Tysm for the explanations! Turns out that what I thought was romantic attraction was actually a combination of the sensual and the platonic. No wonder romantic relationships never made sense to me. . .
I am asexual and alloromantic, but there keep being times when i see people and am somehow attracted to them, despite it not being romantic. I started thinking recently it was aesthetic, which makes sense now that I think about it. considering how much effort I put into my own aesthetics, of course aesthetic attraction would be important to me
This should be taught in schools. I've been aware of the types of attractions for years now and been aware of what type of attraction I've been experiencing. A lot of the times multiple types of attraction.
This was AMAZING and super helpful! I'm gray/asexual biromantic (skewing female) and definitely experience aesthetic, sensual and intellectual attraction. I think I usually experience sensual attraction to women and intellectual attraction to men, but aesthetic attraction has to be there for both.
Yes I was helpful for me too like I think I may be aromantic but there is one girl I may have had feelings for but for the love of Me (no pun intended) I can't think of a reason why I'm outside of physical appearance. I was 11 and it was a girl I hardly ever got to see.
Honestly, this was probably the most reassuring video I’ve ever watched. My aesthetic attraction for people made me think that I have sexual attraction, but whenever I ask myself the question of “would I want to be sexually intimate with this person,” the answer is always no. Your explanation of aesthetic attraction really helped me a lot, thank you. 💙
Same! I didn't know until my 30s that aesthetic attraction was even a thing, I always wondered why my idea of what makes a girl "hot" was so different from my friends'. Discovering information about asexuality was a game changer for me.
I appreciate your explanation of sensual attraction. My experience of a combination of aesthetic and sensual attraction can look and feel a lot like sexual attraction which has led others and myself to invalidate my asexuality, but I'm pretty sure people who experience sexual attraction full stop, no doubt are experiencing something quite different than me.
I totally get that! I tend to experience aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction together and it has been confusing wrapping my mind around this. For me, I tend to get these two types of attraction at the same time, along with queerplatonic attraction.
I also love that you said the lines can be blurred and mixed a d experienced differently for everyone, it's simply a way of identifying and communicating what we feel in our relationships with ourselves and other people.
I definitely feel like I have aesthetic attraction to people, like I notice their features and think theyre pretty! But I dont find them sexually attractive at first. Thanks for covering this!
I would agree. I think there was one girl I may have liked (so I wrote her a love note) but looking back on it now I can't think of a reason why other then she was pretty. I mean I was like 11, so...
I think I’ve started to experience queerplatonic (also heard it called alterous attraction). Kinda confusing lol, and I’m probably experiencing other forms of attraction too, but sounds promising for a potential QPR 😂
You explain so well! Thank you for making this video, now I know how sexual attraction would feel like if I could experience it. I thought something was wrong with me and learning about asexuality made me realize that I am not alone
This is super helpful! I’ve always struggled to define what I’m looking for when it comes to a queer platonic relationship but I know that even as an Aroace that struggles with understanding romantic and sexual attraction I want a friendship with someone but something a tad more similar to a romantic relationship but without the notion also speaking with people intellectually is a favorite past time of mine so seeing it here is lovely anyway I hope you have a lovely Pride month! And tbh the nature noises were soothing ehehe
Hi i love your channel so much it helped me a lot!!!! Since im autistic aroace aplatonic etc and enby is so difficult to find relatable content,,, Thank you!!!
I'm an ace grey heteroromantic and have experienced six of the eight attractions you have discussed. Sometimes, I experience some of them at the same time.
This was an amazing video!! I've recently been confused a little in differentiating between if I'm feeling sexual or aesthetic attraction and this really cleared up my confusion! I'm glad to understand I'm feeling aesthetic attraction. Aesthetic attraction for me includes liking the way the shape of someone looks phisically without having any desire to touch or be close to them. But when you mentioned eye and hair color, I was so excited because I feel that way a lot, especially with anime characters. I've never felt a desire to participate in sexual activities with anyone, though of course I later wonder after an interaction if I WAS feeling sexual attraction. But nope, it was aesthetic attraction and I was just mixing them up XD
This is by far the best video i have ever watched about different types of attraction. I used to be (and sometimes still am) very confused about my feelings because I am aroace but have a lot of emotions. Learning to differenciate between the roots of attraction was a huge step of understanding myself and navigating social interactions. So thank u for explaining this so well. (Also, this video has such a positive vibe, which us really needed rn. Happy pride
I used to think I felt sexual attraction, wondered why my friends and I had different definitions of "hot", turned out it was aesthetic attraction I was feeling combined with romantic attraction
I’m so confused. I thought I was asexual but I just realized I get turned on by some people sometimes, but mostly due to their words and actions and not their body parts, I couldn’t care less about that. What does that mean?
Loved the location, filming in nature is so refreshing! 6:10: I guess some polyromantic people experience something similar but in romantic way, i.e group romanticism. Though I am mono-romantic so IDK, just a guess. I was wondering if something like gender envy can be called attraction, cuz it feels a bit like attraction to me. Like you feel attracted to someone's gender(or any other aspect like manners, vibe, intellect etc) but you feel like adopting or mimicking some traits/characteristics of them. Speaking of gender envy, could you make a video on gender envy someday? Anyways, thx for another great video. Happy pride month everyone!
The amount of times I've just sent people your videos to explain something ❤❤ Thank you, I really don't want to repeat myself all the time. Your videos are great resources :)
This is helping me so much on my way to understanding my feelings. I met a guy out of the blue and we ended up cuddling on a bench by a lake. Super romantic! I loved his looks, his voice, his smell, his behavior toward me and our conversation. I loved touching him and knew I would want to kiss him if we met again, but afterwards I realized that never once did I think anything about him that I would qualify as sexual. And I started to question if my liking his looks and touching him meant I actually did feel sexual attraction or if I would or should (!) in the future. But I am now slowly gaining certainty that what I felt was a mix of emotional, intellectual, aesthetic, sensual and platonic/maybe romantic attraction without the sexual. It's nice to finally have some clarity. Cause he was the perfect guy and if it didn't happen with him I really don't think it will. For some, there's no finding the right person and suddenly you're allosexual
Thanks for this video, now I realized that in fact i'm just platonically and sensually attracted to my best friend and that it has ALWAYS happened to me w my old friends since Elementary School, I always said I had 'crushes' when in fact they were 'squishes' all along
Thanks a lot for sharing your way of defining this concepts!!! It felt really clear and it's been quite helpful to me because I haven't really felt like I understood this concepts when they were explained to me in other instances. The nature sounds were a plus for sure, to think that people probably work in what sounds to add to their videos... Just go outside to a nice natural place!!! 😁 (if you can 🤣)
@ville__ well I’m ace and I didn’t choose this. It’s just how I feel and I can’t control it or make myself feel something that I just don’t. I have a feeling this is meant to hurt me but I actually don’t care because factually you are wrong.
Nope, not at all! Dunno if you’re familiar with my channel, but it centres education on Asexuality, aromanticism, queer community, and neurodiversity. Within the asexual and aromantic communities, many people choose to fragment their attraction, and these are some of the labels we’ve settled on. Doesn’t mean everyone will feel them all separately, and the way(s) you’re attracted to someone don’t indicate the type of relationship you will necessarily have. Hope this helps! ❤️
hi, so can someone please hint me what it is if i do feel attracted to a person's voice pitch (i'm a singer) or idk jawline or hands and stuff like that (listed as connected to one's sex but definitely not connected to sexual activities), but have never felt the need/will/whatever to engage myself in sexual activities, would like to have a close person, even have crushes, but no holding hands or kissing? just a hint, some thoughts. i'm pretty sure i'm in the aroace spectrum, somewhere, right?
Platonic love is one of the strongest types of love, while romantic love is one of the weakest types of love. When a guy and a girl are best friends, they won't date or be in a romantic relationship with each other since they know it wouldn't work since they are too close. That proves that romantic love is inferior to platonic love. The best feeling for many girls is being able to have platonic guy friends that are like brothers to them. Most girls prefer having platonic guy friends over a boyfriend/husband. Many girls would choose their platonic male best friend over their boyfriend/husband and give more importance to them. Most girls seem to be more comfortable being around their platonic male best friends than they are being around their boyfriends/husbands. People are closer to their platonic best friends than they are to their romantic partner. People usually love their platonic best friend more than their romantic partner. Platonic love is actually real, while romantic love is fake. Romantic relationships are actually a downgrade compared to platonic relationships.
Hi! Sorry to bother you, but it looks like you know a lot about... all this stuff. Can you tell, what is it called when a person considers sexual activity as absolutely unacceptable? It is difficult for me to find such information in English and I'm not sure that information in native language is correct. Will appreciate you help!! (Hope sounds correct 😅)
As someone who's demirose, I rarely experience romantic or sexual attraction, but I do feel aesthetic and emotional attraction pretty often, almost daily ^^🩷🏳️🌈
This video actually helped me so much. Your definitions of each attraction felt so much more clear cut to me than every other video I've tried in my research of attraction and determining what my feelings are. Your examples and descriptions really helped me to identify and respnate with each type of attraction. Thank you so much😊🫶
I sometimes look at people and think "I like their character design".
Omg i love that
Tysm for the explanations! Turns out that what I thought was romantic attraction was actually a combination of the sensual and the platonic. No wonder romantic relationships never made sense to me. . .
I am asexual and alloromantic, but there keep being times when i see people and am somehow attracted to them, despite it not being romantic. I started thinking recently it was aesthetic, which makes sense now that I think about it. considering how much effort I put into my own aesthetics, of course aesthetic attraction would be important to me
Same! 😊 So confusing lol
Same but I only feel aesthetic (and queerplatonic) atraction to women
@@auryangus6303 Literally me!!! I'm alloaesthetic and demiqueerplatonic.
This should be taught in schools. I've been aware of the types of attractions for years now and been aware of what type of attraction I've been experiencing. A lot of the times multiple types of attraction.
This was AMAZING and super helpful! I'm gray/asexual biromantic (skewing female) and definitely experience aesthetic, sensual and intellectual attraction. I think I usually experience sensual attraction to women and intellectual attraction to men, but aesthetic attraction has to be there for both.
@Ville you don’t have to understand; you can scroll away respectfully. 😊
Does skewing female mean the same as, say bi with a preference for women?
Yes I was helpful for me too like I think I may be aromantic but there is one girl I may have had feelings for but for the love of Me (no pun intended) I can't think of a reason why I'm outside of physical appearance. I was 11 and it was a girl I hardly ever got to see.
@ville__ Jesus Christ on a motorbike you're everywhere. Get a life.
@@figthegiant4065 probably, plus considering the meaning of skewing in a slang way.
Honestly, this was probably the most reassuring video I’ve ever watched. My aesthetic attraction for people made me think that I have sexual attraction, but whenever I ask myself the question of “would I want to be sexually intimate with this person,” the answer is always no. Your explanation of aesthetic attraction really helped me a lot, thank you. 💙
@@TheHecateCabin same
Same! I didn't know until my 30s that aesthetic attraction was even a thing, I always wondered why my idea of what makes a girl "hot" was so different from my friends'. Discovering information about asexuality was a game changer for me.
Filming it outside is really great, do it again in the future, please!
Good to know, thanks for the feedback! ❤
I appreciate your explanation of sensual attraction. My experience of a combination of aesthetic and sensual attraction can look and feel a lot like sexual attraction which has led others and myself to invalidate my asexuality, but I'm pretty sure people who experience sexual attraction full stop, no doubt are experiencing something quite different than me.
Platonic and sensual attraction can seem like romantic attraction when combined. Sensual attraction is a sneaky one.
I totally get that! I tend to experience aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction together and it has been confusing wrapping my mind around this. For me, I tend to get these two types of attraction at the same time, along with queerplatonic attraction.
I also love that you said the lines can be blurred and mixed a d experienced differently for everyone, it's simply a way of identifying and communicating what we feel in our relationships with ourselves and other people.
your my little pony shirt thoooo!!!
Hehe! ☁️
I definitely feel like I have aesthetic attraction to people, like I notice their features and think theyre pretty! But I dont find them sexually attractive at first. Thanks for covering this!
I would agree. I think there was one girl I may have liked (so I wrote her a love note) but looking back on it now I can't think of a reason why other then she was pretty. I mean I was like 11, so...
Informative and comprehensive its difficult to find such mature discussions on this topic.
Awww, thank you! 💜
I think I’ve started to experience queerplatonic (also heard it called alterous attraction). Kinda confusing lol, and I’m probably experiencing other forms of attraction too, but sounds promising for a potential QPR 😂
You explain so well! Thank you for making this video, now I know how sexual attraction would feel like if I could experience it. I thought something was wrong with me and learning about asexuality made me realize that I am not alone
This is super helpful! I’ve always struggled to define what I’m looking for when it comes to a queer platonic relationship but I know that even as an Aroace that struggles with understanding romantic and sexual attraction I want a friendship with someone but something a tad more similar to a romantic relationship but without the notion also speaking with people intellectually is a favorite past time of mine so seeing it here is lovely anyway I hope you have a lovely Pride month! And tbh the nature noises were soothing ehehe
I got alot of these and I'm a autistic hypersexual but sensual attraction is definitely my biggest 1. Being a Esfp helps
Hi i love your channel so much it helped me a lot!!!! Since im autistic aroace aplatonic etc and enby is so difficult to find relatable content,,, Thank you!!!
Awwww, this is so sweet! I’m so happy to have been helpful and relatable. 🥹💕🫶
I'm an ace grey heteroromantic and have experienced six of the eight attractions you have discussed. Sometimes, I experience some of them at the same time.
This was an amazing video!! I've recently been confused a little in differentiating between if I'm feeling sexual or aesthetic attraction and this really cleared up my confusion! I'm glad to understand I'm feeling aesthetic attraction. Aesthetic attraction for me includes liking the way the shape of someone looks phisically without having any desire to touch or be close to them. But when you mentioned eye and hair color, I was so excited because I feel that way a lot, especially with anime characters.
I've never felt a desire to participate in sexual activities with anyone, though of course I later wonder after an interaction if I WAS feeling sexual attraction. But nope, it was aesthetic attraction and I was just mixing them up XD
This is by far the best video i have ever watched about different types of attraction. I used to be (and sometimes still am) very confused about my feelings because I am aroace but have a lot of emotions. Learning to differenciate between the roots of attraction was a huge step of understanding myself and navigating social interactions. So thank u for explaining this so well. (Also, this video has such a positive vibe, which us really needed rn. Happy pride
Happy pride!! 🌈🌈🌈
Thank you for your feedback; it means a lot. 🥹
I used to think I felt sexual attraction, wondered why my friends and I had different definitions of "hot", turned out it was aesthetic attraction I was feeling combined with romantic attraction
Thank you for another informative video.
Happy Pride month!
🌈🌈🌈
I’m so confused. I thought I was asexual but I just realized I get turned on by some people sometimes, but mostly due to their words and actions and not their body parts, I couldn’t care less about that. What does that mean?
Loved the location, filming in nature is so refreshing!
6:10: I guess some polyromantic people experience something similar but in romantic way, i.e group romanticism. Though I am mono-romantic so IDK, just a guess.
I was wondering if something like gender envy can be called attraction, cuz it feels a bit like attraction to me. Like you feel attracted to someone's gender(or any other aspect like manners, vibe, intellect etc) but you feel like adopting or mimicking some traits/characteristics of them. Speaking of gender envy, could you make a video on gender envy someday?
Anyways, thx for another great video. Happy pride month everyone!
The amount of times I've just sent people your videos to explain something ❤❤
Thank you, I really don't want to repeat myself all the time. Your videos are great resources :)
Oh my goodness, I am so happy that they have been valuable for you!! 🫶💗
This is helping me so much on my way to understanding my feelings. I met a guy out of the blue and we ended up cuddling on a bench by a lake. Super romantic! I loved his looks, his voice, his smell, his behavior toward me and our conversation. I loved touching him and knew I would want to kiss him if we met again, but afterwards I realized that never once did I think anything about him that I would qualify as sexual. And I started to question if my liking his looks and touching him meant I actually did feel sexual attraction or if I would or should (!) in the future. But I am now slowly gaining certainty that what I felt was a mix of emotional, intellectual, aesthetic, sensual and platonic/maybe romantic attraction without the sexual. It's nice to finally have some clarity. Cause he was the perfect guy and if it didn't happen with him I really don't think it will. For some, there's no finding the right person and suddenly you're allosexual
Thanks for this video, now I realized that in fact i'm just platonically and sensually attracted to my best friend and that it has ALWAYS happened to me w my old friends since Elementary School, I always said I had 'crushes' when in fact they were 'squishes' all along
I just realised that I am ace
Your aura reminds me of my sister. As well as your aesthetic. I love your authenticity in this vid ! ❤️😁
Heyy. Im blue-metasexual + aromantic. Im also not neurotypical. Very beneficial! :)
What does blue-metasexual mean? /gq
@@glitternpain I don’t remember
WAIT THANK U SO SO MUCH FOR EXPLAINING THIS THIS WAS GROUNDBREAKING FOR ME 😭😭😭 I FINALLY GET IT NOW!!!
What is the difference between a date and just meeting with someone and spending time together?
But this video was great and very informative!
Thanks a lot for sharing your way of defining this concepts!!! It felt really clear and it's been quite helpful to me because I haven't really felt like I understood this concepts when they were explained to me in other instances. The nature sounds were a plus for sure, to think that people probably work in what sounds to add to their videos... Just go outside to a nice natural place!!! 😁 (if you can 🤣)
Happy pride Month 💫✨🌈🌈
You toooooo! 🎉🏳️🌈❤️🔥🫶
Thank you for the video!
My pleasure! ❤
Tysm I needed thisss i hope it helps
@ville__ well I’m ace and I didn’t choose this. It’s just how I feel and I can’t control it or make myself feel something that I just don’t. I have a feeling this is meant to hurt me but I actually don’t care because factually you are wrong.
@ville__ if i was asexual alloromantic yes. But In my case i am both asexual and aromantic so no.
@ville__ no I don’t think so. And I’m not mad either I just don’t appreciate you invalidating my feelings😊 no asexual chooses to be asexual.
I agree
I think my mom has the exact shirt in pink 🥺🥺🥺
This was explained really well! But now I am very confused 😭
Is that really the definition of romantic attraction? Because if it is, then I might be panromantic 😲 ... I want to get to know EVERYONE.
I think the term "squish" should be mentioned.
Yes, I love talking about squishes!! I’ve mentioned them in a few other “definition” videos if you’re interested. 😊💕
💜💜💜
I haven’t seen one of ur vids in 2 months lol
I thought i was aroace, im just ace and panromantic
Yeahhh, I’ve been busy in real life for a while, so not many videos. 💛💗
There are 8 now????
Bro, wake up, attraction DLC just dropped
I like your asthetic pretty shirt :)
Also your my half-sister on the comunity, im aroace.
i don't know what to do with these definitions. does that mean if i don't experience all these attractions towards someone, should i not be with them?
Nope, not at all! Dunno if you’re familiar with my channel, but it centres education on Asexuality, aromanticism, queer community, and neurodiversity. Within the asexual and aromantic communities, many people choose to fragment their attraction, and these are some of the labels we’ve settled on. Doesn’t mean everyone will feel them all separately, and the way(s) you’re attracted to someone don’t indicate the type of relationship you will necessarily have.
Hope this helps! ❤️
hi, so can someone please hint me what it is if i do feel attracted to a person's voice pitch (i'm a singer) or idk jawline or hands and stuff like that (listed as connected to one's sex but definitely not connected to sexual activities), but have never felt the need/will/whatever to engage myself in sexual activities, would like to have a close person, even have crushes, but no holding hands or kissing? just a hint, some thoughts. i'm pretty sure i'm in the aroace spectrum, somewhere, right?
i think i have a sensual attraction with queerplatonic and maybe also a bit romantic
With my gf
Platonic love is one of the strongest types of love, while romantic love is one of the weakest types of love. When a guy and a girl are best friends, they won't date or be in a romantic relationship with each other since they know it wouldn't work since they are too close. That proves that romantic love is inferior to platonic love.
The best feeling for many girls is being able to have platonic guy friends that are like brothers to them. Most girls prefer having platonic guy friends over a boyfriend/husband. Many girls would choose their platonic male best friend over their boyfriend/husband and give more importance to them. Most girls seem to be more comfortable being around their platonic male best friends than they are being around their boyfriends/husbands.
People are closer to their platonic best friends than they are to their romantic partner. People usually love their platonic best friend more than their romantic partner. Platonic love is actually real, while romantic love is fake. Romantic relationships are actually a downgrade compared to platonic relationships.
Hi!
Sorry to bother you, but it looks like you know a lot about... all this stuff. Can you tell, what is it called when a person considers sexual activity as absolutely unacceptable?
It is difficult for me to find such information in English and I'm not sure that information in native language is correct.
Will appreciate you help!!
(Hope sounds correct 😅)
Hey! I know I'm sort of late with this but I think that the label you are looking for could be apothisexual. Meaning - sex-repulsed asexual.
@@guychilling Thank You very much!! It's very nice of You 🥹
I'll check if this it (now I have something for checking 😁)
I still don't get the difference between romantic and platonic attraction
As someone who's demirose, I rarely experience romantic or sexual attraction, but I do feel aesthetic and emotional attraction pretty often, almost daily ^^🩷🏳️🌈
This video actually helped me so much. Your definitions of each attraction felt so much more clear cut to me than every other video I've tried in my research of attraction and determining what my feelings are. Your examples and descriptions really helped me to identify and respnate with each type of attraction. Thank you so much😊🫶