Omg i undertand so much more of what happenned with my ex husband covert narc/bpd. He was never satisfied. It was goal after goal until i couldnt find my breath or have a break just enjoying everything we build from scratch. Even when we were travelling he was always comparing with the last vacation so never enjoying the present moment and make the best of it! It was exhausting. He always needed to have more and more. I realised that he was trying to fill a void cause he was never happy more than a couple of days after every acquisition. I mistaken this thinking it was ambition. Must be really hard to never be happy until the next goal is achieved. And when it is achieved it lasts 2 days. I feel sorry for him
I caught my narc ex talking to other women on social media many times over the span of our 6 year nightmare relationship. I asked him why and he admitted it was for attention. During my pregnancy, more so after I had our child and was doing it all on my own. I feel like the dynamics haven't changed in the aspect that I was a single mother the entire relationship. I'm moving on with my life and I know it isn't my fault but I felt it was at that time because he blamed me for it. He still blames me for things which I expect to happen for the rest of his miserable life.
I used to have this back in my late teens and 20s. It felt like profound empty black hole in my heart silently screaming to be filled. It was very painful. I went to therapy and built vulnerable connections with family, friends, and God. I've healed a lot but not fully.
I have a pic of my narc husband as a toddler, he’s on the ground hugging his grandpas foot. Innocent on the surface but he wanted to be close to somebody so badly he snuggled up to a foot. Breaks my heart.
Excellent video! I always longed to hear an “Honest Narcissist” explain this void. God is the only one who can fill it.. He created us for a personal relationship with Him! He has been the Anchor to my soul!
You did a PHENOMENAL job at explaining the 'void'!! Many talk about the fact that naricissists have a void, but you are the only self-aware narcissist I've listened to who has given us an in-depth knowledge of what that void does to the narcissist. Thank you for all your amazing work & for guiding victims of narcissistic abuse onto a path to healing. 🙏
Ben this might sound crazy, but in my last relationship(yes he’s a narc), we made out once and something, for lack of better word “swallowed” me. For days it was like couldn’t find myself, void would be the perfect word to describe it… I truly think God gave me a chance to feel what he was feeling (or lack thereof). I’ve never felt so afraid in my life….soon after I got away full him🙏🏽
Thank you for this! As hard as it was to articulate such a deep emotional wound it helps to get the narcissistic perspective and why they do things! I truly appreciate your courage for this video!
Someone with CPTSD or BPD also feel this emptiness as well. Wonder why some go down the NPD path and others the quite BPD? Regardless, we have empathy with that aspect of NPD. Thank you for your content and honesty about NPD and its effects.
I’d say it’s a mix of genetics and plain old personality differences. Like, why do some people like this or that music, or prefer hamburgers over pizza, or brunettes over blondes. Plus reinforcement over time of brain patterns.
Ben your amazing in your insights and self development! Could you help other Narcissists to realize what they have done in their manipulativ relationships? If you are on the right way and can save your own love why don't help other Narcs to stop abusing? I get the impression you are only trying to help us, the victims. But today I realized that your work is really so great, that you could help the Narcs too! And the victims of their toxic ways would still be very thankful.🙏🏻
Hi, Ben does work with Narcissists, but as Ben explains, the narcissist needs to genuinely want take that long journey towards healing their wounds from childhood & do the necessary hard work and acknowlege the terrible things they're doing/have done, which is VERY painful for the narcissist. Some just want a quick fix or to be told that they're not a narcissist.
Have you done a video on or talked about in any , about the narcissist smirk after they injure you and you call them out on it , I have a covert narcissist partner and when her daughter finally caught her trying to pull her gaslighting games to get me to be angry and react she started smiling with this evil grin and looked like she was holding back laughter when we both confronted her on it .
What would happen if the narcissist just fully embraces the void? To stop running from it and trying to fill it with things and instead just fully let it consume them? In mediation they talk about how accepting bad feelings eases them so I wonder if that could help.
You briefly mention abandonment when talking about your partner spending time with family/friends. How is this similar or different from the abandonment triggers in BPD? Is it initially similar, then in a flash changes to needing to fill that void with being great & ego needs? And is that thought common with NPD or only a few?
Ì knew an addict who switched to sex addiction.She told me the need is so bad that she wants to permanently have sex.She said she likes to pretend she's being lòved.That an otherwise intelligent person doesn't 'get it'was bizarre to me.I'm an artist and know the void.It's finding the right way?
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The void comes from the disconnection of self.
My ex said to me once “I don’t mind if you’re jealous, I like it, I want to be possessed “ I’ll never forget that statement.
Omg i undertand so much more of what happenned with my ex husband covert narc/bpd. He was never satisfied. It was goal after goal until i couldnt find my breath or have a break just enjoying everything we build from scratch. Even when we were travelling he was always comparing with the last vacation so never enjoying the present moment and make the best of it! It was exhausting. He always needed to have more and more. I realised that he was trying to fill a void cause he was never happy more than a couple of days after every acquisition. I mistaken this thinking it was ambition. Must be really hard to never be happy until the next goal is achieved. And when it is achieved it lasts 2 days. I feel sorry for him
I caught my narc ex talking to other women on social media many times over the span of our 6 year nightmare relationship. I asked him why and he admitted it was for attention. During my pregnancy, more so after I had our child and was doing it all on my own. I feel like the dynamics haven't changed in the aspect that I was a single mother the entire relationship. I'm moving on with my life and I know it isn't my fault but I felt it was at that time because he blamed me for it. He still blames me for things which I expect to happen for the rest of his miserable life.
I used to have this back in my late teens and 20s. It felt like profound empty black hole in my heart silently screaming to be filled. It was very painful. I went to therapy and built vulnerable connections with family, friends, and God. I've healed a lot but not fully.
Yes. It’s a void that only God can fill. Thank you for the insightful video.
Only Jesus Christ can fill
My Ex literally said that he felt
a huge VOID in his soul as I went away. And that he was very hollow before we came together.
I have a pic of my narc husband as a toddler, he’s on the ground hugging his grandpas foot. Innocent on the surface but he wanted to be close to somebody so badly he snuggled up to a foot. Breaks my heart.
Excellent video! I always longed to hear an “Honest Narcissist” explain this void. God is the only one who can fill it.. He created us for a personal relationship with Him! He has been the Anchor to my soul!
You did a PHENOMENAL job at explaining the 'void'!! Many talk about the fact that naricissists have a void, but you are the only self-aware narcissist I've listened to who has given us an in-depth knowledge of what that void does to the narcissist. Thank you for all your amazing work & for guiding victims of narcissistic abuse onto a path to healing. 🙏
Thank you
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Quickest way to fill that void, for ANYbody?
Humble the heart and hit the knees.
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Ben this might sound crazy, but in my last relationship(yes he’s a narc), we made out once and something, for lack of better word “swallowed” me. For days it was like couldn’t find myself, void would be the perfect word to describe it… I truly think God gave me a chance to feel what he was feeling (or lack thereof). I’ve never felt so afraid in my life….soon after I got away full him🙏🏽
Huh?
That almost sounds like a demonic oppression. Are you a Christian who this would be familiar to?
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@@saintejeannedarc9460 yes and yes!!
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Thank you for this! As hard as it was to articulate such a deep emotional wound it helps to get the narcissistic perspective and why they do things! I truly appreciate your courage for this video!
I believe the Void my Ex was trying to fill with me was the one where his Ex died in his arms. I was told he never got over her.
Someone with CPTSD or BPD also feel this emptiness as well. Wonder why some go down the NPD path and others the quite BPD? Regardless, we have empathy with that aspect of NPD. Thank you for your content and honesty about NPD and its effects.
I’d say it’s a mix of genetics and plain old personality differences. Like, why do some people like this or that music, or prefer hamburgers over pizza, or brunettes over blondes. Plus reinforcement over time of brain patterns.
Ben you are absolutely right
This video is explained & articulated so well, Ben. I hope more victims see this and share it, because it helps us to understand that we are enough. ❤
Thanks so much Ben for your transparency
excellent video. Well done
This is amazing. Thank you for sharing. It’s helping so much
Excellent description. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Everything you stated Is what happened.
Bless you!
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Very enlightening video. 👍
Ben your amazing in your insights and self development! Could you help other Narcissists to realize what they have done in their manipulativ relationships? If you are on the right way and can save your own love why don't help other Narcs to stop abusing? I get the impression you are only trying to help us, the victims. But today I realized that your work is really so great, that you could help the Narcs too! And the victims of their toxic ways would still be very thankful.🙏🏻
Hi, Ben does work with Narcissists, but as Ben explains, the narcissist needs to genuinely want take that long journey towards healing their wounds from childhood & do the necessary hard work and acknowlege the terrible things they're doing/have done, which is VERY painful for the narcissist. Some just want a quick fix or to be told that they're not a narcissist.
so basically it's lack of care, appreciation and love that we fear ? - as narcissists
Have you done a video on or talked about in any , about the narcissist smirk after they injure you and you call them out on it , I have a covert narcissist partner and when her daughter finally caught her trying to pull her gaslighting games to get me to be angry and react she started smiling with this evil grin and looked like she was holding back laughter when we both confronted her on it .
What would happen if the narcissist just fully embraces the void? To stop running from it and trying to fill it with things and instead just fully let it consume them? In mediation they talk about how accepting bad feelings eases them so I wonder if that could help.
They could be honest and start to heal
You briefly mention abandonment when talking about your partner spending time with family/friends. How is this similar or different from the abandonment triggers in BPD? Is it initially similar, then in a flash changes to needing to fill that void with being great & ego needs? And is that thought common with NPD or only a few?
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Ì knew an addict who switched to sex addiction.She told me the need is so bad that she wants to permanently have sex.She said she likes to pretend she's being lòved.That an otherwise intelligent person doesn't 'get it'was bizarre to me.I'm an artist and know the void.It's finding the right way?