I thought doing this was always termed as "crumbing," because you're leaving bread crumbs to keep a potential girl's interest alive, while you pursue someone/thing else.
Sometimes I wonder if they are going to get an additional webpage to redirect the traffic of people searching “Daddy Squarespace” to their original domain 😂
When Anna said, "My channel is dying" just made me sad. Her contents have helped me be aware of the both the good and toxic sh*t within and around me. More people should watch them.
As a girl, I've done this, too, although it wasn't in the interest of sex. It was more to validate that I was desirable and wanted. Ultimately, it was a problem of self-worth, and like Anna, I realized that it was sometimes hurtful and had to stop.
I feel like a lot of ppl do a similar thing where they reach out to friends (not sexual interest) like once in a blue moon because they feel lonely for a few moments then they get busy again. It’s not cool but it’s usually not something devious either
WOAH WOAH WOAH!!! Let me get this perfectly straight: You comment something that is completely unrelated to the fact that I have two HAZARDOUSLY HOT girlfriends? Considering that I am the unprettiest RUclipsr worldwide, it is really incredible. Yet you did not mention it at all. I am VERY disappointed, dear kis
The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holiness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent/turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭. Eternity is a long time.
"Vibrators never hurt anyone's feelings." No but they can hurt your who-ha if it turns out you're allergic to the material 😶 (that was a real bummer of an evening)
@@dezkightz yhea me2 ...I actually wear a black Philadelphia Phillies fitted baseball cap backwards like all the time with a plaid dress shirt from Old Navy sometime ...ok usually 😂
This isn't a guy only thing. I've been breadcrumbed by practically all my dates in the last couple of years. What they all had in common were a lack of interest and effort, and they'd text maybe once a week or two, but not bother replying after. Then a week or two they'd drop another hi and that's it. As I found out, such people are already going out with someone else, but they want a backup in case it doesn't work out. If and when it works out then I'll get ghosted.
@@therabidpancake1 but let's be honest. Nobody ever really turns to their backups, because they keep looking for someone better. The backup is just there to validate their own ego and make them feel like they have options.
@@therabidpancake1 I like to think mature, responsible adults are looking for loyal, exclusive relationships, or at least can be honest about what they want. Ultimately however, I see the act of breadcrumbing as emotional immaturity at best, and narcissism or at least deeply rooted psychological issues at worst.
I’ve known someone for like 6 years and everytime her relationships ended she came to me but I was a backup for sure until she found someone else to date
@@JustBored589 I feel you. I think you need to cut this person out of your life. Maybe she doesn't realise it, but she's basically leeching on you. Now if it's very clear that you're both just very good friends and you're just her emotional support, it's one thing. But even among friends it's important to ask why is she your friend. It doesn't mean she has to give you something in return, but you also can't be someone she only turns to when she's unhappy but when things are good, you're not in her life.
Not gonna lie, I was ready to be upset that you framed it like only guys do this, but I kept watching to see where you went with it, and I was pleasantly surprised to see that it was acknowledged that women do it as well. Honestly, I can think of a few times this has been done to me, and sadly I can think of some times that I probably did this to others without really understanding what I was doing and how wrong it was. It's a good thing to draw attention to. People are so afraid of finding themselves in a void where they don't have options immediately available to them that they end up crossing lines they shouldn't cross. I think this has some overlap with Test Driving - where someone will start showing interest in a person who they feel might be a relationship candidate, even though they already have a relationship, because they intend to break things off with the current SO and want to have someone to fill that void immediately. All that said, you still ended up wounding me deeply, Anna. At 35, I felt those comments about aging all too keenly, and I didn't appreciate it one bit. :'(
Yeah Anna I think these days views number don't represent success like they used to, many new small channel can survive with small loyal viewers, having big viewers obviously great but it's not the only way
Piggybacking sounds like a whole bunch of people that were never taught how a relationship should start only what is expected from a relationship, suddenly interacting with the opposite sex but both are just lost and confused. So one is like are they interested in me and the other is am I good enough to date but both are fine with flirting.
"I don't want to be presumptuous because you may have just invited me over as a friend. But just in case you have romantic intent, I want to let you know that I'm not on the same page." THIS!!! I've been struggling with saying something like this for so long, the situation almost always lead to an awkward rejection or an awkward "I'll think about it" because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. Thank you for putting this into words!!
I think breadcrumbing is a step up from piggybanking. Breadcrumming is in a more established relationship, just investing as minimally as possible. Piggybanking is a step back in that there isn’t really an established relationship so it looks more transparent.
"girls can't (insert hurtful thing that any human being can do) because in my mind men don't have human emotions at all because I've internalized harmful ideas about gender roles" (sigh)
...well you start to experience changes in your body and energy... Male testosterone start to drop and the consequences of it. Female fertility rate starts to plummet.
I don’t know if your channel is dying.. I’d say you just seem like you’re in a more emotionally whole place and ready to move on to different content. Growth!
Generally a good guideline, but some people just don't want to invest the extensive logistical coordination required without building more of a rapport through chatting first. If I don't know whether someone can hold a conversation at all, hell no I'm not spending hours on planning dog sitting and getting ready and meeting up and presumably spending money IRL for what might be an awkward waste of time. Gotta get that mental connection first. So yeah, the preference not to meet up right away can be valid. Later on though, yeah, especially if someone says they're down to meet up but then never actually commits to a plan and always says they'll let you know soon etc, then that's a flag for sure
women do this big time too. some like to have a group of guys in the wings for some quick fun or for emotional support when they guy were with/chasing disappears.
Your channel isn't dying. Consider it officially resurrected... for me anyway :D I probably subconsciously Piggy- Banked you in the recesses of my self developmental aspirations and after a 5 year Anna Hiatus, I have officially made a full scale come back and a huge withdrawal - of which i intend to invest heavily :P
Do not put coins or emotional strings up someone's butt unless you're ready to commit or at least have an honest conversation on your relationship with them!!! Actually don't put coins anywhere on the human body unless it's a magic trick you pull from the ear
This was done to me by two different guys, which I actually liked, and it was really confusing because they always initiated conversation, but would be unavailable every time I proposed a date. I was just left wondering if I said something wrong and they never gave any explanation. I had no idea it was actually a thing.
This scenario has been my dating life experience with every women I meet over the last two years after my divorce. When I finally figured out it was because they were just waiting for witch guy they were talking to would come up with the most interesting sounding date and none of them had any want for more than a one night stand, well I've given up. Dating is dead, single for life!! I'm good with it tho, more peaceful anyway.
I just spent the last 6 months playing this game with someone I truly thought was serious....only to have him act this way. He's a completely emotionally unavailable, self-absorbed, never-been-married narcissistic guy. So I turned the game around and mirrored his behavior. Haven't heard a prop out of him since. 😂
It's always kind of a different level of growth and maturity when the toxic person becomes able to cop to their issues independently without having to be told about them. That added self awareness is extra refreshing
I thought this term fitted how guys guilt the people they are dating by telling them how much money they "invested" in dates, food, gifts ect. Side note, never put up with this!
@@selohcin Or how about people discuss what they are willing to pay for first. Not every relationship is hetero. Dating is expensive for everyone, not one person should shoulder it. I was speaking from my own experience with a narcissist so it could be difficult to brush with broad strokes.
This is something I used to be VERY guilty of. I reached a point in my life where I determined my self worth by how many people I was associating with. When I finally realized that this wasn't the case and the effects of my actions I realized I had to start a the long process of self growth.
I subscribed to extend the duration of your channels slow death. I look forward to hearing, appreciating, and learning from your astoundingly well articulated and insightful productions till the very end.
Fascinating. Women do it all the time and ghosting men like no one's business. But when someone do that to them they are shocked. And they still wonder why good men walked away.
Recently I realized that I'm watching Anna's channel for like 7 years or so. And now it's past the point of the longest relationship with the opposite sex I had. That's really odd. And also I'm the same age as she is. It really awakens strange feelings about it. When you see how the blogger you adore is now not a cute 20-something-year-old kid, but a real grown-up person struggling with her existence same as me the casual guy. However, maybe it's just a mask in praise of the content. P.s. But yes I remember times before 60065 and before BEEs. stay awesome gothem.
Yo I never heard of this before. 😳 but this makes me rethink some interactions I've had with some folks. Oh god I think I've been piggybanked. Thanks for this. I just learned something new.
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
@@keyboardevangelist I'm a Christian, and what you are doing here is actually not Christ-like, because you're not relating to people as people (as Christ did, one on one), but rather, as objects for your pre-packaged walls of text. You're being obnoxious and off-putting here by jumping into unrelated conversations with pre-packaged texts.
the only reason we have to think of new terms to describe stuff that been done for hundreds of years is cause young folks refuse to ask their parents and elderly about this crap. my mom taught me about piggybanking in the 70s when I was 5. (she was EXTREMELY open about everything. she gave me the birds and the bees talk when I was 6)
Women have been subjecting men to this kind of treatment (minus ever getting to hook up) for generations, that's literally what the friend zone is to guys. Now that it's happening to an extremely tiny percentage of women such as yourself Anna it's suddenly now not okay? Come on...
"I tweaked my neck by just waking up and existing." HAHAHAHA I feel that, girl, oh I feel that so hard. WE ARE GETTING SO OLD AND WE HAVE SO MANY YEARS LEFT OF DECAY!
@@calculator4482 nope. She is attractive. Aaand you incel if you dont think you have a wall too, then you re delusional🤣young attractive women wont be with you unless you have 10 million dolars net worth lmao
Michelle probably only piggy banked Anna and the Keanu Reeves voiced male version of Anna so that she could buy that black leather and even more stylish green leather jackets.
I really enjoy how brutally open and honest these videos are, and how real the messages are - yet combined with a charm and humor that Anna delivers flawlessly. Love your videos :)
So I'm turning 30 in less than two months and threw out my back at work today. First time commenting (and I'm not even sure you'll see this) but I appreciate the honesty and humor you bring to all your videos. I'm grateful I'm not the only one doing the work of self actualization, integration, and personal growth as a result of facing my mortality. I see you, I hear you, and I appreciate your channel. :)
Anna talking about getting old, I was like yeah once you get into your 30's it feels like you're slowly falling apart. Probably the part I found most relatable.
The 30 thing seems to be totally true. I'm not there myself just yet, but I have trouble dating below my age and women over 30 love me for how direct I am... There's an extremely noticable difference where women below my age run the other way while women over 30 run my way. Damn cougars, lol.
Wow, yeah this has totally happened to me, but I've never done it, and never really cared about the men attempting to put coins in my emotional bank. My emotional bank was just never available to them lol. When I was in my straight phase I thought I was aromantic or demiromantic til I realized I'm actually pansexual femromantic. Now that I'm oriented in my actual direction, once I know what the connection is supposed to feel like maybe I will miss it enough in between girlfriends to have thought piggybanking is worth it. But now I know what it is and I won't, because Anna's the best! Also, it's May and you can't get a vaccine in your state yet? California's behind, Oregon's already nailed it. Get your vaccine(s) and come trip up to Portland! Do Anna + the twins go on tour? I think a little show of theirs would just be so much fun live!
I totally hit my 30s and was like - oh I thought I would feel more like an adult. Oh well. And after realizing that we are all just flailing around out here pretending we know what is going on, now I pretty much say and do what I want and don't let insecurities hold me back. I am much more confident now in who I am. My mom said only those her age can get away with acting like that but that is ridiculous. You have one life - live it on your terms!!
I thought doing this was always termed as "crumbing," because you're leaving bread crumbs to keep a potential girl's interest alive, while you pursue someone/thing else.
This term is so much better lmao, Im gonna say this instead.
Ditto
Hmm idk, sounds a bit toilet-y to me. Like a crumby bum?
Omg Love Kernel from Crazy Ex-girlfriend?
I’ve always thought of breadcrumbing as happening when you’re already dating. The concepts are similar, but maybe that’s a difference.
I feel like Squarespace just continues to sponsor Anna in order to hear "Daddy Squarespace" (can't blame them)
I hope so
Honestly 😂it sounds catchy
Sometimes I wonder if they are going to get an additional webpage to redirect the traffic of people searching “Daddy Squarespace” to their original domain 😂
I am changing my name to Daddy SquareSpace
I feel like Anna also always smirks when she says “Daddy”
How the hell does Anna keep posting about stuff that’s happening to me???
IVE LITERALLY FELT THAT FOR THE PAST 3 MONTHS
Yessssss !!!! It’s so on point I’m scared hahahah
She's piggybanking us all!!! :P
She gets it all from her therapist. And sharing it with the world. Because everybody has the same problems.
@@tomster7574 maybe not everybody, and maybe not all the same. but there are problems that are generally felt and are a standard in life :-)
When Anna said, "My channel is dying" just made me sad. Her contents have helped me be aware of the both the good and toxic sh*t within and around me. More people should watch them.
@CrazyMiles christians believe more in the devil that atheists
@@alorgb7440 Yeah athiests don't believe in god or the devil at all
@@KC-ep6sg That actually makes a lot of sense
@@alorgb7440 it's a spammer
@@Naptosis speech +2. Dexterity +1. Mana restored
As a girl, I've done this, too, although it wasn't in the interest of sex. It was more to validate that I was desirable and wanted. Ultimately, it was a problem of self-worth, and like Anna, I realized that it was sometimes hurtful and had to stop.
oh god.. yeah, i've done it too.
@James Cunico do you have a statistic for this or did you just came that up on your own? This sounds like something an incel would say
Done it for years
@@emmanuellelarocque9440 guys should stay away from girls like u
I feel like a lot of ppl do a similar thing where they reach out to friends (not sexual interest) like once in a blue moon because they feel lonely for a few moments then they get busy again. It’s not cool but it’s usually not something devious either
“I tweaked my neck just by waking up and existing.
We are all so fragile 😂😭
We all are😭😭😭
I’m in my 20s and did the same so I feel like it might not be as much of an age thing
@CrazyMiles shhhhhhhhhhhh,
nobody cares
I felt that
the mario sound effect tho 😭😭😭
WOAH WOAH WOAH!!! Let me get this perfectly straight: You comment something that is completely unrelated to the fact that I have two HAZARDOUSLY HOT girlfriends? Considering that I am the unprettiest RUclipsr worldwide, it is really incredible. Yet you did not mention it at all. I am VERY disappointed, dear kis
@@AxxLAfriku What a character you are
It's lesbian drag King ing
in korea, this is called 어장관리 which roughly translates to "fishing ground maintenance" so like a really awful take on taking care of your aquarium
Kdrama fan here! I learnt that word from Search WWW 😆
"vibrators never hurt anyone's feelings"
My ex would disagree with you. My vibrators existence emotional scared him.
Wankers can make any body cringe
@@naudia988 lmao
Speak for yourself, I've seen things 😨😨
Until the battery runs low. Happened to me once. 🤣
Your channel isn't dying..it just didn't reach right people your contents are real therapy
They honestly reach some.of.us to the heart
In general I dont think her channel is dying. but definitely doesn't hurt that she leaves little nuggets of wisdom
Wasn't she talking about her uterus?
definitely wasnt talking about her youtube channel... haha
@@50shadesofcerakote Definitely? Her videos definitely get less and less views. I presume she knows what she's talking about.
I read this as Piggybacking first
The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holiness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent/turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭. Eternity is a long time.
@@keyboardevangelist No thank you
@@keyboardevangelist stfu.
@@gabi4205 Jesus loves you
@@Kentrc11 Jesus loves you
Your content is the best ❤️
Are you being sarcastic?
Preach Anna is a genius
MDS VC AQUI
Fifty percent of my brain is Anna Akana’s wisdom
Mine's around 70
50% of my brain is Chloe Roma's advice and opinions
@@funnyvideoguy3216 Chloe Roma is just as bad as Akana. If you knew anything about psychology then you would see Chloe as worse than Akana.
she did raise us let’s be real 😂
@@topstyle1639 What are you talking about? How exactly did she "raise" us?
If I had an actual coin for how often in my life a woman has done this to me, I'd be able to afford healthcare in the USA.
That’s a good one.
I think I'd be able to afford half a Snickers.
Where would you keep those coins? 😏
@@Original50 I-NOOO
Jesus Christ lmao
"Vibrators never hurt anyone's feelings."
No but they can hurt your who-ha if it turns out you're allergic to the material 😶 (that was a real bummer of an evening)
Ouch!
Oh no 🥺
I had a very visceral reaction to this comment
Or like. When u bought one with a low quality, and it burn ur who-ha.
Read this one time in twitter
...ooooh, damn.
Why call it something so juvenile like “piggy banking?” In my day we just called it “leading people on.”
it's like ghosting. so put a new label into to deny that it wasn't something that exist since years that they were doing themself.
Does it matter what it's called? If it's really as cruel as they make it out to be, I'm more interested in the guilty party can taking accountability.
Because language evolves. THE FUTURE IS NOW OLD MAN jk
@@tamarlambert6121 I'm taking that one to go lol
Because this generation likes giving words new names to make them sound better or worse.
I got piggy banked before, it took me months to realize the person contacting me every few weeks had no intention of going out with me on the regular
"Because I'm an idiot with human whims"
The most relatable thing I've heard in awhile.
*gets Anna Akana notification*
CLICKS IMMEDIATELY
Seriously! 😁 And she said her channel is dying (5:03)?? 🤨
Me.too😭✌🏽
Advice from a dude: never date a guy that wears a backwards baseball cap...
ahhahhahha
Lmaoo nice
I feel personally attacked 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@dezkightz yhea me2 ...I actually wear a black Philadelphia Phillies fitted baseball cap backwards like all the time with a plaid dress shirt from Old Navy sometime ...ok usually 😂
💯
This has to be one my favourite channels on this website
💯😁
This isn't a guy only thing. I've been breadcrumbed by practically all my dates in the last couple of years. What they all had in common were a lack of interest and effort, and they'd text maybe once a week or two, but not bother replying after. Then a week or two they'd drop another hi and that's it. As I found out, such people are already going out with someone else, but they want a backup in case it doesn't work out. If and when it works out then I'll get ghosted.
This is why backups exist if people were honest , caring , trust worthy and had propper relationship skills backups would not exist .
@@therabidpancake1 but let's be honest. Nobody ever really turns to their backups, because they keep looking for someone better. The backup is just there to validate their own ego and make them feel like they have options.
@@therabidpancake1 I like to think mature, responsible adults are looking for loyal, exclusive relationships, or at least can be honest about what they want.
Ultimately however, I see the act of breadcrumbing as emotional immaturity at best, and narcissism or at least deeply rooted psychological issues at worst.
I’ve known someone for like 6 years and everytime her relationships ended she came to me but I was a backup for sure until she found someone else to date
@@JustBored589 I feel you. I think you need to cut this person out of your life. Maybe she doesn't realise it, but she's basically leeching on you. Now if it's very clear that you're both just very good friends and you're just her emotional support, it's one thing. But even among friends it's important to ask why is she your friend. It doesn't mean she has to give you something in return, but you also can't be someone she only turns to when she's unhappy but when things are good, you're not in her life.
The cats randomly walking around and living their lives in the background is what makes these videos
eg 2:46
Not gonna lie, I was ready to be upset that you framed it like only guys do this, but I kept watching to see where you went with it, and I was pleasantly surprised to see that it was acknowledged that women do it as well. Honestly, I can think of a few times this has been done to me, and sadly I can think of some times that I probably did this to others without really understanding what I was doing and how wrong it was.
It's a good thing to draw attention to. People are so afraid of finding themselves in a void where they don't have options immediately available to them that they end up crossing lines they shouldn't cross. I think this has some overlap with Test Driving - where someone will start showing interest in a person who they feel might be a relationship candidate, even though they already have a relationship, because they intend to break things off with the current SO and want to have someone to fill that void immediately.
All that said, you still ended up wounding me deeply, Anna. At 35, I felt those comments about aging all too keenly, and I didn't appreciate it one bit. :'(
The title is still misleading, don't you think ?
“why this dude keeps responding randomly to my stories at 1 am?” oh.
Yeah that is them bootycall hours
😂😂
My friend said "write them latenight after 12AM when one of their hands is in the the pants one on the phone"
Nah responding to stories doesn't count because all your friends can view your stories.
If it's a 1AM DM to you, then yeah
"my channel is dying" 🥺🥺 we're still here anna!!
Yeah Anna I think these days views number don't represent success like they used to, many new small channel can survive with small loyal viewers, having big viewers obviously great but it's not the only way
Piggybacking sounds like a whole bunch of people that were never taught how a relationship should start only what is expected from a relationship, suddenly interacting with the opposite sex but both are just lost and confused. So one is like are they interested in me and the other is am I good enough to date but both are fine with flirting.
hoovering, narcissists do it
@@seabreeze4559 Where'd you get thst wisdom from? Drop the source if you have it pls
"I don't want to be presumptuous because you may have just invited me over as a friend. But just in case you have romantic intent, I want to let you know that I'm not on the same page." THIS!!! I've been struggling with saying something like this for so long, the situation almost always lead to an awkward rejection or an awkward "I'll think about it" because I didn't want to hurt their feelings.
Thank you for putting this into words!!
I'm very glad Anna learned her lesson and is now telling all the other people not to do it. I've had so many women lead me on it's not funny.
"But that's cool cause you're hot, so I'd do it." Most understated line. Anna really has a grasp on men mind.
Isn't think also known as breadcrumbing? Or is that a different thing?
I think breadcrumbing is a step up from piggybanking. Breadcrumming is in a more established relationship, just investing as minimally as possible. Piggybanking is a step back in that there isn’t really an established relationship so it looks more transparent.
@@HoshiHikari Thanks!
Yeah, pretty sure this is just breadcrumbing.
breadcrumbing, ghosting, leading someone on
It’s really hard to come to terms with being the backup option to someone you really liked
Ah yes... the ol "Maybe I have a chance!" XD
"girls can't (insert hurtful thing that any human being can do) because in my mind men don't have human emotions at all because I've internalized harmful ideas about gender roles" (sigh)
These psychological themed skits are brilliant! Good job Anna and the team! Keep them coming. We need them :))
Honestly she should i am always waiting for.them.every week Plus they are so.relatable
@@trishacarolyn8361 yes to them being extremely relatable. She explains complex subjects very well.
@@lovelessfate Yes i look forward to them every week i hope to meet her some day
So sad when 30 year olds think they're "old". Internalized ageism is weird.
Like it never happened to you you never woke up like that when you were 25 or 30
...well you start to experience changes in your body and energy...
Male testosterone start to drop and the consequences of it.
Female fertility rate starts to plummet.
she's not old, but your body at 24 is not the same at 30. Once you reach 30 your body will start to change.
I don’t know if your channel is dying.. I’d say you just seem like you’re in a more emotionally whole place and ready to move on to different content. Growth!
The rule of one. Its simple, only date one person at a time.
Shoutout to the editing, it's stellar
And yeeeaaaah... it definitely goes both ways unfortunately. Good on you for showing both sides.
The best way to figure out if someone is doing this to you is, "So, want to meet up?" If they won't set a time to meet, they're a waste of time.
Generally a good guideline, but some people just don't want to invest the extensive logistical coordination required without building more of a rapport through chatting first. If I don't know whether someone can hold a conversation at all, hell no I'm not spending hours on planning dog sitting and getting ready and meeting up and presumably spending money IRL for what might be an awkward waste of time. Gotta get that mental connection first. So yeah, the preference not to meet up right away can be valid. Later on though, yeah, especially if someone says they're down to meet up but then never actually commits to a plan and always says they'll let you know soon etc, then that's a flag for sure
women do this big time too. some like to have a group of guys in the wings for some quick fun or for emotional support when they guy were with/chasing disappears.
As a man who has been piggybanked and piggybacked others. Anna's dude monologue really struck a chord with me. I may begin to cry.
This is such a pet peeve of mine
Many girls do it to me, and yes!!! it's so annoying!
"Ohhh man don't wanna serious relationships"
Buttt their actions are the opposite
Stop dealing with these sorts of women, save your time
"mY CHANNEL IS DYING" i spit out my rice when she said that
Cuz it really isn't what we as audience thought like
Your channel isn't dying. Consider it officially resurrected... for me anyway :D I probably subconsciously Piggy- Banked you in the recesses of my self developmental aspirations and after a 5 year Anna Hiatus, I have officially made a full scale come back and a huge withdrawal - of which i intend to invest heavily :P
Do not put coins or emotional strings up someone's butt unless you're ready to commit or at least have an honest conversation on your relationship with them!!!
Actually don't put coins anywhere on the human body unless it's a magic trick you pull from the ear
This was done to me by two different guys, which I actually liked, and it was really confusing because they always initiated conversation, but would be unavailable every time I proposed a date. I was just left wondering if I said something wrong and they never gave any explanation. I had no idea it was actually a thing.
This scenario has been my dating life experience with every women I meet over the last two years after my divorce. When I finally figured out it was because they were just waiting for witch guy they were talking to would come up with the most interesting sounding date and none of them had any want for more than a one night stand, well I've given up. Dating is dead, single for life!! I'm good with it tho, more peaceful anyway.
push/pull in PUA speak, hoovering to NPD cases
Sounds like they're dating other people.
@@maxpowers2011 lol if you're lucky you'll be put in the friend zone and kept as their backup for years to come. (Typed with violent sarcasm)
@@theickster3008 Been there....that's why I just focus on me now. Relationships are an outdated construct anyway.
"I tweaked my neck just by waking up and existing" .......yes girl, I feel you, because same. #agingmillennialproblems
I will sign up for Daddy Squarespace one day because of you.
This feels like the healthiest and most level relationship advice.
I just spent the last 6 months playing this game with someone I truly thought was serious....only to have him act this way. He's a completely emotionally unavailable, self-absorbed, never-been-married narcissistic guy.
So I turned the game around and mirrored his behavior.
Haven't heard a prop out of him since. 😂
So open and so true. And Anna, you’re still young! The number doesn’t matter
It's always kind of a different level of growth and maturity when the toxic person becomes able to cop to their issues independently without having to be told about them.
That added self awareness is extra refreshing
50% of my memory is filled with anna akana's golden nuggets of emotional maturity. the other 50% is kpop lyrics
😂😂
I thought this term fitted how guys guilt the people they are dating by telling them how much money they "invested" in dates, food, gifts ect. Side note, never put up with this!
I agree. Women should start paying for dates from now on.
@@selohcin Or how about people discuss what they are willing to pay for first. Not every relationship is hetero. Dating is expensive for everyone, not one person should shoulder it. I was speaking from my own experience with a narcissist so it could be difficult to brush with broad strokes.
This tactic is actually highly effective in dating sims. It's good to raise emotion points through regular encounters.
Highly effective in dating simps you mean
Does this apply to non-romantic friendships too?
I'll say so! It's all about respect and interest
Wait where did you get your top in 0:01 it’s literally so cute please lmk
This is something I used to be VERY guilty of. I reached a point in my life where I determined my self worth by how many people I was associating with. When I finally realized that this wasn't the case and the effects of my actions I realized I had to start a the long process of self growth.
You are a lot of things, but "old" ain't one of 'em.
Keep up the interesting work!
I subscribed to extend the duration of your channels slow death. I look forward to hearing, appreciating, and learning from your astoundingly well articulated and insightful productions till the very end.
“So they keep paying for my mortgage”
Killed me 😂
Fascinating. Women do it all the time and ghosting men like no one's business. But when someone do that to them they are shocked. And they still wonder why good men walked away.
Imagine texting all the piggybankers "stop piggybanking me" theyll be like 'whaaaaaaaaa'? 🐽
Recently I realized that I'm watching Anna's channel for like 7 years or so. And now it's past the point of the longest relationship with the opposite sex I had. That's really odd. And also I'm the same age as she is. It really awakens strange feelings about it. When you see how the blogger you adore is now not a cute 20-something-year-old kid, but a real grown-up person struggling with her existence same as me the casual guy. However, maybe it's just a mask in praise of the content.
P.s. But yes I remember times before 60065 and before BEEs.
stay awesome gothem.
This is called leading someone on..... But you need to correct your title because it is NOT exclusively male.
Yo I never heard of this before. 😳 but this makes me rethink some interactions I've had with some folks. Oh god I think I've been piggybanked. Thanks for this. I just learned something new.
Shyt this hit me in the spot. I'm Guilty
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
@@keyboardevangelist get out of here you bible thumper
@@tami3456 why are you being so christophobic.?😅
@@keyboardevangelist their not being christphobic they don’t want to hear your propaganda.
@@keyboardevangelist I'm a Christian, and what you are doing here is actually not Christ-like, because you're not relating to people as people (as Christ did, one on one), but rather, as objects for your pre-packaged walls of text. You're being obnoxious and off-putting here by jumping into unrelated conversations with pre-packaged texts.
Not all men have mustashe. I'm offended by that kind of stereotyping
hahaha are you serious XD (man with a beard and mustache)
Do you all have your own mustaches or do you share the one?
They're different shapes bro
@@owensharp8568 that could easily be altered in post, king
the only reason we have to think of new terms to describe stuff that been done for hundreds of years is cause young folks refuse to ask their parents and elderly about this crap. my mom taught me about piggybanking in the 70s when I was 5. (she was EXTREMELY open about everything. she gave me the birds and the bees talk when I was 6)
Women have been subjecting men to this kind of treatment (minus ever getting to hook up) for generations, that's literally what the friend zone is to guys. Now that it's happening to an extremely tiny percentage of women such as yourself Anna it's suddenly now not okay? Come on...
"All Guys Need To Stop Doing"...what women have been doing for generations. GFY.
You're so wonderful.
And just uniquely talented, definitely a diamond
I was awkward socially before not being with people after a year. I'm gonna be hella awkward after this past year. Watch out dating scene.
I forgot that square space wasn’t called daddy square space and I got confused that their logo was missing the ‘daddy’
One Thing All Girls Need To Stop Doing
Breaking Men's Bank and Taking Advantage of them For Free Meals and Free Rides
"Vibrators never hurt anyone's feelings," clearly you haven't heard the amazing song The Buzzing from the Bathroom from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.
"I tweaked my neck by just waking up and existing." HAHAHAHA I feel that, girl, oh I feel that so hard. WE ARE GETTING SO OLD AND WE HAVE SO MANY YEARS LEFT OF DECAY!
Anna always keeping it real. But when she said she was getting old I nearly choked. Come on, Anna. You are still a vibrant young woman.
Same, when Anna said she is old I am aging 100 years faster
She hit the wall
@@calculator4482 nope. She is attractive. Aaand you incel if you dont think you have a wall too, then you re delusional🤣young attractive women wont be with you unless you have 10 million dolars net worth lmao
Off topic: Just finished "Jupiter's Legacy." Great show and you were great in it. Congratulations!
I hope she's in more episodes for season 2
Michelle probably only piggy banked Anna and the Keanu Reeves voiced male version of Anna so that she could buy that black leather and even more stylish green leather jackets.
I really enjoy how brutally open and honest these videos are, and how real the messages are - yet combined with a charm and humor that Anna delivers flawlessly. Love your videos :)
Sometimes people have crushes and are a bit weird until they fizzle out. So, piggy banking sounds similar.
So I'm turning 30 in less than two months and threw out my back at work today. First time commenting (and I'm not even sure you'll see this) but I appreciate the honesty and humor you bring to all your videos. I'm grateful I'm not the only one doing the work of self actualization, integration, and personal growth as a result of facing my mortality. I see you, I hear you, and I appreciate your channel. :)
Anna talking about getting old, I was like yeah once you get into your 30's it feels like you're slowly falling apart. Probably the part I found most relatable.
_In Colombia we call that _*_"tener un arrocito en bajo"_*_ I have no idea how to translate that_
So... piggy banking is when you emotionally dump on someone and then ghost them when they respond back?
The 30 thing seems to be totally true. I'm not there myself just yet, but I have trouble dating below my age and women over 30 love me for how direct I am... There's an extremely noticable difference where women below my age run the other way while women over 30 run my way. Damn cougars, lol.
i can't entirely discourage this for guys considering the miserable 'one you wanted' success rate and usually from too much attention
It's called leading people on. No need to rename it.
I wanna be piggybanked...not the Urban Dictionary one.
Yeah, after 30, the body just starts falling apart. Wake up everyday with a new ache or pain.
Your public speaking is world class. Keep up the good work.
The older you get the worse it gets, your body make creaking, cracking noise and that's just getting out of bed. Lol.
Watch out for lower back spasms, fucked me right up!
Just subbed this channel. I been watching your vids for more than a week and I like what you have to say!!
A great way to avoid this problem is having people never engage in conversation with you.
Wow, yeah this has totally happened to me, but I've never done it, and never really cared about the men attempting to put coins in my emotional bank. My emotional bank was just never available to them lol. When I was in my straight phase I thought I was aromantic or demiromantic til I realized I'm actually pansexual femromantic. Now that I'm oriented in my actual direction, once I know what the connection is supposed to feel like maybe I will miss it enough in between girlfriends to have thought piggybanking is worth it. But now I know what it is and I won't, because Anna's the best!
Also, it's May and you can't get a vaccine in your state yet? California's behind, Oregon's already nailed it. Get your vaccine(s) and come trip up to Portland! Do Anna + the twins go on tour? I think a little show of theirs would just be so much fun live!
Lmao I was literally looking at the urban dictionary definition when she made the distinction
I totally hit my 30s and was like - oh I thought I would feel more like an adult. Oh well. And after realizing that we are all just flailing around out here pretending we know what is going on, now I pretty much say and do what I want and don't let insecurities hold me back. I am much more confident now in who I am. My mom said only those her age can get away with acting like that but that is ridiculous. You have one life - live it on your terms!!