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5 Signs Someone Isn’t Ready for a Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
- Dating and starting a relationship with someone can be extremely exciting. But how do you know if this person is emotionally available? Are they really ready to be in a committed relationship with you? How do you know if and when that person is on the same page as you are if you do want a relationship? Here are some signs someone is emotionally unavailable and isn’t ready for a relationship that could give you greater clarity!
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K!
Hello!❤
I wanna asj you something
Love your videos!
*I'm going to turn from innocent to knowing everything ppl didn't told me*
“Relationships end because once the person has you, they stop doing the things it took to get you.” 🗣
but thats the case with every and all relationships.
Once the novelty of a new relationship wears off you fall into a routine and you start living life as before.
HEY HEY HEY can i get a ElllIOooooooooooooo
@Lime not at all , routine and stability doesn't mean it's lost meaning . Some people simply get too comfortable and stop making an effort to learn about their partner because they think they already know them , but one could always bring new things to the relationship to learn more about each other .
@Lime no not what I mean im saying relationships need a Deeper stronger foundation and a TON of work as they cannot be carried by superficial things. And they cannot be carried by only exciting things as there is only so much new things you can do and you wont have the time and energy to constantly do those things.
Thats not to say you can't do things that can create a bit of a spark.
imo you have to be happy with your partner when there is silence and with nothing going on.
Or they cheat on you lol
1 Sign someone isn't ready for a relationship:
1.) I like them.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
lol...👏🏻🤷🏼♀️🤞🏻
Yes
Relatable......
OUCH
I think for me the biggest sign that I wasn't ready for a relationship, to anyone wondering whether they are or not was, that I simply got terrified at the mention of sexual attraction to me by the person I was seeing for a few months. I was terrified of saying "I like you" back and I always felt like I wanted to escape when they started flirting with me infront of others especially. I liked them back, but I couldn't shake the sense of dread and even panic when I saw their name light up my phone screen.
So I talked to my sister. She had the same problems as me, and she gave me a lot of good advice.
If you always say "No" to everybody you meet because you're unsure, shy or too cautious you'll most likely seem unapproachable and emotionally distant. It's good to move outside of your comfort zone and give people a chance. But if you're feeling scared or don't enjoy your time with them, then don't feel pressured to stay in a relationship with that person either, don't try to headbutt your way through these feelings. You can try talking to the other person about them, and depending on how they respond you might actually overcome them. But if you don't, there is no shame in admitting to yourself that you are not ready. Eventually you'll know when you're ready and feel safe with a partner. I'm 24 and I still have never slept or been very intimate with anyone. The older you get the more pressure you feel under to have the same experiences as most people your age group. But if you're not ready or prepared you don't have to force yourself to catch up prematurely. You will meet someone who will understand you with time, and your worth as a person isn't dependant on anyone else or what you have or haven't experienced in a relationship with someone else. Work on yourself on your own terms and your own time.
OMG I felt so relieved reading this comment, it's good to know there are other people out there that feel the same as me hahaha
definitely relate, esp to the pressure of experience with age bc I'm a few years older than you and havent been intimate with anyone either, or been in a real relationship. it'll all come with time and I'll keep working on myself until then
Do you think you might also be part of the asexuality spectrum?
Finally, someone said it. I thought I was the only one who experience this. Indeed, we need not to feel pressure in jumping into a romantic relationship with someone.
We must cultivate ourselves and be emotionally available to ourselves before we can get intimate with someone. It is okay to maximize our time to be single.
Thank you for commenting and thank you everyone for answering it, I have been questioning a lot like what's wrong with me why I'm comfortable with talking to them but I'm scared if they ever confess. Now I feel better about myself and it just seems i need more time
Maybe the reason you're so bored of stable relationships isn't that you're scared of wasting your life with someone you don't love, it's because you don't know how to love someone if they care for you. It stems from emotional neglect as a child, but learning this kinda helped me realize why I always go to unavailable, problematic, and toxic partners. You've never actually felt healthy affection, so you believe that love is when the other person doesn't care, or worse, doesn't like you.
Oh boy...
Damn
Why can i relate to all that you said?
Uhhh after reading this I realized I need therapy so thank you
Yes, reminds me of the attachment styles.
I want a relationship but I don’t want to bring my insecurities on someone else , I need to work on myself
Same here girly😪
yaaa same here
Sometimes you can work through these with your partner. As long as you are taking responsibility for your feelings and being open and honest with your partner ☺️
💯
same kekw
I'd rather focus on fixing my mental and financial problems and then think about getting in a relationship
Edit: I've social anxiety and I don't think a girl would date a guy who doesn't even have basic communication skills
Mhm .... I said I'd never get married fix yourself yeah I get it but dont be a fucking tool and actually date someone these videos are dumb as fuck
Seym
Sometimes avoiding getting into a relationship until you've fixed your "mental" problems is actually just a way to put off ever dealing with your mental problems. I.e. nothing is really dependent on you fixing your problems so you're able to just stew.
Think it's best to be open to it without searching.
@@boozebullyjarvis7695 w h a t
Simon Sues??
Yo. Second time today I saw somebody who has a pfp in something I’m interested in
I have just left a girl yesterday who wasn't ready for a relationship and was giving me all the signs that are spoken in this video. Makes me proud of my decision even though I like her a lot.
You'll find someone better and readier soon
Great for you! I had to do the same thing just a couple days ago. It was hard, but it was the right thing to do.
good on you man, theres plenty of fish in the ocean
Me: reveals her all my feelings.
Her: " thank you"
Good choice, stay woke kings
Signs I'm not ready for relationship:
1. my mom will beat me up
Sounds hard… are you ok?
Lol your mom is a smart witch though and would never hurt you. Klee you just need to grow up more before you get into the realm of dating, at your current external looking age as a half elf I'd say you're equal to a 8 year old human. Just keep learning while having fun and not blowing things up that shouldn't be harmed.
Just tell yourself: " i dont give a fu*k about it". And you will be fine
@@Anonymous-mi7kn no
@@fbiagent3998 oh… well, hopefully things will get better for you
1- They're going out with a lot of different people
2- they often bring up their ex
3- they don't know what they want
4- they're flaky
5- lack of progression in your relationship
Thanks :)
Thx
Thank you good sir
Thanking u
"They don't know what they want"
Uhh... Welp, I don't seem to be ready for the relationship 😐 time to tell them- 😶
Imagine actually being in a relationship
I have been single for 4 years now and i have forgotten what its like lol
IMAGINE
Imagine actually being
@@kimaria91 I'm almost 20 years old and I've never dated. Checkmate.
Can't relate cause I will be single forever :)
It’s true we should be secure and stable before connecting to someone in a committed relationship - but as a lot of psychologists say “we heal in the context of relationships”. The trick is to find a person who is also willing to do the work on themselves while you do yours and have healthy mutual communication on the journey. That’s the hard balance to find!
This is the key
The talking about Exes thing is contextual - if they are constantly talking about how great their ex was or how much they miss them then fine but if they are talking about things that were negative - that could potentially just be their way of telling you how they don’t want to be treated.
True. Plus it depends on their circumstances too. If they have to still deal with their headache of an ex, let’s say they’re getting divorced lol. Then they may want to complain about how bitchy the ex is. If they don’t speak anything positive about their ex you can assume they’re 100% over them rather than missing them. The only thoughts they have of their ex are the negative ones which don’t make you a rebound or make them wanna go back to how their ex treated them lol. Because you treat them better
@@Komobear you’ve gotta be careful though. Sometimes, someone saying so many negative things about their ex may not be true. It could be a sign of someone who thinks “all their exes are toxic and crazy”, someone who will say the same about you behind your back or after you’ve broken up.
I feel you but if that goes overboard then they’re still hung up. Listen to how they talk about it. Good or bad. If they talk about the relationship, then it’s probably just conversation. If they harp about the person, that’s probably unresolved feelings, positive or negative
Yeah, that’s me. I don’t talk about my ex cause I miss him or love him. No-I talk about him when incidents arise that remind me of his fuckery. It’s literally my way of saying “don’t do this shit!” However, I’m very aware of what I say and do make sure to mention how un-perfect I was, even if my ex is a monster.
Yesterday I realised that I am not prepared to be into a relationship, even though I always dream about being into one... But I need to heal myself
That’s exactly how I feel❤️💗
Edgy
Same bro...
I feel the same
Me too
Staying single sounds a lot better, than dating and just hurting yourself.
Edit: seeing as how this comment has been gathering attention I'll take this opportunity to wish everyone well. I hope you all find happiness in yourself and the things you do. 💐
Both hurt
@@person2311 being single is lonely, but entering the wrong relationship is damaging.
Play with hearts and you might get burnt.
Isolate your heart and it might freeze.
@@hidinginyourcloset It's easier to prevent your heart from freezing, as long as you're surrounded by warm people.
But fire is hard to control, it spreads too fast and scorch everything it touches.
As someone whos going through the latter, yeah maybe you’re right.
I wasn't searching for a relationship & I wasn't ready for one, but my partner convinced me by being perfect and understanding - we've had rough patched up until half a year in due to my insecurities and worries that had washed up from previous (abusive) relationships I'd been in. We managed to sort all out and work through them, and now our bond is stronger than ever. I'm glad I asked him to be with me after we'd met, even though I was so terrified to be dating I cried when doing so. We live a country apart but we'll both be moving to a new place in my country soon, I'm more than happy I took the leap - I plan on marrying him a year from now when we've lived together for a while & all's settled down a bit. We've been together for over a year now!
Always stay open, but don't actively look if you're working on yourself. At rare occasions you get very lucky
I feel that my crush isn’t ready yet made a bumble account and found me. She’s very avoidant and insecure, says she wants a boyfriend but takes a long time to warm up. We have not hung out yet, she flaked on two dates due to anxiety and autistic difficulties. How do I be “perfect and understanding”? Should I?
Same
@@hursimear3408 the same thing happened to me! We're just friends now, all I can say is to be patient and stay open minded of others.
im sorry ab your past but im so proud of you for moving on!!
"If they are always late it means they don't see you as a priority".
Me who always gets late when I really wanna try to work on my appearance and be attractive: 😬
Start preparations 20 minutes earlier ;-)
Ignore your brain warnings "but it's too early!".
It's 100% me kkkk
Major Signs He's Not Serious About You:
He doesn't want to know your “story” He bails on you… often. He doesn't open up to you. He doesn't make future plans with you/ avoids talking about the future.
I wouldn't count on the "not opening up"
A lot of guys are told that sharing your emotions is bad. A lot of guys have had women leave them because they opened up. So this has led guys to be more reserved with their emotions
Or they "future fake" whereas, they talk about a future, however have NO intention of following through with their plans with you. It not only creates false hope, but can waste an exborbinat amount of your time, you will never get back.
@@Ash_Wen-li that’s what I’m saying
@@jengable4888 I can't agree more
@@Ash_Wen-li it is kind true , but many girls 👧 just want her 👦 to tell her what he actually feels
Am I the only one who has never dated but is just watching this to learn?
nop, me too JDMDJDDN
No I been watching it too learn also your probably not alone
@Unknown550 while you use you're left hand everyday
@Unknown550 "Bragging" about being lonely?
honestly same but i dated once and then i realized i perfer being alone just because while im not ready for a relationship I can still crush on many people lol but yeah thats just me- anywyas i still feel this too cuase i never dated either lol :D
A relationship can be so amazing if both parties keep working on themselves and working together. Deconstruct and then reconstruct TOGETHER. Build and break as a team. Remember that being apart also constitutes being together. Don’t lose yourself them or them in you, if only to be in love. Learn from each other. Build them into the vision of what is their best self. Realize that an argument can have destructive vibes but is, in reality, constructive IF YOU ALLOW IT TO BE SO. You’re a team. Be a team.
This
Imagine being happy and someone actually looks at you the way you want to be
💔
1. They're going out with a lot of different people 0:48
2. They bring up their ex, often 1:52
3. They don't know what they want 2:33
4. They're flaky 3:00
5. There's a lack of progression in the relationship 3:30
thank u
number 2... i should've known...
@@ubersoldado I'm sorry, I hope someday you find someone that deserves you
All 5 fit my recent ex...he was quick to talk about marriage and was also quick to move on...barely a month after breaking up with me...shit even less than a month he fucked around with his coworker, got into her, and is now dating her. Fuck that guy. I know they won't last because he's good at first but once he gets bored or there's an issue that you bring up asking him to fix...he can never admit fault or just gaslights you. Good luck to this woman, but nobody is going to put up with that shit. I put up with it because I loved him, but he left me because he refused to believe he needed to change and thought I was the only problem. He complained that I was always upset or jealous, but my anger was because he always played games or texted people even during our date nights. I never felt like a priority.
@@ubersoldado RIGHT????!!! I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN!!
So basically, the entire time, out of everyone I've dated or liked, I'm the only one ready for a relationship? For years I've been told that I'm not ready, but the people who tell me this date multiple people alongside me, are confused where they are with me, and have unresolved feelings for others, while I commit squarely to them and communicate everything every step of the way. Every day, I've believed that maybe I wasn't ready. Now I find out, I'm literally the only one who was ever ready that I've met. Damn, I'm pissed lmfao.
all i can say is wait to meet someone who will truly love you for all of you, and fully commit :) it’ll happen
Feel this 💯👌
@@mancanwechilliwantsomefrie2566 it pisses me off because the way they treated how mature I was in the relationship- committed, honest, and understanding- with them cheating on me and then saying I'm "not ready for a relationship" ironically put me in a terrible headspace that made it so I wasn't ready to be in a relationship. It's just so ironic, the way they treated me for being ready trashed my mental health and confidence for years that's basically ensuring I'll never be ready again. My running headcannon right now is, "if it was gonna happen, it was gonna happen years ago" lmfao.
@@metanostalgia Societal expectations of what a good relationship should be often doesn’t align with what the people that create those expectations actually behave. Creating unnecessary pressures on yourself just because of things in the past are just going to make you more unhappy. Don’t worry dude, we’ll both find someone that respect our boundaries soon enough. It just takes some patience. I’m rooting for ya 🙌
@@metanostalgia Don't attract a (hidden) narcissistic person!
Pls prepare..
“Did you relate to any of the signs mentioned?”
Me: All of them, instantaneously. But I’d rather be unready and dating while getting my shit together, than ready and steadily focused on one person only to get my heart shattered for the 4th time☺️
Maybe you shouldn't be daiting at all.
Sometimes to get ready you need to be alone.
It clear that ether options aren't good for yours or others mental health.
So maybe for a while, you shouldn't be daiting.
But of course it up to you.
So... I am the 'not ready' person in the scenario... Someone has a deep, longing crush on me, but the break up from my EX crushed me, where we aren't even friends, and I simply can't move on yet... I have been open to them that I am simply not ready, but they try to think of any angle to be with me. As the 'not ready' person, I will say that... I have feelings for them, I just don't want the label of 'relationship' yet. If you like someone who isn't ready, give them their space, distance your feelings and just try to be a friend. They will realize that you do care about them, as I know that my suitor cares about me by respecting my space and my healing process. After all, distance does make heart grow fonder, as the famous quote goes.
Thank you so much. Will try with my crush who is autistic, traumatized, and heart broken. Also hurry up I’m lonely!!! I mean-uh what?
Hey, please try to do and say things that give your suitor hope! I learned in my psych class that it’s not the length of time that goal takes to reach, rather it’s the rate of progress that determines ones motivation to keep going. Please make steady and consistent progress in opening up and developing closeness with your crush. I’m just saying this cuz I want both of you to be happy together someday. Let them have hope!
wait but same-
These sound like for people already in a relationship rather than everyone
I'm drunk but you dont make no damn sense
@@boozebullyjarvis7695 ?
5 Stages of Progression in Relationship:
1. Attraction & Romance
2. Reality sets in
3. Disappointment
4. Conflict get resolved & Growth in healthy partnership
5. Stability & Commitment
i get stuck at the first stage because nobody likes me back :/
actually, that’s ok
I’m 23 years old and have never been in a relationship due to my fear of ruining a friendship. Familial and platonic love has always been the most important to me, and I still try to maintain friendships from childhood because I’ll always have love for them. The thought of someone meaning the world to me, then potentially breaking up and having to forget about them, is terrifying to me, especially since people always say you shouldn’t be friends with an ex 🤷♀️
Probably oversharing here, but I have a point (or at least I think I do):
We have similar backgrounds; I'm still good friends with the people I hung out with in high school, and it's really hard for me to let people go. My social anxiety and a fear of rejection kept me from even trying to date, so I was 27 when I got into my first real relationship (earlier this year, before my 28th birthday). My now-ex broke things off after around 3 months (after watching this video, it seems like she probably wasn't ready after her heart got shattered 5 years ago), but for those 3 months, we were the best of friends. I knew I was falling in love after our 4th date (even though I knew that was potentially going to hurt me). I don't think I'll ever forget about her, but now, almost exactly 3 months later, I'm coming to terms with us falling apart.
The point is this: yes, it hurts like hell to lose someone that's become a major facet of your life, who you see a future with, who you'll still think you could be the best of friends with if the pain of being around them becomes bearable. I finally understand the age-old saying "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all", and I agree with it. I learned a LOT from the experience and have a lot of fond, if bittersweet, memories from our summer together. I know how love feels now AND how losing someone you love and all the connections you made through them feels. To me, the chance of holding onto that love is going to be worth it 10 out of 10 times, and I'll look for it again soon.
You are absolutely valid, but please don't think just because some people have strong opinions about people being friends with their ex you can't be.
Both of my siblings are still good friends with almost all of their ex's. Not because they aren't over them, but because when you communicate honestly and it ends on good terms, there is no reason to not be. After all there was something you liked about them in the first place, right?
So just don't let this stop you, okay?
It's okay to be scared and you don't need to be in or even want a romantic relationship.
But don't let the thought of not being able to be friends with someone after a break up be the thing that holds you back, because unless they turned out to be an asshole who doesn't deserve your time, that is simply untrue.
And btw, some of my parents ex's were even invited to their wedding. ;)
Being single is better than hurting yourself and others when you aren’t ready!
@@JustinSherrod1991 that’s so cool. We agree and we are “related” ha! I love that!
my boyfriend broke up with me an hour ago, i’m binging these to help me
@@Omna420 hey this is a really hard time for me please do not invalidate my sadness
Awe,I'm so sorry! Hope you find someone you like more in the future
Its going to hurt, but things will improve. My advice, should you take it or not is to do SOMETHING. Exercise, work on a project, talk with friends, etc. If you sit and stew on it, you'll probably feel worse. Know that you are still loved.
Don't let what happens affect how you'll proceed. I hope these help, for they are effective, but use them to improve your situation. Stay on the yellow brick road please, :3, and hope you feel better along the way.
Sorry to hear.
To the early squad reading this: *sending virtual hugs to everyone who needs it, always stay safe*
Go pet a seal 🦭
Amogus
Aw thank you * hugs back *
@@aliceswayer9979 wtf kinda roblox role play you having ?.
Even Emma Watson would be disappointed
You too🙂
I had to help a friend who was in love with a person over text. They tried to go on a date irl but their partner used a lot of excuses, the feeling was bidirectional but the other person had problems with depression and emotional unavailability due to grief over some deaths of close family and friends. I had to help my friend understand that even if both liked each other, if one person isn't ready to commit to a relationship, forcing it is even worse.
Finally they texted each other saying that it was beautiful meeting one another, that there were feelings, but they both understood that a relationship couldn't happen while the one with the emotional issues didn't get over them.
A bitter story, but at least not a tragic one
I was in a relationship with someone with the last 2 traits for 1.5yrs. It was so frustrating because on paper they were great but they were so wishy washy and unwilling to move forward with the relationship. They were always happy to keep everything as basic and easy as possible and I felt like their mom more than anything. It was so unattractive to the point where I lost all romantic feelings for them ages ago, but I kept trying despite being the only one putting in the effort because.. they fit the bill, so I thought I was the problem.
At the end of the day, they were very nice but completely unequipped to handle a relationship. Eventually I got them to admit as much when I was thinking of ending things. I worry that they're going to be alone for the foreseeable future because they are so comfortable in mediocrity. They're still a friend of mine, because ultimately that's what we were. Friends.
But.. I'm happier now. Much happier. And they taught me a good lesson that just because someone is a nice and responsible adult, it doesn't necessarily mean they're relationship material.
My story is slightly similar to yours. He had the last 2 traits too;
Before I met my now fiancé I had someone who I grew up with rekindle our friendship - he took me out, pampered me, treated me well, rooted for me in my career, we shared cute kisses and cuddles, he even told me “I love you” one random day but never once asked me out (idk 🤷🏾♀️ maybe he was just trying to sleep with me which he didn’t) Bummer because I loved him back but there was no progression in our “relationship” - we had romantic actions toward each other but never really got down to being romantic partners!
I always said : he probably isn’t decided, thinks he may have a chance to do better and isn’t just that into me (I still wonder what exactly it was) I stuck around open for a year and eventually GAVE UP
Just like you It was so frustrating for me too because he was good on paper tall, dark handsome, great career, well spoken, shared his insecurities with me and a clearer picture of his family background (his family dynamic is quite complex).
The situation was HOWEVER EXHAUSTING and nobody could understand why because he was so perfect for me! He never just asked to get with me, he even joked about having children but no proper plans.
Wishy washy and no progress - unfortunately such is only evident after a while because time eventually tells all but for such instances it will usually be too late.
I’m glad I moved on now and just like my prediction he’s still single and I imagine he will be for a long time.
Me: Ready for a relationship.
Global pandemic: "No you're not."
Same
i hate it
Hi! The word “global” is already encompassed in the word “pandemic” through the root “pan”. So you can have a global epidemic which is knows as a pandemic.
I didn't know this myself until recently and wanted to pass on the knowledge :)
I am asking out my crush today
He detected me
Ok, RUclips is watching my conversations confirmed.
Change your search engine haha
Just yesterday i told my friend i am not ready for relationship and now i got this.. Scary..
My thoughts exactly.
Ikr! I need to get off google hangouts....
I agree. For me personally trusting a person is very hard and has often led to disappointment and heartbreak.
A dishonest and/or indirect person is not ready for a relationship.
Well, well, well, let's find out.
Lol
✍ fix the issues or move on
Yare yare daze
Jotaro 🤔
Let's find out what she tells you the truth ph sorry I mean he
i know i need to heal myself first, because i don’t want to include my significant other and future children in my own complicated mess just because im not healed from previous trauma that causes me to hurt them when its totally not their fault. until i am not healed i dont want to be in a relationship same goes to my future partner. i hope you choose to heal first.
Absolutely
same here
Yup and to love yourself before loving someone else. Long story short, my stepdad was super insecure about himself and started saying things to my mom that she should find someone else or that he didn’t deserve her, so of course that affected their relationship so she actually considered a divorce.
However sometimes your significant other could boost your self-confidence and your will to take care of yourself.
Oh nevermind, i don’t know anymore
No. If you can't trust a person to help you through your trials, why even bother? Remember. "Through sickness and in health."
People are failing in relationships because they're too isolated with their problems. How are you going to know you've found the one if you're only in a relationship during good times?
There seems to be a stigma in today's society that if you're not in a relationship, not actively looking for one or don't want to be in one, that you just don't seem to truly fit in.
I think it's worth noting that, many people in our world today live in many different circumstances, some who are genuinely happy being alone, some who are slowly opening themselves up and working their way towards finding someone, and others who love their freedom or are working on themselves before they try to even seek love.
When it comes to relationships, we definitely shouldn't be so demanding of people.
There are many ways to be happy and love can definitely happen at any time in anyone's life when they want to finally seek it out.
Love thiss❤
Key word is CAN happen. The problem is ppl will pass up good people because they think it can happen on THEIR TIME. Idk what world u live I’m but if u think u can find genuine people that easily then I guess u know something I don’t. Lol u just see soooo many people “working on themselves” before they find someone that it’s starting to seem like an excuse to be scared of taking a chance on someone. So is the perfect person just gonna pop up only when u have everything together? Idk just weird mentality to me
The same goes for friendships. If you don't have any close friends you must have something wrong with you. Un true.
The same goes for friendships. If you don't have any close friends you must have something wrong with you. Un true.
i see a lot of myself in the person that is emotionally unavailable to date… but i just hate how we’re portrayed. like we’re selfish and don’t care about the other person. i have so many sensory issues and a major aversion to saliva and bodily fluids and smells that can make it so off putting for me to be with someone. i also grew up with a mother and father who hated each other. I was never raised with parents that showed each other affection. i also grew up with a super submissive mother figure and i didn’t realize that women have the right to say no to things they don’t like. sex feels extremely unnatural to me, like a terrifying universal dance that nobody taught me the choreography to. i don’t even know what i’m supposed to like. the only reason i distance myself isn’t because i’m an asshole and only care about myself it’s because i hate myself and i’m so scared that i will disappoint the other person and ruin their life.
It's like you're in my head, and you did a better job than me putting it in words.
I too feel a little disgusted with sex, someone else's saliva and bodily fluids. Such that I'm trying to figure out if I am OCD and an Asexual. Sometimes, when i think of relationships and think of all the things I need to do to my partner's body, it sort of puts me off.
I can totally relate to the sex part!
im so sorry love. did u try speaking to a therapist?
"You simply aren't important enough for them" 👽👽
Sarcasm intended :)
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@@javier_n_k3050 photos printed?
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Me, chronically late to everything because of my terrible time management skills and memory of a goldfish...
mood
Yeah this video is shitty.. lateness is often a result of your personality or even DNA. There are genes associated with frequent lateness, and people with ADHD/ADD are also often late. Frequent lateness is more a problem around being unable to organise or time manage. It happens to A LOT of people and in no way it means they are not ready for relationships or good partners.
This
I hate how everyone always equates lateness with disrespect for the other person. It’s not true! I’m just terrible at time management.
Omg same I have the worst memory I FORGET THINGS SO EASILY I have no idea why and I procrastinate too much and can’t stick to a proper routine it’s so hard
I would like to mention that #4 has grey areas. I have severe depression, so being on time is often very difficult. And I am also chronically late because I like making surprises and stuff for him and I’m a terrible time manager. He’s the most important person to me and my best friend as well. I always make time for him when he wants to hang out, I’m just a bad judge of time. So if they’re late, ask what’s up. Don’t just assume they don’t care. I know for me, it’s either a really bad mental health day and I’m having trouble getting myself together or I just managed my time badly. 🤷♀️ (I’m not usually SUPER late, just 5-15 minutes or so. Depends on what’s going on.)
im sorry dear. are u ok?
I had the same thought when I saw #4. except I have ADHD instead of depression
My gf exhibited most of the signs at first, we went from the first phase to hell on earth pretty fast. I did realize however that she wanted to be in a relationship but was sabotaging her chances of doing so out of fear of failure. Because her past relationships failed, she always assumed I would be just one more. She was stuck in this loop. Took a few years of commitment and dedication but we finally reached the last phase.
I know I'm not ready for a serious relationship, I just like hanging out with friends.
@Boszormenyi Timea ?
Hey at least you know lol. That is good enough!
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one thing shouldnt avoid the other, you can go out with your friends and your partner
This just showed me that I'm not ready for a relationship
Just been thinking the same thing this last handful of days. And I am 99% ok with that.
Even though so true for me
You know it is a hell of a lot better to realize that before getting into a relationship so I call this a win.
Oliver you are correct. Luckily the pretty lady is still friendly to me, helps nothing happened. It gets supper messy if things happened
sameee
Watching this makes me feel nobody is ready for a relationship, myself included... Until you see everyone you like with someone else and feel like trash!
I had a break up then met my soulmate we confessed our feelings to each other and he gave me suffiient time to overcome the trauma and helped me alot now we are really happy together
I love the fact that you are putting all the references in the description. This gives you so much credibility over all the other channels doing similar topics but without any mention of references or, indeed, without even saying whether they have any experience of the topic. Thankyou! Now, if you could reference the scientific papers/articles/books too rather than just other magazines and news blogs that would be awesome.
Thank you for the feedback!
The guy named relationship :
*VISIBLE CONFUSION*
LMAO
Shut up redditor
@@itzhellraptor._.9923 wait what ?
@Unknown550 it's even worse cause i'm a mobile gamer myself but thanks for defending me anyway 😅
@@itzhellraptor._.9923 nigga wdym?
Find someone that is willing to work on both of your problems together. Understanding that both of you are flawed and you are both willing to work on each other is key. When one partner feels they are right and the other is wrong constantly that is a relationship killer.
One hundred percent this!!
Recently talked to my girlfriend about this after she apologized for basically putting both of us in a slightly uncomfortable position due to how she copes.
I'm not gonna go into detail, but basically I explained to her that I'd rather be there to make sure she's okay in such a situation rather than let her handle this alone.
She is too insecure for her own good sometime, so I like to reassure her that my love for her is not limited to her happiest version and I knew what I was getting into when I decided I wanted to be in a relationship with her.
That said, I am far from perfect myself and what I worried about most that day was definitely if I was doing something wrong or not doing enough.
I get insecure as well sometimes and I have my own issues, which I am actively addressing when I can, but I am lucky enough to have the capacity to also care for her when she lets me, which is something I appreciate deeply.
We're a team and no one has to handle this on their own.
Most dating relationships are certainly not about wanting or needing commitment. Think of the progression (if there is any progression) as-- casual interest, significant interest, exclusive interest, and finally, commitment interest.
I felt bad about bringing up my ex to my new partner, but my ex husband took his own life a year ago so I'm still in the grief process and he's been such a darling about it
It's like they know what I'm going through right now and I hate it
I’ve never been in a relationship before, nor do I wish to be, but these things seem like they could be solved by talking it out. Sounds like goals/priorities need to be clarified. If your priorities don’t match up and there’s no improvement afterwards, you have a choice to make.
In my mind I my dought myself... The most remarkable in life when you find that person that balances your life. Everything with this person makes your life more clear to navigate threw your problems to keep moving forward no matter what. This person brings the spark that makes both of your life's better together..
I'm working on starting a more intimate relationship with a friend that I've known for almost 20 years. There's always been a connection, but the timing was always off. Now we are both single-me recently divorced, her widowed. She is still stuck on him, but I feel there is great potential for us. I'm going to stick it out as long as I can, because I haven't felt like this in years.
Can’t be ready for a relationship if you’ve never been in one before in your life!
YEEEEAHHHHHHHH!!! 😎 🎸🎸🎸
Not sure if that's a good or bad thing for us. Both? Both.
Same here bro
That's like saying "can't be ready for an earthquake if you haven't experienced it before"
@@catpower8822 Kind of. Experience is a big factor. Same with bush fires. You can have a plan for them, but until you've experienced one personally, you can't be sure you can stay in control.
last night i just had someone tell me after i confessed they werent ready.. this video just feels to come at the right time.
Its like things falling in place
i’m sorry man
I've never been in one my entire life but I don't feel pressured to do it yet. Imagining it seems cute and nice but I am just getting used to loving myself and enjoying my own company.
I have anxiety and depression and use to think so much about being in a relationship. I only have 14 year, but, still thinking about that. I'm trying to focus more on me, grow up my mentality and be more secure about myself. I really don't want to give someone a bad experience, i want to be a good partner at all and solve my personal problems first.
These relationship ones really make me look harder at my bf and see if he fits any of these signs
Well they are more mention for you to examine yourself not your partner.
Yes i know you were making a joke.
But in the case you are not this comment say more about you then anything else.
The one that hits close to home for me is "they often bring up their ex" even though I was my ex's 1st bf she told me about guys she used to hoe around with more than I would've liked to have heard tbh
@@tvbnine793 then my friend you dodged a planet sized bullet lol
@@xMckingwill you mean a meteor? XD
@@tvbnine793 no actually i mean an entire galaxy! Lol
I really needed this. I've been wondering for a few days, and today I didn't even talk to her for obvious reasons. But it all redirects to me being curious if she loves me or not / if she's ready or not.
It hits differently. I really needed this and the timing couldn't be better
Yeah, you're not alone...
The last guy I dated asked me if I was seeing anyone else. Caught me so off gaurd. He looked pretty relieved when I said no just him and after that we had the let's get more serious talk and it was great
I started loving myself when I was getting to know someone and noticed the change of pure happiness in me that I've never felt before . She was content with me and expressing her love to me where as I wasn't sure if she really loved me and would question her about it even though she assured me many time's how much she really loved me and how she never felt so loved. Close to loosing her 😔 Why question someone's unconditional love?? What is wrong with me????
I’ve seen number four in a few of your videos I’m pretty sure phrased differently throughout… I’d like to point out I’ve been accused of this and have lost relationships giving the wrong impression, I was recently diagnosed with severe ADHD at 27, and came to understand this was why that happened. I really cared so much in those situations and really tried hard… sometimes the person isn’t “flaky” they may have undiagnosed or diagnosed mental health struggles that could contribute to the situation as well, and if you care for them you’d be doing a wonderful thing giving them a chance to show you how they really feel, rather than assuming their priorities from your perspective.
A relationship is a team, and communication is very important too, as it can prevent or help to minimize damage from these situations.
HA! I was right. So many in the gay communtiy think that dating several guys at once for an extended period of time is what dating means, but ive always pushed back and no one understood me. There's only so much dating around one can do before a direction for the relationships needs to actually be established. If youre trying to be in a monogamous relationship but youre emotionally attached to 3 or 4 people at once, something is off
For me it’s always the ones I want the most that it doesn’t work out with. It’s like a depressing loop, so now I find myself trying to not want anybody because I already know how it will end.
The last stages of that relationship progression really got me. When I struggled with why I suddenly stopped feeling that super strong attraction for my girlfriend at the time, I thought it meant that I didn’t “love” her anymore. But rather I was just learning that relationships aren’t always peachy keen. But I didn’t learn from it. I struggled with that for several months, as i focused more on why I wasn’t feeling that way instead of realizing that it’s normal and that real love stems from choice and not feelings. I convinced myself that it was the right thing to break up with her, but the little things and the privilege of loving her kept coming up after, and it’s still a struggle.
If you ever feel like you’ve lost feelings for a reason you don’t understand, it’s okay. Talk it out with them and decide how to work out the inner conflict together. Be mature, and don’t make rash decisions. I hope you make the choice that leads to happiness for the both of you. ❤
I am single , never had a crush in years , Never asked , Never was in a a relationship ,
And I'm broken inside
Don't do it, may seem like a good idea but your heart will ache terribly afterwards. I spent a few months chasing this girl and she just stopped talking to me and acknowledging me like I was scraps off her plate. Never again.
*Sits to explain* The pain you feel is shared among humanity, which is a priority for us all to handle alone. A crush is on you, based on what you like to see and want to know. And if you don't have one, then you can't really ask. You shouldn't need to feel that way. I've been on the inside, and well.. Its tough. In fact if it wasn't her rn, I'd be done with relationships. Yes your heart aches, and you won't know if you're always doing your best, or if they care for you entirely, and you won't. It's a leap of faith. Thank you for listening. *Stands and walks away*
I don’t mean broken as in imateengirl broken , no , I mean like not working idk why but like girls don’t like me , :|
I’m steadily realizing that as wonderful as it would be to be in a relationship, I’m not ready for one right now. I’m currently talking to someone but I’m not putting in as much of effort as I could. I need to talk to her tomorrow and tell her the truth😣
After years of therapy I have become less interested in dating. I have the mindset to treat people how I would like to be treated. So often this ends with them using me. I struggle with the balance and setting boundary’s.
Lol I dated a girl for like a month after meeting her on a dating site. She ghosted me for another month and then I found she was engaged with someone else.
Regardless how long I was with her, that shit hurt. More than fucking anything. I've been having trouble getting into relationships; let alone friendships these days, because people treat me just how you shouldn't treat someone.
im so sorry :(( are u ok now?
@@userm180 I'll live. I'm learning how to get over it a day at a time. I appreciate you asking though.
@@mitchellbarton7915 im proud of you
I love how they constantly say thank u , it makes me feel all warm inside ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for leaving a comment too! Here's a heart!
Signs when someone isn't ready for a relationship: I ask them out, they say "I'm not ready for a relationship"
I hate to see all the people that are so scared to love again because of the pain that they went through in the past
I just want to let you know guys, there are some good people still here on earth
It’s hard to believe but it’s true
Don’t give up
this was a PERFECT time to find this in my feed. i don’t want to keep being strung along, i needed the flags to be pointed out like this.
He is unsure of what he wants, but that's because he's incredibly introverted, and I'm his first girlfriend. He loves me to death and makes me feel like a princess, but he gets nervous because it's new to him. I just really try to be patient and make sure he's comfortable while also ensuring that I'm getting what I need. Like today. He apologized for being distant because he's been working so much. I told him it's ok and he doesn't have to apologize for anything. He works hard and he has a good reason to be doing that work. 5 days a week for 8 hours. It's understandable that he's tired and doesn't always want to talk. He relaxes with his video games and movies, and I would never blame him for that.
In my opinion, according to your comment, you're such an amazing and comprehensive woman. That's definitely a quality to be admired and it's such a rare one.
@@jonasidsousa1308 Aww, thank you. I try.
You sound like a great girl, and your guy sounds good too. Y’all are great together :)
@@NartaQNC Thanks so much! ^-^
me checking if i should ask out my crush or not
Good luck
Good luck.
@@mxrk_moses5875 thank you both
@@Super-8000 thank you!
Good luck
Was dating the most amazing woman for 6 months. We were talking about the future, moving in together etc. She went to her friend's wedding and came back saying they'd "realised they didn't want the 'obligations' of a relationship right now." and it absolutely shattered my world. We ended things but I want her back, I'm giving her space for now and will be reaching out after a while. I'm continuing to build myself up for now though.
Great timing_
I left someone because I wasn't ready for a relationship only to find out that he felt the same way. It sucks but it had to end.
Multi-dating is just a screening process. I think its healthy, and works in order to find the right one. Obviously you should never lie if they ask you if you are seeing someone else.
Yeah the issue is so many people lie - Get in deep and then bail after feelings are involved. Going on dates is healthy, it means you can learn what you want just some people are serial daters.
He keeps bringing up his ex. I already felt he wasn’t ready and this just set it in.
The merry-go-round is where the gifts keep on giving.
Improve yourself and stay pure/honest intentions
This is that simple! Be in the moment live in it; and move forward. Remember 3 things. Benefit of the Doubt, Pick Your battles, and Mind Your own Business.
Divorced for 6 years and still can't find a girlfriend. Two dates and they were one and done. Online dating isn't working for me.
Yeap online dating isn't working for me either
Clears throat MEET SOMEONE IN PERSON LIKE ACTUAL FLESH AND WORDS
The hell is up with online dating like they are actually being faithful if you believe that then I must be a 78 year old virgin
I wonder if it ever works for anyone. I read some studies showing how 90% of people just suffer through this modern dating and hook up culture, and still subscribe to it out of peer pressure or because they don't know how else to find someone. It sucks :(
It depends on what online dating service you're using, because sometimes you have to try a few before you connect with people let alone get interested. I don't know HOW long you've been looking and what services you've tried, and it can look bleak but I promise sometimes you can just get lucky and click with someone. For a long time it was nothing nothing, then there threatened to be something but nope that was nothing, and then heaps more nothings, losing hope, then bang found someone and while I've only been with them a couple months I swear it feels much longer than that. On some dating sites people have ulterior motives and just want to get in bed with you, some want short flings or judge you only for your appearance, and some take into consideration other aspects of your personality and are for people who are searching for something more long term. A lot of people crap all over online dating and I mean you have to know what you're doing and always be careful, and some people will still have shit experiences, but people do find good on there. If possible, keep an eye out in real life but have online dating in the background in case you come across something. Just never solely rely on online dating to find happiness (and don't do long term if you can't handle it!!) because I think that's where a lot of people go wrong. Try to focus your energy into some other part of your life that you do have more control over in the meantime so you don't just rely on the prospect of a relationship for happiness. I really wish you all the best
This made me feel a lot better about my relationship. There’s something I need to go fix
for a long time I has unhappy. then I decided being single was for the better. I actually became happy and that's when I realized that I was starting to love myself. I'm currently with an amazing guy who isnt toxic like my last boyfriends. I'm not toxic or pushing him away either. because I have realized I'm worth being loved. I still think he could have found better but he chose me and I'll be happy abt that.
drama references-
1) nevertheless - jae eon
2) go back couple (beginning of the drama) kind of
3) friendzone 1 (thai) lovestruck in the city
4) dont know 😐 recommends down below.
5 )sweet and sour (movie)
Weird, we always seem to place being in a relationship on a pedestal.
I think we're happier just being good to people.
I think I'll be single Forever, I used to be sad about it but now I'm actually enjoying my own presence. I tried to make friends these past few years and they always seem to drift away or turn their backs on me. I think I am better off alone.
I think you are just talking about my life hahaha
Thank you, for giving me the assurance that it is okay for me that a relationship more than a year ago, never blossomed. She went off with a few dates other than me, frequently brought up stuff about her exes, pushing me away, not sure what they expecting from a relationship, constantly using me to achieve her goals. I deserve better, she's not.
This video gave me some clarity on what happened to me 2 days ago & it’s a shame because I felt she was really special by how caring, understanding & supportive she was to me.
Did you guys had secret cameras to know what happened between me and the guy that I liked? OMG🤣
👇They consistently run away or shut down in times of stress.
They leave you out of future plans.
Their default response to your requests is acting defensive rather than curious.
The person has a significantly higher standard for your behavior than their own
"The person has a significantly higher standard for your behavior than their own" can you expand on this more?
@@shuxtheskuxx9097 They are a hypocrite and expect you to do things that they don't.
Mundane example would be washing the dishes or being honest about your location
Who the hell are you dating a fucking robot ??
Omg this. You nailed it :'(
I think my ex did all of these..
My crush asked me out a year ago but I was not ready to start dating or be in a relationship because I needed to work on myself and start loving myself first. I have not reached that point yet but everything takes time and I work hard every day to get closer to my goal:)
No.3 sign is exactly what happened to my best friend. She dated a guy that she meet only two weeks. First 3 months are always sweet and happy for her. She asked the guy, am I the one you want to be with for the rest of your life? His answer is "I don't know". She is abit dissapointed but decided to give more time to the guy to think about it. When it comes to the 8th month, she asked the same question, and his answer is still "I don't know". Later after that he breakup with her. But she still love him, ask for him to come back, but it is just giving him another chance to hurt her. He agreed to try again with her on her second time begging him, two days later he dumped her again. Girls, please love yourself more than any guys. You're the one that truly deserve love from yourself.
I prefer to be alone, people are a pain in the ass
Nothing like finding someone to be on the same page with...I love it❤️
Another reason someone isn't ready is they struggle to much mentally. They can't give themselves into the relationship due to severe PTSD or disorders. They would flee and are afraid to connect if it's a major issue with commitment and trust . It snot always related to exes or other interests. Also mental struggles people need to work through before they're ready to tackle responsibility with someone else.