Yeah same thing here , I advice you to keep a journal and write your thoughts to clear your mind whenever you need to. I did that and it worked for me.
@Mia Carder hunnnn I do! It stopped when I started taking my current combination of meds, I strongly advise you to talk to a psychiatrist, maybe medication will help you with that
“Wow, I’m so happy! I can’t believe I’m so happy.” Are simply affirmations. The human mind can start to believe what you constantly feed it. So basically you’re tricking your mind and it’s all a lie. Wow. Am I an over thinker? Sorry if I was rude or anything. Sorry.
Get a friend named Kathy, Katherine, Kate, etc and just call them "Cat". The person's name doesn't have to literally be "Cat". I hope you realize this...
Oh! I was an overthinker ever since I was a kid. And the cause: my upbringing. You know that time when you are doing small mistakes and the reactions you got from your parents are terrible? That makes you an overthinker for everything, a perfectinist; which you still carries in your adulthood. Thankfully, the emergence of my anxiety disorder has been my life's turning point. I cannot say that I no longer overthink, but I can say that I can manage it. My enotions and my thoughts, I can effectively observe it and tweak it to become a useful one. I have also learned logical ways to upbring my children in the future so that they will not generate mental illnesses due to poor parenting. I thank being an overthinker, because if not for it, I will never be a better architect, and an achiever. Btw, yoga and meditation are liberating me when I am on the verge of overthinking.
I have the problem of not only overthinking things I've done/said, but also things I am going to do/say. So to be safe I just try not to do/say anything... 😭
I fear approaching women in general and my overthinking is in terms of how the lady would react and how other folk around me and potentially other lady's I'd like getting the wrong impression then I'm fucked socially
@@bradmarkmichaelduffy5915 Next time you want to approach someone, ask yourself: what's the worst that could happen? And then see what comes to your mind. Categorize these thoughts and you'll see, the options are either dumb and unreal, or not that bad. And then make a move.
A week ago I corrected someone's Spanish grammar and have been beating myself up because I probably embarrassed him by doing that in front of people and now I'm also beating myself up over what the bystanders of that event must now think of me... 😞 Overthinking is the worst
Actually overthinking if i should comment or not: Should I comment this comment or make a new comment? 377 people liked this, maybe i should just like it too If i comment i should just put a laugh to agree or they would think that im laughing at the overthinkers? I can just put "me too", that would be easier and to the point Maybe putting all this things i think its funny Hahaha im over thinking, i'll write all this down
I constantly overthink in the negative, and adding that with severe social anxiety.. it's a nightmare when you just want to write a sentence (god forgive a paragraph). I stare at a sentence I wrote and reread it over and over again before submitting, asking myself if I chose the correct words to get my point across with regards to the context of whatever I'm writing about or whoever I'm replying to. Heck, when I'm with my friends and new people join in on the conversation at hand, I analyze the subjects being spoken about and start to overthink on how I should join in on the conversation; because at the back of my head there's this imaginary voice saying "you better say something before these people think you're a weirdo for not engaging in a conversation". That's where overthinking fries out my brain with generating all these possible conversation starters to the point where as if my brain reboots itself into safe mode. This is where overthinking about what to say and what to say next in a conversation takes a form similar to a flowchart. For example, "START with conversation starter > IF you can continue talking about this subject without awkward intervals CONTINUE > ELSE loop back to START and think of another conversation starter". It really is annoying. Sometimes I'd be sound asleep and my brain would just out of nowhere be like "WAKE UP! REMEMBER THAT TIME IN PRIMARY SCHOOL 16 YEARS AGO WHEN YOU LOOKED AT THAT KID IN A WEIRD WAY?! DO YOU THINK HE STILL REMEMBERS WHAT HAPPENED?! LET'S THINK ABOUT WHAT WE DID WRONG AND LOOK AT THE VARIOUS OTHER OPTIONS WE COULD HAVE USED INSTEAD AT 2AM WHEN YOU HAVE TO WAKE UP FOR WORK AT 5AM!"
Holy what! This is my brain in words. I, too, have social anxiety. I literally feel like I'm always saying the wrong thing or I'm not quite moving properly. Whenever I talk to someone, I become super aware of everything my body is doing like, the words I'm saying, my hands, my posture, the way I breathe, am I smiling too much, eye contact, and my heartbeat. Its mostly happens with people I dont know well.
I feel you. Social anxiety is the worst and when your overthinking kicks into overdrive it makes everything even worse than it already was. Sometimes I wish there were just an off switch to get rid of it all because I will literally analyse everything to the endth degree. I feel like some days I'll literally just try to nap because I actually can't get a hold of all my racing thoughts and it's exhausting because it just feels like they will never shut up.
Literally me although It is actually getting better, literally can't get over if everyone in My school that doesn't know me thinks I'm an idiot bc over a year ago i screwed up on stage but then I kinda succesfully made a joke of it so maybe noone cared for a second and has completrly forgot it or maybe all of them remembers it when they see me and think I'm an idiot, also there is like one... Nevermind it's just fu**ing annoying
whenever im nice or kind to someone i just think *"am i faking it?"* but then im like, *"but how would i fake something like that..."* but then i return to the first thought with some other thoughts like *"is this my real personality?" "how do i not be 'fake'?"* and then stuck in a loop until something takes my attention away from it, sincei have trouble with my personality and im basically a liquid with other people, so i never know when im being me.
Ella Havia I feel like that too sometimes and what I do is to force myself to talk with someone I trust so I can vent out and stop my own thoughts to drag me down, maybe that can help you. I pray too and God always gives me peace and solution for everything. If I can help you on anything please feel free to contact me, sometimes is helpful to have someone to talk when we feel down. Blessings!
You can turn overthinking off. When I was younger I would get into overthinking loops often linked to things I was anxious about. I am quiet and introverted so I would roleplay the scenario in my head many times as to what I would say. When it came time to actually speak, I wouldn’t say a fifth of what I had thought up. Eventually I decided not to let myself do this role playing and restrict myself to just speaking to the other person. In connection with actually speaking, or writing, I took responsibility for what I said. If I spoke out of turn or got my facts incorrect I was willing to apologize or correct myself. Being intuitive and reflective doesn’t mean clear sight. There is a good reason understanding is referred to a foggy glass/mirror. I have found that many times, my reflections focus on verifying the interpretations of reality presented by my friends and wider culture. Internally, my reflections compare that to all data, anecdotes and experiences I have collected. When it is false I am happy to cry foul but like anyone who cherishes anything, I know that my reflection can ignore the very falsehood in lies and tales I have come to cherish. The insights one gets have a real very opportunity to be tainted in this way but because they do not come from unreliable culture or family so are trusted more and an intuitive like yourself can present them with great confidence. Intuit away... but please be careful with what you find. 😉
i overthink so much, especially if i did something embarrassing and i think through all the things i could've so easily done instead and avoided the entire situation.
Yes overthinking is my downfall, I can spend hours in bed not sleeping like i should be but having imaginary conversations or experiences in my head which area the worst possible outcomes of all the things i am worried about. I also replay past conversations and think about what i could say better. It get to the point where i realy need to crack out all my stress releving weapons just so i can relax. The other night I took bachs nighttime remedy, covered my teddy in lavender oil , played rain and gentle thunder ambient noise through my headphones and sat trying to regulate my breathing whilst repeating everything is fine in my head............Worked though so...yay me i guess......
ahhhhhhhh I am/was in the same situation. If I was lucky, I was cursed with 3-4hr sleeps. I decided to get lavender oil, & created my own DIY spray for my pillows...... butttttttt the scent didn't last. I am so thankful that I finally bought a diffuser. The slight trickling noise, along with the all-night-long lavender scent truly, truly, TRULY helped.
I kina do that except i usually just feel bad about saying mean things I didn't really mean, and then i can't sleep until i apologise. I don't fight much though as I have a slight fear of conflict.
I know you're never gonna read this, but Anna, you're literally my life coach. Your videos ground me when I'm starting to get really into myself and reaming myself into the ground. Your videos make me think critically rather than harshly, thank you for that :)
After every social interaction I have, I overthink everything. Did I make weird faces? Do they think I was weird? Am I weird? Why did I say that?! This could go on for an eternity.
The good news is half of the people who your are overthinking your interactions with are probably too busy analyzing their own part in your interaction to form opinions about yours!
This needs to be said more. Ruminating becomes habitual, rewires the brain, and perpetuates depression. Mindfulness and other self-care practices are essential, this needs to be taught to everybody in school with heavy priority. At least RUclipsrs like Anna Akana can reach young people so that they can develop positive ways of dealing with life.
This is so me!!! It's so frustrating some times no matter how many times you say to your self "it's fine let it go" and try to rationalize the situation to your self it just wont budge. You just keep blaming your self for no reason and can't stop thinking about it.
I read this somewhere and it stuck with me: "That boy you're crying over won't matter in a year from now" And whenever I'm overthinking I just apply that to what I'm thinking about. Like, "that thing you said to Brandon won't matter a year from now" or "that person you saw fall down and didn't help won't matter a year from now". I know it doesn't work for everything, but it's helped me
is it just me but whenever i overthink i try to stop but im afraid because i overthinked to much to the point that now im used to the feeling. so if it goes away i'm afraid i would feel empty, weird.
Looking at the comment section, it seems it struck a chord. Thank you for making this. Points you made any the symptoms feel too real. And thanks for the tips too.
I struggle with overthinking on a daily basis, if I have a bad day at work I tend to talk bout it to my partner and constantly think of that situation which ultimately leads to me crying for a few hours. He gets stressed on how I am too dependant and unable to cope with stress which ultimately stresses me even more and overall makes me overthink about whether he'll eventually leave me because of my issues and my lack of control over my thoughts and emotions. Welcome to my brain. Now I'm out here trying to find books, videos, etc. Anything that will help me mentally and gain self love and self-control and overall wellbeing and happiness
I’m such an overthinker. I can definitely relate to the text analysis. My problem is: I am doing my exams this year and people keep on telling me not to overthink things but I can’t help it...
Well if you are thinking that you should stop overthinking it just makes it worse.. i would say.. that it is nice to find an activity that makes you calm down and laugh.. (so you get the mental energy you need for your exams ) and also if you get frustrated breath slowly and say numbers out of order.. ( it has helped me before during an exam ). Hope everything goes fine ❤
*I also overthink about how overthinking is impacting on my relationship with other people because OH MY GOD they're gonna think I'm annoying if I keep overthinking everything and they always notice it so should I stop or just be faithful to who I really am and*...AAA MAKE IT STOP pls
I still over think but it never kills my happiness. I overthink all the time and it has never like affected me badly I just dont make.Much conversations and stuff like that
One of the strongest bases of my depression and anxiety is overthinking, it gets extremely hard when you realize you can't control it and it leads to so may unnecessary thoughts and actions, it really exhausting. Even though, for the past weeks I've been more conscious about it and even if it sounds ironic, I push myself into not think so much and just let things be. It's very relieving.
Anna really gives practical tips when youre angry and disappointed about yourself shes literally my light of positivity and brings me back from falling into hopelessness
Something I've been overthinking: The other day my friend was talking to someone, and since I haven't seen her in a while I went up behind her and scared her. She punched me, but she was kinda smiling, and it seemed playful. I pretended to be hurt, because we have funny bants like that, yknow? She continued talking to the boy, and after that I kinda felt bad. It came up later about her punching me with my other friend, and the girl said I interrupted her conversation. And after that I felt so guilty. We've had snow days, so I haven't seen her for like a week. I feel so bad and I want to apologize, because I would hate being interrupted during a great conversation. I never usually do things like that, and I'm not the person to do random things like that, but I just *had* to do it that time. It didn't seem to bother her much, but I don't want her to forever think I'm *that* person. And now that it's been a week it would probably seem weird and obsessive that I apologize now, because it wasn't like a catastrophic event or anything, it wasn't a huge deal. Ugh, I hate overthinking things.
Thats a hard situation! Next time you see her maybe you could just say "Hey, I know it's been forever since I interrupted your conversation with so-and-so but I just felt like I never had a chance to say sorry about that." And once you've made that point just let it go and try to erase it from your memory!
My dad used to say "Think before you say something". So after that, I had beautiful conversations with people. In my head. Until they exploded. ...In my head. ...No, the conversations!
i'm kinda hooked to your squarespace outros , you always find a creative way to do it !! have a nice day .. & stay awesome gotham if that's still in play ! please don't overthink this comment .
Overthinking takes over your life. I have very bad anxiety and also depression and overthinking everything makes things much harder. It’s has effected my social life so much. I hate it.
Just want to mention that compassionate problem solving doesn’t always work for the rumination that is legit years old. Then it’s about asking yourself “why is this coming up for me right now” “is this useful” and the ultimate reminder “I was doing the best I knew at the time and I’m a different person now who has learned and grown since then. I forgive myself for my past mistakes” sometimes we ruminate about things we already learned...so it’s useful to remember that we did this already and try to move past it without judgement
I shared a post today on FB about overthinking and sleep deprivation. I'm an over thinker and like with every trait there is a negative and positive balance to it. I'm still learning to harness my overthinking ability. Good news is that there are ways to positively manage it. It's part of embracing yourself and learning how to work with yourself than against yourself. Don't ignore the problem, find what works for you and educate yourself about it. Also reach out and ask for help :-)
I'm an overthinker and this led me to a light form of depression, now I've added some things to my routine such as meditating every morning, writing down ten good things I did during the day, going out even for a bit not to stay inside my house all day and yes keep myself occupied by doing house chores mostly
its not like i CHOSE to give my mind the time to overthink. my thinker is just on all day and grabs my attention on overthinking issues whenever i'm not occupied for like 20 seconds. i cannot take a walk, ride the bicycle, read a book (i keep drifting away), chop some onions or just go to bed without this to happen. its just omnipresent
Hey Ms. Akana! I just wanted to say that your videos are amazing and very inspiring. You help me every single day with being more and more healthy. You're great and keep it up!
LOVE YOU ANNA. I literally just thought "omg is she gonna think I'm a looser if I write this" 😐😑 You are my life therapy, I want everyone who watches your videos to feel the same way. Seriously heart you.
When I overthink, it's like my mind gets so loud so I talk to silence it. Sometimes I'd say random things and my dad thinks I'm crazy. One of the most painful thing he said to me is that there is something wrong with my behavior and he knows there's something wrong with me. He said that while he was and although he said sorry, I know that's what he feels about me.
Example of overthinking: Today I found out my friend got an invite for a college interview. The same college I applied to, but no invite showed up in my inbox. So I freaked out to say the least, when I should've just relaxed because it's probably on it's way now.
this is the definition of my brain.
making up for my harsh punctuation!!!
Liza Koshy same
I love you videos !!!!
❤️Omg I love you❤️
Liza Koshy bruh lol
My main problem is that I still overthink while doing other stuff.
Isabella Maximo yes 👏🏾👏🏾 me too even washing dishes
Omg I thought something was wrong with me. My brain is always heavy no matter what i'm doing or where i'm.
same problem i face that's why i forgetting things in present
Yeah same thing here , I advice you to keep a journal and write your thoughts to clear your mind whenever you need to. I did that and it worked for me.
@Mia Carder hunnnn I do! It stopped when I started taking my current combination of meds, I strongly advise you to talk to a psychiatrist, maybe medication will help you with that
when she turned to say ‘right cat?’ i thought she was actually talking to one of her cats
Me too lmaoo
ludovic I was so confused
I thought she was talking to the wrong side, the cat was behind
SAME 😋
i second that
Do you ever find yourself replaying conversions in your head constantly to a point you start to wonder about that person...?
YES
Yessss
Yeah fk those loops, damn. You can literally think yourself to extreme conclusions with almost no information.
Jup
Yesss
“Yes, that is a good use of my time” me everyday
So true about literally everything I do when I should do homework
I overthink and feel deeply 😭
i hate that overthinking is always negative. it’s not like i’m obsessively thinking about how happy i am
Eve it could be positive!
Hehe, nice comment.
Because happiness is simple and there is not much to think about there :) Overthinking positively is not thinking.
“Wow, I’m so happy! I can’t believe I’m so happy.” Are simply affirmations. The human mind can start to believe what you constantly feed it. So basically you’re tricking your mind and it’s all a lie. Wow. Am I an over thinker? Sorry if I was rude or anything. Sorry.
Eve well, good for you
I can’t believe that Anna, a huge cat lover, has a friend actually named Cat. That’s a cat-lady’s dream right there.
Get a friend named Kathy, Katherine, Kate, etc and just call them "Cat". The person's name doesn't have to literally be "Cat". I hope you realize this...
SO!
1:25 lol, i thought she had actual started talking to her cats, i mean like really talking to them.
GearBoxD lol same
Do you two really think she does not already do that? lol.
We pet owners usually star talking to our pets HAHAHA (more or less, of course)
GearBoxD I was literally searching for this comment so I wouldn't feel alone in this 😂😂😂
Samr
This comment made me literally lol. Which is weird cuz its dark and quiet and everyone is sleeping 😁
Oh! I was an overthinker ever since I was a kid. And the cause: my upbringing. You know that time when you are doing small mistakes and the reactions you got from your parents are terrible? That makes you an overthinker for everything, a perfectinist; which you still carries in your adulthood. Thankfully, the emergence of my anxiety disorder has been my life's turning point. I cannot say that I no longer overthink, but I can say that I can manage it. My enotions and my thoughts, I can effectively observe it and tweak it to become a useful one. I have also learned logical ways to upbring my children in the future so that they will not generate mental illnesses due to poor parenting. I thank being an overthinker, because if not for it, I will never be a better architect, and an achiever. Btw, yoga and meditation are liberating me when I am on the verge of overthinking.
@Lauren Huber same here. I opt few ways on how to break the "cycle". Hope you get to see some progress by now 😉
*Remembers that embarrassing thing from 2 years ago* "It's okay, I'm embarrassed about this because I know better now. And moving on."
Oh wow. Yes youre right. Thanks! 😊♥️🙏
i'm kinda socially awkward so i literally overthink everything...
der martin Same...
der martin yay im not the only one! ...
I have the problem of not only overthinking things I've done/said, but also things I am going to do/say. So to be safe I just try not to do/say anything... 😭
KtKawaii Penguin same.
Me too
I thought she was talking to one of her cats.
Me too I was SO confused
Hopper ya never know lol
she probably did that on purpose xD
Same
Seemed perfectly normal if she really was talking to her cat though
Anna is the only youtuber who I will actually sit through the ads for
Khaleesi Katara yes
Khaleesi Katara she made it funnn
AMEN
Khaleesi Katara sitting through an ad right now
As an overthinker dating is like a hell. I’m exhausted
fk dating
@@dichael5275 yep going through break up and it is pain
I fear approaching women in general and my overthinking is in terms of how the lady would react and how other folk around me and potentially other lady's I'd like getting the wrong impression then I'm fucked socially
@@bradmarkmichaelduffy5915 Next time you want to approach someone, ask yourself: what's the worst that could happen? And then see what comes to your mind. Categorize these thoughts and you'll see, the options are either dumb and unreal, or not that bad. And then make a move.
I'm overthinking everything and it makes me hate myself
I feel that 🥲
I am an overthink-er too 😅
Disha Bisen-Choudhary me too
Sameeeee
A week ago I corrected someone's Spanish grammar and have been beating myself up because I probably embarrassed him by doing that in front of people and now I'm also beating myself up over what the bystanders of that event must now think of me... 😞 Overthinking is the worst
same here :(
Actually overthinking if i should comment or not:
Should I comment this comment or make a new comment?
377 people liked this, maybe i should just like it too
If i comment i should just put a laugh to agree or they would think that im laughing at the overthinkers?
I can just put "me too", that would be easier and to the point
Maybe putting all this things i think its funny
Hahaha im over thinking, i'll write all this down
I constantly overthink in the negative, and adding that with severe social anxiety.. it's a nightmare when you just want to write a sentence (god forgive a paragraph). I stare at a sentence I wrote and reread it over and over again before submitting, asking myself if I chose the correct words to get my point across with regards to the context of whatever I'm writing about or whoever I'm replying to.
Heck, when I'm with my friends and new people join in on the conversation at hand, I analyze the subjects being spoken about and start to overthink on how I should join in on the conversation; because at the back of my head there's this imaginary voice saying "you better say something before these people think you're a weirdo for not engaging in a conversation". That's where overthinking fries out my brain with generating all these possible conversation starters to the point where as if my brain reboots itself into safe mode. This is where overthinking about what to say and what to say next in a conversation takes a form similar to a flowchart. For example, "START with conversation starter > IF you can continue talking about this subject without awkward intervals CONTINUE > ELSE loop back to START and think of another conversation starter". It really is annoying.
Sometimes I'd be sound asleep and my brain would just out of nowhere be like "WAKE UP! REMEMBER THAT TIME IN PRIMARY SCHOOL 16 YEARS AGO WHEN YOU LOOKED AT THAT KID IN A WEIRD WAY?! DO YOU THINK HE STILL REMEMBERS WHAT HAPPENED?! LET'S THINK ABOUT WHAT WE DID WRONG AND LOOK AT THE VARIOUS OTHER OPTIONS WE COULD HAVE USED INSTEAD AT 2AM WHEN YOU HAVE TO WAKE UP FOR WORK AT 5AM!"
Holy what! This is my brain in words. I, too, have social anxiety. I literally feel like I'm always saying the wrong thing or I'm not quite moving properly. Whenever I talk to someone, I become super aware of everything my body is doing like, the words I'm saying, my hands, my posture, the way I breathe, am I smiling too much, eye contact, and my heartbeat. Its mostly happens with people I dont know well.
Deknoid i do this every time
I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one that does this ahhh especially that last paragraph lol that's ME.....
I feel you. Social anxiety is the worst and when your overthinking kicks into overdrive it makes everything even worse than it already was. Sometimes I wish there were just an off switch to get rid of it all because I will literally analyse everything to the endth degree. I feel like some days I'll literally just try to nap because I actually can't get a hold of all my racing thoughts and it's exhausting because it just feels like they will never shut up.
Literally me although It is actually getting better, literally can't get over if everyone in My school that doesn't know me thinks I'm an idiot bc over a year ago i screwed up on stage but then I kinda succesfully made a joke of it so maybe noone cared for a second and has completrly forgot it or maybe all of them remembers it when they see me and think I'm an idiot, also there is like one... Nevermind it's just fu**ing annoying
That dark first scene though.. Anna you're so wise but incredibly dark-humoured.
whenever im nice or kind to someone i just think *"am i faking it?"* but then im like, *"but how would i fake something like that..."* but then i return to the first thought with some other thoughts like *"is this my real personality?" "how do i not be 'fake'?"* and then stuck in a loop until something takes my attention away from it, sincei have trouble with my personality and im basically a liquid with other people, so i never know when im being me.
Sameeeee, omg literally 😭😭
@@nouhabhy3067 aight lets suffer together bud
I thought that i was the only one like that!! Thank you for this comment!
Somebody actually understands 😢
Sometimes when someone just answers with "ok..." i just freak out!
I feel like that girl in the bathtub right now.
Ella Havia Me too, I'm only a minute late.
Ella Havia we only have a shower so...
You are not alone, i love you
Ella Havia I feel like that too sometimes and what I do is to force myself to talk with someone I trust so I can vent out and stop my own thoughts to drag me down, maybe that can help you. I pray too and God always gives me peace and solution for everything. If I can help you on anything please feel free to contact me, sometimes is helpful to have someone to talk when we feel down. Blessings!
Me to
at 1:26 for a second i thought you were talking to your actual cat and was very confused and a bit worried hahaha.
No, that's at 2:49 :)
hahaah nice catch
I was SO confused
I talk to my cats, and myself... I promise I'm not insane, I'm just really talkative but everyone is tired of listening to me talking.
FakePsychic
SAME!😂
You are so talented. I love you.
Disha Bisen-Choudhary You put a period in your comment, now she's probably thinking you're mad and being sarcastic to her. :)
Precisely my exact thought
^^ 😂 😂 So true
Disha Bisen-Choudhary I agree. Love you Anna
Disha Bisen-Choudhary WHY DID YOU PUT A .!!!!!
You can turn overthinking off. When I was younger I would get into overthinking loops often linked to things I was anxious about. I am quiet and introverted so I would roleplay the scenario in my head many times as to what I would say. When it came time to actually speak, I wouldn’t say a fifth of what I had thought up. Eventually I decided not to let myself do this role playing and restrict myself to just speaking to the other person. In connection with actually speaking, or writing, I took responsibility for what I said. If I spoke out of turn or got my facts incorrect I was willing to apologize or correct myself. Being intuitive and reflective doesn’t mean clear sight. There is a good reason understanding is referred to a foggy glass/mirror. I have found that many times, my reflections focus on verifying the interpretations of reality presented by my friends and wider culture. Internally, my reflections compare that to all data, anecdotes and experiences I have collected. When it is false I am happy to cry foul but like anyone who cherishes anything, I know that my reflection can ignore the very falsehood in lies and tales I have come to cherish. The insights one gets have a real very opportunity to be tainted in this way but because they do not come from unreliable culture or family so are trusted more and an intuitive like yourself can present them with great confidence. Intuit away... but please be careful with what you find. 😉
i overthink so much, especially if i did something embarrassing and i think through all the things i could've so easily done instead and avoided the entire situation.
Yes overthinking is my downfall, I can spend hours in bed not sleeping like i should be but having imaginary conversations or experiences in my head which area the worst possible outcomes of all the things i am worried about. I also replay past conversations and think about what i could say better. It get to the point where i realy need to crack out all my stress releving weapons just so i can relax. The other night I took bachs nighttime remedy, covered my teddy in lavender oil , played rain and gentle thunder ambient noise through my headphones and sat trying to regulate my breathing whilst repeating everything is fine in my head............Worked though so...yay me i guess......
Heather Macdonald Rain music is the best!
I like the stuff with thunder, not sure why because most people find thunder unsettling, i love it.
ahhhhhhhh I am/was in the same situation. If I was lucky, I was cursed with 3-4hr sleeps. I decided to get lavender oil, & created my own DIY spray for my pillows...... butttttttt the scent didn't last. I am so thankful that I finally bought a diffuser. The slight trickling noise, along with the all-night-long lavender scent truly, truly, TRULY helped.
sounds good, I just sprinkle very concentrated lavender oil onto my highland cow soft toy and stick it under my nose lol.
I kina do that except i usually just feel bad about saying mean things I didn't really mean, and then i can't sleep until i apologise. I don't fight much though as I have a slight fear of conflict.
Anna, your words speak to my anxious soul.
Best 👏 RUclipsr 👏 in 👏 the 👏 game 👏!
LaytonChronicles Your videos are pretty great too :) you got a new subscriber!
Aww, thank you so much 😊
LaytonChronicles yes she is!!!
LaytonChronicles you're welcome!! Keep up the great work!
The fact that she said 2017 was the worst year for depression and I’m here watching this in 2020 liiiiiiiike
I know you're never gonna read this, but Anna, you're literally my life coach. Your videos ground me when I'm starting to get really into myself and reaming myself into the ground. Your videos make me think critically rather than harshly, thank you for that :)
After every social interaction I have, I overthink everything. Did I make weird faces? Do they think I was weird? Am I weird? Why did I say that?! This could go on for an eternity.
The good news is half of the people who your are overthinking your interactions with are probably too busy analyzing their own part in your interaction to form opinions about yours!
Your content is amazing. I am in awe every single time I watch a new one. You deserve endless recognition and happiness!
I couldn't agree more! I just found her and am so in awe to what she does :))
I agreeeee!!!!
This needs to be said more. Ruminating becomes habitual, rewires the brain, and perpetuates depression. Mindfulness and other self-care practices are essential, this needs to be taught to everybody in school with heavy priority. At least RUclipsrs like Anna Akana can reach young people so that they can develop positive ways of dealing with life.
This is so me!!! It's so frustrating some times no matter how many times you say to your self "it's fine let it go" and try to rationalize the situation to your self it just wont budge. You just keep blaming your self for no reason and can't stop thinking about it.
I read this somewhere and it stuck with me:
"That boy you're crying over won't matter in a year from now"
And whenever I'm overthinking I just apply that to what I'm thinking about. Like, "that thing you said to Brandon won't matter a year from now" or "that person you saw fall down and didn't help won't matter a year from now". I know it doesn't work for everything, but it's helped me
And then you overthink the overthinking! Ugh. I should definitely get busier. That’s great advice.
Anna Akana's first upload of 2018!!!
those edits are intimidatingly impressive
I overthink no matter what I could be having the time of my life and then I'll start thinking of stuff
is it just me
but whenever i overthink
i try to stop but im afraid because i overthinked to much to the point that now
im used to the feeling.
so if it goes away
i'm afraid i would feel empty, weird.
RIGHTTT SAME
I know this feeling
me too! it's like i cant sit with the feeling of not overthinking that thing lmaooo
Ouuuuch! Who told you to be so relatable and tell me something I didn't know about myself.
Looking at the comment section, it seems it struck a chord.
Thank you for making this. Points you made any the symptoms feel too real. And thanks for the tips too.
Hemang Chauhan struck a chord
Hemang Chauhan ppppppp
I like how she gets off of the script or the main points to say and tells stories...love her♡
I thought your cat had fed your other cat and then texted you about it
Winterswept lol same
lmaoo
I recently been using this statement “Overthinking is the art of creating problems that don’t exist” to help me reframe.
I struggle with overthinking on a daily basis, if I have a bad day at work I tend to talk bout it to my partner and constantly think of that situation which ultimately leads to me crying for a few hours. He gets stressed on how I am too dependant and unable to cope with stress which ultimately stresses me even more and overall makes me overthink about whether he'll eventually leave me because of my issues and my lack of control over my thoughts and emotions. Welcome to my brain. Now I'm out here trying to find books, videos, etc. Anything that will help me mentally and gain self love and self-control and overall wellbeing and happiness
Me on a microscopic level
I needed this! One of my goals for 2018 is to take better care of my mental health and overthinking is my biggest problem! Thanks Anna :)
Jessica McAllister praise
I’m such an overthinker. I can definitely relate to the text analysis. My problem is: I am doing my exams this year and people keep on telling me not to overthink things but I can’t help it...
Well if you are thinking that you should stop overthinking it just makes it worse.. i would say.. that it is nice to find an activity that makes you calm down and laugh.. (so you get the mental energy you need for your exams ) and also if you get frustrated breath slowly and say numbers out of order.. ( it has helped me before during an exam ). Hope everything goes fine ❤
Rebecca Rankin stuck in the same boat. And tbh thinking about it makes me end up not doing it at all.
I can relate to her so much....I overthink and overanalyze aaaall the time and it damages my love life *sigh*....
OMG same 💔🙁
Sometimes i am so lost in my own thoughts that i stop walking and just stand on a street like i am absolutly brain afk
I can relate so much..I overthink everything to the point where I feel like it actually takes a physical toll🙁😂
*ovErThINkiNg*
Stop
We are literally the same person
"literally"?
Hey Anna
You must be a great person then 😛
Your pic made this so much funnier
Literally huh? So you're Anna's secondary account when she doesn't want to post as herself? ;)
Diiiiiinnnkkkkkkk!!!!
*I also overthink about how overthinking is impacting on my relationship with other people because OH MY GOD they're gonna think I'm annoying if I keep overthinking everything and they always notice it so should I stop or just be faithful to who I really am and*...AAA MAKE IT STOP pls
This is why you sometimes have to shut off. I can relate.
Overthinking can kill your happiness, yes everyone will go through this, but we just need to trust them 100%.
I still over think but it never kills my happiness. I overthink all the time and it has never like affected me badly I just dont make.Much conversations and stuff like that
One of the strongest bases of my depression and anxiety is overthinking, it gets extremely hard when you realize you can't control it and it leads to so may unnecessary thoughts and actions, it really exhausting. Even though, for the past weeks I've been more conscious about it and even if it sounds ironic, I push myself into not think so much and just let things be. It's very relieving.
I think I'm thinking too much about Squarespace
there are so many people who overthink, i feel better now I guess I am not insane😂
Anna really gives practical tips when youre angry and disappointed about yourself shes literally my light of positivity and brings me back from falling into hopelessness
XD
"Wait, am I an overthin- ok, now we're going to hear about squarespace"
I love you. You're the realest person on RUclips.
Something I've been overthinking:
The other day my friend was talking to someone, and since I haven't seen her in a while I went up behind her and scared her. She punched me, but she was kinda smiling, and it seemed playful. I pretended to be hurt, because we have funny bants like that, yknow? She continued talking to the boy, and after that I kinda felt bad. It came up later about her punching me with my other friend, and the girl said I interrupted her conversation. And after that I felt so guilty. We've had snow days, so I haven't seen her for like a week. I feel so bad and I want to apologize, because I would hate being interrupted during a great conversation. I never usually do things like that, and I'm not the person to do random things like that, but I just *had* to do it that time. It didn't seem to bother her much, but I don't want her to forever think I'm *that* person. And now that it's been a week it would probably seem weird and obsessive that I apologize now, because it wasn't like a catastrophic event or anything, it wasn't a huge deal. Ugh, I hate overthinking things.
Thats a hard situation! Next time you see her maybe you could just say "Hey, I know it's been forever since I interrupted your conversation with so-and-so but I just felt like I never had a chance to say sorry about that." And once you've made that point just let it go and try to erase it from your memory!
My dad used to say "Think before you say something". So after that, I had beautiful conversations with people. In my head. Until they exploded. ...In my head. ...No, the conversations!
Omg moonlight sonata in the background!
1:54 Do you know the name of this one?
@@angoz8432 i think it it waltz of the flowers
@@victorvictoriahernandez2048 ty!
2:27 "really helps shape like how I THINK about overTHINKing"
i'm kinda hooked to your squarespace outros , you always find a creative way to do it !! have a nice day .. & stay awesome gotham if that's still in play ! please don't overthink this comment .
I always use the period.
Also Anna, thanks for getting in the bathtub clothed for us, it's that extra realism that makes a story. :D
Comprehensive Planning & Overthinking go hand in hand.
I do yoga everyday for 20-30 minutes a night except for Friday. It helps a LOT 😊
man I overthink over overthinking
Thank you for all of the work you put in on what is basically free entertainment for us. We appreciate you!
immediatly clicked on the notification, cause i already know this is gonna be relatable as hell
Overthinking takes over your life. I have very bad anxiety and also depression and overthinking everything makes things much harder. It’s has effected my social life so much. I hate it.
This is true. Popping that cloud of negative thought is a superpower.
I'm always overthinking
i love anna so much.
nikoleA u mad?
der martin ahhhh clever ;)
But no, the period is a symbol of intensity
I remember reading one quote, "those who over thinks, over love."
Just want to mention that compassionate problem solving doesn’t always work for the rumination that is legit years old. Then it’s about asking yourself “why is this coming up for me right now” “is this useful” and the ultimate reminder “I was doing the best I knew at the time and I’m a different person now who has learned and grown since then. I forgive myself for my past mistakes” sometimes we ruminate about things we already learned...so it’s useful to remember that we did this already and try to move past it without judgement
I cannot even begin to explain how relatable this is.
I shared a post today on FB about overthinking and sleep deprivation. I'm an over thinker and like with every trait there is a negative and positive balance to it. I'm still learning to harness my overthinking ability.
Good news is that there are ways to positively manage it. It's part of embracing yourself and learning how to work with yourself than against yourself. Don't ignore the problem, find what works for you and educate yourself about it. Also reach out and ask for help :-)
P.s. Love you Anna! Looking forward to the journey 2018 has in store. 💖 - Loved the book and posted a review too x
Haseena - Thanks for sharing how u felt! This really helps😊
Snoopy Sensei You are Welcome! 💖 Glad it helped x
woke up this morning found your channel (love it btw) scrolled back 2years and 7 hours later im here! Summary - amazing and insightful videos!!
I'm an overthinker and this led me to a light form of depression, now I've added some things to my routine such as meditating every morning, writing down ten good things I did during the day, going out even for a bit not to stay inside my house all day and yes keep myself occupied by doing house chores mostly
its not like i CHOSE to give my mind the time to overthink. my thinker is just on all day and grabs my attention on overthinking issues whenever i'm not occupied for like 20 seconds.
i cannot take a walk, ride the bicycle, read a book (i keep drifting away), chop some onions or just go to bed without this to happen.
its just omnipresent
Hey Ms. Akana! I just wanted to say that your videos are amazing and very inspiring. You help me every single day with being more and more healthy. You're great and keep it up!
better to overthink rather than not thinking at all like logan paul XD
Lmfao
It's kinda trendy now.
Eyyyyy
Sadly very relatable for me, especially regarding my love life.
I overthink when it comes to things like being called on to answer a question in class and even ordering food by myself.
LOVE YOU ANNA. I literally just thought "omg is she gonna think I'm a looser if I write this" 😐😑 You are my life therapy, I want everyone who watches your videos to feel the same way. Seriously heart you.
THE THING ABOUT PERIODS IN TEXT MESSAGES IS TOO REAL
Am I an overthinker? Hmm...I'm gonna have to get back to you on that
*One Eternity Later*
*is still thinking*
the answer is yes lol
MY LIIIIIIFE! Ugh you nailed it on the head Anna!
Over thinking is so annoying. I do it all the time.
Your awesome
Can't believe that your videos just boosted up my mood for 73% . 👏
When I overthink, it's like my mind gets so loud so I talk to silence it. Sometimes I'd say random things and my dad thinks I'm crazy. One of the most painful thing he said to me is that there is something wrong with my behavior and he knows there's something wrong with me. He said that while he was and although he said sorry, I know that's what he feels about me.
Example of overthinking: Today I found out my friend got an invite for a college interview. The same college I applied to, but no invite showed up in my inbox. So I freaked out to say the least, when I should've just relaxed because it's probably on it's way now.
Probably isn't but hope is hella of drug.
wow i made a friend by sharing your videos
Anna always comes up with the best advise, cause everything she talks about is so relatable
Oh man. This. I needed this. More than anyone knows.
It usually takes me 5 minutes to think about how I should respond to a text... and correct it like 3 more times if editing is allowed.