6 Reasons We Self Sabotage

[@fravineas]

anna you live in my heart rent free

[@anidleteen]

Me too, especially her daddy squarespace

[@jgtbym601]

Me too! And I’d even throw in a mini bar.

[@serenamassimo6676]

Haha, same!!

[@mdnd8]

daddy squarespace lmao

[@Rukky98]

SAMEEEEE

[@spoorthiv5072]

The reasons
1)Low self worth
2)instant gratification
3) being surrounded by similar people
4)rejection/failure
5)familiar (yet harmful) patterns
6)all
Try to be an assertive person and identify the above reasons as they come up.

[@traveler-a113]

I never knew we needed "French Anna" until now

[@vtr0104]

I think there was some Russian in there too :)))

[@AxxLAfriku]

IT is weird indeed. Everywhere I comment, people tell me how much they love me and my content. Sometimes IT is annoying. But right now, IT would be okay. So say something nice about my content, dear tra

[@Karan-Aujla]

All that's left is catgirl Anna.

[@the_mulattos]

Lesbians speak for their own communities.

[@laetitiacouteausuisse5296]

Hybrid Vigour troll

[@cinderlights519]

"interpersonal conflict..."
"would you like a small or a large?"
"a large"
why must anna call me out like this

[@tanyiyunpenny1252]

boy tell me about it. covid has make interpersonal conflicts as high as a fuji mountain

[@VesDegree]

“Why aren’t YOU married?” Okay that was FUNNY

[@sunisthakundu6684]

shut up

[@OkinawaDrag0n]

@@sunisthakundu6684 no u

[@anushkaguptaa]

Me feeling attacked in every one of Anna's videos.

[@luckylara6610]

And we come back for more

[@pamela2012bernard]

@@luckylara6610 Ikr

[@rafadams22]

Cos it's fun!!!

[@kikiii99]

I've been trying to be more assertive since the start of 2021 and DAMN is it hard, especially when you've spent your whole life neglecting your own needs to keep others happy and avoid conflict

[@Nanamka]

I wish you strength 💪 I've been there, it is a tough journey sometimes but it is worth every step!

[@Pssst.ByTheWay]

been a battle for 1o years. its especially hard if you dont have real autonomy. wishing us much luck and percevierance!

[@firecats6754]

LOL 😂 “this isn’t a YA Novel” , slowly puts books down.

[@random23287]

Ikr

[@crazykenna]

"I just want to be normal like everyone else" Alina Starkov is QUAKING

[@jerryloncey]

"Our specials today are drowning yourself in self pity with cilantro"

[@gurudra]

Lack of understand one's true self leads to self sabotage🙏

[@rockymegaman8496]

Ouch, this got me.I'm on my way to finding my true self.

[@crtzy9626]

That’s so true

[@Mad.E]

_"maybe it's you"_ yeah no it's definitely me

[@TequilaCT]

Coincidences again... Was talking about this subject AND in desperate need of new glasses last night... BOTH stopping self sabotage and getting new glasses are going to take a while.

[@RaroHi]

breh same

[@Quark.Lepton]

There are no “coincidences” - you were _meant_ to be here, now.

[@o0OHermioneO0o]

You can't even imagine just how well-timed this insight comes!!! I've been pushing off writing my thesis for two months now. I'm gonna come back to this from time to time to reflect on my behaviour and progress. Thanks, Anna & team!!

[@Drugostanje]

Same here, but for longer. Any progress?

[@astolat2262]

Good luck you!

[@anonymouslearner2454]

Omg same here... How are you guys doing? Anything in particular that helps pushing through? 😣

[@natalieberkaw405]

Dang girl you look great in those glasses

[@sunisthakundu6684]

she really looks cool

[@s.flanders]

Speaking for a friend, self-sabotage is a bit of a vicious cycle because you _don't_ see yourself as deserving good things, but in order to see yourself more positively, you usually need to improve yourself in some way. Like, this "friend" of mine doesn't like the way they look, but instead of working out and eating better, they get this delicious fried chicken every Tuesday for dinner.

[@goldfishcrayon]

It is a vicious cycle. Society is toxic. When we realize our own self worth, it makes things like exercise and eating healthier easier (though NOT easy). Change takes work but people won't be happy unless they are doing it for the right reasons. Self hatred regarding looks/weight (or it being perpetuated by toxic people) is not going to motivate someone to live a healthier life. It usually ends up in an eating disorder that continues messing with the person's mind and well-being. Everyone deserves to be loved and valued regardless of what they have for dinner. Once a person loves themself, taking better care of themself will feel much more achievable.

[@urdadsonic1036]

how about this... your friend tries to eat healthy for 6 days of the week and eats fried chicken on tuesday. small changes overtime can yield big results :)

[@chronicfish]

"With a side of constant self sacrifice for others, to avoid working on myself" .. ouch! That one hit *deep!*

[@zeruszephuros5419]

The menu names are so hilarious and on spot xD! One of the best scripts you've made!

[@NoEnvyNoFear1]

"So hopefully there's a personal attack incoming soon!"
This sums up Anna's entire channel. Lmao.

[@thedesignnerd]

Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth
~ someone great

[@johnypanta6208]

Self improvement can be exhausting...On the other hand, what choices are there? Universal Law: What doesn't grow, dies.

[@littleowl22778]

Everything that grows also dies at some point.

[@gabrielagrassi8237]

Maybe we need to think about cycles. The thing is that we self sabotage keeping the same cycles in our life that needs to die to some new things to come up

[@GymGirl88]

Therapy hour with Anna!! Love all your mental health content. It's hella validating and keeps me thinking about my therapy goals between appointments

[@kaitlynwrites]

Ironically, I'm absolutely putting instant gratification over my long term goals by watching youtube right now...

[@Leelz247]

You slid right into a Russian accent while attempting French, but that's OK, lol.

[@ale.jate.]

wow thank you for this needed call out

[@CACHCL]

"sorry girl this aint a YA novel" 😂😂

[@bsjeffrey]

i don't think that psychiatrist was really writing stuff down.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Waitress, not psychiatrist.

[@bsjeffrey]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle potato, potahto

[@KiloMedic]

“… with a side of constant self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself.” 😩😂😭 I feel so exposed

[@fatemakhambati5943]

Everything is just perfect in your videos! The message, background, skits, makeup, dress, sponsor messages!! Everything

[@angieinthecity]

The shooting of the foot was too good🤣

[@namjesussssss]

*WAS JUST TALKING ABOUT THIS WITH MY SISTER*

[@janmarysuseffe1430]

Thank you so much, Anna, for giving me free therapy sessions.

[@limherny]

This is so relatable, glad to know I’m not the only one

[@sillygoose_8635]

"Good luck with that! :)"
Thanks Anna... I'm trying

[@bosgotnojams]

maybe it's me but without the maybe

[@taylormoore2590]

After seeing what makes an assertive person, it’s become clear I’m taking L’s on all fronts😭

[@kraziiXIII]

How do you figure out what you want? That is a question I've had for years. Depression has made me not want anything other than sleep for over 13 years.

[@dorcasola1528]

been on my mind this whole week. thanks for saying what needed to be said !!

[@davidcrowther9504]

Thank you Anna. Sadly I feel that I might be sabotaging myself because no matter which choice I make I feel that I will be betraying some aspect of myself. Sometimes it feels like the only winning move is not to play...

[@kakaduvadu7827]

Absolutely perfect timing, thank you!

[@thisisdk7859]

0:48 that restaraunt is fancyyy. That not standing up for yourself entree sounded good AF.

[@thelemonpolice]

I love ur channel so much it’s free therapy man 🥳

[@bettyreads222]

This is so realll. Anna coming in with the relevant advice.

[@johnmuldoon79]

lol the gun pointing at your foot was a good metaphor

[@FlyMontag]

That "can we split that" joke....I see you. I see what you did there and I lourve it.

[@ltheelementalflowl]

I love your sense of humor Anna. I feel like my family and friends have a hard time understanding my humor, but yours hit mine really point on about mental health and our struggles.
Thanks for making me laugh and bringing a smile to my face. Lol

[@strawberrycranberry3085]

Girl you have the ability to captivate the audience with such important messages

[@mich8050]

Self-sabotaged in relationships galore. It's my special move

[@borofreak]

It's also super effective.

[@mich8050]

@@borofreak well yeah, I've been single almost 9 years now

[@CHopeBerlin]

2:08 why does this remind me of charmed where Piper and pheobe kept complaining about being the charmed ones and they just want to have normal lives and then when the angel of destiny one day let them choose to have a normal live, they suddenly wanted to stay witches. But right in the next Episode they complained again that they are witches.

[@georgianapopescu1333]

It's so nice to get actually useful psychological info and have a laugh at the same time :)

[@kbunnieable2]

ugh ze french accent!!!!!! anna is too insanely talented

[@lemonadeslices]

i feel so called out. thank you for this.

[@leena_asad7663]

I miss her saying "stay awesome gotham" at the ending

[@Anesujubani]

This really couldn’t have come at a better time

[@ChadMourning]

To the priest, "Why aren't you married?"

[@rafadams22]

DUDE IF U WANA BE MARRIED TO A PROSTITUTE, BE MY GUEST. NOT FOR ME THANKS. NOT TODAY, NOT TOMORROW AND NOT EVER.

[@kalakshepam9000]

Self-sabotage,This is a very serious issue explained very well..The tough part identifying, accepting. It takes decades for some to identify and accept while for some people a month. Thanks for explaining the truth, reasons..Keep doing all these to increase awareness..

[@julzamidala2865]

Loved "Why aren't you married?" and her reaction! 😂😂😂

[@rafadams22]

COS OPEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE FOR PEOPLE WITH NO ETHICS AND MORALS. NOBODY IS PERFECT, BUT THAT LINE SHOULD NEVER BE CROSSED. THAT'S JUST MY OPINION.

[@lauriechrisy1784]

*Restaurant McSaboteur menu*
-> Stew of self-pity, with cilantro
| recommended for drowning |
->impulsive spending
| will lead to financial ruin |
->not standing up for myself
| very simple and elegant |
->procrastination
| voted most popular meal |
->Self medicating with drugs and alcohol
-> Performing below my abilities on purpose
->Not showing up
->Comfort eating
->Interpersonal conflict
| the large portion is especially tasteful |
*Popular side dish*
->Self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself

[@benjaminseelking9483]

Fortunatly, this list also tells you exactly what to do to NOT change your behavior on Accident, and ensure you stay exactly where you are right now

[@ceebee312]

Got Godfather Prt. II vibes from this topic of discussion all in due to Michael Corleone’s character. .. thx for the therapy/lecture

[@MrGutsTheBerserk]

"We did a line together, it was fabulous." Line made me do a double take.

[@alexia942]

A friend sent me a link of one of your videos and I'm so glad.
I love that your videos are sharp, intelligent, engaging, and funny. Fabulous work!

[@shawnvirdree8593]

Wow the effort that you put into your videos is really impressive...I’ve been watching you for years and you haven’t missed a step hahahaha

[@petitcactusamer]

Constant self sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself....why yes.

[@shaneomar2592]

Even assertive people can self sabotage

[@sunisthakundu6684]

oh never knew that

[@nopenopepoppop]

I WANT A LONGER VERSION OF THIS

[@TY-qj1fh]

I relate to all 6 of the listed reasons for self-sabotage. My ex who I pushed away has all 8 of the symptoms of an assertive person. So this is what it's like to horribly screw up.

[@user-wc6jw6hb8z]

Those frames look amazing on you!!

[@caioferreira3562]

Anna, you’re incredible!!! Thank u so much for this, pretty sure it helps a lot of people. You’re an angel❤️

[@smritibangera7133]

Your videos transcribed and summaries on notion would be a huge hit!

[@LOVEAapjes]

4 speaks so much to me

[@ofeliabalderas1965]

You make my failure sound so fancy
Thank you :’)

[@bethking5086]

My favourite RUclipsr rn

[@noemilicitra2587]

these videos are so underrated! they should have millions of thumbs up!

[@dracconcomet]

The upper limit problem!! Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

[@kamilamuratova7728]

Thank you, Anna!

[@MoneyGist]

"Why aren't you married?" 😭

[@AnonymousOnimous]

These trio skits are the gold the dragon in my heart needed!

[@shubhamtailor5560]

2:45 it make sense now , aaahhhhhhhh !!!!!!!

[@TheBetsyBraun]

Perfect timing... I'm about to launch a business and IIIIIIIIII'mmmm definitely getting in my own way. 😬

[@jordantaber2438]

You can do it!!!

[@gabrielagrassi8237]

Same here 😁

[@ruqayazuhair9047]

this was uncomfortably eye opening

[@awesomeadamfrom2099]

Awesome job Anna

[@niwasazuke]

Im so glad the youtube recommend her to my feeds. Thank you anna...

[@millennial_fairy]

Anna managed To give us all virtual therapy and dish out the laughs at the same time lol

[@sunisthakundu6684]

watching your videos literally helps me a lot, make me a pretty person inside and out. Thank you Anna Akana.

[@marissawilson4644]

Great timing!!!

[@jochebedlapena]

aw thank you Anna! you should discuss more of these types.

[@skygirllove3669]

THANK YOUU!!!! I was looking for this

[@josietennyson5835]

I love that she draws her props

[@honestytheory7529]

Ooooooh, how dare you put me on blast like that😅

[@punammishra6200]

Ah truth be told girl.. truth be told!

[@random23287]

I think I have all these reasons...

[@vir_rm]

i’ve been WAITING for this one! turn it up!

[@gold-fi5mk]

Anna's videos are always gold

[@warrnj4300]

I like the number 6 good choice

[@sellinasy1180]

Such a good reminder!

[@frankdeste7941]

This is great Anna....Great innovation and advice!!!

[@batmanjeph328]

The gun is back!!

[@enema8727]

Number 6 is my favorite

[@alexkubo7287]

Just found your channel the other day!! Where the hell have you been! I love this,the topics are all relatable (which is totally worrying) n the execution is super fun n entertaining. Thanks for these Anna..,