How to Hack for Your Mind to Heal, Succeed
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- Опубликовано: 4 июн 2024
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I can testify that singing is elevating the state of mind from the abuse slavery. And the sun (I didn t honour too much) is very important, healing, at least 10 minutes a day.
Yes, I totally agree. It has been only recently that I have discovered this as I recover from a decade of narcissistic abuse. Being rather introverted, trying to let go of the embarrassment of thinking somebody hearing and being judgmental, was an obstacle. And this ebbs and flows to various degrees. But when I can get the correct level of inhibition, it is pure, delicious emotional regulation. Finding this out a little late at 62 but eternally grateful nonetheless
Morning SUN light is best.❤
Prof. Sam, you are a rare gem!
I came for your “giggle” and great information. I leave satisfied.
Prof. Vaknin
I love your content , especially about narcissism ..... but I really love it when you are amused with something and giggle ...
It's good to know that you aren't just knowledgeable but also human ... You make my day ... 😊
Thank you
His laugh makes me smile.
He said yesterday he really cant feel joy as he is a narcissist, he has anhedonia
Great information and advice Dr. Vaknin. I had very bad therapy. It only reopened old wounds and caused me to ruminate. I left therapy WAY WORSE and totally destabilized. Trusting no one, I retreated from life and fell apart. This wasn't solely due to therapy (obviously), but the terrible therapy certainly was kindling on the fire.
I gave it many tries over many years, and their "help" was only ever harmful to me in various ways too. It is a s*** show.
Relate ❤🫂
I experienced the exact same situation. I learned that after years off and on, "talk therapy" was not productive for me.
It’s supposed to open old wounds in order to process them !… there better out than in, the traumatic energy of old wounds is released. No pain, no gain.
I waited for two years for a therapist that was able to treat autistic patients. She was fantastic- previous therapists not so much.
What made me surprised was that I was in an abusive relationship with a guy for 10 years, turned out he was a super intelligent communal narcissist, or maybe self righteous type. Every time I left his house, I sang my heart out on my long 2 hour drive back home. I think I did that intuitively. It’s been 2 years since we broke up and I haven’t felt that urge to sing while driving
So you had a good time despite it being toxic
Perhaps she sang to keep her voice and spirit alive
Dear Prof Sam ,
That video was extraordinarily concise , helpful and very practical: a real keeper for me .
Best wishes,
Trevor
F Fellini had very similar aproach towards music.He said that " music immerses him irreparably in a form of melancholy, he has always avoided to confront it."
Professor Sam, you are the best teacher I have ever had in my entire life, and for free hahaha !
On a more serious note, MASSIVE thank you for your videos, you are amazing ! ❤
Your stunning command of the English as a 4th language is a pleasure to observe. Better than most native English speakers. I don’t mean most as in 51%…more like 99%. It’s very satisfying to hear such things described so well, with such density and precision. I’m going to listen to all your episodes simply to improve my communication and thinking skills.
What a lovely bonus that the content itself is so wise and helpful.
I apologize if this accurate flattery has created any kind of a setback for you 😂.
For narcissists this is true. They don't remember anything and mix all up. But real intelligent humans with a functioning heart do remember events very well. With pictures, details and emotions.
Again, you are correct, sir!😅 Singing is absolutely the cure that soothes the savage beast inside my brain!😵💫👩🏾🎤🎙
Hello from Greece
I am glad to find your Chanel.
Very nice topic and you give big value to us.
Happiness is through love and giving.
To get this stage of mind we need to work on our selfs and your knowledge about mind hacks is nice start.
Bravo very nice
To feel fulfilling life every day and appreciation is meaningful life. To experience bad feelings everyday is torture
Wonderful sound advice as always. I recently was so close to seeking Ketamine microdoses as I no longer have therapist access but instead realized i need to address fundamentals in a disciplined fashion and come to accept how I am responsible for daily wellness habits just getting outside etc.. with chronic stress and CPTSD, anxiety and OCD the science shows that the body depletes from l-glutamine in the gut which then relates to gut-brain axis and IBS symptoms.. also B vitamins are crucial for mental health and im recently discovering B1 or Thiamine Deficiency is prevalent due to high carb consumption. When we are under attack we tend to eat more carbohydrates like rice and wheat and corn which can block absorption of B1 vitamin as well as other B vitamins for cognitive and nerve function. The need to support nervous system is critical and also getting magnesium into the brain for cognition. Magnesium l-Threonate seems to be helping me. The more brain power and ATP the better my sleeps and motivation to get outside and so forth. Your lectures are educational and entertaining 😊. I also agree I shouldn't think so highly of my intelligence because ive been conned many times as well. That is a good hack. Not arrogant, but just analytical and studious. I can always do better. Thanks Sam 😊
Prof Vaknin you are genius
Thank you 🙏
daily dose of Sam Vaknin! 🤩
You are making a positive difference in the lives of many. Thank you for your caring and guidance to those who are in need.
"It gets me off the hOOk!" 😅
You may have just saved my life. (EDIT may have gotten carried away haha) But The section on trauma requiring a bodily repsonse has been profound realisation for me. Thank you for your insight
Dr. Sam Vaknin! Amazing information! I saw the recommendation on my RUclips homepage and immediately clicked on it and wasn’t disappointed. I love your sense of humor and laughter too. I want to say, I think intelligent people are aware of when they don’t know. They know when they meet someone smarter than themselves and just have a deeper reflection on their personality so it makes them appear humble and more def-critical.
Thank you for sharing your perspectives
Thank you for these videos.❤️
😂. I always say sing even if you can’t. No I can’t hold a note but it’s true what you say. Perfect for relieving the scream I want to let out is the late Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan’s Nothing Without You” in 3 different versions for different moods. I really find appreciated great laughter 🤭 in your shared videos Dr. Vaknin and have become my healing place to learn more. Thank you! Love your laugh and humor.
Dear Professor! Thank you so much! You help us a lot! You are very kind!
Thank you so much! I listened well your video from the beginning till the end. Thank you so much!
Love your advise Sam
Seriously thank you
I LOVE this kind of content that you make! Please make more or make it a regular feature!
Excellent. Thank you!
Wonderful video ☀️ thanks Sam 🌻🧚🏻♂️
Great help
Thank you for talking about being in the body and using the body and physical activity to work through stuff instead of only relying on the mind. Great insight about music and singing and using languages other than your native tongue to think analytically too. Cool stuff!
It’s said the teacher arrives when the pupil is ready. I wish I would have been ready ten years ago. But I’m ready now, and there’s so much to learn. Thank you Dr. Vaknin.
Thank you so much!!!! I understand much better how to take situations. I appreciate your work. God bless you.❤
Thank you.
The best video ever ❤
Exzellent teaching & information❤
Love his lectures always helpful… 🚀
Best video ever. ❤
I LOVE this info, and I'm going to share this with someone who, I know, will benefit. THANK YOU SO MUCH!❤
Just had a break thru with this video- thx Vaknin!!!👏❤️
Thank you sir .....its all totally truth ....
The music part is so validating. If you knew what these people do to pieces of music you have no idea what youre listening to, buried in the mix, sound manipulation, and dog whistles
Very informative!
Thank you so very much for the bast advice ever!
That’s was also my Father’s advice! ❤
Thank you professor Vaknin-grateful listener and reader here.Thank you for helping us.......
I love this video
Amazing 👍👍
Great video - thank you.
When training dogs, with an understood behavior, it’s the anticipation of reward (I.e dopamine release) which is important- so the dog is not rewarded every time for the correct behaviour, rather he is occasionally rewarded, and like a gambler he tries harder for that occasion reward.
Oxytocin is also interesting. It is the love hormone, but it’s also the hormone that will cause a mother to fight for her offspring.
I’m some studies intranasal oxytocin would cause better eye contact between dog (protective breeds) and handler when a stranger entered the room, but in some dogs it could cause aggression towards the stranger.
Thankyou so much i always worried about remembering much from childhood . Its not that important 😊
Im 5 minutes in . My goodness! I feel very confronted already...but ultimately i think im feeling quite a lot of gratitude for the perspective actually..so much so i felt compelled to say 'thankyou' Professor xx
Anyone who knows me knows that I'm the special exception (😉.. narcissm joke) I am actually as dumb as I think I am 😂.
Gold ✌️
Merci infiniment pour cette vidéo de partage, de grande valeur, qui nous sera fort utile 👌 (maintenant je sais que vous parlez français 😉 )
Thank you for your insights and sharing them with us!
Would absolutely love to hear you converse with Jordan Peterson on todays 'malignant' society of the West. Just imagine two of the most brilliant minds sharing their insights of the human experience with all of us. Can't wait! !
Sam Vaknin, you are a good singer. I challenge you to first listen to Dusty Springfield sing "Yesterday When I Was Young," and next, try to sing along with it. I suspect you will feel more depressed, anything but happy. My point? Some songs will make you feel depressed, not happy. You would need to choose uplifting music to feel better. But I love the Blues and sad songs mostly, maybe it's genetic!
Sarcasm has got me into sooo much trouble, I was unable to control it at work with pyscho/narcs, it didn't go well... Body/mind linked far more then allopathic medicine would admit to I believe, can't let it get in the way of pharma profits though. I went to therapy after a Narc relationship, gave up, they didn't understand but more importantly I didn't so researched it but sooo much BS. Realised I've been a codependent all my life, very humbling when it was clear how much I contributed. I found your body of work to be most helpful although I admit I struggle with some of the concepts. I've come to believe that my ex was not NPD but a self centred ar**hole with narc traits from childhood trauma on top of an atavistic (sorry just a $2 word) hypergamamous drive. Can you comment more on present societal ills and breakdown, reasons and perceived outcomes?
I just keep my sarcasm in my head now. But I always laugh at others sarcasm because I get they aren't trying to be mean.
I was subscribed in the Vakin channel I long time ago, but I subscribed in this nothingness channel after this video. I was re experiencing the trauma through the body a few days ago and I had a great improvement, enjoying habits/adventures I had left a long time ago, but appeared more things to re experiencing the trauma
Diogenes “step-out of my light.”
i loveeeeeee yooooouuuu soooo funnyyyyy!!!!!!!
I don't listen music for many years now. I noticed my mood getting down , melancholic, but I thought it was due the fakt that I thing about words.
Listen to Classical Music? World Music. Electronic Music. No words are necessary. And Music CAN provide positive Vibrations… stimulating your brainneurons to create New (emotional/psychological) Connections.
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Need to listen to music that makes you want to move your body like dance or workout, etc.
intellligence has nothing to do with knowledge. it has to do only with perception and intuition
I started to talk to myself in Eanglish
Sam, about thinking in another language, is it the first time you address the topic? I've been using this tactic for more than a year, with great results, but could not remember when I heared it from you!
Not the first time.
Sir! You are a fckin genius!! 😊
Do you know the story behind the DunningKruger effect.?“ but I wore the juice.” Lol
Funny, since I was a child I was drawn to music and started doing music early on. Take a listend if you want.
The piece about memory confuses me. How does it apply to someone who has been gaslighted and abused? Someone who has been in long states of emotional dissociation and is afraid of visiting their memories, but wants to have them back? Your advice would be appreciated.
Search the Narcissistic Abuse Healing playlist on my main channel.
The mind is like the software, apps or operating system, while the body is like the hardware.
Dr. Sam what about driving and listening to music, probably not a good idea im guessing.
How would you explain walking and talking and everything else?
Giggles was enlightening come from you sir
Dear Professor Sam Vaknin,
what is your opionion about the Polyvagal Theory from Stephen W. Porges, PhD, indroduced 1994, and could this theory linked with personality disorder?
Greetings 👋 from Germany
Nonsensical pseudo-"science".
@@nothingnessnonarcissism Thank you very much for answering my question Professor Vaknin
How so?
Probably why they play music in Shopping Malls
Music. Maybe that is why I like shopping better where there is no background music playing.
A lot of times I caught myself thinking in English (my mother tongue is Dutch) and I like it, but then I always feel ashamed, because it feels like I am an impostor for engaging in a kind of cultural appropriation and I will be severely punished for this act of superiority. (Yea, my mother was already super woke, 70 years ago)
So, thank you.
Where does classical music stand in regard to brain wave entrainment?
Same as any other type of music.
How long is the menory span for a human ? They say felines have 3 days, have they done this wirh humans?
I always feel better when I sing along to “People = Shit”
I only become depressed when I listen to overly emotional songs
I can hear it right now..
So if you love me , why’d you leave me take my body…
Kodaline-All I want
Never listen to Slip Knot while suicidal.
A woman on twitterb knows what to do with his narcissist husband look at this dialog between this couple
Husband; Where did you lose your thin and beautiful body of the past
Wife: you ate it look in your stomach ( fat belly)
So you don‘t like music😱
Mozart did all he can do. Even the deaf guy Beathoven wasn‘t about to go too short.
I appreciate real music with real feelings. Experiencing feelings as if they are here to manage them for a better living, somehow.
Sarcasm rocks! I’M THE SMARTEST MAN ALIVE!
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My last girlfriend (an academic) kicked me out calling me ‘a fake enlightened super sarcastic moron without a grain of love in his heart’. She hurt my feelings, slightly.
Now it sounds like a honorific title
(thanks again, mister Sam, sunlight)
Why are you a FORMER visiting professor? You should come visit sometime!
The plant world works quite well with artificial light.
And yes, thanx for nothing-ness.
Sum with GPT:
### Video Summary: "How to Hack for Your Mind to Heal, Succeed"
**Introduction:**
- The human mind is incredibly complex and is often misunderstood.
- Self-help industry often provides misleading advice.
- The speaker, S. Vaknin, offers 20 psychological hacks based on recent research to help heal and succeed in life.
**Hack 1: Understanding Memory**
- Memory is not a precise recollection of events but a reconstruction each time we remember.
- Our memories are about our emotional reactions and are constantly changing.
- Realizing this can help reduce the trauma associated with painful memories.
**Hack 2: Dealing with Social Rejection**
- The brain processes social rejection similarly to physical pain.
- Use physical activities to manage emotional pain from rejection or humiliation.
**Hack 3: Thinking in Another Language**
- To make rational decisions, think in a second language.
- This reduces emotional influence and promotes analytical thinking.
**Hack 4: Dunning-Kruger Effect**
- Less intelligent people tend to overestimate their abilities.
- Being overly confident can be a sign of lacking understanding or knowledge.
**Hack 5: The Impact of Music**
- Music influences mood and information processing.
- Avoid multitasking with music, as it can distort decision-making.
- Singing can reduce anxiety and depression by releasing endorphins and oxytocin.
**Hack 6: Sunlight Exposure**
- Sunlight prevents depression and mood disorders.
- Just 10 minutes of sunlight can have a significant positive impact.
**Hack 7: Dopamine and Self-Denial**
- Break the cycle of dopamine-induced pleasure by practicing self-denial.
- Avoid addictive behaviors to regain control over your actions.
**Hack 8: Importance of Sleep**
- Both too little and too much sleep can be detrimental.
- Aim for 7-8 hours of good quality sleep to maintain mental and physical health.
**Hack 9: Reading Speed and Comprehension**
- Reading longer lines (about 100 characters) can improve reading speed and comprehension.
**Hack 10: Mental and Physical Health Connection**
- Mental health issues can manifest as physical symptoms.
- Treat either the mind or the body to improve overall well-being.
Continuing from where we left off, here are the remaining 10 hacks from the video "How to Hack for Your Mind to Heal, Succeed" by S. Vaknin:
### Hack 11: Break the Pleasure Cycle
- **Explanation:** Engaging in repetitive addictive behaviors such as constantly staring at screens or substance abuse is often mediated by the pleasure effects of dopamine. This cycle of pleasure and desire needs to be broken.
- **Hack:** Dedicate a few minutes each day to self-denial, avoiding addictive activities. This could be social media, texting, alcohol, or even certain types of food. By breaking the pleasure cycle, you regain control over your actions and reactions.
### Hack 12: Balanced Sleep
- **Explanation:** Both undersleeping and oversleeping have detrimental effects on your health, potentially leading to conditions like diabetes and stroke.
- **Hack:** Aim for 7 to 8 hours of sleep. Investigate any underlying medical conditions like sleep apnea or diabetes if you suffer from insomnia. Consider consulting a cognitive behavior therapy practitioner for sleep-related issues.
### Hack 13: Time Management
- **Explanation:** Time is a limited resource that cannot be bought. Many people seek shortcuts like fast reading techniques, which are often ineffective.
- **Hack:** Focus on reading materials formatted with longer lines, such as books. Studies have shown that lines of 100 characters are ideal for faster reading and better comprehension.
### Hack 14: Treat the Mind-Body Connection
- **Explanation:** Mental and physical health are interconnected. Mental distress can lead to physical symptoms like headaches and back pain.
- **Hack:** If your body is relatively healthy, focus on treating your mind. If your body is in bad shape, treat your body first. Addressing one will positively impact the other.
### Hack 15: The Dunning-Kruger Effect
- **Explanation:** Less intelligent people tend to overestimate their intelligence, while more intelligent people often underestimate themselves.
- **Hack:** Be cautious of your self-assessments. If you find yourself thinking highly of your own intelligence, consider the possibility that you might be overestimating your abilities. Stay humble and open to learning.
### Hack 16: Perceptual Expectation
- **Explanation:** Music can significantly affect how you process information and perceive the world around you. For example, sad music can make it difficult to identify happy faces.
- **Hack:** Avoid listening to music when you need to make analytical decisions or process complex information. Use music as a separate activity rather than background noise during important tasks.
### Hack 17: Singing for Mental Health
- **Explanation:** Singing has been shown to reduce anxiety and depression by releasing endorphins and oxytocin.
- **Hack:** Incorporate singing into your daily routine, regardless of your singing ability. This simple act can improve your mood and reduce stress.
### Hack 18: Sarcasm and Intelligence
- **Explanation:** Sarcasm is often associated with high intelligence and creativity, despite being perceived as negative or antisocial.
- **Hack:** Use sarcasm as a tool to stimulate your brain and enhance creative thinking. However, be mindful of its impact on social interactions and relationships.
### Hack 19: Sunlight and Mood
- **Explanation:** Exposure to sunlight can prevent mood disorders like depression, largely due to the production of vitamin D.
- **Hack:** Ensure you get at least 10 minutes of sunlight daily to help stabilize your mood and improve mental health. If natural sunlight is not available, consider using artificial light sources designed to mimic sunlight.
### Hack 20: Dopamine Management
- Explanation:**
Many addictive behaviors are driven by the brain's dopamine cycle, which involves pleasure and desire.
- **Hack:** Practice self-denial and avoid engaging in pleasurable activities for short periods throughout the day. This helps break the dopamine cycle and regain control over addictive behaviors.
By applying these hacks, you can better manage your mental and physical health, improve decision-making, and enhance overall well-being. Each hack is designed to be practical and cost-effective, making them accessible for daily use.
What a champion!
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Thank you Yosi! This very useful!
Thank you.
Thank you.