The fact that the guy in the first story said he offered to hire a sitter so his wife could go out instead of he himself watching the kids is really telling
Literally!! Like he’s the type of dad who refers to watching his own children as “babysitting” (that is, if he were even interested in watching them.. seems like this guy’s only interested in making more 😬)
Also, as someone who was a babysitter years ago, if I was asked to do a job and told they have seven kids in a newborn I would have just said no for safety. Even if I did say yes my rate was ten bucks an hour, 5 for every extra kid, so that would be 40 bucks an hour.
“she makes being a mom her entire personality” because she is the only active parent, dude. + there are so many parents that become friends because they are parents.
also, even 1 child (especially when young) will take up most of your time. like, you have to fucking feed this thing and somehow keep it alive and out of harm. imagine 7!?!?! at some point of having children it WILL become more than two parents can handle. but she does it on her own... and one of them is a newborn baby as well!! WHAT? most parents with a newborn have their lives revolve around the baby... add 6 more kids to the mix, and chores of a 9 people household. how is his wife ALIVE?
@@noface3641 Yep, I have a son who's my only child and my partner is an amazing father yet there are still times where I get frazzled and feel like I have no time to myself. I have no idea how this woman is caring for 7 children plus her man child husband and still pushing through. I would have gone insane omg
Even if she’s a little shy about having social interactions, she CLEARLY doesn’t want the same for all of her kids. She has them involved in very social extracurricular stuff that I doubt the dad has any involvement in at all 💀💀
The fact that she said if she has free time shed catch up on chores just screams that the husband doesnt do them, yet still has time for at least two trips a week
Yeah, I was already thinking what a family neglecting POS at that point, and then the 7 kids came up.. he's a full on family neglecting sociopath POS and a primary example of the people who should not have ever had kids, clearly didn't want them at all.
The Bride and Pebble story it was clarified in another video that the Bride had stated the venue strictly prohibits animals being on site; her brother put her wedding day at risk by bringing Pebble (despite Pebble being undeniably CUTE)
yeah and that fact that she was like ‘some people might be allergic or scared’ and the OP still took pebble (who seemed adorable) to the wedding like what is wrong with OP?!
Also like in the story, OP did say some people were annoyed and tried to talk to the staff about it. I would want everyone attending my wedding to be happy and not annoyed nor do I want them to remember my wedding as the raccoon wedding or something else (even tho Pebble really is cute I still want everyone to be comfortable because not everyone would see Pebble as cute)
As someone who has a raccoon, they are not an animal to bring out to a WEDDING of all places. Like don’t get me wrong, my raccoon ain’t mean, in any way, but that don’t mean he hasn’t ripped all the stuffing out of a couch cushion and turned it into his bed. But that is his couch 😂and we have stuffed the cushion and stitched it many times, he just undoes it again. He doesn’t destroy anything else tho. He just wants to be inside that cushion. He also uses a litterbox like a cat😂😂. He’s almost a year old now. (We found him and another male in a ditch after a storm, no momma in sight, the other one sadly didn’t make it through the night😢
Yeah, being a married single mom is just an extra stress no one needs. I hope she meets someone who actually loves and cares for her one day and leaves this ah.
@MamaWuf how does letting her kids play sports and have tutoring makes them "spoiled brats". It isn't the kids taking the mom for granted it's her inconsiderate husband who except her to watch the kids, do chores, and have time to socialize.
The coffee one: the whole “anger is unproductive and I’m level headed therefore I’m being reasonable” is SUCH a red flag. A key component in a lot of toxic behavior is being super calm in tone while saying ridiculous things, and then blaming the other for being visibly angry about said ridiculous things. Being able to stay calm is a good thing in a lot of circumstances, but the way he said that just radiated a need to control arguments.
@@constitutionalli7522 bro I have cluster b personality disorder and i'm the one who usually gets angry. nice one implying all people with personality disorder that are all caused by abuse are automatically toxic people. cluster b people are the ones who usually get angry, we have bad emotional regulation. if they're able to stay chill in an argument they're probably not cluster b, the mental illness cluster notable for its lack of chill
@@thepineapplegal9099 okay, did they actually have a cluster b personality disorder or are they just an asshole and to you that meant they obviously must had this mental illness that's caused by trauma and really awful to have, because you think everybody who has the bad mental illnesses is an evil asshole by default? even if he did being a bad person isn't a symptom of any mental illness, it's really shitty to go "this one bad person has a mental illness therefore everybody who has it is a bad toxic persona automatically"
Just wanna mention that they didn’t notice he said “get a babysitter” on the first story. He didn’t even want to do it himself, he just HAD to PAY someone so his wife has more time…
@@soupy_soup2 Everything he said screams "I never wanted kids, and don't care about them". The trips, the disinterest in hearing about their lives, the babysitter, the whole idea of having his wife spend more time neglecting their kids to spend on her own life. Every time the kids came up, it was in a way showing how little he cared about the family.
@@gigimarie6465 and it teaches them that any sad moment should affect them for the rest of their lives, to never let go of the death of a relative that these kids probably didn't even know
It’s not the uncles fault. The parents are the one who decided that birthdays could never be celebrated again. I can almost guarantee you the uncle would be furious if he knew they forbade birthday parties
Exactly. I would think as parents that they'd want their son to not be forgotten, but there has got to be a healthier way to remember him than taking birthdays away from future generations. It sounds like they're focusing on his death rather than his life.
I’m stuck on the sister saying “you’re no longer my brother” and then him saying Pebble was more family than she was…sounds like they have much deeper family issues than a raccoon
i wonder if the brother uses social media a little too much… especially since he’s exhibiting behavior so completely detached from reality. who genuinely expects they’ll be able to hide at a raccoon at a wedding? and then make zero effort to obscure what you’re trying to hide? i’d also guess this has been a repeated behavior from the brother towards his sister, based on how she reacted. i don’t have siblings, but i feel like going as low as saying your raccoon > sibling isn’t something you jump to without some sort of build-up. maybe she’s the older sister who was parentified and had to grow up dealing with his antics.
@thaloblue I don't know about the sister having a screw loose. We don't know how inconsiderate he has been before but considering this he has definitely done many things before. He sounds autistic as can be.
Shane said this a while ago " People who say they're brutally honest. They do it to be brutal" That 42 yr old depressed woman was trying to bring down her SIL. I hope that SIL lives her life and stays happy.
My initial thoughts after that story was literally "this woman is a bitter b*tch who needs to cut others down to feel better about herself". Don't compare yourself to other people and you will be 100x happier.
She's miserable 😂 & not enjoying her life, Mom or not Side Note: I was once told that I needed to grow up by a single kid-less, unhappy friend (I'm a Mom with a social life) Same friend now has a dog that she needed a break from within 3 days 😂😂 Unhappy is a state of mind, not matter what's on your plate
It's better to regret NOT having kids than to regret HAVING kids. Some people need to understand that kids aren't toys or just something cute to have. They're huge responsibilities that need to be cherished and taken seriously.
One thing i have to mention about the story woth "sarah" losing her job cus of op, he mentions his friend is a gossip. He knows what he did. He is manipulating her. His clear speech at the beginning goes to show how much he knows she loves her job, then INTENTIONALLY spread it to his friend who HE KNOWS is a gossip. This screams to me manipulation and power play. Very much a "well, you cant leave me now that you're worth less than me" vibe.
See, that's how I saw it ESPECIALLY after he said she has nothing if she breaks up with him. He said he feels obligated to help her which can very much show that he will be treating it as an inconvenience and possibly even hold this over her head in order to continue controlling her. He says he takes all accountability now, but some great manipulators (I think this story proves he very well could be one) know how to easily switch it right back around to "actually this was your fault because you didn't have a backup plan in case your job found those photos and now I have to take care of you". I say this having experience from past relationships where partners have treated me that exact same way except instead of financially ruining things for me, they would do little things to pick away at my mental health over the course of the relationship before treating me like a burden for needing mental help. This seems very similar in a financial case.
thinking about it from this perspective also makes the fact he said they're considering moving to another state a little scary, who's to say he's not just trying to isolate her from friends and family?
Story 2: she is so clearly NOT “looking out” for SIL. She’s envious because she didn’t take care of herself in the same way at her age and she’s terrified that SIL is going to be happier in life than she is because of it.
Yeah and five steps is not that much for a skincare routine. I’m assuming the SIL double cleanses, so that’s just two products right there, and then you have moisturizer and sunscreen. That only leaves one product. Maybe a serum or something. Or even an exfoliatior once a week. It’s not that much. Nor does it have to be expensive. There are so many affordable products that this is just a complete non issue.
you know what the best part is? if the person in question saw this video and heard all the things that shayne ian and arasha said they would be fuming like "thats not true! that wasnt what i meant!" and cant do anything about it and just accept the roasts in short shes just a karen that cant accept the fact that her sister in law is living a better life than she does
Forreal. It’s not like following Tik tok trends is dangerous or something lol. (Well honestly it depends on the trend 😂) but the stuff this person is described is in no way dangerous or harmful
I don't even have kids and I was seeing red. Him and coffee guy must be buddies because they're such big man children. If he said that he made everyone healthy and tasty lunches once he got home, a 3 nights a week took the kids to the non-performance events, the music practice, soccer practice, etc, because hopefully the whole family will go to the games and recitals together, etc he might not seem as bad, but he sounds like he hit 18 said, "Welp, I'm an adult now. Time to do what I wanna do! Everyone else is a loser with no personality!" I question if he even keeps track of the names and birthdays of all of those kids without the help of his phone or laptop. He had them listed by age and letter. How disrespectful to both his wife and the kids. It doesn't sound like she wanted that many kids, so are they Catholics, or is it his morals? We have so many ways to prevent pregnancy these days and it's prevention, not termination, so seriously. Stop. He's still living the bachelor life and is let his wife grow up and do the "hard stuff". Do I think parents should have lives beyond just being parents? Yes, they're still people, but it shouldn't interfere in their parental duties, for either of them. She's burning out and he's hanging out. It doesn't sound like he cares about the kids, or his wife for that matter. "All you do is parent! You're lame!" Why on this blue marble is he still in their relationship? Obligations? Religious beliefs? I just don't understand....
Tempted to show this to my grandma. She would be fuming! She was one of 7 siblings with a father who was actually really active. But neither her or her siblings ever wanted more than 1- 2 kids. Even with both parents helping 7 is still a lot. 😬
Ian saying that he doesn’t care what people did before their current job just shows how great of a boss he is. He respects everyone and their life beyond or before smosh
@@sourwitch2340 oh so true. i think he’s a great example of how a boss can create a warm, comfortable and fun work environment. i know with the old company they felt forced to do a lot and it was really stressful. i think its much better now
For the Pebble story, it was clarified later elsewhere that the wedding venue was completely animal-free. Thus OP actually put his sister's whole wedding at risk of being kicked out by bringing Pebble (no matter how cute) to the venue against her wishes, on top of her frankly reasonable concerns of possible allergic reactions/guests being unnerved. He really should have communicated the sitter issue and I don't know much about owning racoons, but the fact that OP didn't leave Pebble alone for a few hours despite claiming Pebble is so well-trained makes me suspicious if this is about being *unable* to leave Pebble alone or just him not *wanting* to leave Pebble alone.
My cousin owns a pet raccoon and it is a necessity to keep an eye on him at all times as a raccoon gets very board and lonely and will just claw through walls and furniture to entertain itself. HOWEVER, my cousin has a designated system of raccoon watchers including some of his roommates so while leaving pebble at home would not be a good option, it's still OP's fault that he doesn't have a way to keep pebble at home.
thank you!! like yeah i get pebbles cute & it seems fun but that doesn’t make op any less of an asshole. even if animals were allowed, his sister not wanting a pet there let alone a raccoon is non negotiable, it’s her damn wedding lmao
I agree but personally I believe she overreacted by saying he was no longer her brother. She literally could have said animals are not allowed by the venue. That should have been enough. Him saying he sees his racoon as a family member more than her felt more of a response to her saying that to him. I don't think he was the asshole in the story just maybe an idiot.
The birthday story feels like the plot of coco. Except instead of the Grandma screaming "NO MUSIC" at a mariachi band Its her yelling across the street at a 10 year olds birthday party "NO BIRTHDAYS"
@@RappingChipmunk The situation is messed up. But trauma?? Babyyyy that is still noooot how that word works 😭 I beg of you all, please stop using psychology terms as sentence enhancers.
@@RaeDSJ8512what are you talking about? It started from the death of the 17-year-old brother on his birthday. Sure maybe after the parents die everyone will go back to celebrating birthdays, but still. Also, the guy with the glasses made the joke
Having a racoon in a bowtie on a leash at a wedding would 100% take attention away from the couple. NEVER do anything at a wedding that takes attention away from the couple. The bride may have reacted a big strongly, both parties said things they regret, but she was 100% right to be upset about it.
I totally agree. How could anyone not notice that? Honestly, I get the bride being mad because it takes attention away from their special day (since that shit is adorable af-I mean, raccoon in a bow tie? Amazing). They both overreacted and said shit they shouldn’t have. I think the brother could have tried to find another way. I mean, there are pet hotels and stuff like that and he should probably have a way to keep the raccoon at home. I know that I have two dogs and I have lists of potential people to call if I need someone to house sit and be with them but I also know that they won’t wreck havoc if they had to be left alone for a couple of hours and I don’t know if this guy can do that since he literally brings the raccoon everywhere
Tbh I would of been so happy as a bride to get a raccoon dressed up for my wedding. But I get why she's pissed off, cuz he didn't listen to her and exactly what she worried would happen, did happen. I would of forced my brother to put on a little talent show so I now have an excuse as to why he's there with a normally wild animal and to calm people down. I'm sure if they thought it was a trainer and his trained pet doing some performance for the wedding, like handing them their rings or something, a lot less people would of been angry. Like ok, now you made this a problem on my day, now you get to embarrass yourself like you embarrassed me so that people don't run from my wedding terrified. I would of been its Rocket from GOTG and he's here to hand us our rings. Give the raccoon a bubble gun and say it's Rocket. I wouldn't have disowned my brother over it, or made him leave. This did not have to ruin her wedding or take the spotlight off of her. She could of been like "Oh, the raccoon, well he's here for me on my day to hand us our rings and do tricks for us." If anything I'd make him put the raccoon in his car until the wedding was over.
I would say that the "She would have nothing if she broke up with me" line in the 3rd story might be OPs own fear and guilt talking. He feels responsible for her losing her job so he might be scared for her if she did break up with him.
Agreed, him feeling responsible over what happened. Even though had she not taken the pictures to begin with it wouldn’t have happened. He wasn’t right but she can’t ONLY blame him. It’s her own fault too.
It's funny how the second lady said the SIL doesn't have an original thought in her life, like getting married and having kids it's the most original shit to do with your life 😂😂
Well, I guess by “original” she means “the original thought that people used to have in the olden days, before we started thinking all DIFFERENT omg how dare you” lmao
The thing with Pebble: He sounds adorable and the vision of him in a bowtie is making me melt, but I wouldn't even let people's dogs at my wedding unless they were service dogs.
The problem is also that the owner was more focused on him missing his sisters wedding not her experience of her wedding. It is giving main character vibes where you think you are the most important part of everything, even when it is something like their wedding where your presence obviously are not the most important one
I think she was an asshole about it tho, shane and gang saying him saying pebble is more of a family to me while the sister just disowned him as a brother. He shouldve called her tho saying the sitter cant make it so either pebbles comes with or ill stay at home.
My question is how does this man exist and work if his racoon can't be left alone for any period of time? Like does he have to take the racoon to his dentist appointment? Does Pebble go on his dates? I'm glad he's trained and nice but there are just places not meant for pets and you don't always have a sitter. It's just concerning that Pebble can't be without a human at all. My cousin had a racoon and he was lovely but she built a large enclosure for him filled with toys and treat filled puzzles for when she had to leave him at home.
@@katrinascarlet5637 he would have to stay over for a few days, its not just a dentist appointment, they booked a hotel for guests so he would need someone to come over to feed it or whatever.
My favorite thing about Shane hosting this is you can see little glimpses of his Psychology degree coming out. Coming from someone currently studying psych, its really fun to see him go therapist mode lol
As a person with a psych degree but not in the field (😭). I enjoy it, as well. It's neat he is using his knowledge even if it isn't in a normal way to go about it. Lol, for me I feel like I only get to use my degree for my friends and anxious coworkers.
The parents who lost their son and decided that they don't celebrate birthdays anymore are the biggest assholes in that story. They have trapped everyone in the family in their grief. They won't allow themselves to grieve and move one from their loss, so they have trapped everyone in the family in their inability to move on. Ian said it perfectly. This is how generational trauma is started. Because the parents experienced this huge trauma and never let themselves process it in a healthy way, they have passed on the trauma to their children and grandchildren. I pray the OP sides with her husband in the situation and they break the trauma cycle together.
My dad died on Christmas Day when I was a teenager. Christmas is the hardest part of the year for my family. But my siblings and I grew up, got married, had kids. My mum and us would never force that shit on our families. I’ve got nieces and nephews that we all adore and it makes us want to make Christmas extra special for them.
my grandmother on my mother's side and I share a birthday. she passed a few weeks before I turned 3 and every year my family reminds me how we share a birthday and they say I have a guardian angel watching over me. What my family is doing is normal. what those parents are doing prove that they need some form of therapy.
I heard the first story and still though he was an idiot, but I didn't know about the 7 kids from 15 to infant... lord bless her soul she deserves so much more
but i was surprised when arasha said 7 is the ceiling number for her too. Ian and shayne shared my surprise it seemed lol but they were respectful about it
I thought they maybe had a couple kids of school going age. In which case maybe they were both working and sharing household duties but he was also doing this after hours ( some of it work related ) and she just preferred to stay in. But with 7 kids including a newborn there's no way one of them could be doing socialization 3 times a week and still contribute an equal amount.
@@misterkayy no literally😭 2 is my max with an exception for 3 if the second pregnancy makes twins like. Being a sibling of 3 I can attest it is not easy, there aren't enough hours and dollars, and even being only 3 years older than my youngest sibling i was still the mini-mom
We lost our dad on Christmas Eve. We still went through with Christmas morning for our kids. It was sad and so hard but we didn’t want the kids to associate Christmas with sadness. We did our best to follow through with tradition.
Maybe don’t make basically naked pictures if you’re planning on being a teacher. If this didn’t happen then one of her students would have found it which would be arguably worse
@@greysongotzmer4126 oh yeah, you're right. She should've "totally" foreseen this change of career. Or, better yet, she should've gone back in time to make sure she didn't do that sort of work so her photos wouldn't have gotten online in the first place Honestly, get bent
For me it's the "ugh she talks so much about the children it annoys me, I can't imagine how annoying it is to others". Like can you imagine your own father says that about you?
No thought to maybe since he's going out two nights a week an every weekend to do his socialization that that's maybe why she doesn't get a chance to do the same? What a neglectful, oblivious ahole.
The first story is a prime example of weaponized incompetence. He knows the reality of what work his wife has to do, he's just WILLFULLY oblivious to avoid doing the work himself.
There should like an adult egg hunt, where it's just a bunch of 30 year-olds in a park looking for easter eggs. The objective is not to have fun, the objective is to absolutely crush the competition. And if someone is standing between you and an egg, you can tackle them
we do that now that my siblings and i have gotten older, my brother is the youngest at 15, and we go all out, sprinting around the yard and everything. we always do it at my grandparents farm, so there’s so many hilarious hiding spots, especially when some people had had a couple drinks beforehand every year. The fun doesn’t have to stop when the kids grow up 😂
What really bothers me about the “my wife has no friends” guys is that he said he would get a sitter so she can do stuff. THEY HAVE SEVEN KIDS. WHO IS GOING TO BABYSIT FOR THEM? Getting a babysitter you trust is hard enough but one that would take on SEVEN KIDS?????
To Ian’s point “teachers don’t get paid $h!t”, there has been a national teacher shortage since I was in college studying secondary ed almost 10 years ago. The fact that school boards and districts are so willing to fire good, or even mediocre, teachers over something that happened prior to their teaching career and hasn’t impacted their current professionalism astounds me.
There was an actress in a Friday the 13th movie who got fired from two different teaching jobs because of the nudity in the movie which she was in before she even became a teacher
Parents are the absolute worse. The amount of arrogance they have towards professionals who have literally studied to do what they do is mind boggling. You aren't an expert just cause you had sex once
Not always. In my workplace, the woman running our payroll has an embezzlement felony from when she previously worked at a school in the early 2000s. Stole over $40,000 from their athletics program. This is public record, but she’s still running our money. And our entire company is shorted, from staff to office employees. Wonder why.
@@anenemystand5582 Parents know their own children way better than teachers do. And people from all walks of life become parents. My teachers kept trying to lord over their teaching degrees on my parents even though my dad was an ex-teacher. Plus trying to lecture him about how I was doing math wrong when he had a math degree and was telling them what I was doing was mathematically sound. The amount of sheer utter incompetence I've seen from teachers is astounding, and they *always* seem to think they know better than any parent no matter the parent's background. This attitude is why I'm homeschooling my kid. Instead of firing teachers for random irrelevant stuff like a riske alt account on Instagram, they should be firing teachers for bullying kids and teaching subjects they don't understand and have no interest in learning about. But instead we have people who cheated their way through an Education degree thinking they can lecture a mathematician about math because they're the teacher and therefore they know everything.
"I have kids, I don't have time to worry about wrinkles and aging" But you have enough time to worry about how someone else is living their life? From: My SIL Needs to Grow Up 7:52
It's sad because it shouldn't. Good men who support and love their families and actually put the work in should be the norm, not the exception. But, alas, we live in a world with the dude from story 1, so let's keep praising these men until they become the norm.
@@khaleesireyna731 go out more rather than being on your bed and watching tiktok and RUclips all day. That is definitely the norm not the exception. It feels like people learn one thing from some comment section and vomit that on the other.
@Swatik I mean, I was citing both my own personal experience with watching men not picking up the slack, as well as several commenters' experiences, but yeah, it's definitely because I watch too much tiktok and not at all to do with familial expectations of men vs. women. Ya got me!
it was only mentioned briefly, but i really appreciate that shayne said that teachers are held to such high standards, yet they are paid horribly. as someone who is going into teaching, i feel heard lmao
And with parents letting their kids get brought up by smart devices and the internet from a younger and younger age, this job isn't going to get any easier hahaha. We had a teacher strike in my country last year that went on for months (the government eventually had to step in because neither side was budging), and me looking to get into music pedagogy was just sitting there like "hoo boy 👀"
I don't even know what a teacher is supposed to be nowadays. Veteran teachers quitting earlier than their pension years, ever changing education systems and bullshit filler works that doesn't even contribute to our pay raise. I'm just sitting here trying to study being an English teacher and I'm afraid to be one because goddamn if a teacher job could ever be easier.
My favorite part of this series is that no one is playing a character or anything, just being genuine and reacting genuinely to these stories, showing how they are in real life outside of acting.
It's such a fascinating look into their unique psychology. Shayne comes across so thoughtful and chill; Ian comes across so responsible but hilarious?! He gives off major Dad vibes. 😂 Arasha here comes across sincerely thoughtful and kind. What happened to the queen of lies?! But I do love watching the Character slip revealing she's legit a sweet, cool person. 😊
Yess it’s such a good mix of the funny, chaotic stories and the cast’s meaningful, smart responses, and it’s a simple video concept but it can be done an endless amount of times and still be super entertaining and new each time :))
1st story: 2:13 I legit did a Maria von Trapp "Seven Children?!" when I heard the story... Dude's a neglectful dad and should be ashamed of himself for not appreciating how his wife is essentially fulfilling his duty as a father for him...
@@dragonrider9051 At first I thought it was fake, but then I realized that this guy is probably filthy rich, and thus is extremely out of touch with the people around him.
The whole lingerie/teacher thing: the school should be sued for wrongful termination. Teachers have lives outside of school, and by the sound of it, it was a long time ago BEFORE she got serious about teaching. Teachers are already treated so horribly without being fired for past work they did.
Agreed. The boyfriend obviously didn’t help, but the real issue is that the school actually fired her for it. This is why we need unions. Protect the teachers. We don’t want to end up with the worst people doing such an important job.
@@MissCaraMint yeah if anything the school is the asshole in this situation, the boyfriend was just incredibly stupid and rash from what it sounds like.
The thing is if he was having trouble getting a raccoon-sitter, he should've messaged his sister before going to the wedding and ask for the permission again and apologize
Yeah, but realistically, if i saw a raccoon at a wedding in a bow tie, and i can pet that raccoon, that’s the beat wedding ever. They get swans for weddings, and those things are way fucking scarier. I think she overreacted, but also it’s her wedding, so that’s all moot; just fuck those pointing and whispering bastards. I would of just assumed they hired them.
@@conwaytwittyer2667Yes, but the bride paid 6000$ for her dress and that raccoon in a 2$ bowtie would overshadow that. 😅 But seriously, it would become the "raccoon wedding" and not "X and Y wedding". I think is also what she felt.
Facts, specially when the "father" doesn't come around and when he does only talk trash about their mother, while smoking some "hard" substance Infront of you..... Damn guess I'm letting y'all know my life, where as my mother would only say the actual facts that were bad about my father and never trash talked him to me
my boyfriend recently passed away and i'm still very sad about it occasionally (very very recent, only a couple weeks ago) but i can't imagine living in grief like that and bringing onto my family. in fact i do everything i can to remember him happily, i dyed my hair purple because it was his favorite color and named my new kitten after his specific favorite color (orchid is her name, orchid purple!). i don't want to live in sadness because of his death, i want to live to remember all the good things about him. i love dyeing my hair and if i get to dye it his favorite color that's just so special to me.
The birthday one made me so mad. The emotional manipulation of that mother made me wish she never got to see her kids again. "you celebrated your daughters birthday so your brother meant nothing" is an absolute garbage human being stayement.
Literally. I understand losing someone is hard, but they could have done so many other things to commemorate him without harming and judging the rest of the family.
Love how whenever Ian appears he can be the most sarcastic clown one second and then drops a cold, focused, experience-based truthbomb that hits the nail on the head. Like, this is someone who has been in the game for such a long time, they just know their stuff, but dont feel the need to show it off all the time.
i love when he's in the 'reading reddit stories' videos, since he's one of the older members in smosh & an online personality for like two decades so he's seen & lived some stuff which means we sometimes get funny comments & sometimes valuable insights
I agree with all the above replies! She’s such a wildcard…thought she was gonna go full on “funny lying arasha mode” here but all her reactions were serious in a thoughtful way. Def looking forward to more
I love the ongoing joke of Arasha and the others calling Ian Daddy/Father because it inevitably means every variation of his "Kids" in the Let's Do This episodes are their siblings (like Snack Nicholson and Pack Nicholson)
The coffee story has me absolutely livid. The "grown man" works from home with time to get up and make coffee whenever needed. She wakes up EARLY incoperating time to make him breakfast and coffee every single morning and still having to go to work. That is a huge sign of love and care for him. Telling her that she doesnt care enough because the coffee is too hot for a few minutes is the biggest sign of manipulation I have ever seen. Poor girl needs to run
Starve him. That will teach him. Someone's clearly spoiled rotten about their DAILY prepared breakfast as soon as they wake up. So he can have nothing.
Right? I work from home and my situation is this: My boyfriend gets up early in order to get ready and head to work. It’s my choice to wake up with him and make him lunch and breakfast for the day and I always make him his (and my own) coffee. He knows it’s hot sometimes but he always drinks it later and doesn’t mind. He never complains even on those days when I’m too tired to get up and make him food. He just pats me on the head and tells me he loves me and goes on his way. Talk about a true legend. ❤
Seriously that’s the part that pisses me off. She already wakes up 2 hours before him so that she can make him breakfast. She’s setting aside 20+ minutes of her day so that this guy will wake up to the smell of bacon and start his day off with a hot breakfast, easily one of the best things ever, and he’s claiming she doesn’t care about him for changing her already tight schedule so the dude doesn’t have to wait 5-10 minutes for his coffee to cool down. Literally all he’d have to do is wake up 10-20 minutes earlier, or throw some ice cubes in, or stick the coffee in the fridge for a couple minutes, or literally just wait until after he’s finished breakfast with juice or water before he gets started on the coffee. There’s so many easy solutions to this “problem” and he’s claiming that she’s the uncaring one for only making his morning 95% perfect instead of flawless.
On the subject of the Teacher story, my mom is a para educator and no, going to the board before wouldn't have helped a thing. She would have been fired on the spot. The teaching industry doesn't allow teachers to be NORMAL PEOPLE. They can't even go out for drinks with friends or swear in public without running the risk of losing their job.
I see comments blaming the teacher for there being "sensitive" pictures of herself online. Even if someone from the school should "stumble across" those photos, that means they were looking at exposing photos online, that should be addressed, and not blamed on or shaming the person in the photos.
When I was doing my student teaching in undergrad my cooperating teacher said “teachers don’t get the same freedom of speech as everyone else” and it is so true. All my socials are private and I constantly feel the need to keep my fun, adult life offline. It’s ridiculous.
I believe this would be a prime case for a wrongful termination lawsuit. It's the epitome of judging someone based off the actions in their past, which was perfectly lawful. It seems pretty clear cut, unless there was something in a contract, but even then, it was in the past as a private citizen
One of my closest cousins had his wedding recently, and we were told, they wanted it to be a kid-free wedding. Me and my wife have two children, and we were not making the trip without them, as no one has met my youngest yet. But it is THEIR wedding. THEIR day. Instead of not listening and bring them in BowTies and a cage with food and toys in the corner, we just DIDNT GO. My Aunt did call me during the Reception and I got to give a small speech through her phone, through the loudspeakers. So that was really cool.
Yeah but OP is miserable so no one else can be happy. Whats hugely telling is how she keeps reiterating the other woman's age and the fact that she doesn't have kids. Just sounds like envy to me. Nothing the other lady was taking off TikTok seemed negative at all.
The first story truly made me see red. Oh my god. That poor woman must be exhausted. But also imagune what brilliant managing skills she has to pull all that off. What a mind she has to have. And that good for nothing dares to insult her and being smug about how he thinks he's better than her.
RIGHT!! he says being a mom is her whole personality, when it's basically her full time job! ive had to take care of my nieces and nephew before, and i was stressed out by 3 toddlers who weren't even my kids. i can't IMAGINE the stress she's under with 7 kids, including a toddler and a newborn!
44:15 what's killing me is they forgot the this guy works from FREAKIN HOME and his GF drives to work. If anything he can get up and make his own coffee and breakfast for her she so she can sleep a bit longer
@@lisak603 It’s more common than people think and it’s scary. Some people genuinely believe the way to fix a shitty relationship is marriage and children. Every couple I’ve seen with this mindset were still toxic, if not to each other then their children.
The guy who ruined his gf’s career as a teacher blamed his friend for being a gossip, right after explaining how he spread the gossip about his gf to his friends. He’s the gossip in his friend group.
Also, I don't believe he did anything accidentally. It sounds like he knew that if she lost her job, she'd be financially dependant on him, and he possibly wanted that because she was already thinking of breaking up with him? Just a thought. Something very suspicious about his version of the story, and him choosing to tell the "gossip" who immediately got in touch with her school? What kind of friend would do that to this guy's girlfriend if he hadn't asked them to?
and why is he showing them that account anyways? i would never in my life voluntarily show my friends naked and scantily clad pics of my gf and tell them the exact account they could find it at, especially if it was behind her back. like im all for venting to your friends but the existence of this page isn’t something to tell the boys about, doubly so knowing one of them can’t keep a secret for shit (like how’d he even know someone at the school to tell?). and it’s common sense this type of stuff puts her job at risk and she told him that as well, so why tell anyone even ignoring the first point? just careless and he’s lucky she still stayed with him.
as the oldest of 5 the first story got me. i’ve seen my mom beyond exhausted caring for all of us with little help from our dad. The fact that she has 7 kids including a newborn which is incredibly draining with just one and still juggles taking her other kids to their activities is absolutely amazing
The number of mothers who have useless spouses and the number of people growing up watching their fathers be useless is absolutely disgusting. Like that in itself should be considered generational trauma. Build a brighter future for our children: start mocking and calling out useless men where ever you see 'em!
I feel like this is going to be my sister. She has one baby and wants more and keeps talking about the "next one". Meanwhile my BIL doesn't do anything around the house and she works full-time and brings most of the income in. I've tried to talk to her but she's too blinded by love and will probably just keep complaining about how tired she is while having more and more kids with him.
and somehow all her insanely shitty HUSBAND got away from all this is "get a life loser"... insane that just from his point of view we all are like "she is amazing.." and he somehow STILL found the one "flaw". some men I swear... makes you wonder if any of them are breedable
The way i see the whole pebble situation is I love my dogs, theyre 100% part of the family. I would not bring them to someone's wedding especially not a family member's wedding
I always love the moments before Shayne reads the story, where the 2 members faces are neutral, and then when the camera cuts back to them after diving into the story, the members’ faces are just 😧😧
I think Easter egg woman could repair the relationship with her neighbors on Halloween this year. Be the house that gives out full sized candy bars or that makes full-blown treat bags. You’ll quickly become a favorite among the kids and the parents will more than likely get on board too.
honestly if she really wanted to be self aware and repair things she could do treat bags with a single Easter egg in each and a little note in the eggs saying “hope this makes up for easter - OP, egg enthusiast”
The birthday story highkey reminded me of the movie Coco. Where his ancestors were traumatized over a music related death in the family and just banned music to cope, for several generations. Essentially what this family wanted to do with birthdays.
The "brutally honest" lady was me about 10 years ago. The fact of the matter is that being honest in that way, for me, was almost always just an excuse for me to not try to think through how I could word what I wanted to say in a way that was considerate of other people's feelings. The fact that her take away was that she shouldn't have been honest about her opinion is exactly the kind of petty response I would have had back then. Being quick to provide an opinion is not the same as being helpful with one's opinions. Carefully crafting a response, especially when you're delivering a message that may not be received well, is much more valuable.
This is true, but I believe that she should have absolutely kept that opinion to herself and maybe only said it out loud in the shower or something where no one would hear her. The lady deciding not to have kids has absolutely zero effect on the super judgy mom or anyone else for that matter.
This: the biggest problem with what people think of as “brutal” honesty is they aren’t putting in the effort to think about how to actually be helpful with their words.
I’m 22 with 2 older sisters in their 20s who are mothers.We still do an egg hunt and my parents have started putting money in the eggs. Things get violent. It’s something we look forward to all year
This sounds awesome. This makes me wish I had siblings to do Easter egg hunters like this and also throw an amazon gift card in a couple! Random wish a few dollars and a couple with gift cards or something so you never know what you'll find lol
We did easter egg hunts until I was like 25 lmao, but we made longer ones where all the (now adult) kids would hunt together through town where eggs would be hidden. It was fun! Basically an excuse to go on walks haha.
The birthday celebration thing hit too close to home for me. My mom had been fighting cancer for about 5 years and unfortunately losing the battle. I had to call my brother on his birthday to tell him that he must come ASAP if he wanted to see her one last time before her passing. He lives in a different country. He took the first flight of course but I bet it was hard for him that I had to call him on his birthday about that. Well. The next month she passed away. On my nephews 13th birthday. Aaaand to round it up, her funeral was on my dads birthday. That was 4 years ago. My nephew had his 17th birthday (it was this Sunday) and instead of having a party with his friends he went to light a candle on his grandmothers grave. Birthdays are hard in my family....
Another sinister thing about the first one...she's probably in need of emotional support, and he's picked up on that, and HIS SOLUTION is to ALSO pawn off her emotional needs on these hypothetical friends. Nowhere in here did she ask "Why don't I have friends?!" So I definitely imagine her one day being really stressed out and needing a shoulder to cry on and he was like "Damn you need friends" cause he didn't want to deal with it.
@sliceofsparta8985 Right lol. I imagined she was doing the crate challenge and eating spoonfuls of cinnamon. Lol she's taking care of herself not smoking weed with 16 yr olds skaters under a bridge. 😂
there are 2 types of guys: the guy who suggests hiring a sitter to look after his 7 children so his wife can have a break instead of looking after them himself, and the guy who LOVES football and has it as a major theme in his life but watches the kids so that his wife can go out with her friends
Learning Children Psychology in college and hearing that birthday story makes me wants to scream so bad. Like, do they know the implications for their child in the long run? When their daughters go to school, guess who's the only ones that doesn't get a birthday party? Guess who gets invited to other kid's birthday party but will never get a birthday party of their own to invite their friends to? That is so much isolation from not having experiences like her peers, being the social outcast at the age where it is ABSOLUTELY PARAMOUNT that children have this social interaction because that's where children learns the most in their early years. I get that the OP's family is grieving, but to deny any other children in the family to properly grow and expand their knowledge as children, hell, just simply being children and having normal birthday party is straight up abuse. I get that you had a shit time, but just because you suffered doesn't mean you get to make other people's life shit too.
For the second story: Dude, I'm 35, in a committed 12 year relationship with two kids, and I do ALL the things to take care of myself and be a good mom. I have a skin care routine. I learn all kinds of cool artsy stuff from RUclips cuz that's my jam. Like, you CAN do both. It's all about choices. OP for second story is projecting and jealousy is just coursing through their veins. I hope the SIL keeps doing her thing and living her best life. Being in your 30s, with or without kids, doesn't mean you're dead!
Like, I have a 5-step skincare routine too. I wash my face twice. Then apply two serums and a sunscreen. It's not that deep. Lmfao These people are wild.
In regards to the first story...if the husband is so adamant about the wife finding friends and not being so focused on the kids, then why doesn't he get his ass into gear and do his job as a dad to pick up some of the work???
Why not start inviting coworkers and their missus' around to try and spark a friendship? I'd be widening my social circle to include her rather than forcing her to make her own.
With how new Arasha is i think this series gives great credit into who she is as a person. Her reactions are unexpected and thus more enjoyable. Would like to see this more with both the cast and crew
With the family who lost their brother and won't celebrate birthdays, they don't realize how important it is for a baby to live through its first year. If a newborn baby gets sick or anything whatsoever, it's incredibly scary.
Easter story: I think a good idea going forward would be for OP and her partner to buy Easter eggs/candy, and have the partner hide them around and OP looks for them.
I have to keep stopping while Shayne is reading the coffee one. "I only got a LITTLE annoyed". "Why can't she skip working out to make my coffee and breakfast earlier?" This one better end with the girlfriend dumping him or lighting him on fire.
"She doesn't care about me enough to make my coffee not as hot" she is literally making him breakfast and coffee while his ungrateful ass lays in bed! How does he not hear himself?! He should be getting nothing!
exactly. that is a GROWN man who's basically crying that his girlfriend cut the crust off his sandwiches :(. that's a manchild if i've ever seen one. he doesnt even see her as anything but a maid that's just there to tend to HIS needs specifically
I like how the first story builds up with every piece of information. First I was like "he could phrase ot differently, but it seems he cares about his wives social life". And then it just gets worse and worse to the point where he complains about his wife telling him too much about what his own 7 children are up to. I always try to not judge people to quickly, but damn. If you don't care about your children, maybe don't make 7 of them?
I have to say, I had no idea how Arasha would go in Reddit Stories (just because it's the first one), but she's absolutely god tier and it was brilliant listening to her considered and reasoned opinions, she's eloquent and thoughtful and she bounced off both Shayne and Ian SO well. I love all the new cast members so much, and I'm looking forward to seeing Arasha in Reddit stories again, I think she'd be great for the more controversial ones, because you can see she's thinking things through, and has a great reservoir of compassion and understanding. Absolutely top tier episode folks!
My brother passed away two days after his birthday, a year ago. We celebrated him in the hospital, surrounded by the people who loved him. This year we threw him a party. We invited those same people back, got his favorite cake, and sang the birthday song together in his memory. It was beautiful and enriching to see all of the people who loved him come back a year later to show how much they still care. I'm sad that family could not see the brother's birthday as a reason to continue celebrating his memory even after he was gone.
Any kids that never even met the deceased uncle they are going to grow up to dislike his memory "because of him i don't get birthdays" and they'll never understand**
The fact that the guy in the first story said he offered to hire a sitter so his wife could go out instead of he himself watching the kids is really telling
That's the first thing I noticed.
Literally!! Like he’s the type of dad who refers to watching his own children as “babysitting” (that is, if he were even interested in watching them.. seems like this guy’s only interested in making more 😬)
Also, as someone who was a babysitter years ago, if I was asked to do a job and told they have seven kids in a newborn I would have just said no for safety. Even if I did say yes my rate was ten bucks an hour, 5 for every extra kid, so that would be 40 bucks an hour.
@@MegDoesStuff0 nik kk mom m
Is it armchair?
“she makes being a mom her entire personality” because she is the only active parent, dude. + there are so many parents that become friends because they are parents.
Yeah doesn’t sound like it’s a choice for her because of him not taking on enough responsibility
also, even 1 child (especially when young) will take up most of your time. like, you have to fucking feed this thing and somehow keep it alive and out of harm. imagine 7!?!?! at some point of having children it WILL become more than two parents can handle. but she does it on her own... and one of them is a newborn baby as well!! WHAT? most parents with a newborn have their lives revolve around the baby... add 6 more kids to the mix, and chores of a 9 people household. how is his wife ALIVE?
@@noface3641 Yep, I have a son who's my only child and my partner is an amazing father yet there are still times where I get frazzled and feel like I have no time to myself. I have no idea how this woman is caring for 7 children plus her man child husband and still pushing through. I would have gone insane omg
Even if she’s a little shy about having social interactions, she CLEARLY doesn’t want the same for all of her kids. She has them involved in very social extracurricular stuff that I doubt the dad has any involvement in at all 💀💀
She should make her personality being his ex-wife lol
The fact that she said if she has free time shed catch up on chores just screams that the husband doesnt do them, yet still has time for at least two trips a week
Exactly!
I went from laughing to just feeling bad. Those kids are missing quality time with GreatValue Patrick Bateman.
Yeah, I was already thinking what a family neglecting POS at that point, and then the 7 kids came up.. he's a full on family neglecting sociopath POS and a primary example of the people who should not have ever had kids, clearly didn't want them at all.
Dollars to doughnuts, this family is an evangelical Quiverfull movement clan.
Right???? This hit me and made me so sad.... 7 freaking kids and he has alllllll this damn free time. So frustrating
The Bride and Pebble story it was clarified in another video that the Bride had stated the venue strictly prohibits animals being on site; her brother put her wedding day at risk by bringing Pebble (despite Pebble being undeniably CUTE)
I knew it; I had a hunch her main reason of being upset would be that she’d be the one taking the fall for Pebble and/or anything he’d do
yeah and that fact that she was like ‘some people might be allergic or scared’ and the OP still took pebble (who seemed adorable) to the wedding like what is wrong with OP?!
Also like in the story, OP did say some people were annoyed and tried to talk to the staff about it. I would want everyone attending my wedding to be happy and not annoyed nor do I want them to remember my wedding as the raccoon wedding or something else (even tho Pebble really is cute I still want everyone to be comfortable because not everyone would see Pebble as cute)
As someone who has a raccoon, they are not an animal to bring out to a WEDDING of all places. Like don’t get me wrong, my raccoon ain’t mean, in any way, but that don’t mean he hasn’t ripped all the stuffing out of a couch cushion and turned it into his bed. But that is his couch 😂and we have stuffed the cushion and stitched it many times, he just undoes it again. He doesn’t destroy anything else tho. He just wants to be inside that cushion. He also uses a litterbox like a cat😂😂. He’s almost a year old now. (We found him and another male in a ditch after a storm, no momma in sight, the other one sadly didn’t make it through the night😢
Ugh pet owners are the worst.
Damn. Imagine being a single mum that has to take care of 7 kids AND a husband.
Basically 8 kids the way he’s talking 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, being a married single mom is just an extra stress no one needs. I hope she meets someone who actually loves and cares for her one day and leaves this ah.
AND herself, because he’s obviously not taking care of a single one of her needs…
@MamaWuf how does letting her kids play sports and have tutoring makes them "spoiled brats". It isn't the kids taking the mom for granted it's her inconsiderate husband who except her to watch the kids, do chores, and have time to socialize.
And husbands friends when it’s his turn to host
Shayne hosting this series is the best choice because his inner psychologist comes out when he reads those stories
Also he has a nice calm voice.
@@katie18976I love how this accurately represents the ends of a spectrum with Shayne hosting this series
Yesss
I think he is also the most intelligent of the cast. You can really see it when they're doing any sort of improvising.
Smosh has officially found a great use for Shayne’s psychology degree
LMAOO I thought the same thing!
shayne’s $50,000 are being put to good use helping him read reddit stories and figure out who slapped him
Yesss
Yeah, he is actually bringing some good analysis combined with personal opinions that gives this format both wisdom and empathy
I never clocked that until now, true genius behavior
The coffee one: the whole “anger is unproductive and I’m level headed therefore I’m being reasonable” is SUCH a red flag. A key component in a lot of toxic behavior is being super calm in tone while saying ridiculous things, and then blaming the other for being visibly angry about said ridiculous things. Being able to stay calm is a good thing in a lot of circumstances, but the way he said that just radiated a need to control arguments.
Sounds like you too have ridden the cluster B roller coaster ❤
@@constitutionalli7522 spot on, it’s a family member but luckily I’m not around him anymore. I hope you’re doing well now too!
Ugh. Yes, yes, yes. You explained it perfectly.
@@constitutionalli7522 bro I have cluster b personality disorder and i'm the one who usually gets angry. nice one implying all people with personality disorder that are all caused by abuse are automatically toxic people. cluster b people are the ones who usually get angry, we have bad emotional regulation. if they're able to stay chill in an argument they're probably not cluster b, the mental illness cluster notable for its lack of chill
@@thepineapplegal9099 okay, did they actually have a cluster b personality disorder or are they just an asshole and to you that meant they obviously must had this mental illness that's caused by trauma and really awful to have, because you think everybody who has the bad mental illnesses is an evil asshole by default? even if he did being a bad person isn't a symptom of any mental illness, it's really shitty to go "this one bad person has a mental illness therefore everybody who has it is a bad toxic persona automatically"
Just wanna mention that they didn’t notice he said “get a babysitter” on the first story. He didn’t even want to do it himself, he just HAD to PAY someone so his wife has more time…
I completely forgot about that part. He clearly does not care about the kids and would rather hire a babysitter than take care of his kids.
YUP I totally noticed that. Offered to get a babysitter, didn't offer to take care of his own damn kids and house so she could have time to herself.
@@soupy_soup2 Everything he said screams "I never wanted kids, and don't care about them". The trips, the disinterest in hearing about their lives, the babysitter, the whole idea of having his wife spend more time neglecting their kids to spend on her own life. Every time the kids came up, it was in a way showing how little he cared about the family.
@@soupy_soup2 because they’re some rich asshole.
@@azarinevil He absolutely wanted them (seven isn't a mistake number). He just wants all the glory of it and NONE of the responsibilities.
The first guy saying he'd get his wife a babysitter for the kids. WATCH YOUR OWN KIDS, DUDE.
FOR REAL
But he has a trip coming up :(
Yup. I think we all know why she’s so busy while he has time to go to bars, have game nights, see friends, go to parties etc
@@randomenvelope XDDD
He's the type of guy to say he doesn't want to baby sit and I'm like it's not babysitting when it's your child????
Not allowing grandkids to have a birthday party because of a death in the family is absolutely psychotic
Right it teaches the kids that they cant find moments of happiness during a sad time
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It is clearly a trauma/PTSD reaction and they need trauma therapy asap
@@gigimarie6465 and it teaches them that any sad moment should affect them for the rest of their lives, to never let go of the death of a relative that these kids probably didn't even know
I can't be the only one who was thinking about the movie "Footloose" when hearing the birthday story...
I can’t imagine teaching my child that their dead uncle was the grinch who stole birthdays.
It’s not the uncles fault. The parents are the one who decided that birthdays could never be celebrated again. I can almost guarantee you the uncle would be furious if he knew they forbade birthday parties
@@CassandraFaeyeah, but that's most likely how a little kid who never even met that uncle would see it
My mom passed in 2019 on New Years. Thats like me saying my kids won't be able to celebrate new years because it's for my mom
If you teach them that, yes xD@@abieggleton7045
Exactly. I would think as parents that they'd want their son to not be forgotten, but there has got to be a healthier way to remember him than taking birthdays away from future generations. It sounds like they're focusing on his death rather than his life.
I’m stuck on the sister saying “you’re no longer my brother” and then him saying Pebble was more family than she was…sounds like they have much deeper family issues than a raccoon
Sounds like overreaction, his family sounds like assholes
I know right…like leave pebbles out of your issue😂😂
i wonder if the brother uses social media a little too much… especially since he’s exhibiting behavior so completely detached from reality. who genuinely expects they’ll be able to hide at a raccoon at a wedding? and then make zero effort to obscure what you’re trying to hide?
i’d also guess this has been a repeated behavior from the brother towards his sister, based on how she reacted. i don’t have siblings, but i feel like going as low as saying your raccoon > sibling isn’t something you jump to without some sort of build-up. maybe she’s the older sister who was parentified and had to grow up dealing with his antics.
Yeah both of them have a screw loose
@thaloblue I don't know about the sister having a screw loose. We don't know how inconsiderate he has been before but considering this he has definitely done many things before. He sounds autistic as can be.
Shane said this a while ago " People who say they're brutally honest. They do it to be brutal" That 42 yr old depressed woman was trying to bring down her SIL. I hope that SIL lives her life and stays happy.
Did Shayne say that, or was it Damien?
@@ShelbyZealand Damien
My initial thoughts after that story was literally "this woman is a bitter b*tch who needs to cut others down to feel better about herself". Don't compare yourself to other people and you will be 100x happier.
Honestly the woman who posted that story needs counseling or something. The whole thing just screams resentment
She's miserable 😂 & not enjoying her life, Mom or not
Side Note: I was once told that I needed to grow up by a single kid-less, unhappy friend (I'm a Mom with a social life) Same friend now has a dog that she needed a break from within 3 days 😂😂 Unhappy is a state of mind, not matter what's on your plate
It's better to regret NOT having kids than to regret HAVING kids. Some people need to understand that kids aren't toys or just something cute to have. They're huge responsibilities that need to be cherished and taken seriously.
Yeah, acting like not having kids is the better choice is just selfish and almost always ends badly.
and like people forget adoptions a thing if you want to be a parent but physically cannot have one anymore.
Absolutely. You can always have kids, but you can’t un-have kids.
@@goblinguy3103i mean technically you can if you're the devil 😂
Yes! THANK YOU.
One thing i have to mention about the story woth "sarah" losing her job cus of op, he mentions his friend is a gossip. He knows what he did. He is manipulating her. His clear speech at the beginning goes to show how much he knows she loves her job, then INTENTIONALLY spread it to his friend who HE KNOWS is a gossip. This screams to me manipulation and power play. Very much a "well, you cant leave me now that you're worth less than me" vibe.
See, that's how I saw it ESPECIALLY after he said she has nothing if she breaks up with him. He said he feels obligated to help her which can very much show that he will be treating it as an inconvenience and possibly even hold this over her head in order to continue controlling her. He says he takes all accountability now, but some great manipulators (I think this story proves he very well could be one) know how to easily switch it right back around to "actually this was your fault because you didn't have a backup plan in case your job found those photos and now I have to take care of you".
I say this having experience from past relationships where partners have treated me that exact same way except instead of financially ruining things for me, they would do little things to pick away at my mental health over the course of the relationship before treating me like a burden for needing mental help.
This seems very similar in a financial case.
Very sorry for how long this was 😭
Didn't realize how much I had typed till I hit send
thinking about it from this perspective also makes the fact he said they're considering moving to another state a little scary, who's to say he's not just trying to isolate her from friends and family?
THANK YOU
He mentioned in his post that’s he stopped doing it because she knew it would affect her career. And he went around telling all his friends, why?
Story 2: she is so clearly NOT “looking out” for SIL. She’s envious because she didn’t take care of herself in the same way at her age and she’s terrified that SIL is going to be happier in life than she is because of it.
to add onto this, is a five step skincare so awful? i think it’s the perfect amount of steps/products that need to be used lol
Yeah and five steps is not that much for a skincare routine. I’m assuming the SIL double cleanses, so that’s just two products right there, and then you have moisturizer and sunscreen. That only leaves one product. Maybe a serum or something. Or even an exfoliatior once a week. It’s not that much. Nor does it have to be expensive. There are so many affordable products that this is just a complete non issue.
@@mikusprout id say 3 but 5 isn't a bad amount like there's no harm done in adding more steps
you know what the best part is? if the person in question saw this video and heard all the things that shayne ian and arasha said they would be fuming like "thats not true! that wasnt what i meant!" and cant do anything about it and just accept the roasts in short shes just a karen that cant accept the fact that her sister in law is living a better life than she does
Forreal. It’s not like following Tik tok trends is dangerous or something lol.
(Well honestly it depends on the trend 😂) but the stuff this person is described is in no way dangerous or harmful
Cant get over “my wife has no friends because she wastes all her time taking care of our *seven* kids”
I don't even have kids and I was seeing red. Him and coffee guy must be buddies because they're such big man children. If he said that he made everyone healthy and tasty lunches once he got home, a 3 nights a week took the kids to the non-performance events, the music practice, soccer practice, etc, because hopefully the whole family will go to the games and recitals together, etc he might not seem as bad, but he sounds like he hit 18 said, "Welp, I'm an adult now. Time to do what I wanna do! Everyone else is a loser with no personality!" I question if he even keeps track of the names and birthdays of all of those kids without the help of his phone or laptop. He had them listed by age and letter. How disrespectful to both his wife and the kids. It doesn't sound like she wanted that many kids, so are they Catholics, or is it his morals? We have so many ways to prevent pregnancy these days and it's prevention, not termination, so seriously. Stop. He's still living the bachelor life and is let his wife grow up and do the "hard stuff". Do I think parents should have lives beyond just being parents? Yes, they're still people, but it shouldn't interfere in their parental duties, for either of them. She's burning out and he's hanging out. It doesn't sound like he cares about the kids, or his wife for that matter. "All you do is parent! You're lame!" Why on this blue marble is he still in their relationship? Obligations? Religious beliefs? I just don't understand....
Tempted to show this to my grandma. She would be fuming! She was one of 7 siblings with a father who was actually really active. But neither her or her siblings ever wanted more than 1- 2 kids. Even with both parents helping 7 is still a lot. 😬
Ian saying that he doesn’t care what people did before their current job just shows how great of a boss he is. He respects everyone and their life beyond or before smosh
(tbf imagine if he was that judgemental, he'd have to fire half the cast for things they did during work for work)
@@sourwitch2340 oh so true. i think he’s a great example of how a boss can create a warm, comfortable and fun work environment. i know with the old company they felt forced to do a lot and it was really stressful. i think its much better now
For the Pebble story, it was clarified later elsewhere that the wedding venue was completely animal-free. Thus OP actually put his sister's whole wedding at risk of being kicked out by bringing Pebble (no matter how cute) to the venue against her wishes, on top of her frankly reasonable concerns of possible allergic reactions/guests being unnerved. He really should have communicated the sitter issue and I don't know much about owning racoons, but the fact that OP didn't leave Pebble alone for a few hours despite claiming Pebble is so well-trained makes me suspicious if this is about being *unable* to leave Pebble alone or just him not *wanting* to leave Pebble alone.
My cousin owns a pet raccoon and it is a necessity to keep an eye on him at all times as a raccoon gets very board and lonely and will just claw through walls and furniture to entertain itself. HOWEVER, my cousin has a designated system of raccoon watchers including some of his roommates so while leaving pebble at home would not be a good option, it's still OP's fault that he doesn't have a way to keep pebble at home.
it took me one second to google. One of the main reasons people keep racoons as pets is because they're hypoallergenic. Weird OP doesn't know that.
thank you!! like yeah i get pebbles cute & it seems fun but that doesn’t make op any less of an asshole. even if animals were allowed, his sister not wanting a pet there let alone a raccoon is non negotiable, it’s her damn wedding lmao
I agree but personally I believe she overreacted by saying he was no longer her brother. She literally could have said animals are not allowed by the venue. That should have been enough. Him saying he sees his racoon as a family member more than her felt more of a response to her saying that to him. I don't think he was the asshole in the story just maybe an idiot.
yeah, and it's really convenient that his planned pet-sitter JUST HAPPENED to fall thru
The birthday story feels like the plot of coco. Except instead of the Grandma screaming "NO MUSIC" at a mariachi band Its her yelling across the street at a 10 year olds birthday party "NO BIRTHDAYS"
😂 I was literally thinking the exact same thing!!
That birthday party one is LITERALLY how generational trauma starts.
My thoughts exactly!
That is…not how that word works 💀💀💀
@@RaeDSJ8512 they are literally passing down trauma through generations. Even though most generational trauma isn’t like this, this still counts
@@RappingChipmunk The situation is messed up. But trauma?? Babyyyy that is still noooot how that word works 😭 I beg of you all, please stop using psychology terms as sentence enhancers.
@@RaeDSJ8512what are you talking about? It started from the death of the 17-year-old brother on his birthday. Sure maybe after the parents die everyone will go back to celebrating birthdays, but still.
Also, the guy with the glasses made the joke
Ok but I love that Pebble’s owner thought they could just sneak a raccoon into a wedding without anyone noticing. Iconic.
Having a racoon in a bowtie on a leash at a wedding would 100% take attention away from the couple. NEVER do anything at a wedding that takes attention away from the couple. The bride may have reacted a big strongly, both parties said things they regret, but she was 100% right to be upset about it.
@@sliceofsparta8985 oh I totally agree, it’s just that this person’s thought process is absolutely wild 😂
I totally agree. How could anyone not notice that? Honestly, I get the bride being mad because it takes attention away from their special day (since that shit is adorable af-I mean, raccoon in a bow tie? Amazing). They both overreacted and said shit they shouldn’t have. I think the brother could have tried to find another way. I mean, there are pet hotels and stuff like that and he should probably have a way to keep the raccoon at home. I know that I have two dogs and I have lists of potential people to call if I need someone to house sit and be with them but I also know that they won’t wreck havoc if they had to be left alone for a couple of hours and I don’t know if this guy can do that since he literally brings the raccoon everywhere
Tbh I would of been so happy as a bride to get a raccoon dressed up for my wedding. But I get why she's pissed off, cuz he didn't listen to her and exactly what she worried would happen, did happen. I would of forced my brother to put on a little talent show so I now have an excuse as to why he's there with a normally wild animal and to calm people down. I'm sure if they thought it was a trainer and his trained pet doing some performance for the wedding, like handing them their rings or something, a lot less people would of been angry. Like ok, now you made this a problem on my day, now you get to embarrass yourself like you embarrassed me so that people don't run from my wedding terrified. I would of been its Rocket from GOTG and he's here to hand us our rings. Give the raccoon a bubble gun and say it's Rocket. I wouldn't have disowned my brother over it, or made him leave. This did not have to ruin her wedding or take the spotlight off of her. She could of been like "Oh, the raccoon, well he's here for me on my day to hand us our rings and do tricks for us." If anything I'd make him put the raccoon in his car until the wedding was over.
No fr, but I just don’t think any animal should be at a wedding so bro’s thought process crazy for that
I would say that the "She would have nothing if she broke up with me" line in the 3rd story might be OPs own fear and guilt talking. He feels responsible for her losing her job so he might be scared for her if she did break up with him.
Agreed, him feeling responsible over what happened. Even though had she not taken the pictures to begin with it wouldn’t have happened. He wasn’t right but she can’t ONLY blame him. It’s her own fault too.
@jessicathornton3632 You're aware they were just modeling pictures right?
It's funny how the second lady said the SIL doesn't have an original thought in her life, like getting married and having kids it's the most original shit to do with your life 😂😂
I never thought of that, but you're totally right 😂
You MUST get a dead end job, get married, have two kids, and die miserable 😂
@@ChichiPee and be bitter at other people's happiness 🤣🤣
Well, I guess by “original” she means “the original thought that people used to have in the olden days, before we started thinking all DIFFERENT omg how dare you” lmao
Fr like follow the same shit society expects every woman to do
The thing with Pebble:
He sounds adorable and the vision of him in a bowtie is making me melt, but I wouldn't even let people's dogs at my wedding unless they were service dogs.
The problem is also that the owner was more focused on him missing his sisters wedding not her experience of her wedding. It is giving main character vibes where you think you are the most important part of everything, even when it is something like their wedding where your presence obviously are not the most important one
I think she was an asshole about it tho, shane and gang saying him saying pebble is more of a family to me while the sister just disowned him as a brother.
He shouldve called her tho saying the sitter cant make it so either pebbles comes with or ill stay at home.
@@blushandberries624 okay but you act like she wouldn’t have lost her shit at him if he didn’t show up
My question is how does this man exist and work if his racoon can't be left alone for any period of time? Like does he have to take the racoon to his dentist appointment? Does Pebble go on his dates? I'm glad he's trained and nice but there are just places not meant for pets and you don't always have a sitter. It's just concerning that Pebble can't be without a human at all. My cousin had a racoon and he was lovely but she built a large enclosure for him filled with toys and treat filled puzzles for when she had to leave him at home.
@@katrinascarlet5637 he would have to stay over for a few days, its not just a dentist appointment, they booked a hotel for guests so he would need someone to come over to feed it or whatever.
My favorite thing about Shane hosting this is you can see little glimpses of his Psychology degree coming out. Coming from someone currently studying psych, its really fun to see him go therapist mode lol
Yeees exactly what i was thinking (psych student as well)
I'm not a psych student (I'm thinking about it) but yea it really is awesome to see the psychology degree come out in these videos! I love it!
Interesting 🤔
Shayne is like hotsauce, he’s the best.
As a person with a psych degree but not in the field (😭). I enjoy it, as well. It's neat he is using his knowledge even if it isn't in a normal way to go about it.
Lol, for me I feel like I only get to use my degree for my friends and anxious coworkers.
As a mom to four sons, the "Dad" clearly has no clue what it takes to run the household and care for SEVEN children! Including a newborn!!!! Omg!😢
Yup, sounds like Mom needs to take a vacation for about a week and leave dad with the kids. Maybe then he'll develop some dadgum empathy.
The parents who lost their son and decided that they don't celebrate birthdays anymore are the biggest assholes in that story. They have trapped everyone in the family in their grief. They won't allow themselves to grieve and move one from their loss, so they have trapped everyone in the family in their inability to move on. Ian said it perfectly. This is how generational trauma is started. Because the parents experienced this huge trauma and never let themselves process it in a healthy way, they have passed on the trauma to their children and grandchildren. I pray the OP sides with her husband in the situation and they break the trauma cycle together.
Yeah, that story was basically the plot of Coco.
My dad died on Christmas Day when I was a teenager. Christmas is the hardest part of the year for my family. But my siblings and I grew up, got married, had kids. My mum and us would never force that shit on our families. I’ve got nieces and nephews that we all adore and it makes us want to make Christmas extra special for them.
That really is some Encanto shit
This is legit the Rivera family from Coco
my grandmother on my mother's side and I share a birthday. she passed a few weeks before I turned 3 and every year my family reminds me how we share a birthday and they say I have a guardian angel watching over me. What my family is doing is normal. what those parents are doing prove that they need some form of therapy.
This is such a golden trio for a level-headed and thoughtful roundtable discussion
I really love listening to the thoughts people have on what's heard it's so interesting
i was waiting for this comment 😃
I heard the first story and still though he was an idiot, but I didn't know about the 7 kids from 15 to infant... lord bless her soul she deserves so much more
but i was surprised when arasha said 7 is the ceiling number for her too. Ian and shayne shared my surprise it seemed lol but they were respectful about it
I thought they maybe had a couple kids of school going age. In which case maybe they were both working and sharing household duties but he was also doing this after hours ( some of it work related ) and she just preferred to stay in. But with 7 kids including a newborn there's no way one of them could be doing socialization 3 times a week and still contribute an equal amount.
@@misterkayy no literally😭 2 is my max with an exception for 3 if the second pregnancy makes twins like. Being a sibling of 3 I can attest it is not easy, there aren't enough hours and dollars, and even being only 3 years older than my youngest sibling i was still the mini-mom
We lost our dad on Christmas Eve. We still went through with Christmas morning for our kids. It was sad and so hard but we didn’t want the kids to associate Christmas with sadness. We did our best to follow through with tradition.
Guy: *tells someone he knows is a gossip about a very sensitive piece of info about his wife*
Gossip: *speeads the sensitive info*
Guy: *shocked face*
If his friends are THAT big of assholes something about him probably needs reevaluated
It sounds like so much is being left out, and the way he phrased them staying together makes me think she's better off without him.
Maybe don’t make basically naked pictures if you’re planning on being a teacher. If this didn’t happen then one of her students would have found it which would be arguably worse
@@raimarulightningshe’s clearly not that smart either posting those pictures while trying to become a teacher then continuing to leave them up 😭😭
@@greysongotzmer4126 oh yeah, you're right. She should've "totally" foreseen this change of career. Or, better yet, she should've gone back in time to make sure she didn't do that sort of work so her photos wouldn't have gotten online in the first place
Honestly, get bent
Can’t believe Arasha’s “if they’ve met him” was just passed over it was hilarious 😂
same that made me laugh out loud
timestamp pls?
06:15
Yes I wish they caught that lmaoo that was so good 😂
@@Barla626 thanks!
The fact that the "dad" in the first story suggested to get a sitter instead of, i dunno, taking care of his own kids, speaks volumes YATA
For me it's the "ugh she talks so much about the children it annoys me, I can't imagine how annoying it is to others". Like can you imagine your own father says that about you?
@@galev3955 oof 💀
The spouse is effectively a single mon of 7 with an annoying roomate she has to take care of
No thought to maybe since he's going out two nights a week an every weekend to do his socialization that that's maybe why she doesn't get a chance to do the same? What a neglectful, oblivious ahole.
The first story is a prime example of weaponized incompetence. He knows the reality of what work his wife has to do, he's just WILLFULLY oblivious to avoid doing the work himself.
There should like an adult egg hunt, where it's just a bunch of 30 year-olds in a park looking for easter eggs. The objective is not to have fun, the objective is to absolutely crush the competition. And if someone is standing between you and an egg, you can tackle them
Video idea! Smosh Easter egg hunt!
we do that now that my siblings and i have gotten older, my brother is the youngest at 15, and we go all out, sprinting around the yard and everything. we always do it at my grandparents farm, so there’s so many hilarious hiding spots, especially when some people had had a couple drinks beforehand every year. The fun doesn’t have to stop when the kids grow up 😂
I believe Suzanne Collins made a novel trilogy about this called "The Hunger Games"
What is geocaching if not just an adult egg hunt
My family does an egg hunt for the kids and then we decorate beer bottles and hide them around for the adults xD
What really bothers me about the “my wife has no friends” guys is that he said he would get a sitter so she can do stuff. THEY HAVE SEVEN KIDS. WHO IS GOING TO BABYSIT FOR THEM? Getting a babysitter you trust is hard enough but one that would take on SEVEN KIDS?????
Right like go be the housewife you wanted to be. Don't kill her dreams
Julie Andrews
Right? This isnt Sound of Music🥲🥲
Also, the fact that it wasn't "I'll take care of the kids for a day" but "I'll hire a sitter." 🤦
Fr like you would either have to pay them like $100/hr or get multiple
To Ian’s point “teachers don’t get paid $h!t”, there has been a national teacher shortage since I was in college studying secondary ed almost 10 years ago. The fact that school boards and districts are so willing to fire good, or even mediocre, teachers over something that happened prior to their teaching career and hasn’t impacted their current professionalism astounds me.
Desperate for workers, refusing to pay a decent wage, and demanding perfection is pretty much just the “employers of America” package.
There was an actress in a Friday the 13th movie who got fired from two different teaching jobs because of the nudity in the movie which she was in before she even became a teacher
Parents are the absolute worse. The amount of arrogance they have towards professionals who have literally studied to do what they do is mind boggling. You aren't an expert just cause you had sex once
Not always. In my workplace, the woman running our payroll has an embezzlement felony from when she previously worked at a school in the early 2000s. Stole over $40,000 from their athletics program. This is public record, but she’s still running our money. And our entire company is shorted, from staff to office employees. Wonder why.
@@anenemystand5582 Parents know their own children way better than teachers do. And people from all walks of life become parents. My teachers kept trying to lord over their teaching degrees on my parents even though my dad was an ex-teacher. Plus trying to lecture him about how I was doing math wrong when he had a math degree and was telling them what I was doing was mathematically sound. The amount of sheer utter incompetence I've seen from teachers is astounding, and they *always* seem to think they know better than any parent no matter the parent's background. This attitude is why I'm homeschooling my kid. Instead of firing teachers for random irrelevant stuff like a riske alt account on Instagram, they should be firing teachers for bullying kids and teaching subjects they don't understand and have no interest in learning about. But instead we have people who cheated their way through an Education degree thinking they can lecture a mathematician about math because they're the teacher and therefore they know everything.
Please never stop this series, it's GOLD (plus shayne you might actually get a chance to use that 10 year education for something 😉😘😋)
YES please
Absolutely!!
YES there’s a lot of people who read Reddit stories but these are by far my favorite people who do it
You could say it's Reddit Gold
I only subbed for these vids tbh lol
"I have kids, I don't have time to worry about wrinkles and aging"
But you have enough time to worry about how someone else is living their life?
From: My SIL Needs to Grow Up
7:52
She's so preoccupied with her sister in law I'm surprised she has time to do anything
The way Ian immediately got annoyed with the first guy kinda warmed my heart.
It's sad because it shouldn't. Good men who support and love their families and actually put the work in should be the norm, not the exception. But, alas, we live in a world with the dude from story 1, so let's keep praising these men until they become the norm.
Jumping to conclusions
@@RankaZer0 are you that man who knocked up the wife seven times and then bolted
@@khaleesireyna731 go out more rather than being on your bed and watching tiktok and RUclips all day. That is definitely the norm not the exception. It feels like people learn one thing from some comment section and vomit that on the other.
@Swatik I mean, I was citing both my own personal experience with watching men not picking up the slack, as well as several commenters' experiences, but yeah, it's definitely because I watch too much tiktok and not at all to do with familial expectations of men vs. women. Ya got me!
The coffee guy IS the precursor to the 7 child "dad" at the beginning.
it was only mentioned briefly, but i really appreciate that shayne said that teachers are held to such high standards, yet they are paid horribly. as someone who is going into teaching, i feel heard lmao
And with parents letting their kids get brought up by smart devices and the internet from a younger and younger age, this job isn't going to get any easier hahaha. We had a teacher strike in my country last year that went on for months (the government eventually had to step in because neither side was budging), and me looking to get into music pedagogy was just sitting there like "hoo boy 👀"
I don't even know what a teacher is supposed to be nowadays. Veteran teachers quitting earlier than their pension years, ever changing education systems and bullshit filler works that doesn't even contribute to our pay raise. I'm just sitting here trying to study being an English teacher and I'm afraid to be one because goddamn if a teacher job could ever be easier.
I think the school should be sued for wrongful termination. Teachers have lives outside of school and that was her JOB before she went into teaching.
My thought was if it was so potentially damaging for her career why hadn't she taken down her alt account seeing as it was something she "used" to do
My favorite part of this series is that no one is playing a character or anything, just being genuine and reacting genuinely to these stories, showing how they are in real life outside of acting.
Their best series Imo are the ones where they can just be themselves like this.
It's such a fascinating look into their unique psychology. Shayne comes across so thoughtful and chill; Ian comes across so responsible but hilarious?! He gives off major Dad vibes. 😂 Arasha here comes across sincerely thoughtful and kind. What happened to the queen of lies?! But I do love watching the Character slip revealing she's legit a sweet, cool person. 😊
That's what Smosh Pit was intended for, I personally like this content more than the main channel sketches
Yess it’s such a good mix of the funny, chaotic stories and the cast’s meaningful, smart responses, and it’s a simple video concept but it can be done an endless amount of times and still be super entertaining and new each time :))
To me it kinda feels like one big ad read it feels like the most acting compared to there other series where they are chilling
1st story: 2:13
I legit did a Maria von Trapp "Seven Children?!" when I heard the story... Dude's a neglectful dad and should be ashamed of himself for not appreciating how his wife is essentially fulfilling his duty as a father for him...
I'm 1 minute in and already got that takeaway lol she's gotta take care of the kids all the time because he doesn't
And when he said he "offered to get a babysitter" - bro, how about offer to TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN CHILDREN AND HOME!
Some ass pic down below totally copy/pasted your comment wtf?
It's a fake story.
@@dragonrider9051 At first I thought it was fake, but then I realized that this guy is probably filthy rich, and thus is extremely out of touch with the people around him.
The teacher picture one is also blackmail to force her to stay. He knows if she finds a new job and she leaves, he can destroy her again.
The whole lingerie/teacher thing: the school should be sued for wrongful termination. Teachers have lives outside of school, and by the sound of it, it was a long time ago BEFORE she got serious about teaching. Teachers are already treated so horribly without being fired for past work they did.
She is an idiot for leaving these pics online for everyone to find. Very careless.
Agreed. The boyfriend obviously didn’t help, but the real issue is that the school actually fired her for it. This is why we need unions. Protect the teachers. We don’t want to end up with the worst people doing such an important job.
There's likely a clause in the contract that covered this type of behavior, so suing wouldn't get her anywhere, unfortunately.
@@MissCaraMint yeah if anything the school is the asshole in this situation, the boyfriend was just incredibly stupid and rash from what it sounds like.
Yeah that would be fully illegal here in australia
The thing is if he was having trouble getting a raccoon-sitter, he should've messaged his sister before going to the wedding and ask for the permission again and apologize
Yes, he was most likely capable of getting in contact to her to be able to communicate that he was having trouble finding a sitter.
That's what I was thinking like if he called/messaged and explained, I'm sure there's some other arrangement that they could have agreed on
Yeah, but realistically, if i saw a raccoon at a wedding in a bow tie, and i can pet that raccoon, that’s the beat wedding ever. They get swans for weddings, and those things are way fucking scarier. I think she overreacted, but also it’s her wedding, so that’s all moot; just fuck those pointing and whispering bastards. I would of just assumed they hired them.
@@conwaytwittyer2667Yes, but the bride paid 6000$ for her dress and that raccoon in a 2$ bowtie would overshadow that. 😅
But seriously, it would become the "raccoon wedding" and not "X and Y wedding". I think is also what she felt.
What got me is her saying she never wanted to see him again. That was too far 🤔
Ian: “Is this how generational trauma happens?”
Every child of trauma: “YES.” 33:23
Literally!!!
This is literally the plot of "Footloose" and it has me HOWLING
@@undeniablySomeGuyi was thinking the same thing...
Facts, specially when the "father" doesn't come around and when he does only talk trash about their mother, while smoking some "hard" substance Infront of you..... Damn guess I'm letting y'all know my life, where as my mother would only say the actual facts that were bad about my father and never trash talked him to me
@@davidhouser1523 speak that shit dude. hope youre good
my boyfriend recently passed away and i'm still very sad about it occasionally (very very recent, only a couple weeks ago) but i can't imagine living in grief like that and bringing onto my family. in fact i do everything i can to remember him happily, i dyed my hair purple because it was his favorite color and named my new kitten after his specific favorite color (orchid is her name, orchid purple!). i don't want to live in sadness because of his death, i want to live to remember all the good things about him. i love dyeing my hair and if i get to dye it his favorite color that's just so special to me.
The birthday one made me so mad. The emotional manipulation of that mother made me wish she never got to see her kids again. "you celebrated your daughters birthday so your brother meant nothing" is an absolute garbage human being stayement.
for real, absolutely psychotic mentality
Literally. I understand losing someone is hard, but they could have done so many other things to commemorate him without harming and judging the rest of the family.
Love how whenever Ian appears he can be the most sarcastic clown one second and then drops a cold, focused, experience-based truthbomb that hits the nail on the head. Like, this is someone who has been in the game for such a long time, they just know their stuff, but dont feel the need to show it off all the time.
i love when he's in the 'reading reddit stories' videos, since he's one of the older members in smosh & an online personality for like two decades so he's seen & lived some stuff which means we sometimes get funny comments & sometimes valuable insights
I had favorite “guests” in the past…but Arasha is hands down the most grounded “guest” I’ve heard on this series. Pls keep her coming back!
Yes! I love her in the Agree/Disagree videos.
Arasha has almost been like a straight man on pit, but sometimes she goes absolutely wild
Don't know which is more fun
Not enough of Arasha lying for no reason though, honestly lol
I agree with all the above replies! She’s such a wildcard…thought she was gonna go full on “funny lying arasha mode” here but all her reactions were serious in a thoughtful way. Def looking forward to more
For the birthday story one thing i'd also point out is denying their kids of birthdays would probably make them bitter towards their uncle...
I love the ongoing joke of Arasha and the others calling Ian Daddy/Father because it inevitably means every variation of his "Kids" in the Let's Do This episodes are their siblings (like Snack Nicholson and Pack Nicholson)
The coffee story has me absolutely livid. The "grown man" works from home with time to get up and make coffee whenever needed. She wakes up EARLY incoperating time to make him breakfast and coffee every single morning and still having to go to work. That is a huge sign of love and care for him. Telling her that she doesnt care enough because the coffee is too hot for a few minutes is the biggest sign of manipulation I have ever seen. Poor girl needs to run
Starve him. That will teach him. Someone's clearly spoiled rotten about their DAILY prepared breakfast as soon as they wake up. So he can have nothing.
Agreed. He goes on & on about how selfish she is or wtf ever. Wow.
Who's gonna tell him that ice is a thing?
Right? I work from home and my situation is this: My boyfriend gets up early in order to get ready and head to work. It’s my choice to wake up with him and make him lunch and breakfast for the day and I always make him his (and my own) coffee. He knows it’s hot sometimes but he always drinks it later and doesn’t mind. He never complains even on those days when I’m too tired to get up and make him food. He just pats me on the head and tells me he loves me and goes on his way. Talk about a true legend. ❤
Seriously that’s the part that pisses me off. She already wakes up 2 hours before him so that she can make him breakfast. She’s setting aside 20+ minutes of her day so that this guy will wake up to the smell of bacon and start his day off with a hot breakfast, easily one of the best things ever, and he’s claiming she doesn’t care about him for changing her already tight schedule so the dude doesn’t have to wait 5-10 minutes for his coffee to cool down.
Literally all he’d have to do is wake up 10-20 minutes earlier, or throw some ice cubes in, or stick the coffee in the fridge for a couple minutes, or literally just wait until after he’s finished breakfast with juice or water before he gets started on the coffee. There’s so many easy solutions to this “problem” and he’s claiming that she’s the uncaring one for only making his morning 95% perfect instead of flawless.
Honestly the SIL in her 30s sounds like she’s living her life lmaooo good for her!
i feel like she is trying to deal with the fact that she can't have kids or doesn't want them, and the older lady is jealous.
Based on Ian's responses I now want to see him in a Smosh Easter egg hunt
genuinely this series feels so comfy i can’t explain
On the subject of the Teacher story, my mom is a para educator and no, going to the board before wouldn't have helped a thing. She would have been fired on the spot. The teaching industry doesn't allow teachers to be NORMAL PEOPLE. They can't even go out for drinks with friends or swear in public without running the risk of losing their job.
I see comments blaming the teacher for there being "sensitive" pictures of herself online. Even if someone from the school should "stumble across" those photos, that means they were looking at exposing photos online, that should be addressed, and not blamed on or shaming the person in the photos.
When I was doing my student teaching in undergrad my cooperating teacher said “teachers don’t get the same freedom of speech as everyone else” and it is so true. All my socials are private and I constantly feel the need to keep my fun, adult life offline. It’s ridiculous.
@@rachelesslow Teachers are treated so horribly and paid horribly I don't know why anyone does it
All my teachers went to the bar after school. My principal kept whiskey set out in his office lol
I believe this would be a prime case for a wrongful termination lawsuit. It's the epitome of judging someone based off the actions in their past, which was perfectly lawful. It seems pretty clear cut, unless there was something in a contract, but even then, it was in the past as a private citizen
Imagine going away once a MONTH when you have seven kids and saying your wife is "making excuses" when she says she'd rather sleep than socialise.
One of my closest cousins had his wedding recently, and we were told, they wanted it to be a kid-free wedding. Me and my wife have two children, and we were not making the trip without them, as no one has met my youngest yet.
But it is THEIR wedding. THEIR day. Instead of not listening and bring them in BowTies and a cage with food and toys in the corner, we just DIDNT GO.
My Aunt did call me during the Reception and I got to give a small speech through her phone, through the loudspeakers. So that was really cool.
Uhm skincare and workouts and going out for fun at notable places? Damn. She seems happy and growing and glowing. Goddamn.
Yeah but OP is miserable so no one else can be happy. Whats hugely telling is how she keeps reiterating the other woman's age and the fact that she doesn't have kids. Just sounds like envy to me. Nothing the other lady was taking off TikTok seemed negative at all.
I have no idea what a butter board is but I’d much rather be at her Easter meal than the OP’s.
Right?? Like she seems like the kinda gal I’d love to be friends with 😭😭
As if it was cringey and wrong for adults to do that ??? Why lol
No she's obviously a vapid tiktok user who hops on trends like "health" and "skincare" and worst of all "eating good food" how dare she
My respect for Shayne literally just grows and grows the more of him I see, I adore him so much.
same hereeee
The first story truly made me see red. Oh my god. That poor woman must be exhausted. But also imagune what brilliant managing skills she has to pull all that off. What a mind she has to have. And that good for nothing dares to insult her and being smug about how he thinks he's better than her.
RIGHT!! he says being a mom is her whole personality, when it's basically her full time job! ive had to take care of my nieces and nephew before, and i was stressed out by 3 toddlers who weren't even my kids. i can't IMAGINE the stress she's under with 7 kids, including a toddler and a newborn!
44:15 what's killing me is they forgot the this guy works from FREAKIN HOME and his GF drives to work. If anything he can get up and make his own coffee and breakfast for her she so she can sleep a bit longer
tell me you’re trying to fix a toxic marriage by having more children without telling me you’re trying to fix a toxic marriage by have more children
Or "tell me you're part of a cult (or another aggressively patriarchal subculture) without saying you're part of a cult".
Who TF does that? 😣
@@lisak603 sadly a lot of people
@@lisak603 It’s more common than people think and it’s scary. Some people genuinely believe the way to fix a shitty relationship is marriage and children.
Every couple I’ve seen with this mindset were still toxic, if not to each other then their children.
The guy who ruined his gf’s career as a teacher blamed his friend for being a gossip, right after explaining how he spread the gossip about his gf to his friends. He’s the gossip in his friend group.
Also, I don't believe he did anything accidentally. It sounds like he knew that if she lost her job, she'd be financially dependant on him, and he possibly wanted that because she was already thinking of breaking up with him? Just a thought. Something very suspicious about his version of the story, and him choosing to tell the "gossip" who immediately got in touch with her school? What kind of friend would do that to this guy's girlfriend if he hadn't asked them to?
and why is he showing them that account anyways? i would never in my life voluntarily show my friends naked and scantily clad pics of my gf and tell them the exact account they could find it at, especially if it was behind her back. like im all for venting to your friends but the existence of this page isn’t something to tell the boys about, doubly so knowing one of them can’t keep a secret for shit (like how’d he even know someone at the school to tell?).
and it’s common sense this type of stuff puts her job at risk and she told him that as well, so why tell anyone even ignoring the first point? just careless and he’s lucky she still stayed with him.
I think it’s illegal for her to be working as a teacher if she didn’t disclose it beforehand
How is it illegal?@@divyabadey5854
@@divyabadey5854pretty sure the story takes place in America
as the oldest of 5 the first story got me. i’ve seen my mom beyond exhausted caring for all of us with little help from our dad. The fact that she has 7 kids including a newborn which is incredibly draining with just one and still juggles taking her other kids to their activities is absolutely amazing
The number of mothers who have useless spouses and the number of people growing up watching their fathers be useless is absolutely disgusting. Like that in itself should be considered generational trauma.
Build a brighter future for our children: start mocking and calling out useless men where ever you see 'em!
I feel like this is going to be my sister. She has one baby and wants more and keeps talking about the "next one". Meanwhile my BIL doesn't do anything around the house and she works full-time and brings most of the income in.
I've tried to talk to her but she's too blinded by love and will probably just keep complaining about how tired she is while having more and more kids with him.
and somehow all her insanely shitty HUSBAND got away from all this is "get a life loser"... insane that just from his point of view we all are like "she is amazing.." and he somehow STILL found the one "flaw". some men I swear... makes you wonder if any of them are breedable
The way i see the whole pebble situation is I love my dogs, theyre 100% part of the family. I would not bring them to someone's wedding especially not a family member's wedding
Exactly. There's a time and a place for everything. That seems to be a concept that isn't being taught as much today.
I always love the moments before Shayne reads the story, where the 2 members faces are neutral, and then when the camera cuts back to them after diving into the story, the members’ faces are just 😧😧
I think Easter egg woman could repair the relationship with her neighbors on Halloween this year. Be the house that gives out full sized candy bars or that makes full-blown treat bags. You’ll quickly become a favorite among the kids and the parents will more than likely get on board too.
Now you’re cooking with gas!
"hehehe lets give kids many candies!!" Not sus at all...
honestly if she really wanted to be self aware and repair things she could do treat bags with a single Easter egg in each and a little note in the eggs saying “hope this makes up for easter - OP, egg enthusiast”
@@ShogunThomsenwhat the fuck is sus about giving kids candy on Halloween?? 😂
@@ShogunThomsen on halloween. not on a random day wtf lmfao
The birthday story highkey reminded me of the movie Coco. Where his ancestors were traumatized over a music related death in the family and just banned music to cope, for several generations. Essentially what this family wanted to do with birthdays.
I thought of that film as well
The "brutally honest" lady was me about 10 years ago. The fact of the matter is that being honest in that way, for me, was almost always just an excuse for me to not try to think through how I could word what I wanted to say in a way that was considerate of other people's feelings. The fact that her take away was that she shouldn't have been honest about her opinion is exactly the kind of petty response I would have had back then. Being quick to provide an opinion is not the same as being helpful with one's opinions. Carefully crafting a response, especially when you're delivering a message that may not be received well, is much more valuable.
This is true, but I believe that she should have absolutely kept that opinion to herself and maybe only said it out loud in the shower or something where no one would hear her. The lady deciding not to have kids has absolutely zero effect on the super judgy mom or anyone else for that matter.
This: the biggest problem with what people think of as “brutal” honesty is they aren’t putting in the effort to think about how to actually be helpful with their words.
I would love to see a Smosh Easter egg hunt w/ cast and crew. But each egg either has a prize or a punishment
I’m 22 with 2 older sisters in their 20s who are mothers.We still do an egg hunt and my parents have started putting money in the eggs. Things get violent. It’s something we look forward to all year
My family does an adult hunt with money too! We always have a blast!
LEGENDS
This sounds amazing.
This sounds awesome. This makes me wish I had siblings to do Easter egg hunters like this and also throw an amazon gift card in a couple! Random wish a few dollars and a couple with gift cards or something so you never know what you'll find lol
We did easter egg hunts until I was like 25 lmao, but we made longer ones where all the (now adult) kids would hunt together through town where eggs would be hidden. It was fun! Basically an excuse to go on walks haha.
From story 1: "My wife always uses our children as an excuse as to why she doesn't have 'real' friends"....Sir, you are outside of your goddamn mind.
The birthday celebration thing hit too close to home for me. My mom had been fighting cancer for about 5 years and unfortunately losing the battle. I had to call my brother on his birthday to tell him that he must come ASAP if he wanted to see her one last time before her passing. He lives in a different country. He took the first flight of course but I bet it was hard for him that I had to call him on his birthday about that. Well. The next month she passed away. On my nephews 13th birthday. Aaaand to round it up, her funeral was on my dads birthday. That was 4 years ago. My nephew had his 17th birthday (it was this Sunday) and instead of having a party with his friends he went to light a candle on his grandmothers grave. Birthdays are hard in my family....
Another sinister thing about the first one...she's probably in need of emotional support, and he's picked up on that, and HIS SOLUTION is to ALSO pawn off her emotional needs on these hypothetical friends. Nowhere in here did she ask "Why don't I have friends?!" So I definitely imagine her one day being really stressed out and needing a shoulder to cry on and he was like "Damn you need friends" cause he didn't want to deal with it.
Good point, I hadn't considered that. What a useless jerk, I feel so bad for her.
Story 2 really should've been called "AITA For Being Jealous that My 35 Y/O Sister-In-Law is Trying to Better Herself?"
FOR REAL!
I was expecting it to be about her doing stupid dances or challenges, not working out, cooking and generally working on herself.
@sliceofsparta8985 Right lol. I imagined she was doing the crate challenge and eating spoonfuls of cinnamon. Lol she's taking care of herself not smoking weed with 16 yr olds skaters under a bridge. 😂
Yes Yes YES! These is such a good series. It feels like I'm just chilling with the cast
I did paste and this showed up, idk why, I didn’t watch this
there are 2 types of guys: the guy who suggests hiring a sitter to look after his 7 children so his wife can have a break instead of looking after them himself, and the guy who LOVES football and has it as a major theme in his life but watches the kids so that his wife can go out with her friends
Learning Children Psychology in college and hearing that birthday story makes me wants to scream so bad. Like, do they know the implications for their child in the long run? When their daughters go to school, guess who's the only ones that doesn't get a birthday party? Guess who gets invited to other kid's birthday party but will never get a birthday party of their own to invite their friends to? That is so much isolation from not having experiences like her peers, being the social outcast at the age where it is ABSOLUTELY PARAMOUNT that children have this social interaction because that's where children learns the most in their early years. I get that the OP's family is grieving, but to deny any other children in the family to properly grow and expand their knowledge as children, hell, just simply being children and having normal birthday party is straight up abuse. I get that you had a shit time, but just because you suffered doesn't mean you get to make other people's life shit too.
In the op story they clarified in comments they didn't go to friend's birthdays either😢
@@h.r.9563 The definitive "How to Get Your Kids Bullied for The Rest of Their Life" guide.
Not to mention I HIGHLY doubt the deceased brother would want this kind of shit to go down, fights etc in his name. That is wild to me.
this makes me wonder about jehovas witnesses and other religions that don't celebrate birthdays or holidays
For the second story: Dude, I'm 35, in a committed 12 year relationship with two kids, and I do ALL the things to take care of myself and be a good mom. I have a skin care routine. I learn all kinds of cool artsy stuff from RUclips cuz that's my jam. Like, you CAN do both. It's all about choices. OP for second story is projecting and jealousy is just coursing through their veins. I hope the SIL keeps doing her thing and living her best life. Being in your 30s, with or without kids, doesn't mean you're dead!
Like, I have a 5-step skincare routine too.
I wash my face twice. Then apply two serums and a sunscreen. It's not that deep. Lmfao
These people are wild.
In regards to the first story...if the husband is so adamant about the wife finding friends and not being so focused on the kids, then why doesn't he get his ass into gear and do his job as a dad to pick up some of the work???
Why not start inviting coworkers and their missus' around to try and spark a friendship? I'd be widening my social circle to include her rather than forcing her to make her own.
Nah, he wants to "hire a babysitter" because apparently he can't take care of the kids either. He's basically the 8th child.
I was waiting for the part where he said he stepped up with the kids and never happened
Shayne is actually like super intelligent, and I'm living for it! Please more
Am I the only one who gets excited whenever I see they posted another Reddit story 😂
No?
I always get excited when Reddit stories get uploaded! 😂
They got 21k views in one hour so I’m gonna say no you aren’t the only one 😂😂😂 I get ya though, these are great
Yes. Only you. So unique and special.
Nah I’m literally waiting for them too 😂
With how new Arasha is i think this series gives great credit into who she is as a person. Her reactions are unexpected and thus more enjoyable. Would like to see this more with both the cast and crew
With the family who lost their brother and won't celebrate birthdays, they don't realize how important it is for a baby to live through its first year. If a newborn baby gets sick or anything whatsoever, it's incredibly scary.
I listen to these while doing my makeup the best part of my day fr fr
Easter story: I think a good idea going forward would be for OP and her partner to buy Easter eggs/candy, and have the partner hide them around and OP looks for them.
That’d be a really cute thing for them to do together. I love that idea
I’ve never been more on time for anything in my life.
Our brains our synced with the release schedule.
Same
Saturday cartoons
That’s actually sad and pathetic you need to rethink your life and get your priorities straight
Me neither 😂
I love how once the Easter story comes up Ian’s just like “FUCK THEM KIDS. EAT THAT CANDY.” Lmao
that's why i love Ian
Honestly, I was on his side most of the time haha
That second story, oh my god 😂 “how dare you care about yourself! You are 35, it is past time to sacrifice your body upon the altar of childbearing!”
I have to keep stopping while Shayne is reading the coffee one. "I only got a LITTLE annoyed". "Why can't she skip working out to make my coffee and breakfast earlier?" This one better end with the girlfriend dumping him or lighting him on fire.
"She doesn't care about me enough to make my coffee not as hot" she is literally making him breakfast and coffee while his ungrateful ass lays in bed! How does he not hear himself?! He should be getting nothing!
better make it an ice bath, lighting him on fire will only get him complaining about how "it's too hot" for him, and we don't want that
exactly. that is a GROWN man who's basically crying that his girlfriend cut the crust off his sandwiches :(. that's a manchild if i've ever seen one. he doesnt even see her as anything but a maid that's just there to tend to HIS needs specifically
I’d go right up to him and drop a huge ice cube into his hot coffee, while he’s holding it. Hoping it splashes on him.
@@eggyolkjpeg
Correction:
He doesn't see her as a maid, because he clearly just wants her to be his mom.
I like how the first story builds up with every piece of information. First I was like "he could phrase ot differently, but it seems he cares about his wives social life". And then it just gets worse and worse to the point where he complains about his wife telling him too much about what his own 7 children are up to. I always try to not judge people to quickly, but damn. If you don't care about your children, maybe don't make 7 of them?
He wants the prestige of looking like a "hard-working father of 7" but he doesn't want to put an ounce of the work in. In a word: narcissism.
I have to say, I had no idea how Arasha would go in Reddit Stories (just because it's the first one), but she's absolutely god tier and it was brilliant listening to her considered and reasoned opinions, she's eloquent and thoughtful and she bounced off both Shayne and Ian SO well. I love all the new cast members so much, and I'm looking forward to seeing Arasha in Reddit stories again, I think she'd be great for the more controversial ones, because you can see she's thinking things through, and has a great reservoir of compassion and understanding. Absolutely top tier episode folks!
My brother passed away two days after his birthday, a year ago. We celebrated him in the hospital, surrounded by the people who loved him. This year we threw him a party. We invited those same people back, got his favorite cake, and sang the birthday song together in his memory. It was beautiful and enriching to see all of the people who loved him come back a year later to show how much they still care. I'm sad that family could not see the brother's birthday as a reason to continue celebrating his memory even after he was gone.
Any kids that never even met the deceased uncle they are going to grow up to dislike his memory "because of him i don't get birthdays" and they'll never understand**