4 here...this hits the spot. I remember cheering for people to go Bankrupt on Wheel of Fortune when I was a kid...like, if I can't win,you can't either. 😩
DREW NEWKIRK - HE TEACHES IN SUCH A CLEAR AND DEEP WAY ... just having listened a few minutes and know I will have a great 2 hours and a quarter ... ANGER needs to be understood, so listen and "embrace" this fabulous lecture that I am doing now as well ... thanks once more amazing kind and empowering DREW NEWKIRK!
I appreciate you my friend! I’m always trying to connect with those folks willing to go on the long journey with me, this one is definitely a long haul and glad you’re willing to do it Hope it helps Drew
@@drewnewkirk Just now I discovered your kind appreciation, dear friend... hope you are doing fine at this time of the year, will visit your channel again druing the Christmas days, for I am truly learning a lot from your fabulous insightful videos, dear Drew ... have a blessed way into the New Year ... Pat waving a hello with gratitude :-)
Thankful for the enneagram because when I learned that the peace I desire is on the other side of my anger, my life began to change. My anger really scares me but I'm learning that anger doesn't have to equal homicidal maniac. It takes some anger to challenge everything I've known or thought I knew. I'm rebuilding my friend group with people that I actually like and respect and that treat me well. I'm beginning to discover what I really believe and it is far from what I previously believed. I started looking at the enneagram in 2020, 2022 was the most painful year of my life. So much anger, tears, depression. My repression stopped working and I felt ALL of my anger. I told my therapist, I feel like I'm in recovery and, I am. Thanks for the videos.
Hey Drew nice to see you again! Your videos are always so eloquent and thorough, I honestly feel like your tone and words make art. This is a very helpful video, you always create a calm place to relax and heal. Love, your fellow type 4 P.S. I hope you understand my delivery, and your garden is an oasis! ❣
This warms the heart. I’m definitely trying to be both thorough and artful. I love the crafting of these so this compliment lands strongly! And, the garden is definitely a place to get lost in, to process and explore that very art I hope to create. Thanks again Drew
@@drewnewkirk If I may ask, what is your dominant cognitive function? I'm just curious because I know that a lot of type fours tend to be intuitive types and seem to lean towards introversion. I am Ni dominant and I personally think that you are too. I think you are an infj-a. Your dig and discover personality seems familiar to me. heheh🤔
Tremendous content! Drew included wise gems per type while including us all as folks who need to better understand our relationship with anger. I'm so thankful to have some more Drew content to sift through; it is always worthwhile. Thanks Drew for showing us 4's your garden. Your garden feels like a 4w3 SX garden, my garden is not so pretty and well tended but full of practical herbs and vegetables; that must be my SP shining through! Namaste and all the things!
There he is! Glad to hear from you man, hope you are well and always appreciate your affirmation. I’m going to build a practical garden also next year by the way 😉
Hello! As a fellow 4, I just wanted to thank you for showing us your garden, it’s so pretty 😍🥰🌹🌻🌳🌺🪴🌸🌼🌷🌾💐 Also, I usually don’t express anger towards other people (or when I do its passive aggressive), but there was this one time I had a therapist get really happy/excited that I was mad at him, (or I guess a better way of putting that would be, because I expressed my anger). But that just made me more mad at him because it felt extremely invalidating. He never actually apologized for what I (through anger) was calling him out on because he was so focused on the fact that I was actually showing emotion.
Also, I just wanted to say I’m sorry about the situation with your friend, I know that was probably really hard emotionally. I understand it seems like you’ve talked and are hopefully going to be “okay” now, but still… I know how hard that can be. I say that because I currently have a similar thing happening, except I don’t think my friend will ever call me. 😢
Thanks for such a great and thorough response. I love that you processed this. Having been frustrated with my own therapist I can relate with your experience of being invalidated. That sucks. As a therapist, I can be a boob and miss what’s important to my clients because I’m excited about something I think is the priority… be patient with us therapists 😂 we are VERY human. Either way, I hope you are sharing your anger more freely these days 🙌🏼 I’ll keep at it with the garden, hopefully using it for a video again one day 😉
@@recathner2026 thanks for understanding, it’s still a bit raw as things don’t magically go back to normal. But I’m trying to continue to hold faith in my friend and our ability to heal… not easy stuff
I think that I am a sx 9, and I am at a turning point in my life. I just sat some boundaries with my father, and I am shaking inside. I have learned so much to be accommodated and nice… To get in touch with my anger and setting boundaries feels so wrong to me. I know it is not. I know I deserve the be a grown up and be free and be myself. But damn, it is difficult to go in that direction. I hope I can learn to protect myself and stand in myself.
Thanks Drew! You are so good at giving none generalized and more human description of the types. As an 8 I really don't associate with the way people describe us because I don't do the rage and all, all that much but expresse the way you did I really understood some stuff about me. I truly enjoyed that someone else get me in a good way and see the good side of the intensity. It's refreshing. Although I don't need it to live my life and I'll just walk away at some point, deep down I wanna be understood and that my mind set is seen as valid. Because I like it .. ahah 🙆♀️ I'm always looking forward to your videos.
thank you much for this, it seems a bit dumb but when looking at the enneagram I found it a bit confusing or misleading that the body center was the rage center, and I wondered if maybe every type can have anger even as a primary life issue
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
I'm Type 5. And yes we do get angry. I wish people understood that.
I’m with ya. We all get angry but it definitely reveals itself differently doesn’t it
Thanks for watching
Drew
4 here...this hits the spot. I remember cheering for people to go Bankrupt on Wheel of Fortune when I was a kid...like, if I can't win,you can't either. 😩
Samesies - the ugly underbelly of a 4
FAX 😂😂😂
DREW NEWKIRK - HE TEACHES IN SUCH A CLEAR AND DEEP WAY ... just having listened a few minutes and know I will have a great 2 hours and a quarter ... ANGER needs to be understood, so listen and "embrace" this fabulous lecture that I am doing now as well ... thanks once more amazing kind and empowering DREW NEWKIRK!
I appreciate you my friend! I’m always trying to connect with those folks willing to go on the long journey with me, this one is definitely a long haul and glad you’re willing to do it
Hope it helps
Drew
@@drewnewkirk Just now I discovered your kind appreciation, dear friend... hope you are doing fine at this time of the year, will visit your channel again druing the Christmas days, for I am truly learning a lot from your fabulous insightful videos, dear Drew ... have a blessed way into the New Year ... Pat waving a hello with gratitude :-)
@@budgiespat7883 appreciate you 🙏🏼
Never give up bro
The most hard and cruel aggression is 9s aggression: it feels like neverending sabotage of a loving one
As a 9 I’ve def had people in my life tell me when they noticed my anger when even I wasn’t fully aware of it myself.
Thankful for the enneagram because when I learned that the peace I desire is on the other side of my anger, my life began to change. My anger really scares me but I'm learning that anger doesn't have to equal homicidal maniac. It takes some anger to challenge everything I've known or thought I knew. I'm rebuilding my friend group with people that I actually like and respect and that treat me well. I'm beginning to discover what I really believe and it is far from what I previously believed. I started looking at the enneagram in 2020, 2022 was the most painful year of my life. So much anger, tears, depression. My repression stopped working and I felt ALL of my anger. I told my therapist, I feel like I'm in recovery and, I am. Thanks for the videos.
No doubt! As you can tell I relate and have always struggled with my anger as well, it keeps getting better my friend… with hard work of course
Drew
Hey Drew nice to see you again! Your videos are always so eloquent and thorough, I honestly feel like your tone and words make art. This is a very helpful video, you always create a calm place to relax and heal.
Love,
your fellow type 4
P.S. I hope you understand my delivery, and your garden is an oasis! ❣
This warms the heart. I’m definitely trying to be both thorough and artful. I love the crafting of these so this compliment lands strongly! And, the garden is definitely a place to get lost in, to process and explore that very art I hope to create.
Thanks again
Drew
@@drewnewkirk If I may ask, what is your dominant cognitive function? I'm just curious because I know that a lot of type fours tend to be intuitive types and seem to lean towards introversion. I am Ni dominant and I personally think that you are too. I think you are an infj-a. Your dig and discover personality seems familiar to me. heheh🤔
@@colorfulthinker I’m not totally sure but that’s what people guess for the most part. I promise I’ll take the test at some point 😂
Tremendous content! Drew included wise gems per type while including us all as folks who need to better understand our relationship with anger. I'm so thankful to have some more Drew content to sift through; it is always worthwhile. Thanks Drew for showing us 4's your garden. Your garden feels like a 4w3 SX garden, my garden is not so pretty and well tended but full of practical herbs and vegetables; that must be my SP shining through! Namaste and all the things!
There he is! Glad to hear from you man, hope you are well and always appreciate your affirmation. I’m going to build a practical garden also next year by the way 😉
@@drewnewkirk That will just give me one more thing to be envious of😉
@@PensivePetey 😂 of course
Hello! As a fellow 4, I just wanted to thank you for showing us your garden, it’s so pretty 😍🥰🌹🌻🌳🌺🪴🌸🌼🌷🌾💐
Also, I usually don’t express anger towards other people (or when I do its passive aggressive), but there was this one time I had a therapist get really happy/excited that I was mad at him, (or I guess a better way of putting that would be, because I expressed my anger). But that just made me more mad at him because it felt extremely invalidating. He never actually apologized for what I (through anger) was calling him out on because he was so focused on the fact that I was actually showing emotion.
Also, I just wanted to say I’m sorry about the situation with your friend, I know that was probably really hard emotionally. I understand it seems like you’ve talked and are hopefully going to be “okay” now, but still… I know how hard that can be. I say that because I currently have a similar thing happening, except I don’t think my friend will ever call me. 😢
Thanks for such a great and thorough response. I love that you processed this. Having been frustrated with my own therapist I can relate with your experience of being invalidated. That sucks. As a therapist, I can be a boob and miss what’s important to my clients because I’m excited about something I think is the priority… be patient with us therapists 😂 we are VERY human. Either way, I hope you are sharing your anger more freely these days 🙌🏼 I’ll keep at it with the garden, hopefully using it for a video again one day 😉
@@recathner2026 thanks for understanding, it’s still a bit raw as things don’t magically go back to normal. But I’m trying to continue to hold faith in my friend and our ability to heal… not easy stuff
@@drewnewkirk I don’t usually leave comments because I’m too self conscious of them not making sense, so thank you a lot for your responses!
@@recathner2026 continue to leave them. If people don’t get it let them ask you to clarify. Less self protection more self expression 😉
I think that I am a sx 9, and I am at a turning point in my life. I just sat some boundaries with my father, and I am shaking inside. I have learned so much to be accommodated and nice… To get in touch with my anger and setting boundaries feels so wrong to me. I know it is not. I know I deserve the be a grown up and be free and be myself. But damn, it is difficult to go in that direction. I hope I can learn to protect myself and stand in myself.
I hear you friend!
Thanks Drew! You are so good at giving none generalized and more human description of the types. As an 8 I really don't associate with the way people describe us because I don't do the rage and all, all that much but expresse the way you did I really understood some stuff about me. I truly enjoyed that someone else get me in a good way and see the good side of the intensity. It's refreshing. Although I don't need it to live my life and I'll just walk away at some point, deep down I wanna be understood and that my mind set is seen as valid. Because I like it .. ahah 🙆♀️
I'm always looking forward to your videos.
Love this Corine! I’ll keep them coming and hopefully not over generalizing folks. Love doing this and thankful there are some loyal watchers 😉
@@drewnewkirk I am 😇
Drew... I love the humor 😁, makes you very down to Earth 🌎. Appreciate the work
No problem. Happy to do it
thank you much for this, it seems a bit dumb but when looking at the enneagram I found it a bit confusing or misleading that the body center was the rage center, and I wondered if maybe every type can have anger even as a primary life issue
We all carry it. No escaping anger
❤️
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew