Would a Narcissist Let You Die

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  • @marleneg7794
    @marleneg7794 Год назад +126

    Of course and then walk over your body to make a sandwich.

    • @candacewebb120
      @candacewebb120 Год назад +3

      OMG 😳😆

    • @Magdalene777
      @Magdalene777 Год назад +6

      I know a narcissist whose cat died in the doorway of their bathroom. For two weeks they stepped over the dead cat's body every time they had to use the washroom.

    • @JupGem
      @JupGem Год назад +10

      Wow, that is horror movie level demonic.

    • @Woman156
      @Woman156 Год назад +6

      I Believe it. How can they care?

    • @AlwaysHope2019
      @AlwaysHope2019 Год назад +2

      😂

  • @dianabodford9418
    @dianabodford9418 Год назад +76

    Let you die?! They will intentionally put your life at risk, or even try to kill you. Get away from them as fast as possible. Don't tell them you are leaving, just quietly go.

    • @marymotherofgod4861
      @marymotherofgod4861 Год назад +10

      Yes!! Ur so right leave quickly and quietly they get more dangerous violent when they know their tool is leaving I learned the hard way blessings to all🙏💜

    • @FaithfulandTrue949
      @FaithfulandTrue949 Год назад +2

      🎯

    • @FollowingJesus320
      @FollowingJesus320 Год назад +5

      I made the mistake of saying I wanted out of the marriage then I got really sick and my adult kids found empty bottles of pills where they never should have been. Alive still even had to leave my home state to save my own life.

    • @FollowingJesus320
      @FollowingJesus320 Год назад +3

      The narcissist watched me like people watch TV. My adult kids had to call 911 for me bc the Narc wasn't doing anything to help. They had to call 911 more than once for me.

    • @TryM.yVivier
      @TryM.yVivier Год назад +1

      ​@@FollowingJesus320wow

  • @janhoffman3342
    @janhoffman3342 Год назад +27

    Mine left when I got stage 3 cancer.

    • @nikkid1038
      @nikkid1038 Год назад +6

      That’s disgusting. Mine left me w no income when I was diagnosed to 3 incurable conditions. I can barely walk n have serious pain … with no help. Mostly home n bed bound. But I’m so thankful he left. my physical health is deteriorating I’ll b damned to let him take my mental health. The amount of stress he took w him is astronomical.
      I hope his leaving helped you in some way and I’m so sorry u had to deal w that. ❤
      Sending prayers for healing hang in there n be strong 🙏💪❤️❤️

    • @seameology
      @seameology Год назад +5

      I can't help but wonder if the way you were treated helped bring on your health conditions 😔

    • @dorisbove2210
      @dorisbove2210 Год назад +4

      I am so sorry for all of you 💔😔 the same happened to my mom all the way to the grave with her evil narcissist second husband 😠 after he caused her illness and further abused her through it disgusting, I pray you all will find healing and blessings in your lives now 🙏❤️🙏😘

    • @nikkid1038
      @nikkid1038 Год назад +2

      @@dorisbove2210 it’s pretty disgusting. Their day will come everyone will have to answer to God himself. I’m so sorry for ur mother n what u went through watching this hell unfold. I’m glad u r learning so u can protect yourself. ❤️🙏

  • @loriewallace8922
    @loriewallace8922 Год назад +62

    I have a friend who's been married to a narcissist for over 30 years. She has some medical issues. Two years ago she fell because she was having problems breathing. She couldn't move or do anything. While he stood there watching her struggle the neighbor stopped by. If not for the neighbor she wouldn't be alive.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Год назад +4

      Wow, I didn't think most of them were that bad. They want you for validation and to regulate their moods, so I figure they'd usually want you alive, even if only to serve them.

    • @marymotherofgod4861
      @marymotherofgod4861 Год назад +5

      It’s seriously time for her to leave ASAP!!!

    • @bloodymary8540
      @bloodymary8540 Год назад +7

      ​@@saintejeannedarc9460they are bad...they love to see you suffer..so they have no problem malign as they are to not help you in a situation like that...

  • @justwondering3800
    @justwondering3800 Год назад +37

    Yup, you could be being beaten by a mob in the middle of the street and the narcissist would walk past you and say, "What did you do to make them mad? You must have done something."

  • @christinelawrence4315
    @christinelawrence4315 Год назад +13

    ABSOLUTELY YES!!! They don't give one damn about you. One time many years ago I had a really bad flu .. so weak I could barely walk and felt dizzy... I asked my ex-husband to please take me to the Doctor's ... and he said no! I had to drive there myself... I felt like I was dying I was so sick... so YES these evil minions relish in your sickness, demise and they couldn't care less if you died!!! They will reap what they sow!

  • @muqali4203
    @muqali4203 Год назад +20

    I became suicidal during my last relationship. The lower i got the better she felt. She was playing for blood. 100%.

  • @oliviamiller9267
    @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +27

    Oh c’mon, it’s not lack of empathy. They have a drive for evil.

  • @robynetaylor6605
    @robynetaylor6605 Год назад +34

    My Ex gave me Covid (long story) then watched me get progressively sicker. He started warning my relatives (creepy, since he never spoke to them before). In two weeks he loosened the cap of ONE water bottle. He only took me to the hospital when I was calling 911 for an ambulance. Later, I told my attorney and she matter-of-factly replied that he was waiting for me to die.

    • @11GodsGirl11
      @11GodsGirl11 Год назад +2

      😢

    • @octoberdawn1087
      @octoberdawn1087 Год назад +8

      My ex try to give me covid. I already had the flu so somehow I didn't get it or maybe I'm just not susceptible because I still have not caught it.I've been around a lot of people with it but he was trying to give it to me.The reason why we finally fled on May 1st was because my stomach was so bad the doctor wanted to rule out cancer because I couldn't eat, I was so sick my cheeks were sunk in and I was collapsing. He was still expecting me to cook his dinner and be chipper so he could play more mind games with me.
      When I read What you wrote, I related even though our stories are different...

  • @lelene4
    @lelene4 Год назад +28

    Absolutely they would let you die, an easy out for them. My ex tried to poison me, though I can 💯 prove it, I can put enough pieces together to know beyond a shadow of a doubt, he’s evil.

    • @angelaMarieChessnutt2448
      @angelaMarieChessnutt2448 Год назад +1

      Swear there so smart so cunning till they mess with someone who can not only feel 2hat there doing but see it

    • @SherryONeill
      @SherryONeill Год назад

      Mine Too
      If I Had The 800$ I Would Get A Hair Sample Tested
      I am Still Here But The Liquid Caused Some Damage- Doing Things To Heal-
      This NPD Is A Wicked Demonic Nesting
      Only The Power Of Our Creator Can Deliver These People, If They Want It

    • @SherryONeill
      @SherryONeill Год назад

      @GhostOfCarlJung
      Thats What Mine Was Doing, Steadily Trying To Feed me - 20 Minutes Later I Would Feel Like I Was Literally Dying
      I Think he Is Very ConFused Why I am Still Here
      There Is DamAge From The Liquid he Used- Found A Vial,.. Possible The Stuff That Goes In AntiFreeze
      AvailAble At Walmart!! Oh Yes e thy len e gl y co l

    • @SherryONeill
      @SherryONeill Год назад +3

      @@xxfox
      Sounds Like What I Was Going Thru!!
      I Think mine Was Using The Stuff In anti freeze - They Can Buy It At Walmart
      I Stopped Eating The Food he Was Giving me And The Dying Feeling After Eating Stopped
      Finally Left, Still Moving Stuff Out So Not Completely Severed Yet
      But AlMost!!
      I am Glad The Attempt On you Failed!

  • @dawnrunkle29
    @dawnrunkle29 Год назад +14

    Mine caused two strokes then would not help me with anything once I got home.

  • @marlenetaylor3054
    @marlenetaylor3054 Год назад +22

    My ex narc of 28 yrs .... withheld 9 medications from me after my brain surgery. Pain-kidney-heart-stoke-seizures. I now have auto immune disorder, permanent double vision and partially paralyzed vocal cords. Luckily I regained the ability to walk.

  • @zaniyahhundley8591
    @zaniyahhundley8591 Год назад +13

    They enjoy seeing you suffer, so I don’t doubt it.

  • @kfluhx
    @kfluhx Год назад +4

    It took me about a year after the breakup to realize that he was actually creating situations where his kids might get hurt around me, that he could slip in to save the day or punish me for about not having good parental instincts. At least three cases I know for sure, and I'm confident he used them in a smear campaign behind my back when we broke up. Pretty sure he was also trying to convince his family that I was alcoholic and got frustrated when his dad would mention cocktails I'd never tried before 😅

  • @witchywoman737
    @witchywoman737 Год назад +15

    Surely would...& unless proven otherwise, wouldn't put it passed them to "play Grim Reaper"

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +3

      Yes, think of all the fawning attention they would get at the funeral and maybe available women too.

  • @TJax123
    @TJax123 Год назад +20

    Yep. Not only would he let me die, he would hire a hit man to make it happen for him, while pretending to be a doting Christian husband (he's a pastor, by the way).

    • @terresagrace3767
      @terresagrace3767 Год назад

      My was a worship leader loved by the church … yup what a winner

  • @theeemaven
    @theeemaven Год назад +16

    Thank you for mentioning the progression of these traits because oftentimes that is why we cannot grasp that the person we love is THAT far gone. It's so gradual & insidious that it takes so long to accept it & its dangerous to think ours wouldn't get from Leve D to Z cuz YUH, they can & probably will. You're rare. & thank you.

  • @breakthroughmoment1647
    @breakthroughmoment1647 Год назад +13

    They already don’t care under “normal” circumstances, so why would they behave any differently in an emergency or crisis situation? These people lack empathy and any sense of human decency. Thank you for bringing up this important topic.

  • @theeemaven
    @theeemaven Год назад +11

    My sons dad left me for dead on the kitchen floor. I was unconscious. The last thing I remember before blacking out was him telling me I was "fucking him over"& that "this is a very inconvenient time.." cuz the heart issue I was having which I now know was from that relationship...it was inconvenient cuz he was leaving for work (he thrives on how his coworkers view him). Anyway he left for work 45 mins away with me unconscious on the kitchen floor & OUR TWO YEAR OLD SON OUT IN THE FRONT YARD. When I came to, I realized I couldn't see in one eye & couldn't walk (I can now) but anyway I just thought "Killian!" (my son) & I army crawled through the kitchen & living room down three concrete stairs & through my front yard & found my baby on the driveway side of the house...thank God. Thank God. So yeah uhm that's when I had to wake tf up to what he is.

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +4

      We had a mysterious minor fire when I was out for groceries. Guess who saved himself first? I couldn’t find our two year old son. Poor little guy pulled on a pair of his father’s socks and went outside in the snow by himself. I found him two houses away in their back yard struggling through the snow.

  • @angelaMarieChessnutt2448
    @angelaMarieChessnutt2448 Год назад +9

    I have seizure disorder triggered by stress n Who stresses me out the most ? Him! He has left me seizuring in the ground and left downstairs because he forgot something in the car ...when I came to he was asleep on the couch! What a dick .

  • @christinemunger7054
    @christinemunger7054 Год назад +50

    When I was at my lowest in my over 20-year marriage (with kids and he's made me financially dependent and I moved to his home country after we got married), I used to regularly think that the only way out was for one of us to die.

    • @ΔΕΣΠΟΙΝΑΣΑΡΡΑ-φ2ψ
      @ΔΕΣΠΟΙΝΑΣΑΡΡΑ-φ2ψ Год назад +3

      😔

    • @kimberlymcleod248
      @kimberlymcleod248 Год назад +5

      😢 I am so sorry. I truly empathize

    • @RyanOlsen
      @RyanOlsen Год назад +5

      I hear you. I thought the same, but thankfully have been able to be on the path to divorce. I hope you get the chance to get out of that relationship.

    • @antraniecesings4884
      @antraniecesings4884 Год назад +11

      I remember feeling like I wanted to go to sleep and never wake up😢

    • @angelawilliams3361
      @angelawilliams3361 Год назад +3

      I remember those days... Divorce almost final

  • @irresponsiblyfearless5270
    @irresponsiblyfearless5270 Год назад +4

    I dropped dead in front of mine. 20 mins dead, cardiac arrest from stress. 2 days on life support alone. I can tell you in such a peace. A God peace. It won't matter. I thought it would for even a year after. It won't. Best move on. I know you want them too care but they don't. God bless so much, my heart is with you xoxox

  • @Jpl-z7p
    @Jpl-z7p Год назад +19

    Mine poisoned me because he didn’t want to pay for a divorce. He started making me coffee every morning and my health took a sharp decline. We had no insurance and he wouldn’t pay for me to go to the doctor. I figured out what was going on and was pouring the coffee down the drain and feeling so much better when he looked at me and said “are you not drinking your coffee anymore?!”

    • @FaithfulandTrue949
      @FaithfulandTrue949 Год назад +5

      🎯 been there.

    • @amyyork4656
      @amyyork4656 22 часа назад

      Mine poisoned me too. And he was a pharmacist so he had access to everything. God knows what he was putting in there.

  • @lisajones6334
    @lisajones6334 Год назад +10

    I had a massive stroke after discovering what turned out to be my husband’s 3rd affair. At that time he appeared to be very concerned about me. Now I realise it was all about his image of being a wonderful husband,and his need for me to look after our 3 children (all under the age of 7) He then used the deficits I experienced to ‘help’ me - making him look good again. But it was also invalidating because it was constantly emphasising how little I could manage. It also gave him a huge amount of control over me. The worst part though, was how he used it to cause division between me & my kids. He would drop everything & run to help me whenever I had a medical problem making the kids jealous. He was also causing cognitive dissonance because of the variability of his attention & supposed care. Now that I have left, he doesn’t even pretend to be concerned about me, unless the kids are watching his reaction.

  • @experiencewithme
    @experiencewithme Год назад +11

    Yes without even a second thought. And I know this for sure because I was in a situation where he left me behind to fend for myself from some thugs and then his excuse was, “I could’ve died “ and I said yeah what about me, You didn’t even call me until three days later to see if I was even OK .. he didn’t care about anyone but his own safety. He didn’t care if I was raped or beat up, or even dead. he did not care and did not even call me until three days later.

  • @SpicyMcG
    @SpicyMcG Год назад +15

    YEP! Better believe it before it’s too late!!

  • @yvettenelson7685
    @yvettenelson7685 Год назад +16

    My narcissist ex got me to the unhealthy point in our relationship that i tried to unalive myself and i told him what i was going to do. You know what he said? Go ahead you stupid b*tch! And he walked out of our apartment and slammed the door on my face to go meet up with the girl he was having an affair with! I will never forget the look on his face that day for as long as i live! It was like he was getting off, on the pain and suffering he was causing me! He shattered my heart and he knew it!The worst part was at the time our 3 year old son was at home with me when i did the act and my narcissist ex did not care and left anyway! And this was just a fraction of what he did to me over a total period of 16 years we were together! The worst part was after i did the act and went thru mental health treatment and stayed at a transitional house for a few months he sucked right back in with love bombing,lies,false promises and treated me even worse for another 7 years until i caught him cheating again and finally had enough! I chose ME and left for good! And even after i left he still continued to make my life and my kids lives miserable anyway he could! I was not able to find peace until my kids turned 18 and had their own lives! He just recently tried hoovering me and my kids shut that down instantly!! I had to heal with no closure but that's ok the narcissist taught me how to love myself,have strong boundries,never accept less than i deserve and never to wear my heart on my sleeve because not everyone has your best interest at heart and not everyone wants to see you succeed and be happy but most of all i treasure my 2,wonderful adult kids! As messy,abusive and hurtful this relationship was I found closure by forgiving and focusing on the positives!

    • @suthrnangel218
      @suthrnangel218 Год назад +1

      I am proud for you! YOU made it by fighting to save yourself! Please take care and know that you are loved. Sending good vibes your way!❤

  • @johncrookston6111
    @johncrookston6111 Год назад +16

    Here is an example of a narc's lack of empathy
    We "Princeless" Diana and I had just gotten home from my double hernia surgery and she being a nurses aid told me she would nurse me back to health
    It only took about a half hour of being home sitting on the front porch and she was ignoring me and when I asked her, what's up? she went into a rage that lasted for 13 hrs straight, I am not exaggerating
    From 4pm until 5am the next morning her screaming and destroying the house even throwing stuff into the street at 4am had me thinking that I had died an "done gone to hell"
    Crazy thing is it took me 3yrs to get free
    No contact, what a beautiful concept
    She would not care if I had died, obviously

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 Год назад +7

    If my Ex was willing to moan at me for not doing his food when I was laid very poorly on the sofa, you could guarantee he'd be madder at me fir dying and leaving HIM to do his own food. 🍒

  • @berniekennedy9793
    @berniekennedy9793 Год назад +14

    Short answer YES

  • @Beanp2025
    @Beanp2025 Год назад +7

    Yes, they would even kill if they can get away with it. They don't care about anyone except themselves and how they look to others. What they WANT is more important than your health or your life. They are not really human that way. We all have expectations about what it means to be human and they don't pass the threshold.

  • @FaithfulandTrue949
    @FaithfulandTrue949 Год назад +6

    Categorically YES and will even cause it, if it could look accidental. My ex left me for dead after an accident, I was 16 😢 concussed and vomiting, (he was 27) he THREW me on the bed on my back (not recovery position) and closed the door behind him, I was unconscious, could have choked on my own vomit and emerged about 20 hours later very fragile, he didn't get help or come when I initially woke and shouted for help - he was laughing with his mates downstairs. Also unbelievable cruelty after major surgery. So many examples, yes they will let you die. They are also jealous of their own children, when I saw he would hurt our child I finally left for the last time. Save your innocent children, get far away, fast. Ask God to save you.

  • @Angel_eyes___
    @Angel_eyes___ Год назад +3

    Yes he even said he wish i was dead!!he would grocery shop and hide all the food in his bedroom and car!!!!! Disabled could not get food hardly. Rotten souls.

  • @octoberdawn1087
    @octoberdawn1087 Год назад +11

    I was dying before we left. The police told me he was about to kill us. But I was starving to death from stomache ulcers from all kinds off weird stuff he was doing, like our toilet had a high pitched noise for a month the finally took him less than an hour to fix. (High pitched noises keep me in a chronic migrain) He didn't fix it until we left one night.
    Or like taking me shopping for a new table and brought up key situations in public that only I would understand. I saw his eyes change and of course then we got in the car and he growled that we weren't buying any tables that we were going home.
    We went back with police escort one day while he was not home so i could get some things.. He was storing old letters from my daughter's father (edit) but saying that they were my suicide letters and he was writing about how I was suicidal.
    Ive since learnedq he'd been slowly telling everybody things that gave them this idea that I was suicidal and very crazy and even abusive and dangerous. He was setting me up.

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +5

      Many of them routinely call their wives crazy and invent stories around that. I wondered if the purpose is staging the conditions for a “s*icide”.

    • @octoberdawn1087
      @octoberdawn1087 Год назад +2

      @@oliviamiller9267 This is exactly what I think he was doing. But it was taking so long and it feels like he was losing patience and about to lose it.

  • @bonnielee316
    @bonnielee316 Год назад +12

    I haven’t watched it yet. I’ll answer this from my experience. My identical twin sister is a covert narc. She doesn’t show vulnerability. She’s a bully. One time I was choking. I thought that it was dire. She didn’t. I put my hands to my throat to signal distress. She didn’t believe me. She had a distrusting, condescending attitude like, you’re not really choking. I pulled a chair out and started to lean on it to do the hiemleck maneuver on myself. I was able to recover. I was mad at her and I asked her why she didn’t help me and she said it was because she could see that I could breath a little bit. I couldn’t really breath a little bit. We’re talking like maybe a pinch of air if that! I was so mad that I told her that if she ever chokes in front of me, I’m going to let her pass out before I help her and she said, I don’t care. They are so mentally ill it’s not even funny.
    But I guarantee you that if it was a stranger, she would act, in duty, or societal rules just to prove that she is capable.
    Where does this attitude come from? Ok so, notice how your narc can’t do something for you? You ask them to do a simple flipping thing and they don’t do it for you. You know what I’m talking about. Well maybe the same bizarre attitude applies to your near death. They just can’t see it in their mind to treat you with any respect or dignity even to the point of near death. That’s how screwed up their view if you is! My opinion from my personal experience.

  • @nancykg6666
    @nancykg6666 Год назад +4

    Definitely and will finish you off and go to a party afterwards!

  • @zone1hearing
    @zone1hearing Год назад +2

    Injured on three occasions. Did nothing to help.

  • @treesaremadeofwood2145
    @treesaremadeofwood2145 Год назад +9

    Yes they would let you die.

  • @nikkid1038
    @nikkid1038 Год назад +17

    Mine left when I was diagnosed w 3 incurable conditions that are progressive and cause intractable chronic pain. And he still calls himself a good Christian man.

    • @jillevans4586
      @jillevans4586 Год назад

      wow what a prick, I hope you find some peace now

    • @rachael_grey
      @rachael_grey Год назад +2

      My own discarded me when I developed long COVID. I have been a SAHM for 20 years. He knows what I am facing.
      He cares more about his public image and avoiding accountability than he does any human being.

    • @nikkid1038
      @nikkid1038 Год назад +2

      @@rachael_grey makes me mad I’m sorry. But better for us!! They can’t handle ACTUALLY caring for someone - but they’re sure good at TALKING about it aren’t they? Lol. It’s been so much better since he left. Like a black gaslighting cloud left with him! 😍❤️🙏

  • @mandyavalos1416
    @mandyavalos1416 Год назад +6

    Mine left me on the side of the highway,broke down. Yes. He would let me die.

  • @-cMc-
    @-cMc- Год назад +1

    P"if that means you get hurt, tough luck, at least I'm not hurt"

  • @soulwriter7039
    @soulwriter7039 Год назад +18

    My aha moment of clarity that I knew I needed to get out was after I was in a car accident. Docs told him I could be released from hospital as long as I would be on 100% 24/7 watch for a week because I was at risk of brain bleed and other things. I went into a dark spare bedroom and was so disoriented, I couldn’t move around. I was sleeping 20+ hrs a day. Two full days after I went into that room, 48 hours, he wandered in, woke me up, and casually said, “I was just watching tv and realized I haven’t seen you in a couple of days, thought I should check on you.” This was the same guy who blew a fit if I didn’t always stay in the same room doing the same thing as him every minute of every day. When challenged on it, he said he didn’t hear the doc say that. Another time he said he did check on me. Another time, he said he figured I was fine and was being mean to him anyway. To others, he told a story of how he was a loving, doting husband who was mistreated and unappreciated by me. It’s really messed up. So thankful I left over a year ago and haven’t looked back.

    • @Woman156
      @Woman156 Год назад +4

      You're BLESSED.

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +3

      Oh sweetie, that brings back my memories of a car accident too. I hope you are well.

    • @soulwriter7039
      @soulwriter7039 Год назад +2

      @@Woman156 Yes. Thank you. More than you know. I was dying inside. Today, I’m finally able to feel the freedom to be my strong, capable, dynamic self again.

    • @soulwriter7039
      @soulwriter7039 Год назад +3

      @@oliviamiller9267 Thank you so much. I am more than well - I’m actually thriving, to my surprise. I hope your experience with car accident wasn’t too harmful. Wishing you deep peace.

  • @lisagetto5781
    @lisagetto5781 Год назад +54

    Yes, from experience they would let you die. In past experience , once I figured them out not only would they have let me die, they prevented help from getting to me to save my life. Luckily because of quick thinking and intuition , a friend across town was able to get me the lifesaving help I needed

    • @gailmellem9751
      @gailmellem9751 Год назад

      Yes, left me comotose for two days failed to call for help. Coward!!!

    • @designerguy6257
      @designerguy6257 Год назад +3

      I think my father let my mother die.

    • @FaithfulandTrue949
      @FaithfulandTrue949 Год назад +4

      ​@@designerguy6257🎯💐🙏

  • @elainechristine5111
    @elainechristine5111 Год назад +6

    Yes!Mine was going to have me beat up , me dying would be a bonus

  • @a.w.3689
    @a.w.3689 Год назад +10

    My ex 💯 would have had me to die over and over again!!! I'm so glad I divorced and got away from him, so darn evil period!!!

  • @dianeclayton4936
    @dianeclayton4936 Год назад +3

    Absolutely. I was aware that my death (I had become suicidal. Dysregulated, alcoholic, and financially bleeding out) would benefit him. The sympathy he would get from being a widower from an unhinged, alcoholic partner (I wouldn't marry him, but he insisted on calling me his wife) would be a total win for him. It was like I became a zombie who couldn't make a move without him winning the game. A zero sum game. As sick as this made me over 8 years, I crawled away, learned tons about what had happened to the me I once was after 5 years with no contact, I re-engaged and find myself still playing in the sick game. We are 2k miles apart now, so that helps me hold onto my selfhood, but it's still fkin insane that I am even willing to speak with this loser parasite at all. My mind still wants the fantasy. It's far more addicting than the booze I got sober from 4.5 years ago. I am much more self aware and healthier in my other relationships, but the narc one has been and continues to trip me up.

  • @JuliyaK
    @JuliyaK Год назад +7

    We all know the answer to this. This video should be 10 seconds long. Everyone who ever knew a narcissist knows the answer. We may often keep questioning the relationship in every way, go back, etc, but the answer to this question here is OBVIOUS. If you ever think about getting back with your narcissist, and have that moment, just ask yourself this question and you will get your answer on what to do.

  • @aalston7able
    @aalston7able Год назад +9

    Everything you said is so true

  • @terriwhalen3618
    @terriwhalen3618 Год назад +3

    Ben could you if you haven't already, make a video on how narcissists condition a supply. Is this a truth? Thanks 😊

  • @NinaTara-zo8ht
    @NinaTara-zo8ht Год назад +2

    Yes mine left me to die. Woke me right up and I left

  • @teresaphillips9692
    @teresaphillips9692 Год назад +10

    The saddest part about this is even after the narcissist treats me like dirt on the bottom of his shoe and shows me with his actions that he would not pee on me if I was on fire I still catch myself stopping what I’m doing to help him! He doesn’t even ask for my help, I just do it

    • @karenk2409
      @karenk2409 Год назад +2

      Stop that. You are being a doormat. This will kill your soul. Leave and move on. NOW!

    • @teresaphillips9692
      @teresaphillips9692 Год назад +1

      @@karenk2409 absolutely! Before I woke up and made this observation that I was involuntarily allowing my soul to be sucked right out of my trampled body, his behavior was very familiar to me because it’s the way that my dad treated my mom. I actually thought that he (Satan) genuinely loved me and our daughter but had a weird way of showing it! Sometimes ignorance is bliss, but I know that I was meant for something greater, and I have gained strength from this experience. Me and my daughter will move on and will be able to heal, but he’s always going to be miserable. I wish I had gained this knowledge years ago however, so much time and many opportunities have been stolen from us

    • @americawaters4257
      @americawaters4257 Год назад +2

      ​@@teresaphillips9692
      I thought he (Satan) loved me too. 😂😢
      Makes me laugh and cry.
      I spent forty years in the wilderness with him.
      God bless you and your daughter.

    • @lulalane1345
      @lulalane1345 2 месяца назад

      I know so you're the kind of person you need in your life.

    • @robertamaral1716
      @robertamaral1716 Месяц назад

      Sometimes good people with Narcissist parents are hardwired to be codependent.
      The evil Parents groom and train their kids to serve them. They trauma bond them to abandon self love and any self needs to serve them. What happens is they will attract pathological Predators like Narcissist’s like a magnet. What makes it worse is they will attract to them because it’s all they know. They find healthy loving people boring because of lack of drama and manipulation.Very sad.

  • @NELLIE979
    @NELLIE979 Год назад +6

    I grew up with a narcissistic, one year older brother, Our parents treated him like the sun set and rose in him. He made my life a torment, he saw the difference in how we were treated and laughed in my face, i thought he was and still is a wicked person; he got real excited to make dogs fight one another to the death and always keeps multiple dogs around him to scream and curse at them. My mom who had terminal cancer called to tell him that our dad had passed and the first thing he said to her was "I'm telling you right now I want his car"
    I only realized, in the last 5 years that he is without a doubt, a narcissist, he has all the signs 💯%. Eventhough I think I have some residual emotional healing to do; I really want to say that it's makes me shudder, to know of the people who were married to narcs, my heart goes out to all, God bless you with all the strength. I'm 66 now and lived with my brother for only 17 years, it was a living nightmare. Spending 30 years in a marriage with a narc is far worse.

  • @sandracaezza7234
    @sandracaezza7234 Год назад +4

    Interesting,just before the split ( my discard) I took a fall,broke my glasses, had a cut & a shiner. The narc never even looked at me. He was a RPH, both in healthcare. That incident was just one more nail in his coffin here. It showed me that in my older years he would not be available. We lived in my home,
    he was put on the deed, I saw him walking away with my yrs of hard work (51 yrs).
    Made that change in the divorce,papers signed, deed returned in my name. He gave it back, I had so much social media on him had no choice.
    So much gay porn questionable behavior, metabolic steroids. Narc/addict, relapse,recovery goes on and one.
    Had to show my therapist screenshots of porn, she’s a court ordered reporter. He’s a bus driver.

  • @mariabrennan72
    @mariabrennan72 Год назад +5

    They don’t care your a object to serve them you die that have back up

  • @shellyfox863
    @shellyfox863 Год назад +4

    Yeah. Unless said dying person they want and they can only provide it by being alive. When an appliance breaks you turf them and get a new one. Toaster...human. They see no difference.

  • @jackiealberti8731
    @jackiealberti8731 Год назад +4

    After I had Covid and months later after I spent a week in the hospital with sepsis, he told all of our friends I wasn't that sick. Fast forward 6 months, he's making plans for his death because his "body was shutting down" - he had the flu. Didn't even have a fever. Yet when my fever was 105, I wasn't that sick. Needless to say I knew I shouldn't try to stick it out anymore and left. If I'm going to be on my own anyway might as well just be alone

  • @MyraPhoenix1974
    @MyraPhoenix1974 Год назад +13

    Yes they would

  • @heyho7110
    @heyho7110 Год назад +7

    It Seems like this is the devil purpose and surely they will blame shift on to you.

  • @337BLOOMLEE
    @337BLOOMLEE Год назад +4

    Ahh YES n relish it 4 ever

  • @alfm6093
    @alfm6093 Год назад +3

    I had covid, needed water Narcy smoked cigarettes before they got me water. Mind you I couldn't get out of bed. Then said I didn't know it was that important. Really? You knew that before you came home.

  • @fishstickbio594
    @fishstickbio594 Год назад +5

    Of course ….what a question 💣

  • @SherryONeill
    @SherryONeill Год назад +3

    Just The Title, Havent Listened Yet,..
    I Would Say Absolutely
    And Try To Hasten It When They Really Want you Gone

  • @seameology
    @seameology Год назад +11

    The short answer is yes. My ex, as a teen, threw his friend in a river, knowing he couldn't swim. He drowned. He didn't tell me about until after we were married and went on a trip to his home state. We ernt to the exact spot. He said it so matter of factly.
    He thought I was going to die once. He called my mom, screamed at her and told her to come take care of me. He wouldn't do it.

    • @SherryONeill
      @SherryONeill Год назад +5

      Even Tho There Is A Statute Of Limitations, I Bet The Family Of The Kid That Died Would Appreciate Knowing The Truth
      That Guy Is A Murderer
      Did It Once, Would Do It Again

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +5

      That’s a psychopath. I’m serious. I’m struggling with a similar problem. I know about a murder. The family keeps hoping to find him.

    • @marquitapetty9685
      @marquitapetty9685 Год назад +4

      There's no other way to put it that's a psychopath

    • @krystalchrome4357
      @krystalchrome4357 4 месяца назад

      My “ex Narc” now 😂turned Christian… encouraged a mentally disabled kid to jump off the elevator shaft and he died. Then his mother covered it up to the police and they fled the area and moved away. I don’t even have the strength to explain how I figured this Truth out. Now he tries to lie about it and say he fell but I know he pressured/pushed him into jumping the same way he does to me with tormenting force. Prays on ppl with mental disabilities.. think of the movie the bad seed… yep!

  • @confusedwhynot
    @confusedwhynot Год назад +7

    My brother in law died a couple of years ago. It was my husband's (soon to be ex) brother and it was very strange. My sister called about his motorcycle saying my husband was interested in buying the motorcycle. His brother was barely in the ground. Also to make it worse our son had asked him if we could go visit and hangout with his uncle. My husband said, "You don't want to hangout with that old man." My husband wouldn't make time for the family, but when they die he is always ready to seek attention to how bad he feels. This is just one of the situations in our relationship. It is totally crazy when I start thinking about all the situations that don't make sense.

    • @oliviamiller9267
      @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +1

      Maybe something going on between your husband and your sister?

  • @caroleminke6116
    @caroleminke6116 Год назад +7

    Malignant narcissists or those in the dark triad are cold to the idea of your death & probably would enjoy it in a very sadistic way 🤦‍♀️ mine said he wanted to put a bullet between his ex’s eyes… he abandoned me in VA motel & cut my phone service so I couldn’t communicate with his new mistress

  • @LuandaMead
    @LuandaMead Год назад +10

    Yes

  • @kimberlymorrison4880
    @kimberlymorrison4880 Год назад +3

    my ex got Covid last year. I packed food for him and had to go to work. I came down with it a few days later and was up in another bedroom TRYING to stay clear. I texted him and told him I was sick with Covid as well. NOT A TEXT back. 3 days and not even a check in. My kids were my saviors.

  • @donnabowshier2017
    @donnabowshier2017 Год назад +3

    That’s some sick twisted shit! Omg people RUN!!!!!!

  • @MJG1
    @MJG1 Год назад +3

    My narc ex did cpr after i had a cardiac arrest at a young age. So he did save my life. BUT ofcourse now he was the hero!!!!

  • @crystalclear5397
    @crystalclear5397 Год назад +3

    Oh yes. I'm an Epileptic with a few different kinds of seizures where he never truly cared or took the time to understand my condition. I had been screwed by the medical system a few times and my life at risk by them (many don't understand amnesia seizures), was he there? He told the world a yes but if they only knew what was really going on behind closed doors 🙄 where the choking took place* when arguing my medical rights to that jerk.
    It was so bad that if something happened I would have turned in my grave with the disgust on how many people actually fell for his lies! Thank goodness I got away and will always look out for others who are being abused.

  • @debbygringhuis8425
    @debbygringhuis8425 Год назад +3

    Hij zei altijd ik vang voor jullie ( gezin ) een kogel op als het moet . Ik lig in bed met een hartinfarct en hij beld geen 112 .draait zich om en zegt ga lekker slapen . En deze man werkt in de beveiliging op een ziekenhuis.😢

  • @charlie-girl72
    @charlie-girl72 Год назад +3

    I dunno but narcissism is maybe a hidden 'psycho'? Its scarier for me now. Thnx for your vids

  • @iamclaynow
    @iamclaynow Год назад +2

    I used to tell my ex narc that I could be hanging from a noose in a big wide-open desert with just him and me. And he could be standing right there watching me, and that I would watch him watch me die. When I would say that, he just had a look like he could totally picture it too. I always knew that. And then the final discard. It was all proven out at the final discard. Now I plunder those who attempted to plunder me.

  • @maureenjones7973
    @maureenjones7973 Год назад +4

    Actually happened-walked over my body to make a sandwich.

  • @suthrnangel218
    @suthrnangel218 Год назад +2

    Yes, he was emotionally abusing me to the point of being very upset and couldn't breath. I begged for my nitroglycerin. He looked at me and walked away. I pulled the phdown, called 911 and he came back in as I was begging for help. He took the phone and told them the address. He heard them coming and rushed to unlock the 2 locked security gates.
    The Paramedics came in and started working on me. They ask him what happened earlier
    He said we were having an argument and .....maybe she overreacted. The Paramedic told him "NO, truth!" He said "I was fussing at her and..."
    They get the stretcher and took me to the hospital. They told me I had suffered a mild heart attack.
    When I begged for my nitroglycerin, that POS just glared at me!
    Yes, they would let you die!
    Oh, they had me call him to come get me and he was so drunk. He drove to the hospital and fell out of his truck. I had to drive home, with EKG electrodes all over me but I made it. I got out, walked over to my house and left him in his trunk. He fell out trying to get out and took about 30 minutes to go 50 feet. He left his door open. Had a dead battery the next day and couldn't find his keys. He doesn’t remember driving to the hospital to get me.
    My plans are moving forward, faster than planned, to leave when he is going somewhere.
    My life is a mess....right now because my health has nose dived.

  • @luffypupperstien2706
    @luffypupperstien2706 Год назад +3

    Totally! I was left on the floor fading in and out I'd had liver resection and it was touch and go. One night we drank wine had relations and suddenly I felt weird and dropped. He literally walked away.

  • @tennesseerose6400
    @tennesseerose6400 Год назад +5

    Absolutely Yes*

  • @Palavra-n1y
    @Palavra-n1y Год назад +2

    I tried to kill myself with sleeping pills. I was breathless on my kitchen table unable to move literally dying and my narcissistic mom was texting on the couch saying I was fine.

  • @oliviamiller9267
    @oliviamiller9267 Год назад +3

    The car of shame is one of the stupid analogies I expect from a narcissist.

  • @leonapietsch4367
    @leonapietsch4367 Год назад +9

    My Ex would not care if I died. He only cares about himself. Couldn’t care less about his son or daughter and grandkids. Sooo thankful 🥲 m free!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉❤️🙏✝️

  • @elaineelizabethpresleyofficial
    @elaineelizabethpresleyofficial Год назад +2

    They would yes! Mine did! I won. And they almost totally destroyed my life and wanted to take my life. Leave in silence and disappear. They are lethal?

  • @elaineelizabethpresleyofficial
    @elaineelizabethpresleyofficial Год назад +2

    I feel sorry for wealthy people who lost everything over a narcissist and had been beaten down from success to literally nothing. Then when drained and abused the narc walks away like the 30 years were nothing. Was all about money support and beating down the money person. I know someone like this and it's so sad to see how broken they become and the narc just walked away.

  • @meganbrain8870
    @meganbrain8870 Год назад +2

    I woke up after overdosing on some horrible stuff I didn't normally take but his other girlfriends girlfriend gave it to me and I woke up on the floor after being passed out for hours and I knew I could have died and he was asleep in the bed peacefully as anything. I realised he had left me there to die but didn't process it at the time. Even now it's hard to fathom how little he cared about me the entire time.

  • @misstd158
    @misstd158 Год назад +2

    The one I was married to for almost sixteen years I had a medical emergency two of them and I was in and out of consciousness due to my medical problems and when I would come back to consciousness I would see him just walking over me past me drying off getting dressed as if nothing was wrong never called the ambulance never tried to help and then another time I caught him rummaging through my things and he threatened to kill me how could you want to kill me when you're going through my private stuff doesn't make sense then he threatened to kill me multiple times when I said I was leaving then I caught him on a dating site and he threatened to kill me he proceeded to choke the life out of me until I was unconscious they don't care about your life run if you come across them I spent six years running in and out of court having him locked up in the police would just let him go after a while and he would, come right back to my house peeking through my windows it was not until I left the state that I could put it to an end but they will watch you die they do not care about you he even gets me in the car when I was married to himand speed down the highway to the point where I'm clenching and holding on to the seats and the dashboard he even offered to run us into a tanker truck on the highway because he did not like me questioning him he may be handsome he may make a lot of money 💰 but don't walk run none of the stuff is worth it your life is more valuable and once again yes they will watch you passed away I went through it

  • @fionasheepwash2718
    @fionasheepwash2718 Год назад +3

    Yes. My husband has left the impression that he couldn't care if I had died(nearly died January last year)soon to be the ex husband. Not my choice his.

  • @RapturereadyforJesus
    @RapturereadyforJesus Год назад +3

    YES!!!!!! Mine tried to poison me.

  • @Carmen-.-
    @Carmen-.- Год назад +3

    Yes, I know one that let two people pass in her home 4 months apart last year. She just passed last night.

  • @sophiaorr1266
    @sophiaorr1266 Год назад +2

    I think no unless there’s a degree of sociopathy. Depends how close you are to them. Some are too dark and watch out.

  • @daniellee4188
    @daniellee4188 Год назад +4

    When we were out together, I'd mentally fortify myself for the hypothetical day I had to protect her with my life. I wanted to prove to myself that I wouldn't run, that I would have the courage to keep her safe. Interesting that you made this video, because the FIRST thing I realized when she left me, is that she wouldn't turn back once had the tables been turned.

  • @Woman156
    @Woman156 Год назад +4

    HELL YES.😮

  • @vandolmatzis8146
    @vandolmatzis8146 Год назад +2

    I simply do not trust them and have had to override my own belief that they have empathy.

  • @bridgetsieger2261
    @bridgetsieger2261 Год назад +7

    I just saw some fun reality about how my mom put herself as the person who gets my $ if I die. She’s way older and I had a charity I wanted ..
    I didn’t know they could do these things without my knowledge.
    Plus, other secret stuff.

    • @karenk2409
      @karenk2409 Год назад +2

      They can't. This is gaslighting. If you are 18+, pay a lawyer a couple hundred and make a will.

    • @bridgetsieger2261
      @bridgetsieger2261 Год назад

      @@karenk2409 thanks.

  • @ninath13
    @ninath13 Год назад +3

    Yesssssss I believe it would how evil they are

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 3 месяца назад

    Yes!!!!! That happened to me

  • @heatherlynn3438
    @heatherlynn3438 Год назад +5

    Yes

  • @karenhayes2014
    @karenhayes2014 Год назад +3

    Mine let me lay in bed for 4 yrs didn't even acknowledge, until he grew tired of no cooking or cleaning, then just rage I got down to 94 lbs, said he shouldn't have to tell me to eat or even offer, said I was old enough to make a choice 😢😢😢😢😢

  • @Terri-vi5qb
    @Terri-vi5qb 5 месяцев назад

    Yup!

  • @cynthiahughes5504
    @cynthiahughes5504 Год назад +2

    He'll collect your life insurance.

  • @lulalane1345
    @lulalane1345 2 месяца назад +1

    Experienced much of this. Very easy for them to dismiss you unless their image is attached to it which makes them unpredictable. Nonetheless if you value your life and mental health stay clear of them to the extent that you can. They are dangerous and bad news. Heal yourself and find someone who is capable of caring about you naturally. Narcissist are great actors and experts of deception. Love yourself!

  • @СимеонХристов-л5г
    @СимеонХристов-л5г Год назад +2

    In my case, two narcissists were the deadly thread. My brother and ex. When they perceive you as a blockade on their way in their minds.