I prayed to know the answer On our wedding day, God became the Leader in our marriage So I left it up to Him to tell me to stay or go He said stay I did It’s been so difficult Either option is heartbreaking💔 And I’ve been criticized for staying Ask God He will tell you His path for you❤️
Hi, I know you posted 3 years ago, but I'm hoping I can hear from you because the same is happening to me. I have prayed, and I do believe in God and I do my best to have discernment and listen. Our Lord provides answers to those who seek him at all times and have learned to listen. I prayed and was asked to stay, not even because I love him, but because I love God and I need to forgiving as he has been merciful with us. I'm trying to help him on a relationship with God which is what at this point I'm called to do, but it's excruciatingly painful because of the trauma. How has the past three years been for you? I made a promise to God and I intend to keep it, but I also pleaded that if this were to happen again, I would be freed to let him go completely.
Thank you and this was very helpful yes I was cheated on also and I thought I was the perfect girlfriend while I'm going to work he's sneaking women in but never confessed always trying to make me feel like I was going crazy and lying on him until I caught him... we're separated now but emotionally I miss him.. but I can't take the Betrayal and I feel like it makes me look weak and stupid
My husband has cheated since we've been together...on and off. Always denying it until I caught his phone messages. I've talked to others he has talked to . 27 yrs. Why did I stay
To be honest, even searching for videos like this on RUclips makes me feel nauseous.. And it's been 2 and a half years.. I still get triggered by (and suspicious of) lots of little things.. My husband has been remorseful, he ended things with the other women right off (and showed me proof of it) and has been pretty good about listening and feeling empathetic towards my moods/feelings.. However.. There was one woman that I have proof he was sleeping with and quite a few other that he was (at bare minimum) talking inappropriately to.. I am a complete mess still some days.. We have 3 children together, house, pets, blah blah blah.. And I still love him (most days, some days I can hardly look at him).. So I guess my question is this.. Does it matter whether the affair was with 1 person or multiple? Like I said, I don't have proof of the other women, but him sleeping with one of them almost solidifies all of the other ones, in my head, as affairs as well.. Thoughts and/or advice would be greatly appreciated..
Sorry to tell you but he had multiple affairs, other lasted longer than others. Does that thought bring you comfort? To know he is out there living his life like a single guy when you turn your back? He doesn't sound really remorseful. His ego is big. So the problem is big.
Reverse this, instead of my spouse, it was me... But not a typical affair, nothing like that... I got taken advantage of.. !!! But I told truth . Somehow still think it's my fault, because I shouldn't of got my self in that situation.. to have it happen... But THIS HELPed for me to see what my partner, is feeling , I knew but didn't know if I was doing what I should be, to show how sorry I am.. thank you
Well my husbands not remorseful at all hes says hes sorry but AFTERWARDS he says he doesn't care what i do then comes back and say hes sorry again he was with my own cousin a stripper actually and he says he didn't have anything with her but then 7 years past by and he told me on my new year's eve that he was with her..and now he keeps writing letters to me saying hes sorry again but he was with PROSTITUTES too..thats the crap that bothers me he never wants to sit and talk i would listen but he starts to yell..i went to a doctors hes always saying im crazy i lie , im the problem but the problem is i can't lie i don't know how to i know i will get caught in a lie cause i get nervous so why lie then...
It’s been difficult to make this decision… I said I would give it to the end of the year. We both stepped out of our marriage me 7 years ago 1 night stand, him 6 months 3 different women. He never forgave me and stated I was going to F-u 100 times more. Now he’s says he’s committed to working it out but I’m not sure I can ever get over the fact that this was pay back and was way worse. Also he went looking for an exit clause by looking to see if I was cheating again. Then told me then ran off with whom I call the main one one last time. Then just last week told me he didn’t sleep with her again. Lies lies and more lies. What the hell I’m I suppose to believe. I also found another women he was talking to. I know what all four look like. I know that they all live close. I have 3 children with him. I’m just so sad and don’t know what to do or where I stand anymore in my marriage. I know what I did was wrong and I’ve lived with the guilt all this time but to do it to his level it’s evil. Now when I look back on trips and things we did this whole time I’m disgusted and hurt knowing it was going on while we were on vacation. The texting back and forth the sharing photos. I just don’t know.
He gaslighted me ... saying he was involved with his first girlfriend from HS. His first love. He told me it was an intense emotional affair, until I found pictures of them at our second home! He said nothing happened...lie #1. Okay, they went to bed...in the nude, but nothing happened....yeah, right. Still not sure about that! He swears nothing happened then (twice)! But, there was another bed incident...a year later, he finally confessed he did indeed do the deed with her. Shortly after, I found more evidence of a much more deeper involvement. Much more to the story, still not sure what to do. Both of us are getting help, but he still had contact with her, even though he knew there was not to be ANY contact. How to trust a liar?????
You know what else is disgusting? Half of these "heart felt" comments about their situation, but the entirety of the sob story masks the real intention of the post which is pay some random sight money. People are actually going through this shit and dont need you faking a story to try sell your scan services. People are disgusting af.
This is going to be hard to hear. But you went looking for an exit clause and you found one. That was the exit clause you created it. And now he's done to you what you did to him. And you think it's evil? How do you think he felt when he found out? And that everything he knew and looked back at his past, was a lie.
There is a good punishment for adultery in Islam: Stoning. For married adulters. They shall die, their blood is on them. It is their own fault. This is God's punishment. And God is just.
“Consistent actions over time.” There it is! Thank you!
He was Caught. Remorseful at first, and now it’s like “you’re bringing this up again?!”
so …. difficult
He thought he got away easily. That's all. When you relax he will do it again.
Thank you so much Melissa Davis
I prayed to know the answer
On our wedding day, God became the Leader in our marriage
So I left it up to Him to tell me to stay or go
He said stay
I did
It’s been so difficult
Either option is heartbreaking💔
And I’ve been criticized for staying
Ask God
He will tell you His path for you❤️
Hi, I know you posted 3 years ago, but I'm hoping I can hear from you because the same is happening to me. I have prayed, and I do believe in God and I do my best to have discernment and listen. Our Lord provides answers to those who seek him at all times and have learned to listen.
I prayed and was asked to stay, not even because I love him, but because I love God and I need to forgiving as he has been merciful with us.
I'm trying to help him on a relationship with God which is what at this point I'm called to do, but it's excruciatingly painful because of the trauma.
How has the past three years been for you? I made a promise to God and I intend to keep it, but I also pleaded that if this were to happen again, I would be freed to let him go completely.
Thank you and this was very helpful yes I was cheated on also and I thought I was the perfect girlfriend while I'm going to work he's sneaking women in but never confessed always trying to make me feel like I was going crazy and lying on him until I caught him... we're separated now but emotionally I miss him.. but I can't take the Betrayal and I feel like it makes me look weak and stupid
My husband has cheated since we've been together...on and off. Always denying it until I caught his phone messages. I've talked to others he has talked to . 27 yrs. Why did I stay
Thank u I appreciate u making this video very helpful
Sounds like the same thing I'm going through
I need help. Real help.
To be honest, even searching for videos like this on RUclips makes me feel nauseous.. And it's been 2 and a half years.. I still get triggered by (and suspicious of) lots of little things.. My husband has been remorseful, he ended things with the other women right off (and showed me proof of it) and has been pretty good about listening and feeling empathetic towards my moods/feelings.. However.. There was one woman that I have proof he was sleeping with and quite a few other that he was (at bare minimum) talking inappropriately to.. I am a complete mess still some days.. We have 3 children together, house, pets, blah blah blah.. And I still love him (most days, some days I can hardly look at him).. So I guess my question is this.. Does it matter whether the affair was with 1 person or multiple? Like I said, I don't have proof of the other women, but him sleeping with one of them almost solidifies all of the other ones, in my head, as affairs as well.. Thoughts and/or advice would be greatly appreciated..
Sorry to tell you but he had multiple affairs, other lasted longer than others. Does that thought bring you comfort? To know he is out there living his life like a single guy when you turn your back? He doesn't sound really remorseful. His ego is big. So the problem is big.
I'm glad I'm watching all of these before confronting him that I know...
Yes was helpful
Reverse this, instead of my spouse, it was me... But not a typical affair, nothing like that... I got taken advantage of.. !!! But I told truth . Somehow still think it's my fault, because I shouldn't of got my self in that situation.. to have it happen... But THIS HELPed for me to see what my partner, is feeling , I knew but didn't know if I was doing what I should be, to show how sorry I am.. thank you
❤️ the “Jason and the Argonauts” reference
Well my husbands not remorseful at all hes says hes sorry but AFTERWARDS he says he doesn't care what i do then comes back and say hes sorry again he was with my own cousin a stripper actually and he says he didn't have anything with her but then 7 years past by and he told me on my new year's eve that he was with her..and now he keeps writing letters to me saying hes sorry again but he was with PROSTITUTES too..thats the crap that bothers me he never wants to sit and talk i would listen but he starts to yell..i went to a doctors hes always saying im crazy i lie , im the problem but the problem is i can't lie i don't know how to i know i will get caught in a lie cause i get nervous so why lie then...
Please keep yourself safe.
I’m so sorry that you have had so much pain in your life.
I hope you’re doing better now.
It’s been difficult to make this decision… I said I would give it to the end of the year. We both stepped out of our marriage me 7 years ago 1 night stand, him 6 months 3 different women. He never forgave me and stated I was going to F-u 100 times more. Now he’s says he’s committed to working it out but I’m not sure I can ever get over the fact that this was pay back and was way worse. Also he went looking for an exit clause by looking to see if I was cheating again. Then told me then ran off with whom I call the main one one last time. Then just last week told me he didn’t sleep with her again. Lies lies and more lies. What the hell I’m I suppose to believe. I also found another women he was talking to. I know what all four look like. I know that they all live close. I have 3 children with him. I’m just so sad and don’t know what to do or where I stand anymore in my marriage. I know what I did was wrong and I’ve lived with the guilt all this time but to do it to his level it’s evil. Now when I look back on trips and things we did this whole time I’m disgusted and hurt knowing it was going on while we were on vacation. The texting back and forth the sharing photos. I just don’t know.
Outstanding. You deserve one another and the pain you endure.
He gaslighted me ... saying he was involved with his first girlfriend from HS. His first love. He told me it was an intense emotional affair, until I found pictures of them at our second home! He said nothing happened...lie #1. Okay, they went to bed...in the nude, but nothing happened....yeah, right. Still not sure about that! He swears nothing happened then (twice)! But, there was another bed incident...a year later, he finally confessed he did indeed do the deed with her. Shortly after, I found more evidence of a much more deeper involvement. Much more to the story, still not sure what to do. Both of us are getting help, but he still had contact with her, even though he knew there was not to be ANY contact. How to trust a liar?????
I’m so sorry. I hope you find safety and peace.❤️
Truth is, they need to be transparent. If not, they're being a liar you simply cannot trust a liar.
Hope you left or got even.
You know what else is disgusting? Half of these "heart felt" comments about their situation, but the entirety of the sob story masks the real intention of the post which is pay some random sight money. People are actually going through this shit and dont need you faking a story to try sell your scan services. People are disgusting af.
This is going to be hard to hear. But you went looking for an exit clause and you found one.
That was the exit clause you created it. And now he's done to you what you did to him. And you think it's evil? How do you think he felt when he found out? And that everything he knew and looked back at his past, was a lie.
There is a good punishment for adultery in Islam: Stoning. For married adulters. They shall die, their blood is on them. It is their own fault. This is God's punishment. And God is just.