is no NEED to rush into marriage, cause he's only planning on getting married once. I own my own home and he lives there. We've been living together for 21 years. So, I can definitely relate. Since November I've asked him to use the guest room for sleeping but we share the rest of the house and the responsibilities. I'm TIRED of being companion and house mate. Obviously he does not want to commit to marriage with ME... yet wants the sexual benefits and the accommodation. Sigh!
@@angelgray1089 kick him out! If he only wants to get married once, its clearly not to you. Rejection is God's protection,. Please kick that man to the curb and never look back. He's using you, they take what we give and do what we allow. You deserve better, please get rid off him. Good riddance to people like him.
Why are hot tears running down my cheeks, and I find myself wiping them away, they keep falling. My sinuses are stopping up, I can’t breathe, wow!! Who is this man speaking?
I could listen to you all day! Actually I almost do 😂 You helped me after my toxic relationship of 9yrs. Thank you soo much for your videos. Please don't ever stop preaching/talking 🙏🏾 May God continue to Bless you and your family ❤
I’m so happy I looked at this video. You helped me realize I deserved better than this toxic relationship. I love me more. I mustered the strength and told him to leave. I’m doing great a month later. Thank you!!
Today, I was in heavy prayer about my soul tie, and holy spirit heard me, and brought your message . I thank you for letting the holy spirit flow, glory be to God, I have clarity 🙏 🙌 ✨️ God bless you 🙏 and your family
We have to also realize that if we don’t let go now as painful as it is it will be much more painful if something serious happens down the road. In these types of relationships you risk losing family members, jobs etc
I am 63 years old and I have been waiting for this bum for 13 years. Thank you to God for sending this message out so that I heard it. I’m going to cut off ties and quarantine get back to myself
I have 100% blocked him, anytime he comes into my mind...I turn my mind to Jesus and pray! Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏
Me too
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Plz help me to forget her
That's what I'll do! Call out his name 🙏🏼
This brought tears to my eyes. I will do this for myself as I am worth what He says I am, I am who He says I am.
God, I need you. This is beyond my understanding
1. Ask for clarity where is this bond
2. Ask to uproot everything in you that’s not righteous , repent for your part
3. Ask to break this bondage
4. Show me my ways/ Quarantine-No contact / No stalking/ Personal initiatives
5. Spiritual balance and direction, surrender to the Divine Will
6. Return to YOURSELF
7. Accept accountability
Get healed, get better, get stronger
Don't lose yourself in the false hopes and empty promises of someone who doesn't deserve you.
Amen!
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Amen!!👍
Going through this right now and we attend the same church!! I can't stand to look at his lying face!!!😡
Amen!!
“God has just been waiting on YOU to recognize that YOU NEED HIM”
Married 17 years and I'm tired.
I'm looking for an apartment pray for me.thanks
I wish you many blessings! Hope you are well.
Me too...may the Spirit of God Guide us in Jesus Name
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God bless you 🙏💓
@@birungiliz5550 thank you so much, I just don't have a place to live now
"Lust will play itself off as love. But love fulfills Lust never fulfills."
Yes. This statement was golden!!!
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AMEN SO VERY TRUE
Correct is Right
It’s gonna sting a little when you go through the process.... keep your eyes on GOD!!
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So true been trying for 5 years
Help me lord
It really does
Not me. I'm not stinging now.
Thanks to Pastor RC Blakes sent from God!
This Bum really put me through soo many Emotions..so difficult to let go,,,may the Lord strengthen me
I know 😢we'll get past this.
Amen
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God is strengthening us
I understand! I would not call him a bum, but instead blame myself for the choice that I made. Now, I have to scrape up my broken pieces and get my life straight with GOD
Someone that has nothing to add to your life, will help you lose everything. Break the soul tie with that person that soul purpose is to destroy you.
So true
Facts
They can break you . People like this are the most selfish and selfless characters I've ever seen.
Very true
So absolutely true.. I found out they will just subtract from you and feel as if they can do anything to you
The way you broke it down made me understand every single part of the soul tie I was in. 13 years of pain and trauma has ended in the name of Jesus. Thank you for this message.
I join you say Amen. I am not ready for year 14..All signs are clear he ain't committed or willing to change
Thank you JESUS ❣️
I am ready for the stronghold to end my sisters . Please pray for me🙏🏼
@@mijuajua4820 I pray for u as well as myself . . Because I'm tired of being done!
Amen 🙏🏽
“You always lose yourself when you run behind somebody else!” Pastor R.C. Blakes, 🙏 thank you!
**that GOD has not sent! Amen
That’s true. 💯
That's what I experienced!! Until decided to not let that man think he's my god
This was great. Right in the middle of this message I called the person I’ve been tied to and told him I have to cut ties with him and end it now. I’ve blocked him. I feel the spirit of God surrounding me now. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
Amen, may the Good Lord Bless and keep you.
Be careful once you cut your soul tie. The devil will temp you with what you thought you wanted or something similar. Be careful ladies and gentlemen.
This is the most important thing that's rarely stressed enough.
Yep! Fell for that with this last dude I just left. Thought he’d be everything my ex husband wasn’t, righteous, successful, brilliant,... he was for a while but then began to fall off. Soon I learned he was fronting just like my divorcée did. I now know and understand the lengths a man will go to to get a woman in the sheets that he wants to keep and mold and thinks he can mold to his will through sex and a forked tongue. I don’t intend to allow that to ever happen again.
Just interested in finding myself not looking for no one
This video was for me. Thank you.
@@AchAchoti347
I'm going through a similar experience, its the thought and willpower to cut the ties that's so hard.
Mine is deferred hope, I invested my heart and hopes.
Now I know if I continue on, its going to get very painful for me.
All I can do is cry I don’t even know how I got on this video but I know God is doing something different with me
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Same here god has plans fa me 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
me too
I hear you
Crying right along with you sister
"Soul ties divorce you from yourself and your future." ****finger snaps****
I’m a non Christian, I’m actually a Hindu. I really appreciated this and your words and felt like I really needed to hear this. Thank you ❤
@Indiangirl
I'm watching this is '23 I am SOO happy to have this feed came across my app just recently.
Indiangirl may God Forever and ever bless you with all spiritual blessings filled with insight and a yearning to know God more.
I'm heading into quarantine having battle a few years huge setback so now I'm going to run for me life!!!
Be encouraged. Indiangirl keep your hands in God's hands.
Haleluyaaa
U can accept Jesus Christ too
This is how it is... Everyone thinks their religion is right. All religions are right in their own way. God is God and nothing else is God. You never had to go to a preacher, a guru, a rabbi, or a middle man, you just need to go straight to God, and by the way, He never left you, He has been with you the whole time.
@@elainejones4861I didn’t get notifications previously and just seen the likes and comments I’m reading on the back of my comment. 🙈. May god always bless you and protect you, stay blessed ❤
I did it guys! I'm FREE! God is Good! Thank you Pastor, God bless you. Sis don't give up! Make that decision n stick to it. I chose my pain, n now I'm on the path to deliberately heal. I'm ✨single! ✨God is Good!
Good for you!!! Amen! Thanks for sharing we need to hear this.
THATS GREAT! How did you push through without going backwards
Our Most Beautiful, Loving Lord Father God is very good!
Thank you Most Beautiful, Loving King Jesus!!!! Amen
Amen
Amen !!! So many in the church stay with that toxic stuff
I see I was not the only one. 28 years of pure lies and emotional abuse. CRYING! THANK YOU FOR THIS.
God will bring you out and will find your true identity in him🤗 I am a living testimony. He brought me and direct me to RC Blakes just surfing on RUclips one early early morning..
Same here. So many lies, betrayal, emotional abuse, stress and over 3 years of litigious divorce with 2 minors involved. It’s so hard to forgive and let it go, but if we don’t shift our minds into a spiritual direction we will end up poisoning ourselves.
Same here after 18 years, I dumped him yesterday.
Thanks for sharing your story. It has opened my eyes to keep pushing and never give up. You are a strong women and I know that God will send the right person to you and give you double for your trouble.
No you were not the only one-30 years...
Took my breath away, Revelation: "Your heart is still tied, because hope is still planted." My current issue right now with a situation I experienced months ago.
That’s me right now
I'm understanding that my hope must be in Christ Jesus...not in a clown.
Same here Stephanie Avila ...
Mine has been waiting 17yrs... guess it's time to stop waiting.
This message was for me😔 I'm going true this situation right now🙁Thank you🙏
I wish RC was my father. Every woman deserves a dad like him.
Me too ❤
Wow! On my way home from work this morning I said, Bishop is my spiritual dad! I’ve been listening to all of his teachings and I feel understood, heard and renewed. I appreciate him and Sister Lisa.
“ You crying over a bum, God kicked to the curb for you???!!!” Get Your Vision Back!! Love it, needed to hear this message🙏🏾
Lol 😂
@@jaywills4334 In
Today Jan 12th 2021 God helped me again see the path ahead of me thank you God
Yes absolutely I was 🤣 no more
Yes you are very rite
5 yrs in a soul tied relationship. 4 days out of it. Bound by false promises.. FALSE HOPE! of a lifestyle that was never manifested. I prayed to God 2 wks ago to remove EVERYTHING and EVERYONE that is not good for my life. God did exactly that! Now God is revealing to me why I allowed myself to accept a relationship beneath what I deserve. Thank you for this message so fitting for my current situation. ❤👍
I absolutely can relate with you. You have to know your worth and value your life, your emotions, your heart etc and Go free to welcome in what God has for you. 🌸🌷🌼🌺
Hello Sasha. I'm so happy for you
I’m with you… ready to let go of foolishness. 1 yr of pure wasted time. Hope you’re still look forward because what for us will never be behind us.
Praise God! Any update on this?
That’s so encouraging. I divorced a narcissist after 15 years with 4 kids . 2 years later I remarried he seemed like a dream guy but as soon as we married he stoped . I’m exhausted because he neglects everything from paying bills to wanting to make me happy and I feel so hopeless.I’m very tired please pray for me that God helps me to leave . I can’t go on sobbing my bed with tears , and hoping he will change . Blessings
"Love is fulfilled, lust is never fulfilled"..
Wow,so true!
😢sitting here crying begging GOD to heal my heart and free me from my unGODLY soul ties… I thought I was free!!! But as time pass on I’m still hurting 😢I thank GOD FOR THIS WORD
I'm on this same journey and this video gave me everything I need to breakaway and cut this ungodly soul tie. The one thing that hit me the most was when R.C. Blakes mentioned we need to choose our pain. Just think do you want to go through pain wasting your life on something God never gave you OR having the pain of cutting ties with the individual for a little while and heal very soon and also getting healthier and better ? I never thought of it that way so I chose to have temporary pain in order to be where God wants to be. To remove everything from my life that's stopping me from reaching my highest potential and eventually being with the kingdom mate God has for me.❤️❤️
Thank you Pastor ! I listen to your messages daily ! They bless me so much 🥰💐💝💫
If it was a long relationship, it really takes time to heal. You are so joined to them in your everyday life and activities. It's a large void. You have to get through and get past the pain of that. You also need to forgive. To release them as a weak man (or woman) who does weak and hurtful things. Hold them accountable, count the cost, be very aware of how they hurt and could hurt you again, but let the Holy Spirit really set you free w/ forgiveness. Then the enemy has no legal recourse to your soul to afflict you any more. Holding grudges and going over all the hurts keeps you prisoner. When the thoughts come back to haunt me, I speak forgiveness to them. There's still some pain, the void is closing 3 and a half months out. I've given up on him changing and even if he ever did, there's no way I'd take a chance.
Yeah you think that and then you watch this video and realize no I'm not
It takes time and prayers 😢real talk 🙏💜
Ive begged God for these answers for a while. I’m so grateful.
So did I...😔 I finally opened my eyes to Gods signs.... 🙏💕💯💯💯💯
So did I. He was speaking to me and I ignored him. Not anymore.
I know this was recorded 8 months ago, but I happen to stumble across this video and I desperately needed it. God bless you, this word was for me! I’ve been so caught up on someone who I know doesn’t even deserve me. This message was something I needed. Thank you so much pastor. God bless you ❤️
I am barely listening to it as well. This man is a God sent! Stay strong 👸
I am with you. Just saw this. Been out of my soul tie relationship about seven months. Really shocking and never been involved with a narcissist. He won't happen again. Stay prayed up😇
Wow, It's 6am I been going through with a man whom I am sick & tired of going through with him, I want God to give me directions towards taking the steps towards removing this person out of my life, and work on getting my daughter, grd.kids, relationship back together , I rather be with my family nonsense than an outsider foolishness, this person has no heart just good at pretending, I open my door up to help him, and have regretted every since, I want to get my peace & happiness back by getting this person out of my place & my life for good. Thank you pastor for this word
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️..Pray and Allow your Heart to break.. Been there! The mind is a Battlefield.. Allow your heart to break and miss him. Don’t give in to the temptation and his lies, they only change temporarily to get you back.
@@louloring5306 thank you for your encouraging words blessings to you
I really needed to hear this because I know this tie I have with this person is not of God and it’s not natural
Mines to honey but when I tell you my year is not ending like this nor beginning a new year with the BS... that’s what I mean! It’s not worth it your sanity and energy.
@@ntrasmr87 yes !.. I got to leave this situation put it behind me cause I’m loosing myself 2021 cutting all of it out I’m choosing my pain for once in my life
If you don’t have to wait don’t wait til 2021 . The sooner the better .
Jesus 🙌🏼
This is soooooo good, Pastor. It will be on repeat until I get it. Bless you.
Same here.
I said ohh the devil thought he had me.. Good thing I never lost my faith.. Blessed.. Thank you Jesus.
Amen
AMEN!!
Amen
Good morning. I am close to 60, out marriage/relationship. If I heard this 40 years ago, I will not be here and agreeing with every single word of this sermon. Young women...listen carefully and take heed.Everything he says is so true
Absolutely sister....where were our teaches, I am nearly 60 and things had only gotten worse, years of abuse. He said he would kill me if I left and then he tried because I was dying, physically, emotionally spiritually,I was so numb.
Hope, for change was always there...
Amen. Sister & brother💙
💔💜💜💜🙏🙌
The addiction lies in our false pride to assume that we can “ fix” a Narc. Only God can do that. So the answer is to let go and let God. Surrender. And ask to be restored to sanity. To realize I’m only human.
“You so broken because God kicked a bum outta your life!” Yaaaass!! I needed to hear that! Thank you Pastor Blakes! 👍🙏🤗
He has me looking at men on a whole nother level. This is amazing and he's the spiritual father that God has sent to us women for such a time as the times we are living
He sure did 🙏🏾
For such a time as this ...our vision supersedes that nonsense.
Don't ever forget GOD IS OUR FATHER!! Pastor RC Blakes is an instrument and messenger
Think like a man. Talk like a man. He is a god messenger. Thank you, Rc Blake's
Accountability is a game changer! The moment you begin to accept the level of damage you personally, single handedly allowed to interrupt your journey-the moment you embrace past trauma as a lesson& end the cycle of self sabotage-the moment you stop entertaining a false figment of weak imaginations that make you feel it’s a way to fix someone else’s sick mind-the moment you disengage the weapon of lust-the moment you remove the shameful secrets and begin to give your testimony--YOUR LIFE WILL BE BETTER! YOUR LIFE WILL BE RENEWED! OPPOSITION WILL CEASE AND OPPORTUNITIES WILL BE RELEASED INTO YOUR SITUATION! GOD IS WAITING ON YOU TO COMMIT TO THE WORK. Faith without works is dead! Holding on to a dead situation is not your portion. 💜 💜 💜
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Amen thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you. That was deep.
Beautifully written. ❤️
Wow! You have spoken....thank you so much for this
You always lose yourself when you run behind someone else. Powerful.
Ain't that the truth! Never again🤦
I never will run or chase behind anyone or thing just pray for their happiness what ever makes them happy.
Message
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Real talk ❤
Going through this at the moment. He ate yesterday evening and slept and snored as I spoke my heart out. He negated his morning duties and routine to punish me. Dressed up and left for work without mending things or comforting me. He treated me like I was non existent. I am currently jobless but am not going to use this an excuse to keep stuck. If people want to walk away from you let them go. I will not speak him into staying, respecting me, valueing me, loving me or validating me anymore. I will remember how he makes me feel over how I feel for him. Pray for me guys. I accept the pain that comes with change. May the Holy Spirit destroy all wrong attachments in my life and yours. Stay blessed 🙏
As a 29 year old single woman, I'm just in awe of some of the stories in this comment section. Thank you ladies for being transparent and sharing your experiences. It has reinforced my desire to wait patiently on the man God has for me.
I wish I can be 21 again and know all of this
Yes,. Just wait on the one that God have for YOU. The story that I can tell you about my life. I wish that I had waited.
Oh Sweetheart You have no idea! Imagine going thriufh many soul ties. Us promiscuous in our pasts were/are heavily demonized needing so much spiritual work. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!
Pleasseee do wait! God will guide you to the one!
I never thought I would be going through this in my life 😫
@Fee none of us ever do 🙏🏾
Neither did I. Sometimes I find myself crying in MY SLEEP. I just can't escape this pain.
Me either people are past evil.
Me neither xxxx
You must get out of your flesh to overcome the pain. You need to come to the realization that you deserve better than this situation. When you began to believe you truly deserve better you will begin to feel better. Don't focus on time lost, you can't get it back. You are only adding to the time lost by continuing to focus on it.
Watching this in 2022 I needed to hear this. It's a hard journey and letting go Is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I keep going back and reinfecting myself. I pray that after hearing this the holy spirit will guide give me the strength to let go of what God has no longer wants in my life. I pray you all find peace and happiness in your journeys too 🥰🥰
I join you and free myself by the end of this Year. I can't continue to live like this.
Me too🥺🙇🏻♀️
Thank you for encouraging words
We were lead here now because the Holy Spirit is working now. Embrace the peace and happiness he bestows. My prayers for you 🙏❤️💪🏻👑
I'm standing with you, holding space, and ending this for good for my self.
Tonight my soul was saved with this message, i am eternally greatful
I just separated myself tonight from a man I was engaged to for 5 years. Perfect timing for this message.
Praise God!!! Thank You!!!
Me too, one week in time, tonight i seperated from my bf....i loved him dearly, but a part of me pushed me to end it for many factors.
I wish him the best...
@@lolaispure4296 be the queen u deserve better!💕
@@bessk8847 thank you my dear❤
Awesome!!!❤🙏❤
The mask falls off and you see the depth of the darkness of the narc and there is no returning to who they pretended to be.
I only got to the 10th minute when I started to feel so much wash over me, every single word was spoken personally to me. On Saturday I was praying for this message, for the steps I have to take. I am burning things tied to him, deleting, repenting, packing my things, praying, praying and praying. My 10 year, toxic soul tie, WILL end in these next few weeks.
Praying that things are working out well for you. God bless you give you comfort and strength on your journey...beauty for ashes! 💛
@cherryelisa I've got to do the same. I have all his clothes and shoes in my house and it's so much stuff . Either he takes them or I give them away. When I left the house we lived in together "I carried him" with me to my new place, my own space. Why did I do that!
Ridding yourself of those things don’t help, because they can be replaced. You need to get to a place in your life where you are real with yourself. Make up your mind to leave him alone, and stick with it no matter what. Until you make up your mind, you will keep doing it,
Great message Bishop. So many immature men are missing the mark when it comes to treating women as the fragile vessels and Queens that they are. It's imperative ladies to exercise your worth so that these clowns in crowns won't attempt to approach you.
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Speak
@@nicolegodspower5018 🙏👑
That's it. I've been told by men 'I'm busy'.
Making me feel like I'm asking to much.
Being intimate and chase you in the beginning is no problem for them.
After that the withdrawal and distant attitudes begin
Eten you express feelings like explaining hurt, they don't give you affirmation.
No, they guilt trip that you are not being reasonable and have to accept what you are getting from them
They will act like the victim to busy to send you one little message.
No thoughtfulness.
Silence
Very painful.
I'm alone for many years now though relatively young and I decided to to never accept emotional manipulative or immature men.
I registered on a dating site bc I was fed up with letting faith rule bc I realised I have to create my own life taking charge.
Well.... A man approached me.
Seemed like a gentle man and in a way he acted like it but after our first meeting silence began. Heartache started.
I fought to not let him know but yesterday I told him how I felt and asking for clarity.
Reaction: busy with work and children (from past relationship) talk to you soon.
That's it.
I sent a thumbs up and I will move on.
I feel broken because at first you feel happy... Like finally you meet someone you feel good energy with
Confusing part, I felt positive energy and u smiled everytime we video called.
My smile felt devine.
Now my heart is aching physically for two days.
I let go. My heart feels broken.
I've been put aside like a radio you switch on and off by some men before so it's hard to discern where my own wounds begin and poor treatment of this man starts.
I promised myself that I would never bow down for manipulation or less than I deserve..
It was not about sex with this new man, I'm sure of this but I told him he acts like a little boy wanting to get his way and he admitted he can be like that.
Anyway I'm going to restore myself rebuild myself again.
This man says things like God bless etc.
But a manipulator once called himself a healer but mentally pushed me into doing things crossing my boundaries, calling it prayer.
I don't know why but I feel like blowing on my letters while typing.
Maybe it's the cleaning wind of God blowing over my life.
I'm very sensitive to energies and hidden emotions from my environment so I need to go back to my core where it's me leading. Not behaviors from others/a man.
But my heart says:. I love him.
What if its our human love we automatically give out to people, including a man who will take our devine nature to love into a prison cell with toxicity and getting nothing in return, while our love in itself was from God in us but misformed by a lower level.
Just typing what comes up.
This man said to me:
You have to look for someone with similar goals like building a life together or having children.
He was at least honest saying he is not a homely man but at the same time he held me, held my hand.
The hardest part to accept for myself is realising that I felt insecure with this man while I am normally, essentially a strong confident person.
It's very true that many men push your physical boundary subtle or openly, rude. Discussions I had to explain to men I'm not having unsafe sex and I only make love not sex. The moment they oppose your truth, boundaries, concerns and values it's bad news. In know it all rationally and I always speak up but they can be so good at dominating a conversation to shut you up. Making you responsible for their needs but when you have an emotional human need they we will not feel responsible for yours........ They will tell you be happy don't worry. The superficial positivity from a narcissist.
Their is no deeper connection with these characters.
A new day to heal my wounds. I have to keep thinking like a soldier but I also feel a little girl in me who is craving to be hugged and consoled by male arms.
This is the deepest root of my pain. Bless your all. I hope God is real I walked with Him but bc of all research about narcissism I also started to doubt if Christian faith was also a fairytale made up by narcissists to control me.
But I always felt good about God knowing He is not religion. He is my creator my Friend My Man, My best respectful company.
God I miss you hold me in Your arms please.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 First you have to cut all contact with this guy, clearly he was playing your heart and mind to get to your body. After he received what he wanted he fed you excuses, there's no honesty in him in regards to you.
Second, the heart can be deceptive, your love was or is one-sided, he doesn't feel the same, it was never in him to love you. Listen to God from here on out, not your thoughts or heart.
Third, please heal before involving yourself with someone else. Let this pain become purpose and a message to other women who may be experiencing a similar situation.
Our messes are messages and the purpose is greater than us.
Keep trusting God and protect your temple/body, your husband alone deserves access when that time comes. I'm praying for your Peace of mind of peace.
Never knew I had to invite the Holy Spirit in ❤❤
Lets start 2021 with a renewed mind. Break the soul tie and move your life in a spiritual direction. God bless everyone who watches this video.🙏🙏🙏
Amen
Thank you, and the same to you too.
Amen
Renewing of your mind!!!💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿. It's hard to do! Sad situation...you have decipher between bad and real!
Don't know about nobody else....I am being delivered and healed in this session! Lord Jesus!!
Me too 1/22/2022
Yessssss sister
Amen!
Me too sister. God bless you! ❤️🙏
I’m coming higher than thou cus I’m on the other side. 2 yrs after 10. So I really hope y’all delivert. It feels so good on this side
Some soul contracts can ONLY be broken by FASTING and PRAYER. Don't be afraid to do the work. Your better life is waiting for you. 33:07 some things can't be counseled out! You gotta invite the HOLY SPIRIT! That's on God💕🙌🏾
Yes and fasting is not ALWAYS food!!!!
@@kizzyrock aa
Thank you Post or been looking this been trying on my own blessimgs
Im so ready for fasting and praying.against it all; soul ties. Heart ache, Heart break, Any. And every memory, any longing for him at all.
Let the healing begin
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23:56 sometimes it’s just you’re tired by your own insecurities and you’ve subconsciously found your identity and your sense of value in your relationship with this individual
57:40 “all of us have seasons and areas in our life where we need someone who are stronger than we are”
“Your vision will begin to heal your heart from the pain of the disconnect.” That was profound.
absolutely what i needed to get the wheels turning
Yes!!!🤗🙏
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“There are some things that can’t be counseled out. The Holy Spirit has to be invited in.” It can’t be said any better.
Amen and AMEN!!💜
Yes!!
Amen! 🙏
0H
Adding to my first reply- What you said is so profound. It cannot be said any better when the Holy Spirit is at the forefront of our spirit and in our mind. Heart too. Which is why I pray every morning for the Holy Spirit to speak for me and not me for me throughout my day. God. bless you, Tina
Amen. I broke up with my ex boyfriend three months ago. He was a cheater and drug addict. He played me for 4 years. He did hit me back in 2018. I didn't hold any hatred against him. Now he is trying to play victim that he didn't have STDs. Never take back your ex because you might get yourself more trouble 🙏🕊️
Yes, you WILL
True
Divine order
1. Spirit…sensitive to the Holy Spirit…no contradictions w/in my members
2. Soul… falls in alignment behind your spirit
3. Body - My body follows
4. Need to Quarantine
5. Return to your vision
6. Always loose yourself when run behind someone else
7. Center your soul
8. Accept accountability
9. Hard to see the picture when your in the frame… find someone you can be accountable too…
10. Leave that clown in a crown at the zoo in the cage where he belongs with the lock on the cage the throw away the key and run and don’t look back…
11. GOD WE THANK YOU WE CAN DO THIS WITH YOUR INTERVENTION IN JESUS NAME AMEN!!!
Folks this may not be in the order pastor spoke but I did my best…
I can't believe I had ignored the red flags in the beginning. Your videos have helped me wake up and realize the man only cared about himself.
Amen
What if u have kids by him
I need to watch this daily!! It’s like he’s speaking directly to me... All I can say is THANK YOU
Me too!
Me too
Yessss me too
Amen
I have been dealing with this for the past 2 years. Broke up with my ex/ son father but I have a lot of anger towards him from all his broken promises
For me , it was a lack of a healthy relationship with my father, so I look for it in other men. I tend to gravitate to what is familiar. Unfortunately, this has been very toxic for me.
I have a absent mother. Abandonment issues was deep. I haven’t even watch the video. I saw it. And I have been outside for a very long time we’re truly don’t care. About this person.It’s so liberating once you are free
@@Geminicricketi it sure is. It’s comforting to know that if you don’t have a biological parent. Sometimes god will replace one with a spiritual mom or dad.
Same.
Same
I am beginning to realize that I also followed that pattern. Emotionally unavailable father who dropped his family to the least important aspect of his life. Now am married to a man who is mirroring this behavior.
I have listened to this 3x, each time it blesses my soul. Thank you
The soul tie being due to the hope being deferred, never thought about it like that. Wow.
I also had hope he claimed that we were getting married😢
This is me but I’m getting free today. Let me Hope in God. Not this ungodly soul tie.
We often like to call it, "Potential".
@@truth-is-light1994 Exactly this! I'm so guilty of falling in love with the 'potential' rather than the person he really is.
Thank God he did for me what I couldn't do for myself. He kicked a bum out of my life. He gave me back my vision! I appreciate you allowing Holy Spirit to use you Bishop Blakes, more than words !
Thank you for saying this. I have been down on myself for not having the strength to kick him out because it just hurts and I was afraid he would retaliate. But God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind! I have to trust Him to work it out. But I can’t go back this time. ❤️
Quarantine is a blessing rather than punishment. Using my time wisely. This message was right on time. Thank you. Message received and greatly appreciated 🙏 😊 !
Facts!!!!!!!!! People are saying 2020 was the worst year! No, it was a year of revelation!!!!!
Yall are both reading my whole soul, agreed Sisters, agreed💯 I found my best self during Quarantine.
@@l.christinejones8164 With consistency and this channel and channels alike, we are going to be okay!
God works in mysterious ways🙏🏿
AMEN! 2020..#GODSCALLING
I am struggling with a soul tie, it has been eight months. I needed to hear this. Thank you!
It's getting to a point where I have to listen to this daily. Sometimes all the begging, crying and stalking makes me feel like I'm the clown! He's living his best life and I'm just poisoning myself for a bottom feeder can continue to lie to my face. I need the express lane to Jesus!
For the past one week, looking for this vedios like there's no tomorrow,I have been saved in the name of God.
Me too
Stay strong baby ..leave room for the right oneee
Poisoning myself for a bottom feeder to continue to lie to my Face. You said this so eloquent. You are so so Right. I stopped doing this and am now seeking The Lord diligently.
This is me too😢
That prayer was necessary! 2021 I am Free! In Jesus Name, Amen!
Yes! I received that. Amen.
Hugs and kisses from above 🙏
Amen!!!
This is good and so true. I’m 50 and just figured all this out.
Free from bondage free from toxicity & from lies I claim this in the name of Jesus. Strongholds are breaking, Amen!
I receive this message. Never again will I ever go through this! Amen thank you for caring!
Pastor RC you speak to me like a Dad should speak to their daughter. You helped me see my value. Thank you.
Boy, did I need this. Took notes and will be speaking them regularly. You really have the gift of testimony. I gave 27 years 4 kids to be discarded now that he has a great career and $. We're going through divorce now. I'm quarantined he's with someone new. I would appreciate prayers.
I hope your in a better place Rhonda.
I also pray for u Ronda that God has given u strength to push forward
Father in Christ name you
Are great and the all seeing only God , who hears the prayers of the Children who call on your name
Your promises are a sure thing, you are not a man
That you should lie, so thank you Father in Jesus name for helping this woman your child get knowledge and understanding , and your
Help in this hurtful situation with her husband. Come Father
With your Devine presence to tell her to pray and stand still and watch the work of your hand in all this. Comfort her children.
Prayers 🙏
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God defintely answers prayers, I've been praying about this for months and yesterday I was taking to God about Him helping me letting this person go. I have been struggling but I've been getting better with it. I just need to fully let him go. I was on the fence of I care about him and to recognize that he was unhealthy to me although we all make mistakes. I've been stuck in between letting him go or praying for him to change. I just played this video and I pray I recieve the answers and ACT on them as well. Perfect timing!!
I agree with your message and can relate right now. Praying with you. 💛
God bless you. You are my favourite pastor. Always providing the right grounding wholesome knowledge us young women need. God bless you Sir ❤️
Amen
So very true. A ministry to women from an authentic place with no hidden agendas than to see us whole. God's blessings Bishop to you, Your wife and entire family. 🙏
You are one of my favorite artists! ☺️💞
OLDER WOMEN and MEN 50,60, 70 YRS OF AGE..WE TOO SUFFER WITH SITUATIONS SUCH AS THIS.. AND I THANK YOU PASTOR FOR YOUR GUIDANCE.. BLESS YOU 🌹
Aww please remember for ladies of a certain age, like myself. I am middle aged and learning so much. Thank you Pastor! 🙏🏽🌼
I’m thank you for your messages. I’m a fatherless daughter and my mom passed away when I was five. So having strong male influence wasn’t apart of my cards I guess. A lot of my life lessons have been learned by trial and error. So you officially are my uncle now haha. Because this level of accountability is what I have always searched for. 😊
Thank you
“Repent for having made a god out of a person” LORDDDDD 😩😫 i needed to hear that! All of those reasons have a hold on me in some way, different time lines though. I am choosing to attack with love, forgiveness, and spirituality. Most importantly self love and putting myself first!! God, my angels, and my ancestors thank you for your love and guidance to this video! Amen
Amen
Never make a person your God. They will leave you with pain
It was refreshing to hear the word bum again. I grew up in a time when elders would call a bum a bum. They made it clear and plain why someone wasn't for you Now it seems everyone want to water-down and sugar coat a person, a situation.
Honey.. Pastor will call a spade a spade. Love him💯
I been thru this I finally packed everything I owned and left my Husband it hurts so bad I wanted the love he would never give me .It was a game to him
Good job, good girl
I divorced last year... Couldnt heal completely until now.....
The game hurts the most
Sounds like he's a narcissist
GOD hates divorce. Please read the Bible. Your husband is not a soul ties. He is part of the Convenant you two made before GOD. You can separate but GOD hates divorce. This man is speaking totally against the scriptures. Soul ties is not in the Bible. Second, men shouldn't counsel women, that's his wife's job. Third all this stuff he is talking about is silly women simply trapping themselves in ungodly relationships. When Jesus sets you free, you are free from everything. If you are in a relationship with a man that is not your husband, it is not a soultie that has you in bondage, it's sin.
Accept ACCOUNTABILITY I KNEW BETTER….AND WAS TOLD….AND STILL WENT AHEAD🤦🏾♀️God has other plans it’s time to let go and move forward!!
Your teachings have Ben enlightening and painful at the same time.
Spiritual Dad, i love you so much for what you do. You've healed my heart 10 times over & helped me to remember who i am & why God put me here. 👑🤗
"Choose your pain" That sentence right there gave me what I needed to hear!
Absolutely and I found it amazing to meditate on choose your battles
"No time to waste on a hobo" so true..... I appreciate your support and prayers.
10 months later and I can’t let go of my 22 yrs of marriage after he left. Thank you for this message. His life went ON and I still can’t sleep and have an EXTREME high level of anxiety. Haunted by visions in my mind playing tricks on me. Left and didn’t look back…. HOWWWW can ppl just do that?????? After so many yrs. Never saw it coming😪
Must listen to this a few times to GET IT. This is ON POINT!!!!
How are you now?😢
May God grant you the peace he has for you .Accept it . God bless you.
It takes 2-5 years to psychologically get over a relationship that long. Hang in there it will get better.
God knows I feel Your Pain and my relationship was ONLY 2 and Half years but the Pain was Great in spite of !!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I’m so sorry😪 I know your pain. I don’t understand it either. You’re not alone. My heart goes out to you. The Lord will give you the strength you need to get through it and it will bring you closer to Him which is the best place to be. God bless you 🙏🏼❤️
“Wasted your time on a tramp on a bum on a clown in a crown on a hobo” 🤣whew. Needed all of that. I feel so at peace after this video. Thank you
Blakes is going off. I can't stop laughing. He's so right though.
Powerful!! I’ve been in 4 bad Narcissistic abusive relationships. All of them happen when my defenses are down. When my faith is low, they sweep in so fast. My abandonment issues coupled with enemy attacks leave me paralyzed. I’m stopping this cycle now. This video helped. Thanks.
This is so me history….. I also have abandonment issues and guys they use it to control me. Especially they clam themselves love god, Cause they know I love god.
The best defense for women, just don’t do sex, don’t do sex protect you so much from toxic relationships.
I made mistakes even I know god’s will.
Sisters just don’t do sex and all these problems stay away from your life and u will get the peace you should have in ur life
Same sis @abandonment trauma. Makes it so hard to leave.
Keep your eyes on God and you will be ok
Hugs sis. God is all we have and we must lean on him in those moments.
Heal your trauma so these narcissists won’t go near you
This is really helping me. Imma listen over and over again. Haven't touched him in almost 3 months and still soul tied to him, and he don't deserve it..🎉🎉
Look at all these beautiful ladies up in here!!! Cmon ladies walking away
This is like fresh squeeze oranges and confirmation for me not looking back but moving forward thanks for sharing namaste 😊💯🤓🙏👍🤓🧘♀️
I Absolutely needed to hear this Pastor, thank you! I have been tied to a narcissist for 15 months based on "hope deferred". I pray that the Holy Spirit will deliver me from this bondage 🙏🙌
You're gonna have to SURRENDER your life to Jesus!!
I'm currently going through this, praying for the same.
Same here
I am a non Christian but i am a muslim and i really needed this. You are like my own father i dont have a father in my life. But today you save a 25 years old. I write down the prayer (DUA) everything you say.
Ne too…
2021 I’m Going To Be Free I’m Going To Be Completely Free‼️💯🙌🏾💯🙌🏾🙌🏾💯🙌🏾🙌🏾
Nothing hurts anymore I feel freeeeeeeeee 🌙💫💫💫💫
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Amen ! Stick with the lord Christ , read those lovely
Bible scriptures , be saved by the master.
I was in a verbal abusive relationship with a guy. I was told about this guy by his mother and sister. I thought things would better. It never got better. I recently broke off the relationship six months. I feel so good .
So glad to know you're doing better
Invisible abuse leave invisible scars
This was for me as well. I never had a father to tell me these things and I just thank God for having mercy on me so that I may hear the truth. I’m very stubborn and these walls I’ve built to block out the truth and him calling me. I try to hide behind my walls but I can’t hide from HIM. I cry like a baby because God calls me even when I’m running away. He knows me and wants me? I always think of how ashamed for all the things I’ve done and always have that I’ll never be good enough in the back of my mind. Some reason I found this channel and everything that comes out of pastors mouth speaks to my soul and calls to me. This man is a true man of god and I look to him as a father because I never had one. Thank you
Your stubborness is your coping or defense mechanism. But stubbornness is not really helpful, it cripples you. Start with reading The Father Daughter talk. God keeps calling on to you because He knows.
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Whoa!!! watching this on 30th October, 2023...and it speaks right into my heart!!!! 💥💫🔥🔥🔥🔥 God bless you Pastor!! 🙌🙌
I thank God for you! Thank you for having a heart for the brokenhearted!💚💔💚
Amen
I've been in a 20 year relationship, he never married me and we have no children. I'm so broken and it's so hard to move forward, but I can't invest in another 20 years of being a roommate and no goals. That deferred hopes wow.
I'm sorry my dear. I truly understand your pain and I appreciate your honesty. Blessings on you as you move forward to a new beginning
HONEY I TRULY UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN, BECAUSE I BEEN THERE.I DON'T KNOW IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME LIKE I DO, BECAUSE IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME MANY MEN WILL USE THAT AND PRAY ON YOU R VULNERABILITY AND THE LONGER YOU LET HIM STAY THE HARDER IT WILL GET .YOU ARE SOMEBODY DON'T LET NO MAN DISRESPECT YOU GOD HAS BETTER FOR YOU. I AM WAITING FOR MINE
Baay Matt, I too can identify. In a relationship 22 years come January 29. No marriage, no kids together (I have 2 from a previous marriage, he has non), I'm now 51, he's 48 and saying there is no NEED to rush into marriage, cause he's only planning on getting married once. I own my own home and he lives there. We've been living together for 21 years. So, I can definitely relate.
Since November I've asked him to use the guest room for sleeping but we share the rest of the house and the responsibilities.
I'm TIRED of being companion and house mate. Obviously he does not want to commit to marriage with ME... yet wants the sexual benefits and the accommodation.
Sigh!
@@angelgray1089 kick him out! If he only wants to get married once, its clearly not to you. Rejection is God's protection,. Please kick that man to the curb and never look back. He's using you, they take what we give and do what we allow. You deserve better, please get rid off him. Good riddance to people like him.
Why are hot tears running down my cheeks, and I find myself wiping them away, they keep falling. My sinuses are stopping up, I can’t breathe, wow!! Who is this man speaking?
I needed to hear this again. I married a bom and narcissistic who broke me to pieces after 21 years together. Oh lord Jesus! 😢 im on my way out !
God is with you! Keep moving forward in Gods love!❤
I could listen to you all day! Actually I almost do 😂
You helped me after my toxic relationship of 9yrs. Thank you soo much for your videos. Please don't ever stop preaching/talking 🙏🏾 May God continue to Bless you and your family ❤
I’m so happy I looked at this video. You helped me realize I deserved better than this toxic relationship. I love me more. I mustered the strength and told him to leave. I’m doing great a month later. Thank you!!
Today, I was in heavy prayer about my soul tie, and holy spirit heard me, and brought your message . I thank you for letting the holy spirit flow, glory be to God, I have clarity 🙏 🙌 ✨️ God bless you 🙏 and your family
We have to also realize that if we don’t let go now as painful as it is it will be much more painful if something serious happens down the road. In these types of relationships you risk losing family members, jobs etc
If only I knew this years ago, but God.
Ikr. Im still tied to this person going on 17yrs.
Amen
Better late than never for this GOD LED WORD. HARD TO SEE THE PICTURE WHEN YOU IN A FRAME. WOW.
Wow I thought i needed counseling on how to let go, when I really need the holy spirit.Thank you sir I needed this message and it was right on time
I am 63 years old and I have been waiting for this bum for 13 years. Thank you to God for sending this message out so that I heard it. I’m going to cut off ties and quarantine get back to myself
God help me