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As I got older I found that I don't really need a woman.. studying stoicism was good.. always something happens they cheat they lie all I wanted was someone to be with forever to love who loves me don't cheat don't lie don't have to be Marilyn Monroe somewhat appealing wouldn't that be nice but impossible are there something wrong when all these girls do all the things they have done and you really have a hard time trusting anyone..
Hi Mam, I like you and your playfull yet serious lessons! (am i doing it right:) But i cant remember all the tips when i start flirting, i have to go by instinct. Havent paid off, but ill keep trying and i like the thrill of 'the hunt' (creepy?) Thank you again for your videos, Regards, Dirk
@LetArtsLive Women are flakey and CANNOT be trusted with anything. Learn LEARN LEARN this. Love itself is a pliable word moulded to suit what someone wants it to mean. Bad luck on all of us when feminism was let loose.
They are out there. Harder to find because "social involvement" right? Bet you'd have other things in common. Think of clubs or classes you'd like to take with the added feature of women more likely to take them also. Adult classes in your area? You have to think of where they might be and put yourself there, regularly. But it is still possible to meet her anywhere if you are ready. If you saw her standing 10 feet away from you, could you do the approach?
58 year old Sigma male here. Yes, quite accurate. I'm happy in my own company, and enjoy social activities once a week. A significant woman in my life, must ENHANCE my life...that's number one....
My Canadian buddy Jason asked me what a sigma male was, so I said.. "Well to sum it up they’re not just your average guys ... They’re kind of like a calculator, you can pretty much always count on them ..." * Moscow, Russia
Yes, for all of your points for a worthy partner, and most on the list is applicable to everything. Interesting vlog Anna. Thank you for sharing God bless your path
Your points are spot on. A reason why I prefer to remain single is because I value my freedom above anything else and will not have that taken away from me (again). A reason why I prefer to remain single is because the concept of "The One" is strange to me. I find so many ladies with who I have a beautiful yet deep (often non sexual) connection with, that I don't want to give that up. With monogamy often comes possessiveness, jealousy and restrictions, to me those are three massive red flags. A reason why I prefer to remain single is because a lot of ladies (and I do respect that) prefer 100% monogamy for life. That concept does not fit with who I am, that concept does not fit with my lifestyle. Some people tell me that it's time to settle down (at age 35) but I like freedom and there is the selectiveness (pickyness😅). A reason why I prefer to remain single is because I know exactly what kind of lady I fall for, yet it's hard to find. I'm very lucky that I don't have to chase women, women (and sometimes men) start to chase me yet I do not engage in flirting (back) if they do not have the traits I seek no matter how beautiful they may be. I compromised in the past, regretted that and promised myself to never do that again. I am open to love, yet many women flirting with me seem to want me for long term 100% monogamous, house, kids etc or as a bonus father for their child. I respect that, but it makes me anxious just thinking about it as that is not what I want. There is so much to do in the world, there is so much to discover in the world, there is so much to learn in the world whether it be the mechanics of a black hole, decoding body language, investigating the strangest mysteries or learning a new cooking recipe... I will only settle down with a lady who values freedom just as much, who is a curious mind just as I am, who lives the way she wants without caring what other people say or think and with who I can do fun stuff to our hearts desire with, yet share a room in quietness when both reading a book or doing our own thing. Until that time, I'm more that happy being single.
WOW, I am sigma, and you are 1000% correct in your description. Quality, analytical, different drum, etc. Yes , we are not like everyone else, and don't want to be. Hard to figure out, but not really. Your very smart. Women find sigma, very perplexing..............
I'm a new subscriber. The presence of a new, friendly, and supportive female in my world is most welcome. I look forward to subsequent posts. Bless your heart!
WOW Anna! You nailed me on the head! I am a sigma male and you expertly described my challenge of finding the woman for me! I always get great tips and advice from you, but I just watched all of your videos on sigma males and great advice. It's interesting, because a woman that talks fast and a lot, is hard for me to take seriously. I think I usually think she's not agood fit for me. I hope more women see your videos on this subject.
I have a lot of the traits of a sigma male and I think I have found love. It is a little early to tell, but so far it really seems right. I met her at a Super Bowl party and she and I shared a table with a few other people. I took a chance and told her that I would like her number before we left. We have been on four dates so far, including two this weekend. She really got frisky this weekend, which is OK with me. Being with her is so natural and enjoyable and I like her more each time I see her. I will be going through your love program to keep my keeper. Thanks for your advice. I love your channel and the information that you provide.
I am not telling you what to do, but remember, they are consummate thespians. Watch actions, screen for anomalies. and do NOT let affection cloud your judgment my brother. I want all men to be happy, but I also want them to avoid landmines. Learning from others is the best experience. 58 years on this planet and letting a single mother pillage and destroy me 20 years ago and then dating up until 2018, you are looking for a needle in a haystack. I hope you found her. Use what they use on us; test them, watch how they react to stressful situations. God bless you as you proceed.
61 year old Sigma here - widowed last year. I recently started dating a really high-quality woman. Focusing on being transparent and really understanding who she is.
@@YourWingmam As cute as this video is, as a SIGMA male I can safely say that I wouldn't be a SIGMA male if I needed your advice. I'm not sure if this is intended to be ironic, trolling or a cute attempt at being able to say you have content for the betterment of SIGMA males, but regardless, as you rightly say, we walk our own path, chart our own course, dance to our own rhythm and fight with our own passion.
I came to this video to see what type of advice Anna gives. I like her energy. I believe I fit the sigma stereotype as I'm comfortable being single and have held my own values and standards and won't settle for someone who doesn't meet my standards. I never knew there was a classification for this.
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Awesome video! If I had a dollar every time someone said I was too quiet I'd be rich lol. People get really confused when you're quiet or don't want to be like everyone else.
Well, by this description, I'm a sigma. 2:20, yes, Anna is quite correct in that I'm more content on my own and doing things by myself than with a woman. That creates a big hurdle - a woman has to be really good to divert my time and energy away from my projects, my reading, and working out to want to 'court' one of them. They just aren't these days. If I was to have a woman in my life, she would need to add to it and not be a liability. For instance, I'm now also an event organiser and host as a regional organiser for a national organisation. I'd love to have a woman around who could work the floor with me, talking to attendees (especially the women) and make friends, and put a handle difficult social situations and act as another pair of eyes and ears. I haven't a hope of meeting someone in whom I have the confidence to do that. This group is also in a counter culture area, thus controversial in today's society. Sure, I attract women, but without exception, they expect to be able to use and manipulate. That's a liability. When women discover they can't use or manipulate, they're off. The other problem I have is that when women find out about my life, what I'm involved in, my status in different areas, they realise they're nowhere near my level - which they aren't.
You're not just helping men, Anna. A lot of women would be well placed to follow your teachings. I finally followed you in one other area, also. I finally cut my hair short, too; and I certainly realize why you did it. Thank you again. I'd show you, but don't know how to post a picture.
great video!!! so true- my opionion- bottom line- whenever you compliment a sigma male or a walking barbie doll, it will get to their heads- they know their sigma and they can change in negative ways which can affect there love life
Not giving it up, but she needs to let you have it, and understand that you like it that way. I often believe women want so much attention, and when they don't get that, they automatically think that you don't ''like'' them anymore, demanding an explanation. I find it hard to explain that I couldn't care less about this clown world, and participate in that just because ''everyone does''. People live their lives on the phone these days, I leave it at home when I go out, not being accessible is my kind of freedom and keeps me sane.
Ahhahaha everything you explain (each sentences ) just hit me head to toe, this is my everyday challange what i face, bumping struggling , i know women want to connect to me but i didn't give them any single piece of chance by sake of break through to journey of my independence, my sweet deep solitaire life, mine freedom, my untold spiritual road , mine creative world , mine privacy , i don't know the suggestions those what you given, can i handle it or not, by the way i am big surprised how you deep digging out all about Sigma love struggling. Thank You
Thanx again, ANNA -4 decoding us -‘sigmas’,,,and offering us advice --I love my life, and my creative -self chosen path, and mission, ,and hope some day , if the stars align-before I leave our beautiful planet -I get to share it w/a beautiful, wonderful self-aactualized woman-who understands-[if that’s in the cards for me ,lol- ,I often think of the brilliant YES song-‘awaken’ [from GOING FOR THE ONE’,,]-and Jon Anderson angelic -ally singing-‘like the time I ran away,,,turned around,,,and you were standing close to me…’-‘going 4 the one ‘……alright…
Yes, Anna. Thank you. In a nutshell, and I mean this in the absolute nicest possible way... We just don't care. It's not that we are horrible people - on the contrary. But when we get uphill for no reason, we just move on. But yes, from now on I will Try Harder.
Calling in to check on my favourite you tube lady. A flower from ' Canuckia ' that seems to get even wiser with age while at the same time retaining her ageless beauty ! ( from a , dare i say , quintessential sigma )
I've noticed I like it when the woman makes plans or comes up with ways to get me out into society. I know I put off the solitude vibe and all the Sigma traits, but I really enjoy it when I get "drug" out to do activities by the woman I like. I'm often on the sidelines observing and planning what I would do if shit hit the fan, but I love seeing my woman smiling, laughing, and doing her thing. Even better if she periodically looks over at me with a smirk or wink. And comes over to "check in" on my "wellbeing".
You're so right about sigma's not being willing to utter trite phrases like so many others do (juice isn't worth the squeeze). Instead, he makes his own, which in most cases is just using ordinary language without any cutesy jingoism to it. Basically, he doesn't want to create, what may catch on, to where he himself will grow sick of it. IOW, he highly values original thought and he abhors what passes as common knowledge, when it's said the exact same way every time (be original, put the exact same train of thought into different words - your own). Nice for Anna to pick that up, because I'm not sure I've heard that on sigma videos before, and it is all too true.
As an Introverted Sigma, surprisingly, I have mastered all except the deep connections since I haven't met that many people who are willing to open up to discuss deep topics while listening to my wisdom/insights and appreciate me for who I am. I have also always been open to finding friends that value and understand who I am and the silence. Especially for being open to love, I have been praying/hoping and manifesting meeting a woman who will become my wife without compromising my values and beliefs or settling for anyone just like my dad and stepmom believe.
A sigma at 63... Don't really care much for women any more. Now it's geopolitics, religion, deeper understanding of life, having a life that's feeling true to myself.
@@CassieRoseX89X Interesting, it seems that my comment compelled you to post such a comment. It seems that you grew up in a world that seems to be optimal for you and that you recommend to all female beings. It also seems to me that you have never traveled in other cultures that do not correspond to your ideas.
For many men whom I have worked with, the lack of effort comes from anxiety caused by previous negative life (relationship) experiences. Sometimes being introverted is actually confused with social anxiety. We keep ourselves safe if we don't put ourselves out there but then one cannot meet someone either. As long as you do your own work and increase self-awareness and do the healing work necessary, there are women who do not want to a social butterfly as a partner but someone who creates a supportive safe base for her. At the same time, if lifestyles are too different it is harder to make it work. There are introverted women out there too who like more quiet activities.
Thank you, Anna. This video resonates with me. I am definitely a sigma. I got a chuckle out of your reaction to the sigma guy who walked onto your “set” 😊
Amazing! You are the only one that has nailed a true Sigma, thank you so much for this, us Sigmas enjoy women like you in our lives. You vibrate intelligent feminine strength.
Yup, you sure nailed it in describing my traits. All these years I've considered myself an oddball (and not caring) since I'm happy and independent. It's only recently I've discovered there's a name for it, Sigma Male! My real relationships with women have been few, but of good quality when it happens. Yes, maybe I should be more open to it again. You have good advice.
The term 'sigma man' doesn't mean anything to European viewers like myself, but your description matches my own personality 100%. Thanks for your advice. Very much appreciated. Edit: no matter how many times I re-post this, there's always a self-centered weirdo (yes, Mr Costermans, you) who wants to make you believe this Greek alphabet thing is very much a theme in Europe. If you'd ask a random person in the street maybe 1 in 5,000 would know what a 'sigma man' is. Probably less than that.
@@marguskiis7711 The only reason the term 'sigma man' might appear in a newspaper is because our so called journalists copy everything they can find, incl. US newspapers. That doesn't make it a topic everyone knows or talks about. Ask the average person in the street and you'd struggle to find more than 1 in 1000 who can tell you what a 'sigma man' is.
The term "sigma male" happens to be in innumerable videos meanwhile, and I doubt that the x thousands of viewers all understand why they are NO sigma, at least most of them. But yes, it is wellknown. Maybe not in the streets, but hej, I never meet people in the streets just like that.
I think another 'word' to be used in lieu of Sigma is Chicken-Sh*t. Thats what iv'e been most of my adult life and suffered in Love and Lady contact as a consequence. But the alone stuff has filled the blanks, plus the set mission in life. And a ton of patience. Your videos and another Ladies strengthened my resolve to ask a lass for her number. It kind of went pear-shaped. A Sigma supposedly has the intimidating directness and honesty that can result in an emotion overload for the recipient (scary for them). Watched a video the night AFTER my approach which highlighted this fact. But all part of the learning curve which Anna provides for us incompetents. lol. And to keep working at it. Thanks AMJ
This was good. I do love my indendence; I find myself thinking that I would be happy being married but living apart. Not because I wouldn't care for the other person, but because I would want the time I spend with her to be spent on her and us and the time I spend alone to be spent on my hobbies and personal goals. I am for sure not the type to cheat, and I am for sure the type that needs personal space. To be honest I am very content being alone. I have a firm grip on my finances ( thank God for His many blessings and lessons ) and I don't really care what other people think about me, I do listen to them though because I am not dumb enough to think I am perfect. I try to make myself the best me I can be. I know that I am looking for a quality woman and I know that I do not need a woman to make me happy. I think that if I ever pair it should be mutually beneficial, but if she is going to be too much work I am definitely not interested because I have things I am aiming to accomplish.
As a man who is a published author, professional composer, professional photographer, and owns a small software and video game company, I spend my time on my creative endeavors. I work best alone. I also study stoicism and philosophy. Dating women is secondary, and not a necessity. I am most always alone, but never lonely.
Dear Anna: From real estate agent to travel agent, well done; thank you for taking us on a tour of your hometown. It looks like a nice place to live. A bit cold still,but a cool place to live. Well, I must admit I found this video very informative. I do not consider myself a sigma male, but I do have some of those qualities; sadly some of the ones which have not delivered good results in the dating and relationships world. I guess I need to rewatch the video you recommended at the end. Once again, great video. Have a great and blessed week. You have a gorgeous smile Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Lone Wolf howling and signing off.
I'm always fascinated by videos about people trying to understand people like me. I'm even more fascinated by people such as the Your Wingman, whom I greatly admire, trying to give advice to people such as myself. We are who we are and operate on our own resonance; we can't change the frequency of our behaviors. The advice given is more descriptive rather than adaptive. The things you say we should do is more explanative of what is woven into our behaviors rather than something to be adopted or emphasized. This comes across as someone trying to explain to others how we function rather than useful advice to us. As sigma males, we have no loss of interest from the fairer sex, the challenge is screening companions to our proclivities, which we learn to sort out rather quickly; and they exist in exceedingly small quantities.
@@YourWingmam Stigmas have high intelligence; this is synonymous with adaptability. They are sigmas because of their ability to adapt. So asking what adaptive advice would one give is the wrong question to pose. Other than high adaptability characteristics, a Sigma's mind is the same in all other regards. So if a Sigma is having difficulties in finding love, the question is why are they not succeeding in adapting in their coupling activities? Prior experiences, both good and bad are the most likely culprits for failure to adapt. Positive experiences tend to narrowly focus search parameters for exact repeats rather than analyzing what where the general parameters that lead to the initial encounter. Negative experiences lead to overly broad exclusionary criteria hoping to avoid even the faintest whiff of a repeat. What makes sigmas internally tick is their ability and affinity for analysis. But even they can go astray in this regard. Rather than create analysis factors based on other's desired attributes in others, the analysis of what you're looking for should be on what you value. Mine goes something like this: I value humor, beauty - internal beauty first, external second, and intelligence.
@@YourWingmam You had some advice for networking in a previous clip which will be helpful for him to take in. Places, groups and of course one of the moajor obstacles for such a person is, not to intrude. As long as mister Critical can be also natural, all may fall into place with effort. So my tip from the lip: Switch critical to constructive.
I had a will-they-won't-they thing with a woman that lasted for three years. She moved abroad right when we started to get to know one another. In the back of my mind, I always thought of her as "the one." One day she showed up back in town and told me that I was the reason why she had moved back. This really threw me for a loop, especially because I was dating someone else at the time. I decided not to pursue "the one" because my instinct said she was being manipulative. If I really had been the reason she came back, she would have reached out and let me know ahead of time. I think perhaps I was a fallback plan in her mind after she got done living her adventures, and she was willing to throw a rock into my relationship for this (which she certainly did). I didn't want to be a fallback or a dupe. So I didn't pursue, and even though I am single now I still am not interested. Now when I see her around town, she glares at me. Maybe I was right, maybe I was a fool, but that is my decision.
I feel I've grown into a sigma male in a lot of ways. I just don't feel the need to follow the assembly line since I don't like society's standards very much and want to embrace life on my own terms at my own pace. Alot of people end up acting and being the same "normal" way to me, creating what feels like a boring and/or unfulfilling experience. So, you said my issue well: I wonder what is really worth it. That's why I learned to look for the right people to accept me as you said since having no love or friends is better to me than bad or unfulfilling experiences. Great advice and thanks for the confirmation.
Part of the flaws of the advice here is the motivation, as a sigma male, to follow it. As a sigma male taking the time and effort to decode women is like going to the dentist to get a tooth pulled. As a married sigma male (20 years) my issue is staying connected with my wife. What works for me is improving my empathy skills and listening skills. As a sigma male your brain, while your being silent your internal voice is going at the speed of light and staying focused can prove a challenge. You can be that internally focused and observant that you miss the forest from the trees. So listening and I mean really listening to someone can be a challenge as your brain tends to leap ahead of the conversation. So what I do is I have worked hard at my listening skills and then when it’s my turn to speak I try to summarize what she said and then make an empathy statement. The connections you make are almost instant. Next is learning how to share yourself. I have a bad habit of being able to have a long conversation with women without really ever telling them anything about myself. So have had to learn how to share myself and I doubt I would have remained married this long. The key is you don’t have to share everything but you do need to learn to share yourself with your partner. Those have been the keys for me to remain connected to my wife, who I love dearly but it doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s a learned skill and I’ve learned when to enjoy being in my own lane and when to share myself. It’s a constant effort at self improvement and learning how to get outside my comfort zone. It’s been worth the effort.
@@YourWingmam Oh that’s a long and romantic story. My wife is a Filipina. 22 years ago I had come out of a failed relationship and was single. I was living in North Carolina at the time when an old friend of mine, who is married to a Filipina, called me up and asked me if I was still looking for a long term relationship. I said I was, he told me his wife had a Filipina friend in the same small town in Wisconsin who had a sister who was looking for a long term relationship. I responded by saying “Wasn’t Wisconsin a bit far to go for a date?” and he responded “Oh her sister is in the Philippines.”. I at first thought he was crazy but he persuaded me to be open minded and reach out to her. So I did and we developed an LDR with lots of phone calls and text messaging and letters. Over a year and a half I visited her twice in the Philippines and met her and her family. On my second visit I proposed and she accepted. I then went home and filled a K-2 fiancee visa with US Immigration and six months later she arrived in the U.S. and shortly thereafter we were married. So technically my wife was a so called 90 day fiancée. :-)
You sir, are correct. I had posted as a comment for sigma men that learning certain skills 1.body language, 2. social dancing, 3. the cube are great for developing rapport, improving emotional connection, discerning values alignment. One point that I had forgotten, which you nailed - focused, attentive listening. Toastmaster's International emphasizes this as a worthwhile skill to develop. Your exercise of summarizing her message is something which Robert Glover emphasized to me and the others in our group. You and I appear to be very 'wordy', the trick is to provide quality of over quantity which you articulated very well. May your good luck and fortune continue!
That sqeezing thing is very true, we say it as information, as true, but women find is as being bitter. Also many other things they find as insecurity, even its not. Our brains just work different.
I can say "its raining", and women and even most men think i complain and i am negative person, even its just describing reality, and i actually like rain. I need to think 5mins and then say 1 sentence in todays weak world.
Dear Ms. Anna, you made me cry with this one. Yikes! The worst thing about being a Sigma, is the high level of standards (Pickyness), which for the life of me, I just cannot seem to give up, especially post divorce even after 8 years. Then, I'm the bad guy bc I leave a trail of destruction even though 70% of the time, I wasn't even the one who made the first move and being clear from the first date that I am a very picky man. WTF? Secondly, and worse, the Sigma curse is that it causes every single date to fall in love with you too quickly thereby turning you around 180 degrees Celsius in blink of an eye due to the sheer low IQ nature of such a claim in anywhere less than 3- 6 months sometimes 2 months when modern scientific psychology postulates that it takes up to 2 years to even learn whether you love or not (Unless its your offspring or your mother). But of course, I'm the heartless one for terminating the new relationship despite giving more to charity than they do or my children and nephews always want be with me or even my nut job ex wife constantly trying to get back with me after almost 8 years (Not if she was the last billy-goat on the planet LOL). Thirdly, in a modern society loaded with fakes (Lying about education or accolades or fake body parts or fake pics or hypocrisy or just plain low IQ issues, etc.), modern society poses a very low probability of a successful relationships for Sigmas. Men are not much better albeit more forgiving because being hetero you obviously don't have to terminate or say 'no' but they are still difficult because they hate on you for being better than them professionally or in martial arts or skiing or blading or being life of the party while they have the personality of a Billy-goat, etc. I guess this lesson of yours made me cry bc it gets very lonely, especially as I age and your points were bang on. TY forcall your help. It's just nice to know that there are people who actually understand and care. TY Anna.
((Big hug)) Your mission should you wish to accept it: 1. Whenever you judge someone for something negative (below your standard), consciously postulate 3 positive things about them. Pickiness is both a cope (walls keep bad people out but also good people) and a habit. Start taking down the wall with this new habit. 2. Say no to billygoats.
I'm a sigma 100%, I have had a women for most of my life until two years ago. I do date a little here and there but I am very disappointed at whats out there now. So I made this list and yes it's unicorn land but I stand my ground on it. 1. A women that can be happy with the simple things, one that care more about each other over the materialistic things. 2. A women who understand her own nature and realizes it is flawed and she strides to better it. 3. A women that can be honest with me to the best of her ability and can understand her own feelings. 4. A women that also has her own interests and doesn't need her partner to constantly hold her hand. 5. A women that seriously cares what she puts in and on her body in every aspect and is healthy. 6. A women that isn't mentally or physically lazy so we can build together. 7. A women that isn't combative, like the kind that likes to fight just to excite her own emotions and feelings or tries to make everything a competition. 8. A women that does NOT do any drugs including Pharma ones that change their mental state in any way. A little alcohol and marinara is OK as long as it's light. 9. A women that isn't addicted to social media, meaning the kind that couldn't go two hours with out checking her phone and that includes the kind that post revealing pictures just for clout and attention. 10. A women the understands I am the leader and I will make all the important decisions in the relationship regardless of any other factors in it.
@@Estebar33 Funny you say that because I do get a lot of feed back on 10. Don't get me wrong I'm willing to her her side of what ever issue but a mans logic is undeniable and women always let their feeling and emotions get in the way.
Just got a chance to view the video. Very good. I think the whole sigma male topic dead center. I find myself wondering if your admirers are disproportionately sigma in nature. Your rational and intelligent nature -- topped with a natural beauty that is honest and real -- appeals to the sigma mind. Energy today: quite good. Glad to see it. Voice today: sounds like you are shaking off the remains of a cold (didn't you indicate you were fighting something a week or so ago? My life is busy -- can't exactly remember). Whatever it is, I hope it isn't painful. The thought of you in pain is extremely disconcerting. Good job. Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/Ginger is going to get spayed tomorrow. Praying it goes well and she doesn't let her nervous energy win out while she is alone in a strange place at the vet's.
I think I may have a higher sub count of sigmas, or simply many astute and self-aware men. Yes, that cold was awful and lasted two weeks. Nine for decades and then wham, it got me. Mostly over it, thank you Russ! Prayers for Ginger headed your way!
Being an observant sigma introvert, I have this personally resonant passage from the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius pinned on my desk before I go out to face the world: "The mind is the ruler of the soul. It should remain unstirred by agitations of the flesh - gentle and violent ones alike. Not mingling with them, but fencing itself off and keeping those feelings in their place. When they make their way into your thoughts, through the sympathetic link between mind and body, don't try to resist the sensation. The sensation is natural. But don't let the mind start in with judgments, calling it 'good' or 'bad'."
I am not sure what I am. All I know is I do most things alone. When I find a lady that I am interested in, I take it slow to make a connection... only for her to pull away and disappear. Thus, I am expecting to always to be in the 'Friend, Aquaintance, and Dance Partner Zone.
Learn the 'cube' exercise - it'll reduce your interview time with more effective results, and it will enhance any attraction she may already have towards you.
SIGMA man here. Thank you for a good video. You always present yourself so well and give great insight on these matters. I'll be keeping all this in mind while I'm still single and "lone wolf". May God richly bless you.
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As I got older I found that I don't really need a woman.. studying stoicism was good.. always something happens they cheat they lie all I wanted was someone to be with forever to love who loves me don't cheat don't lie don't have to be Marilyn Monroe somewhat appealing wouldn't that be nice but impossible are there something wrong when all these girls do all the things they have done and you really have a hard time trusting anyone..
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Hi Mam,
I like you and your playfull yet serious lessons! (am i doing it right:)
But i cant remember all the tips when i start flirting, i have to go by instinct.
Havent paid off, but ill keep trying and i like the thrill of 'the hunt' (creepy?)
Thank you again for your videos,
Regards,
Dirk
@LetArtsLive Women are flakey and CANNOT be trusted with anything. Learn LEARN LEARN this. Love itself is a pliable word moulded to suit what someone wants it to mean. Bad luck on all of us when feminism was let loose.
Sigma males sound very similar to men with asburgers/asd. Whats your take on this?
I relate, the hardest thing is finding someone female who can live without too much social involvment
What do you mean?
They are out there. Harder to find because "social involvement" right? Bet you'd have other things in common. Think of clubs or classes you'd like to take with the added feature of women more likely to take them also. Adult classes in your area? You have to think of where they might be and put yourself there, regularly.
But it is still possible to meet her anywhere if you are ready. If you saw her standing 10 feet away from you, could you do the approach?
@@x-man5056 - Yeah, at my age (43.), it is really impossible to meet single women. All of the ones that I ever wanted have/had a boyfriend.
Dream on! Many women live more in social media than in reality.
Social media f up modern women!
58 year old Sigma male here. Yes, quite accurate. I'm happy in my own company, and enjoy social activities once a week.
A significant woman in my life, must ENHANCE my life...that's number one....
Right there w/ you.
@@Hegstuffing To each their own but I do not put that demand onto a woman!
I am just happy if she is accompanying mine.
Thoughtful analysis. I rather live in peace than suffer too much for love. Better live outside of normalcy than forcing love upon anyone.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
My Canadian buddy Jason asked me what a sigma male was, so I said..
"Well to sum it up they’re not just your average guys ... They’re kind of like a calculator, you can pretty much always count on them ..."
* Moscow, Russia
Men dont look for love, it looks for us! No expectations, no promises and no regrets! All you need fellas
Yes, would write the same. We Sigmas aren't looking for love, love is looking for us.
And if not, it's ok too.
Yep. Reminds me of another quote, "Just put it in the butt".
Holy Crap, your comment about "The juice ain't worth the squeeze" is spot on. I hate it when people run a phrase into the ground.
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Yes, for all of your points for a worthy partner, and most on the list is applicable to everything. Interesting vlog Anna.
Thank you for sharing
God bless your path
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Your points are spot on.
A reason why I prefer to remain single is because I value my freedom above anything else and will not have that taken away from me (again).
A reason why I prefer to remain single is because the concept of "The One" is strange to me. I find so many ladies with who I have a beautiful yet deep (often non sexual) connection with, that I don't want to give that up. With monogamy often comes possessiveness, jealousy and restrictions, to me those are three massive red flags.
A reason why I prefer to remain single is because a lot of ladies (and I do respect that) prefer 100% monogamy for life. That concept does not fit with who I am, that concept does not fit with my lifestyle. Some people tell me that it's time to settle down (at age 35) but I like freedom and there is the selectiveness (pickyness😅).
A reason why I prefer to remain single is because I know exactly what kind of lady I fall for, yet it's hard to find. I'm very lucky that I don't have to chase women, women (and sometimes men) start to chase me yet I do not engage in flirting (back) if they do not have the traits I seek no matter how beautiful they may be. I compromised in the past, regretted that and promised myself to never do that again.
I am open to love, yet many women flirting with me seem to want me for long term 100% monogamous, house, kids etc or as a bonus father for their child. I respect that, but it makes me anxious just thinking about it as that is not what I want.
There is so much to do in the world, there is so much to discover in the world, there is so much to learn in the world whether it be the mechanics of a black hole, decoding body language, investigating the strangest mysteries or learning a new cooking recipe...
I will only settle down with a lady who values freedom just as much, who is a curious mind just as I am, who lives the way she wants without caring what other people say or think and with who I can do fun stuff to our hearts desire with, yet share a room in quietness when both reading a book or doing our own thing.
Until that time, I'm more that happy being single.
WOW, I am sigma, and you are 1000% correct in your description. Quality, analytical, different drum, etc. Yes , we are not like everyone else, and don't want to be. Hard to figure out, but not really. Your very smart. Women find sigma, very perplexing..............
I agree with 100%. Well done and to the point.
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WOW Anna! You nailed me on the head! I am a sigma male and you expertly described my challenge of finding the woman for me! I always get great tips and advice from you, but I just watched all of your videos on sigma males and great advice. It's interesting, because a woman that talks fast and a lot, is hard for me to take seriously. I think I usually think she's not agood fit for me. I hope more women see your videos on this subject.
Glad it resonated! Anyone else reading who agrees, please share the videos you want women to see (where women can see them). 😊
I have a lot of the traits of a sigma male and I think I have found love. It is a little early to tell, but so far it really seems right. I met her at a Super Bowl party and she and I shared a table with a few other people. I took a chance and told her that I would like her number before we left. We have been on four dates so far, including two this weekend. She really got frisky this weekend, which is OK with me. Being with her is so natural and enjoyable and I like her more each time I see her. I will be going through your love program to keep my keeper. Thanks for your advice. I love your channel and the information that you provide.
I am not telling you what to do, but remember, they are consummate thespians. Watch actions, screen for anomalies. and do NOT let affection cloud your judgment my brother. I want all men to be happy, but I also want them to avoid landmines. Learning from others is the best experience. 58 years on this planet and letting a single mother pillage and destroy me 20 years ago and then dating up until 2018, you are looking for a needle in a haystack. I hope you found her. Use what they use on us; test them, watch how they react to stressful situations. God bless you as you proceed.
Great video. You have just described me.
Glad you enjoyed it! You'll probably like my other sigma videos :))
61 year old Sigma here - widowed last year. I recently started dating a really high-quality woman. Focusing on being transparent and really understanding who she is.
Congratulations. Sorry that you lost your wife, but congratulations on finding someone else.
(My condolences) and good plan, you got this!
@@YourWingmam As cute as this video is, as a SIGMA male I can safely say that I wouldn't be a SIGMA male if I needed your advice. I'm not sure if this is intended to be ironic, trolling or a cute attempt at being able to say you have content for the betterment of SIGMA males, but regardless, as you rightly say, we walk our own path, chart our own course, dance to our own rhythm and fight with our own passion.
61 years old, says he sigma and needs to "focus" to do these obvious things kids do as well. lmao
@@mikedavid3087 I don’t dance
I came to this video to see what type of advice Anna gives. I like her energy. I believe I fit the sigma stereotype as I'm comfortable being single and have held my own values and standards and won't settle for someone who doesn't meet my standards. I never knew there was a classification for this.
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@@YourWingmam thanks Anna, I will def check this out!
I am a "stoic stud"? Oh my oh my oh my, I LOVE this choice of words. Thank you! This describes me perfectly.
Awesome video! If I had a dollar every time someone said I was too quiet I'd be rich lol. People get really confused when you're quiet or don't want to be like everyone else.
Well, by this description, I'm a sigma. 2:20, yes, Anna is quite correct in that I'm more content on my own and doing things by myself than with a woman. That creates a big hurdle - a woman has to be really good to divert my time and energy away from my projects, my reading, and working out to want to 'court' one of them. They just aren't these days. If I was to have a woman in my life, she would need to add to it and not be a liability. For instance, I'm now also an event organiser and host as a regional organiser for a national organisation. I'd love to have a woman around who could work the floor with me, talking to attendees (especially the women) and make friends, and put a handle difficult social situations and act as another pair of eyes and ears. I haven't a hope of meeting someone in whom I have the confidence to do that. This group is also in a counter culture area, thus controversial in today's society.
Sure, I attract women, but without exception, they expect to be able to use and manipulate. That's a liability. When women discover they can't use or manipulate, they're off. The other problem I have is that when women find out about my life, what I'm involved in, my status in different areas, they realise they're nowhere near my level - which they aren't.
Thanks for another excellent video Anna Jorgensen
Ha! I love learning about myself, this video has resonated with me... Thank you
Thank you for this video Anna! I greatly appreciate it. Perfect subject matter.🎉🎉🎉
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
You're not just helping men, Anna. A lot of women would be well placed to follow your teachings. I finally followed you in one other area, also. I finally cut my hair short, too; and I certainly realize why you did it. Thank you again. I'd show you, but don't know how to post a picture.
You are right, her message is enlightning for everyone.
great video!!! so true- my opionion- bottom line- whenever you compliment a sigma male or a walking barbie doll, it will get to their heads- they know their sigma and they can change in negative ways which can affect there love life
Good video. I don't listen to this stuff very often. I have pretty much given up the whole thing.
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Okay, I have two questions. What is "love?" To decode signals I need to see signals. What are signals and how do I see them?
She just described me perfectly. Thumbs up. I haven't yet found a women that I'd give up my solitude for.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Not giving it up, but she needs to let you have it, and understand that you like it that way. I often believe women want so much attention, and when they don't get that, they automatically think that you don't ''like'' them anymore, demanding an explanation. I find it hard to explain that I couldn't care less about this clown world, and participate in that just because ''everyone does''. People live their lives on the phone these days, I leave it at home when I go out, not being accessible is my kind of freedom and keeps me sane.
@@sverre371 I often wonder if those women are hard to find or if they even exist. Ones that’ll accept my need for solitude I mean 🤷♂️.
@@bladerunner8832 These days, they are rare for sure, they need drama it seems.
Thank You! Nice to learn (and see) a lot of really good advice! Take care.
Yes, this one is really well done.
I appreciate your videos a lot anna. I've been watching your content for years. You do have a rare gift of helping people to find their rhythm.....
Thank you so much! Glad you’re here!
Anna, your insights are most enjoyable to listen to.
The best advice in this video, keep evolving. The rest is good too but that is the key to it all.
Ahhahaha everything you explain (each sentences ) just hit me head to toe, this is my everyday challange what i face, bumping struggling , i know women want to connect to me but i didn't give them any single piece of chance by sake of break through to journey of my independence, my sweet deep solitaire life, mine freedom, my untold spiritual road , mine creative world , mine privacy , i don't know the suggestions those what you given, can i handle it or not, by the way i am big surprised how you deep digging out all about Sigma love struggling. Thank You
Thanx again, ANNA -4 decoding us -‘sigmas’,,,and offering us advice --I love my life, and my creative -self chosen path, and mission, ,and hope some day , if the stars align-before I leave our beautiful planet -I get to share it w/a beautiful, wonderful self-aactualized woman-who understands-[if that’s in the cards for me ,lol- ,I often think of the brilliant YES song-‘awaken’ [from GOING FOR THE ONE’,,]-and Jon Anderson angelic -ally singing-‘like the time I ran away,,,turned around,,,and you were standing close to me…’-‘going 4 the one ‘……alright…
Yes, Anna. Thank you. In a nutshell, and I mean this in the absolute nicest possible way... We just don't care. It's not that we are horrible people - on the contrary. But when we get uphill for no reason, we just move on. But yes, from now on I will Try Harder.
Maybe instead of trying harder just try to be more open. (Which might be more difficult for sigmas, I know)
You're very good at this..you make great points..thank u!
I have never struggled with love, love struggle with me, I just decided to give love an opportunity and now we have a healthy marriage.
Am not looking for a relationship. But i do show interest in Anna's material that is presented. It's another avenue of communication.
I'm one of them, and you're spot on with your points.
Calling in to check on my favourite you tube lady. A flower from ' Canuckia ' that seems to get even wiser with age while at the same time retaining her ageless beauty ! ( from a , dare i say , quintessential sigma )
Hope you're having a great Sunday Anna ❤
I am, hope you are too! 🙏💞
Aways appreciated thanks again for all your efforts
My pleasure ❤️
Great points Anna. That cat seems to appear and disappear randomly. Love it!
Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback ❤️
I've noticed I like it when the woman makes plans or comes up with ways to get me out into society. I know I put off the solitude vibe and all the Sigma traits, but I really enjoy it when I get "drug" out to do activities by the woman I like. I'm often on the sidelines observing and planning what I would do if shit hit the fan, but I love seeing my woman smiling, laughing, and doing her thing. Even better if she periodically looks over at me with a smirk or wink. And comes over to "check in" on my "wellbeing".
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏🏼
Your channel, and your content is GREAT! You ate MUCH appreciated! Thank you! Stay safe, and be well, Anna!
You Are Correct Nice To See You. Enjoy Yourself.
This is definitely me. I never knew there was a name for it. 😂wow!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
You're so right about sigma's not being willing to utter trite phrases like so many others do (juice isn't worth the squeeze). Instead, he makes his own, which in most cases is just using ordinary language without any cutesy jingoism to it. Basically, he doesn't want to create, what may catch on, to where he himself will grow sick of it. IOW, he highly values original thought and he abhors what passes as common knowledge, when it's said the exact same way every time (be original, put the exact same train of thought into different words - your own).
Nice for Anna to pick that up, because I'm not sure I've heard that on sigma videos before, and it is all too true.
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I didn't know i was one until a few days ago. It makes a lot of sense.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
As an Introverted Sigma, surprisingly, I have mastered all except the deep connections since I haven't met that many people who are willing to open up to discuss deep topics while listening to my wisdom/insights and appreciate me for who I am. I have also always been open to finding friends that value and understand who I am and the silence. Especially for being open to love, I have been praying/hoping and manifesting meeting a woman who will become my wife without compromising my values and beliefs or settling for anyone just like my dad and stepmom believe.
A sigma at 63... Don't really care much for women any more. Now it's geopolitics, religion, deeper understanding of life, having a life that's feeling true to myself.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Great advice . Thank you !
So true Sis ! I truly enjoy being myself , I'm good at being myself not someone else. 😮
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏🏼
It's not about modern women. It's about western women.
💯 hos 😂
Nah. Feminists are everywhere
More like American culture of degeneracy and promiscuity
Meh maybe you're just not good enough, ever considered that?
Man up 😅
@@CassieRoseX89X Interesting, it seems that my comment compelled you to post such a comment. It seems that you grew up in a world that seems to be optimal for you and that you recommend to all female beings. It also seems to me that you have never traveled in other cultures that do not correspond to your ideas.
For many men whom I have worked with, the lack of effort comes from anxiety caused by previous negative life (relationship) experiences. Sometimes being introverted is actually confused with social anxiety. We keep ourselves safe if we don't put ourselves out there but then one cannot meet someone either. As long as you do your own work and increase self-awareness and do the healing work necessary, there are women who do not want to a social butterfly as a partner but someone who creates a supportive safe base for her. At the same time, if lifestyles are too different it is harder to make it work. There are introverted women out there too who like more quiet activities.
Absolutely! Have talked about this in several videos. Also, women need to provide a supportive safe base for men as well. 😊
Thank you, Anna. This video resonates with me. I am definitely a sigma. I got a chuckle out of your reaction to the sigma guy who walked onto your “set” 😊
Wasn’t that perfect?! 🙏
I can't believe how much I agree with this video.
I like how your filming the new vids at different locations, it makes the vids more interesting.
Is that a signal? Well said, thanks
🙏 ❤️
Amazing! You are the only one that has nailed a true Sigma, thank you so much for this, us Sigmas enjoy women like you in our lives. You vibrate intelligent feminine strength.
Yup, you sure nailed it in describing my traits. All these years I've considered myself an oddball (and not caring) since I'm happy and independent. It's only recently I've discovered there's a name for it, Sigma Male! My real relationships with women have been few, but of good quality when it happens. Yes, maybe I should be more open to it again. You have good advice.
So these are the things we struggle with. I didn't see them to be tips, however I appreciate what Ur trying to convey
The term 'sigma man' doesn't mean anything to European viewers like myself, but your description matches my own personality 100%.
Thanks for your advice. Very much appreciated.
Edit: no matter how many times I re-post this, there's always a self-centered weirdo (yes, Mr Costermans, you) who wants to make you believe this Greek alphabet thing is very much a theme in Europe. If you'd ask a random person in the street maybe 1 in 5,000 would know what a 'sigma man' is. Probably less than that.
I live in Europa myself and sigma theme is very in here.
@@marguskiis7711 The only reason the term 'sigma man' might appear in a newspaper is because our so called journalists copy everything they can find, incl. US newspapers. That doesn't make it a topic everyone knows or talks about. Ask the average person in the street and you'd struggle to find more than 1 in 1000 who can tell you what a 'sigma man' is.
@@marguskiis7711 Yep. It is known.
But we don't live in the street. Do we? We live in the metaverse. Here everyone knows these terms.
The term "sigma male" happens to be in innumerable videos meanwhile, and I doubt that the x thousands of viewers all understand why they are NO sigma, at least most of them. But yes, it is wellknown. Maybe not in the streets, but hej, I never meet people in the streets just like that.
Thank you Anna for this video! It made me feel good, and gave me ideas to help me find my true love some day! You're the best! Cheers from west Texas!
Yay! Glad you enjoyed it, TX!
Excellent!~ 60 year old sigma and I appreciate this!
Losts of love and god bless back at you Anna, Thank you.
I think another 'word' to be used in lieu of Sigma is Chicken-Sh*t. Thats what iv'e been most of my adult life and suffered in Love and Lady contact as a consequence. But the alone stuff has filled the blanks, plus the set mission in life. And a ton of patience. Your videos and another Ladies strengthened my resolve to ask a lass for her number. It kind of went pear-shaped. A Sigma supposedly has the intimidating directness and honesty that can result in an emotion overload for the recipient (scary for them). Watched a video the night AFTER my approach which highlighted this fact. But all part of the learning curve which Anna provides for us incompetents. lol. And to keep working at it. Thanks AMJ
This was good. I do love my indendence; I find myself thinking that I would be happy being married but living apart. Not because I wouldn't care for the other person, but because I would want the time I spend with her to be spent on her and us and the time I spend alone to be spent on my hobbies and personal goals. I am for sure not the type to cheat, and I am for sure the type that needs personal space. To be honest I am very content being alone. I have a firm grip on my finances ( thank God for His many blessings and lessons ) and I don't really care what other people think about me, I do listen to them though because I am not dumb enough to think I am perfect. I try to make myself the best me I can be. I know that I am looking for a quality woman and I know that I do not need a woman to make me happy. I think that if I ever pair it should be mutually beneficial, but if she is going to be too much work I am definitely not interested because I have things I am aiming to accomplish.
Thank you....Anna Jorgensen for all these tips in this video and they are 100% for me😄👉
The big problem I see Sigmas having is that many women want to be led, but the Sigma has no interest in leading anybody.
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As a man who is a published author, professional composer, professional photographer, and owns a small software and video game company, I spend my time on my creative endeavors. I work best alone. I also study stoicism and philosophy. Dating women is secondary, and not a necessity. I am most always alone, but never lonely.
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A real man loves himself so much that he doesn't need the love of anyone else.
Dear Anna:
From real estate agent to travel agent, well done; thank you for taking us on a tour of your hometown. It looks like a nice place to live. A bit cold still,but a cool place to live.
Well, I must admit I found this video very informative. I do not consider myself a sigma male, but I do have some of those qualities; sadly some of the ones which have not delivered good results in the dating and relationships world. I guess I need to rewatch the video you recommended at the end.
Once again, great video. Have a great and blessed week. You have a gorgeous smile Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Lone Wolf howling and signing off.
I'm always fascinated by videos about people trying to understand people like me. I'm even more fascinated by people such as the Your Wingman, whom I greatly admire, trying to give advice to people such as myself. We are who we are and operate on our own resonance; we can't change the frequency of our behaviors. The advice given is more descriptive rather than adaptive. The things you say we should do is more explanative of what is woven into our behaviors rather than something to be adopted or emphasized. This comes across as someone trying to explain to others how we function rather than useful advice to us. As sigma males, we have no loss of interest from the fairer sex, the challenge is screening companions to our proclivities, which we learn to sort out rather quickly; and they exist in exceedingly small quantities.
What adaptive advice would give to people like you? 😊
@@YourWingmam Stigmas have high intelligence; this is synonymous with adaptability. They are sigmas because of their ability to adapt. So asking what adaptive advice would one give is the wrong question to pose. Other than high adaptability characteristics, a Sigma's mind is the same in all other regards. So if a Sigma is having difficulties in finding love, the question is why are they not succeeding in adapting in their coupling activities? Prior experiences, both good and bad are the most likely culprits for failure to adapt. Positive experiences tend to narrowly focus search parameters for exact repeats rather than analyzing what where the general parameters that lead to the initial encounter. Negative experiences lead to overly broad exclusionary criteria hoping to avoid even the faintest whiff of a repeat. What makes sigmas internally tick is their ability and affinity for analysis. But even they can go astray in this regard. Rather than create analysis factors based on other's desired attributes in others, the analysis of what you're looking for should be on what you value. Mine goes something like this: I value humor, beauty - internal beauty first, external second, and intelligence.
Thank you Anna. My challenge is meeting women. I live in a small city, and try to cast a wide net through dating apps.
Welcome! Where to meet women (not apps, not nightclubs): ruclips.net/video/nu6vpWkGAlI/видео.html :)
Because Sigma's are authentic we need authentic, non-superficial partners in women... Which is hard to find these days.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏🏼
@@YourWingmam You had some advice for networking in a previous clip which will be helpful for him to take in. Places, groups and of course one of the moajor obstacles for such a person is, not to intrude.
As long as mister Critical can be also natural, all may fall into place with effort.
So my tip from the lip: Switch critical to constructive.
I had a will-they-won't-they thing with a woman that lasted for three years. She moved abroad right when we started to get to know one another. In the back of my mind, I always thought of her as "the one." One day she showed up back in town and told me that I was the reason why she had moved back. This really threw me for a loop, especially because I was dating someone else at the time. I decided not to pursue "the one" because my instinct said she was being manipulative. If I really had been the reason she came back, she would have reached out and let me know ahead of time. I think perhaps I was a fallback plan in her mind after she got done living her adventures, and she was willing to throw a rock into my relationship for this (which she certainly did). I didn't want to be a fallback or a dupe. So I didn't pursue, and even though I am single now I still am not interested. Now when I see her around town, she glares at me. Maybe I was right, maybe I was a fool, but that is my decision.
I believe you are 100% right.
I feel I've grown into a sigma male in a lot of ways. I just don't feel the need to follow the assembly line since I don't like society's standards very much and want to embrace life on my own terms at my own pace. Alot of people end up acting and being the same "normal" way to me, creating what feels like a boring and/or unfulfilling experience. So, you said my issue well: I wonder what is really worth it. That's why I learned to look for the right people to accept me as you said since having no love or friends is better to me than bad or unfulfilling experiences. Great advice and thanks for the confirmation.
"Quiet Rebel" - Yep. 💯. Biggest Challenge?:
👉= finding an aware woman who knows the immense value of _Owning all her own Emotions._
I like your insight keep up the great work
Part of the flaws of the advice here is the motivation, as a sigma male, to follow it. As a sigma male taking the time and effort to decode women is like going to the dentist to get a tooth pulled. As a married sigma male (20 years) my issue is staying connected with my wife. What works for me is improving my empathy skills and listening skills. As a sigma male your brain, while your being silent your internal voice is going at the speed of light and staying focused can prove a challenge. You can be that internally focused and observant that you miss the forest from the trees. So listening and I mean really listening to someone can be a challenge as your brain tends to leap ahead of the conversation.
So what I do is I have worked hard at my listening skills and then when it’s my turn to speak I try to summarize what she said and then make an empathy statement. The connections you make are almost instant.
Next is learning how to share yourself. I have a bad habit of being able to have a long conversation with women without really ever telling them anything about myself. So have had to learn how to share myself and I doubt I would have remained married this long. The key is you don’t have to share everything but you do need to learn to share yourself with your partner.
Those have been the keys for me to remain connected to my wife, who I love dearly but it doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s a learned skill and I’ve learned when to enjoy being in my own lane and when to share myself. It’s a constant effort at self improvement and learning how to get outside my comfort zone. It’s been worth the effort.
Excellent advice! I’ve shared some of it in my other sigma videos, I’m glad it lines up. Q: how did you meet your wife? 🙏
@@YourWingmam Oh that’s a long and romantic story. My wife is a Filipina. 22 years ago I had come out of a failed relationship and was single. I was living in North Carolina at the time when an old friend of mine, who is married to a Filipina, called me up and asked me if I was still looking for a long term relationship. I said I was, he told me his wife had a Filipina friend in the same small town in Wisconsin who had a sister who was looking for a long term relationship. I responded by saying “Wasn’t Wisconsin a bit far to go for a date?” and he responded “Oh her sister is in the Philippines.”. I at first thought he was crazy but he persuaded me to be open minded and reach out to her. So I did and we developed an LDR with lots of phone calls and text messaging and letters. Over a year and a half I visited her twice in the Philippines and met her and her family. On my second visit I proposed and she accepted. I then went home and filled a K-2 fiancee visa with US Immigration and six months later she arrived in the U.S. and shortly thereafter we were married. So technically my wife was a so called 90 day fiancée. :-)
You sir, are correct. I had posted as a comment for sigma men that learning certain skills 1.body language, 2. social dancing, 3. the cube are great for developing rapport, improving emotional connection, discerning values alignment. One point that I had forgotten, which you nailed - focused, attentive listening. Toastmaster's International emphasizes this as a worthwhile skill to develop. Your exercise of summarizing her message is something which Robert Glover emphasized to me and the others in our group. You and I appear to be very 'wordy', the trick is to provide quality of over quantity which you articulated very well. May your good luck and fortune continue!
Good to hear from you Sis, Sigma Andy. X You look like your cold, Canada lady.
That sqeezing thing is very true, we say it as information, as true, but women find is as being bitter. Also many other things they find as insecurity, even its not. Our brains just work different.
I can say "its raining", and women and even most men think i complain and i am negative person, even its just describing reality, and i actually like rain. I need to think 5mins and then say 1 sentence in todays weak world.
Wise words, Anna. I wish I were there today, 'cause I'm Irish, and would ask for a kiss. Happy St. Patrick's Day.
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Always keep your script and vocabulary simple and easy to understand//
Totally thought it was going to be that we don't look for love, love looks for us... and doesn't find us because they just don't like get us, man! 😎
Dear Ms. Anna, you made me cry with this one. Yikes! The worst thing about being a Sigma, is the high level of standards (Pickyness), which for the life of me, I just cannot seem to give up, especially post divorce even after 8 years. Then, I'm the bad guy bc I leave a trail of destruction even though 70% of the time, I wasn't even the one who made the first move and being clear from the first date that I am a very picky man. WTF? Secondly, and worse, the Sigma curse is that it causes every single date to fall in love with you too quickly thereby turning you around 180 degrees Celsius in blink of an eye due to the sheer low IQ nature of such a claim in anywhere less than 3- 6 months sometimes 2 months when modern scientific psychology postulates that it takes up to 2 years to even learn whether you love or not (Unless its your offspring or your mother). But of course, I'm the heartless one for terminating the new relationship despite giving more to charity than they do or my children and nephews always want be with me or even my nut job ex wife constantly trying to get back with me after almost 8 years (Not if she was the last billy-goat on the planet LOL). Thirdly, in a modern society loaded with fakes (Lying about education or accolades or fake body parts or fake pics or hypocrisy or just plain low IQ issues, etc.), modern society poses a very low probability of a successful relationships for Sigmas. Men are not much better albeit more forgiving because being hetero you obviously don't have to terminate or say 'no' but they are still difficult because they hate on you for being better than them professionally or in martial arts or skiing or blading or being life of the party while they have the personality of a Billy-goat, etc. I guess this lesson of yours made me cry bc it gets very lonely, especially as I age and your points were bang on. TY forcall your help. It's just nice to know that there are people who actually understand and care. TY Anna.
((Big hug)) Your mission should you wish to accept it: 1. Whenever you judge someone for something negative (below your standard), consciously postulate 3 positive things about them. Pickiness is both a cope (walls keep bad people out but also good people) and a habit. Start taking down the wall with this new habit. 2. Say no to billygoats.
@@YourWingmam 😘🤣
Brilliant Anna
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Brilliant summery of this personality Anna
I comment the precision of your RUclips contribution. On behalf of your Sigma viewers: We've already thought of these things.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Cool jacket! Great insightful video 👍
I'm a sigma 100%, I have had a women for most of my life until two years ago. I do date a little here and there but I am very disappointed at whats out there now. So I made this list and yes it's unicorn land but I stand my ground on it. 1. A women that can be happy with the simple things, one that care more about each other over the materialistic things.
2. A women who understand her own nature and realizes it is flawed and she strides to better it.
3. A women that can be honest with me to the best of her ability and can understand her own feelings.
4. A women that also has her own interests and doesn't need her partner to constantly hold her hand.
5. A women that seriously cares what she puts in and on her body in every aspect and is healthy.
6. A women that isn't mentally or physically lazy so we can build together.
7. A women that isn't combative, like the kind that likes to fight just to excite her own emotions and feelings or tries to make everything a competition.
8. A women that does NOT do any drugs including Pharma ones that change their mental state in any way. A little alcohol and marinara is OK as long as it's light.
9. A women that isn't addicted to social media, meaning the kind that couldn't go two hours with out checking her phone and that includes the kind that post revealing pictures just for clout and attention.
10. A women the understands I am the leader and I will make all the important decisions in the relationship regardless of any other factors in it.
number ten is a bit much. if you trust her and her abilities you'd work together.
@@Estebar33 Funny you say that because I do get a lot of feed back on 10. Don't get me wrong I'm willing to her her side of what ever issue but a mans logic is undeniable and women always let their feeling and emotions get in the way.
Just got a chance to view the video. Very good. I think the whole sigma male topic dead center. I find myself wondering if your admirers are disproportionately sigma in nature. Your rational and intelligent nature -- topped with a natural beauty that is honest and real -- appeals to the sigma mind. Energy today: quite good. Glad to see it. Voice today: sounds like you are shaking off the remains of a cold (didn't you indicate you were fighting something a week or so ago? My life is busy -- can't exactly remember). Whatever it is, I hope it isn't painful. The thought of you in pain is extremely disconcerting. Good job. Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/Ginger is going to get spayed tomorrow. Praying it goes well and she doesn't let her nervous energy win out while she is alone in a strange place at the vet's.
I think I may have a higher sub count of sigmas, or simply many astute and self-aware men. Yes, that cold was awful and lasted two weeks. Nine for decades and then wham, it got me. Mostly over it, thank you Russ! Prayers for Ginger headed your way!
Being an observant sigma introvert, I have this personally resonant passage from the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius pinned on my desk before I go out to face the world:
"The mind is the ruler of the soul. It should remain unstirred by agitations of the flesh - gentle and violent ones alike. Not mingling with them, but fencing itself off and keeping those feelings in their place. When they make their way into your thoughts, through the sympathetic link between mind and body, don't try to resist the sensation. The sensation is natural. But don't let the mind start in with judgments, calling it 'good' or 'bad'."
Brilliant! Nothing and no one can *cause* offence. We cause our own offence in our minds.
Wow, some great advice. Thank you.
As a Sigma from Comox do you think I might recognize your filming location? :) Good video for to understand Sigma men and what we value. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed it! Location hint: learning. ;)
@@YourWingmamConfirmed my thought. :)
I am not sure what I am. All I know is I do most things alone. When I find a lady that I am interested in, I take it slow to make a connection... only for her to pull away and disappear.
Thus, I am expecting to always to be in the 'Friend, Aquaintance, and Dance Partner Zone.
Learn the 'cube' exercise - it'll reduce your interview time with more effective results, and it will enhance any attraction she may already have towards you.
Certified Sigma here. Good tips.
SIGMA man here. Thank you for a good video. You always present yourself so well and give great insight on these matters. I'll be keeping all this in mind while I'm still single and "lone wolf". May God richly bless you.
Thank you! 🙏 Glad you enjoyed the video!
Lotta good information here, thank you!
Nice video. Thanks.