LEARNING TO EMBRACE BEING AN OLDER SINGLE WOMAN -RC BLAKES

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Комментарии • 808

  • @JM-yf5rt
    @JM-yf5rt 3 года назад +80

    I am turning 50 in a few hours and I am struggling to listen to this message right now. Why? Because I REALLY thought I would be married and have children by this age. Now, it looks like the child-bearing ship has sailed and I still don't have a prospect of a King husband. Although I am grateful to reach this age because some have not, this is DEFINITELY a difficult night for me. God help me to gracefully turn the page and thrive in a new life vision. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @felicitygrace5113
      @felicitygrace5113 2 года назад +6

      I hear you .... sending blessings! 🌟

    • @AJ-gd1ww
      @AJ-gd1ww Год назад +3

      I relate so much to ur comment

    • @deborahflynn1708
      @deborahflynn1708 Год назад +7

      Hello J
      thank you for your reply
      im.58 never married /no children
      sending love and hugs to you across the miles

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 Год назад +3

      Same boat . I think some people think that we can be happily single but also want a great man for ourselves .

    • @melindaferreira9879
      @melindaferreira9879 Год назад +8

      I'm 52. Never married.. I adopted a precious girl who will be 18 in a few days..

  • @ImaBlesschild
    @ImaBlesschild 5 лет назад +193

    I enjoy my singleness it’s giving time to learn what I do and don’t want. I’m 53 this year and I Know my value.

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose 5 лет назад +5

      Yes!!!! Me too!

    • @ImaBlesschild
      @ImaBlesschild 5 лет назад +9

      Crystal Grose Its beautiful I don’t worry about being alone I don’t feel it.I had to learn how to love myself. I Had to understand that “I Am First’’ a relationship starts with me first. Then love will come. To God be the Glory and Thank God for The knowledge and wisdom and that’s coming from Biship!! OMGGGG!!!

    • @wondafaith8621
      @wondafaith8621 5 лет назад

      Happy birthday!

    • @zolaclark20
      @zolaclark20 5 лет назад +4

      I'm so glad you made that confession. I'm 34 and a first-time single parent mother of a beautiful baby girl. I am learning the do's and don'ts of being single as well, and I still beat myself up for the things I didn't know. I just know that I don't want my baby girl to grow up with these negative, ludacris pressures the media and society place on our minds.

    • @growden100
      @growden100 4 года назад +3

      @@zolaclark20 You will be your daughter's first teacher. She will hear about her worth from you first.

  • @lindarobinson2862
    @lindarobinson2862 5 лет назад +29

    I love my single life! I was married for 25 years. Now I've been divorced now 19 years as of 2019. There is life after divorce. I'm working on my "Legacy." I will be 66 years old on February 18, 2019...I have been pre-approved to purchase my own house. I am going back to school to get my Master's degree and I have a seasonal catering business specializing in gourmet soul food. I am the PTA Treasurer for my grandson's school. I have a food ministry monthly food baskets distribution to people who are in need. All of this while dealing with the pain and problems of having Lupus! I get up every morning and thank God, then I go to hair and makeup.( I decide what wig or color of lipstick I want to wear!). I use nice smelling perfumes and lotion, big hoop earrings, colorful tops and leggings, boots, etc. Make it fun to bathe and dress!!! Life is so good!

    • @elizabethash4720
      @elizabethash4720 Год назад +4

      What an inspiration you are, just in this paragraph you wrote. Very memorable to me. ❤Thankyou, God Bless you today and everyday and to be painfree.😊

    • @angieguffey6255
      @angieguffey6255 9 месяцев назад +1

      God bless you! You are an inspiration for me. Thank you, so much for sharing words of encouragement and wisdom.
      🙏❤️🙏

  • @Kiki-jx6by
    @Kiki-jx6by 5 лет назад +365

    I have adopted him as my Internet pastor.

  • @Candaicelovesjesus
    @Candaicelovesjesus 5 лет назад +25

    I think something happens to women when they reach 40... it’s like they all of a sudden they begin to understand they’re worth and have 0 TOLERANCE FOR THE FOOLISHNESS

  • @unchainyourbrain3312
    @unchainyourbrain3312 5 лет назад +173

    There is nothing like coming to a place where youre truely and I mean genuinely happy being single.I never thought I could.Youre not mad,youre not looking like a sack a potatoes😝,youre just happy.Only Yah can bring peace and a sincere sense of worth.

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +4

      Unchain your Brain 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾well said gal!

    • @kathrinarichardson5068
      @kathrinarichardson5068 5 лет назад +19

      I know what you mean. I am very happy being single to be in my 50's. Plus men have changed. They believe they are the gift to us.. however God said I was the gift. So I'm good with God.. hallelujah!!! After all of my relationships.. I have never felt better than with God. Praise the Lord..

    • @unchainyourbrain3312
      @unchainyourbrain3312 5 лет назад +14

      Yes they have but I think standards are so low that some are getting away with acting like donkeys with no consequences.They dont see any value in marriage or anything traditional.It really is a matter of self preservation and getting real with Yah.I used to play with that and try to compromise with Him until I realized one day I really dont need anything or anyone.How many times did I want my own space and am I willing to put in the extra work?If and when the right one comes it wont sound so exhausting but now Im cool.😉

    • @sadditycarroll1996
      @sadditycarroll1996 5 лет назад +3

      I'm luvin it😊💖!#WellSaid

  • @tamelacole478
    @tamelacole478 5 лет назад +105

    A man most definitely can't lead you if he does not .... LUVVVV GOD OR LUVVVV HIS SELF.®™®

    • @mselliott7475
      @mselliott7475 5 лет назад

      So true.

    • @tammymarbury5199
      @tammymarbury5199 5 лет назад

      Really true

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey 4 года назад +3

      Most don't and are really of no use to women, anyway.

    • @wendydrummond2338
      @wendydrummond2338 4 года назад

      I totally agree with you he also can't lead himself either God bless you love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia

  • @sondraferguson5183
    @sondraferguson5183 5 лет назад +150

    I been married twice I am 46 I finally getting to know who I am . Kids grown and I love this season as a single Queen better my relationship with God.

    • @growden100
      @growden100 4 года назад +2

      Amen!

    • @angelaaaron5575
      @angelaaaron5575 4 года назад +1

      Amen!

    • @LatashaCM
      @LatashaCM 4 года назад +5

      Your post just inspired me. Divorced and now leaving a very very bad relationship at 43. My son is years old. It seems scary but I'm trusting God. You just really inspired me to trust in God ALL THE WAY. Thank you

    • @michaelwayne261
      @michaelwayne261 3 года назад +1

      I love your reasoning.. at the age of 55,no woman in my life

    • @romaineknox-chapman3323
      @romaineknox-chapman3323 3 года назад

      Amen! Love it…💞

  • @tamelacole478
    @tamelacole478 5 лет назад +93

    I am 46yrs old and I am at a point I really don't want to be married....BEEN MARRIED BEFORE AND I'M FOCUSING ON MYSELF AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE®™®

    • @jenniferrhodes5761
      @jenniferrhodes5761 5 лет назад +3

      Same here sister I'm 47 and I have been married and I can't see myself putting myself into another relationship right now. I have no more time to waste. I'm focusing on me and my values

    • @plazmagirl4633
      @plazmagirl4633 5 лет назад +1

      I am 37.5 feel the same.

    • @pamelaclary5869
      @pamelaclary5869 5 лет назад +2

      Tamela Cole you’re still young tho. You can have yourself a boyfriend and still get married if the two of you want but it’s great that you’re focusing on yourself now. You are only going to get better.

  • @Mywatercrystaltv
    @Mywatercrystaltv 5 лет назад +137

    I am an attractive 55 year old and often ostracized by married couples in my church, even my friends! I have an outgoing personality & used to enjoy serving passionately in my church. Now I am reserved in church & find fulfilment of my gifts/talents & acceptance outside of church!

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +15

      Royal Diadem 👏🏾👏🏾go girl and do you! I’m 39 and very content with being me, loving it! Not even longing for it.Marriage is NOT an accomplishment but a sacrifice! A sacrifice that’s sometimes is not WORTH it. I’m good being me!

    • @kathrinarichardson5068
      @kathrinarichardson5068 5 лет назад +3

      I hear you..loud an clear..

    • @bettytetu9284
      @bettytetu9284 5 лет назад +12

      True,when u are single ,the so called church brethren, they tend to ignore u

    • @barbmcdaniel471
      @barbmcdaniel471 5 лет назад +23

      For some reason some wives cant stand us good looking outgoing single babes lol. Girl you better strut your stuff and get back to serving like you used too. They have absolutly nothing to do with your self worth. You're giving them too much power!!

    • @jelicianorwood24
      @jelicianorwood24 5 лет назад +2

      Aww good for you

  • @zeewash7153
    @zeewash7153 5 лет назад +195

    Hi Pastor Blakes ! I am single, 45, & I am enjoying my single journey. I am headed to Milan, Italy 🇮🇹 tomorrow! I refuse to just exist, I am living my Best Life because God has shifted my focus. Do I desire a beautiful black man to marry? Of course! However, I choose not to settle or fall for an okedoke! God’s will be done. If marriage is in my future, great. If not, so be it. I will continue living my best life! See you in Mesquite, TX Pastor!

  • @PaulinaJohnsonMBA
    @PaulinaJohnsonMBA 5 лет назад +171

    I feel like this and I am 41.... I just don’t like dating, I am very worthy and I just don’t want to get into another silly marriage... so if I see silly showing up, I cut off communication. ‘No time for fake ones’ 😂🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @monicamurray1665
    @monicamurray1665 5 лет назад +105

    We all need to keep it real not all of us are going to be married! And a large percentage of us will die alone! Am 60 next year and I have embrace this... I know my worth it’s our men who are not worthy of us.... Singleness is a blessing!

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +2

      Monica Murray 👍🏾👍🏾

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose 5 лет назад +5

      You are right sister!

    • @BlaqP1
      @BlaqP1 5 лет назад +1

      Oh oh oh OH OH Oh

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey 4 года назад +7

      Singleness is DEFINITELY a blessing, when I see all the jokers and fools I have to choose from. No thanks!!

    • @annabellademus9719
      @annabellademus9719 4 года назад

      Monica Murray I JUST BECAUSE YOU MAY HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER,

  • @5339kimhall
    @5339kimhall 5 лет назад +86

    I'm 54 go to the gym, eat healthy, and feel better than I did in my 30s. My children are grown. I'm enjoying my life like never before Needing to be married to me, is a serious form of codependency. God Bless You!

    • @paulajames3937
      @paulajames3937 5 лет назад +4

      Rock it out, girl!💖💯😇🙏

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey 4 года назад +7

      I TOTALLY agree!!! I actually PREFER the company of fellow positive women to males.

  • @bernitapennick4685
    @bernitapennick4685 5 лет назад +65

    Try 58 and still enjoying life for what it is I’ve been single all my life

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +6

      Bernita Pennick I call that FREEDOM in Christ! Well done. I’m 39 and content.

    • @lvncsr6166
      @lvncsr6166 5 лет назад +11

      Try....64(looks 40ish) Taking care of me after a 26 year abusive marriage to a narcissist. I do want love in my life BUT.....I am good with me because God Truly is supplying everything I need and want. I do sometimes want to go to a concert but not alone but I am so grateful to be so healthy, energetic and youthful and that's what makes me happy!

    • @paulajames3937
      @paulajames3937 5 лет назад +2

      49( in November)here, me too! May God Bless and Keep you!🙏😇💖

    • @paulajames3937
      @paulajames3937 5 лет назад +2

      @@lvncsr6166 Absolutely!💯☺

    • @lvncsr6166
      @lvncsr6166 5 лет назад +1

      IKR!!!

  • @GOP7100
    @GOP7100 5 лет назад +45

    I just love the God in you Sir. Thank you for helping me to be a better woman, a queen. I'm so grateful.🙏🏾

  • @eileenmoore7725
    @eileenmoore7725 5 лет назад +18

    Hello Pastor Blakes: You hit the nail on the head! I am 66 years old and never married and that is because my criteria has not changed. I was programmed by my mother that you had to be married at a certain age or become a spinster. Pastor, i just tired of the same old line the men have so I decided to take myself out of the game until God brings me a suitable mate. And if He does not, I am not going to lose any sleep over it. I have to be about God's business!

    • @jaywatson6261
      @jaywatson6261 10 месяцев назад +2

      I'm the same age and endured the same pressures. However, my mum gave me some sound advice, as did my dad just before they both passed. They were both married for 60 years. Basically, they recommended that I should enjoy the life that God gave me as an individual. I've enjoyed the journey of getting to know myself and the wonderful journey that this revolution and evolution have taken me on. Great comment that really resonated with me. Thanks for sharing!

  • @AliciaExploresLife
    @AliciaExploresLife 5 лет назад +114

    Im in my 40’s & I’m enjoying the life Ive created being single, I ask
    God if a husband is best for my life & will add to my
    Life then fine send him, if not I know my worth & I enjoy caring &
    Loving myself....

    • @nubianqueen5077
      @nubianqueen5077 5 лет назад +6

      ClasiLady Gunner, beautifully said.🖊📗✅😁

    • @tmichele8922
      @tmichele8922 5 лет назад +6

      Yes sis you blessed me with your words

    • @shon5199
      @shon5199 5 лет назад +2

      That was beautiful! I needed that🙌🏿

    • @PRECIUZ739
      @PRECIUZ739 5 лет назад +2

      Very well put

    • @philipiwu8073
      @philipiwu8073 3 года назад

      I will cherish you with my life if you give me a chance. I mean every word!💐🌹

  • @diva216
    @diva216 5 лет назад +20

    I took myself "off the market" to work on ME, not a relationship but me. What makes me happy, pursuing my dreams/goals, being of sound mind w/ genuine joy & peace within. These are things no one can provide but me and God (and going to see a therapist every 2 weeks). I am responsible for my happiness...only took 41 years to get here, but I'm here. Do I desire to be married? Yes, but when God says it's time.

  • @worthaboverubys
    @worthaboverubys 5 лет назад +36

    What I got from this post was
    1. Marriage should not be the foundation in which you determine your worthiness, physically or otherwise. This holds marriage higher than God's will for you, to reside in him.
    2. Your identity must be established before marriage and not determined by its presence or lack thereof. It is through this self knowledge/maturity/awareness that one can even identity what God has for them and in turn, create a stronger bond within their relationships through true connection.

  • @mylahosifo9479
    @mylahosifo9479 5 лет назад +22

    I’m 43, i was married but he left for a younger woman so I raised our 3 kids alone with no financial support from him. I think I’m just to old and have to much to do to play games with some boy who thinks he’s a man. I also have been alone so long I don’t have room in my life for a man. I sleep in the middle of my bed, I take up the entire sink in the bathroom. I use both closets in my bedroom. Sometimes I think our changing hormones play a role in our feeling as well.

    • @fionam3735
      @fionam3735 5 лет назад +4

      Mylah Osifo almost 46 two young children and single. For the first time I don’t want/need a man/husband.. strange but good territory

  • @hopediamond2153
    @hopediamond2153 5 лет назад +25

    This type of desperate energy attract Narcissists. It happened to me, so wanted to get married and the 'perfect man' showed up and I was still in my 20's.

    • @yolandaholliday4964
      @yolandaholliday4964 3 года назад

      Oh yes indeed!!!!!!! You hit it on the spot!!! Been there and am getting out of it as soon as the judge sign that decree!!!!

  • @Justprincessjess
    @Justprincessjess 5 лет назад +24

    I wish you had a congregation in NY! You are such a good pastor!

  • @kittygalore2010
    @kittygalore2010 5 лет назад +16

    This is amazing often people forget about single older women. My mom is one and I constantly pray for her companionship and husband 🙏🙏🙏

  • @laniebryan7375
    @laniebryan7375 4 года назад +7

    He said sometimes grown women are still attracted to men that are still little boys in their mind !!! WOW!!!!

  • @goddessrulz3094
    @goddessrulz3094 5 лет назад +12

    I’m happy not to be married....anymore. At 41 I’m finally enjoying me.

  • @Lovingmyselfthroughmyeyes
    @Lovingmyselfthroughmyeyes 5 лет назад +32

    35 and waiting on God to bless me with a spouse if He sees fit, yet enjoying my single season and I am continually becoming the best version of myself💗

    • @Rishonable
      @Rishonable 5 лет назад +5

      Hunny you ain't gotta wait!! He already before the foundation of the Earth was established ordained that one for you accordingly to His perfect will. This is you season to praise Him in advance and see that mate by faith. Receive that mate in Jesus name. May that man locate you and my you be the woman with all he needs in Jesus mighty name. Amen.

    • @bzebee5979
      @bzebee5979 5 лет назад +3

      Rita Alexandria. You are still a “youngster” in my book haha

  • @PaulinaJohnsonMBA
    @PaulinaJohnsonMBA 5 лет назад +16

    ‘Own and project your beauty’!

  • @mszan1
    @mszan1 5 лет назад +26

    Pastor, I truly appreciate this message. I'm a 46 year old single mother of two who was engaged to my children's father, but NEVER made it down the alter. For the longest time, I thought something was wrong with me, but not anymore. I'm thoroughly embracing my single life and understand that God will allow the husband He created for me to find me soon.

  • @uneeklowe9166
    @uneeklowe9166 5 лет назад +21

    I so appreciate this message! I am 62 and thankful to God that He is teaching me how to be "Intentional" about pursuing Him and my dreams that fell by the way side when I was younger. He is a gracious God and I love that I am finally finding my worth in Him and the talents He has blessed me with. I am learning to play the violin and I make custom made handbags called My Uneek Bag! God gave me the name Uneek and now I see why! :-) Thank you for speaking about legacy because that is my purpose, to leave legacy for my son's and grandchildren! God bless you!

    • @philipiwu8073
      @philipiwu8073 3 года назад

      I will cherish you if you give me a chance to prove it to you. I don't mind about age or distance I will love you with my very last breath! I mean every word you see💐🌹

  • @veronicabrown3329
    @veronicabrown3329 5 лет назад +21

    Im 54 and single. I get lonely at times, then I pray to Yah about it. I realize I could be single for the rest of my life. The way the world is its probably best to stay single. Yah will send a marriage mate if that's His will. Thank you for sharing shalom.

  • @carmenhayes8680
    @carmenhayes8680 5 лет назад +56

    I love the way you have approached this getting older as a woman, but most men are so immature it's ridiculous. The world doesn't men show it through their actions. If most men were mature enough to understand or understood the beauty of being married, maybe more of us woulds have a chance. RC Blake it's hard out there for a good woman to find a suitable man for her life.

    • @2Faboosh
      @2Faboosh 5 лет назад +2

      Facts 💯

    • @lvncsr6166
      @lvncsr6166 5 лет назад +8

      Maybe the problem is women are trying to 'find' a man rather than waiting for God to 'send' a husband to them.

    • @LaughingblueSu
      @LaughingblueSu 4 года назад +1

      @@lvncsr6166 Simple math.
      100:1 odds

    • @lvncsr6166
      @lvncsr6166 4 года назад +2

      @@LaughingblueSu odds have nothing to do with it....imo.....with God nothing is impossible.

    • @aqueenwhocareschitchat4409
      @aqueenwhocareschitchat4409 3 года назад +1

      Ladies just get into your purpose and if its met to be it will happy

  • @edunlap6594
    @edunlap6594 5 лет назад +25

    I'm unashamedly not marriage material. Too many men out here flatter themselves too much. I'd be better off symbolically marrying myself. I've seen married and unmarried people in life. The men have too much power in either case.

  • @Luxuryofnormality
    @Luxuryofnormality 5 лет назад +27

    What a beautiful reminder from God to all women who n the world. Thank you Pastor for waking our hope and fueling our self belief ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @harmoneeabraham9336
    @harmoneeabraham9336 5 лет назад +8

    Single women talk about getting married, while married women preach 'Don't rush it. Enjoy your alone time. I'm 45. Single and have always desired a mate. 2017 God came in and radically changed my mindset. I'm focused on My relationship with God. Getting my body and mind in order. Deepening my relationship with Self and developing my legacy. Pastor you preaching Good! Thank you

  • @reeree-tareem
    @reeree-tareem 5 лет назад +13

    I love when Bishop says That's A Tshirt Right there! Lmbooo yessss

  • @luvroxie4589
    @luvroxie4589 5 лет назад +14

    PREACH AND TEACH MY BROTHER...i just turn 58 and people think i am in my late 3o's or 40's....I believe in everything you said and that is how i carry myself and believe in myself...AMEN....all honor and glory to GOD...THANK YOU....LISTEN MY SISTERS...LISTEN..THANK YOU...Be happy with yourself...when god see fit he will send you someone whom is not full of and know of GOD..no games and a sincere heart.respect.,no how to commit...if not enjoy life..learn life lessons.

  • @reeree-tareem
    @reeree-tareem 5 лет назад +47

    Society the Bible and Family has put toooo much pressure on Women!

  • @sburton2401
    @sburton2401 5 лет назад +10

    It was difficult entering into my 50th year not really accomplishing or in a healthy loving relationship....feeling exactly what you have talking about....but placing my self worth and values in the context of the external..society....but these last few weeks soaking up the your messages, seeing the holy spirit working powerfully....there has been a shift within...there has been a need to know my purpose in God. Thank you RC Blakes for your words of love and encourage to me and many women receiving God's word. Gods Blessings

  • @growden100
    @growden100 4 года назад +7

    I married an BM atheist and narcissist. Was with him for 11 years; my pain and shame runs deep. I lost everything we attained together. After spending a lot of time reflecting on what TMH wants for me and from me, listening to Dr. Myles Monroe and now Pastor Blake, I feel and see brighter times for myself. I started a business, getting a teachering certification so I am very busy and helping others.

  • @flygirl1942
    @flygirl1942 5 лет назад +11

    You are SPOT on Pastor! Thank YOU! I AM 56 yo and I deal with ALL of what you spoke off DAILY’. My Lord, THANK YOU this was medicine to my soul. ESP the toxic thoughts! Speak Holy Spirit! 💕

  • @pamela7651
    @pamela7651 5 лет назад +23

    I use to feel like this until about 7 months ago when I listened to a sermon singliness from dr Myles Munroe but I got even stronger after o.o started listening to your teachings pastor Blake's. I appreciate your messages so much. God bless you.

    • @sharonbrown4939
      @sharonbrown4939 4 года назад +5

      It's better to be single than to be in a godless miserable marriage.You can enjoy life without being married,being married and not happy is like being strangled.

  • @anitrajohnson7789
    @anitrajohnson7789 5 лет назад +28

    Society makes many older women feel badly because they aren't married. I desire to be married but it's not a priority. If it happens, good. If not, I'm still good.

  • @gr8myndse162
    @gr8myndse162 5 лет назад +27

    You are such a dynamic Pastor !!!! Great intuition and awesome timing!

  • @paulsanabria8977
    @paulsanabria8977 5 лет назад +45

    When you are in peace with Christ you can accept anything that comes your way. When you think of self you move away from Christ. Love yourself as our Lord loves you and age will only be that and nothing more. Once Christ transforms your life a new age begins. Be at peace and agree with Christ.

    • @janetmcnish-counsellor3712
      @janetmcnish-counsellor3712 5 лет назад +2

      Thank you so much for this.

    • @calicat3015
      @calicat3015 5 лет назад +4

      Amen Brother Paul!
      A woman's beauty shines brighter, her attitude is filled with confidence, the Peace and Love of Christ is all that matters. Age is just a number..... My number is 50.

    • @paulsanabria8977
      @paulsanabria8977 5 лет назад +3

      @@janetmcnish-counsellor3712 that was not me it was our Lord shinning through me. So let your light shine in the night time. And let it shine all day through. Let it shine...shine for Jesus. A real man of our Lord will accept and appreciate you. If not kick him to the curb. It's not a long drop off the curb but should be enough to wake him up.

    • @paulsanabria8977
      @paulsanabria8977 5 лет назад +1

      @@calicat3015 hey hey Si Cali Cat.. let his grace drive you to a better tomorrow ... We have value in our Lords grace. Don't let the world dictate your value as a women. As you can tell the world don't even know the difference between wrong and right. I mean come on just look at the chicken dance. What the heck is that??? Someone give me a soul train line ...so we can all show our own Grove

    • @paulajames3937
      @paulajames3937 5 лет назад

      💖💖💖🙏

  • @beautifulone6533
    @beautifulone6533 3 года назад +2

    It is scary to go to be alone when you have chronic health issues, and you can't really count on your children.Sometimes it is a matter of choosing the more palatable of two ugly existances:waiting to die alone in a nursing home, or waiting to die alone within a " situationship".

  • @msdecemberloveangel8236
    @msdecemberloveangel8236 5 лет назад +8

    As a young woman I always believed that I was a beautiful lady. From the inside out. I have issues with women young and older who see the beauty within me but they think I'm conceited but I own my space in who I am. First I love myself in who I am. I didn't have anything in creating myself, God saw fit in how he created me. I had to work on my self tho for years to build my self esteem. I'm 64 years young, as the bible says as a man think so his he. And I'm single. I've had some horrible relationships but GOD is still working on me. I'm very proud of who I am. Thank u God for making me who I am.

  • @notnsecure137
    @notnsecure137 5 лет назад +22

    Just turned 41. Never married and no kids. Was totally depressed because everyone around me is having kids and is married. This video helped me, thank you ☺️

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 Год назад +4

    I am 73 years old and single. This message bless my spirit and encouraged me to renew my mind. Thank you Pastor Blakes

  • @reeree-tareem
    @reeree-tareem 5 лет назад +9

    Yes you did sir! Lol a real man will accept that beauty of WISDOM inside and out!

  • @fir8550
    @fir8550 3 года назад +1

    No you're not harsh! There is very little info of this kind out in the world. So your insight is very much appreciated. God bless you.

  • @angeleahlebrie5170
    @angeleahlebrie5170 5 лет назад

    Exactly what I needed to hear. I will be looping this over and over to integrate it more strongly in my mind, especially the part on wasting my life and working on my legacy. Thank you for your gifts you give so perfectly!

  • @feelingoodinblue
    @feelingoodinblue 5 лет назад +10

    Bishop, thank you so much for this OUTSTANDING INFORMATION. I am over 40 never married but I have faith I will be to a complete man (a King). Because I am Queen

  • @michelleem
    @michelleem 5 лет назад +5

    Oh my goodness!!! Such Good Stuff! I am so glad you did a teaching on this because there are so many women who need to hear this AND especially from a mans perspective. I've realized and done the work and this was confirmation for me.
    Thank you for Another Amazing teaching Sir 💜

  • @lisabelton3769
    @lisabelton3769 5 лет назад +4

    Thank you so much for such an uplifting message. GOD bless you and keep you for delivering the messages that so many of US Need to hear.

  • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
    @Metaphysicalmindspace777 5 лет назад +7

    Love it. I’m 47 and I’m woke. I’ve never married. I’m striving to live my best life. People act as though the opportunity hasn’t presented itself. It has. Now is the best time to be single because you are in very good company.

  • @Makeitmakesensejo
    @Makeitmakesensejo 3 года назад +1

    Preachhhhhhhhh......what a mighty word...I'm 68 and loving it....single and loving it.....full of my Father's Spirit and loving it..... Thank you Sir for confirmation.

  • @reeree-tareem
    @reeree-tareem 5 лет назад +27

    I tell God has given you such a MISSIONARY PURPOSE FOR THE WOMEN IN THIS WORLD! I BELIEVE THAT YOUR PAST STRUGGLES GOD GAVE YOU A PLATFORM TO TURN THAT INTO GOOD! REGARDING WOMEN AND WHAT WE REALLY NEED AND DESIRE

    • @reeree-tareem
      @reeree-tareem 5 лет назад +2

      Thank you Bishop for trying to help US WOMEN LOL! WE NEED IT AND NEED IT FROM A MAN WHO HAS HAD THE EXPERIENCE AND NOW CAN TEACH FROM THAT PLACE!

    • @nasramyusuf3631
      @nasramyusuf3631 5 лет назад +2

      ❤️❤️

    • @nasramyusuf3631
      @nasramyusuf3631 5 лет назад +1

      I love you for the sake for Allah

  • @elizabethfriessen4445
    @elizabethfriessen4445 2 года назад

    I love the way u speak the truth no matter how much it can hurt the right person listen to it it’s always exactly what I need to hear 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @tallartist
    @tallartist 4 года назад +2

    I cannot tell you how much this hurts. Year after year I did exactly what you said. I stayed focused on God and did not worry about a husband. This is so hurtful to listen to this. I cannot tell you how much this message hurt me. 16 years and I still cannot find a man that qualifies as a man of God. Nothing about his video encouraged me. NOTHING... Attracted to men who did not have the capacity to commit...not true. could not LOCATE a man with the capacity to commit.

  • @heavensgirl7412
    @heavensgirl7412 5 лет назад +7

    Amen, needed to hear that, thank you for sharing that Godly perspective. One approval, one validation from my father, I am valuable and worthy! Thank you so much pastor, God bless you and your family!

  • @ilissawalker7051
    @ilissawalker7051 4 года назад +1

    I needed to hear this message this morning. No music during my workouts lately listening to what manners.

  • @Taytimethursday
    @Taytimethursday 5 лет назад +26

    I’m in my mid 40’s and divorced 9 urs now. I will to marry again but I haven’t even been asked on a date in 3 yrs. Men my age tend to gravitate to the 20 and 30 yr olds.

    • @victoriaislands8146
      @victoriaislands8146 5 лет назад +13

      Are you kidding me?! Get out there! My mom is 58 and she bagged a handsome wealthy man at 58! 58! Mind you, she takes good care of her self, looks fabtastic and young for her age. She acts care free and she isn't bitter about her past either. Her vibe is young too! You seriously need to Get out there. Level up, you're only as old as you feel, stop limiting yourself. JLo is 49, she bagged a man who is 47. I presume they will be married soon! She is hotter than most 20 somethings... gosh, get out from under the rock!

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  5 лет назад +41

      Shonta Taylor When a Woman is rarely asked out it is usually because her self respect is so high she intimidates men who don’t qualify. They know better than to even try.

    • @jelicianorwood24
      @jelicianorwood24 5 лет назад +4

      I agree. I'm young and older men always want date me. It's weird like they need date women thier own age.

    • @lifetobelived9102
      @lifetobelived9102 5 лет назад +5

      You might find that while the men your age might bypass you men of different ages might come your way. If you are open to going a little younger or a bit older than your age you might be surprised.

    • @MarqueshaMartin
      @MarqueshaMartin 4 года назад +4

      Don't be discouraged sistren @Shonta....I'm 43 and I haven't been on a date in 2 going on 3 years....I get spoken to and that's it...because I can see right through the bs....

  • @ukchill8
    @ukchill8 9 месяцев назад

    This video of yours just popped up on my RUclips…5 yrs old message. Best timing for me, just recently I have decided to be happily single. The last 2 yrs I was dating intentionally but it was all just a waste of time, finally realized. 🙏🏽 Thank you Bishop. Can not express how much I appreciate you.

  • @LolitaStClair
    @LolitaStClair Год назад

    Pastor RC Blakes that was Powerful and Outstanding! Mr. and Mrs. RC Blakes please have a Blessed Day!

  • @alphaandomega1332
    @alphaandomega1332 5 лет назад +37

    “ If you need to be married, then you don’t need to be married.” Now that needs to be on a tee shirt 👚. Now that’s a word ✍🏾. Thought for the next 6 months to a year .... What will your legacy be ???🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose 5 лет назад +3

      You should definitely create a shirt. I'd buy it! That's an awesome slogan. Lol.

    • @taniacharakupa4262
      @taniacharakupa4262 5 лет назад +1

      If you don’t put on a t-shirt, I will! Don’t sue🙈

    • @beautifulqueen748
      @beautifulqueen748 3 года назад

      Facts

  • @maggiekay7294
    @maggiekay7294 5 лет назад +10

    Love your words of wisdom
    that are so needed to be heard by women 🙏

  • @katarzynabielanska6810
    @katarzynabielanska6810 4 года назад +2

    you are so wise, i am 52 and i feel that my live began now. love it

  • @tamelacole478
    @tamelacole478 5 лет назад +88

    Yesss sir marriage is not a accomplishment®™®

  • @catheyswoboda8865
    @catheyswoboda8865 5 лет назад

    Pastor Blakes, another powerful lesson. I appreciated it and loves the prayer at the end. May God continue to Bless you. Cathey

  • @uneeklowe9166
    @uneeklowe9166 5 лет назад

    PREACH!!!! I loved this message Pastor! Thank you for these affirming words and encouragement for me to live my "Best life!"

  • @dianajackson8726
    @dianajackson8726 5 лет назад +1

    This was another blessed teaching. Thank you so much. What an awesome anointing. God bless you with your every desire.

  • @crystalgrose
    @crystalgrose 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you for this message Dr. Blakes! It is so needed. I don't feel this is addressed nearly enough.

  • @deerobinson5801
    @deerobinson5801 5 лет назад

    Great message! THANK YOU for sharing your infinite wisdom!
    May God continue to bless you and your wife to be a blessing to us all!!

  • @mssid708
    @mssid708 5 лет назад +15

    Thank you Pastor Blake's for ministering Truth to increase capacity for the Queen concience mind God has for me👑👑🤗💯✌️💝

  • @Osunbunmi_Ifatunmise
    @Osunbunmi_Ifatunmise 5 лет назад +1

    There are so many gems in this message. Thank you for sharing❤

  • @nini4775
    @nini4775 4 года назад +1

    Thank you Pastor Blake’s. I just started watching you and my age group get left out a lot when it comes to singleness. I’m 52 and been single since 2006. God bless you and your wife.

  • @dcisajoke
    @dcisajoke 5 лет назад +1

    I had to like the video before hearing a single word. I already know this is going to be good. ♥️♥️♥️ Bless you Bishop!

  • @vfree4579
    @vfree4579 5 лет назад +58

    Hi Bishop Blake I have a few instructions for you #1. Can you stop by the cloning Center and clone several hundreds of men with different faces with your attitude and wisdom.
    #2. Can you start giving King seminars to single man and Jokers that have no clue.♥️😂😁👍🆗️

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  5 лет назад +15

      V free Do you think we can get the kings to come?

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +4

      V free 🤣👏🏾👏🏾you made my day girl 🤣 I don’t mind a copy though 🤔🤣

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  5 лет назад +3

      V free 😂😂😂

    • @wendydrummond2338
      @wendydrummond2338 4 года назад

      Amen to both points love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia

  • @catherinegruesbeck1765
    @catherinegruesbeck1765 3 года назад +2

    Pastor, I so appreciate all you are saying in your videos. They are so right on point. We women get tired of being alone, tired if having to carry everything ourselves, and tired of having no arms to hold us when things get rough. It isn't ALL about our insecurities about not being "married", so to speak. We are just plain tired of not having a partner to share life with, period, not ALL about our self esteem.

  • @anitatukes-hilliard4632
    @anitatukes-hilliard4632 4 года назад

    OMG! I needed to hear this. This message blessed me Soooooo much. You are a blessing Pastor Blakes.

  • @glendaarendse7885
    @glendaarendse7885 5 лет назад

    Thank you Pastor, you are such a blessing to many women around the world, I am from Cape Town and I am addicted to you ministry. I have learnt so much in the past 3months just by listening to Lets Talk.

  • @deniseseals946
    @deniseseals946 5 лет назад +13

    Thank you so much for this word. Conscious QUEENS WILL BE RECOGNIZED BY KINGS

  • @dianegregory7097
    @dianegregory7097 5 лет назад +1

    God Bless You!!!
    You speak so beautiful about life & clarify Gods word . I Love & look forward to all your videos which are always uplifting giving peace to my spirit & soul!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @marthaharrisofficial
    @marthaharrisofficial 5 лет назад +1

    I am so happy you spoke on this topic! I am so happy to be single at my age. You are so right you nailed it pastor!

  • @plantisspeaks
    @plantisspeaks 5 лет назад

    Pastor Blakes you speak a lot of truth. Your delivery is very conversational and real. I listen to you often for enlightment and strength. A strong self-esteem and God are sooo necessary. Continue on...

  • @kcamille5573
    @kcamille5573 5 лет назад +10

    So glad I "stumbled"upon this video teaching. As a Black woman of a particular age who has always wanted to be married, but it yet eludes me, I was tremendously blessed. I have struggled most of my life with the spirit of rejection and all the sub spirits that accompany it, but this Word today delivered me in a powerful way and I thank God for you pastor.

  • @tamelacole478
    @tamelacole478 5 лет назад +24

    Marriage is a lot of work and if I'm not where I'm suppose to be in GOD then I'm no good for a Godly MAN®™®

  • @nemysown1645
    @nemysown1645 5 лет назад +1

    This is my new chorus;I was blind but now I SEE! Bless the Lord for Pastor Blakes obedience.

  • @shantelmcdonald590
    @shantelmcdonald590 2 года назад

    This talk is bitter/ sweet truth i thank God to hear all what you said blessings bishop R.C Blakes 🙏

  • @wondafaith8621
    @wondafaith8621 5 лет назад

    Great video! I shared it with my FB page. So needed. Thank you!

  • @flygirl1942
    @flygirl1942 5 лет назад +3

    These are very REAL issues you speak of by the Grace of God. Please speak more on this topic in the days ahead. Love you Pastor!💕

  • @rhondabrown8859
    @rhondabrown8859 5 лет назад +1

    47 and counting and this was such a much needed word for me. Just got my passport and can't wait to use it. Thanks so much Pastor RC Blake's. Many, many blessings to you and your beautiful wife.

  • @Liyoncejones
    @Liyoncejones 5 лет назад

    Persistent self-loathing no more. I am working on showing myself love... everything else will come. Thank you as usual for your uplifting and powerful support.

  • @snoodysnoody8118
    @snoodysnoody8118 5 лет назад

    I need to watch this video several times until this settles in my spirit . Thanks for the video .

  • @gracimiller9246
    @gracimiller9246 3 года назад

    Thank you Pastor Blakes. This type of teaching is helping many.
    Bless you.

  • @pamelabrown5101
    @pamelabrown5101 2 года назад

    Beautiful and so encouraging!

  • @thiquechickjones1867
    @thiquechickjones1867 5 лет назад +7

    Yes I agree whole heartedly with this. I had to learn recently how to be happy by myself and look forward to meeting a man with the same attitude to enjoy the rest of my days with. I learned to love myself and yes concentrate on building my own legacy instead of sitting around waiting. Pastor got that from me! :) What God has for me is for me and who shall be against God no one. Keep yourself together and looking good no matter if you have someone or not. And above all enjoy your God given life.

  • @tracyavery4419
    @tracyavery4419 2 года назад

    Thank you for this message it was definitely needed. God bless you Bishop!🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @anamaria8
    @anamaria8 5 лет назад +10

    Singleness was my choice,for there are very few the men on earth to whom I reflect best as a soul.I have at least as much dignity left in me to say ''no'' to whom doesn't make me happy,I can do it myself.I am single because I am worthy of much more than that.Better Happily single than disillusions. God bless us all