10 COMMON MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WITH MEN - PERISCOPE SESSION - RC BLAKES
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1. Thinking that you can hook a husband with sex; 2. Settling for somebody who is obviously deficient in his character, and believing that you can change him; 3. Not taking time to learn and heal from the previous break-up; 4. Tolerating emotional abuse; 5. Talking too much too soon; 6. Taking advice from women who are alone and angry with the world; 7. Entertaining a new man without the counsel of the men in your life; 8. You always reconcile the relationship even when he's wrong; 9. Forsaking your personal ambition in pursuit of a man; 10. Not asking questions.
1) Trying to hook a man with sex
2) Settling
3).Not taking time to heal from hurt of pervious relationship(s)
4). Tolerating emotional abuse
5). Talking too soon/ Giving too much information
6). Taking advice from are lonelyangry women
7) Entertaining a new man without council of the men in your life/ family
8) Always being the one to bring reconciliation
9) Forsaking your personal ambitions for the pursuit of a relationship
10) Not asking questions
God bless u. These videos can be too long n never to the point
Thanks for writing all these points . Appreciate it 🤗
Thank you
Thanks for the summary.
Thank you for your highlights.
“Never tolerate a man who depletes your soul “ RC Blake’s ‼️
My Lord 🙏
It is very nice to hear you and to teach women if they don't have no man in their life these very things God bless you and have a blessed night
That part! I had to pause it on that point. So powerful.
Watch your video for the first time today I like it
Amen!
If a man's not comfortable with you asking him personal questions, keep stepping
Players HATE if you ask "Why didnt you see your kids etc". Theyll say " Dont get into my business."
Great word thanks
I also think men should be just as leery about women who are uncomfortable being asked questions by men as well. This concept goes both ways imo
@@ksquareshow4480 😓
Right, if a man can see you hurt and ignore you. Total DISRESPECT!!!
Huge red flag. Love doesn't hurt physically, mentally or emotionally. If it does hurt in any of these ways, RUN!! And run fast!
Shirl 1
This has blessed me God bless you
Rachelle Gibson yes, i walked away from those types. Its sad
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Some of us grew up in survival instead of love
Gladys collins truth
Gladys collins
You said a mouthful
Gladys collins yes like me and it is hard always having to fight and be contented to what I had. Because event in my life have been so hard to live. I even wonder why and how I still make it to wake up everyday.
I didn't realize it until many years later but essentially that was my situation, I see that now in hind sight
.... yes!
Sadly even brothers and dads DON’T care enough about you to protect you because of their own hatred towards women. Many women wish they could call a brother or father,
I love it
Yes. There are black males father's brothers cousins nephews that HATE US!!
One of the hardest parts for me as a woman at 32 is knowing how deeply I yearn to be a mother…. I’m faced with the pressure of my biology and it sucks because I feel like men get atleast a extra decade to figure they’re life out…. I don’t feel desperate for a relationship just a deep desire to be in a healthy one and to be blessed with a family. I’m grateful I found this channel sooner rather then later 💕🙌🏽
Words ,! Exactly the same feeling
You're not alone!
@@s.c.h6512my biological clock was pounding at age 30.
A very long and heartbreaking story short, the man you choose to be their father could make or break YOU as a mother.
The wrong man could try to sabotage your relationship between their own child and the you- mother of the child.
Imagine the next one comes, you want to enjoy your new baby and breast-feed, but you find out he’s cheating on you right when you give birth and you’re so distraught that you can barely produce milk ..
Point number 5: is on point. “Men not leading the conversation”...and women telling too much info. I WAS guilty of this before. Yes and Amen.
Michelle Williams me, too. I thought I was just being upfront and truthful. I know now!😃
Me too 🙁
Me too🤦♀️
Michelle Williams Thats meee 😔😔
guilty also
Don't take advice from lonley and unhappy women about a relationship. Take advice from women who are in healthy relationships. Lord thank you.
I would love to...but l don't know any woman or men that are.
Sometimes a wise discernment of a single woman who is not mad at... But is worth the wisdom of that of any women in relationships to advise.
How do you know that the women in relationships are worthy to be giving sound advice, their union can look kosher on the outside, but mess on the inside.
Just saying, bc there are Jezebel's out there who has no good intention of worthiness to give godly wisdom, and discernment to other women in upliftment
Now we only have to find people who are in happy, healthy marriages!! LOL.
Sometimes it’s better to be alone. Males these days are the very word that they label females, a whore. You can’t turn a whore into a husband.
Marsha T ⭐️
My father never had a talk with me ... that's why I made so many mistakes...
What a beautiful message
Mine either and all of the grandfathers and uncles died before I came of age. When I met my dad I was a pregnant 17 year old, He chastised me for being “ naughty” . I told him well…. maybe had you been here I wouldn’t have made this choice. He called me the B word. Lol I can laugh now. This is why I listen to men like Pastor Blakes to gain wisdom
@@LisaLisaCJ Sorry your Dad was foolish my Dad was in my life but he was too busy trying to break my soul and stop my growth. I too got pregnant at 17. He wasn’t kind to me at all. He said things I can’t write. I’m healing ❤️🩹 now from my choices in men. I’m now 48 and angry at myself because I knew better. Listening to Pastor Blake’s everyday to help get it right. Thank God for pastor 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
So powerful
Right! I think that when they are not living right they can't bring themselves to genuinely give their girls the game. We were extremely close, but not one talk about how to choose the right guy.
Same..still doing
This is why it's a blessing to have a father
I was raised by my dad and grandmothers. i still have one elderly grandma, and a decent relationship with my mother. loosing my father to cancer was the worst, but his spirit, wisdom and guidance is within me mostly.
Yes. If he's deceit
I disagree. My father sexually abused me when I was a little girl
@@lilmar1710 I am so sorry! Praying for you. Have you gone for spiritual or professional counsel?
@@lisayoung4810 No I haven’t it’s been so long, I’m married now with kids. My family don’t want to talk about it… in other words their telling me to get over it
Tell the truth! I'm 60 years old but not to old to continue learning!
56 here, and yes, this list resonates with me. Healing the lost 30 years. Acceptance....open to learning, being tired of being tired, grieving, trusting myself, honoring my heart, standing in the light of God, one day at a time. "When I look back on yesterday can I say I lived my life with excellence? If I did not what can I do today to change?"..JM W
"How do you gonna change a man's character who has none?" You're a blessing, R.C Blakes.
Preach !
I always rewatch his videos
Deep
No one can change an adult, unless they want to change which is only 2% as per statistics.
So either we change the way we deal with them or walk away & live a happy life with no regret.
Where/which book is this written?
He's on point about how women always apologizing for how we feel while men don't. The story of my life (was).
This video should have a million views. Advice, counsel, teaching is beyond one's imagination. Direct, delivered with love, & so doggone honest it hurts. I'm so glad you exist in time and space while I'm alive Pastor Blakes. Thanks for helping so many women! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
women must guard their hearts
yes
Everyone must guard their heart.
michy 43 And keep their legs cross
And minds!
I’m laughing so hard because what you’re saying is so true. People put too much of their business on social media. #doingwaytoomuch
#5 is my biggest mistake, worst mistake and most regrettable mistake. Trusting them TOO MUCH AND TOO FAST. It has had horrific consequences.
Same here Queen , thanks for sharing I'm on the same boat.
Yes sister!!! I agree. This has been my main mistake too.
I think many women (including myself)have made these mistakes Pastor Blake's is speaking of because we have not had people in our lives to really guide us and explain things to us this way. I love that we have Pastor Blake's now to give us these talks because they are so needed.
Me too ladies
Lord. You spoke the truth. Wish I heard this 5yrs ago when you recorded this. I would’ve saved me a lot of hurt, time, and confusion. All 10 steps I follow now. I had to learn the hard way. Thank you pastor for reminding me and confirming my beliefs 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
4 years later and this is STILL a great message 🖤. I'm sitting here saying YES! YES! 🙌🏽 😊
My grandmother met a worthy man because she didn't take any form of abuse. Women need to build their self-esteem and meet men that are mature with balance. Excellent video. ❤
Yes
Truth. Exactly what. I've done
Still not ready. My soul is more important. Blessings to you.
When you ask a man a question or questions on why his last relationship ended and everything is his ex fault ... Run Away.. He ain't got no truth in him... A real man will tell you and own up to his wrong doings.
Very true
Chard'Dae Summer Hopkins that’s a man that moves like a woman...no accountability for his own actions...always “somebody else’s” fault
Or what I heard two baby mommas that are both mad he won't be with them!!!!😂😂😂
Sotrue
So true
5. Women talk too much, I agree. Also don't give him the road map to your ❤️. He will use that for manipulation.
This is brilliant! It's 2021 and I have just discovered your channel. Thank you ❤️
Same here. I think his advices are on point. 🤗
@@LaIndiaMaria22 yes and moreover, he builds up a healthy confidence, awareness and humility. Best wishes to you 🙏
The truth has no time limits.
This is my first time
Same here!
I wish I had you as a father. Thank you for your lesson.
Great one.👍🏾
Me too. Bless you
I didn't get one.
Absolutely agree
PhD women manipulated by GED men. Making it plain ... surely you are!!!
WhySoEarly you made that plain...yes the truth
WhySoEarly he a fake!
GED?
+Kim Jackson like him or not the information is priceless
@@lovelysosweet8386 why do you say he's a fake?
“I don’t know what’s wrong with you.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I LOVE IT. Needed to hear this.
You truly have a heart of a father, that's wisdom, i thank God for you.
Very true! Emotional abuse shouldn't be tolerated. I ran off a man who called me "stupid" just because I told his friend not to call me "babes"....the moment I heard that, IT WAS OVER! Am as happy as Ever....if he can call you names,he can lay his hands on you too,just a matter of time. Let's wisen up ladies #muchLove
Very true
9) Forsaking your personal ambition (Goals) for the pursuit of a man.
10) Not asking questions. Questions reveal motives.
You brought tears to my eyes and they fell and felt good. Thank you for taking the time to explain these mistakes. I'm 36 years old and definitely am here to learn the error of my ways. So grateful to have you here to learn this knowledge. Sincerely Katherine
I never thought about utilizing the Counsel of the men in my life. Thank you for your Wisdom. This is painful truth, but truth that needs to be faced in order to make positive change.
I am not a Christian. But Pastor Blakes, you are making me want to go to church. Not just any church, YOUR church. lol
Yemaya Ra same🤗
I agree
@Will Woodfall the Bible commands us to congregate
Mariela D. It’s written that where there is two or three gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
Yemaya Ra just remember there is only one church which is Christ’s. He died for it. And the Bible also says “follow me as I follow Christ”. Pastor Blakes seems to be doing so, but he does not have his own church.
An abusive man don't want their women conversating with a man like you out of fear of being exposed because all of your videos have been spot on. May God continue to bless & use you.
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@@desireeguita3723 agreement blessings to you.
‘You talk too much’ oops, pastor you don’t have to come for me like this 😭😂
:D
Gods gifts angles come to journey to teach
😁😁😁😁🙆🏾♀️
"Talking too much" means giving too much information to someone whose true motives haven't been established yet.
I needed this tonight! I’ve tolerated so much abuse throughout my life that I seriously don’t know how to set boundaries. I seek men that validate self-hatred because I don’t feel I’m loveable
Amen to everything RC is saying teach brother RC.
We need more fathers like you. That's the ROOT of the issues with most women. We have too many men out of place...absent. Many of them are sexual predators, con artists, and emotional abusers to their own daughters. Or silent. WHERE ARE OUR PROTECTORS?? The church must address men...let's find out why there are MORE women in church with their children(operating as head) God will hold men ultimately responsible for not providing proper headship. Men need fathers who can teach them how to be Godly men.
Laura Luke ...this is so true. When you go to church...you see mostly single women with their children and NO FATHERS, HUSBANDS!!! Really sad...even if they do not get along with the MOTHER of their children...give the children your support and love...they really need you. I work in the Social Services sector and I see and read and hear all these horrific stories...not all single women with children are 'bad women'....I truly believe they are seeking mates...but are doing it the wrong way. They become pregnant by these men and then the cycle starts all over again. Sad. Totally Negative Emotional Mess.
DIAR Amen!
Laura McDowell Yr comment should've had 1000s of likes.
Laura at 💯. Great comment!
Thank you sis! Church is a game! They dont teach us or council us! You go to them with a problem and cant get an appointment or time with a pastor to help you. There are fake mentors in church and nothing but a bunch of show boating on sunday! I left church for all this crap. My son's father died and i was alone with no family and ny church that i was so faithful too, dripped the ball with me and my son. My tithes and offering were all that mattered on sunday but when i needed them they weren't there!
Aa real man cares about your feeling
Everytime I listen to this, it hits me a little different. You are really doing the Lord's work Pastor.
Many thanks👏🏾 from your daughter in Zimbabwe 🇿🇼
I totally agree on every point...Sad that I am now 63...no daddy/daughter talks...but information I can pass onto my daughter and granddaughters...Thank you very much...To God be the glory!!!!...5 years later and 1st time.
I used to be desperate for a man, and now that I've faced the consequences of those choices, I am now desperate for TRUTH and accept the bitter pill of truth. I'd rather receive the bitter pill of truth than the bitter acidic poisonous consequence of being an unlearned woman.... which has been my previous status or state of being.
THANK you Pastor for speaking Real. Truth!!!
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Preach sister!
It’s sad to see 455 thumbs downs. This is wisdom right here. 455 silly women and men, and people wonder why they go through what they go through. Everything he’s saying is correct. Amen 🙏🏾❤️🤗
The thumbs down is from the men & possibly some women who don't like the sex part! #2
Could be man who are against his teachings to women
Is from men and women who hates the truth.Truth is bitter
People just dont want to hear the truth
Oh wow, your absolutely right. Very sad to see so many thumbs down. There's that ego . I consider it insanity when you can't see the truth. God bless em all!
I LOVE THIS TALK.. MY DADS BEEN PASSED FOR THE PAST 24 YRS AND I WOULD'VE LOVED TO HAVE HIM AROUND TO GUIDE ME, NEVERTHELESS, I AM BLESSED TO HAVE GOOD MEN SUCH AS YOURSELF PASTOR WHO CAN GUIDEAND COUNCIL ME NOW.. I AM SO APPRECIATIVE OF YOUR TIME AND COACHING..
MAY THE ALMIGHTY CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU.. THANK YOU.. THANK YOU🙏🙏
I like how he said women talk to much. I’ve told my BF the same thing over and over about this one thing. This time I said nothing I just told him he had to go. No talking no explaining nothing. Tired of talking but not achieving nothing. And the sad part about it he tried to flip it on as always but I’m done. Period.
This video has made me realize that there aren’t any men in my life. No father, no brothers, no uncles. We where left to figure it out on our own
Same here but we’re finding the information now 👌🏻
Lion Simba yes. Back in the days, men were checked when they got out of pocket. There was always a relative or even a neighbor that checked a man that was out of line. Now, on all age ranges, men get away with EVERYTHING. I have a male friend, who I’ve checked SEVERAL TIMES, because he has not been faithful to his woman of 15 years. I asked him why he didn’t just do right and marry her. He actually said he will have to want to do it. I wanted to take his head off!!!! So, if the opportunity presents itself, he’ll continue to cheat...
Same!!
Same
@@sunmoonstars1611 I'm really starting to think parents are becoming too lazy or are incapable of teaching their children. Like why do you even have a kid....
I’m listening to every word you have to say. I’ve been watching all your videos and put one on at bedtime to it’s the last thing I hear before I go to sleep. I wish I had known all of this years ago but it’s never too late to make changes and look forward to a healthy and blessed relationship
Perfectly You Beauty same 🙈night time routine. God bless Pastor Blakes
Perfectly You Beauty t
Perfectly You Beauty girl. I am with you. Listening to his every word. Letting it Penetrate my heart.
I do as well! He has blessed my life!
Yes!!! Where has he been! Blown away!
Pastor Blakes I'm 52 yrs old and finding your teaching has been a true God sent. I am a survivor of molestation, incest, abuse and rape. Being neglected at a early age of 5 opened the door to sick souls to violate me. So my view of love and relationship has been distorted my whole life. I'm learning through you how to love me how to be ok with myself. At first i was ashamed because at this age i had spent so much time being a distraction for a male just something to do at his will. I asked God for forgiveness and then i forgave myself so now I'm in the healing process. So please continue doing what you do. I love you in the Spirit and i Praise God for your anointed spirit and your honesty is a beautiful thing gift May God continue to keep His blessed hands upon you and your family in Jesus Name Peace and Blessings Amen❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I wish a man in my family would of talked to me about all the things you are saying. I took advice from a angry , frustrated woman (my mother). My father was never home, he was a player. So I never had good advice. My life was a disaster because of that. I am learning now and that thank you 🙏🏻 for your videos, they are so awesome!!! God bless!!!
"Ouch hallelujah!" Very sobering and deeply real. I'm in my 50's and your video is teaching me a lot! Thank you and God bless you RC Blakes, Jr
Truth. We woman set ourselves up to be a doormat to have a man. Either he has an issue with you, your career or ministry and we will give it all up in the boyfriend stage. What are we thinking? Loved the video.
yes
Tranea Prosser
So true
Wife material I like that saying .We. as women need to become ladies again not only not to talk too much,but watch come out of our loud profanity nasty voices it is nice to be quiet sometimes.
Amen sister!!! By the way, I just subscribed to your channel.
This was wonderful!!
I’ve been way too foolish with men in my life. I hope I get it together with your help!
I have been listening to you for the duration of this pandemic .You have giving me answers to question . I am 62 and in my 30s I got pregnant out of wedlock . The child was not a mistake , the father choice was . I was being abused in every form and I really gave up on love relationships. At this point in my life I have lived without a man longer. Yes speak the truth little crispy but you’re right!
You have good words. I am in my fifties and was married to two narcissistic abusers. I have been alone now for over three years and I am learning from you to be a Queen. I don't care how old we are we can still be the Queen.
Gina Bowman I see the signs of narcissism and the Jezebel spirit in my husband. I had him to leave. Divorce will be in order ASAP
Yes! A man CAN have a Jezebel spirit! Narcissism and the Jezebel spirit go hand in hand.
This video hit my spirit. I'm a pastors daughter and I felt like you were my father speaking to me. Man I needed this I'm in a 5 year relationship unequally yoked
Pray about your moves. Allow the wisdom of God to flow. Let nothing prevent you from maximizing your potential.
Robert Blakes Thank you! I will be praying I already know what I need to do though.
I was in the same boat until a year and a half ago (PK in an unequally yoked relationship for 4.5 years). Thankfully, when he asked my father for his blessings to get married, my dad said, "No. You're not ready spiritually or financially." He basically said, "Get your money up and your spiritual life in line and then ask me." My father passed 3 months later and we later got engaged, but those words never went away and we ended it abruptly a year and a half later after I simply prayed, "God...I don't trust myself anymore. I surrender. May YOUR WILL BE DONE! Please make it clear and definitive with no room for confusion or interpretation." 2 weeks later (after I'd told him he had to move out. If he wasn't just here for a place to live, prove me wrong and get your own place that we can move into after marriage) he packed up while I was visiting my family, wouldn't answer the phone for 2 weeks, moved in with another woman within a month, and that was that! Best prayer I've prayed in a long time! So glad to break that tie and that he left so quickly and easily!
JasmineLange yn
Shea McMillan wow I felt that thank you I needed to hear beautiful prayer I'm literally going through the same thing..
Preach!!!!! This is so real and powerful word!!! Divorced 4 years still single and not rushing it either! Yes sir !!! On point with this is fire word!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
This message is so good! I wish I would have heard this years ago I would have avoided a divorce and heart ache. God Bless you Bishop. You are changing lives, relationships and families out here 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Every women should listen to EVERY word of this.
Truth. I did. Bless you.
Amen!!!! Great information sistet
"my clock is ticking my clock is ticking".."Where's the clock?" LOL!!!!!!! LOVE IT
My biological clock is ticking...yes sir! Lol We cannot wait like men to get married if we want children
I genuinely busted out laughing when you first said "Thinking you can keep a man by having sex with him." Oh my goodness. Dead. We are LEARNING. I cherish my mind and body much better, thanks to your blunt wisdom. Thank you. Love you!
I love your message oh how I wish, I had you in my life years ago.
This was hard to hear but I NEEDED to hear it!! I teared up. Thank you for giving the word in a transparent way. God bless.
How can he lead if you’re doing all the talking???? I love it!!!
Thank you Sir for the word very encouraging God bless you highly appreciated shalom 🙏
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Since I started to watch this content I started to feel happy and excited about my life, I started to feel hopeful and blessed. There is so much wisdom in RC Blakes words. I am so grateful for his amazing content. he teaches us the right things, he teaches us to respect ourselves. the interesting thing is that more and more quality men started to come up into my life.... God blesses you RC Blakes. I can't thank you enough for each and every video you posted.
Thank you for ministering to my life RC , I value everything you say, my father died when I was very young and I’ve made many mistakes out of naivety . I would rather be alone than go through that Vietnam again 😊😊
I'm a fatherless daughter, and I spent my life trying to find my father through men. I wish I would've had that book then. I made so many mistakes. Some mistakes that can't be fixed.
Same here.
I dont want any man to be like my father or my uncle i want him to be himself i want to be myself genuine authentic i sit day in and day out by myself with my cat i am not mad just tired of the games lies etc and most importantly no communicating when my dad did his will in texas which virginia does theres differently my stepmom and step brothers got everything yet my dad said i could have my grandmas house my husband walked out and went to nc with someone he met on computer years ago its ok i am so over everything i have a roof over my head i can afford and my esa cat trying to at least get a somewhat affordable car so that i can work parttime at least and supplement my ssi on the 3rd and maybe be able to do like bush gardens or water country even if i have to go it alone or take a trip to dc or just anywhere everything belongs to god all these cars houses etc i dont see why we have to pay out so much money for rent or car payments the one thing i finally learned is contentment and besides an apartment to live in and a cell phone and bill a car note and car insurance is all i need and that would open the door to parttime work i have learning disabilitys so i didnt drop out of school in 85 my stepmom got in the way of my dads and my relationship while they are living it up my mom and i suffered its ok because i have joy i am doing ok with what i have need a few good friends not alot a wise woman has a few close friends and one elderly because they have gone through what most of have another thing is most men in relationships that have a heart for god and treat a woman right will make sure and woman can ask this life insurance with enough coverage to creamate or bury in casket and most decent relationships last long when both humble themselves and forgive each other i tell myself of this when i let others know i also have a few tips to save some money at walmart on toilet paper trash bags and mops and one or 2 other things just ask it helps me to not have to buy these things every month i have a savings account and my own checking i keep about 10 dollars cash the rest on my bank debt card theres a reason why just ask
This is my struggle.
Thank you so much 4this video.... I cried so hard watching this video my father wasn't in my life until after I was grown.. Now im in my 30s & I feel hurt that I had to go through life dealing with men through trial & error instead of having my Father teach me & explain to me the dos & donts or what to expect out of a man & so on... This topic touched my heart
I cant relate unfortunately we had to go through trial and error because of the lack of strong male leaders in our life.However we know better and we will do better. God bless and good luck
My father was around. He just never had the talk with me. I don't blame him for my mistakes though. Inkuat want my future husband and I both to teach our sons and daughters. We'll have "the talk" with all of them and they will get both points of view.
Wow...3 emotionally abusive relationships in a row all because I couldn’t sit my a$$ down ten years ago and stay single after I broke off an engagement. One divorce, one engagement, and one baby-daddy later I found God and my purpose. In Christ my self worth and my passion restored. Praise the Lord I am delivered. I broke off an engagement 6 months ago and have been on a long overdue honeymoon with my Bridegroom Jesus. I came back from that honeymoon, a Queen on her grind. No games. Only a King can attract my attention now. Thanks pops. 🙏🏽
3. Yessssss we DO NEED the time to HEAL Ladies. Wowwww you attract what you have
Had a friend, she introduced me to a man. I told her the man reminded me of a man l used to love and not on a good way. She was upset with me, went ahead and dated him. Sad to say, l was the one literally present to comfort her when he started emotionally abusing her. The thing is, l was and still is a single woman and she probably thought l didn't have her best interest at heart. I am single but l am not angry. Married women reach out to me for advice.Single men reach out to me and so do men who are in abusive relationships. For me, it's all about genuine love for people.
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I could never talk to my father about men. He didn't teach me anything. He is not approachable in this way. Neither are any of my 4 brothers. Same with my mother. They just expected me to know everything or figure it out. I don't have any sisters. I've been alone in this area. I learned a long time ago that friends who don't understand men are not the ones to listen to. So here I am at age 48 still learning. Your information is invaluable to me.
Wow.... u sound just like me, except I have 5 brothers.
Wow!! That’s sad how you have a lot of male figures in your life and didn’t teach you jack
Love this ! Never tolerate a man that emotionally abuses you , thank you for making these kinds of vídeos wish I came across this when I was in my early 20’s
Me too💞
I might not had a dad God put this talk on my youtube thank you holy spirit... keeping it real am taking notes I might have a hard start. but I will have a great ending a amazing God send husband..I run to God not people...bless you...this is amazing so cool..🙏🙏👍
"You must study before you retake the test."
I made them all, sadly. Married 8 times to GED men. Came from Narc abuse at birth. So I'm learning so much I should have learned 40 years ago. Never too late in my opinion. Thanks for another amazing video.
Did you say you’ve been married 8 times?
Dont beat yourself up we live and we learn
@@nessparadis6948 I asked that myself too
@@nessparadis6948 😂😄u are wondering what went wrong 8times? Am just thinking she's very very brave ...i don't have that courage ...i feel for her though..8times means 8heartaches. May God give her beauty for ashes and everlasting peace.
Wow 8 times and u never learn anything... Wow just wow that's all
Oh my God....number 2...his mama couldn't change him what makes you sure you can change him..
I agree....
Awesome! This why I've been single for the last ten months. Working on me, healing, educating myself. It's good to get some great parenting. I had none growing up. 🙏
He is so wise because he has the Lord in his soul🙌👏
just watching this 2020, and it has pumped in me some damn sense
Addah Ampeire same
Thank you for these talks. I feel cared for and protected when I listen to you. Thanks for teaching me what I didn't know.
I got to hear you only yesterday “by mistake”(cus everything is gods plan ) and I just Inspired by your words and understanding all the mistakes I made in my life choices
In the last few months I have started a change and everything you say connects with me today and I understand and accept the fact that I was broken and today I am on my way to becoming a true queen. Thank you🙏🏻♥️
When he raised his voice and said"why are you so desperate for a man!"😂😂😂 in my head I was like I'm not dad geesh!
Juschelle williams hahahaha yes i felt the same way!
I love his talk. 💯
Hahaha
Yup
"You either learn in life by instruction or experience." 🙌🏾 Overall powerful and much needed message!!
If you want a life of difficulty, chaos, manipulation and without love and respect u won't listen to this man, he is wise and a blessing listen
Thank You Pastor for always being such a faithful and wonderful spiritual father to us all. So many of us missed out on all of these talks for one reason or another when we were younger. Here are your ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☺️
5) Talking too much too soon. (Let the man do most of the the talking)
6)Taking advice from woman who are angry and alone.
Thank you alot
This is the most beautiful message I have seen on the internet in a long time. Thank you.
Amen
@@twilliams7233 How can a father fix his issues with his daughters. My husband had an affair with a young lady the same age of his daughter and the girls are hurt and he just wants to forget. We girls are still hurt with the affairs.
I am always the one that comes back and apologise i think if i don't we will break up forever.
My trusted brothers in the Lord taught me all these points years ago and I'm so thankful pastor is teaching nothing but the truth here ladies!!!
I am so glad that I came across your teaching. You are really helping me. Thank you and may God continue to anoint you to help single women.
Three years learning about my singleness and improving and growing in the Lord and when I say no to sex I feel empowered and stronger in the Lord! Thank you Jesus! I’m a radiant bride in Christ!
Amen and Amen. Thank You Most Beautiful Lord!
That should be fir every princess in Christ
And you spoke EXACTLY what's going on in my life
Amen. Me too. I must do it Gods way. Bcu my way...is getting me no where.
I feel you sister!! I do, same here!! Glory be to God 🙏
Thank you for this message, especially No.3. The sad news is that everyone keeps looking at single ladies as if something is wrong with them. As if it's some kind of a disease. Even family members. When you tell them how you're not willing to put up with just anyone that comes up, it sounds like Chinese to them.
I have STOPPED caring about that.
This is so true. We have to stay strong in trusting God’s plan though 🙏🏼
You are here to please God and no one else. You owe no one an explanation AND it’s none of our business what people say about us.
Amen to Every Word that Comes out of Your mouth! Thank you for pouring out All those Pearls Of Wisdom 💗
Thank you Pastor, I really needed those words. You said it all!
I appreciate you 💞
I wish I had this man as a mentor growing up.
FreeForAll me tooo
Ditto
Fr fr
Especially when Sir Blakes gets angry, he’s making a point ladies! God bless your efforts for us Sir Robert Blakes.
Afra Khan Thank you
Thank you for this, I've never been told this, I married a man that you talked about and I became the woman you mentioned for this 'man', if I had found you sooner I wouldn't be looking for a divorce lawyer. I appreciate this.
I see where I messed up! I've never had a father, no brothers, no family at all. I need someone to help guide me! I dont need any drama in my life anymore... I'm old enough to know better so I'm doing better.
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Some of us are older and don’t know ... but not because we have repeatedly made mistakes. Some of us have been married for a number of years and not dating. Or getting our degree and investing in our career or remaining godly and celibate...spending time at home with our pets, doing pet therapy at nursing home as a volunteer, caring for mother who in hospice with cancer, working out, making recipes...learning photography and other things...and just not “out there” dating and not on any dating app. Don’t drink or go to any bars. And our mothers never told us all this stuff. No father cause parents divorced when I was a baby. No brothers-only child. No uncles or grandfather... no family at all to advise me or meet the guy. Probably makes a good target now I see that! There are many scenarios of women too busy to date and discriminating too...and then when we finally open our hearts to it, we are unaware of all these wolves!
Christina Haftman yes. I didn’t know anything these things. Never too late to learn right
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Christina Haftman pick up an read a Quran. It will teach you your value & what a man should be before you allow him to win you
Gucci
1950s & 1960s women were taught to marry or burn
We haven't learned because we have not dated
We dont have the privilege of the experience of the dating game
1ST TIME, I AM 56 YEARS OLD, THAT WAS SOME GOOD ADVICE, JUST WANTED TO SHARE, I MADE ALL THOSE MISTAKES, BUT WITH THE GRACE AND MERCY OF GOD, I HAVE BEEN MARRIED NOW 35 YRS, HAVE MY MASTERS IN BUSINESS MANAGEMENT, HAVE ONE DAUGHTER 30 YEARS OLD BY MY HUSBAND AND SHE IS GRADUATING THIS MAY FROM HOUSTON UNIVERSITY. I AM LIVING MY BEST LIFE TRAVELING, ASKING GOD TO LED MY EVERY STEP, TO PROTECT ME IN THE NAME OF JESUS. I HAVE OVERCOME ALOT OF OBSTACLES, LIKE YOU SAID, I LEARNED THE HARD WAY. BUT 30 YEARS AGO, I WOULD NOT HAVE UNDERSTOOD THE MESSAGE, BECAUSE IT FEELS LIKE YOU ARE, SCOLDING ME, INSTEAD OF ADVISING ME, GOD BLESS. LOS ANGELES CALIFORNIA 4/12/2019
Love the way you speak your mind pastor ...thank you
This book is what I need.
I never had that chance of growing up with a father. My mum raised me as a single mother.
Thank you pastor for trying being there for us