Thank you Pastor Blake's. I'm going to share this with my daughter. Maybe with God's grace and mercy and your powerful ministry I can be instrume ntal in breaking a.generational curse attached to the woman in my lineage. The curse of not only choosing toxic men, but also staying way to long Angela Hill
Praise God! I hope you protect and harness your beautiful strong feminine energy! When I left my Ex last September I IMMEDIATELY felt the weight lift off my shoulder. People you allow in your life is so much more powerful than I was aware. Peace and light.
I know a man like that, it’s bad enough that his elderly parents are still taking care of him, but he preys on younger educated women in order to live off them too. Lord have mercy, where are the real men today? Smh
I had a guy that tried to make me feel bad about myself by saying I wasn't worthy of his time. I corrected him by saying I am more then worthy and I asked him why are you even dating me. I blocked him after he said that and never talked to him again.😏
Man, I had a guy who tried to get at me for years of me Rejecting him say to me, “I needed to earn a date.” & “Did I learn my lesson.” 🤦🏾♀️ I was ready to punch 🥊 him in his nose. I cut him off. Praise Jesus!
I CAN RELATE..HE WAS, STARTING TO LOOK DOWN ON ME...HIS SUPERFICIAL AND MATERIALISTIC....LOL..HE REALLY DOESN'T HAVE MONEY....NOT THAT I WANTED MONEY OR ANYTHING MATERIAL..HE WANTED TO CHANGE ME..HE WAS CROSS..FOR ME NOT DRINKING ALCOHOL...I LATER FOUND OUT BY HIS X WIFE..THAT DUE TO HIS DRINKING PROBLEM..THEY ARE DIVORCED..GOD REMOVED HIM FROM ME...I HAVE MORALS AND INTEGRITY..PS...HIS 59YRS OLD..DOESN'T WANT TO GET MARRIED BUT WANTS TO SLEEP WITH ME..🙄🙄🙄
So True! Hope is addictive, chasing after promises.. Strung out. Much better to be single than behaving as if I’m a hamster on a wheel. Chasing after what? It’s so much easier to see now that I’m off that wheel and can think and breathe..
1. His words make you feel bad about yourself 2. Projects himself as better than you 3. He keeps you chasing promises and assumptions 4. He seems to be a nice guy but asks you for money 5. He's obviously isolating you from my safe relationships 6. His life doesn't match his preview 7. He flatters you to an uncomfortable state 8. He's always creating a crisis
8 signs of bad intentions which indicate that he is trying to break you and use you : 1. His words make you feel bad about yourself. He locates your triggers and injects them into the conversation as he has studied you. He is positioning you to gradually crush you. His speech overwhelm you. What you are looking for is the complete opposite, a man who uplifts you, empowers you. 2. He projects himself as better than you, whether he braggs about his education, money, and/or family. He often does this indirectly by way of insinuations but occasionally directly. This man is not in touch with his manhood and so he tries to deplete from womanhood. 3. He keeps you chasing promises and assumptions. He makes confusing statements. He gives you hope and promises to chase. As the old adage stands "hope deferred makes the heart sick". 4. He is nice, and charming however, he wants you to co-sign for something, he requires money, and so on. If a guy really desires you, he does not see you as a financial donor. 5. He is isolating you from your safe relationships. 6. The preview is greater than reality. If what he projects is better than his reality, you should run. His life values and standard do not match his actions. 7. He sends you rapid fire flattery. He does this to distract you from his bad intentions, to blend in and disarm your guard. He is aiming to trip you with your own ego. 8. Every now and again, there comes a crisis. He entangles you in drama. He emotionally engages you by using your empathy. He is purposefully binding you tight.
9 years ago when I divorced my prayer was “ God show me their true intentions” that was for all relationships male and female. As an empath I’m a giver and supporter of those I love and people would take advantage of me. I’m still seeking God for His perfect Will for my life. I will not settle!
I have the same prayer. I am also an Empath and always feel sorry for people and want to help. I seems to attract narcissistic people who always want to use me.
@Beverly Because empaths are the best supply a narcissist could ever hope to find. Use discernment when meeting people and make sure you check in with yourself a lot when meeting new people. See how YOU feel, rather than yrying to empathetize with them right off the bat. And set and enforce strong boundaries. Boundaries are to natcissists like garlic is to vampires. I know. I'm an empath and narc magnet, too.
I've been through all of this with my husband of 18 years. Thank God I woke up and left my marriage March 1st 2023. No more dizzy spells or panic attacks daily. I'm healing and working on this divorce and will wait on the Lord to send my true soul mate one day. 🙏🏼
Before the video upload: -doesn't know what he wants - Talk about sex at the begennings + nudes - no plans for the future - doesn't want a title for the relationship - inconsistancies at the start - need a lot of things but not giving anything - Controlling - his friends know...they don't pay attention about you, same for the family. - entertaining other female+ dating sites - doesn't fear hurting you.. ( sorry i'm french)
If a man talks to you only about sex & sends you pictures of his Junk. I realized a lot of them do that cause, they have nothing else to offer and nothing else going on in their lives. I tested it and started to probe about some guys who tried that with me and their life’s accomplishments are minimal to none. It’s sad.
This is what I noticed with the guy I’m seeing. This video is so helpful. I feel like I’m caught up in a spider web of deception and yet, it’s hard to break up with him. Actually, I have broken up with him and then, he convinces me that he really does love me. I must be lonelier than I’ve wanted to admit, even to myself. I was single for 13 yrs. He came at a point where I had just lost someone I cared about .
@@sofiacornejo1056 Guuurl I prayed I cried I pleaded with Almighty God and promised if he got me away from that "flaming hot bag of expired Cheetos" I'd NEVER deal with him again...3 months later a lady rented me a room across town and I sleep so peacefully now I haven't called/text that SLUG and have no desire too either just put your trust in Jesus he's a way maker I'll be thinking about you dear💕🙂
@@kerenkares4473 Thank you for your share. I am still with this man and I think I do love him. Which makes it hard for me to see clear. He says he’s not done anything which would give him reason to mistrust him. To an extent he’s right. My intuition however is hinting at the fact that something may not be totally what he portrays. We’ve been together now 8 mos.
Im confused by that context. Is that saying the man is isolating you from your other relationships or isolation in general? Because i am a person who needs isolation in order to gain ground and recharge. I find comfort in isolation when its needed.
1. His words / conversations make you feel bad about yourself. 2. He projects himself as better than you. 3. He keeps you chasing. 4. He seems to be a nice guy, but he wants to borrow money. 5. He is obviously isolating you from your safe relationships. 6. His life is not matching his preview. 7. He flatters you to an uncomfortable extent. 8. He is always creating a crisis.
Sisters, please take notes and be intentional about applying this teaching. 4 years ago I was so devastated by a narcissist. I was in so much pain in all areas of my life, until I cried out to God for instruction on how to heal, not just how to detect these life suckers. He put this Man of God in my YT timeline and I can see the changes. He knows what he is talking about and truly cares about us all. Thank you for this ministry.
Rebeca, I agree. I'm recovering from narcissistic abuse and getting better daily. We have to pray as well for other women to cultivate the courage to go to God and do their healing work. I'm also very grateful for Ministry of R.C. Blakes.😊
@@Anetekonjo it took three years for me to heal. It was a painful process, but we must decide to heal because that pain is temporary. Staying stuck in the pain caused by a narc is a death sentence to the life you deserve to have; one full of peace and joy! Blessings
That was one if not my favorite statement RC said tonight 💯 So Rich 👑🖤 and profound if you're paying attention that's what we have to do if we expect the teachings we receive to work we must work and apply them...❤
@@OrchidTingz when he said that line right there I felt that fire. And I realized this man is a great gift to men and women everywhere. ❤️ Grateful to have found the path to the Blakes
@@MTortillaKitt I feel the exact same way I've been connected with RC for at least 3/4 years now this Ministry is invaluable to me and very much a part of my daily life I'm so much better as a person and a woman as a result of His teaching and ministry and as long as RC continues to teach I will be here ❤
I enjoyed this..as a woman who never married or had children because of sinister and bad intentions.. I'm single for all the reasons you described. I would rather be alone than wishing I were alone and having to put up with bad intentions.
Sign 1. He makes you feel bad about yourself 10:24 Sign 2. He project himself onto you. 17:20 Sign 3. He keeps you chasing 25:54 Sign 4. He seems so nice 32:05 Sign 5. He is isolating you from safe relationship 37:38 Sign 6. His preview is not matching 42:47 Sign 7. He is always flattering you to the point of you being uncomfortable 45:06 Sign 8. He always creating for crisis 47:45
It's tempting to feel embarrassment knowing we women fall into continual traps set by toxic and insecure guys who are not even on our level of trying to get a true relationship with the Heavenly Father. I have to remember, sometimes being raised by wolves/ toxic males causes you to gravitate towards what you have seen in the past. . I truly appreciate this message! It taught me a lot. Thank you Heavenly Father! And thank you Mr. RC Blakes! All Praises to the Most High. 💯
Thank You for being my spiritual dad. I’m a 26 year old women that has had a rough life. I realized about 2 years ago I needed reparenting and prayed to god for answers and you were sent to me.
I only wish I would've had a teacher/father to instill this understanding in me when I was young. Now I'm 46 it took me 20+ years of relationships to even begin to understand the things RC teaches. You're way ahead of the game now❤️
A man's true nature, his instinct is too be a hunter, provider, Giver... That's a man's Nature.. anything else is rubbish...The times have changed, but a Man's instinct NEVER change. It's built in him.. Point Blank.
@@ccdm515 Right.. I’m a woman, but keep toward the non-feminist. Women are ruled by emotion and feminists will make you like them, making decisions and judgments by emotion instead of logic and reasoning. Stay true to yourself.
@@ccdm515 my mother was a stay at home too. But she had skills, hobbies and housework and children to teach and raise. She did not just sit at home and do nothing
@@ccdm515 I see what You are saying. Your dad babied or overprotected your mom. That was great that he was so good and loving to her 🙂. But he apparently didn't give her space to develop fully. There were housewife friends of my mom who could not drive or even write a check. Most if the time when their husbands died, they didn't know where the business was or what to do. My mom did the things I said which kept her productive. In addition to that my dad was a mechanic with his own garage. My mom was his bookkeeper. She also would set up vendor accounts for him and even run pick up parts for him some times. We would tag along. At this time, maybe You can teach your mom some of the things she does not know how to do. She is never to old to learn.
"Words are the containers of energy." That is brilliant. When people try to tell me that words don't matter, my reply is, "tell Joseph Goebbels that." For those who do not know of him, he was the propagandist for the Nazis in 1930s and '40s Germany. He, and the Nazis, knew how to use words. Indeed, words have the power to annihilate entire populations. Thank you RC Blakes. I got a lot from your words.
I'm reading through the comments and I've observed that so many people needed to hear these words early on in their development and never got it. This man is the father every girl needs.
Felt like slave. Left early to go to work, came home late, paid the bills, and he required to give me to give him money. I tried to set a boundary that I wouldn't give him money if he didn't treat me right, with respect and stop swearing, but he did not respect my boundary. Did house work on weekends, and he started complaining I don't spend enough time with him.
@M M That is very dangerous advice to give a woman to say to such a deviant man. such men will then either verbally (berate her performance in bed), sexually (rape), physically (beat), or abuse or torture in a worse manner. That is poking the beast. Such talk is an act of war. The man may well maim or kill a woman for such an unexcusable counterattack. Leave the man, if he's so bad &/evil-acting. Just like the Pastor said in the video. The kind of language which you are allowing is your life or death. This goes for the words you allow to come out of your own mouth. Two wrongs don't make a right. The words emanating from your mouth reveals the condition of your soul, the purity or the contamination. Leave the abuser; don't channel him or his ways. Life & death are in the power of the tongue. And telling a woman to provoke an emotionally abusive man is poking an already on the offensive/defensive lion. All a woman should expect from doing so is negative, never anything good. Any 'I gotcha' self- she may get is of evil intent. And the retaliation by the man may be, in fact, become lethal. Poking the beast just doesn't seem wise nor worth it, now does it?
Everything he said is true I no longer tolerate that behavior. The minute someone makes me feel uncomfortable or a man makes me feel uncomfortable or bad about myself I cutt that off immediately. Everything he said is true.
I agree with you. And what’s made me see this behaviour as so wrong is by being exposed recently to the behaviour of decent men (not romantic partners - but friends and male colleagues who are just good, decent men, good husbands to their wives and good fathers to their children)
Me to , I did the same thing , my Jesus literally plucked me out of the net and rescued me from dying in all 3 ways ( physically, emotionally and spiritually from my x husband ,
The man I was with for 4 years did all these things you speak of to me. I was literally stuck with him during the Pandemic. I have tuned into you Pastor while he was still with me. It was as if I was hanging on for my life ! Your voice always calmed me and I knew you were speaking truth. I Thank GOD everyday for you and feel HIS Love coming through you. FOREVER grateful Pastor. ❤️
I was with a narcissist for 4 years who did ALLLLLLLLL 8 things Pastor Blakes spoke about .. it was not until .. I left the situation 10 months ago that I see what an evil man he was .. GOD LOVED US AND SAVED US FROM MORE WASTED AND PAINFUL YEARS .. BE BLESSED
1. Talks Down To You. 2. Thinks He Is Better Than You. 3. Keeps You Chasing Something That Will Never Be. 4. Bad Intentions. 5. Isolating You From Friends & Family. 6. The Lifestyle Don't Match Who He Say He Is. 7. Love Booming. 8. Always Creating A Crisis. These Are All Signs You Are Dealing With A Narcissist. And A Narcissist Is Not A Good Man. Facts. 😇
He insulted me for 8 years. When I looked in the mirror all I could see was a monster. I got out. Finally. Now when I look in the mirror I say "hi beautiful" and give myself a smile. Men who destroy a woman are scary and must be avoided by all costs. The damage is so disturbing. They aren't worth our precious lives.
I like this teaching..I met this guy after two weeks he want me to get him a$200 Google play card now he wanted an iphone value 1300$ he start by saying his phone not working...he would only call asking about the phone.i feel like he is up to know good.thanks for the advise.
You are so spot on! I wish I had known this many years ago! I never knew how to set boundaries and as a child I was never allowed to say "no". I grew up as a broken queen. I married 2 narcissists and dated narcissists. They spent my money and at the age of 70 I'm divorced and free of these evil "men", really boys. I do still have my house 🏡 and car 🚗. I'm a retired RN. I've broken the soul ties 🙏. I'm free 🙏 but my life savings are gone 😭. Thanks for the amazing videos, otherwise I would be still in bondage. God bless you 😇
Rhonda, reading your post has encouraged me. I have been married 3 times. All three of them were self-centered. It is great to be free. I am never going back.
Thank you for sharing! At 56 with an 11 yr old to raise, after 23 yrs with a narcissist , we’re homeless, but free from him. Your message gives me hope regardless of my age💖
My GOD!! I needed this 7 years ago when my narcissistic ex isolated me from my family, by moving me to his state. He had every sign mentioned by Pastor Blakes. GOD removed me from that situation peacefully. 🙏🏽 Never, ever again!!! I’ve sought therapy, paid attention, asked questions, and moved slowly since then. I’m now Blessed with an amazing, loving, kind-hearted, masculine, & Spiritual man. ❤
This was my life, and it almost killed me-- physically, financially, and spiritually. It's a demonic spirit, and I've seen it play out in a whole family. The consequences are, sadly, far-reaching.
Pastor Blakes, you are so annointed by God to do this. I'm a hairstylist in Memphis and I tell my troubled ladies to check you out because us women need to be reminded of who and whose we are. May God overwhelmingly bless you and your family for your obedience. 🙏🏾👑
Let me tell you about my experience with $$ We were very young -21. He still lived with his sick mom. Who was an amazing person and his best friend. One day she died after a long and painful struggle with cancer and chemo..expensive chemo. They were in debt for it. So he lost his home and his mom. Inherited debt. Never asked me for a dime. I loved him and had an envelope prepared with as much cash as I could afford to give. I knew he needed it BADLY. But he didn't take it. And this is a 21 year old man. Many older have a lot to learn from him.
I can vouch for every word. I have had these guys for thirty years. Then I met friends who showed me I was with a narcissist. I learned all about it, I hardcore *studied* it and then I dissapeared from him. It's been a year now and I have during this year avoided one narcissist, one schizophrenic psychopath (no joke) and three other guys that werent good men. I sucked all the knowledge God gave me in and learned my lesson. I hope you do to.
Yes. .I am a little over a year out of a toxic situation. It is crazy making out here. My trust is shattered. I pray to heal the sickness in me that attracts this and that attracts me to this.
I love this and to be honest , while I'm watching I think 2 things. 1. I noticed these traits in old female friends and ex boyfriends and even ppl from work or church. 2. I noticed some of these traits in myself that have rubbed off on me . I'm in a season where I want to not only take responsibility for my actions but also pay attention to importance of bad company corrupting good character. So as I'm watching I'm reflecting
I went through all the 8 phases plus domestic abuse, low self esteem, high BP etc with my ex. Seperated for 5 years and now divorced last month. Since my separation from him, my life has improved, I feel free and better with more positive energy and able to focus more on my spiritual life, career, personal growth etc.
Such profound guidance and nurturing. Very much timely. Too often we become so lacking in ourselves, we believe the words of even predators. We become so blinded we miss all the red flags and bad intentions. Ladies, let us love our self a little bit more and don't see being single as a bad thing. Be patient in your pursuit of whatever you desire and be anxious for NOTHING...
I just ended things with a man that had all these signs. He didn't waste much of my time because I have been on a trauma healing journey for 2+ years. I thank God that I didn't meet him when I was broken.
Your page contains all the conversations I should have had with my dad. But he was too busy working to provide. He couldn't sit down with me and my sister's to hold these types of conversations with us. I'm 26. No kids, never married. being a single mother is my biggest fear. This is long and well said. I love this.
My Dad was only kind of around as I grew up, and only gets ahold of me when he wants or needs something from me. I take care of him , yet I also realize that a lot of my relationship issues with men started with this “distant dad” relationship. I’m still learning at 54… I suppose we’re never too old to learn and improve;)
@@gigi9301There is always room for improvement and more to learn. I am 59 and recently divorced. I was in a toxic marriage. But God......🙌🏽 God protected me and made a way of escape. I was outta there so fast. And I have my sanity and peace; they are priceless!!! God bless you!!! 🙏🏽❤️😇
2 nights ago while sleep in bed with a man God told me to leave months ago the devil attacked me through him. It was about 3am and I was praying and fighting in the spirit until he woke me up and started asking me questions. We have been going back and forth for months, breaking up, and him manipulating me back. But that demonic force attached to him scared the life out of me. I made him leave immediately. Y’all pray for me please.
Your words are gold!! Absolutely right on everything. I listened to this before I went out on my date last night. I remembered what you said about words and innocence that men try to portray. While this guy was telling me how sweet and wonderful he was to his last girlfriend your image popped into my mind. I remembered you saying if it’s sounding really good, you should slow it down, not speed it up. At the end of the night I let him know that there would be no sex now, or ever. Very interesting how everything came to light… lol. AND THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!! Thank you for helping me to escape a wolf in sheeps clothing. It was so hard since he is super hot, but I went through hell and back last year with a bad guy and lust is a LIAR. Screwed my life up over lust… never again!!!
I am a recovering impact from a narcissistic relationship and I had watched your videos videos many times and got to a point where I couldn't watch anymore but I decided to watch tonight and much stronger and you are 100% correct and everything you are saying are saying that is exactly what happened in my relationship Thank you for your dedication to this endeavor
Be careful, after you get out of these type of relationships it may cause you to feel numb to the world. Just going through the motions day after day. Turn to God.
I met an African fellow recently. He wrote a book on prayer and I saw the book for myself. People will do anything to let you think they are close to God. I met him for dinner and we had to wait. The fellow asked me if I want to go sit at the bar and wait. I do not drink. I saw that as a big turn off. After dinner, he asked me if I am coming to his house and it was getting dark. This was a big turn off too. I blocked him. I do not believe he is right with God at all, Let God lead you, ladies. Stop being desperate for a no good man.
Im in literal tears...keep showing up for it. You are describing exactly what i just went through. This is exactly why i stopped telling people my trauma.
@@amerokeewiya1320 under my circumstances If you knew detail you would be understanding to why but I just ask that you'd pray for me if not that's OK God Bless you
Hold on darling! It's not easy but the Lord will see you through. It's a tough but I pray that the Father will keep you and the baby in the palm of His hand. Stay in the Word, in prayer and where possible connected to a supportive community (if you have one). 21 years on... Still walking and watching the last child growing up into a wonderful young woman... It will be alright! Walk on baby girl and fix your eyes on Jesus Christ. Cry, wail and call out to your Father in Heaven... He will provide for you and your baby
Same here & never again will I date an divorce man . He is very broken from his previous marriage & child hood trauma & he need therapy bad . I ranned away because I have child hood trauma myself & no kids & got past wounds I gotta deal with as well too Some people just worse than others
@@aurastarlight2821 your story sounds like mine he is 55 way older than me I found out he’s still married to his first wife!! The thing’s I found out LAWD it made my stomach hurt I’m over him! He’s hurt me off and on for 8 year’s of my life I’m over it stay strong beautiful!
@@redbone8844 thank you so much . Amen 🙏 If there’s a will there’s a way ❤️💪🏾 You stay strong a well & Everything will work it self out . God bring us somebody that’s compatible for us .
@teresatatum2287 Oh! yes! It's almost a year now & he thought I would never leave because he was so fine, "a model " looks ain't everything, I like men with substance.
So true. I went through this...he actually said to me "you are lucky" (that I was with him), to which I said "excuse me?" and he goes on to repeat...I just said "And me thinking I didn't hear you well the first time". These days men see themselves as prize. Ridiculous! They don't get a pass on that from me.
I wish I had this information a decade ago, I surely wouldn't have married this man. We are now divorced, but I am recovering from all of this. All the flags were there! But we live and we learn and grow. All of these hit home for me! I thank God for you and this message. Thank you Bishop Blakes.... His crisis always became "us" crisis, was tied up for a decade... But I am free now!!! Not my problem!
@@shanita9884 this is why we pray and fast that the holy spirit break every yoke and God does. The lord did not give us the spirit of fear but prepares my hands for war
The worst part of it all for some of us who had stayed too long is that we gaslight ourselves to accept abuse. @chrishoudoul96 please get out you're so worth more!
Pastor Blakes, there is not enough money in the world to be able pay for these valuable WISDOM FILLED videos!!! THIS is a video not just for romantic relationships but for all relationships, partnerships, business connections and networks. I really appreciate all your God-led wisdom in all your videos. It has made me think about my life and how I can improve it by focusing on myself! God bless you!!!
Hello Pastor Blakes I made a lot of mistakes but now am learning from you. I just never knew or was ever taught these things about some men. Thank you and please keep teaching us in Jesus name amen! Be Blessed!
This is so accurate! I experienced this for years in a marriage. I wish I heard this years ago before I became damaged from this. I didn’t see through the charming persona, deceptive intentions, isolation, Trauma bonding, Toxic
You don’t have to be religious to know the truth when you hear it. This is one of the best, and f not the best videos out there, made simple for all women to overstand. Thank you for this message, in my humble opinion, it is 100 percent on point.
You described my daughter's father to a T. I was in a fog for 7yrs trying to understand why I couldn't get anywhere with the "relationship". I've been out for nearly 5yrs and I'm beyond grateful for finding you Pastor. God bless you for spreading the knowledge! Please keep these conversations coming as they have helped tremendously in my healing. ❤
Everything you have just explained I just went through with some man I had met. I knew he was up to no good. I walked away fast actually ran. This is revelation thank you Pastor
I was fighting to defend and protect myself and I am a single mother so this was evil and i made he did not move in at all however he spent nights and the truth started showing such a liar and his parents knew however stayed quiet this behavior is toxic go thing I ran after a few months . Wished I left sooner!
I'm ready to stay single forever.. I was for 7yrs, learned alot... forget alot, ended up with a situation ship, not toxic, but not ideal... I knew better, broke it off, the man left with ease like he was waiting for it... never said a word... im not sure good men exist anymore.... we live in some really challenging times where it's so easy to be anything but genuine, loyal, good hearted... its just sad.
What a word....ty for confirming what the holy spirit was trying to tell me for long time! Your teachings kept me while I cried many nights, I truly ty. I can see the sun shining more and more each day. Ty pastor!
I found you on RUclips by accident. Now I WANT to listen to you every day on my way home from. Just went through a very bad and painful break up at 53! I should know better! You are heaven sent! I thank God for you every day!
I love the way you speak with a calmness . You are peaceful and you are in no hurry and I love that. I have been through 2 marriages that were toxic relationships. It took me till 64 years old to understand why I went through all of this abuse. The last marriage I believe God brought me into that marriage for a reason and God brought me out for a purpose. I am learning through leap’s and bound’s to learn to love myself. Through videos as yours for me to go forward to a better life and set boundaries for the first time in my life. Thank you so much for helping me . I prayed and God led me to you. God bless you and your family and friends 🌹
This is what our young people need to know, before they are ready for the world ; ready to choose a friend , an acquaintance or a mate . God bless Bishop Blake .
Yes! The wisdom a father would teach a beloved daughter. I don’t know anything about that, so indeed, praise the Lord for bringing this message to us. Thank you so much sir!
You are our RUclips Dad! If my Dad were here; he'd applaud you. You have and are teaching, touching, changing, enriching and empowering SO MANY women. I thank God for the ability to hear you work through this platform. Thank you! 🤗❣
Thank you for your encouraging insight. For the past 30 years, I've believed my husband and I had a soul bond. You've now given me the clarity that what I've been feeling all this time was actually the soul tye as I've recently checked out and walked away from him and his toxic abuse. I'm already feeling a lot better within myself. My moods and my energy vibration are returning to a higher level than when it was living with him.
I see so many women who take it all on themselves, raising children, a job, bills, the housekeeping, just everything. What in Gods name made us feel like we need to do all this??? This mindset is crazyness!!!
I needed to hear this message! Pastor RC Blakes you are talking to me. I’ve been watching for a while but was scared/ashamed to comment! Recently out of a 24 year relationship. All 8 signs you mentioned happened to me. I didn’t know what I was dealing with it. I just learned what narcissism is. I loved so hard that I lost myself to where I didn’t know who I was. He isolated me from family and friends. I’m the only child. I have 1 child with the Narc which is 21 years old and he tried to fight our son in front of a coworker and her husband due to being drunk. I still have triggers especially when he pulled a firearm on me on 3/29/21. I struggle with sleeping. I will Never love someone more than I love myself! It’s sickening just talking about it.
@Kim C, thank you for sharing your personal journey thus far. May the Lord keep & strengthen your heart. Walking away is NEVER easy, but you were brave and took a leap of faith! Keep on, keeping on sis
@Kim C - you are now on your journey to healing and peace. I too am now out of a 29 year relationship which started when I was 17. Never heard the word narcissism until a few years ago. Could never understand the back and forth, personality changes, dissapearances, and all the other narcissists traits. He then maliciously involved all the authorities with lies. I've been to hell and back and still standing strong. Pastor Blakes & Lisa was shared by one of my girlfriends (who attended the last Queenology in Atlanta!) and has been a pillar of strength from I started watching, to this very day. It will take time, you will cry, you will ask yourself how, you will get low but you will get there, and when you do...... no one will ever take you there again. 🙏🏾 An exciting future awaits! 😘
@smithyjah Thank you Beautiful❤️! I have good days/ rough days. It still bothers me how can a person mistreat when all you had was good intentions. I was always told be careful how you treat people. I pray peace over your life during your healing journey ❤️
PLEASE LIKE , COPY THE LINK AND SHARE THIS WITH OTHERS.😊 I will see you Monday night.
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I’m excited 😆
God bless you Bishop
What can you do stop people from cyberly telepathically sexually bullying you?
Since leaving my ex, my energy has gone up so much. I always felt drained and anxious. So glad to be free from that. I trust God.
Thank you
Pastor Blake's. I'm going to share this with my daughter. Maybe with God's grace and mercy and your powerful ministry I can be instrume ntal in breaking a.generational curse attached to the woman in my lineage. The curse of not only choosing toxic men, but also staying way to long
Angela Hill
Anxiety is the Devil telling us that something is Not Right.
Praise God! I hope you protect and harness your beautiful strong feminine energy! When I left my Ex last September I IMMEDIATELY felt the weight lift off my shoulder. People you allow in your life is so much more powerful than I was aware. Peace and light.
@@queentashe9691 Yes indeed. I thought I was anemic I was so drained. I got my strength and energy back when I left that demonic force alone.
Amen
“PhD women manipulated by GED men!” 🎤🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
That’s a sermon all by itself.
Yes! 😂
Wow that comment very powerful and sadly very true
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I know a man like that, it’s bad enough that his elderly parents are still taking care of him, but he preys on younger educated women in order to live off them too. Lord have mercy, where are the real men today? Smh
YESSSSS!!! One of the best nuggets in the whole message!!! 💯
I had a guy that tried to make me feel bad about myself by saying I wasn't worthy of his time. I corrected him by saying I am more then worthy and I asked him why are you even dating me. I blocked him after he said that and never talked to him again.😏
Good job 👏🏾 I don’t tolerate that behavior from anyone.
Man, I had a guy who tried to get at me for years of me
Rejecting him say to me, “I needed to earn a date.” & “Did I learn my lesson.” 🤦🏾♀️ I was ready to punch 🥊 him in his nose. I cut him off. Praise Jesus!
I CAN RELATE..HE WAS, STARTING TO LOOK DOWN ON ME...HIS SUPERFICIAL AND MATERIALISTIC....LOL..HE REALLY DOESN'T HAVE MONEY....NOT THAT I WANTED MONEY OR ANYTHING MATERIAL..HE WANTED TO CHANGE ME..HE WAS CROSS..FOR ME NOT DRINKING ALCOHOL...I LATER FOUND OUT BY HIS X WIFE..THAT DUE TO HIS DRINKING PROBLEM..THEY ARE DIVORCED..GOD REMOVED HIM FROM ME...I HAVE MORALS AND INTEGRITY..PS...HIS 59YRS OLD..DOESN'T WANT TO GET MARRIED BUT WANTS TO SLEEP WITH ME..🙄🙄🙄
I love it 👑
So True! Hope is addictive, chasing after promises.. Strung out. Much better to be single than behaving as if I’m a hamster on a wheel. Chasing after what? It’s so much easier to see now that I’m off that wheel and can think and breathe..
1. His words make you feel bad about yourself
2. Projects himself as better than you
3. He keeps you chasing promises and assumptions
4. He seems to be a nice guy but asks you for money
5. He's obviously isolating you from my safe relationships
6. His life doesn't match his preview
7. He flatters you to an uncomfortable state
8. He's always creating a crisis
Thank you for summarizing this!!
"If he runs over you by mistake or runs over you on purpose, you're still run over." PERIODT!
This! 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
FACTS!!!
Being 55white female got literally ran over19months ago so that really hit bc girl ran over2ppl and dog no ticket no jail 😢
8 signs of bad intentions which indicate that he is trying to break you and use you :
1. His words make you feel bad about yourself. He locates your triggers and injects them into the conversation as he has studied you. He is positioning you to gradually crush you. His speech overwhelm you. What you are looking for is the complete opposite, a man who uplifts you, empowers you.
2. He projects himself as better than you, whether he braggs about his education, money, and/or family. He often does this indirectly by way of insinuations but occasionally directly. This man is not in touch with his manhood and so he tries to deplete from womanhood.
3. He keeps you chasing promises and assumptions. He makes confusing statements. He gives you hope and promises to chase. As the old adage stands "hope deferred makes the heart sick".
4. He is nice, and charming however, he wants you to co-sign for something, he requires money, and so on. If a guy really desires you, he does not see you as a financial donor.
5. He is isolating you from your safe relationships.
6. The preview is greater than reality. If what he projects is better than his reality, you should run. His life values and standard do not match his actions.
7. He sends you rapid fire flattery. He does this to distract you from his bad intentions, to blend in and disarm your guard. He is aiming to trip you with your own ego.
8. Every now and again, there comes a crisis. He entangles you in drama. He emotionally engages you by using your empathy. He is purposefully binding you tight.
Thank you!
Thanks💎
Use the game against them :)
Thank you for taking the time to write that all out. Much appreciated 💖
Thank you for these notes to refer back to!♡
9 years ago when I divorced my prayer was “ God show me their true intentions” that was for all relationships male and female. As an empath I’m a giver and supporter of those I love and people would take advantage of me. I’m still seeking God for His perfect Will for my life. I will not settle!
We will overcome and use our good intentions to serve us well
Many blessings to you ✨ may any bad intentions towards you return back to those who send them
I have the same prayer. I am also an Empath and always feel sorry for people and want to help. I seems to attract narcissistic people who always want to use me.
@Beverly Because empaths are the best supply a narcissist could ever hope to find. Use discernment when meeting people and make sure you check in with yourself a lot when meeting new people. See how YOU feel, rather than yrying to empathetize with them right off the bat. And set and enforce strong boundaries. Boundaries are to natcissists like garlic is to vampires. I know. I'm an empath and narc magnet, too.
Very direct words. I can relate
“Words are a toxic man’s weapon “. Such a simple but profound statement 😊
Women can be t0xic too.
Is that what this video is about? @@BarbaraVizan01
TRUE
No weapon formed shall prosper❤
I've been through all of this with my husband of 18 years. Thank God I woke up and left my marriage March 1st 2023. No more dizzy spells or panic attacks daily. I'm healing and working on this divorce and will wait on the Lord to send my true soul mate one day. 🙏🏼
You are a strong woman! You had the guts to leave while so many women are too afraid to leave and be alone.
@aurorarene9909 thank you Sis....I'm so happy I left. Life is so much clearer. Thank God
I happy for your new found peace and healing. Be blessed sis
@sunkissed6413 Thank you Sis 🙏🏽
Good job. Nothing's more important than your health and peace of mind 😉
A toxic man locates your triggers and eases them into the normal flow of conversation
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Very true
This will be a good thing for women to know. Once the smoke clears you sometimes see an evil person.
Agreed:
It's Okay to Perceive, Realize, and Acknowledge, Negative, and/or Incompatible Traits. 😶.
💯💯
When the mask falls, it game over!!🆗️
Sometimes? I find that alot of these "men" are evil.
@@yulezzz7044 :
Pathology isn't the Distinctive Factor of Evil, Morality Is. 😶.
Before the video upload:
-doesn't know what he wants
- Talk about sex at the begennings + nudes
- no plans for the future
- doesn't want a title for the relationship
- inconsistancies at the start
- need a lot of things but not giving anything
- Controlling
- his friends know...they don't pay attention about you, same for the family.
- entertaining other female+ dating sites
- doesn't fear hurting you..
( sorry i'm french)
I should have talked to you before I developed this message. Your points are better than mine.😊🙏🏽
True True
Lol . Preach . Good points.
Not bad for a French native
If a man talks to you only about sex & sends you pictures of his Junk. I realized a lot of them do that cause, they have nothing else to offer and nothing else going on in their lives. I tested it and started to probe about some guys who tried that with me and their life’s accomplishments are minimal to none. It’s sad.
Since leaving my ex... I don't have high blood pressure anymore... thank you YAH
WOW!
“Flattery is like a hunter’s camouflage.” Pastor R. C. Blakes, thank you!🙏
THATS DEEP !!
WYS🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
This is why men love to listen to women when they now meet. They will learn you when you speak just to destroy you when they learn your weaknesses
Narcissism at it's BEST!!!!!!!!
This is what I noticed with the guy I’m seeing. This video is so helpful. I feel like I’m caught up in a spider web of deception and yet, it’s hard to break up with him. Actually, I have broken up with him and then, he convinces me that he really does love me. I must be lonelier than I’ve wanted to admit, even to myself. I was single for 13 yrs. He came at a point where I had just lost someone I cared about .
@@sofiacornejo1056 Guuurl I prayed I cried I pleaded with Almighty God and promised if he got me away from that "flaming hot bag of expired Cheetos" I'd NEVER deal with him again...3 months later a lady rented me a room across town and I sleep so peacefully now I haven't called/text that SLUG and have no desire too either just put your trust in Jesus he's a way maker I'll be thinking about you dear💕🙂
@@kerenkares4473 Thank you for your share. I am still with this man and I think I do love him. Which makes it hard for me to see clear. He says he’s not done anything which would give him reason to mistrust him. To an extent he’s right. My intuition however is hinting at the fact that something may not be totally what he portrays. We’ve been together now 8 mos.
This is very true. Watch what you reveal early on when dating.
"Isolation is the pre cursor to Abuse." Thank you pastor Blakes. Women needs to hear this.
So spot on!
Yes indeed
So true, We are going to be healed slowly but surely. Just trust our creator. Love you all. 💕💕🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏🙏
Amen
Im confused by that context. Is that saying the man is isolating you from your other relationships or isolation in general? Because i am a person who needs isolation in order to gain ground and recharge. I find comfort in isolation when its needed.
1. His words / conversations make you feel bad about yourself. 2. He projects himself as better than you. 3. He keeps you chasing. 4. He seems to be a nice guy, but he wants to borrow money. 5. He is obviously isolating you from your safe relationships. 6. His life is not matching his preview. 7. He flatters you to an uncomfortable extent. 8. He is always creating a crisis.
Being loved and being tolerated is two different things.
Truth!
Trust actions that are consistent, never words. Inconsistency speak volumes.
I'm a man and I'm listening just for the teachings... I'm sure to get something positive out of this.
Appreciate your open mind and wanting to understand yourself as a man more.
Amen
Same here self improvement
Much respect to you!!!
@@sedrickgranger428 Much respect to you!!!
@@LoveWithin Thanks just trying to become a better me
Sisters, please take notes and be intentional about applying this teaching. 4 years ago I was so devastated by a narcissist. I was in so much pain in all areas of my life, until I cried out to God for instruction on how to heal, not just how to detect these life suckers. He put this Man of God in my YT timeline and I can see the changes. He knows what he is talking about and truly cares about us all. Thank you for this ministry.
Rebeca, I agree. I'm recovering from narcissistic abuse and getting better daily. We have to pray as well for other women to cultivate the courage to go to God and do their healing work. I'm also very grateful for Ministry of R.C. Blakes.😊
Thank you Rebecca , that’s me ( your story of being with a demonic sick narcissist , he is a wise man of God sent to us
Narcissist are horrifying, l am so happy I healed. It wasn’t easy and it took tears to heal. These videos are absolutely needed.
You are correct! I have ran a few narcissist men away and out of my life and they said I was gay and no man will ever want me.
@@Anetekonjo it took three years for me to heal. It was a painful process, but we must decide to heal because that pain is temporary. Staying stuck in the pain caused by a narc is a death sentence to the life you deserve to have; one full of peace and joy! Blessings
“Consistent language is the revelation of a person’s soul”
Cha-Ching 💪🏽
That was one if not my favorite statement RC said tonight 💯 So Rich 👑🖤 and profound if you're paying attention that's what we have to do if we expect the teachings we receive to work we must work and apply them...❤
@@OrchidTingz when he said that line right there I felt that fire. And I realized this man is a great gift to men and women everywhere. ❤️ Grateful to have found the path to the Blakes
@@MTortillaKitt I feel the exact same way I've been connected with RC for at least 3/4 years now this Ministry is invaluable to me and very much a part of my daily life I'm so much better as a person and a woman as a result of His teaching and ministry and as long as RC continues to teach I will be here ❤
"Consistent language is the revelation of a person's soul'. - R.C. Blakes
I enjoyed this..as a woman who never married or had children because of sinister and bad intentions.. I'm single for all the reasons you described. I would rather be alone than wishing I were alone and having to put up with bad intentions.
Yes I had 3 men like this. Never sgsin.
We have to heal our traumas so that we stop attaching ourselves to toxic abusi ve men
Love yourself ❤️
I completely agree with this
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Amen amen , so spot on - thank you for reminding us all ( especially us ladies ) we hold so much within and give and give and give
Oh my! This was so good. "Lord remove anyone that is not for me."
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AMEN!
Amen 🙏
AMEN!!!!
I prayed this and lost EVERYbody. 😂 I've never felt better, either. 😌
A man who loves and fear God will not treat you bad.
Sign 1. He makes you feel bad about yourself 10:24
Sign 2. He project himself onto you. 17:20
Sign 3. He keeps you chasing 25:54
Sign 4. He seems so nice 32:05
Sign 5. He is isolating you from safe relationship 37:38
Sign 6. His preview is not matching 42:47
Sign 7. He is always flattering you to the point of you being uncomfortable 45:06
Sign 8. He always creating for crisis 47:45
Ladies! Never give away your crown and kill your naivety
Thank you...whew!
Thank you, you're a goddess.
Thank you, girl. I love his videos but didn't have time for any rambling over an hour- long video today. 😩😂
Thank you so much!!❤
It's tempting to feel embarrassment knowing we women fall into continual traps set by toxic and insecure guys who are not even on our level of trying to get a true relationship with the Heavenly Father. I have to remember, sometimes being raised by wolves/ toxic males causes you to gravitate towards what you have seen in the past. . I truly appreciate this message! It taught me a lot. Thank you Heavenly Father! And thank you Mr. RC Blakes! All Praises to the Most High. 💯
Women can be VERY t0xic to men too.
Thank You for being my spiritual dad. I’m a 26 year old women that has had a rough life. I realized about 2 years ago I needed reparenting and prayed to god for answers and you were sent to me.
Ohhhhh baby. Same here ❤️ Love from Namibia 🇳🇦
God bless your journey and growth🙏🏽
Pastor Blake's is awesome, I saw him at a conference before the Pandemic.He is a true blessing.
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I only wish I would've had a teacher/father to instill this understanding in me when I was young. Now I'm 46 it took me 20+ years of relationships to even begin to understand the things RC teaches. You're way ahead of the game now❤️
A man's true nature, his instinct is too be a hunter, provider, Giver... That's a man's Nature.. anything else is rubbish...The times have changed, but a Man's instinct NEVER change. It's built in him.. Point Blank.
@@ccdm515 Right.. I’m a woman, but keep toward the non-feminist. Women are ruled by emotion and feminists will make you like them, making decisions and judgments by emotion instead of logic and reasoning. Stay true to yourself.
@@ccdm515 So true!
@@ccdm515 my mother was a stay at home too. But she had skills, hobbies and housework and children to teach and raise. She did not just sit at home and do nothing
Yes it is!!!! Everyone get a book on Amazon titled.... WE DON’T DATE FOREVER... WE GET MARRIED ❤️⭐️🙏🏽🙏🏼
@@ccdm515 I see what You are saying. Your dad babied or overprotected your mom. That was great that he was so good and loving to her 🙂. But he apparently didn't give her space to develop fully. There were housewife friends of my mom who could not drive or even write a check. Most if the time when their husbands died, they didn't know where the business was or what to do. My mom did the things I said which kept her productive. In addition to that my dad was a mechanic with his own garage. My mom was his bookkeeper. She also would set up vendor accounts for him and even run pick up parts for him some times. We would tag along. At this time, maybe You can teach your mom some of the things she does not know how to do. She is never to old to learn.
"Words are the containers of energy." That is brilliant. When people try to tell me that words don't matter, my reply is, "tell Joseph Goebbels that." For those who do not know of him, he was the propagandist for the Nazis in 1930s and '40s Germany. He, and the Nazis, knew how to use words. Indeed, words have the power to annihilate entire populations.
Thank you RC Blakes. I got a lot from your words.
I'm reading through the comments and I've observed that so many people needed to hear these words early on in their development and never got it. This man is the father every girl needs.
I experienced every eight signs with one man, finally realize I was a silly woman then, Now a wiser woman. Thank You God and R C Blake's Ministry 🙏🏿
-Controlling you like a slave
-Using you for your value
-Seeking to break your spirit
Felt like slave. Left early to go to work, came home late, paid the bills, and he required to give me to give him money. I tried to set a boundary that I wouldn't give him money if he didn't treat me right, with respect and stop swearing, but he did not respect my boundary. Did house work on weekends, and he started complaining I don't spend enough time with him.
@M M That is very dangerous advice to give a woman to say to such a deviant man. such men will then either verbally (berate her performance in bed), sexually (rape), physically (beat), or abuse or torture in a worse manner. That is poking the beast. Such talk is an act of war. The man may well maim or kill a woman for such an unexcusable counterattack.
Leave the man, if he's so bad &/evil-acting. Just like the Pastor said in the video. The kind of language which you are allowing is your life or death. This goes for the words you allow to come out of your own mouth. Two wrongs don't make a right. The words emanating from your mouth reveals the condition of your soul, the purity or the contamination.
Leave the abuser; don't channel him or his ways.
Life & death are in the power of the tongue.
And telling a woman to provoke an emotionally abusive man is poking an already on the offensive/defensive lion. All a woman should expect from doing so is negative, never anything good. Any 'I gotcha' self- she may get is of evil intent. And the retaliation by the man may be, in fact, become lethal.
Poking the beast just doesn't seem wise nor worth it, now does it?
Isn’t that what submitting means though?
You absolutely right
@@PyrPupMom this is slavery 🥺😰...can relate
Everything he said is true I no longer tolerate that behavior. The minute someone makes me feel uncomfortable or a man makes me feel uncomfortable or bad about myself I cutt that off immediately. Everything he said is true.
Yes so true.
I agree with you. And what’s made me see this behaviour as so wrong is by being exposed recently to the behaviour of decent men (not romantic partners - but friends and male colleagues who are just good, decent men, good husbands to their wives and good fathers to their children)
Same. And my friends call me mean. But they are miserable. I learned.
I've experience EVERY single point outlined in this message. I woke up, wised up, & I got out! Thank you Jesus
Me to , I did the same thing , my Jesus literally plucked me out of the net and rescued me from dying in all 3 ways ( physically, emotionally and spiritually from my x husband ,
Bless , same here , done got the trifecta ran on me and all the rest !! The Holy Spirit is our true friend ! We will NEVER be tricked again ! Amen 🙏🏾
I seem to be still in this nonsense...light bulb moment.....
I am in the thick of things and I want out.
The man I was with for 4 years did all these things you speak of to me. I was literally stuck with him during the Pandemic. I have tuned into you Pastor while he was still with me. It was as if I was hanging on for my life ! Your voice always calmed me and I knew you were speaking truth. I Thank GOD everyday for you and feel HIS Love coming through you. FOREVER grateful Pastor. ❤️
I was with a narcissist for 4 years who did ALLLLLLLLL 8 things Pastor Blakes spoke about .. it was not until .. I left the situation 10 months ago that I see what an evil man he was .. GOD LOVED US AND SAVED US FROM MORE WASTED AND PAINFUL YEARS .. BE BLESSED
Same and i left 1 year ago. Well not left more like escape now me and my children are so much happier
@@flowerfreedom7168 I am so happy to hear that .. you and your children deserve a happier , healthier , life with continued blessings ..👑🌹
@@breakthrough1019 thank you we even had to move far away but positive energy has brought us a good life suddenly evrything worked out .
@@flowerfreedom7168 Amen to new and beautiful Beginings I know that abuse all to well … peace is priceless
1. Talks Down To You.
2. Thinks He Is Better Than You.
3. Keeps You Chasing Something That Will Never Be.
4. Bad Intentions.
5. Isolating You From Friends & Family.
6. The Lifestyle Don't Match Who He Say He Is.
7. Love Booming.
8. Always Creating A Crisis.
These Are All Signs You Are Dealing With A Narcissist.
And A Narcissist Is Not A Good Man. Facts. 😇
I absolutely love how God has gifted you to educate and help women. You are truly to many a spiritual father that many of us have not had. Thank you.
His delivery is so raw, authentic and genuine.
He insulted me for 8 years. When I looked in the mirror all I could see was a monster. I got out. Finally. Now when I look in the mirror I say "hi beautiful" and give myself a smile. Men who destroy a woman are scary and must be avoided by all costs. The damage is so disturbing. They aren't worth our precious lives.
I like this teaching..I met this guy after two weeks he want me to get him a$200 Google play card now he wanted an iphone value 1300$ he start by saying his phone not working...he would only call asking about the phone.i feel like he is up to know good.thanks for the advise.
@@ivycampbell8778 oh hell no
@@ivycampbell8778 RUN !!!!!!
@@ivycampbell8778vee xdr
You are so spot on! I wish I had known this many years ago! I never knew how to set boundaries and as a child I was never allowed to say "no". I grew up as a broken queen. I married 2 narcissists and dated narcissists. They spent my money and at the age of 70 I'm divorced and free of these evil "men", really boys. I do still have my house 🏡 and car 🚗. I'm a retired RN. I've broken the soul ties 🙏. I'm free 🙏 but my life savings are gone 😭. Thanks for the amazing videos, otherwise I would be still in bondage. God bless you 😇
God bless you I’m positive whatever you loss will be recovered 🙌🏿🙏🏿
God bless you
Rhonda, reading your post has encouraged me. I have been married 3 times. All three of them were self-centered. It is great to be free. I am never going back.
@@blackgira7056 thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing! At 56 with an 11 yr old to raise, after 23 yrs with a narcissist , we’re homeless, but free from him. Your message gives me hope regardless of my age💖
Pastor Blake has a special place in his heart for humanity and especially for women.
Thank you so much
Amen
Great teacher Abt these men
Amen!
He hat3s men...He is NOT a real christian.
My GOD!! I needed this 7 years ago when my narcissistic ex isolated me from my family, by moving me to his state. He had every sign mentioned by Pastor Blakes. GOD removed me from that situation peacefully. 🙏🏽 Never, ever again!!! I’ve sought therapy, paid attention, asked questions, and moved slowly since then. I’m now Blessed with an amazing, loving, kind-hearted, masculine, & Spiritual man. ❤
This was my life, and it almost killed me-- physically, financially, and spiritually. It's a demonic spirit, and I've seen it play out in a whole family. The consequences are, sadly, far-reaching.
Pastor Blakes, you are so annointed by God to do this. I'm a hairstylist in Memphis and I tell my troubled ladies to check you out because us women need to be reminded of who and whose we are. May God overwhelmingly bless you and your family for your obedience. 🙏🏾👑
In Atlanta from Memphis and yes, so true
I smiled at this lovely comment!! AMEN🙏🏽🌅🤗
Let me tell you about my experience with $$
We were very young -21. He still lived with his sick mom. Who was an amazing person and his best friend. One day she died after a long and painful struggle with cancer and chemo..expensive chemo. They were in debt for it. So he lost his home and his mom. Inherited debt. Never asked me for a dime. I loved him and had an envelope prepared with as much cash as I could afford to give. I knew he needed it BADLY. But he didn't take it. And this is a 21 year old man. Many older have a lot to learn from him.
I can vouch for every word. I have had these guys for thirty years. Then I met friends who showed me I was with a narcissist. I learned all about it, I hardcore *studied* it and then I dissapeared from him. It's been a year now and I have during this year avoided one narcissist, one schizophrenic psychopath (no joke) and three other guys that werent good men. I sucked all the knowledge God gave me in and learned my lesson. I hope you do to.
Good for you! Thank you for posting
THANK YOU FOR SHARING ❤
Yes
To God be the glory!
Yes. .I am a little over a year out of a toxic situation. It is crazy making out here. My trust is shattered. I pray to heal the sickness in me that attracts this and that attracts me to this.
I love this and to be honest , while I'm watching I think 2 things. 1. I noticed these traits in old female friends and ex boyfriends and even ppl from work or church. 2. I noticed some of these traits in myself that have rubbed off on me . I'm in a season where I want to not only take responsibility for my actions but also pay attention to importance of bad company corrupting good character. So as I'm watching I'm reflecting
Father free us from evil men with evil intentions. The anointing and wisdom of God is truly upon this message. Help us to walk in your truth.
I went through all the 8 phases plus domestic abuse, low self esteem, high BP etc with my ex. Seperated for 5 years and now divorced last month. Since my separation from him, my life has improved, I feel free and better with more positive energy and able to focus more on my spiritual life, career, personal growth etc.
Bless you!
Me too!!
Such profound guidance and nurturing. Very much timely. Too often we become so lacking in ourselves, we believe the words of even predators. We become so blinded we miss all the red flags and bad intentions. Ladies, let us love our self a little bit more and don't see being single as a bad thing. Be patient in your pursuit of whatever you desire and be anxious for NOTHING...
So so true. When we are grounded in our faith and grateful for our blessings we see through eyes of clarity and have discernment.
AMEN 🙏
"Strung out on hope." That was a wow-factor revelation!!!✋✋✋
Praise God, thank you for your teachings.
Truth!! That stuck in my core as well.
I found church three weeks ago and now found you. Blessed be God and your work here on earth.
Thank you for your wisdom ❤️
I just ended things with a man that had all these signs. He didn't waste much of my time because I have been on a trauma healing journey for 2+ years. I thank God that I didn't meet him when I was broken.
Glued to my phone looking forward to this Bishop. Your messages are transforming SEVERAL lives around the world. I'm from Nigeria
Your page contains all the conversations I should have had with my dad. But he was too busy working to provide. He couldn't sit down with me and my sister's to hold these types of conversations with us. I'm 26. No kids, never married. being a single mother is my biggest fear. This is long and well said. I love this.
i’m 26, single & no kids as well & he has no idea how much his videos helped me wake up & move forward in my purpose! Such a blessing.
My Dad was only kind of around as I grew up, and only gets ahold of me when he wants or needs something from me. I take care of him , yet I also realize that a lot of my relationship issues with men started with this “distant dad” relationship. I’m still learning at 54… I suppose we’re never too old to learn and improve;)
O ya the crisis’ lol once week
@@gigi9301There is always room for improvement and more to learn. I am 59 and recently divorced. I was in a toxic marriage. But God......🙌🏽 God protected me and made a way of escape. I was outta there so fast. And I have my sanity and peace; they are priceless!!! God bless you!!! 🙏🏽❤️😇
@@avadonadelle2815 Thank you for your kind words and God Bless YOU as well;)).
2 nights ago while sleep in bed with a man God told me to leave months ago the devil attacked me through him. It was about 3am and I was praying and fighting in the spirit until he woke me up and started asking me questions. We have been going back and forth for months, breaking up, and him manipulating me back. But that demonic force attached to him scared the life out of me. I made him leave immediately. Y’all pray for me please.
Your words are gold!! Absolutely right on everything. I listened to this before I went out on my date last night. I remembered what you said about words and innocence that men try to portray. While this guy was telling me how sweet and wonderful he was to his last girlfriend your image popped into my mind. I remembered you saying if it’s sounding really good, you should slow it down, not speed it up. At the end of the night I let him know that there would be no sex now, or ever. Very interesting how everything came to light… lol. AND THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!! Thank you for helping me to escape a wolf in sheeps clothing. It was so hard since he is super hot, but I went through hell and back last year with a bad guy and lust is a LIAR. Screwed my life up over lust… never again!!!
I am a recovering impact from a narcissistic relationship and I had watched your videos videos many times and got to a point where I couldn't watch anymore but I decided to watch tonight and much stronger and you are 100% correct and everything you are saying are saying that is exactly what happened in my relationship Thank you for your dedication to this endeavor
Be careful, after you get out of these type of relationships it may cause you to feel numb to the world. Just going through the motions day after day. Turn to God.
this is accurate. I went through the numb phase. still working my way out of it.
Numb is the perfect word. I don’t look at humanity the same anymore..
My Grandfather told me a long time ago the first time a man asks for money or things (like your car) RUN!
Bow out quickly
I met an African fellow recently. He wrote a book on prayer and I saw the book for myself. People will do anything to let you think they are close to God. I met him for dinner and we had to wait. The fellow asked me if I want to go sit at the bar and wait. I do not drink. I saw that as a big turn off. After dinner, he asked me if I am coming to his house and it was getting dark. This was a big turn off too. I blocked him. I do not believe he is right with God at all, Let God lead you, ladies. Stop being desperate for a no good man.
Why are people just blocking?? Does anyone explain their feelings and expectations anymore? Or we all need to read minds
Im in literal tears...keep showing up for it. You are describing exactly what i just went through. This is exactly why i stopped telling people my trauma.
Thank you Pastor for this message. I just got out of a relationship that was toxic. Thank God , I feel so much better.
I'm pregnant and going through this right now. While I see everything for what it is please pray for me.
I got you, 🙏🏽 I’ll be praying sis, GOD has you in His hands
How about just using the door 🤷🏽♀️
@@reneehamilton5450 thank you
@@amerokeewiya1320 under my circumstances If you knew detail you would be understanding to why but I just ask that you'd pray for me if not that's OK God Bless you
Hold on darling! It's not easy but the Lord will see you through. It's a tough but I pray that the Father will keep you and the baby in the palm of His hand. Stay in the Word, in prayer and where possible connected to a supportive community (if you have one). 21 years on... Still walking and watching the last child growing up into a wonderful young woman... It will be alright! Walk on baby girl and fix your eyes on Jesus Christ. Cry, wail and call out to your Father in Heaven... He will provide for you and your baby
I dated a divorce man who tried to break my spirit and control me. He was very toxic l. I now know that he was sent by the enemy.
Same here & never again will I date an divorce man . He is very broken from his previous marriage & child hood trauma & he need therapy bad . I ranned away because I have child hood trauma myself & no kids & got past wounds I gotta deal with as well too
Some people just worse than others
@@aurastarlight2821 your story sounds like mine he is 55 way older than me I found out he’s still married to his first wife!! The thing’s I found out LAWD it made my stomach hurt I’m over him! He’s hurt me off and on for 8 year’s of my life I’m over it stay strong beautiful!
@@redbone8844 thank you so much . Amen 🙏
If there’s a will there’s a way ❤️💪🏾
You stay strong a well & Everything will work it self out . God bring us somebody that’s compatible for us .
PhD women paying for GED men...LORD it's seriously a pandemic of it's own
Yesssss!! God open our eyes!! We deserve so much better, yet we don't have a clue. Desperation during Isolation....
Desperate Non-Housewives!!
OMG!! You just described the guy I am dealing with now. It's all about him, what he wants from me & I'm sick of him. Thanks for this word.👏🏾
Have you left yet?
@teresatatum2287 Oh! yes! It's almost a year now & he thought I would never leave because he was so fine, "a model " looks ain't everything, I like men with substance.
So true. I went through this...he actually said to me "you are lucky" (that I was with him), to which I said "excuse me?" and he goes on to repeat...I just said "And me thinking I didn't hear you well the first time". These days men see themselves as prize. Ridiculous! They don't get a pass on that from me.
I wish I had this information a decade ago, I surely wouldn't have married this man. We are now divorced, but I am recovering from all of this. All the flags were there! But we live and we learn and grow. All of these hit home for me! I thank God for you and this message. Thank you Bishop Blakes.... His crisis always became "us" crisis, was tied up for a decade... But I am free now!!! Not my problem!
Generations of women will benefit from this message!! Thank you!!👏👏👏
We need to start praying over every relationship in our lives so God can reveal the truth! If you cant pray with me you cant stay wit me!
God bless sis. But be careful with that because even the praying ones can have this type of demonic spirit and praying at the sametime.
@@shanita9884 this is why we pray and fast that the holy spirit break every yoke and God does. The lord did not give us the spirit of fear but prepares my hands for war
@@clare2002 Amen Sis. So beautiful how God works
I am so glad to be hearing this today and realised that my current relationship is nothing else but abuse😢
Get out as fast as you can, it's not worth it. Blessings
The worst part of it all for some of us who had stayed too long is that we gaslight ourselves to accept abuse. @chrishoudoul96 please get out you're so worth more!
This message is anointed! Thank you Pastor.
Pastor Blakes, there is not enough money in the world to be able pay for these valuable WISDOM FILLED videos!!! THIS is a video not just for romantic relationships but for all relationships, partnerships, business connections and networks. I really appreciate all your God-led wisdom in all your videos. It has made me think about my life and how I can improve it by focusing on myself! God bless you!!!
Brilliant comments 🎉
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Thank you! To God be the glory!!
Thank you! To God be the glory!!
Thank you! To God be the glory!!
Thank you! To God be the glory!!
Almost 2 years "single" and there no lies in this video . Been single and dating men for the last year. I thank u for this wisdom!!
Hello Pastor Blakes I made a lot of mistakes but now am learning from you. I just never knew or was ever taught these things about some men. Thank you and please keep teaching us in Jesus name amen! Be Blessed!
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This is so accurate!
I experienced this for years in a marriage.
I wish I heard this years ago before I became damaged from this. I didn’t see through the charming persona, deceptive intentions, isolation, Trauma bonding, Toxic
You don’t have to be religious to know the truth when you hear it. This is one of the best, and f not the best videos out there, made simple for all women to overstand. Thank you for this message, in my humble opinion, it is 100 percent on point.
You described my daughter's father to a T. I was in a fog for 7yrs trying to understand why I couldn't get anywhere with the "relationship". I've been out for nearly 5yrs and I'm beyond grateful for finding you Pastor. God bless you for spreading the knowledge! Please keep these conversations coming as they have helped tremendously in my healing. ❤
There should be more men listening to this discussion!
Why? The kind of men he's talking about would only up their game even more.
@@marysmith861 exactly
Everything you have just explained I just went through with some man I had met. I knew he was up to no good. I walked away fast actually ran. This is revelation thank you Pastor
I was fighting to defend and protect myself and I am a single mother so this was evil and i made he did not move in at all however he spent nights and the truth started showing such a liar and his parents knew however stayed quiet this behavior is toxic go thing I ran after a few months . Wished I left sooner!
I'm ready to stay single forever.. I was for 7yrs, learned alot... forget alot, ended up with a situation ship, not toxic, but not ideal... I knew better, broke it off, the man left with ease like he was waiting for it... never said a word... im not sure good men exist anymore.... we live in some really challenging times where it's so easy to be anything but genuine, loyal, good hearted... its just sad.
What a great message. When someone shows you who they are. Please know this is true.
Amen. Red flags must not be ignored! Not even temporarily. Take a stand or make an exit, quickly when necessary!!😉⚓😇.
What a word....ty for confirming what the holy spirit was trying to tell me for long time! Your teachings kept me while I cried many nights, I truly ty. I can see the sun shining more and more each day. Ty pastor!
Beautiful Amen.
Ditto. Blessings to you❣
I found you on RUclips by accident. Now I WANT to listen to you every day on my way home from. Just went through a very bad and painful break up at 53! I should know better! You are heaven sent! I thank God for you every day!
It wasn't a accident ❤
This is an on time jewel. To keep me motivated not to give this person no more of my time. Truth well spoken 👏🏾
Ditto 🎯
I love the way you speak with a calmness . You are peaceful and you are in no hurry and I love that. I have been through 2 marriages that were toxic relationships. It took me till 64 years old to understand why I went through all of this abuse. The last marriage I believe God brought me into that marriage for a reason and God brought me out for a purpose. I am learning through leap’s and bound’s to learn to love myself. Through videos as yours for me to go forward to a better life and set boundaries for the first time in my life. Thank you so much for helping me . I prayed and God led me to you. God bless you and your family and friends 🌹
This is what our young people need to know, before they are ready for the world ; ready to choose a friend , an acquaintance or a mate . God bless Bishop Blake .
Thank You for educating us women raised in an abusive family. You are helping to raise a worthy women 🙏🙏🌈🌈
Yes! The wisdom a father would teach a beloved daughter. I don’t know anything about that, so indeed, praise the Lord for bringing this message to us. Thank you so much sir!
You are our RUclips Dad! If my Dad were here; he'd applaud you. You have and are teaching, touching, changing, enriching and empowering SO MANY women. I thank God for the ability to hear you work through this platform. Thank you! 🤗❣
Superb content! "PhD women manipulated by GED men!" Oh man!
Thank you for your encouraging insight. For the past 30 years, I've believed my husband and I had a soul bond. You've now given me the clarity that what I've been feeling all this time was actually the soul tye as I've recently checked out and walked away from him and his toxic abuse. I'm already feeling a lot better within myself. My moods and my energy vibration are returning to a higher level than when it was living with him.
I see so many women who take it all on themselves, raising children, a job, bills, the housekeeping, just everything. What in Gods name made us feel like we need to do all this??? This mindset is crazyness!!!
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i'm out from a relationship after 15 yrs. His promises remains as promise. I feel alive again after God pulls me out from my situation
I needed to hear this message! Pastor RC Blakes you are talking to me. I’ve been watching for a while but was scared/ashamed to comment! Recently out of a 24 year relationship. All 8 signs you mentioned happened to me. I didn’t know what I was dealing with it. I just learned what narcissism is. I loved so hard that I lost myself to where I didn’t know who I was. He isolated me from family and friends. I’m the only child. I have 1 child with the Narc which is 21 years old and he tried to fight our son in front of a coworker and her husband due to being drunk. I still have triggers especially when he pulled a firearm on me on 3/29/21. I struggle with sleeping. I will Never love someone more than I love myself! It’s sickening just talking about it.
@Kim C, thank you for sharing your personal journey thus far. May the Lord keep & strengthen your heart. Walking away is NEVER easy, but you were brave and took a leap of faith! Keep on, keeping on sis
@Kim C - you are now on your journey to healing and peace. I too am now out of a 29 year relationship which started when I was 17. Never heard the word narcissism until a few years ago. Could never understand the back and forth, personality changes, dissapearances, and all the other narcissists traits. He then maliciously involved all the authorities with lies. I've been to hell and back and still standing strong. Pastor Blakes & Lisa was shared by one of my girlfriends (who attended the last Queenology in Atlanta!) and has been a pillar of strength from I started watching, to this very day. It will take time, you will cry, you will ask yourself how, you will get low but you will get there, and when you do...... no one will ever take you there again. 🙏🏾 An exciting future awaits! 😘
@Lex 27 Thank you❤️ It truly hurts!
@smithyjah Thank you Beautiful❤️! I have good days/ rough days. It still bothers me how can a person mistreat when all you had was good intentions. I was always told be careful how you treat people. I pray peace over your life during your healing journey ❤️
You overcame this misery and I am proud of you Kim C now take back what is your Freedom start new I am
I needed this 17 years ago. It could have saved me from wasting my time with a Narc. All the signs are in your description. Too good not to share..