HOW TO PROPERLY CHOOSE A MAN by RC Blakes
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- Опубликовано: 23 окт 2022
- HOW TO PROPERLY CHOOSE A MAN by RC Blakes
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1. Distinguish between the man you can help and the one you can't. 2. Talk about his life story. Observe how he handles success and loss. 3. Is he healing? (a. He recognises that he's not sovereign so he prays. b. He surrenders to God. c. He's working to sanctify his life. d. He processes anger properly. e. He has an optimistic view of life.) *Anger management; *Transparency in conversations; *How he manages to stay even in good and bad times. *How he treats others in less advantageous positions. *His conversations. *Is he motivated? 4. Is he deep enough to accommodate you? *A man who accommodates (values) you will always make your life better (i.e. will improve your life). *Does he have the emotional intelligence to learn you? *Does he have the consistency to allow you to let down your guard and relax? *Is he secure enough to not be intimidated by your strengths and successes? *Is he wise enough to recognize your contribution if you never made a dime? *Can he teach and intrigue you in conversations? *Does his vision excite you? 5. Does he want you? *He waits for you. *He accepts you. *He needs you. *He treasures you. 6. What is the foundation of his self-esteem? *God's definition of him; *His awareness of his own future and value *His evidence of progression towards his God-ordained destiny.
Thank you for the copious notes. This is a great summary of the video
❤ 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾well put together summary thank you
Thanks for this note! So helpful.
Wow...that's good
Thank you so much!!
Wow! A little boy’s mother wakes him up, a young man’s alarm clock wakes him up; But a grown man Is Awaken By Purpose!!! I Love This Bishop , you Better Teach!!!!
Awaken by purpose is huge
So on point. I use to wonder why I see so many grown boys that’s in their 40,50, and Beyond that. They lack purpose in their lives.
This message resonates with Me sooo much. Taking notes while I heal ❤️🩹I’m going to be well informed moving forward. Thank you🙏🏽☺️
Just because he can afford you, doesn’t mean he value you ❤️
My God my God... Deep
I learned this one the hard way!
@@striblingy Me too!! My last relationship!
I know you gear this towards the female perspective but I've been reverse engineering in order to reflect on who I need to be as a man. Thank you for sharing your wisdom
Praise Yahweh for that sir, may He reward you exceedingly above for your diligence.🙏🏾
That's awesome Ross! Good job!
Congratulations on your continued growth
I’m not a religious woman but I have gained so much knowledge from your channel. Your firm but non-judgmental approach is what I need sometimes to keep me on track. You remind me of my value and how to continue building myself as a woman so that when my time comes and I meet my husband, I will be bringing my best self. Thank you!
What a compliment. Thank you 😊
Very well said mam. I could feel that and I agree pastor Blake's channel and message is a blessing to me and my daughters life he is the bomb.😇🥰👍
I feel the same way. I have learned so much about how to look at relationships.
Jesus wasn't religious. Please get to know him. He wants a relationship with you. Get in his word ....you will never go astray.
@@ultimateoptimist5217 Yes - not religion, but relationship! 🎯👏
He was speaking 🗣️ to me. "If he's a broken man he can only 💔 break you", 👈🏾that part
That’s the part that hit home for me!! 💔❤️🩹 Broken but healing!
R.C. Blakes, you’re more of a father to some of us than our own fathers. So grateful for your obedience and all that you continue to pour into our lives. I thank God for you and your ministry. God bless you 🤍 Ever since i’ve started listening to you, my outlook has changed significantly!!
💯💯🌹🌹🙏🙏😇❣️👍
Thank you sooo much.🙏🏽♥️😊
Yes, he's like a father 2 me and he's only 10 years older than me.
🥰🥰🥰💯❤❤🧡💛
Well said...I agree.
At this stage in my life I am grateful for God' s protection in not permitting any of my previous relationships to culminate in a marriage. Not only were those men not the right men for me but I also wasn't ready to be a wife. I am on a journey of actualizing my life's purpose.
This is golden. I needed this checklist before I married my husband. The checklist I was given by my parents was basically trade/education/employment.. no where on the list was emotional health
Your parents gave you what they had. In their time, emotional health was not heard of. Fathers barely said I Love you. They felt that keeping the lights on and food on the table was demonstrative of Love. So many people nail their parents to the cross for what they didn’t give or teach. Could you have learned of emotional well being on your own prior to getting married? Why are your marriage wins or fails placed on the shoulders of your parents? You have far more resources available than your parents during their prime. I’m perplexed.
@@keepthechange1 I agree with what you said sometimes we don't listen to what parents. Say any way sometimes even when parents give us advice we don't take it. And in the end we are the ones who say I do we can't blame anyone for our choices we make in life
Ohhhhh this is good good 🤌🏾 sheeeeshhhh
@@keepthechange1 Ok I was nodding until the middle of your comment. Parents actually aren't "nailed to the cross" enough! SOOOO much of what we deal with as adults are traumas that were developed in childhood from our relationships with caregivers. Many caregivers don't feel accountable either; some are remorseful and want to heal, thankfully. I think if people really really realized how fragile (and how expensive) children are, they would not be as quick to have them. You can have a middle-class, two-parent upbringing and still be traumatized because you weren't nurtured a particular way.
@@Heyu7her3 I don’t disagree with you. Trauma is real; I don’t minimize that. I spoke on behalf of the parents who did their best, according to their upbringing. I don’t give a pass to anyone who traumatizes and abuses their children. There is a lot of healing that has to happen. It’s not a black or white issue. This happens in all families. Some parents are horrible because their parents were horrible to them. It’s a vicious cycle.
“Masculinity is stable and reliable”
That statement brings understanding and wisdom to me as one who is the primary custodian & teacher to my son.
Always demand he be responsible and follow through on his commitments. Tell him why you’re holding him to this standard- MEN are stable and reliable.
I am so fortunate to have found this page. I'm 39 years old and I wish I had this advice growing up. I've realized I've settled for less... it's time to pick myself up and move forward.
Amen thank you Lord for your wisdom thank you Lord. Thank. You pastor
Girl I'm wit you sis🌹😇🙏🦋💯
It's never too late. I discovered this channel last year at 39 and 40 now and learned so much between him and Tony Gaskins and Coach Rod and personal therapy. I'm ready to properly date now.
Me and you both frfr!!!
so grateful for how much you pour into us! I am 21 years old and this has helped me so much!! Thank you!
I’m just grateful that such a young woman like yourself is hearing me. 🙏🏽😊
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Amen! If only I had this in-depth insight at your age, I would’ve dogged major bullets. Grateful for Pastor Blakes! 🙌🏽❤️
@@bonafydb Same
I'm am so glad you found this early in life. 🙏🏽
Pastor my husband is coming soon - I can feel it! Thank you for your teachings. I’ve grown so much and I’m excited about the future so much ❤
My Husband is coming...I Love It!!!!!
This list is solid advice I expected my Dad to teach me and he never did. I’m grateful for your guidance. Thank you Pastor Blakes.
Ignorance is simply not knowing.
Stupidity is not pursuing who knows.
A grown man is awakened by purpose ❤️
Some of us grew up with great father's that are no longer with us on this earth. For some of us, you've filled that void, that father role. When you speak, you reiterate a lot of the life and relationship advice my own father has taught me. You've also taught me many things my own father never got around to. Thank you for doing what you do. You are so valuable to so many.
AMAZING!!!!! My 15 yr old daughter got in the car while I was listening; I started to stop video and watch later. It was so good I decided to let her listen.
I decided the world is giving her information. Why not let RC Blake give her Godly information.
She listened was repeating the
W-want you
A-accept you
N-Need yo
T- Treasure you
This morning asked on the way to school if I would send her the message. Yea!!! She wants to share with her friends!!!!!!!!!
Love this! We must feed our young girls wisdom to help them maneuver through the world
Our young girls are being bombarded with lies straight from the pit. It's horrific. Let her listen to RC!!! Teach her not to give her heart or body to anyone. To remain chaste. To value herself and to serve the Lord.
Wonderful!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 I sure wish I had this type of teaching when I was their age!!
@@Giftis2sing Never too late to learn.
You are a blessing to many sharing RC Blakes messages 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I sent this to my daughter and all of my single friends! This word was a blessing and a reminder of what I deserve as a woman. Thank you Pastor 😇
A grown man is awakened by PURPOSE!✨🙏🏿 Thank you so much Pastor, God bless you eternally.
Bishop I thank you so much for this message 🙏🏽. I never had a father or a uncle in my life to help me understand other men. I thank God for you because your messages and prayers 🙏🏽 have help me heal ❤️ from my brokenness. I've actually adopted you as my father and Bishop Samuel Blakes as my uncle in my mind. God bless you and your family 🙌🏽.
Every morning I watch you Pastor RC Blake’s! ❤️ I am grateful to have learned so much from you at a young age. I am preparing myself now before I’m married/ in a relationship
Thank you 😊
I know Pastor this is meant for the queen’s. But as a Man I appreciate this Lesson.
.”…every man is not your size …” That’s a whole sermon.. Thank you, Sir for your teachings.
Thank you Mr. & Mrs. Pastor Blakes, you bring hope in the world today, saving so many of us from the evils we never knew, unless we encountered it. Thank you so much for the Father Daughter talk you share with us all.
I made that mistake for seven years of my life only to wake up to the reality that he has no interest in me! He said so with his own mouth not once ,when I asked him his mind. After seven years! I wish I had this message before that time but am thankful I got out of it and God is taking me to greater levels by His grace. Thank for your teachings they have changed me by the grace of God
That hit my soul and is super deep. He said " the boss chick çame about when the boss brother stopped showing up for work." Dang that is super true and deep
In other words am I capable of being his HELPMATE based on how he's already helping HIMSELF
Bless you, your wife and entire family. Blessings to your ministries. Because it has blessed me without me asking. It's the way of the Holy Spirit guiding me.
Yes!!
YOU CANNOT GIVE A MAN A GRIND!!! Thank youuuuu!!!!!!!!
This was everything!!!! I will follow every step because I've been on the other side where the trauma is...I'm tired of living like that! It's time to get serious about my own happiness and my peace. I'm ready!!
Your theme song is the BOMB! THIS SONG IS A HIT IN MY BOOK! LOVE IT!!! WOW SIMPLY AMAZING!!!
It's my new theme song for life, it's 🔥
Hi Bishop RC and family of Queens, and future Queens! I have been listening to RC for the last few years, approximately around 4 years. RC has educated me on the value of woman-hood, particularly, helped me see the value of myself as a woman. I trusted his insight, along with my spiritual beliefs, prayers, and faith, I was literally awakened. I am now Happily Married to a real King of a man, running a business, and working to fulfill all my dreams and purposes! God sends messengers, and I know that he has sent RC for me and to you'all. He can teach and coach, but we are the ones who has to receive and wake up! I did view a man's physical type as utter important, and the "ideal career for a man" but RC cleared that up to help me understand that the most important value of a husband is his willingness to love, protect, provide and honor me is the most important piece to desire of a husband. Although, I am fortunate to have a man I am attracted to, he was not my idral type. It's God send, and I was open to receive God's choice. GOD will provide to your situation, in time, with your attention to him and sacrifice. There has to be sacrifices made from us to receive as well, and sacrificing can start with putting our ego aside for type for honor & respect!
1. Discern if he's a man you can help
(fundamental character isn't something you can help him with - eg. Grind, values, love for u)
2. Question about his life - how he processes wins and losses
(he should be pretty level headed)
3. Is he healing
(prays n surrenders to God cuz he knows he isn't in control of life, process anger healthily and is optimistic)
-Anger management
-Transparency in conversation of losses too
-Even headed in good n bad times
-Empathy towards others
-Energy ; how he makes u feel
-Conversation ; move from past, facing present n focus on future
- Is he Motivated
4. Deep enough to accommodate n value you
- Emotional intelligence to learn u ; wht u like or not, wht triggers u n even make u so safe, u forget this trigger!
- Consistent character to allow u to put down your guard n ease ur trust issues
- Secure to not get intimidated by ur success
- Wise to recognise ur contribution even if u dnt make money
-Teach n intrigue u in conversation
-Does his vision excite u cuz ur there to help
5. Does he want you
-Waits for u, doesn't rush u
-Accepts u n loves u as u are
-Needs you; where u fit in his life
-Treasures n cherishes u as the prize (he needs respect but doesn't view himself as the prize)
6. What is the foundation of his self esteem
-God's definition of man
-Awareness of his own future n value
-Progress toward his destiny; no comparison
Thank you for recording notes💕
Thank you!
Thank you
Monday’s are the best shows
This message helped me so much! Last week I had a pastor pressuring me to marry him. Grant it I barely know him. I thought about this for weeks. I know crazy, but I was actually considering it. I’m 42 and have been waiting for 6 years. I thought well he is a man of God so why not. Long story short, it was just a business deal for him. He is looking for a church and the churches he is applying to he is turned down because he is not married. Thank you Jesus for Bishop Blake’s messages. Love this content. It is GREATLY needed!!!💜🧡❤️
@@LA-wv7gf I started not to, but I felt I had to! Bishop Blake’s teachings has taught me to pause and examine situations. ❤️
You can't give a man a grind ❤️
Bishop today a stranger called my phone because my phone pocket dial him. I prayed God told me to block him. I’m Greatful that I learned about broken Consciousness and desperation through your platform. Thank you 🙏🏼
Tuning in from Nigeria 🇳🇬..
Your ministry has blessed me. I know I am the prize 🏆 and I am doing relationship well like a pro
I love your sermons Reverend. You give me inspiration and guidance that I didn't get growing up as the daughter of an alcoholic who physically abused my mother. At 50 something years old, I understand that I am where I am and that's okay. I do want you to know it's not only the sisters that need you. I believe it's all women can benefit from your fatherly guidance. Thank you.
Thank you Tammy! This is so encouraging. In my opinion 50 something is a great place. 😊
Also, when I reference “sisters” I am not just thinking black women. I am actually seeing women of all backgrounds, ethnicities, nationalities and so on. The issues are 90% the same across the board. When I say sister, I do see you. 🙏🏽♥️😊
@@RCBlakesJr. Thank you! I live in Minnesota. I lived in Beaumont TX for a short time. I would love to come and see one of your sermons in person.
Your ministry has an awesome graphic designer and production team!🤗
The logo is very well designed! ❤
Thank you Bishop RC! I'm 26 now, been watching since age 20 back in uni. Very grateful for you
"Is he healing" - so powerful!!! Important to be with a man who is doing the work!
Thank you Pastor Blakes and Lady Blakes for your ministry. I thank God for your gifts❤️
This message was so ON POINT. Family tell me I am too picky, but you confirmed it. And my son is on the right path. He is accomplishing those things you mentioned a man should have and I am going to share this with him. Thank you for ALL you do.
Pastor Blakes many men uses God to conquer you so you may think that they have the fear of God in their hearts but they are bad men. Thank you for all you are doing for us👍
Thank you for the word ❤
My mother taught me that all of us have different characters an personalities.
I see what You mean about helping a man.
Thank You Pastor Blakes.
Awesome Live!
Great information!
Thanks Bishop Blakes!
That was good. Thank you 🙏🏽
I love this adage ‘bigger lid can cover smaller lid and not vice versa’. Great words of wisdom that speak volumes! I salute you Bishop RCBlakes!! Thanks for making us special Queens!!!
Thank you Mr. RC Blakes!
This was so good!! Thank you
Powerful, thank you! ❤
RC Blake’s helping me make my standards so high I’m gonna be alone forever 😂
Nah but really thank you I need this❤
That's how I feel
But you gotta trust tmhs will send you someone
@@sharriceowens913 totally what is tmhs ?
@@aj-jt1we the most highs
Such a blessed message! Thank you!
This was good to me. But the truth is, women can take these same principals and apply them to ensure that what we are looking for we are that thing within ourselves.
CORRECT! I completely agree
Nothing more beautiful and healthy then listing to those nourishing conversations! Bless
So profound the message, I simply was brought to tears... Thank you, thank you so very much.
Supernatural touch of wisdom with relational decisions Amen ‼️
Love this and ur exactly right
You’re Amazing!!! So BleSsed to have found your work.
Awesome!!!! I had to watch twice, to make sure I didn’t miss anything! 👏🏽👏🏽🔥
This was so good I listened 3 times to make sure my notes were accurate. Thank you!🙏🏾
What a wonderful example with the pots and lids!!
I love how he’s breaks it down and with scriptures 👏🏾🙌🏾
I'm so grateful to have found this channel, for your wisdom and your prayers. God bless you 🙏
Amein to all that wise counsel! I sought out wise counsel in church for decades and found it here. Thanks so much! God bless you!
That's good teaching Bishop!
This is so good. Greatly appreciated
Amen amen on point Bishop Rc. Blake speak to me . I appreciate you much much and thank God for your teaching
Always right on time. I'm so thankful this kind man along with my Bible study taught and prepared me for the King I have now
Thank you so much for your wisdom!❤
You are an absolute God-Send. I feel like I got all the way dressed, got in my car, & drove to church at 8 o'clock at night. Bless you for your gracious leadership. God bless you infinitely 🙌🏾😇🙏🏽💟🏆🎯🏆😇😇😇
I needed this!
I love your videos. I will def support your channel. I love how God speaks through you!
Thank you so much for everything you put out. I've been single for a while. Most times I'm content while still desiring my husband. This year was crucial to have strong males in my life as I almost allowed someone TOXIC into my life. God bless you 🙏🏾🥰🤗
Wisdom would be good. I keep praying for wisdom and haven’t found an appropriate lifetime partner yet. But I’m still praying and I’m patient.
Sams here! 💯
I do believe the man is supposed to find the woman and then we're supposed to respond. As God heals our brokenness we will be able to discern the right one who is pursuing us and not pass them by looking for another man who does not know how to treat a woman.
@@sunsetstormx I agree. I have had some approach and ask. But after speaking with them as RC suggests we do, I found they were not appropriate. I really appreciate his teachings and the wisdom he receives from the Holy Spirit.
@@Vicki1951 it's better to find out right away then later on. We can't walk with blinders on eyes thinking this person is great. The more we know in the beginning then we can move on with our life and not waste our time. Or should I say God's time because if our lives belong to him then our time belongs to him also. 🙏🙏
@@sunsetstormx 🤍
You are preaching at the TOP of the discussion!!!
Thank you for the information 🙏🏽Bishop Blakes.
Thank you very much for sharing these valuable messages.
Thank you Bishop, this was awesome. Much needed.
Thank you for this video. As others have stated, I wish my dad taught me this. You are such a blessing to the body of Christ.
Bless Word!!!
This was EXCELLENT information, thank you 🙏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
To the ladies- develop your emotional intelligence to the sky high heavens so you only ever give your equals the time of day and you can actually recognise who can honour your capacity ✨
I wholeheartedly approve this message in its entirety....period.
Thank you Mr.Blakes for your unparalleled wealth of knowledge to women who will have it.
Thank you so much Bishop. This is great and insightful
Thank you RC Blakes Jr. for all you and Lisa do 🙏🏼
Excellent a big eye opener. God bless u. Thank you so much.
Thank you the word was very hopeful.
Powerful! Thank you sir.
From experience I can say you are 💯 correct!
Now THIS! This is preaching to the spirit and soul with so much truth. Lord knows this is absolutely information a woman needs to hear 🙏
Thank you SO MUCH for thissss!!! ❤🎉
Thank you and god so much for all the profound wisdom and knowledge!!!🙌🙌🙌
Looking forward to watch and listen to tonight’s episode. It would be nice if I could stream live so I can comment as he talks.
This is good stuff. Powerful!🙏🏾
THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!! THANK YOU FOR SUCH A POWERFUL & DIGESTABLE BREAK DOWN!!! LOVED EVERY MINUTE OF THIS TEACHING!
Thank you. This was very meaningful.
You truly are a blessing to a lot of women out here 🙏🏽
Man of God I thank you and your Lovely Queen, Lisa for this word and for your willingness in preparing our young Queens.!!! I am 65 years old and became a Widow at 44. I never remarried, but God is now preparing me for his best for the rest of my life.
I needed this word at 27 when I first got married and I need it now. It will propel me to the place of being satisfied in the wait and for me that is God's best for me in this season and the next . ✋ Praise God for he has been my husband for all these years and he is preparing me for the next chapter. If it is a new husband. I will be ready. God bless ❤ 🙏