how to overcome self-sabotage | how + when self-sabotage sneaks up on you | @TiffanyLaibhen
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- Опубликовано: 25 окт 2023
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the lassttt thing I expected was the feeling of fear after experiencing progress in this journey + success on my terms... but I did. and I had to share what I learned, what you can expect + ways to move past it. grab your bevvy's my loves... we're talking all things self-sabotage 🍷
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Lately I’ve been asking about how to discern between Gods voice, and my own and I’m more clear that the voice of self sabotage and doubt were my own voice. Doubting myself and doubting what God has already shown me. When I hear the doubt creeping in I say “shut up” out loud, the devil won’t steal my joy! I’m walking boldly into what God has for me! ❤ thanks for another beautiful message
yes girl! I’m a believer that when we shut out the noise of ego + hear our true voice, our intuition, our deepest desires, it’s the voice of God/our creator. that other voice is what we’ve picked up along the way. I tell it to shut up all the time 😂 I love how we all have different interpretations but ultimately, saying the same thing 🙌🏾
Gods voice is best heard in silence. Any voice that comes from the mind is that of the EGO (All voices in your head both “good” or “bad”) which is in direct opposition to His will. Learn to Meditate. And you will understand “Be still and know that I Am God.”When you train your mind to be thoughtless. You will obtain the peace in consciousness to understand HIM. He so loves you dearly. He love Everything about you. GOD is Love. He will never condemn you, hate you, refuse you weather you think you are good or bad. That type of system of measure Is not worthy of a child of GOD who’s was made by HIM. Those are terms of the ego who refuses to understand that to HIM you are PERFECT. Never confuse the human experience with your soul. You are Beyond Name and form. Not the mortal being, but HIS perfect child. Your are love more than you know and more that words in the human language can describe. Sit is stillness and ask for him in All truth and honesty and wait. He will NEVER refuse to answer the call of his CHILD.
You must not confused that voice in your heads with Gods. He Speak through your soul not only the mind. I hope you read this and it helps you. I love you.
Good for you sis. Take charge every time the devil tries you.
This!!!!!
This!! I’m definitely trying to understand when it’s his voice.
I've been addicted to comfort for years only I'm not comfortable anymore!!! Once I took Accountability for the role I played in my discomfort, the lack mentality, lack of knowledge, lack of discipline my life changed for the better. It really is a mind shift that has to happen. Proud of myself every day!!
Authenticity is the high form of energy, I swear by it ❤
this 🎯🤌🏾
I feel so blessed to have found you. every video is a prayer that I am trying to sort through. a few years ago I had a successful blog. after doing the work one viral recipe that yielded more money than I ever made crippled me. I prayed for this things for so long and when I got it I STOPPED everything. I stopped posting, stopped creating just stopped. I have slowly been building up the courage to go back into blogging but I've been waiting. this morning I said I will start today no matter what. And I did- and I came to RUclips to take my mind off the anxiety and bammmmm you posted this video. Sorry if this a rambling but I am in tears. Thank you Tiff!!! you really don't know who you are reaching but the people who receive the message know the value. thank you again sis.
🥹😭 you’re not rambling at all. I felt this message because I was in that exact position. sending you a big hug 🫂 🤎 I’m happy you’re here love. we’re growing, healing + overcoming one step at a time
I feel your comment
“The urge to change the formula, when the formula is what got me here.” A word!
My self sabotage shows up through me filling my time with nothingness that I make “something” to do… thank you 🙏🏾
This shit resonates!!! We gotta do better
Oh my gosh!!! You explained the exact way I procrastinate!
Recently I started makeup again and I have been very active with it. I make lip tutorials 3times a weeks and also a full makeup content then post it on tiktok and Facebook. But I barely get engagements. I know where I’m headed so it’s like yeah, I just need to be consistent. But since last week I have been feeling down and it just feels like I will never get to where I want. I didn’t stop making videos though. Coming across your videos has really help boost my confidence and I really appreciate you. Thank you 😊
Keep going ❤
That part about not getting high or low on compliments and complaints is HUGE!!! Its definitely something I've been intentionally trying to embrace n catchy myself
"even with that feeling you can still succeed, you can still do the things you want to do"🙏🏾
As someone who is passing through a tough time and dealing with a lot of preassure that comes with succes (and I mean having a life that you dreamed about for years coming true), your video is a blessing. The thing we don't talk about this stage in life is how difficult it is to keep going in the same direction and not letting self-sabotage take over.
Thank you so much for your word and wisdom!
I'm a new fan of the channel and already lobe your content. ♡
Tiff, my purpose in life is to make people (esp women) feel the way you make me feel. Seen. Grounded. Like you're giving me permission to be me.
I don't know exactly how this will manifest for me but I want the people I he!p to feel how I feel watching you. You're my best friend in my head. You are my ideal self in the flesh. Because of you, I know I have hope. That I'll live & walk in my purpose everyday, just like you.
THIS VIDEO is everything. Thank you so much. It speaks to my soul, every word you say is like my deepest thought. I am coming out of a self-sabotage phase after reaching my dream physique falling into binges, lost trust, fear and just limited beliefs, I am working on myself and your videos help me so much. They make me feel strong and powerful and that I can do it. Thank you so much. You are precious and highly appreciated.
I found myself obsessing that I wanted success and I wanted it like right now... Then I had this profound enlightenment that if everything I was asking for came a second earlier than the divine timing it would crash me. It would destroy me
.. Looking back I understand this.. The truth is I wasn't ready.. I had to work through some things and I'm glad it didn't came when I called. It came when it was the right time.. Lesson is to trust your journey and your process trust the universe wants the best for you... The dots will connect later..
You’re speaking directly to me. This confirmed how I’ve been feeling. I realized I was self sabotaging and still did it anyway. 😏 I decided something has to change. And I’m now taking the necessary steps to stop self sabotaging. And this pops up. The universe is speaking to me. And I’m listening. Thanks for being open and honest about your journey.
This 🙏🏾❤ bc me too girl
10:25 “I dont like that saying - I’m gonna manage my money good thank you” YES 🎯
It's only been 2 days of me watching your content and I already know that I'm on the right path and in alignment. It's a joyful feeling because things get tough on many and multiple levels with us all. I'm grateful to have this space and opportunity and you being our vessel for these messages. Thank u! Ok back to how I fixed parts of my self sabotaging habits. I started telling myself no in situations I didn't feel comfortable or if I felt too comfortable to where I operate in fear. Another is accepting I can learn from anyone because it's how I personally perceive what is given to me. And also, taking personal time...from everyone unless important. Being so accessible to everyone all the time! The energy we can allow to be drained is physically and emotionally devastating sometimes TIFFANY!! But I found you, just as I began to think and act this way, which is confirmation for me on my own path. Thank u again! I wish us all peace, joy and prosperity along with our healing and soul mission journey!
Self sabotage shows up for me by achieving results and then backsliding. Procrastination. Worry. Anxiety. Stagnation. Unworthiness and imposter syndrome. Running away. Your videos really help me to grow in my self esteem and self worth. So empowering and I can’t wait to continue to see the woman I was meant to be unfold. Love your channel ❤
I found your content at the right time in my life. Your words are just resonating so distinctly with me in ways I would have overlooked in the past. Thank you for committing to yourself and sharing your journey with us! 🖤
😌 thank you for these words! I’m really happy that it resonated with you 🤎
I swear this is what I needed to hear. I'm planning on going back to school and the what ifs were coming to shut it down. I am drinking a cool glass of water❤😊❤
tell them doubts to take a back seat. you got thangs to do 🤎 and yes hydration 🙌🏾
I’ve done this recently, and I talk about it all the time, but I was getting scared of becoming somebody that I was wanting to be so I self sabotaged. This helped me realize that.
I can so relate. I have dealt with limiting beliefs, imposter syndrome and procrastination. And now I'm trying to get out of it and I know how my mindset can affect my life. I have goals and one thing I learned is the ego which I didn't think about it until now. It's the inner critic inside me that I am not letting get in the way. 😊 Great video
You’re one of the people I watch when I’m procrastinating and need inspiration. So thank you 🙏🏽
I just subscribed because this spoke to me so much. I’m a single mother of two boys and I’m pursuing a career in tattooing and I have been constantly doubting myself. I feel fear keeping me from staying more busy than I actually can be and I feel like I need to learn to keep going and encouraging myself instead of sabotaging my own progress. It’s hard saying that while being a mom, the guilt really kills me sometimes. Thank you for sharing all your wisdom and advice ❤️ I’m not giving up 💪
I never comment on any video on here.,but I have to tell you, I felt like you were speaking to me. I was telling God this morning all of this and now you are just letting me know what I need to do and how to do it, and got me telling myself You are worthy keep on. Thanks love your content.
Quick lil story- My friends and I started a 7 day fast on October 30. I wanted to start 2 days early so I'm ready for a fresh new month. I wanted to incorporate some form of positivity so I decided to get on RUclips just to find something... as soon as I'm getting ready to type.. your video popped up. I don't know how but it had to be meant for me to watch. I watched my first video on Monday, how to master gratitude. & all I can say is it changed my entire day! Now I'm here! Must have been God. All I can say is thank you so much for getting on here and sharing your truth! Your words has helped me so much in the last two days.
🥹🙌🏾 sending you all the love as you get through your fast… so happy the messages are hitting the way I wanted them to 🤎
I reeeeeally needed this! Thank you Empress✨✨✨✨🤍
This is like the second videos of yours in a row that I saw almost immediately after you uploaded it and this is something I talked about in therapy today! I’m so excited to watch his video because your videos always hit the mark!
alignneeddd 😌✨
Wow! this is the first time I’ve come across someone that has articulated EXACTLY what I have been try overcome for years! This resonated with me on so many levels I got emotional listening. Thank you for this space, you have a new subscriber ❤
I been doing stuff to kill negative thinking and procrastinating and just do the stuff I don’t wanna do until I can pay someone to do it and free my time. And know im worthy of success and I can keep it up. Therapy and my manifestation coach helps me. Being committed to killing laziness and bad habits. Also it hard doing stuff daily when you don’t know when success is happening. I want to be successful and some days im overwhelmed doing stuff daily to gain success and not knowing when it happen. But im finding it rewarding getting task done and killing laziness and bad habits and procrastination. Killing those bad things is highest level of self care. Self care isn’t always fun and pretty. ❤
This is the video that is changing my life❤ Thank you so much the best talk I’ve seen on RUclips especially being on my level up journey
My self sabotage comes from maybe not believing that i deserve good things- not from the garden variety "not being enough"- but from having actively hurt people as a pattern of aggression i took on from childhood to protect myself as a sensitive person in a harsh environment. After a lot of work I have healed from that and am now a much gentler person. But i have flashbacks constantly to instances where i hurt someone else, and it triggers the thought "i hate myself." It is hard to move forward with that thought. Therapy has helped immensely, but not with this one pattern.
I’m watching and it just posted two minutes ago. Look at God!! ❤🎉
yesss divine timing 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Wow thank you for this video. I was literally praying as I was walking home about this very struggle in my mind and walk. And your video popped up. one thing you said that I needed to hear is.. “know your why, ”and keep reading that letter everytime you get discouraged.” 🙏🏽❤
whew. talk about confirmation 🙏🏾 keeping that why at the front of your mind keeps you moving in that direction. I hope you have a little more clarity + direction 🤎🤎
“Taking these habits and taking these mindsets into bigger spaces just magnifies it…” this is really IT. So many of us have a limited view of what success is. Wholeness and the healing of those wounds sometimes aren’t seen as the priority and those wounds end up being the exact thing that causes people to lose everything. They don’t just go away. It’s not just ab getting to the vision, it’s about becoming/BEING the person who can sustain the vision. Thank you for this reminder. 🤍
Love that self sabotage disguised as procrastination. That hit me hard bc I do call myself a procrastinator and it really could be self sabotage.
Yess! Thank you for this!! I can’t even run away from it anymore! God is calling me for bigger for more like I can’t even run from the feeling anymore! I will no longer sabotage and fully walk into this new version of myself ! Thank you God for putting this video in my path!
You speak like a true professional. I can see you becoming a professional motivational speaker. Great work you’re doing!
Hello, Tiffany. I'm a new subscriber, your videos are so empowering! I need it to hear this. Thank you for opening our eyes, I have been struggling with letting joyful things happen since I didn't have an easy childhood/young adulthood. So, sometimes I would live in the past instead of snapping out of it. And this is a reminder that I have to keep fighting and let the good things be. I'm grateful for finding your channel, please don't change anything. You are amazing, God will keep blessing you, and your videos are a blessing for many of us. Thank you, QUEEN.
I loved when you said “I’m going to do XYZ and I am going to do it to the best of my ability.” Accurate.
Hey Tiffany, thanks so much for sharing your authentic thoughts and feelings. Girl, I swear that my experiences and realizations have been paralleling yours for the past three months or so. Your content has been so helpful in navigating through those murky moments. DNOTS was tearing my tail up a few weeks ago, but videos really kept me grounded. So thank you girl! Please never stop and keep GLOWING through it (not going but glowing) ❤
Tiffany! Long time viewer first time commenter. Thank you so much for all that you do! This video came at the literal perfect time, where I am in the midst of transformation and self sabotage was creeping its grubby little hands into my days. Thank you so much for the reality check, the reframe, and the grace! Keep going! We need you!
speaking right to my inner voices and reading me to filth! my ego has been working overtime turing "basking in the good" into total distraction and stagnation. helpful to hear it outloud cause I need to regroup!
Thank you so much for making these videos! You are amazing and are helping people thank you continue making these videos it makes me feel like I am not alone and someone else understands! So thank you truly.
Bringing some coffee ☕️ Tiff. Watching you in the am from 🇬🇧.
Your reach, timing and delivery has arrived at such a great time for me. I’m on my own discovery journey and your videos have been such a great addition to the process and working in such great synergy with the resources I’m finding. It feels divine. Thank you!
How powerful is this message ❤.I feel a resistance coming every time I'm willing to commit myself to keep my own promises.Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences it helps a lot.Have a blessed day and keep going ❤❤
Same here, this video has been so helpful
Thank you from the core ... for this insightful video.. thank you universe for guiding me to this video.. I am grateful 🙏
Thank you for this. I needed to hear this message more than ever right now. Your courage and your presence is beyond appreciated 🙏🏻💙
🫂🤎 you are so welcome love! thank you for these words
Self sabotage is so real. I definitely have talked myself out of a lot of great ideas. But planning helps, taking time to write things down as far as my day to day plans help. I pull out my calendar and my notes and check things off.
Hi, I am from the Philippines. Every time I watched your videos I get so emotional, your video is so authentic and its very you. I'm so blessed that I found your video, I have so many question in my mind and your content really helps me. Thank you so much
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When I tell you this video spoke to me in ways I NEEDED 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽LAWDDD
One .. I wanna say how inspiring you are. Every time I watch your content, I reminded that I should talk to my inner saboteur and tell her silly behind to HUSH LOL
I been on RUclips for 5 years and I wanted to give up but I had a pep talk with myself and said “why ? This is something you enjoy and can offer to the world”. I got so caught up in the numbers at first but once you let go and just show up… you feel a bit better and I know that my time is coming. ❤❤
THANK YOU!
I stumbled on your content 2 weeks ago and you have helped me in so many ways. I feel that God led me to these. I look forward to your videos
Tiffany… I’m so blessed to have come across your message. You are truly an authentic soul and words can’t express how much I needed this reminder. ❤
Thank you so much for this video Tiff. ❤ I needed it. Much love from Namibia 🇳🇦
The people i stay resisting, stays been the people who makes the most sense to me. It took me so long to watch one of your videos, yet it was so aligned to where I'm at right now. Thanks for showing up for yourself❤
I’m from Portugal and I found your channel in a day that I was feeling really down. Ever since i been hearing you and taking everything in consideration cause I identify myself with all that you say 💗 .
I got promoted on my job and I fear to fail but not only that, I had a plan of leaving the country and I was debating myself on why , why when I finally decided to leave and was 100% shore of it .. I came to the conclusion that maybe this chance appear to make me prove to myself that I’m stronger than my thoughts of failure, that my impostor ego can’t overwhelm me, so I accept the opportunity and hopefully this time it goes well 💗
Thank you for putting your content out, I really needed it 🙏🏾
Firstly you are so beautiful ❤ secondly im on this journey now of creating new habits and your content is golden 🥰
I’ll be back I need a glass of wine before I listen to this episode 😭
yes mam! 🍷
Incredibly appreciative of the essence of your message. I want to double down on a part of your message that I believe ppl should really center their emotions and action. It’s important to be able to integrate the reality that we as humans have to manage the nuance of life simultaneously with our clear cut goals. The self-sabotage can indeed be everything you said; at the same time, it can look like sabotage and procrastination and it can also be that your mind, body, soul, and spirit need rest. Need a reset. Need a moment to be “normal” - because even if it is the ego, the ego is there for a reason - so that you can walk into inspiration organically. Yes staying committed to the goal is always the big picture.. still, the details in it matter. One major detail is that along the ride we must be gentle and kind with ourselves so we can have the energy , and desire, to keep moving forward. That can include rest, relaxation, reset. Just be intentional where you can.
3 words, I love you! … you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you God! 🙏
I really feel like your talking to me ! Exactly what I needed!
Self sabotage has been trying to show up for me in my journey of pursuing degree. I find myself doing everything in my power to avoid some of the assignments and just the uncomfortable feeling of doing this new thing of completing something I start and it can be so frustrating because when I finally muster up the courage, I have wasted so much time that I could’ve really put into turning in a great assignment. This video literally touched on where I’m at right now, but I have been fighting through it.
I was literally just having this conversation and you amplified it! Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍
the message was meant for you! you’re so welcome love 🤎
for many years I have let myself be overwhelmed by my ego with takes control over my life and I am going to change that by implementing a new way of life. thank you for you videos you are a great help and you made me realize and understand a lot of things !!
Step 2 is such a huge key!!!!! I was just telling my friend this. From grade 1 to grade 12, we have been on a schedule. As an adult, I need a set schedule!!🙌🏾😮💨
Thank you so much for this bc I have had to tell myself that daily bc it feels like I’m talking but it feels like no one is listening and I’m talking to myself 💜
You are my favourite RUclipsr 🥹 I struggle with some of this content because the approach/ delivery is not always consistent and I find myself struggling to relate. I feel like I’ve found the feminine role model I’ve always wanted. Thank you, keep doing you ❤. God bless.
I’m honored 🥹🙏🏾 thank you for this message love
Girllllll God led me to this video. Self sabotage has been getting the best of me. I needed to see this. Thank you for inspiring us.
You are amazing ❤ I’ve been listening to your videos while cleaning my room and I haven’t heard someone such deep and wise as you are in a long time ❤
thank you so much for these words 😌🙏🏾
From my heart, Thank you ❤❤❤
I’m definitely going to keep this video bookmarked as a reminder! Thanks for sharing your journey ❤
come back as many times as you need to 🤎🤎
I just recently discovered Tiffany TV at a time when I needed clarity on relationships and myself. I rarely stay and listen to a video but her videos about self-awareness, self-love and now, the reality of self-sabotaging, all spoke to me at a soulful level.
Keep doing what you do, Tiffany. I am halfway across the globe and your words are just inspiring. Thank you 🤗
My new favorite RUclipsr channel
This was amazing, i cant explain how much you've talked about the reality of things and what we all process when we experience success or triggers. I'm so glad youre doing this for us all❤
absolutely doing it for all of us 😌🙏🏾
Perfect timing Thank you, Thank you, Thank you❕🤍
your soo welcome love 🤎
love the authenticity
Congrats to you, for taking the leap!! Your content is so powerful! ❤
You changed my life with this video, I’ve heard this said a million different ways but the way you said it, actually hit me where I needed it. I can’t even begin to try to put into words how much I needed this exact message, thank you so much for making this. And being such a genuine, caring soul. I can truly feel your love through the screen, there’s no doubt you found your calling ❤
You are my big sister in my world! I listen to you during my workouts and your words ALWAYS hit!
As always another amazing video! Yes, yes, yes love this message ❤
I'm so grateful to stumble across this video when i needed it most. Thank you 💜
Gosh this video was so needed ❤ exactly what i has been struggling with myself after reaching my success level that I’ve been praying for to get to before
That ego is from our fleshly desires, if we focus on gaining connection with God he will help us to balance every area of our lives. We don’t have to fear or worry if we keep him first in our lives. It’s freedom to trust in God’s plan for our lives. This is an amazing video. Thank you for working through your struggles and sharing them to help others. You have beautiful future ahead of you keep going!
I needed this today, I watched this video twice. Hitting exactly on point. Absolutely recognize my self sabotage and it’s absolutely rooted in the fear of the level up, the fear of what I’ve been praying for! I’ve found myself procrastinating and in pits of doubts and fear and all of your words are serving me reminders of what I know in my heart, that the voice of the ego is such a sneaky snake sometimes. I loved your letter writing example and I’m absolutely doing this to remind myself why I’m doing what I’m doing, the letter to my old self needs to be written. Thank you for sharing yourself and know that this was meant for me tonight and gave me peace 🫶🏻🤍
This video made me so emotional cause the message is right on time! Thank you so much for sharing. 💕
I love this, i started a new job a few months ago. Its everything i wanted and prayed for for the last 2 years. But i cant help but i feel i dont deserve it, I'll make a mistake and lose it. The anxiety has been killing me
Sooo glad I found youu!!🥹🤍
Tiffany!!!! Girl!!! I needed this! I needed to hear this! A true blessing You are! I’m finding so much courage and strength in watching your videos. Thank you so much!
Yes, it does, but it's always strong eye opener that helps you grasp it. 💡
The best gift I received all day ! Thank you ❤
🥹🙌🏾 you’re so welcome love!
🥺 Yes!! I’m getting the message and your videos are always THEE thing I needed to hear, divine timing. You are IN Alignment Sis!! You are helping so many of us, including me. Thank you so much for doing this work 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This message is what I needed, my dreams are calling me and this is giving me the courage to keep going FOR ME! ❤️
I never thought someone would change my life and my pov just by watching videos. You’re so reassuring. Merci merci merci Tiffany
Your videos have been so inspirational to my journey. I found your channel just as i needed to here these messages.
Oh, just few minutes in, and you are talking to me ❤. Fear of success has been my crach 😮
I’m so glad I’ve come across your video! I really needed to hear this. I’ve struggled not being authentic and procrastinating. I’m writing a note to myself 💖✨
Ego keeps me turning alarm off and go back to bed. I can’t seem to stop it and it makes me feel shitty. Will be kind to myself and try better. Maybe phone across room. ❤
This is such a beautiful share! Thank you for your transparency and it's no coincidence this video popped up in our feed... this is a word sis! 💗
I so love your authenticity and your energy. You help me through sooooo much. And I haven’t been watching you for long. But I went back and watched old videos and I love everything about your channel. Thank you thank you thank you. I believe God sent you my way so I thank Him too. ❤