Setting boundaries is easier when you ask yourself what you will & will not tolerate. After I discovered my unfaithful husband’s affair, I banished him to the guest room. I couldn’t tolerate sleeping in the same room with him knowing how unsafe he became. By unsafe, I mean that his bad choices and confused behaviors showed me that my feelings weren’t a priority to him. I needed my own space to calm down without his constant presence. He dropped his affair partner like a hot potato on D-day, so, I didn’t have to contend with that but my amygdala was in overdrive and I was overwhelmed by fight, flight or freeze! It took many months to regain some of my footing. I did a lot of journaling to come to an understanding of my feelings and having him in the guest room gave me the space to do that.
I'm confused on how this is supposed to work now ..when they didn't respect me enough to consider or inform me that he had destroyed our life and made changes that were permanent. There was a pregnancy that I found out about 2mo. Before she delivered. Why would he respect my boundaries now. They never mattered and won't now that's just common sense
I set boundaries about stripers/clubs/ and porn little did I know he was going behind my back he also had an affair with a friend ( as usual) is saying no friends with the opposite sex is controlling and I got the suspicion that his friends send him pics of nudes. What is to controlling cuz I can’t handle these.
My then boyfriend now husband cheated on me while pregnant. Everything was new. Our relationship was new. Us living together was new and then a baby. I empathized first him know that everything changed so quickly. Being patient and talking was the role I played. I can’t say it worked out like I thought it would however, we are still here.
I don’t get why there aren’t more viewers here.
You present yourself very clearly and effectively.
And you help me.
Thanks 😊
Setting boundaries is easier when you ask yourself what you will & will not tolerate. After I discovered my unfaithful husband’s affair, I banished him to the guest room. I couldn’t tolerate sleeping in the same room with him knowing how unsafe he became. By unsafe, I mean that his bad choices and confused behaviors showed me that my feelings weren’t a priority to him. I needed my own space to calm down without his constant presence. He dropped his affair partner like a hot potato on D-day, so, I didn’t have to contend with that but my amygdala was in overdrive and I was overwhelmed by fight, flight or freeze! It took many months to regain some of my footing. I did a lot of journaling to come to an understanding of my feelings and having him in the guest room gave me the space to do that.
I can totally relate to this @Terry. I had to deal with a couple affairs and a few emotional affairs. It's quite an emotional upheaval.
How'd it work out?
My husband cheated on me. Now after several months still striving to overcome the feelings of anger, pain, loneliness and insecurities.
I'm confused on how this is supposed to work now ..when they didn't respect me enough to consider or inform me that he had destroyed our life and made changes that were permanent. There was a pregnancy that I found out about 2mo. Before she delivered. Why would he respect my boundaries now. They never mattered and won't now that's just common sense
Thank you for this.
Great video ladies
Great video
I hope all of you watching "stand on business" and do exactly what this codeo says for yourself..
I set boundaries about stripers/clubs/ and porn little did I know he was going behind my back he also had an affair with a friend ( as usual) is saying no friends with the opposite sex is controlling and I got the suspicion that his friends send him pics of nudes. What is to controlling cuz I can’t handle these.
How do you survive being cheated on when 20 wks pregnant??????
🥺 I’m going through this now.
My then boyfriend now husband cheated on me while pregnant. Everything was new. Our relationship was new. Us living together was new and then a baby. I empathized first him know that everything changed so quickly. Being patient and talking was the role I played. I can’t say it worked out like I thought it would however, we are still here.