TIME TO MOVE ON! Let’s Talk About How by RC Blakes
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“You’re not grieving the person, you’re grieving the disappointment and loss of hope.” Wow.
Yes that touched my soul!🙏🏾❤️
😆😆😆 the same things that'll make you 😊 will also make you 😭
☝️🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏
Yes Lord I'm moving on.
POWERFUL 🙏🏼
And sometimes the part where “God has something better for you” ain’t the love of another person. It’s the love of you, loving yourself.
❤️
And letting our hope come from father , son & holysprit!
Powerful wisdom right there ☺️
What a blessing. Thank you for this message.🙌
This right here is the comment for me
Its amazing how God will use a 2 year old message to give u confirmation. Gods timing is everything
Exactlyyyyyyyy 💯❣️🙏🏾
Keep your emotions private and burry it, grieve it , walk away !! No conversation, no contact PERIODT. The closure you need is from within 💜 Get your joy back hallelujah and live a healthy peaceful life not full of bitterness from the past
Amen I totally agree I needed to here this . Thank you Jesus Hallelujah!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
I played this message 3 times yesterday and decided to release him , I went to dance class and danced him out of my system and as soon as I got back home he called me, trying to flirt knowing fully well he just wants to keep me in his "Just incase" box, he doesn't really want me in his life or he would put me there. . for the 1st time I felt NOTHING! I usually cry after he calls, I felt nothing. I'm so very grateful for you and this message. Thank you!!!!!
I’m in this situation
@@lorenzo2074 a covert narcissist did this to me and discard me with no closure and remorse after getting the ego bloost and manipulations. I was in a situationship
❤️🙏🏾
My now exhusband cheated, got his side chick pregnant with twins…just born in July. He would still come to my house for whatever & flirt with me. What the hell is that???? Maybe he wanted to keep me around just in case. Telling me he wants to come home. Well sir, this isn’t your house anymore! 😂✌️
Proud of you sis! I felt that part about keeping you just in case, smh. I blocked him, cause that's all he's gonna do is talk his way back in. No thank you Buddy!!
“Sometimes you have to be able to feel the pain, cry the tears, and still make the right decision.”
Letting go when you know you deserve better is the most difficult part.
I keep hoping he'll change...4 years later...why??? Why stay???
I need to go to therapy
@@hopppy54 I think it’s because we have a piece of our heart to them and it hurts to walk away without it….fortunately God will fill that missing piece with his Love!!
After the grieving though, in your heart, you know you deserve more. Is he capable of loving you in a way that is satisfactory to you? It hurts when you love someone, and you are in a different book in another chapter. What positives did he bring to you? What could have you done better? Most importantly, how did you evolve in knowing this person? Did you learn about more boundaries for a healthier relationship? How do you want to be treated? The man I fell in love with gave me hope, even though we were wrong for each other. For that, I am truly grateful. Keep on keeping on! Best wishes on your journey.
Moving on hurt so much all wen u no the person is not the right one...but u just have to ask god for help believe it's better being by your self than with someone that's not for you ..... because if u don't let go and let god that pain will come one way are the other because that person is not for u
@@hopppy54 men change for who they WANT to change for.
"The person that broke me cannot heal me, I am above the treatment I have allowed and this hurt will not last!" Hallelujah! 👏🏾👏🏾 thank you Jesus ❤
😊truth ...
AMEN!!
No baby, they did not break you.
13:40 “Truth is the most painful blessing”
15:05 “Because you don’t want anybody to disrupt this fantasy of a situationship that you’re trying to create”
15:25 You need a purely objective truth “you cannot separate freedom from truth”
18:30 “you got to pay attention to the thoughts you’ve always ignored”
20:20 “you got to be able to feel the pain, cry the tears and still make the right decision”
21:15 “you’ve been lying to yourself too long”
22:30 “you playing the role of a side chick bae”
24:30 “you sitting around here losing your whole life to a situation that you should never even entertained”
25:40 “grieve the disappointment, you’re not grieving the individual, you’re grieving the lost hope”
26:55 “You need to grieve the lost hope because you had a whole lot of hope in this thing that it would be exactly what you desired it to be that it would be what you needed it to be and it turned out to be a lie, now you have to grieve it”
28:04 “you grieve it to finalize in your mind that is dead”
30:14 Anchor yourself in dignity/privately vent your emotion/you got to bury it psychologically where it needs to be and then you walk away from it (cancel them)
34:26 “You must create your own closure” (you need them to answer this for you/the idea the same person that opened the wound is the one that’s going to close the wound: finding ways to interact)
39:40 “The person that broke me will not heal me, I am above the treatment I’ve allowed and my hurt will not last”
43:00 “Revisit and reinvest in your vision” (Invest in you/do the things you always wanted to do/you need a revelation of you/remember your goals before you were distracted)
45:00 Summary
46:26 “Calm down and wait on God” stop being driven by your emotions/stop expecting men to do what only God can do. IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON, THIS THING IS DEAD, LET’S BURY IT.
@The REAL Truth Army oh, those were just my highlights in a difficult time of my life last year when I needed to move on from a situationship. Every time I felt weak I came back to this video and I found the strength (and the punch in the face as well) to “survive” and face the reality. It really opened my eyes.
Thank You ♥️
Thank you ❤
Thanks for capturing this words. Now I have a list in front of me to look at til Im healed.. 🙂👍
Thank you
"The closure you need is from within." You never need a toxic person who has done nothing but waste your life and time, to give you closure.
He once said something along the lines of "why are you looking for closure from the one who opened the wound in the first place?" It stuck with me.
@@florencepl4343 exactly. R.C. has a gift for using words in a concise but powerfully descriptive way.
Thank you for this message!
The Lord is trying to tell me something 🎶
Thank You Abba & Thank You Pastor for allowing The Holy Spirit to move you to shift the atmosphere.! 🕊🔥
Yes find you someone to love I'm not the one move on she's out there
Went to the park by myself today and in the car had a revelation that I was not alone. I had GOD with me. Who is better than Him??? No one!! Wasn't lonely and it was a beautiful day spending time with GOD!
It’s the Only way. Single or married. Divorced or engaged. God is a jealous God, anyway.
Isn’t it the best when you get it. When you realize God is right here .I Love him so much and spending time with God it’s peaceful and fun.❤️Enjoy yourself Little Lamb
Please be alert for carjackers. ready to deal with them instantly. The devil is busy 24/7.
Amen
I understand that comment i feel the very same The Lord is my constant companion and I talk to him daily like he was beside me Love him and your comment
No matter the situation never let your emotion over power your intelligence ✨ I always tell myself this pastor
“I’m above the treatment that I’ve allowed and my hurt will not last. “ 🙏🏽
“Sometimes you have to feel the pain, cry the tears, and still make the right decision.” - RC Blakes
Been there! It was hard to do but I pushed through with the help of God. I refuse to stay in a unhealthy relationship or fight to stay in one. That’s pure nonsense to me. It’s not a good feeling. I’d rather hurt for awhile while MOVING ON!!!
Amen!
Love it, gotta put me first
Well said I am in a process of making that decision
DON'T CLIP YOUR WINGS TO GO CRAWL WITH THEM!
Deep!
Okrrrr
Amen sister!❤
Don't he be preachen! 😊❤
Absolutely... testify!
God said that “Ye shall know the TRUTH and the Truth shall make you FREE”.
I’m Catholic and I follow you. I don’t listen to religious freaks I listen to wisdom and those that help me navigate through life. I listen to people who speak or the spirit and God.
Same. Im Catholic as well and I can recognize wisdom within others. God’s truth and message will always shine even outside Catholicism.
I was at mass one Sunday and our Priest said in his homily sometimes God speaks through others,are you listening? Yes as Catholic we know when Holy Spirit is at work for those who serve. 🙌🙏🏻
Catholic here as well and I love not to mention LEARN so much from Pastor Blakes❤
“Sometimes.... you’ve got to be strong enough, to rescue yourself”...
Sometimes you’ve got to be able to feel the pain, cry the tears......and STILL make the right decisions!✨🙌🏽✨
Yes!! Think it through in spite of error joining to a ungodly soul tie! Don't focus on your mate but, look to the Lord. Allow him to bring you out!! It's ministry though. All things shall work out for the good, from the only one who is good!😉. (Romans 8:28). Wait on the Lord. Trust Him with your lives. Our first love. Was just studying the letters to the 7 churches. Concentrate on the Lord. He always has a plan. Apologize, repent to Him. Be about the father's business. Refocus!! BE RESTORED ⭐
All facts... ALL FACTS!
You really have to rescue yourself... I felt that in my spirit 🙏🏽
Thank you for the truth yes
@@patriciawilliams5519 Well said! Ameeeeen!!! 👏👏👏👍👍👍
" Grieve the disappointment. You're not grieving the INDIVIDUAL but the lost hope " this is so liberating
Gurl!How profound
#THIS 🎯🙌🏾
Thank you rc blakes for everything I appreciate you and Lisa thank you for everything ❤ 💗
Preach someone who broke you cant heal you
Thanks for making me think more of myself.
I'm going through it. So true, my husband left me for another and ran away from his responsibilities, and ran his mouth that all I did was complained and nag. When all I did was pay all the bills, took care the house and the kids while he was filled with excuses. Since I put my foot down and I know my worth my value and listen to worship music and to your preaching I'm called difficult! I'm called money hungry! No... it's because the truth came out he was using me! I had to take matter in my own hands!
Proud of you !! Tremendous blessings are coming your way ❤️ keep on trusting
You cannot change those in the world 🌎 You Can only change Yourself! Self love 💕 and self Care is a necessity . And Never try to figure out why progress are damaged. It has nothing to do with you. A damaged person will always be damaged, You don’t have to worry about his choices. Why, because you cannot control any human being except yourself ❤
I am coping with the disappointment but rather suffer in my heart ♥️ than to suffer in my spirit. -my Motto
🤗 im proud of u...u right that is what he was doing he was going to do what he was going to do anyways...u just don't waste anymore of your life! Im proud of u u was doing it yourself anyways at least u free now 🙌🏽🙏🏽
"Get this yoke off of your neck!" I FELT that. THE PERSON THAT BROKE ME WILL NOT HEAL ME. I'm above the treatment I've allowed and my hurt will not last. AMEN
“The person that broke me will not heal me. I’m above the treatment that I’ve allowed and my hurt will not last.” Amen 🙏🏽
I posted those three statements on my bathroom mirror as RC suggested and I swear in just one ☝🏻 24 hour period speaking that over myself and seeing it ... God changed my mindset!
A M E N 🙏
Amen 🥰🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen!!! Writing ✍🏽 this on my mirror 🪞 as a daily reminder!!
It is not even about loving ourselves, it is about respecting the value that God has given us.
Amen
I like this comment - simple and deep.
WOW DARLING YOU SAID A MOUTH FULL.... TO GOD BE THE GLORY
You are the value and self love is fulfillment of law
Amen and Amen!
This touched my soul. Once I began to love myself. Truly love myself. I stopped worrying about a relationship. I concentrate on myself. Me!!! The more I’m in love with me, the better I feel… When I love me, that means I’m not broken anymore. I can discern, from right from wrong. I can choose a healthy loving partner. That knows I love me. I’m still not rushing into a relationship but when and if it happens I will be ready.
Amen sista 🙏🏽 🤗
Hallelujah!!!!
Me too I’m moving with patience this time and working on me.
“The person that broke me will not heal me. I am above the treatment I’ve allowed and my hurt will not last.”
My new daily prayer/mantra. Thank you 😊
They didn’t break You they made you stronger. I think there are too many toxic damaged mental men out here. Women be wise and cautious and love yourself enough to protect your peace and nurture your spirit ❤
"The person that broke me will not heal me. I am above the treatment I've allowed and my hurt will not last."
☝This
Thank you for this video Pastor
Amen 💙
Amen🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
That is the best statement I have heard!! and it’s so true 🙏👍❤️
That's so good I am putting it on a post it and putting it on my bathroom mirror to be mindful! Thank you
Amen. I forgive them and cleanse my heart and mind. Be released. Making room for the one god has!! Do not waste anymore emotions, words, energy!! Cut Off. Flee, Run, Avoid. He, they do not belong in our space. On evil assignment. By my own allowance, or error! Jesus forgives and so shall we!! Take back your power. Responsibility. Trouble nor weeping will last always. It has an expiration date, time😉💎👑
I was just a paycheck to my ex husband. I didn’t want to believe it for years. He left me to sleep around and sow his wild oats six months ago. It’s one thing when someone lies to you, it’s a whole other thing when you lie to yourself. This video is the truth.
Omg my husband only wanted money from me. I worked he did then stopped soon after we married. 5yrs I did it all. And he would get mad when I refused to hand over money. I didn't want to admit it. I was embarrassed 😳. But I left. I prayed God if this isn't you let him end it. Within a week he broke up with me. Then he tried to come back a week after. I refused and moved on.
And maid. Don't forget the built in maid part
You're not alone... going through something similar
I feel you
Thank you pastor God bless you , I am going through the same situation and this sermon has been a source of strength to me . Aldis
I was definitely lying to myself. I gave more chances than necessary, with each time a circumstance getting worse or argument blowing up. I finally made the decision to leave and move on. I’m a mom and have to set the proper example for my child. We share this child, but now refuse to keep going through dysfunction. The love I constantly poured out started going into myself. I need this time to be completely alone and be next to God, and not put anyone on a pedestal before Him. All lessons learned and now being applied.
Correct!!! I filled for divorce. I got post separation alimony. And when it’s over I will have half of two pension s and substantial marital property.
I started watching and I started working on myself. God healed me while he was grinning and cheesing in his ladies faces.
I told him I was leaving last year after 25 years but he didn’t listen…Good riddance 🎉🎉🎉
Lol now who’s grinning. Good for you!
Congratulations 🎉 you are not alone. This is so good! Same amount of time vested.Ive forgiven myself and finally feel good about moving on!
“...You grieve it, then you have the funeral...anchor yourself in dignity...”Pastor Blakes
This break down of the word is all meat
Amen sister...
Amen. I had the funeral yesterday. Now I'm grieving but at peace. And peace is priceless.
“Sometimes you ain’t got no superhero to rescue you…Sometimes you got to be strong enough to rescue yourself.”
My mantra for each day
Ive always felt it important to be brave and courageous to make the right decisions, knowing that my life is precious and God has a purpose for me. No matter the disappointment and hurt Im accountable to live my best life and staying in God’s will.
I agree. Then you walk with God and walk out together.
My Dad is no longer here, and when I need that life lesson, I seek God and go to your channel. You're a blessing. ❤
I needed this message. Thank you. I have been ready to move on. My biggest hurdle is finding a place to live. I pray for protection that when I leave, he won't harm me. I'm ready to move on with my life and away from him. I'm ready to get my light back and be able to shine for others. Amen.
😢
🙏🏽🤗
Don't let that stop you. Keep lookin for it.. Seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be open unto U. You mean business... trust the Lord he will give you the desires of your heart. And find a place just for you..😇🙌🏾🙏🏾🙋🏾♀️
I am proud of You! 👏🏽 You can’t change others You Can only change your Self ❤
When your companion (marriage/relationship) is a constant source of weighing you down/hurting and pulling you down, he/she isn’t for you! Walk away peacefully and reclaim your life in God’s path and happiness❤️🙏🏾
Yes Amen 💖🙏😇🐧💯🦀⏳😊
Thank you!!! I needed to hear this🙏🏼💔
Come on Mrs Lady
Amen! My husband only brings me down! No more!
I agree with you to the utter most! No! Your walk is where you should be.Your happiness IS WHAT GOD IS PULLING YOU TO. PRAISE JESUS🙌🏿 HOLY HANDS. . MY SAVIOR DELIVERD ME FROM ALL THAT PHONEY SHINE- YOUR HAPPINESS IS JESUS🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
When you find yourself in situations like this.. God will make it so uncomfortable that you will move away from whatever is making you feel this way. Keep praying and stay watchful
I broke out, something was burrowing into my skin as well. I became dehydrated with severe bags under my eyes from how dry and hot it's home was, I would itch so badly that scratching made me bleed. Anxiety was so bad and the Most High was telling me that situation is was not for me. Could only be in it's house for 2 days otherwise the above stuff would happen
I stays home now. No more itching, puffy eyes etc. I am at peace
Talk to me, Pastor! This is me 😢, I'm not even married to the man. Everything you said is about me, and it's the truth, but I'm no longer sleeping. Thank you for the truth!
Mr. Blakes, you posted this video a year ago, but I’m so grateful it was here for me TODAY. THANK YOU for the work that you and Lisa do. You are changing my life by speaking in plain, logical english. Your channel is a timeless legacy! So valuable!!
DITTO ❤
FACTS, I was told to work on my marriage, I was married to a Narcissist, and he was violent! I finally got away. God never had me in that situation, I put myself into that.
Yes im going thru this noe.hes very violent broke court orders.first fear was guiding me,but then i was on my hands and 2 hours scream God please redemption, grace something show me your real get me freed.Man he showed me 2 days later.whoo all the times i left God but he still carried me out of the gaps amen.THANK YOU SO MUCH RC
I've been there. I was so unhappy. Every one kept saying work it out. God wasn't in it. I stayed longer than I should have. Finally I divorced. And happy I'm not with him.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Sending, Prayers, Love and Light Queen. May God pour blessings upon blessings onto you and your family.
I deceived myself
I know so many people doing that! It's sad too! Married and not married. Life is too short to be unhappy!
Now wait a minute. This is a prophetic word for me right now. I literally just broke off a relationship with someone who lives in a friend's basement. And Pastor specifically said you want to go to the penthouse and they satisfied with the basement. If I wasn't at work right now I would shout. I held onto their relationship for so long because I didn't want to look like a failure. I didn't want to be alone. I was being abused 3 ways and still hung in too long. This is a word!
@@lala5061 sounds like me 3 kids 21 yrs. marriage, left my house running around with the kids, I too thought about giving in. I really feel like that would be giving up though. Thank you for sharing that. We're not alone. God bless you sister we gone have a testimony real soon in Jesus Name Amen
Girrrrrrl! This is for you!!!!
@@lala5061 stay strong! You got this!
Steer clear of men and basement living
Truth is freedom! Peace and blessings to you on your healing journey. Never turn back. The path forward is so grand and the yoke is light.
I'm not a religious person but I have been listening to your videos. When I run in the morning your words (that are inspired by God) are very encouraging and truthful. You're doing a good thing brotha! Keep it up. Respect.
Truth is the most painful blessing- RC. Blakes
"Grieve this thing" Hurts when you wanted something so bad. 💔
But happiness comes in morning, girl and you going to feel so wonderful later♥️♥️♥️♥️😊
@@elaineturner2941 can't see it but I hope and pray. Regret of a bad decision can be the worst.
Don't live in regret💎⚓. Jesus loves you so much more than anyone. Certainly someone who doesn't appreciate or demonstrate having your best at heart!! Grieving over someone who's breathing still and not worried about you, NO! You're better than that. Know your worth. He's not for you. Keep Reminding Yourself. Love doesn't leave you and wound you!!⭐😇. Let Go and trust, obey and wait on the Lord!! So many of these men are users, and wicked! He has someone who will lead you and cover you into purpose!!!⚓
@@patriciawilliams5519 You don't know how much I needed ALL of those words.When you see the 👿 you have some guards up but when the come like charming angels then switch when you're hooked is something will have one questioning reality.I receive all you said and pray that day comes soon.❤️
❤❤❤❤❤
" The person who broke me will not heal me" wow, this is pure wisdom. He [God] is the source, He is the deliverer. This has been powerful.
q8
Yes, Great message 😇
@@alfredasprings6476 Jon
Exactly!!! I had to learn this. It’s funny because one of the men who broke me deceived me stole from me!! Was named DC the initials of his first and last name!!😮
oOOOOOOOO
“People who tell U you’re right when you’re really wrong are ENEMIES”…..Wow!! Now that was a Word there!! 😲🤔
You my man are one smart individual....I listen to you when I am falling asleep but I fight to stay awake so I don't miss anything....
I was a donkey, in a narcissistic 27 year relationship. He supported this and thrived on me being less than. My ignorance allowed this. Now I'm 51, no career raising my 11 year old alone finding out he's had numerous affairs and I'm working going to school and living with my mom. He's got a younger wealthy girlfriend who he wants to start a new family with. I supported him when he had not, he grew his $ and career to leave me and give to another. I turn to Jesus. I live for him first now.
I am so happy you left this toxic relationship. Time to focus on yourself and your child. It’s never too late to start over. I wish you well
Great decision and God will see you through victoriously
His time will come beloved
@@skknnn1859 Amen
It will not last.. karma is real.. continue to focus on your goals and your baby..
A real man of God who truly cares about God's daughters!
Purposeful and Powerful Words!
In my situation it wasn’t a physical but he was killing me mentally and emotionally abusing me.
It understand just what you went through, I'm away from it but got to heal the open wounds. Bless you.
@@HD-xb9mj I am healing every day ❤️
Exactly what I am going through now
@@Pootietang67 I'm getting there🙏🏾
@RC Blakes Jr What is the woman’s name
The person that broke me will not heal me. I am above the treatment I have allowed and my hurt will not last. “
My mother and sister is always accusing me of being too impatient and judgmental. This has led me to stay and put up with bad characters because I couldn't separate whether or not it was me being judgmental or they are just bad. Plus, my mother and sister would just tell me to be patient. After this year, it dawned on me that my mother and sister NEVER had my back and were always envious of me. Yes, YOUR OWN FAMILY CAN BE ENVIOUS OF YOU AND SECRETLY HOPING YOU FAIL. That's why they were always leading me to make bad decisions. My mom has passed a long time ago but how I came to find out that my sister is envious is because I started noticing her reactions. Whenever I was happy about something, she'd accuse me of being too gullible, bragging, and she'd instill a lot of doubt. Whenever something bad happened to me and I was upset, she'd start preaching about patience, understanding, and for me to look at how I may have inadvertently contributed to it. She was never supportive of my feelings.
This word is very fitting for us men as well, who like wise have been hurt by toxic women n wives. Thank u for these principles of recovery.
“Sometimes. you’ve got to be strong enough, to rescue yourself”
Sometimes you’ve got to be able to feel the pain, cry the tears..and STILL make the right decisions!
Amen 🙏🏼❤️
"Most of us make the mistake of investing everything before we read the fine print!" That statement reminds me of a quote my professor recited: "Do you know the difference between education and experience? Education is when you read the fine print; experience is what you get when you don't." -Pete Seeger
I know that it's not by mistake that this channel showed up on my feed some months ago! Thank you very much.
True warning wearing rose colored glasses.
I'm a Christian and totally agree with you. Thank you, this is really critical information. The church has really ruined millions of lives because they do not encourage common sense or consider Proverbs and other scriptures that are clear on what kind of people to avoid and rebuke and that we are to love ourselves. Pastors do not understand this and do don't preach on it because they say women should be more submissive, obey their husbands, put up with any and all bad treatment, except for adultery and being left by an unbeliever. That is ignorant, dangerous, ludicrous and uses no common sense whatsoever! The church unfortunately has kept many women in longterm, abusive situations. You are helping to change that and set women free with these videos. I need to listen to this every day! God bless
I love the book Queenology. It has unlocked things inside of me, changed my mindset, negative self talks, and negative thinking. I praise the Lord for what you are doing and how he is using you to help us! I am growing spiritually and gracefully into the queen that I am. I have released the toxicity in my life and I have joy because of it😊! No longer under the bondage of oppression and depression. I am set free and those chains no longer have me bound! Thank you so much! God bless!
Calm Down & Wait On God...🙏🏽
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“When your mind is trying to talk you out of what is purely common sense, you have to talk with yourself and have the strength to rescue yourself” - Preach Pastor Blakes!
Wish I could give Pastor Blakes and this video one million likes . What a POWERFUL message!!!!!!!
Thank you Pastor Blakes..... you are greatly appreciated !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes I did calm down and wait on God. The message is real. Thanks Pastor.
I was ready to die in my dead marriage, I felt like I had a life sentences over my life and I would never be free... Pastor Blakes after 17yrs marriage im free im 60yrs and im living my best life now, because im free....
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I feel like that, you give me hope 🙏
That was me in my marriage!!! Got a divorce and totally found myself. It’s been such a beautiful journey
I've been there..freedom is better
I'm still struggling to get out mine and it has been very painful. Seeing the truth is painful but necessary. This video gives me light. At the same time your words give me hope. Thank you and God bless everyone.
Feel the pain, cry the tears and make the right decision..
“The person who broke me will not heal me.”
“I am above the treatment I’ve allowed, and my hurt will not last.”
The HOLY SPIRIT WOKE UP ON ME during this sermon HALLELUJAH
"Calm Down and Wait On God". Sounds like a best selling t-shirt, to me!
Whenever I see a Nike T-shirt that says "just do it" I want to make one that says "Just think it through...."
Or a best selling book!❤️
Great teacher
Calm down, wait on God and eat some🍫….yep I like it!!!
“Not grieving the individual but grieving the lost hope”
Gooooood point!
I need you to know how much it matters that you look straight on the camera. Because I needed for you look me in my eyes like a father while you’re pouring into my life. I thank you. I’m 50 and divorced and needed to hear a lot of this. Funny never would have thought I would need to hear this but I’m grateful you pour into us. 🙏🏾
I really enjoyed watching this video. I have moved on from my husband, and I no longer feel afraid of all the gaslighting and manipulation. I am free! Thank the Lord. This video was confirmation that I did everything correct. Thank you Pastor and Lisa 🙏 to all those out there experiencing this, GET OUT and you will feel so much better. I made this up in my mind and that’s what you’re going to have to do.
Getting out is indeed the best way to do that!! Freedom ♥️
I put myself through a whole lot b/c I really loved him.
Then, one day...after....a pic of him sitting close to another woman on the internet, him sending naked pics of himself to other women on social media, him hitting on other women (some were my coworkers and friends), wasted money, time, and resources...I had enough.
My last words to him were...GOD BLESS YOU, MY BROTHA.
Then, the clown had the nerve to call back and try to come-back after a few weeks of my no-contact; like I really missed his mess.
I have accomplished so much since I allowed GOD to pull me outta the fog I was in.
Amen sista
My grandfather used to say, "Common sense, isn't that common." He would flip out if he saw how upside down the world is now.
Yes, our ancestors had so many words of wisdom. How upside-down the people in the world have become.
I learned this the hard way a very long time ago. Accepting my loss of hope was the most hurtful feeling I've ever felt
It truly is 😭🙏🏽🤗 very hurtful...
Wow! Thank you Jesus for allowing me to come across this message. I needed this more than you know. One month out of a five year relationship with a man that completely broke me, and up until yesterday I had still been communicating with him trying to find healing. I finally blocked him yesterday after another incident of disrespect. I know this process won’t be easy, but thank you for giving me tools to work through it. ❤️
The two people on this earth, that I Loved the Most, that NEVER minced words with me...my Mom and Dad told me straight up that he was no good for me! I didn't listen to them. I stayed in it for over 24 years, and in the end, I lost everything! God grabbed me by the scruff of my neck, and Delivered me. I thank Him for His Love, Grace, and Wisdom. He saved my life. Please don't let this happen to you. You're worth far more than this! God Bless You Pastor RC Blakes and Thank You!😘❤
@@lala5061 Dear LaLa, God Bless You And Keep You In His Care Always😘❤
My mother got to know my husband and told me “he is not what you think he is, he will disappoint you”. I thought she was jealous. Boy did he disappoint me! He was far from everything I thought he was. Straight narcissistic and evil.
@@victoria.sandrinha My Heart goes out to You & God Bless You & Keep You In His Care Always❤ Hopefully, those days are behind You now😁
My God 😭.. I’ve listened to this video over and over. It’s helping me move forward
Me to. This is POWER
My God.......is Right ❤️⭐️🙏🏽🙏🏼
Praise God 😊
Hi-5, Stacy!!!
Me too; I've had to put this on rewind so many times!!!
This is the third time I have listened also and will listen again tonight before dozing off. This message needs to penetrate.
Calm down, and wait on God. It should be noted that just because you’re not cussing folk out or cutting tires, doesn’t mean that you’re CALM. A calm person is at peace in the midst their pain because they trust God. Thank you Bishop and keep it coming!!❤🙏🏽
RC,
I just wanted to let you know what GREAT VIDEO this was. I'm viewing it on 7/2/22 for anyone that has been in situation such as what is being discussed here by RC Blakes, Jr I was in a dating relationship with my now Ex Toxic Narc Girlfriend of 15 years. I had to Walk Away from it in order to gain control over a losing battle of what was being becoming a very Bad place for me to be in.
Future Faked taken for Granted and Used. By a Selfish, Insecure, Jealous, No Empathy and always the Poor Poor Víctim. The more I gave the less I received. No Contact and my Total Silence for 12 months still working on myself. Once I exposed her she flew the coop. Not a word from her since. tells me all I needed to know who I was dealing with. She became one of the Devils Children. I have viewed a lot videos on Narcissitic people trying to figure out who the Hell she was and who she became. After watching this Video it really cleared a lot of feelings up about being involved with a Toxic Partner. Thank Very much for Help. Very much appreciated.
You accidentally popped up on my phone so I'm going to say it was meant to be so here I am listening to this message. Yes Lord!
Me too! I’m blown away with his message
My phone was on my back and I started hearing a voice as I left the shop. Hilarious🤣😇😎
He is the best RUclips feed accident EVER! So glad his channel was suggested to me! That’s why I thumbs up the video so others can accidentally find him too 💕
It was no accident
Girl, it was God. Nothing happens by accident. Be blessed.
I am above the treatment I've allowed...and the hurt WILL NOT last ❤️
I cannot express to you enough how you have changed my life for the better. Tears of joy come down my face. I never had a father to give me any sort of advice and your energy is the father figure I never thought I’d have. Such a blessing you are to my life thank you!!!
I was so encouraged from this message. Right before I listen, I was already beginning to delete old pictures. I felt joy and strength because I was already on the right track. Unfortunately I can't go no contact because of our children however I made sure to establish my boundaries and cushion my emotions from him and his new fiancé. Today I closed the casket on the hopes and the dream that I had for him and a family with him, and walked away from the grave site. I know I'll have my days when the loss will still sting, but I'm not going back to the grave site because I don't go to visit dead things. One day I will be completely free of the pain of it all. I thank Yah for Pastor R.C. Blessings🙏🏾
That's right. We visit the grave from time to time and greive. But we don't pitch a tent and live there. We move forward and live meaningfully. ❤
I've been stuck on a broken relationship for over 10 years and every year I pray I can move on, My heart seems stuck. He has moved on with his life and I'm still here waiting for I don't know what. I pray this is the year Im released from this heart break and move on.
Wow sis yes . Don’t waste anymore years . Put that energy into loving yourself for I can relate so much
Hi Aisha,, I'm praying for you. It's hard.
Take it one day @ a time!! You Got This!! Stay Beautiful & Strong!!
Claim it’s over speak it girl
I’ve been in this situation almost 3 years
I am so glad he made it clear that a man can be a side chick. Especially when he thinks he's a player when he's just a bill payer...
Amen sister take the L because he is loser!!!!!🌻🌻🌻🌾🌻🌻🦋
I’ve been praying and praying for 2 months since my situationship and THIS message right here is what I’ve been praying for!!!!!! You are truly doing God’s work!!!!!!!!! Thank you lord for pastor RC Blake’s & his wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can’t thank you enough for this message. Amen!
Amen 🙏 it's Been 3yrs Since My Divorce!
And it's Been a Process Especially being a Musician in the Church! YES I'M FREE!... All this Man is Saying is So TRUE 💯
Fellas Dont Build Any Relationship on LUST! Trust God & WAIT ....My Storm is Over Now!.... Church Folk this is My Message to You!...😆😆😆😆
My prayers are for everyone who has issues with pulling down strong holds and for strength to walk away from that toxic reality Lord give them peace and comfort and truth.
"Calm down and wait on God. God is coming to your rescue, just get out of his way...God is going to restore. God is going to repair. Calm down and wait on God. Stop expecting men to do what only God can do." 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Your voice and message truly reached me at the most difficult time of my life. Thank you for helping us reconnect with God when no one and nothing else can help.
I needed this ty❤
Love listening to you! I needed to hear this!
I'm warn out. Got nothing left.. But can't make it on my own.
Please pray for me
Hang in there!
Take just 5 minutes at a time. That is all you can do. Crowder sings a song called, hold on, we're almost home.
Check it out and play it loud sister.😊
God, wrap your arms around this sister and hold her hand when she can't stand on her own.
Read the Psalms. Claim the promises.
Listen to music that lifts you up, not keeping you stuck.
I like Crowder, run devil run. It lifts me up. Also his song, undignified, and good God Almighty.
They helped me.
You are not alone!
Yes u can't. That's y the holy spirit is there. Our helper. Your helper. Let him help u
I'm with you.
@@atimetobestill1132 Thank you❗ 🙏
@@xanris74dj 🙏🙏❤
"Wore out Raggedy Situationships". 😳😳 TOTALLY DESCRIBES MY RELATIONSHIP, THANK GOD THAT I AM EXITING
I can relate! Ratchet!
I can relate also! Just went No Contact! Life is too short to be consumed by toxicity! Blessings to all of you! Prayers going up!❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
Same!!
Me Too!!! No more Crumbs or Shade!
So much love and wisdom in this man. I’m so happy to have found him.
This was so good!!!!
“The truth is the most painful blessing!”
@RC Blakes Jr to whomever you all are posing as Bishop Blakes are pitiful! Bishop would NEVER ask for a donation to an orphanage. You all should be ashamed of yourselves; you heartless scammers!
“The person that broke me will not heal me. I am above the treatment I allowed and my hurt will not last.” -Pastor Blakes
I repeated that to myself and it instantly brought tears to my eyes.
Thank you Pastor Biakès you've help me to see life clearer
Thanks i needed this
Thank you I needed to here this so bad .
My goodness. Is there a way to hit the like button a 100 times?! This message is right on time. I thank God for you, Pastor Blakes! Please keep teaching, we're listening. 🙏🏾🇨🇦
@RC Blakes Jr stop just stop
Same here!
I have to agree this seriously changed my life today!
Amen 🙏🏾
YOU'RE THE FATHER I NEVER HAD WHILE GROWING UP. I'M CURRENTLY GOING THROUGH A SPERATION FROM MY HUSBAND OF 13 YEARS. THESE LESSONS ARE SO NECESSARY FOR THIS PROCESS I'M EXPERIENCING. IT'S DEFINITELY A DEATH OF WHAT I THOUGHT WOULD BE UNTIL DEATH SEPARATE US. I'VE IGNORED THE OBVIOUS FOR YEARS BECAUSE I'M A MINISTER OF THE GOSPEL. I TRIED EVERY WAY POSSIBLE TO HOLD ON, SAVE & EVERYTHING ELSE DUE TO KINGDOM MANDATES. HOWEVER, IF YOU'RE WITH SOMEONE THAT KNOW THE WORD BUT REFUSE TO SUBMIT TO IT, YOU FIND YOURSELF EVENTUALLY BROKEN. I AM INDEED A BROKEN VESSEL THAT'S ON MY JOURNEY OF HEALING. THANK YOU AGAIN PASTOR. YOUR MESSAGES TOUCHES MY SOUL.
MORE GRACE IN YOUR WALK & WORK FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN. MAY YOU & YOUR LOVELY FAMILY REMAIN BLESSED🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿.
God be you🙏
Am in too for yrs ,u are giving me courage thank .may God be with u all the time .😍
This is the plain true and nothing but the True.for a hold year I have invested my all to a relationship that I know is going nowhere.Pray for me .Give me strength Lord to grieve this and let it go.
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Prophetess, thank you for sharing. I am a Pastor married to a Pastor and I stayed for 16 years. I finally walked away physically this past summer. I have to admit that he came very close to breaking me Spiritually. He was after my Anointing. I have never ever experienced a Man that wants to be like me. I've experienced a few women but never a man. Today I awake with the mandate from God to discover me presently!!! WOG this is a Powerful Mandate. Special thank you to Bishop Blakes......
Love this
God is really using you for those who are heartbroken 💔 like me, now i am so much blessed for hearing your messages, the HS is speaking to all of us through you. All glory to God!
Moving forward ❤
This popped up for me and you have no idea how much I needed to hear this, it was the Holy Spirt. Abba please help me and give me the courage to walk away from the bad relationship I'm in, please heal me from codependency.
@Julie T.:🙏🏽♥️
He wlill
@Bufftygirl 72: Absolutely; providing you don’t over eat and stroke out!
You can do it! I didn't think I could. I am on 2 weeks from when I left, and I feel wonderful. This message tonight is helping me with the funeral process.
It's like a drug you gonna get sick tired and wanna free yourself God give you the strength