I’m a Gambian woman, and what hurts me the most is that if a Gambian man wants to marry a Gambian woman who is two years older than him it beefs talk of the town or his parents won’t agree to it but for a white woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, it’s okay
It's no different than when senior men go to the Philippines, Taiwan, etc, to look for someone young to "marry". Except some of them are also looking for children too 🤬
Yea that's so heartbreaking smh but like you stated it's definitely happening and the more money they have the easier it is to accomplish what they really want.
The difference is that these old women divorced their husbands, and took everything from them, to go have wild times. Whereas the old men going to the Philippines has everything taken from them, and are now trying to mend their broken hearts with women who are more caring.
@@AnthonyLauderno! Those men are there abusing children and preying on impoverished young woman. The biggest difference is that these women are probably targeting impoverished adult males.
Keep telling yourself that, dude. How do you know these old women didn't work careers their entire lives, and it was their own money they decided to waste? No differrent than old men who seek brides overseas. You'll see how much those Philippine women "care" about these old men when the money runs out. Men are better at self delusion. Women at least call it for what it is@@AnthonyLauder
I have worked, in the US, with people from The Gambia and from Ghana. I would love to work always with such committed, intelligent, dedicated, problemsolving souls. That's the simple truth. The respect you received is respect you deserve. All through history, people everywhere on the planet have needed to rely on relationships in order to live. People get jobs because of who they know, as often as because they are truly suited for those jobs. People get into schools because their parents went there. People marry for many reasons, love being one among them - will he be a good provider? Do we both want children? Will she be there for me even if disaster strikes and I lose my health? Many reasons. There is no more shame in this, now, than there was in American women choosing among suitors on the basis of who could best provide for them. My heart went out to all involved. A world where all people have enough, have what they need, would be a lovely world but we aren't there yet. If that is what we dream of, we must keep trying.
this is amazing. I've seen tons of videos about ''older women being scammed by african men'' but this completes the sad and real picture that, as the reporter put it ''you don't know who to feel sorry for''. The reporter was incredible. I hope to see more of him.
you could argue that for any women seeking her "handsome prince". What i the difference between this story and "Cinderella"? WHy is it only OK when women are seeking a man to pay for them and transform their life?
The difference between those two examples is the european women being scammed think they’re talking to rich european men, if they knew they were talking to poor african men they would want nothing to do with them. In this case the women know who the men are in person, and it’s who (what?) they want.
It works both ways. Female African scam artists search for lonely older foreign men to scam money from while promising to meet them. A friend of a male friend of mine came into contact with a Gambian woman years ago and has been sending money to her for years. She makes up some fake excuse. She promised many times to visit him, but never has. He has sent her tens of thousands of dollars, but has never met her. All his friends have tried to tell him that she is a liar and a scam artist, but he keeps sending her money! He's in too deep.
The best thing about the video is the narrator`s insight. I love a thoughtful, intelligent person who genuinely tries to learn about and understand other cultures. He asked the best questions, has a strong sense of ethics, and is so candid in his responses. Brilliant!
@@miketdarnellEveryone has biases. But he was respectful and curious. He didn’t try to make anyone look or feel bad and it wasn’t edited in a negative way to make anyone look worse.
This country would be impossible for young well behaved girls to have a holiday in peace makes the country impossible for family holidays they are loosing out on good tourison
@@livia8227he said hes an engineer. We can't make assumptions. He should have asked the guy about the rental sign. Maybe he rents it sometimes and lives in a smaller place.
I love that moment when he says "I dont know who to feel sorry for anymore!" I'd say that sums up the whole situation perfectly. For me, I don't think I could get over the fact that this is where slaves were captured and the big houses used to belong to slave lords and then here you come as a European to pick out your young man. 😬
I’m not going to excuse the European slave traders, but according to my reading, most of the capturing of slaves was done by the native Mandikas who traveled inland using the Gambia River as the corridor. Neither Islam nor Christianity would condone the lifestyles of the “male prostitution” that is taking place in this documentary. The decay of morality is not going to elevate the society and quality of life in the Gambia. Investment in infrastructure, education and industry will facilitate the rise from poverty. Exploitation is exploitation and no one wins in the end.
Yes, it's like you're sleeping with your slave owner. You're on the other spectrum in of it and it's filthy and nasty. This is not what God called for a relationship. Where are the women of Gambia? I don't want to hear a black Gambian. Man. Say I don't want to marry a poor Gambian woman. Then build her up. Because getting with a slave owner is sickening.
I’m impressed with the presenter. He’s a great balance of open-minded and skeptical, and his analysis allows for nuance and compassion without sacrificing realism. His analysis at 27:56 about believing the guy’s current sincerity, but also that it’s unlikely to last into the future is a surprisingly nuanced view being expressed by a presenter - we don’t get that often in this format of documentary. He also flags when people’s stories don’t add up, which is refreshing and insightful. He rightly spells out the history of colonialism and draws the link with the current situation, as well as makes plain that poverty drives this dynamic. The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics.
"The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics." EXACTLY Normally ...its men That Rule The Roast" Yep TOTALLY AGREE , yep the presenter seems nuanced and ok, doesn t he?
This has to be one of the best investigators I've seen in a while. He's so personable; his confusion, his guilt, his anger. It feels like he's watching it all unfold with the viewers. This whole situation is genuinely creepy though.
I absolutely enjoyed this video! I can identify with P! When I’m in Jamaica that salt water takes away all of my pain, no back aches , no cane or Walker needed I just feel good, young and vibrant! The Jamaican men are awesome as well! Once I return home to Indiana then the pains slowly come back! So yes there is a lot of truth to what Mz P said. 🙏🏾❤️
🛑🛑🛑I WOULD WANT MY OWN MEN. BLK N BEAUTIFUL. IT IS GOID TO DATE UR OWN MEN, N MEN TO DATE THEIR OWN BLK WOMEN.....WHITE MEN LOVE THEIR OWN N BLK MEN SHOULD LIKE THEIR OWN TOO. IT MAKE SENSE.... 😇😇😇👩🏾❤️💋👨🏾
P seems like genuinely nice lady! I wish her all the luck in the world, plus she seems to be with someone her own age. The guy she is with is not exactly young. An eye-opening documentary. Well done!
P reminds of people back here in the US in my family. small world filled people looking for love. we all the same out here no matter gambia uk or the states.
But HE doesn’t look 50! He looks younger. But SHE looks 65 and not attractive That’s the difference. Now the man can live without having to ever work again thanks to granny!
Yo, I kept yelling "n**ga!!!". He said it with a straight face😂, saying he gets hurt when they leave 😂😂. I wonder how he gets an erection for an 85 year old
This is just genuinely sad. The guy with the 85 year old lover, is actually genuinely sacrificing himself to provide his dependents with a better life, and the 85 year old lady is trying to find happiness. It's a genuinely sad situation.
TBH I think the couple in the “Italian villa” house are just renting it for holidays. Why is that sign up saying it’s to let otherwise? You don’t just leave a “for rent” sign up and I doubt as she said “it was up before I came.” That doesn’t add up, nor does the lack of furnishings.
It was… very interesting to watch. 😩, when dude on the beach said he didn’t want to marry a black, that crushed me. I understand the economic drive to be with a financially stable white woman in that type of environment… so so sad.
“As soon as I land back in the UK, I’m back in pain.” That line changed my small, judgmental mind about what both sides are doing. Everyone has a right to happiness- even if it looks a lot different than what we may consider normal. Life seems to offer limited opportunities to truly feel free and happy. I hope everyone finds what they genuinely need and no one is hurt or scammed.
@vincelemaire -- if the OP is American, then it kinda is law. At least the right to pursue happiness. It's the foundation of our constitution-- life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Heck, even Bhutan, such a tiny nation, measures their GDP in happiness. So let people pursue their dream and their happiness. If a woman has the money to support a man, and he has the moral code to keep her happy and loved, then let them be happy. Same as if a rich older man here marries a beautiful trophy wife, or if a European man marries a woman from Thailand or Vietnam.
As a 56 year old woman - It amazes me that any middle aged or older woman would be offended that a poor young man would want money for being with them.
The ladies want s3x and companionship, the men want money. How far you take it is your own risk. No one is in the position to judge. P looked so young & vibrant it was incredible. I almost cried. The questions & insight were spot on. I really didn’t expect this to be this good, man.
This makes me feel very sad. My ex husband is Gambian. There are only two years difference between us and we met here in the states. However as soon as he didn’t need me anymore financially he decided he wanted a second wife in Africa. We divorced. He married a woman from his culture and moved her here. I think the entire concept of love and marriage is different there.
@@Alison-ku5ko It's done everyday in the U.S. by females who want to secure financial security and they aren't prosecuted for fraud. So how is that any different?
I am sorry to say this but most African men, not just the Gambians consider African women to be their true wives/loves. Unless you meet a 2nd generation migrant/ one who has been culturally westernised, you will never be truly loved. I am an African woman and I know our men. They will tell you sweet nothings and all you want to hear but their hearts are back home. It is better to just avoid them. I am sorry for what you went through but we live and learn.
@@annie_xo Well obviously some people do think its socially acceptable in society or I wouldn't have pointed it out. I've seen females everyday cosign this behavior when other females do it. With no regard for the male.
If I were 85 years old and some young guy was telling me that he wants me to die in his arms I’d be hobbling the other way as fast as I could! I’d be afraid that the unspoken part of that statement was “as quickly as possible”.
He is too medling. He needs to keep out of the business of others. If you are trying to find out something do your research but don't try to influence the outcome of others. Mind yoir business and allow others to live the lives they choose. On the other hand, does he really know these people? And what does he really know about them?
Love the way the presenter was open, honest, and non-judgmental. It's fabulous. Really can't undersrand the dynamic, but if they are all adults, and its consensual, then wonderful.
Not at all. This operations is a scam run by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women for their money - yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.
@@partridgefamilybus2021 A fool? You're the fool! He did nothing of the sort---he questioned their motives all along! How stupid of you that you don't have enough brains to follow the story!!
If something bad happens to a single woman, it has effects on the whole tourism industry. So these women are almost above law even if govt publicly says prostiution doesn’t exist.
This is so enlightening... I am from the other side of the world, this is such a faraway reality, and yet, nothing about humans and human relationships should be alien... Thank you for your great work!
Why Philippines only? Those predators are in your own country preying on your american prostitutes which are everywhere left and right. They just go to asia cause it's "cheaper". But in reality they are in your own backyard. You should watch prostitute videos in your own country with your own race prostitutes.
@@toddshaw9441Because it usually is. Those males aren't going to the Philippines to hook up with grandmothers. They're going there to hook up with someone's under-age GRAND-DAUGHTER! 🙄
Theres no way on earth that man erected that building singlehandedly. It's got foreign currency all over it. They both lying through their teeth. For her sake and sanity, I hope she knows what shes doing. When you see the whole family warming up to you, be damn sure you're giving more than you're getting
@@Vistacraft82obviously he didn't build it with his own hands but clearly not all of the houses the locals lived in were small. They help each other build
The host is a wonderful down to earth realist, love that about him and how he openly give his views. These woman are lucky that the host has given them some honest advice about their relationships with Gambian men. The host's feelings about these women and who they're dating/marring is spot on. Wonderful video
I'd say any "preying" going on is mutual. The old ladies have a need they want fulfilled.. just as the young men do. They're grown folks .They know exactly what they're doing. I think it's a pretty sad situation on both ends. This was very interesting. I'm Black American and I'd honestly not heard about this happening in Gambia. Thank you, so much, for this video. Very enlightening. Be well. Be safe. God bless. 🙏🙏🙏
The host is amazing, I honestly see so much of myself in him, thinks and talks like me. Love his curiosity and thought process combined with the caring nature
From a Caribbean sister..this was truly eye opening..i loved the reporter's interaction with everyone..i learnt alot..so many questions to ask ..hmmm this left me thinking 🤔
Seyi, you are an amazing journalist. This popped up as I was researching poly relationships in America. Great documentary with great balance. I only wish to see women from Gambia giving their perspective as a follow-up/Part 2.
@@TraciJoseph-h2h Yes, a grown and adorable compassionate Brit.. One can see that age will never be an issue for you. That sour tude will fuel your own broom for a lifetime. 😂 😂
@@NatureWins22 And I'm not interested in him except to pay him a compliment. Sorry that you've been so rejected and shunned that you attack even kind words from one stranger to another. I was admiring his depth and compassion, nothing more. Im sure there is a toad ( or toadess) out there for you. Try smiling once in a while instead of screeching out an angry " ribet" at every turn. The world is what we make it. 😛😁
I am Jamaican, and I know for a fact in Jamaica that this happens in tourists destinations too. I personally believe this is directly tied to slavery and the legacy of it.
@citizenx-jz4dfMaybe so, but the fact is many people, especially whites are very much in the master-slave, superior/inferior concept. One of the reasons why whites go around the world to Asian and black countries seeking to fulfill their flesh at the exploitation of the vulnerable - men, women and children. Open your eyes and face reality. Whites think black and brown people are on earth to serve them, including sexually.
@citizenx-jz4df of course there was slavery in Gambia. Kunta Kinteh was from the Gambia. They had the doors to nowhere where they loaded the slave ships. Major port for the Atlantic slave trade. Slavery in the Americas and the Gambia are 100 % tied together
I worked closely with a woman (54) went to Gambia and married a 20 yr old man. He could not fake his attraction to her unfortunately. She passed away shortly after they married but she would rarely talk about it. His inability to overcome the physical aspects of the relationship made her very embarrassed. It was not a good situation. However, i supported her in any way i could.
I really like this piece. I didn't trust the couple with the rented house, I felt she might be in on some scam with him together. She got nervous and started fudging the ages herself, it seemed off. The reporter is excellent and I hope to see more of his work.
Yup. At first it seemed like she was a victim of her husband's deception. But after a while it seemed like she was engaging in some deception herself... (self-deception at the very least, because it seemed like there was some hidden truth that was starting to rise to the surface, but she didn't want to see it).
I think she wants to build him up to be some kind of "entrepreneur" or capable of his own income bc that way she doesnt get painted as funding his lifestyle.
Interesting reversal. He says it feels degrading to see the men standing and waiting to be chosen. Imagine the thousands of women who've been through this very same thing, often because they, too, had no other options.
@@adrianmainz2716 he's not talking about these wealthy white women, but other countries (including those in the west) where female prostitution is prevalent and equally dangerous, with an added layer or mysoginy and systemic violence towards women.
I started to scroll past this video but the title grabbed my interest. Therefore I tapped on this platform and was totally captivated with interest. I must say I totally enjoyed the host and his compassion and assertiveness. It's so good to keep up with what's going on around the world. Thank you for this video, I do pray that all the women find true love and longevity in their relationship ❤️. Nevertheless beware of wolf in sheep clothing.
This work you are doing is so important. I've been watching documentaries about older British women scammed by young men they meet while on vacation in various countries across Africa. The British women are always portrayed as the victims. However, I can't help but consider whether they would be considered victims if they were white men dating very young girls in Southeast Asia. We need more unbiased perspectives such as your own that show both sides of the story. Well done-please keep up the great work!
Normally I would agree, but this documentary is obviously thinnly-veiled anti-yt-ism. It's a joke to think that grandmas, in a foreign country, are somehow "predators".
@@Morrosoy28 Gender is. Race? Not so much... quit being wilfully oblivious. It's ALWAYS about race. And by the way, you can thank the Europeans for that.
Your comparison is a little off. Older men with money date younger women from all over the world, not just old white men and not only the Southeast Asia. Rich and old men date more white women than Southeast Asian. Sugar daddies/mommies is the frequent term used in the scenario. Both the sides enjoy their reason for the relationship. If old British women dating young Gambian women is frowned upon, then all relationships in the world where older men date young women should be too. If your reason of comparison was that western men are seeking wives abroad, that is a totally different scenario, they find love, marry, and together start a family where they can be financially stable. No one exploits the other in that relationship, and many a times both the partners earn.
@@Upgraydez Prostitution is never good for either party. However, there are a lot of factors at play here in this situation and these men could be robbing people or doing something else that is dangerous to them or their community. This is a softer way to potential freedom and a lifestyle change. Most prostitutes, in the traditional sense, are just trying to get by on whatever scraps they can muster up. These men are gambling for lifechanging money. They can potentially take care of themselves and a large swath of their families. For the women's part, they are coming from a culture that doesn't value older women and doesn't validate them in a sexual space either. Older, single men are typically looking for younger women, for the same reasons these older women are looking for younger men: They want companionship, and they want to feel young and needed. That is what they are getting. Morally bankrupt? That's a matter of opinion. So long as everyone is happy in the end, that has to count for something. They are all adults here and if the government is unable to do anything to help these young men, then we can't sit here and judge.
The younger people aren't innocent. Both males & females know they are using the financial stability of the older. The Older people aren't innocent... they know the only reason they have a younger person is because that person is financially desperate.
I'm an older woman. What can I offer a man my nephews age - (young adult) ? It sounds like the men are impoverished and the women are paying for attention from the men. Older men pay for attention from younger women all the time. This is a similar situation and it is sad. Why don't older men and women help younger adult couples and not utilitize them for their own purposes. That would be better.
I notice how conservatively he is dressed. I get the impression he is trying to not "fit in" with the prospective partners. Imagine coping with tropical heat wearing long pants/trousers after leaving winter in Europe.
Transactional relationships come in all forms across the globe. In fact, that's the norm throughout history. Marrying for "love" is a very recent concept. As long as all involved are adults and have no cognitive issues, who's to judge.
The parties in this regard do have cognitive issues, the women are typically codependent and the men covert narcissists! Trauma bonds, exploitation all the way!
This is the female version of passport bro’s just as old white women. It’s just as gross and deplorable. As a woman I would hate being on either end of this. Someone being with me just for what I could do for them financially or pimping myself out for income. It’s all bad.
The old ladies are telling us openly why they go to Gambia. Therefore, the old ladies cannot be a prey, because they go to Gambia to look for younger Gambian men. In this case, the old ladies have the power of money that they can use to prey on the younger Gambian men. Fortunately, the old ladies do not have to spend too much energy because their presence in the beach is enough to become a glamorous lure for the poor Gambian younger men.
People like you are the worst kind of racist. Those men are adults who choose to do that. They're not children who are manipulated just because they're poor.
@@pierrerochon7271 I agree.. but, would you be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed? People seem to react very different when it's an older, wealthy man with a younger, poor woman.
The lady who feels well in Gambia but in pain in the UK - this is very true. I have an immune disease, and my body also reacts this way, altho, not Gambia as I have never been, but I live in an area quite high above sea level, lower oxygen & humidity, and am in pain. Places with high humidity and low altitude, and I feel fine. (just an fyi in case anyone is wondering why)
IF this were a documentary about OLDER men with younger women in a financially vulnerable position, it would be a dramatically different story. BUT, as a grown man myself, I don't think it's ok for older men to be with younger women. We're typically more emotionally manipulative, take advantage, place less personal value on intimacy, etc.
How can it be an equal exchange of like minded people when the men are impoverished. You do what you have to do and make the best of it. I can't help but feel that Gambian women are being cheated out of a future with a Gambian man.
acjfiddler - Well, but not really. In set-ups like this, the man most likely will have (if he doesn't already have) a second relationship - with a Gambian woman/wife as well, and they will raise a family. And it's highly probably (if not certain) that everybody will be aware of the arrangement, even if it may go unspoken for their whole lives.
if they marry with Gambian women then the poverty line will just circulate forever making it harder for everyone now and future generations. It's a compromise they have to make
My heart goes out to both the men and women involved in a situation like this. Love is sacred, but money corrupts everything. I hope one day humans are all equal, so that love can prevail.
This is such excellent storytelling! Well done Seyi Rhodes and team. Once you get past the impulse to judge these Gambian men, you really come to terms with the fact that humans are going to be humans.
Very talented interviewer and presenter. Interesting doc I’ve never known about this. The men are so kind and very charismatic I can see how the grannies get roped in. Sad all around but interesting.
This was an important documentary. I see in the comments some people saying that it is mutual but I see it as exploitation of people’s misfortune. Given the history of the Gambia and slavery it is even more disturbing. You do not get a sense that anyone is truly being authentic about what they want and need with the exception of 2 of the ladies.
The couple that never fights is a red flag to me. It doesn't mean they have nothing to fight about, but maybe that the man doesn't feel comfortable fighting to defend himself.
These women are a particular type. They NEED social interaction. They always NEED, always take advantage of others to fill their own needs, and have never been fully self-reliant, so they are susceptible. But I don't feel sorry for them. They're either gullible or delusional, or both. I highly doubt they've ever been in mature, respectable, romantic partnerships. I doubt they have healthy, appropriate relationships with their own children. The whole thing is sad. But, these situations are not the same as a gold digging, young, WESTERN woman searching for an old rich man. That's absolutely NOT the same thing. Western women have many more opportunities to enrich themselves than people from poor nations do, like these young men, so their gold digging is more predatory than desperate. These older women are definitely taking advantage of people who have no choice about poverty. They should know better and have higher expectations of themselves rather than choosing to use other people as toys. It's healthy to accept yourself as you are, age included. But there's an expectation of behaviour that goes with age. I'm a senior woman, BTW.
He's lying. He's doing something else. Probably not even his house, more like living in someone else's house he getting paid to fix up. No kitchen and he's been in it for 2 years. 🤔
P and Bob the Builder are hilarious!! They seem just fine Bob has a grey beard and neither seems they are using each other. They are having fun. Michelle is delusional and her husband's family knows all about it. 🤣🤣
The "Engineer" aka "Plumber" aka "Painter", She's also a liar. She lied about his age, then the rental. Every time she was caught she'd bite her nails or get defensive
@@zamo9266i hope she is not their slave somethings are off with that situation. I hope her family sees this and gets her help. The guy tried helping her showing her the picture of the rental. She lies like a victim.
I’m a Gambian woman, and what hurts me the most is that if a Gambian man wants to marry a Gambian woman who is two years older than him it beefs talk of the town or his parents won’t agree to it but for a white woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, it’s okay
Its all about cash!
So sad to hear, but the one with the money has it.
Your comment says it all.
Kind of like Asian women marrying a poor Asian man but instead she brings home a white foreigner. :/
Money trumps all things when poverty is taking its toll.
I would have loved to see an interview with the local women of Gambia and hear their perspectives on it all.
We’re also under the impression that all of the young men do this, I doubt that is true.
The local Gambian men will have an entire family hidden from the holiday maker or even have you visit them under the disguise of being relatives.
As long as they’re bringing the money home to them, they’re good with it 😊
@@flattery1111 That’s what they told you, right? 😂
@@humanbeing4368Yep, you are right!!
Extreme poverty meets extreme loneliness. Both parties are equally desperate, but the person with the money, ultimately has control.
...not so sure about the control bit...most times that money slips away....strange how this body and mind can deceive us.
Absolutely! this is the best comment....
Perfectly stated
Until she drinks the Kool-Aid… ie, gets scammed..😮
The host is cool I like his POV!!
"Granbia" 😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀 already made me laugh before start watching the video
Didn’t even notice😂😭
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@@MariiBazyMe neither😂😂l🤣🤣
i even went to google "Where is Granbia?"😭 cold
It's no different than when senior men go to the Philippines, Taiwan, etc, to look for someone young to "marry". Except some of them are also looking for children too 🤬
Same in Gambia... children are often targeted
Yea that's so heartbreaking smh but like you stated it's definitely happening and the more money they have the easier it is to accomplish what they really want.
The difference is that these old women divorced their husbands, and took everything from them, to go have wild times. Whereas the old men going to the Philippines has everything taken from them, and are now trying to mend their broken hearts with women who are more caring.
@@AnthonyLauderno! Those men are there abusing children and preying on impoverished young woman. The biggest difference is that these women are probably targeting impoverished adult males.
Keep telling yourself that, dude. How do you know these old women didn't work careers their entire lives, and it was their own money they decided to waste? No differrent than old men who seek brides overseas. You'll see how much those Philippine women "care" about these old men when the money runs out. Men are better at self delusion. Women at least call it for what it is@@AnthonyLauder
Host is so real and compassionate and has the same alarm bells as I do. Both women and men are using eachother.....!
Well, if both of them are using each other, and both of them know it and are doing it voluntarily, what is the problem?
Typical symbiotic relationship that exists all over the world, land, air and sea... Humans and all species of animals, feed off of each other....
@@angelaame6148💯
Both sides are consenting adults. Someone is buying and someone is selling…
No one doesn’t have a visa to leave their country. Get real. Nasty old hags
I’m Gambian and really appreciate how you treated us with respect in this piece and covered all sides without patronizing. Thank you 🙏
Am really not sure where the appreciation is coming from. Sad and embarrassing definitely yes
Bc U.
Are.
Nasty!!!!
@@charlesosimeon6375I agree. The European women are sad and embarrassing. 🙄🙄
I have worked, in the US, with people from The Gambia and from Ghana. I would love to work always with such committed, intelligent, dedicated, problemsolving souls. That's the simple truth.
The respect you received is respect you deserve. All through history, people everywhere on the planet have needed to rely on relationships in order to live. People get jobs because of who they know, as often as because they are truly suited for those jobs. People get into schools because their parents went there. People marry for many reasons, love being one among them - will he be a good provider? Do we both want children? Will she be there for me even if disaster strikes and I lose my health? Many reasons.
There is no more shame in this, now, than there was in American women choosing among suitors on the basis of who could best provide for them. My heart went out to all involved.
A world where all people have enough, have what they need, would be a lovely world but we aren't there yet. If that is what we dream of, we must keep trying.
No respect at all..
the title made me spit out my tea, but I stayed for the intriguing documentary
this is amazing. I've seen tons of videos about ''older women being scammed by african men'' but this completes the sad and real picture that, as the reporter put it ''you don't know who to feel sorry for''. The reporter was incredible. I hope to see more of him.
you could argue that for any women seeking her "handsome prince". What i the difference between this story and "Cinderella"? WHy is it only OK when women are seeking a man to pay for them and transform their life?
@@SimonSverigegreat argument
The difference between those two examples is the european women being scammed think they’re talking to rich european men, if they knew they were talking to poor african men they would want nothing to do with them.
In this case the women know who the men are in person, and it’s who (what?) they want.
It works both ways. Female African scam artists search for lonely older foreign men to scam money from while promising to meet them. A friend of a male friend of mine came into contact with a Gambian woman years ago and has been sending money to her for years. She makes up some fake excuse. She promised many times to visit him, but never has. He has sent her tens of thousands of dollars, but has never met her. All his friends have tried to tell him that she is a liar and a scam artist, but he keeps sending her money! He's in too deep.
Right this is horrible
The best thing about the video is the narrator`s insight. I love a thoughtful, intelligent person who genuinely tries to learn about and understand other cultures. He asked the best questions, has a strong sense of ethics, and is so candid in his responses. Brilliant!
These people have no culture.
It’s been destroyed by colonialism and corruption of their government.
Yes, he's one of the best narrators I've ever seen.
What a nice and senseful person
His cringing face.hahahaha
@@franziskaklaiber5768 Like 😬
The host of this story seems like such a genuinely kind and caring soul. I wish all the best for him!
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fool
@@brigittgraves What do you mean? Who is the fool? That is my assessment of the host. Deal with it.
@@brigittgravesu 're the biggest one
and his accent
I just LOVE this host. He has lots of heart and is a smart man. Also, VERY easy on the eyes… 💜💜💜
Agreed. Nice looking, but great host
@@monilangeKootenays he sounds a bit like Mick Jagger
Hello dear friend, how are you from? I can ask you something
@@shajuuddin2287
Are you from Gambia?
Creepy.
This story was so well told. The host balanced fact finding, curiosity, compassion, and respect. Excellent work!!!
I agree! Wonderful and rare journalism!
He was a little biased
@@miketdarnellEveryone has biases. But he was respectful and curious. He didn’t try to make anyone look or feel bad and it wasn’t edited in a negative way to make anyone look worse.
They ask for money as one lady says she tells them if they want money they will not see her again
This country would be impossible for young well behaved girls to have a holiday in peace makes the country impossible for family holidays they are loosing out on good tourison
“We’ve never had an argument” of course not 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lady that man is not about to argue with you. Look at that house 🤣🤣
Totally agree 👍. "Don't bite the hand that feeds you".
He built the house
@@fatimaabubakari5695 oh you must didn’t see the for rent sign then
Saw that. But let's assume he really owns according to her she didn't contribute anything to building it that's why I said that
@@livia8227he said hes an engineer. We can't make assumptions. He should have asked the guy about the rental sign. Maybe he rents it sometimes and lives in a smaller place.
I love that moment when he says "I dont know who to feel sorry for anymore!" I'd say that sums up the whole situation perfectly.
For me, I don't think I could get over the fact that this is where slaves were captured and the big houses used to belong to slave lords and then here you come as a European to pick out your young man. 😬
Nope - the "big houses" belong to Gambians selling drugs in Europe for MANY years! 😅😂🤣
I’m not going to excuse the European slave traders, but according to my reading, most of the capturing of slaves was done by the native Mandikas who traveled inland using the Gambia River as the corridor. Neither Islam nor Christianity would condone the lifestyles of the “male prostitution” that is taking place in this documentary. The decay of morality is not going to elevate the society and quality of life in the Gambia. Investment in infrastructure, education and industry will facilitate the rise from poverty. Exploitation is exploitation and no one wins in the end.
Except now the men have a choice. They are willing participants.
@@charlotteschreiner2305 oh.... I thought he said slave traders in the video. My mistake!
Yes, it's like you're sleeping with your slave owner. You're on the other spectrum in of it and it's filthy and nasty. This is not what God called for a relationship.
Where are the women of Gambia? I don't want to hear a black Gambian. Man. Say I don't want to marry a poor Gambian woman.
Then build her up. Because getting with a slave owner is sickening.
As a Jamaican, the similarity of the accent gives me goosebumps. My people ❤
Accent where? The closest accent to Jamaicans I've heard is Irish.
I’m impressed with the presenter. He’s a great balance of open-minded and skeptical, and his analysis allows for nuance and compassion without sacrificing realism. His analysis at 27:56 about believing the guy’s current sincerity, but also that it’s unlikely to last into the future is a surprisingly nuanced view being expressed by a presenter - we don’t get that often in this format of documentary.
He also flags when people’s stories don’t add up, which is refreshing and insightful. He rightly spells out the history of colonialism and draws the link with the current situation, as well as makes plain that poverty drives this dynamic.
The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics.
Well said!!
"The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics." EXACTLY
Normally ...its men That Rule The Roast"
Yep
TOTALLY AGREE , yep the presenter seems nuanced and ok, doesn t he?
Indeed, and he shows a great deal of concern for his fellow Brits., balanced with understanding of realities of life in Africa for young African men.
I was going to make a similar comment. Seyi is perfect balancing respect and skepticism :)
He asked all the right questions.
This has to be one of the best investigators I've seen in a while. He's so personable; his confusion, his guilt, his anger. It feels like he's watching it all unfold with the viewers. This whole situation is genuinely creepy though.
It's even worse the other way around. When men go to asian countries to find a wife.
@@ingridakerblom7577 whys that?
@@ingridakerblom7577lol it's even worse because men are doing it? It's equally F up
@@twisi6318it’s usually done in a predatory fashion that exploits a power dynamic
I absolutely enjoyed this video! I can identify with P! When I’m in Jamaica that salt water takes away all of my pain, no back aches , no cane or Walker needed I just feel good, young and vibrant! The Jamaican men are awesome as well! Once I return home to Indiana then the pains slowly come back! So yes there is a lot of truth to what Mz P said. 🙏🏾❤️
I can relate to Ms p every time im in Africa,my back ache stops and the moment I get to New York pain comes back .Africa is a blessed land .
🛑🛑🛑I WOULD WANT MY OWN MEN. BLK N BEAUTIFUL. IT IS GOID TO DATE UR OWN MEN, N MEN TO DATE THEIR OWN BLK WOMEN.....WHITE MEN LOVE THEIR OWN N BLK MEN SHOULD LIKE THEIR OWN TOO. IT MAKE SENSE.... 😇😇😇👩🏾❤️💋👨🏾
I am in Indiana too 🤗
Its probably the sun and fresh air, neither of which you get in the UK.
I am from Jamaica but migrated to the USA many years ago. Yes you do feel pain free when you go back home. I love the beach
If this was a series I would watch. Well done showing multiple sides of a complex story!
This video is a more well-rounded version of 90-Day-Fiancee. That show is an addicting dumpster fire.
@@AA-wc3twits not even remotely similar.
P seems like genuinely nice lady! I wish her all the luck in the world, plus she seems to be with someone her own age. The guy she is with is not exactly young. An eye-opening documentary. Well done!
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Nice lady preying on young black men who are in poverty. Very nice lady indeed. This is a predator you call "nice lady".
That's what I thought.... a 50 year old man and 58 year old woman is not exactly a granny preying on a young man!
P reminds of people back here in the US in my family. small world filled people looking for love. we all the same out here no matter gambia uk or the states.
But HE doesn’t look 50! He looks younger. But SHE looks 65 and not attractive That’s the difference. Now the man can live without having to ever work again thanks to granny!
When dude said he was in love with an 85 year old, I cracked a grin and chuckled. You can lie to us, but stop lying to yourself bro!!!
Yo, I kept yelling "n**ga!!!". He said it with a straight face😂, saying he gets hurt when they leave 😂😂. I wonder how he gets an erection for an 85 year old
Bro is committed to the scam! 🤣🤣🤣 make your money bro!
He is in love. He appreciates what she's done for him. Men in the West can learn a thing from some of these men..
@@artistpr5386 I surely hope you are playing, but if not, go ahead and count yourself as one of the D-U-M-M-I-E-S !
@@commonman711 I''m sure your mama is very proud of you. Your dad as well, of course.
"Nice to be nice, man brother" is now going to be a permanent fixture in my vocabulary
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Yup !!!!!
Alka seems like such a great guy. Love that line 😂
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This is just genuinely sad. The guy with the 85 year old lover, is actually genuinely sacrificing himself to provide his dependents with a better life, and the 85 year old lady is trying to find happiness. It's a genuinely sad situation.
Well said
This was a roller coaster ride of emotions watching this. Some parts were hilarious, others were extremely sad
TBH I think the couple in the “Italian villa” house are just renting it for holidays. Why is that sign up saying it’s to let otherwise? You don’t just leave a “for rent” sign up and I doubt as she said “it was up before I came.” That doesn’t add up, nor does the lack of furnishings.
It was… very interesting to watch. 😩, when dude on the beach said he didn’t want to marry a black, that crushed me. I understand the economic drive to be with a financially stable white woman in that type of environment… so so sad.
Passport Girls ❤
Sad is the word. Very sad indeed. Twisted situation where young men think an elderly foreign woman is the key to better living...
None was hilarious if the roles were reversed they’d say we were stealing their women and they needed to protect them.
Why is nobody talking about the fact that the guy's name is KARL MARX? LOL
I thought the same thing!!!
Right
Well since the elites are now all communist trash no one bats and eye anymore.
Its a nick name
Because not all of us are nerds. We genuinely don’t care about that.
“As soon as I land back in the UK, I’m back in pain.” That line changed my small, judgmental mind about what both sides are doing. Everyone has a right to happiness- even if it looks a lot different than what we may consider normal. Life seems to offer limited opportunities to truly feel free and happy. I hope everyone finds what they genuinely need and no one is hurt or scammed.
I’m curious: what is the law that states that everyone has a right to happiness?
@@vincelemaireWell. well as humans. L😢aw or no law , i so believe HAPPINESS CAN BE A RELATIVE word or term .
Beautiful comment ❤
@@vincelemaire you aren’t curious- you are an a&@hole. Positive vibes only. Find another comment thread.
@vincelemaire -- if the OP is American, then it kinda is law. At least the right to pursue happiness. It's the foundation of our constitution-- life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Heck, even Bhutan, such a tiny nation, measures their GDP in happiness. So let people pursue their dream and their happiness. If a woman has the money to support a man, and he has the moral code to keep her happy and loved, then let them be happy. Same as if a rich older man here marries a beautiful trophy wife, or if a European man marries a woman from Thailand or Vietnam.
As a 56 year old woman - It amazes me that any middle aged or older woman would be offended that a poor young man would want money for being with them.
😂😂😂😂 Especially if he's doing what she wants him to do!
Ain't nothing like a throbbing bbc!
Thank you mama
Exactly what I think as well. They are paying to play. 😂
I have to say at least sugar daddies are not delusional and understand the arrangement, these women are straight predators
The ladies want s3x and companionship, the men want money. How far you take it is your own risk. No one is in the position to judge. P looked so young & vibrant it was incredible. I almost cried. The questions & insight were spot on. I really didn’t expect this to be this good, man.
Absolutely right bro its like an ecosystem in Gambia
It's prostitution just like how it is in some Asian countries
The fact that some are married
@@hzlkellyAlka died in 2021 he drowned in the ocean while his wife watched him float away they found his body days later.R.I.P Alka🙏
White women don’t give money…they man want an opportunity to travel abroad not money as white ppl don’t usually give out money
This makes me feel very sad. My ex husband is Gambian. There are only two years difference between us and we met here in the states. However as soon as he didn’t need me anymore financially he decided he wanted a second wife in Africa. We divorced. He married a woman from his culture and moved her here. I think the entire concept of love and marriage is different there.
This should be seen as fraud.
@@Alison-ku5ko
It's done everyday in the U.S. by females who want to secure financial security and they aren't prosecuted for fraud. So how is that any different?
I am sorry to say this but most African men, not just the Gambians consider African women to be their true wives/loves. Unless you meet a 2nd generation migrant/ one who has been culturally westernised, you will never be truly loved. I am an African woman and I know our men. They will tell you sweet nothings and all you want to hear but their hearts are back home. It is better to just avoid them. I am sorry for what you went through but we live and learn.
@@Opinlinzit isn’t? And it’s just as wrong. No one is saying it’s ok for either gender
@@annie_xo
Well obviously some people do think its socially acceptable in society or I wouldn't have pointed it out.
I've seen females everyday cosign this behavior when other females do it. With no regard for the male.
I really like the interviewer! He seems very caring and compassionate.
If I were 85 years old and some young guy was telling me that he wants me to die in his arms I’d be hobbling the other way as fast as I could! I’d be afraid that the unspoken part of that statement was “as quickly as possible”.
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Wow. What an amazing piece. I'd love to hear Gambian women speak about this as well. Perhaps it could be the next chapter in the docu-series?
Gambian women dreaming for white man too
Why is that? Lmao. They don't need to. They're counting the cash earned by their brothers and boyfriends from naive old women.
Who cares? It's not about them
@@Nethanda you're so right don't forget the husband too
😢😢 This is so sad. Africa the Continent with so many resources. And so much Poverty.
like latin america 🤔
Colonizer effect. The damage is profound and the lingering attitude of superiority, white supremacism is repulsive.
it's all because of government corruption. few gets what everyone needs.
I wonder why???
@@emeraldkaysgarden No military power the big numeral kind I say know more
This host covers some great situations. I really enjoy his documentaries ❤
Bad mouthing his own friends. ??????
@@marcoprolo1488 bad mouthing whom?
He is too medling. He needs to keep out of the business of others. If you are trying to find out something do your research but don't try to influence the outcome of others. Mind yoir business and allow others to live the lives they choose. On the other hand, does he really know these people? And what does he really know about them?
He intentionally stirs up drama and pretends it was by accident.
What else has he done? I would enjoy seeing more of his interviews
Love the way the presenter was open, honest, and non-judgmental. It's fabulous. Really can't undersrand the dynamic, but if they are all adults, and its consensual, then wonderful.
He was judgemental, and I was here for it 😅
What a great host/narrator/ journalist. He is truly a class act .
P. is full of wisdom and realism. She will be very happy, whatever happens… good luck, P.
She's sexually exploiting a man who is only enduring it due to his economic hardship..
P is such a cool.human being, i love her energy for life.
This man is incredibly compassionate. ❤ This ended up being something very different than I expected.
I gathered that he is pure in heart. Gorgeous Soul!
Not at all. This operations is a scam run by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women for their money - yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.
@@partridgefamilybus2021 A fool? You're the fool! He did nothing of the sort---he questioned their motives all along! How stupid of you that you don't have enough brains to follow the story!!
Flip the sexes around
Wow you're incredibly misinformed.@@partridgefamilybus2021
What surprises me is that these women aren't afraid.
If something bad happens to a single woman, it has effects on the whole tourism industry. So these women are almost above law even if govt publicly says prostiution doesn’t exist.
@@johnnyharka6609not even in that sense. They don’t care about their health sleeping with men they have no idea what they’re doing
@@TishCane i mean, they already have a leg in their graves 😂
Afraid of what
@@johnnyharka6609 🤣🤣🤣
This is so enlightening... I am from the other side of the world, this is such a faraway reality, and yet, nothing about humans and human relationships should be alien... Thank you for your great work!
He said “I’m an poor Gambian, I don’t want to marry another poor person.” 😂 A lot of relationships with poor foreigners are like this.
lol
almost all marriages are like this even in developed countries.
Can’t blame him
Too bad, can’t build together
Sure, every one can be happy
It's the same as men going to the Philippines and hooking up with the young local girls.
Why Philippines only? Those predators are in your own country preying on your american prostitutes which are everywhere left and right. They just go to asia cause it's "cheaper". But in reality they are in your own backyard. You should watch prostitute videos in your own country with your own race prostitutes.
Exactly!!
In the Phiippines , they are underage. Pedophiles goes to the Philippines.
I know it ain't right but it DOES seem worse when us men do it tho!! 😂 Idk y!
@@toddshaw9441Because it usually is. Those males aren't going to the Philippines to hook up with grandmothers. They're going there to hook up with someone's under-age GRAND-DAUGHTER! 🙄
This is not relationships of love, this is relationships of convience
As are most relationships. You get out of it what you put in. Some just put in money.
@@mscptizzy Oh that makes me sad thinking that's where humanity is.
@@ThereseDavidson Always has been.
Like women haven't been treated worse
It's LUST on these white women part and Opportunity of Stability on the Gambian Men part
The Engineer, plumber guy😅😅.. I don't believe him one bit!!
Even his age, he was stammering...
@@LaZainabou22:16 my goodness, and check out the old babe too, just chewing away at her fingers. They’re both lying, that man is in his 30s
Theres no way on earth that man erected that building singlehandedly. It's got foreign currency all over it. They both lying through their teeth. For her sake and sanity, I hope she knows what shes doing.
When you see the whole family warming up to you, be damn sure you're giving more than you're getting
@@LaZainabouHe obviously has a speech impediment 🙄
@@Vistacraft82obviously he didn't build it with his own hands but clearly not all of the houses the locals lived in were small. They help each other build
The host is a wonderful down to earth realist, love that about him and how he openly give his views. These woman are lucky that the host has given them some honest advice about their relationships with Gambian men. The host's feelings about these women and who they're dating/marring is spot on. Wonderful video
Giving them advice? haha. They're way older than him. They don't need his advice. They know what they're doing.
I'd say any "preying" going on is mutual. The old ladies have a need they want fulfilled.. just as the young men do. They're grown folks .They know exactly what they're doing. I think it's a pretty sad situation on both ends. This was very interesting. I'm Black American and I'd honestly not heard about this happening in Gambia. Thank you, so much, for this video. Very enlightening. Be well. Be safe. God bless. 🙏🙏🙏
Both sides are immoral. The women are delusional and the men actors/scammers.
Same here.
The same thing is happening in Jamaica as well.
I heard from the 80’s what happens between tourists and Gambians. Gambian men need to get some self respect and stop being cheap and nasty.
Exactly win win for everyone adult involved
I’ve never heard of this happening…never knew Gambia was a tourist destination either. Thank you for sharing❤️
The host is amazing, I honestly see so much of myself in him, thinks and talks like me. Love his curiosity and thought process combined with the caring nature
From a Caribbean sister..this was truly eye opening..i loved the reporter's interaction with everyone..i learnt alot..so many questions to ask ..hmmm this left me thinking 🤔
The same thing happens in the Caribbean at the resorts
😅😅😅😅 yeah
@@decmemberdawn Rent A Dread!!
@@GodfreyTaiOyYong😂😂😂lol rent a dread I heard it was men travelling for men at the resort come to Jamaica and feel all right
@@spinrash6000 Okay.
11:25 omg the granny taking her disco-nap in the middle of the club 😂😭🤣
Maybe she is even ded😂😂
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This mess is SAD. What about the white hair granny with the cane, standing on the curb??! 😂 They deserve to be scammed!
@@tinastardust7793 I think of it more as End of Life Care
LMAOF!
This was so good! I love the journalist, he’s so compassionate for each side, and he truly appreciates the human life.
Seyi, you are an amazing journalist. This popped up as I was researching poly relationships in America. Great documentary with great balance. I only wish to see women from Gambia giving their perspective as a follow-up/Part 2.
This is not journalism its racism.
The interviewer is so compassionate and so adorable
Adorable? Hes a grown man, granny.
@@TraciJoseph-h2h He's still adorable ...and a decent man. Nothing wrong with appreciation. Don't be mad that he has no interest in a sour puss.
@@TraciJoseph-h2h Yes, a grown and adorable compassionate Brit.. One can see that age will never be an issue for you. That sour tude will fuel your own broom for a lifetime. 😂 😂
He’s not interested granny
@@NatureWins22 And I'm not interested in him except to pay him a compliment. Sorry that you've been so rejected and shunned that you attack even kind words from one stranger to another. I was admiring his depth and compassion, nothing more. Im sure there is a toad ( or toadess) out there for you. Try smiling once in a while instead of screeching out an angry " ribet" at every turn. The world is what we make it. 😛😁
Excellent and nuanced! He really tries to look at things from many sides.
This is so interesting !! I wish there is a part 2 & 3 etc
Grand Pa goes to Thailand and Grand Ma goes to Gambia.
Yep
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😂😂😂😂 indeed
well said
N they have their great grand children next year
I am Jamaican, and I know for a fact in Jamaica that this happens in tourists destinations too. I personally believe this is directly tied to slavery and the legacy of it.
@citizenx-jz4dfMaybe so, but the fact is many people, especially whites are very much in the master-slave, superior/inferior concept. One of the reasons why whites go around the world to Asian and black countries seeking to fulfill their flesh at the exploitation of the vulnerable - men, women and children. Open your eyes and face reality. Whites think black and brown people are on earth to serve them, including sexually.
I don’t agree. They come to get laid, because caribean men would lay them.
The power relations. They get the left over European women.
@citizenx-jz4dfwhere you think they got the slaves from...
@citizenx-jz4df of course there was slavery in Gambia. Kunta Kinteh was from the Gambia. They had the doors to nowhere where they loaded the slave ships. Major port for the Atlantic slave trade. Slavery in the Americas and the Gambia are 100 % tied together
what an open minded, respectful, curious and humorous interviewer. So Refreshing!
Absolutely..i said the same thing
No he wasn’t. He was prying at the people trying to find dirt or trying to get the people to say something negative about their partners
@@FettiMagazine Then we see things differently. He tried to cover multiple aspects of their relations without being one-sided or naive.
I worked closely with a woman (54) went to Gambia and married a 20 yr old man. He could not fake his attraction to her unfortunately. She passed away shortly after they married but she would rarely talk about it. His inability to overcome the physical aspects of the relationship made her very embarrassed. It was not a good situation. However, i supported her in any way i could.
P and Bob look good together...wishing them continued joy and happiness
I really like this piece. I didn't trust the couple with the rented house, I felt she might be in on some scam with him together. She got nervous and started fudging the ages herself, it seemed off. The reporter is excellent and I hope to see more of his work.
Yup. At first it seemed like she was a victim of her husband's deception. But after a while it seemed like she was engaging in some deception herself... (self-deception at the very least, because it seemed like there was some hidden truth that was starting to rise to the surface, but she didn't want to see it).
I think she wants to build him up to be some kind of "entrepreneur" or capable of his own income bc that way she doesnt get painted as funding his lifestyle.
I bet she's feeding into the lie that this house is all "his" money so she can commit some kind of tax evasion in the UK.
Right
The house was a beautiful place..rented or not
Interesting reversal. He says it feels degrading to see the men standing and waiting to be chosen. Imagine the thousands of women who've been through this very same thing, often because they, too, had no other options.
It would still feel degrading.
somehow you are claiming that those women are victims. They are not
No, I am not.@@adrianmainz2716
@@adrianmainz2716 he's not talking about these wealthy white women, but other countries (including those in the west) where female prostitution is prevalent and equally dangerous, with an added layer or mysoginy and systemic violence towards women.
Like a slave market
The interviewer was excellent. I liked his comments about each couple. He seems to be very wise.
I agree. He needs to be on a big network doing investigative journalism, I hope he has a great career. ❤
I started to scroll past this video but the title grabbed my interest.
Therefore I tapped on this platform and was totally captivated with interest. I must say I totally enjoyed the host and his compassion and assertiveness. It's so good to keep up with what's going on around the world.
Thank you for this video, I do pray that all the women find true love and longevity in their relationship ❤️.
Nevertheless beware of wolf in sheep clothing.
I did too.
And I hope the guys they find are genuine and treat them well.
This work you are doing is so important. I've been watching documentaries about older British women scammed by young men they meet while on vacation in various countries across Africa. The British women are always portrayed as the victims. However, I can't help but consider whether they would be considered victims if they were white men dating very young girls in Southeast Asia. We need more unbiased perspectives such as your own that show both sides of the story. Well done-please keep up the great work!
Took the thought out of my brain girl!!
But these are woman and not men, race is irrelevant.
Normally I would agree, but this documentary is obviously thinnly-veiled anti-yt-ism. It's a joke to think that grandmas, in a foreign country, are somehow "predators".
@@Morrosoy28 Gender is. Race?
Not so much... quit being wilfully oblivious. It's ALWAYS about race. And by the way, you can thank the Europeans for that.
Your comparison is a little off. Older men with money date younger women from all over the world, not just old white men and not only the Southeast Asia. Rich and old men date more white women than Southeast Asian. Sugar daddies/mommies is the frequent term used in the scenario. Both the sides enjoy their reason for the relationship. If old British women dating young Gambian women is frowned upon, then all relationships in the world where older men date young women should be too.
If your reason of comparison was that western men are seeking wives abroad, that is a totally different scenario, they find love, marry, and together start a family where they can be financially stable. No one exploits the other in that relationship, and many a times both the partners earn.
This woman is real and honest, everything she said, weather, happiness, love that she feels, priceless.
How do u feel about the prostitution? is that good for anyone?
@@Upgraydez Prostitution is never good for either party. However, there are a lot of factors at play here in this situation and these men could be robbing people or doing something else that is dangerous to them or their community. This is a softer way to potential freedom and a lifestyle change. Most prostitutes, in the traditional sense, are just trying to get by on whatever scraps they can muster up. These men are gambling for lifechanging money. They can potentially take care of themselves and a large swath of their families.
For the women's part, they are coming from a culture that doesn't value older women and doesn't validate them in a sexual space either. Older, single men are typically looking for younger women, for the same reasons these older women are looking for younger men: They want companionship, and they want to feel young and needed. That is what they are getting.
Morally bankrupt? That's a matter of opinion. So long as everyone is happy in the end, that has to count for something. They are all adults here and if the government is unable to do anything to help these young men, then we can't sit here and judge.
@@Upgraydez he is young, he needs money. Honor is for white colonizers
Well the men in England go the Thailand and Filipines and married these young girls no one blink an eye but if the women's do it is another story
We do blink an eye. How do you think you have the knowledge
It's wrong either way it goes.
Both are wrong and disrespectful of the other human.
We do blink an eye 🤦♂️. There are hundreds of documentaries on how old men go to these countries and "marry" young women.
The younger people aren't innocent. Both males & females know they are using the financial stability of the older. The Older people aren't innocent... they know the only reason they have a younger person is because that person is financially desperate.
I'm an older woman. What can I
offer a man my nephews age
- (young adult) ? It sounds like
the men are impoverished and the women are paying for attention from the men. Older men pay for attention from younger women all the time. This is a similar situation and it is sad. Why don't older men and women help younger adult couples and not utilitize them for their own purposes. That would be better.
Low self-esteem and competition.
@@AMYP6 they are also selfish and unable to see the other person's struggle
old man + old woman. that is better, a 10-12 year age gap is still same generation.
@@christigoth Old rich men want children though, and old women can't have children. Agape is the only way. Ephesians 5:25✝
@@MiguelDLewisold rich men already have children 😂 they just have more with younger woman because she doesn't have any yet
I love the reporter. He's good at speaking and hearing all sides.
Ngl thought that was John Forte in the thumbnail. On some tf?🚬🧐
I notice how conservatively he is dressed. I get the impression he is trying to not "fit in" with the prospective partners. Imagine coping with tropical heat wearing long pants/trousers after leaving winter in Europe.
@@kitiowa I don't recall the man sweating at all🌝
Of course they never argue. She the boss.
😂😂😂 everything is up and down😅 the reporter is even confused
Transactional relationships come in all forms across the globe. In fact, that's the norm throughout history. Marrying for "love" is a very recent concept. As long as all involved are adults and have no cognitive issues, who's to judge.
A fulll grown man should never be in the relationship and can't provide...
@@shanazblacksun7201tell that to the grannies with the goodies. You think they dont know money dictates power dynamics?😂😂
And that all individuals involved are willing participants.
The parties in this regard do have cognitive issues, the women are typically codependent and the men covert narcissists! Trauma bonds, exploitation all the way!
yeah, because old women often do have cognitive issues.
These are the passport girls, lmao!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Basically 😂
Ran through and useless at home
@MyNameIsUnavailable , Is this the same for the passport boys ?!!!
@@9empresswearthey’re just mad no rich sugar mommy wants to sweep them off their feet because they have nothing to offer but bitterness
Passport grannies
passport fossils
This is the female version of passport bro’s just as old white women. It’s just as gross and deplorable. As a woman I would hate being on either end of this. Someone being with me just for what I could do for them financially or pimping myself out for income. It’s all bad.
the difference is, no children end up suffering. Men leave children behind. grannies do not
At least the women actually marry some of the men. The passport bros go to buy coochie and have their egos stroked.
The comment I was looking for!
Old black women too it seems.
Seems a little judgey. A lot of these people get married so who are you to say it's wrong if they're both happy?
"We've never argued in 2 years" probably cause dude doesn't want to risk rocking the boat and losing his situation
The old ladies are telling us openly why they go to Gambia. Therefore, the old ladies cannot be a prey, because they go to Gambia to look for younger Gambian men. In this case, the old ladies have the power of money that they can use to prey on the younger Gambian men. Fortunately, the old ladies do not have to spend too much energy because their presence in the beach is enough to become a glamorous lure for the poor Gambian younger men.
People like you are the worst kind of racist. Those men are adults who choose to do that. They're not children who are manipulated just because they're poor.
Glamour? I don't think that's the right definition of this situation. 😂😂
In this scenario -- NO ONE IS PREYING- GROWN PEOPLE- it is what it is
@@pierrerochon7271 I agree.. but, would you be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed? People seem to react very different when it's an older, wealthy man with a younger, poor woman.
They are predators no diffrent then men
P should live in Gambia. She seems so happy there. I hope she gets to.
Enjoyed this video. Thank you!
I'm thinking she will. Her man seems to genuinely love her, and she is so much more healthy and happy there! 😍 🌿 🙆🏻♀️
@@GypsyGirl317he didn’t even flinch when she started crying. Dang y’all gullible 🙄. These people are SCAMMERS.
This guy doing the narrating is adorable. Lol
The lady who feels well in Gambia but in pain in the UK - this is very true. I have an immune disease, and my body also reacts this way, altho, not Gambia as I have never been, but I live in an area quite high above sea level, lower oxygen & humidity, and am in pain. Places with high humidity and low altitude, and I feel fine. (just an fyi in case anyone is wondering why)
No one is wondering 😂
I didn’t know as I have an immune disease. I’m in pain and have done everything to ease it, nothing works
@@littlegirllost2654try traveling
They don’t even call it looking for “love” or a “relationship” they call it an OPPORTUNITY for Gods sake 🤦🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
I like the honesty. Don’t call it “love” or a “relationship” if it is not.
@@Shay45 exactly. I don't see men having the same insightfulness when they are in these same situations.
And the lady saying about his Gambian fiance that he's a "human being" 🤦 🫠
@@yes12337 At least. I know people here in Germany who don't consider people beyond a certain darkness of the skin as humans. :(
An opportunity for both parties.
IF this were a documentary about OLDER men with younger women in a financially vulnerable position, it would be a dramatically different story. BUT, as a grown man myself, I don't think it's ok for older men to be with younger women. We're typically more emotionally manipulative, take advantage, place less personal value on intimacy, etc.
"We're typically more emotionally manipulative, take advantage, place less personal value on intimacy, etc."
You mean you are?
Just say that
Believe me: the opposite also happens, just not in Africa. But go to Phuket and you get old man praying on younger woman in pretty much the same way.
You need help man.
Utterly ridiculous statement
@@marcoprolo1488You need to leave young girls alone
How can it be an equal exchange of like minded people when the men are impoverished. You do what you have to do and make the best of it. I can't help but feel that Gambian women are being cheated out of a future with a Gambian man.
Right it’s not black and white
All the men are lying the wife and kids are at the other house
acjfiddler - Well, but not really. In set-ups like this, the man most likely will have (if he doesn't already have) a second relationship - with a Gambian woman/wife as well, and they will raise a family. And it's highly probably (if not certain) that everybody will be aware of the arrangement, even if it may go unspoken for their whole lives.
What about lonely old white men that buy love from poor countries
The Gambian women are in on it.
if they marry with Gambian women then the poverty line will just circulate forever making it harder for everyone now and future generations. It's a compromise they have to make
YOU ARE A AN AWESOME GUY ! It’s refreshing to see an Smart & Honest Man, Who truly Cares For This Woman who is for SURE, getting scammed.🌷🌷💗
My heart goes out to both the men and women involved in a situation like this. Love is sacred, but money corrupts everything. I hope one day humans are all equal, so that love can prevail.
if black men has their way they would ALL marry a white women
The interviewer was very respectful and sensitive to the ppl.
I loved this video and the narrator's empathy and impartiality.
impartiality? the title claims the grannies are preying, these men are preying on them doe their money. takes two
Im so excited to see two sides to this story...any story! Awesome interviewer.
This is such excellent storytelling! Well done Seyi Rhodes and team. Once you get past the impulse to judge these Gambian men, you really come to terms with the fact that humans are going to be humans.
Wow he’s Nigerian! So proud of him🥰😍
Very talented interviewer and presenter. Interesting doc I’ve never known about this. The men are so kind and very charismatic I can see how the grannies get roped in. Sad all around but interesting.
The grannies may not be prepared for their partners' need to share the bounty with their family members.
"nice to be nice man" has been added to my vocabulary 😆
Excellent work really very interesting, never if knew this about Gambia, lovely people.
This was an important documentary. I see in the comments some people saying that it is mutual but I see it as exploitation of people’s misfortune. Given the history of the Gambia and slavery it is even more disturbing. You do not get a sense that anyone is truly being authentic about what they want and need with the exception of 2 of the ladies.
The couple that never fights is a red flag to me. It doesn't mean they have nothing to fight about, but maybe that the man doesn't feel comfortable fighting to defend himself.
I agree
@@jessy1982or that the relationship is so superficial they have nothing to fight about
These women are a particular type. They NEED social interaction. They always NEED, always take advantage of others to fill their own needs, and have never been fully self-reliant, so they are susceptible. But I don't feel sorry for them. They're either gullible or delusional, or both. I highly doubt they've ever been in mature, respectable, romantic partnerships. I doubt they have healthy, appropriate relationships with their own children. The whole thing is sad. But, these situations are not the same as a gold digging, young, WESTERN woman searching for an old rich man. That's absolutely NOT the same thing. Western women have many more opportunities to enrich themselves than people from poor nations do, like these young men, so their gold digging is more predatory than desperate. These older women are definitely taking advantage of people who have no choice about poverty. They should know better and have higher expectations of themselves rather than choosing to use other people as toys. It's healthy to accept yourself as you are, age included. But there's an expectation of behaviour that goes with age. I'm a senior woman, BTW.
There are people saying is mutual? 😂😂😂 wow
P is such a doll...what a beautiful soul
Yea I like her too
She’s gorgeous inside and out. Wish her the best ❤
She was glowing , I felt bad when she had to head back to the UK. You could tell deep down she was looking for love and acceptance
Wish her the best in life and love. She’s a gem 😊❤
"I don't think I've got the full picture here 🤔"
😂
These men are not telling their true age. No way that guy is 46... he looks mid 30s
no he does not ... he looks old ... very old actually
Such an amazingly compassionate journalist. All the subjects in this, on both sides, seem like really sweet and nice people.
🤡
The plumbers mansion left me witj too many unanswered questions
He's lying. He's doing something else. Probably not even his house, more like living in someone else's house he getting paid to fix up. No kitchen and he's been in it for 2 years. 🤔
Dude is lying he’s not fooling anyone probably squatting
P and Bob the Builder are hilarious!! They seem just fine Bob has a grey beard and neither seems they are using each other. They are having fun. Michelle is delusional and her husband's family knows all about it. 🤣🤣
The "Engineer" aka "Plumber" aka "Painter", She's also a liar. She lied about his age, then the rental. Every time she was caught she'd bite her nails or get defensive
Yes, that one is an interesting situation. I think she will end up very vulnerable.
Yeah, there's clearly something wrong with Michelle. She and that dude she married can't even keep their lies straight.
I’m worried for Michelle too.
@@zamo9266i hope she is not their slave somethings are off with that situation. I hope her family sees this and gets her help. The guy tried helping her showing her the picture of the rental. She lies like a victim.
Eye opening and interesting thx..4a nice documentary ….💕