7 Signs You May Not Be Ready for a Relationship

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Комментарии • 8 тыс.

  • @luigio8484
    @luigio8484 6 лет назад +6903

    I’m already in a relationship
    An abusive one
    Her name is anxiety I think

    • @indimist390
      @indimist390 6 лет назад +39

      Luigio aww

    • @erickamaesagun8304
      @erickamaesagun8304 6 лет назад +143

      Just kick her off your house. That anxiety BITCH! 😂

    • @kaidanariko
      @kaidanariko 6 лет назад +53

      Ericka Sagun she’s like the cat that came back! God wish it was that easy lol.

    • @erickamaesagun8304
      @erickamaesagun8304 6 лет назад +22

      kaidanariko oh fudge! I'm sorry guys! I shouldn't say that to you. How insensitive of me! I'm sorry guys. I hope you have someone by your side that understands you more than I am. OMG! I'm sorry again

    • @licegrrrl
      @licegrrrl 6 лет назад +31

      Luigio Dude, that's deep

  • @cuervus_
    @cuervus_ 6 лет назад +4694

    me: *wants to be loved*
    also me: *doesn't let anyone love me*

    • @Mani_Katti
      @Mani_Katti 5 лет назад +90

      Take my upvote with love, you dork.

    • @senorclown9882
      @senorclown9882 5 лет назад +232

      "Man why don't I have a girlfriend yet"
      Female who takes and interest in me "hi!"
      me "please no, i didnt ask for this go away"

    • @isabellatlk
      @isabellatlk 5 лет назад +11

      >.> Relatable

    • @Stargazer10255
      @Stargazer10255 5 лет назад +12

      Exactly me :(

    • @6a66y69
      @6a66y69 5 лет назад +27

      Just means you’re definitely not ready for a relationship I’m the same way as of now at least

  • @tia4337
    @tia4337 4 года назад +1492

    To be honest I'm such an introvert, I'm not ready to break people's heart.

    • @Jaakei
      @Jaakei 3 года назад +118

      or let other people break yours.
      I'm an introvert as well and the very last time I met someone I wanted to trust, they broke me, so badly.
      Either way, I think it's cool to be single or anything as long as you are comfortable with it : D

    • @ingridryen6700
      @ingridryen6700 3 года назад +42

      @@Jaakei You’re kinda lucky you’re single. I know this guy who likes me, but i don’t know if i like him back, like love him. I don’t want to break his heart:(

    • @timc9773
      @timc9773 3 года назад +5

      And I’m not ready to face the bullsh… like FR…

    • @tialaava3997
      @tialaava3997 3 года назад

      Hi Tia 👀

    • @lucaspaixao3808
      @lucaspaixao3808 2 года назад +11

      @@ingridryen6700 Don't force yourself, my friend was going through this with me as well and I felt bad for feeling like I was forcing her into loving me back, so don't be afraid to be honest, it should hurt them less than lying

  • @JayLookie
    @JayLookie 4 года назад +416

    I’m in my late 40’s and I’ve never been in a relationship. I have no idea what that’s like. In other words put it like this. You can never miss what you never had.

  • @manyadurga2039
    @manyadurga2039 5 лет назад +10299

    7 Signs You May Not Be Ready for a Relationship:
    1. you care more about finding the partner instead of working on yourself
    2. you're still working on your goals and discovering who you are
    3. you want someone to save you
    4. you want to save someone else
    5. you still frequently think and talk about your ex
    6. you have a hard time apologizing or admitting when you are wrong
    7. you're emotionally closed off

    • @zeldaco1208
      @zeldaco1208 5 лет назад +29

      Manyayaya ;p very much thanks (:

    • @peopleandanimalslovm
      @peopleandanimalslovm 5 лет назад +14

      Thank you!

    • @alisonfool
      @alisonfool 5 лет назад +51

      Hitting me hard w #5 even though I've never had a girlfriend lmao. Just feelings for someone

    • @bandkidz3457
      @bandkidz3457 5 лет назад +3

      Thank you 🙏

    • @user-lk8mr8dd2v
      @user-lk8mr8dd2v 5 лет назад +21

      Well I’m not ready yet I’m in a relationship I’m 10 0-0

  • @ngocquenguyen1561
    @ngocquenguyen1561 6 лет назад +2719

    Sign #1: You don't have feelings for anyone and no one have feelings for you.

    • @romanw8632
      @romanw8632 5 лет назад +42

      yea,thats pretty spot on

    • @autumnnova2105
      @autumnnova2105 5 лет назад +57

      I’m gonna be single for life!

    • @TyGalouboy
      @TyGalouboy 5 лет назад +15

      Everyone hates you........
      😿😿

    • @ayoayorech9800
      @ayoayorech9800 5 лет назад +1

      Well you got that second one right 😪

    • @vivientiffany6195
      @vivientiffany6195 5 лет назад +25

      That is literally my life, thank god I'm not the only one!!

  • @mignavinia1828
    @mignavinia1828 4 года назад +490

    We are empty 🤦‍♀️
    We should love ourselves first.Before trying to find love in other places

    • @jenniferdsouza2105
      @jenniferdsouza2105 3 года назад +2

      Exactly my point too!

    • @mr.ditkovich6379
      @mr.ditkovich6379 3 года назад +10

      And if you ar all alone in your life how the fuck are you gonna love yourself?

    • @williamlogan3933
      @williamlogan3933 3 года назад +1

      Hello hope you don't mind but can we be friends

    • @jerrytravis4044
      @jerrytravis4044 3 года назад +1

      I know especially if you ain't never been in a relationship.

    • @lawrencemorris2261
      @lawrencemorris2261 3 года назад +1

      @@mr.ditkovich6379 well I mean it shouldn't be hard building some level of connection. You don't have to instantly be in a relationship but starting off as say an acquaintance shouldn't hurt. Right?
      I'm assuming your talking about lack of romance and not lack of relationships in general.

  • @Ryan-tx8qc
    @Ryan-tx8qc 3 года назад +312

    I feel like sometimes people need love and not dating. Good friendship can be just as good as having a partner

    • @abdurraheemshirazi7314
      @abdurraheemshirazi7314 Год назад +7

      Youre so damn right

    • @amywilliams5729
      @amywilliams5729 Год назад +1

      @jacobruddach9283 feellike someone. AmyJoMurry need love ❤️ and yes Detaing Good
      Friendships can be just as good as having a partner

    • @priyakumari6073
      @priyakumari6073 Год назад

      @Jacob Ruddach same

    • @bigbadbillb
      @bigbadbillb 9 месяцев назад

      It's better to be alone than to wish you were.

  • @thereisnousernorname
    @thereisnousernorname 6 лет назад +11614

    Whelp, guess who's just going to be single for the rest of their life?

  • @erazure.
    @erazure. 5 лет назад +23202

    The first sign is that you pressed this video

  • @autumnsdream9408
    @autumnsdream9408 4 года назад +906

    Me: wants a relationship. Also me:can’t fall in love with anyone 😂👌

    • @Neko-ui4mf
      @Neko-ui4mf 3 года назад +8

      bruh it zucks 😂

    • @atznavarrom
      @atznavarrom 3 года назад +46

      Can relate. I never fall in love with someone because I have really high expectations

    • @lovebugz.976
      @lovebugz.976 3 года назад +6

      ✨ Friendship ✨

    • @roxassora2706
      @roxassora2706 3 года назад +5

      it can take a while. Find someone you connect with.

    • @chaitee7524
      @chaitee7524 3 года назад +1

      i had a laugh! thanks ^^

  • @ylliene
    @ylliene 4 года назад +580

    Ok fine i admit that i cannot imagine myself being in a relationship lmaoo but i give advices to my friends about relationships lol even though i have no experience but it always turns out well lmaoooo

  • @etera2011
    @etera2011 5 лет назад +4058

    7 signs that you may not be ready for a relationship:
    1. You care more about finding the perfect partner instead of working on yourself
    2. You're still working on your goals and discovering who you are
    3. You want someone to save you
    4. You wanna save someone else
    5. You still frequently think and talk about your ex
    6. You have a hard time apologizing and admitting when you're wrong
    7. You're emotionally-closed off
    You're welcome.

  • @brennanmason1973
    @brennanmason1973 5 лет назад +3390

    Lets be honest, the people who show all these signs are going to go for a relationship anyway.
    Edit:over 3k likes

    • @sushibott3178
      @sushibott3178 5 лет назад +100

      What's the point in not trying

    • @IvanIvanov-uw4yx
      @IvanIvanov-uw4yx 5 лет назад +63

      Once you're done with uni, you have to work. Who cares if you're ready or not? You have to have a family. My dad is the example why you should't make a kid in your 40's.

    • @user-er3nj4xm7p
      @user-er3nj4xm7p 5 лет назад +1

      XD

    • @FDLTGM
      @FDLTGM 5 лет назад +41

      You will be old when you think you're ready,even worse you might be even more fucked up than you were now.

    • @playfulvisionary7255
      @playfulvisionary7255 5 лет назад

      But the wise

  • @Moondustsmellsfunny
    @Moondustsmellsfunny 4 года назад +227

    The thing is that I kinda want to be in a relationship but I'm afraid I'll hurt the other person because I get so moody sometimes and I have major trust issues and I find it scarily difficult to open up

    • @jerrytravis4044
      @jerrytravis4044 3 года назад +6

      Same here bro I feel you though man.

    • @rwirwi6124
      @rwirwi6124 2 года назад +3

      That is so me

    • @thisisacrappyusername892
      @thisisacrappyusername892 2 года назад +2

      Number 7 PSA that means a therapist xxx

    • @Snoflakes_1
      @Snoflakes_1 2 года назад +2

      That's sign #2 my friend

    • @amywilliams5729
      @amywilliams5729 Год назад +1

      @@thisisacrappyusername892. Feel. someone. AmyJoMurry friendschip partner,
      Dateing good 👍. such. a good friends. They are to amazing couple. every. ❤
      in relationships. together all Love ❤️.

  • @jules.04
    @jules.04 3 года назад +183

    The thing is that everytime I am in a relationship I don't wanna be in it, and when I'm single I wanna be in a relationship:(

    • @michaelromig9007
      @michaelromig9007 3 года назад +6

      Me too 😞

    • @flameable4783
      @flameable4783 3 года назад +2

      @@michaelromig9007 same

    • @cancancabaret
      @cancancabaret 3 года назад +11

      Same! We probably just haven't chosen our partners wisely yet. Work in progress!

    • @StrongerThanBigfoot
      @StrongerThanBigfoot 2 года назад +8

      I just want to be a whore lol

    • @reaktiv1408
      @reaktiv1408 2 года назад +4

      We Humans are never satisfied with what we have, always desiring something else that we miss. Relationships or freedom being single. Grass is always greener....
      I can totally relate

  • @TheMostAwesomeMan2424
    @TheMostAwesomeMan2424 6 лет назад +3453

    From the looks of it I will never be ready for a relationship.

    • @NEONclusterForce
      @NEONclusterForce 6 лет назад +122

      you and me both buddy
      rip

    • @oceanrosethatsailsacrossth5312
      @oceanrosethatsailsacrossth5312 6 лет назад +119

      Same here but that's OK I have myself

    • @gustavocardenasmontalvo1266
      @gustavocardenasmontalvo1266 6 лет назад +17

      Kamikaze Warrior Productions same man ;D

    • @gonzacollao
      @gonzacollao 6 лет назад +192

      I don't think anyone is really ready though. Think about it, will you start a relationship when *all* of your problems are completely solved? Hell no, we have trouble from the moment we are born until the moment we die. When you meet someone you like, you just go for it, and whatever you have going on in your life, deal with it simultaneously, but don't let the fear of "not being ready" stop you from learning and becoming a better person; and relationships are a great way to do that. Have a great day!

    • @TheBeat710
      @TheBeat710 6 лет назад +9

      And that's alright, you just keep on keeping on.

  • @edef1244
    @edef1244 5 лет назад +7813

    7 signs you may not be ready for a relationship :
    1. No one wants to date you
    Edited Edit 2021 Edit(ion) : I am aroace, unsurprisingly, but to all of you who aren't, don't give up on yourself, your love life doesn't amount to your self worth. Just have fun while your encroaching mortality is threatening it's end. That's what truly matters.

  • @txigamxne4647
    @txigamxne4647 3 года назад +96

    don’t you ever just feel like you wanna be loved back but not in a friends or family way . like you want a boyfriend/girlfriend but you feel that you’re not good enough to have one. i just feel so *alone* and i fear nobody will love me back

    • @raerae4778
      @raerae4778 3 года назад +7

      @bluberri I completely understand where you're coming from! I want a partner too but I know I have to wait for God's timing. Hope your dream comes true soon!

    • @jerrytravis4044
      @jerrytravis4044 3 года назад +5

      Same feeling here bro I feel like that all the time.

    • @thinkers3158
      @thinkers3158 2 года назад +1

      Same feeling trust me I know how you feel 😭

    • @ellora107
      @ellora107 2 года назад +1

      i feel this exactly

    • @Anel_sun
      @Anel_sun 2 года назад

      Omg same 😩

  • @torchtoaflame7908
    @torchtoaflame7908 4 года назад +45

    I’m a little bent on the second sign since self discovery can be a lifelong process, not just a mere project. There are phases in life, and we change during every trimester.

  • @Benny-xy9vd
    @Benny-xy9vd 5 лет назад +1664

    I'm ready for a relationship but relationship ain't ready for me 😣

    • @ChicaTheChicken234
      @ChicaTheChicken234 5 лет назад +19

      *Benny* *21*
      Mood

    • @LokkPik
      @LokkPik 5 лет назад +36

      Perhaps you are not ready for a relationship, but in Soviet Russia relationship is not ready for you. Sorry, could not resist

    • @genesisllove
      @genesisllove 5 лет назад +1

      Yess😩

    • @plushtrap2106
      @plushtrap2106 5 лет назад +3

      Me

    • @plushtrap2106
      @plushtrap2106 5 лет назад +2

      Mood

  • @amarigotemgood9971
    @amarigotemgood9971 6 лет назад +1431

    sign #1 you literally say 1 word and your anxiety hits

  • @kirawolf98
    @kirawolf98 3 года назад +148

    I’m so happy and content being single, the moment someone starts trying for more it gives me unbelievable amounts of stress and anxiety.

    • @catherinedubrovna7756
      @catherinedubrovna7756 3 года назад +18

      Me too but I have been in shitty relationships and I am just scared people won't respect my boundaries. Take your time when getting to know someone. That is a good basis.

    • @sandeepkumar-if2ss
      @sandeepkumar-if2ss 2 года назад

      Hi I am single please contact me

    • @swordtai5635
      @swordtai5635 2 года назад +3

      @@catherinedubrovna7756 nah bro, I chucked up like 8 time, I just had a crush and asked her out 💀, I'm just realizing that you have to spend months or weeks trying to get to know them

    • @swordtai5635
      @swordtai5635 2 года назад +2

      @@catherinedubrovna7756 wtf that's so long tho, for a relationship that may not last even that long in high-school

    • @catherinedubrovna7756
      @catherinedubrovna7756 2 года назад +5

      @@swordtai5635 bruh it sounds like you never really got to know her. You are correct, that is wasting time. You need someone who reciprocates.

  • @-unsigned2706
    @-unsigned2706 4 года назад +1701

    Turns out I don’t need to be in a relationship
    I just need friends LOL

  • @wildwolfwitch8226
    @wildwolfwitch8226 5 лет назад +1416

    Sign 8 - You're in love more with Imaginary People than with real ones

    • @sweetiebelle5357
      @sweetiebelle5357 5 лет назад +8

      i love isabelle from animal crossing xdd

    • @amaryllisnightingale6309
      @amaryllisnightingale6309 5 лет назад +2

      when you really are cringe, your name isn't lying... the fuck with shooting school

    • @kazaki03
      @kazaki03 5 лет назад +1

      Guilty as charged 🤗

    • @nulla2974
      @nulla2974 5 лет назад +3

      Chloe Price

    • @Tony-dh
      @Tony-dh 5 лет назад

      Be good if they could make them easy to distinguish male and female.

  • @etherealblue
    @etherealblue 6 лет назад +1305

    Number one: if you're watching this at all

    • @jjoegr
      @jjoegr 5 лет назад +17

      Wow

    • @MattMurley
      @MattMurley 5 лет назад +3

      You did.

    • @etherealblue
      @etherealblue 5 лет назад +2

      Matt Murley you see that's where you're wrong I've only watched one second of this video.

    • @ViewingMyMind
      @ViewingMyMind 5 лет назад +4

      goochlands finest still considered pressing and commenting. Technically you did watch it. Also hello!

    • @samuelfreeman9578
      @samuelfreeman9578 5 лет назад +1

      Elaborate

  • @Nico-on6us
    @Nico-on6us 4 года назад +132

    When a boy rejected me. I stopped having crushes.

    • @blvckemo_
      @blvckemo_ 3 года назад +5

      That's the right attitude 🔥🔥🔥

    • @krieger7368
      @krieger7368 3 года назад +4

      I don't ask guys out cus I'm afraid they are not gay

    • @AARUSHI-iz6vf
      @AARUSHI-iz6vf 3 года назад +1

      Yeah before letting my feelings guard me for someone.. before having a crush on someone..I rethink of the things that happened to me...and just try to avoid that guy... because I think I still need to more mature and grown up for a perfect relationship

    • @roxassora2706
      @roxassora2706 3 года назад +5

      @@krieger7368 Don't fear little things like that. Learn how to take rejection. It sucks.

    • @cristhianc5580
      @cristhianc5580 3 года назад

      Most of the answers here and the comment itself seems like a horrible idea on how to handle love xd

  • @puppybooidk1832
    @puppybooidk1832 3 года назад +65

    I know I'm not ready for a relationship because of the way i cringed when she said "Its a huge *commitment* "
    I'm pretty sure i have commitment issues

  • @robynthebank919
    @robynthebank919 5 лет назад +4793

    Man, I'm so happy being single. And i mean that wholeheartedly.

    • @GraveUypo
      @GraveUypo 4 года назад +149

      it's nice, isn't it?
      if only we weren't mortal...

    • @goji5887
      @goji5887 4 года назад +204

      unfortunately only people who've been in a relationship can/would say that.

    • @lolarose8968
      @lolarose8968 4 года назад +5

      😘😘😘

    • @leowang4454
      @leowang4454 4 года назад +15

      your profile pic says the opposite ╮(─▽─)╭

    • @jadyn1048
      @jadyn1048 4 года назад +129

      @@goji5887 I've never been a relationship and I'm single and happy. not sure why but I am :)

  • @Imagino1234
    @Imagino1234 6 лет назад +801

    Idea for a future video: Signs you ARE ready for a relationship.
    Very informative video, by the way.

    • @barbarasantoz7463
      @barbarasantoz7463 6 лет назад +5

      Yep!

    • @HideorEscape
      @HideorEscape 6 лет назад +34

      1-having a lot of money, successful job
      2-being strong emotionally, not being hurt or depressed at all
      3-being and feeling very positive or open, accepting anyone with lower standards.
      4-not caring or scared of losing anyone. Not being needy or attached to anyone or anything.
      Well idk if all these are true, I never even been in a relationship but I know these.

    • @barbarasantoz7463
      @barbarasantoz7463 6 лет назад +5

      Nobody Reads My Comments Pretty good =D

    • @officaldaelight
      @officaldaelight 6 лет назад +40

      Well (1) you don't need to have lots of money or have a successful job to be in a relationship. It is necessary to have a job so you can stand off your feet and pay bills. But it should not be a necessity that you are rich to be in one. My boyfriend works at a job he plans to quit soon and I'm starting out on my art career but we work out just fine. Money should never be the glue that hold two people together.
      (2) Not true either. Actually, being in a relationship requires you to be vulnerable. When you mess up, you should be humble enough to say sorry. And sometimes hurt can be long-term. I am currently suffering anxiety right now but it's something my boyfriend and I battle together. Whenever I get an anxiety attack, I go to him to help me overcome it, not because I want him to solve it. He knows methods to help me and inspire me overcome anxiety.
      (3) Having too high standards is not good but so is having low standards or none at all. My one standard for a guy when I was single was the he's gentle and slow to anger and that is it. When I got to know my now-boyfriend and then-crush, I discovered he is those things and more. Don't lower your standards just to have a relationship. Having principles in life is what's gonna make you a strong person.
      (4) Debunked again. When you're in love, you're more than terrified to lose the one you love. Life is unpredictable and death is no discriminator and that is scary. You need to be able to communicate your fears to your partner and battle it together and overcome them. It still scares me that I could lose my boyfriend so quickly. But I have to remind myself to stay in the present and enjoy my time with him and make the most of our time together as I can. As to being needy, that's a different issue especially if your partner has mental health problems. You are a team and you should help them battle it. Clingy-ness is another story. That's the lack of trust and respect. You shouldn't be in a relationship if you won't let your partner be themselves and be okay with them hanging out with other people.
      And I say this because I've been in a relationship for a year. Your partner will never be perfect and neither can you. It's either you accept that you both can't be but you can always strive to be the best versions of yourselves together or you can stay alone, trying to find a perfect partner or tire yourself out to try to be perfect when you can never be.

    • @ryanab7391
      @ryanab7391 6 лет назад +7

      Nobody Reads My Comments Not really. My fiance and I were both broke and dealt with emotional issues when we met and got together.

  • @sophiesanders4696
    @sophiesanders4696 4 года назад +81

    Sooo basically I'll never be ready for a relationship

  • @mihikadeo
    @mihikadeo 4 года назад +64

    "The warning signs can feel like they're butterflies..."
    Quote Halsey

  • @hoshisaan
    @hoshisaan 5 лет назад +1452

    "You want someone to save you"
    Oh shoot..

    • @marine_angel
      @marine_angel 5 лет назад +10

      m h m
      m e

    • @PolarrSlushie
      @PolarrSlushie 5 лет назад +30

      Hoshi Hikaru the profile picture omg-

    • @hoshisaan
      @hoshisaan 5 лет назад +10

      @@PolarrSlushie, yes, I know.

    • @yurhomi4478
      @yurhomi4478 5 лет назад +13

      Well shit then...

    • @heyshaybee
      @heyshaybee 5 лет назад +2

      Hoshi Hikaru that profile pic though

  • @sadayokumbera7809
    @sadayokumbera7809 6 лет назад +752

    Lmao I learned I'm not ready after my ex dumped me in a Denny's, asked for me back three weeks later, and I realized I had enjoyed those 21 days of separation more than I had enjoyed our entire relationship

    • @concernedman3387
      @concernedman3387 5 лет назад +8

      Sadayo Kumbera that’s exactly how I felt once I divorced the ex.

    • @piojoaquinlopez8881
      @piojoaquinlopez8881 5 лет назад +39

      You to ex: thotus begonus

    • @mavi7005
      @mavi7005 5 лет назад +7

      Lmao I think you might be better off without them 😂😂

    • @thebottomofminyoongisshoe1952
      @thebottomofminyoongisshoe1952 5 лет назад +4

      *dramatic gasp* is that Park Jimin I see????? Are you an ARMY!!!!????!!!

    • @-Mikey405
      @-Mikey405 5 лет назад +3

      XD you really deserve someone who will love you unconditionally but also give you that space every human needs

  • @otakumultifandom
    @otakumultifandom 4 года назад +52

    Sis said "Be vulnerable" and I just froze for a second. I'm crying, y'all got a video for that?

    • @urdad9506
      @urdad9506 3 года назад +1

      Omg

    • @kokomiteruhashi8559
      @kokomiteruhashi8559 3 года назад

      I don’t understand what she meant by it :( Either ways I’m sorry

    • @nishthagupta1357
      @nishthagupta1357 2 года назад

      I don't have a video.. but actually a song that might help you ❤❤
      ruclips.net/video/o2XUvtimg5g/видео.html
      Do Listen & let me know your thoughts 😊

  • @Ross-ve9ww
    @Ross-ve9ww 2 года назад +51

    As a 37 year old man. I didn’t get my first relationship until I was 33 (we’re still together) and I can honestly say I feel that it was the right time for me.

  • @melteddarkchocolate000
    @melteddarkchocolate000 6 лет назад +3626

    This video should be advertise for Instagram couples.

    • @chio1502
      @chio1502 6 лет назад +111

      Cherry pops agreed. They gotta stop posting about them everyday..

    • @SnowFoxParty
      @SnowFoxParty 6 лет назад +13

      Cherry pops yes please

    • @LeeshMa
      @LeeshMa 6 лет назад +3

      Cherry pops love you icon

    • @LetsStopThisSong
      @LetsStopThisSong 6 лет назад +29

      the most annoying of them all

    • @Seven11seven7
      @Seven11seven7 6 лет назад +4

      @TrishaPaytas

  • @misslyntheena
    @misslyntheena 5 лет назад +1801

    Me: Meh, sometimes I wish I was in a relationship...
    Someone: has a crush on me
    Me: GO AWAY DO NOT TALK TO ME I WOULD NEVER BE ABLE TO LIKE YOU LIKE YOU LIKE ME TAKE SOMEONE ELSE

  • @anextsi6333
    @anextsi6333 4 года назад +46

    me : all signs
    also me : having bf
    and also me : not being ready
    and again me : don't wanting broke his heart

    • @assiyahr.1498
      @assiyahr.1498 4 года назад +1

      シanna meeee 😪😪

    • @didyoujustlookatme2545
      @didyoujustlookatme2545 4 года назад +6

      Meeee and im scared because the relationship I have with this boy is moving to fast

    • @michelletshuma8312
      @michelletshuma8312 4 года назад +3

      Thats sooooooo meeeeeeeeeee

    • @teoh91
      @teoh91 4 года назад +1

      Bro that's so true

    • @loquesientox9382
      @loquesientox9382 3 года назад +2

      I feel you and I'm depending whether I should tell him I like him and that I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship yet

  • @spicypeach3711
    @spicypeach3711 3 года назад +12

    I always imagine having someone special but the moment someone gets close to me, I would step away. It doesn't matter if I like the person or not. I once liked this guy years ago then he started courting me but I intentionally and unintentionally did things that made him stop. I'm curious on how it feels like to be in a relationship but I don't think I'm ready for it. I should know and care for myself more before I can give that love and care to anybody else.

  • @The-EDM-Route
    @The-EDM-Route 6 лет назад +1377

    The ones you like don't feel you enough and the ones that like you,you don't feel them enough

    • @BananaBug
      @BananaBug 6 лет назад +14

      IamAndrey Mbao wait what do you mean by feel?
      Im assuming your not talking about litturally feeling eachother XDDD

    • @Letgoit2
      @Letgoit2 6 лет назад +129

      Bannana Train! :DDD she means that her feelings for the ones she has interest are stronger, but they dont feel it that way, while the ones that have interesst in her, she does not have the same feelings for them. Kind of a dead end thing huh?

    • @doinkadoink6311
      @doinkadoink6311 6 лет назад +39

      IamAndrey Mbao Wise words from a wise man. Relate to this a lot

    • @theartist8291
      @theartist8291 6 лет назад +63

      True life.....thats the situation I always end up with

    • @Ja.abbatta_V
      @Ja.abbatta_V 6 лет назад +10

      I'm stealing this quote lol

  • @boomer-gu4wf
    @boomer-gu4wf 5 лет назад +1160

    3 seconds into the video, im thinking: do i want to watch this.......

  • @hellonearthiii4671
    @hellonearthiii4671 4 года назад +70

    My girlfriend broke up with me last night, I posted in my Snapchat I wanted to kill myself and I was super drunk, this wasn’t the first time I wasn’t the best boyfriend but she loves me and I still love her, we’re still good friends but I still feel like shit for the way I was, most of the problems was my insecurities despite her constantly saying she loves me, but last night was the last straw. I want to be a better person for her. But I can’t get over my insecurities, I constantly messaged her all the time, and was super clingy to her. My last relationship was like this. I want to change and I did to an extent but my old self was there. Anyone with advice would be really appreciated. Thanks.

    • @srishti3579
      @srishti3579 3 года назад +17

      Work on loving yourself man(can search on youtube). Will solve most of your problems.
      Also, try to do self-talk daily...by using diary or other way.
      These have helped me a lot, in all aspects of life...not just in this.
      Sending love, and everything's gonna be completely alright...have a believe on yourself❤

    • @hellonearthiii4671
      @hellonearthiii4671 3 года назад +3

      Srishti Thanks man

    • @srishti3579
      @srishti3579 3 года назад

      @@hellonearthiii4671 Anytime budd

    • @dpmotion_
      @dpmotion_ 3 года назад +2

      and this is why im not going to drink or go out to pubs when i turn 18+. water medicine milk is all ill limit myself to and thats a promise >:(

    • @sakura-tn8qd
      @sakura-tn8qd 3 года назад +3

      @@dpmotion_ alcohol is the devil.

  • @Rex_Manning-
    @Rex_Manning- 2 года назад +12

    Got out of a long term relationship about 7 years ago and have mainly stayed single and spent time figuring out myself and what I want from life. I feel like I have all right pieces in place to be awesome at a relationship. I'm loving, great listener, I respect boundaries, I have my own hobbies, friends and money, I get along with just about anyone, I genuinely care for people when they are in need, I am always trying to improve myself inside and out and am quick to say sorry when I mess up. I think the problem is that I am so content being single now. There's little to no drama being single. Yet I feel like according to society, that's not acceptable. Agh.

  • @splashketchum5011
    @splashketchum5011 6 лет назад +1728

    Sign #1: you're broke

    • @boltstrike2787
      @boltstrike2787 6 лет назад +69

      This is the primary reason I'm not in a relationship.

    • @SheltonPiresPires165
      @SheltonPiresPires165 6 лет назад +10

      ayee!! That's so me lmao

    • @anareid1222
      @anareid1222 5 лет назад +4

      Lool!! 😂😂😂

    • @Raylightsen
      @Raylightsen 5 лет назад +1

      Im not sure this is true, but everyone else says it is

    • @Marvic-ART
      @Marvic-ART 5 лет назад +1

      This is my reason hahaha

  • @spiceesnail5243
    @spiceesnail5243 6 лет назад +374

    Soul searching is never over, it isn't a sign you aren't ready for a relationship (: just my opinion

    • @gyroh6593
      @gyroh6593 5 лет назад +52

      Plus your partner can help you see things about you from a third person perspective, helping you discover yourself further. You could help each other out.

    • @whitneyholley9968
      @whitneyholley9968 5 лет назад +7

      It only becomes a sign, of course, if u want to focus more on soul searching than dating

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +3

      Great points from both sides! Yeah soul searching can be really deep or a gradual process with someone special.

    • @UnknowingNeko
      @UnknowingNeko 5 лет назад +2

      She said that it’s bad if you focus so much on finding someone, that you can’t work on yourself.

    • @simonvillarreal623
      @simonvillarreal623 5 лет назад

      I'm pretty sure they mean soul searching in terms when you've figured yourself out compaired to someone lost with themselves and choosing a relationship as a solve for it

  • @boomboom1258
    @boomboom1258 4 года назад +7

    Took me so long to realise that I just cannot be in relationships, with the signs mentioned here after breaking up recently. I think I haven't truly learned how to be happy on my own and healed my wounds and be vulnerable.

  • @yangchuyou2356
    @yangchuyou2356 2 года назад +2

    A guy and I like each other but a week in, he said he wasn't ready and I found out I wasn't ready as well. We both were still hurt from our past and needed more time, he still is by my side but we are both slowing it down as friends first. But I can feel the love in the air, hope one day, we both are ready

  • @morganlemons1694
    @morganlemons1694 6 лет назад +4576

    I feel like I would rather try for a relationship once and if it doesn't work out then I'm never doing that again lol

    • @applepretz5368
      @applepretz5368 6 лет назад +117

      Thats how I feel. I'm 13 and I NEVER been in a relationship. But then there was this one girl that rejected me lol. Maybe being around people isn't my thing perhaps?

    • @officaldaelight
      @officaldaelight 6 лет назад +325

      Sadly, that is not how life works. How do you think successful people succeed? Because they gave up when they failed once? There will be heartache, I tell you. But when you find someone who genuinely makes you happy and want to make happy, it's all worth it. Being rejected doesn't mean you're not important. It just means you still have to grow as a person and you need to build yourself more before you're ready to get into a relationship.

    • @passingby1350
      @passingby1350 6 лет назад +191

      APPLEPRETZNO _ don't think that being around people isn't your thing just because ONE girl rejected when you were like what 13? That's way too young for a relationship to even happen so don't worry, you're fine

    • @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken
      @AlkoWasAlreadyTaken 6 лет назад +59

      APPLEPRETZNO _ I’m 20 And I’ve only had two official relationships. Sure, I’ve been in the talking stage with many girls where it either didn’t work out on my side or there’s before we started dating, but to get down over one girl, especially at that age, is not worth it. Life’s full of girls and if one won’t give you their time and effort, another will. I like to think “the one you want is probably not the one you need.”

    • @CarlosRamirez-ns7qw
      @CarlosRamirez-ns7qw 6 лет назад +104

      You die once in a game so you never play it again?
      Play. Again!
      Get better, overcome and learn. You can do this.

  • @mxrt9626
    @mxrt9626 6 лет назад +268

    The only 2 signs : 1. You look good but don't have money. 2. You don't look good and you don't have money.

  • @halfb8bel
    @halfb8bel 3 года назад +6

    Thank you!!! Y’all just help me figure out what I’ve been missing about myself and it’s making a lot of sense now.😇

  • @depressoespresso7076
    @depressoespresso7076 4 года назад +5

    I think I might Philophobia... I'm always scared of love and when I start a relationship I get really stressed and panicked.

  • @Halbairn
    @Halbairn 6 лет назад +2304

    You know you're sad af when you watch this video in a park full of couples in Valentine's day...
    Good thing it ain't Valentines...

    • @noonebossesthegarnet2890
      @noonebossesthegarnet2890 6 лет назад +89

      Did you know that the days around Valentines Day is when the suicide rate goes high?

    • @Emerald152
      @Emerald152 6 лет назад +37

      NO ONE! BOSSES! THE GARNET! That pretty much shows what kind of society we live in.

    • @FateZeroth
      @FateZeroth 6 лет назад +1

      Same jfc

    • @noonebossesthegarnet2890
      @noonebossesthegarnet2890 6 лет назад +17

      Emerald Sadly it’s true. People feel so lonely in the month of love.

    • @jasmintea8825
      @jasmintea8825 6 лет назад +7

      White Sardines it's stupid to get sad about shit like this

  • @gabbygutierrez5495
    @gabbygutierrez5495 5 лет назад +847

    I told my friend i wanted a boyfriend and then this showed up in my recommended
    I feel attacked😭😂

    • @zacherypritchett9079
      @zacherypritchett9079 4 года назад +22

      well my friend told me i need a girlfriend and all of the sudden this video popped up lol

    • @sir.confident
      @sir.confident 4 года назад +9

      This video popped up when I thought about it.

    • @Edithae
      @Edithae 4 года назад +15

      Google has access to the mic on your phone. Their algorithm records what you say in the presence of your phone and scans it for keywords. They can then target and tailor ads more accurately to you.
      Facebook does it too, scanning your privates messages, posts, comments etc.
      And Amazon.
      That's how they make money - advertising. We aren't the customer, we are the product. Advertisers are the customer, and Corps like Google or Facebook want to sell their Ads as efficiently as possible so they harvest data on us to learn as much as they can about what makes us tick so they predict what we want and target us with the appropriate ads.
      It's not literally somebody reading your private messages or eavesdropping on your conversations because it's just a computer program, but it's not far off.

    • @Edithae
      @Edithae 4 года назад +6

      Case in point. I've just gone through a break up 4 weeks into the Coronavirus lockdown, and my mental health has taken a blow.
      My internet searches, social media activity, and even the things I mutter to myself in private (I think out loud a lot) all reflect that, and suddenly I'm getting spammed with adverts for dating sites and Online Therapists.
      This is how Modern social media works.

    • @teliah3922
      @teliah3922 4 года назад

      @@Edithae they do listen dont be fooled but yeah get what ur saying

  • @rosenguyen3618
    @rosenguyen3618 3 года назад

    Thank you! I've been watching a lot of psy vids, and then we're pretty overwhelming😥 this video was really easy going and helpful!

  • @SebasDaviid
    @SebasDaviid 3 года назад

    Thanks for the video! I always think in finding someone from time to time, this is a good reminder that I wanna work on other things for myself

  • @apex_alpha_studios
    @apex_alpha_studios 5 лет назад +2965

    #8 - you're still have cruches on fictional characters.
    I need to stop...

    • @shoutaaizawa5810
      @shoutaaizawa5810 5 лет назад +26

      Crazy Sergon Same :') Which character is it in your case?

    • @apex_alpha_studios
      @apex_alpha_studios 5 лет назад +56

      @@shoutaaizawa5810 I really like L from death note 😂😂😅 ._.

    • @zedenise8187
      @zedenise8187 5 лет назад +47

      Crazy Sergon pfft me with bakugo.. 😂😂

    • @shoutaaizawa5810
      @shoutaaizawa5810 5 лет назад +7

      Crazy Sergon Aww, that's actually cute :3 He was such a cool character

    • @venus-qt3et
      @venus-qt3et 5 лет назад +17

      Karma Akabane and 707.

  • @Norahungary
    @Norahungary 5 лет назад +1110

    i'm still not ready at 23 smh

  • @nicolejaja270
    @nicolejaja270 4 года назад +8

    Me: Well I think I'm ready for a relationship
    Also me: Watch this video and realize I'm related with all of the points

  • @HARU.7243
    @HARU.7243 3 года назад +13

    I really needed this... I just got out of a relationship and these were the reasons the relationship couldn't strive.... I am glad I broke up although I hurt a person and will be guilty for that but I discovered that I am not ready yet... Thank u for talking about it...

    • @natalia.j
      @natalia.j 2 года назад +2

      Same I hurt him so much bc he started hugging me and everything but I could not be in a relationship bc I am 13 and for me that is too young. He was crying while sending audio messages today and idk what to do

  • @DWN-024ShadowMan
    @DWN-024ShadowMan 6 лет назад +275

    After watching the video I exclaimed while jumping out of my bed and lifting my fist in a victorious manner : " I'M NOT READY ".... crazy 😂

    • @BettyAlexandriaPride
      @BettyAlexandriaPride 6 лет назад +3

      Dark Zero Dude, that's awesome.

    • @Sighbot
      @Sighbot 6 лет назад +1

      It actually can be relieving to know that you’re not ready for a relationship.

    • @shainephyllis
      @shainephyllis 6 лет назад +3

      Idk why but this made me laugh 😂

    • @DWN-024ShadowMan
      @DWN-024ShadowMan 6 лет назад

      aliceinwonderland
      😂

  • @VenaPaiplal
    @VenaPaiplal 6 лет назад +93

    I can't even be in a relationship with myself...

  • @Dalggi
    @Dalggi 3 года назад

    Well!! I literally searched for this. Glad I've listened to it. Thank you!

  • @kate777_
    @kate777_ 2 года назад

    I love how you put the numbers in the corner it really helps :)

  • @jennaswifey
    @jennaswifey 5 лет назад +1094

    people i like don’t like me that’s why im not in a relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @chel6926
      @chel6926 4 года назад +52

      Relatable

    • @theweirdo2005
      @theweirdo2005 4 года назад +17

      Same

    • @michaeldavis2039
      @michaeldavis2039 4 года назад +47

      Now, there is the 💯% truth! Same for me. So let's all continue with #2 and concentrate on our purpose and goals instead of wasting our time with people who don't like us. As long as we are more interested in our purpose than interested in those that don't like us, these people eventually will come (because they are getting ignored by us)....and then we can turn around and reject them, because they were only interested in what we have....they were never interested in us as individuals to begin with. ✊

    • @crescentsrgirlsvolleyball8908
      @crescentsrgirlsvolleyball8908 4 года назад +8

      When you want to like a comment to agree with it but I has 69 liked

    • @stamiliemmanuel6098
      @stamiliemmanuel6098 4 года назад +1

      Same to me

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 6 лет назад +181

    I'll be never in s relationship again. I got hurt too much, I'm better off alone with my cat.

    • @florian6259
      @florian6259 6 лет назад +40

      I kinda was in a same mood after a break up recently and just didn't want to even hear the word "love". I'm sure that your cat is lovely and that you are absolutly fine with him ! But if one day you find someone interesting to you, please, don't be scared to start something new. You are lovable and there's good and caring people on this planet still today.

    • @Asakedia
      @Asakedia 6 лет назад +10

      Laura Gadille time is the best cure for everything. Just forget about it and look forward for yourself ! :)
      Try to focus on your path, dont think about love etc.
      Sometime, it will come by itself eventually. As i said, time cures everything.

    • @Ckabf
      @Ckabf 6 лет назад +9

      well something i see is girls who get emotionally invested in fuckbys, cause yeah theyre hot. but find a cute ish guy who treats you nice and fights for you, dont fight for him or hes not worth it

    • @Asakedia
      @Asakedia 6 лет назад +4

      eoghan quinn I can agree with that.
      A problem to find a relationship is also to find each other.
      Maybe both of them love each other, but are not telling it because of their fear they would lose their friendship and not even talk anymore.
      Unfortunately...

    • @melissita77
      @melissita77 6 лет назад +2

      Your cat is adorable ! And you’ll find someone eventually

  • @dude9603
    @dude9603 4 года назад +3

    Everytime i want to be in a relationship i watch this video to get a idea on where my flaws are and try to better my self thank you for the help

  • @bdstudios6088
    @bdstudios6088 2 года назад +1

    Your drawings are always so adorable and I find the content helpful a lot!

  • @lionking-ig5yi
    @lionking-ig5yi 5 лет назад +794

    I want her to narrate my life lol

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +45

      Do you have a script? :)

    • @enderlegasov
      @enderlegasov 5 лет назад +4

      Would you say she's the female Morgan Freeman?

    • @fuckwit107
      @fuckwit107 5 лет назад +6

      "And now is when she realised
      she fucked up"

    • @Limei_Dreams
      @Limei_Dreams 5 лет назад

      Mine would be a horror story

  • @rorylumley4727
    @rorylumley4727 6 лет назад +949

    What if you dont even like yourself

    • @miuiruma535
      @miuiruma535 6 лет назад +11

      idk

    • @aurora2061
      @aurora2061 6 лет назад +65

      relatable question right there

    • @pirates9109
      @pirates9109 6 лет назад +48

      work hard to improve yourself so you get some qualities to love

    • @ballofmayo5132
      @ballofmayo5132 6 лет назад +23

      Then your definitely not ready for a relationship

    • @senorclown9882
      @senorclown9882 5 лет назад +2

      Thats where i come in
      No im not a therapist I relate to this

  • @sheepashoo1509
    @sheepashoo1509 3 года назад

    Thank you, I didn't realise what I need to work on, this was very insightful

  • @ShawnDude
    @ShawnDude 2 года назад +1

    I don’t want to deal with the pressure of a relationship, but at the same time I don’t wanna lose the girl I’m after.

  • @ashistrash2046
    @ashistrash2046 6 лет назад +98

    Problem is, I love too hard but when someone loves me back and asks for a relationship I don’t feel ready. That makes me feel so bad and complicated, and sooner or later, my feelings fade away and so does the other persons feelings. But then after we’ve decided to just stay friends, the feelings come back for me, but not for them.

    • @eliebordron5599
      @eliebordron5599 6 лет назад +4

      What a pain in the ass it must be

    • @ystergkc
      @ystergkc 6 лет назад +2

      ashton._. plankton I can relate so much

    • @icedcoffee278
      @icedcoffee278 6 лет назад

      Literallly me omgggggg

    • @Vivi-xq1gg
      @Vivi-xq1gg 6 лет назад

      ashton._. plankton Relatable

    • @RDavisLink
      @RDavisLink 5 лет назад

      Well if you don't feel ready just be honest with them. That you're not ready for a relationship right now an just need to focus on yourself first. Before considering being committed in a relationship.

  • @teacuppie4881
    @teacuppie4881 5 лет назад +462

    My reason: I love personal space too much 😂😭

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +26

      Introvert in the house too? :)

    • @pinseekergaming4760
      @pinseekergaming4760 5 лет назад +1

      Psych2Go say you've met 52 girls and more than half of them have lied to you or let you want to believe that you're going to be in a relationship and they turn around and treat you like garbage. I think I'm number one of your seven signs but is that so bad to want mean my parents found it why can't I? Any suggestions?

    • @huna5923
      @huna5923 5 лет назад

      Haha, same

    • @tullythebully5539
      @tullythebully5539 5 лет назад +7

      1. Personal space
      2. Personal space
      3. Stay out of my personal space
      4. Keep away from my personal space
      5. Get out of that personal space
      6. Personal space

    • @user-en8nu2fc1x
      @user-en8nu2fc1x 5 лет назад

      Same

  • @TiredGryphon
    @TiredGryphon 4 года назад +3

    I think I could definitely relate to 2 and 7. I do have a hard time letting down my walls, and I also have been focusing on myself this year

  • @Oatmeayl
    @Oatmeayl 4 года назад +1

    this is a really nice video, well put together

  • @melteddarkchocolate000
    @melteddarkchocolate000 6 лет назад +1507

    Being in a relationship is to much work. Did you know that being by yourself is apparently called werid?If I'm in a relationship with someone I need to be around him or her in all times and do some lovely dovely shit around him just to make people believe that we are in love. It's a MUST not a want. I am not a talkive person same as for me being affectionate. I'm not going to deal with that. I want to be in a relationship but that's when I'm older and ready enough to handle that.

    • @anascarlet
      @anascarlet 6 лет назад +101

      I'm the same way... I just get super anxious about being lovey dovey with someone in public :/ I think a lot of people are like that though

    • @misty56770
      @misty56770 6 лет назад +43

      Cherry pops you don't have to have a romantic relationship, I'm not a touchy person either. Don't let them tell you what you have to do, its your choice

    • @officaldaelight
      @officaldaelight 6 лет назад +43

      I'm in an LDR relationship and I can tell you that is not the case. People who are in a relationship for the sake of having a bf or gf do PDA because they want to flaunt an show off and are pretty arrogant people. But sometimes, people display affection because it's genuine. Their partner might be scared or worried about an event or going on a ride in a theme park, they might need to calm down from being so excited, or they're just happy. Don't judge couples just because they look happy. Too much PDA is bad but a little smooch is no harm either.
      And since I am in an LDR, I am usually by myself. It's not weird. If you feel weird for being alone while you're in a relationship, that's not healthy and you are overthinking. You need to be able to have your own identity while being committed to someone. And, yes. Relationships are work. But if it's someone you genuinely love, it's worth it.

    • @hikaritenshi2825
      @hikaritenshi2825 6 лет назад +19

      The first time I've ever been on a relationship, is both me and her have dedicated ourselves hiding our relationship. Just letting necessary people to know it. Family and our own wingman or wingwoman. And yeah, 6 people or less only know about it. Just because of that alone, we weren't focused on other's opinion, we were happy with each other being ourselves in the process, we were always focused on each other's problems or success for the day without having misconceptions from anybody else's. In short, our relationship was simple, and we avoided things that would cause major problems initially. We broke up a long time ago, but we really did enjoy each other's company. We grew up ourselves in the process haha.

    • @officaldaelight
      @officaldaelight 6 лет назад +7

      Saaaamee. It took me 4 months to tell my parents I'm in a relationship and a month to tell people close to me.

  • @kaylar5178
    @kaylar5178 5 лет назад +359

    8. You’re too focused on your crush that is also still single and just get weird vibes when another random guy tries to talk to you

    • @bladesandflannels4665
      @bladesandflannels4665 4 года назад +7

      Omg me right now

    • @chloechurch1622
      @chloechurch1622 4 года назад +2

      Me too

    • @solxgamingx
      @solxgamingx 3 года назад +6

      Rubberducky 171 That’s me and my crush doesn’t even fucking know me and lives in another country. And I’m a damn virgin, ah fuck my life!!

    • @julienmakesstuff9920
      @julienmakesstuff9920 3 года назад

      SAME

    • @Hi-wf9mq
      @Hi-wf9mq 3 года назад

      Yay I’m finally not alone! I just got asked out today! Probably me in a couple months when she breaks up with me. “Why is my life so depressing”

  • @jawly_
    @jawly_ 2 года назад +1

    This really helped me with doubts of whether or not I'm ready. I'm definitely not. I think I should wait until I've done what I want to do and figured things out before I start looking for anyone

  • @user-cj7em3fj4x
    @user-cj7em3fj4x 4 года назад +4

    This was inspiring. Lately I felt really confused while hanging around with others even that I wanted to. Maybe these are the signs I should think about more.
    1. Care about finding perfect partner instead of working on myself.
    2. Having a hard time to apologizing or admitting when i'm wrong.
    3. Want to save someone else.
    4. Working on my goals & discovering myself.

  • @mitzelle
    @mitzelle 6 лет назад +427

    This is silly, but...
    I’ve always felt like I’ve never been good enough for a relationship, that if anyone took interest in me, then started dating me, they’d be disappointed. From my looks, to my personality, to my sexuality. I’ve never seen myself in a relationship.
    Ever since 5th grade it’s what I though. I had a crush? I don’t see myself with them. Someone had a crush on me? I don’t think it would work.
    I guess I’ve always had self doubt ever since youth. It makes no sense, but, I don’t know how I can fix it. I’m always shy to talk about my issues or love life.
    So I usually avoid it.
    I’ve always taken it as a sign I’ll never be ready for dating.

    • @Mani_Katti
      @Mani_Katti 5 лет назад +34

      You don't need to be ready for dating.
      You literally said that you didn't even try it. Only experience can make you better.
      Try it. If it fails, don't give up. Try again! You learned new things you didn't know before.
      Don't give up before you even started!! :)

    • @CartoonKidOLLY
      @CartoonKidOLLY 5 лет назад +3

      Relatable

    • @anastasiiaiurkova8897
      @anastasiiaiurkova8897 5 лет назад +1

      same....

    • @flexthedragon5983
      @flexthedragon5983 5 лет назад +1

      Same here bro

    • @tommylakasi3022
      @tommylakasi3022 5 лет назад +1

      _AntiSocial . Cloud i know exactly how u feel. People all over the internet just say go ahead and try it. Theres no risk. If it doesnt work out, thats fine! You need to practice being ina relationship

  • @isadora1727
    @isadora1727 6 лет назад +372

    Society is always trying to say that being in a relationship should be your biggest goal in life, but i just think it would be exhausting lol

    • @Outdex.
      @Outdex. 6 лет назад +14

      insta gram Same, I personally think being in an intimate relationship would be a waste of time.

    • @flor2637
      @flor2637 6 лет назад

      Samee

    • @passingby1350
      @passingby1350 6 лет назад +8

      But maybe just a few experiences of it would make life feel a bit more complete since you might die regretting not trying it

    • @Amp661
      @Amp661 6 лет назад +14

      insta gram not worth it. loving yourself and your goals will take you MUCH farther!

    • @CheshireCat478
      @CheshireCat478 6 лет назад +17

      Being in a typical relationship that is generally portrayed by society does sound exhausting yeah. Good thing you don't actually have to adhere to those standards at all

  • @coolpotato8782
    @coolpotato8782 2 года назад +1

    This video was really helpful! I think I need to learn to open up more because I have some serious trust issues after the shit that happened in my life... I'm just so scared that someone's going to leave me as soon as I tell them anything vulnerable.

  • @okay3425
    @okay3425 3 года назад +2

    I just got out of a toxic relationship and ended up hurting that person but this video made me realize that I have really learned to work on myself before committing to a new one and what my main issue that I should be really focusing on is.

  • @micahguillemette3344
    @micahguillemette3344 5 лет назад +602

    To be honest, i kind of disagree. If you're in a relationship, its okay if you need help fixing yourself. As long as the relationship isn't JUST to fix yourself, its always good to get some help. Also, walls dont get put down just like that. Walls are things that stay up and can be put down by other people. If someone can put down your walls and help you feel better, then they're a good person to date.

    • @cetkat
      @cetkat 5 лет назад +41

      I agree on both points.
      Someone once told me that when a person wants to start a relationship with someone who is working on themselves and is honest about those issues - it's that person's decision to make. It's not wrong to let that connection happen out of fear your problems will hurt them, or they don't really know what they're getting into. You can let people make their own choices. ..I felt that was particularly wise advice.

    • @KA-pr1xt
      @KA-pr1xt 5 лет назад +28

      I disagree about someone being able to take anothers wall down. You put the wall up, only you can take it down. Theres no perfect person who is going to come along and bring the walls down... once you get further into the relationship and start to see the imperfections of the person you'll end up hurting them.

    • @mushroomlover479
      @mushroomlover479 5 лет назад +4

      I love your profile picture! I'm bisexual so

    • @ayajadayel9260
      @ayajadayel9260 5 лет назад +2

      LOVE your profile!💖💜💙

    • @mushroomlover479
      @mushroomlover479 5 лет назад +2

      @@ayajadayel9260
      IKR! I'm bisexual and I love that profile

  • @monroenap
    @monroenap 5 лет назад +223

    Well my love life is sadder than those “try not to cry” videos

    • @userk2876
      @userk2876 5 лет назад +10

      You are a woman... you can be in a relationship whenever you want... stop complaining.

    • @kathleensnow8376
      @kathleensnow8376 5 лет назад +10

      @@userk2876 that's wrong😂

    • @harmonie8802
      @harmonie8802 5 лет назад +8

      ​@@userk2876 Both men and women can have troubled love lives. It's not about gender, but rather about how they are as a person, and the people surrounding them. If a relationship can form effortlessly, it is most often because of mutual feelings of lust or infatuation towards one another, which is reliant on physical attraction. It takes time and dedication to be able to establish a meaningful connection towards somebody, and to both be physically and emotionally attracted to them.

    • @yamiavatar2662
      @yamiavatar2662 5 лет назад

      @@userk2876 how so? Do you really think it depends on the gender of a person??

    • @userk2876
      @userk2876 5 лет назад +4

      @@yamiavatar2662 Yes, of course finding the right person is hard for both. But if a woman wants intimacy she can get it very easy no matter how she looks. There are always a bunch of men who will be interested in her. You can do an online dating experiment if you want or just ask below average men an women. Take a photo of a fat ugly guy and a fat ugly Woman. Guess who gets more messages?
      I could have misunderstood her, Im assuming she means sex with love life.

  • @timothyjonathan526
    @timothyjonathan526 4 года назад

    Interesting video! Love your content 😎👌👍

  • @MoltenLqva
    @MoltenLqva 4 года назад +5

    Me: gets in relationship
    RUclips: recommends me this video
    Me: does not show any signs
    Me: [happiness noises]

  • @Tequilaa.
    @Tequilaa. 6 лет назад +134

    I'm just too scared to be truly intimate with someone :

    • @Chris-mk6lb
      @Chris-mk6lb 6 лет назад +14

      Ez same. The thought alone freaks me out

    • @erickamaesagun8304
      @erickamaesagun8304 6 лет назад +29

      Ez me too! And speaking of being intimate, I think I'm not ready for sex too. So, that's why I'm single 😂

    • @CombatCorgiॐ
      @CombatCorgiॐ 6 лет назад +9

      i guess i'm not the only coward 😏😏

    • @erickamaesagun8304
      @erickamaesagun8304 6 лет назад +4

      Yes, you're not alone! 😂✌✌✌

    • @serenaledini6976
      @serenaledini6976 6 лет назад +1

      Ez Same

  • @anarosario8237
    @anarosario8237 5 лет назад +188

    I’m always afraid of people not loving me enough , that’s why I denied everyone !!! Afraid of someone cheating on me , afraid of having another baby alone , afraid of someone no loving me for me (a lot of trust issues) 😭😭😭😭

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  5 лет назад +10

      Yeah! Very relatable!

    • @behnamgheysari6850
      @behnamgheysari6850 5 лет назад +2

      it doesn't work that way,i think there are players or fake men and also real people out there and you should find some one appropriate and then trust him instead of trusting and the first place and giving him you'r heart

    • @godgirl34599
      @godgirl34599 5 лет назад +2

      Yes, a decent response to an inaccurate video thank the Lord!👏👏👏

    • @OutlawKING111
      @OutlawKING111 5 лет назад +4

      I'm scared that I might become a baby daddy. Females ne using pressure to get the D then blame us.

    • @funkyfuck9098
      @funkyfuck9098 5 лет назад

      @@c0c0nutbeans weirdo

  • @janellenavarro
    @janellenavarro 4 года назад

    The fact that I JUST had a breakdown of being unsure of me feelings ab starting a relationship and ofc this pops up in my recommended

  • @notmoelel
    @notmoelel 4 года назад +13

    No one:
    Not a single soul:
    Me: Ive got my cats. No girl/boyfriend can beat them

  • @patchchay3942
    @patchchay3942 5 лет назад +823

    I just really want to have that type of bond and connection with someone. I want to feel that type of comfort by just being in their presence. I don't know If this makes sense. I just know that I'm terrified of being alone and losing people I care about. And that I'm not ready for a relationship xD
    this sounds cliche but I hope whoever reads this has a great day :)

    • @furinick
      @furinick 5 лет назад +28

      Yep I also miss my gf for this very reason, I miss someone to just hold hands and hug and just being close to

    • @yamiavatar2662
      @yamiavatar2662 5 лет назад +8

      I know exactly what you mean 😣

    • @killmenow3181
      @killmenow3181 4 года назад +1

      Sounds nice

    • @shantaloupe4243
      @shantaloupe4243 4 года назад +13

      Life is cruel and humans have emotions = worst combination. Thats why I am still single.

    • @perfectlyimperfectmae6137
      @perfectlyimperfectmae6137 4 года назад +4

      I just found that comfort being in their presence but we just lost each other😢it sucks how Fate & destiny sometimes work...right love at the wrong time I guess...I just hope we'll found each other again someday, I really loved him and always will...

  • @DuchessSparrow
    @DuchessSparrow 6 лет назад +83

    Number 7 is the main reason I've not been in a proper relationship, I find it difficult to let people in. I'm fine when it comes to friends, but when someone shows romantic interest I immediately close myself off. Strange, eh?

    • @hanunnisrinaardani4019
      @hanunnisrinaardani4019 6 лет назад +8

      DuchessSparrow Agree :"D sometimes I feel bad towards them who loves me

    • @TeckGeck
      @TeckGeck 6 лет назад

      Tell me about it, that's the reason why my past relationships failed

    • @evea.4358
      @evea.4358 6 лет назад

      Same though

    • @MezzoForte4
      @MezzoForte4 6 лет назад +3

      I lost friends this way. They jumped the gun and would ask me out. I freak out, say no and would stop talking to them.

    • @flor2637
      @flor2637 6 лет назад

      agree

  • @xenatwizell6669
    @xenatwizell6669 2 года назад +1

    im happy being single but falling for someone is so scary to me. ive fallen for someone and im stuck between ignoring it and putting my walls up in fear of being hurt or hurting them but im also wanting to drop my walls for once and allow myself to be genuinely happy with someone

  • @gabbysantos388
    @gabbysantos388 3 года назад +2

    I left a relationship because I want to focus on myself, the best thing I decided to do

  • @PRGME7
    @PRGME7 6 лет назад +158

    Here's two
    8: fearing romance
    9: hating romance
    (I may be projecting a little bit.)

    • @BananaBug
      @BananaBug 6 лет назад +2

      YUCK!!

    • @zer0ichi
      @zer0ichi 6 лет назад +18

      I think i fear romance?? I mean.. I would like to feel it, but at the same time it scares me.. And I don't even know why

    • @thomasledesma4439
      @thomasledesma4439 6 лет назад +2

      zero ichi because it hurts if you're not careful enough

    • @jaeggeryntig8741
      @jaeggeryntig8741 6 лет назад

      lol what if you just gave up? (me rn LOL)

    • @flor2637
      @flor2637 6 лет назад +2

      yep i hate love

  • @aihara_namika7585
    @aihara_namika7585 6 лет назад +233

    I always feel jealous when I see my friends dating. I want to date someone but because I never actually have someone who also like me. Its always crush or one-sided love. But at the same time I know that I can't date someone. I feel afraid to enter that kind of world; heartbreak, quarrel etc. I also don't know if I can commit to relationship, I afraid I wouldn't because I've always been single.

    • @henrikivila2697
      @henrikivila2697 6 лет назад +5

      namika aihara life is shit,good luck with it

    • @NEONclusterForce
      @NEONclusterForce 6 лет назад +6

      that's basically the definition of my love life, but i low key day dream that it'll happen sooner or later and if not then oh well guess I'll just be Batman because....you know its Batman

    • @NEONclusterForce
      @NEONclusterForce 6 лет назад +2

      i also have like a deep fear that i can never keep my end of the bargain...like you know they say cheating is a choice or something similar but you ever know and another is a fear that something stupid happens and we just can't be ( it's happened like a couple times now so sadly to say im used to it )
      funny how i discuss this here and not with my friends or anyone else

    • @henrikivila2697
      @henrikivila2697 6 лет назад

      NEONclusterForce well its easier to discuss it here isnt it?

    • @NEONclusterForce
      @NEONclusterForce 6 лет назад

      +Henri Kivila in a weird way yea

  • @swathi5773
    @swathi5773 3 года назад +1

    1. Finding perfect partner than working on oneself to be best version of self.
    2. Still exploring self
    3. You want someone to save you
    4. You want to save someone else
    5. Frequently thinking and talking about your ex
    6. Have hard time apologizing
    7. Emotionally closed off

    • @emelen_
      @emelen_ 3 года назад

      THANK YOU SO MUCH

  • @ewan7746
    @ewan7746 4 года назад

    This video is helping me come to terms a bit. Thanks.