do i have to not have social anxiety to be confident? because as a teenager, everyone around me is judgy,,, "you're so fucking ugly" "girl, yo forehead right now looks HUGE" and idk why but I just crave validation, it makes me feel better about myself.. i have hair JUST like yours but mine is all frizzy and messed up, i always want to straighten mine.... can u help?
I love how she pointed out that God created in a perfect image and calling ourself is basically saying that He's a bad artist and that we are all perfect in His image ❤ Edit:wow 113 likes in one day Thank you guys❤
I'm i the only male that watches alessya?? I mean I know she makes the videos mainly for girls, but I've been watching her for some time and what she has said has really helped me over the past few months
Alessya you should make a Girl Talk series where you just give us advice! (Stuff like relationships, self esteem, body care tips, etc.) That will help a lot of people :))
Real confidence is extremely rare. I'm 34 and I have not even met a handful of them. My boss right now is confident, and magnetic is absolutely a good word. She makes me feel relaxed and better about myself because she feels relaxed and good about herself. Her energy makes me so calm. There is not a hint of arrogance about it, just pure "energy joy".
this girl has been one of my RUclips big sisters from day 1 I love her, anytime I'm feeling down or need a confidence boost I know to watch her and ill be just fine
hi! i don’t know if you’ll see this but you have CHANGED MY LIFE! you’ve made my life so much better by changing my mindset and really helping me get my life together. i used to be a huge bet rot too and would comment on myself every time i look in the mirror and would cover it up with makeup but it would make me feel worse. now i have a healthy body, i wear makeup maybe once a week, i take care of myself, and i found someone who loves me for me and he’s been the light of my life. thank you for being the best influence and inspiration on my life. ❤
I've been ruttin in bed for the last week because of depression and anxiety and i just hated my life and how i look but this video made me get up and work out and do my work just thank you girl you really are my life model
physical confidence: -stop comparing yourself to others and love the way you look -know you're perfect the way you are -attractiveness is subjective -work out -change negative self-talk into positive self-talk social confidence -its not "i know they'll like me" its "it won't bother me if they don't" -don't please others, please yourself -its not others judging you, its you judging yourself -embarrassment is a choice -act like the most confident ver. of yourself would (celebrate other's successes, try to engage in brief convos, stop using self-deprecating language, stop seeking validation, open body language) -start waling into a room like god sent you there (because he DID) -be confident for yourself and not others authentic confidence -trust yourself -be forgiving to yourself -root for yourself -educate yourself (outside school) -don't fear failure -accept your "shadow" self
This video is so good. i am very secure but not always the most confident. I heard this : "confident" has an association of acting or feeling proud of oneself, but "secure" has an association of feeling safe or unthreatened. "confident" often means a feeling that you are satisfied with yourself, but "secure" often refers to a feeling that you are safe where you are.
I really needed this video , i was strting to lose all confidence and i started comparing myself to the other girls but after watching your video i decided to start loving myself
PLEASE GET A POSCAST!!I have 3 brothers, so you are like the older sister I never had!! I’m starting school soon, a new one, and I want to be confident to start over! I don’t want to be know as shy again.
Girl , I really have to thank you , bc you ACTUALLY changed my whole mindset , like before a few months , I felt so bad about my self and I discovered your channel AND IM GLAD!! Thank you for your videos and you are the best!
When I first found your channel a little over a year ago I felt so comfortable "around" you. Because I found your videos I wanted to improve my mental health and start to be a better version of myself❤Thank you for being on this platform and encouraging and helping people 💕💕
i love how you broke down the three different types of confidence and gave examples and life experiences to make them easy to understand! this video was literally the most helpful thing ever. ily alessya ❤
I’m so happy you posted at this time!! Summer is almost ending where I’m going back to my home after visiting the fam in Brazil in 3 days and I feel horrible about myself and everything around me, and your videos always give me that little boost of confidence no matter what type of confidence it is. I hope you continue to post more because I love your videos girl! Have a great rest of your summer! ❤️
I listen to many women, speaking on confidence, making like a pep talk like this and whole lot other things about life and self improvement and i try to be better version of myself, and honestly they do speak good and give advices and but THIS gallll, she really speaks fact and really goes into the depth o the problem and makes me really question myself, "Am i really what i THINK of i am? Or i just think that i am like this" and this really helps me alot to be better instead of saying and affirming shallow thing ls, and i love you for it❤
I've watched and read a lot of videos and books on confidence and I feel like this was literally meant for me. A part of me is so glad that this video took this long to come out because, my brain is more receptive to this information today than it would have been any other day .Girl I love you and if there's a 1000 people that this video moved then I am one of them.
I love watching her videos it makes me feel so good and it makes me feel like I have a big sister to talk to because I am the eldest out of all the little ones so it’s hard but thank you for making amazing content and your beautiful 🤍
You're literally packed with so many truths. I'll take notes and put them into practice to become the most confident person I could be. Let's be brave and confident enough to do what we believe in especially in God. 💗🎀💄
I literally never get on RUclips, mainly because the type of content I like to watch is saturated with so many unrealistic standards. But YOU, you're so honest, smart, and can actually articulate your thoughts so well. I also love you referencing God, keep making these amazing videos! congrats on the new camera btw
This video was my introduction to you & it's as if you magically materialized into my life like some kind of beautiful & majestic guardian angel, saying exactly what I needed to hear at the most crucial point in time. THANK YOU!!! You are absolutely amazing & I'm so goddamn glad that the almighty RUclips algorithm has finally put you in my path☺️ From the very bottom of my heart, I thank you🧡🧡🧡
you are my fav youtuber and i have seen all your videos, after watching your videos i have become a more productive person in the mornings and i am always prepared for the next day thank you so much for being a helpfull person and i also love your hair :)
I just found her channel and i thought it was just another video on confidence but i was sooo wrong. This single video has taught me so much more than any other self - love video i've ever watched. I love the way she speaks too💖💖
LITERALLY!! My social confidence and my looks confidence need a MASSIVE upgrade. Back a few years ago, if anyone hated me I would be really sad, EVEN if I didn't know who the flip they were. And that made me realize, others opinions don't matter of you, only yours does because only YOU know everything about yourself. And about your looks confidence, don't hate or try to change your features, enhance them. You'll know what I mean soon enough.
Hey alessya,I know you prob wont see this but I just wanted to say, you have honestly helped me so much. I found your channel in feb when I was really depressed and was sh really bad. Your videos have helped me so much I really look up to you a lot and because of of you that depressed 13 year old girl from 5 months ago is now a confident about to be 14 year old I love you and your videos so much thank you for helping spread positivity and being honest with your viewers please continue to do what you do p
hi! you may not see this but i just want you to know that you have CHANGED MY LIFE! i’ve been a subscriber for a long time and i am so grateful i found you. i used to be a bed rotter too😂 i would always comment on myself every time i looked in the mirror, eat like crap, and treat myself horribly, but now i have a healthy body, a ton of self confidence, a love for myself and all my flaws, and a special someone who is the best guy i’ve ever met. he really is the biggest light of my life. i’m so happy that i have this new found life all because of you. you really don’t know how much i have changed over the years because of you. i love you so much and i hope you continue to make everyone around you so happy ❤
Ive struggled with confidence since i was 12. I use to have clear skin but now i have so many pimples and blackheads. and when i tell you, I TELL YOU, this queen helped
ahhh i literally love you so so so so sooooo much alessya. you made me feel for nice inside and confident in myself and my body. thank you so much for being the role model every girl in this generation who are going through the harsh expectations of the society need❤
Pookie you are truly the big sister I’ve always needed and wanted. Youve truly helped me find myself for the first time and I was kinda scared to post this comment but I need to take risks. I’ve always been shy and insecure since I was like 6. Thanks to your videos I feel like i can actually learn to love myself. Thank you so much ❤️😋
omg bruh ily sm you helped me with my curl (I HATED THEM AND HAD THE WORST DAMAGE) and now your on a video abt confidence? SIGN ME TF UP BRUH I MISSED YOU TO MUCH
Thank you so much for this!! Remember‼️ Our God was perfect in every way and some people still find something to say about him,and that's on their part. That just proves that they were jealous and insecure. We should learn how to not care about others opinion because people who say bad things about you will not be the people who'll you'll be with when you die, don't let it get to you❤
i use to watch ur old videos on tiktok and now i discovered that youre on RUclipsEE ??? wow! i loved this video SO much. im on the jounrey of loving myself. thank you love 🥹💛
The way I searched for this video on your channel a while ago and you now uploaded it literally brought a smile to my face.🤭 Out of all the other videos on confidence that I have watched none of them really spoke super in-depth about accepting yourself like you did (not to glaze or anything) and I especially enjoyed when you spoke about the difference between 'faking it till you make it' and how that is still putting on a mask on for other people rather than manifesting and saying that you ARE confident TO YOURSELF even if you don't believe it yet. Thanks for making this video Alessya. ❤
Thank you so much for posting this video. My birthday was a day before you posted this, and this feels like a birthday wish for me to be my best self. I have about 23 days before school starts, and I want to become the best version of myself before then. I know it takes time, but I want to be better than I am now. I'm not depressed, and I don't hate myself. I like to think I'm skinny. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I see a beautiful girl staring back at me, and other times I hate the face/body I see. I'm 104 lbs. Some think it's unhealthy, but I think my weight is reasonable. I don't care about losing weight, but I want to lose body fat and gain muscles, especially in the abs. A couple years ago, I started stretching a lot. I didn't improve very fast or a lot, but I did improve some. I really wanted to become a figure skater (even though I was 13 and had never stepped on ice) at the time. I stuck with it for at least 2-3 months. I thought I should have seen more of an improvement than I did, but maybe I just wasn't doing enough. Stretching was uncomfortable, and I don't like doing it. However I feel good afterwards. I felt motivated at the time. However, once I told my parents about my dream, they completely shut it down, for various reasons (time, money, no health insurance, etc.). I was crushed, and I lost all motivation to stretch. A few days later I picked it up again, but I never did it consistently afterwards. Later that year, I was introduced to K-Pop by a friend, and have liked it ever since. I realized I really want to be a singer/dancer/idol, as I have always loved music, and have subconsciously been creating my own tunes and songs. I picked up stretching and exercise, but have been lazy, and always lost motivation after missing a day. I was never consistent. Recently, I made some online friends. However, I feel I am projecting a version of myself that will attract friends and make them think I'm better than I actually am. I'm not entirely being my true self with them. I also made a few real-life friends from my language class, one of whom I communicate with regularly. She is really nice, and I know she won't judge me. However I still feel I am holding back from being my true self with her, even though we only chat over text. One of the other friends I made is pretty. That is the main reason I wanted to be her friend in the first place, no matter how shallow that is. I feel all of us make friends based on appearances at first, since we rarely know someone's true personality before getting to know them. Anyways, I tried to be friends with this pretty girl. We are friends now. However, she is aloof and only close with people who have phones. Sometimes I feel she isn't close with me because I have mild acne and am a walking fashion disaster with only 4 outfits in my wardrobe, if you can even call it that. She has told me a couple times that I'm cool, and we should hang out. I'm not sure if this is just me thinking that she might be thinking that. Earlier this year, I started doing an ab workout. It was simple, and took less than 10 minutes. I did it everyday, and it was the only 'exercise' I got. Maybe this was my first mistake. I did it consistently, but never saw significant results, which severely discouraged me, and I lost touch. About 10-15 days ago, I registered for school (10th grade). I have been homeschooled my entire life, so I never had friends. (I know I just wrote an entire paragraph on friends, but I feel as though no-one really knows me, not even my parents. I don't have a best friend.) I have wanted to become fit, look pretty, and be the best version of me for a while, but I'm lazy and just never do it. However, this has motivated me (somewhat) to exercise and get a good skincare routine. I always imagine myself as this pretty, confident, smart, successful idol that is famous and has true friends, and I want to be that girl. I'm confident when I'm alone in a room, as long as I don't look in the mirror (cuz I look weird imagining stuff lol). But when I'm outside, especially with people my age, I seem to lose all confidence. I think it's because of my body and the way I'm dressed. Hopefully I can change this soon. I am going to start a 30-min workout, a better ab workout, a 2 mile walk, and a 40 min bike ride tomorrow. (I'm probably overestimating myself, but I'll try :)) I am also going to start using rice water and a rice face mask, as you said in one of your previous videos. Hopefully this works and boosts my confidence. My parents severely dislike my liking for fashion and appearance. I don't overdo it, but I want to look good. My parents think I shouldn't waste my time on things like that. I want to wear crop tops, shorts, mini skirts, minidresses, etc., but my parents do not want me to. I'm planning on sewing a new wardrobe for myself before school starts, even though I know that is a lot of work and I have limited time. But buying stuff is expensive :) I definitely care about what others think of me more than I should. I want to excel in my studies and be the class topper (even though I have a love-hate relationship with it), have many friends, win competitions, be popular, pretty, successful, famous, confident, etc. But I'm scared people are going to think I'm showing off. I'm scared people will call me a nerd, especially since I wear glasses (I think they're stylish). I'm scared I won't be able to make friends, especially because my parents are pretty close-minded about what I wear, etc., and because my parents don't want me to give contact information to friends. I'm scared I won't be popular. I don't want to be the odd one out, or get bullied. I'm scared I won't be the version of me I want to be before school starts. I'm scared that going to school will be a waste because none of the reasons I want to go to school will come true. I think I have a positive attitude, despite the self-deprecating rant that I just wrote. I'm a pretty smiley person, and I'm genuinely happy, even though I don't fully love myself. Hopefully I will become my dream version soon. (Funny how I just wrote a pep talk earlier today, and I'm writing this now :) I will try my best to keep my promises to myself, and build true self-confidence as you have said. I don't know why I'm writing this, when you're probably not going to see this, (even though I hope you will) but hopefully this helps someone. And I'm not complaining about my life either, because there are so many people who have much worse problems than me. I do have a good life. I had the best childhood I could ask for. But I just wish my parents would be a bit more supportive of what I like and what I want to be. Alessya, you are amazing. I just discovered you today, and I really love your channel. And your girl talk video is really helpful! It motivates me! I would love to see more! Fore anyone who's actually read this entire depressing anecdote, I hope you become confident, and succeed in life. If you put in the hard work, and believe in yourself, nothing is impossible. You can do it. School is starting soon, and I've heard many people complaining about it. Don't hate school, you can meet your friends there! And I know it's very frustrating when you don't understand things, but it pays off to study. (I'm kind of a hypocrite to write that when I don't have the most upbeat attitude when it comes to studies, and I haven't been to school yet, but I'll say it anyway. To myself too.) If changing yourself all at once is too hard, as @meimonte said, do 1% better each day, and eventually you'll see a huge difference. Work hard. Believe in yourself. "The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you've come." -BTS. As BTS Jungkook said, "Effort makes you, you will regret someday if you don't do your best now." Keep that in mind and do your best in everything. Nothing is impossible! You are beautiful, and you are capable! You can do it! Be the best version of yourself! Love yourself! PS: I just looked over this and realized I wrote a LOT :)
That "do you clench you ass cheeks when you focus?" is so real!! omg I'm wheezin coz I literally thought to myself earlier on when I was doing it,"do other people do this,am I the only that does this?"❤
I am so grateful that I found your videos. I’m in my 30s and have been coming out of survival mode for years, your videos have been helping me break through more than ever. I never would’ve thought that RUclips videos would be such an inspiration, but here we are! You are wise beyond your years. Thank you for what you do. 🫶🏼
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Hi I’m 11, can u do a video of going into 6th I’m kinda scared so pleaseeeee I love you so much !
mind if you spill the workout routine? i literally need improvement on my body!! ❤
@@_f0lkl0re ya i think we need a workout routine
do i have to not have social anxiety to be confident? because as a teenager, everyone around me is judgy,,, "you're so fucking ugly" "girl, yo forehead right now looks HUGE" and idk why but I just crave validation, it makes me feel better about myself.. i have hair JUST like yours but mine is all frizzy and messed up, i always want to straighten mine.... can u help?
"calling yourself ugly is like calling God a bad artist" oh she gagged everyone with that line
Wdym by gagged?
@@Itsive247made everyone understand basically
@notg8od OH yeah! Srry I'm kinda slow😭
Yea
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I love how she pointed out that God created in a perfect image and calling ourself is basically saying that He's a bad artist and that we are all perfect in His image ❤
Edit:wow 113 likes in one day Thank you guys❤
As a Muslim that's what we always say and that what we believe in
As a Christian same we love to see it, God Bless sister
@@ameliagaska1462 🤍🤍
I don't even believe in God but its a beautiful message to share
Wake up lil sisters, BIG SIS IS BACKKKKK🎀
SHE'S BACKKK😛
🎉🎉🎉
Yeeesss🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I always feel good with her vids. Thank you sis.
I feel you feel me😂❤❤❤❤❤
I'm i the only male that watches alessya?? I mean I know she makes the videos mainly for girls, but I've been watching her for some time and what she has said has really helped me over the past few months
Alessya you should make a Girl Talk series where you just give us advice! (Stuff like relationships, self esteem, body care tips, etc.) That will help a lot of people :))
GIRL TALK WOULD BE SO GOOD AS A PODCAST OMDS
Yess!
I've never been earlier to a video in my life
Me too 😭😭😭(i think)
SamEe I hope so😂
Same
THE TIMING IS CRAZY😭🎀
I WAS LEGIT ABOUT TO SAY THAT 😭
OH FR SHE HAS NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS RIGHT NOW
I KNOOWW I NEEDED THIS SO BAD
Real confidence is extremely rare. I'm 34 and I have not even met a handful of them. My boss right now is confident, and magnetic is absolutely a good word. She makes me feel relaxed and better about myself because she feels relaxed and good about herself. Her energy makes me so calm. There is not a hint of arrogance about it, just pure "energy joy".
this is exactly what subliminals are good for, reinforcing certain ideas/beliefs like " i am already confident", that's my tip of the day
OKAYYY IMMEDIATELY SUBBED WHEN U STARTED PREACHING SIS!!! "That's like calling God a bad artist" was such a fire line. You did that.
this girl has been one of my RUclips big sisters from day 1 I love her, anytime I'm feeling down or need a confidence boost I know to watch her and ill be just fine
omg bae that makes me so happy🥹❤️
THE WAY I SCREAMEDDDD WHEN I GOT THE NOTIFICATIONNN
SAMEEE
LMAOO ILY
@@alessyafarrugiaomggg mommy replied😭😭😭😭😭 ILY MOREEEE
HELPP SAME I'VE BEEN WAITING
hi! i don’t know if you’ll see this but you have CHANGED MY LIFE! you’ve made my life so much better by changing my mindset and really helping me get my life together. i used to be a huge bet rot too and would comment on myself every time i look in the mirror and would cover it up with makeup but it would make me feel worse. now i have a healthy body, i wear makeup maybe once a week, i take care of myself, and i found someone who loves me for me and he’s been the light of my life. thank you for being the best influence and inspiration on my life. ❤
Only girl youtuber I watch as a male lmao. Wish you all the success!
holy crap i used to watch you wow. i feel old
@gr4ce..m me too omg
Girl do you have a podcast if you don’t you need one… PLEASE GET ONE IF YOU DONTTT I NEED ITT
Today I got to know how it feels being faster than the speed of light 🙃🌸🌸
the video made me giggle and feel so comfortable in living in the present moment without feeling the uncomfortable feeling of unease
8:11 THE WAY I FREAKING GASPED
Frrr sleeper build
Ong that was so cool
I LOVE THESE SIT DOWN TALK VIDEOS SM THEY GIVE ME SM COMFORT ILYSM
gurl i can literally listen you talk for the rest of my life!!!
I've been ruttin in bed for the last week because of depression and anxiety and i just hated my life and how i look but this video made me get up and work out and do my work just thank you girl you really are my life model
Girl I missed you, you made my morning once I seen this.
14:18 help i literally thought my headphones stopped working 😭😭
physical confidence:
-stop comparing yourself to others and love the way you look
-know you're perfect the way you are
-attractiveness is subjective
-work out
-change negative self-talk into positive self-talk
social confidence
-its not "i know they'll like me" its "it won't bother me if they don't"
-don't please others, please yourself
-its not others judging you, its you judging yourself
-embarrassment is a choice
-act like the most confident ver. of yourself would (celebrate other's successes, try to engage in brief convos, stop using self-deprecating language, stop seeking validation, open body language)
-start waling into a room like god sent you there (because he DID)
-be confident for yourself and not others
authentic confidence
-trust yourself
-be forgiving to yourself
-root for yourself
-educate yourself (outside school)
-don't fear failure
-accept your "shadow" self
you are so beautiful! one hearted comment from you would make me so so so happy! ❤
GOD KNOWS HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS I REALLY HATED MY NOSE MY WHOLE LIFW THANK YOU FOR BEING OUR STANDARD ILYSM
i love your personality so much, ughhhhhh. Being gorgeous is just a bonus.
This video is so good. i am very secure but not always the most confident. I heard this : "confident" has an association of acting or feeling proud of oneself, but "secure" has an association of feeling safe or unthreatened. "confident" often means a feeling that you are satisfied with yourself, but "secure" often refers to a feeling that you are safe where you are.
I really needed this video , i was strting to lose all confidence and i started comparing myself to the other girls but after watching your video i decided to start loving myself
PLEASE GET A POSCAST!!I have 3 brothers, so you are like the older sister I never had!! I’m starting school soon, a new one, and I want to be confident to start over! I don’t want to be know as shy again.
Girl , I really have to thank you , bc you ACTUALLY changed my whole mindset , like before a few months , I felt so bad about my self and I discovered your channel AND IM GLAD!! Thank you for your videos and you are the best!
I used to HATE my forehead because I thought it was huge, but now I've grown to love it because it's part of who I am, and how God created me
When I first found your channel a little over a year ago I felt so comfortable "around" you. Because I found your videos I wanted to improve my mental health and start to be a better version of myself❤Thank you for being on this platform and encouraging and helping people 💕💕
I NEVER CLICKED ON A VIDEO SO FAST IN MY LIFE. I LOVE YOU GIRL ❤
Why am I starting to be more confident, I love you . Your voice and confidence heals ❤
Tbh..i tell myself i look good but really my braindoes not agree,this helped me soooo muchhh
SHE IS STUNNING OMFGGG 🩰🩰
I love the ballet slippers 😭
1:59 love the sit down videos
I LOVE these sitting down girl talk videos. I like to listen to them while I’m heading to and from the gym.
GIRL YOUR HAIR HAS BEEN LOOKING SO GOOD RECENTLY
i love how you broke down the three different types of confidence and gave examples and life experiences to make them easy to understand! this video was literally the most helpful thing ever. ily alessya ❤
I’m so happy you posted at this time!! Summer is almost ending where I’m going back to my home after visiting the fam in Brazil in 3 days and I feel horrible about myself and everything around me, and your videos always give me that little boost of confidence no matter what type of confidence it is. I hope you continue to post more because I love your videos girl! Have a great rest of your summer! ❤️
I listen to many women, speaking on confidence, making like a pep talk like this and whole lot other things about life and self improvement and i try to be better version of myself, and honestly they do speak good and give advices and but THIS gallll, she really speaks fact and really goes into the depth o the problem and makes me really question myself, "Am i really what i THINK of i am? Or i just think that i am like this" and this really helps me alot to be better instead of saying and affirming shallow thing ls, and i love you for it❤
we love the sit down videos 🌸❤️🫧
I've watched and read a lot of videos and books on confidence and I feel like this was literally meant for me. A part of me is so glad that this video took this long to come out because, my brain is more receptive to this information today than it would have been any other day .Girl I love you and if there's a 1000 people that this video moved then I am one of them.
You make me feel like I'm the best ever! I've been slowly improving myself for a year now. Thank you girl! I'm so happy when you post a new video🤍🥺
Girl your timing is literally perfect
Girl, you're amazing! Thank you, I've been searching for a GENUINE video on confidence, love you queen 👑💖
she is literally saving me rn bro
ONG ALESSYA YOU DONT KNOW HOW MUCH I MISSED YOUR LONG VIDEOS❤👑✨️
I love watching her videos it makes me feel so good and it makes me feel like I have a big sister to talk to because I am the eldest out of all the little ones so it’s hard but thank you for making amazing content and your beautiful 🤍
Love you and yes that quote that God placed me in that room is super essential to my confidence now.
You're literally packed with so many truths. I'll take notes and put them into practice to become the most confident person I could be. Let's be brave and confident enough to do what we believe in especially in God. 💗🎀💄
GIRLIES WAKE UP CAUSE OUR BEAUTY QUEEN HAS POSTEDDDDDD❤❤☺️😊 ( love your beauty tips💅)
I literally never get on RUclips, mainly because the type of content I like to watch is saturated with so many unrealistic standards. But YOU, you're so honest, smart, and can actually articulate your thoughts so well. I also love you referencing God, keep making these amazing videos! congrats on the new camera btw
omg i feel like i needed this video!! i've been trying to find my confidence but it's genuinely so difficult :( thank you for posting this
This video was my introduction to you & it's as if you magically materialized into my life like some kind of beautiful & majestic guardian angel, saying exactly what I needed to hear at the most crucial point in time. THANK YOU!!! You are absolutely amazing & I'm so goddamn glad that the almighty RUclips algorithm has finally put you in my path☺️ From the very bottom of my heart, I thank you🧡🧡🧡
alyssa I just wanna say you are absolutely gorgeous and beautiful!! and thank you for making me feel gorgeous 💗
you’re such a queen!!
you are my fav youtuber and i have seen all your videos, after watching your videos i have become a more productive person in the mornings and i am always prepared for the next day thank you so much for being a helpfull person and i also love your hair :)
I just found her channel and i thought it was just another video on confidence but i was sooo wrong. This single video has taught me so much more than any other self - love video i've ever watched. I love the way she speaks too💖💖
LITERALLY!! My social confidence and my looks confidence need a MASSIVE upgrade. Back a few years ago, if anyone hated me I would be really sad, EVEN if I didn't know who the flip they were. And that made me realize, others opinions don't matter of you, only yours does because only YOU know everything about yourself. And about your looks confidence, don't hate or try to change your features, enhance them. You'll know what I mean soon enough.
YESSSS FINALLYYYYY THEE QUEENN IS BACKK!!!! AND THANK GOODNESS I OPENED YT NOW.......THANKSS ALOTT FOR THIS VIDEOO!!!!💗💗🎀🎀✨✨
Guys i have officially watched every one of my big sisters videos ❤
Hey alessya,I know you prob wont see this but I just wanted to say, you have honestly helped me so much. I found your channel in feb when I was really depressed and was sh really bad. Your videos have helped me so much I really look up to you a lot and because of of you that depressed 13 year old girl from 5 months ago is now a confident about to be 14 year old I love you and your videos so much thank you for helping spread positivity and being honest with your viewers please continue to do what you do p
hi! you may not see this but i just want you to know that you have CHANGED MY LIFE! i’ve been a subscriber for a long time and i am so grateful i found you. i used to be a bed rotter too😂 i would always comment on myself every time i looked in the mirror, eat like crap, and treat myself horribly, but now i have a healthy body, a ton of self confidence, a love for myself and all my flaws, and a special someone who is the best guy i’ve ever met. he really is the biggest light of my life. i’m so happy that i have this new found life all because of you. you really don’t know how much i have changed over the years because of you. i love you so much and i hope you continue to make everyone around you so happy ❤
Ive struggled with confidence since i was 12. I use to have clear skin but now i have so many pimples and blackheads. and when i tell you, I TELL YOU, this queen helped
Alessya came in clutch when we need her fr
LOVE THE WAY YOU EXPLAIN EVERYTHING SO WELL!!
I literally need a summary note page of her videos because there is SO much good info in her vids xxx
ahhh i literally love you so so so so sooooo much alessya. you made me feel for nice inside and confident in myself and my body. thank you so much for being the role model every girl in this generation who are going through the harsh expectations of the society need❤
You couldn’t have posted this video at a better time for me, also your talking speed is PERFECT 👌
WAKE UP GUYS THE QUEEEN HAS POSTED!!! ❤
Pookie you are truly the big sister I’ve always needed and wanted. Youve truly helped me find myself for the first time and I was kinda scared to post this comment but I need to take risks. I’ve always been shy and insecure since I was like 6. Thanks to your videos I feel like i can actually learn to love myself. Thank you so much ❤️😋
alessya YOU’RE GLOWING ILY
omg bruh ily sm you helped me with my curl (I HATED THEM AND HAD THE WORST DAMAGE) and now your on a video abt confidence? SIGN ME TF UP BRUH I MISSED YOU TO MUCH
I love this video so much being confident is important for us to build on ourselves and also being forgiven and grateful for who we are. ❤
thank you so much alessya, i took notes of EVERYTHING. I love you
alessya you don't understand how much I love you
Thank you so much for this!!
Remember‼️
Our God was perfect in every way and some people still find something to say about him,and that's on their part. That just proves that they were jealous and insecure. We should learn how to not care about others opinion because people who say bad things about you will not be the people who'll you'll be with when you die, don't let it get to you❤
i use to watch ur old videos on tiktok and now i discovered that youre on RUclipsEE ??? wow! i loved this video SO much. im on the jounrey of loving myself. thank you love 🥹💛
The way I searched for this video on your channel a while ago and you now uploaded it literally brought a smile to my face.🤭
Out of all the other videos on confidence that I have watched none of them really spoke super in-depth about accepting yourself like you did (not to glaze or anything) and I especially enjoyed when you spoke about the difference between 'faking it till you make it' and how that is still putting on a mask on for other people rather than manifesting and saying that you ARE confident TO YOURSELF even if you don't believe it yet.
Thanks for making this video Alessya. ❤
listening to this while i clean brought me TO LIFE ✨
GIRL HOW TF CAN U BE SO PERFECT?
Anywas,your Videos are the BEST,they motivate me SO MUCH
I mean,without you i will be 💀☠️
Love uuuuu
the editing and cinematography is impressive and aspirational
Thank you so much for posting this video. My birthday was a day before you posted this, and this feels like a birthday wish for me to be my best self.
I have about 23 days before school starts, and I want to become the best version of myself before then. I know it takes time, but I want to be better than I am now. I'm not depressed, and I don't hate myself. I like to think I'm skinny. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I see a beautiful girl staring back at me, and other times I hate the face/body I see. I'm 104 lbs. Some think it's unhealthy, but I think my weight is reasonable. I don't care about losing weight, but I want to lose body fat and gain muscles, especially in the abs.
A couple years ago, I started stretching a lot. I didn't improve very fast or a lot, but I did improve some. I really wanted to become a figure skater (even though I was 13 and had never stepped on ice) at the time. I stuck with it for at least 2-3 months. I thought I should have seen more of an improvement than I did, but maybe I just wasn't doing enough. Stretching was uncomfortable, and I don't like doing it. However I feel good afterwards. I felt motivated at the time. However, once I told my parents about my dream, they completely shut it down, for various reasons (time, money, no health insurance, etc.). I was crushed, and I lost all motivation to stretch. A few days later I picked it up again, but I never did it consistently afterwards.
Later that year, I was introduced to K-Pop by a friend, and have liked it ever since. I realized I really want to be a singer/dancer/idol, as I have always loved music, and have subconsciously been creating my own tunes and songs. I picked up stretching and exercise, but have been lazy, and always lost motivation after missing a day. I was never consistent.
Recently, I made some online friends. However, I feel I am projecting a version of myself that will attract friends and make them think I'm better than I actually am. I'm not entirely being my true self with them. I also made a few real-life friends from my language class, one of whom I communicate with regularly. She is really nice, and I know she won't judge me. However I still feel I am holding back from being my true self with her, even though we only chat over text. One of the other friends I made is pretty. That is the main reason I wanted to be her friend in the first place, no matter how shallow that is. I feel all of us make friends based on appearances at first, since we rarely know someone's true personality before getting to know them. Anyways, I tried to be friends with this pretty girl. We are friends now. However, she is aloof and only close with people who have phones. Sometimes I feel she isn't close with me because I have mild acne and am a walking fashion disaster with only 4 outfits in my wardrobe, if you can even call it that. She has told me a couple times that I'm cool, and we should hang out. I'm not sure if this is just me thinking that she might be thinking that.
Earlier this year, I started doing an ab workout. It was simple, and took less than 10 minutes. I did it everyday, and it was the only 'exercise' I got. Maybe this was my first mistake. I did it consistently, but never saw significant results, which severely discouraged me, and I lost touch. About 10-15 days ago, I registered for school (10th grade). I have been homeschooled my entire life, so I never had friends. (I know I just wrote an entire paragraph on friends, but I feel as though no-one really knows me, not even my parents. I don't have a best friend.) I have wanted to become fit, look pretty, and be the best version of me for a while, but I'm lazy and just never do it. However, this has motivated me (somewhat) to exercise and get a good skincare routine. I always imagine myself as this pretty, confident, smart, successful idol that is famous and has true friends, and I want to be that girl. I'm confident when I'm alone in a room, as long as I don't look in the mirror (cuz I look weird imagining stuff lol). But when I'm outside, especially with people my age, I seem to lose all confidence. I think it's because of my body and the way I'm dressed. Hopefully I can change this soon.
I am going to start a 30-min workout, a better ab workout, a 2 mile walk, and a 40 min bike ride tomorrow. (I'm probably overestimating myself, but I'll try :)) I am also going to start using rice water and a rice face mask, as you said in one of your previous videos. Hopefully this works and boosts my confidence.
My parents severely dislike my liking for fashion and appearance. I don't overdo it, but I want to look good. My parents think I shouldn't waste my time on things like that. I want to wear crop tops, shorts, mini skirts, minidresses, etc., but my parents do not want me to. I'm planning on sewing a new wardrobe for myself before school starts, even though I know that is a lot of work and I have limited time. But buying stuff is expensive :)
I definitely care about what others think of me more than I should. I want to excel in my studies and be the class topper (even though I have a love-hate relationship with it), have many friends, win competitions, be popular, pretty, successful, famous, confident, etc. But I'm scared people are going to think I'm showing off. I'm scared people will call me a nerd, especially since I wear glasses (I think they're stylish). I'm scared I won't be able to make friends, especially because my parents are pretty close-minded about what I wear, etc., and because my parents don't want me to give contact information to friends. I'm scared I won't be popular. I don't want to be the odd one out, or get bullied. I'm scared I won't be the version of me I want to be before school starts. I'm scared that going to school will be a waste because none of the reasons I want to go to school will come true.
I think I have a positive attitude, despite the self-deprecating rant that I just wrote. I'm a pretty smiley person, and I'm genuinely happy, even though I don't fully love myself. Hopefully I will become my dream version soon. (Funny how I just wrote a pep talk earlier today, and I'm writing this now :)
I will try my best to keep my promises to myself, and build true self-confidence as you have said. I don't know why I'm writing this, when you're probably not going to see this, (even though I hope you will) but hopefully this helps someone. And I'm not complaining about my life either, because there are so many people who have much worse problems than me. I do have a good life. I had the best childhood I could ask for. But I just wish my parents would be a bit more supportive of what I like and what I want to be.
Alessya, you are amazing. I just discovered you today, and I really love your channel. And your girl talk video is really helpful! It motivates me! I would love to see more!
Fore anyone who's actually read this entire depressing anecdote, I hope you become confident, and succeed in life. If you put in the hard work, and believe in yourself, nothing is impossible. You can do it. School is starting soon, and I've heard many people complaining about it. Don't hate school, you can meet your friends there! And I know it's very frustrating when you don't understand things, but it pays off to study. (I'm kind of a hypocrite to write that when I don't have the most upbeat attitude when it comes to studies, and I haven't been to school yet, but I'll say it anyway. To myself too.) If changing yourself all at once is too hard, as @meimonte said, do 1% better each day, and eventually you'll see a huge difference. Work hard. Believe in yourself. "The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you've come." -BTS. As BTS Jungkook said, "Effort makes you, you will regret someday if you don't do your best now." Keep that in mind and do your best in everything. Nothing is impossible! You are beautiful, and you are capable! You can do it! Be the best version of yourself! Love yourself!
PS: I just looked over this and realized I wrote a LOT :)
i rlly hope she knows how much her words improve my day to day life. props to u bb hope the best for u
You should make a Podcast!!! The way you speak, humour, voice is perfect
I just am learning about alessya, and now i’m fully subscribed.♥️
Your videos are like therapy for me,i feel really good after watching them , please be consistent on RUclips, you're my favourite youtuber🥺♥️
Amazing. This is the energy, and yes something a lot of girls should hear! I know it helped me.
girrrrrrrrl i've ben waiting for his video for ever i literally do my skincare with your videos
That "do you clench you ass cheeks when you focus?" is so real!! omg I'm wheezin coz I literally thought to myself earlier on when I was doing it,"do other people do this,am I the only that does this?"❤
STAWPPPP I WAS LITERALLY WAITING FOR HER VLOG LIKE PLS IM ABOUTA CRY THANK GOD U POSTEDDDD😭😭😭💗💗
I am so grateful that I found your videos. I’m in my 30s and have been coming out of survival mode for years, your videos have been helping me break through more than ever. I never would’ve thought that RUclips videos would be such an inspiration, but here we are! You are wise beyond your years. Thank you for what you do. 🫶🏼
1:33 crying and trying to NOT KILL my self feeling lost and mad at my self for being a such useless person
😢😢do not take deep breath ❤❤
Thank you for your videos 🤍🤗 I’ve been on a journey of healing and changing my mindset. The timing of this being uploaded is amazing 😭🙏 God Bless
Okay, i almost cry.
I have no words to express the way that this video helped me. Love u so much Aleee❤❤😭😭
Thank you sooooooooooo much for this video. You stopped filming for two months and you got stronger
I needed this video so bad right now thank you ❤😊
Before this video, i thought that im not even close to being confident, but recognition hit me from the tips you(she)gave us❤