“cultivate habits outside of achievement” damn that HIT me. I’m not sure if I do anything that isn’t achievement focused, even in things I do for fun, like drawing for example, I’m always thinking about how I could improve and what goals I want to reach. Does anyone else feel the same way?
My drawings ultimately had the goal to impress others, that habit has improved since I started painting with watercolors and drawing with ballpoint pens, since then the goal shifted to having fun :D but yeah I'll still have to work on that by keeping my work to myself and liking my drawings even if others don't like them like I do.
I hope you can, one day soon, feel comfortable with sharing your feelings and how you feel about yourself,and that all young boys will be taught that it's okay to have problems and talk about them because we're all human and people are allowed to feel sad and not bottle it up. 💜I hope you have a great day! 😁
I completely agree. In my experience tho it's best to face it and talk about it to put it simply. if this bothers you chase it, you might find a huge pile of hoarded emotions behind that door because as cliche as it sounds guys are subconsciously pushed in so many little ways to not share emotions so it definitely won't be easy but it is something we have to confront for ourselves. and as for talking to people about it that's the hardest part and it might be a while before it ever gets easier or it might be easier than you expected. but expect to be dismissed, expect to be misunderstood, and expect to repeatedly feel like you're talking to a wall. but don't ever expect anyone to fix anything for you. it's extremely helpful to communicate with people but you gotta be in the right mindset and ask the right questions to head in the right direction for yourself because you're the only one that can truly help you. and that might sound cynical but it's your best option because nobody has lived your life and knows your pain exactly as you do. we all have the answers in ourselves but facing them and applying them isn't always the easiest
a really helpful starting point to advance from for me was remembering that we are not our emotionsand our emotions can't be controlled. BUT they can be guided and healed. and the hardest part is living a life that isn't dictated by emotions, but the beauty in realizing this is that you'll start to see how emotions control others actions and something that might hurt you before might not feel as personal anymore. turn that hurt into compassion for yourself and the person who is living in so much pain that they don't hesitate to mistreat another human. it's DEFINITELY not easy and it's DEFINITELY going to feel so much easier to just live without being aware of every action and guiding what you feel instead of just sitting back on the ride but it is worth it. wish you the best luck brother
I was half-expecting Anna to call me out on all my self-sabotaging ways (just by reading the title) but now that I've actually watched the video bOiIii I fEeL sO AtTaCkEd 😂
As hard and as chaotic as it is, the best way to grow is, literally, to help yourself, on your own, to pay attention and take care and nurture and learn on your own what you really need. A book will help, but only so much as all of us have very specific things we need that only we can find out ourselves.
in the book "Man's search for a meaning" by Viktor Frankl, a psychologist who survived Auschwitz, he makes it very clear that people who didn't have a reason to live and who already gave up on life, he avoided helping and treating. What use is there in giving a ladder to someone who doesn't even want to get out of the hole they're in? You might want to give that book a try.
Hey, I don’t have advice books on hand but really want to commend you for trying to find one. Seeking help, being willing to listen to things outside of words outside your own thoughts, is a strength. @scarrednotscared on instragram taught me that not all of your thoughts are true; I hope you keep that in mind for self-deprecating ones, and also, genuinely, feel cared for. If possible, let me know how you are doing; I’d love to hear
I love this video, because it touches on the struggles I've been through the past two years. I was always fearful about losing the "pillars" I've had in my life - my parental figure, the friends I had since high school, my health, my career. And then my parent died, I lost my best friend, I got a brain injury, my career went away. My other friends simply weren't there for me, too caught up in their own changing lives now that we are about to hit 30. And at first it all felt terrible. I'd cry daily, no longer able to find worth in my life or myself. I felt like no one still loved me or cared about me. And then I slowly healed, not just physically. And realized no matter how much it sucks, it's ultimately okay. I survived all my worst fears, and strangely, they're not so scary anymore now that they've become reality. I really am enough, just me :) It's nice to receive, but I don't *need* outside validation. When that went away two years ago, I found it within myself. I had to, and so I did it. I honestly think we're all strong like that. The most important step for me was finding good therapists, physical and regular ones. Now I'm starting a new career abroad, doing things I'd never imagined two years ago :)
I literally screenshoted part of your text to write it down. I‘m making this worse for myself, because I expect to much change in a short time. Like I have to hurry to be ready to keep going, to bring healing results (which makes you feel badly) because otherwise i am worth even less, since I don’t do right know what I should do, which is achieve. Ahh, i don’t know where I wanted to go with this.
@@capuletta1075 Hey, I do that too! Screenshot things in comment sections and write them down in my journal later. One phrase that's really helped me this year is "le mieux est l’ennemi du bien" or better is the enemy of good. Which means, trying to achieve perfection might cause you to do not do things at all because you know it won't be perfect, or do them without joy because you're just berating yourself for not doing it perfectly the first time around. Just take it one day at a time, and forgive yourself and your body for not being where you want to be (yet). Failing is succeeding, they go hand in hand. It means you're pushing your boundaries and learning new things, not staying safe/stagnant. Failure, in the right context, is something to be proud of.
I'm in awe of you seriously. I went through a crisis too - divorce, mental health problems, career gone but I'm still struggling. It took me a long long time to get my mental health in hand (J had to move in with my parents). Now, I'm ready to look for a new career. But rebuilding is just so hard. I still have social anxiety which makes it hard to face people. Thank you for being you! For showing that a way out is possible. My best wishes to you for your future.
I think of myself as my own carer/parent figure. So even when I just successfully brush my teeth, wash my dishes so they would be clean for tomorrow or dust my room - I consider it as a work well done and feel it as an accomplishment.
*Girl, your eyebrows be on POINTE.* Honestly, thanks for making my day infused with a little more humor ^^ it sure keeps me going and inspires me to continue to youtube. :)
I read from Eckart Tolle that anything in your life is external value, but YOU are the only and most valuable part of your life. WIthout friends, without money, without projects and family or cats, without jugments and society norms or expectations, basically without every part of my life i'm still me, stil a human, still feel, still alive. this goes even deeper as he described life and self value as something that isn't defined by anything you own either, nore it is based on how you look or your age. the life fuel that lives in you is perfect, valuable, magical, extraordinary powerful whether you rich or pour, alone or surrounded by people, healthy or ill, young or old. When I understood that concept, that I was the most valuable part of my life on its own, even by not using any of my skills, I became slowly and fully aware of what mattered and how to make sure I always, as much as possible, feel that being alive in my own body and energy was always and will always be enough while keeping an eye on how I could grow in understanding more than approach every time I doubt myself. We all are enough. we live now.
This may seem stupid. When I meditate I realize very quickly that all my aachievements and everything we value from this "normal" point of view are as imaginary as what my achievements were when I was 4yo. I don't know what to do with that information I just know it is so.
I think maybe accept it. Achievements I guess, like you said, imaginary or just in the mind but they’re stepping stones to see how far you progress with learning new skills. And that’s okay. 👌😊
The achievements of a 4 year old are huge to them and very real. It’s only looking back that we feel they were insignificant because we’ve grown so much as a person. I remember being so excited for getting my first degree. Does my next degree change how I felt at the time? No. Does it make the next degree worth any less to me? No. I would recommend reading Ender’s game to you. It’s written in the perspective of a young child who encounters some pretty adult things. The author believes that the emotions we felt when we were young are only looked down upon because of a lack of experience but they are still 100% real.
I don't understand how Anna shares such perfect verbal content without flinching, cutting, uhming, or reading off something. Yes, she puts out impressive, helpful videos... but the little details - geez. This lady.
Thank you for this video Anna. Everything in my life is currently falling away and I’m facing exactly this dilemma. I left my job in September to start a new career (previous job was not a healthy environment) but have been having a tough time finding a new job (but I have savings for 2 years before I have to worry). That sucks enough but my wife of 8 years just told me 3 weeks ago that she’s in love with another man and she doesn’t know who she wants to be with. We’re both in counseling (separately) to get through this but I have little optimism for our relationship. I still love her 100% but that has to be reciprocated for our relationship to continue and she’s on the fence. My therapist is working with me to build my self-worth so it’s not contingent on my marriage but it is a fight of its own.
Lots of love! My mom went through similar situation and ended up being hospitilized and all so I know it's rough. Her entire life was built around our family. Now she's happy, been dating this new man in her own terms for years. They just bought apartment together. She found new friends and traveled around the world. Our relationship is better than ever. I wish you will find your way too. Best of luck to you.
scohspot Ouch...I feel for your heartbreak. You are in transition and uncertain of how it's all going to go down. It seems to me, the name of the game is building or shifting at the identity level. That means, taking some time to accept the new reality. Start making decisions that best serve your highest goals. And live into this new phase with the identity of the person who handles it well; makes good decisions; and is capable of taking care of yourself. It may not seem like it-- but, there are great possibilities ahead.
Thank you guys for your kind comments. It means a lot to me. Both of you, coincidentally, posted when I was spiraling into an abyss. Apparently my journey through emotional hell is not over but I’m starting to learn that this is a very long and painful process. My wife and I are in the process of separating because she has been hiding that she’s still talking to the other man behind my back and refused to stop when I expressed how much it hurt me. I feel like I’m losing my mind. Also, the suicide prevention hotline and chat are great services if you’re feeling like taking your life. Please reach out. I did, and I’m glad I did.
I read a tweet once about how you owe the world only one thing, and it's being the most honest representation of who you are. I think that's a good way to get to your own self-love. When you know you're being accepted and loved for who you really are, you'll know that that is enough and worthy ❤️
I've been watching Anna for 6 years and she never has failed to make me laugh at my own lack of introspection on what it means to truly be a happy human and discover self worth :)
For me watching Anna's videos always feels like talking to/listening to the big sister or brother I never had, who always knows what kind of life advice I desperately need at this specific moment in time. Several times she has been able to say just the right thing, when I was feeling very emotionally-mentally unstable. I will always cherish that. Although this might sound weird, but: I greatly appreciate your existence Anna, you deserve only the best and most positive things this world has to offer!
How timely. I just wrote something similar in my diary like half an hour ago. Something like how I feel useless seeing how incompetent I look like in front of others reflected by how they treat me and rely on me. I just want to be needed but I ain't getting that right now. I don't even know wjat my purpose is today.
"(Self-worth means) taking responsibility for your life, your circumstances, and your problems. It means acknowledging that we have the personal power to shape our reality in the image that we want, to stay true to our values, to live in authenticity as much as we can, and to forgive ourselves for our flaws, while simultaneously striving to live whole-heartedly and be our best. It means having your inner world be so solid that the outside chaos can't sway your belief in yourself and your inherent value." I really love this. Thank you for the internet research you do, Anna. I truly appreciate it.
I myself have struggled with a very similar question. After a LOT of self introspection, reading and learning from experience I found out that the source of happiness/contentment/self-worth does indeed lie within yourselves. Most of the time we credit outside entities as being somehow responsible for our well being. "I am annoyed because I got stuck in traffic", "I am super depressed because of all the bad news from around the world". Such excuses just diminish our ability to be in charge of our own happiness and self worth. The key to be happy is to bring in effect a change of view to our life. See life through the eyes of a curious spectator, soaking in all the nuances and experiences yet being able to carry one selves with relaxing calmn and grace. Meditation (or mindfulness) is helping me immensely to bring about this change of view in life. So far, I feel it is really worth it :)
My question in a discussion like this always is.... worthy of WHAT exactly? Worthy of love? If you're trying to avoid depending on the approval of outside forces for validation that simply can't be the goal. Worthy of SELF love? Then yes, just as you love the people who mean the most to you even on bad days or when they are getting on your nerves or if they fail to get a promotion at work, love yourself just the same. Worthy of happiness? Definitely if you again define happiness in a way that is removed from outside forces or influence. Happy in the moment, happy just being. Happy existing. Max Erhmann's Desiderata kind of peace, happiness, and self love in its simplest form. Loving yourself the way you love a puppy (if you"re a dog person.) Simply, automatically and without having to "earn it" with a bunch of gold stars.
Honestly so relatable. I've been dealing with depression for years and recently I would kinda blame that on a lack of productivity. So whenever I felt empty or unfulfilled i'd blame myself for being lazy and then bully myself into writing a screenplay, or drawing or going to the gym in some misguided attempt to remedy a mental illness. All of those things definitely help but feeling like a useless waste of space unless I'm doing stuff, just makes doing stuff more of a chore and the things i love suddenly become the things I have to put up with. Productivity is a good thing but it's like just one aspect of the hierarchy of needs.
One time, in the midst of a panic attack, i realised something: I would never think of another human being as unworthy. They might be annoying or selfish but they all deserve compassion. And so do I. Once you look at your self not by what you do, what you say, what you own but by what you are, which is a living being, you know you deserve love
If I'm going to be honest, when I really get down to things and imagine all my physical belongings and my loving friendships disappear, I'd find my worth in God. He truly loves us and that's all that really matters :)
it blows my mind!!! how everytime im in a certain place in my personal life that you come out with a video pretty much describing what i am feeling and also giving strong confirmation that i am on the right path. Yes personal growth is very hard and never ends, but very necessary and worth it. Your such a beautiful person Anna been a fan for a long time now. Love all your content. Wish you the best in your success and also your personal growth. Stay awesome Gotham!!
What allows me to feel worthy is knowing who I am as far as my values and how I treat others. Our connection with each other is really the most important thing in this world so if your values and morals conjure positivity in your connections and encounters with people then you're worthy. I love myself and my values and thats all I need to feel worthy.
I found self-worth late in life and what I discovered was that many people, including my former self, searched for validation from even the smallest things. In the end, it's a process of learning to be authentic and balancing not being a total dick/bitch and just being a good overall balanced person. Love your content and I just started my RUclips channel last month and hope to reach to your level at some point! Looking forward to the next one!! FYI: Just had a recent crisis recently, HA! Just keeping it real too 🙂#midlifecrisis
Hello Anna, I think one of the biggest steps towards realizing how valuable we are is to accept that the process is beautiful. As every stoke of a brush is enjoyable to an artist, not just the final picture. If we are to truly love ourselves and grow, this is essential.
My self worth is something I get from kindness to others, whether I know them or not. I think that is all I have had for a long time, whenever all my friends left me or my romantic partners did or I had mental breakdowns and couldn't achieve anything.. I have always clung myself to the fact that I am a good person and that I am kind and empathetic. That is what will prevail when all else has failed me. And I really like that
I feel this so much! I'm a stay at home mom who NEVER planned to be a stay at home mom. I was incredibly career driven. I now struggle most days to feel a sense of achievement on a job with impossibly long hours work repetitive tasks that are never actually compete (finish making breakfast and doing the dishes to find that they need a snack, and have completely trashed the living room while you were busy in the kitchen)
I’m a negative person too. But anytime I feel like I’m in a hole, I remind myself to look up. That’s the path to get out. Fun story: I don’t use the light at the end of a tunnel metaphor because that light may be a train…
you know what I love about her? she didn't take other people's original Music or BGM for her contents, she creates 'em, which is Ten Thousand Times Awesome!
Man, I so needed this right now. I absolutely do associate my self-worth with what I produce while I know that just being myself should be enough. Also I constantly doubt myself and think that it's somehow my fault if someone behaves badly to me, which again I know is very seldom the case. People treat you a certain way because of what they are, not because of what you are. I recognize that I've come a very long way towards loving and accepting myself though, so it's not too bad. I spent a lot of time alone thinking and writing about my feelings and being compassionate both to myself and others, that has helped a lot. Also realizing that I should stay away from people that are harmful, intentionally or not. Those are my tips. ♥️
You hit the right-est chords I feel so grateful to have found you - watching your videos is like pouring a vial of positivity, acceptance and self awareness into me I LOVE YOU
Had to write this down.. Taking full responsibility for your life, your circumstances and your problems. It means we have the personal power to shape our reality in the image that we want, to stay true our values, to live in authenticity as much as we can, and to forgive ourselves for our flaws while simultaneously striving to live whole- heartedly and be our best. It means our inner world be so solid that the outside chaos can't sway your belief and inherent value.
Yo, I love this!!! Recently, I opened up about something that I know has been causing be issues for a really l o n g time and afterwards everything felt amazing like the world was brighter and my brain was operating at 100% capacity. I thought I had finally achieved well being and i was now *resilient*... until two minor pieces of bad news came my way and I feel right back down into that spirally hole! It was really nice to hear you talk about how this personal journey of self-worth and metal strength doesn't have an end and it is okay to to get a little low again, it doesn't undo the good work you have already done.
The fact that personal growth is a life long journey sounds really awesome and funny to me 😂 it shows that we're much more valuable than the labels and judgements we are taking over a life time, doesn't matter if these aspects are positive, negative or overwhelming. In the end you're able to get through every struggle sometimes with a little support 😊✨ As always I enjoy your videos! Thank you, Anna
A big change happened in my life, and now I over-react to every unexpected situation. This helped me realize I should take my support system for granted.
Anna, I worry you're looking for answers externally. The question ought to be within. What is your definitely of worth and why exactly? By your definition is a non productive homeless person not worth anything? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't say that. So why would you say that about yourself? Imagine yourself in the lowest worst possible state and realize even that version of you has genuine value. You still have your personality and kindness or love to give. Anything more than that is gravy. Would really like to help you feel better because everyday you don't feel proud of yourself is a terrible waste.
not to be rude or sound rude but as you said what makes you a happy human well to be clear no one is ever really a happy human all the time after we since have bad times and good times all the time coming our way, good and bad things happen as we go along our way, now for me I don't really care about my self worth and there's not much need to care about it except that I do value my life although i'm not afraid of dying or so but that doesn't mean that I don¨'t want to die yet even. thing is when it's about self worth wanting to learn about yourself and more you learn things as you go on in life can take long periods of time or short times as well mistakes and accidents and things you do that you mean to do. frankly 1 thing that i've learnt about me is that no matter what I can't change myself even if anyone tells me this I can't cause change with me is very hard and I can't force change myself either cause I've tried before and that ended up messing myself up and having to put myself back in piece by piece, so I've had to let change take it's very slow pace of changing but it's just making me more andm ore nice and I'm glad about that
also that self worth isn't just about you it's how you value others how you treat them as you treat yourself and etc, I've met people who treat others trash or crap just to make themself feel cool or think they're cool while in reality if you take that away you will see who they really are then those who are really bad people and really good people to, and every one of them has had different self worths one had looks one had school one had well a lot meanwhile the other couldn't stop flirting cause it's a part of who they are for me I know what I have learnt about myself and others have come in to a real good use, and it's also that I treat people equally but when someone treats someone else like crap I try to make sure they don't cause everyone is equal no matter what now that's my opinion about equality but yeah I've said my point
I am sorry to say that but I think that homeless non-productive person is not worthy and should exist at all. ( talking about alcoholics and drug dealers in particular) Now that I read your comment, I am wondering what is wrong with me
Yes, it is a difficult process. But so much worth it! I needed to face my darkest fear for that. I realized that it was there to keep me safe. And that this fear of mine can rest now, because I am stronger than that and I can keep it safe instead. I wasn't mad at this part of me anymore. I accepted fully and let go of everything. With love and compassion. And then I was at peace.
y'know I just had a mental breakdown and thought I was gonna cry myself to sleep but I opened up youtube by accident to watch this and I'm really glad I did
I think that it wouldn't work out in general. You can't just take everything away and be fine because they make up you. I believe that people in general are a conglomerate at external factors that made you you. Without them, you wouldn't be you. Do I make sense? I hope so
Annabeth Brown that would mean that we can't ever be peaceful. That we live our life and develop self love only through what other people think and thus that we need them. True self-worth should allow us to live without social medias, without waiting for someone's approval at work.. and being okay with reading a book just for fun and without peeking at the clock or our phone every 10min. What makes us us should not come from external factors cause that would create addiction, dependency and would make us shallow and likely to be disappointed
@@mathilde705 Mathilde I agree but that's not what I meant. What I mean is that isn't everything an "external factor" though? Like enjoying that book or watercolor painting? At least in my opinion, you can't just completely cut everything off and be on your own.without slowly eroding your sanity. Even those who have called it quits to the world rely on nature as the external factors that keeps them going. Now I'm sure I make less sense lol
I saw you at the Q&A in SLC a couple days ago and I just want to say how much I appreciate your authenticity and openness and how WELL SPOKEN and funny and eloquent you are. Seriously, you're a boss. 🤘
My boyfriend was trying to help me figure out another way to view my own self worth beyond my achievements, and he suggested that we should see it in the impact that we have on other people. The intangible effect that a small meaningful action has on someone else's life, a result that we can't always see, is enough to know trust that we're valid and important people on this earth. It shifts the lens of self-worth from the actions we do for our own personal satisfaction to the actions that we put towards other people instead. It takes some pressure off of looking towards my limited ability to work and also presents going out with people you love as form of self-love 😊💕
I feel like I am slowly turning into people I despise. So it's hard to love myself but thanks. Now go my little comment, get lost in the sea of comments, wooosh 🌫️
Welp, becoming someone you despise is a good oportunity. If you are able to forgive yourself for who you are becoming, and understand why you get there, maybe that despise for yourself and other people will vanish and become compassion. Just an idea for you 😉
This hits home for me. I always think of self-worth is related to my achievement and if I have no accomplishment or am not being productive, I'm wasting my life and being useless and worthless. This reaching self-worth journey is still long and I really hope I can get there one day!
This is everything. I quit my job to test this theory-am I able to live a life outside of my defining characteristics of working 80 hour weeks, always being the go to, etc. I still need my cats and my husband, but I am happy with who I am. I am completely responsible and in power for my life. I hope that you can get closer to feeling like your values and YOUR VALUE and see how amazing you are and what you bring to the world being just being you.
I can so relate to the seeing fun as neccesary thing. Solid advice, actually. I saw it as that giant waste of time once, but then I saw that it was an actual need in the Sims 4 when I started playing that. And that kind of opened my eyes. My literal thoughts: 'Wait, if the Sims can see it as a need, then why shouldn't I do the same?' Never felt bad about taking time to relax ever again.
OH THE WEIGHT OF YOUR WORDS, THOUGHTS & VALUES ARE SO MUCH OF SELF LOVE & ACTUALIZATION HUHU THANK YOU FOR THIS ATE ANNA. YOU'RE HEAVEN SENT! MORE PPL LIKE YOU PLEASE!!! You have so much goodness in you
I know ill end up watching this again because I have a constant issue with self worth when it comes to just focusing on myself. You definitely worded this beautiful, and it’s definitely something we all should strive to try to do in our lives
I have thought a lot about self worth and how can I make my internal core strong enough that I believe I've the power to shape my own reality.... But I never looked at my self worth the way you said... You've forced me to question my reality. Yet again ❤️
I have been having a lot of issues recently with this topic. I am tying my self-worth and my feelings and my mood directly towards by productivity, goals and accomplishments. So when I take a break because I desperately need one I feel bad about it and about myself. Too much pressure! Pressure that is being created solely by me.
For me its healing my childhood abuse. And its hella hard (like for everybody), but especially when I have no idea where my triggers are coming from. And its harder to open up in therapy too cuz I dont really remember everything well. But as long as I know and feel that I am a good human being with the best intention to the world, I try to remember that I deserve as much love as I put out in this world.
I finally realized why she always raises one side of her lip higher than the other; it's because one tooth is higher than the other. Beauty is symmetry, that's some lovely adaptability human anna.
I am the EXACT same way, I feel worthless if I'm not achieving something groundbreaking, even when it comes to romance, I always think to myself, "does this person like me for me, or because of who I am professionally or because of what I have?" That's why I find it so hard to trust people....but I'm slowly learning to find that balance and self-worth.
Anna, i'm so thankful you are here and your videos always resonate which what i need. I'm starting my journal, i'm trying to become more aware of my time and yes, allow myself to lose my times on videogames without feeling bad but giving time to my professional goals (learning a new language, finish my thesis). Every journal is different, i have "just" to find the courage to find mine.
Ann you are amazing. After losing my daughter I came to a realization that no one perfect but it’s the fact that you try to change that makes life better. Keep learning keep laughing and remember that no matter how bad it can get there always a rainbow out there even in the dark
She makes me feel like I can keep going. Honestly.
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yessssssssssss same here😀
You CAN keep going. I believe in you
And that is so very important !
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*_Self hatred has left the chat._*
No, I'm still here.
@@naomihammond6016 Goddamn 😂
Naomi Hammond me
*No fate but what we make*
Naomi Hammond GTFO why won't you leave me aloneeeeeee
Anna's videos are basically top notch therapy, but free ❤️
Soooo true!
100% agree
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Agree 100%
A lot of what I am learning in therapy is stuff she speaks about! 🖤
“cultivate habits outside of achievement” damn that HIT me. I’m not sure if I do anything that isn’t achievement focused, even in things I do for fun, like drawing for example, I’m always thinking about how I could improve and what goals I want to reach. Does anyone else feel the same way?
Feblia Sabadel same! I need to give a purpose to everything otherwise my activities feel void
100% feel the same way. I can't think of something that I do that isn't based on achievement tbh
SAME!!!!
I feel the sameeeeeeee
My drawings ultimately had the goal to impress others, that habit has improved since I started painting with watercolors and drawing with ballpoint pens, since then the goal shifted to having fun :D but yeah I'll still have to work on that by keeping my work to myself and liking my drawings even if others don't like them like I do.
As a dude I find it to be uncomfortable admitting that I struggle with my self worth but videos like these are very helpful. Thank you Anna
Skyra, more power to you! Let's allow toxic masculinity stay in 50's and embrace human experience!
I hope you can, one day soon, feel comfortable with sharing your feelings and how you feel about yourself,and that all young boys will be taught that it's okay to have problems and talk about them because we're all human and people are allowed to feel sad and not bottle it up. 💜I hope you have a great day! 😁
I completely agree. In my experience tho it's best to face it and talk about it to put it simply. if this bothers you chase it, you might find a huge pile of hoarded emotions behind that door because as cliche as it sounds guys are subconsciously pushed in so many little ways to not share emotions so it definitely won't be easy but it is something we have to confront for ourselves.
and as for talking to people about it that's the hardest part and it might be a while before it ever gets easier or it might be easier than you expected. but expect to be dismissed, expect to be misunderstood, and expect to repeatedly feel like you're talking to a wall. but don't ever expect anyone to fix anything for you. it's extremely helpful to communicate with people but you gotta be in the right mindset and ask the right questions to head in the right direction for yourself because you're the only one that can truly help you.
and that might sound cynical but it's your best option because nobody has lived your life and knows your pain exactly as you do. we all have the answers in ourselves but facing them and applying them isn't always the easiest
a really helpful starting point to advance from for me was remembering that we are not our emotionsand our emotions can't be controlled. BUT they can be guided and healed. and the hardest part is living a life that isn't dictated by emotions, but the beauty in realizing this is that you'll start to see how emotions control others actions and something that might hurt you before might not feel as personal anymore. turn that hurt into compassion for yourself and the person who is living in so much pain that they don't hesitate to mistreat another human. it's DEFINITELY not easy and it's DEFINITELY going to feel so much easier to just live without being aware of every action and guiding what you feel instead of just sitting back on the ride but it is worth it. wish you the best luck brother
I was half-expecting Anna to call me out on all my self-sabotaging ways (just by reading the title) but now that I've actually watched the video bOiIii I fEeL sO AtTaCkEd 😂
Drop the names of the books ur reading good sis we need self-help
As hard and as chaotic as it is, the best way to grow is, literally, to help yourself, on your own, to pay attention and take care and nurture and learn on your own what you really need. A book will help, but only so much as all of us have very specific things we need that only we can find out ourselves.
I'm not here to help anyone, just to state how things are. You make your own reality
in the book "Man's search for a meaning" by Viktor Frankl, a psychologist who survived Auschwitz, he makes it very clear that people who didn't have a reason to live and who already gave up on life, he avoided helping and treating. What use is there in giving a ladder to someone who doesn't even want to get out of the hole they're in? You might want to give that book a try.
Hey I recommend watching talks by Jordan Peterson. He motivated me a lot!
Hey, I don’t have advice books on hand but really want to commend you for trying to find one. Seeking help, being willing to listen to things outside of words outside your own thoughts, is a strength. @scarrednotscared on instragram taught me that not all of your thoughts are true; I hope you keep that in mind for self-deprecating ones, and also, genuinely, feel cared for. If possible, let me know how you are doing; I’d love to hear
*So your Ex called his best friend* *yesterday and I have so much* *tea haha* 😂
I love this video, because it touches on the struggles I've been through the past two years.
I was always fearful about losing the "pillars" I've had in my life - my parental figure, the friends I had since high school, my health, my career.
And then my parent died, I lost my best friend, I got a brain injury, my career went away. My other friends simply weren't there for me, too caught up in their own changing lives now that we are about to hit 30.
And at first it all felt terrible. I'd cry daily, no longer able to find worth in my life or myself. I felt like no one still loved me or cared about me.
And then I slowly healed, not just physically. And realized no matter how much it sucks, it's ultimately okay. I survived all my worst fears, and strangely, they're not so scary anymore now that they've become reality.
I really am enough, just me :) It's nice to receive, but I don't *need* outside validation. When that went away two years ago, I found it within myself. I had to, and so I did it. I honestly think we're all strong like that.
The most important step for me was finding good therapists, physical and regular ones. Now I'm starting a new career abroad, doing things I'd never imagined two years ago :)
bubblegumplastic I’m so proud of you! You are so brave!
I literally screenshoted part of your text to write it down.
I‘m making this worse for myself, because I expect to much change in a short time. Like I have to hurry to be ready to keep going, to bring healing results (which makes you feel badly) because otherwise i am worth even less, since I don’t do right know what I should do, which is achieve.
Ahh, i don’t know where I wanted to go with this.
@@capuletta1075 Hey, I do that too! Screenshot things in comment sections and write them down in my journal later.
One phrase that's really helped me this year is "le mieux est l’ennemi du bien" or better is the enemy of good. Which means, trying to achieve perfection might cause you to do not do things at all because you know it won't be perfect, or do them without joy because you're just berating yourself for not doing it perfectly the first time around.
Just take it one day at a time, and forgive yourself and your body for not being where you want to be (yet). Failing is succeeding, they go hand in hand. It means you're pushing your boundaries and learning new things, not staying safe/stagnant. Failure, in the right context, is something to be proud of.
Capuletta omg I’m like that too 🥺 be my friend pls 😂
I'm in awe of you seriously. I went through a crisis too - divorce, mental health problems, career gone but I'm still struggling. It took me a long long time to get my mental health in hand (J had to move in with my parents). Now, I'm ready to look for a new career. But rebuilding is just so hard. I still have social anxiety which makes it hard to face people.
Thank you for being you! For showing that a way out is possible. My best wishes to you for your future.
potatoes deserve self-love and have self-worth too
Yesss!
I think of myself as my own carer/parent figure. So even when I just successfully brush my teeth, wash my dishes so they would be clean for tomorrow or dust my room - I consider it as a work well done and feel it as an accomplishment.
*Girl, your eyebrows be on POINTE.*
Honestly, thanks for making my day infused with a little more humor ^^ it sure keeps me going and inspires me to continue to youtube. :)
Sooo... we do not say on fleek anymore? damn I get old
How come you are always the inspiraton i need! Im so grateful you exist!
I read from Eckart Tolle that anything in your life is external value, but YOU are the only and most valuable part of your life. WIthout friends, without money, without projects and family or cats, without jugments and society norms or expectations, basically without every part of my life i'm still me, stil a human, still feel, still alive. this goes even deeper as he described life and self value as something that isn't defined by anything you own either, nore it is based on how you look or your age. the life fuel that lives in you is perfect, valuable, magical, extraordinary powerful whether you rich or pour, alone or surrounded by people, healthy or ill, young or old. When I understood that concept, that I was the most valuable part of my life on its own, even by not using any of my skills, I became slowly and fully aware of what mattered and how to make sure I always, as much as possible, feel that being alive in my own body and energy was always and will always be enough while keeping an eye on how I could grow in understanding more than approach every time I doubt myself.
We all are enough. we live now.
Sakuems thank you for posting this!
"Taking total responsibility for... and your inherent value" - I'm gonna start calling this an Anna-firmation.
I gotta say, you're an inspiration!
"...to cultivate habits outside of achievements, because I'm such an achievement ho!" So true!😭
😂"I'd like to thank Squarespace for sponsoring my midlife crisis." Wish I had a sponsor for mine!
self love videos is exactly what i need right now 🙏🏻
Your videos always make me reflect in such a positive way! Thank you!
This may seem stupid. When I meditate I realize very quickly that all my aachievements and everything we value from this "normal" point of view are as imaginary as what my achievements were when I was 4yo. I don't know what to do with that information I just know it is so.
Relax and let go?
I think maybe accept it. Achievements I guess, like you said, imaginary or just in the mind but they’re stepping stones to see how far you progress with learning new skills. And that’s okay. 👌😊
The achievements of a 4 year old are huge to them and very real. It’s only looking back that we feel they were insignificant because we’ve grown so much as a person.
I remember being so excited for getting my first degree. Does my next degree change how I felt at the time? No. Does it make the next degree worth any less to me? No.
I would recommend reading Ender’s game to you. It’s written in the perspective of a young child who encounters some pretty adult things. The author believes that the emotions we felt when we were young are only looked down upon because of a lack of experience but they are still 100% real.
Your realization is correct. Just keep doing what you do, what you do have a reason, responsibility and also needs involved.
How are they imaginary? Can you explain further?
“I’m a potato” you are now a queen
Finally alive cat in the background! 😊 Much appreciated 😊
I don't understand how Anna shares such perfect verbal content without flinching, cutting, uhming, or reading off something. Yes, she puts out impressive, helpful videos... but the little details - geez. This lady.
50 takes to get it right would be my guess. And there are lots of cuts, they're just well disguised. 2:53 for instance, that zoom is a blurred cut.
Thank you for this video Anna. Everything in my life is currently falling away and I’m facing exactly this dilemma.
I left my job in September to start a new career (previous job was not a healthy environment) but have been having a tough time finding a new job (but I have savings for 2 years before I have to worry). That sucks enough but my wife of 8 years just told me 3 weeks ago that she’s in love with another man and she doesn’t know who she wants to be with.
We’re both in counseling (separately) to get through this but I have little optimism for our relationship. I still love her 100% but that has to be reciprocated for our relationship to continue and she’s on the fence. My therapist is working with me to build my self-worth so it’s not contingent on my marriage but it is a fight of its own.
Lots of love! My mom went through similar situation and ended up being hospitilized and all so I know it's rough. Her entire life was built around our family. Now she's happy, been dating this new man in her own terms for years. They just bought apartment together. She found new friends and traveled around the world. Our relationship is better than ever. I wish you will find your way too. Best of luck to you.
scohspot Ouch...I feel for your heartbreak. You are in transition and uncertain of how it's all going to go down. It seems to me, the name of the game is building or shifting at the identity level. That means, taking some time to accept the new reality. Start making decisions that best serve your highest goals. And live into this new phase with the identity of the person who handles it well; makes good decisions; and is capable of taking care of yourself. It may not seem like it-- but, there are great possibilities ahead.
Thank you guys for your kind comments. It means a lot to me. Both of you, coincidentally, posted when I was spiraling into an abyss. Apparently my journey through emotional hell is not over but I’m starting to learn that this is a very long and painful process. My wife and I are in the process of separating because she has been hiding that she’s still talking to the other man behind my back and refused to stop when I expressed how much it hurt me.
I feel like I’m losing my mind.
Also, the suicide prevention hotline and chat are great services if you’re feeling like taking your life. Please reach out. I did, and I’m glad I did.
@@scohspot hey.. that sounds really rough.. I hope you have a good day today and that everything will work out in the future
aDateWithWorry thank you. The kindness here has meant a lot to me and has been a great help.
I read a tweet once about how you owe the world only one thing, and it's being the most honest representation of who you are. I think that's a good way to get to your own self-love. When you know you're being accepted and loved for who you really are, you'll know that that is enough and worthy ❤️
you are a light in the darkness Anna, I pray you get everything you want in life.
I've been watching Anna for 6 years and she never has failed to make me laugh at my own lack of introspection on what it means to truly be a happy human and discover self worth :)
Anna! Thank you so much for your videos, your videos make a huge difference in my life!
For me watching Anna's videos always feels like talking to/listening to the big sister or brother I never had, who always knows what kind of life advice I desperately need at this specific moment in time.
Several times she has been able to say just the right thing, when I was feeling very emotionally-mentally unstable. I will always cherish that. Although this might sound weird, but: I greatly appreciate your existence Anna, you deserve only the best and most positive things this world has to offer!
My therapy for the week honestly
How timely. I just wrote something similar in my diary like half an hour ago. Something like how I feel useless seeing how incompetent I look like in front of others reflected by how they treat me and rely on me. I just want to be needed but I ain't getting that right now. I don't even know wjat my purpose is today.
when i read this through i felt relieved that im not the only one who feels this way, theres so many others too. thanks
"(Self-worth means) taking responsibility for your life, your circumstances, and your problems. It means acknowledging that we have the personal power to shape our reality in the image that we want, to stay true to our values, to live in authenticity as much as we can, and to forgive ourselves for our flaws, while simultaneously striving to live whole-heartedly and be our best. It means having your inner world be so solid that the outside chaos can't sway your belief in yourself and your inherent value."
I really love this. Thank you for the internet research you do, Anna. I truly appreciate it.
2:18 - 2:44 was actually very inspiring. Thank you Anna ❤️
I myself have struggled with a very similar question. After a LOT of self introspection, reading and learning from experience I found out that the source of happiness/contentment/self-worth does indeed lie within yourselves. Most of the time we credit outside entities as being somehow responsible for our well being. "I am annoyed because I got stuck in traffic", "I am super depressed because of all the bad news from around the world". Such excuses just diminish our ability to be in charge of our own happiness and self worth. The key to be happy is to bring in effect a change of view to our life. See life through the eyes of a curious spectator, soaking in all the nuances and experiences yet being able to carry one selves with relaxing calmn and grace. Meditation (or mindfulness) is helping me immensely to bring about this change of view in life. So far, I feel it is really worth it :)
My question in a discussion like this always is.... worthy of WHAT exactly? Worthy of love? If you're trying to avoid depending on the approval of outside forces for validation that simply can't be the goal. Worthy of SELF love? Then yes, just as you love the people who mean the most to you even on bad days or when they are getting on your nerves or if they fail to get a promotion at work, love yourself just the same. Worthy of happiness? Definitely if you again define happiness in a way that is removed from outside forces or influence. Happy in the moment, happy just being. Happy existing. Max Erhmann's Desiderata kind of peace, happiness, and self love in its simplest form. Loving yourself the way you love a puppy (if you"re a dog person.) Simply, automatically and without having to "earn it" with a bunch of gold stars.
Honestly so relatable. I've been dealing with depression for years and recently I would kinda blame that on a lack of productivity. So whenever I felt empty or unfulfilled i'd blame myself for being lazy and then bully myself into writing a screenplay, or drawing or going to the gym in some misguided attempt to remedy a mental illness. All of those things definitely help but feeling like a useless waste of space unless I'm doing stuff, just makes doing stuff more of a chore and the things i love suddenly become the things I have to put up with. Productivity is a good thing but it's like just one aspect of the hierarchy of needs.
I would need friends and be dropped off in Germany so I could explore and wander around to explore the world
One time, in the midst of a panic attack, i realised something: I would never think of another human being as unworthy. They might be annoying or selfish but they all deserve compassion. And so do I. Once you look at your self not by what you do, what you say, what you own but by what you are, which is a living being, you know you deserve love
I really needed to hear this. Thank you Anna and God bless! 🤗
Anna never fails to make me feel 100x times better. I genuinely don’t know where I’d be if it weren’t for her videos!
If I'm going to be honest, when I really get down to things and imagine all my physical belongings and my loving friendships disappear, I'd find my worth in God. He truly loves us and that's all that really matters :)
Ditto. :)
God is within you
it blows my mind!!! how everytime im in a certain place in my personal life that you come out with a video pretty much describing what i am feeling and also giving strong confirmation that i am on the right path. Yes personal growth is very hard and never ends, but very necessary and worth it. Your such a beautiful person Anna been a fan for a long time now. Love all your content. Wish you the best in your success and also your personal growth. Stay awesome Gotham!!
I LOVE YOU ANNA
What allows me to feel worthy is knowing who I am as far as my values and how I treat others. Our connection with each other is really the most important thing in this world so if your values and morals conjure positivity in your connections and encounters with people then you're worthy. I love myself and my values and thats all I need to feel worthy.
I found self-worth late in life and what I discovered was that many people, including my former self, searched for validation from even the smallest things. In the end, it's a process of learning to be authentic and balancing not being a total dick/bitch and just being a good overall balanced person. Love your content and I just started my RUclips channel last month and hope to reach to your level at some point! Looking forward to the next one!! FYI: Just had a recent crisis recently, HA! Just keeping it real too 🙂#midlifecrisis
Eugene Paolo Being Authentic 👏🏽👏🏽
Hello Anna,
I think one of the biggest steps towards realizing how valuable we are is to accept that the process is beautiful. As every stoke of a brush is enjoyable to an artist, not just the final picture. If we are to truly love ourselves and grow, this is essential.
i LOVE a good mid-life crisis
My self worth is something I get from kindness to others, whether I know them or not. I think that is all I have had for a long time, whenever all my friends left me or my romantic partners did or I had mental breakdowns and couldn't achieve anything.. I have always clung myself to the fact that I am a good person and that I am kind and empathetic. That is what will prevail when all else has failed me. And I really like that
I wanna thank you Anna, this is exactly what I needed right meow 😽
I feel this so much! I'm a stay at home mom who NEVER planned to be a stay at home mom. I was incredibly career driven. I now struggle most days to feel a sense of achievement on a job with impossibly long hours work repetitive tasks that are never actually compete (finish making breakfast and doing the dishes to find that they need a snack, and have completely trashed the living room while you were busy in the kitchen)
Unachievable ....
(I'm negative 😔)
Your videos are therapy for me ... seriously...I look forward to them
(Anxiety kicks in for leaving a comment) 😅
I’m a negative person too. But anytime I feel like I’m in a hole, I remind myself to look up. That’s the path to get out.
Fun story: I don’t use the light at the end of a tunnel metaphor because that light may be a train…
Good job at being self aware! That's like the first thing you need to even begin to do something about the stuff that makes your life harder
One Who Only Stans Thomas Hiddleston how what? I don’t understand
Congrats on making that step, keep it up, we're rooting for you.
you know what I love about her? she didn't take other people's original Music or BGM for her contents, she creates 'em, which is Ten Thousand Times Awesome!
well, here comes 2020, a chance for people to practice self-worth, I suppose....
Man, I so needed this right now. I absolutely do associate my self-worth with what I produce while I know that just being myself should be enough. Also I constantly doubt myself and think that it's somehow my fault if someone behaves badly to me, which again I know is very seldom the case. People treat you a certain way because of what they are, not because of what you are. I recognize that I've come a very long way towards loving and accepting myself though, so it's not too bad. I spent a lot of time alone thinking and writing about my feelings and being compassionate both to myself and others, that has helped a lot. Also realizing that I should stay away from people that are harmful, intentionally or not. Those are my tips. ♥️
"I am a potato"! I love you!
as a small creator and as a senior who is about to graduate this speaks to me on a very personal level.
Thank you Anna, i really needed this ♡
How much of what we see of Anna is a character ? And how much is her being real , that's what I'd be interested in finding out .
David Cartland and that’s something to keep in mind for all social media. We tend to hide the negative.
You hit the right-est chords I feel so grateful to have found you - watching your videos is like pouring a vial of positivity, acceptance and self awareness into me I LOVE YOU
Anna, would you teach us how to do a Visual Board? yours looks sick!
Had to write this down..
Taking full responsibility for your life, your circumstances and your problems.
It means we have the personal power to shape our reality in the image that we want, to stay true our values, to live in authenticity as much as we can, and to forgive ourselves for our flaws while simultaneously striving to live whole- heartedly and be our best.
It means our inner world be so solid that the outside chaos can't sway your belief and inherent value.
Ok, my english skills have left the chat.
Yo, I love this!!! Recently, I opened up about something that I know has been causing be issues for a really l o n g time and afterwards everything felt amazing like the world was brighter and my brain was operating at 100% capacity. I thought I had finally achieved well being and i was now *resilient*... until two minor pieces of bad news came my way and I feel right back down into that spirally hole! It was really nice to hear you talk about how this personal journey of self-worth and metal strength doesn't have an end and it is okay to to get a little low again, it doesn't undo the good work you have already done.
Always looking cute 😍
The fact that personal growth is a life long journey sounds really awesome and funny to me 😂 it shows that we're much more valuable than the labels and judgements we are taking over a life time, doesn't matter if these aspects are positive, negative or overwhelming. In the end you're able to get through every struggle sometimes with a little support 😊✨
As always I enjoy your videos! Thank you, Anna
" I'm a potato " LMAO
A big change happened in my life, and now I over-react to every unexpected situation. This helped me realize I should take my support system for granted.
Anna, I worry you're looking for answers externally. The question ought to be within. What is your definitely of worth and why exactly? By your definition is a non productive homeless person not worth anything? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't say that. So why would you say that about yourself? Imagine yourself in the lowest worst possible state and realize even that version of you has genuine value. You still have your personality and kindness or love to give. Anything more than that is gravy. Would really like to help you feel better because everyday you don't feel proud of yourself is a terrible waste.
not to be rude or sound rude but as you said what makes you a happy human well to be clear no one is ever really a happy human all the time after we since have bad times and good times all the time coming our way, good and bad things happen as we go along our way, now for me I don't really care about my self worth and there's not much need to care about it except that I do value my life although i'm not afraid of dying or so but that doesn't mean that I don¨'t want to die yet even.
thing is when it's about self worth wanting to learn about yourself and more you learn things as you go on in life can take long periods of time or short times as well mistakes and accidents and things you do that you mean to do.
frankly 1 thing that i've learnt about me is that no matter what I can't change myself even if anyone tells me this I can't cause change with me is very hard and I can't force change myself either cause I've tried before and that ended up messing myself up and having to put myself back in piece by piece, so I've had to let change take it's very slow pace of changing but it's just making me more andm ore nice and I'm glad about that
also that self worth isn't just about you it's how you value others how you treat them as you treat yourself and etc, I've met people who treat others trash or crap just to make themself feel cool or think they're cool while in reality if you take that away you will see who they really are
then those who are really bad people and really good people to, and every one of them has had different self worths one had looks one had school one had well a lot meanwhile the other couldn't stop flirting cause it's a part of who they are
for me I know what I have learnt about myself and others have come in to a real good use, and it's also that I treat people equally but when someone treats someone else like crap I try to make sure they don't cause everyone is equal no matter what now that's my opinion about equality but yeah I've said my point
dyhppyx Pretty sure that’s what she was getting at!
I am sorry to say that but I think that homeless non-productive person is not worthy and should exist at all. ( talking about alcoholics and drug dealers in particular) Now that I read your comment, I am wondering what is wrong with me
Yes, it is a difficult process. But so much worth it! I needed to face my darkest fear for that. I realized that it was there to keep me safe. And that this fear of mine can rest now, because I am stronger than that and I can keep it safe instead. I wasn't mad at this part of me anymore. I accepted fully and let go of everything. With love and compassion. And then I was at peace.
Potatoes are worthy 🥔
y'know I just had a mental breakdown and thought I was gonna cry myself to sleep but I opened up youtube by accident to watch this and I'm really glad I did
I think that it wouldn't work out in general. You can't just take everything away and be fine because they make up you. I believe that people in general are a conglomerate at external factors that made you you. Without them, you wouldn't be you. Do I make sense? I hope so
Annabeth Brown that would mean that we can't ever be peaceful. That we live our life and develop self love only through what other people think and thus that we need them. True self-worth should allow us to live without social medias, without waiting for someone's approval at work.. and being okay with reading a book just for fun and without peeking at the clock or our phone every 10min. What makes us us should not come from external factors cause that would create addiction, dependency and would make us shallow and likely to be disappointed
@@mathilde705 Mathilde I agree but that's not what I meant. What I mean is that isn't everything an "external factor" though? Like enjoying that book or watercolor painting? At least in my opinion, you can't just completely cut everything off and be on your own.without slowly eroding your sanity. Even those who have called it quits to the world rely on nature as the external factors that keeps them going. Now I'm sure I make less sense lol
No it does make sense :) You're right
I saw you at the Q&A in SLC a couple days ago and I just want to say how much I appreciate your authenticity and openness and how WELL SPOKEN and funny and eloquent you are. Seriously, you're a boss. 🤘
How would be your self worth without cats?
Asking the REAL questions right here
My boyfriend was trying to help me figure out another way to view my own self worth beyond my achievements, and he suggested that we should see it in the impact that we have on other people. The intangible effect that a small meaningful action has on someone else's life, a result that we can't always see, is enough to know trust that we're valid and important people on this earth. It shifts the lens of self-worth from the actions we do for our own personal satisfaction to the actions that we put towards other people instead. It takes some pressure off of looking towards my limited ability to work and also presents going out with people you love as form of self-love 😊💕
I feel like I am slowly turning into people I despise. So it's hard to love myself but thanks.
Now go my little comment, get lost in the sea of comments, wooosh 🌫️
I found it! It didn’t get lost enough
@@ameliarose47 Thanks 😅
Annnnndddd.. I lost it.
Welp, becoming someone you despise is a good oportunity. If you are able to forgive yourself for who you are becoming, and understand why you get there, maybe that despise for yourself and other people will vanish and become compassion. Just an idea for you 😉
@@leothelion5035 Easier said than done but seems rational, thank you 💞
This hits home for me. I always think of self-worth is related to my achievement and if I have no accomplishment or am not being productive, I'm wasting my life and being useless and worthless. This reaching self-worth journey is still long and I really hope I can get there one day!
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This is everything. I quit my job to test this theory-am I able to live a life outside of my defining characteristics of working 80 hour weeks, always being the go to, etc.
I still need my cats and my husband, but I am happy with who I am. I am completely responsible and in power for my life. I hope that you can get closer to feeling like your values and YOUR VALUE and see how amazing you are and what you bring to the world being just being you.
same. potato
I can so relate to the seeing fun as neccesary thing. Solid advice, actually. I saw it as that giant waste of time once, but then I saw that it was an actual need in the Sims 4 when I started playing that. And that kind of opened my eyes. My literal thoughts: 'Wait, if the Sims can see it as a need, then why shouldn't I do the same?' Never felt bad about taking time to relax ever again.
Nice
OH THE WEIGHT OF YOUR WORDS, THOUGHTS & VALUES ARE SO MUCH OF SELF LOVE & ACTUALIZATION HUHU THANK YOU FOR THIS ATE ANNA. YOU'RE HEAVEN SENT! MORE PPL LIKE YOU PLEASE!!! You have so much goodness in you
30 views and 97 likes. Great job youtube. 👍
I know ill end up watching this again because I have a constant issue with self worth when it comes to just focusing on myself. You definitely worded this beautiful, and it’s definitely something we all should strive to try to do in our lives
The Holy Spirit but that’s just me 🤷🏽♂️
Anna Akana is so relatable. Her videos bring so much of my own thoughts and representation and it helps.
*Self-Hatred is the only thing I know.. so I think I’ll stick with it for now*
"Self work to self worth is really tough and what U find most annoying about personal growth is that it never ends." by QUEEN ANNA
There is no self-worth under capitalism.
Lies. You can always buy self worth.
3:30-3:40
Completely describes the mood of crossing into a new chapter of life.
I have thought a lot about self worth and how can I make my internal core strong enough that I believe I've the power to shape my own reality.... But I never looked at my self worth the way you said... You've forced me to question my reality. Yet again ❤️
I have been having a lot of issues recently with this topic. I am tying my self-worth and my feelings and my mood directly towards by productivity, goals and accomplishments. So when I take a break because I desperately need one I feel bad about it and about myself. Too much pressure! Pressure that is being created solely by me.
Same
For me its healing my childhood abuse. And its hella hard (like for everybody), but especially when I have no idea where my triggers are coming from. And its harder to open up in therapy too cuz I dont really remember everything well. But as long as I know and feel that I am a good human being with the best intention to the world, I try to remember that I deserve as much love as I put out in this world.
I finally realized why she always raises one side of her lip higher than the other; it's because one tooth is higher than the other. Beauty is symmetry, that's some lovely adaptability human anna.
It never fails; I always am having a certain issue, and Anna touches upon it in an enlightening yet humorous way.
I am the EXACT same way, I feel worthless if I'm not achieving something groundbreaking, even when it comes to romance, I always think to myself, "does this person like me for me, or because of who I am professionally or because of what I have?" That's why I find it so hard to trust people....but I'm slowly learning to find that balance and self-worth.
Anna, i'm so thankful you are here and your videos always resonate which what i need. I'm starting my journal, i'm trying to become more aware of my time and yes, allow myself to lose my times on videogames without feeling bad but giving time to my professional goals (learning a new language, finish my thesis). Every journal is different, i have "just" to find the courage to find mine.
it's been a year + since i've seen one of your videos and i gotta say, i do miss you. stay awesome anna.
Ann you are amazing. After losing my daughter I came to a realization that no one perfect but it’s the fact that you try to change that makes life better. Keep learning keep laughing and remember that no matter how bad it can get there always a rainbow out there even in the dark