My nanna always said never get too friendly with your neighbours. Keep it to civil pleasantries, because if you ever fall out you’re stuck living next door.
Hazel is a raging narcissist. Best way to deal with them is to get the hell away from her and her enabler husband! You cannot negotiate with a narcissist!
Just out of interest, what is it about her that makes her a narcissist? I agree that she doesn't seem very pleasant but am interested in understanding what traits you see in her that make her narcissistic?
I thought the same thing about Jamie. He’s a monster you can see it in his cold dead eyes and I do believe he is incredibly dangerous. He was the one to call hazel nasty names and he was the one who was raging so badly. Please watch the negotiations again: that man IS dangerous. I’ve seen that very same evil look in a man right before he attacked me viciously and I’ve seen it in others faces.
Everything Jamie is saying is a deflection and a lie. He is accusing them of things he’s doing and that’s what a narcissist does. He’s gaslighting them. Did you see how he claimed theu went over the fence and called them dirty English trash but seconds later he was calling hazel filthy. I believe he said it 2 or three times and then said “go take a bath” I’ve not seen hazel say anything that nasty. I’ve been around a lot of abuse and I think you’re not seeing the truth here. That guy is a monster and even his wife was begging him to end this nonsense. He’s making his wife sick with his vibrant evil presence. I know that feeling because I lived in that before. They never stop talking about the other person and it’s pure vile poisoning and in time you become a different person.
Hazel her partner ,kids and home looks filthy maybe spend more time getting her own house in order instead of worrying about her neighbours business ,she enjoys the drama
Hazel 1000% made the situation worse, everytime they were getting somewere she kept damanding more and more. do not believe she is innocent in the dispute she defo played more in that part than shes letting on, shes a nightmare.
Absolutely 90% Hazel in this. I felt as though she almost thrived on the aggravation between them. Each time things were almost solved, she would up the ante. I never thought they'd resolve matters between them to the point of bringing part of the fence down to 3ft tall. If they start having problems again, I would quite happily swap my house with either of them. What I'd do to have a garden like that.
Yes ..agree. I recon Jamie is the trouble on that side and the Canadian Hazel is the other, they clash . For the sake of the kids playing happily in a village where there's probs no kids they should be making peace with each other. Tbh If I was the landlord id be threatening both families with eviction unless they sort their differences out .
He's a teacher ? She's a Mother who is afraid for her children but places their playhouse as close to him as possible, even overlooking his garden. Yeah, that makes sense.
Hazel is a narcissistic psychopath. The colonel needs to stop feeding her hunger for chaos. Her husband is damaged she has destroyed him. You can not deal with narcissists. She is a happy camper. She was friends long enough to learn the Gray's weaknesses and what will set them each off. NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE TO A NARCISSIST
@@SunakStarmerisacunt no she’s deffo the main issue. She hung her washing on the previous frail fence so much it was bowing. So Jamie built a NEW fence standard back yard UK ‘height fence.. but Hazel didn’t like that so she then has to build a platform to see into their garden? When asked to move the platform (which would pretty much mediate majority of issues) she flat out refuses.. she is the main antagoniser in the entire situation. Jamie is basically reacting to her narcissism with his own narcissism.
Two Narcissist find themselves neighbours only people losing are the children who could be good friends. So childish….Hazel should put some of that energy into cleaning her yard looks like a hazard…
@@davidjma7226 I was thinking the same thing. Loads of comments about people being narcissist. Yes, they are unlikable but why are they narcissists? It used to be everyone called people they don't like 'psychos', now it's narcissists.
"My husband is a nice man. To calm me down he assaulted me" She is delusional. Apparently, he slapped her but that's different to beating her. He only hit her for her own good...............
Sad part is, the children from both families were stuck in the middle of this battle of wills. Hazel was a peice of work, constantly moving the end result she wanted to see, along with Zoe's husband who ended up having to admit he has an anger issue problem. Two stubborn people that just would not give up a little ground between each other.
What a nightmare! I am pleased they have now resolved the problem. I thought straight away that Hazel was a difficult person as she kept moving the goal posts and would not budge an inch.
I don’t understand why. The neighbour is a typical bully boy. His partner is emotionally a mess and this all started when she revealed she had been abused.
Why did the Canadians leave Canada for England? Canada as I see it, is a grade down from America, England is a historical withered dump. Isn't Canada the nice country? I guess if ya get a Canadian going, they're just like an American.
By Husband you mean Jamie Yes? Because his Wife is definitely frightened of him, it was so sad to hear her say in his defense "He slapped me, but only to calm me down" 🤯😢
I was in this exact same position… a Hazel in Kent believe it or not! It was horrendous and the neighbour was also a narcissist… I ended up with major anxiety and my children hated living there 🤮 WORST TIME OF MY LIFE Sold the house because of it, best thing we ever did!
@@colourwheel5703and I'm embarrassed as a Canadian to see this. I get it abt supporting anyone in an abusive relationshop but Hazel, please, get your house in order and your partner/husband? He needs to Step-it-up as the father role, as the protecter, as the supporter, and show his kids a good example on how to communicate and resolve issues! Both couples do. Not ok for the children to listen in on sensitive topics!
If you are referring to one garden and house looking untidy and describing them as chaotic, that does not mean they are the troublemakers. My flat and garden look untidy but I am not nasty.
'He's a danger to my kids' So I'm putting my kids raised playhouse right next to,and overlooking,his privacy fence,because it's just so important that my kids get to see the view from that specific angle,rather than from the opposite side of the garden,where there's no risk of them coming into contact with him whatsoever..Sure thing Hazel,nothing to do with being vindictive at all,and using your kids as an excuse,This fact alone,makes me take anything she says with a pinch of salt.
Jamie the ex doorman is the root of it all. He built up his fence to block the view. And I believe he has threatened their kids. The kids aren’t in danger in their own back garden with their parents present. Jamie the ex doorman clearly has anger issues.
@@brightsideeventsandmedia7245 no not at all, that’s just something that seems to be very much part of his character so to speak. Confrontational and aggressive. I have absolutely no doubts that he is at the root of it all. He was mad unemployed from his job with a back condition. He’s clearly become stressed and resentful by this. Which is kind of understandable. But he shouldn’t be taking it out on his neighbours and especially the neighbours kids.
I'm over 70 year's old and after two problems with neighbours when my children were young ( one was loud music all night.. the other was visitors blocking my drive ) I check out the potential neighbours garden . Then ask other residents and finally I spend two week ends sleeping in my car a small distance away . Husband and I have been living in the same house for 25yrs happily . Bad neighbours cause serious mental health issues .
“He just gave me a slap to calm me down” “ I don’t have a temper”. (Then shows his temper). I know the body of this show is about neighbours but I am worried for Zoe.
I know plenty of Hazel type people in my life . That parrot beak almost touches her sharp chin and there should be an adult only warning because children are scared of Baba Yaga . Her husband is obviously scared of her ( Domestic Violence Victim ) poor chap .
OMG! That Hazel!! ...Jaimie has been pushed to his limit. Hazel won't change. If people could only understand the fragility of life and how valuable it is to live a good one. Just move...Hazel will keep on living as a domineering control freak. .../ Live in peace ..your children deserve it. .. That platform...passive aggressive.. actually not so passive. It'll be fine with the kids till something happens...* He pushed me ..* she did this or that! Good Luck!!
You’re not seeing this properly. You must be a man. Please rewatch this and look for the hatful angry person and in most cases it’s Jamie. Hazel never acted that way to him or called him horrible names like he did to her. He’s the toxic one who has poisoned everyone.
I will never be in and out of my neighbours houses because one argument can cause all hell to break loose. One woman who lived opposite used to be with her neighbour all the time until they fell out so she moved (council exchange) and same again... she lived in 4 houses in 15 years in our tiny east midlands village, only moving due to falling out with her 'besties' next door. A couple of years ago she moved to Devon. I wouldn't imagine she has learned a lesson. tbh I don't have anyone i'm extremely close to. Id rather keep it this way. i get on with everyone but thats as far as it goes.
Zoe didn't want to participate because she would have to admit that her husband beat her. She's afraid of her husband and she's willing to throw someone else under the train. Her husband is pissed because his wife told someone.
That's exactly what I thought. Zowie has confided too much and thought Hazel would tell all. That's why she was so upset. He obviously has slapped her about before
Well you’ve saved me the trouble of saying what you’ve already said! The adult I feel huge sympathy for is Zoe. She is like a rabbit caught in a snare. She really does look scared of Jamie and he is the total boss in this marriage and she better believe that or else. As soon as Zoe said that only once did Jamie slap her she immediately followed up with (and I paraphrase here) “but he’s never beaten me up and I swear on the kids life on that.” I don’t believe her as she defended him instantly after she admitted he’d slapped her. That’s a scared woman talking here. Hazel and her hubby are so far up each other’s arses that they can tell you how far their food has been digested. Hazel rules the roost in this marriage and don’t he know it. At least Jamie apologised for lying to Hazel. It must have been like getting teeth pulled without an anaesthetic but he did it. Bobs old army training came good in civvy street as he persevered and chipped away at Hazels concrete block of stubbornness until he cracked it. Didn’t think you were gonna do it Bob! Nice work indeed. And at least the kids are all talking and playing with each other and that’s cool and maybe could be the foundation for a better understanding all round. Here’s hoping! 👍👏
- The platform is a problem, Will you move it? - No lol..that's the issue I think, someone deliberately causing problems and not wanting to solve them at all.
as a Canadian myself.. I have to say that Hazel is sad ambassador for our nation.. self righteous.. ungiving.. female bully.. without an ounce of forgiveness in her. her and her husband.. I don't particularly care for Zoe's husband either.. but he was man enough to apologize for something he should have never said in the first place. great job though Colonel.. didn't think you could pull that off.
I wanted to root for Hazel as an American, but watching more and more of it was a revealing her as being nasty. Reminds me of plenty of neighbors out here, the kind you gift by ignoring them.
Well, I’m not a negotiator, but I would say when the situation reaches a no resolve, then the only resolve would be to have the landlord tell them when their lease is up they are both done so now they can live somewhere else separately.
I am English and my family and I have lived in Thailand for the last 20 years. Over here we have our house land with lots of space and although we do have neighbours there is lots of space between us and them, our homes are completely detached from each other. The British system of joined homes does not work whereas neighbours that are strangers are literally sharing each others space with just a wooden fence between them. In those circumstances there are guaranteed to be conflicts. Back in England we lived mostly in terrace houses and could literally hear our neighbours peeing in their toilets and even having s*x as their bedroom walls backed onto ours. I can remember when a kid my parents were often having arguments with their neighbours. I could never go back to that style of living again.
I agree, living literally on top of each other doesnt work. I shudder to think about people living in such close proximity. We live in a small village in England and have plenty of space. TBH we don’t know any of the neighbouring people, we say hello if we meet on dog walks but I really could pick out the majority of our few neighbours in a line up. Just the way we like it.
@anton glas UK style of building is pretty much as you described and the best way of seeing this is when flying to UK and if lucky enough to have clear skies you can see clumps of houses making up estates and then mile after mile of open pasture land until the next cluster of houses. However the two properties in this video are a rarity with huge gardens backing on to open pasture land with far reaching views. That they were both rental properties was even more unusual. Both couples need a dose of living in a terraced house to make them realise how fortunate they are!
What you describe isn't about a difference in culture, it is a difference in wealth. Your money goes a lot further in Thailand than the UK. A small terraced house where I live in south-east England will cost at least £400k. A one bedroom flat about £250k what will that buy you in Thailand? A detached house with plenty of space in my area will cost you over £1 million. Having lived in Thailand myself, there are plenty of people who do not live in detached houses with plenty of space and in the UK they wouldn't be able to afford a single room.
Agree, yet there's some amazing terraced house communities up here in north east England where everyone has known eachother for years, they all take good care of their homes while minding their own business. A large chunk of the population actually enjoy living in close proximity to others so they have the option of having good relationships with them. I know several of them who even holiday together, that's how friendly they are with eachother.
I think the moral of the story is, do you not ever tell your neighbour that you are a victim of domestic violence, unless you are completely prepared for your neighbour to sit on their hands, and do nothing.
I think he is a bully and an abuser and to be honest Bob might be a brilliant soldier but he’s a crap negotiator. He keeps reacting aggressively himself when to be a negotiator you have to maintain personal control
They all behave like children. Zoe crying and acting like a baby at the prospect of being in the same room as Hazel seems over the top considering there’s a mediator present. The fact that Jamie slapped his wife across the face to “make her calm down” is a huge red flag. Hazel seems like the kind of woman who is controlling, stubborn and tends to cut off her nose to spite her face….nobody wins but she prefers to live without her nose to having to give an inch. I mean, if you aren’t guilty of inappropriate gestures what’s the problem with agreeing to never do it in the future? And moving that elevated playhouse to the opposite side of the property would still give the kids a view of the countryside without them being able to look down into the other garden….at least I think it would work that way. In my opinion, Hazel and Jamie both have the same temperament and are like oil and water. Nasty people. I feel sorry for the children.
The children always suffer in these situations. Both sets of parents were setting a very bad example for them. As far as that man smacking his wife to calm her down That is unacceptable. She is tearful and seems quite frightened of him. Just awful. A decent man would hug his wife and gently reassure her. Good men never hit their children or their wives.
Well said Diane. I hope there's peace now for the sake of the kids. Hopefully they can be kids and play happily with each other without having to worry about their parents arguing.
Well done Col. Bob. Back in the NAAFI sorting the welfare issues on the patch. I wish people could appreciate what they have more, beautiful homes with great gardens.
Alrhough there are always two sides to a story Hazel appears to be the main problem. Rude, arrogant, inflexible and demanding. I imagine she creates problems wherever she goes...but it will always be the other persons fault.
Kids were better behaved than the parents. Parents aren’t setting a very good example for them. Teaching them to be hateful. The places are attached. Always live in your own separate detached house. Don’t even share a driveway or any property. Have a good fence but realize people can use their own property how they like. If the neighbor works or doesnt work is none of your business. Ignore each other if you can’t get along. Fighting just hurts everybody.
Zoe grab your children and run as fast as you can, away from your partner. And be grateful for your next-door neighbours. That has shone a light on domestic violence.
It's pretty obvious what's gone on here. Jamie is a doorman which means he is violent (simple). Zoe is in an abusive relationship. She is terrified of Jamie. One night, after Jamie had hit Zoe (again), she confided in Hazel. Next thing, Hazel has confronted Jamie because she is not afraid of him. Jamie has exploded because he doesn't like the fact that Zoe has told the neighbours. Jamie tells Zoe never to speak to the neighbours again or else. The feud continues to escalate because Hazel knows exactly what Jamie is, and he hates it. Oh, and by the way. The builder that they interviewed about the drilling was clearly your stereotypical bouncer, and I would bet my house that he was Jamie's friend and ex work colleague.
You are probably right but it is not Hazel's job to front up to Jamie. She should be there for Zoe, it's fine to not interact with Jamie but calling him out will only make it harder for Zoe in the long run.
I agree with most of this but calm down on the stereotyping of bouncers. You sound like an ignorant cretin. The door man industry is a lot more respectable these days. Though this docu looks like it's from a good few years back.
Ding, ding, ding! As a Canadian, who has also worked in Justice, I can say Hazel epitimizes all the resolve and equality that ALL women have and don't give up, and then they look like bitches. On another note, I can also see that that their sloven and shitty back yard really offends the neighbors.
That treehouse was put by the fence on purpose. They still have plenty of room in the backyard they could’ve put that treehouse more towards the centre of their backyard.
Hazel needs to stop being like a child in the play ground Jamie apologises and put his hand out hazel stat in doors clean your self and the house you will feel better and leave Zoe and Jamie alone
@ meeting Martin….. in a field….. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that was so funny how the narrator said that and why are we meeting Martin in a field? 😂😂😂😂 I have so many questions.
Colonel Bob ex UN negotiator. Bloody 'ell how on earth did he get that job? I hope he never needed to negotiate his way through something important as he's totally out of touch with the real world & who wears a beret to meet with warring neighbours 😳 Frank Spencer springs to mind - eeek🤣
can tell it's the Canadians from the get go just the absolute state of they're garden says it all both houses let by same company I'd imagine both started looking very similar and in the video footage it's the Canadian kids that make slit throat gestures which is strange
I do not favour either party, but Hazel and her husband appear more inflexible than the other couple. Furthermore, what kind of a person would have the bad sense to invite a camera team into such a pigsty of a home?
Both rental properties.. surely it was up to the landlord to try to resolve genuine complaints ..he could have threatened to evict them. Looks like he couldn't be bothered.
I had the same problem with a neighbor like that years ago. The irony of it all is both husband and wife were as bad as each other. They're no longer together bit he still lives in the house and actually apologized to me. Took it with a grain of salt and keep at a safe distance but keep it civil at the same time. It is what it is...
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My nanna always said never get too friendly with your neighbours. Keep it to civil pleasantries, because if you ever fall out you’re stuck living next door.
Totally agree. Great advice
I agree too .
so true
I am going through hell because I kept myself to myself.
Have had to learn this the hard way
Hazel is a raging narcissist. Best way to deal with them is to get the hell away from her and her enabler husband! You cannot negotiate with a narcissist!
I Agree
Mrs H 🇬🇧 .... Totally agree...Hazel is a miserable Narcissist ....
Just out of interest, what is it about her that makes her a narcissist? I agree that she doesn't seem very pleasant but am interested in understanding what traits you see in her that make her narcissistic?
I thought the same thing about Jamie. He’s a monster you can see it in his cold dead eyes and I do believe he is incredibly dangerous. He was the one to call hazel nasty names and he was the one who was raging so badly. Please watch the negotiations again: that man IS dangerous. I’ve seen that very same evil look in a man right before he attacked me viciously and I’ve seen it in others faces.
Everything Jamie is saying is a deflection and a lie. He is accusing them of things he’s doing and that’s what a narcissist does. He’s gaslighting them. Did you see how he claimed theu went over the fence and called them dirty English trash but seconds later he was calling hazel filthy. I believe he said it 2 or three times and then said “go take a bath” I’ve not seen hazel say anything that nasty. I’ve been around a lot of abuse and I think you’re not seeing the truth here. That guy is a monster and even his wife was begging him to end this nonsense. He’s making his wife sick with his vibrant evil presence. I know that feeling because I lived in that before. They never stop talking about the other person and it’s pure vile poisoning and in time you become a different person.
Hazel is 42 ? Gosh ! She looks so much older, like 52 ! She must have had a hard life.
They live in squabble. Probably alcoholics. Poor children
That's what cigarettes does to you.
That’s what a life of bitterness does.
Thats what deep unhappiness looks like.
Dude, I'm 55, and she looks way older than me. It's more like 72
He slapped me once to calm me down but he has never beat me 😂 13:15 - 13:40 classic line.
my dad actually never hitting my mum that was the only exception because she ran to my dad with a knife
She needs therapy!
@@angeliqueoren2462 It has calm down now there no more arguments at all
Beaten*
@@UltraLush calmed*
Hazel her partner ,kids and home looks filthy maybe spend more time getting her own house in order instead of worrying about her neighbours business ,she enjoys the drama
Hazel is trash.
Get you no life
The backyard looks like a dump. They need to put as much time and energy in cleaning up the property as they do fighting with the neighbors.
Hazel 1000% made the situation worse, everytime they were getting somewere she kept damanding more and more. do not believe she is innocent in the dispute she defo played more in that part than shes letting on, shes a nightmare.
Absolutely 90% Hazel in this. I felt as though she almost thrived on the aggravation between them. Each time things were almost solved, she would up the ante. I never thought they'd resolve matters between them to the point of bringing part of the fence down to 3ft tall.
If they start having problems again, I would quite happily swap my house with either of them. What I'd do to have a garden like that.
No. She had every right to do what she did at all stages. Jamie the angry ex doorman is the root of all of it.
Agree
@@christopherwhittaker2620nah she was a Old miserable cnut with too much time in her hands.
It's apparent that Jamie has anger issues regardless. Hazel is the main problem with her arrogance and conceit.
Yes ..agree. I recon Jamie is the trouble on that side and the Canadian Hazel is the other, they clash . For the sake of the kids playing happily in a village where there's probs no kids they should be making peace with each other.
Tbh If I was the landlord id be threatening both families with eviction unless they sort their differences out .
I love how seriously the Colonel takes the situation, like a true military operation
He's a teacher ?
She's a Mother who is afraid for her children but places their playhouse as close to him as possible, even overlooking his garden. Yeah, that makes sense.
Hazel is a narcissistic psychopath. The colonel needs to stop feeding her hunger for chaos. Her husband is damaged she has destroyed him. You can not deal with narcissists. She is a happy camper. She was friends long enough to learn the Gray's weaknesses and what will set them each off. NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE TO A NARCISSIST
You are definetly not a psychologist, love 🤣
Oh go have a bath 😂😂😂😂 that got me 😂
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She looked like she needed one though!
She actually did needed one lol
Hazel is a troublemaker!
No, Hazel isn't frightened of Jamie and that's why he can't stand her. Because she knows too much.
@@SunakStarmerisacunt Here you are again!! 😂
Wtf are you a relation or something? 🤦🏻
@@SunakStarmerisacunt no she’s deffo the main issue. She hung her washing on the previous frail fence so much it was bowing. So Jamie built a NEW fence standard back yard UK ‘height fence.. but Hazel didn’t like that so she then has to build a platform to see into their garden? When asked to move the platform (which would pretty much mediate majority of issues) she flat out refuses.. she is the main antagoniser in the entire situation. Jamie is basically reacting to her narcissism with his own narcissism.
Two Narcissist find themselves neighbours only people losing are the children who could be good friends. So childish….Hazel should put some of that energy into cleaning her yard looks like a hazard…
It seems that everybody is a 'narcissist' these days.....
@@davidjma7226 I was thinking the same thing. Loads of comments about people being narcissist. Yes, they are unlikable but why are they narcissists? It used to be everyone called people they don't like 'psychos', now it's narcissists.
you should put some effort in to not posting irrelevant bullshit about the garden.
@@davidjma7226 No truer word said...Narcs, truly, do appear to be everywhere....
"My husband is a nice man. To calm me down he assaulted me"
She is delusional. Apparently, he slapped her but that's different to beating her. He only hit her for her own good...............
Sad part is, the children from both families were stuck in the middle of this battle of wills. Hazel was a peice of work, constantly moving the end result she wanted to see, along with Zoe's husband who ended up having to admit he has an anger issue problem. Two stubborn people that just would not give up a little ground between each other.
Very well said!
The Jacobson home is a mess and looks like some drinking going on
The Jacobson really need sort there garden up ! It looks horrible 😮
@@tina.a.59 The house was worse. I dread to think what it smelt like in there. They were slovenly slobs.
It might also explain why she looks like she’s old enough to be her own mother
What a nightmare! I am pleased they have now resolved the problem. I thought straight away that Hazel was a difficult person as she kept moving the goal posts and would not budge an inch.
I bet Detente lasts less than a week after the cameras left and they got paid for their participation.
This is over 10years old of not older. Let's see where they are now??
@@katbar6066don't believe they got paid..?!
I don't think people do these shows for free.@@carollxo1019
@@katbar6066 They didn't have changed their entire fence if that was the case
They make me embarrassed to be Canadian. Sorry Kent.
Don't be embarrassed. All groups/races of people have characters like this.☮️
I don’t understand why. The neighbour is a typical bully boy. His partner is emotionally a mess and this all started when she revealed she had been abused.
I lived in England and I’m Canadian, I loved it and still have amazing friends there. But these Canadians are not representative of Canada at all.
Why did the Canadians leave Canada for England? Canada as I see it, is a grade down from America, England is a historical withered dump.
Isn't Canada the nice country? I guess if ya get a Canadian going, they're just like an American.
You can tell she's a lier , no way is she 42 LMFAO 😂
That hazel and husband are terrible people she needs to clean her house instead of fighting with neighbour
Lmao
Hazel is jealous of the neighbours because they don't live in a Pigsty like she does and her looking and sounding like an old witch doesn't help.
By Husband you mean Jamie Yes? Because his Wife is definitely frightened of him, it was so sad to hear her say in his defense "He slapped me, but only to calm me down" 🤯😢
I was in this exact same position… a Hazel in Kent believe it or not! It was horrendous and the neighbour was also a narcissist… I ended up with major anxiety and my children hated living there 🤮 WORST TIME OF MY LIFE
Sold the house because of it, best thing we ever did!
Sounds like “Hazel” is the new Karen. 🤪🇨🇦
i don't think you know what a narcissist is, dear.
Putting that playhouse next to their fence , making things worse
@@colourwheel5703and I'm embarrassed as a Canadian to see this. I get it abt supporting anyone in an abusive relationshop but Hazel, please, get your house in order and your partner/husband?
He needs to Step-it-up as the father role, as the protecter, as the supporter, and show his kids a good example on how to communicate and resolve issues! Both couples do.
Not ok for the children to listen in on sensitive topics!
Dudes faking that back injury
Was nothing wrong with him jumping up out of that chair and table 😂
Too right . A fkin benefit cheat .
Exactly, good eye. His mobility was better than average. ? Fraud artist as well.
Without even meeting them, you only have to look at the properties to see where the chaos is...
This looks like it was taken in the 90s styles of homes where a lot different then .
I thought the same thing.
If you are referring to one garden and house looking untidy and describing them as chaotic, that does not mean they are the troublemakers. My flat and garden look untidy but I am not nasty.
Very well done !
Hazel and her husband, the Canadian, have 5 young boys, so I think that could be why the garden looks messy.
Those Canadians are pond life.
Looks like the Canadian family have also fallen out with their hairdresser/ barber.
Family? Lol
I just heard they are bro & sis!
Yeah.. 🤮
They look so dirty and unkept. Gross
'He's a danger to my kids'
So I'm putting my kids raised playhouse right next to,and overlooking,his privacy fence,because it's just so important that my kids get to see the view from that specific angle,rather than from the opposite side of the garden,where there's no risk of them coming into contact with him whatsoever..Sure thing Hazel,nothing to do with being vindictive at all,and using your kids as an excuse,This fact alone,makes me take anything she says with a pinch of salt.
Jamie the ex doorman is the root of it all. He built up his fence to block the view. And I believe he has threatened their kids. The kids aren’t in danger in their own back garden with their parents present.
Jamie the ex doorman clearly has anger issues.
@@christopherwhittaker2620is it because he’s an ex doorman that you have your knickers in a twist? 😂
@@brightsideeventsandmedia7245 no not at all, that’s just something that seems to be very much part of his character so to speak. Confrontational and aggressive. I have absolutely no doubts that he is at the root of it all. He was mad unemployed from his job with a back condition. He’s clearly become stressed and resentful by this. Which is kind of understandable. But he shouldn’t be taking it out on his neighbours and especially the neighbours kids.
Their low life children are gonna be next chavs destroying others’ properties
@@christopherwhittaker2620 so the low life living in squabble seem normal to u? They should be evicted for what they did to the property
What a shame. It’s looks a beautiful place to live. I’d love to live in a rural place like that.
Don’t get too friendly with your neighbors… just say hello and have a light conversation…that’s it!
Someone Gave Me This Advice Years Ago👍👍👍👍👍
I'm over 70 year's old and after two problems with neighbours when my children were young ( one was loud music all night.. the other was visitors blocking my drive ) I check out the potential neighbours garden . Then ask other residents and finally I spend two week ends sleeping in my car a small distance away . Husband and I have been living in the same house for 25yrs happily . Bad neighbours cause serious mental health issues .
...Very wise !
Good neighbours can move away making room for the devil
Jamie is probably the main reason for the conflict, but Hazel seems to be the greatest hindrance to its resolution.
Under rated comment right here! 💯%
She doesn't want to let go of anything. It's all or nothing for her!
Hazel is jealous of Zoe for having a better looking husband than the Canadian squirrel
I think you are 100% correct.
“He just gave me a slap to calm me down”
“ I don’t have a temper”. (Then shows his temper).
I know the body of this show is about neighbours but I am worried for Zoe.
Hazel looks 65
Been on the crack
and you follow Steven Crowder. Probably best you be quiet.
She looks like an old jew witch LOOK AT THAT BEAK! 👃🏻 👈🏻
@@mmcc8022 On crack and drink
@@ebsincamara2246 who cares shalom hazel looks 65 what's your point and what difference does it make what the OP looks like?
Hazel is horrible and a bully.
Yes, she is horrible.
I know plenty of Hazel type people in my life . That parrot beak almost touches her sharp chin and there should be an adult only warning because children are scared of Baba Yaga . Her husband is obviously scared of her ( Domestic Violence Victim ) poor chap .
Go home Hazel
What catastrophic examples of parents.
Behavior worse than children!
OMG! That Hazel!! ...Jaimie has been pushed to his limit. Hazel won't change. If people could only understand the fragility of life and how valuable it is to live a good one. Just move...Hazel will keep on living as a domineering control freak. .../ Live in peace ..your children deserve it. .. That platform...passive aggressive.. actually not so passive. It'll be fine with the kids till something happens...* He pushed me ..* she did this or that! Good Luck!!
You’re not seeing this properly. You must be a man. Please rewatch this and look for the hatful angry person and in most cases it’s Jamie. Hazel never acted that way to him or called him horrible names like he did to her. He’s the toxic one who has poisoned everyone.
Jamie looks the Narc.
I will never be in and out of my neighbours houses because one argument can cause all hell to break loose.
One woman who lived opposite used to be with her neighbour all the time until they fell out so she moved (council exchange) and same again... she lived in 4 houses in 15 years in our tiny east midlands village, only moving due to falling out with her 'besties' next door. A couple of years ago she moved to Devon. I wouldn't imagine she has learned a lesson.
tbh I don't have anyone i'm extremely close to. Id rather keep it this way. i get on with everyone but thats as far as it goes.
Zoe didn't want to participate because she would have to admit that her husband beat her. She's afraid of her husband and she's willing to throw someone else under the train. Her husband is pissed because his wife told someone.
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That's exactly what I thought. Zowie has confided too much and thought Hazel would tell all. That's why she was so upset. He obviously has slapped her about before
She caused all this shit
@@shapiro9640*Zoe/Zoey Not Zowie.
Well you’ve saved me the trouble of saying what you’ve already said! The adult I feel huge sympathy for is Zoe. She is like a rabbit caught in a snare. She really does look scared of Jamie and he is the total boss in this marriage and she better believe that or else. As soon as Zoe said that only once did Jamie slap her she immediately followed up with (and I paraphrase here) “but he’s never beaten me up and I swear on the kids life on that.” I don’t believe her as she defended him instantly after she admitted he’d slapped her. That’s a scared woman talking here. Hazel and her hubby are so far up each other’s arses that they can tell you how far their food has been digested. Hazel rules the roost in this marriage and don’t he know it. At least Jamie apologised for lying to Hazel. It must have been like getting teeth pulled without an anaesthetic but he did it. Bobs old army training came good in civvy street as he persevered and chipped away at Hazels concrete block of stubbornness until he cracked it. Didn’t think you were gonna do it Bob! Nice work indeed. And at least the kids are all talking and playing with each other and that’s cool and maybe could be the foundation for a better understanding all round. Here’s hoping! 👍👏
Im Canadian, and I would like to say we don't claim her as one of us. 🇨🇦
She must've been kicked out of Canada for being an absolute disgrace.
Also, you're so gorgeous.
Can't believe that grown-ups can be like school children. Never in 59 years have been in such a position. Childish. Greetings from South Africa
Their kids were more adult than the adults.
But if you were a white farmer then you would have experienced far worse.
How could this Mom possibly be 42 years old..... she looks ancient.
Who is?? The turkey in a wig hazel ? 🦃 You are kidding me? 😱😱😱😲Jheeze. Her face is a reflection of her character. Old, ornery and a witch. 😂😂😂😂
Is it possible she was less than honest when giving her age to the show?
+5yrs more like yeah
That’s what I think
She looks 48 at least
Hazel looks like a witch...both literally and figuratively😊
1:16 Did I just hear that right??? SHE is 42???? That can't be right. She looks at least 60!
- The platform is a problem, Will you move it?
- No
lol..that's the issue I think, someone deliberately causing problems and not wanting to solve them at all.
Me thinks Hazel enjoys the situation 😀😀😀
Hazel is definitely a manipulative person. I would even suggest she has NPD.
Yup.
100%.
me thinks you should find a hobby instead of this armchair psychology.
as a Canadian myself..
I have to say that Hazel is sad ambassador for our nation..
self righteous.. ungiving.. female bully..
without an ounce of forgiveness in her. her and her husband..
I don't particularly care for Zoe's husband either..
but he was man enough to apologize for something he should have never said in the first place.
great job though Colonel..
didn't think you could pull that off.
Agreed, mainly.
The apology was wafer thin - meaningless.
None of them come across as good people.
I wanted to root for Hazel as an American, but watching more and more of it was a revealing her as being nasty. Reminds me of plenty of neighbors out here, the kind you gift by ignoring them.
i get along with Canadians. I could not help how they push the flag and maple leaf. That seems sort of antagonizing. My 2 cents
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overkill to the max...
one would do.
As an American, I'm shocked that Hazel is from Canada. Their junk yard and her self righteous unwillingness to budge attitude is so American! 😂
The Canadian yard is a mess.
Hazel and Jamie have anger issues.
Zoe needs to find her voice.
Hazel left North America for a reason, curious...
It's a pity,the kids probably get along fine
The kids are probably more grown up than either set of parents.
Well, I’m not a negotiator, but I would say when the situation reaches a no resolve, then the only resolve would be to have the landlord tell them when their lease is up they are both done so now they can live somewhere else separately.
I am English and my family and I have lived in Thailand for the last 20 years.
Over here we have our house land with lots of space and although we do have neighbours there is lots of space between us and them, our homes are completely detached from each other.
The British system of joined homes does not work whereas neighbours that are strangers are literally sharing each others space with just a wooden fence between them.
In those circumstances there are guaranteed to be conflicts.
Back in England we lived mostly in terrace houses and could literally hear our neighbours peeing in their toilets and even having s*x as their bedroom walls backed onto ours.
I can remember when a kid my parents were often having arguments with their neighbours.
I could never go back to that style of living again.
I agree, living literally on top of each other doesnt work. I shudder to think about people living in such close proximity. We live in a small village in England and have plenty of space. TBH we don’t know any of the neighbouring people, we say hello if we meet on dog walks but I really could pick out the majority of our few neighbours in a line up. Just the way we like it.
@anton glas UK style of building is pretty much as you described and the best way of seeing this is when flying to UK and if lucky enough to have clear skies you can see clumps of houses making up estates and then mile after mile of open pasture land until the next cluster of houses. However the two properties in this video are a rarity with huge gardens backing on to open pasture land with far reaching views. That they were both rental properties was even more unusual. Both couples need a dose of living in a terraced house to make them realise how fortunate they are!
What you describe isn't about a difference in culture, it is a difference in wealth. Your money goes a lot further in Thailand than the UK. A small terraced house where I live in south-east England will cost at least £400k. A one bedroom flat about £250k what will that buy you in Thailand? A detached house with plenty of space in my area will cost you over £1 million. Having lived in Thailand myself, there are plenty of people who do not live in detached houses with plenty of space and in the UK they wouldn't be able to afford a single room.
@@cw9007 Well there ya go. Move back to Thailand.
Agree, yet there's some amazing terraced house communities up here in north east England where everyone has known eachother for years, they all take good care of their homes while minding their own business. A large chunk of the population actually enjoy living in close proximity to others so they have the option of having good relationships with them. I know several of them who even holiday together, that's how friendly they are with eachother.
Bob meets Martin in a field..... classic😂
I think the moral of the story is, do you not ever tell your neighbour that you are a victim of domestic violence, unless you are completely prepared for your neighbour to sit on their hands, and do nothing.
My goodness how childish
I think he is a bully and an abuser and to be honest Bob might be a brilliant soldier but he’s a crap negotiator. He keeps reacting aggressively himself when to be a negotiator you have to maintain personal control
The problem is, if the neighbor reports the abuse but the victim refuses to report and leave the abuser, nothing will happen
I think vile hazel INVENTED that story
Such a nice backyard..and houses ..how silly ,to fight for nothing …
Jamie is manipulative & the narcissism is scary to Zoe.. Clear to see!
Yeh your can tell she was nervous of the narcism by hazel because she is very submissive to it and already owned and controlled by Jamie.
They all behave like children. Zoe crying and acting like a baby at the prospect of being in the same room as Hazel seems over the top considering there’s a mediator present. The fact that Jamie slapped his wife across the face to “make her calm down” is a huge red flag. Hazel seems like the kind of woman who is controlling, stubborn and tends to cut off her nose to spite her face….nobody wins but she prefers to live without her nose to having to give an inch. I mean, if you aren’t guilty of inappropriate gestures what’s the problem with agreeing to never do it in the future? And moving that elevated playhouse to the opposite side of the property would still give the kids a view of the countryside without them being able to look down into the other garden….at least I think it would work that way. In my opinion, Hazel and Jamie both have the same temperament and are like oil and water. Nasty people. I feel sorry for the children.
Hazel has made herself judge and executioner
Typical jew..
What lovely big gardens
Haha 👍
The children always suffer in these situations. Both sets of parents were setting a very bad example for them. As far as that man smacking his wife to calm her down That is unacceptable. She is tearful and seems quite frightened of him. Just awful. A decent man would hug his wife and gently reassure her. Good men never hit their children or their wives.
Well said Diane. I hope there's peace now for the sake of the kids. Hopefully they can be kids and play happily with each other without having to worry about their parents arguing.
I am fine haze was very rude and offended me with her narcissistic words
"I don't lose my temper, I only slapped my wife across the face once" 😂😂😂
“Shut uuuuup, go and have a bath.” 😂 😂😂that’s brilliant
Perhaps the crux of the issue was Zoe sharing her troubles with Hazel about being hit by Jamie.
Hazel is on alert that Jamie is violent.
The sad thing is, it’s the kids that suffer out of all of this, as they’ve lost friends.
Well done for sorting this out- not easy when one side always thinks they’re right 😮
Well done Col. Bob. Back in the NAAFI sorting the welfare issues on the patch. I wish people could appreciate what they have more, beautiful homes with great gardens.
It seemed like Hazel wasn't budging a bit!! The landlord needs to find new residents!
Glad they did a follow up and hope both neighbors keep the peace.
Alrhough there are always two sides to a story Hazel appears to be the main problem. Rude, arrogant, inflexible and demanding. I imagine she creates problems wherever she goes...but it will always be the other persons fault.
Hazel 42 zoe 32 ! JESUS
Kids were better behaved than the parents. Parents aren’t setting a very good example for them. Teaching them to be hateful.
The places are attached. Always live in your own separate detached house. Don’t even share a driveway or any property. Have a good fence but realize people can use their own property how they like. If the neighbor works or doesnt work is none of your business. Ignore each other if you can’t get along. Fighting just hurts everybody.
Zoe grab your children and run as fast as you can, away from your partner. And be grateful for your next-door neighbours. That has shone a light on domestic violence.
there no domestic violence you havent seen the full story
Never in my life have I seen and heard 2 grown up couples act like a bunch of kids !!!! What example are they setting for their kids 😮
Not a great example.
Hazel is full of bitterness terrible place to be
"I'm picking up Martin 'cos he owns a lot of guns and, depending on how this all goes, we might need 'em."
It's pretty obvious what's gone on here. Jamie is a doorman which means he is violent (simple). Zoe is in an abusive relationship. She is terrified of Jamie. One night, after Jamie had hit Zoe (again), she confided in Hazel. Next thing, Hazel has confronted Jamie because she is not afraid of him. Jamie has exploded because he doesn't like the fact that Zoe has told the neighbours. Jamie tells Zoe never to speak to the neighbours again or else. The feud continues to escalate because Hazel knows exactly what Jamie is, and he hates it. Oh, and by the way. The builder that they interviewed about the drilling was clearly your stereotypical bouncer, and I would bet my house that he was Jamie's friend and ex work colleague.
You are probably right but it is not Hazel's job to front up to Jamie. She should be there for Zoe, it's fine to not interact with Jamie but calling him out will only make it harder for Zoe in the long run.
I agree with most of this but calm down on the stereotyping of bouncers. You sound like an ignorant cretin. The door man industry is a lot more respectable these days. Though this docu looks like it's from a good few years back.
Ding, ding, ding! As a Canadian, who has also worked in Justice, I can say Hazel epitimizes all the resolve and equality that ALL women have and don't give up, and then they look like bitches.
On another note, I can also see that that their sloven and shitty back yard really offends the neighbors.
Yes his mindset was obvious from the off . Just bait and trigger him to go paws on and get him arrested for assault.
I was a doorman for a number of years and do not have anger issues so please do not make that untrue link.
As a Canadian, I wish the Canadiand would have behaved far better than they did!!
Thank god I live alone and neighbours are ok.
The Canadians need to go back to Canada were they can buy a house out in the wilds with no neighbours at all.
If I was the landlord, I would have evicted one lot of neighbours to keep the peace. It would have been the Canadian harridan.
@@PhyllisGlassup2TheBrim Did you know they are brother and sister.. That's apparently what they couldn't mention on Tv.. 🤮
I don’t thing the Canadians are the agressors. They. Hint be odd but, they English pair are just as bad
Those poor children deserved better.
The children playing together made my day
That treehouse was put by the fence on purpose. They still have plenty of room in the backyard they could’ve put that treehouse more towards the centre of their backyard.
I feel for Zoe she looks at the end of her tether.
That Canadian woman is the troublemaker
Instead of spending so much time worrying about her neighbors, Hazel could try cleaning her house. A much better use of her time, I would think!
The ex army blokes up in a chopper doing a recce cracked me up, also him driving with his beret on 😂
Eh it's just for the show, I doubt that was his choice.
Hazel needs to stop being like a child in the play ground Jamie apologises and put his hand out hazel stat in doors clean your self and the house you will feel better and leave Zoe and Jamie alone
The landlord should get some T&C,s in place..sorted.
Evict them both
@ meeting Martin….. in a field….. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that was so funny how the narrator said that and why are we meeting Martin in a field? 😂😂😂😂 I have so many questions.
😂😂😂😂
Possibly some word play related to 'St Martin in the Field' near Southbank in London
Bob meets Martin.....in a field 😂😂 well where else would you meet!? 😂
Hazel love to cause problems to add drama. Maybe she's just bored living out there.
Hazel is driving me crazy!!! (And I don’t have to live next to her!!!
Colonel Bob ex UN negotiator. Bloody 'ell how on earth did he get that job? I hope he never needed to negotiate his way through something important as he's totally out of touch with the real world & who wears a beret to meet with warring neighbours 😳
Frank Spencer springs to mind - eeek🤣
Here... Maybe he should bring Betty with him or his version of Betty☺️😂😂😂!!!
Top comment, great sense of humour, cheered me up, 👍🏻😂😂
He was horrible. He’s gotta be a paid actor along with the others, right?
@@pebbles4715 agreed
The size of the garden fantastic
It's a field converted into garden space after the properties were built..
can tell it's the Canadians from the get go just the absolute state of they're garden says it all both houses let by same company I'd imagine both started looking very similar and in the video footage it's the Canadian kids that make slit throat gestures which is strange
Hazel is the PROBLEM!! PERIOD
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I had her pegged almost from minute one.
I do not favour either party, but Hazel and her husband appear more inflexible than the other couple. Furthermore, what kind of a person would have the bad sense to invite a camera team into such a pigsty of a home?
I think Jamie met his match in Hazel
Kids have more sense than the lot of them - Frisbee over the fence at the end was a slap in all their faces.
How is Hazel 42?! She looks about 70!!
Canada and no sun cream
@@jaylondon283 Yes because canada is totally tropical place isn't it..
Lied... I can bet you a very large sum that she is far from 42 i'm 39 and look NOTHING like that..
I look at lot younger than the english guy and he was 40
She looks like Zelda from Terrakawks 😂😂😂
Both rental properties.. surely it was up to the landlord to try to resolve genuine complaints ..he could have threatened to evict them. Looks like he couldn't be bothered.
hazel is the problem
I had the same problem with a neighbor like that years ago. The irony of it all is both husband and wife were as bad as each other. They're no longer together bit he still lives in the house and actually apologized to me. Took it with a grain of salt and keep at a safe distance but keep it civil at the same time. It is what it is...