WHAT TO DO WHEN A MAN WON’T COMMIT AND HOW A WOMAN SHOULD RESPOND- Conversation between RC and Lisa

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 13 фев 2018
  • In this session on relationships RC and Lisa discuss men who won’t commit and how a woman should respond. In this candid conversation they discuss specific strategies to break free from a relationship that may be going no where fast.
    #rcblakes #queenology #Kingology
    ONLINE PROGRAMS BY RC BLAKES
    robert-lisa-blakes.mykajabi.c...
    -------------------
    DO YOU NEED COUNSELING?
    Better Help is a sponsor of our channel. We recommend them to make affordable mental health and counseling opportunities available. When you use the following link it affords you a discount for their services. They in turn compensate R.C. BLAKES MINISTRIES with a commission. If this is something you may need follow the link to get started.
    betterhelp.com/rc
    -------------------
    ALL BOOKS BY RC BLAKES ON AMAZON
    www.amazon.com/R.C.-Blakes-Jr...
    -------------------
    RC BLAKES WEB-STORE
    For Queenology and Kingology merch and more.
    www.rcblakesstore.com/
    -------------------
    SIGN UP FOR MY EMAIL GROUP
    www.rcblakes.com/
    -------------------
    FOLLOW RC ON SOCIAL MEDIA
    FACEBOOK
    / rcblakes
    INSTAGRAM / rcblakes
    TWITTER
    / rc_blakes
    RUclips RC BLAKES
    / robertblakes
    RUclips BISHOP RC BLAKES JR CYBER CHURCH CHANNEL / bishoprcblakesjr
    --------------------
    TO SUPPORT FINANCIALLY
    Cash App: $RCBLAKESJR
    Venmo: RCBLAKES
    RC BLAKES PAY PAL www.paypal.me/rcblakesministries
    -------------------
    JOIN THE CYBER CHURCH GLOBAL with RC and Lisa Blakes
    We are launching an official CYBER CHURCH GLOBAL w RC Blakes. To be included in updates on official launch, follow the link.
    rcblakesjr.com/internetchurch/

Комментарии • 2,6 тыс.

  • @bambam6231973
    @bambam6231973 4 года назад +285

    WOW when a man wont commit he believes you wont leave!!! Soooo true...

  • @natural3362
    @natural3362 Год назад +28

    When a man won't commit, a Queen must leave, sit on her throne and wait for another king to recognize and reign with her

    • @Zeus-dw1cx
      @Zeus-dw1cx 21 день назад

      There are no queens

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 21 день назад

      @@Zeus-dw1cx there are.. Plenty of queens

  • @islip376
    @islip376 4 года назад +320

    Redefine the relationship....I decided since he deceived me, he didn’t even deserve a friendship so I left!

    • @kirk1007
      @kirk1007 4 года назад +6

      Amen. He doesn't

    • @antoniahines83
      @antoniahines83 4 года назад +6

      Love this!

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 4 года назад +28

      Amen he isn't trustworthy, so he doesn't deserve to be a friend, confidant or an associate

    • @leyland2725
      @leyland2725 4 года назад +19

      Honestly men don't want women as friends

    • @paulagratefulnoend9683
      @paulagratefulnoend9683 4 года назад +7

      Yes you are so strong!!! I am making the same conclusion.

  • @deborahadamu9087
    @deborahadamu9087 3 года назад +156

    It's really an embarrassment to try to hold on to something that is running away from you. You shouldn't love someone more than you love yourself.

    • @brinnyfelicia
      @brinnyfelicia 10 месяцев назад +2

      Amen

    • @angelagabriel744
      @angelagabriel744 8 месяцев назад

      😢

    • @michelleelmergreen8511
      @michelleelmergreen8511 5 месяцев назад +1

      This has been happening to me he calls himself a Christian man we met 3 and half yrs ago and we we all in love everything seemed to be great like this was it this man was the one.. fast forward 3 and half yrs I been through so much with his guilt trips and walking out over EVERYTHING not even exaggerating....and demand me to take accountability and to take the blame.. I wanted to reconcile right away and tried so hard to stop him from leaving no matter what I did he left anyway and the rollercoaster continued. I allowed it and now I'm wondering what is going on? He has left me confused and devalued because he say wouldn't take his time out to reconcile on the spot. It just continues

    • @Insightinsight1
      @Insightinsight1 5 месяцев назад

      Same thing with me. They are narcissistic. Look it up and you will see it’s the same character traits

  • @ShermekaG
    @ShermekaG 5 лет назад +417

    a lot of reasons why some women don't leave is because they don't think they can do better, or they don't want to start all over. It's not worth it.

    • @yeahthatsme921
      @yeahthatsme921 4 года назад +28

      They don't want to accept the fact that they were played

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 3 года назад +21

      Sooner or later they realize that they lose more by staying than leaving

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 3 года назад +6

      @@yeahthatsme921 YASSS! Radical Acceptance versus Ego

    • @miranda2216
      @miranda2216 3 года назад +8

      @Casper Insight. Agreed from experience you lose more by staying!!!

    • @rebeccarobinson1954
      @rebeccarobinson1954 2 года назад +1

      Agreed 👍

  • @Choclatcotton
    @Choclatcotton 6 лет назад +280

    “Men respond to consequences “ thank you

    • @WiseLady7
      @WiseLady7 5 лет назад +1

      Absolutely, Choclatcotton!!!!

  • @meekainc
    @meekainc 3 года назад +382

    THIS IS SO POWERFUL:
    " Challenge the areas of your self-esteem that keeps you WAITING for someone that isn’t showing up!" ~ RC Blakes.

  • @God-Essence
    @God-Essence 4 года назад +564

    Why couldn’t I have found these videos sooner 😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ thank God I’m only 20, I’m sharing this with all my friends!

    • @erikarmccall
      @erikarmccall 4 года назад +40

      Taye_ BeautyTV knowing this in your twenties is such a blessing🙌🏾

    • @BlaximilianD00d
      @BlaximilianD00d 4 года назад +21

      Learn your purpose first before pursuing something like a relationship.

    • @New-mg4zp
      @New-mg4zp 4 года назад +30

      I’m so happy a young woman has found rc Blake’s..I’m 30 wish I’d found them at 20!

    • @meyliqg1774
      @meyliqg1774 4 года назад +5

      @@New-mg4zp same

    • @chelabuford7106
      @chelabuford7106 4 года назад +4

      You're a true friend and sister - I have shared with mine also!😉😊

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 6 лет назад +271

    wow men respond to consequences, ladies we need to learn we are the prize & we need to put our foot down

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 6 лет назад +3

      Michelle McDonald 100 Truth

    • @mzkayeleigh5582
      @mzkayeleigh5582 5 лет назад +12

      Absolutely Michelle! I'm in a situation like this as we speak but I have to realize that I AM THE PRIZE I DESERVE BETTER! He's a great guy, divorced, has his own business, love his momma and love his community. I've told him how I feel about him and so forth. Known him since February 2016, never been on a date or nothing, he's too busy and I'm like oookayyyyy RED FLAG RED FLAGGGGG, I should have been cut this joker loose. My husband is out there waiting on me....

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 5 лет назад +14

      @@mzkayeleigh5582
      Precisely if he can't take you out on a date or make time for you then cut your ties. Men make time for whomever they want, I had a guy that I met via the internet (about a month ago), we exchanged #'s, talked 4-5 times (2 hours +). Anyhow he stopped calling/ texting me & NEVER planned a date. Needless to say I deleted his phone number.

    • @27ltm
      @27ltm 4 года назад +1

      Michelle McDonald yes I needed to be reminded!

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 4 года назад +1

      MzKaye Leigh Praying for you !

  • @Sandra-wj4on
    @Sandra-wj4on 6 лет назад +467

    If he's yours, he'll come back. But if he's not - be glad he kept stepping and disappeared!

    • @mb5857
      @mb5857 5 лет назад +73

      Sandra Scott .... sometimes when they come back don't matter....He still may not be the one..

    • @faithsandstrom3883
      @faithsandstrom3883 3 года назад +5

      Well my ex narcissist come back...hoover. So it depends if anything changes and maybe one time to come back and stay...after that unhealthy.

    • @illuminatedbestchoice1042
      @illuminatedbestchoice1042 3 года назад +7

      They definitely don't need to come back.

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 3 года назад

      I hope he could come back...but nothing happened..he knows I wont go out with any man unless it leads to marriage..he wasnt honest..and moved in with someone he found..but yeah that doesnt mean they get on well...I keep meeting men I have no connection or they arent interested in me..they dont want to listen..at least that man we met once and he did listen..and I have the feeling he hoovers my site for year while being /chasing after other women..I believe he needs a place to stay..too..but yeah wouldnt ask him again and wouldnt go out with him unless he is honest and want marriage.. but I know he likes my art..its tough out there..many men fake interest..whilst he was not genuine to me..I did feel he had a genuine interest in me

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 3 года назад +2

      @D Frazier I think also most people arent with the right person..and are insecure to remain alone/single for a long time..and maybe bored..I have been single almost forever and the men I meet ..I can see through any of them..I can see through the fake interest too..when they dont focus on you or dont give you attention..its a major turn off for me..

  • @smores8982
    @smores8982 3 года назад +264

    This has been the most profound, punch-in-the-gut, wake-up video I’ve seen thus far. When I found out the (short lived) relationship I was in was actually a “situationship” and was only a mere convenience for him, I immediately went into self preservation mode by pulling sex off the table. I then put boundaries and standards in place and he slowly started fading from my life cause he wasn’t willing to meet them. This painful experience was truly eye-opening for me. But I still have my dignity and self-respect and that’s all that matters to me. Good riddance.

    • @jacquelinemeier-boucher8192
      @jacquelinemeier-boucher8192 2 года назад +16

      Though this was painful I'm sure, you did the right thing! Now wait upon the Lord,watch and see what he is going to bring you because you trusted. Glory!!!!

    • @nataliebarbieri8402
      @nataliebarbieri8402 Год назад

      I I 😅r you are are a ar w

    • @michelleelmergreen8511
      @michelleelmergreen8511 5 месяцев назад +1

      I feel the same right now going through it and he calls himself a Christian man and we been together 3 1/2 yrs and it was just a rollercoaster of in and out for him at his convenience

    • @judyneemagichuru949
      @judyneemagichuru949 3 месяца назад

      Exactly!!

  • @user-iq7hv7ud8u
    @user-iq7hv7ud8u 9 месяцев назад +19

    This was me, I was so consumed by the benefits!!! Monthly allowance, new car, big gifts etc... But no commitment, I was blinded by the help and gifts it was so hard to walk away❤ But I did, and guess what??? God Did!!! My business started to boom and so did my self estimate and self worth❤Glory to God!

  • @shabchique7149
    @shabchique7149 4 года назад +163

    I can see why you marry Lisa, such a beautiful, smart, and nice lady.

  • @asiangirlmob
    @asiangirlmob 6 лет назад +542

    Being engaged is not good enough either to give husband privileges

  • @nejeudi6539
    @nejeudi6539 4 года назад +276

    I've been in a relationship for 10 years with someone that has been making broken promises. He's done things that had me looking dumb. We haven't established anything during these 10 years. I'm at my breaking point now. As much as I love him, he doesn't matter to me now. This message is right on time. I hate that it has come to this point but it's time to let go.

  • @AAA-xk8fo
    @AAA-xk8fo 4 года назад +128

    He gained another dimension of respect for her when she left. Wow. I am glad that he is admitting that. Now I know as a woman love and respect go hand in hand.

  • @DIAMONDGIRL57
    @DIAMONDGIRL57 6 лет назад +221

    No words needed! Quietly move far away; emotionally and physically! Give nothing and watch what happens! I refused to continue dating a gentleman I once dated. We dated for three years. When I told him it was over and that the relationship was going no where, he said I was giving him an ultimatum. I told him “ call it what ever you wish!” I moved on. He came back and I told him if we are not building a permanent life together, I cannot continue to allow him to take anymore of my time. We done!!

    • @SanctifiedSista117
      @SanctifiedSista117 4 года назад +5

      AMEN SIS!

    • @lovedog49507
      @lovedog49507 4 года назад +5

      Go girl !

    • @maronicavolter7124
      @maronicavolter7124 4 года назад +14

      That's what's up you did that cause i don't know who they think they are you put your foot down baby girl 👭 👌 💪 👑 💍🙏 😇 he just played his self right out of a good # thing 🤗

    • @dbedazzling1
      @dbedazzling1 4 года назад +4

      Perfect. Know your worth.

    • @ms.darris2345
      @ms.darris2345 4 года назад +4

      Did he ever try and reach out to you again, after realizing he lost his good thing?

  • @jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4
    @jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4 6 лет назад +320

    Please preach! Ain’t no 7 9 10 11 years of dating! It only takes a man about 6 months-1 year, sometimes less, for him to figure out if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you! My years are too priceless and fragile, I love myself too much to allow a relationship to drain me and not give me my ending goal which is marriage. Dating is the car that takes you to your destination which is marriage and you can’t stay in that car for too long, it’s in and out. Please allow Mrs. Blakes to come on more! She’s so cute! 😭❤️

    • @zenta-g6m
      @zenta-g6m 6 лет назад +4

      Amanda W I think you missed what she was saying.

    • @jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4
      @jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4 6 лет назад +10

      Amanda W good for her honestly but I’m not going to date somebody for 4+ years and yet he never speaks on marriage, never shows signs, etc. Dating is in and out, you must show you are going that way. You definitely missed what I said but it’s fine 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @mindyourbizok
      @mindyourbizok 6 лет назад +6

      Amanda W
      They were in a sexual relationship for 7 yrs. Dating isgeting to know someone without intimacy. They prob dated for 2 weeks.

    • @tariascott8263
      @tariascott8263 6 лет назад +15

      HimeJessica absolutely right....why be in a relationship for more than 2 years without being engaged....

    • @TB-ev2hg
      @TB-ev2hg 6 лет назад +26

      HimeJessica my husband and I met, dated, got engaged and married in under a year. When a MAN knows, he knows!

  • @bidahangkristyano4128
    @bidahangkristyano4128 2 года назад +43

    I liked that Lisa expressed that she too had the urge to blow up your phone and stalk, but did not want to embarrass herself.
    Also when you said that nothing can turn the boy into a man, not his mom, or me. Thank you this is very very eye opening.

  • @gabrielamelendez6867
    @gabrielamelendez6867 4 года назад +165

    No Premature privilege
    Consequences
    Parameters/time limit
    don’t give all your heart away.
    Be able to leave/ Love yourself

  • @yolandamcmickel1395
    @yolandamcmickel1395 6 лет назад +567

    Lisa did a great job! I love your videos on soul ties, I've broken an almost 20 year soul tie now with my youngest child's father. He's married 2 women over me, the last he tried to hide and of course he's not with her anymore either. I had to come to terms with my life and my self worth. I'm doing great, I turned 47 yesterday, I've lost 150 lbs in the past 3 years & looking forward to what God had on store for me.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  6 лет назад +49

      Yolanda McMickel WOW!!! So proud of the way you’ve taken the reigns of your life.🙏🏾

    • @profacegod9968
      @profacegod9968 6 лет назад +28

      150 pounds. I can't even lose the 20 I need to lose😞. Congrats this is inspiring!

    • @chevybrown3931
      @chevybrown3931 6 лет назад +4

      Proface God 😂

    • @paulajames3937
      @paulajames3937 6 лет назад +12

      Yolanda McMickel That's wonderful, you're still young and have a lot to live for. God bless and keep you!🙏😊

    • @chaazachyasharahla7185
      @chaazachyasharahla7185 6 лет назад +5

      Amen!

  • @TiffaniHenson
    @TiffaniHenson 5 лет назад +161

    It's so much easier to just leave when you do not get emotional invested in a man.

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 3 года назад +20

      Which is exactly why soooo many Players game us, to get us attached. Leading us on with false promises until we wake up. It takes more strength to walk away than to endure the nonsense

    • @doramawrie3741
      @doramawrie3741 3 года назад +5

      @Tiffani Henson you are absolutely, I believe a woman should leave before she has become too emotionally attached with a man!

    • @Claribel42
      @Claribel42 2 года назад +2

      I want to know how to not get emotionally attached to a man. Can some one tell me how to do that? I really want to learn how to not get attached

    • @debbieowusu5783
      @debbieowusu5783 2 года назад +4

      @@Claribel42 By loving yourself dear..

    • @Fr3sHTiNa
      @Fr3sHTiNa 2 года назад +1

      @@Claribel42 when you love yourself you may have feelings for them or love them but are not completely attached.

  • @Marie34694
    @Marie34694 4 года назад +194

    “You wanna be friends? No problem, but I need a wife. Let me go find me a wife!”
    I love it ♥️♥️♥️

  • @ramatd
    @ramatd Год назад +58

    Thank you both. I only give a man up to 3 to 6 months. If he isn’t ready to commit to a relationship then I walk away. I had to walk away from this last one and I had just fallen in love with him. It is hard. I miss him but I want a man who is ready for what I’m looking for. Your videos are really helping me stay strong and grow. Thank you

    • @tradebaby4960
      @tradebaby4960 Год назад

      😊

    • @sadikirotakala6827
      @sadikirotakala6827 8 месяцев назад +1

      I have been waiting for this comment. Thank you.

    • @saludosalsol
      @saludosalsol 8 месяцев назад +2

      That’s good cuz also after 3-6 months even if you’re “in love” or very infatuated with the person it’s not enough time to create soul ties and get very attached.

    • @theeladyj
      @theeladyj 4 месяца назад +1

      Same . I had to walk away because he wouldn’t commit after on and off for a year. I refused to be strung along

  • @sharonjohns1686
    @sharonjohns1686 6 лет назад +143

    Here's the beautiful queen we've been hearing about. She's beautiful

  • @vzearchitect
    @vzearchitect 6 лет назад +134

    I am a Queen and will be treated accordingly. No excuses

    • @sophiasmith5949
      @sophiasmith5949 6 лет назад

      Betty Fouche queen of what???

    • @lifeventures6651
      @lifeventures6651 6 лет назад +17

      She is the Queen/CEO of her own life. If women do not honor themselves like that, neither will men.

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 Год назад +2

      I'm a Queen too and will be treated accordingly.
      No more shitty behaviors

  • @linda5754
    @linda5754 3 года назад +146

    I’m 61, single and no dating or anything for almost 20 years, now back on the saddle again, thank god I found both of you to guide me.

    • @foziaafzalbhat4911
      @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 года назад +27

      Love yourself... Go for a walk.. drink water. Meditate. Find a hobby. Read a book. Do something that excites you.... Grow and level up financially, emotionally, mentally, physically. Don't let your age define you. Make friends. Be around kids and people who are genuine and make you smile and happy... Get in touch with people who understand you. Travel and make small trips... Have a Instagram page.. share your life and views... Build an audience.... Be around and involve yourself in positive activities and let life surprise you with miraculous recovery and happiness ❤️❤️❤️

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 2 года назад

      @@foziaafzalbhat4911 Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close.
      But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho?
      Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

    • @taghazoutmoon5031
      @taghazoutmoon5031 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@foziaafzalbhat4911she's been single 20 years. She needs a man, not another walk

  • @CrochetExpressway
    @CrochetExpressway 4 года назад +115

    You and your wife just breathed so much life into my self love bank. I’m done with compromising my virtue

    • @Clairebonita777
      @Clairebonita777 2 года назад +2

      God bless you my Sister; just hold it down. You’re on the right path and by God’s Grace you will definitely do better than some of us who wasted our time on losers

  • @virtuous_committed
    @virtuous_committed 6 лет назад +313

    My ex thought the same thing that I would never leave him because I dealt with his infidelity so many years but that joker was surprised and he got divorce papers and I never look back because I believe we all have a Breaking Point and he broke beyond that point and I NEVER looked back

    • @leleflower2366
      @leleflower2366 6 лет назад +6

      Jacqueline Bond
      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Awesome Awesome You deserve nothing less than the best

    • @lisablakes8085
      @lisablakes8085 6 лет назад +5

      Jacqueline Bond good for you!!!!

    • @donnabailey2091
      @donnabailey2091 5 лет назад +5

      I really admire you and have now found hope and faith in myself to find the strength to do the same 💜

    • @LeiRoses
      @LeiRoses 5 лет назад +2

      Yes! Good Move!

    • @asiamonna5289
      @asiamonna5289 4 года назад +2

      💪🏾🙌🏾

  • @GDBONEY
    @GDBONEY 5 лет назад +199

    In the early stages of a friendship/relationship there are always red flags. When a man dose not commit within the first 3 months, there is no relationsip, take a long walk before/within the first two month. Six months/year, after an establishished relationship, there is no discussion of marriage, Love yourself, let go, move on, trust/allow God to take you to another place in life!!!!!! Whom God has for you, will be exclusively yours!!!!!!!! Thanking you for sharing... My brother always taught me these life lessons about men/relationships. Please do more videos together!!!

    • @nichellehowell
      @nichellehowell 3 года назад +24

      Sometimes there is discussion, even a proposal but the man won't fully commit. This is called future faking.

    • @mariewilliams3203
      @mariewilliams3203 2 года назад +1

      Yes

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 2 года назад

      Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close.
      But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho?
      Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

    • @charlenegrigsby1633
      @charlenegrigsby1633 2 года назад

      Good advice! So happy Ms Felicia spoke with you on this topic! Thank you both & May God continue to bless all you do!🙏🏽💕

  • @tarao4382
    @tarao4382 4 года назад +129

    Wow! This was good, 19 mins. Never be available all of the time to a boyfriend. Only a husband! I got it😉

    • @Maria__57
      @Maria__57 4 года назад +10

      Not even to a husband you have to be always available ...bc they will suck the LIFE out of you...especially if you have a NARC as a husband...then they will think they OWN YOU...

    • @teopistorsind9874
      @teopistorsind9874 4 года назад +3

      @CHC4669 we don't want to hear about you. Get out of here with your efiminate energy. You are all up our business like anyone cares about what crap you have to say. Get lost!

  • @edytadelfel249
    @edytadelfel249 3 года назад +75

    Yes, Ladies we are the prize!!!! Period... point blank!!! Love your self, your life and work on your own abundance. If he is not stepping up then raise your standards. There’s no other way!!!
    Pastor, your standards raises my standards and I can never thank you enough!!!

  • @ashleyjackson7212
    @ashleyjackson7212 6 лет назад +222

    I love the way you look at each other and how Pastor Blake encourages Lady Lisa. I think Lisa should make regular appearances. We need a woman's perspective. Many Blessings

    • @rochelledabozz2069
      @rochelledabozz2069 6 лет назад +5

      Ashley Jackson indeed I loved it

    • @robincrawley311
      @robincrawley311 6 лет назад +9

      Isn't it Beautiful!!! You Can see the Love they have for Each other, There is almost a Blush, So Sweet They Are!!! They Are Blessed, and such an Added Blessing To Us All!!!
      😇😇😇

  • @brittanychapman5438
    @brittanychapman5438 5 лет назад +286

    I have listened to this at least 4 times and I keep hearing it differently each time I hear it. I REALLY needed this video in my life.

    • @nailslovr9378
      @nailslovr9378 4 года назад +11

      Yes. Yes. Yes. And Mrs. Blakes adds invaluable perspective. I’ve already re-watched this several times too! This is powerful.

    • @musicmaker1311
      @musicmaker1311 3 года назад

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😩

    • @eleseclarke6038
      @eleseclarke6038 3 года назад +1

      Same here

    • @almarodriguez2085
      @almarodriguez2085 3 года назад +5

      They are both awesome !!! love her point of view and his as well. Very straight forward, bold and no sugar coating

    • @beauty4u132
      @beauty4u132 2 года назад

      I was thinking that I need to continue to listen as well. This might be my # 3 .

  • @happyhermit931
    @happyhermit931 4 года назад +22

    Being barren is massive blow for a woman to take i felt worthless..Not any more..I told him to go because i wasn't wasting no more of my time I've more to me than a womb .Ive a beautiful soul with lots of wisdom gained through pain .Amen .

  • @Christimony222
    @Christimony222 2 года назад +48

    Your wife is gorgeous !!! I’m so happy about this marriage and the help that you are given to all of ours. May God bless you both.

  • @TheFactsofLife237
    @TheFactsofLife237 6 лет назад +151

    Aawhh! He's still chasing his wife Lisa! LOL!I'd like to hear more from Lisa Blakes! She has standards!

  • @CarolynYouman59
    @CarolynYouman59 6 лет назад +235

    Beautiful husband and wife.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

  • @robindavidson2700
    @robindavidson2700 3 года назад +36

    Omggggg this is confirmation that I’ve moved in the right direction Lord take the wheel 🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @user-iq7hv7ud8u
      @user-iq7hv7ud8u 9 месяцев назад +1

      Facts, me too!! Glory to God ❤❤❤

  • @shoshanna8475
    @shoshanna8475 4 года назад +47

    My love has value, and someone else will be tickled that he blew it ;-)

  • @4loveOnlyLOVE
    @4loveOnlyLOVE 6 лет назад +139

    Your wife is beautiful. This was very encouraging. I am a single mother of FOUR boys, all different fathers. I wear my heart on my sleeve and have given and given until I can't give anymore. I am not ashamed of my boys or their fathers... I have just been so quick to love and give my all. Thank you for the encouragement... I'm excited to see what God has for me.

    • @adoseofinfinity
      @adoseofinfinity 5 лет назад +9

      4loveOnlyLOVE I’m glad to see that I’m not the same. Exact same situation! Continue to be encouraged ❤️

    • @elizabethmonica2307
      @elizabethmonica2307 5 лет назад +4

      4loveOnlyLOVE I am sending you love ... light and prayers

    • @mayhorse66
      @mayhorse66 5 лет назад +17

      you are not alone! i didn't have a attentive Father to show me what to look for in a men. With low self esteem i chose the wrong men. At 40 my life changed - i said NO MORE. I've spent 12 years working on my self worth and i'm so grateful to God and videos like these. I am now happy to be single than with the wrong man. Now i only date good men. If they can't commit i walk away with my head held high.

    • @Elizanaa
      @Elizanaa 4 года назад +5

      Wow! 👏 you are a super hero. God will definitely use this for His glory! 🎉💙🧡

    • @lindsayowens4962
      @lindsayowens4962 Год назад

      Not saying marriage isn't for you, but speaking from a woman I feel is very similar to what you decribe in some ways (me),. Some of God's closest servants are women like us, with good hearts and checkered pasts, who God keeps single at least for a season. Have you ever considered going back to school, maybe to channel some of that passion.

  • @missskinndeepunapologetically
    @missskinndeepunapologetically 6 лет назад +266

    Can u please do a video on the boundaries of boyfriends, engagement marriage?

  • @angelsattachedtoangst7576
    @angelsattachedtoangst7576 4 года назад +53

    I think this goes with the saying “Sometimes you have to let go to hang on.”

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 2 года назад

      Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close.
      But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho?
      Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

  • @Clairebonita777
    @Clairebonita777 2 года назад +13

    I can very well relate to this. Men do not buy what they can borrow
    We have to love with our brain intact; you won’t die if he leaves,
    in fact someone bettter will come along

  • @Prettyinpink0714
    @Prettyinpink0714 4 года назад +94

    The people that really need to hear this is at the club

  • @yvettekammie8869
    @yvettekammie8869 5 лет назад +47

    I was in a 6 year relationship and there were other issues and I walked away because he didn't want to commit. I refuse to waste any more of my life.

    • @dbedazzling1
      @dbedazzling1 4 года назад +6

      Good for you. Some ppl engage a girl in 2 months.

  • @beccareynolds4625
    @beccareynolds4625 3 года назад +33

    My internet mum and dad 🙏🏻 Thank you thank you thank you. Loving my self and letting go of toxic relationships. At 38 years old I’ve taken a battering emotionally and spiritually because I haven’t set healthy boundaries and because of low self esteem. Better late than never. Thank you so much for your wisdom. Much love 💕

  • @godpropertybarry335
    @godpropertybarry335 4 года назад +10

    Yes! I have never let a man waste my time. Bye bye period. Because of that I met the husband that God sent to me.

  • @ellefont3813
    @ellefont3813 6 лет назад +71

    I enjoyed Lisa and her transparency. It was an added bonus from a female prospective. Lisa please come again.

  • @ece421
    @ece421 6 лет назад +120

    “Challenge the areas of your self-esteem that keep you waiting for someone who never shows up”. I really like this thank you! 🙏
    Lisa thank you for being on, sometimes the advice that is given on this show comes across in a more real way when it’s coming from a woman’s voice. I think you also have great camera presence so I encourage you to post more video discussions. Thank you!

    • @CS-pl1re
      @CS-pl1re 5 лет назад +5

      She's so sweet

  • @ninalovelady3842
    @ninalovelady3842 4 года назад +28

    I really liked hearing Lisa's comments and seeing your mutual love and respect.

  • @BC-qb2vw
    @BC-qb2vw 2 года назад +15

    I am so grateful I found this channel at 32, I wish I found it at 15 but better late then never 🙌🏽 Thank you so much for sharing your heart and teachings with us all. Truly a blessing.

  • @Meeeksss
    @Meeeksss 6 лет назад +190

    Mrs. Blakes,
    I love your honesty. I'm going to stop acting crazy. Lol... I've done the drive by.. search the computer.. u name it.. it's very unattractive. I needed to be rebuked. Thank u. It stops today!

    • @lisablakes8085
      @lisablakes8085 6 лет назад +12

      Meeeksss good for you Queen, praying your strength ❤️

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 6 лет назад +10

      Meeeksss 🙇‍♀️🙆‍♂️🙇‍♀️.....
      AND also check out
      DERRICK JAXN...on you tube for ADDED POSITIVE STRENGTH🙇‍♀️🙏🙇‍♀️

    • @Mrs.T305
      @Mrs.T305 5 лет назад +5

      You can search the computer. Many men are secretive so you have to do the background checks to protect yoursleves. I've found many marriages and divorces by searching public records.

    • @October3074
      @October3074 4 года назад

      Computer searches r good 2 find out if they're registered sex offenders.

  • @Blkbeautee
    @Blkbeautee 6 лет назад +60

    I love it. She called your bluff and you woke up.

    • @lamiraclegasaway1832
      @lamiraclegasaway1832 5 лет назад

      I take a stand today
      Im a classy lady
      Wasted 18years with one man 2 years with another nomore

  • @jackiebell4288
    @jackiebell4288 2 года назад +4

    A lot of women wasn’t taught how to date and how not to have premature benefits. I wish I was taught but glad I learned

  • @Proverbs31Ministries222
    @Proverbs31Ministries222 2 года назад +6

    Preach men call women crazy these days too when you hold them accountable. A Queen gives consequences. Period and moves on with her life. Little boys play around and Men settle down. Preach Lisa and Rc. This video I'm sharing on my fb.

  • @thejazzi1780
    @thejazzi1780 5 лет назад +35

    Thank you for your testimonys. I been. There.for a guy. We been friends for 3 yrs. Finally recently when he said I never said we were gonna be together. It cut me like a knife. But I wasn't crushed. Im becoming an Entrepreneur and doing me. Now hes chasing me. I gave it to God!

  • @youme6206
    @youme6206 6 лет назад +25

    Lisa, the nation of ladies would love to have you return. The balance I witness tonight was/is everlasting to my soul. Everyday is a special day. As women in there own time and healing will know that. They will reflect back to a true King and Queen with many thank yous and Praise. It's not a time to stay where you are. To the ladies of Virtue"Seek deep and pull her pretty self out and love her. Live for her. She's the other part of you that's been there through it all. Pull her back before she walk away too." Thank you Pastor and Mrs. Blake, extended family for this gracious time spent with each and every one of us. Truly grateful.

  • @arlenescott7636
    @arlenescott7636 Год назад +7

    I only came across this 4 year old video today. What an inspirational couple you are. Everything you covered, is exactly what I went through and through the intervention of the Almighty, I walked away. I am a much happier and wiser woman. It may have been late but, I want to thank you both anyway. Bless

  • @Redfox-1984
    @Redfox-1984 4 года назад +27

    I so needed this. I gave away my heart too soon to a soul tie. I've been praying for guidance and strength because I have attachment trauma. I just downgraded our relationship to a friend and he said I misunderstood but never mind now. Very passive aggressive. I'm hopeful for what God has for me. Thank you both. I had the belief at 54 years it was too late for me. God Bless.

    • @lionessnala2000
      @lionessnala2000 3 года назад +4

      He doesn't even deserve the friendship 😔

  • @keshiacowan5070
    @keshiacowan5070 6 лет назад +55

    I needed to hear this, After 2 yrs of dating and no commitment...yes it's time for me to let go!

    • @BraidedNikki
      @BraidedNikki 4 года назад +5

      Whoa , I thought 2 months was too long. 2 years is forever girl .

    • @brujalinda
      @brujalinda 4 года назад +2

      Keshia Cowan how did it go?

    • @kirk1007
      @kirk1007 4 года назад +1

      YES

    • @MimiCoco-gt7zo
      @MimiCoco-gt7zo 3 месяца назад

      ​@BraidedNikki
      Say it I've been interacting with a guy 4 months & he doesn't want to define the relationship. It's really starting to bother me.

  • @missvictory1530
    @missvictory1530 6 лет назад +59

    This came at the best time. It especially is hard when a man is telling you your going to be married soon but isn't acting out on it...we have to look at actions

  • @earthreign7128
    @earthreign7128 4 года назад +15

    I swear wherever Pastor Blake does a video at always looks so peaceful..that is such a blessing. The anointing on his life is evident every time that he delivers a message...God is so Awesome !

  • @secretgarden1218
    @secretgarden1218 4 года назад +27

    I love Lisa she is so beautiful inside and out🧚🏻‍♀️💞

  • @Natural1yDope
    @Natural1yDope 5 лет назад +77

    I needed to hear this, After 4 1/2 yrs of dating and no commitment.. THANK YOU

    • @WoolyTresses
      @WoolyTresses 2 года назад +1

      He'll get the cookies and couldn't care if they crumble. He'll sit and watch you waste away then go get another one.

    • @MimiCoco-gt7zo
      @MimiCoco-gt7zo 3 месяца назад

      Whew that's deep

  • @CreoleLadyBug
    @CreoleLadyBug 5 лет назад +81

    Leave him alone. It’s useless to be with anyone who doesn’t want to live under God’s covenants. That includes women too.

  • @PunkyPink85
    @PunkyPink85 4 года назад +23

    Y’all have given me more information about dating and men in 36 minutes than my parents ever have! Thank you so much and god bless! 💕

  • @tjelks
    @tjelks 4 года назад +6

    Ms Lisa, thank you SO much for your perspective! You know exactly how deep our love can go and how hard it is to let go when you feel you've given your all!! I thank you both for being the parents many of us never had and sharing wisdom that is so desperately needed today!! I pray we hear more from you both!!

  • @SunShyne-of3xj
    @SunShyne-of3xj 6 лет назад +68

    Yesss!!! To all of this!! I had to do exactly this!! Walked away and I'm not sure I'll even entertain him again. Prior to me dated someone for 6 years!!! NO ENGAGEMENT and then he walks away!! There is something else deeper going on with him.
    I gave him enough time (6months) to determine whether I'm who he wanted....His actions said otherwise so I was out!!

    • @jerriwilson4875
      @jerriwilson4875 6 лет назад +3

      Enjoyed your perspective Lisa. Hope to see you and Pastor Blakes together again soon. God Bless

    • @munchkineatsalotvent9899
      @munchkineatsalotvent9899 6 лет назад

      no there isn't LOL he doesn't have to want you because he's Fucking you get a clue lol also take that Stupid ass Weave out your hair

    • @MJ-vt4nb
      @MJ-vt4nb 6 лет назад +8

      Same, except he was with the previous woman for 14 years! I don't have 14 years to play around!

    • @Grillaland
      @Grillaland 6 лет назад

      how ignorant!

    • @missygreene75
      @missygreene75 5 лет назад

      Omg; I'm going thru the same thing after 7 yrs u should kw and stop making excuses!

  • @daniellem578
    @daniellem578 6 лет назад +111

    This was nice pastor. Your wife is so sweet!

  • @ruthspillman546
    @ruthspillman546 2 года назад +10

    Thank you, Lisa, for being a part of this teaching. I really needed a woman's perceptive on where I am and what I need to do. God Bless You Both!!!

  • @RS-uv5hb
    @RS-uv5hb 4 года назад +14

    Lisa you were ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!!!!! Your input was Truly VALUABLE....you spoke directly to women that were in your shoes. Thank you tremendously for your Transparency!!😇🙏🏽❤️

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 2 года назад

      Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close.
      But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho?
      Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

  • @veronicalee7291
    @veronicalee7291 5 лет назад +64

    This video was like a balm. I appreciate your wife speaking on the fact that she wanted to reach out when you weren't quite acting right but didn't. This whole chat has reassured me that dealing with a man in his 30s who still has commitment issues is not uncommon. So many gems in this video. I'm going to continue to watch and pray. Thank you.

    • @skeeter5641
      @skeeter5641 2 года назад +1

      Wow!!! Exactly the words l would have said!!! This video is an eye opener for me.

  • @ledaham2321
    @ledaham2321 4 года назад +70

    I bet you , he was driving pass your house to see if you was still there.

  • @MsEma0810
    @MsEma0810 3 года назад +7

    I needed this. I added it to my favorites and I'll be watching again! I thank God for you two. Be blessed.

  • @nanabell402000
    @nanabell402000 4 года назад +11

    This was so very valuable. Loved hearing from both of you at the same time describing different perspectives. Thank you so much!!!!

  • @queencanislupusofthewolfpa2247
    @queencanislupusofthewolfpa2247 5 лет назад +65

    If a man won't commit to you then he is not the man for you. I don't have to hear this one to know that he isn't the kind of man you need if there's no commitment!! And a woman shouldn't look down on herself if this is the case! There are too many potential suitors out there for a person to be focused on 1 individual! But staying focused on who she is as a positive force what it is she can do for herself is the key. Then she can link herself to the man that is really needed in her life!

    • @crystalcormier9376
      @crystalcormier9376 4 года назад +3

      You right Sis!!! But you know that ole sayin Man's rejection gods protection. I feel like this when man rejects me god is protecting me from this man. Much love Sis.❤❤❤❤

  • @jessicajohnson2559
    @jessicajohnson2559 6 лет назад +23

    First Lady please come back, I really enjoyed your presence you both were amazing!

  • @paulagratefulnoend9683
    @paulagratefulnoend9683 4 года назад +5

    Best parenting ever!!!! I love the two of you together! Thank you for humbling yourselves and sharing to those of us in real need! I see things clearly now💥

  • @donatello4716
    @donatello4716 3 года назад +8

    The presence of your wife in this one is invaluable. It was good to see you two together. I'm new to your channel and subscribed. I hope to find more videos with her too. This is a great one!

  • @ThrivewithJesus
    @ThrivewithJesus 6 лет назад +122

    Lisa, You did a great job!! Need to see you more

  • @danilaroche3832
    @danilaroche3832 6 лет назад +34

    This is the most encouraging video. Wow. I used to be that woman.. loving the man and completely losing myself. I just didn't "get it". Now I do. Praise the Lord. Lisa, you are fantastic. You two should have your own show.

  • @TheEmpowermentQueen
    @TheEmpowermentQueen 4 года назад +4

    This has been such a blessing for me right now. Thank you both!

  • @tomazavalkova4032
    @tomazavalkova4032 4 года назад +5

    Your presence, Lisa, is hard to overestimate! You both are such a blessing! Thank you!

  • @sondramyles1120
    @sondramyles1120 6 лет назад +42

    I like a woman's view. This was a great discussions. More! More!

  • @drea2663
    @drea2663 6 лет назад +25

    Lisa!!!! Please come back, this was so good. We need to hear from you! This was such a blessing

  • @kishagarrard9174
    @kishagarrard9174 3 года назад +4

    2021 ... your words are as power as the day you recorded this message. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Pastor.

  • @againstallodds404
    @againstallodds404 3 года назад +3

    So glad you made these things transparent. This is really helping me. I was listening and taking notes until your wife spoke up and became really transparent about her feelings. At that point, is when I was able to not only take notes but to identify that what I felt was real. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @BlackGirlwithPcos
    @BlackGirlwithPcos 6 лет назад +69

    She has a beautiful Spirit, loved this!!!

  • @mehonesty
    @mehonesty 6 лет назад +21

    Please come again Ms. Lisa...PLEASE!!! You did a WONDERFUL job!!! The camera LOVES you!!!

  • @kankan244
    @kankan244 3 года назад +5

    I'm just watching this but you two are great together. As the pastor said hearing things from a female perspective helps to reach even more queens. Amen and May God continue to bless your union and your ministry 🙏!!

  • @WLynah
    @WLynah 3 года назад +2

    Lisa it's a pleasure to have you and your energy as a part of the discussion. You did a great job!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @78vette11
    @78vette11 6 лет назад +57

    Good advice. A woman definitely sets the tone for a relationship

  • @blaknbeauty1
    @blaknbeauty1 6 лет назад +69

    She is prrrrrretty! Nice looking couple!

  • @sonjapetrovic2809
    @sonjapetrovic2809 4 года назад +7

    This is sooooo good! Everyone has boundaries, expectations & time frames. Play me once, that's your bad. Play me twice, that's my bad, 3 strikes you're out! 💯💯💯

  • @jenniferskains2500
    @jenniferskains2500 3 года назад +2

    Thank you Lisa for speaking directly to my heart! I am so grateful you joined RC. I needed to hear this and especially from your heart Lisa.....about to go have a very hard conversation with a 10 year relationship....cutting it. Blessings returned.

  • @loridori
    @loridori 6 лет назад +50

    I can say I'm the driver more than ever. I'm laughing at the comment that he said about women measuring what they give. Well I don't have to measure anything because I don't give anything LOL which might explain why this one particular guy chases me so hard and I'm extremely resistant and won't give him any time . It seems I've become too content with my singleness that I'm pushing guys away although I desire marriage. I've been celibate for 5 years and I just won't open my heart or legs to anyone. I thank God for his wisdom and even the pain from my past because it's brought me to higher standards with men. Settling is no longer an option. I love you guys ministry and hope you will be doing something soon that I can attend in the near future

    • @Mrs.T305
      @Mrs.T305 5 лет назад

      I've been celibate for 4 yrs and it's not getting me anywhere because I'm becoming avoidant (not dating at all in fear of getting hurt) and that's not going to get me a husband or the children I desire. I'm not sure that celibacy is giving me the results I want.

  • @vzearchitect
    @vzearchitect 6 лет назад +74

    I'm listening to God. No wife duties for a boyfriend.. that's not God intended.... be Intentional

    • @dbedazzling1
      @dbedazzling1 4 года назад

      I never do wife duties. He pursues me bc I am independent.

  • @NoraYKpoo
    @NoraYKpoo 2 года назад +4

    Woo! This teaching is just for me. I am a victim of giving my hole self to a boy who had never valued me at all. To God be the glory for directing me to this life changing lesson. It time for me to redo! Thanks to you wonderful people and my prayer for you is that God will continue to keep you strong.

  • @sharonwilliams9903
    @sharonwilliams9903 Год назад +2

    Lisa is a great source for helping us heal. She brings that feminine perspective and it just feels good to know that she understands, she gets it.