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7 Signs You Are Ready for a Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 1 сен 2018
- Have you wonder if you're ready for a relationship?
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Hey, I was the 7th person to like this comment! 7 is my favourite number!😊😊😊😊😊
Rumple 7 i farted
I am too young for a proper relationship but I can help people be prepared for one now. So I will wait and see if I find someone that I can live a glorious and inspiring life that will bring hope to the ones who are lost near the lifeless and unhappy pit of mangled-mental bodies of those who hurt others by ripping their own lives away!
@@deathmetalpotato well...... good.
Psych2Go I rather really liked this one
My ex can't be on my mind if I dont have one...
Haha same
Such wise words
Ikr
Are you saying you don't have an ex, or you don't have a mind?
GOOD FOR YOU :')
Sign #1: You’ve been single your whole life
Sign #2: You’ve binged all of Psych2Go’s relationship videos
Lol
I'll take it XD
This is so accurate
FandomTrash93 lmao accurate
I'd also argue all of these points are clear signs of maturity,which is critical to having empathy and compassion for others
Empathy and compassion don't require maturity, but hiw much a person cares for someone else. Did you mean like a stable empathy and compassion?
@@miweergrum7279 yes sorry. Comments aren't always the best for clarity
@@miweergrum7279 agreed
I finally passed all the 7 signs and I'm 80 years old now. Finally, I am ready for a relationship!
Lmfaoo
So true
You can find love at any age 😂
I😂😂😂
😂
sign #1: someone actually wants to be in a relationship with you
0mane0 my dating life summed up
This got me ending up with the wrong people
LMAO TRUE
The sad moment when you have to take relationship advice from Friedrich Nietzsche... even Kierkegaard is a Don Juan compared to me.
Fr lol
Alright, got all of that checked.
Now, where can I order a girlfriend?
I ordered one from russia and she gave me HPV
Have you tried the deep web?
Theyre really expensive to maintain thought
Girls aren't expensive 😂😂 well at least I'm not.
@@KozeyLiving They are, you have to be rich to have one :/
0:24 1. You're not looking for someone to complete you.
0:51 2. You understand the importance of open communication.
1:17 3. Your ex is no longer on your mind.
1:45 4. You have mastered self-love and acceptance.
2:16 5. You've gotten the experiences you wanted.
2:46 6. You understand the reality of maintaining relationships.
3:17 7. You are ready to integrate your life with someone else's.
I'm not ready for 7
4. You have mastered self love and acceptance
I’m going to be lonely for the rest of my life it looks like...
You're not!:) I disagree with that point entirely. Self love is a life long journey, so it doesn't make sense waiting to master it before getting into relationships. I don't even believe that's something you can master,it's not exactly a skill. It comes
*in waves, up and down..
Inês Conduto i agree! Completely impossible to be 100% okay with yourself - it takes years to build that self esteem.
You attract others with your confidence. Even if you're not "good looking" but "society's standards", if you become confident and learn to trust, respect and love yourself, you will attract someone. I know it takes time and it's a life long journey, but you'll meet someone!
I've always believed the point of relationships is to learn more about yourself. Sometimes it's the lessons we learn from the experiences we have from interpersonal relationships that help us better love and accept ourselves
Oh im so ready take me
Please.
Akila Gray Okay! :D
And they lived happily ever after
I couldn't help but laugh with that profile pic
Shall we do it?
hi there, my names Jerry...
"Your ex is no longer on your mind"
Me: wait whos my ex-
Thank you kind stranger
I never dated so I dont have a ex
:,)
Lol dont have an ex
I don’t have an ex tho-
i don't have an ex
About to marry my high school sweetheart. We have been together nearly 6 years
Lovey Mills ayy
Congrats 👏
:]]]
Lovey Mills congrats !!
Third Echelon basically the person who u were in a relationship since high school and now r married
It's been a year since my divorce. My ex wife cheated on me many times and was emotionally abusive. I have done a lot of healing and a lot of work on myself in the past year to be the best me I can be and now I've begun dating someone really wonderful. But still every once in a while I experience dark feelings of the trauma I endured, and my mind tells me that I am broken and no-one would want me. I am trying really hard not to let it get to me, because this girl is very special, and I don't want my emotional problems to hurt her or damage the relationship we are building.
Aww:) i hope your new relationship is going good still!!
Can relate so hard to you. I really hope you can achieve the peace you are looking for.
@@whoknows8362 Thank you Tina! That's very kind of you. The relationship is going great, and I am very happy. :)
@@FranciscoHernandez-zn3ij thank you Francisco, I wish the best for you as well!
I know exactly how you feel. However, I'm working on me right now. It's not always easy because I miss that companionship and basically having that person that was there, but when it's my time, I'll get there
I’m probably not ready to be in a relationship like ever..... I just don’t know
You will be ready soon.
Are you human or a potato?
Rumple 7 I’m a potato in disguise as a human 😂 but shhh keep my secret
aleleotta I don’t really think so I feel uncomfortable thinking about being in a relationship but sometimes I do but I don’t think so at the moment
nameless wanderer well damn I hope it gets better for you
8. You're financially stable.
Still not ready for a relationship yet.
ArtMasterFrylock Yes because a lot of people don’t factor in that money is also involved in most relationships for simple things i.e. dates, food, events, etc etc
what loooool nooooo XD how the hell does your financial status define your love life? that's why love is the best one could ever experience, it's because you only need an open heart and a fitting partner! nothing else. dates and events are not important for a good relationship.
@@sehrinteressant Love is not enough if one partner does not contribute in other important areas in life. Those who believe that love is all you need is naive
Yes, that is a major one. Probably the most important. For a long term relationship that is.
Yeah we all know rich people have the best relationships /cough/
But what about being depressed or not fully self accepting? Why do so many people who don’t live themselves still have amazing partners who help them through it all
Yeah, I kind of have the same question on my mind.
Not being fully self-accepting can cause problems in relationships. It asks a lot of a potential partner to try to make up for that lack of self-esteem. Those relationships are hard to maintain and often times don’t last, or end up being unhealthy. Not always, but often. Depression is an illness, but learning to manage it on your own first is an important step in being ready for a relationship. A relationship doesn’t fix a mental illness.
Laurel Rhinehardt Soooo true! Thank you.
@Anjali Lovely. Thank you (and Laurel Rhinehardt!) for telling me such wonderful advice!
Because we didnt search them, we enjoy the time and Support each other and Love each other No Matter of the mental illness,Look etc
Literally half of the internet just went, "Dang it!" Whenever sign 4 showed up.
*Time to find out if I'm ready for a relationship.*
I can sympathise with you 🙄 ...
Why are you everywhere?!
being in relationship will take so much from me coz im an introvert and have social anxiety so i have a feeling i will get more anxious dealing w a relationship, nty.
I know how you feel I'm a introvert but I have no anxiety I just avoid people because I hate people they just really piss me off
Hey if it helps I've done videos on dealing with social anxiety, attracting others and building deep relationships. Might be worth taking a look to see if it helps
You just need to find someone who is right for you, I'm about as introverted as they come (other than work, I only leave my house about twice a month to take care of things) and I've had a couple relationships where I actually wanted to spend time with my partner and they would let me be alone if I wanted to be. There's someone for everyone, it's just a matter of finding them.
I’m an introvert but with the right person you won’t be drained by them you’ll feel like they’re part of your little world the one human welcome into your safe space and it’s great
If the relationship is right, the anxiety will reduce!
I watched this a while ago, and came back to see how I’ve improved myself. I’ve gotten past a lot of hurdles, but I’m not done with everything. I’ve come a long way since I’ve last seen this. Thanks! Love you guys!!
Been an year, hope you're doing much better now!
give us an update :-)
Same man!
Let's not forget that "falling in love" is temporary... Eventually you see your partner as they really are. This is the test of "true love" in a relationship.
I believe you can be not ready, but can you really be that ready ? It's like having a child
I think there's truth to this. I don't think you can be 100% prepared because who knows what your partner will be like?
@@christinabutterfield1801, this fact makes me worried about finding a partner. I like being alone, and I'm worried a partner might cause problems in my life.
@@ZaxorVonSkyler Well you're still allowed to have boundaries. Like if you need time to yourself than you and your parrner can worl that out when the time comes. Hope you find the person of your dreams!!
It depends on the individual. You can grow into a relationship, but if you're hung up on the points made in this video then it will struggle
Yeah. Too much trouble. 😌 I mean a relationship is too much trouble. (I have never been in one though )
You can experience your ambitions with your significant other.
We’re all works in progress. We’re not finished products and will spend our lives improving some part of ourselves. We just have to meet at the same level, whatever that is
i’ve gotten rejected by 5 boys that i am genuinely certain that i had formed romantic emotional attachments to over the course of this year’s 2 school semester. i now know that this was because all of my friends, acquaintances, and even my older sister are somehow suddenly all in relationships or talking to someone, and i felt pressure to be in one as well. LISTEN, take it from me. being in a relationship is a huge commitment, and the idea of a relationship vs. being prepared to give someone your constant affection and trust are so completely different, yet hard to differ when you feel you are obligated to be dating someone. this summer, i’m taking all of my time to better myself through eating healthier, working out on a consistent basis, and much more to boost my self love. i can say with confidence that i will come back my sophomore year and be so much better as a person, those boys won’t know what hit them! :)
theres only one sign ready for a relationship: the person you like likes you back
Soooo damn true
Yassss what all these for if you not being loved back tho. Sad
Yeah, no...
True, that happened to me. Now my bf and I have been dating for almost 4 months now🥰
@@toruoikawa1153 stfu bitch who cares
I m kinda ready but scared af!
that every one
Being scared is good. It shows you don't take it lightly.
I'm not scared to love just scared of love
Are you rich and handsome?
Same
definitely not ready ...
Likewise.
Same here ☝🏼
Leonardo Mahalo Don’t worry, time will tell if you’re
Welcome to the club
Relatable
I dont even feel Im ready with life
So Relatable
Hahaha ryyyt
Same
What about now?
@@kingsoonkit9234 nope
According to this, I'm the most ready for a relationship than I've ever been. I want a relationship. Someone to love and hold. To wake up to. My issue is finding someone that's actually interested in me. That actually wants to be around me and won't use me for materialistic things or sex.
I don't really like #5... I'm not knowledgeable on bucket lists but aren't they things that generally never stop filling up? Also, why have adventures such as riding a camel, making homemade tomato paste, meeting Will Smith, or traveling the world alone when you can experience these types of dreams _with_ someone? The others are ones that could be done while single, really, but anyway... If someone has a bucket list of things that may take a lifetime, there's no point in having a relationship... Honestly, the only thing on my bucket list that is worthwhile to me is having a meaningful relationship. The others are NOT important. I may never pet a snow leopard at a zoo or go hang gliding or publish a book or even become independent by the time I am ready to have a relationship... and I'm 26. Yes, I'm young, but I'm approaching 30...
I agree. Why do you have to wait until you finish your bucket list?
@@christinabutterfield1801 Exactly
Treat this more like a guideline and not so much a strict standard. Life is what we make it. I think some of the points made were accurate, but I think it's important to remember that we're all very different. We're all tied down by different things and all mostly come from different backgrounds.
I think what they meant is that some things may be impossible to do once you settle in with someone. For example, if you have kids to raise but want to wander around the globe, these two things may clash with one another. Or maybe you are a professional sportman that aims for the Olympic Games or anything ambitious but you have most if not all of your free time filled with intensive training, which means no time for a relationship. I know these are quite specific, but you get my point.
@@BlaZay That makes sense but those goals also mean no room for romance...
I'm looking at this seeing that I'm ticking all the boxes, since I've worked so hard on self-growth the past few years I've learnt to love myself for example. It seems like I'm unable to find anyone at the moment though. I hope that changes.
Great advice though psych2go!
Woah, great to hear that you have worked and succeeded on all of those things! Hopefully you'll be in a healthy relationship that will last whenever it will be best for you!
Maybe if you changed your name from Sploof?
I kid, I kid. I'm in the same boat as you. I'm ready, but it seems no one is ready for me!
I've tried recently and been shot down hard. So I'm just living my life, waiting to see if anyone crosses my path that is at least as interested in me as I am them.
Good luck my friend! I'm pulling for ya.
That's awesome (my channel is about self growth). One thing that might help, maybe avoid going out with the intention of finding a partner and instead go out and put yourself in situations where you can potentially meet a partner. You see, you can send the wring psychological signals when actively searching for someone
@@PracticalInspiration So don't look actively for someone and rush into things, but try to meet new people and go with the flow.....to see what happens and who you meet?
@@SilentHotdog28 Precisely, by doing this you won't appear to be so forward and even "aggressive" in your pursuit. I had a friend who used to do this and despite getting to know a huge number of people, it never worked out because as some other female friends would put it, he would appear desperate. Instead, by letting circumstances flow naturally, you'll find it easier to be natural and therefore more likely to appear more confident
*Psych2go:* _4. You have mastered self-love and acceptance._
*Me:* Guess I'll never be ready for a relationship.
I was single in the last 4 years. I had a very abusive GF who suffered from Borderline. So I spent this last 4 years to develop myself, learn a lot, and heal from the trauma. I think I am ready. I want to be loved. Im ready!
I think 5. is not so important.
You can also do it in a real relationship.
Agreed
Can you or someone explain why? Just asking :)
@@aquabiches649 This comment is 2 years old... holy shit.
Point 5 is not a basic need in a relationship, its nice to have before. You can make great experiences also if you are in a relationship... and your relationship will still work. The others are... critical. They are the base of your ability to have a relationship.
@@simonschafshund6566 lmao ik and thanks for replying :)
I thought i was ready for a relationship but now i realized I'm not i absently hate myself....
You dong need to hate yourself. It’s okay not to be ready, eventually you will be. Until then, focus on yourself!
Amethyst211 there is no reason to hate yourself
I was just thinking the same thing. I know so many people that have better personalities, social lives, basically everything, and very few who are doing worse than me. I am constantly criticised for this at home, and ignored outside of it. And I lack the courage to get out of this situation. It's depressing, I stayed up till 4am last night just thinking about it.
@@venturer9400 same here.
@@venturer9400 @The501stLegion everyone is at a different point in their lives. you might be comparing someone's best moment to your worst. that doesn't mean you can't reach the point you believe they've reached. it's all a work in progress. I see plenty of people with better attributes than me and rather than focusing on how I'm lacking in so and so and that means I'm "worse", I think about how I can improve in the desired areas. the most important thing is to accept that we have our flaws but that just means we have the chance to better ourselves. your life doesn't have to look like someone else's version of perfection to mean that you're living it the 'right way'. I believe in you. believe in yourself!
This mad me feel so reassuring, been single for 7 years now getting closer and closer to 25. Although because of #5 I still have a huge goal to knock out that involves a lot of schooling. I know I'm mentally ready for a relationship. It feels good to know that some day I'll be a blessing to someone.
What an amazing mindset. I aspire to think like that. Did you find someone yet?
1. You're not looking for someone to complete you.
2. You understand the importance of open communication.
3. Your ex is no longer on your mind
4. You have mastered self-love and acceptance
5. You've gotten the experiences you wanted
6. You understand the reality of maintaining relationships
7. You are ready to integrate your life with someone else's and are open to change.
2:51 was that Mabel Pines??
Also, great video, informative as always!
Omg it so is!
Elsie Krueger YOU NOTICED IT TO????
I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE!!!
Lol she totally is. Great series that one.
If she isn't then water isn't wet.
Also, this is kinda important. A lot of people say " You can't be loved when you don't love yourself ". A lot of people think that. And it's pretty much toxic. You are still valid and loveable ♡
SmolCinnamon Mika Awwww thank you.
Of course we're lovable and worthy, that's why we need to love ourselves
You got it confused it "you can't give love when you don't love yourself".
@@miguelsaravia6957 That too. I forgot about this one.
No, it is not true that you cannot be loved if you do not love yourself but if so, your love will be incomplete. People who do not love their selves often struggle to recognize and give real, pure love and trust.
1 I complete myself
2. I definitely understand open communication
3 not one bit
4 I already have self Love and am trying to help other's to love themselves more
5. I have and I am still learning new things
6 I do
7 I am definitely open to change and would love my soulmate
Tony Walker Whoa!! You are surely ready to be in a relationship.
Oh almighty God, give this child a good partner.
Amen!
*4. you have mastered self love and acceptance*
Okay I’m Not Ready
Went through my first breakup a few months ago and it was a rough one but I've found a lot of value in myself since then that they could never give me and I'm hoping to find someone even better soon
good job man. its been 3 yrs can we get an update?
@@a.shopping_cart I've had a lot of brushes with romance since then -- no other relationships yet but learned a lot of lessons and developed a lot along the way! It can be a struggle but eventually got have to learn that you can only control your own actions and how you react to others', so don't devalue yourself for those who put you down.
Conclusion: only perfect creatures are ready for a relationship.
And humans are not perfect.
In fact, they use to search others because they feel loneliness, fear, weakness or boring (in a conscious or subconscious mind level), not because they feel ``real`` love.
Just look the most of the relationship in your town or in the world, there's not ``real`` love in them.
Colmillo Silvestre there is definitely something right in your words
Love is a chemical reaction. "Romantic" love is a ghost.
Genghis Pecan well no
@@genghispecan All emotions are chemicals reactions.
All kinds of love (compasion, friendship, romantic, sinblings love, parents-kids love...) are just a consequence of the fear we feel, a fear that make us feel weak, lonely, unable to protect ourselves... and that's why we searchs others.
That primeral fear comes when humans don't accept their own individuality (identity, will power, strenght, capacity of protect themselves...) and the survival instinct reacts searching for other creature who guide our live (a god, a partner, a friend, a biological relative...), all this in a very subconscious level.
So yes, all kinds of love are just the consequence of not accept the essence of life.
Love is not a genuine feeling what comes from the heart or the soul and that transcend everything, is just the product of our deepest fear and the unnability of take care of ourselves as beings.
@@Terron-de-pimienta Wow, you're so edgy and nihilistic, how's the 8th grade going btw?
4. "You have mastered self love and acceptance"
Hah! I can never do that!
Your Ex is not on your mind?Excuse me i dont have one
same
Now that i think about it, i do have an ex. And im definitely over her when i literally forgot i had ever been in a relationship in my life
I'm ready, can someone take me for the love of God
Maria Clara My good wishes are with you. I hope you find a good person for you.
My dude....same!
Maria Clara 😂😂😂
Nice job making yourself the reward for someone else to claim and not a desperate white knight like everybody else that watches this channel
When you are ready, but dont have someone to start a relationship 😂😂( find a good parthner is hard on this day)
Amen to that
Same
Yep
Tbh I think I only searched this cause I'm low key nervous asf
oh, i got it, i understood why i have never ever been in a relationship, im not ready because i have dreams to come true and feel satisfied achiving my goals by myself, thank you for this video :) i was born in 03, im gonna make my 20th year of my life the best.
very helpfull, not ready yet.. but now i know why😁
At this rate, according to #4, I'll never be ready... I've been battling self-hatred for a very long time now and it doesn't seem to go away... Thank God my soulmate and I are as close as best friends despite not actually dating right now so he accepts me for me and reminds me of how "awesome" I am even though I don't quite understand how yet.
Maybe you should talk to a therapist my dude.
@@christinabutterfield1801 Already am! C:
I’m ready! Just need someone to love me now
Ikr
@@fabulousferret6878 1+ year and I'm still ready lmao
Me: IM READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP
*youtube puts this in my recommended*
Me: oh nvm.....
Life telling you to sit down haha, I've had that before......I think I am ready....but not going to rush into anything.
The experiences I’ve always wanted are relationship experiences...
Me:
*has been single since birth*
*Almost 20*
*is independent*
*self loved*
*knows how to cook*
*lives on her own*
*willing to make sacrifices*
*smart (in college)*
*financially stable*
*Loves nature*
*has never kissed anyone*
*kind, loving, caring*
*spends most of her free time reading*
AND I STILL CAN’T FIND ANYONE!!!!!!
Anyways what y’all want from McDonald’s?
I think it's the: "spends most of her free time reading".
Get out there you dork, love won't just simply come to you in your books lmao. 🤣🤣
I have been in a great relationship for 3 and a half years. I was mature when I got into it and now I am sure it is a good choice.
He helped me through a panick attack, making sure I was comfortable, he walked with me, he held my hand.
I saw how people got in and out of relationship to another all through my teen years. I chose to wait until I was ready
The thing about #5 isn’t to “complete everything on your bucket list then get into a relationship” it’s “if you have things that you want to do while your single, do them, once when you realize you’d like to share those experiences with another individual, you’re ready for a relationship.” They’re not saying you can share those experiences with your partner, they’re saying if you don’t want to share those experiences with a partner, do them alone until you’d like to.
What if you still think about your ex because you see him constantly and want to kick his ass?
Killstreak457 Well... you have the freedom to kick his ass but there's consequences...
@@huberduberdoo I think it would be worth it
First of all, i dont see her anymore. Second of all, i wouldnt wanna kick "his" ass anyway
@@joeyjointjebaiter1275 if you dont relate to the comment why the hell did you reply?
@@killstreak4576 because i wanted to
Can you do seven signs if you're in a healthy long-distance relationship? The question has always been bugging me, thanks and if you don't want to I completely understand.
Yes , I would want to watch that as well!
If you like it its probably healthy
Life tip everyone: if you’re not ready, maybe consider therapy! It’s not weak, but instead it makes you strong. Asking for help is the BRAVEST thing anyone can say.
2 years ago I did not meet any of these requirements out all. I was super codependent and needy. I eventually went to therapist who specialized in codependency/attachment theory (people have different specialties). I’ve finally become a self-loving and kind person. Essentially a “Secure” person. I’ve checked off 6/7 but hey there’s always room for growth and I busted my butt and failed for 2 years to get to this point...point is it feels so much better to be healthy. To love and care for someone else you have to do it all for yourself first! You got this, I genuinely hope this encourages someone else!
Yup, I'm ready ❤
johnny johnny are you ready for a relationship?
why tho
no papa
No papa
Ha Ha Ha *shape shifts into this*
Gee the meme is everywhere.
When you are always getting rejected and you have not done anything to deserve that, it takes a toll on your confidence and you start to doubt whether you are fit for any relationship.
It feels like relationships are too much of a hassle. I wanted to be in a relationship, but now, the mere notion of having somebody else in my life feels so alien. I cant even fantasize women anymore. I think I am ready for a relationship but if the opportunity arises, I will just run away from the situation 😅
Well rejection is not about deserving it or not......The person rejecting you is not trying to hurt you (in most cases), remember.....a person is rejecting you because you don't fit their desired qualities, if you were to be in a relationship with that person, it wouldn't be healthy because they wouldn't be happy, therefore you probably wouldn't be happy.
Which therefore means you can then move onto meeting new people who would be happy to have you in their life.
This video helped me soooo much!!! Not ready!! Delayed progress by being determined to move into new relationships. Now, I'm working on my bucket list and just doing ME!! 🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏
This video is the first one that encourages me in believing that I can FINALLY be proud of myself, being myself and welcome a woman in my life if things work out properly.
The thing I love already is the animation
I know this so off topic but I’ve always love the illustration in these videos...
They’re SO CUTE!! ☺️
I've been longing for a relationship for a very long time, but my circumstances has made me into a incel of sorts because I wasn't able to take control my own destiny. I begrudgingly have to accept that I'll be alone and lonely for the rest of my life.
It's tough to look......but don't resign yourself to that fate because it will come true......stay positive, keep searching and let it happen.
I understand these principles. I hope I can meet someone else who is ready. Most people who're my age are not mature enough. I am still conquering my self-esteem and confidence ❤
"#4 You have mastered self-love and acceptance."
Self-love huh? Well then, this might take a while. Probably when I reach 30 or whatever.
Or maybe, just maybe, you could look up videos on how to discipline yourself already and not just patiently wait to magically mature
Thank you, now I can help my friends who want to start a relationship with someone
You have mastered acceptance and self love
Hahaha what a joke, no I'm not ready.
hahahah same
*_im never ready_*
Im 33... am i ready...? Probably not...
I mastered self discipline, and in turns i got self love literally handed to me. Discipline is apparently out of the equation, even though it is the entire equation
@@joeyjointjebaiter1275 Hey that's an interesting way to see it... I'm keeping this in mind!
I would argue against having mastered the art of self acceptance. I would instead replace it with having a good, decent grasp on self acceptance, because it can be a lifelong challenge, but not mastering it doesn't mean I can't be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and this personal challenge would also be one that would be shared with my potential partner, without placing any burden on them but rather set it as a goal, firstly personal and then, by extension, inside the relationship, because setting and achieving goals, personal and mutual, will be beneficial to the relationship.
I think I’m almost ready. I’m starting to realize these things and I understand most of these things. So I’m almost there.
"Are you ready for a relationship?"
Me : Yea no. I guess I still have a long way to go
Please please please make a problem of living vs mental illness video! :(
I don't understand the difference between the two of them....
@@kedamono1544 no.... :/
@@kedamono1544 that's the point, idk! But I do know that it is somewhat similar to mental illnesses, but not the same...!? Sorry, I really don't know :(
@@kedamono1544 yup
You mean how living with a mental illness affects your life vs how suicidal thoughts affects your life?
I doubt anyone will be able to understand and help you with that question until you clarify.
"problem of living vs mental illness"
What does "problem" refer to?
What does "vs" refer to?
What does it mean to you?
I don’t have the need for a relationship. I’m so happy being single that just thinking about compromising and letting my freedom go makes me anxious.
I’ve been single for about 2 years now and I’ve built my body, got done with school and been traveling so much! Taking the time for dates, meeting people is just tiring and I find 99.99% of the people I meet boring.
#happilysingle!
Simply put, if you are ready to sacrifice without it breaking you and without expecting anything in return then you are ready for a relationship.
I've got some things to do first.
A companion would be nice, since I enjoy female company but, I'd rather get to know someone before getting intimate with them. Learned my lesson there. Not into the whole hook up culture.
I’m ready for a relationship now just waiting for a partner
I'm here baby
Im ready for a relationship and i dont even care about getting into one
1. yes
2. yes
3. yes
4. genuinely working towards it
5. nope. i wanna do A LOT of big stuff
6. im going to say yes although i know theres always something new to learn or a different view to take or even small adjustments.
7. not right now. im looking and working to create the life i have to have. i want something valuable to bring to the table.
I’m gonna be in one soon, we both seem like very rational and mature people, and I’m just watching this to see if I’m actually ready lmao
Im not allowed to have a bf until im a senior in high school
Nothing wrong with that. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 18. (I'm 22 now) From what I hear teenage relationships suck.
Teenage relationships do suck but it helps you learn about relationships
Good, dating in high school is a one way ticket to drama. Whether you caused it, the person it's directed at, or the middle man (like me) it sucks.
I wasn't allowed to until I was 16 but didn't actually get a BF until I was 20. I didn't rush it.
DJ pandaz___ That's the best thing you can do, trust us!
I've done more living in the past 10 months of me being single from my last relationship than the 23 years I've been alive...
That's something to feel good bout
The reality is nobody is perfect and people meet where they are in life mentally , physically , spiritually , emotionally and financially. As a human you have to be willing to look and see that persons heart , intentions , and have discernment .
You have to find happiness within yourself and with God . Have a blessed day 🙏🏿
Would you believe the timing is impeccable right now? The way things have been playing out makes perfect sense ..
"You've mastered the art of self-love and acceptance."
What if you fall under all the other categories, but you're trans male? I've yet to undergo top surgery, but I'm proud of who and what I am
Don’t worry too much -if you feel ready go for it!
This is only a video and it shouldn’t control you.
Good luck with your transition 🌟
@@floov Thank you Avix, this actually just made my day! 😄
You can still love yourself and accept yourself even though you aren't where you want to be yet! And when you find a partner who understands and accepts you don't refrain from starting a relationship with them just because you're not your own view of "complete" yet because you are a never ending WIP, so enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the result 💖
You sound like a friend of mine, he has a 'work in progress' sort of mentality, he found someone and is working out things from there.....taking it slow, learning about himself and his partner. Life is a work in progress, remember that.
What does being trans have to do with being ready for a relationship? If you wanna transition, go the fuck ahead. I really dont care
What do you do when there’s nothing good in your life, nothing left to fight for
The Jeffrey 27 you change your life
Instead of contemplating the negatives......if you feel like there is nothing left to lose, then look for new things, experiences, people to enjoy.......look for 'reasons to live'.
Make it the greatest of opportunities. If there's nothing to lose, take massive risks. The worst thing that can happen is you just dont gain anything. Shoot the long shot and see where it takes you
It's been 5 long years and I can't believe what I'm about to say, I believe that I'm ready for a relationship. 😮
I just had to get rid of all my girlfriend's stuff. I came home from work a week ago and she was just gone. Two years down the drain. And she moved halfway across the country with family. And I'm blocked on everything.
Jesus Christ when it said 'mastered self love' I literally burst out laughing, I need help 😂
1 you have got a car
2 you have got money
and don’t forget money
well if u think that wayyyyyyyy.......hhmmmm
i'm also with you sadly
A fine job
3. Be conventionally sucessful
4. have a big ding dong
if u have money u automatically could have a big ding dong
The voice kinda sounds like a really friendly mother giving you tips on live. I love it
:)
Some of these are a bit idealistic. You can't always have your bucket list checked off and you can't always completely have learned to accept all your flaws. But it is important to be at least in the process of learning to love yourself and be aware of your flaws.
*side note:* i love the speakers voice
There's this girl that I haven't technically been dating for a about 3 months, she started hitting on me, made all the first moves so far and always wants to be closer than me and says she loves me, and then a few weeks ago told me that she's not ready for a relationship, I was expecting this meant she didn't want me, and we wouldn't be talking and hanging out as much. But nothing changed and she's even more attached, romantic and cuddly with me than ever, I'm just confused and slightly hurt that it feels like I'm just getting my emotions played with. What do I do?
That depends on your age. If you are both under 16 she is most likely confused and is just having one of those "small" crushes on you, unless she has had this crush for more than a year it's most likely nothing serious and it will eventually go away.
That is what I think, things like these happen alot and it's nothing to worry about, you'll still be friends (I hope)
There are lots of possible reasons for this. A lot depends on her home situation, your age and what your relationship is with her. (Best friends? Soulmates? Practically siblings?)
Leave her before you get existential damage. She's confused but her confusion will hurt you. And 3 months isn't enough to start saying I love you.
Great video but I have an issue with idea 1. It’s true that it could be great to not look for a relationship to find a good one. However you need to socialise and try in order to have a relationship (or you’ll probably stay single all your life).
Besides, when you fall in love with a person, you absolutely want to be with that person and look for a relationship with him/her. You also can’t stop thinking about that person and want to be with him/her. Thus, even if you accept yourself and have point 4, you’ll always think that something is missing in your life and will probably not support the fact of being alone and without your lover.
I also want to add that, in order to live a great relationship, you certainly need to accept to be alone but you also need to accept that you don’t support loneliness and that you look for a relationship. It’s not bad to admit that, without the person, you feel not as happy as you thought.
School of life explained that in an essay : in order to seduce someone, you sometimes need to show that you are human so that you have personal issues and want to have someone to share your life with or have social relationships. Accepting of being alone doesn’t mean that you want to be lonely.
I show many of the signs, but I'm still feeling stuck on my past relationships. I don't mean I want to get back together with my ex's, but with those experiences I got... I find it really hard to trust anyone with my heart, and I don't feel wrong for it. I've been hurt bad several times now... Be careful with people's hearts, they're delicate
To #1. So I was lonely my whole life and because I was lonely, and I am lonely, I will be lonely forever? Great!
I can say I achieved all points except 1, because there is no way not be lonely, if you are alone.
Sorry, this feels like BS.
Um hmm! Life's cruel buddy!
@@rumple7232 so, whats the point then? This really makes me angry.
That's not true. You can be completely alone but not be lonely. You can even be surrounded by people but still feel lonely.
D.M.S. I guess what it means is to not desperately seek someone out because you are lonely and instead let it happen more naturally? Basically, you don’t loathe being alone and you don’t need to have to have a partner, look at a relationship as an addition, not as necessary.
@@covetouscorvus You are right, but I don't think that has been communicated correctly in this video.
I haven't done anything ....from what i want. I never traveled to a country or go to hiking or stuff like that. Because i'm alone. I want to do that with someone not by myself.
I didn't pass the second date EVER...and when i fall for someone it goes horribly wrong. So...now i think i will most probably die Alone.
could it be that you interpret yourself as a victim? Traveling alone is more fulfilling for many people because you have to rely on yourself. Don't think about dying alone. Even in the case that you will eventually die alone. this thought provides you with no use right now.
I didn't think it that way. I just wanted to share my moments with someone. I walk everyday on the street and see people that have moments with others,while i 'm just a bystander. I Trier for 15 years to make friends and is just a struggle because they think If i can't do or like what they like,i must be outcasted
@@ioansirbu3266 don't worry about what other people think, do what makes you happy.
Self love as this is a constant work in progress. So I don't think it's possible to "master" this. It's not like there's and on/off switch for it. It's a balance between being self aware of both the light and the darkness- we work at it, we improve, sometimes we fall back but the important thing is that we make ourselves responsible for it and not our partner or any other person outside of ourselves.