The Effects of an Absent Father
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In Episode 5 of Last Chance High, Crystal is picked up for shoplifting after disappearing for almost a week - and has left her mother on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Meanwhile, Cortez prepares to head downstate to visit his father, who is serving a life sentence in prison for murder.
On Chicago's West Side, there is a school for the city's most at-risk youth - the Moses Montefiore Academy. Most of the students at Montefiore have been kicked out of other schools for aggressive behavior, and many have been diagnosed with emotional disorders.
Last Chance High takes viewers inside Montefiore's classrooms, and into the homes of students who are one mistake away from being locked up or committed to a mental hospital.
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This comment is crazy.
@VICE News
what an awfully distasteful comment. Utterly disrespectful especially after a global pandemic where everyone’s grandma is dying.
this comment is actually wild
wtf
Actually dystopian
"crystal get anything and everything she wants.." There is your problem right there ma'am.
Dillon Miller she does because if not her stupid ass girl gonna get jailed, poor mom I feel sorry for her.
Puerto Rico is a pretty descent place to live unfortunately, I've known a lot people from third world countries who sent their children back for few months or years just do show them what's real life. When they come back they suddently become good citizens
Dillon Miller You must be thinking about those kids from the movie "Cruel Intentions". THOSE kids got what they want. I doubt Crystal's mum would be able to afford to give everything her daughter wanted.
Haven't you seen the poverty they live in? Come on, let's have some constructive criticism.
Dillon Miller lol, i was literally about to type that exact thing, then I saw the comment
Dillon Miller Indeed
Amen!
She sound like all hood Spanish moms 😭
A lotta people out of Spain speak Spanish.....
ok 01 you realize it was Spain that came over to colonize, meaning most Latin people are actually half Spanish, hints the last name. Also, you should get off your high horse because the Spanish economy is well quit frankly fucking shit and most of the country lives below the poverty line ( shit hole) compared to the us
Righttt
@ok 01 they're not spanish but they are half spanish, have spanish culture and names. theyre latin Americans
@ok 01 lmao u need to learn to read bro. I never said they're Spanish, most latin Americans apart from maybe in Argentina, are half spanish half native. That means they're HALF SPANISH you mong
I grew up without a father, but I can’t miss something I’ve never had
Damn
You might not miss him, but his absence has definitely effected you
@@AbdullahHashi-kw3qj I agree. As I’m turning into a young adult, I’m starting to realize how much his absence impacted my life. To this day he chooses not to be in my life. All I can do is move forward despite this… it may make things more difficult, but not impossible :)
@@Lunaluvskitties best of luck and if you have children then be better than him
Same here sister. My dad was an alcoholic and left when I was very young, last time I saw him he was homeless and asked me for money when I agreed to meet with him. We can make better choices for ourselves and our future than they did for us.
She can’t blame all her problems on her father being absent. I have an absent father and I’m nothing like this. In fact it motivates me to be better than him. She just straight up ignorant is all.
True but not everyone has the same mindset
Depends. If you had a good mom all the time you’ll be great but when yo mom isn’t taking the best care because she has her own troubles then you’ll experience the same don’t blame the kid blame the environment.
@@bkspazzout6367 exactly. People can go through similar things and still act and handle them completely different.
Me too so many of us have absent parents i have both parents absent thank god for my nan and grandad but still i strive to be better
Did you even read what they said
Stability, education, and having two parents is the best gift you can ever give a child that will set them up for the future.
These should be basic rights for children.....
@@rubaiyatdunno482 everything but the two parents thing . One parent families can work really well .
@@acgraphics1139 Two-parent households are still the best though. However, sometimes there are circumstances beyond one's control, like death or illness. When the mother or father is absent in a kid's life, the child will suffer from mental health issues and it will be more difficult for him to succeed in life.
You can force a woman to have a baby but you can't force a man to stick around & help her raise it🤷♀️
@@acgraphics1139 Rt. U can’t blame a mother for being a single parent, it’s not her fault the father Isn’t in his kids life. My mother is single parent of 2 children, one of which is autistic and I grew up with an education and with a stable house hold. Ppl blame growing up with a single parent on everything. If the mother worked hard enough to discipline her children and have stability in their life, also growing there kid in a good environment then they would be fine. Growing up without a father will impact the child but they could still be a good person with just a mother. But I will admit having a absent father can take a toll on a child. Based on the situation. Especially not having that father figure to help guide them.
"I wish my daddy was out of jail, I wish we had a good family." Wow, broke my heart.
Men are not meant to be fathers.
The court system of USA clearly says that men are only required to pay for their child and their involvement in child's life depends on mothers consent and somewhat unnecessary.
wen he said do u think of me😔
The fact that his mother has him on methamphetamine, even if it is only for his ADHD is so messed up.
@@alexjones1738 no. men are meant to be fathers,immature boys are not meant to be fathers.
I hope things wound up getting better for him - and the worker he had helping him was giving him a lot of little bits of wisdom there just in doing that role play. By "playing the role of your dad", he let him know without telling him he has strong people to rely on.
Cortez writing down questions because he “doesn’t want to look stupid” at the jail talking to his dad has me heartbroken. 😭 no kid ever deserves this
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Fax
And I also believe it’s mainly due to, not knowing what to say or have a conversation with his father because there’s no relationship. And so, maybe writing the questions down for Cortez will make it feel less awkward for him if it goes silent. Then too, there are just things that he should know in case he grows older and ever faces resentment due to his fathers absent, at least he’ll have some of the answers to his questions once he begins to fully process and see the impact
Everyone's blaming the parents for not being there, but the odds are, they're not there for their kids because their own parents weren't there for them. It's a tough cycle to break and it's sad seeing how many lives it impacts as it continues to go on and on and on.
Nobody is stopping them from making better choices. They made the choice to repeat the problem and escalate it and now their kids are too.
@@fletchbundyhat not learning socio economics does to a mf
@@kibi8311 Look in the mirror when you say that. It is not an inevitability that you repeat the cycle and do what your parent(s) did, dipshit. Tons of people don't. It's all personal choice, asshat. Leftist pussies like you are the problem cause you're there to tell them nothing is their fault, they had no control, blame someone, everyone else. And then you give them money for it. Go away now.
@@fletchbundy bro they are kids and people are pretty much just animals that react these kids don’t have the critical thinking skills or emotional intelligence and it is a inevitable that’s why they use statistics dumbass yes they’re outliers but at the end of the day for every kid that breaks the cycle there’s more that don’t what not learning basic sociology and statistics does to a mf
Id rather die than give birth to a child that would be unloved
“Shoplifting? For what, she gets any and everything she wants” Well, there could be a problem right there.
Some parents will never learn. Smh
True.
Promise Mitchell it works if done correctly. By not providing your kid anything will also lead to bad outcomes but blindingly giving out anything will also lead to cases like her
Why would she do that if she gets everything
exactly!
I understand cortez situation but not crystals. I grew up without a dad and im not over here disrespecting my mom. It has to be deeper than that, she must not get enough attention at home or something.
Aaleeyah Find The mother is probably a piece of shit.
Man that's what I try telling my wife about her daughter
I think its really the cause of not getting attention. my father since 4 years gone and i get also zero attention from anyone. My mum as well, so i disrespect her when she needs to be reminded that i have literally nobody who gives me attention, sadly she still proceeds to not care about me invidually. At least i don't make problems with law at all or dont take any drugs...
@@promisnwekenta9703 after reading what you wrote, I feel your pain. Just because nobody gives you attention, dont let it be a bad thing. Learn to love yourself and you wont need anybody elses. Everyone is good at something, figure out what your gift is, harness your power and once you feel secure in the truth of who you are, then people gonna flock to you and by then, you probably aren't going to want them around you anyway. Your mom should love you, maybe she isnt capable of showing you in the way you expect or hope for. Also, people cant give you what they dont have, and i mean maybe in her life, her parents didnt show her and that lack of transferred to the way she parents you. Keep your head up, theres a light inside of you that's all yours and nobody can take that from you. Let it shine.
@@elsypher6285 Lets hope i could find that light or love myself.
I used to get jealous of kids who have a father who's always there and wished for mine to be just like that. But after learning how my father is, thank god he's not one.
amen mayne.
Wow you're lucky
My ex-boyfriend grew up without a father, and despite that, he was one of the most caring, responsible, and loving man I have ever met. His mom did a wonderful job.
so why y'all break up
@@mfft627exactly 😭
when cortez said i wish we had a good family, i felt that 💔
phat eddie this is late but me too
phat eddie me too
phat turp same
Right in the feels
Fr though, everyone is made in the image of god and everyone has potential, no one deserves to be a statistic
tell me Crystal don’t look like 6ix9ine💀
Taraysusvdgaja ssxodmxbhx. Traywaey
Diego Covarrubias I knew I wasn't the only one who thought this
Everyone startin to look like 6ix9ine
Karma Boi lol true and now he will be behind bars
@@Imperialspy he makin mini clones now
I grew up in a single parent home with my mother as head of household. I have morals, values, and integrity. I finished high school and went to college and have a MS in Science.
It is more to the scenario than just having one parent in the home. There is a lot of dysfunction in many of these households. People are very angry and do not know how to communicate or/and express themselves.
I think the fatherless issue is more pronounced in boys. I suffered not having a father as a girl, but boys definitely respond differently to their father’s discipline in the home. I see it with my own son everyday
Which science?
exception not a rule
@Seldom Forever Not true. Check mariage rates in Europe. Single parenthood is not the problem. It is the other adjacent problems lead to criminality.
In our country, mariage almost a must. Yet, we got plenty of criminals with married moms and dads.
Although that may be true about the dysfunction thing, everyone reacts to things differently. And loosing ur father is extremely painful, u never know how ppl can react.
Crystal’s behaviour is a cry for help..I was similar to her, normally it comes from trauma or an absent father.
Or...a weak mother that doesn't have the spine to enforce rules.
@@tylerstewart3181her mother looks like she's suffering from unhealed trauma herself
of course he got on all black AF1s💀💀
Tommy Morena I said the same💀💀
Tommy Morena he got big ass pants on too.
I was about to comment that
Black Air Force activity💀
theyre good shoes
People keep saying Crystal got "piped down" and that's why she's acting nice,but she is clearly acting like that because it's her sisters birthday
Nahhhh son
Men really think their dicks are than powerful!
Are they wrong though?
Green Bastard LMFAO! Sure!
@Green Bastard LOL
This was literally my senior thesis for my psychology degree. I learned so much about how parental absence, even for a short period, can affect a child. I’m honestly glad I picked it since it helped me learn ways to fill the gaps when my husband is on deployment. No matter what anyone says, kids need two INVOLVED parents.
True
not every single chil will have both parents some just dont care and some are elsewhere so 1 parent can suffice.
@@liakaufusi4010 that’s literally not true at all. While yes some kids with only one parent turn out fine, the chances of risky behavior and mental illness practically skyrocket when only one parent is present in the child’s life.
@@liakaufusi4010 You: “Not every kid will have two parents because sometimes one of them just doesn’t care or left or something”
This person: “Okay but I wrote a thesis in highschool, so I’m gonna ignore your super good, real point, and repeat the same thing I just said even though it’s still equally as untrue as the last time I said it!”
So much brokenness, dysfunction, and trauma within families. That boy is a good kid with a rough exterior taking out his aggression on others due to the pain inside him from an absent father. I feel for children all over this world who are growing up in the aftermath of trauma. You can see and hear the pain and longing in him. I hope he's been able to turn things around in his life and forge a new path.
That boy said he wants a normal family, that says it all when a child knows their dysfunctional...
He just needs the right guidance from a stand-up man.
Yup amen poor kid
i really feel for that kid he just wants a happy family
chrrylocs I’m your 200th like
Yeah, it was when I was 7 I've decided to be a real dad when I get older.
the mother must be stressed as hell
42 years old grew up without a father, been a dad since I was 19 and have full custody of all 3 of my children and am with their mother. Be the one that breaks the cycle no matter how hard it gets! 🙏🏾❤️
My dad walked out when I was 5. Yes it hurt. I had no male role models in my life to follow. My mama taught me everything. She taught me how to be a man. She taught me how to be a good person. She disciplined me when I was bad and she praised me when I did good. She loved me unconditionally. I'm 20 now and I'm in my second year of college. I'm doing this to make her proud and be the first in our family to graduate college. Crystals mom should take notes on how to parent from my mom. My mom raised two boys by herself from infants.
Ur really brave
A women can’t raise a man 🤨
I hope you have an amazing time in college young one!!
Good job, mom!
Crystal's mother is numb. It's almost seems like she has been dealing with this for a long time. I really hope her daughter learns a life altering lesson and changes her life around.
exactly
Bella Luna shes delusional, she spoiled and never blamed the kid so she has no limitations
*dumb*
Bella Luna The hell is numb
Bella Luna II
As a teacher I can say that watching things like this happen is the worst part of my job. In my class of 22 students only 4 had 2 parents at home. The worst part is that 8 of my kids transferred out to other schools as a result of parental restraining orders against the other, and 11 kids transferred in.
My students are 5 and 6 years old.
@Magnus Red Bruh what 😂
@@etherious5957 dude replied a year late just to say that. LOL
@Magnus Red 😂😂
@Magnus Red "Democrats bad! Republicans good!" That's how you sound.
Think of it as a teaching moment where u can explain to the kids the negative effects of social programs on the integrity of traditional families, pbj hated blacks and this is how he opted them enslaved
I grew up without a father which meant my mom had to cover both roles. My mom has done everything for me. I also grew up in a tough community. But my mom made sure I knew how to carry myself and work for myself. Yes it’s very hard not to have two parents especially emotionally. It does feel like something is missing but I always remember how hard it was for my mom to be a single mother and she’s really someone I look up to. Takes great strength.
I never appreciated having my dad and step dad in my life until I turned 19 and started to question everything, like why the girls I went to high school with ended up in abusive relationships and ended up having a child in their early twenties when they weren’t financially or mentally ready. I’m extremely lucky to have such great role models in my life. There’s nothing better than having a committed support system that is and has always been there for you. I have no idea what it’s like to have daddy issues but I think the worst part of it all is when I see women that had absent fathers continuing the cycle with their kids because they don’t know how to pick a good partner/father to their kids. I used to feel bad for women like this but at this point I just find it unfortunate that they weren’t able to put the effort into getting therapy to figure out how they could select the best person to father their child
Crystal’s mother is just full of it. First she blamed the school for unable to control her daughter. Then she blamed the neighborhood for having gangs and her daughter’s friends for being a bad influence. Then she blames the absent father. And she even blamed crystal for ruining her younger child. At no point does she takes any personal responsibility and admits that she failed as a parent. If she’s so afraid of her younger daughter catching that bad behavior, then what the hell is she there for?! No wonder her daughters are in trouble.
Crystal has no respect for her and for good reason I lot of the comments mention the quote from her mom when she says Crystal gets what ever she wants but what I think she really wants is to get away from her mother who cares more about what people think about how she raises her children then how she actually raises her children
to be real yeah she isn't a good mother, but that's the thing that happens with children that don't have a father, they fall out of line. they have no role model to look up to. you cant dump all the blame on the mother, and the gangs are something to blame too for they influence her daughter. its hard to control a child when they're not with you especially ones growing up in dangerous communities.
How do you make this conclusion? All we've seen is whats on camera, we have no idea what their relationship is like at home. We don't know how Crystal was raised or how her mother treated her, it could very well be that Crystal is at fault. I don't know how people can just come to conclusions about a whole person's life just by a few clips of a single day in their life. Remember, these are real people, and you're no psychologist to assume the worst about someone when it very well could be that there's nothing else her mom could do.
It’s easy to come to this conclusion when you see 11 minutes out of a person’s entire life, but the fact of the matter is that single parenthood is waaaaay harder than you’re making it sound right now. You have a teenager in a bad neighborhood and you’re the only parent with no one to back you up? We have approximately 0 idea what all she’s done or been through outside of this, so to me, coming to the conclusion that she just isn’t doing her job seems like a stretch.
We're becoming too accepting of blaming outside factors as the main issue and normalizing a lack of personal responsibility.
I feel for Cortez. Man when he said he wants a normal family that touched me.
K Dot yeah that fucking hurt
Poor dude, his kid sister was beat to death and dad locked up for life
Dude lost his brother too
K Dot you know he has black air forces
Damn me too, I wish I had a normal family. Never got showed love. I thought lobe was just being controlled and being together..
Many single parents, and same-sex couples have successfully raised children. It's not an absent father problem. It's a poverty problem.
Nah there are NUMEROUS studies showing what a missing parent does to a child's mental health. We need both parents to function. America needs to change its culture.
No, it's not. It's multiple factors: poverty, morals, ethics, violence, abuse, family issues, etc.
@bLackstar that’s too much. I hope you was able to get out or help
they are the exception not the rule. Most children raised in single mother homes end up fucked (prison, poverty,)
@@georgewashingtonsanchez4836 Statistics?
Grew up without a father in an alcoholic abusive family. My family was so bad I didn’t even care my father wasn’t there. My mother sold me to old men when I was very young. At a certain point you have to stop blaming your parents for your bad behavior and take responsibility for your own life.
Bro seriously she marketed you?
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@@laknidubandara yes, this is probably why I became a stripper in my 20’s. It was the first time I had people telling men they weren’t allowed to touch me. I’m not even close to the only person I’ve met that has had this experience. Unwanted children raised by women who don’t want to be mothers and abandoned by fathers are all too common.
Crystal seems like she’s a sweet person but has been so screwed over by life that she acts like a devil. I hope she gets the help she needs
Rumpel Felt shut up boomer
Seeing this kids behaving badly, they want attention SOOO BAD! they do the polar opposite. And grow up to be attention whores as adults.
spiciestt your so intelligent ending a conversation with ok boomer
Rumpel Felt actually she’s gone missing and potentially dead so maybe try having a shred of respect or even just decency for a young girl who is hurting 🤦🏼♀️
She was pronounced dead. Her son too.
We just gonna ignore the fact that they got that boy taking 19 diffent pills 6 times a day?
R3ality Records TV very good point, medicine can help but is really lack of emotional support. May God bless those children may God find them!
The system they set for these kids is basically day care not really a solution the solution is not so clear for each one but the big problem all seem to have something to do with poverty and being a broken house hold
Why do people give there children medicine for BEHAVIORAL ISSUES which are not medical issues you can correct bad behavior with different solutions. The medicine makes it worst n now your child has a label attached to him he might as well be a felon already that’s something in your background which means less job opportunities. Kids like this are being reconstructed for failure
John Williams that’s what people do in America. They look to medicine as the solution. They give everyone antidepressants. They once tried to do that to one of my friends, called her dad in to say that they think she has ADHD. I think it’s also about money. Some of these drug manufacturers are monopolies. A lot of the time it’s the medicine that cause more issues like “suicidal thoughts”. So many teens know the names of antidepressants because they get put on them. You don’t know many times I’ve heard people talk their antidepressants **adderall to be specific** and how they mess them up and make them slow. People really think medicine/antidepressants is the answer when in reality it’s a heart issue. These kids have been through a lot and they have so many emotional scars. A bottle of pills/counseling can only do so much. They need to know that someone ACTUALLY cares and isn’t making money off of their illness.
I know... Also its different
Smh growing up without a father is so much better than growing up with an abusive father or a toxic household where mom and dad are constantly fighting..
UPDATE: Cortez is now serving a 25 year sentence for armed robbery
This is so sad, especially Cortez’s part. He seems like he needs love.
@MAGA TURK Турки he in jail
@@dondanana9573 how do you know that?
@@albertoaguilar9773 search his name on jail database lol
@@dondanana9573 yeap it's true you were right, he's even got a tattoo on the neck.
@@albertoaguilar9773 mmhm i know i was. Shit crazy
Am i the only person who genuinely feels bad for cortez
I had to scroll a bit to find this comment but thank you. Man really opens up
nbrules2468 Lol I believe in that dude. He gonna turn his life around
I can see such pain behind his eyes. That's why he act's out.
***** He died on Jan 5 2015 he was shot in a gang fight
Jacob Sanders link or not buying it ........never mind this is Chicago we are taking about that niggas dead but still let me get that link
Everyone has sympathy for Cortez for missing his father but not Crystal. People are judging Crystal’s mom really harshly and blaming her despite she being the only active parent still in her life and the only parent we’ve seen actually be a parent.
Yes you get blame for how your child turns out, & if she’s the only one then that means she can’t blame anyone else.
@@malayaanderson8222 exactly. In general we should never be encouraging single parent households
thats what im saying, people can be so misogynistic
@@malayaanderson8222Not necessarily… it’s Nature vs Nurture. You can be an amazing parent and have children that follow their own rules… She’s a single mom doing the best she can.
well we see his mther and we dont see alot of her i suppose because he has a better relationship with his mother and the real issue he has is with his father, the only father figure he has commit a horrible crime and choose violence over a life with his son which definitely plays on his mind greatly. Crystal has a mother trying but ultimately failing to connect with her daughter whther that be through a fault of her own or also the fault or crystal being able to understand this attempt and reciprecate. We feel sympahy of cortex because he doesnt abuse his relationship with his only parental figure which can assume is generally normal considering it wasnt analysed or shown in this video but crystal doesn, crystal takes out all her spite on her mum causing her great duress while being unsympathetic towards her situation, while cortex takes out his spite on himself something that most people can relate, while creating a strong exterior to almost prove to himself and others he isnt weak over what he sees as a lost opporunity to have a father, you cant miss what you dont have but he knows he could have had a father.
When Cortez said he wished he had a good family my heart broke for him... Incredibly sad.
O.O
she does not deserve a mom that nice
That "nice" mom put her in the hospital when she was 5
+George ewww disgusting
Poca Bailey it's true
Crybaby Gaming u can tell how a kids will grow up when there young its better to get them help when there young
It's her fault lmao
This is so touching. Just a boy wanting to have his father's love and acceptance
If I ever have a child like this girl, all I can say is GOD HELP ME.
*Having absent parents in general can have detrimental effects on a child as they develop*
I have known people who grow up while their dads in the tomb but they grow real men!this is an excuse
This is the lack of education at the end
Sifaw Khouya And I have known people with absent mothers and fathers cause hardships in their lives as they grow up
@@How_About_This428 u know u sound a lil ignorant. this kid lived in Chicago. he seen gangs and and people die his whole life. he needed a stable father figure in his life. I bet hes smart but the decisions ye makes arent the smartest. his father killed sum 1 and that rubs off on him
@ᄏᄏᄏ Dont worry he is the "Logical Man"
@@How_About_This428 you sound stupid asf
yo why her mom sound like cardi b 💀🤚🏾
life as kaii Puerto Rican’s
life as kaii because she’s hood and she’s Latina
Civil Atrocious lol ion know either im from toronto 🤷🏾♀️
@@mroceans8336 cardi is Trini and dominican tho
Fatou Caribbean spanish plus big city accent sounds like that
2:22 that nap good af
I need that
I lost my mother when I was 14 and my dad took amazing care of us despite the fact I grew up in a loving home I still crave that mothers love and care! Shout out to my dad for playing mom and dad but there is still something missing. I own my home and married with two kids in college for nursing I cannot imagine what this children go thru with missing their dad and their mom’s plate is too full to give the care deserve. Life without a parent is not fun.
Poor Cortez I can tell he has love in his heart. He is just crafted by the bad environment and energy
And black culture
Tyran ok buddy that’s a bit racist
@@connorhanus8005 u cant fix a problem if u dont admit there is a problem...
christian higgins by black energy
Tyran you’re racist. There’s deadbeat dads in every race, religion and culture.
You know you in a sketchy spot when there is a cricket wireless.
Edit: Jesus, I didn't know 8 months could get 3.9k likes. Thanks! 🙂
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Metro PCS too
You're a dumb fuckin' moron. What did you pay for your IPhone 11? And I'm sure you have THE most expensive plan out there, right? Your dumbass prolly using a flip-phone, or, is gullible enough to over-pay for mass produced, over-engineered hardware, like an idiot.
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@@dme1016 there are other carriers than cricket dumbass
Both of my parents are dead. So I was raised by my grandmum. And honestly, she’s the best thing that’s ever happened. I’m so glad my grandma stepped in and decided to take care of me after the death of both of my parents, but I must say having absent/deceased parents has altered my brain chemistry. I have severe anger, issues and PTSD I suffer a lot.
“Why was she stealing? Crystal gets everything she wants.” There go the problem right there chile.
She's that one girl who eats hot Cheetos at 7am😂
iipxneapple😭😂
And drinks red fanta
With pickle juice
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Hot cheetos and big red, eating pickles with chamoy
When he asked “do you think about me.” That shit low key hurt.
Imma say high key hurt that is heartbreaking
I know. So simple, the actual words, but so all encompassing.
I feel for all of these children. 💜
Not an easy thing dealing with a absentee father, took me a while to cope with it and unfortunately many don’t know how to cope with it and end up inheriting the sins of their father.
A dad is as important as a mom but no one wants to hear that
Frederick Lawton Dads are way more important just facts
Let’s be real mostly everyone get a mom
But dads are not a lot
What’s more valuable a gem you can find anywhere or a Diamond that’s found by luck less then 30%?
But losers in the comment will say lebron James and other that did not have a dad
But the majority of boys and girl dead or in prison
They don’t matter
The Logical Man dads are optional. Moms are not.
@@GirlyGirlMsp no dads are rare moms are a dime a dozen just facts over feeling my friend
The Logical Man that’s actually pathetic. You’re basically saying men are so irresponsible and weak that they will help create a child but not take care of it.
@@TheRealWorldNews247 so because dads are such deadbeats, it’s makes them more important? That’s dumb. A child needs both.
Cortez seemed pretty calm when nobody was messing with him.
Hell nah that nigga in jail
That nigga Cortez fucks with them little kids bruh
Curlyheadj D wait what you mean ?
He messes with people not the other way around
Fathers are absolutely essential, needed and appreciated
Not in America lmfaoo
As a 12 year old without a father, this is all true. I may be in the suburbs, but life is still hard. When my father left (I was 8) I feel like I’ve been a bad unwanted kid. I js want that to change for us fatherless kids.
I’m so sorry buddy. I hope you know that him not being there for you or in your life doesn’t take away from how special you are. I hope you learn to know that you aren’t bad and unwanted and that you are loved and seen. Sending hugs to you.
@@alondra2317 thank you 🙏
What you need to do is two things: one, you need to tell yourself that you will be better than that. Two, you need to actually follow through with that commitment, even if you’re hurting, you need to show that you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, and use that pain to grow up to be a better person. I never knew my dad, so I knew from a very young age that I never wanted to be that kind of person to my kids. Although I can’t imagine what it’s like to have your dad walk out of your life during that age, so I really feel for you.
@@BlackWolf207thanks ❤
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I grew up in the hood all my neighbours drug dealers and gang members raised by a single mother on welfare...lived in women's shelter..didn't have much clothes belongings.my mum didn't drive we walked everywhere but I ended up graduating uni as Nurse to change my life and future. Growing up in tough conditions doesn't mean u have to turn out like this
That’s your story and you aren’t everybody
Damn, why cant people understand this? Its so easy to blame someone who's not there.
faith you’re right, you are not your upbringing.
person person yes, but she’s saying if she can turn out all right, then it’s not impossible and you shouldn’t lose hope if you grew up poorly.
faith eh man stupid people can’t be cured stupid people are fucking stupid
Cortez has a good heart, he just needs to find himself. And he can't do so because of the environment he's constantly in.
He persistently suppresses his true emotions, and acts out because that's his coping mechanism.
+BONZAI_CHILDREN correct
i think youre right. if he was in a better place he'd lift himself up a bit more.
+BONZAI_CHILDREN You understand it man. Salute.
yea amen
+BONZAI_CHILDREN he also doesn't take his meds
My Father was absent, AKA Deadbeat, but thank God my sister and I had a strong, independent Mother.
I can never watch these videos in one sitting it’s always so heart breaking that I just can’t
So basically her excuse for her behavior is because her father left? I never knew my father. He left my mom when he found out she was pregnant. He never payed any child support. My mom struggled for years, yet still provided with things I needed, even wanted. She goes through the worst just to keep me safe and provide me with the best. There would be nights where she wouldn't eat, just so that I could. I would never disrespect my mother. If anything, I owe her. This girl really needs to be ashamed of herself.
I understand that I was in the same boat I never had a dad I came out good ..
viviana pilacios 👏
Fr fr kids needs stop saying “cause my dad left” nah that’s one of the reasons but I never grew up with a father he left when I was 4 and I’m perfectly fine without him
That's real fam fr I learned to appreciate all I got pops ain't here so I'ma make sure moms is good stupid
viviana pilacios some people don’t think the way you do , they think the world owes them everything
I grew up without a father and I’m independent, successful and happy. My mother is amazing.
Shout out to all the mothers raising their kids right and the immense strength they have.
this.
same.
we're 4 siblings and i'll forever be grateful for my mother who raised me.
she inspires me.
Respect but we need to promote responsible fathers in every family
@@skiingman97 yeah right promote i bet they will listen to you
You think you're happy, others may differ.
My grandma raised my mum and her 5 siblings and she managed to send all to good by herself and they are successful today I'm grateful.
Giving Cortez a fresh pair of black air forces is crazy
I spent the first 8 yrs of my life in this area. My dad wasn't around and my mom and I did just fine. She finished school, went on to have a great career as a psychiatrist. She's remarried when I was 10 to an amazing man I call dad.
“Crystal gets everything and anything she wants...” and therein lies the problem.
Jake Ochsner I feel like if her mom didn’t she would steal and would blame her mom for not caring for her. The situation works both ways.
So I don’t see your point.
Jenna Baily and why would she steal and disrespect her mom? Because she is used to getting everything she wants. Were you born this stupid?
No that's not the issue, the issue is the mom can't give her what she really wants, which is her father 🙄 Give the mother a goddamn break.
The mother is probably trying to make up for what Crystal doesn’t have
She overcompensates because her dad is gone.
I was a substitute teacher in Chicago public school for five years and all I got was an ulcer and a hate for this city. When I would discipline the kids or call home on them the parents wanted to physically fight me. The parents were worse than the kids most times. Every school I went to was full of Cortez's and Crystals and no books, over crowded classrooms, no art or music classes. They hoarded the kids from class to class without ever giving them the tools they needed to succeed. Even the teachers who were great teachers struggled to teach with NOTHING! They pass the kids even if they weren't ready, due to the no child left behind policy. The CPS system was and remains a nightmare. Most of these kids could barely put a sentence together but they all had on Jordan's and $200 jeans. Smh
That's common core, and the purposeful degredation of society. Liberalism has destroyed the world.
Underrated comment
You are an Yvonne, you are a Karen, and you need Jesus speak. You’re worse than Cortez and Krystal.
@@marryIsfake964, If only you made sense.
"We weren't meant to survive, cause it's a set up." Tupac.
This was an amazing episode !💕💕I love his he tries to help Cortez ! Taking him to a prison visit is priceless... money cannot pay for those bottled up emotions
6:16 the look on his face after he said that absolutely broke my heart.
crystal need to go to beyond scared program
true
agree
YESSSS
that program is for kids who dont know anything about the ghetto just get involved with dumb shit. these kids actually live shitty lives that program doesnt do shit for kids that live in the ghetto why do you think they dont have kids from chicago, compton, the bronx because they actually live that life they aint scared.
fr
We need an update its been 7 years now come on
Rihanna Whyt3 the school closed and they kept the show going and the boxing guy and others still try to keep the students off the streets. Most joined gangs like keonte and Cortez is getting in trouble in the law Montreal was the only one who made a really hood change
Crystal IG is hiizmain & keontat fb page is sparkz allat
Matthew Lind how u know
@@basdinethechickennugget1344 count please
Basdine The chicken nugget they came out with another season it’s not on youtube
2:19 damn i know shorty neck was hurtin wen she woke up
Awful kids, I myself grew up without my father but never acted like a coward picking on smaller kids and if anyone came at me he had to be at least two grades above me . I have no respect for that kid. He deserves everything that's coming to him. I feel bad for the other children being victimized. Help Them!
You cant say a "child" is wrong for lashing out for things they cannot control. Like not having a father or an ideal home life. He aint blaming anyone. He just wants what every child needs. Structure
Pre7ch finally a good comment
Then what about the shoplifting
I’m 23 years old, the first time I saw my dad was when I was 19. As I’m writing this ,I have never gotten into any trouble with the law. And it’s not because my dad taught me from right to wrong, I just used my Common Sense. It’s easy to blame daddy or point fingers when you’re serving time or do stupid shit. Lastly, why does the mother have to suffer? She’s been supporting her through thick and thin, and all the daughter does is blatantly disrespect her mother by leaving her, while mom is forced to look for her all night. Why can’t she understand the fact that the ones who are supporting her are suffering BECAUSE of her. Nothing personal, I have no remorse for people who treat their mothers that way, especially children of single mothers like me.
@@not_raven57 That doesn't even make sense. He shoplifts because he wants to.
I don’t understand how a man can abandone their kid.
I don’t care what relationship you have with the mother.
I have a son and im not with the mother. im tight with my kid.
drugs/alcohol/mental health. My dad abonndone me, im fine because im not from the getto. The way out of trauma is to take 100% responsibillity for you life, 100% responsibillity for how you REACT to life. Forgive yourself for hating/fear/sorrow. And move on
Mother relationships are the best cuz u love her so much and the bastard dad ain't thier lol
50shadesofblack where you are from does not matter buddy. The rest of your message....on point
K.C Reacting Hip Hop Fans! IT does matter where u are from. You get affected by people around you
K.C Reacting Hip Hop Fans! The hood has more bad people. Bad people=Bad examples
bro and she's really beautiful why is crystal picking this route of her life, she needs a stable life
im so sad to hear the school got shut down. I really saw the dedication the faculty have for these students. I hate that the result was opposite of the hope.
Man that young man asking questions about his father was heart breaking. Hope he makes it.
Fr brings back memories
He in jail now
Finesse 4400 Daamn foreal? Thats sad 😥
@@nosiphomsweli6617 what he did?
Hes a bully
The absent father is 6ix9ine jus look at the girl
Big DADDY 😂💀
Fr
Big DADDY lol so true
Yes
Her daddy in prison
Lack of father's in these kids lives, God bless the mother's of these kids.
Man these kids need a hug
holding back tears listening to Cortez rehearse the questions he has for his father in the car
I was too
Goes to show the importance of a father in a child's life
I cried a lil bit I wont lie. Shit hit home with me
Alex Caulfield
right! man, that's got to be tough
me too
"I wish we had a good family"
😥😥😥
That straight up broke me.
hes seems so genuine and dear and sweeet though when i was i kid i would not say that shit i thought i was to cool for that
BluesyDiamond he’s a no good loser, a waste of space.
u could hear the pain when he said that
@@uahatoxicboi9801 everything ok @ home ?
Cortez is such a beautiful child, he's just deeply and I mean deeply broken
My father died when I was 9, our family was already dysfunctional and I felt like my dad was the only one of a family of 7 kids, all half siblings that actually liked me so when he died there was no grieving and I felt alone and hopeless. I remember I was on a swing and I realized I'm not a kid anymore. That set the stage for a lot of unknowingly bad decisions. I'm in my 50s now, single and just finding myself. Thank the Universe I survived and have beautiful kids and grandkids but it's no joke.
Every child deserves their father😩😩😩 this is heartbreaking.
Lexi Burgamy welcome to half of America mate
I live in canada i dont have a father but he calls me sometimes since hes in another country and im well behaved and im 14 now and the last time i have seen my father was when i was 3
Not unless he verbally abused you
@John Kimber Of course you have more negative experiences than positive ones. People don't walk into the courtroom to say make a case about how few problems they're having as a pair. People go there when there's an issue that needs to be legally sorted out. I do, however, agree that men and women need to be treated equally in the courtroom, and that women have an unfair advantage in some instances.I just don't think the solution to preventing a bias in favor of women is to recreated that same bias, but in disfavor of them. Men and women need to just be viewed as people.
@John Kimber TRUTH!!!!
It's hard to have sympathy for Crystal when she constantly treats her mother like garbage.
Her mom is a piece of shit too
Like mother like daughter
+pxolax your a douche for saying that. obviously her mom. cares a lot about her daughters but it's getting hard to deal with everything crystal is putting her through. the only person who's at fault, is crystal
+Melanie Pestana Her mom's bad parenting caused that shit
+pxolax
No, she tries to do her best. I'd like to see how you would handle Crystal.
It’s so unfortunate to see how the kids are affected by their fathers mistakes. Growing up I hated my father for leaving me but the same time now that I’m much wiser, I feel like you can’t let another person mistakes affect you even if it’s your own father, you just gotta make sure you become a better father for your kids so they don’t have to feel how you feel growing up.
If you're wondering where this school is now, it is now called " Urban Prairie Waldorf School" and is a regular elementary school and not a school for troubled kids. I wrote a review on Google maps of the school with more info.
@@Whatsthetime_MKrude
2:18 that position looks very unnatural and it scares me.
+Music Playlist LOL
yea
right same thing i said lol
you all havent been around kids then. this is the standard position for kids in cars.
I do that all the time when I'm sleeping in a car
You know, my father never really partook in my life when I was younger, but I didn't act like a damn fool. I loved my mother too much to be disrespectful and disappoint her. My only goal was to love her, make her proud, and always support her.
These kids just need a little love and a good asskicking or two. They need to be exposed to more constructive, positive aspects of life rather than the negative influences in their neighborhoods.
It's not whether you have a father or not, it's what society you live in. Of-course you're gonna be the nice guy that comes from the nice neigbourhood, but when you're from the 'ghetto' It's not as nice as you expect it is.
As well as their behavior towards other people, people don't take serious action when it comes to what the kids/teenagers is doing, That makes them do whatever they please and continue doing it.
That's true, Mikolai Grimsson. I was raised in the heart of Atlanta, Georgia: Bankhead, Carver Homes, and Summer Hill. Those areas were very, very tough back when I was living there. At the age of 10, I would literally go outside and find someone smoking crack or selling dope every morning. The break-ins, the shootings; it was just a war zone.
12 years old and fed up, I was determined and hopeful that me and my mother were going to escape that horrible place at once. While my mother worked full-time as a housekeeper, I discreetly started selling baked goods and junk food to the hood to help raise money for us to find a new house. We managed to save up some cash for 8 months and moved to Lithonia, Georgia; which wasn't a bad area, yet it was a little run down by ghetto kids.
All I'm saying is is that everyone has a choice. Luckily, I was just a kid who had an inner strength and motivation to persevere. I was just a natural born leader who never allowed myself to be influenced by the negativity in my neighborhood, with the help of my mother.
Young people just need the proper guidance and...discipline.
***** I'm impressed :-) I have a hard time appreciate my life. When I read your post and see others different life on tv or youtube that got a damn hard start in life and still fighting I get motivated. Although ashamed over how spoiled I really am. If people with gloomier prospect in life can get somewhere in life I can too. Almost everyone can if one really want to.
You're right. Everyone has the strength to succeed. It's up to us to channel that inner strength and motivation.
Shout to the mother who have to pick up the slack but still end up not getting any respect.
what a contrast of crystals behavior when it's her little sister's birthday; her entire demeanor is more relaxed and positive, she's eager to show kindness, engaged in the activities... if only we could give these kids something more to care about than themselves, but amidst inner city poverty and violence, sometimes being selfish is the only way these kids know how to survive.
Y’all don’t understand until you’re in a home without a father. I managed to stay on a good path, but it takes a lot more self discipline. The discipline aspect of the household is damaged when the father is absent.
same here , its rough to have no one to guide u , it takes time and not everybody has that time before the streets take you..
Ann Tank Boys can relate to fathers more easier, a male figure to look up to. I’m a single child with a single mother, she had to work 12 hours a week just to pay the bills etc. I only see her at least an hour, and that’s if I stay up at midnight when she comes home. It’s even harder as a teenager in highschool, it feels like there’s a missing void in your life, and you don’t think you can make it in life
KenBeVibin I don’t know how old you are or you’re situation in life, but if you keep your mindset correct, you can most definitely make something for yourself. You’re already special, don’t sell yourself short.
Speak for yourself.
If you keep it up you will be fine. My husband never saw his father after he turned 8 years old and his mom abandoned him as soon as he became an adult and now he is everything his father never was. You have to stay motivated and have goals. Do better for your own future family.
He didn’t wish to be rich or famous, he wished for his dad and a good family... wow definitely brought me tears! He don’t need these medicines, he needs to get out that environment, he needs his dad! Stay strong baby boy!
YOU AINT NEVER LIE you can tell that young man is hurting! he just wants his daddy! a lot of children suffering like that its sad!!
Ok the Reverend that took Cortez to see his daddy is truly an angel, how he practiced his questions for his daddy with him
I'm only here to ask vice to do a where are they now segment