how to cultivate strong self-love | filling the void you feel | @tiffanylaibhen
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- Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2023
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can we be honest for a sec? how many times have we been on the asking end of respect, love, honesty, compassion (the list goes on) ..that we fail to give ourselves? we're diving into self-awareness + taking responsibility for the role we play in our own longing... and also into the power we hold to change that immediately.. grab your bevvys + let's get into it 🍷
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“Everyone is actually doing the best they can at their level of emotional maturity.” Sheesh this is rich 👌🏾
Girl, I needed this because I was barking all morning, and I just sat down and started crying. I'm crying as I'm typing this. The lack of love I've been showing myself looking for it in others lately is disappointing. I feel like I've lost myself lately. Thank you for these words. I needed them. It's always up to me
I’m a bit late but I’m sending you the biggest hug girl because I gettt it! praying your able to make a few shifts to find some more inner peace.. you’ll start to see it reflected on the outside 🤎
Listening to this In the morning while showering was the best decision I’ve made✨ now I’m gonna get dressed and take myself out on a date and buy myself roses✨✨
Self love is beautiful
this made me smile so big 😌 have a beautiful day!
I will do the same….let’s start from there 😍
Literally just went through a breakup last night, that was completely unexpected so now today I have to move out after 2 years together. Thank you for dropping this. I love hearing your messages.
Stay strong sis ❤
Hugs 🤗 and kisses. You got this. 🤍💚
You got this sis❤️ your gonna love finding yourself again
Sending lots of love your way❤❤❤
Going through a break up right now with my boyfriend of almost 8 years & my now child’s father as I am currently almost 7 months pregnant and it sucks. But through out this process I need to just focus on my baby & I! Stay strong sis! We got this
This was especially difficult for me because I couldn’t even define love, let alone give it to myself. I looked to 1 Corinthians 13 4-8 and my life has changed. Now I treat myself how the Bible defines love to be. And I’ve never been more full.
Thank you
1. Identify the problem/void
2. Identify how you imagine the relationship is going to fix the problem, be detailed
3. Do those things for yourself
4. Choose one to implement
5. Don't point fingers/lash out
Self-love is a different ball game if your single...You have 1 choice+ that is to LOVE YOURSELF ..it's hard but the journey is priceless+ empowering✌️✨💖
Am I the only one who has it the other way round. I just want a relationship. I’ve been single for so long. I know how to look after myself be by myself, go out with myself, push myself to do better motivate myself, but sometimes I just want a shoulder to cry on or some support to keep me going 😢
@@user-st9fs6xu5yI’ve just said I don’t need someone to keep me going. I’m comfortable pushing myself and doing things on my own. BUT I WANT a partner. I don’t NEED one
That's real. We are taught on one hand that we are strong black women, we can make it on our own, trust in God & keep it moving. All of that is true but we are human & we were NOT made to work everything out alone so we need to be loved, held, talked to & cry with by other humans. I do agree that the work starts with self bc "no man is an island"
I was totally in this deep funk because of this very reason last week. I cried constantly all week. Thank you for this 🙏🏾💖
💕 Steps start @ 15:48 💞
Thank you 😊
FINALLY someone who explains self love in a way that I understand bone deep. The idea about finding the void and filling it yourself is gold that I can practically apply straight away. Your content is excellent instant sub thank you 🙏
Your comment really is the cherry on top to this quest of self love 🥹🥹🥹🥹 your comment has truly blessed me indeed❤ thank you
I’ve realized this as well and I’m glad you said it so I know I’m not crazy. Whenever I feel unloved it’s due to a lack that I started slipping on ❤❤❤
Tiffany!!!!! As a mental health professional I want to thank you for your energy and your support to empower others to seek self-love. Self love is sooooo crucial to your mental wellbeing. I have shared your video with my clients as a source of motivation. Keep up the work mama! It’s truly healing to others.
Don’t know how I found this video, but I’m so happy I did. My husband and I had a major argument three days ago. He asked for space but it’s been three days. I’ve been keeping busy for the last 72 hours waiting for him to talk to me( I’m anxious attached and semi- codependent). After watching this video, I’m inspired to work on myself, love on myself, take the time to pour into me. I’m so use to “us” that I’ve been forgetting me 😢
I relate to this alll too well… it’s almost impossible to fix things in a relationship before we’ve healed what’s going on within ourselves. sending you love + and big hug on this part of your journey + praying for health in your marriage 🫂🤎
@@TiffanyTV thank you very much !
Ah, how synchronized... self love has been the center of my awareness lately. Thank you for this video ❤
I used to give love and care to everyone but never giving it to myself I still have lots of insecurities but I'm trying my best to put me first this time it's a hard journey for me so please everyone pray for me 💙✨ and thank you Tiffany you've always been there since day one of my healing journey 💙✨
Same here
Yes you shouldn’t look for happiness or joy from others. It should come from within. However, just like someone can add to your happiness and joy they can also take from it. Your surrounding influences your mood.
“Is this really about him”😮💨 we truly project unhappiness onto others in the form of nitpicking. I’ve been guilty of that. Learning to go within and be content with self has done so much for me! Great video Queen🫶🏽
that part! thank you love 🤎
Another home run. This is beyond impactful, this is exactly where I am. Thank you once again for sharing. I am speechless and taken back by how well you managed to deliver this message. This is an amazing starting point for healing ❤😊 You are so amazing 🙌🏿
Tiffanyyyyy, ! Shouting amen amen amen .. at my big age Lord knows you have reminded me to wake up! Hug myself ! Love myself, be okay ! Build me. Recognizing individuality, regulating boundaries, my family reminded me. I am the common denominator and I need to show up for SELF and not always allowing people to be codependent or vice versa. Lord I really have some cleaning up. I am not for everyone. You may have just saved 50 percent of my mental health😢.. thank you
Yes! To be honest I still get kind of iffy and listen with precaution when being told to continually love myself I do think however that you have a good balance
I’m tearing up reading this. sending you a big hug 🫂🤎 we love aha/realization moments 🙌🏾
@@TiffanyTVthank you .. everyday has been a challenge.. I pray for strength and positivity energy 🙏
Thank you sooo much for you all your feedback...I am continuously praying for the guidance and strength on my life attributes.. work everyday and push towards abundance. Today is February 1st and I inhale/ exhaled
New subbie here, I love it! I was too that relationship girl! The codependency is real! I found myself "chasing" relationships as soon as one ended because I truly thought I needed one to be whole. Now, I here trying to fix this mess. If I could go back, I would change this about my younger self. This is great advice. Plus, loving me and focusing on "dating" me makes my even more desired.
Thanks for this video!! First tome here!!
To all the ladies feeling/believing we need to be "fully healed" before getting into a relationship, we must know this isn't correct. We get opportunities to heal within relationships as they help us grow. How else can we see where we must work on if it isn't reflected in relationship with others? Let's be gentle with ourselves and appreciate where we are (while working towards growth) and know that we are worthy of love and acceptance within the bounds of partnership. Working together ❤
I started back buying myself flowers yesterday. Each week I’m promising myself to do that. Also taking a least one day to do all self care things for myself. I also really enjoy cooking so that helps too. Don’t forget the gym!
THE WAY I AM CRYING......😭😭 Thank you!! this was a real blessing. ❤
I love your videos. As a male follower I resonate with a lot of what you’re saying. Thank you!
Earrings are bomb❤
Thank you so much for this video. I’m going through a divorce and I’m single for the first time in almost a decade… I didn’t fully realize just how much I’ve spent my life dependent on others for my happiness/ self-regulation/ self-love until I watched this! Thank you for giving steps to take to get to a place of self love. ❤️
This was another beautiful said reminder to fill my cup before anything I do. So that I can feel loved and good within myself and be able to pour out positive and loving energy with others. This was really really helpful for me, this week was a struggle and listening helped me see what I was missing. Thank you truly again for another impactful message! I truly believe god is working with you to help our generation ❤
Girl! When I tell you I was sitting still and I was trying to let go of self hate.... i hear "the love you are looking for is within" and then you pop up with this! I am taking 📝 notes poo!
it was meant for you to be here girl 🙌🏾
@@TiffanyTV smh you make me wanna do my podcast!!!
Came back to this video after a few months and whew was it needed!! Thank you for calling me in. I feel like I am losing myself, allowing others to have power over how I feel about myself. Placing my happiness in what others say and do for me. I used to have such high confidence until a big emotional blow that has me questioning how I really feel about myself. I'm working to not get back to who I once was, but to allow adversities and trials and tribulations to inform how I love myself better and become confident with new and darker chapters to my story.
Still healing from my last relationship
I truly needed to hear this.
Thank you.
I have never come across anyone who made me understand how to get that strong self love or just basic self love. This is something I struggled with until I watched this video. Tiffany thank you so much, you have help me change how to perceive the world of self love. I’m experiencing the most amazing change. 🎉❤
this literally made my day sis! 🥹🙌🏾
I love this channel! You speak to me every time. It’s always what I need to hear.
This hair and the length is THE look! ❤
You are a blessing. For individuals who find it difficult to articulate their true emotions (me)… this has helped me truly learn to look inward first, because now I have my voice to advocate for myself with others
I just want you to know your words go a long way.. truthfully I needed to hear this because lately I’ve been relying on others for my happiness and it never works out in the end. I’ve been depressed for a long time but I’ve been watching your videos and I swear it’s my therapy.
I’m becoming a better and smarter women every day. I feel your words really touch me.
Thank you ❤️
Omg tiffanyyyyy always healing the soul with diamonds and gold…..in my healing journey and now I’m deeper than just the surface and doing the actual inner work and I’m noticing because I look so much for others to make me happy or just be there when really I needed to be there more for me and my happiness I’m learning so much about myself….this was an amazing video as always🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
I’ll Be Using These Steps To Get To The Root Of Why I’ve Felt Resentful For Being Kind Lately. I’m Naturally A Kindhearted Person, I’ll Do Anything For Anyone. But For Whatever Reason, The Gestures Dont Feel Good & I Think It’s Me Overcompensating, Doing Too Much For Others & Neglecting Myself.
Hey Tiffany, I want to tell you that you have become my best friend. Every time l watch your channel l learn more about myself thank you very much for the wisdom you share with me💐
Oh I love this! My biggest problem is me not getting enough alone time and I can take that frustration out on others sometimes. This is something I’m currently working through and have been working through for a while. Thank you for this video ❤
Thank you for this! Love your words of wisdom ❤ keep shining!
I definitely needed this ! thank youuu
Wow, I needed this today. Thank you Tiff💜
Thank you Tiffany… this video was just what I needed now ❤ 🙏🏼
I am having an off day today. And I came across your video. First time watching you. And let me tell you. I am internally screaming. I am soo mad because it is now hitting me how much I don’t love myself. How hard it is for me to love myself. And just overall how could I do this to myself. Thank you. Your video will be on repeat.
try not to be so hard on yourself mama. most of us aren’t taught to love ourselves… we’re taught to look for love in everything outside of us… you’ve found your community because as you can see in this comment section, you’re not alone at alllll. sending you love + a big hug at this part of your journey 🫂🤎
I needed this!!1 SO HELPFUL
I’m so in love with your channel ❤️I can truly say it has helped me a lot.. continue changing lives lots of love
Ok so why is it that every time you drop a video it's exactly what I need! Thank you sis!❤
This video was right on time! Thank you for your wisdom Tiffany! 🙏🏻💕✨
This is so powerful! Self-love
Your videos have truly aided me so much in my journey. Thank you so much.
This was so helpful and so many truth bombs about the NECESSITY OF SELF LOVE! I especially had a lightbulb when you started talking about focusing on what WE need to solve and come to an understanding to within ourselves before we go to someone else, because if we address ourselves FIRST, 9 times out of ten we will not even need to take it to the person afterwards because we already solved the internal conflict within ourselves 🤯 then we make the necessary decisions accordingly 😌 our peace can only be from within (and every other feeling, good or bad.) Thank you Tiffany for all you are providing to us you are making a huge difference in the world.
Totally agree my same finding!
Talk about perfect timing!! I really needed to hear this today 🥰
Thank u so much for this video! It was a perfect reminder and I needed it!!! Have a nice day🧚🏻♀️🩷💌
You're amazing and helping me through a tough situation.
This is literally what I needed to hear for today. Thank you so much ❤
Okay but I loveee!! I had a tough moment yesterday with work and I needed to hear this! Know your someone I look up to when it comes to growth! ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for being the big sister I never had but always needed❤️
I needed to hear every word of this omg😫
Wow Tiffany this was so timely ❤ thanks for sharing your experience. I look forward to your videos ✨ they’re part of my morning routine when you drop ☀️
I’ve been focusing so much on this lately and maintaining my self awareness like this and it’s been game changing for me and those around me. Thank you for the confirmation and additional tips 🌸
You never miss Tiffany. Thank you.
This is a very great timing❤
Hands down, the best cideo I've ever listened to about self-love. Thank you!
this was such a beautiful & needed video ✨ thank you!
This was everything I needed. Here goes!!!
Thank you Tiffany. 😭❤🩹
Really needed to hear this ❤ my bf and I have postponed getting married because he feels unsupported. I’m very dependent on him and this was a huge wake-up call. I hope practicing these tips will make the changes within myself to be interdependent ❤
thank you for this message
Absolutely love this! Have to fill up your own cup because it's not anyone else's responsibility 🤞🏾
Thank you for this it is so meaningful. ❤❤❤
Your videos always hit at the right time. Thank you!
Thank you for the reminder to continuously look inward when heavy emotions are arising in our relationships. I needed that perspective shift. ❤
This video is how I found you and I’ve been binging ever since! This was so good and just what I needed to hear as I found myself questioning a few decisions.
Wow! I’m so glad I came across this. Thank you. ❤
Girlll I be watching your videos wishing I has friends like you lol. I just feel like you’re so self aware about your actions and how your behaviors can contribute to how you feel and your environment. I loveee that about this channel because it’s hard to come by people who are self aware about themselves. Honestly even I have to work on being more self aware myself and it’s harder than it seems, so I don’t blame anyone who has a hard time doing that. It’s a lot easier said than done, and takes baby steps and a lot of time to fully understand it all. But anyways this is so true, keep up the great work ❤
I loved the actionable steps you gave to sit with how I am feeling and take responsibility by implementing what I need for myself ❤
This is by far one of the most important and beneficial videos I have ever seen on RUclips. ❤ Thank you so much.
Yes Ma’am. Well said. May God continue to bless you
Girrrrrllll… i can’t believe this video was right on time fr. I had a whole melt down yesterday. I was feeling alone (my brother passed a year ago and all my family lives far away I was feeling so heavy balling my eyes out) Sometimes I rely on my man too much to make me happy. Now I’m realizing i do this to all my loved ones, our kids even too. I was crying and he didn’t know what to do but I also wasn’t communicating well. I definitely rely on others too much and my healing journey has taught me I am still learning. Thank you so much for this message I am definitely applying these lessons to my life. 🥹🤍🤍🤍🤍
Much love, you got this! 🙏🏾 ❤
Tiffany!!!! Oh my....you was in my head!!! I needed this!! I will be rewatching and writing down notes!! Thank u
This video is everything. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing with us. I am sitting at work, working listening to this!! ❤❤❤
Thank you for making content like this for us
I'm still working on this in marriage. It takes time to develop those skills to be happy independently when you have been sold a dream and now have expectations that the oneness of marriage means all of your love and joy is the responsibility of your mate. I would often let my husband's emotions or bad days consume me because as an empath I feel others' feelings so deeply. I am still learning to regulate myself. Thank you for sharing this!
she brings out the best in me is swear
I love your positivity! I just wish I could be like this
Your voice is so soothing ty for sharing and spreading this message ❤
You’re speaking to me!! I am reclaiming my power and learning how to communicate directly. Getting to the root of what is, what I’m feeling, what I need, has helped me so much 🙌
WOW! I needed this video. And the way you say is everything is exactly how I need to hear it. I’m going to need to rewatch this a few times. And I just subscribed ❤
You are a gift. ❤
Love love love this !!! Keep shining beautiful
U said a word..Love your messages !
Please keep going and I pray God blesses u
I just clicked on the video and the vibes are vibing and I love that this popped up on my page!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ new subscriber is right on time.
Wow!!! Thank you so much!!! This was amazing and much needed!! You are beautiful! Thank you for sharing this with us!! God bless you! 🤎
This was so enlightening and beautifully articulated 😌 Thank youuuu 🙏🏾
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You have helped me discover so much I need to work on! Thank you❤
GOD BLESS YOUR BEAUTIFUL SELF!!!! THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO…
CHANGED MY LIFE!! I’ve shared this video with sooooo many people & they’ve shared it. Everything you’ve said is so true. THANK YOU… please continue to make videos like this because our sisters need to know. I’m now watching all your videos now😊
You did so well with this video Tiffany! This video literally came at the right time and I am going to put everything you said into practice and actually journal!