I agree! This Happened to me a while ago, My teacher told me to answer the question after my other classmate answered then my heart is beating so fast and i shaking a lot so i tried to calm myself bc i know that if i got so so nervous i probably embarass myself infront of them and I don't want that to happen so i tried calming myself by saying "hey don't be nervous do you know that if your answered that question confidently you will got points if you got points you will get higher grades if you get higher grades your parents will be proud then you will success if you success you will get better job if you get better job you will get money and become rich if you become rich you will be able to buy anything you want" or i just imagine the things i badly want
Ummmm I like when people ignore me because I can do anything without them interfering I like being alone because it gives me peace and I can be myself without people judging me
One of the most hurtful things I’ve experienced as an introvert is the feeling that no matter where I am or who I’m with, I have to prove to people that I’m worth their time. It sucks, and there’s times when I feel like no matter what I do I’ll always fail that “test” so I’d rather do things on my own because I won’t disappoint anyone or be a drain.
yes, Yes, YES! I can only be sociable in the workplace as colleagues have no option but to be there. I can't attend social functions even with people I know well due to the feelings described by the OP!
😂 Exactly my answer when asked how I'm doing. I'm doing great. If not for the death tolls and my compassion towards extroverts going nuts with themselves, I'd keep a lot of it!
Someone asked me "Dont you feel so alone living in your own world?" I replied, "Dont you feel so small living in other people's world" And dang her face expression changed bc she knew it was true.
True. 💯 We don't need to change ourselves for them to like us or to fit in, you can't push someone to change that easily to like them or to meet your standards because they were born that way, to be an introvert but sometimes introverts can socialize when they are with a good people or when they are with the people whom they're comfortable with.
am a thinking introvert... tho i LOVE to stay alone and and like it when ppl respect privacy and leaving alone... i do like to just talk to a few friends... but truely I SHOULD SAY THIS WHEN ANOTHER PERSON ASKS...
I enjoyed it so much that I was upset when the world started opening back up. Tho it lasted over a year I still wouldn’t have minded it lasting longer. Not the disease just the peace.
The most annoying thing in introvert life 1.when someone visit our home those we don't known 2.people asking "why are you quiet ??" 3.people forcing us to speak 4.we don't find people to share our things(thoughts) 5.even if there are 10 people around us we always feel alone 6.parents forces us to talk to relatives in phone 7.people with us feel so bored and this hurts us 8.we have only few(1 or 2) friends
Honestly the “Being forced to socialize with people I don’t have much in common with” part could just stop at “Being forced to socialize” and still be accurate 😂
Introverts are like cats, we socialize when we want to and with who we want to. If you don’t like that about introverts leave us alone, we prefer it anyway.
@@RebelHart9 I just realized that cats are like introverts, dogs are like extroverts, foxes are like a mix of cat and dog, and I heavily associate myself with foxes while being an ambivert
Being an introvert allows me to observe new people to find out who they really are. Kind of my super power. You can learn a lot from just listening and observing before jumping into friendship.
people in school around me always talk about random stuff near me because they know i'm too busy focusing on my work or whatever and that i dont care about what they say so i agree with you
I'll be honest, I've never really realised that I can actually do that. I've felt iffy around certain people and then they start complaining about stuff that I literally can't control (and stuff that I can but it takes time so I will give them that, hut being autistic don't exactly help much) and then I'm just like, ah, that's why I felt weird around you, thanks for letting me know, you suck.
@@yousufpasha1823 that happens to me sooooooooooooo much dude I was being bullied and in class someone right next to mewas talking about it with her friend and I felt like screaming I'm right beside you in her face.
I hate when freaking teachers ask us to say something about ourselves or introduce ourselves to the class. As an introvert, that is pretty annoying and uncomfortable.
What annoys me is people thinking we are being rude when we are just wanting to be left alone. I have finally stopped caring what others think and have embraced being introverted. Not everyone wants to talk or socialize so let them be without being mean to them.
I hate it when ppl try to taint manipulate & twist everything & everyone. If my sign is known as the emotional manipulative...🥴... You're just gonna not with me! I don't initiate B's with anyone. At least when I start the momentum, I'm trying to do good, trying... I'm not weak. You're just gonna simply not. W/ me! Then, I'm prob magically "explosive" too. Don't start getting whiny when I react tho. I tried keeping the peace. In my quiet "weird" calmness. Ppl don't like that sh. 'Member? Now all of a sudden I'm just sooo manipulative. Conveniently, of course. I saw that!!! I just didn't say sh... Ppl also don't like my "foul" freedom of speech either but oh well. Also also it's funny if ppl paint cringe as insecurity. I see u as the true insecurity if u can't even check yourself. Apparently not even like once. Ever. Didn't realize u were perfect. Could've fooled me. As that 1 dude said about Ariana grande or wever, idfwy. That was t really my PT but he did say focus.
Me being an introvert minding my own business Other people:"She is arrogant and rude". "She is boring". "She thinks very high of herself". "She is emotionless". "She is selfish". I am tired of hearing all these words.Dont know how to deal with all this.
I agree, people are nicer online and give me more empathy and encouragement than real people I know. Being in Victoria during lockdown for over three months has shown me how much people just don’t care. Chats or comments on Facebook or you tube have kept me going. I also realised that apart from immediate family, my relatives don’t care either. Clarified so much for me.😬🇦🇺
Dude I ask myself this all the time because there's perks to being an introvert like not getting in trouble at school for talking to much and more But then downfalls like not being very social and much more
Ikr? There was a time i faked being an extrovert because i absolutely hate being an introvert and then whenever i would get home i would feel exhausted and tired because i had to put a mask on everyday! I finally gave up but I'm having a hard time accepting myself as who i am as i don't like being a shy, quite and overall an introvert person:(
@@jinhub2175 all introvert have these problem . But don't hate yourself. It is the truth and we can't change our dna. The only thing that we can do is accepte whatever we have and improve ourself . If we think to change into an extrovert then our life will be like a drama. It is ok to show yourself don't hide anything. I'm also having a hard time. But now I'm trying everyday myself to be better. Your profile pic is the biggest inspiration that I got . Now I decided not to give up and do my best . It must be very hard to love yourself but we have our own world for joy happy and heal . We can find happiness in every little things . We have a really soft heart that can be broken in very little things. These are common things. But I am pretty sure that everything is going well and everyday we can happy from what video you watching and music to you listening . This quarantine is a blessing and it is time to build up personality . I always felt sad for being alone but now I could at least talk to my mom . Hiding something is really hard . You have to open up about yourself. I think we choose the better world. I hope everything will be fine 🙏 Happy to no that there is lots of people like me existing in this world. Parents tell that phone is not good for you . But I found being online is more comfortable . Sharing my purple heart 💜
I'm in my 50s. As a child I was all these things as described in your video. I was labelled even by my family as being a black sheep. My dad especially thought my introvert traits were nothing more than me rebelling, doing them purposely to get at him. Funny thing, in my 30s when I went online I was able to learn that I wasn't defective that I was an introvert. Since then I've learned a lot and have been better able to manage in the world. It's great knowing that those labels I had growing up as being defective weren't true and that there are others much like me. It has given me confidence.
Same experience here. My mother, the only extrovert out of the 4 of us, took a particular disliking to me ever since I was a very little kid because, unlike my sister, who turned out to be a "social introvert" (her mbti, INFJ, is famously known as a "social chameleon," so she came across as an extrovert; now, her energy levels are actually a lot lower than mine), and, unlike my dad (enneagram 9 ISTP), who would reluctantly go along with what my mother wanted, my introversion was a lot more obvious. According to her, I was always fussy and didn't get along with other kids in my age group, preferring to play or work by myself, or got along better with much older kids and old people. Given that a majority of people are extroverted, like her (ESTJ), especially children, she's never seen a kid like me so thought there was something "abnormal" or "slow" about me, and scheduled play-dates to force me to socializing with other children, which only proved counter-productive (being an enneagram cp6). I guess from her point of view, my introversion caused her significant embarrassment because I probably came across as "rude" to the other parents, so spent my entire childhood trying to force me to change. But kids don't appreciate being forced to change (and people CAN'T change, anyway. Speaking from a lifetime of experiences trying to re-invent myself, as well as the fact that my mbti type/enneagram remains consistent). I've never fit in with other people, no matter how much I'd tried, even when I was actually quite social in my late-teens/early-20s, nothing could change the fact that I was just a loner by nature; even in my family, I've always felt like a black sheep. That "wall separating" me from the rest of humanity part is 100% relatable. Until I took mbti tests (albeit out of curiosity), I've never known why, and was always thought of by others that there was something "wrong" or "abnormal" about me, but, turns out, I'm just an introvert and independent-minded (INTP).
I'm happy you were enlightened enough to figure it out. I don't know why people can't help themselves especially now with so many free and low cost resources around.
Im 20 . And my aunt just said iam crazy, my mental is sick and defective today . Im feel bad cuz my familly dont know abt introvert feel , they dont care abt my heart , my feel and whats going on ,they just can judge me all day . I hate my live
*time to go and meet with my partners while they talk about celebrities and i sit there trying to think, to then go home and do it all by myself. as long as they present it i’m cool with that*
if you don’t like them you can just say “why are you so loud? leave me be”. loud can be replaced with intrusive if necessary, if it’s someone you don’t mind or you like them you can just say “i am who i am”.
My sister is friends with one our neighbors, guy says I am weird cause I'm quiet and smile too much. Extroverts will force an introvert to be extroverted but we introverts rarely rarely do that. Ps when that happens my sister also starts that's why I feel so much at home on this channel. I pray to God every day that I'd find someone who could understand the struggles of being an introvert. Glad to know I ain't the only one. The only reason I smile "too" much is because say I'm too serious. This is why I feel like I don't have meaningful relationship with my sister despite spending most of my time with her. We're not close at all.
To be fair, rudeness isn't something that requires only one "side". Person A can see person B as rude, without person B _intending_ to be rude, and A's feelings are perfectly valid - but they don't suddenly grant any rights to A. B's behaviour is equally valid.
1. You appear shy when meeting new people 1:27 2. You'd rather avoid parties and big social events 2:00 3. You feel under-appreciated 2:36 4. You feel that working in a team is burdensome 3:07 5. You feel extremely uncomfortable when in the spotlight 3:48 6. You would rather do everything by yourself 4:26 I hope I could help! :) And yes I relate to these struggles :)
Me too I have one friend that I'm being with(she's extrovert) and I have 1 online bestfriend who is from Germany and I'm from Philippines (she's extrovert too) I am very introverted person and not often friendly but I'm the one who approached my German bestie first even she's extrovert and I am introvert because I feel she's a right person for me to become my friend so I become friendly to her
@A'TIN REIZA introvert po ako pero hindi nmn po ako nahirapan makuha ung loob nya kasi extrovert sya and napakabait po nya and I hope pag balang araw magkita kami Sana hindi agad maubos ung battery energy kasi alam ko pong extrovert sya siguro marami ung gustong gawin and paghahandaan kopo iyon
@A'TIN REIZA yes po pero I'm happy na I'm introvert kasi sila sinasabi nila na sa parents na Ang inam ko daw pala hindi daw ako gala Ng gala,hindi daw ako pala-labas Ng Bahay,at di daw ako palabarkada but sometimes naiinis ako sasabihin nilang gusto nilang magsalita ako Kaso pag nagsasalita nmn ako di nmn ako pinapakinggan and sasabihin nilang anti-social ako at masungit at hindi daw ako marunong makihalubilo at makisama But,marunong nmn akong makisama at pinakikisamahan ko nmn sila pero sadyang mas prefer ko na magisa ko kesa makihalubilo sa ibang tao kasi mas nagkaroroon ako ng energy kapag magisa at tahimik lang pero kung pupunta ko sa crowded place or noisy place mas gusto ko na kasama ung tao na close na close ako para di ko feel na magisa atlis dun nasulit nmn ung energy na naubos ko dahil kasama ko sila kasi kapag nasa crowded place ako at kasama ko lang ung tao na kilala ko lang mas nafefeel ko na magisa ako dun sa sitwasyon na yun kahit ang Dami dami ko nmn kasama kesa sa nasa madilim na kwarto ko at ako lang magisa na walang kasama
I’m an introvert & I’d much prefer spending time w/my pets & books then people. Embrace being an introvert. Understand what works for you, know your limit & definitely apply boundaries in your life. Being an introvert is not a negative mark against you as a person. Once you understand it, you’ll discover it’s a blessing. Keep a positive attitude & do what brings you peace, stability & happiness.
I like my family and friends time but I also like coming home being alone in my own space relaxing. Best part of my day is coming home to my own space.
@@ryans413 - I think of it this way: As introverts we don't need to feed off of others in order to feel good. For us it's the opposite. We have the power to simply feel good on our own. Almost as if we are more complete in a certain way. We are also more sensitive to the neurotransmitter Acetylcholine compared to extroverts. This chemical makes us feel good when we turn inward. We also store information in different parts of our brain than extroverts, favoring the parasympathetic side of our nervous system which is associated with relaxation and focus. So we're typically going to enjoy going deeper subjects than most extroverts. Of course extroverts can enjoy those deeper subjects too, usually less commonly though.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL as soon as I get home I can feel it I start to feel more happy I get an energy boost I’m more relaxed and I entertain myself very well. When I go to family’s houses especially if I’m staying over for a long time I feel my energy drain even if I’m enjoying myself I have to get a way. I feel like this in the grocery stores too that’s why when I shop I do it as fast as I can because just all the people being around me drains me. Then when I get back to my car I get that energy back like instantly.
I like to stare off into the sunset type of person. No I don't. Bc I hate early mornings. When I was a kid, y did I think adults never had to do that? Knowing d well my parents somexs got up as early? But I do like to daze off into the distance. Mainly at nature. I'll be thinking about nothing & then it's just like is this what it's like mid life or wever? Bc I'm about tired of "y'all." My head like combusted bc of all the bs. & Now I'm some other version of Patrick. Of spingebob
Yep I can relate...Whenever I want to ask something to my teacher or classmates I try to brainstorm questions but when I'm already in front of them nothing will come out of my mouth making things awkward
Kinda depends on how they "fix" you though if they want you to be more social they might bug you to go outside with them they might tell jokes that make you laugh, other times people pretty much force you to go outside for example: my family wanted to go to the beach I told them I wasn't going dad said that wasn't an option it's those people that force you and say they "want the best for you" when they just want to make themselves feel better.
When you were a kid and a introvert and these were the biggest pains: Forcing to talk to family on the phone. Forcing to go to a school dance, or talk to the teachers for help. People trying to talk to you for literally no god damn freaking reason. Called “shy” when you are really a demonic beast. You are a virg- A gamer, and might have bad habits. :]]
“People trying to talk to you for no dang freaking reason” Especially at parties(that you were forced to go to) random people would just try to strike a conversation so you give really bland answers to try and hint that you don’t wanna talk BUT THEY CONTINUE TALKING
Have never enjoyed organized group activities, loathe "forced fun" events at work, and loved COVID lockdown. I'd been practicing for that my entire life!
"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It's addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore." Can anyone else relate? I've been isolating myself for ten months already, and I think this is the real downside as an introvert. I have been worrying about how to interact with people once everything is back to normal.
Sis, I feel you. I honestly feel so relaxed right now, no office politics, no bossy coworkers, no small talk... man I’m really worried it’s going to be really hard (and exhausting) on us once we have to go back outside again :(
Yea ,I can totally relate on this,it almost feels like i would rather be alone and doing my own stuffs with no one disturbing. Listening to music for hours. But I know someday we'll have to get back to real life and can't be alone for my whole life :0 When I meet people in real life and friends,I'm afraid I can't even talk normally to them , and it kinda starts to ruin our relationship s
A key point in this will be to slowly ease ourselves back into another pace. And on the good side even extroverts do tune down a bit and don't return to noisy and fast pace in an instant. I see many actually shocked over how easy it is for everything to slow down and lose pace. People not getting half of the things down they usually rush through in a day. Some gain a better understanding of thing working different for people who choose to not go along with the busy rush in life.
ten montths is nothing, I have been alone for over a year. It is fucking sweet how peaceful it is, like an ocean that nothing has ever swam in all to yourself.
Being an introvert making friends is the most difficult task specially when you are new to a place. People are already talking with each other so easily leaving me wander if they already know each other . While I sit back figuring out what to say and to whom !!
For me I get friends by simply not starting a conversation but just someone who would come up to me. And if they got something they like to talk about that I also like then I'd open up
Another point I like to add :- we introverts tend to observe people and analyse them to such an extent that we can pretty much exactly predict how a person would react to any situation. We tend to exactly understand people but it's hard to find someone who accurately understand us.
Hardest thing for me is dealing with the idea that telling loved ones that spending time with them is hard for me will make them uncertain and/or uncomfortable in our relationships.
A few more 1. People not liking you because you're to boring for them 2. Everyone thinking somethings wrong with you 3.people thinking that you are depressed
That’s so true. I was standing instead of sitting and my friend said “sit down”, I said “no I like standing” and then a random girl at the table said that I’m shy just because I don’t want to sit down…
@@adrianpena1234 it kinda comes as a part of introvertedness lol people dont like to hang out with us early on. They prefer fake friends for social status
When you don´t have your own group of friends and you have to make groups it feels awful to be left behind, you are the only one who waits till the end to see if there was some else who couldn´t find a group to work with him or her.
If I make an eye contact with a random stranger, I cringe and my brain reminds it me again and again and again so I could cringe at myself lol My brain is my enemy
I am a big introvert and I'm usually underestimated, undermined, misunderstood, even by my own family members but as long as I know what I am and what I'm capable of, I just smile about it.
A small change: Small talk makes you feel bored, and that others are wasting your time. That's how i would phrase it since i never start small talk or keep it up. Just some extroverts don't understand and keep trying. I'm wastimg my time with a lot of better stuff like online games... but small talk, it's nothing I choose by myself.
Yeah i want interesting topics from then like what they like or what places they want to travel and what stuff they want to do so i can learn from them smol talks are really boring and i dont wanna elaborate further from that
@@kate2000year You can dance in public.. I guess that's not introversion but social anxiety. I love music and concerts but I can't dance cuz I try to avoid bringing any type of attention to myself. I want to sometimes though.
Kind of but it's also followed by thought: what is verbally following? Nuffin. Pretend they didn't see u. Till u detect weird vibes. Then throw em off 🤗
Thats how I roll. I get home from work sat am..i literally sleep and rest as much as possible til monday evening, and i live with a family member. Only leave my room to do laundry or food shop.
My classmates when we aren't doing online classes anymore: YESS I CAN FINALLY GET TO SEE MY FRIENDS Me when there's no more online classes: *mental breakdown intensifies*
yeah, same here really, my parents aren’t bad they’re just against the whole psychology of how the brain works. my dad thinks he didn’t affect my life right now by when i was little constantly threatening to take things off me for crying. I can only now cry a little bit, it’s just screaming instead because i literally can’t cry out of natural reflex of the fear i went through
I, an introvert, experienced a time where I was in need of help in school for a math question I was struggling on. I asked the teacher to go over it when we were going over questions and someone in my class said "are you stupid?" I felt regret for asking the question and now I have a deeper struggle for asking questions
You did what you should do when learning…asking questions! The “ you’re stupid” person clearly has issues and needs attention. Keep being you and never stop asking questions. 👍
I’m in school and I never ask any questions to the teachers. I ask my friends there to explain to me the things I have doubts about. I can never ask teachers because they will always yell or get annoyed with you if you don’t understand what they’re saying repeatedly. I’ve also given up asking them because I rarely ever end up understanding something. It’s much better to ask others and if I still don’t understand, I just give up…I’m too dumb to understand anyways…
My stepson was always afraid to ask questions in class. I told him I guarantee he’s not the only one in that classroom who doesn’t understand (something). Also, if you’re having trouble “getting” something the teacher’s trying to teach, it may be that they don’t know how to explain something clearly.
I had experiences when I was younger being very rudely shut down when I tried to talk to other people. It left a lasting mark on me reaching out to make friends. I don’t think I’ve deliberately made an effort to do since then and I’m in my 40s now.
Same. Like a neighbor came in our house straight went to my bedroom like tf? And sat on my bed I was like shocked my heart beat increased that lady literally looked straight to my face and asked my name i became shy cuz out of nowhere she appeared and I don't know her I said my name. idk I couldn't look at her face and my mom was behind me like do something... along with that lady was another women as if she was watching and drama.Like in my bedroom with 2 women and my mom and 3 pairs of eyes on me. That lady hold my chin and said,"why r u so shy? Look at me." Like bitch then don't barge into my room and come to talk to me.I would have locked my room. Omg. 😭😭 my mom didn't help me.
@@lovemyself7021 oh my goodness! That's totally invasion of privacy. Oh dear I feel sad for you and if that were to happen to me, I would have the same reaction as you. Most people always ask me why I'm so shy and quiet. They don't understand that it's not that I'm shy but I'm just not up to talking to random people.
Social gatherings makes me tired all the time. I don't really like spending time outside and socialise with others, I prefer to stay at home and y'know, just read or sleep, or spending my time using the Internet. I don't like it when someone force me to socialise when I'm not good at it 🤣😂
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INTROVERT ALLERGIES: 💙 - Social obligations - Phone calls after 6 pm - Groups of more than 5 people - Host that force you to stay at there house lol hope someone can relate to my introvert life 😅
And mostly there are only a few you got that good vibe. We're 30 in total in my class but only 3 people got the vibe and 2 other near the good vibe. But we aren't friends (in my definition of friendship )
I have always felt that talking to others or asking for any type of help was an imposition. It feels that joining in a conversation was nothing more than butting in.
Me too when I'm on my elementary days I have only one bestfriend and I'm just only talkative to her and my classmates thinks I'm weak and they insult and hurt me but I don't still fight I don't say it to any because when I'm saying to my teacher my teacher told me that be strong but I am really strong but they're so many they're like 10+ and I'm just one and they also insulting and judging me because I'm kpop fan(I'm kpop fan because I want myself be happy) and because my friend was extrovert they love my friend to they're friend too and they thinking I would be more weak if I don't have friend so,they try to separate my bestfriend from me ,they saying fake things about me just my bestie becomes hate me but it ended up being more strong in our relationship and now I'm in highschool my classmates are so kind and friendly I'm introvert I don't describe my classmate as friend but I describe them as people who I close because I don't trust quickly but still they understand me because they know I'm introvert I'm energized my battery by being alone but they say they're always open if I want to be with someone if I'm ready being with them and if ready to socialize and ready to reduce energy just to enjoy with them and if I experience insulting again I would fight for myself and I would use my past experience of bullying to be strong
Whenever I said something, my classmates made fun of my words. When they asked me a question but got no answer, they didn't understand why I didn't answer.
Yeah, I hate those stupid bullies. They thought that I am just a weak, quite one on the corner. I made them realized that they were wrong when I grabbed their necks and arms. I liked the way they beg for forgiveness. Hahaha. Sorry, I might sound like a psycho but I just needed to defend myself. Hope you understand.
When i was in highschool days, i was bullied by asstroverts because i was too quiet and just minding my own business yet they are the one who caused to become like this and i lose my confidence on everything but i still chose my introvert path and i find it more peaceful:>
The worst part of being an introvert is being a good listener ... everyone tends to present their problems to you and then they start with small talks, afterwards they talk over you ...
I struggle asking for help, but it isn't only because I feel like I will look stupid, but I don't want the other person to take over what I am doing and change my ideas.
Practice helps with that. And conscious breathing and thinking of something nice and calming. But what helps best is to not judge yourself as your voice shakes. A shaking voice makes you no lesser person. If you can manage to embrace your "downsides" you might find they disappear or stop to matter. If it's something that can't be helped at the moment then why not take it with a grain of salt instead. 💚 Actually, let me tell you a secret. People who come to adore your shaky self are quite likely long-lasting good relationship material 😉 It's like a filter against shallow people!
In 7th grade I figured out I was going to constantly overlooked if I didn’t force myself to step forward. I listened carefully to learn how conversations worked and safe subjects I could bring up. Started taking all the speech and drama classes offered. Continued it through high school and college (small, local places). At work I forced myself to volunteer for groups and speaking assignments. It was literally H3LL! Probably a large part of why I have no colon today. It never became easier, but I learned I could do it, even if it meant sleepless nights and having a bathroom close-by. It was more satisfying than doing all the work and then having some uninvolved extrovert present my work badly. Happily retired now, staying at home away from everything and most everyone (few close friends, also introverts). A friend sent me this note: Introverts unite / separately / in your own homes. That’s how we roll!
Because I choose to stay secluded, everybody’s first thought is, “She’s depressed” or “She’s going through a phase”. When in reality I’m just chilling 😂.
As an introvert, I'm more alone in a crowded room, even if it's people I know, than at home alone watching a movie, and as far a talking in a group, I feel that most people just want to hear themselves talk anyway,
I am an introvert and sometimes, when I tell people that Im shy and dont know what to do about it, they just tell me "Just dont be shy!". Its like you tell a homeless person "Just dont be poor!".
I mean...Homeless people can go to work if they want too since some of them are still young...I get your point though and I know how that feels because my Uncles and Aunts KEEPS TELLING ME THAT WHENEVER WE FUDING MEET....So annoying...I'd be nice if it work on Corpses though they can just say "Stand up" and the COrpse will wake up not as a Zombie
Those people are just dumb! They are thinking that they are helping you but they only make things worse. There is no "shy switch" in our brain to turn it on and off. Actually I pretend to turn a switch on and off in my head when someone tells me to cheer up or don't worry...Share your true feelings only with whom you feel emotionally safe with.
lol it's the basic thing tho. Let them think what they want we don't care tho. They just proved them & give us reasons whY we keep it quiet they aren't interesting and judging without knowing it's pretty low from them. Better keep our distance from these people. In conclusion, they don't deserve our attention and energy they literally give us reasons to not to. (':
Sad to say, but it's true, unfortunately. When looking into mbti, I'd read that extroverts generally make more than introverts, and my type came in as the third-lowest on the list, while my sister's was fourth-lowest; our mother's, as the only extrovert in the family, came in 2nd place for the highest potential. These are just in terms of general potential, though, not guaranteed fact, but it's still very discouraging. Unfortunately, most jobs and career fields really don't have us (introverts) in mind, for good reasons. :( I mean, I was particularly horrible at my menial fast food jobs for this reason and also found that I couldn't even sell a chocolate bar, so I don't understand why I actually thought I could be influential enough to ever run for political office, or start my own empire or something if I'm too socially awkward and inward-thinking to influence anybody.
Yeah. I used to be extremely introverted, but I'm now almost 70/30 introvert to extrovert because of parents and school. I really don't like my extroversion, since I don't feel safe with it. My introversion at least still wins most of the time, keeping me from going group work whenever possible. My introversion lets me excel far more than my extroversion, but extroversion lets me function and gain more respect in teamwork settings. It also means that I get put in a spotlight that I don't want to be in.
I'm a quiet person, so most likely I am an introvert. I spend my time alone most of the time as it charges my energy and talk less, but the worst thing that my mom asked me to attend, was my brother's wedding ceremony, where I was not feeling right despite being asked to do so. The moment I gathered in a group of people, I was getting so overwhelmed, when the ceremony theme started playing, I couldn't stand the feeling (I had the urge to cry, as I was too stressed over it). This is why even private parties can be a problem for introverts.
I'm so introverted that in school when teachers ask me questions I get nervous,my heartbeat increases,my mind kinda stops working and even if I know the answer its just I can't say it like other students and feel bad about myself that I have low confidence unlike others.
Literally me every damn time. Like i had all the script all the answers but when it's time to speak i feel like everything just stops, my heart beats so fast, feel like everyone staring at me, ready to judge anything i'd say, and *clap* i blank.
@@lavenishere_ if you’re the type of person that wants to socialize with people, sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to get what you want. I really don’t like being an introvert because it makes me depressed and lonely but it’s hard to make friends and sometimes i try my best. I’m slowly working on it and i hope i find at least one friend that i can always talk to
lmao there was a time where i got called to read a passage from a paper, and my hands were fckng trembling and apparently, i sounded like i was about to cry.. our teacher noticed this and made a joke about it and then the whole class laughed at me... its not particularly the way i wanted to be comforted. this happens almost every time i get called to answer a question or to speak infront of the class, some teachers were decent enough to help me calm down and some were the reasons why my stage fright is worse than ever ;-;
Hardest parts about being an introvert is meeting new people and maintaining interest in them. I can turn on the social charm when first meeting, but later I loose interest or lack the energy to continue.
I think that also sounds like extraversion.. extraversion is more flexible and changes depending on outer circumstances, especially extraverted intuition that likes something new but quickly abandons it. While I guess an introvert could do it, it would be due to trying to preserve their inner world
Dude that's me! And I hate this about me! Even if I try to have some talks with someone I start stuttering! I used to not know about this before but then I realised that I have a stuttering problem and I am not even able to express myself effectively!😭
Please do not consider this as bragging or something like that. This combination I wouldn't wish even for my greatest enemy, yet I got it - ADHD, stuttering problem, introverted personality and late puberty - few people can imagine what is like to have so much bottled up emotions inside and not be able to express them.
I hate being told to just “stop acting that way”. I’m not “acting” this way, this IS who and what I am. If you put aside your wanting me to act like you and actually take the time to let me be comfortable around you, you’ll find out I’m actually quite sociable to friends in small groups. Parties and large gatherings are mentally and physically draining to me, they do not energize or excite me.
When i'm grade 3 our teacher said you have to report infront of your classmates and when i hear the teacher said that i was nervous and shocked and cry
I'm an introvert, and I've always felt weird because I'm shy and awkard in public and because I prefer to be alone in my room or with my small group of good friends. This channel has helped me a lot with learning to see rather the advantages than the disadvantages of being an introvert! To all the people with struggles: you are unique and special, be proud of who you are!❤
It bothers me when people don’t understand that, I don’t want/need to be talked into doing something socially. If I say no thank you to an invite, please accept it.
Being around people actually makes me feel bad. My mom is always saying I need to get out more but I really don’t want to. It’s just not worth how bad I’ll feel.
I can definitely relate to that. All my teenage years i was kind of forced to go out basically all weekend when all i wanted to do was staying alone in my room. It was such a huge struggle that i could never win, b/c everything other then going out to party was considered to be weird. I hated it AND worst of all, it was such a waste of my precious time. When i moved out for many years i was asked each weekend on the phone by my parents "so what did you do/have you planned" and i would just say "nothing" and lived with the fact that i knew it made them deeply worry for nothing. I know they worried about me, but it was just not what I wanted. Wish i would have already done this in my teenage year. I was so creative at that time and could have done so many other things instead of "being alone and bored in the middle of a party" just to be able to say "yes i was at a party". Boah, did i hate it. And it only stopped when i got marry and now my husband and i together do nothing/things by ourselves at the weekend. Somehow that is better accepted.
I had a friend that i made a comix strip with that like my whole grade was reading but then we went to different schools and now its really hard to continue because i have noone to bounce ideas off of.
people ask me why I’m so quiet but then when I talk they never listen and just ignore me. I wanna just cry cuz those people are sometimes my close friends.
It can help to tell them that (or write them) and set a signal together that you can make to let them know they're crossing your line. Something simple and clearly intended to give them a friendly signal that you require some (speaking) space/time :D Works like a charm. Especially when they understand it as a polite tool of yours to communicate with them.
@@Strdh_511 exactly! That feeling. It was so hard for us introverts to voice out our thoughts. So it feels very disappointing everytime we try but no one acknowledge it
I swear when that happens I'm like You know what, this is why I don't talk anyways, and then you won't hear me saying not a single other word. But at least I tried or whatever.
Coronavirus: I'm here to bring you boredom and lock you in your house🦠 Introverts: "You have no power here." 😈🤠😎 Coronavirus: "Understandable have a nice quarantine."🤨 Introverts: "We sure will have a great time at home." 🏡😎
Some of the hardest moments as an introvert to me, was my last school trip. Since I had to share a room with at least two people and we were not allowed to walk around ourselves so we wouldn't get lost, during the entire four days, I had about one hour for myself. I always felt exhausted after every conversation and wanted to have at least five minutes without all these people. Everyone constantly asking why I was so quiet, obviously didn't help. The worst part was that most of the activities we did, were to get to know our classmates and the local people better, so we always had to do stuff in groups and had to always interact with someone. Until these few days I didn't realize how hard it was to be around people for a long time.
I relate to you... I recently was on a class trip too and I went to bed with a headache every evening because everyone was so loud and we had no time for ourselves... the teachers and a few other classmates/exchange students prepared a little good bye party at the end and I went back to my room after 15min because I just couldn't take the loud noise and all those people telling me to "have FUN" and stop being so quiet and stuff... even the teachers told me the day afterwards that it was rude from me to go away so early. Like, this is not MY definition of fun, it's stressful and physically really exhausting for me and after one week, all I needed was 1 freaking hour to myself! Society is really not made for people like us.
@@scarontop I totally agree that society is made for extroverts, our natural urges and definition of fun is often considered "rude" by other people. By the way, it's funny how you sent this reply two days before my next class trip. Wish me luck!
Totally relate. I can say it’s gotten better as I’ve gotten older. Try being shut up with 40+ girls and women at Basic Military Training (boot camp - Air Force). I thought I was going to literally go crazy from the stress of being around all those people ALL the time. It was horrific.
I was fired from a job largely for being introverted. It was an office job that required me to be on the phone. It wasn't a lot, but it was enough to give me at least a few panic attacks a week. Couple that with a very extroverted and nosy co-worker who liked to tattle to the boss if she felt someone in the department wasn't doing their job. I was her main target and this got me pulled into my boss's office to see what was going on. I explained how much I hate being on the phone and that if they want me to be a better employee they should transfer me to a department that didn't even have phones on their desk. They fired me instead.
Funny thing is as an introvert I did work in an insurance call center. As I was helping others it gave me the focus to talk on the phone. But otherwise no.
I know your comment has been a year but I just wanted to say that is horrible for the employer to just blatantly fired you for being introverted. I'm in my final year of college and I bet that your experience is what I'm going to face once I got a job. :( Honestly, I feel like I don't belong here in a place where people are expected to be sociable at all times.
“You feel under-appreciated” I can relate, the fact that I probably carry the group projects on my back but nobody ever credits me because I get overshadowed by the loud people.
Lol I just work alone if I can. If not then I’ll be to shy to do much or talk much. Once this girl called me lazy for having a idea that I had which was just copy and pasting something which hurt my feelings
@Fatima Mahafzah Yep! I *hated* group projects in school and how my grade would be based on the whole group when I would've rather done the project myself.
This happened to me so many times that I straight up cut people who wouldn't pull their weight out of the project and let them flail when they realized that the deadline was up and they had nothing to show because I took a hard line approach. I might be introverted but I'm also damn good at being lead on projects because I'll do the work, talk one on one with my team and will not let anyone take advantage of the hard work of those of us who actually made the effort to contribute.
i hate speaking out unnecessarily, especially in places and situations where i know my opinion is not valued but people always mistake it for my low confidence. hate the stigmas attached to introverts lol-i like my solitude and there's no point in pushing me forth to start a conversation when i simply don't want to, it just triggers my anxiety>\
when you’re an introvert it’s good to learn that if people ignore you, you can ignore them back, give them a taste of their own medicine. the real champs are the ones who ask you “what were you saying again?”. also if you haven’t already mastered this i recommend learning to be comfortable in uncomfortable silence, it’s where we like to be, in our quiet place. if you’re feeling awkward so are they, so it’s just easier to be cool with it
@@reminiscence7555 thanks for the advice , but it's very hard for me to ignore people when u think they r going to talk bad about u when u ignore them.
@@yourince7573 no one gets along with everyone, you don’t have to make everyone think you’re a good person. The ones that get to know you are the ones for you, if they just turn away at a first impression they can be ignorant, oblivious, just plain stupid or full of themselves (of course this isn’t always the case). I’ve found that a lot of people that walked in the opposite direction to me befriended my friends and i get to hear from my friends how that person was basically just looking for someone to do all their work. So, people thinking bad about you isn’t the worst thing, as long as you know where you are and you’re ready for self improvement if it gets out of hand (no one ever approaches you).
Who here is an introvert? Raise your hands up Oo.
Yeah- I am ✋
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Introverts have lot of things to speak but they are actually talkative around right people
Yaa true
I can relate I can only talk in front of two people from everyone I know, it’s really hard trying to find the right people to talk to.
@@asgharchpk yup🥺
Crct
I consider myself very introverted around people, but in class if I am very knowledgeable on a subject I'm usually very talkative about it.
Introverts are always talking to their soul
Ya true
True, PERIOD!!
I agree! This Happened to me a while ago, My teacher told me to answer the question after my other classmate answered then my heart is beating so fast and i shaking a lot so i tried to calm myself bc i know that if i got so so nervous i probably embarass myself infront of them and I don't want that to happen so i tried calming myself by saying "hey don't be nervous do you know that if your answered that question confidently you will got points if you got points you will get higher grades if you get higher grades your parents will be proud then you will success if you success you will get better job if you get better job you will get money and become rich if you become rich you will be able to buy anything you want" or i just imagine the things i badly want
@@bruhaintnowayugonnanowme3942 because im also introvert
@@bruhaintnowayugonnanowme3942 if you're introvert you will know that
Most annoying for me is people saying I should socialize more because it's "unhealthy " to be alone.
but I’m so happy being alone. by myself. No nobody humans I mean.. I just dont see the need or the health benefits
Tell them you have a cat and are fine
For real.. people around me dosen't understand introverts at all. Online people are way more understanding!
That’s an American problem
ikr thats so annoying like i am happy being an introvert
It is always us, introverts that wants to be alone but don't want to be lonely. Hates to be the center of attention but doesn't want to be ignored.
this pretty much is explains everything. exactly how I feel.
Freaking same
Ummmm I like when people ignore me because I can do anything without them interfering
I like being alone because it gives me peace and I can be myself without people judging me
My exact thoughts
It's definitely right. 💯
Introverts have lots of things to speak but they rarely find people who actually want depth in conversations.
Exactly
Fact
Facts
Oh gosh super fact lol
True!!!
I’m an introvert and I hate how society just acts like it’s a crime....
Like damn I’m sorry I’m that way...
The volume in this bus is astronomical.
Some became introverts due to the society itself. That's an infuriating reality
@@Катюша-щ5ю agreed
When people behave this way I usually say
This is my personality I am sorry but no sorry
Society doesn’t seem to like different things
One of the most hurtful things I’ve experienced as an introvert is the feeling that no matter where I am or who I’m with, I have to prove to people that I’m worth their time. It sucks, and there’s times when I feel like no matter what I do I’ll always fail that “test” so I’d rather do things on my own because I won’t disappoint anyone or be a drain.
You're exactly me🥺🥺
Felt everything you wrote. That's us, introverts. 🤝🏻
Yea I feel the same. 😢
yes, Yes, YES!
I can only be sociable in the workplace as colleagues have no option but to be there.
I can't attend social functions even with people I know well due to the feelings described by the OP!
I literally could not have said it better myself ❤
I’m the type of introvert who will be shy, not talk, etc. But when I get comfortable with you. I won’t shut up. Ever.
Lol this is so relatable
Same,where are u from?
@@droidhelpingtech4893 I’m sorry but that’s private
@@just_kuroo6204 ok bro😊
In that case , stay away , far away..
Introverts on social distancing: “I’ve been preparing for this my whole life”
😂 Exactly my answer when asked how I'm doing. I'm doing great. If not for the death tolls and my compassion towards extroverts going nuts with themselves, I'd keep a lot of it!
Yes lol
Like a dream come true😌✨
Exactly😂
Lol. Introverts dream came true when lockdown came
Someone asked me
"Dont you feel so alone living in your own world?"
I replied, "Dont you feel so small living in other people's world"
And dang her face expression changed bc she knew it was true.
True. 💯
We don't need to change ourselves for them to like us or to fit in, you can't push someone to change that easily to like them or to meet your standards because they were born that way, to be an introvert but sometimes introverts can socialize when they are with a good people or when they are with the people whom they're comfortable with.
Damn, that hits hard...
am a thinking introvert... tho i LOVE to stay alone and and like it when ppl respect privacy and leaving alone... i do like to just talk to a few friends... but truely I SHOULD SAY THIS WHEN ANOTHER PERSON ASKS...
That's...........deep🥺🥺🥺
wow, that's harsh. lol
Being an introvert amd alone with your internet,books,games and pets is so much better than having surrounded with fake people
Exactly!
Amen
I fully agree
You forgot one: people accuse you of being "anti-social".
@@fadwakabiri6844 exactly
Exactly 😒😔
I feel that
Yeah people treat introverts as they r weak😔
Yeah... It's True....!!
As an introvert , wearing a mask and being in lockdown was a blessing for me.
true blessing
they don't see my face,and I'm so happy,social distancing is another blessing.
Bruh
@@sheenaphoebekateherrera7353 Honestly I can relate very well
Wearing a mask finally enabled me to actually show some facial emotion out in public without anyone realizing.
I enjoyed it so much that I was upset when the world started opening back up. Tho it lasted over a year I still wouldn’t have minded it lasting longer. Not the disease just the peace.
The most annoying thing in introvert life
1.when someone visit our home those we don't known
2.people asking "why are you quiet ??"
3.people forcing us to speak
4.we don't find people to share our things(thoughts)
5.even if there are 10 people around us we always feel alone
6.parents forces us to talk to relatives in phone
7.people with us feel so bored and this hurts us
8.we have only few(1 or 2) friends
That's totally me 🙂
I somehow relate to all of this including the Only Friends I have (that too, Only Online )...that's creepy yo...
Same here also
No 4 so true...i really wanna talk to somebody for example about my fav anime or something like that😐😐
Yap yap
Honestly the “Being forced to socialize with people I don’t have much in common with” part could just stop at “Being forced to socialize” and still be accurate 😂
Introverts are like cats, we socialize when we want to and with who we want to. If you don’t like that about introverts leave us alone, we prefer it anyway.
@@Sean_XT exactly and it’s awesome you used the cat analogy because I consider a cat my spirit animal 😂
I even hate those extended family reunuions
@@RebelHart9 I just realized that cats are like introverts, dogs are like extroverts, foxes are like a mix of cat and dog, and I heavily associate myself with foxes while being an ambivert
@@AlphaFX-kv4ud foxes are my favourite animal! They’re cat dogs 😂
Being an introvert allows me to observe new people to find out who they really are. Kind of my super power. You can learn a lot from just listening and observing before jumping into friendship.
people in school around me always talk about random stuff near me because they know i'm too busy focusing on my work or whatever and that i dont care about what they say so i agree with you
I'll be honest, I've never really realised that I can actually do that. I've felt iffy around certain people and then they start complaining about stuff that I literally can't control (and stuff that I can but it takes time so I will give them that, hut being autistic don't exactly help much) and then I'm just like, ah, that's why I felt weird around you, thanks for letting me know, you suck.
@@yousufpasha1823 that happens to me sooooooooooooo much dude I was being bullied and in class someone right next to mewas talking about it with her friend and I felt like screaming I'm right beside you in her face.
@@Hito833 bruh what who would brag about bullying someone whilst they're sitting next to you lmfao
@@yousufpasha1823 no the person didn't bully me they were talking about the person who was
Silence is my best friend
Who never betray me.
True that.
True
But depressed me😭
XD
Jesus Christ can also be a friend who definitely will never betray you. If He calls your heart, answer “yes” to Him.
I hate when freaking teachers ask us to say something about ourselves or introduce ourselves to the class. As an introvert, that is pretty annoying and uncomfortable.
Does Sasuke-kun comes home once in a while?
Or explain something to the class. I know the stuff but I pretend I don't so I don't have to explain.
@@hadimohammed9530 Yeah
Ikrrr
IKR
What annoys me is people thinking we are being rude when we are just wanting to be left alone. I have finally stopped caring what others think and have embraced being introverted. Not everyone wants to talk or socialize so let them be without being mean to them.
I hate it when ppl try to taint manipulate & twist everything & everyone. If my sign is known as the emotional manipulative...🥴... You're just gonna not with me! I don't initiate B's with anyone. At least when I start the momentum, I'm trying to do good, trying... I'm not weak. You're just gonna simply not. W/ me! Then, I'm prob magically "explosive" too. Don't start getting whiny when I react tho. I tried keeping the peace. In my quiet "weird" calmness. Ppl don't like that sh. 'Member? Now all of a sudden I'm just sooo manipulative. Conveniently, of course. I saw that!!! I just didn't say sh... Ppl also don't like my "foul" freedom of speech either but oh well. Also also it's funny if ppl paint cringe as insecurity. I see u as the true insecurity if u can't even check yourself. Apparently not even like once. Ever. Didn't realize u were perfect. Could've fooled me. As that 1 dude said about Ariana grande or wever, idfwy. That was t really my PT but he did say focus.
Glad someone gets it
Me being an introvert minding my own business
Other people:"She is arrogant and rude".
"She is boring".
"She thinks very high of herself".
"She is emotionless".
"She is selfish".
I am tired of hearing all these words.Dont know how to deal with all this.
ya 100% correct😣
Soo relatable can't agree more
Sometime I feel too lazy to speak and people starts asking me "Hey, why are you so quiet?".
It's frustrating. Why can't they just let me be myself.
Yes. Same here. They find me snob. They find my life boring. Too quiet and lifeless.
Don't worry, just move on. Ignore them😇
I being an introvert love to speak to strangers online more than speaking to people whom I know in real life
Atlasssst I found someone who is my type
I have always been that and i thought it's so weird of me
@@hiddenwoman105 hahaha.....not at all.....it's our special quality 🤭🤭🤭
@@nikitabiswas6033 yassss yassss!!
My gurrll❤️
I agree, people are nicer online and give me more empathy and encouragement than real people I know. Being in Victoria during lockdown for over three months has shown me how much people just don’t care. Chats or comments on Facebook or you tube have kept me going. I also realised that apart from immediate family, my relatives don’t care either. Clarified so much for me.😬🇦🇺
Introverts sometimes ask themselves, "Is introversion a blessing or a curse?"
Dude I ask myself this all the time because there's perks to being an introvert like not getting in trouble at school for talking to much and more
But then downfalls like not being very social and much more
As an introvert I think introversion is a failed blessing
A blurse
Ikr? There was a time i faked being an extrovert because i absolutely hate being an introvert and then whenever i would get home i would feel exhausted and tired because i had to put a mask on everyday! I finally gave up but I'm having a hard time accepting myself as who i am as i don't like being a shy, quite and overall an introvert person:(
@@jinhub2175 all introvert have these problem . But don't hate yourself. It is the truth and we can't change our dna. The only thing that we can do is accepte whatever we have and improve ourself . If we think to change into an extrovert then our life will be like a drama. It is ok to show yourself don't hide anything. I'm also having a hard time. But now I'm trying everyday myself to be better. Your profile pic is the biggest inspiration that I got . Now I decided not to give up and do my best . It must be very hard to love yourself but we have our own world for joy happy and heal . We can find happiness in every little things . We have a really soft heart that can be broken in very little things. These are common things. But I am pretty sure that everything is going well and everyday we can happy from what video you watching and music to you listening . This quarantine is a blessing and it is time to build up personality . I always felt sad for being alone but now I could at least talk to my mom . Hiding something is really hard . You have to open up about yourself. I think we choose the better world. I hope everything will be fine 🙏
Happy to no that there is lots of people like me existing in this world. Parents tell that phone is not good for you . But I found being online is more comfortable .
Sharing my purple heart 💜
I'm in my 50s. As a child I was all these things as described in your video. I was labelled even by my family as being a black sheep. My dad especially thought my introvert traits were nothing more than me rebelling, doing them purposely to get at him. Funny thing, in my 30s when I went online I was able to learn that I wasn't defective that I was an introvert. Since then I've learned a lot and have been better able to manage in the world. It's great knowing that those labels I had growing up as being defective weren't true and that there are others much like me. It has given me confidence.
My family blamed me for being slow... today I know that I'm not slow, but I like to have a second thought before I answer.
Same experience here. My mother, the only extrovert out of the 4 of us, took a particular disliking to me ever since I was a very little kid because, unlike my sister, who turned out to be a "social introvert" (her mbti, INFJ, is famously known as a "social chameleon," so she came across as an extrovert; now, her energy levels are actually a lot lower than mine), and, unlike my dad (enneagram 9 ISTP), who would reluctantly go along with what my mother wanted, my introversion was a lot more obvious. According to her, I was always fussy and didn't get along with other kids in my age group, preferring to play or work by myself, or got along better with much older kids and old people. Given that a majority of people are extroverted, like her (ESTJ), especially children, she's never seen a kid like me so thought there was something "abnormal" or "slow" about me, and scheduled play-dates to force me to socializing with other children, which only proved counter-productive (being an enneagram cp6). I guess from her point of view, my introversion caused her significant embarrassment because I probably came across as "rude" to the other parents, so spent my entire childhood trying to force me to change. But kids don't appreciate being forced to change (and people CAN'T change, anyway. Speaking from a lifetime of experiences trying to re-invent myself, as well as the fact that my mbti type/enneagram remains consistent). I've never fit in with other people, no matter how much I'd tried, even when I was actually quite social in my late-teens/early-20s, nothing could change the fact that I was just a loner by nature; even in my family, I've always felt like a black sheep. That "wall separating" me from the rest of humanity part is 100% relatable. Until I took mbti tests (albeit out of curiosity), I've never known why, and was always thought of by others that there was something "wrong" or "abnormal" about me, but, turns out, I'm just an introvert and independent-minded (INTP).
I'm happy you were enlightened enough to figure it out. I don't know why people can't help themselves especially now with so many free and low cost resources around.
I'm sorry your family and your dad were as*holes to you :(
Im 20 . And my aunt just said iam crazy, my mental is sick and defective today . Im feel bad cuz my familly dont know abt introvert feel , they dont care abt my heart , my feel and whats going on ,they just can judge me all day . I hate my live
Fun fact: we introverts are much more louder online than in real life
@Chiyori exactly hahahhahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
True 😂😂😂😂😂
Ya absolutely right 🤟🤟
very true
Yessss
Group projects and meetings are the worst.
@Gabriella Garza I can relate to this
My whole job requires teamwork and it annoys the shit out of me. I enjoyed being a picker at a warehouse more than all my other jobs.
*time to go and meet with my partners while they talk about celebrities and i sit there trying to think, to then go home and do it all by myself. as long as they present it i’m cool with that*
@Gabriella Garza I am an extreme introvert and I am extremely shy I can't even speak and ask something to a worker in a grocery store.
True
The most annoying thing about other people when being an introvert is being asked "why are you so quiet?".
if you don’t like them you can just say “why are you so loud? leave me be”. loud can be replaced with intrusive if necessary, if it’s someone you don’t mind or you like them you can just say “i am who i am”.
I hate that question!!!
@@reminiscence7555 No reason to be a dick. People are curious
Many people have asked this question in school , I also don't like this question
This is even more annoying because i go to boarding school
The worst part about being a introvert is being forced to socialise with other people I am not in common with.
agreed
My sister is friends with one our neighbors, guy says I am weird cause I'm quiet and smile too much. Extroverts will force an introvert to be extroverted but we introverts rarely rarely do that. Ps when that happens my sister also starts that's why I feel so much at home on this channel. I pray to God every day that I'd find someone who could understand the struggles of being an introvert. Glad to know I ain't the only one. The only reason I smile "too" much is because say I'm too serious. This is why I feel like I don't have meaningful relationship with my sister despite spending most of my time with her. We're not close at all.
The worst thing about being an introvert is that people consider you as rude while you are not, this is heartbreaking
I agree with you.
Yes ..i agree too
Have experienced it
To be fair, rudeness isn't something that requires only one "side". Person A can see person B as rude, without person B _intending_ to be rude, and A's feelings are perfectly valid - but they don't suddenly grant any rights to A. B's behaviour is equally valid.
Yes 😭
1. You appear shy when meeting new people 1:27
2. You'd rather avoid parties and big social events 2:00
3. You feel under-appreciated 2:36
4. You feel that working in a team is burdensome 3:07
5. You feel extremely uncomfortable when in the spotlight 3:48
6. You would rather do everything by yourself 4:26
I hope I could help! :)
And yes I relate to these struggles :)
First on this comment lol
Thank you :)
Nice
Thanks
I relate to these to... 🙁 most of the time I just put a fake smile on. 🙃🙁
I'm an introvert , and I have only 2 friends and when Im with them I'm so loud because I feel comfortable
You are so lucky to have 2 friends. All my friends just disappeared. But, then some days I happy they disappeared.
Me too I have one friend that I'm being with(she's extrovert) and I have 1 online bestfriend who is from Germany and I'm from Philippines (she's extrovert too)
I am very introverted person and not often friendly but I'm the one who approached my German bestie first even she's extrovert and I am introvert because I feel she's a right person for me to become my friend so I become friendly to her
@A'TIN REIZA introvert po ako pero hindi nmn po ako nahirapan makuha ung loob nya kasi extrovert sya and napakabait po nya and I hope pag balang araw magkita kami Sana hindi agad maubos ung battery energy kasi alam ko pong extrovert sya siguro marami ung gustong gawin and paghahandaan kopo iyon
@A'TIN REIZA yes po pero I'm happy na I'm introvert kasi sila sinasabi nila na sa parents na Ang inam ko daw pala hindi daw ako gala Ng gala,hindi daw ako pala-labas Ng Bahay,at di daw ako palabarkada but sometimes naiinis ako sasabihin nilang gusto nilang magsalita ako Kaso pag nagsasalita nmn ako di nmn ako pinapakinggan and sasabihin nilang anti-social ako at masungit at hindi daw ako marunong makihalubilo at makisama
But,marunong nmn akong makisama at pinakikisamahan ko nmn sila pero sadyang mas prefer ko na magisa ko kesa makihalubilo sa ibang tao kasi mas nagkaroroon ako ng energy kapag magisa at tahimik lang pero kung pupunta ko sa crowded place or noisy place mas gusto ko na kasama ung tao na close na close ako para di ko feel na magisa atlis dun nasulit nmn ung energy na naubos ko dahil kasama ko sila kasi kapag nasa crowded place ako at kasama ko lang ung tao na kilala ko lang mas nafefeel ko na magisa ako dun sa sitwasyon na yun kahit ang Dami dami ko nmn kasama kesa sa nasa madilim na kwarto ko at ako lang magisa na walang kasama
@A'TIN REIZA Hi Co-A'tin 💙
I’m an introvert & I’d much prefer spending time w/my pets & books then people. Embrace being an introvert. Understand what works for you, know your limit & definitely apply boundaries in your life. Being an introvert is not a negative mark against you as a person. Once you understand it, you’ll discover it’s a blessing. Keep a positive attitude & do what brings you peace, stability & happiness.
I like my family and friends time but I also like coming home being alone in my own space relaxing. Best part of my day is coming home to my own space.
@@ryans413 - I think of it this way: As introverts we don't need to feed off of others in order to feel good. For us it's the opposite. We have the power to simply feel good on our own. Almost as if we are more complete in a certain way. We are also more sensitive to the neurotransmitter Acetylcholine compared to extroverts. This chemical makes us feel good when we turn inward. We also store information in different parts of our brain than extroverts, favoring the parasympathetic side of our nervous system which is associated with relaxation and focus. So we're typically going to enjoy going deeper subjects than most extroverts. Of course extroverts can enjoy those deeper subjects too, usually less commonly though.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL as soon as I get home I can feel it I start to feel more happy I get an energy boost I’m more relaxed and I entertain myself very well. When I go to family’s houses especially if I’m staying over for a long time I feel my energy drain even if I’m enjoying myself I have to get a way. I feel like this in the grocery stores too that’s why when I shop I do it as fast as I can because just all the people being around me drains me. Then when I get back to my car I get that energy back like instantly.
I like to stare off into the sunset type of person. No I don't. Bc I hate early mornings. When I was a kid, y did I think adults never had to do that? Knowing d well my parents somexs got up as early? But I do like to daze off into the distance. Mainly at nature. I'll be thinking about nothing & then it's just like is this what it's like mid life or wever? Bc I'm about tired of "y'all." My head like combusted bc of all the bs. & Now I'm some other version of Patrick. Of spingebob
"Asking for help but you can't", is so relatable.
i was a real introvert when i was a kid growing up and still am.....
Yep I can relate...Whenever I want to ask something to my teacher or classmates I try to brainstorm questions but when I'm already in front of them nothing will come out of my mouth making things awkward
im literally crying right now remembering those things😭😭😭
Dude,so true.I can never ask my teacher questions.I can't clear my doubts.
@@karthikkaligotla5075 yes and then cry alone on the desk hiding your face😭
I hate when extroverts find out you're an introvert, and then try to "fix" you.
I just become scared of them. I worry about draining them if I utter a word to them. Would you say that’s close to or far from the truth?
Kinda depends on how they "fix" you though if they want you to be more social they might bug you to go outside with them they might tell jokes that make you laugh, other times people pretty much force you to go outside for example: my family wanted to go to the beach I told them I wasn't going dad said that wasn't an option it's those people that force you and say they "want the best for you" when they just want to make themselves feel better.
Nah, cause once I get comfortable, I'm extrovert just like in online community
@@iichxrryluna that's how I am too
@@iichxrryluna hmm interesting
When you were a kid and a introvert and these were the biggest pains:
Forcing to talk to family on the phone.
Forcing to go to a school dance, or talk to the teachers for help.
People trying to talk to you for literally no god damn freaking reason.
Called “shy” when you are really a demonic beast.
You are a virg- A gamer, and might have bad habits.
:]]
Bruh the pain tho I'm still a kid and I'm a introvert
the family one is one i relate too
“People trying to talk to you for no dang freaking reason”
Especially at parties(that you were forced to go to) random people would just try to strike a conversation so you give really bland answers to try and hint that you don’t wanna talk BUT THEY CONTINUE TALKING
I can relate to all of it 😅
Yep
People: Talking to me for no reason
Me: So you have chosen death
Have never enjoyed organized group activities, loathe "forced fun" events at work, and loved COVID lockdown. I'd been practicing for that my entire life!
😂😂
Me to I love learn more silent places without people disturbance
I understand COVID shutdown was heaven on earth 🌎❤
"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It's addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore." Can anyone else relate? I've been isolating myself for ten months already, and I think this is the real downside as an introvert. I have been worrying about how to interact with people once everything is back to normal.
Sis, I feel you. I honestly feel so relaxed right now, no office politics, no bossy coworkers, no small talk... man I’m really worried it’s going to be really hard (and exhausting) on us once we have to go back outside again :(
Yea ,I can totally relate on this,it almost feels like i would rather be alone and doing my own stuffs with no one disturbing. Listening to music for hours. But I know someday we'll have to get back to real life and can't be alone for my whole life :0 When I meet people in real life and friends,I'm afraid I can't even talk normally to them , and it kinda starts to ruin our relationship s
A key point in this will be to slowly ease ourselves back into another pace. And on the good side even extroverts do tune down a bit and don't return to noisy and fast pace in an instant. I see many actually shocked over how easy it is for everything to slow down and lose pace. People not getting half of the things down they usually rush through in a day. Some gain a better understanding of thing working different for people who choose to not go along with the busy rush in life.
ten montths is nothing, I have been alone for over a year. It is fucking sweet how peaceful it is, like an ocean that nothing has ever swam in all to yourself.
i know...
Being an introvert making friends is the most difficult task specially when you are new to a place. People are already talking with each other so easily leaving me wander if they already know each other . While I sit back figuring out what to say and to whom !!
For me I get friends by simply not starting a conversation but just someone who would come up to me. And if they got something they like to talk about that I also like then I'd open up
@@doritolegend9664 same here
@@simratmann4323 yeah lol, we get adopted by extroverts usually
How do u feel when ur an introvert but teacher calls u to introduce urself in front in class but ur a transfer and u dont know anybody
@@doritolegend9664 I'm an Introvert myself and I agree and I prefer small crowds 2 or 4 friends Is good enough.
Another point I like to add :- we introverts tend to observe people and analyse them to such an extent that we can pretty much exactly predict how a person would react to any situation. We tend to exactly understand people but it's hard to find someone who accurately understand us.
Correct and def better at determining who is even worth talking to etc.
Mhm
I don’t talk to my mom Bc she dosent ever understands me
I am also an introvert
This is soo true !!!
Hardest thing for me is dealing with the idea that telling loved ones that spending time with them is hard for me will make them uncertain and/or uncomfortable in our relationships.
I also hate it how my classmates can get friends that fast, while me im just a ghost they're passing by.
LOL so true
Freaking true..I feel alone
Same, even my one of my classmate
called me a "ghost" because i'm so quiet •‿•
Exactly like how do they get friends so fast
@@karri17 by talking ;-;
That one teacher: " leT's StAnD uP aNd InTrOdUce OuRsElVeS tO tHe ClAsS"
True! I really hate introducing myself to the class😢
@@-.-7066 it's like: "tell us something interesting about yourself!" and then you are like: "Uhhhhh ejggbfjegjejgugg I- I like cats-"
So true, Like when teacher told us to say a poem in front of class or something kdjsejksdjdjd
Damn!!! This was like d worst part for me in school...but somehow I used to manage...
@@jiya5478 I know right?
Pov: you're in a public place and you think people are staring at you and you get shy
i get 100 doubts when people do that. So true.
Or when you think people are talking about you...
True 🦋🦋that's why I love being alone rather than being surrounded by people 😌that's me if you like it or not, that's your problem. 🤓
A few more
1. People not liking you because you're to boring for them
2. Everyone thinking somethings wrong with you
3.people thinking that you are depressed
Yes👍
As an introvert when I meet new people they say I’m shy… and in my mind I’m like “What do you want me to say if I barely know you”
So true, that happens to me
That’s so true. I was standing instead of sitting and my friend said “sit down”, I said “no I like standing” and then a random girl at the table said that I’m shy just because I don’t want to sit down…
Why is this so true
exactly we dont know what is their interest
EXACTLY
As an introvert going to school is a nightmare not bc im too lazy to study its bc socializing is very hard
Yeah... especially when teachers give you a group project, to _cure the sickness of introversion_ from all students
I don’t think that’s introvertedness!! That’s social awkwardness!
@@adrianpena1234 it kinda comes as a part of introvertedness lol people dont like to hang out with us early on. They prefer fake friends for social status
When you don´t have your own group of friends and you have to make groups it feels awful to be left behind, you are the only one who waits till the end to see if there was some else who couldn´t find a group to work with him or her.
It's really hard for me to make friends that's why I spend most of my time alone on the first month of school. I'm lucky if I make 2 friends
Fun fact as an introvert : when you unknowingly & mistakenly eye contact with someone it feels really awkward like damn😂😝
Why you do me like that? 😂😭 Like jeez- I HATE MAKING EYE CONTACT
Mee too I hate making eye contact
@@rashidvk788 i'm like 🙄🥺
If I make an eye contact with a random stranger, I cringe and my brain reminds it me again and again and again so I could cringe at myself lol
My brain is my enemy
yea xD
I am a big introvert and I'm usually underestimated, undermined, misunderstood, even by my own family members but as long as I know what I am and what I'm capable of, I just smile about it.
How can you just smile? Don’t you want to be part of something with other people?
“Small talk makes you feel bored, and that you are wasting your time.” This speaks to my souls.
A small change: Small talk makes you feel bored, and that others are wasting your time.
That's how i would phrase it since i never start small talk or keep it up. Just some extroverts don't understand and keep trying. I'm wastimg my time with a lot of better stuff like online games... but small talk, it's nothing I choose by myself.
Yeah same. It's one of things that I don't like doing even if it's beneficial.
how does this not apply to everyone though
Yeah i want interesting topics from then like what they like or what places they want to travel and what stuff they want to do so i can learn from them smol talks are really boring and i dont wanna elaborate further from that
How come people find things to talk every 5 min???🤨🤨while i am still struggling to say hello without anyone seeing me
I definitely avoid parties & big social events, good thing I don’t have to worry about those nowadays :)
Lol I struggle with that too cause of anxiety of large crowds
I like concerts cause you dont have to talk, just listen to musik and dance
ikr
@@kate2000year You can dance in public.. I guess that's not introversion but social anxiety. I love music and concerts but I can't dance cuz I try to avoid bringing any type of attention to myself. I want to sometimes though.
I can relate 👋😔
I was actually happy that we have been quarantined 💀💀
Yep
Same
Yea but the vaccine is here if it works then life goes back to normal
same
LOL same af
As an introvert, things like saying, " Hello" are in my mind but never make it out of my mouth.
Kind of but it's also followed by thought: what is verbally following? Nuffin. Pretend they didn't see u. Till u detect weird vibes. Then throw em off 🤗
"I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel"
💛
Honestly same
My apartment being me joy 🥲
Thats how I roll. I get home from work sat am..i literally sleep and rest as much as possible til monday evening, and i live with a family member. Only leave my room to do laundry or food shop.
I call my home my comfort zone. I barely have friends and i can party all by myself just at my place.
My classmates when we aren't doing online classes anymore: YESS I CAN FINALLY GET TO SEE MY FRIENDS
Me when there's no more online classes: *mental breakdown intensifies*
I'm actually both. Because I want to see my homies who I can talk my shit with but I dread the thought of going outside.
I got better grades in online school then I ever have according to my report card
happy i graduated before school had to go back to in person. got the advantage of it greatly improving my grades as well
@@Jpeg_skeleton for real lol. I got almost all straight A's in online, but now have mostly C's B's and D's in the actual classroom 😅
@@raena126 did we get the same report card?
This channel knows who I am more than my parents do
yeah, same here really, my parents aren’t bad they’re just against the whole psychology of how the brain works. my dad thinks he didn’t affect my life right now by when i was little constantly threatening to take things off me for crying. I can only now cry a little bit, it’s just screaming instead because i literally can’t cry out of natural reflex of the fear i went through
this channel knows more about me than i do
Same
Same
Same here, thinking of sending these to my parents, lol
I, an introvert, experienced a time where I was in need of help in school for a math question I was struggling on. I asked the teacher to go over it when we were going over questions and someone in my class said "are you stupid?" I felt regret for asking the question and now I have a deeper struggle for asking questions
You did what you should do when learning…asking questions! The “ you’re stupid” person clearly has issues and needs attention. Keep being you and never stop asking questions. 👍
Sorry to hear that. Those are my fears as well. I feel like my questions are stupid, so I never ask them. 😢
I’m in school and I never ask any questions to the teachers. I ask my friends there to explain to me the things I have doubts about. I can never ask teachers because they will always yell or get annoyed with you if you don’t understand what they’re saying repeatedly. I’ve also given up asking them because I rarely ever end up understanding something. It’s much better to ask others and if I still don’t understand, I just give up…I’m too dumb to understand anyways…
My stepson was always afraid to ask questions in class. I told him I guarantee he’s not the only one in that classroom who doesn’t understand (something).
Also, if you’re having trouble “getting” something the teacher’s trying to teach, it may be that they don’t know how to explain something clearly.
I had experiences when I was younger being very rudely shut down when I tried to talk to other people. It left a lasting mark on me reaching out to make friends. I don’t think I’ve deliberately made an effort to do since then and I’m in my 40s now.
Being forced to socialize. Happens most of the time. Still don't like it.
It made me start to hate people.🙂
@@a.i.c.e5212 same though I wouldn't call it hate maybe just "not like" people too much
Same. Like a neighbor came in our house straight went to my bedroom like tf? And sat on my bed I was like shocked my heart beat increased that lady literally looked straight to my face and asked my name i became shy cuz out of nowhere she appeared and I don't know her I said my name. idk I couldn't look at her face and my mom was behind me like do something... along with that lady was another women as if she was watching and drama.Like in my bedroom with 2 women and my mom and 3 pairs of eyes on me. That lady hold my chin and said,"why r u so shy? Look at me." Like bitch then don't barge into my room and come to talk to me.I would have locked my room. Omg. 😭😭 my mom didn't help me.
@@lovemyself7021 oh my goodness! That's totally invasion of privacy. Oh dear I feel sad for you and if that were to happen to me, I would have the same reaction as you. Most people always ask me why I'm so shy and quiet. They don't understand that it's not that I'm shy but I'm just not up to talking to random people.
Social gatherings makes me tired all the time. I don't really like spending time outside and socialise with others, I prefer to stay at home and y'know, just read or sleep, or spending my time using the Internet.
I don't like it when someone force me to socialise when I'm not good at it 🤣😂
INTROVERT ALLERGIES: 💙
- Social obligations
- Phone calls after 6 pm
- Groups of more than 5 people
- Host that force you to stay at there house
lol hope someone can relate to my introvert life 😅
Groups of more than 2 and phone calls in general in my case
@@horrorzone476 lol honestly yeah that’s me on a tense day 😅💕
Yes indeed
i hate phone calls
Correction: *Phone calls, period.
(What degenerate people still use a PHONE?! Let that die xD)
i’m very introverted, but if i get a good vibe from someone then i’ll try and approach them, if they don’t then i keep my distance as best as i can
Same
Exactly
And mostly there are only a few you got that good vibe. We're 30 in total in my class but only 3 people got the vibe and 2 other near the good vibe. But we aren't friends (in my definition of friendship )
@@jejo4911 same, I only have around five close friends at my school
can relate.. ;-;
anyway, hi stay ( ´･ᴗ･`)ノ
I have always felt that talking to others or asking for any type of help was an imposition. It feels that joining in a conversation was nothing more than butting in.
introverts gets bullied more often because people think they are weak and can't defend themselves (based on my personal experience 🥺)
Me too when I'm on my elementary days I have only one bestfriend and I'm just only talkative to her and my classmates thinks I'm weak and they insult and hurt me but I don't still fight I don't say it to any because when I'm saying to my teacher my teacher told me that be strong but I am really strong but they're so many they're like 10+ and I'm just one and they also insulting and judging me because I'm kpop fan(I'm kpop fan because I want myself be happy) and because my friend was extrovert they love my friend to they're friend too and they thinking I would be more weak if I don't have friend so,they try to separate my bestfriend from me ,they saying fake things about me just my bestie becomes hate me but it ended up being more strong in our relationship and now I'm in highschool my classmates are so kind and friendly I'm introvert I don't describe my classmate as friend but I describe them as people who I close because I don't trust quickly but still they understand me because they know I'm introvert I'm energized my battery by being alone but they say they're always open if I want to be with someone if I'm ready being with them and if ready to socialize and ready to reduce energy just to enjoy with them and if I experience insulting again I would fight for myself and I would use my past experience of bullying to be strong
People think introverts are rude, just because we're not endlessly talking, which is not true.
Whenever I said something, my classmates made fun of my words. When they asked me a question but got no answer, they didn't understand why I didn't answer.
Yeah, I hate those stupid bullies. They thought that I am just a weak, quite one on the corner. I made them realized that they were wrong when I grabbed their necks and arms. I liked the way they beg for forgiveness. Hahaha. Sorry, I might sound like a psycho but I just needed to defend myself. Hope you understand.
When i was in highschool days, i was bullied by asstroverts because i was too quiet and just minding my own business yet they are the one who caused to become like this and i lose my confidence on everything but i still chose my introvert path and i find it more peaceful:>
Introverts are not antisocial they're just selectively social..🙄😒
True 😎
So true..I am gonna quote this
Rightly said
I am happy you said the truth
Yhh and extro vets dont get it like my so called friends force me to talk to other unknown random people whom I dont even give a dam about 😑
How people say hi: "Hello"
How introverts say hi: *raises eyebrows*
Why did this make me laugh 😂😂
I will either just smile or nod
@@uin5943 that's me lol
I'm sad cuz this is true
So me😐
The worst part of being an introvert is being a good listener ... everyone tends to present their problems to you and then they start with small talks, afterwards they talk over you ...
I struggle asking for help, but it isn't only because I feel like I will look stupid, but I don't want the other person to take over what I am doing and change my ideas.
what's wrong about changing your ideas ?
Same feeling~
@Stargazer The Jynxer same. Also after I do ask for help, I would find the solution myself. I don’t know how that happens.
@Stargazer The Jynxer Google is cool
I feel like I am a pro using Google.
Reading comments, I realised that there are many people like me.i'm not the only one who likes to stay alone from society😌.
yes
True i thought i m only the one
My mom thinks that I have some kind of mental disorder just because I am introvert 😔😔
Tru yar, even I feel the same
Bruh same like how come i never thought that there are 7 billion people living in this world and i cant find someone like me😅😅😅
My voice is always shaking when I'm public speaking sometimes it even sounds like I'm crying I hate it :/
Practice helps with that. And conscious breathing and thinking of something nice and calming. But what helps best is to not judge yourself as your voice shakes. A shaking voice makes you no lesser person. If you can manage to embrace your "downsides" you might find they disappear or stop to matter. If it's something that can't be helped at the moment then why not take it with a grain of salt instead. 💚 Actually, let me tell you a secret. People who come to adore your shaky self are quite likely long-lasting good relationship material 😉 It's like a filter against shallow people!
@@KxNOxUTA I read "Grian of salt"
I watch a lot of Hermitcraft
You might have essential tremors.
I can relate 👁👄👁
It happens with me also
In 7th grade I figured out I was going to constantly overlooked if I didn’t force myself to step forward. I listened carefully to learn how conversations worked and safe subjects I could bring up. Started taking all the speech and drama classes offered. Continued it through high school and college (small, local places). At work I forced myself to volunteer for groups and speaking assignments. It was literally H3LL! Probably a large part of why I have no colon today. It never became easier, but I learned I could do it, even if it meant sleepless nights and having a bathroom close-by. It was more satisfying than doing all the work and then having some uninvolved extrovert present my work badly. Happily retired now, staying at home away from everything and most everyone (few close friends, also introverts). A friend sent me this note: Introverts unite / separately / in your own homes. That’s how we roll!
The Comment section feels so home here .. filled with thousands of people like me sharing same experiences as mine !❤️
Exactly what I'm thinking right now, I've never related to a comment section more before
i feel so left out in the comment section
fellow extrovert here 🤡
You are so right! I ended up liking almost every comment 😂😂
Yes
@@nathaarkoh same
Because I choose to stay secluded, everybody’s first thought is, “She’s depressed” or “She’s going through a phase”. When in reality I’m just chilling 😂.
Aren't we all?
I'm an introvert that's Depressed
I was like that too until I actually became depressed. Tho usually they can't tell the difference anyways...
@@ink_hat7142 fr
Lmao same
People empty me. I have to get away to refill
The bitter Truth
Same
facts
Exactly.. My family gets offended but I don't care anymore, I have to recharge.
@@TLovly77 you do what makes you feel comfortable
As an introvert, I'm more alone in a crowded room, even if it's people I know, than at home alone watching a movie, and as far a talking in a group, I feel that most people just want to hear themselves talk anyway,
I am an introvert and sometimes, when I tell people that Im shy and dont know what to do about it, they just tell me "Just dont be shy!".
Its like you tell a homeless person "Just dont be poor!".
This is so relatable. It is also like you tell someone who is depressed: "just be happy". It doesn't work like that.
@@maxezzy1282 yes! It is always like that!
It soumds like they were trying to be sarcastic
I mean...Homeless people can go to work if they want too since some of them are still young...I get your point though and I know how that feels because my Uncles and Aunts KEEPS TELLING ME THAT WHENEVER WE FUDING MEET....So annoying...I'd be nice if it work on Corpses though they can just say "Stand up" and the COrpse will wake up not as a Zombie
Those people are just dumb! They are thinking that they are helping you but they only make things worse. There is no "shy switch" in our brain to turn it on and off. Actually I pretend to turn a switch on and off in my head when someone tells me to cheer up or don't worry...Share your true feelings only with whom you feel emotionally safe with.
I'm an introvert and when I'm in an unknown circle of people I stay quiet... and sometimes people start to think I'm dumb....🙂🙃
They got mad at me for not reading the packet and I just didn’t know what to do
Yeah
lol it's the basic thing tho. Let them think what they want we don't care tho. They just proved them & give us reasons whY we keep it quiet they aren't interesting and judging without knowing it's pretty low from them. Better keep our distance from these people. In conclusion, they don't deserve our attention and energy they literally give us reasons to not to. (':
Same here😔
Well that's relatable
She was right about what she said in the intro, we are living in a world where extroversion is the key to success.
Sad to say, but it's true, unfortunately. When looking into mbti, I'd read that extroverts generally make more than introverts, and my type came in as the third-lowest on the list, while my sister's was fourth-lowest; our mother's, as the only extrovert in the family, came in 2nd place for the highest potential. These are just in terms of general potential, though, not guaranteed fact, but it's still very discouraging. Unfortunately, most jobs and career fields really don't have us (introverts) in mind, for good reasons. :( I mean, I was particularly horrible at my menial fast food jobs for this reason and also found that I couldn't even sell a chocolate bar, so I don't understand why I actually thought I could be influential enough to ever run for political office, or start my own empire or something if I'm too socially awkward and inward-thinking to influence anybody.
Yeah, very sad 😮💨
@@phatcat3705 This is the "finance bro" phenomenon.
Yeah. I used to be extremely introverted, but I'm now almost 70/30 introvert to extrovert because of parents and school. I really don't like my extroversion, since I don't feel safe with it. My introversion at least still wins most of the time, keeping me from going group work whenever possible. My introversion lets me excel far more than my extroversion, but extroversion lets me function and gain more respect in teamwork settings. It also means that I get put in a spotlight that I don't want to be in.
Not really.....people worships introverts like gods these days while extroverts are being ignored
I'm a quiet person, so most likely I am an introvert. I spend my time alone most of the time as it charges my energy and talk less, but the worst thing that my mom asked me to attend, was my brother's wedding ceremony, where I was not feeling right despite being asked to do so. The moment I gathered in a group of people, I was getting so overwhelmed, when the ceremony theme started playing, I couldn't stand the feeling (I had the urge to cry, as I was too stressed over it). This is why even private parties can be a problem for introverts.
Why you're not talking?
" you didn't ask me anything"☺
love it
Hahaha... Nice👍👍👍
"Are you ok?? You're not saying anything!!"
"I dunno I was listening to you guys talk, I am just chillin'"
Or like *" I have nothing to say"*
Every god damn time
absolutely, i can totally relate to it 🤣
I'm so introverted that in school when teachers ask me questions I get nervous,my heartbeat increases,my mind kinda stops working and even if I know the answer its just I can't say it like other students and feel bad about myself that I have low confidence unlike others.
🙁
Same !!
Me too
When the teacher called out my name, my mind went blank and my blood pressure is high..
Literally me every damn time. Like i had all the script all the answers but when it's time to speak i feel like everything just stops, my heart beats so fast, feel like everyone staring at me, ready to judge anything i'd say, and *clap* i blank.
its not like we dont talk, we wait and open up to the right person, im so talkative when im with my friends
Yes so relatable . We don't want to talk with any random person. We want a right friend who really shows interest in what we have to say
@@simratmann4323 exactly exactly
I really don't want to be an extrovert
@@lavenishere_ I'll edit it then
@@lavenishere_ if you’re the type of person that wants to socialize with people, sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to get what you want. I really don’t like being an introvert because it makes me depressed and lonely but it’s hard to make friends and sometimes i try my best. I’m slowly working on it and i hope i find at least one friend that i can always talk to
Especially when the teacher calls you for answering a question. Like it doesn't grow my confidence, it only makes me feel worse and pressured
Yuppp
Today they asked me to speak up like two times and I’m not only introverted, I hate my voice so I was really bothered.
True
@@ribbonsss450 same it's so annoying
lmao there was a time where i got called to read a passage from a paper, and my hands were fckng trembling and apparently, i sounded like i was about to cry.. our teacher noticed this and made a joke about it and then the whole class laughed at me... its not particularly the way i wanted to be comforted. this happens almost every time i get called to answer a question or to speak infront of the class, some teachers were decent enough to help me calm down and some were the reasons why my stage fright is worse than ever ;-;
Hardest parts about being an introvert is meeting new people and maintaining interest in them. I can turn on the social charm when first meeting, but later I loose interest or lack the energy to continue.
That lacking energy is real one, when I completed 100 words, I feel like 100m in 10 seconds. Ufff.
Same, I'm like that on 1st semester but when 2nd semester came I became really quiet and doesn't talk that much to my classmates anymore...
I think that also sounds like extraversion.. extraversion is more flexible and changes depending on outer circumstances, especially extraverted intuition that likes something new but quickly abandons it. While I guess an introvert could do it, it would be due to trying to preserve their inner world
Yes
This is so trueee.....Me to new people:"its not that I dont like you, its just that I have lost interest in you."🤣
When you're an introvert with anxiety and a stutter problem.
... *Litearlly the worst combination for me*
I am an introvert but for some reason ONLY around my friends I talk way to much.
YESS I am an introvert and also stutter alot 😭
Dude that's me!
And I hate this about me!
Even if I try to have some talks with someone I start stuttering!
I used to not know about this before but then I realised that I have a stuttering problem and I am not even able to express myself effectively!😭
Same
Please do not consider this as bragging or something like that. This combination I wouldn't wish even for my greatest enemy, yet I got it - ADHD, stuttering problem, introverted personality and late puberty - few people can imagine what is like to have so much bottled up emotions inside and not be able to express them.
I hate being told to just “stop acting that way”. I’m not “acting” this way, this IS who and what I am. If you put aside your wanting me to act like you and actually take the time to let me be comfortable around you, you’ll find out I’m actually quite sociable to friends in small groups. Parties and large gatherings are mentally and physically draining to me, they do not energize or excite me.
I can’t be the only one who’d hide in my room whenever my parents invited friends or relatives over, the fear is real
i can relate, and when they COME in my room i'll try my best to ignore them and not make eye contact.
@@ryokuu6231 that's exactly what I do
Same here😂
I feel yall.
right i just wanna lock myself in a room until they are gone but my mum makes me talk to them so i have to force a laugh out and my palms get sweaty
Introverts at school: *who are you?*
Reporting and project presentation: *your worse nightmare?*
Yes
One of my biggest fear
When i'm grade 3 our teacher said you have to report infront of your classmates and when i hear the teacher said that i was nervous and shocked and cry
I really have nightmare & I don't know how avoid this😖😖
Even we will be sweated in chill weather..
I'm an introvert, and I've always felt weird because I'm shy and awkard in public and because I prefer to be alone in my room or with my small group of good friends. This channel has helped me a lot with learning to see rather the advantages than the disadvantages of being an introvert! To all the people with struggles: you are unique and special, be proud of who you are!❤
yeah
Same 😂 ty
Thank you!!
It bothers me when people don’t understand that, I don’t want/need to be talked into doing something socially. If I say no thank you to an invite, please accept it.
Being around people actually makes me feel bad. My mom is always saying I need to get out more but I really don’t want to. It’s just not worth how bad I’ll feel.
I can definitely relate to that. All my teenage years i was kind of forced to go out basically all weekend when all i wanted to do was staying alone in my room.
It was such a huge struggle that i could never win, b/c everything other then going out to party was considered to be weird. I hated it AND worst of all, it was such a waste of my precious time.
When i moved out for many years i was asked each weekend on the phone by my parents "so what did you do/have you planned" and i would just say "nothing" and lived with the fact that i knew it made them deeply worry for nothing. I know they worried about me, but it was just not what I wanted.
Wish i would have already done this in my teenage year. I was so creative at that time and could have done so many other things instead of "being alone and bored in the middle of a party" just to be able to say "yes i was at a party". Boah, did i hate it.
And it only stopped when i got marry and now my husband and i together do nothing/things by ourselves at the weekend. Somehow that is better accepted.
Tell your mom you don’t want to go out and to respect your wishes. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
@@lbeschrich Don’t worry my mom is awesome she just feels bad for me. It’s all good!
@@Austin_Dale oh that’s good. You sounded like she was really pushing you to do things you don’t want to. 🙏🏼
You can show her this video!
I have an extrovert friend and I'm thankful because she is my spoke person.
I have a friend like that but now we go to different schools so I'm alone :(
I had a friend that i made a comix strip with that like my whole grade was reading but then we went to different schools and now its really hard to continue because i have noone to bounce ideas off of.
I have a friend like that but I will speak up when I need to.
A spokesperson? Very interesting. Like an Aaron to your Moses.
SAME
people ask me why I’m so quiet but then when I talk they never listen and just ignore me. I wanna just cry cuz those people are sometimes my close friends.
It can help to tell them that (or write them) and set a signal together that you can make to let them know they're crossing your line. Something simple and clearly intended to give them a friendly signal that you require some (speaking) space/time :D Works like a charm. Especially when they understand it as a polite tool of yours to communicate with them.
how do tyou know they are not willing to listen to u
@@Arya-ki5sc I would be talking to them about something and they would just talk to someone else and just ignore my presence
@Kitsu Shii ig so 😔💔
Ya your right .......😒
Lockdown: Exists
Introverts: It’s my time to *SHIIIIIIINE*
yes
True! Everyone was moaning about my country's three long lockdowns - except me, in my element 😃. It's the opening up again that bothers me.
We been practicing for this moment our whole lives
STORY OF MY LIFE
Yes, I want that because I Get Bullied by my own friends and classmates, I don't want to have a fake friends anymore.
As an introvert, I feel uncomfortable when I tried to be funny but no one laugh, so I'll decide to never try again.
Yeah this is why I always think twice before I say something
😁 absolutely right. I have tried a lot.
Yes,,me too when others stare at you like talking with their eyes "what is she talking about" "she's bored" "is she trying to be funny" "is she ok" ..
@@Strdh_511 exactly! That feeling. It was so hard for us introverts to voice out our thoughts. So it feels very disappointing everytime we try but no one acknowledge it
I swear when that happens I'm like
You know what, this is why I don't talk anyways, and then you won't hear me saying not a single other word. But at least I tried or whatever.
"During Corona Virus Lockdown"
extroverts: anxiety attacked
introverts: weak (evil smile 😈)
🤣 same
Same
Yeah
We were prepared in the best way
Coronavirus: I'm here to bring you boredom and lock you in your house🦠
Introverts: "You have no power here." 😈🤠😎
Coronavirus: "Understandable have a nice quarantine."🤨
Introverts: "We sure will have a great time at home." 🏡😎
Some of the hardest moments as an introvert to me, was my last school trip. Since I had to share a room with at least two people and we were not allowed to walk around ourselves so we wouldn't get lost, during the entire four days, I had about one hour for myself. I always felt exhausted after every conversation and wanted to have at least five minutes without all these people. Everyone constantly asking why I was so quiet, obviously didn't help. The worst part was that most of the activities we did, were to get to know our classmates and the local people better, so we always had to do stuff in groups and had to always interact with someone. Until these few days I didn't realize how hard it was to be around people for a long time.
I relate to you... I recently was on a class trip too and I went to bed with a headache every evening because everyone was so loud and we had no time for ourselves... the teachers and a few other classmates/exchange students prepared a little good bye party at the end and I went back to my room after 15min because I just couldn't take the loud noise and all those people telling me to "have FUN" and stop being so quiet and stuff... even the teachers told me the day afterwards that it was rude from me to go away so early. Like, this is not MY definition of fun, it's stressful and physically really exhausting for me and after one week, all I needed was 1 freaking hour to myself! Society is really not made for people like us.
@@scarontop I totally agree that society is made for extroverts, our natural urges and definition of fun is often considered "rude" by other people. By the way, it's funny how you sent this reply two days before my next class trip. Wish me luck!
@@tinobiushecht-4205 Good luck 🥴😅
Totally relate. I can say it’s gotten better as I’ve gotten older. Try being shut up with 40+ girls and women at Basic Military Training (boot camp - Air Force). I thought I was going to literally go crazy from the stress of being around all those people ALL the time. It was horrific.
Introverts were the happiest people on earth during lockdown. O how l loved it
Ong💯😂😂
Same.....
😆😆😂
Yes. Yes.
True😂
Extroverts call it 'struggle'
We call it 'Comfort zone'😂
We talk less and type more😂
🤣
Amazing
Facts
True.... 💯
Relating😶😌😌😌
In fact introvert don't say things to people but say everything they want to say in their mind
It's true .
So true!!
True that.
True
true
I was fired from a job largely for being introverted. It was an office job that required me to be on the phone. It wasn't a lot, but it was enough to give me at least a few panic attacks a week. Couple that with a very extroverted and nosy co-worker who liked to tattle to the boss if she felt someone in the department wasn't doing their job. I was her main target and this got me pulled into my boss's office to see what was going on. I explained how much I hate being on the phone and that if they want me to be a better employee they should transfer me to a department that didn't even have phones on their desk. They fired me instead.
Funny thing is as an introvert I did work in an insurance call center. As I was helping others it gave me the focus to talk on the phone. But otherwise no.
I know your comment has been a year but I just wanted to say that is horrible for the employer to just blatantly fired you for being introverted. I'm in my final year of college and I bet that your experience is what I'm going to face once I got a job. :(
Honestly, I feel like I don't belong here in a place where people are expected to be sociable at all times.
“You feel under-appreciated”
I can relate, the fact that I probably carry the group projects on my back but nobody ever credits me because I get overshadowed by the loud people.
Lol I just work alone if I can. If not then I’ll be to shy to do much or talk much. Once this girl called me lazy for having a idea that I had which was just copy and pasting something which hurt my feelings
But it's probably a good thing to recognize your own hardwork than asking for someone to notice it.
@Fatima Mahafzah Yep! I *hated* group projects in school and how my grade would be based on the whole group when I would've rather done the project myself.
This happened to me so many times that I straight up cut people who wouldn't pull their weight out of the project and let them flail when they realized that the deadline was up and they had nothing to show because I took a hard line approach. I might be introverted but I'm also damn good at being lead on projects because I'll do the work, talk one on one with my team and will not let anyone take advantage of the hard work of those of us who actually made the effort to contribute.
i would love to do a study group, just dont know how, i hate socializing lol
i hate speaking out unnecessarily, especially in places and situations where i know my opinion is not valued but people always mistake it for my low confidence.
hate the stigmas attached to introverts lol-i like my solitude and there's no point in pushing me forth to start a conversation when i simply don't want to, it just triggers my anxiety>\
when you’re an introvert it’s good to learn that if people ignore you, you can ignore them back, give them a taste of their own medicine. the real champs are the ones who ask you “what were you saying again?”. also if you haven’t already mastered this i recommend learning to be comfortable in uncomfortable silence, it’s where we like to be, in our quiet place. if you’re feeling awkward so are they, so it’s just easier to be cool with it
@@reminiscence7555 thanks for the advice , but it's very hard for me to ignore people when u think they r going to talk bad about u when u ignore them.
100% agree
@@reminiscence7555 thanks for the wise words, i'll definitely adapt to this^^
@@yourince7573 no one gets along with everyone, you don’t have to make everyone think you’re a good person. The ones that get to know you are the ones for you, if they just turn away at a first impression they can be ignorant, oblivious, just plain stupid or full of themselves (of course this isn’t always the case). I’ve found that a lot of people that walked in the opposite direction to me befriended my friends and i get to hear from my friends how that person was basically just looking for someone to do all their work. So, people thinking bad about you isn’t the worst thing, as long as you know where you are and you’re ready for self improvement if it gets out of hand (no one ever approaches you).