For 10 years I levelled up in engineering and realised I made a terrible mistake in my early 30s. Swallowed my pride and now I'm a 2nd year med student. Anything is possible, friends.
I had a bachelor in industrial design, but worked for five years in the construction business as a project engineer. Took my masters in Industrial design, and now I'm working with service and product design directed towards construction. Your engineering skills and technical experience can put you at a huge advantage when working with equipment and prosedures. Need to rebuild a leg? Your working with titanium, nuts and bolts.
Yes I am 29 and stopped caring as well about being a virgin or never being in a sirous relationship I just like being in my own world safe from all the noise thats definitely som i treasure more then a possible broken heartfrom some girl lol
Almost 25. Feeling a little bit like garbage, specially since the start of the pandemic I set up a list of goals and didn't achieve anything, not even playing videogames. But yes, if don't keep trying it will be worst.
@@simonshura9144 I don’t think you understood the point. The point isn’t to just look on the bright side of your perceived failures. The point is to look at it like you can only improve from here and not to worry about what happened in the past. Honestly just seems like you’re justifying not putting yourself out there by saying “hey at least I have time to focus on myself and my heart’s not getting broken”. Not the point at all
@@simonshura9144 I spent so much time stressing about something like this in my mid 20's. Anything long term felt impossible to me. After I basically "gave up" and started just focusing on myself, my own health and happiness, a couple years down the line I find myself in the perfect relationship that I was never looking for. Married for some time now. In many ways the over obsessiveness over my inadequacy prevented me from being my 100%. Definitely best to not let it consume you. Zero gain. Live well, man.
"I'm 24 and it's too late." Dude, I'm 34 and just starting to get back on track. It is NEVER too late, what you're doing is giving yourself an excuse. My mom didn't start her dream job as a personal trainer until she was 62, she's almost 70 and loving it (and in better shape than most 20 year olds).
@@KingDavi1998 yes, definitely, if you have the means and ability. But there's never really a "too late" for education -- I went to a college where many of my classmates were in their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
@@KingDavi1998 I actually went to college at 23 and it was definitely worth doing! The key was finding the right course for me - if you're not sure, don't feel bad about waiting longer. You've got all the time in the world.
Highly recommend the book “level up your life” it’s a self help book that breaks down this very concept. Applying gamer terms to everyday skills, and training your brain to want to level up those stats in real life.
Really enjoy this suggestion man. Not sure on the details of the book but I personally use a Dungeons and Dragons character sheet as my self image, then I apply the basic six stats to how they'd fit in a high school setting. Strength, is for lifting weights before and your physical ability during a sport. Dexterity, is making quick athletic plays/having a flexible body to perform multiple tasks. Constitution, is your bodies strength at birth. (Example, I had decent strength and dex as a dude but I was born allergy related asthmatic. No matter how good my strength and dex are, my bodies natural rise is limited by my below average Constitution from birth.) Intelligence, is how well you perform on tests and your information retention. Wisdom, is the extrapolation of information. So being able to see the overlaps between information. I.e., taking simpler math to make difficult science courses easier. Charisma, your ability to communicate yourself alongside others. These can be vague and I definitely didn't use the best examples for each one. But connecting who you were to your peers back then through these concepts will help give you an image of yourself now and also those around you. All this to say, my Charisma and Constitution were abysmal when I was in high school. Once I started focusing on my strength though, Wisdom, I become confident in my day to day so I could work on my weaknesses through my strength. We all have our strengths, we all fit a trope. Don't be afraid to lean into the trope of who you are so you can become who you know you can become. We got this boys and girls
"The nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." -Thucydides
@@lonelystoner8594 I think it's like this: Scholars are good at thinking but not at fighting hence "Thinking done by cowards", Warriors are good at fighting but not at thinking hence "Fighting done by fools"
if you've ever thought it's too late, please be aware the creator of the game Stardew Valley taught himself C+ while working a basic job at a movie theater and made that game entirely alone It's literally a matter of how much you want to do something
@@SultanRayko You gotta fix your dopamine, since it's the thing that makes you *crave* things. I recommend you check out Andrew Huberman if you wanna learn about it :)
14:24 The 3 Core Skills That Increase All of Your Stats Across the Board: - How to learn - How to communicate - How to find motivation *Note: Requires "deliberate practice" in each domain. (I've got the first 2 down. This helped me clarify I really need to *master* the third one.)
I think when Dr. K said, “the reality is, in 4 years I’m gonna be 32 either way, the question is do I want to be 32 with an MD or without one?” Something clicked for me. I’ve never thought about it like that before.
First job at 20. Got my drivers license at 21. GED at 24. Didn’t start college or have my first date until I was 25. First boyfriend at 28. Graduated and married at 30. Didn’t start my career until I was 33. Now single and dating at 36. Still no kids and not by choice. Yet I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life because I’m finally living it instead of wishing what could have been.
Yes actually. It’s been a little over a year and a half since I posted this. I was focused on a goal of dating lots of people, determined not to take so long to find a life partner as I did the first time around. A couple months after this comment I met a guy with three kids who happened to be the age that they would be if I had kids when I intended to. So far all signs are pointing to a life long partner. It’s like my life got off on the slow side of a racetrack and then I got mushroom that boosted me through a shortcut back to second place.
My brother ended up doing the same (not really sure I'd say he was ever an addict though) now he's doing a masters in Games Design and he's very very good at it. I tried following the same path since we both played and still play a lot of games but it didn't stick with me, I still finished the college course though. I'm still finding my own path, but I think it'll be something to do with computers. Well done though man, congrats on finding something you enjoy.
@@umiluv good for you man. I did the reverse lol. I started in art and game design, and transitioned away. Luckily our neurons can move and rearrange in no-time, so we can adapt and change to anything. Games help that ability, especially when you play new games with new rules regularly. Helps your workforce adaptability.
Programming/game dev is probably the single best option for game addicts to go into. Because you already know more than most about how to get around on a computer and research everything. It's mostly math, but math is boring at school, fun in programming
There's a catch though. Probably a lot of us fall under the category "jack of all trades, master of none". Yes, it's true that there are limitless amounts of skill points, but it gets tougher to level skills up; keeping the videogame analogy, first skills need 1 skill point, but then mastering the skills starts to require more. Therefore, it makes life geared towards being a jack of all trades, as it is easier and honestly it looks more appealing to start learning a new skill that becoming *really* good at one or two - however most successful people are masters of their craft, they chose those one or two skills and keep maxing them out every day
@@NCapo20 yes, that's true! I guess it's up to everyone: being a jack of all trades comes with the passive "know a little bit of everything" which has it's uses sometimes
Most successful people I met have 1-2 main passions (job, phd, sport etc) and supplement the remainder of their time with minor tasks (reading, instrument, meditating etc). Seems the most optimal for our society.
Jack of all trades is one of the best features in DnD tho in my opinion, and irl too it's more of an ability to be versatile than a wrong build that makes it harder to level up. More like we are so used to being level 7 in something, that when we need to learn a new skill and start from scratch, we get overwhelmed by the difficulty of it. Not to mention that the phrase itself has history of going from compliment to insult to compliment again.
See I got a debuff when I was born called [ADHD] after being put in the [autistic] class which means most of my stats are either really nerfed (the [social] skill tree for example, which I rely on my [intelligence] stat to compensate for) or entirely out of my control (the [executive function] stat for example). This doesn't mean I don't try, I recently saw a member of the psychiatrist clan who gave me the questline to get the [adderall] potion which greatly improves the [executive function] stat for a brief period of time. Everyone has to do what they can to improve their build, but it's very important to be mindful that not everyone has the currency or [charisma] stat and might need help from other players.
same story, except I can't afford medication, my country doesn't allow adderall, I don't know how to get a diagnosis and when I asked on my country's subreddit I got called an addict who wants drugs. I'm self medicating with caffeine, working out and masturbation for now, so I can focus a liiiittle tiny bit on learning web development.
ADHD is a different class, not debuff. The reason you think it is is because modern life is heavily optimized in favor of most other classes than ADHD, so you need to optimize your gameplay beyond the commonly known Playstyles to not only make it, but seriously make it big. It's a specialist class in modern society
@@BusinessWolf1 Stiu ce spui, bro. Exact acelasi lucru l-am patit si eu pe reddit romania. Nu inteleg de ce toata lumea te ia la ras cand pui o simpla intrebare. In any case, la fel ca tine si eu am inceput sa abuzez de cafea. Cred ca functioneaza to some extent, am in sfarsit un job ca programator si nu mai am grija banilor de mancare. De cand am facut schimbarea am chiar si o prietena!
Dunning-Kruger effect is when you put last point into the tree and you think you maxed out skill, but suddenly skill tree zooms out and you see it's just beginning.
Really wish I heard this when I dropped out of college at 20. I feel like since then and now I missed lots of opportunities to turn my life around at the most foundational period (18-25) of my life. I’m 27 now and can’t stand myself for letting that time go to waste. Honestly feel like I have mountain to climb in order to get my life on track.
I dont think there's such a thing as wasted time when youre that young. I needed that time when I was younger to figure out who the fuck am I and what the fuck do I want out of life. I didnt have a fucking clue from 18-25
I'm 23 and dropped out of university and "wasted" on some other skill points. I find it sometimes find it difficult too when people judge on the basis of objective merit, external forces like inflation and technological change that will weed out inept people who learns inefficiently or have adhd, or aspergers. I think falling behind and catching up/ climbing a mountain is the construct of the mind. Focus on what you can do now, it may be a fantasy trap to climb a mountain, maybe focus on climbing a bump/dune then set realistic goals meanwhile.
27 is still bloody young. You have your whole life before you. Why is 25 the most foundational period of your life and 27 isn't? Lay foundation for your life now. If you need to climb a mountain, it's okay - honestly, we all do. Take the first step today.
I generally agree, but the part about learning Japanese to a fluent level in 2 or 3 months is just not realistic and I think is damaging to people as it sets unrealistic expectations. I learned fluently English and German, but it took me years to do that. Does that make me stupid? Now, I have been learning Korean everyday for around 3 months and I'm nowhere near fluent, I wouldn't even say I'm intermediate. I'm still a beginner, although I am happy with my progress so far. But seeing people making claims like that "you can learn a language in 60 or 90 days, you just need to apply yourself" truly demotivates me.
I’ve never really tried to learn a language, but I think the catch is everyone has a different perceived amount of what “fluent” or being “done” means to them. So you have people who make certain claims but your perception of it ends up being way different. Hence why sometimes when you’re cleaning it might look good to you, but then to someone else it might look terrible and that you didn’t clean at all. Another example might be like when you’re trying to learn an instrument, and someone comes along saying they know how to play 10 different ones all quite proficiently. Even though in reality from your perspective they’re only decent at one or two, and the rest they’re no where near what they claim. Everyone has different ideas and expectations of what being proficient, or good at something looks like. Factor in the fact that none of us are truly born equal and often have a different set of life skills from others, we may have more or less difficulty at doing what we want or need to be doing. That being said someone else’s experience may very well not even be something to consider. Since we’re all built differently. It’s a lot easier said than done though to not compare yourself that’s for sure.
@@Justin-xi6ue Um... no. Fluent is one of those words that is consistent. It isn't relative. You made it relative by comparing it to the word "done" (which is relative depending on the context). I'm touching the rest of that as it isn't relevant.
@@123christianac Don't understand what you're getting at here. All I was saying is fluent to one person might look like 3 months while to another person it might be years. Depends on what the word means to you, how satisfied you are with your progress, and lastly it depends on how fast you're able to make said progress in said skill. Everybody is different and it's important to avoid comparing yourself to others or listening to some claims people make if you'd like to stay motivated, because not every claim is 100% true. Also your progress matters more than someone else's. Anyway it was just my personal opinion and advice as someone who's been constantly demotivated by others.
@@Justin-xi6ue "All I was saying is fluent to one person might look like 3 months while to another person it might be years" Like I said, no. Because of the definition of fluent, people aren't going to become fluent in 3 months. You didn't even learn your first language in three months. Why do you think that someone might become fluent in a second language (which is harder to learn after a certain age) in that time frame? Let's not forget that Japanese is one of the hardest languages to learn. I understand where you are coming from, however I believe that line of thinking is flawed. You can't grow as efficiently if you don't know the standards and averages. You don't know what is good enough unless you ask someone who does. "Thinking it is good enough" will not make things good enough. I disagree with your advice as it is more likely to cause people to live their own bubbles instead of facing reality. Your claim that someone might be able to do improbable tasks is enough evidence for me to shoot it down.
@@123christianac And that's your own opinion of what fluent is which is exactly the point I was trying to make. Many people obviously are believing 3 months is sufficient to be "fluent." When to them fluent has a completely different definition to what you or others may believe it is. However if that level of skill makes them happy then I think that's all that really matters. If we're talking on whether or not it's really possible though, learning as a baby is completely different than learning as an adult so I don't think that's a good comparison. We have techniques and study skills that we may acquire over the years so that we can apply ourselves in the fullest potential. Hence why some people accel in school compared to others. It's not like we all learn at the same pace and with the same methods as well. Continuing on though, personally I hate it when people brag and say they can play 10 instruments but can barely do anything with it. However I'm not going to shoot someone down for it and correct them because that would be rude. Who am I to judge someone for being happy and wanting to feel good about their achievements? With that said being able to play an instrument to me is knowing songs, knowing your scales, improvising, being able to read sheet music, etc. Not just fumbling around with strings and needing to constantly look at the notes. Literally anybody can play and so it's often times misleading when someone says that. Just like how it can be misleading for someone to say they're fluent in a language at just 3 months. But again maybe that's what the word itself means to them even if it doesn't mean the same to you. Sure it might be unrealistic and can cause people to live in their own bubbles but your line of thinking can also cause someone to become a perfectionist and entirely stop them from learning the skill all together. Basically I'm not the one to decide though if someone wants to listen to a particular claim or if someone wants to give it. If it makes them happy then so be it. They're the only ones that can decide if the claim is accurate. Especially when again, you consider that we all have vastly different opinions and levels of life experience. If it comes time though and the person realizes "wow I'm really not at the level this person says or even at the level I thought I was at. It looks like it's going to be awhile.." Then at the very least they were able to get their foot in the door despite the claim not being entirely accurate if at all to them. It's just a lot more enticing to see 3 months vs 10 years. I believe this could also be where others are coming from when they give timelines like this. It can simply be to motivate even if it might look improbable or entirely inaccurate. But this is also exactly why I said you shouldn't just believe everything someone says and to just focus on yourself more. I never said not to check out the standards and averages but basically to just take everything with a grain of salt. With all the noise people make about something it's easily distracting and can be highly damaging to one's self confidence and rate of progress in life. Thus you have a person who may very well just end up giving up and saying they're "not good enough." When in reality you were good enough a long time ago but you're too distracted by someone else's accomplishments, or someone telling you that you're wrong or you're this and that, and that you don't know what you're talking about. Bottom line is that I disagree with this approach. Although some people might appreciate that more I don't doubt it. Personally I've heard enough of it from my own family and have had more than enough anxiety from it as the result. You're free to have your own opinions though. I just thought I'd chip in and try to help OP because sometimes it helps to try and understand the thought process regarding why others might be making those types of claims. No one has to agree with me. After all I'm not the one telling people you can learn a language in 3 months like Dr. K says in the video, even though I'm sure he meant well by that statement.
I think a potentially more resonant way to phrase this idea is "Skill points aren't allocated; they're generated. And it's never too late to generate some more."
I think you can play competitive games without actively trying to improve. That's the majority of players who are stuck in silver for league for example
Someone once told me that it's never too late for anything, unless you're already dead. Also, that even if something takes a few years to get done, if it'll affect the rest of your life in a positive way then it's worth doing. Honestly though, the greatest motivation about it not being too late is when i read up stories about 50+ year old people who finally graduated from high school or college and use that to go into a job they always wanted but never could get.
There is a benefit to learning things before adulthood (21-25), after which you really do need more time spent to 'level up' a skill. I will say however, kids usually have terrible focus and have little sense of intentionality or purpose when learning whereas adults tend to have a better understanding of goals, expectations, and desired outcomes. In any case, ruminating about the past and things out of your control doesn't set you up to make meaningful changes. The only course is to accept where you are in life currently without judgement or regret, and focus on what you can do today.
100x this, I 'wasted' my youth on pain rehabilitation, surgeries and general health problems. Just picked up life at 28 and taking it step by step. I coulda felt it was too late and I'm too old, but I'm not going to get younger or the lost time back. I have to make the most of it now. People don't care it was in or out of my control, sometimes it's positive, often it's negative, but only way I'll change this for the better is to just keep at it.
Heck, even just the structure of children's lives in modern NA society facilitates skill acquisition so much more. Several hours a day in a facility intended for learning, as well as the lack of need to worry about acquiring food and rent since the parents are handling that. Granted there's a lot of flaws in the school system, but just being expected to be in that environment I think could do so much more for adults if they weren't instead stressing about making sure they don't go homeless.
I agree. Not only did I learn more efficiently in my teenage years, it also helped that I wasn't exactly worried about paying for anything. I've seen more adults than I can count on hand get "lost in the sauce" when they start to work. They're given zero support and start to think that's all they're built to do in life. It's not easy but it wasn't meant to be. It becomes a slippery slope if you let it.
I've cut my gaming down to only like 2 hours a day and I've been working out a lot and applying to jobs. I'm 27 and I have a bachelors in history. I've never found a career path and I've felt stuck for a very long time. I've only had 2 real relationships and I have felt totally void of any human interaction for at least 5 years at my worst point. I still can't figure out what the hell I'm doing, but I know I can't go back to what I was doing. I was ruining my life by avoiding it. I've nearly reached the point of suicide and I don't think I ever will, but I know what it's like for anyone who has felt that way. I haven't given up, but sometimes I have felt a ton of regret.
Thank you, Dr. K. This video came at a very scarily specific time for me. I'm 26, soon to be 27, and I kept thinking that I am going to have to settle for the job I've been with for 7 years for the rest of my life. All becasue I keep thinking that I'm simply too old to learn a new skill or make any drastic changes to my life. I will take this advice and hopefully I'll see a positive outcome in a couple years.
The feral children aren't incapable of acuiring language completely. But they are severely limited compared to others in the speed at which they learn and they cannot afaik reach normal lingual competency. But some degree of language acuisition is possible, there's been examples that even included trying to teach literacy, although that has been, as I recall the TV documentaries I've watched, mostly unsuccessful. Which I have no trouble believing, it's about what I expect.
The problem with the feral children as examples is people extrapolate out conclusions made about them to other aspects of psychology. Their specific example regards learning a language, more specifically their first language. The rest of us learn our first language as babies/toddlers, which necessarily requires an incredible feat of neural encoding to achieve. There's no reason to suspect that this unique situation necessarily has implications for learning later in life. People need to remember that any and all conclusions drawn from research can only apply to the subject and to extrapolate with caution.
They can learn words. They have great difficulty learning syntax (word order needed to create coherent sentences). This is a trick humans can learn at a young age, but other apes can never learn. Apes who learn sign language do NOT learn syntax. Same with humans who don’t learn it early enough.
I’m 25 and I recently started grinding my irl stats, I’ve never felt better about myself. This year I decided to start martial arts, reading more, and hiking. It’s been great, I do NOT regret making the change. Join me brothers, embrace the grind !
@Failed Society I'm sorry, not trying to offend you, but isn't reading comprehension a part of intellect? Or are you saying you apart from that one thing, you have high intellect?
@@gianlucaacca4401 I know what that is, I'm just saying in modern society when literally all educational and communication fields are conveyed mainly through the medium of text, it's ironic calling yourself someone with high intellect if you don't have reading comprehension skills. The capacity for a high level of reading comprehension has several branches of intelligence linked to it, such as logical and linguistic intelligence. I would argue it's also connected, albeit very loosely, to visual, interpersonal, and intrapersonal intelligence. I know there are certain conditions that can physically impede this, so if that is the case then I concede. Again, my main issue was with the idea that "having high intellect" could go in the same sentence as "having bad reading comprehension". If that person were talking about interesting skills such as musical or kinetic intellect, they would not have described it as "high intellect"; they would have said they had certain skills in a certain area. That term is most widely associated with logical intelligence, hence my confusion. I was not going to go into any detail of what I was actually thinking; I was trying to be respectful and first understand what that person meant. Thanks for assuming I didn't know what you thought I didn't know, and in the process making me offend the person. :)
What a great video. I was 32 when I decided that being a game consumer and being underemployed wasn't fulfilling enough, so I made the leap into game development. Had to put my life on hold for a year to go back to school. Luckily I had the financial support of my family to see me through. I was nearly 34 when I got my first QA job with a major studio where I was rubbing shoulders with much younger coworkers and reporting to younger managers but I didn't care. Putting the ego aside & redoubling my efforts to learn quickly was always going to be part of the deal. I'm now 44 and still working in games!
While that thumbnail is certainly right in most cases, I learned an awful lot from playing WoW back in the days. Nothing teaches patience, frustration tolerance, and the value of consistency like wiping to un-nerfed Muru 420 times before finally making it. It all depends on "how you do it"
Different times man. An MMO that worked for me was one were everyone was trying to scam the fuck out of you, so I learnt to beware about sketchy deals, ‘online friendships’ that just wanted everything u had, and to resell stuff for a markup. Nowadays, I think the online landscape is a different monster, and I think games are now being developed with other goals in mind (squeezing the living fuck out of gamers themselves)
Old school WoW is totally different from modern gaming. Most games are trying to keep up with the masses. Making stuff easier. I get bored easily with gaming now. It’s just not fun enough anymore. When I got bored with Skyrim because I got too OP, I started over and modded the f out of it to make it harder - eating, sleeping, and bathing required, cold sensitivity, etc. Climbing up the steps to get to the monks was mayhem. I ran to the monastery at the end and sat next to one of the fires for 15 minutes to warm up. I definitely almost died from hypothermia in-game. It was awesome lol.
and since in games most people are anonymous and therefor more honest, and scammers are everywhere, it really teaches you about what reality really is inside peoples minds compared to real life where everyone is wearing a figurative mask.
I just wanted to say a HUGE THANK YOU for helping people. I personally feel better about myself. Your words give me hope that it is never too late and that nothing in me is really "broken". It just has to be rewired. After every video you put out here you're helping me taking a step further forward in my life.
This passive XP describe me so well, I'm Brazilian and never had good motivation to study English. But after I have read all the translated manga/novels chapters, I slowly started to consume content in English, in the beginning I always have to consults new words in dictionary or use other tools. Now when I look back I noticed I practically learned a new language because of a hobby, and it's opening doors and letting me consume more content for hobby and to go further in my career. It is amazing how even the simplest hobby can train your skill, be it learning a new language, strategy, financial, reaction time, flexibility, even typing fast count's!
This was actually very easy to chew up and understand. The farming skill points and xp analogies were very well received and actually translate very well. This was an enjoyable watch because of it. It helps so much for a professional to be in the lifestyle of his patients for this exact reason.
Range, by David Epstein is a pretty great book for anyone that feels behind. Often whatever path you've gone down so far will serve you in interesting ways when you decide to pursue something else. The time isn't wasted.I was a poker player & it's serving me well in product management bc it's given me a unique view on corporate strategy. Gamers of many types will see a benefit to whatever they hyper-focus on next, because your gaming skills can give you a unique perspective that adds value.
It's funny how Dr. K talks about feeling late and brings up his early 20's as an example. I'm in the beginning of my late twenties lacking all those experiences. No Bsc or BA, all my life I worked barely a year in a shitty office, 0 relationships. I've never heard of people who turned their life around at my age. I know I'm taking away all the wrong lesions from this video and that is not the point, it just makes me extremely anxious to hear that people usually have the same struggle half a decade earlier... Maybe If I haven't kept spending the last 6 years keeping this "Fear of missing out" attitude I would have experienced change in my life way sooner. It just feels like a vicious cycle I feel like I can't brake any time soon. I feel like my life is the scene from Back to the Future Part 3 where they try to accelerate the train to power up the Delorean, except in my version there is no time machine and there is no bridge in the future yet I'm still consciously fueling the train to accelerate towards the huge chasm I'm well aware of.
If it brings you any solace I’m in the exact same boat as you. Except at the age of 25 I decided to enroll myself at my CC to pursue an associate’s in IT and during the post pandemic managed to find work at a restaurant. Still feel as if I’m very behind but taking baby steps. Just need to find the motivation to keep making changes.
I’m in a similar boat to you at 30. I pray everyday that it’s not all ruined forever. Trying to make some changes now, but everything I do feels humiliating. The shame is so intense it’s hard to change my course. And all for what might be nothing.
Really do not worry. He mentions early or mid-twenties because he thinks that's most of his clients or Twitch base but the science and experience says that it does work for every age. This 8-12 week rule - I have never really heard of that before but I know enough about neuroplasticity to believe that there is really something fundamental going on with that time frame. Of course there can be troubles with being consistent - (mental) health, addictions, other life obligations or just plain not knowing what you want. But if you stick to a problem right now you want to solve and work on it consistently, you will see progress and you will see changes. (maybe you are suffering from a more chronic depression?) Maybe you want to work on self-confidence or self-compassion, build a meditation technique, learn new ways to deal with negative emotions and frustration? What you should take from this video is also that there are more universal skills that give you a buff in every area, i.e. learning to learn - for example there is a free coursera course "Learning How To Learn" (I have a masters and I still learned a lot from that and I feel like a fool for having "wasted" so much time - but of course beating myself up is BS) or Justin Sungs youtube channel, - then there are techniques to deal with emotional turmoil - for example ACT, CBT, DBT, meditation and some better ways to communicate your emotions and desires like Non-Violent Communication for example I personally really recommend ACT therapy for self-confidence and mindfulness based techniques to live with stressful emotions - I am still super nervous but at least I can actually live and do things I want now thanks to it
@@Teilnehmer I don't think that was his point really. If you invest the wrong points for too long there could be a point where you as a person might be capable of focusing on other skills, but it's impossible due to systemic conditions. Take the no degree comment, as college is only getting more expensive. For low income workers, working to survive can leave little money and/or time to go pursue that degree. When you're a HS student, it's easier to dip off to school provided you have the funds, but there are some complications for low wage older workers. If you are living paycheck to paycheck, even the idea of switching jobs can be hard, because any downtime transitioning could mean a bill doesn't get paid. So, even if you can afford college with grants, if your schedules don't line up, you might be screwed. Therapy has helped me immensely, but it will never help me feel less depressed about systemic societal issues trapping me. If you put the wrong points in, society should invest in it's people and help them reallocate their skills.
14:09 Yea this hidden curriculum thing is especially true for me. I like to do speed runs for fun in games I play and I think how that translated over to my real life was how it made me be able to see loopholes in assignments such that I can cheese my school assignments and still get A's and B's. But of course that comes with being able to understand the normal way of doing or at the very least, know the normal way of doing things. A foundation in your understanding in any given topic has to be built well first, then you'll naturally be able to find loopholes in any given task if there exists any. This skill helped me save so much time and I like to use that time for self entertainment and also to help my classmates with their school work if they need it.
My danish teacher always used to say that you need to know the rules before you can break them in regard to how people are bending the rules throughout every period of literature and why our half-assed assignments there not "breaking" the rules.
This change in self talk is something I can really attest to as well. 14 months ago, I had just graduated and I didn't really know what I wanted to do, I had two options I thought I could maybe do (bike mechanic and event technician), but I felt like I would never be able to hold down a job due to what I would later realize were executive function difficulties caused by me being neurodivergent. This negative self talk was amplified by my mother saying really negative things to me all my life ("someone like you is not suited to take care of an apartment", "you're not fit for society", "you can't even take care of yourself, you're so far behind in development"). I applied for an internship at my local theatre because I wanted to figure out whether the job of an event technician would really suit me as the hours are not for everyone. Applications were really hard for me to write because I struggled with viewing myself positively, but I got the internship and I was even offered an apprenticeship a month or so into it. I took the opportunity and a year later, I'm really happy with that choice. Long story short, because I got (and still get) positive feedback there (which I know they meant because they put their money behind it), my self view has changed drastically. I know think of myself as hard-working, diligent and overall a great hire because now, I know what my strengths are. If I had to write an application right now, it would be much easier as I wouldn't have to pretend to think positively about myself. All that change occured because I was surrounded by positive feedback about myself.
39 year old here. As recent as 3 months ago, I was as stuck in life and empty inside as just about anyone Dr. K has featured on his show. My self talk has taken a 180 degree turn, and that has made all the difference. I'm on track toward the life I've always wanted, and I feel 10 years younger to boot. I'm hoping this will inspire others out there that you are not too old and it is NEVER TOO LATE!!
Dr. K was talking about how people after like 40 weeks of therapy start to ask themselves the same questions that he would normally ask him and I just had a huge realisation. Now, I've never had therapy even though I probably should and the closest thing I have are these videos. But spending hours every week for the past 6 months have allowed me to start asking the same questions that dr.k asks the audience when talking about issues I relate with. Holy shit this guy knows his shit. I mean, of course he does, but he really, really, really does
I'm in my first semester of veterinary medicine, I'll be 32 when I finish and often have thoughts that it's too late - thanks for your story Dr. K, this came exactly at the right time
Just want to add on to this that one should also consider natural regression and obsolesence (through actual progress on the field or "artificially") of certain skills. As opposed to "usage-based" levelling systems, such as that of Skyrim, where you only lose a skill point by serving jail time, IRL has you lose proficiencies when you've neglected to use or update them for some time. Certain skills and knowledge as well that might require credentialing might become obsolete if we haven't taken refreshers or "society-imposed" certifications. I think these are important to be recognized for planning out one's new path as these give one perspective on how accurately you'll alot time on improving yourself. That prerequisiste "skill" you thought you've sort of mastered a decade ago? You might need to brush up on it for a bit before proceeding. You haven't been rusty with that profession you're gonna use as a leverage for you're next one? Wait, last year the professional board gatekeeped that path with a requirement of a decade of practice with several conditions before you can proceed. I think after overcoming oneself, and deciding to pursue what you really want to be, it's essential to objectively pin point the natural, temporal, and societal hindrances that one will encounter to better navigate their path or maybe decide on whether to pivot or seek out alternatives. Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with Dr. K on this, especially on choosing the path forward, I'm only adding to it that one must have total grasp on one's current situation and prospects to be able to proceed successfully and avoid any burnouts or dissappointments midway. Of course this doesn't apply to everything but there are certain life paths that are indeed either time-bound or "society-bound", which at our current case not that easily bypassed by enthusiasm, hard work, and positivity alone.
I disagree pretty vociferously with Dr. K, and your comment does leave out a huge issue in society. First, “credentialing”is a concept that can be and is abused to Greta societal detriment. It is a form of monopoly that drives costs up artificially. Given that two people have the exact knowledge base, but one spent four years and $60,000 while the other spent 12 years and learned off of the internet. What does it matter if either was credentialed trough a college or not? Wouldn’t it make more sense to have a third party credential system that separates the institution providing the education FROM also providing the credentials?
@V O I can agree to some of this.. I made Forbes 30 under 30 this year and I can attribute a lot of the motivation to becoming an entrepreneur due to my fathers passing at an early age. Knowing that at any point my life could end really motivated me to get the most out of my life Bc to me the biggest risk in life is to NOT take any. In gamer terms, we all die anyway so why not try it out on expert difficulty 😂
As I aged, I realized most people "make it" in their 40s and 50s. Im 27 now, and am just starting to figure it out. My dad was an inspiration, cus at 43 he went back to school and got his MA and PhD in a new field and is now super successful. Its never too late.
Your videos have come out of nowhere and I’m now seeing where my issues are. Thank you for putting this out there for everyone. I appreciate you and your efforts!
Man I really need to give the biiigggest thank you to you Dr. K. This is so heavy, so deep, so useful stuff you are giving to us. And the fact that it is not just coming from someone who KNOWS what he is talking about but actually knows HOW to prep it so we actually understand it, too. Just amazing. I can not thank you enough. And even if I'm still struggling with a lot of stuff, you gave me tools, motivation and not to forget: hope. Thank you so much.
Very interesting. Great timing, too. I've been trying to turn my life around for the past 10ish weeks. I've had a sudden surge of improvement at first then sort of a process without much improvement. I've kept up with meditation and changing my self talk. I've been continuing with therapy (I had been in therapy prior, but made no real improvement because I wasn't really open with my therapist because I felt ashamed), and I still felt like I had stopped improving. I also feel as though my focus is on the wrong things, so now I want to keep it going and try to learn what Dr. K said, which is communication, optimal learning and general self awareness. It's uplifting to hear that there can be a sudden shift and I begin to make strides. But it also makes me realize that I am on course, and as usual, I might just be too hard on myself.
It's important to say that not all skill points invested into playing games are wasted. There are genuine overlaps between gaming skills and real world skill. The context is different and you need to adapt those skills, but some (if not most) of them are transferable. I learned quick decision making and adapting to changing circumstances from playing a lot of competitive strategy games and it gave me an edge in my job where I need to make a lot of minute to minute decisions. Granted most of those decisions are "low impact", but they still need to be made and I can't afford to waste hours on them. And since english is my third language it helped me a great deal learning that as well. My point is: you actually don't have to "start over". Build on top of what you are already good at. There has to be something. Maybe you are patient, decisive or have great reflexes, a steady hand, handle stress well... whatever it may be. Use it and improve on it.
I’m 30 and have no relationship and almost no sexual experiences whatsoever. I can’t imagine how helpful it would have been at 23 to have your channel. I felt totally lost back then and sort of gave up. Dissociation has become a more and more common tactic, and I’ve been working the past two years with a professional to help develop the capacity to really connect..but god man I feel like I was early to this pandemic of totally lost men. I see this as starting with people born maybe like 5 years after me. But yeah of all the “am I too late” things, relationships/sex is the scariest by far
Love is much more important than sex. Sex is short lived validation. Love is more long term. Notches won't matter when you find someone who really matters to you and really cares about you. That on its own takes everyone time to find.
As someone who started dating later than most (at 27), my advice is to just go for it without comparing yourself with others, only compare yourself with you in the past. What is done is done. If you fucked up by haven't put more focus on the social aspects in life, you have to understand that you can't time-travel, just move forward. At least you know all the things that you shouldn't be doing. Don't get discouraged if things don't go well. It's a matter of practice. Social skills are skills for a reason, they are developed by consistency and self-analysis. In the lapse of 4 years I went in twice the amount of dates some of my fckboy friends went in all their lives. I know I kinda went overboard but the point remains, feeling bad is just a burden, and practice can give you an exponential growth if well applied.
“Wrong” is relative, therefore a fallacy meme. If you feel like you need a respec, do it. This is true open world, there are no actual rules. The passively learned abilities are like jumping off points that start a bit higher, but you still have to go out and learn afterwards. C’est la vie!
I've been learning japanese for almost 3 years (almost every day) and as much as i like theses videos, 2 months to learn is just not doable. i can barely read slice of life manga at this point. the fastest ppl to do it (with like 8h+ a day of study can make it to N1 in about a year)
Yeah I literally burn out on learning Japanese day after day 2 years, and even if I got a decent level, i'm nowhere near proficient in the language. But then I made a point to be able to read too, not just speak it; so on this point Dr.K is giving a strange advice.. he should have kept it to "just go and study, doesn't matter if it takes from your 28 to 34 to become a doctor, just do it"
@@seyza1677 Don't worry i burned out on it for 6 months but i came back to it stronger than ever, i'm on a 20 words per day using anki's core 2k deck (i've almost finished it) reaching some understanding of my first manga/anime/whatever podcast or youtube video is what keeps me motivated to say that it's totaly doable as long as i keep doing it
@@rav1n393 While it is probably doable under the condition that 1 studying japanese is your only activity (like japanese student degree or smthg) and 2 you already know how to be efficient with the learning. if i had the rythm of learning i have today the day i started learning i would most likely already be at N3, truth is i realised recently that i was very much behind on the vocabulary front, started going through core 2k anki deck (which i almost finished) around 3 months ago and yeah my ability to read/listen and even speak has skyrocketed with just 2000 words. But yeah still tho 2 months is just a bit innacurate !
Yeah Dr. K set some really unrealistic expectation there. Sure, maybe if you already know a similar language (e.g. Chinese), you can maybe get proficient in Japanese in 2 months, but for most people that's just not doable. I've been learning Japanese for about 6 months now and I'm nowhere near the level of understanding even a basic sentence.
I hate to admit it, but Dr K is correct! Back in the day I used to watch a bit of anime, did pick up on the language, have an interest in Japanese cars. The problem was that a lot of the material was only in Japanese or Japan, but in short, I could watch a video in Japanese, I couldn't make out the proper / true sentences, but the few words here and there, the variations in grammar I could suddenly fill in the blanks and understand what it was about. As for using a skill, I wasted most of my gaming youngsters playing Tycoon games and the business side of that. Well today I am doing a little trading in the crypto currency market by basically utilizing my skills / tycoon games knowledge to figure out what my best course of action is and how much you dare to bet (NEVER EVER drain your account on investments in a Tycoon game, first hard lesson you learn in those games.)
I had this viewpoint at a very tender age of 13. After I played D&D the first time my friends and I joked about what we as people were in a class situation. It actually really helped me consider new skills and hobbies.
I’m 45. I accomplished: 2 black belts, ten different SCUBA diving certifications, 8 years of college (AAIT, BSP, MSIOP), EMT-B certification, playing level 3 piano (working toward making it to 8), A+ certified, Network+ certified, taken firearms training, spent the last decade on a motorcycle and have travelled extensively. That said, I’m happy with the ground I’ve gained… but my social circle pretty much crumbled as I was too busy achieving. I also burned out. These days, I’m trying to rebuild my circle of friends and I date casually (even after losing a ten year relationship in my late 30s) Nothing wrong with taking your time with your goals… I’m still trucking… you don’t die at 40. The limitations are what you are willing to accept. Add: try getting around Japan after 2 months of study. You’re gonna know the basics, but it’s not an easy language. 😣 Spent a month out there, and you’ll still be learning as you go.
I literally needed this video for now, in this moment. I'm changing jobs right now and doubting myself is it a good decision or not. Thanks a lot Dr. K!!!
Thank you Dr. K. I’ve been gaining weight lately and kept telling myself to start with 10 push ups but every time I tell myself I can’t. Hearing you talk about it broke my barrier. I just busted out 10 push ups easily. Again huge thanks :)
-screams- I know I have no confidence, no motivation, and negative self-talk. Therapy always just skims the surface and it really feels like there's no progress at all. I'm so tired of waiting around for things to get better, I want to change things!
This is such an important concept! If you keep searching for the highest exp/min and see everything you do as some form of exp-gain for skills you wanna level up, it will help you immensely!
I was stuck in my mid twenties doing job that I hated and I always wanted to do some kind of sport/human body related job, so I applied to physiotherapy uni. I've been preparing entering exams for half a year studying at nights after work. I failed and it was really heartbreaking, but I decided to give it one more shot since I ended up just bellow the line of people that got accepted. I spent half of the next year working and another half travelling and preparing for exams. Finally I got accepted but I felt I'm so behind since I was going to be 31 the earliest by the time I finish. The feeling was with me pretty much all the way throughout my studies, but I managed to finish it this september. It was hard and painful, since I felt my brain was bit more rigid than it used to be when I was 20, but I'm so glad I did it. I work as a PT now, getting necesarry work experience so I can open my own clinic and I'm actually looking forward to going to work which pretty much never happened before in my life. I'm planning on staying scholar my whole life in one thing or another and I think it's great. My personal life is getting slighly better also now. As Stallone said, what's the rush.. life is long enough. If I get familly life sorted by the time I'm 40 I consider myself a happy guy. Worst think for me always was and also is the the pressure from the outside, feeling like people are judging me and that I'm behind. But I'm getting better and controling that also I feel like. So my opinion is, just do your thing and forget the age and peoplr judging you, because they will no matter what you do..
I really like this video and this idea of framing life. I'm reminded of a minicomic I read a good while ago about Fermat's last theorem. A cute little gem of a comic except for one blemish. In it, there is a line about how Andrew Wiles, the guy who finally proved the theorem "had to do it before turning 35 because good mathematical ideas stop coming when you get older than that", which to me is one hell of a toxic way of looking at life. No idea if that was Wiles' own outlook on life though, or if it was due to the comic's writer.
You are absolutely right Dr. K! It's never too late to hit those developmental milestones. I'll be 34 in August, but I'm in a good place for the first time in a long while. It's never too late to achieve your best self. In 2013, I started my bachelor's degree at the University of Florida. In 2014, Destiny came out. I put in roughly 7k hours of Destiny from 2014-2019. That was roughly 1/6th of my life, including sleep time. Even though I was working or in school for that entire time and wasn't without accomplishment, I was depressed, anxious, and overall unsatisfied with my life. No surprise that I sated my dissatisfaction with food, chain-smoking cigarettes, alcohol, etc. I moved in with my mom in 2017 after I dropped out of law school. Unsurprisingly, there were no romantic prospects for the depressed, out-of-shape, hermit that bathed every few days. The cherry on top happened in July 2019, when I found out that I had diabetes from abusing my body and not exercising. That kicked my ass into gear. It didn't happen overnight, but I'm currently in really good shape overall, not just physically! I'm working a lucrative career that I love, I'm in a functioning relationship with another human being, I do weekly therapy, and as of last week I bought a brand new home. I did put on a few pounds over COVID-quarantine, but who didn't lol. Just have to love yourself, accept the obstacles are there, and figure out how you are going to react to them. Thank you for spreading the good word Dr. K! GG
most certainly not the wrong century! astrology gives you a shitton of info on yourself, your strengths and weaknesses and how to cope with past trauma; meditation allows you to develop focus and how to be present + self-reflection; and tarot teaches you to trust your own intuition. those skills are very important for life :) i would recommend you to join the astro community on tumblr if you want to find like-minded people!!
I learned that having other humans with similar hobbies around me made life better . I am a very introverted person and i advice everyone to go out of their way and find communities that talk about the same crap you enjoy no matter what it is . Someone out there is waiting for someone like you to share ! Chose your friends ! Don't get stuck with people that don't respect you or your way of life .
Aight I just typed up a journal entry that was this exact sort of stuff so defo creepy how youtube can give something so accurate as a recommendation. But this is both something I have seen from experience and something I needed to hear again. For the longest time due to having stopped wrestling before highschool I felt like I missed the boat, and felt like I had let myself go too much fitness wise to do combat sports again. But the restlessness just from not fighting just kept getting to me and I would end up being more violent and anger filled for the longest time. It wasn't until I really got back on the workout grind and started doing sumo wrestling that it finally stopped, but man does it feel so much better. Like I think that's an interesting thing that your body itself with reject you doing what you know is wrong for it. Cuz whenever I'm actively doing a combat sport and fully enraptured in the mind set of conditioning for it I notice that all the small petty issues slick right off me. I just need to incorporate that same mentality to my art now. As due to having so much spare time even with working out lately I've been getting restless and bored even though I have hundreds of projects that have just been sitting on the burner waiting to be worked on past the planning stages. Just the same voice that told me I couldn't get into combat sports has been telling me I can't do art and I'm bout to take that voice behind the shed and show it how good of art I can do. Bookmarking this bro. This has helped a bunch, especially because gaming and watching youtube etc is what I end up doing instead of working on my art. And the meaningful practice is something I have seen myself, because regularly I will say things like "I played this game for 10 hours today, if I even invested an hour of that to art think of how good I would be in a months time. Same with my working out, I get to thinking about how I only do proper serious workouts usually on the leadup to a practice because thats the only time where im actually in the full mindset of sumo. Whereas if I just were properly investing a portion of each of my days to it I would see bigger changes. Just in general spending less time on passive exp and more time on active exp, I have this exact problem in the games I play too so its gonna be a learning experience. IE in old school runescape despite having 10k hours in the game I'm just learning a lot of fairly early game bosses because I legitimately have barely engaged with the PVM or PVP side of things and have opted to do things like woodcutting or fishing most of that time. Effectively I've been treating life and every game like and idle game even though I know I can do them well enough that I could speed run them if I tried.
I was a teacher prior to COVID, now about 24 months later. I am a software Engineer. It is absolutely true that you can radically change your life in 2 years.
I am 16 years old and I used to feel like I fell behnd. I started coaching for engineering entrance exam JEE one year ago and I wasted most of the year. After reading so many people's experiences, I am happy that I think about life like this now. Because most of the people of my age don't think about it and kind of go with the flow. I will start preparing. Thank you so much.
3:43 - I got your back on this「絶対に許さないよ」(zettai ni yurusanai yo). That's how to say, "I will never forgive you" anime style. What you said was something like, "For the sake of the world I won't forgive." Edit: 9:00 - Ah I see the correction. You're looking for 「世界のためにはお前を絶対に許さないよ」(sekai no tame ni wa, omae o zettai ni yurusanai yo). I don't know if other languages are like this, but I am going to strongly disagree that an English speaker can passively learn any useful amount of Japanese from anime. For one, Japanese grammar is completely different from English so saying anything more than very short phrases is near impossible to do without actual study. Two, more importantly, is that people in anime do not speak like actual Japanese people speak. Anime characters use character archetypes that aren't super reflective of how people are in Japan. It would be like learning English from horribly acted daytime drama shows. Third, anime characters are generally quite rude compared to real Japanese people. So if you speak like they do in anime, people will either think you are rude or more likely they will laugh at you because speaking like anime characters is cringe. Last, anime watchers very often mishear words and that results in them saying a different word than what they intend do say. For example at 12:54 you can look at the chat and see someone saying "Yokai!" Probably trying to say, "Got it." It's actually pronounced "Ryoukai" specifically with a long vowel sound on the pronunciation of "o." Yokai doesn't really have a meaning as far as I am aware but, "youkai" means ghost or demon. Kawaii and Kowai is also a common mistake. People say kowai meaning scary when they mean kawaii which means cute. Not having an understanding of the language phonetics causes tons of anime watchers to mispronounce words or say different words entirely. I don't think these mediums translate to any actual skill outside of extremely basic, surface level knowledge. HOWEVER, these mediums are phenomenal at teaching people particular philosophies that lead to success. Video games are excellent for that. If you get super good at Apex Legends, then you have just learned how to build a skill. That skill-building process can be repeated in something that will actually make you money. You'll still have to learn the skill but you may learn the skill 3-5 times faster because you already know how the process works. I think the best thing people who play video games all day can do is take those lessons they have learned from their games and start applying them to things that people in real life find useful.
I watched anime and RUclips (without English subs), read some light novels, and made flashcards for some of the words I came across. After studying for a year, I placed into the highest Japanese class offered at my university and I understand quite a bit for someone who hasn't even been studying for 2 whole years, It's actually an extremely effective method. What you said about anime not being the best style of speech to imitate is true (in the sense that some of it is over the top or rude), but it's still perfectly valid Japanese. Also, not all anime is action/adventure shonen - the naturalness of the language actually varies significantly from show to show. But there's no reason you can't learn purely through immersing imo. It's probably worth it to supplement with doing a bit of grammar study and using something to help speed up vocab acquisition (like Anki flashcards), but most of the progress I've experienced I believe is from consistent exposure to the language - whether that be from anime, RUclips, visual novels, or whatever else.
@@derpydayha Allow me to just stress as someone who has been studying the language for a period of 15 years (technically 6 or 7 if you don't count the breaks in my study), the highest levels of Japanese classes you can take in every school I have seen, will barely get you past a beginner level in Japanese. You certainly won't be fluent after completing them. If we are just talking about Genki here, that is a beginner level course. Even after you complete the second book, you are nowhere near fluency. Anime does have it's value but people who do not have the context of the appropriate way to speak in Japanese will end up using phrases like 「ふざけるな！」("Don't screw with me") to which is not only something Japanese people don't say, it's also something that will get you laughed at. The purpose of anime is to make basic level Japanese learning a lot more entertaining until you are good enough to move on to more high level conversation. Understand that if you do that, you will need to decondition yourself from the way anime characters speak and change to the way actual Japanese people speak. You'll also need to understand that words that English has appropriated like へんたい mean something different in Japanese than they do in English. Get used to that because, also, a lot of English words that Japanese has appropriated don't mean the same thing they mean in English. That being said, Anime is still an extremely useful tool, but no one is coming out of watching subs knowing anything more than, "Good morning," "Good Afternoon," and "Cute" unless they have put in some actually study time.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I am literally living proof that you're wrong tho. Of course, I've exposed myself to more than just anime - a lot of RUclips and stuff too. Anime is not perfect for learning Japanese in it's own, but it's a lot better then you're making it out to be.
@@derpydayha What are you talking about? You aren't in the group of people I or Dr. K was referring to; therefore you cannot be proof against my claim. I said people who HAVEN'T done an actual studying of Japanese and solely watch anime will not pick up a significant amount of Japanese. I have talked to many of these people over the past 15 years and none of them have known more than like 5 words that they either mispronounce in a way that is not understandable or they mispronounce it so badly that they end up saying different words entirely. I also said anime is a great tool so I am not sure how I am downplaying it's usefulness. Just understand that if you are only consuming anime for integration then you are going to have a lot of problems in the way you speak.
Ive watched anime for 19 years and i can now watch anime without subtitles simply from passive learning. So moral of the story is "4 years is rookie numbers, ya gotta pump those up".
14:33 hidden curriculum 14:54 self talk 16:30 instilling positive thinking (the social environment around u can instill that) (changing the paradigm of how people treat u, introducing another experiences, albeit temporary, can drastically redefine how u feel, think, and act)
Sorry if my English is not good🙏 It was very interesting video and I really like, that you talk about abilities to upgrade in any time person wants to. English is not my native language and I didn't really learned it at school, but because I like to watch a lot of content in English I can understand English most of the time. Recently I started to learn English, Japanese and Chinese and it's not something impossible to do if someone really want to. Good luck to everyone, who want to upgrade their skills😁
You can absolutely do that. Learn the basics and turn those English subtitles off. For a more detailed guide about how to do this you should look into the Refold method. I read manga and watch anime every day and actually "study" maybe a half hour every day and doing this you can see your comprehension skyrocket over time. Read and listen and you will get better.
8:30 There's one, actually, when you just start the game, the experience cap of learning your mother language is really low, but if you want to learn another language it'll need a lot of experience points
loving these every day videos, Dr. K is really going hard on content. Btw, is the paid video content available yet? I remember it being announced but I can't see if it's fully available on the website.
You mean Dr. K's Guide? Or something else? I bought the Depression module and I did get 28 videos + various meditation videos. Remember you need an active Discord account to access them.
@@BknMoonStudios Yeah the $60 guide. I haven't bought it yet, I have just been thinking about it because I love his content and it seems like it would be a cool way to get some further studying in. So it's out then??
4 years of watching anime in Japanese if you start with the simple stuff (like kids anime), focus, are alert, repeat stuff at least in your head and, preferably, rewatch episodes is actually a very good approach to acquire the language. In fact it's better than spending that time on grammar rules and learning single words, the difference will be visible especially at the high end
The quote that you attributed to Sparta [10:30] is from *Thucydides* who was an Athenian historian and general. *" **_A nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its laws made by cowards and its wars fought by fools_** "* Your content helps me as a "gifted" kid who is now an adult 28 who still has "oppositional defiance" but has finally turned it into opposition to people telling me I can't live my life on my terms. Still on the road to maxed in life.
Funny story: I went to a psychologist that specializes in gaming addiction after binge watching all of doctor k’s videos. (I really never planned on it before. The exact same week prior, a random co worker from my company started playing a game called Axie infinity (7 months ago) and told me about it. I brushed it off to work on my real life. He had then proceeded to make multiple 7 figures. I verified and now made I’m back to gaming again. It’s almost like the universe is testing me. Not financial advice or anything but I felt like I had to share. Gaming can be a valuable skill.
That weird moment when you click on the wrong video ( I was searching the song life is an RPG and I f****d up my build) and now you need to star working on your self instead of self sabotaging. As a 24 years old thanks dude
the problem for me comparing life to an mmo is two fold 1. me (and others) believe in reincarnation or some form of afterlife. 2. when my character has messed up stats often it is more economical to delete that character and start over again. I understand the comparison, however it's not one that i really want to make for those reasons. A lot of the problem with skill points not being finite is that they kind of are. we don't learn nearly as quickly as an adult than we do as children, the actual barrier to easily learning a language stops at around 6 years old, the brain finish it's development at roughly the age of 25. We are also very dependent on our caregivers, like a game that for the first 18 or so levels (with millennials it can be way higher) we don't really set our skill points. so for the 1st few levels our parents can jack our stats, and mess up our build. Sometimes to detrimental results and we are stuck cleaning up the mess.
I learned a LOT about strategy, efficiency, and the reality of the need of defense by playing Civilization and other turn based strategy games. Also, learned to appreciate the necessity of bearing arms by playing lots of FPS RPGs. There’s a lot you can learn from gaming. But you definitely have to be applying that learning to real life for it to matter.
Oh dude, video games are a well of information. Especially EU and Hoi for history and geography. Applying in RL depends on the skills and the games. Fps' help with processing speed, rts' help with resource management and strategic planning, rpg's help with adaptability and progression, etc. It can also be used to teach discipline and dedication, but may be overly stimulating to compare to the same things in RL.
Really good video. Btw for the language learning thing, 2 months can get you functional, sure, but it takes a lot more to actually become proficient. If you make it your priority for the first two moths, then it can become your motivation for progressing even more.
I totally agree with the idea, but my main issue is, I have no idea what I want to do or what will make me happy. Someone may reply something along the lines of, do some soul searching and introspection, but that's something I have always done. For decades now, I have thought and worked at all the little internal things that should add up to some sort of direction or passion, but nothing ever really comes up. Every job I have ever done for any period of time I have ended up growing to dislike at the very least. I sometimes wonder if I am built to be dissatisfied or see the flaws too quickly and let them get to me over time. I want to farm up a new skill, but all my options are things that take a long time to get anywhere with and I am only sorta interested in. I didn't go to graduate school because I was so worried I would end up in a job I would inevitably hate. I just want to get to a place in my life that I don't feel abject terror about the idea being in the same spot for 10 years, much less the rest of my life. I still have a couple of hobbies I want to try and see if a passion might be hidden there, so I am not totally lost, but it's frustrating to see people who have any passion for anything. Not that I hold that against them or anything, just some internal tension there.
Framing my life like I am trying to optimize my character in World of Warcraft has helped a ton
lol sounds cool
That's why I've never made it. Totally missed out on WOW. Nifty thought howevey.
Gotta transition to FFXIV first :)
WOW! YOU HERE????? :D i love your videos and i don't play wow for like 8 years xD
whats your haste mastery versatility crit spread lookin like?
For 10 years I levelled up in engineering and realised I made a terrible mistake in my early 30s. Swallowed my pride and now I'm a 2nd year med student. Anything is possible, friends.
I had a bachelor in industrial design, but worked for five years in the construction business as a project engineer. Took my masters in Industrial design, and now I'm working with service and product design directed towards construction.
Your engineering skills and technical experience can put you at a huge advantage when working with equipment and prosedures. Need to rebuild a leg? Your working with titanium, nuts and bolts.
good luck with your new journey!
Nice. I was lecturing history prior to COVID, now 24 months later I am a software engineer. It really is the case that it can all change in 1-2 years
similar, but currently studying animation
@@FirstLast-gk6lg Would you mind telling me how you did that? I'm thinking of going into software development
"I'm gonna be 32 either way..." is such a good way of thinking about the future instead of obsessing over what we missed out on in the past.
Yes I am 29 and stopped caring as well about being a virgin or never being in a sirous relationship
I just like being in my own world safe from all the noise thats definitely som i treasure more then a possible broken heartfrom some girl lol
Almost 25. Feeling a little bit like garbage, specially since the start of the pandemic I set up a list of goals and didn't achieve anything, not even playing videogames. But yes, if don't keep trying it will be worst.
@@simonshura9144 Trust me, waiting for the correct partner instead of throwing yourself at some random, easy chick is definitely the right choice.
@@simonshura9144 I don’t think you understood the point. The point isn’t to just look on the bright side of your perceived failures. The point is to look at it like you can only improve from here and not to worry about what happened in the past. Honestly just seems like you’re justifying not putting yourself out there by saying “hey at least I have time to focus on myself and my heart’s not getting broken”. Not the point at all
@@simonshura9144 I spent so much time stressing about something like this in my mid 20's. Anything long term felt impossible to me.
After I basically "gave up" and started just focusing on myself, my own health and happiness, a couple years down the line I find myself in the perfect relationship that I was never looking for. Married for some time now.
In many ways the over obsessiveness over my inadequacy prevented me from being my 100%. Definitely best to not let it consume you. Zero gain. Live well, man.
"I'm 24 and it's too late."
Dude, I'm 34 and just starting to get back on track. It is NEVER too late, what you're doing is giving yourself an excuse. My mom didn't start her dream job as a personal trainer until she was 62, she's almost 70 and loving it (and in better shape than most 20 year olds).
Im 23 do you think i can still go to college
@@KingDavi1998 yes, definitely, if you have the means and ability. But there's never really a "too late" for education -- I went to a college where many of my classmates were in their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
@@KingDavi1998 I actually went to college at 23 and it was definitely worth doing! The key was finding the right course for me - if you're not sure, don't feel bad about waiting longer. You've got all the time in the world.
Its been 2 hours, how is your life now?
@@KingDavi1998 My father didn't go to college until hate mid-late 20's, I'd say go for it if it's something that appeals to you :)
Highly recommend the book “level up your life” it’s a self help book that breaks down this very concept. Applying gamer terms to everyday skills, and training your brain to want to level up those stats in real life.
Really enjoy this suggestion man. Not sure on the details of the book but I personally use a Dungeons and Dragons character sheet as my self image, then I apply the basic six stats to how they'd fit in a high school setting.
Strength, is for lifting weights before and your physical ability during a sport.
Dexterity, is making quick athletic plays/having a flexible body to perform multiple tasks.
Constitution, is your bodies strength at birth. (Example, I had decent strength and dex as a dude but I was born allergy related asthmatic. No matter how good my strength and dex are, my bodies natural rise is limited by my below average Constitution from birth.)
Intelligence, is how well you perform on tests and your information retention.
Wisdom, is the extrapolation of information. So being able to see the overlaps between information. I.e., taking simpler math to make difficult science courses easier.
Charisma, your ability to communicate yourself alongside others.
These can be vague and I definitely didn't use the best examples for each one. But connecting who you were to your peers back then through these concepts will help give you an image of yourself now and also those around you. All this to say, my Charisma and Constitution were abysmal when I was in high school. Once I started focusing on my strength though, Wisdom, I become confident in my day to day so I could work on my weaknesses through my strength. We all have our strengths, we all fit a trope. Don't be afraid to lean into the trope of who you are so you can become who you know you can become. We got this boys and girls
what author? Steve Kamb?
@@JLchevz yes Steve Kamb. It’s also on audible which is where I found it if you’re more into audiobooks like myself.
Reading a book by someone else isn’t self help… it’s help 😂
@@Moose92411 dude...
"The nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." -Thucydides
Warrior-Gamer FTW
Damn
I still don't get it ?
@@lonelystoner8594 I think it's like this: Scholars are good at thinking but not at fighting hence "Thinking done by cowards", Warriors are good at fighting but not at thinking hence "Fighting done by fools"
sounds like america
if you've ever thought it's too late, please be aware the creator of the game Stardew Valley taught himself C+ while working a basic job at a movie theater and made that game entirely alone
It's literally a matter of how much you want to do something
This is actually really interesting and inspiring
next level flex
what if your want is to weak though
@@SultanRayko Find another one that isn't. Process of elimination, lol
@@SultanRayko You gotta fix your dopamine, since it's the thing that makes you *crave* things. I recommend you check out Andrew Huberman if you wanna learn about it :)
14:24 The 3 Core Skills That Increase All of Your Stats Across the Board:
- How to learn
- How to communicate
- How to find motivation
*Note: Requires "deliberate practice" in each domain.
(I've got the first 2 down. This helped me clarify I really need to *master* the third one.)
You know, I think that discipline goes further than motivation. Motivation can get you kick started on something, discipline will make it stick.
What merchant sold you the scroll for those skills? 😂
@@kokevinny Agree, motivation is temporal. Making a habit or routine is better in the long run.
Can u tell me how u mastered the first one
treu
I think when Dr. K said, “the reality is, in 4 years I’m gonna be 32 either way, the question is do I want to be 32 with an MD or without one?” Something clicked for me. I’ve never thought about it like that before.
My thought exactly. I had never thought of it like that and its a great way to think agout things
Exactly ...that really hit the core of my brain ....love Dr K
First job at 20. Got my drivers license at 21. GED at 24. Didn’t start college or have my first date until I was 25. First boyfriend at 28. Graduated and married at 30. Didn’t start my career until I was 33. Now single and dating at 36. Still no kids and not by choice. Yet I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life because I’m finally living it instead of wishing what could have been.
Thanks for sharing this!
A year on, any changes?
Yes actually. It’s been a little over a year and a half since I posted this. I was focused on a goal of dating lots of people, determined not to take so long to find a life partner as I did the first time around. A couple months after this comment I met a guy with three kids who happened to be the age that they would be if I had kids when I intended to. So far all signs are pointing to a life long partner. It’s like my life got off on the slow side of a racetrack and then I got mushroom that boosted me through a shortcut back to second place.
@@Chuntise that's great to hear, I'm happy for you & I hope you're happy too 😃👍
Well good for you not everyone can do everything so early
You can recover from messed up stats, I turned a intense gaming addiction into a passion for art and game design.
Yep. Work with the stats you already have. Even better if your parents help you figure out early on what you’re naturally inclined towards.
My brother ended up doing the same (not really sure I'd say he was ever an addict though) now he's doing a masters in Games Design and he's very very good at it. I tried following the same path since we both played and still play a lot of games but it didn't stick with me, I still finished the college course though. I'm still finding my own path, but I think it'll be something to do with computers.
Well done though man, congrats on finding something you enjoy.
@@umiluv good for you man. I did the reverse lol. I started in art and game design, and transitioned away. Luckily our neurons can move and rearrange in no-time, so we can adapt and change to anything. Games help that ability, especially when you play new games with new rules regularly. Helps your workforce adaptability.
Programming/game dev is probably the single best option for game addicts to go into. Because you already know more than most about how to get around on a computer and research everything.
It's mostly math, but math is boring at school, fun in programming
seems like we are encouraging drug addicts to become dealers when it comes to this whole "just become a game dev" thing
There's a catch though. Probably a lot of us fall under the category "jack of all trades, master of none". Yes, it's true that there are limitless amounts of skill points, but it gets tougher to level skills up; keeping the videogame analogy, first skills need 1 skill point, but then mastering the skills starts to require more. Therefore, it makes life geared towards being a jack of all trades, as it is easier and honestly it looks more appealing to start learning a new skill that becoming *really* good at one or two - however most successful people are masters of their craft, they chose those one or two skills and keep maxing them out every day
You can also gain a lot of lateral thinking benefits from learning a lot of skills, though! Something to consider.
@@NCapo20 yes, that's true! I guess it's up to everyone: being a jack of all trades comes with the passive "know a little bit of everything" which has it's uses sometimes
Very good point. Better be a jack of all trades, master of 1 or 2.
Most successful people I met have 1-2 main passions (job, phd, sport etc) and supplement the remainder of their time with minor tasks (reading, instrument, meditating etc). Seems the most optimal for our society.
Jack of all trades is one of the best features in DnD tho in my opinion, and irl too it's more of an ability to be versatile than a wrong build that makes it harder to level up. More like we are so used to being level 7 in something, that when we need to learn a new skill and start from scratch, we get overwhelmed by the difficulty of it.
Not to mention that the phrase itself has history of going from compliment to insult to compliment again.
This makes Negative XPs song “Life is an rpg and I fucked up my build” hit way more different
Woke up again today...
@@amale441 with no missions and zero strenghts
I don't know how to play
@@LutherannoG And I don't want to anyway
@@era_tun Need to delete this game
See I got a debuff when I was born called [ADHD] after being put in the [autistic] class which means most of my stats are either really nerfed (the [social] skill tree for example, which I rely on my [intelligence] stat to compensate for) or entirely out of my control (the [executive function] stat for example). This doesn't mean I don't try, I recently saw a member of the psychiatrist clan who gave me the questline to get the [adderall] potion which greatly improves the [executive function] stat for a brief period of time. Everyone has to do what they can to improve their build, but it's very important to be mindful that not everyone has the currency or [charisma] stat and might need help from other players.
Fellow ADHD brain here. This comment is * chef’s kiss * and I wish I could like it 100 times
same story, except I can't afford medication, my country doesn't allow adderall, I don't know how to get a diagnosis and when I asked on my country's subreddit I got called an addict who wants drugs. I'm self medicating with caffeine, working out and masturbation for now, so I can focus a liiiittle tiny bit on learning web development.
ADHD is a different class, not debuff. The reason you think it is is because modern life is heavily optimized in favor of most other classes than ADHD, so you need to optimize your gameplay beyond the commonly known Playstyles to not only make it, but seriously make it big. It's a specialist class in modern society
Oh you easily distracted birds, how i love you.
@@BusinessWolf1 Stiu ce spui, bro. Exact acelasi lucru l-am patit si eu pe reddit romania. Nu inteleg de ce toata lumea te ia la ras cand pui o simpla intrebare. In any case, la fel ca tine si eu am inceput sa abuzez de cafea. Cred ca functioneaza to some extent, am in sfarsit un job ca programator si nu mai am grija banilor de mancare. De cand am facut schimbarea am chiar si o prietena!
Dunning-Kruger effect is when you put last point into the tree and you think you maxed out skill, but suddenly skill tree zooms out and you see it's just beginning.
Is that analogous to falling off the peak of Mt. Stupid?
Skyrim
Is the opposite when the tree’s filled out pretty well, but you just have no idea how you’re supposed to use all of it properly
@Failed Society THIS!
That is an awesome analogy
Really wish I heard this when I dropped out of college at 20. I feel like since then and now I missed lots of opportunities to turn my life around at the most foundational period (18-25) of my life. I’m 27 now and can’t stand myself for letting that time go to waste. Honestly feel like I have mountain to climb in order to get my life on track.
I dont think there's such a thing as wasted time when youre that young. I needed that time when I was younger to figure out who the fuck am I and what the fuck do I want out of life. I didnt have a fucking clue from 18-25
I'm 23 and dropped out of university and "wasted" on some other skill points. I find it sometimes find it difficult too when people judge on the basis of objective merit, external forces like inflation and technological change that will weed out inept people who learns inefficiently or have adhd, or aspergers. I think falling behind and catching up/ climbing a mountain is the construct of the mind. Focus on what you can do now, it may be a fantasy trap to climb a mountain, maybe focus on climbing a bump/dune then set realistic goals meanwhile.
You can do it!
27 is still bloody young. You have your whole life before you. Why is 25 the most foundational period of your life and 27 isn't? Lay foundation for your life now. If you need to climb a mountain, it's okay - honestly, we all do. Take the first step today.
watch the first podcast of david goggins with joe rogan
The stat I maxed out is self-loathing
I felt this, oof.
If that energy could be tapped, it could be like harnessing geothermal energy.
That's really sad... I'll bet its only you that thinks that tho. Change self loathing with humility and sensitivity and you have a positive stat .
Now we just gotta find out how to respec
I kind of built a versatile set up but the problem is I forgot the self-esteem so now it's just on the low.
I generally agree, but the part about learning Japanese to a fluent level in 2 or 3 months is just not realistic and I think is damaging to people as it sets unrealistic expectations. I learned fluently English and German, but it took me years to do that. Does that make me stupid? Now, I have been learning Korean everyday for around 3 months and I'm nowhere near fluent, I wouldn't even say I'm intermediate. I'm still a beginner, although I am happy with my progress so far. But seeing people making claims like that "you can learn a language in 60 or 90 days, you just need to apply yourself" truly demotivates me.
I’ve never really tried to learn a language, but I think the catch is everyone has a different perceived amount of what “fluent” or being “done” means to them. So you have people who make certain claims but your perception of it ends up being way different. Hence why sometimes when you’re cleaning it might look good to you, but then to someone else it might look terrible and that you didn’t clean at all. Another example might be like when you’re trying to learn an instrument, and someone comes along saying they know how to play 10 different ones all quite proficiently. Even though in reality from your perspective they’re only decent at one or two, and the rest they’re no where near what they claim. Everyone has different ideas and expectations of what being proficient, or good at something looks like. Factor in the fact that none of us are truly born equal and often have a different set of life skills from others, we may have more or less difficulty at doing what we want or need to be doing. That being said someone else’s experience may very well not even be something to consider. Since we’re all built differently. It’s a lot easier said than done though to not compare yourself that’s for sure.
@@Justin-xi6ue Um... no. Fluent is one of those words that is consistent. It isn't relative. You made it relative by comparing it to the word "done" (which is relative depending on the context).
I'm touching the rest of that as it isn't relevant.
@@123christianac Don't understand what you're getting at here. All I was saying is fluent to one person might look like 3 months while to another person it might be years. Depends on what the word means to you, how satisfied you are with your progress, and lastly it depends on how fast you're able to make said progress in said skill. Everybody is different and it's important to avoid comparing yourself to others or listening to some claims people make if you'd like to stay motivated, because not every claim is 100% true. Also your progress matters more than someone else's. Anyway it was just my personal opinion and advice as someone who's been constantly demotivated by others.
@@Justin-xi6ue "All I was saying is fluent to one person might look like 3 months while to another person it might be years"
Like I said, no. Because of the definition of fluent, people aren't going to become fluent in 3 months. You didn't even learn your first language in three months. Why do you think that someone might become fluent in a second language (which is harder to learn after a certain age) in that time frame? Let's not forget that Japanese is one of the hardest languages to learn.
I understand where you are coming from, however I believe that line of thinking is flawed. You can't grow as efficiently if you don't know the standards and averages. You don't know what is good enough unless you ask someone who does. "Thinking it is good enough" will not make things good enough.
I disagree with your advice as it is more likely to cause people to live their own bubbles instead of facing reality. Your claim that someone might be able to do improbable tasks is enough evidence for me to shoot it down.
@@123christianac And that's your own opinion of what fluent is which is exactly the point I was trying to make. Many people obviously are believing 3 months is sufficient to be "fluent." When to them fluent has a completely different definition to what you or others may believe it is. However if that level of skill makes them happy then I think that's all that really matters. If we're talking on whether or not it's really possible though, learning as a baby is completely different than learning as an adult so I don't think that's a good comparison. We have techniques and study skills that we may acquire over the years so that we can apply ourselves in the fullest potential. Hence why some people accel in school compared to others. It's not like we all learn at the same pace and with the same methods as well.
Continuing on though, personally I hate it when people brag and say they can play 10 instruments but can barely do anything with it. However I'm not going to shoot someone down for it and correct them because that would be rude. Who am I to judge someone for being happy and wanting to feel good about their achievements? With that said being able to play an instrument to me is knowing songs, knowing your scales, improvising, being able to read sheet music, etc. Not just fumbling around with strings and needing to constantly look at the notes. Literally anybody can play and so it's often times misleading when someone says that. Just like how it can be misleading for someone to say they're fluent in a language at just 3 months.
But again maybe that's what the word itself means to them even if it doesn't mean the same to you. Sure it might be unrealistic and can cause people to live in their own bubbles but your line of thinking can also cause someone to become a perfectionist and entirely stop them from learning the skill all together. Basically I'm not the one to decide though if someone wants to listen to a particular claim or if someone wants to give it. If it makes them happy then so be it. They're the only ones that can decide if the claim is accurate. Especially when again, you consider that we all have vastly different opinions and levels of life experience.
If it comes time though and the person realizes "wow I'm really not at the level this person says or even at the level I thought I was at. It looks like it's going to be awhile.." Then at the very least they were able to get their foot in the door despite the claim not being entirely accurate if at all to them. It's just a lot more enticing to see 3 months vs 10 years. I believe this could also be where others are coming from when they give timelines like this. It can simply be to motivate even if it might look improbable or entirely inaccurate. But this is also exactly why I said you shouldn't just believe everything someone says and to just focus on yourself more.
I never said not to check out the standards and averages but basically to just take everything with a grain of salt. With all the noise people make about something it's easily distracting and can be highly damaging to one's self confidence and rate of progress in life. Thus you have a person who may very well just end up giving up and saying they're "not good enough." When in reality you were good enough a long time ago but you're too distracted by someone else's accomplishments, or someone telling you that you're wrong or you're this and that, and that you don't know what you're talking about. Bottom line is that I disagree with this approach. Although some people might appreciate that more I don't doubt it. Personally I've heard enough of it from my own family and have had more than enough anxiety from it as the result.
You're free to have your own opinions though. I just thought I'd chip in and try to help OP because sometimes it helps to try and understand the thought process regarding why others might be making those types of claims. No one has to agree with me. After all I'm not the one telling people you can learn a language in 3 months like Dr. K says in the video, even though I'm sure he meant well by that statement.
depression is the worst status effect, someone make a potion for that.
Accountability. It works amazingly well.
@@di3486 That's not how depression works.
@@amandaslough125 Yes, that’s how it works but you haven’t found out yet.
Just drink milk @Reed S! (lol, jk, obviously)
@@amandaslough125 Both of you are right. There are chemical imbalances but you have the ability to restore them with the right mindset.
I think a potentially more resonant way to phrase this idea is "Skill points aren't allocated; they're generated. And it's never too late to generate some more."
I didn't even level up gaming. I spent thousands of hours on it and I'm still garbage at pretty much every game I play
Persistence
pretty much!
I think you can play competitive games without actively trying to improve. That's the majority of players who are stuck in silver for league for example
Thats literally me
You might be leveling up storytelling passively.
Someone once told me that it's never too late for anything, unless you're already dead. Also, that even if something takes a few years to get done, if it'll affect the rest of your life in a positive way then it's worth doing. Honestly though, the greatest motivation about it not being too late is when i read up stories about 50+ year old people who finally graduated from high school or college and use that to go into a job they always wanted but never could get.
There are certain factors that make things almost impossible. Blindness, chronic illness, sever injuries, cognitive issues.
Where you're spawned makes a lot of difference
you guys better reallocate your pip boy stats,
go fight against a gas station addict to acquire points, and increase the right stats.
There is a benefit to learning things before adulthood (21-25), after which you really do need more time spent to 'level up' a skill. I will say however, kids usually have terrible focus and have little sense of intentionality or purpose when learning whereas adults tend to have a better understanding of goals, expectations, and desired outcomes. In any case, ruminating about the past and things out of your control doesn't set you up to make meaningful changes. The only course is to accept where you are in life currently without judgement or regret, and focus on what you can do today.
100x this, I 'wasted' my youth on pain rehabilitation, surgeries and general health problems. Just picked up life at 28 and taking it step by step. I coulda felt it was too late and I'm too old, but I'm not going to get younger or the lost time back. I have to make the most of it now. People don't care it was in or out of my control, sometimes it's positive, often it's negative, but only way I'll change this for the better is to just keep at it.
I guess that's why people say youth is "wasted" on the young.
@@IrateWizrd Yeah those are always parents who withhold the truth from their kids. Everyone else knows better.
Heck, even just the structure of children's lives in modern NA society facilitates skill acquisition so much more. Several hours a day in a facility intended for learning, as well as the lack of need to worry about acquiring food and rent since the parents are handling that. Granted there's a lot of flaws in the school system, but just being expected to be in that environment I think could do so much more for adults if they weren't instead stressing about making sure they don't go homeless.
I agree. Not only did I learn more efficiently in my teenage years, it also helped that I wasn't exactly worried about paying for anything. I've seen more adults than I can count on hand get "lost in the sauce" when they start to work. They're given zero support and start to think that's all they're built to do in life. It's not easy but it wasn't meant to be. It becomes a slippery slope if you let it.
I've cut my gaming down to only like 2 hours a day and I've been working out a lot and applying to jobs. I'm 27 and I have a bachelors in history. I've never found a career path and I've felt stuck for a very long time. I've only had 2 real relationships and I have felt totally void of any human interaction for at least 5 years at my worst point. I still can't figure out what the hell I'm doing, but I know I can't go back to what I was doing. I was ruining my life by avoiding it. I've nearly reached the point of suicide and I don't think I ever will, but I know what it's like for anyone who has felt that way. I haven't given up, but sometimes I have felt a ton of regret.
thank you for choosing to live
Same, but I'm 35
Thank you, Dr. K.
This video came at a very scarily specific time for me. I'm 26, soon to be 27, and I kept thinking that I am going to have to settle for the job I've been with for 7 years for the rest of my life. All becasue I keep thinking that I'm simply too old to learn a new skill or make any drastic changes to my life.
I will take this advice and hopefully I'll see a positive outcome in a couple years.
If not today then when? If not you then who? Go out and live your best life beautiful people!
yoo good luck
@@RurouniTim thanks. Going to community college is actually the first thing that crossed my mind after watching this. Hope we can both do our best.
@@krbay1019 I wish you the best on your journey
I am 43 and hoping to learn code. I am currently in my first year in a PhD and I have better grades than ever. Being older has huge advantages.
The feral children aren't incapable of acuiring language completely. But they are severely limited compared to others in the speed at which they learn and they cannot afaik reach normal lingual competency. But some degree of language acuisition is possible, there's been examples that even included trying to teach literacy, although that has been, as I recall the TV documentaries I've watched, mostly unsuccessful. Which I have no trouble believing, it's about what I expect.
The problem with the feral children as examples is people extrapolate out conclusions made about them to other aspects of psychology. Their specific example regards learning a language, more specifically their first language. The rest of us learn our first language as babies/toddlers, which necessarily requires an incredible feat of neural encoding to achieve. There's no reason to suspect that this unique situation necessarily has implications for learning later in life. People need to remember that any and all conclusions drawn from research can only apply to the subject and to extrapolate with caution.
They can learn words. They have great difficulty learning syntax (word order needed to create coherent sentences). This is a trick humans can learn at a young age, but other apes can never learn. Apes who learn sign language do NOT learn syntax. Same with humans who don’t learn it early enough.
I’m 25 and I recently started grinding my irl stats, I’ve never felt better about myself. This year I decided to start martial arts, reading more, and hiking. It’s been great, I do NOT regret making the change. Join me brothers, embrace the grind !
Nice! Congrats on leveling up real life stats! It’s a lot of fun doing stuff IRL. Gaming is great for chilling out.
Hell yeah! Glad to hear it
@Failed Society I'm sorry, not trying to offend you, but isn't reading comprehension a part of intellect? Or are you saying you apart from that one thing, you have high intellect?
@@lukekim8108 search for Gardner's theory of multiple types of intelligence
@@gianlucaacca4401 I know what that is, I'm just saying in modern society when literally all educational and communication fields are conveyed mainly through the medium of text, it's ironic calling yourself someone with high intellect if you don't have reading comprehension skills.
The capacity for a high level of reading comprehension has several branches of intelligence linked to it, such as logical and linguistic intelligence. I would argue it's also connected, albeit very loosely, to visual, interpersonal, and intrapersonal intelligence.
I know there are certain conditions that can physically impede this, so if that is the case then I concede. Again, my main issue was with the idea that "having high intellect" could go in the same sentence as "having bad reading comprehension". If that person were talking about interesting skills such as musical or kinetic intellect, they would not have described it as "high intellect"; they would have said they had certain skills in a certain area. That term is most widely associated with logical intelligence, hence my confusion.
I was not going to go into any detail of what I was actually thinking; I was trying to be respectful and first understand what that person meant. Thanks for assuming I didn't know what you thought I didn't know, and in the process making me offend the person. :)
What a great video. I was 32 when I decided that being a game consumer and being underemployed wasn't fulfilling enough, so I made the leap into game development. Had to put my life on hold for a year to go back to school. Luckily I had the financial support of my family to see me through. I was nearly 34 when I got my first QA job with a major studio where I was rubbing shoulders with much younger coworkers and reporting to younger managers but I didn't care. Putting the ego aside & redoubling my efforts to learn quickly was always going to be part of the deal.
I'm now 44 and still working in games!
One question, do you have your own company? Or do you work for one? I was start godot and python
@@Mambell I've only ever worked at companies.
@@CMA777do they pay well?
@@jshbld6582 depends on the studio and the role. Generally not well at first. You need to work your way up or have an in-demand skill set.
While that thumbnail is certainly right in most cases, I learned an awful lot from playing WoW back in the days. Nothing teaches patience, frustration tolerance, and the value of consistency like wiping to un-nerfed Muru 420 times before finally making it. It all depends on "how you do it"
Different times man. An MMO that worked for me was one were everyone was trying to scam the fuck out of you, so I learnt to beware about sketchy deals, ‘online friendships’ that just wanted everything u had, and to resell stuff for a markup. Nowadays, I think the online landscape is a different monster, and I think games are now being developed with other goals in mind (squeezing the living fuck out of gamers themselves)
Old school WoW is totally different from modern gaming. Most games are trying to keep up with the masses. Making stuff easier. I get bored easily with gaming now. It’s just not fun enough anymore.
When I got bored with Skyrim because I got too OP, I started over and modded the f out of it to make it harder - eating, sleeping, and bathing required, cold sensitivity, etc.
Climbing up the steps to get to the monks was mayhem. I ran to the monastery at the end and sat next to one of the fires for 15 minutes to warm up. I definitely almost died from hypothermia in-game. It was awesome lol.
@@umiluv agree, games don’t challenge you anymore, they appeal to the lowest common denominator
@@xenomi3593 Not an mmo but Growtopia fits that perfectly
and since in games most people are anonymous and therefor more honest, and scammers are everywhere, it really teaches you about what reality really is inside peoples minds compared to real life where everyone is wearing a figurative mask.
I just wanted to say a HUGE THANK YOU for helping people. I personally feel better about myself. Your words give me hope that it is never too late and that nothing in me is really "broken". It just has to be rewired. After every video you put out here you're helping me taking a step further forward in my life.
Life is P2W. Time to buy the skill reset for £5.99
I wish this was a joke
That's in-game currency, it doesn't count as P2W.
Skill reset was patched by devs during the beta when gamers figured out they could exploit the system by leveling up the no-life stats.
what a weird price for cyanide pills
@@Gnidel Nah some people pay bo-bucks before starting the game and they get spawned with better starting items.
This passive XP describe me so well, I'm Brazilian and never had good motivation to study English. But after I have read all the translated manga/novels chapters, I slowly started to consume content in English, in the beginning I always have to consults new words in dictionary or use other tools. Now when I look back I noticed I practically learned a new language because of a hobby, and it's opening doors and letting me consume more content for hobby and to go further in my career.
It is amazing how even the simplest hobby can train your skill, be it learning a new language, strategy, financial, reaction time, flexibility, even typing fast count's!
Muito bom achar nome BR falando inglês, mesmo que o conteúdo seja sobre ser brasileiro, ainda é hilário, tmj
Better be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
Thats great lol
Gardeners/farmers tend to do good in wars like Simo Haya with hunting skills, while warriors in gardens are ADHD kids in classes
Unless it's a war with zombies.
Then just plant petunia gatling guns.
What if you fight famine and not people bruh
And Samwise gamgee took it personally
My ‘Sims’ Skills [Sims 3, Sims 4 (Sims 2)]
- [x] Acting 1
- [ ] Advanced Technology
- [ ] Alchemy
- [ ] Archaeology
- [x] Baking 3
- [ ] Bass, Drums, and Piano
- [x] Body (Sims 2) 2
- [x] Bot Making 1
- [x] Bowling 1
- [x] Charisma 6
- [x] Cleaning (The Sims 2) 10
- [x] Collecting 2
- [x] Comedy 9
- [x] Cooking 5
- [x] Creativity (The Sims 2) 4
- [ ] DJ Mixing
- [ ] Dancing
- [ ] Fishing
- [x] Fitness 1
- [x] Flower Arranging 2
- [x] Gardening 4
- [ ] Gourmet Cooking
- [x] Guitar 3
- [x] Handiness 6
- [ ] Herbalism
- [x] Inventing 2
- [ ] Laser Rhythm-a-con
- [x] Logic 4
- [ ] Martial Arts
- [x] Media Production 1
- [x] Mischief 3
- [ ] Mixology
- [ ] Nectar Making
- [x] Painting 1
- [x] Parenting 3
- [x] Pet Training 2
- [x] Photography 1
- [ ] Piano
- [ ] Pipe Organ
- [ ] Programming
- [ ] Racing, Riding, and Jumping
- [ ] Rocket Science
- [x] Science 1
- [ ] Scuba
- [ ] Sculpting
- [ ] Selvadoradian Culture
- [ ] Singing
- [x] Street Art 1
- [ ] Vampiric Lore
- [x] Veterinarian 1
- [x] Video Gaming 1
- [ ] Violin
- [x] Wellness 1
- [x] Writing 1
Me who still doesnt know what skill I ended up maxing out: _screams_
The succ
@@charginginprogresss what
@@therealthatcatstabe360 you maxed out the mystery skill
Go out there and figure it out.
@@RahulSharma-ot3wo niceeee
As someone who's spent most of his time gaming, and is still kinda bad at gaming
This worries me
This was actually very easy to chew up and understand. The farming skill points and xp analogies were very well received and actually translate very well. This was an enjoyable watch because of it. It helps so much for a professional to be in the lifestyle of his patients for this exact reason.
Range, by David Epstein is a pretty great book for anyone that feels behind. Often whatever path you've gone down so far will serve you in interesting ways when you decide to pursue something else. The time isn't wasted.I was a poker player & it's serving me well in product management bc it's given me a unique view on corporate strategy. Gamers of many types will see a benefit to whatever they hyper-focus on next, because your gaming skills can give you a unique perspective that adds value.
It's funny how Dr. K talks about feeling late and brings up his early 20's as an example. I'm in the beginning of my late twenties lacking all those experiences. No Bsc or BA, all my life I worked barely a year in a shitty office, 0 relationships. I've never heard of people who turned their life around at my age.
I know I'm taking away all the wrong lesions from this video and that is not the point, it just makes me extremely anxious to hear that people usually have the same struggle half a decade earlier...
Maybe If I haven't kept spending the last 6 years keeping this "Fear of missing out" attitude I would have experienced change in my life way sooner.
It just feels like a vicious cycle I feel like I can't brake any time soon.
I feel like my life is the scene from Back to the Future Part 3 where they try to accelerate the train to power up the Delorean, except in my version there is no time machine and there is no bridge in the future yet I'm still consciously fueling the train to accelerate towards the huge chasm I'm well aware of.
If it brings you any solace I’m in the exact same boat as you. Except at the age of 25 I decided to enroll myself at my CC to pursue an associate’s in IT and during the post pandemic managed to find work at a restaurant. Still feel as if I’m very behind but taking baby steps. Just need to find the motivation to keep making changes.
I’m in a similar boat to you at 30. I pray everyday that it’s not all ruined forever. Trying to make some changes now, but everything I do feels humiliating. The shame is so intense it’s hard to change my course. And all for what might be nothing.
Really do not worry. He mentions early or mid-twenties because he thinks that's most of his clients or Twitch base but the science and experience says that it does work for every age. This 8-12 week rule - I have never really heard of that before but I know enough about neuroplasticity to believe that there is really something fundamental going on with that time frame.
Of course there can be troubles with being consistent - (mental) health, addictions, other life obligations or just plain not knowing what you want. But if you stick to a problem right now you want to solve and work on it consistently, you will see progress and you will see changes. (maybe you are suffering from a more chronic depression?)
Maybe you want to work on self-confidence or self-compassion, build a meditation technique, learn new ways to deal with negative emotions and frustration?
What you should take from this video is also that there are more universal skills that give you a buff in every area, i.e. learning to learn - for example there is a free coursera course "Learning How To Learn" (I have a masters and I still learned a lot from that and I feel like a fool for having "wasted" so much time - but of course beating myself up is BS) or Justin Sungs youtube channel, - then there are techniques to deal with emotional turmoil - for example ACT, CBT, DBT, meditation and some better ways to communicate your emotions and desires like Non-Violent Communication for example
I personally really recommend ACT therapy for self-confidence and mindfulness based techniques to live with stressful emotions - I am still super nervous but at least I can actually live and do things I want now thanks to it
@@Teilnehmer I don't think that was his point really. If you invest the wrong points for too long there could be a point where you as a person might be capable of focusing on other skills, but it's impossible due to systemic conditions. Take the no degree comment, as college is only getting more expensive. For low income workers, working to survive can leave little money and/or time to go pursue that degree. When you're a HS student, it's easier to dip off to school provided you have the funds, but there are some complications for low wage older workers. If you are living paycheck to paycheck, even the idea of switching jobs can be hard, because any downtime transitioning could mean a bill doesn't get paid. So, even if you can afford college with grants, if your schedules don't line up, you might be screwed. Therapy has helped me immensely, but it will never help me feel less depressed about systemic societal issues trapping me.
If you put the wrong points in, society should invest in it's people and help them reallocate their skills.
I think an important takeaway here is that you're gonna be 30, 35, 40 etc. anyway, so you might as well start now. The best way to start is to start.
14:09 Yea this hidden curriculum thing is especially true for me. I like to do speed runs for fun in games I play and I think how that translated over to my real life was how it made me be able to see loopholes in assignments such that I can cheese my school assignments and still get A's and B's. But of course that comes with being able to understand the normal way of doing or at the very least, know the normal way of doing things. A foundation in your understanding in any given topic has to be built well first, then you'll naturally be able to find loopholes in any given task if there exists any.
This skill helped me save so much time and I like to use that time for self entertainment and also to help my classmates with their school work if they need it.
My danish teacher always used to say that you need to know the rules before you can break them in regard to how people are bending the rules throughout every period of literature and why our half-assed assignments there not "breaking" the rules.
If life was like Skyrim, I want to know what the stealth archer build for life is!
You get a ghillie suit and a bow
Illusion assassin with 30x backstab damage is the way to go.
Probably Cybersecurity or cyberwarfare.
Be a hitman in a rough country.
sigma grindset 💯
This change in self talk is something I can really attest to as well. 14 months ago, I had just graduated and I didn't really know what I wanted to do, I had two options I thought I could maybe do (bike mechanic and event technician), but I felt like I would never be able to hold down a job due to what I would later realize were executive function difficulties caused by me being neurodivergent. This negative self talk was amplified by my mother saying really negative things to me all my life ("someone like you is not suited to take care of an apartment", "you're not fit for society", "you can't even take care of yourself, you're so far behind in development"). I applied for an internship at my local theatre because I wanted to figure out whether the job of an event technician would really suit me as the hours are not for everyone. Applications were really hard for me to write because I struggled with viewing myself positively, but I got the internship and I was even offered an apprenticeship a month or so into it. I took the opportunity and a year later, I'm really happy with that choice.
Long story short, because I got (and still get) positive feedback there (which I know they meant because they put their money behind it), my self view has changed drastically. I know think of myself as hard-working, diligent and overall a great hire because now, I know what my strengths are. If I had to write an application right now, it would be much easier as I wouldn't have to pretend to think positively about myself. All that change occured because I was surrounded by positive feedback about myself.
I messed up by not getting life's preorder DLC that those born into wealthy families got.
Underrated comment
The simulations fucked
39 year old here. As recent as 3 months ago, I was as stuck in life and empty inside as just about anyone Dr. K has featured on his show. My self talk has taken a 180 degree turn, and that has made all the difference. I'm on track toward the life I've always wanted, and I feel 10 years younger to boot. I'm hoping this will inspire others out there that you are not too old and it is NEVER TOO LATE!!
Dr. K was talking about how people after like 40 weeks of therapy start to ask themselves the same questions that he would normally ask him and I just had a huge realisation.
Now, I've never had therapy even though I probably should and the closest thing I have are these videos. But spending hours every week for the past 6 months have allowed me to start asking the same questions that dr.k asks the audience when talking about issues I relate with. Holy shit this guy knows his shit.
I mean, of course he does, but he really, really, really does
I'm in my first semester of veterinary medicine, I'll be 32 when I finish and often have thoughts that it's too late - thanks for your story Dr. K, this came exactly at the right time
28 and one year away from finishing. Good luck, vet brother.
Just want to add on to this that one should also consider natural regression and obsolesence (through actual progress on the field or "artificially") of certain skills. As opposed to "usage-based" levelling systems, such as that of Skyrim, where you only lose a skill point by serving jail time, IRL has you lose proficiencies when you've neglected to use or update them for some time. Certain skills and knowledge as well that might require credentialing might become obsolete if we haven't taken refreshers or "society-imposed" certifications.
I think these are important to be recognized for planning out one's new path as these give one perspective on how accurately you'll alot time on improving yourself.
That prerequisiste "skill" you thought you've sort of mastered a decade ago? You might need to brush up on it for a bit before proceeding. You haven't been rusty with that profession you're gonna use as a leverage for you're next one? Wait, last year the professional board gatekeeped that path with a requirement of a decade of practice with several conditions before you can proceed.
I think after overcoming oneself, and deciding to pursue what you really want to be, it's essential to objectively pin point the natural, temporal, and societal hindrances that one will encounter to better navigate their path or maybe decide on whether to pivot or seek out alternatives.
Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with Dr. K on this, especially on choosing the path forward, I'm only adding to it that one must have total grasp on one's current situation and prospects to be able to proceed successfully and avoid any burnouts or dissappointments midway. Of course this doesn't apply to everything but there are certain life paths that are indeed either time-bound or "society-bound", which at our current case not that easily bypassed by enthusiasm, hard work, and positivity alone.
Yeah but when you are re learning a skill from lost time. It's always faster to re use old neural pathways instead of creating new ones.
I disagree pretty vociferously with Dr. K, and your comment does leave out a huge issue in society.
First, “credentialing”is a concept that can be and is abused to Greta societal detriment. It is a form of monopoly that drives costs up artificially.
Given that two people have the exact knowledge base, but one spent four years and $60,000 while the other spent 12 years and learned off of the internet. What does it matter if either was credentialed trough a college or not?
Wouldn’t it make more sense to have a third party credential system that separates the institution providing the education FROM also providing the credentials?
Man everytime I'm going through mental turmoil Dr. K comes in clutch with a video to help me puts things in a better perspective. Thank you truly.
Forbes 30 under 30 proves that accomplishing something in your 20s is an amazing feat. Don’t hold yourself to those levels of accomplishment.
@V O ty, I needed this a lot
@V O I can agree to some of this.. I made Forbes 30 under 30 this year and I can attribute a lot of the motivation to becoming an entrepreneur due to my fathers passing at an early age. Knowing that at any point my life could end really motivated me to get the most out of my life Bc to me the biggest risk in life is to NOT take any. In gamer terms, we all die anyway so why not try it out on expert difficulty 😂
@V O reassurance, lets all soak in it
@V O this, the zuccerberg, musk fantasy is sorrounded by all kinds of privilegie, you cant compare yourself to that
As I aged, I realized most people "make it" in their 40s and 50s. Im 27 now, and am just starting to figure it out. My dad was an inspiration, cus at 43 he went back to school and got his MA and PhD in a new field and is now super successful. Its never too late.
“The only difference between the master and the student is that the master has failed more times than the student has tried.”
This has been my biggest fear in my teen years, I'm already hooked
You have such a positive view on life, it's very infectuous 😊 keep up the good work! You earned yourself a new subscriber ☺
Your videos have come out of nowhere and I’m now seeing where my issues are. Thank you for putting this out there for everyone. I appreciate you and your efforts!
Man I really need to give the biiigggest thank you to you Dr. K. This is so heavy, so deep, so useful stuff you are giving to us. And the fact that it is not just coming from someone who KNOWS what he is talking about but actually knows HOW to prep it so we actually understand it, too. Just amazing. I can not thank you enough. And even if I'm still struggling with a lot of stuff, you gave me tools, motivation and not to forget: hope. Thank you so much.
Very interesting. Great timing, too. I've been trying to turn my life around for the past 10ish weeks. I've had a sudden surge of improvement at first then sort of a process without much improvement. I've kept up with meditation and changing my self talk.
I've been continuing with therapy (I had been in therapy prior, but made no real improvement because I wasn't really open with my therapist because I felt ashamed), and I still felt like I had stopped improving.
I also feel as though my focus is on the wrong things, so now I want to keep it going and try to learn what Dr. K said, which is communication, optimal learning and general self awareness. It's uplifting to hear that there can be a sudden shift and I begin to make strides. But it also makes me realize that I am on course, and as usual, I might just be too hard on myself.
It's important to say that not all skill points invested into playing games are wasted. There are genuine overlaps between gaming skills and real world skill. The context is different and you need to adapt those skills, but some (if not most) of them are transferable.
I learned quick decision making and adapting to changing circumstances from playing a lot of competitive strategy games and it gave me an edge in my job where I need to make a lot of minute to minute decisions. Granted most of those decisions are "low impact", but they still need to be made and I can't afford to waste hours on them. And since english is my third language it helped me a great deal learning that as well.
My point is: you actually don't have to "start over". Build on top of what you are already good at. There has to be something. Maybe you are patient, decisive or have great reflexes, a steady hand, handle stress well... whatever it may be. Use it and improve on it.
I’m 30 and have no relationship and almost no sexual experiences whatsoever. I can’t imagine how helpful it would have been at 23 to have your channel. I felt totally lost back then and sort of gave up. Dissociation has become a more and more common tactic, and I’ve been working the past two years with a professional to help develop the capacity to really connect..but god man I feel like I was early to this pandemic of totally lost men. I see this as starting with people born maybe like 5 years after me. But yeah of all the “am I too late” things, relationships/sex is the scariest by far
Ur still young life is different for everyone not everything is a cookie cutter path for everyone so go on and be the best u
@@i.03983 i appreciate it man
Love is much more important than sex. Sex is short lived validation. Love is more long term. Notches won't matter when you find someone who really matters to you and really cares about you. That on its own takes everyone time to find.
As someone who started dating later than most (at 27), my advice is to just go for it without comparing yourself with others, only compare yourself with you in the past. What is done is done. If you fucked up by haven't put more focus on the social aspects in life, you have to understand that you can't time-travel, just move forward. At least you know all the things that you shouldn't be doing. Don't get discouraged if things don't go well. It's a matter of practice. Social skills are skills for a reason, they are developed by consistency and self-analysis. In the lapse of 4 years I went in twice the amount of dates some of my fckboy friends went in all their lives. I know I kinda went overboard but the point remains, feeling bad is just a burden, and practice can give you an exponential growth if well applied.
Give it to God bro🙏
“Wrong” is relative, therefore a fallacy meme.
If you feel like you need a respec, do it. This is true open world, there are no actual rules. The passively learned abilities are like jumping off points that start a bit higher, but you still have to go out and learn afterwards. C’est la vie!
I've been learning japanese for almost 3 years (almost every day) and as much as i like theses videos, 2 months to learn is just not doable. i can barely read slice of life manga at this point. the fastest ppl to do it (with like 8h+ a day of study can make it to N1 in about a year)
Yeah I literally burn out on learning Japanese day after day 2 years, and even if I got a decent level, i'm nowhere near proficient in the language.
But then I made a point to be able to read too, not just speak it; so on this point Dr.K is giving a strange advice.. he should have kept it to "just go and study, doesn't matter if it takes from your 28 to 34 to become a doctor, just do it"
You don’t need N1 level knowledge to hold a conversation tho, only N2-3(still like 6-8 months but he was in a decent ballpark)
@@seyza1677 Don't worry i burned out on it for 6 months but i came back to it stronger than ever, i'm on a 20 words per day using anki's core 2k deck (i've almost finished it) reaching some understanding of my first manga/anime/whatever podcast or youtube video is what keeps me motivated to say that it's totaly doable as long as i keep doing it
@@rav1n393 While it is probably doable under the condition that 1 studying japanese is your only activity (like japanese student degree or smthg) and 2 you already know how to be efficient with the learning. if i had the rythm of learning i have today the day i started learning i would most likely already be at N3, truth is i realised recently that i was very much behind on the vocabulary front, started going through core 2k anki deck (which i almost finished) around 3 months ago and yeah my ability to read/listen and even speak has skyrocketed with just 2000 words. But yeah still tho 2 months is just a bit innacurate !
Yeah Dr. K set some really unrealistic expectation there. Sure, maybe if you already know a similar language (e.g. Chinese), you can maybe get proficient in Japanese in 2 months, but for most people that's just not doable. I've been learning Japanese for about 6 months now and I'm nowhere near the level of understanding even a basic sentence.
I hate to admit it, but Dr K is correct!
Back in the day I used to watch a bit of anime, did pick up on the language, have an interest in Japanese cars.
The problem was that a lot of the material was only in Japanese or Japan, but in short, I could watch a video in Japanese, I couldn't make out the proper / true sentences, but the few words here and there, the variations in grammar I could suddenly fill in the blanks and understand what it was about.
As for using a skill, I wasted most of my gaming youngsters playing Tycoon games and the business side of that.
Well today I am doing a little trading in the crypto currency market by basically utilizing my skills / tycoon games knowledge to figure out what my best course of action is and how much you dare to bet (NEVER EVER drain your account on investments in a Tycoon game, first hard lesson you learn in those games.)
I love the use of gamer terms to help us understand lol. I have wanted to learn Arabic for ages. Ima just go for it
Needed to hear this!!!
I had this viewpoint at a very tender age of 13. After I played D&D the first time my friends and I joked about what we as people were in a class situation.
It actually really helped me consider new skills and hobbies.
I’m 45. I accomplished: 2 black belts, ten different SCUBA diving certifications, 8 years of college (AAIT, BSP, MSIOP), EMT-B certification, playing level 3 piano (working toward making it to 8), A+ certified, Network+ certified, taken firearms training, spent the last decade on a motorcycle and have travelled extensively.
That said, I’m happy with the ground I’ve gained… but my social circle pretty much crumbled as I was too busy achieving. I also burned out. These days, I’m trying to rebuild my circle of friends and I date casually (even after losing a ten year relationship in my late 30s)
Nothing wrong with taking your time with your goals… I’m still trucking… you don’t die at 40. The limitations are what you are willing to accept.
Add: try getting around Japan after 2 months of study. You’re gonna know the basics, but it’s not an easy language. 😣
Spent a month out there, and you’ll still be learning as you go.
I literally needed this video for now, in this moment. I'm changing jobs right now and doubting myself is it a good decision or not. Thanks a lot Dr. K!!!
This makes a lot of sense because i remeber watching a tedtalk, something about how being behind on something could actually get you ahead.
Thank you Dr. K. I’ve been gaining weight lately and kept telling myself to start with 10 push ups but every time I tell myself I can’t. Hearing you talk about it broke my barrier. I just busted out 10 push ups easily. Again huge thanks :)
-screams- I know I have no confidence, no motivation, and negative self-talk. Therapy always just skims the surface and it really feels like there's no progress at all. I'm so tired of waiting around for things to get better, I want to change things!
This is such an important concept! If you keep searching for the highest exp/min and see everything you do as some form of exp-gain for skills you wanna level up, it will help you immensely!
I was stuck in my mid twenties doing job that I hated and I always wanted to do some kind of sport/human body related job, so I applied to physiotherapy uni. I've been preparing entering exams for half a year studying at nights after work. I failed and it was really heartbreaking, but I decided to give it one more shot since I ended up just bellow the line of people that got accepted. I spent half of the next year working and another half travelling and preparing for exams. Finally I got accepted but I felt I'm so behind since I was going to be 31 the earliest by the time I finish. The feeling was with me pretty much all the way throughout my studies, but I managed to finish it this september. It was hard and painful, since I felt my brain was bit more rigid than it used to be when I was 20, but I'm so glad I did it. I work as a PT now, getting necesarry work experience so I can open my own clinic and I'm actually looking forward to going to work which pretty much never happened before in my life. I'm planning on staying scholar my whole life in one thing or another and I think it's great. My personal life is getting slighly better also now. As Stallone said, what's the rush.. life is long enough. If I get familly life sorted by the time I'm 40 I consider myself a happy guy. Worst think for me always was and also is the the pressure from the outside, feeling like people are judging me and that I'm behind. But I'm getting better and controling that also I feel like. So my opinion is, just do your thing and forget the age and peoplr judging you, because they will no matter what you do..
In my case swap gaming with cleaning, I suck at games, but I clean way too much. The rest is accurate, though.
I really like this video and this idea of framing life. I'm reminded of a minicomic I read a good while ago about Fermat's last theorem. A cute little gem of a comic except for one blemish. In it, there is a line about how Andrew Wiles, the guy who finally proved the theorem "had to do it before turning 35 because good mathematical ideas stop coming when you get older than that", which to me is one hell of a toxic way of looking at life. No idea if that was Wiles' own outlook on life though, or if it was due to the comic's writer.
"I'm 24 and I haven't graduated college" HEY! You don't have to get that precise at attacking me bro
You are absolutely right Dr. K! It's never too late to hit those developmental milestones. I'll be 34 in August, but I'm in a good place for the first time in a long while. It's never too late to achieve your best self. In 2013, I started my bachelor's degree at the University of Florida. In 2014, Destiny came out. I put in roughly 7k hours of Destiny from 2014-2019. That was roughly 1/6th of my life, including sleep time. Even though I was working or in school for that entire time and wasn't without accomplishment, I was depressed, anxious, and overall unsatisfied with my life. No surprise that I sated my dissatisfaction with food, chain-smoking cigarettes, alcohol, etc. I moved in with my mom in 2017 after I dropped out of law school. Unsurprisingly, there were no romantic prospects for the depressed, out-of-shape, hermit that bathed every few days. The cherry on top happened in July 2019, when I found out that I had diabetes from abusing my body and not exercising. That kicked my ass into gear. It didn't happen overnight, but I'm currently in really good shape overall, not just physically! I'm working a lucrative career that I love, I'm in a functioning relationship with another human being, I do weekly therapy, and as of last week I bought a brand new home. I did put on a few pounds over COVID-quarantine, but who didn't lol. Just have to love yourself, accept the obstacles are there, and figure out how you are going to react to them. Thank you for spreading the good word Dr. K! GG
I leveled up Astrology, Tarot, meditation and metaphysical information and maybe a bit of drawing.... Apparently I was born in the wrong century.
most certainly not the wrong century! astrology gives you a shitton of info on yourself, your strengths and weaknesses and how to cope with past trauma; meditation allows you to develop focus and how to be present + self-reflection; and tarot teaches you to trust your own intuition. those skills are very important for life :) i would recommend you to join the astro community on tumblr if you want to find like-minded people!!
My guy is making a mage build holy jesus
@@williamminerva9171 I have my suspicion in necromancy tho
You just need to put few points in charisma and people will believe that you're max level wizard
I learned that having other humans with similar hobbies around me made life better . I am a very introverted person and i advice everyone to go out of their way and find communities that talk about the same crap you enjoy no matter what it is . Someone out there is waiting for someone like you to share ! Chose your friends ! Don't get stuck with people that don't respect you or your way of life .
This is an impressively accurate framework for how life works
Aight I just typed up a journal entry that was this exact sort of stuff so defo creepy how youtube can give something so accurate as a recommendation. But this is both something I have seen from experience and something I needed to hear again. For the longest time due to having stopped wrestling before highschool I felt like I missed the boat, and felt like I had let myself go too much fitness wise to do combat sports again. But the restlessness just from not fighting just kept getting to me and I would end up being more violent and anger filled for the longest time. It wasn't until I really got back on the workout grind and started doing sumo wrestling that it finally stopped, but man does it feel so much better.
Like I think that's an interesting thing that your body itself with reject you doing what you know is wrong for it. Cuz whenever I'm actively doing a combat sport and fully enraptured in the mind set of conditioning for it I notice that all the small petty issues slick right off me. I just need to incorporate that same mentality to my art now. As due to having so much spare time even with working out lately I've been getting restless and bored even though I have hundreds of projects that have just been sitting on the burner waiting to be worked on past the planning stages. Just the same voice that told me I couldn't get into combat sports has been telling me I can't do art and I'm bout to take that voice behind the shed and show it how good of art I can do.
Bookmarking this bro. This has helped a bunch, especially because gaming and watching youtube etc is what I end up doing instead of working on my art. And the meaningful practice is something I have seen myself, because regularly I will say things like "I played this game for 10 hours today, if I even invested an hour of that to art think of how good I would be in a months time. Same with my working out, I get to thinking about how I only do proper serious workouts usually on the leadup to a practice because thats the only time where im actually in the full mindset of sumo. Whereas if I just were properly investing a portion of each of my days to it I would see bigger changes. Just in general spending less time on passive exp and more time on active exp, I have this exact problem in the games I play too so its gonna be a learning experience. IE in old school runescape despite having 10k hours in the game I'm just learning a lot of fairly early game bosses because I legitimately have barely engaged with the PVM or PVP side of things and have opted to do things like woodcutting or fishing most of that time. Effectively I've been treating life and every game like and idle game even though I know I can do them well enough that I could speed run them if I tried.
I was a teacher prior to COVID, now about 24 months later. I am a software Engineer. It is absolutely true that you can radically change your life in 2 years.
like a highschool teacher?? Because I'm in the same boat lol
@@idkwhatsmynamelol9281 i lectured American history at a University, your job is way harder haha kids are ruthless
As long as you have enough starting capital
How did you prepare for interviews
@@krox477 algorithm practice and just being charismatic and able to talk comfortably about the code
I am 16 years old and I used to feel like I fell behnd. I started coaching for engineering entrance exam JEE one year ago and I wasted most of the year. After reading so many people's experiences, I am happy that I think about life like this now. Because most of the people of my age don't think about it and kind of go with the flow. I will start preparing. Thank you so much.
3:43 - I got your back on this「絶対に許さないよ」(zettai ni yurusanai yo). That's how to say, "I will never forgive you" anime style. What you said was something like, "For the sake of the world I won't forgive." Edit: 9:00 - Ah I see the correction. You're looking for 「世界のためにはお前を絶対に許さないよ」(sekai no tame ni wa, omae o zettai ni yurusanai yo).
I don't know if other languages are like this, but I am going to strongly disagree that an English speaker can passively learn any useful amount of Japanese from anime. For one, Japanese grammar is completely different from English so saying anything more than very short phrases is near impossible to do without actual study. Two, more importantly, is that people in anime do not speak like actual Japanese people speak. Anime characters use character archetypes that aren't super reflective of how people are in Japan. It would be like learning English from horribly acted daytime drama shows. Third, anime characters are generally quite rude compared to real Japanese people. So if you speak like they do in anime, people will either think you are rude or more likely they will laugh at you because speaking like anime characters is cringe. Last, anime watchers very often mishear words and that results in them saying a different word than what they intend do say. For example at 12:54 you can look at the chat and see someone saying "Yokai!" Probably trying to say, "Got it." It's actually pronounced "Ryoukai" specifically with a long vowel sound on the pronunciation of "o." Yokai doesn't really have a meaning as far as I am aware but, "youkai" means ghost or demon. Kawaii and Kowai is also a common mistake. People say kowai meaning scary when they mean kawaii which means cute. Not having an understanding of the language phonetics causes tons of anime watchers to mispronounce words or say different words entirely.
I don't think these mediums translate to any actual skill outside of extremely basic, surface level knowledge. HOWEVER, these mediums are phenomenal at teaching people particular philosophies that lead to success. Video games are excellent for that. If you get super good at Apex Legends, then you have just learned how to build a skill. That skill-building process can be repeated in something that will actually make you money. You'll still have to learn the skill but you may learn the skill 3-5 times faster because you already know how the process works. I think the best thing people who play video games all day can do is take those lessons they have learned from their games and start applying them to things that people in real life find useful.
I mean, it's theoretically possible to learn English from anime, it would just take decades
I watched anime and RUclips (without English subs), read some light novels, and made flashcards for some of the words I came across. After studying for a year, I placed into the highest Japanese class offered at my university and I understand quite a bit for someone who hasn't even been studying for 2 whole years,
It's actually an extremely effective method. What you said about anime not being the best style of speech to imitate is true (in the sense that some of it is over the top or rude), but it's still perfectly valid Japanese. Also, not all anime is action/adventure shonen - the naturalness of the language actually varies significantly from show to show.
But there's no reason you can't learn purely through immersing imo. It's probably worth it to supplement with doing a bit of grammar study and using something to help speed up vocab acquisition (like Anki flashcards), but most of the progress I've experienced I believe is from consistent exposure to the language - whether that be from anime, RUclips, visual novels, or whatever else.
@@derpydayha Allow me to just stress as someone who has been studying the language for a period of 15 years (technically 6 or 7 if you don't count the breaks in my study), the highest levels of Japanese classes you can take in every school I have seen, will barely get you past a beginner level in Japanese. You certainly won't be fluent after completing them. If we are just talking about Genki here, that is a beginner level course. Even after you complete the second book, you are nowhere near fluency.
Anime does have it's value but people who do not have the context of the appropriate way to speak in Japanese will end up using phrases like 「ふざけるな！」("Don't screw with me") to which is not only something Japanese people don't say, it's also something that will get you laughed at. The purpose of anime is to make basic level Japanese learning a lot more entertaining until you are good enough to move on to more high level conversation. Understand that if you do that, you will need to decondition yourself from the way anime characters speak and change to the way actual Japanese people speak. You'll also need to understand that words that English has appropriated like へんたい mean something different in Japanese than they do in English. Get used to that because, also, a lot of English words that Japanese has appropriated don't mean the same thing they mean in English. That being said, Anime is still an extremely useful tool, but no one is coming out of watching subs knowing anything more than, "Good morning," "Good Afternoon," and "Cute" unless they have put in some actually study time.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I am literally living proof that you're wrong tho. Of course, I've exposed myself to more than just anime - a lot of RUclips and stuff too. Anime is not perfect for learning Japanese in it's own, but it's a lot better then you're making it out to be.
@@derpydayha What are you talking about? You aren't in the group of people I or Dr. K was referring to; therefore you cannot be proof against my claim. I said people who HAVEN'T done an actual studying of Japanese and solely watch anime will not pick up a significant amount of Japanese. I have talked to many of these people over the past 15 years and none of them have known more than like 5 words that they either mispronounce in a way that is not understandable or they mispronounce it so badly that they end up saying different words entirely.
I also said anime is a great tool so I am not sure how I am downplaying it's usefulness. Just understand that if you are only consuming anime for integration then you are going to have a lot of problems in the way you speak.
Ive watched anime for 19 years and i can now watch anime without subtitles simply from passive learning.
So moral of the story is "4 years is rookie numbers, ya gotta pump those up".
Living your Life as an RPG is an excellent viewpoint. If only I had done it in my Youth. LOL I'm 65 now retired, Life is still fun.
14:33 hidden curriculum
14:54 self talk
16:30 instilling positive thinking
(the social environment around u can instill that)
(changing the paradigm of how people treat u, introducing another experiences, albeit temporary, can drastically redefine how u feel, think, and act)
Only Dr k would distill 20 minutes of awesome knowledge out of a Simpsons meme.
Sorry if my English is not good🙏
It was very interesting video and I really like, that you talk about abilities to upgrade in any time person wants to.
English is not my native language and I didn't really learned it at school, but because I like to watch a lot of content in English I can understand English most of the time. Recently I started to learn English, Japanese and Chinese and it's not something impossible to do if someone really want to.
Good luck to everyone, who want to upgrade their skills😁
If I can passively learn Japanese from watching anime, I would be a Japanese expert by now lol.
if you spent maybe 100 hours learning japanese before you started watching 50k hours of anime. youd be fluent
But you can actively learn Japanese from watching anime
You can absolutely do that. Learn the basics and turn those English subtitles off. For a more detailed guide about how to do this you should look into the Refold method. I read manga and watch anime every day and actually "study" maybe a half hour every day and doing this you can see your comprehension skyrocket over time. Read and listen and you will get better.
@@papercliprain3222 I know that what you say makes total sense, but i never like reading in general let alone studying lmao
RIP
I realized I accidentally watched a whole episode in Japanese without subtitles, I mean that HAS to count for something
8:30 There's one, actually, when you just start the game, the experience cap of learning your mother language is really low, but if you want to learn another language it'll need a lot of experience points
loving these every day videos, Dr. K is really going hard on content. Btw, is the paid video content available yet? I remember it being announced but I can't see if it's fully available on the website.
You mean Dr. K's Guide? Or something else?
I bought the Depression module and I did get 28 videos + various meditation videos.
Remember you need an active Discord account to access them.
@@BknMoonStudios Yeah the $60 guide. I haven't bought it yet, I have just been thinking about it because I love his content and it seems like it would be a cool way to get some further studying in. So it's out then??
@@endyy6671 It is out
@@IMTSin Thanks
Have you guys found any value in purchasing the guides vs watching his free contents?
Bro you have no idea how much I needed this. Thanks.
4 years of watching anime in Japanese if you start with the simple stuff (like kids anime), focus, are alert, repeat stuff at least in your head and, preferably, rewatch episodes is actually a very good approach to acquire the language. In fact it's better than spending that time on grammar rules and learning single words, the difference will be visible especially at the high end
You are missing the point
The quote that you attributed to Sparta [10:30] is from *Thucydides* who was an Athenian historian and general.
*" **_A nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its laws made by cowards and its wars fought by fools_** "*
Your content helps me as a "gifted" kid who is now an adult 28 who still has "oppositional defiance" but has finally turned it into opposition to people telling me I can't live my life on my terms.
Still on the road to maxed in life.
Funny story: I went to a psychologist that specializes in gaming addiction after binge watching all of doctor k’s videos. (I really never planned on it before.
The exact same week prior, a random co worker from my company started playing a game called Axie infinity (7 months ago) and told me about it. I brushed it off to work on my real life.
He had then proceeded to make multiple 7 figures. I verified and now made I’m back to gaming again. It’s almost like the universe is testing me.
Not financial advice or anything but I felt like I had to share. Gaming can be a valuable skill.
It's a high early investment for Axie tho. Buying three of the things to start is nonsense compared to months ago.
That weird moment when you click on the wrong video ( I was searching the song life is an RPG and I f****d up my build) and now you need to star working on your self instead of self sabotaging.
As a 24 years old thanks dude
appreciate these ❤
the problem for me comparing life to an mmo is two fold
1. me (and others) believe in reincarnation or some form of afterlife.
2. when my character has messed up stats often it is more economical to delete that character and start over again.
I understand the comparison, however it's not one that i really want to make for those reasons. A lot of the problem with skill points not being finite is that they kind of are. we don't learn nearly as quickly as an adult than we do as children, the actual barrier to easily learning a language stops at around 6 years old, the brain finish it's development at roughly the age of 25. We are also very dependent on our caregivers, like a game that for the first 18 or so levels (with millennials it can be way higher) we don't really set our skill points. so for the 1st few levels our parents can jack our stats, and mess up our build. Sometimes to detrimental results and we are stuck cleaning up the mess.
I learned a LOT about strategy, efficiency, and the reality of the need of defense by playing Civilization and other turn based strategy games. Also, learned to appreciate the necessity of bearing arms by playing lots of FPS RPGs.
There’s a lot you can learn from gaming. But you definitely have to be applying that learning to real life for it to matter.
Oh dude, video games are a well of information. Especially EU and Hoi for history and geography. Applying in RL depends on the skills and the games. Fps' help with processing speed, rts' help with resource management and strategic planning, rpg's help with adaptability and progression, etc. It can also be used to teach discipline and dedication, but may be overly stimulating to compare to the same things in RL.
Really good video. Btw for the language learning thing, 2 months can get you functional, sure, but it takes a lot more to actually become proficient. If you make it your priority for the first two moths, then it can become your motivation for progressing even more.
Negative XP - Life is An RPG And I Fucked Up My Build
I totally agree with the idea, but my main issue is, I have no idea what I want to do or what will make me happy. Someone may reply something along the lines of, do some soul searching and introspection, but that's something I have always done. For decades now, I have thought and worked at all the little internal things that should add up to some sort of direction or passion, but nothing ever really comes up. Every job I have ever done for any period of time I have ended up growing to dislike at the very least. I sometimes wonder if I am built to be dissatisfied or see the flaws too quickly and let them get to me over time. I want to farm up a new skill, but all my options are things that take a long time to get anywhere with and I am only sorta interested in. I didn't go to graduate school because I was so worried I would end up in a job I would inevitably hate. I just want to get to a place in my life that I don't feel abject terror about the idea being in the same spot for 10 years, much less the rest of my life. I still have a couple of hobbies I want to try and see if a passion might be hidden there, so I am not totally lost, but it's frustrating to see people who have any passion for anything. Not that I hold that against them or anything, just some internal tension there.