Desperation is the word that was left out of this documentary. Never allow yourself to feel desperate for anything, otherwise you will become vulnerable!
Welp, feelings just *are.* And as humans we’ve all experienced that feeling of desperation whether for a person, an animal, some inanimate object. After all, desperation is created by marketers/advertisers to get people to buy or otherwise “own” that with which one becomes so enamored be it a foreign lover or a foreign made makeup pallet, skin care-like K cosmetics made with snail snot-etc.
@@tundrawomansays694 you are right that we are all human and have strong desires but we must strive to fight off feelings of desperation. Adopt a dog or cat. There are ways to fight of loneliness and desperation.
The fact these women just hand over their money to “charming” stranger just blows me away. The moment any grown man would asked you for money is an immediate red flag! 🤦🏽♀️
🤣🤣🤣🤣....right!!! The america woman saw it as victim blaming when it's common sense. Honestly... she's talking about how immoral of a man in Ghana to con a woman from a 1st world nation. Deep god ..Ghana is one of the poorest countries & she's acting righteous with her American passport privilege.
@@eveheart2876 Our emotions are too strong sometimes Eve as in my opinion men really DON'T care about women at all. Men want to CONTROL women. Basically, most males our afraid of women.
I agree. When on holiday it's like a cartoon way of life for a few weeks... nothing is real. I do have a friend who met her husband when she went on holiday (Greece I think). Karen (not real name) went home and they kept in close contact via skype, emails, phone etc. It resulted in Karen divorcing her husband, with whom she had 2 kids. Karen married her Greek 'lover' and fortunately it has worked out. They have been married almost 10 years now and both are happy. My friend was very, very lucky taking such a risk. I'm glad that it's worked out for all concerned. Her ex husband has moved on also. Pot Luck for sure!!
Yeah, If he is SO poor, how is he going to support the both of you? Don't you see ANY RED FLAGS? If a man askes me for money, AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
As a young girl I was approached by a man on the street in Kingston Jamaica telling me how beautiful I was and he could get me into modeling. I was 18 and was already turned down because of my height. I was exited for a moment when he told me that he could help me become a model. But he told me that he was going to make a call and would come back and get me I should wait there for him. Immediately after he walked away silly me was standing there waiting for him to come back when suddenly I heard a voice saying walk away. I listened to the voice and I’m glad I did because I probably wouldn’t be here today.
Lucky you went with the voice of god. well done? your gut never lies. Not to be racist but when you see a dark man that dosent speak english. There is your answer right there. About 6 years ago my mum was at the local shops. And this young dark looking scum approached my mum and said to her. You look beautiful blah blah my mum said i am not interested. she ran he was following her. My mum dresses nice and he thought she was rich. If i was there i would’ve told him off.
What the juju man said was correct. It’s up to us as women to look after ourselves and make decision’s that are in our best interest. Jumping in to a marriage or relationship with someone we barely know is ridiculous no matter where it happens.
My American ex wanted to marry me after half an year of online dating and three weeks physically together. He even mentioned moving to where I live, even though he doesn't speak the language and has some debts that he still has to pay. I imagine how I could have ended up financially supporting a grown up man. After things started going down south, he denied most of the things he said to me. At a point he was even pressuring me that he would move to be closer to me, but he's need my help. The more I think about it, the more I realize how fishy everything was. I prefer to blame it on his mental health issues, because it would be devastating to know that he was using me all the time. Either way, I was smart enough to not fall for this trap
agree w/juju man too. These are not teenagers , they made choices , didn't use their heads . or listen to friends. Would they tell their daughters to do the same? the woman wanted so hard to put all the blame on someone else, but its not like they got robbed at gunpoint.
She is delusional and gullible believing his face was swollen, it’s not him he just wanted rid of her and keep the mini bus etc so made up that he was killed.
Gotta hand it to Latoya. In the end she didn’t allow herself to be scammed. She stayed in Ghana and made her dream happen on her own terms. I hope she is still out there happy today!
LaToya is trying to turn her bad decisions into an opportunity to help others. I have a lot of respect for her. We all make mistakes and get used by people through life. Our response is what either breaks us or makes us soar above the clouds and grow.
One thing they all have in common… they’re all described as being “very charming”. Don’t let charm deceive you ladies, there’s a lot more to true love than sweet words.
@@eggsbacon1842 If there is a thirty-year-age gap, he works in the hospitality industry where people spend no more than two weeks in a hotel and he is already proposing marriage, there is usually some crookery behind it. Either he is using you as a passport to the UK or he wants to cheat you out of your savings,
These men dont "go to charm school" the women just don't have much self esteem, self worth, boundaries and or standards. They probably also have an anxious attachment style which makes them fall fast and cling on.
I’m sure Diane wouldn’t have believed a 21 year old was interested in her in Scotland. Yet believed a man abroad at that age with limited resources was genuine. She went in with her eyes open out of desperation and the wedding could’ve been avoided. These men can easily spot their willing targets so it remains on women to be cautious. Such scams are widely reported and has gone on for decades. Yet many will continue to ignore all the warning signs. The lady in Ghana had the last laugh by not aiding his visa application.
Diane's deceased husband was not wealthy - he was a tuk tuk driver. I think he owed someone drugs money or something like that and this is why he married her.
IT is a sickness. It is not about love .. that is the furthest thing. And.. in. a way, it happens every single day in the US... or anywhere. Women / or men... who are not whole, become addicted to this.... fantasy. It is a mental condition. Not love, not sex. ... mental. Watch Mr. LET GO on you tubes. He is not easy to watch, but... spot on about the mind/mental condition of women especially. I watch ALL his videos. Be ready to be offended... but he is spot on!
Kiki Arthur : I think everyone always believes “I would never be this stupid….” But I believe this is a brainwashing that many intelligent people can’t fight. A sad and common thing. Best wishes from Sweden.
When my sisters got married I remember being in the wedding dress shop thinking I could never see myself in one of those. Growing up they’d binge watch brodezillas and say yes to the dress, I could never understand it
I was 45 yrs old, met this handsome guy who was 28...I knew from the immidiate beginning that he would scam me in some way, wasn't sure how though. I didn't have to wonder much longer than two days though😁he "forgot" his wallet at home when we went for coffee, AND when we went to have a drink at a bar. I told him "okay, I'll pay for both of us but after this I never want to see you again because I can't stand this behaviour" and I walked away and blocked him on my phone. Six months later I saw him at a bar and he came and sat down with me asking why I had thought that he was lying those times?! I said "I'm not 16, I am past 40, I have experienced more than YOU have and I know when someone has truly forgot his wallet or if he just pretends to have, to make the woman pay". He got up, threw 20 bucks on the table and said he REALLY had forgot his wallet(both times😁) and now he proves it by paying me back! I said thank you and took the money and turned my back on him. Never saw him again😆
I'm an older woman living alone. Fortunately for me I'm very content this way. After many years doing what I want when I want I don't think I could live with a man anymore no matter how handsome or charming. I watch videos like this one and the ones where older women are left destitute by online romance scammers and my first thought is "How can they be so stupid?" But then I feel sorry for them and want the scammers caught and jailed for life!!!
Gurl, I share your sentiment. I love living alone, doing what I want with no explanations. I don't have the energy to take care of a man...and most expect that. So I enjoy my own company in my tiny home near the beach... cooking healthy food, painting pictures, and playing my violin. There's no way I'll ever date again. But I do have the most loyal and kind friends. Enjoy your days. 💕
About 10 years ago a colleague came to me telling me about her new foreign romance. He'd asked her for money - just a small amount - and she wasn't sure what to think. She had been lonely and was madly in love but, thank goodness, she had the good common sense to ask for someone else's opinion. We talked it through and she decided he was a scammer. The point is that even though she doubted it, he had his claws in so well she wasnt sure of herself.
I am single and very happy!! Have my family ..my baby nephew..baby niece..my friends. 😁👍 I loved and got my heart broken and decided that it was it for me. I do not miss it at all.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t though. They keep on thinking it won’t happen to them. It’s a well known fact that if a man starts asking for money that he’s not interested in romance. They keep getting drawn into those messes.
Euphorbia ... I agree with you. Their stories should be a warning to others. Alas, as Margo says there are lonely women who think that this won't be them and rhat they have found true love. Never over-estimate your attraction to young men overseas ladies. And never under-estimate the attraction of a British Passport. Currently, on my Channel I am reacting to a 40 yr old woman who accepted a proposal if marriage from a man she has never seen. On the 2nd day of communicating on Tinder she accepted the proposal and flew over to Kuwait. They are now married. It's clearly transactional. She has been paid and got a wedding ring. He will eventually obtain a Canadian Passport. Sidenote: He's 10 years younger and about 300 lbs lighter!!
Latoya couldnt find a man in the US because she is unstable. cutting up clothes and threatening someone in an argument with a knife is a red flag. no one in their right mind outs up with that. a woman in her 30s has had lots of options and chose poorly. she is the problem
youre the ONLY comment I agree with, i hate people saying lonely people do this or that...i know 100% what loneliness is and let me tell you i almost lost my mind, i have no family either so... im now alone anymore thank God. The best thing to write here is what you wrote. Be careful out there girls, and ladies, be smart se aware and wide-eyed. excuse my bad english btw;)
@@CristinaF210 I think your English is.great I would rather trust out siders as I.was conned by two realitives one conned me out of a.lot of money I used to go to her house the whole time she said she would pay me back when her cheque came through she got 3 big cheques but. Still never paid the money back I asked When her son was paying the money he borrowed she said he Must have forgotten about it then I l she started sending threatening messages and phoned hospital made out she was me. And cancelled my knee operation then I lent. Another cousin 250 pounds I thought she would pay me back cos she did when she was younger I hesitated but she I won't do that to you but she did exactly the as my aunt and her son did I now won't lend anyone money unless I speak to my really nice cousin who doesn't have long left to live from Mary from Scotland hope you have a lovely week ahead of you
@@suzymoroka297 go and fuck your self it not my grammar that's bad it's my phone but if my grammar was bad least it's not as bad as you your the most funking vile rude person I have read a.comment about I have other things to worry about than an idiot of bully like you so go.get a life arsehole
@@marygunn8479 😂😂😂 this is even worse! It’s just that I saw your very condescending comments to other posters saying “your English is very good”. As if you have an excellent command of the English language! Oh by the way, the you’re not your, you’re as in you are, your is ownership, like your hair is nice or your English is 💩. See what I mean? Blaming the phone though?🙄🤦🏽♀️ Having an English white woman’s name doesn’t not mean that you are in a position to be critiquing someone’s command of English.
How could Diane believe that a 21 year old kid could really love a woman that could be/looks like his grandmother (with teenage pregnancies, but still!)?! When a young kid like that shows even the slightest intrest in you, red flags should immediately appear!
@@lisatinbliki5691 The term kid does't mean he's a child. It means he is very young campared to the women he's dating and trying to rip off. 21 year old guys are often pretty immature though!
@@lisatinbliki5691 Kid can imply a young adult - like an older person referring to a son or daughter. I'm 40 feeling 70 so I use the term sort of jokingly.
I’ve seen so many of these stories and they mostly have one thing in common, lonely people who think a relationship makes them whole. Add that to a shocking lack of understanding of the culture they’re marrying into and you have the perfect setting for a scam. Honestly Diane is so naive she’s lucky she didn’t end up physically hurt. I think Michelle is off base saying she was groomed. Children get groomed. She’s an adult woman who ignored red flags galore. She got scammed.
Not sure about grooming.....🤔?? Meeting a man from any part of the world who lacks financial independence is a red flag 🚩 for potential financial abuse. Women tend to ignore this red flag for the sake of having someone in their lives. These men take advantage of women who seem lonely and desperate.
In my opinion they do get groomed for the purpose of scamming. These so call lovers, are sharks who smells blood when it comes to people who are lonely, insecure, not sharp enough, not streetwise enough and those who lack self-confidence.
It's their culture over there. The women, mothers and sisters are their handlers. They use their brother, sons as studs to entrap the western woman. The mother and sisters then join him after he has made it and sponsored them. All this just so they can come over and become mindless consumers. Trust me I know because it happened to me and in my community over and over again. And what does the British government do about it? Nothing.
@@oneof134 These people are NOT poor! That is the illusion they sell naive westerners. They can afford to pay thousands to agents when it suits them. It's easy money of them but they devastate other peoples' lives. That should be a crime and they should go to jail for it. It is called extortion over here! And I would never do that to another person no matter how poor I was. You know why? Because I have some humanity inside me!
Thats what I did when my kids were young, didn't remarry or anything, just lived my life for my kids. I am older now and single, but no regrets because we have such a close relationship even though they are adults.
And I applaud you for including the fathers who are in these circumstances. I’ve spent the last 15 years intentionally single and devoted to my children after losing their mother to an accident when they were only just out of babyhood. I didn’t have the time nor the energy to spare on a relationship anyway, and it’s not worth risking your children over.
RULE NO. 1 - Never give a man money, do not pay to travel and see him, do NOT financially assist a broke man, LADIES! Please stop being so desperate to be with a useless man. You are the PRIZE, not him. Please stop this foolishness now.
True. I met my husband online, he sent me money and then a ticket and accommodations to see him. Maybe I was just lucky. We are married for 6 years now.😊
I am a male in my early 60s and when anyone male or female significantly younger shows interest in me or flirts with me I figure they have an ulterior motive and I'm usually correct.
Depends on the person. I am 33 and fell in love with someone who is 15 yrs older than me. Although I considered his financial stability, this is only to match my own. In almost all of our trips, I paid more. Never depended on him financially. And yet he managed to betray me, unfortunately he has no plans of settling down. Not because I am the younger one, I got ulterior motive. I just prefer to be with someone older than me, assuming that they want to settle down and have family.
Yes. I don't want to be the subject of anyone's "bucket list" for being with a much older, incredibly sexy woman lol jk. I traveled the world before I married at 36. I had men send me gifts and huge bunches of flowers and once a man sent a traveling band in Italy. But it was always just dumb fun, and their proposals of adoration etc. made me laugh. Every place I went I would learn some of the language from them, dance every night and then leave! I once had a mantry and pick me up at 18 when he had with more than one wife standing with him. Fun memories! Never go alone!!!
Ladies, my dad said NEVER give an adult male money even if it's $20. If you do give a guy money then never consider him as a boyfriend nor a husband. People who truly respect and love you will never take your Kindness for weakness.
I've been married 15 years, my husband has never even when we were dating let me pay for anything ask me for money nothing. I remember we were watching this show one time that was talking about how I'm there's nothing wrong with females paying half the check or whatever. And I told him I was like you should just let me start to pay half the check. The look on his face of just pure disgust lmfao. He was like you're my girl one day you're going to be my wife, no what would that look like if I took you out and you were paying for half of everything? Now once we got married and stuff the bills we we do 50/50 but we pool all our money together you know what I mean. But I don't understand how these women like you're grown bro. How the hell did you get this far in life being so damn gullible. Not to mention the dude that they showed in the casket was not him. He got that girl so bad. I just don't understand why you would loan somebody that amount of money. Just like when you hear them and they're talking about dating somebody online. For one the first time somebody brought up money you would know exactly what it was and what was going on. now what I don't understand is about the girl that was dating the dude that was from Egypt the one with the kidney problems. Why would he want a British passport, wait till he got said passport. And then as soon as he gets it he goes back to where he came from? That don't make no sense to me. It's a little odd. But yeah I don't understand that whole thing I really don't
There is nothing wrong to find love and live happily ever after. U will value it especially when u re old, like in your 60. This is why u should find a true love while u re still young. My mother is old and alone. I feel very sorry for her. She is 75
Michelle turned the negative into a positive weldone for raising awareness.Sad stories and no fairy tale..feel for the Scottish lady losing everything...hope things get better for her and she gets another home soon.
For heavens sake...Didn't Diane think of something was terribly wrong??? The minute you have to start sending money, THAT'S A BIG RED FLAG!!!!! 33 year age gap???? HELLO!!!!! Dianne is very lucky to be alive.
So basically the other person is hold hostage to stay with someone even at this point they are not in love or can't even live together ...is not black and white situation...each situation is individual... I find incredibly irresponsible from this ladies, just met this stranger and rushing to get married ? WHY? Willingly supporting men,it should be the other way ..he should be supporting you... All situation is full of red Flags!!!
@@francescarubera Agree, in some ways the people often seem to be hooked on the typical flaws that scammers may detect, their own greed and need. To appear respectable, a successful exotic man on their arm. One even cut up the clothes she had bought him. Why did she buy them, was to show him off or did he not really have enough clothes. It's like the men who sometimes knowingly goes for the golddigger and don't bother about whether it's genuine love but the golddigger gives him some sort of status of being desirable, someone to show up and attend to some desires. I think some of these women could benwfit from an excercise I learnt when I was in rehab for drug abuse in my teens: when urged to rush about something to just stop and think "what does this stand for?", "What is the meaning of this for me?". There are so many ways people can rush into trouble by being trapped by their own selfdeception about their genuine wants and needs.
I've had foreigners message me on FB and IG but I ignore and block them. I have no interest in having an online affair-I have enough problems with dating in real life LOL. If someone online asks you for money-regardless if it's a woman or a man-THINK real hard. More often than not they're just using you. I feel bad for them .
@@tundrawomansays694 I actually had to get him to trust me to admit it was a scam he was trying, He said he thought at first I seemed 'slow', but I took him on such a rollercoaster ride , he had to admit that he underestimated me. Eventually I told him where all of his mistakes were, and he thought I was also a scammer.. that was just one of those types of episodes.
I met a man on line from Peru but was here on Visa. We dated 1.5 years he asked me to marry him I said yes. He insisted that he get his naturalization and did become a citizen before we married because he didn't want my family and friends to question his motives. We married here in USA and had a wedding he Peru he works two jobs and I got sick and he pays all our bills and helped me care for my father until his death. We will celebrate 6 years in November. I'm 50 he's,53. So sometimes it is real. ;)
Why would a 51 year old woman marry a 21 year old boy who she doesn't know......who can't speak your own language, who drives a tuk tuk in a third world country, who can't pay for anything ?.......really, this is foolish in the extreme. And time to take responsibility and not just blame ppl. Your own weaknesses created this. Think carefully what part you played or you'll repeat your foolishness.
@Kaci well I am 20 years older than my husband. He chased me for a year or more. We are going strong in year 11 year of our marriage. I look a lot younger, than my years. N we have kids. The red flag is when a woman puts her hand in the purse for the man. I really believe the family are in on the scam!
T M - Congratulations and I'm happy for you. Clearly, you are both decent, caring and reliable people who had genuine feelings for each other. Perhaps you are in the minority as the stories we hear are mostly in the vein of those shown here.
Ladies: no real man will ask you for money, no real man is running to the altar without knowing for a fact she’s the one, and REGARDLESS OF ANYTHING, ALWAYS SEEK OUT THE ADVICE OF THOSE AROUND YOU WHO RESPECT AND LOVE YOU AND DON’T WANT TO SEE YOU HURT before creating a life with someone you hardly know
Seek that advice and listen to the advice. A true friend or loved one will be honest with you. If it sounds to good to be true. It most likely is not. Jmo
i agree marriage really ain’t that great get better dreams ladies u have been brainwashed i think its good for consumerism & thats what makes the world go round but spending all that money on one day get a house an education travel take care of homeless animals something else to b proud of
It’s quite unfortunate if that actually is a “girl’s dream” because men are swearing off marriage at truly _staggering_ rates. In terms of men, only imbeciles and those with insidious agendas are lining up for the guillotine of marriage. The risks are simply far too great.
Imagine thinking someone working in the hotel you’re staying at has any genuine interest in you? Do these women not realise they eye up every coach arrival at the hotel each week? They just see you as a walking £ sign.
Absolutely! Few men seek marriage these days, as the risks are far too great and the benefits are insignificant. A man who’s willing to marry is like one huge warning sign (he’s either stupid or sinister).
Yep, that part..... believe me or as you may know yourself, this behavior is often at the root of deeper issues in their lives or in their past. And given these stories, the scam victims haven't worked on their selves (yet) to heal. To develop real self-love that allows them to avoid this kind of financial scams in their lives. Sad!
It's quite incredible in this day and age, with all the publicity available, that people are still getting scammed like this. Loneliness is just awful.
Latoya is sooo beautiful, even though she was tricked to moving to the motherland she never made love cloud her judgement... You go Queen you were given lemons and you made lemon aid!
Sorry to say this but what was Diane thinking? He is 33 years younger and handsome. She is a lovely lady, I am sure of it, but she is not exactly on the same level as him when it comes to looks. I know that I am going to get some nasty responses because I am stating the obvious. Looks are not the most important thing, but when there is a language barrier, a huge age gap and a big difference in the looks compartment, the chances are high, that at least one partner is after something else, and not necessarily deeply in love.
I have seen other reports where the women said, they knew it wasn’t right, that the guys were out of their league, but the guys are such big manipulators.
I 100% agree with both of you!!!! Everybody is different, have different lives, past experiences, childhoods, morals, beliefs ect so naturally, what each persons dreams or wants are will be different & that’s okay!!!! Much love to you both!!! 💜💜💜💜
Love rats who are scammers aren’t just abroad. They exist in your own country , are citizens and can be white skinned too . Some of these men are divorced & don’t have a house due to their divorce. These men don’t have much money , most are older men . They’re on the hunt for single career women , who earn good money , own their own home & have savings . They target women in their 40s, 50s & 60s who have never married , have no children & want a companion . These men marry these women & don’t leave them but then they have a comfortable life , a permanent roof over their head & no financial worries .
So true, Cherry! There are scads of these rootless males. If he’s over 50 and lacks a house, car, degree, a steady job, also proper English, you have to really take a hard stance - what’s he done with his life? They had families before, but lost them. You’ll then find out that they fritter away their time and $ on some weird obsession, such as religious fanaticism, being a Don Juan, casinos, car culture, socializing, a show biz dream, you name it. He’s always out running about. It gets worse with age, when he turns abusive. Don’t get into this mess!
Is the woman happy and content with the situation? Maybe the man does the grocery shopping and cooks dinner every night. But you're right about that type of broke man is found anywhere and everywhere.
Why would a woman support a old man? I would not support a young man and sure would not support a older man is it becouse they cant leave as they have to relay on the woman for money?
The witch doctor has the best advice - you have the power in you to say no at anytime and not get sucked into the fantasy of a perfect life and the perfect partner, which really doesn't exist.
I have 5 kids and have a substantial amount set aside for every single one who chooses NOT to get married. The “every girls dream is to be married” is the problem. Give your kids more power than dreams like that.
Well said because it IS about self empowerment and going beyond cultural and environmental expectations and pressures. I am an old woman now but I married 3 times because I somehow honestly believed men knew better than me. It took me 3 marriages to learn about self empowerment and I like to say now that no man will ever again put a ring through my nose LOL. Thank god I had a good education and career, enabling this independence and the intelligence to be able to wake up. We still have a long way to go with the education of girls and women.
Well teach your girls to be sensible about choosing men, get them avoid the party life and getting ran through by hundreds of boys and men. Don’t leave it too late to get married and learn that life is hard, don’t just run straight to divorce lawyer because she is not happy, especially if she has kids!
Agreed. Though I'm lonely at times I m not desperate.mainly because I've already been through the wringer in a way, with relationships in the past. So now I side eye nearly everyone who shows romantic interest even sabotage every show of interest I ve lost the ability to trust. Thankfully I wasn't scammed like these women just v disappointed and let down or feeling I was used (or I let myself be used Because I wanted the experience of being in a relationship like society tells you you need to be, when I was young.)
@@HoneyQuint Yes. Bodies do and can get "puffed up" in a day (regardless of location). But, that puffiness is NOT caused by high volumes of embalming fluid. THAT'S the point. Smh.
Four years ago, I had to stay in a hotel while my place was renovated. I met a young man who was 33. I was 54. I’d sit outside on the warm summer nights where the wifi signal was very strong and play decorating games or watch a movie to give my son a chance to have his gf and other friends in the room. This young man was recovering from a leg injury and working for a place that set him up to live in the hotel. He was very intelligent, kind, funny, and very handsome and tall and fit. I got to know him quite well over those 10 days. All I could think of was that I wished I had a daughter I could introduce him to! Anyhow, I am not completely stupid and he started flirting and dropping subtle hints. Nothing overt or gross; still very respectful. But I just played dumb. I, in no way, could see that he would ever be happy with someone my age. I don’t have the energy I did when I was 25 and could go out dancing every night and go to work the next day. I have other aches and pains that keep me home and I only go out if I want to and have a reprieve from the aging body I now have. If I had been maybe even 40, I may have not played dumb. He really was incredible. But it’s just better for he and for me to not be a couple. He will probably want kids. How horrible to have to choose between your partner and having a family! And don’t say adoption. I do not have the energy for raising more children, and I’ve already done that. I do love puppies, though. 😂
It is time for us, all women to change our mentality about marriage, which is " it is a dream of all girls to get married "... our dream instead should be to priortize ourselves whether a man is present or not. As an Indian girl growing up in India, I was told since i was 4 years old that I belong to a man, my future husband.. I challenged those narratives, fought and never allowed anyone to control my destiny.. marriage should not define us..also, at any moment a man or a woman starts asking for money, run, run as far as you can..
There is an easy way to avoid getting scammed. Never give someone you barely know your money. A real man, a man who loves you, it’s not after your money
There wasn’t much, if any, lust evident. Plenty of loneliness-driven delusional fantasy though, which definitely can be the enemy of common sense. It didn’t seem like there was any significant common sense to defy tbh.
I'm a Sri Lankan law graduate. Culturally, "engagement" and "registration" are used instead of "getting married" because often the phrase "wedding" means a massive party where extended families etc are called after the legal proceedings are complete. Sometimes this "wedding" (ie party) is held months after the legal proceedings and its often only after that that the couple lives together as husband and wife. This Sri Lankan man used that to trick this poor lady I feel.
Diane said, “I really loved him and I thought he loved me…” but that isn’t what she said in the beginning. In the beginning, she said that after she married him, she STARTED to develop feelings for him. The other one, “I thought I did my homework, because I asked him very pointedly…” These women never experienced people lying? And then, Sara, “I fell pregnant.” “It just happened.” I hate when people phrase it that way, like it just happened, they didn’t do anything to cause it. I was just walking down the street, minding my own business, and bam. I was pregnant. After all the years now, all he’s done, all she fell for, she STILL takes no responsibility for her actions. Good for her friend for not letting her off the hook. None of these women seem to feel they did anything careless or foolish. It all “just happened” to them. I do NOT think laws should be stricter to protect people from this. The laws already prevent people truly in love from being together as quickly as some would like to be. I am very much against people wanting laws to protect them from themselves when it only makes things harder for everyone else who didn’t do anything foolish. Innocent people shouldn’t find it harder to do things because others need government intervention to prevent them from making mistakes.
I met LaToya, her daughter and Emanuel in Bangkok Thailand in 2013/14. This is not the whole story. She hopped around various countries with this man. She knew his financial situation and was happy to take care of him. I remember her buying him expensive iPhones and would not pay for braiding hair for her daughter even when my daughter offered to do it for free. I remember telling her she was her husband’s hustle. She’s not really a good person and doesn’t mind body shaming other women when she had Emanuel on her arm. I guess I was right. Kudos on landing another reality show/documentary.
“The women should open their minds and close their legs”!! I think that juju man may be on to something. He spoke pure wisdom but the woman didn’t want to hear it and she accused him of blaming the victims. All he said was that everyone has a choice and therefore everyone is responsible for the decisions they make. He was 100% right. But victims never, ever see it that way.
I guess Iam not a romantic,there is no way any man is getting my money;I don't care where he's from,or how charming he is,and really ladies when you go to these third world countries,that monetary gain is the only agenda for these guys,they don't have anything.
I travel alone a lot, even though I'm not single. I love that, the independence, the freedom, it's great. When I do travel alone, I often pretend not to speak English so people don't bother me. I teach English. 😅🤣
Glad for their stories,so other women can see how these love rats operate .kudos to these gals for their courage,and I truly hope they find someone who's for real.❤❤❤❤❤❤
In my opinion they do get groomed for the purpose of scamming. These so call lovers, are sharks who smells blood when it comes to people who are lonely, insecure, not sharp enough, not streetwise enough and those who lack self-confidence. And it's not just the scammer himself who has this goal in mind. It is often also the whole family and/or community. Because the idea is that if their relatives live in the west, it will also benefit them financially.
@@ForeverSweetx3 na not anyone these ladies r quite stupid because they allowed this i would only have myself to blame if i was this dumb its embarrassing
Desperation is the word that was left out of this documentary. Never allow yourself to feel desperate for anything, otherwise you will become vulnerable!
yes but they blame the men for their stupidity
Welp, feelings just *are.* And as humans we’ve all experienced that feeling of desperation whether for a person, an animal, some inanimate object. After all, desperation is created by marketers/advertisers to get people to buy or otherwise “own” that with which one becomes so enamored be it a foreign lover or a foreign made makeup pallet, skin care-like K cosmetics made with snail snot-etc.
@@tundrawomansays694 you are right that we are all human and have strong desires but we must strive to fight off feelings of desperation. Adopt a dog or cat. There are ways to fight of loneliness and desperation.
My thoughts exactly. They are no victim, 2 adults making a decision. You made a decision to get married. They didn't put a gun to your head.
Desperation was my thought. The one that was happy the man had a big home was just digging for gold. All she got was dirt 🙂
The fact these women just hand over their money to “charming” stranger just blows me away. The moment any grown man would asked you for money is an immediate red flag! 🤦🏽♀️
💯
Love bombed! 💣
But she is not just giving him money. She gets f...ked for it
Totally agree
@@Gunsandjewels What? That's a part of most relationships. It's the men who are doing that partly for the money despite not liking the women.
Falling for a whirlwind romance is one thing, bringing them to live with you and your child is another. Protect our children please
I married a chick I met travelling in a foreign country..... happily ever after
Please think of the children!
@@garyhost1830 for how long?
@@lisapop5219 12 years and counting
YES!!! Thank you. Keep your sex life and your children separate
As a 63yr old woman in the U.S., I learned the hard way that men now want either a ‘nurse or a purse’… 😡
😂😂😢
No carer not nurse😂
🎯
Absolutely!!! Im 65 a 30 yr old asked me on a date. I just laughed....like really??? Im not that dumb.
I’ll take Purse for $400 Alex 😂
She is in her 50s and he is 21. She looks like his grandmother. We must learn to love ourselves more and be happy being alone.
The woman is stupid.
The show takes place years later. And she didn’t think it was romantic at first. He tricked her, don’t blame the victim.
@@M_SC The scammers are at fault, there is no question about that, but the women/men that fall for it are also partly responsible.
@@M_SCit’s important in some cases like this to take responsibility for your own self, it’s actually vital so it does not happen again
Or perhaps she could find someone better suited to her. God people are mean.
I would be so suspicious if a man 20/30 years younger was interested in me.
I'd be surprised if a man 70-80 years old would be interested in you
I would tell them where to go!
I prefer a man, not a boy.
@@zahidkhan5733 that remark was soooo nasty. No need for such a comment.
@@angelaglanville9377 oh come on wasn't that bad, you don't know Antonia, she doesn't need a mask on Halloween if you know what I mean...
@@zahidkhan5733 nice one! Same one your classmates used on you at last year's 6th grade graduation. 💥
I feel like these lovely ladies are lucky to still be around to share their stories! They lost tons of money but they're still alive.
Agree 👍
true, that poor woman who went to nigeria to marry her scamming yahoo boy was killed
Respect ENGLAND 🇬🇧👏.
Yeah but the older Scottish lady, lost everything she's ever worked for and now her life is an unstable struggle.
@@ceilconstante640 very sad!
The witch doctor is the only person with some damn common sense! 😂😂😂
Exactly, I love him
🤣🤣🤣🤣....right!!!
The america woman saw it as victim blaming when it's common sense.
Honestly... she's talking about how immoral of a man in Ghana to con a woman from a 1st world nation.
Deep god ..Ghana is one of the poorest countries & she's acting righteous with her American passport privilege.
Honestly yes! Open your mind more!
ALWAYS leave the holiday romance where it belongs. .. On HOLIDAY
right! It's okay to say I am just having fun screwing you. Us ladies need to be more truthful and enjoy it for what it is!
😂 I’m
Writing notes. 😩 sometimes we women have emotions
@@eveheart2876 Our emotions are too strong sometimes Eve as in my opinion men really DON'T care about women at all.
Men want to CONTROL women.
Basically, most males our afraid of women.
I agree. When on holiday it's like a cartoon way of life for a few weeks... nothing is real.
I do have a friend who met her husband when she went on holiday (Greece I think).
Karen (not real name) went home and they kept in close contact via skype, emails, phone etc. It resulted in Karen divorcing her husband, with whom she had 2 kids.
Karen married her Greek 'lover' and fortunately it has worked out. They have been married almost 10 years now and both are happy.
My friend was very, very lucky taking such a risk. I'm glad that it's worked out for all concerned. Her ex husband has moved on also.
Pot Luck for sure!!
@@Ann65. Hiya, Men will ALWAYS Be RAT'S towards women but what can you do. Pleased to that your friend found someone decent
He upgraded his tut tut to a mini bus, I have just fell off my chair laughing 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He was rocking’ it! 😂😂😂
LOLOLOL - I know! That cracked me up, too!
Bro was pure entrepreneur!
You left out the best part! That upgrade was thirty thousand dollars!!! Give me a break!
Being scammed about love I can understand however sending millions of money to a lover , I can never understand 😞
Yeah, If he is SO poor, how is he going to support the both of you? Don't you see ANY RED FLAGS? If a man askes me for money, AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Yup
„Open your minds and close your legs „😂😂😂.. witch doctor 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Sage advice
LOL!! I would add close your wallets.
As a young girl I was approached by a man on the street in Kingston Jamaica telling me how beautiful I was and he could get me into modeling. I was 18 and was already turned down because of my height. I was exited for a moment when he told me that he could help me become a model. But he told me that he was going to make a call and would come back and get me I should wait there for him. Immediately after he walked away silly me was standing there waiting for him to come back when suddenly I heard a voice saying walk away. I listened to the voice and
I’m glad I did because I probably wouldn’t be here today.
Thank god you listened to that voice!!!
Wouldnt be here today ...bit dramatic
That’s the voice of God , I hope you’ve thanked Him
Lucky you went with the voice of god. well done? your gut never lies. Not to be racist but when you see a dark man that dosent speak english. There is your answer right there. About 6 years ago my mum was at the local shops. And this young dark looking scum approached my mum and said to her. You look beautiful blah blah my mum said i am not interested. she ran he was following her. My mum dresses nice and he thought she was rich. If i was there i would’ve told him off.
Thankfully you listened to God's voice.
What the juju man said was correct. It’s up to us as women to look after ourselves and make decision’s that are in our best interest. Jumping in to a marriage or relationship with someone we barely know is ridiculous no matter where it happens.
Couldn't agree more S M
Me too...!!
My American ex wanted to marry me after half an year of online dating and three weeks physically together. He even mentioned moving to where I live, even though he doesn't speak the language and has some debts that he still has to pay. I imagine how I could have ended up financially supporting a grown up man. After things started going down south, he denied most of the things he said to me. At a point he was even pressuring me that he would move to be closer to me, but he's need my help. The more I think about it, the more I realize how fishy everything was. I prefer to blame it on his mental health issues, because it would be devastating to know that he was using me all the time. Either way, I was smart enough to not fall for this trap
agree w/juju man too. These are not teenagers , they made choices , didn't use their heads . or listen to friends. Would they tell their daughters to do the same? the woman wanted so hard to put all the blame on someone else, but its not like they got robbed at gunpoint.
Love can be addicting. I do feel bad that they got scammed. It’s hard to separate yourself from fantasy sometimes until things get really bad
“The guy in the coffin looked nothing like him”, probably because it wasn’t him!!!
😂😂😂😂
😮😂
I glad I’m not the only one who thought so.
She is delusional and gullible believing his face was swollen, it’s not him he just wanted rid of her and keep the mini bus etc so made up that he was killed.
@@valerieshelton425 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wonder how the 54 year woman would feel if her son of 25 years came home with a 54 year old woman!!!!!
YUCK!
The family is involved in this kind of business!!
Is anyone gonna tell Dianne that that wasn't her "husband" in the coffin???
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You think?? 😮
Perhaps they tricked her because she had outlived her usefulness to them!
Even if you told her, it wouldn't matter. These women don't want good advice, they want to believe the lies they tell themselves.
It looks like him
Right 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gotta hand it to Latoya. In the end she didn’t allow herself to be scammed. She stayed in Ghana and made her dream happen on her own terms. I hope she is still out there happy today!
She is so beautiful and strong. I would totally take her on a date.
She is beautiful in and out and has an unbelievable inner strength. The big sister I wish I had!
@@j4513 We all need a Latoya in our life! 💗
She cut dudes clothes that’s the USA coming out 😂 F around and Find out
LaToya is trying to turn her bad decisions into an opportunity to help others.
I have a lot of respect for her. We all make mistakes and get used by people through life.
Our response is what either breaks us or makes us soar above the clouds and grow.
One thing they all have in common… they’re all described as being “very charming”. Don’t let charm deceive you ladies, there’s a lot more to true love than sweet words.
One thing they all have in common, they are delusional
Charm can be a red flag.
I swear you’re right… any man who is “charming” usually is just a rat. Solid, real, doting, committed… do it! Charming? Naw
@@eggsbacon1842 If there is a thirty-year-age gap, he works in the hospitality industry where people spend no more than two weeks in a hotel and he is already proposing marriage, there is usually some crookery behind it. Either he is using you as a passport to the UK or he wants to cheat you out of your savings,
Old saying to good to be true well it is true
These men dont "go to charm school" the women just don't have much self esteem, self worth, boundaries and or standards. They probably also have an anxious attachment style which makes them fall fast and cling on.
It seems to me that these women have an inflated view of themselves. Have they looked in a mirror
I’m sure Diane wouldn’t have believed a 21 year old was interested in her in Scotland. Yet believed a man abroad at that age with limited resources was genuine. She went in with her eyes open out of desperation and the wedding could’ve been avoided. These men can easily spot their willing targets so it remains on women to be cautious. Such scams are widely reported and has gone on for decades. Yet many will continue to ignore all the warning signs. The lady in Ghana had the last laugh by not aiding his visa application.
These grandmother's are lonely, any kind of affection anyone gives them make them feel good.
@@suzanne-cs7sx Not all of these women are grandmothers 🤣
Diane's deceased husband was not wealthy - he was a tuk tuk driver. I think he owed someone drugs money or something like that and this is why he married her.
It is not only women who get duped.
I would prefer USA to Ghana any day of the week.
I just don’t understand how so many women fall for these scam artists, handing over hundreds of pounds it’s just crazy
Vulnerability.
IT is a sickness. It is not about love .. that is the furthest thing. And.. in. a way, it happens every single day in the US... or anywhere.
Women / or men... who are not whole, become addicted to this.... fantasy.
It is a mental condition. Not love, not sex. ... mental.
Watch Mr. LET GO on you tubes.
He is not easy to watch, but... spot on about the mind/mental condition of women especially.
I watch ALL his videos. Be ready to be offended... but he is spot on!
Kiki Arthur : I think everyone always believes “I would never be this stupid….”
But I believe this is a brainwashing that many intelligent people can’t fight. A sad and common thing. Best wishes from Sweden.
@@EllaBella-76 glad you got the frying pans
I watch 90 Day Fiance!!!!!
"every girl's dream is to get married" - nope. You got it wrong there girl
Accumulating a high “body count” is living the dream now, apparently. Although, sex for the sake of it seems just as pointless as modern marriage.
That’s so true. Gosh these women are so delusional
Never wanted to get married NO THANKS XX
Exactly, never was my dream ever
When my sisters got married I remember being in the wedding dress shop thinking I could never see myself in one of those. Growing up they’d binge watch brodezillas and say yes to the dress, I could never understand it
The advice took me out😂😂😂 open their minds and close their legs more I can’t 😂😂😂
I was 45 yrs old, met this handsome guy who was 28...I knew from the immidiate beginning that he would scam me in some way, wasn't sure how though. I didn't have to wonder much longer than two days though😁he "forgot" his wallet at home when we went for coffee, AND when we went to have a drink at a bar. I told him "okay, I'll pay for both of us but after this I never want to see you again because I can't stand this behaviour" and I walked away and blocked him on my phone. Six months later I saw him at a bar and he came and sat down with me asking why I had thought that he was lying those times?! I said "I'm not 16, I am past 40, I have experienced more than YOU have and I know when someone has truly forgot his wallet or if he just pretends to have, to make the woman pay". He got up, threw 20 bucks on the table and said he REALLY had forgot his wallet(both times😁) and now he proves it by paying me back! I said thank you and took the money and turned my back on him. Never saw him again😆
Very well done 😅😅😅🥳🥳🥳🥳
I wish all women had your common sense. You are awesome 👍
😂😂😂😂😂😂 good one
You should ask for another 5 bucks because of the interest over the past 6 months 🤭😁
Woow
I'm an older woman living alone. Fortunately for me I'm very content this way. After many years doing what I want when I want I don't think I could live with a man anymore no matter how handsome or charming. I watch videos like this one and the ones where older women are left destitute by online romance scammers and my first thought is "How can they be so stupid?" But then I feel sorry for them and want the scammers caught and jailed for life!!!
You need to be smart. Then with your head first then your heart
Never say never, you just never know. It might happened if you look just close your leg and don't look, simple.
Gurl, I share your sentiment.
I love living alone, doing what I want with no explanations. I don't have the energy to take care of a man...and most expect that.
So I enjoy my own company in my tiny home near the beach... cooking healthy food, painting pictures, and playing my violin. There's no way I'll ever date again. But I do have the most loyal and kind friends.
Enjoy your days. 💕
It's really sad that people can get so lonely that they think getting married after 2 days is a good idea
About 10 years ago a colleague came to me telling me about her new foreign romance. He'd asked her for money - just a small amount - and she wasn't sure what to think. She had been lonely and was madly in love but, thank goodness, she had the good common sense to ask for someone else's opinion. We talked it through and she decided he was a scammer.
The point is that even though she doubted it, he had his claws in so well she wasnt sure of herself.
People don’t understand how manipulative these scammers can be and you can fall prey very easily especially if you’re lonely like some of those women.
Ladies, stay single and be there for your children!!! At least there’s nobody messing you around, your money, home, time, etc. is yours!!!
Well said and true
I am single and very happy!! Have my family ..my baby nephew..baby niece..my friends. 😁👍 I loved and got my heart broken and decided that it was it for me. I do not miss it at all.
@@deliamartinex2710 Just like me 😊 I’m 59 and have always been single
Yes, stay single, and _please_ don’t reproduce (which should be easy if you’re truly devoted to your singularity).
🎯💯 exactly this is me can't and won't deal with or accept 💩 i know my worth
These women are so brave to openly talk about their mistakes, so that they can help other women to avoid making the same mistakes.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t though. They keep on thinking it won’t happen to them. It’s a well known fact that if a man starts asking for money that he’s not interested in romance. They keep getting drawn into those messes.
Euphorbia ... I agree with you. Their stories should be a warning to others.
Alas, as Margo says there are lonely women who think that this won't be them and rhat they have found true love.
Never over-estimate your attraction to young men overseas ladies.
And never under-estimate the attraction of a British Passport.
Currently, on my Channel I am reacting to a 40 yr old woman who accepted a proposal if marriage from a man she has never seen.
On the 2nd day of communicating on Tinder she accepted the proposal and flew over to Kuwait.
They are now married. It's clearly transactional. She has been paid and got a wedding ring. He will eventually obtain a Canadian Passport.
Sidenote: He's 10 years younger and about 300 lbs lighter!!
Brave? ...
@@simonablack390 _IKR?!?_ Oblivion seems to dominate not only the “documentary” but this comment section also.
@@anhedonianepiphany5588 Oblivion dominates only weak people without real target in life.
Not so hard to believe those men were actually interested in Latoya & Sarah. They're beautiful women. Shame it was all a scam
exactly my thoughts!
👌👌👌
Latoya couldnt find a man in the US because she is unstable. cutting up clothes and threatening someone in an argument with a knife is a red flag. no one in their right mind outs up with that. a woman in her 30s has had lots of options and chose poorly. she is the problem
also imagine a mother dragging her son into her relationship drama and burning clothes with him. just gross
The JuJu Man seems to be the only one with common sense in this video!
😊😅😅😅 true
Loneliness is a human condition. Cant blame anyone for looking for love, just be careful out there girls.
youre the ONLY comment I agree with, i hate people saying lonely people do this or that...i know 100% what loneliness is and let me tell you i almost lost my mind, i have no family either so... im now alone anymore thank God. The best thing to write here is what you wrote. Be careful out there girls, and ladies, be smart se aware and wide-eyed.
excuse my bad english btw;)
@@CristinaF210 I think your English is.great I would rather trust out siders as I.was conned by two realitives one conned me out of a.lot of money I used to go to her house the whole time she said she would pay me back when her cheque came through she got 3 big cheques but. Still never paid the money back I asked
When her son was paying the money he borrowed she said he
Must have forgotten about it then I l she started sending threatening messages and phoned hospital made out she was me. And cancelled my knee operation then I lent. Another cousin 250 pounds I thought she would pay me back cos she did when she was younger I hesitated but she I won't do that to you but she did exactly the as my aunt and her son did I now won't lend anyone money unless I speak to my really nice cousin who doesn't have long left to live from Mary from Scotland hope you have a lovely week ahead of you
@@marygunn8479 your grammar and punctuation is atrocious!
@@suzymoroka297 go and fuck your self it not my grammar that's bad it's my phone but if my grammar was bad least it's not as bad as you your the most funking vile rude person I have read a.comment about I have other things to worry about than an idiot of bully like you so go.get a life arsehole
@@marygunn8479 😂😂😂 this is even worse! It’s just that I saw your very condescending comments to other posters saying “your English is very good”. As if you have an excellent command of the English language! Oh by the way, the you’re not your, you’re as in you are, your is ownership, like your hair is nice or your English is 💩. See what I mean? Blaming the phone though?🙄🤦🏽♀️
Having an English white woman’s name doesn’t not mean that you are in a position to be critiquing someone’s command of English.
How could Diane believe that a 21 year old kid could really love a woman that could be/looks like his grandmother (with teenage pregnancies, but still!)?! When a young kid like that shows even the slightest intrest in you, red flags should immediately appear!
I really don't understand it either
It's like being at the zoo and watching a polar marry a lemming
Please read my comments on top. He is not a kid, he is not a child, he is an adult..
@@lisatinbliki5691 The term kid does't mean he's a child. It means he is very young campared to the women he's dating and trying to rip off. 21 year old guys are often pretty immature though!
@@lisatinbliki5691 Kid can imply a young adult - like an older person referring to a son or daughter. I'm 40 feeling 70 so I use the term sort of jokingly.
Having a zero tolerance for giving money to any man will save you from a lot drama and pain.
FACTS
Men don't need to take money from women anyways
Diane “he was dead, it didn’t look like him though, they used too much balming”!🤦🏽♀️😭
The most shocking thing in this video.
I commented similar.
Lmao
I’ve seen so many of these stories and they mostly have one thing in common, lonely people who think a relationship makes them whole. Add that to a shocking lack of understanding of the culture they’re marrying into and you have the perfect setting for a scam. Honestly Diane is so naive she’s lucky she didn’t end up physically hurt. I think Michelle is off base saying she was groomed. Children get groomed. She’s an adult woman who ignored red flags galore. She got scammed.
Not sure about grooming.....🤔?? Meeting a man from any part of the world who lacks financial independence is a red flag 🚩 for potential financial abuse. Women tend to ignore this red flag for the sake of having someone in their lives. These men take advantage of women who seem lonely and desperate.
very true
Great summary.
They were all SCAMMED; Jesus, as soon as they mention money or visa's, tell them to you F*** THEMSELVES
In my opinion they do get groomed for the purpose of scamming. These so call lovers, are sharks who smells blood when it comes to people who are lonely, insecure, not sharp enough, not streetwise enough and those who lack self-confidence.
The fact that families and communities are involved in these scams is appalling
Poverty makes people very inventive!!
It's their culture over there. The women, mothers and sisters are their handlers. They use their brother, sons as studs to entrap the western woman. The mother and sisters then join him after he has made it and sponsored them. All this just so they can come over and become mindless consumers. Trust me I know because it happened to me and in my community over and over again. And what does the British government do about it? Nothing.
Maybe you'd do it too if you were extremely poor, it's REALLY easy money
@@oneof134 These people are NOT poor! That is the illusion they sell naive westerners. They can afford to pay thousands to agents when it suits them. It's easy money of them but they devastate other peoples' lives. That should be a crime and they should go to jail for it. It is called extortion over here! And I would never do that to another person no matter how poor I was. You know why? Because I have some humanity inside me!
Yes. The social inequity and poverty in this world is very appalling.
I applaud mothers and fathers who stay single and just love and look after their children instead of looking for relationships
Thats what I did when my kids were young, didn't remarry or anything, just lived my life for my kids. I am older now and single, but no regrets because we have such a close relationship even though they are adults.
👏👏 I stick with my 2 grown up children and 2 grandchildren. I'm very happy.
Thanks
@@CR-tc2zv I agree 👍💯
And I applaud you for including the fathers who are in these circumstances.
I’ve spent the last 15 years intentionally single and devoted to my children after losing their mother to an accident when they were only just out of babyhood. I didn’t have the time nor the energy to spare on a relationship anyway, and it’s not worth risking your children over.
RULE NO. 1 - Never give a man money, do not pay to travel and see him, do NOT financially assist a broke man, LADIES! Please stop being so desperate to be with a useless man. You are the PRIZE, not him. Please stop this foolishness now.
True. I met my husband online, he sent me money and then a ticket and accommodations to see him. Maybe I was just lucky. We are married for 6 years now.😊
Ladies,please use that money to travel the world,come to Africa we will accompany you on safaris to see wild animals. Keep busy,visit old people etc
I say the same to MEN. Women are scandalous AF these days.
@@kimmykaypunkinu were lucky.some pple r genuine...
@@sponzie1adopt abandoned animals
I am a male in my early 60s and when anyone male or female significantly younger shows interest in me or flirts with me I figure they have an ulterior motive and I'm usually correct.
They all have daddy issues that's for sure or they want your wallet.
Depends on the person. I am 33 and fell in love with someone who is 15 yrs older than me. Although I considered his financial stability, this is only to match my own. In almost all of our trips, I paid more. Never depended on him financially. And yet he managed to betray me, unfortunately he has no plans of settling down.
Not because I am the younger one, I got ulterior motive. I just prefer to be with someone older than me, assuming that they want to settle down and have family.
Yeah, just root them senseless then leave.
Yes. I don't want to be the subject of anyone's "bucket list" for being with a much older, incredibly sexy woman lol jk. I traveled the world before I married at 36. I had men send me gifts and huge bunches of flowers and once a man sent a traveling band in Italy. But it was always just dumb fun, and their proposals of adoration etc. made me laugh. Every place I went I would learn some of the language from them, dance every night and then leave! I once had a mantry and pick me up at 18 when he had with more than one wife standing with him. Fun memories! Never go alone!!!
@@estrellajulve1428you sound lovely are you in the uk
Ladies, my dad said NEVER give an adult male money even if it's $20. If you do give a guy money then never consider him as a boyfriend nor a husband. People who truly respect and love you will never take your Kindness for weakness.
That is so true.
True
I've been married 15 years, my husband has never even when we were dating let me pay for anything ask me for money nothing. I remember we were watching this show one time that was talking about how I'm there's nothing wrong with females paying half the check or whatever. And I told him I was like you should just let me start to pay half the check. The look on his face of just pure disgust lmfao. He was like you're my girl one day you're going to be my wife, no what would that look like if I took you out and you were paying for half of everything? Now once we got married and stuff the bills we we do 50/50 but we pool all our money together you know what I mean. But I don't understand how these women like you're grown bro. How the hell did you get this far in life being so damn gullible. Not to mention the dude that they showed in the casket was not him. He got that girl so bad. I just don't understand why you would loan somebody that amount of money. Just like when you hear them and they're talking about dating somebody online. For one the first time somebody brought up money you would know exactly what it was and what was going on. now what I don't understand is about the girl that was dating the dude that was from Egypt the one with the kidney problems. Why would he want a British passport, wait till he got said passport. And then as soon as he gets it he goes back to where he came from? That don't make no sense to me. It's a little odd. But yeah I don't understand that whole thing I really don't
My grandfather taught me this as well.
YOUR DAD IS RIGHT, LISTEN TO HIM!!!!!
I will never understand why any woman feels incomplete without a man.
me too! especially with the wrong men only causes mental pain.
Society fed us this crap and we ate it up.
Right??? “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Author unknown
That's what we are told since the day we are born
There is nothing wrong to find love and live happily ever after. U will value it especially when u re old, like in your 60. This is why u should find a true love while u re still young. My mother is old and alone. I feel very sorry for her. She is 75
Michelle turned the negative into a positive weldone for raising awareness.Sad stories and no fairy tale..feel for the Scottish lady losing everything...hope things get better for her and she gets another home soon.
I am a woman, and I say, we need to start getting smarter than falling for those scammers.
You don't really need to be smart. Just commonsense. And a good look in the mirror.
Keep the sex drive in check.
I only date old men 😂 so I’m all set.
Like men don't..
Quit reading your daughters fairytales
For heavens sake...Didn't Diane think of something was terribly wrong??? The minute you have to start sending money, THAT'S A BIG RED FLAG!!!!! 33 year age gap???? HELLO!!!!!
Dianne is very lucky to be alive.
If someone gets a passport through marriage to a UK citizen and then takes off, they should lose their passport.
Hi ❤❤
Why ? He dud everything legally. Lol. We are not responsible for stupid women
So basically the other person is hold hostage to stay with someone even at this point they are not in love or can't even live together ...is not black and white situation...each situation is individual...
I find incredibly irresponsible from this ladies, just met this stranger and rushing to get married ? WHY? Willingly supporting men,it should be the other way ..he should be supporting you...
All situation is full of red Flags!!!
@@francescarubera Agree, in some ways the people often seem to be hooked on the typical flaws that scammers may detect, their own greed and need. To appear respectable, a successful exotic man on their arm. One even cut up the clothes she had bought him. Why did she buy them, was to show him off or did he not really have enough clothes. It's like the men who sometimes knowingly goes for the golddigger and don't bother about whether it's genuine love but the golddigger gives him some sort of status of being desirable, someone to show up and attend to some desires.
I think some of these women could benwfit from an excercise I learnt when I was in rehab for drug abuse in my teens: when urged to rush about something to just stop and think "what does this stand for?", "What is the meaning of this for me?". There are so many ways people can rush into trouble by being trapped by their own selfdeception about their genuine wants and needs.
Absolutely
Diane looked absolutely lovely on her wedding pictures ❤
Lol😂
I've had foreigners message me on FB and IG but I ignore and block them.
I have no interest in having an online affair-I have enough problems with dating in real life LOL.
If someone online asks you for money-regardless if it's a woman or a man-THINK real hard. More often than not they're just using you. I feel bad for them .
Can we know each other 😂😂
I sometimes keep them going for a bit…if I have the time…what kills me is when they decide to pretend to be famous ppl…
Me also have had a lot of ' proposals ' online , one time I asked one of the guys why he had chosen
@@leoanacorazon6171 So how did he respond? Can’t leave us with such a cliff hanger! More deets, please!
@@tundrawomansays694 I actually had to get him to trust me to admit it was a scam he was trying, He said he thought at first I seemed 'slow', but I took him on such a rollercoaster ride , he had to admit that he underestimated me. Eventually I told him where all of his mistakes were, and he thought I was also a scammer.. that was just one of those types of episodes.
I met a man on line from Peru but was here on Visa. We dated 1.5 years he asked me to marry him I said yes. He insisted that he get his naturalization and did become a citizen before we married because he didn't want my family and friends to question his motives. We married here in USA and had a wedding he Peru he works two jobs and I got sick and he pays all our bills and helped me care for my father until his death. We will celebrate 6 years in November. I'm 50 he's,53. So sometimes it is real. ;)
Sometimes it is real. Congratulations to you both 💖
Why would a 51 year old woman marry a 21 year old boy who she doesn't know......who can't speak your own language, who drives a tuk tuk in a third world country, who can't pay for anything ?.......really, this is foolish in the extreme. And time to take responsibility and not just blame ppl. Your own weaknesses created this. Think carefully what part you played or you'll repeat your foolishness.
Awe
@Kaci
well I am 20 years older than my husband. He chased me for a year or more.
We are going strong in year 11 year of our marriage. I look a lot younger, than my years. N we have kids.
The red flag is when a woman puts her hand in the purse for the man.
I really believe the family are in on the scam!
T M - Congratulations and I'm happy for you.
Clearly, you are both decent, caring and reliable people who had genuine feelings for each other.
Perhaps you are in the minority as the stories we hear are mostly in the vein of those shown here.
Ladies: no real man will ask you for money, no real man is running to the altar without knowing for a fact she’s the one, and REGARDLESS OF ANYTHING, ALWAYS SEEK OUT THE ADVICE OF THOSE AROUND YOU WHO RESPECT AND LOVE YOU AND DON’T WANT TO SEE YOU HURT before creating a life with someone you hardly know
Seek that advice and listen to the advice. A true friend or loved one will be honest with you. If it sounds to good to be true. It most likely is not. Jmo
Very good advice!
"We need the government's support". No, you need to think and take responsibility for your decisions...
Falling for a vacation boyfriend is one thing, but losing so much money to them is so mind boggling
Ye the difference is being a smart ho and dumb ho ho
Latoya is an amazing person. I wish her much happiness.
I would totally go out with her, but she has a little crazy.
And Still young too has a lot to offer
Too late...she met someone else in Ghana.
“I think every girl’s dream is to get married”. Well, there’s the problem right there.
i agree marriage really ain’t that great get better dreams ladies u have been brainwashed i think its good for consumerism & thats what makes the world go round but spending all that money on one day get a house an education travel take care of homeless animals something else to b proud of
Lol true
Not every girl
Well until the Fairy Tales change we are going to have Cinderella Syndrome.
It’s quite unfortunate if that actually is a “girl’s dream” because men are swearing off marriage at truly _staggering_ rates. In terms of men, only imbeciles and those with insidious agendas are lining up for the guillotine of marriage. The risks are simply far too great.
Imagine thinking someone working in the hotel you’re staying at has any genuine interest in you? Do these women not realise they eye up every coach arrival at the hotel each week? They just see you as a walking £ sign.
The word marriage alone would be enough to send me in the other direction - never been a dream of mine 😂
Literally 😂 I would never tie myself down like that. He would have to be as special as special goes
Absolutely! Few men seek marriage these days, as the risks are far too great and the benefits are insignificant. A man who’s willing to marry is like one huge warning sign (he’s either stupid or sinister).
Same!!! Not sure why they think it’s every woman’s dream to be married.
Lmbo, dang but I get it.
it annoys me when a woman gives,and,gives and gives...but she didnt know she was being scammed
I can’t even give hubby a penny lol
Exactly
Yep, that part..... believe me or as you may know yourself, this behavior is often at the root of deeper issues in their lives or in their past. And given these stories, the scam victims haven't worked on their selves (yet) to heal. To develop real self-love that allows them to avoid this kind of financial scams in their lives. Sad!
sorry, some of this woman r desperate. And also they need to look at themselves and the person asking them out.
Bess, you can get as annoyed as you want to but the reality is their decisions don’t effect you-unless you allow them to do so.
It's quite incredible in this day and age, with all the publicity available, that people are still getting scammed like this. Loneliness is just awful.
There's no cure for stupidity
Well marrying a complete stranger after barely knowing them is not the cure
They are not just lonely. They are stupidly naive!
They should definitely invest in a pet instead.
The best relationship is with Christ in God. Cf. Colossians 3:3
No sweetie, not every girl dreams of a big wedding! 🤷
Latoya is sooo beautiful, even though she was tricked to moving to the motherland she never made love cloud her judgement... You go Queen you were given lemons and you made lemon aid!
She’s not!
Sorry to say this but what was Diane thinking? He is 33 years younger and handsome. She is a lovely lady, I am sure of it, but she is not exactly on the same level as him when it comes to looks. I know that I am going to get some nasty responses because I am stating the obvious. Looks are not the most important thing, but when there is a language barrier, a huge age gap and a big difference in the looks compartment, the chances are high, that at least one partner is after something else, and not necessarily deeply in love.
I agree with you fully. In my opinion a silly, stupid fool!! You are ccrrect in all you say . Looks like his granny!!
No- you are absolutely right! There was a delusion upon that woman! Many women are easily fall into the deception- smh!
Strangely enough, she's a narcissist. She couldn't even see her own shortcomings and frailties.
@@deenad3562 that’s wrong.
I have seen other reports where the women said, they knew it wasn’t right, that the guys were out of their league, but the guys are such big manipulators.
It’s not every girls dream to get married.
Agreed and it’s not every girls dream to have kids either so that’s the truth or not this not everybody has to do or wants to do that
I 100% agree with both of you!!!! Everybody is different, have different lives, past experiences, childhoods, morals, beliefs ect so naturally, what each persons dreams or wants are will be different & that’s okay!!!!
Much love to you both!!! 💜💜💜💜
Not mine
Thank you for saying this.
Agree
As soon as a man asks me for money - which is very rarely - I turn into Lil Jon, "WWWHAT?!!" Don't play with me! 🤣
I’m not convinced that was Diane’s love boy in that casket
That was a completely different person.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was looking for this comment.
Same here...was it really him?
They used too much enbalming fluid lmao you couldn't make it up 🤣😂🤣
Didn't resemble him at all.
Latoya is making the best out of the situation and more confident and realistic now. 💪
Love rats who are scammers aren’t just abroad. They exist in your own country , are citizens and can be white skinned too .
Some of these men are divorced & don’t have a house due to their divorce. These men don’t have much money , most are older men . They’re on the hunt for single career women , who earn good money , own their own home & have savings . They target women in their 40s, 50s & 60s who have never married , have no children & want a companion . These men marry these women & don’t leave them but then they have a comfortable life , a permanent roof over their head & no financial worries .
So true, Cherry! There are scads of these rootless males. If he’s over 50 and lacks a house, car, degree, a steady job, also proper English, you have to really take a hard stance - what’s he done with his life? They had families before, but lost them. You’ll then find out that they fritter away their time and $ on some weird obsession, such as religious fanaticism, being a Don Juan, casinos, car culture, socializing, a show biz dream, you name it. He’s always out running about. It gets worse with age, when he turns abusive. Don’t get into this mess!
Is the woman happy and content with the situation? Maybe the man does the grocery shopping and cooks dinner every night. But you're right about that type of broke man is found anywhere and everywhere.
Why would a woman support a old man?
I would not support a young man and sure would not support a older man is it becouse they cant leave as they have to relay on the woman for money?
and someone to look after them when they are old and deal with their s..t
Same as all the young ladies going after the rich old men... who are sometimes married!
thanks you for reminding me im better off single
The witch doctor has the best advice - you have the power in you to say no at anytime and not get sucked into the fantasy of a perfect life and the perfect partner, which really doesn't exist.
If someone wants your money, they're not looking for your love.
They could want both
Always learn from your mistakes so you don't make it twice
OR learn from this video and don't let it happen once😃
The witch doctors advice was pretty spot on really.
I have 5 kids and have a substantial amount set aside for every single one who chooses NOT to get married. The “every girls dream is to be married” is the problem. Give your kids more power than dreams like that.
Hi ❤❤
Well said because it IS about self empowerment and going beyond cultural and environmental expectations and pressures. I am an old woman now but I married 3 times because I somehow honestly believed men knew better than me. It took me 3 marriages to learn about self empowerment and I like to say now that no man will ever again put a ring through my nose LOL. Thank god I had a good education and career, enabling this independence and the intelligence to be able to wake up. We still have a long way to go with the education of girls and women.
👏
Well teach your girls to be sensible about choosing men, get them avoid the party life and getting ran through by hundreds of boys and men. Don’t leave it too late to get married and learn that life is hard, don’t just run straight to divorce lawyer because she is not happy, especially if she has kids!
So, you use money to prevent your children from getting married? 😂
Every girls dream is NOT to get married. I have no desire to get married or have kids, and there are A LOT of women like me.
😍👏
No _sane_ man seeks marriage these days anyway, so you don’t really have a choice.
@@anhedonianepiphany5588 good leave us alone
My daughter feels the same way and it makes me sad because in a way i don't blame her with the 💩 that's out here 🙄
exactly
Or just don't marry random strangers.
Simple, right?
I think I must just have a naturally suspicious nature. It’s served me very well over the years. There is no way I’d fall for any of that crap
Me too.
Me three
A lonely heart is a desperate heart. And there are thieves and scammers who Rey on those poor hearts. My heart goes out to these victims .
As does mine. There aren’t a whole lot of positive, affirming comments in this section and you just made my day-thanks!
Agreed. Though I'm lonely at times I m not desperate.mainly because I've already been through the wringer in a way, with relationships in the past. So now I side eye nearly everyone who shows romantic interest even sabotage every show of interest I ve lost the ability to trust. Thankfully I wasn't scammed like these women just v disappointed and let down or feeling I was used (or I let myself be used Because I wanted the experience of being in a relationship like society tells you you need to be, when I was young.)
Hard to watch these women being so easily conned !!
I love watching other peoples utter stupidity..
Did Diane really say, "I think they put too much embalming fluid in him. He was all puffed up." Wow. Her stupidity really does run deep. Smh.
Esp in indonesia or Sri Lanka they get all puffed up in a day... where do u live?
@@HoneyQuint Yes. Bodies do and can get "puffed up" in a day (regardless of location). But, that puffiness is NOT caused by high volumes of embalming fluid. THAT'S the point. Smh.
Four years ago, I had to stay in a hotel while my place was renovated. I met a young man who was 33. I was 54. I’d sit outside on the warm summer nights where the wifi signal was very strong and play decorating games or watch a movie to give my son a chance to have his gf and other friends in the room. This young man was recovering from a leg injury and working for a place that set him up to live in the hotel. He was very intelligent, kind, funny, and very handsome and tall and fit. I got to know him quite well over those 10 days. All I could think of was that I wished I had a daughter I could introduce him to! Anyhow, I am not completely stupid and he started flirting and dropping subtle hints. Nothing overt or gross; still very respectful. But I just played dumb. I, in no way, could see that he would ever be happy with someone my age. I don’t have the energy I did when I was 25 and could go out dancing every night and go to work the next day. I have other aches and pains that keep me home and I only go out if I want to and have a reprieve from the aging body I now have. If I had been maybe even 40, I may have not played dumb. He really was incredible. But it’s just better for he and for me to not be a couple. He will probably want kids. How horrible to have to choose between your partner and having a family! And don’t say adoption. I do not have the energy for raising more children, and I’ve already done that. I do love puppies, though. 😂
It is time for us, all women to change our mentality about marriage, which is " it is a dream of all girls to get married "... our dream instead should be to priortize ourselves whether a man is present or not. As an Indian girl growing up in India, I was told since i was 4 years old that I belong to a man, my future husband.. I challenged those narratives, fought and never allowed anyone to control my destiny.. marriage should not define us..also, at any moment a man or a woman starts asking for money, run, run as far as you can..
Yup. 100%
best comment!
Yes, run, run the other way. Run fast and far.
There is an easy way to avoid getting scammed. Never give someone you barely know your money. A real man, a man who loves you, it’s not after your money
Yeah have a grip like a Scots man on your money and you wont go fsr away x
When lust and loneliness throws all common sense and rational thinking out the window. 😔
There wasn’t much, if any, lust evident. Plenty of loneliness-driven delusional fantasy though, which definitely can be the enemy of common sense. It didn’t seem like there was any significant common sense to defy tbh.
If you’re in your 50’s and you marry a 21 year old, YOURE THE PREDATOR.
exactly
I'm a Sri Lankan law graduate. Culturally, "engagement" and "registration" are used instead of "getting married" because often the phrase "wedding" means a massive party where extended families etc are called after the legal proceedings are complete. Sometimes this "wedding" (ie party) is held months after the legal proceedings and its often only after that that the couple lives together as husband and wife. This Sri Lankan man used that to trick this poor lady I feel.
Please ensure, especially as a lawyer, that your written communication is well-drafted and easily understood
LaToya made lemonade out of the lemon situation..yes queen 👑💪
Diane said, “I really loved him and I thought he loved me…” but that isn’t what she said in the beginning. In the beginning, she said that after she married him, she STARTED to develop feelings for him.
The other one, “I thought I did my homework, because I asked him very pointedly…” These women never experienced people lying?
And then, Sara, “I fell pregnant.” “It just happened.” I hate when people phrase it that way, like it just happened, they didn’t do anything to cause it. I was just walking down the street, minding my own business, and bam. I was pregnant. After all the years now, all he’s done, all she fell for, she STILL takes no responsibility for her actions. Good for her friend for not letting her off the hook.
None of these women seem to feel they did anything careless or foolish. It all “just happened” to them.
I do NOT think laws should be stricter to protect people from this. The laws already prevent people truly in love from being together as quickly as some would like to be. I am very much against people wanting laws to protect them from themselves when it only makes things harder for everyone else who didn’t do anything foolish. Innocent people shouldn’t find it harder to do things because others need government intervention to prevent them from making mistakes.
These women need a reality check. I mean, I know what I can attract and can't attract. These guys were good looking, out of their league honestly.
@@smurfylee That’s what I would have thought, in most their shoes. One or two couples would have been decent matches.
@@smurfylee exactly!
I have NEVER read more true words! You are spot on!
Stop victim blaming 😒 smh. A thread full of condescending hags cosigner each other 😂😂😂
It blows my mind. How they just take money and just always want more and more
How can you believe 100% someone you just met and barely know
That’s stupidity
It's love
Desperation and naivety.
How can you love someone after knowing them for 2 weeks```!!!!! Very RED flag
Can't really believe who you do know. FOR REAL
*can Diane be anymore delusional?😱*
Can Pamela be anymore delusional!
I met LaToya, her daughter and Emanuel in Bangkok Thailand in 2013/14. This is not the whole story. She hopped around various countries with this man. She knew his financial situation and was happy to take care of him. I remember her buying him expensive iPhones and would not pay for braiding hair for her daughter even when my daughter offered to do it for free. I remember telling her she was her husband’s hustle. She’s not really a good person and doesn’t mind body shaming other women when she had Emanuel on her arm. I guess I was right. Kudos on landing another reality show/documentary.
Whew chi… now this is the real tea ☕️
No proof... empty words and sound spiteful and jealous
@@HoneyQuint Nope just facts. Jealous of someone who claiming to be love scammed for attention? At least have a logical argument.
@@talkingwithtangi2914 It really is a shame that her ex is being lied on. I said something because it’s not true and not cool.
How did she body shame you - by telling you the truth, that an outfit was not for your body type? 😂
“The women should open their minds and close their legs”!! I think that juju man may be on to something. He spoke pure wisdom but the woman didn’t want to hear it and she accused him of blaming the victims. All he said was that everyone has a choice and therefore everyone is responsible for the decisions they make. He was 100% right. But victims never, ever see it that way.
I guess Iam not a romantic,there is no way any man is getting my money;I don't care where he's from,or how charming he is,and really ladies when you go to these third world countries,that monetary gain is the only agenda for these guys,they don't have anything.
Oh really… as we are all broke and poor as your media portrays😂
Me too 😅😅
When is your birthday
@@greenjupiter june
I travel alone a lot, even though I'm not single. I love that, the independence, the freedom, it's great.
When I do travel alone, I often pretend not to speak English so people don't bother me.
I teach English. 😅🤣
Hi ❤❤
Me too
"every girl's dream is to get married" : I say NO, NO, NO !🥶😵🥴😵💫
That was incredibly insightful. I had absolutely no idea...
She’s 54 & hes 21, seriously how could she believe it’s real? Just 🥜
Reverse that, it's the norm for a lot of men!
@@ria1636 where is that the norm?
Come on, she's unattractive, you've gotta be aware of what you can truly attract.
Borderline pedo.
Yes!! If its like too good, to be true- it almost certely is..
Glad for their stories,so other women can see how these love rats operate .kudos to these gals for their courage,and I truly hope they find someone who's for real.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Agree, not easy for them to talk about it.
The "rats" cant operate- without willing women...its grown ups. Not kids here..
Any woman who’s psychologically sound and of reasonable intelligence would be intrinsically aware of such scams without any forewarning.
In my opinion they do get groomed for the purpose of scamming. These so call lovers, are sharks who smells blood when it comes to people who are lonely, insecure, not sharp enough, not streetwise enough and those who lack self-confidence. And it's not just the scammer himself who has this goal in mind. It is often also the whole family and/or community. Because the idea is that if their relatives live in the west, it will also benefit them financially.
Predators everywhere. Let's be real! Be safe
Thissss!!! It can happen to anyone really. Abusers and Narcs are like this too. Only they don't want money - they want control.
@@ForeverSweetx3 na not anyone these ladies r quite stupid because they allowed this i would only have myself to blame if i was this dumb its embarrassing
13:20 they should b ridiculed & they r stupid & they only have themselves to blame
@@ForeverSweetx3 Exactly what I was thinking yet here in the comment area no one has mentioned these variables at all. Thanks for bringing it up!
They all fail to ask themselves one simple question which is “ why would this man be with me ? “ , they could save themselves a lot of heartbreak