I booted a man who told me a woman shouldn't ask to have her door opened or in our case - for the first class upgrade on a flight that he got when we went on a trip. he took the upgraded seat and let me sit in coach. oh no .... my father would have INSISTED my mother have the better seat. and btw this man's daughter worked for the airline and he could get upgraded anytime!! nope. done. bye bye. he's still single 4 years later.....
I didn't have a father to teach me. My mom wasn't the type to talk to me about life. I learned in my 20's God was my Father. Now I'm 46 and a single mom and am finally learning from your videos how to respect myself and know my value and how to find this right man. How to finally conduct myself. Thank you. What you're teaching is so important for all women and girls. I am thankful God put this on your heart to do this.
#1- 3:40 Take back your power #2- 10:17 Shift Your Perspective beyond surface #3- 15:52 Analyze his female relationships #4 - 19:26 Analyze his close friendships #5 - 22:32 Observe his work ethic #6 - 28:14 Observe his male role model #7 - 30:50 Observe his natural selflessness
That's still a reflection on self though. No matter what the issue, once you know the issue is there you have to nurture that until you become strong within yourself. And you will know you are making progress because you will change- you will improve. And self improvement is a result of self love.
@@pmacsmccullum1801 your full of baloney.... I never once tried to murder anyone. Stop spreading lies... it is not nice and your full of baloney. Get a dose of the truth
@@pmacsmccullum1801 Listen to what they say. Men love nothing better than talking about themselves. They will tell you everything about themselves. Sometimes you have to really pay attention. A couple of years ago I had this guy who wanted to date me. I just listened to him. He actually said, he almost went to prison from throwing a burrito at his ex wife. This was like "Really" how is that I ask. he went into this goof ball story. Then the next bit of information, he said oh, I also have a DUI, so I cannot drive my car. Oh, "Really" I thought wow, he does not know he just told me all the information I needed to know about him. I processed his statements, This is what I came to, "He gets drunk and beats the shit out of women". I took a pass on him. Then his friend who was a woman, said oh he really likes you and needs a "Good Woman" to help him. I said no, I have a daughter and no need for a "fixer Upper", besides a fixer upper is a truck not a man. I hope this helps, he was trying to be sly on what he was doing, trying to present himself as a nice guy, when he was a bad guy with abusive qualities. When people decide they want to lie to someone else, in no way is that their fault. That fault lies strictly on the person trying to deceive the other. A predator knows what they are doing, the prey does not know. It usually, takes a while to see through the lies, but if you listen carefully, and not become emotionally involved it will save you a lot of problems. Best of luck and listen with great care, there are more predators out there than good guys. I personally, have given up on finding a decent man, 11 years single and just not finding one.
Selection is Key ... Relationships should be intellectual, emotionally , & spiritually discerned .... I have my Power ... single , celibate, and happy !!! Marry you? When? You don’t know? Come back later when you do ... lol
pastor you have open my eyes..I see now all the mistakes I've been making... my dad wasn't in my life to teach me my worth.. you taught me a lot today.. my new spiritual father...
My ex had a great job and owned the company, made tons of money, had great work ethic but didn't share the money with me or want to take care of me. So just because they work, have a job or have great work ethic, doesn't mean they are a good man. I really love all the insight I learn from RC. Relationship game changer. Blessings RC!
Of course he will! Part of being a good boyfriend or husband is to feel a certain sense of responsibility for your woman. If he does not exhibit a sense of responsibility then you need to very quickly put huge distance between yourself and him!
I have officially deemed you as my spiritual father. I've watched almost every clip you have and I'm really grateful for your word. I would love to travel to your church to visit. These videos have helped me understand where I went wrong and how to correct my mistakes and grow to be better and not bitter. Thank you so much!
Better late than never . Found the channel two weeks ago. So true . So much garbage beneath swag. Pastor even the ugly ones can be full of nonsense. Discerning the internal is the most important.
I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I just discovered you and have subscribed. I have spent the last 15 years in an abusive marriage and for the past year I have been separated. I had become so accustomed to the abuse that I was unsure how to function on a daily basis. I have felt so alone and afraid. I'm also raising 2 small children on my own. I'm finally starting to see my true worth and it's a beautiful thing. God is blessing my life and I know one day he will send me the right man to be my partner. Thank you so much for your ministry. God bless you!!!
I'm a new woman Pastor Blakes.....they betta watch out I'm taking no BS! I have blocked and deleted all ex's....Lot's wife turned to a pilar of salt for looking back....if I wasn't good enough back then I'm not good enough now (Not for them anyway). Loooooooove you....you're not old enough to be my father but I would love a spiritual brother😀💯 Blessings!
I see a pattern. both of my kids fathers no male role model, and both were disrespectful to their mothers. I didn't know back then how important and critical this was.
You are a real father and I appreciate you. My biological father passed why I was 16 years old. After listening to you video's I know I am on the right track!!
Men must provide, profess and protect and then if he is successful at being the right man for you, then you allow him to penetrate. Women invest ourselves too fast emotionally.
Girls LISTEN TOO MANY RAP MUSIC VIDEOS TALKING ABOUT SEX. DANCING SEXY to attract those garbage boys. Lazy boys. Illmannered. Impolite untaught wild NOT USEFUL For ENHANCING OR IMPROVING the girls & WOMANS' LIFE & PROPER LIFESTYLES. FOR GOOD REPUTATION. STOP LISTENING SINGING & Watching SEX SONGS IN MOVIES. MAGAZINES.
Watched again....this is opening my eyes to how to choose a GOOD man. Looking back over my history of men have not been good and I have been left hurt....THANK YOU SO MUCH PASTOR BLAKES!!!
No go back to don't let them borrow money that was good I wish I heard this long time ago this would gave saved me from bad credit and me taking out 9,000 from my savings I let myself get burned bad twice because I thought a man loved me. I learned my lesson. Your teaching is so good.
Hello Pastor. I have been listening to you for some time now. I wish I had a father figure like you in my life 30 years ago. You make a lot of valid points and I wish I would have know the material you’re teaching so that I would not be going through a divorce (right now). I had a man who displayed ALL the characteristics of a narcissist. My children were in a two parent home, yet I was the parent that was responsible for everything. After years of verbal, emotional and occasional physical abuse I decided to leave and file for divorce. This broke my heart (to file for divorce) because both of us are Christians and members of the same church. However, we were unequally yoked. I love listening to sermons and reading the bible whereas he wasn’t interested. I had warned him many times that the ENEMY is and was infiltrating our relationship. And, as the head of the household, to exercise your authority and join me in the fight in which the enemy is attacking (our family). I prayed, went to marriage counseling by myself, did spiritual warfare, and I could go on and on. Funny thing is that since I’ve left him he often asks “why dud you leave me, anyway?” Like dude, are you serious? How far do you want me to go back? Can someone shed some light on this situation cause I know I’m not the only one going through this. God Bless, Pastor and keep on teaching and preaching. My 21 year old daughter is starting to listen to your talks. Thank you 🙏🏾 Jesus for this man (Pastor Blake’s) Of God.
Amen, to be honest I am in tears. I don't have a father figure or a good man figure in my life and this is what I needed all of life. Almost 35 and just now hearing good structure. Thank you so much
Yes and when? This by far is the most powerful statement I have heard for my entire life. A man will engage you for 10 years if you let him. Even my men friends have confirmed that to me. Everybody is in the friend zone until proving differently.
In the past I have dated ugly guys too and they were also garbage. A good man is rare and hard to find. No matter how ugly or pretty a person is they are very similar in the way they think specially if they don't love God. God says if you love me you will obey my commandments. If they don't follow God's commandments then that person is not marriage material.
Doreen Augsburger It's always the inside that count, regardless of looks. As long as we put God first,& require our potential partner( platonic until marriage!) to do the same. Of course we all have visual types(some of us like blondes,brunettes,tall,average build,different ethnic groups ,& etc), but upon meeting our "type", we need to analyze and discern what type of person they are,& if they aren't 1st. A good Christian, that puts God first,2nd Have a great work ethic,3rd. A great sense of compassion,& responsibility. Just remember there are good people and bad people,& they come in all shapes, sizes,& colors. Stay Blessed! 🙏😊
We're living in a world where people especially men have NPD narcissistic personality disorder that's why it's a spiritual warfare check out the RUclips channels on NPD and you'll see how many of them are roaming around
I agree, it is difficult to meet a man who is unselfish and giving. They expect women to look after them and themselves. Men don't have to be good looking to be problematic, I have met men who are semi-attractive, intelligent, wealthy, charismatic, deep thinkers and they also seem to have many problems either stemming from their past or just that they have chosen a wayward life. Thank God I discerned their issues to prevent me from getting involved. My faith is important and so God guided me in this area. The world is full of control freaks!
I have slapped my leg, walls, cat, dog everything listening to this because this was amazing!!! I sent it to ALL my girlfriends and told them they better watch it. You spoke to me as a father and I laughed and got teary and realized I been selling myself short!! No more! I gotta get my power back!!!! I got to. I am a catch and I know it. I will no longer settle! Thank you Pastor Blake's you have BLESSED me BEYOND WORDS.
Thank you, God bless you pastor Blakes. I just ordered your book from amazon. My father left when I was 4, I learned from my mistakes when I was in my 20's. It's unfortunate that this excellent teaching is not available on popular radio talk shows or television. Thank you God for periscope and youtube.
You just saved me from unnecessary heartache. I met a pastor on a dating site who is separated (not divorced) from his wife for 2 years and complimented me like there was no tomorrow. He wanted to make love to me, when I said I don’t want to have sex before marriage his comment was... that’s Old Testament and besides sex is different from making love, making love is permitted before marriage! I was gobsmacked 😶 Long story short, he’s just another predator 🙄
Thank you Pastor. I learnt more about selflessness. My ex was too selfish and he always say that am selfish. Bought this ex guy Birthday present and he never remembered my birthday. I told him how angry I was instead of him to apologize and do the needful, he kept quite and didn't call. I left him. It's not good to date a selfish man
Mr R.C Blake jr. Listening to you bought back all the teachings of my mom and my dad. My husband who is now deceased for almost 3 yrs. he had all those good qualities a woman should look for in a man we were married for 35 years and I wanted for nothing, even when he became sick he still tried to do, we were as one. What his last words were to me his wife were: I could not have found a better person than you to have shared my life with- those words will always remain close to my heart. You spoke the truth about what a woman should look for, and I can honestly and truthfully say I found all that and more in my husband of 35 years.
I was dating a guy who I had his back like butter on toast. I was always thinking how can I make things easier for him. Reality check was when he never asked about me and if I needed anything, we always drove my car never asked if I needed gas , I was out of a job for couple of weeks and he never asked if I needed groceries or the status of my bills. He had no problem sitting on my couch on the weekends and eating my food. Lesson learned.
Yes!!..a lot of times engagement is like putting a woman on layaway and gets a woman to shut up for a while. People out here engaged for 10 years😂😂....nope I need a specific time frame/date as to when are we getting married
You are Single until you MARRIED. Engagement ring = you are single woman with a ring. Engagement ring and baby(ies) with the man = you are Single with a ring and out of wedlock babies. SINGLE UNTIL YA MARRIED LEGALLY. PAPERWORK REGISTERED WITH THE GOVERNMENT IN THE COUNTRY YOU LIVE IN. If you wanna be a WIFE, then don't accept anything less.
Finally found the strength and shook him off. You explained everything to me long time ago. But trauma-bond and soul-ties.... For more than 28 years I was faithful and devoted to that man.... 28 years and 5 kids later.... Women, don't make my mistake. Dear pastor, you are enormous blessing on this planet! Thank you, may you be graciously blessed.
6 years later 2 babies later and no wedding ring I'm trying my best best no to laugh because it's not funny but your face expression and the way you talk speaking truth sometimes the truth is funny.
Pastor, many men seem or appear to exhibit, NARCISSISTIC characteristics. They're so nice and gentlemen like from the onset, all data checks well then, a week later, he feels he has gotten you in his corner and the subtle rudeness, and other mess begins to show up. Not hungry for men troubles.
Once they show those serpentine qualities, you move on. That's what I do. It has nothing to do with me. My business is how I respond. A real man is consistent in action for months. Yes a man can pretend but that's where wisdom that PST Blake is pouring out here and God's divine protection comes in. Our responsibility is to remove ourselves from such men. No texting. No picking of calls. Nothing. Our time is precious 🙌
Wow Thank you Bishop Robert! for the knowledge and for opening my eyes and my mindset because i dealt with a selfish man for ten years all he did was use me and cheated broke me down repeatly and used me when he needs to borrow money i never received back.. watching your videos and Tony Gaskin has help me to start learning my worth my value what i am not going to tolerate nor waste my time without a man with a future or plan.. may God bless you man of god and spiritual father...
You allowed it.. what we allow we permit, what we permit we allow. You allowed it to go on for 10 yrs. ? Isaac Hayes had a song back in the 70 and in the lyrics it says " I Stand Accused of loving you too much "....That's what you did you loved him too much when he never loved you.
Your messages are so educational and have confirmed many things for me. But I just wonder where are the men you describe. I can count on one hand the number of men I have met with these good qualities. it seems like God has those men hidden. The common factor in the men that I do know with these great qualities is that they truly love the Lord. Great teachings for those of us women who never saw a good man growing up or was taught what qualities define a good man. Wish I had known all this info early in life.
I took it all in. I wish I knew you personally. Or even from the beginning of your RUclips channel. You are truly a blessing and a great father figure for all women. May God bless you and keep you 🙏
Pastor Blakes. Did it again! Love your teachings, such a blessing. especially to women that have been fatherless. Thank you. Blessings to the Blakes family
R C Blake thank you, thank you, thank you....I needed to hear this at this particular time. 'When he says 'I want to marry you' next question shd be 'When'. You are the BOMB! I'm practicing that!!
Mr. Blake's thank you for this video. I think they should play this in every high school across America. It's terrible how many people (men and women) who don't value themselves. We need these truthful words spread everywhere!
Wow. And wow. You have taught me more than my own father. I don't want label, I want content. But first I have to have self worth. If any man I'm dating does not ask to go to Church with me or want to meet my Pastor, I'm paying attention and deciding accordingly. Because the wrong man will take you to bed faster than he will take the time to find out your favorite color.
Growing up my brothers and I saw how our father loved and treated our mom, he took great care of us. My brothers and I could not even begin to tell you if and when they even argued because if they ever did, we never ever knew about it. We had both our parents in our lives as so many did not, they raised my brothers and I to not only to respect ourselves but other's as well. My parents taught us to be our own person, to lead and not be led and although my parent's are gone we, my brothers and I are thankful for their teachings which was by example: how our dad loved our mom and his children, and how our mom loved our dad and us. Just thought I'd share this with you. Be blessed because my brothers and I were with beautiful parents that taught us well.
Thank you Pastor RC, Blake, you have really open my eyes to a lot of things even at my adult age. I really have a lot of respect for you and your wife. Please, continue with your advices and continue spreading your wisdom. Blessings
Thankyou for your ministry. First, I wept because my father is gone on to be with God than I stopped and listened. God bless you! I look forward to your teaching.
Pastor Blakes!!!!! I thank God for you and for what you are doing .This is blessing me this morning! I wish I had seen your videos before my last travesty of a relationship. I needed this! Thank you and God Bless you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I have a good man now thank God but I had to go through too much hell before I met him. Learned my lessons before I met him and let go of childish and superficial beliefs around men and then my good man arrived!! Everything the pastor said is true!!
I wish I was taught a lot of this years ago, instead of learning this in my older years, because it would have saved me a lot of heartache. Thank you for reminding me, that I am the prize.
I shared this video with several female friends. An eye opener for me. Thank you for this message followed with the word...These men today want to interview you down... My sisters know that We are the prize! 🙏🏽❤️
On point.. but unfortunately most women aren’t prepared emotionally, spiritually, or financially to patiently wait and be single while sifting through all the lames. It’s been 2 yrs for me since I set and have committed to the standards that God has for me; and these men will try you.. lol He’s out there, you just have to commit to the walk.. I pray for strength and focus for all that do.. Amen!
Whewww this video is a GEM! I’m going to share this with any woman I know. Thank you for your wisdom. God spoke through you in this video. Love all your content! God Bless You
just found your channel last night,and I truly,truly enjoyed it,I needed to hear those words,because apparently, i have been finding the wrong men to be in my life,so,now,I am waiting for God to place that one in my life,I wrote down all of your questions and if I ever choose to start dating again,I will definitely be using those questions to filter out the not-so good men,God bless you and your family and thank you,I will continue following you
This video is worth gold! I am privileged to have found you RC. I needed a reliable and trusting father figure in my life now I have that. Thank you from the bottoms of my heart & soul! & Happy Belated Fathers Day!
Pastor thank you for this heartfelt message. Unfortunately we women didnt have fathers in our homes to school us about men. So, If we dont know the game how can we play it? . Thank you for schooling me. All of your messages have gotten me through some really rough times. Keep on doing the Lords Work...
Pastor Blakes, I recently discovered your videos and I am addicted to the powerful relational messages that are so long overdue to us (women and men). I'm a single 70 yr old beautiful and fit woman who anticipate marriage again (i've been divorced for many years). I'm so thankful for your commitment to speak the truth to us all. Senior citizens need to be delivered from childish thing as well. Love you Pastor Blakes, keep on empowering Us!
When I needed this wisdom I couldn't find it.Also I lost the only man in my life besides my father in heaven in 2012 who was my only Big Brother so I made a lot of poor choices in life when it came to men.Also I grew up fatherless so I feel very blessed to have come across your channel.Thank the lord for your wisdom.I have my ears and eyes and mind wide open to recieve your wisdom.
Sir you said it!! Borrowing money? Been there done that, mama told me if you wanna borrow 🤔 run 🏃🏃🏃cuze 1. He's nevah ( never) 😁! Going to pay you back 2. Isn't independent , & 3. A real man wouldn't want to borrow, I don't care how bad off he is, if he's about to be at the point of death from starvation & can play a tune on his ribs like a xylophone 😂😂🎶 I'm speaking about a love interest , not a dear friend or family member guys🤗
"You Never have to BEG a Worthy man to put you first."
Nodding my head in Total agreement...
Yesss
I booted a man who told me a woman shouldn't ask to have her door opened or in our case - for the first class upgrade on a flight that he got when we went on a trip. he took the upgraded seat and let me sit in coach. oh no .... my father would have INSISTED my mother have the better seat. and btw this man's daughter worked for the airline and he could get upgraded anytime!! nope. done. bye bye. he's still single 4 years later.....
I didn't have a father to teach me. My mom wasn't the type to talk to me about life. I learned in my 20's God was my Father. Now I'm 46 and a single mom and am finally learning from your videos how to respect myself and know my value and how to find this right man. How to finally conduct myself. Thank you. What you're teaching is so important for all women and girls. I am thankful God put this on your heart to do this.
Everything happens for a reason. Either to serve as a blessing or a lesson. 😊😊
Me too
I'm glad for you
I agree i am learning myself from it
Ditto!!!🙏🏾🙌🏾💃🏽💯🎯
#1- 3:40 Take back your power
#2- 10:17 Shift Your Perspective beyond surface
#3- 15:52 Analyze his female relationships
#4 - 19:26 Analyze his close friendships
#5 - 22:32 Observe his work ethic
#6 - 28:14 Observe his male role model
#7 - 30:50 Observe his natural selflessness
Queen Blockchain Thank you. I listened through the video and took notes but this is great for additional guidance. Again, thank you and God bless.
I would add that women should also observe how he manages responsibilities and how he makes decisions...
Preach!!!! RC thanks for the outline
Ok I thought i was the only one taking notes...🙏💪🖤🙌🙌
Thanks!!
Wow... I guess I have found my spiritual father via RUclips 😊 Bless God for your ministry.
Thank you. I'm honored.
+Robert Blakes Robert u sound so funny like a little mouse when u say wifey! That's a song too by next! Lol! :)
+Robert Blakes excuse me rob what do u call a man that still lives with his sister?
I agree. thank you.
Your comment is so cute.
"You ain't gat no husband, you got a son" 😂😂 #truth I had one of those, got rid of him with the quickness!! Love these teachings. ❤
A 250 pound son🤣🤣🤣
We invest ourselves emotionally into men so quickly as grown women because we have been starved or deprived of love for so many years.
Yes I can say me too on that.
That's still a reflection on self though. No matter what the issue, once you know the issue is there you have to nurture that until you become strong within yourself. And you will know you are making progress because you will change- you will improve. And self improvement is a result of self love.
@@pmacsmccullum1801 your full of baloney.... I never once tried to murder anyone. Stop spreading lies... it is not nice and your full of baloney. Get a dose of the truth
@@donnalangley117 IDK what this is you speak of...but if you have the truth, hook a sista UP!..💜
@@pmacsmccullum1801 Listen to what they say. Men love nothing better than talking about themselves. They will tell you everything about themselves. Sometimes you have to really pay attention. A couple of years ago I had this guy who wanted to date me. I just listened to him. He actually said, he almost went to prison from throwing a burrito at his ex wife. This was like "Really" how is that I ask. he went into this goof ball story. Then the next bit of information, he said oh, I also have a DUI, so I cannot drive my car. Oh, "Really" I thought wow, he does not know he just told me all the information I needed to know about him. I processed his statements, This is what I came to, "He gets drunk and beats the shit out of women". I took a pass on him. Then his friend who was a woman, said oh he really likes you and needs a "Good Woman" to help him. I said no, I have a daughter and no need for a "fixer Upper", besides a fixer upper is a truck not a man.
I hope this helps, he was trying to be sly on what he was doing, trying to present himself as a nice guy, when he was a bad guy with abusive qualities. When people decide they want to lie to someone else, in no way is that their fault. That fault lies strictly on the person trying to deceive the other. A predator knows what they are doing, the prey does not know. It usually, takes a while to see through the lies, but if you listen carefully, and not become emotionally involved it will save you a lot of problems. Best of luck and listen with great care, there are more predators out there than good guys. I personally, have given up on finding a decent man, 11 years single and just not finding one.
This is so what women need to hear! Praise God for you Pastor!!!
LVNCSR I
pastor facial expressions be PRICELESS 😂😂😂😂
Geneva Hawkins | I was just about to say this! This is how you know he’s serious!!!!
He’s cracking me up do much, I love it.
Absolutely!
Yessss 😂😂
He has unique look that's why the facial express.
Selection is Key ... Relationships should be intellectual, emotionally , & spiritually discerned .... I have my Power ... single , celibate, and happy !!!
Marry you? When? You don’t know? Come back later when you do ... lol
pastor you have open my eyes..I see now all the mistakes I've been making... my dad wasn't in my life to teach me my worth.. you taught me a lot today.. my new spiritual father...
Diva Dee On Top I'm honored.
Diva Dee On Top 🙌 yes hallelujah I feel the same I didn't have my dad either
Andrea S you are comparing God to the pussy
Will play this in my ear on my next date. Lol These men betta be ready for any woman who has listened to this right here. #realmenonly :-)
Da Nia Yes! 👍
I had sent many of the videos to my guy .
He is still watching ...
Gratitude Life why?
26:23 hehehe😂😂😂
Da Nia 🤣🤣🤣
My ex had a great job and owned the company, made tons of money, had great work ethic but didn't share the money with me or want to take care of me. So just because they work, have a job or have great work ethic, doesn't mean they are a good man. I really love all the insight I learn from RC. Relationship game changer. Blessings RC!
As truthful as you are, you are hilarious Pastor!! I love listening to you.
Very Much so, A what kills me he doesn't even try to either. We Thank God for you!!!♥️♥️♥️🔥🔥🔥🙏
A Real Man will feel responsible for you!!!!
Of course he will! Part of being a good boyfriend or husband is to feel a certain sense of responsibility for your woman. If he does not exhibit a sense of responsibility then you need to very quickly put huge distance between yourself and him!
True and I love that!!
Absolutely loved this!!
AMEN
Real talk
I have officially deemed you as my spiritual father. I've watched almost every clip you have and I'm really grateful for your word. I would love to travel to your church to visit. These videos have helped me understand where I went wrong and how to correct my mistakes and grow to be better and not bitter. Thank you so much!
Better late than never . Found the channel two weeks ago. So true . So much garbage beneath swag. Pastor even the ugly ones can be full of nonsense. Discerning the internal is the most important.
I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I just discovered you and have subscribed. I have spent the last 15 years in an abusive marriage and for the past year I have been separated. I had become so accustomed to the abuse that I was unsure how to function on a daily basis. I have felt so alone and afraid. I'm also raising 2 small children on my own. I'm finally starting to see my true worth and it's a beautiful thing. God is blessing my life and I know one day he will send me the right man to be my partner. Thank you so much for your ministry. God bless you!!!
bd Ash that is such a blessing to hear You are putting God first. I pray that God will bless you with the best. In Jesus name. Amen
I can relate
"A man that is worth your time is ALWAYS self-less".
I'm a new woman Pastor Blakes.....they betta watch out I'm taking no BS! I have blocked and deleted all ex's....Lot's wife turned to a pilar of salt for looking back....if I wasn't good enough back then I'm not good enough now (Not for them anyway). Loooooooove you....you're not old enough to be my father but I would love a spiritual brother😀💯 Blessings!
"...because a Man that is Worth your time is Always selfless."
Wow...this is powerful...
I love this. I have never chased a man. And never will.
vana phill amen
Amen!!!♥️♥️♥️
I agree👍 I don't either never have never will!
Dasani605 that is why you are going to get what you are untitled to
Me too dear, never have I and never will I chase a man till I die.
I love this MOG! Being a father to the fatherless. We need this wisdom from God! Thanks bless you.
I see a pattern. both of my kids fathers no male role model, and both were disrespectful to their mothers. I didn't know back then how important and critical this was.
I Had to stop going out with him because he sticks me with the bill!Your are Preachin to ME, Pastor!
Sunny Daze 😂😂😂🙏🏾
A man that is worth your time is always selfless!!!!!!!!!!!
I have not met any who are selfless. That's why I don't date them. Thank you, you helped me see that and what is going on. Thank you so much.
@@donnalangley117 true most men and if I have to say all are not selfless..Women are the selfless ones.
You are a real father and I appreciate you. My biological father passed why I was 16 years old. After listening to you video's I know I am on the right track!!
April Johnson Amen Sis.
Men must provide, profess and protect and then if he is successful at being the right man for you, then you allow him to penetrate. Women invest ourselves too fast emotionally.
Girls LISTEN TOO MANY RAP MUSIC VIDEOS TALKING ABOUT SEX. DANCING SEXY to attract those garbage boys. Lazy boys. Illmannered. Impolite untaught wild NOT USEFUL For ENHANCING OR IMPROVING the girls & WOMANS' LIFE & PROPER LIFESTYLES. FOR GOOD REPUTATION. STOP LISTENING SINGING & Watching SEX SONGS IN MOVIES. MAGAZINES.
He is explaining what a good man is, listen to him for wisdom.
"Don't Ever entertain a man...not one step Further...that does not Put you 1st & does not put himself 2nd to you."
This is Dynamite truth!
Watched again....this is opening my eyes to how to choose a GOOD man. Looking back over my history of men have not been good and I have been left hurt....THANK YOU SO MUCH PASTOR BLAKES!!!
No go back to don't let them borrow money that was good I wish I heard this long time ago this would gave saved me from bad credit and me taking out 9,000 from my savings I let myself get burned bad twice because I thought a man loved me. I learned my lesson. Your teaching is so good.
Charoletta77 Girl yes, but you got a good guide now. Don't worry you got it.
Hello Pastor. I have been listening to you for some time now. I wish I had a father figure like you in my life 30 years ago. You make a
lot of valid points and I wish I would have know the material you’re teaching so that I would not be going through a divorce (right now). I had a man who displayed ALL the characteristics of a narcissist. My children were in a two parent home, yet I was the parent that was responsible for everything. After years of verbal, emotional and occasional physical abuse I decided to leave and file for divorce. This broke my heart (to file for divorce) because both of us are Christians and members of the same church. However, we were unequally yoked. I love listening to sermons and reading the bible whereas he wasn’t interested. I had warned him many times that the ENEMY is and was infiltrating our relationship. And, as the head of the household, to exercise your authority and join me in the fight in which the enemy is attacking (our family). I prayed, went to marriage counseling by myself, did spiritual warfare, and I could go on and on.
Funny thing is that since I’ve left him he often asks “why dud you leave me, anyway?” Like dude, are you serious? How far do you want me to go back?
Can someone shed some light on this situation cause I know I’m not the only one going through this.
God Bless, Pastor and keep on teaching and preaching. My 21 year old daughter is starting to listen to your talks. Thank you 🙏🏾 Jesus for this man (Pastor Blake’s) Of God.
Me too.
L. Williams tell the truth about yourself bitch
Amen, to be honest I am in tears. I don't have a father figure or a good man figure in my life and this is what I needed all of life. Almost 35 and just now hearing good structure. Thank you so much
Wow really needed this. Living here in Atlanta this happens a lot to us women. I am taking my Power Back.
Yes ur right I love what you said ' You do not want no man that will not get a job.' You are definitely correct.
look at a man's close friends displays their character! Wooow
Yes and when? This by far is the most powerful statement I have heard for my entire life. A man will engage you for 10 years if you let him. Even my men friends have confirmed that to me. Everybody is in the friend zone until proving differently.
In the past I have dated ugly guys too and they were also garbage. A good man is rare and hard to find. No matter how ugly or pretty a person is they are very similar in the way they think specially if they don't love God. God says if you love me you will obey my commandments. If they don't follow God's commandments then that person is not marriage material.
Doreen Augsburger It's always the inside that count, regardless of looks. As long as we put God first,& require our potential partner( platonic until marriage!) to do the same. Of course we all have visual types(some of us like blondes,brunettes,tall,average build,different ethnic groups ,& etc), but upon meeting our "type", we need to analyze and discern what type of person they are,& if they aren't 1st. A good Christian, that puts God first,2nd Have a great work ethic,3rd. A great sense of compassion,& responsibility. Just remember there are good people and bad people,& they come in all shapes, sizes,& colors. Stay Blessed! 🙏😊
Doreen Augsburger me too, it’s much worse when an ugly man dogs us. It’s like we sacrificed someone easy on the eyes and *still* got burnt, wtf😩
We're living in a world where people especially men have NPD narcissistic personality disorder that's why it's a spiritual warfare check out the RUclips channels on NPD and you'll see how many of them are roaming around
Because I've tried the same thing dating a ugly man and they were just as evil as the good-looking men they all have NPD
I agree, it is difficult to meet a man who is unselfish and giving. They expect women to look after them and themselves. Men don't have to be good looking to be problematic, I have met men who are semi-attractive, intelligent, wealthy, charismatic, deep thinkers and they also seem to have many problems either stemming from their past or just that they have chosen a wayward life. Thank God I discerned their issues to prevent me from getting involved. My faith is important and so God guided me in this area. The world is full of control freaks!
I have slapped my leg, walls, cat, dog everything listening to this because this was amazing!!! I sent it to ALL my girlfriends and told them they better watch it. You spoke to me as a father and I laughed and got teary and realized I been selling myself short!! No more! I gotta get my power back!!!! I got to. I am a catch and I know it. I will no longer settle! Thank you Pastor Blake's you have BLESSED me BEYOND WORDS.
protect
respect
generosity
support your dreams
prefer her - prioritize her - balance work, church, friendships, family relationships
Thank you, God bless you pastor Blakes. I just ordered your book from amazon. My father left when I was 4, I learned from my mistakes when I was in my 20's. It's unfortunate that this excellent teaching is not available on popular radio talk shows or television. Thank you God for periscope and youtube.
“His work ethic should at least equal yours!” Amen!!!!
You just saved me from unnecessary heartache. I met a pastor on a dating site who is separated (not divorced) from his wife for 2 years and complimented me like there was no tomorrow. He wanted to make love to me, when I said I don’t want to have sex before marriage his comment was... that’s Old Testament and besides sex is different from making love, making love is permitted before marriage! I was gobsmacked 😶
Long story short, he’s just another predator 🙄
Thank you Pastor. I learnt more about selflessness. My ex was too selfish and he always say that am selfish. Bought this ex guy Birthday present and he never remembered my birthday. I told him how angry I was instead of him to apologize and do the needful, he kept quite and didn't call. I left him. It's not good to date a selfish man
Mr R.C Blake jr. Listening to you bought back all the teachings of my mom and my dad. My husband who is now deceased for almost 3 yrs. he had all those good qualities a woman should look for in a man we were married for 35 years and I wanted for nothing, even when he became sick he still tried to do, we were as one. What his last words were to me his wife were: I could not have found a better person than you to have shared my life with- those words will always remain close to my heart. You spoke the truth about what a woman should look for, and I can honestly and truthfully say I found all that and more in my husband of 35 years.
This is insanely powerful!
Money Smarts With THE REAL MCCOY NEVER heard my sessions described in these terms. Thank you.
“All wrapping and no content.” The truth you drilled home was priceless. I needed to hear this today 😞. Thank you Pastor 🙏
A 200 and 50 Pound Child 😂😂😂😭😭. “I just found this gig” oh my God my stomach hurt from laughing so hard.
I can listen to this man allll night. In fact I do sometimes to find when I awaken he's talking. Love the TRUTH.
Me too. I listen to him as I fall asleep instead of a movie
I was dating a guy who I had his back like butter on toast. I was always thinking how can I make things easier for him. Reality check was when he never asked about me and if I needed anything, we always drove my car never asked if I needed gas , I was out of a job for couple of weeks and he never asked if I needed groceries or the status of my bills. He had no problem sitting on my couch on the weekends and eating my food. Lesson learned.
Yes!!..a lot of times engagement is like putting a woman on layaway and gets a woman to shut up for a while. People out here engaged for 10 years😂😂....nope I need a specific time frame/date as to when are we getting married
qwertyou123456 exactly, tell me when & where and I'll be there.. until then, I'll holla✌
Awesome teaching such a blessing to my soul
You are Single until you MARRIED.
Engagement ring = you are single woman with a ring.
Engagement ring and baby(ies) with the man = you are Single with a ring and out of wedlock babies.
SINGLE UNTIL YA MARRIED LEGALLY. PAPERWORK REGISTERED WITH THE GOVERNMENT IN THE COUNTRY YOU LIVE IN. If you wanna be a WIFE, then don't accept anything less.
Some men rush you into marriage to trap you into their abuse cycle too..
Amen
"You never have to beg a worthy man to put you first ."Amen and Amen👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Finally found the strength and shook him off.
You explained everything to me long time ago. But trauma-bond and soul-ties....
For more than 28 years I was faithful and devoted to that man.... 28 years and 5 kids later....
Women, don't make my mistake.
Dear pastor, you are enormous blessing on this planet!
Thank you, may you be graciously blessed.
6 years later 2 babies later and no wedding ring I'm trying my best best no to laugh because it's not funny but your face expression and the way you talk speaking truth sometimes the truth is funny.
I wish I had been taught these things in elementary school! This should be required learning for girls! God bless your ministry!
I’m in tears this really hit my heart. I needed this to continue heal and grow.
Pastor, many men seem or appear to exhibit, NARCISSISTIC characteristics. They're so nice and gentlemen like from the onset, all data checks well then, a week later, he feels he has gotten you in his corner and the subtle rudeness, and other mess begins to show up. Not hungry for men troubles.
Very true
Once they show those serpentine qualities, you move on. That's what I do. It has nothing to do with me. My business is how I respond. A real man is consistent in action for months. Yes a man can pretend but that's where wisdom that PST Blake is pouring out here and God's divine protection comes in. Our responsibility is to remove ourselves from such men. No texting. No picking of calls. Nothing. Our time is precious 🙌
Wow Thank you Bishop Robert! for the knowledge and for opening my eyes and my mindset because i dealt with a selfish man for ten years all he did was use me and cheated broke me down repeatly and used me when he needs to borrow money i never received back.. watching your videos and Tony Gaskin has help me to start learning my worth my value what i am not going to tolerate nor waste my time without a man with a future or plan.. may God bless you man of god and spiritual father...
WOW! You are gorgeous! His loss.
Sherri Solomon Thank you sweetie for the compliment..
You allowed it.. what we allow we permit, what we permit we allow. You allowed it to go on for 10 yrs. ? Isaac Hayes had a song back in the 70 and in the lyrics it says " I Stand Accused of loving you too much "....That's what you did you loved him too much when he never loved you.
I don't follow religious doctrine, but I can find helpful stuff in your videos, you are appreciated.
+Jade Kentron Thank you for telling me what I should be doing. 😃
Rite!!!... Dope af!!!
don't hear any men refuting what's being said here, there's nothing but silence ....
Logic Resonance 😂😂😂😂
Peta Pan absolutely not. Court Jester Foolishness is not going to come at this Elder's Alpha Male Spirituality & Life wisdom.
But I bet the beautiful, good men of value are listening and quiet because they are silently in agreement and supportive of the Elder's message.
Radio silence 😶😶😶
Because it’s coming from a man not a women. They can’t use their typical come back that they use towards women.
Your messages are so educational and have confirmed many things for me. But I just wonder where are the men you describe. I can count on one hand the number of men I have met with these good qualities. it seems like God has those men hidden. The common factor in the men that I do know with these great qualities is that they truly love the Lord. Great teachings for those of us women who never saw a good man growing up or was taught what qualities define a good man. Wish I had known all this info early in life.
I wish I could give this video a million likes!!👍🏾
"He told me he want to make me wifey." "He told five women this week."
I took it all in. I wish I knew you personally. Or even from the beginning of your RUclips channel. You are truly a blessing and a great father figure for all women. May God bless you and keep you 🙏
Pastor Blakes. Did it again! Love your teachings, such a blessing. especially to women that have been fatherless. Thank you.
Blessings to the Blakes family
This blew me away!!!! Wow thank u for another AMAZING message!!!
R C Blake thank you, thank you, thank you....I needed to hear this at this particular time. 'When he says 'I want to marry you' next question shd be 'When'. You are the BOMB! I'm practicing that!!
Mr. Blake's thank you for this video. I think they should play this in every high school across America. It's terrible how many people (men and women) who don't value themselves. We need these truthful words spread everywhere!
Wow. And wow. You have taught me more than my own father. I don't want label, I want content. But first I have to have self worth. If any man I'm dating does not ask to go to Church with me or want to meet my Pastor, I'm paying attention and deciding accordingly. Because the wrong man will take you to bed faster than he will take the time to find out your favorite color.
Betty Fouche he needs to be a born again, converted, saved , filled with the Holy Spirit! Not just go to church.
Right! Even the devil knew the word! Check the spirit
"even if he on fries, go every day bae" 😂
When he said “gig” I almost spit out my soda. 😂😂
Growing up my brothers and I saw how our father loved and treated our mom, he took great care of us. My brothers and I could not even begin to tell you if and when they even argued because if they ever did, we never ever knew about it. We had both our parents in our lives as so many did not, they raised my brothers and I to not only to respect ourselves but other's as well. My parents taught us to be our own person, to lead and not be led and although my parent's are gone we, my brothers and I are thankful for their teachings which was by example: how our dad loved our mom and his children, and how our mom loved our dad and us. Just thought I'd share this with you. Be blessed because my brothers and I were with beautiful parents that taught us well.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽. You have literally brought tears to my eyes. This is so needed to be heard by women. 👸🏽
Pastor...you just BRING it ALL the time. You are SO appreciated.
when u recited tim 2:5 l got a realization of my husband wowwww just mindblowing crazy what the bible say about a man who wont take care his own
Thank you Pastor RC, Blake, you have really open my eyes to a lot of things even at my adult age. I really have a lot of respect for you and your wife.
Please, continue with your advices and continue spreading your wisdom.
Blessings
Thankyou for your ministry. First, I wept because my father is gone on to be with God than I stopped and listened. God bless you! I look forward to your teaching.
Pastor Blakes!!!!! I thank God for you and for what you are doing .This is blessing me this morning! I wish I had seen your videos before my last travesty of a relationship. I needed this! Thank you and God Bless you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Every teaching I've watched has touched my heart. Thank you😇😇😇😇
God bless you!!!!! I thank God I found you on RUclips... your a true blessing!!!!!!
Thank you ... so valuable to women!!
I have a good man now thank God but I had to go through too much hell before I met him. Learned my lessons before I met him and let go of childish and superficial beliefs around men and then my good man arrived!! Everything the pastor said is true!!
This is very good advice for women and the men would benefit from hearing this too seeing most dont have good male role models like the females thanks
He just confirmed the things I knew were missing!! I will be sharing this with my college age daughter as she starts to date.
Coming from a fatherless daughter I love 💗 you’re videos.
I wish I was taught a lot of this years ago, instead of learning this in my older years, because it would have saved me a lot of heartache. Thank you for reminding me, that I am the prize.
Man this some real stuff here. Everything I have been feeling and my friends calls me picky.... I'm blessed and highly favored 😘
I shared this video with several female friends. An eye opener for me. Thank you for this message followed with the word...These men today want to interview you down... My sisters know that We are the prize! 🙏🏽❤️
On point.. but unfortunately most women aren’t prepared emotionally, spiritually, or financially to patiently wait and be single while sifting through all the lames. It’s been 2 yrs for me since I set and have committed to the standards that God has for me; and these men will try you.. lol He’s out there, you just have to commit to the walk.. I pray for strength and focus for all that do.. Amen!
Whewww this video is a GEM! I’m going to share this with any woman I know. Thank you for your wisdom. God spoke through you in this video. Love all your content! God Bless You
just found your channel last night,and I truly,truly enjoyed it,I needed to hear those words,because apparently, i have been finding the wrong men to be in my life,so,now,I am waiting for God to place that one in my life,I wrote down all of your questions and if I ever choose to start dating again,I will definitely be using those questions to filter out the not-so good men,God bless you and your family and thank you,I will continue following you
This video is worth gold!
I am privileged to have found you RC. I needed a reliable and trusting father figure in my life now I have that.
Thank you from the bottoms of my heart & soul!
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Happy Belated Fathers Day!
Pastor thank you for this heartfelt message. Unfortunately we women didnt have fathers in our homes to school us about men. So, If we dont know the game how can we play it? . Thank you for schooling me. All of your messages have gotten me through some really rough times. Keep on doing the Lords Work...
Pastor Blakes, I recently discovered your videos and I am addicted to the powerful relational messages that are so long overdue to us (women and men). I'm a single 70 yr old beautiful and fit woman who anticipate marriage again (i've been divorced for many years). I'm so thankful for your commitment to speak the truth to us all. Senior citizens need to be delivered from childish thing as well. Love you Pastor Blakes, keep on empowering Us!
Omg!!! I soooo needed this insight! Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to help all your daughters out! 🙂
Straight and to the point. Your advice also goes for all relationships not only romantic ones
Love your teaching. Thanks
When I needed this wisdom I couldn't find it.Also I lost the only man in my life besides my father in heaven in 2012 who was my only Big Brother so I made a lot of poor choices in life when it came to men.Also I grew up fatherless so I feel very blessed to have come across your channel.Thank the lord for your wisdom.I have my ears and eyes and mind wide open to recieve your wisdom.
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE?? the holy spirit lives within you, thank you and GOD BLESS YOU
I share your videos with a lot of my close family members and friends. Thank you SO MUCH for these messages.
Sir you said it!! Borrowing money? Been there done that, mama told me if you wanna borrow 🤔 run 🏃🏃🏃cuze 1. He's nevah ( never) 😁! Going to pay you back 2. Isn't independent , & 3. A real man wouldn't want to borrow, I don't care how bad off he is, if he's about to be at the point of death from starvation & can play a tune on his ribs like a xylophone 😂😂🎶 I'm speaking about a love interest , not a dear friend or family member guys🤗
Called a hobosexual...
Praise the Lord for you Pastor. All these videos are so helpful in renewing my mind to the right way of thinking. God bless you