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I know how, but I got a severe autoimmune disease at the same time and have had tons of doctors and bed ridden days...this is frustrating for someone who has Always picked herself up and moved on, I'm normally great at that..my physical body is trying to kick my butt hard tho and this is a factor I don't know how to work with.
Great video Clark ❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜💙💙💙 Love your advice for people to make life meaningful, cause that’s what life is really about. Life is a game made for everyone one, And Love is the price.
thing is.. people think they have to look for it.. purpose is created.. purpose is to be happy to live in joy to create YOUR art to live as yourself and express yourself. to simple be. and do good in the world. it’s simple.
Another thing is, people be lost in day to day mundane activities and not much in daily stoic routines for really taking care of Mind and Body, leave alone connected to Spirit that's another topic altogether. Sometimes, it's enough to know we ARE the Purpose, in itself. Lots of things of value, talents, interests and hobbies can be found in conjunction to work sphere, that can make us tap into unlimited resources as we're originally born limitless, later on become the Mind and put on Self limitations given to societal conditioning, naysaying since childhood, unresolved subconscious patterns that we never got to face/address until confronted consciously, especially during Meditative practice (conscious content - as it slowly taps into subconscious, eventually). Probably much info but, in my opinion, we ARE the Purpose. We just need to recognize how powerful yet humble we can become.
We're do these youtuber cats get off telling everyone how to optimize their life, I mean what are their qualifications?? The fact that 100 million people follow this dude answers my question..I'm done haha
I’ve literally just un-fkd my life starting today. It was a long time since mid 2013 I lost my job as a game designer. I have no idea why but it’s taken me all that time to get my foot back through the door again. Today is my first day a game company. Met some really cool people. Great money! I can do the work blind-folded! So glad I can write this with a smile on my face, spelling out - I made it ! No more hardcore labour carrying large iron pylons anymore 😅 I’ll miss the ripped bod though hehe.
Congrats. I am still f***d. After a disease 5 years ago Im still stuck in the darkness. I really dont know whats going on with me. It's like I also have been coursed.
Here's my belief, don't be stuck on getting to a "destination". For all of us, the destination is the same, death. We'll all get there so don't stress about it. As for the purpose of life, I truly believe that it is simply for us to experience life. Life is not a problem to be solved, it's an experience to be experienced. And I also believe that we are meant to have definite chief aims that will change. To not be identified by one thing but to experience whatever we want to experience whenever we want to experience it. Intentional living.
I'm a writer. I work because I have to pay bills, eat, want shelter etc. But regular jobs dont give me fulfillment. What gets me going is writing. I can write for hours and be happy. My goal now is to do it professionally so I can live doing my dream. That's the art I do and most people dont believe in that anymore. That's why lots of people work jobs they hate. Right now I'm trying to find practical ways to promote my work and make connections. I actually started just writing fan stories like Avatar: Macai's Journey. I have gotten over 400,000 views for it, but not a cent so I cant live off it. But now I'm trying to push for an original series.
At the beginning of the year I was in such a depression hole of my making. It was habits and my environment. I had such a hard time breaking and leaving what I KNEW wasn’t good for me. I was in a new friends bathroom and there was a book on the sink. I turned it over and the quote said “if you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging” idk why but it just clicked for me finally. It was so practical. I hold that quote dear to me now. ❤️
@@walterdietrich7178 haha well I’m from the south so the title might throw you off but the name of the book is “Don’t squat with your spurs on: A cowboys guide to life”
Having lost my job a couple of months ago and still feeling depressed about it. I literally stopped applying for jobs out of disgust. This video gave me the boost to get back on my feet and begin applying to jobs again. Thanks a lot Clark!
“Not abandoning ship every time something gets hard or boring. That’s not mastery.” That’s golden! So many times I’ve thought about quitting what I’m doing on the days when those two feelings were overwhelming.
I'm moving to a big city and I decided to not having my computer with me, not having Netflix on my phone, less using my phone!! I will have not choice to get out and go for a walk, or go swimming or reading/cooking. I want to learn new habits while having fun ! I spent 1 year in the countryside without working and without goals, depressing. Change is needed 😌 New environment, new habits, new goals!
I really loved most of the video, just wanted to say about the last advice - sometimes people know exactly what is making their life difficult, and it's not always fixable. Recognizing problems is important, but usually not enough. Of course, you can try to look at these problems differently, accept them, but it's not an easy process.
it's definitely not an easy process. i wish everyone luck and courage to overcome their problems or find an alternative to somehow live better.... for me, after more than 7 years of wanting to get therapy but never having enough money to afford one, i will be starting one next month :) I'm both relieved and scared because i want to improve, learn how to deal with my trauma and crippling social anxiety. and i think even wanting to change your life (even if you're unable tp at the moment) is a big step that everyone should be proud of, no matter how long it takes to take another step. sending love!
Un-fcking began a couple weeks ago. Current job was KILLING me, physically and mentally, so I made a goal, job hunting every day, if only for a few minutes checking things online. Found something, got hired, got a GORGEOUS drive to work now, got out of the rut and into something NEW!
Everything you talked about is stuff that you realize when you use entheogens. I need to watch this every week or so to be reminded of those lessons. Incredible work. Edit: Went back and re-watched to summarize for later use- How to Unfuck Your Life (or How to Reinvent Yourself) Way 1- Change your Environment Shift environment to shift thinking, shift thinking to shift habits Way 2-Resist Urge to give in to Feelings of Learned Helplessness If you think that nothing you do matters, that your life is worthless in the grand scheme of the universe, you basically give up on life- life has no real purpose or meaning, so why try? Way 3- Our Purpose is to Create New Meaning The solution to these feelings of learned helplessness is that we find our own meaning. If we can't find meaning, we must make meaning. Our purpose now is to find our purpose. If we don't know what to do, try doing the opposite of how we feel. The opposite of learned helplessness is enthusiasm. What can you start to get truly excited about? For most people that involves setting a goal. Having a goal is less about what you get out of it, it's about having an outlet to channel your enthusiasm. Way 4- Fixing What Sucks When life is hard we tend to fall into 1. Deflections: Making light of our misery 2. Substitutes: We find other forms of satisfaction, diminishing our misery 3. Intoxicants: Become insensitive to misery What you resist, persists. Avoiding your misery does not make it go away. If your friend were to complain about a headache while banging their head on a wall, you wouldn't ask them “how does the wall make you feel?” or “What is the root cause of this wall banging?”. You would just tell them to fucking stop. You would tell them how it is and what they need to do to feel better. You need to tell it how is to yourself. No matter how uncomfortable and painful it is. If you feel like your life is fucked, quit banging your head against the wall now!
Recently me and my girlfriend broke up. The cause was my trust issues. I know the break up was necessary because I was hurting her with my issue. She said we both need time to heal and work on ourselves. I’m really hard on myself. I know I should focus my time and energy working on myself and bettering myself. I’m also starting a new job. But the break up has affected me. I feel I lost someone wonderful and beautiful because of my trust issue and overthinking. I’m down on myself and have no motivation except to grieve. This video came out at the right moment. But regardless it’s hard. I hurts a lot.
I really feel for you. My trust issues were a huuuge source of issues in my first real relationship that broke off about 4 months ago..after 2+ years. You have to know to nottt be hard on yourself at all, especially at a time like this. treat yourself how you would treat your inner child regarding the breakup. Baby yourself bro. its 100% ok to just be motivationless for a while in order to have a chance to fully feel your emotions and allow it to pass without causing future issues; dont force yourself around it, there's no trick to it, you must allow your heart to feel everything and then you will be able to properly recover
I changed where I lived. Upgraded! And it’s awesome! You’re level of thinking upgrades, too. It will impact Cost of Living but I love going home. It’s My Haven... i’d rather stay home now than always go out.
You're amazing, I love that you're a stay at home mom whose trying to improve yourself! I was really inspired after seeing your post- I hope all is going well with you!!
A little while ago i was in a autopilot state, full of bad habits, i decided to try getting better and to start taking care of myself, i am proud of what i have achieved so far but doing that has only opened my eyes for how much better a person can get.
Such a great video thanks! I take care of my elderly father and really cannot leave him alone. So yes for me everyday is Groundhog's day. Very rarely get to leave the house and try to change things up a bit but moving does exactly what you said. I used to move every 5 or 6 years and it was wonderful.
That's amazing of you. Truly. I'm in a similar situation with my 2 sick kitties. They need medicine throughout the day. But I know they won't be here forever and I try to plan what I'll do when they're gone, knowing I did the right thing. I honor you for what you're doing🙏.
I have so much respect for you taking care of your father. So many people just ship them to nursing homes. Good things will happen to you for the caring and love you show him. Bless you!
My life fell apart over a course of 1 week, decied to stop all the the things i knew were negative things in my life. Fast forawd 3 weeks and here i am at 3 am waiting for a job interview and i had some time to kill and then this videa comes across my recommended! man if this isn't a sign i don't know what is! amazing content and concepts and i feel like this is so simple but so effect in un f*cking your life ! thank you !
Around 7:45 this exact sentiment is what will keep you going and motivating other people, helping other people. Getting them to interact and give their experiences with your videos or lessons so you can see the impact you're having. It's such a good feeling to know you can make a difference in someone's life merely with knowledge, content, etc.
the meaning of life is life itself..... its being in this moment without bias of your mind getting in the way. play this moment as the cards are laying on the table right now.
This hit hard. I had a breakup, a challenging new job and relocated (just locally, but a much different lifestyle) all in a 60 day period. I am at a weird point where nothing in my life is familiar. I've always been into cooking but my drive is low for that right now. I like wine, but I'm catching myself overindulging for the novelty of it. I'm not sure where to go or what to do right now but I am in the gym every day, losing weight and doing well at work, at least. So I think I will challenge myself with the cooking (I do run a small side business for personal chef work- maybe a challenge could be to grow the business by getting my work out a lot more on social media). Thanks for the kick in the ass. I really don't want to start circling the drain of depression right now. It's going to be a long winter as it is.
Hi. I was a chef for 27 years. Some of what you said sounds like me. In my late 30's I went through career change, midlife crisis, depression and a drinking problem. I no longer knew what I wanted. For four years I was stuck in life. I was angry things weren't going my way. I felt the universe was against me, negative, bitching about life. What got me out of that rut? A simple mindset shift. I got tired of myself. I got tired of my own negativity, so I did one thing: I made a choice. I decided I would no longer be negative. I decided to be positive, practice gratitude and focus on what I can control as opposed to focusing on what I cannot control. We all have a choice. And ou owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be
@Curt Sassak Appreciate this response! Since I posted that, I have continued to work on my health, made some money and am working on a big promotion project for my chef work. I planned a few trips and have generally gotten more optimistic. You're right- the negativity gets tiring and you get to a point where you have to make a conscious decision to change.
7:10 - 9:07 hits home hard. I'm a full time artist stuck in my head since April this year. Your video made me think about a few things... but for now you inspired me to take a good nap. I will make an art out of resting and kicking out every energy consuming parasite and vampire out of my life. Thank you.
"atomic habits" - james clear. get the audio book. get the habitual stuff you subconciously know already in order. then listen to it again. over the years i went to courses, mentorships, read tons of books on all sorts of habitual stuff - this is the most comprehensible.
This is the best video thank you clark! This is exactly how I have been feeling. Sometimes we need a reminder and a push. No one to blame but ourselves and our choices. Im literally starting today :)
Hi Clark, im in the middle of watching this and just HAD to pause to type this....im 22 and a very serious Meth addict, and i atm got to such a state where i dont really even enjoy getting high, only for about the first 1-2 hours of the 12-16 hour range of the high, my dopamine is so shot to the point that i dont really feel the euphoria and GOD level narcissism/self assurance(feeling like i could accomplish anything and everything) that sucked me into that addiction in the very first place, all i feel now is straight nausea and brain damage(head spin and disassociation) to at times where i act and feel like im autistic....BUT at the same exact time, i cant stop craving it and even when i feel all those effects i stated or even on my horrendous comedown, i STILL want it and think of ways to get more! I keep on looping over the same exact pattern and cannot seem to get out, now i never even heard of you, or seen any of your videos, and just randomly had youtube recommend this very vid, already it is somewhat giving me some thought to how i live my life, and how i should do the very opposite, as i dont know how or what i should do to even just simply attempting to fix my life, but now well im thinking "hey, if i wanna stop doing meth and dont know where to start... maybe just do the opposite of what a methhead would". I also am actually already in the "learn helplessness" tip, i really do feel like everything, life.. all of it is meaningless, so why even try to get clean? maybe just maybe i just have to find the meaning.
I know this video is supposed to inspire thoughtful introspection.... but I could only focus on your uneven mustache -- and I fixated on this throughout the entire video. Now I need to watch again. Fascinating.
Clark remind people to like acouple minutes before the video ends i always forget man, i wanna give you the appreciation you deserve, thanks man you really help alot. I was an only child growing up mom never cared never knew my dad. It was just me, didnt have a person to help like you do, thank you kindly for your knowledge.
You cannot ask life for the meaning of life, as life will only present you with yourself, hence, you are the meaning of the lift, and in all these challenges you may find in life, it's simply life giving you an opportunity to give something your own purpose and meaning. You are the creator.
There is no such thing as purpose. Whichever path you take is the right one, it's not the path that matters but the people you travel that path with. Life is just a trip that goes on and on forever until you die. Surround yourself with people you love and travel your own path.
Yeah some people have to change their whole life circumstances To escape from the traps of dependence on a place not working for them. Thats escaping the chains of remorse for staying.
I feel so much in a rut going into this october 2022, there's a lot that I didn't accomplish this year but wanted to. This video was deep yet practical enough to inspire me to get out of the rut!! Thanks! ✨
This change you enviroment action is super undervaluated. Truly, if the universe is intimately conect with observation or "is a Mind" , so basicaly everything influence this mind (your mind) environment, family,self-talk,music,food,videos, actions, inactions, and so goes on.
That's it. I finally know how I feel. I feel uninspired and I live an uninspired life. Every day I just go thought the motions and every day is the the same. Things that used to make me happy no longer do. 30 years ago I was killing myself to get into a new career. Now, 30 years later, that career no longer brings me joy. I feel stuck. I have a familiy, bills, and commitments. If I were single, I would have moved to a different country a long time and started over. I cannot do that; not without destroying my marriage. While I enjoyed most of yoru video, I was saddend when at the end you started peddling your course. I stopped listening to you at that point. To be honest, that made me question your genuity.
Big Red. I can relate to how you feel. Here is some of my experience. Maybe it will help. I was a chef for 27 years. In my late 30's I went through career change, midlife crisis, depression and a drinking problem. I no longer knew what I wanted. For four years I was stuck in life. I was going through the motions of life I was angry things weren't going my way. I felt the universe was against me, negative, bitching about life. What got me out of that rut? A simple mindset shift. I got tired of myself. I got tired of my own negativity, so I did one thing: I made a choice. I decided I would no longer be negative. I decided to be positive, practice gratitude and focus on what I can control as opposed to focusing on what I cannot control. We all have a choice. And ou owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be
Fair play to you. I used to have moments of inspiration and motivation in my 20s and early 30s but never saw them through. They're becoming less and less frequent now, but watching this gave me a little spark!
'un', written this way in your title, made me read it as the Spanish translation "un" for "one" (English translation of a singular object). So, I first thought this video topic was about the "one fuck" we should give about life.. Whoops on my part. Love your work. Keep it classy (as you do).
Some people are so inept of perspective they don t even know or can even describe the image they are trying to be. Which is another question in college 101.
The dog experiment reminds me of a study I read about where they took rats and they dropped them in a fish tank they couldn’t climb out of and timed them. 45 minutes in the rats start drowning they’re all dead before an hour passes. They drop the next batch of rats in only this time they pull them out at 40minutes dry them off let them rest for the remaining time and at the hour mark they drop them back in and 5 hours later those same rats were still swimming. Cause they believed that eventually help would come the last one made 6 hours before succumbing to fatigue.
Funny, I'm in the process of moving from Seattle area to the East coast for this exact reason. Not currently living the life I know I want to live so I'm creating a fresh start. So excited!
I hope and trust you make it Amber, with some good visualisation and thoughts it should work out well! I am ready to make a new start too! First selling my business... I hope that happens fast!
My thing is, I’ve been killing it and after every time I kill it, I’m faced with “limitations” from my cancer treatment and anywhere I walk they are there, so trying to find something that works around them or to walk straight to it has been the worst part every-time I reach a goal. I need to go through the trauma, cause back before I knew these “limitations” exists I went for it and I went for it big, ambitiously went for being a doctor when, it would turn out the way everything was that wasn’t “possible” but I still went for it, I feel like because I know how it has been in the other times I go for the same thing. I’m either in a phase of ptsd from before I made any progress or stuck in this rut again.
You sir, are not only an amazing artist… you are an outstanding educator and inspiration to so many already… please keep the valuable content coming 👏👏👏
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I know how, but I got a severe autoimmune disease at the same time and have had tons of doctors and bed ridden days...this is frustrating for someone who has Always picked herself up and moved on, I'm normally great at that..my physical body is trying to kick my butt hard tho and this is a factor I don't know how to work with.
@@a.b.creatorI'm in a similar position but greatly improving. God helps. Your in his hands. But find and follow the Lord, he's amazing.
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Great video Clark ❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜💙💙💙
Love your advice for people to make life meaningful, cause that’s what life is really about.
Life is a game made for everyone one, And Love is the price.
“Your purpose is to find your purpose” Definitely a deep one today. Great topics for many people feeling down
thing is.. people think they have to look for it..
purpose is created.. purpose is to be happy to live in joy to create YOUR art to live as yourself and express yourself.
to simple be.
and do good in the world.
it’s simple.
Another thing is, people be lost in day to day mundane activities and not much in daily stoic routines for really taking care of Mind and Body, leave alone connected to Spirit that's another topic altogether.
Sometimes, it's enough to know we ARE the Purpose, in itself. Lots of things of value, talents, interests and hobbies can be found in conjunction to work sphere, that can make us tap into unlimited resources as we're originally born limitless, later on become the Mind and put on Self limitations given to societal conditioning, naysaying since childhood, unresolved subconscious patterns that we never got to face/address until confronted consciously, especially during Meditative practice (conscious content - as it slowly taps into subconscious, eventually).
Probably much info but, in my opinion, we ARE the Purpose. We just need to recognize how powerful yet humble we can become.
We're do these youtuber cats get off telling everyone how to optimize their life, I mean what are their qualifications?? The fact that 100 million people follow this dude answers my question..I'm done haha
@@jonathanballard6950 where did Ghandi get qualification to be Ghandi? Genuinely curious 👀
I’ve literally just un-fkd my life starting today.
It was a long time since mid 2013 I lost my job as a game designer. I have no idea why but it’s taken me all that time to get my foot back through the door again.
Today is my first day a game company. Met some really cool people.
Great money! I can do the work blind-folded!
So glad I can write this with a smile on my face, spelling out - I made it !
No more hardcore labour carrying large iron pylons anymore 😅
I’ll miss the ripped bod though hehe.
Congrats
Congrats. I am still f***d. After a disease 5 years ago Im still stuck in the darkness. I really dont know whats going on with me. It's like I also have been coursed.
Awesome bro, you got this!
Congrats! Super happy for you and wishing you more great years ahead for sure :)
Go to the gym early in the morning. Ripped body will remain
Here's my belief, don't be stuck on getting to a "destination". For all of us, the destination is the same, death. We'll all get there so don't stress about it. As for the purpose of life, I truly believe that it is simply for us to experience life.
Life is not a problem to be solved, it's an experience to be experienced.
And I also believe that we are meant to have definite chief aims that will change. To not be identified by one thing but to experience whatever we want to experience whenever we want to experience it.
Intentional living.
So lets take LSD!!!!!
@@frederikkobaatvse9649 You know what, if that's what you want, you should do it. 👍🏻
@@iamdalilatalil Pls dont say that -.-
@@frederikkobaatvse9649 You shouldn't have brought it up if it made you uncomfortable 🤷🏼♀️
@@iamdalilatalil Drugs are just shit. Wanted to test your mind. You failed.
I'm a writer. I work because I have to pay bills, eat, want shelter etc. But regular jobs dont give me fulfillment. What gets me going is writing. I can write for hours and be happy.
My goal now is to do it professionally so I can live doing my dream. That's the art I do and most people dont believe in that anymore. That's why lots of people work jobs they hate.
Right now I'm trying to find practical ways to promote my work and make connections. I actually started just writing fan stories like Avatar: Macai's Journey. I have gotten over 400,000 views for it, but not a cent so I cant live off it. But now I'm trying to push for an original series.
At the beginning of the year I was in such a depression hole of my making. It was habits and my environment. I had such a hard time breaking and leaving what I KNEW wasn’t good for me. I was in a new friends bathroom and there was a book on the sink. I turned it over and the quote said “if you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging” idk why but it just clicked for me finally. It was so practical. I hold that quote dear to me now. ❤️
Wow
What's the name if this book, I'd love to read
@@walterdietrich7178 haha well I’m from the south so the title might throw you off but the name of the book is “Don’t squat with your spurs on: A cowboys guide to life”
Oh that's great a great title, I definitely want to read the book now
This really clicked for me , thank you
Having lost my job a couple of months ago and still feeling depressed about it. I literally stopped applying for jobs out of disgust.
This video gave me the boost to get back on my feet and begin applying to jobs again. Thanks a lot Clark!
Starting at a new job sucks, it's like entering a movieseries and you join in season 5
Good luck! You got this!
'What you resist, persists." I can't remember when I heard something so simple yet so profound.
“Not abandoning ship every time something gets hard or boring. That’s not mastery.”
That’s golden! So many times I’ve thought about quitting what I’m doing on the days when those two feelings were overwhelming.
I love that ..what you Resist..persists
Clark My First Digital Mentor -🎱🐐
Same
I desirely inserly to communicate with my Digital Mentor 💖
agree
I'm moving to a big city and I decided to not having my computer with me, not having Netflix on my phone, less using my phone!!
I will have not choice to get out and go for a walk, or go swimming or reading/cooking. I want to learn new habits while having fun !
I spent 1 year in the countryside without working and without goals, depressing. Change is needed 😌
New environment, new habits, new goals!
I really loved most of the video, just wanted to say about the last advice - sometimes people know exactly what is making their life difficult, and it's not always fixable. Recognizing problems is important, but usually not enough. Of course, you can try to look at these problems differently, accept them, but it's not an easy process.
it's definitely not an easy process. i wish everyone luck and courage to overcome their problems or find an alternative to somehow live better.... for me, after more than 7 years of wanting to get therapy but never having enough money to afford one, i will be starting one next month :) I'm both relieved and scared because i want to improve, learn how to deal with my trauma and crippling social anxiety. and i think even wanting to change your life (even if you're unable tp at the moment) is a big step that everyone should be proud of, no matter how long it takes to take another step. sending love!
Un-fcking began a couple weeks ago. Current job was KILLING me, physically and mentally, so I made a goal, job hunting every day, if only for a few minutes checking things online. Found something, got hired, got a GORGEOUS drive to work now, got out of the rut and into something NEW!
Everything you talked about is stuff that you realize when you use entheogens. I need to watch this every week or so to be reminded of those lessons. Incredible work.
Edit: Went back and re-watched to summarize for later use-
How to Unfuck Your Life (or How to Reinvent Yourself)
Way 1- Change your Environment
Shift environment to shift thinking, shift thinking to shift habits
Way 2-Resist Urge to give in to Feelings of Learned Helplessness
If you think that nothing you do matters, that your life is worthless in the grand scheme of the universe, you basically give up on life- life has no real purpose or meaning, so why try?
Way 3- Our Purpose is to Create New Meaning
The solution to these feelings of learned helplessness is that we find our own meaning. If we can't find meaning, we must make meaning. Our purpose now is to find our purpose. If we don't know what to do, try doing the opposite of how we feel. The opposite of learned helplessness is enthusiasm. What can you start to get truly excited about? For most people that involves setting a goal. Having a goal is less about what you get out of it, it's about having an outlet to channel your enthusiasm.
Way 4- Fixing What Sucks
When life is hard we tend to fall into
1. Deflections: Making light of our misery
2. Substitutes: We find other forms of satisfaction, diminishing our misery
3. Intoxicants: Become insensitive to misery
What you resist, persists. Avoiding your misery does not make it go away. If your friend were to complain about a headache while banging their head on a wall, you wouldn't ask them “how does the wall make you feel?” or “What is the root cause of this wall banging?”. You would just tell them to fucking stop. You would tell them how it is and what they need to do to feel better. You need to tell it how is to yourself. No matter how uncomfortable and painful it is. If you feel like your life is fucked, quit banging your head against the wall now!
This is an incredible breakdown and you would be a godsend if you did this for all his videos
Lovin the intensity today Clark! I literally cried when you said “QUIT BANGING YOUR HEAD AGAINST THE WALL” I’m done F’in my life up! ❤️
Recently me and my girlfriend broke up. The cause was my trust issues. I know the break up was necessary because I was hurting her with my issue. She said we both need time to heal and work on ourselves.
I’m really hard on myself. I know I should focus my time and energy working on myself and bettering myself. I’m also starting a new job. But the break up has affected me. I feel I lost someone wonderful and beautiful because of my trust issue and overthinking. I’m down on myself and have no motivation except to grieve. This video came out at the right moment. But regardless it’s hard. I hurts a lot.
You're already more than halfway there, just by being aware.💪
I really feel for you. My trust issues were a huuuge source of issues in my first real relationship that broke off about 4 months ago..after 2+ years. You have to know to nottt be hard on yourself at all, especially at a time like this. treat yourself how you would treat your inner child regarding the breakup. Baby yourself bro. its 100% ok to just be motivationless for a while in order to have a chance to fully feel your emotions and allow it to pass without causing future issues; dont force yourself around it, there's no trick to it, you must allow your heart to feel everything and then you will be able to properly recover
I changed where I lived. Upgraded! And it’s awesome! You’re level of thinking upgrades, too. It will impact Cost of Living but I love going home. It’s My Haven... i’d rather stay home now than always go out.
“Your purpose is to find your purpose” this was eyes opening, it clicked inside my head, as i try to find purpose every time i complet the last one
73 to 78!!!! My gosh my midlife crisis happened longer ago than I thought LOL I sure hope I live longer than 73 to 78 my grandma is 96 😘
I'm a homeschooling stay at home mom, and your videos inspire me!
You're amazing, I love that you're a stay at home mom whose trying to improve yourself! I was really inspired after seeing your post- I hope all is going well with you!!
A little while ago i was in a autopilot state, full of bad habits, i decided to try getting better and to start taking care of myself, i am proud of what i have achieved so far but doing that has only opened my eyes for how much better a person can get.
Man, I've been sulking for months if not years, thanks for pulling me out
Such a great video thanks! I take care of my elderly father and really cannot leave him alone. So yes for me everyday is Groundhog's day. Very rarely get to leave the house and try to change things up a bit but moving does exactly what you said. I used to move every 5 or 6 years and it was wonderful.
That's amazing of you. Truly. I'm in a similar situation with my 2 sick kitties. They need medicine throughout the day. But I know they won't be here forever and I try to plan what I'll do when they're gone, knowing I did the right thing.
I honor you for what you're doing🙏.
I have so much respect for you taking care of your father. So many people just ship them to nursing homes. Good things will happen to you for the caring and love you show him. Bless you!
@@JoePAcalaughs
I respect and honor you!
I have been thinking about moving for months now. I do think that will help, an entirely new environment to explore.
I’ve been in the groundhogs day mode and mentioned that phrase. In it right now. I can relate
My life fell apart over a course of 1 week, decied to stop all the the things i knew were negative things in my life. Fast forawd 3 weeks and here i am at 3 am waiting for a job interview and i had some time to kill and then this videa comes across my recommended! man if this isn't a sign i don't know what is! amazing content and concepts and i feel like this is so simple but so effect in un f*cking your life ! thank you !
Around 7:45 this exact sentiment is what will keep you going and motivating other people, helping other people. Getting them to interact and give their experiences with your videos or lessons so you can see the impact you're having. It's such a good feeling to know you can make a difference in someone's life merely with knowledge, content, etc.
I like the music in the background. It is not distracting or irritating. Thanks! You have helped me a lot in life! ✌🏼
Being honest to yourself is the real self love, even if it hurts
the meaning of life is life itself..... its being in this moment without bias of your mind getting in the way. play this moment as the cards are laying on the table right now.
This hit hard. I had a breakup, a challenging new job and relocated (just locally, but a much different lifestyle) all in a 60 day period. I am at a weird point where nothing in my life is familiar. I've always been into cooking but my drive is low for that right now. I like wine, but I'm catching myself overindulging for the novelty of it. I'm not sure where to go or what to do right now but I am in the gym every day, losing weight and doing well at work, at least. So I think I will challenge myself with the cooking (I do run a small side business for personal chef work- maybe a challenge could be to grow the business by getting my work out a lot more on social media). Thanks for the kick in the ass. I really don't want to start circling the drain of depression right now. It's going to be a long winter as it is.
Hi. I was a chef for 27 years. Some of what you said sounds like me. In my late 30's I went through career change, midlife crisis, depression and a drinking problem. I no longer knew what I wanted. For four years I was stuck in life.
I was angry things weren't going my way. I felt the universe was against me, negative, bitching about life. What got me out of that rut? A simple mindset shift. I got tired of myself. I got tired of my own negativity, so I did one thing: I made a choice. I decided I would no longer be negative. I decided to be positive, practice gratitude and focus on what I can control as opposed to focusing on what I cannot control. We all have a choice. And ou owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be
@Curt Sassak Appreciate this response! Since I posted that, I have continued to work on my health, made some money and am working on a big promotion project for my chef work. I planned a few trips and have generally gotten more optimistic. You're right- the negativity gets tiring and you get to a point where you have to make a conscious decision to change.
What if you can’t change your environment? What if you’re stuck where you are at for years, the learned helplessness is killing me!
I THINK THIS VIDEO HAVE CURED MY DEPRESSION AN ANSWERED ALL MY EXISTENCE QUESTIONS
Seattle to Scottsdale will make EVERYONE happier! LOL (I have been and lived in both, no sunlight = no happy me)
7:10 - 9:07 hits home hard. I'm a full time artist stuck in my head since April this year. Your video made me think about a few things... but for now you inspired me to take a good nap. I will make an art out of resting and kicking out every energy consuming parasite and vampire out of my life. Thank you.
Just moving from Seattle to Arizona can be a mood lift. Sedona is fucking beautiful and can lift your spirits. Visit.
Thank You. This gave me a fresh enthusiasm to be a better version of myself, the 2.0 version.
You make me laugh..honesty is best point of view
Thank you from Australia first video I watched and loved it. I need to stop banging my head on the wall now it's painful
every time i hear your voice it's exactly what i need to hear
Thank you for these! I’m in the first quarter to my life changes and I’m scared but excited- I needed this!
"atomic habits" - james clear. get the audio book. get the habitual stuff you subconciously know already in order. then listen to it again. over the years i went to courses, mentorships, read tons of books on all sorts of habitual stuff - this is the most comprehensible.
Great title, great advice
This is the best video thank you clark! This is exactly how I have been feeling. Sometimes we need a reminder and a push. No one to blame but ourselves and our choices. Im literally starting today :)
Way to go Amy! I'm with you. We totally got this :)
How is it going 4 months on? I just came across this vid…
Great content. Thank you! Shift my environment, shift my thinking, shift my habits. On my way to the new 2.0 of me!💃🏻💕☀️😊🙏
Hi Clark, im in the middle of watching this and just HAD to pause to type this....im 22 and a very serious Meth addict, and i atm got to such a state where i dont really even enjoy getting high, only for about the first 1-2 hours of the 12-16 hour range of the high, my dopamine is so shot to the point that i dont really feel the euphoria and GOD level narcissism/self assurance(feeling like i could accomplish anything and everything) that sucked me into that addiction in the very first place, all i feel now is straight nausea and brain damage(head spin and disassociation) to at times where i act and feel like im autistic....BUT at the same exact time, i cant stop craving it and even when i feel all those effects i stated or even on my horrendous comedown, i STILL want it and think of ways to get more! I keep on looping over the same exact pattern and cannot seem to get out, now i never even heard of you, or seen any of your videos, and just randomly had youtube recommend this very vid, already it is somewhat giving me some thought to how i live my life, and how i should do the very opposite, as i dont know how or what i should do to even just simply attempting to fix my life, but now well im thinking "hey, if i wanna stop doing meth and dont know where to start... maybe just do the opposite of what a methhead would". I also am actually already in the "learn helplessness" tip, i really do feel like everything, life.. all of it is meaningless, so why even try to get clean? maybe just maybe i just have to find the meaning.
This video just saved my life, and I'm not sure I'm truly thankful for it, but there you go
Yay! 💪🙏👍
I found this channel at the perfect time in my life.
Today has been the only day iv actually felt like giving up…this video saved me! Would love to have you as a mentor sirrr
I know this video is supposed to inspire thoughtful introspection.... but I could only focus on your uneven mustache -- and I fixated on this throughout the entire video. Now I need to watch again. Fascinating.
Man, did I ever need to hear this today!
I never make comments on RUclips.. just want to say thank you for your channel - your “art” is changing my entire way of looking at the world. ❤️
Lovin the 3/4 mustache.
Thinkin about adopting one myself
like i dont banging my head and stop watching this type of videos
Clark remind people to like acouple minutes before the video ends i always forget man, i wanna give you the appreciation you deserve, thanks man you really help alot. I was an only child growing up mom never cared never knew my dad. It was just me, didnt have a person to help like you do, thank you kindly for your knowledge.
I can’t get over how much you look like MrBallen.
I appreciate your great content btw! Very educational!
You cannot ask life for the meaning of life, as life will only present you with yourself, hence, you are the meaning of the lift, and in all these challenges you may find in life, it's simply life giving you an opportunity to give something your own purpose and meaning. You are the creator.
"what u try to resist still persists hehe", damn such a profound quote
Family, is meaning. Your purpose is to ensure the survival and success of your family, after all they created you.
There is no such thing as purpose. Whichever path you take is the right one, it's not the path that matters but the people you travel that path with. Life is just a trip that goes on and on forever until you die. Surround yourself with people you love and travel your own path.
Thank you for being open honest and authentic about your real struggles
Love your honest commentary/ wisdom ❤
"nice work on this video. Congratulations"
Love your videos, life is one, live it up wisely.
Yeah some people have to change their whole life circumstances
To escape from the traps of dependence on a place not working for them.
Thats escaping the chains of remorse for staying.
I feel so much in a rut going into this october 2022, there's a lot that I didn't accomplish this year but wanted to. This video was deep yet practical enough to inspire me to get out of the rut!! Thanks! ✨
This change you enviroment action is super undervaluated. Truly, if the universe is intimately conect with observation or "is a Mind" , so basicaly everything influence this mind (your mind) environment, family,self-talk,music,food,videos, actions, inactions, and so goes on.
Alpha 😍
Thaank you for shearing your knowledge 🙏🏼
Thanks Clark, This is (generally) different therefore refreshing. Have lacked pansion for tooooo long.
That's it. I finally know how I feel. I feel uninspired and I live an uninspired life. Every day I just go thought the motions and every day is the the same. Things that used to make me happy no longer do. 30 years ago I was killing myself to get into a new career. Now, 30 years later, that career no longer brings me joy. I feel stuck. I have a familiy, bills, and commitments. If I were single, I would have moved to a different country a long time and started over. I cannot do that; not without destroying my marriage.
While I enjoyed most of yoru video, I was saddend when at the end you started peddling your course. I stopped listening to you at that point. To be honest, that made me question your genuity.
Big Red. I can relate to how you feel. Here is some of my experience. Maybe it will help. I was a chef for 27 years. In my late 30's I went through career change, midlife crisis, depression and a drinking problem. I no longer knew what I wanted. For four years I was stuck in life. I was going through the motions of life
I was angry things weren't going my way. I felt the universe was against me, negative, bitching about life. What got me out of that rut? A simple mindset shift. I got tired of myself. I got tired of my own negativity, so I did one thing: I made a choice. I decided I would no longer be negative. I decided to be positive, practice gratitude and focus on what I can control as opposed to focusing on what I cannot control. We all have a choice. And ou owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be
Fair play to you. I used to have moments of inspiration and motivation in my 20s and early 30s but never saw them through. They're becoming less and less frequent now, but watching this gave me a little spark!
'un', written this way in your title, made me read it as the Spanish translation "un" for "one" (English translation of a singular object). So, I first thought this video topic was about the "one fuck" we should give about life.. Whoops on my part. Love your work. Keep it classy (as you do).
Some people are so inept of perspective they don t even know or can even describe the image they are trying to be. Which is another question in college 101.
Live better and love sincerely
wow, I've been in a bit of a rut and this video truly helped my psyche, Thank you so much.
Clark brother I have been watching your videos for so long, you've changed my life brother 🙏🙏💗
Thanks for the idea that a goal isn't necessarily just something to reach for, but it's purpose as a tool as well.
Real and raw. Bless you.
Process is more important then the goal. Yes, first set the goal..
I was not expecting that.
Hopefully this video gets the views it deserves because it's some of the realest self-help content I've seen!
The timing couldn't be better
This is your purpose thank you for this
The dog experiment reminds me of a study I read about where they took rats and they dropped them in a fish tank they couldn’t climb out of and timed them. 45 minutes in the rats start drowning they’re all dead before an hour passes. They drop the next batch of rats in only this time they pull them out at 40minutes dry them off let them rest for the remaining time and at the hour mark they drop them back in and 5 hours later those same rats were still swimming. Cause they believed that eventually help would come the last one made 6 hours before succumbing to fatigue.
Damn this is insane
Rule 2 for me! Thank you for that amazing realization 💯
Funny, I'm in the process of moving from Seattle area to the East coast for this exact reason. Not currently living the life I know I want to live so I'm creating a fresh start. So excited!
I hope and trust you make it Amber, with some good visualisation and thoughts it should work out well!
I am ready to make a new start too!
First selling my business... I hope that happens fast!
@@explorinlearnindoing5462 I wish you every success and happiness in that! Great luck to you! ❤
@@day-dreamer1313 Thanks sweety , same for you 😚
It's all relative. We just have to stay positive.
My thing is, I’ve been killing it and after every time I kill it, I’m faced with “limitations” from my cancer treatment and anywhere I walk they are there, so trying to find something that works around them or to walk straight to it has been the worst part every-time I reach a goal. I need to go through the trauma, cause back before I knew these “limitations” exists I went for it and I went for it big, ambitiously went for being a doctor when, it would turn out the way everything was that wasn’t “possible” but I still went for it, I feel like because I know how it has been in the other times I go for the same thing. I’m either in a phase of ptsd from before I made any progress or stuck in this rut again.
And not wanting to go for it. And I went on a retreat and on that retreat I had absolute clarity
first 20 secs, everything feels so relatable 😭
Depression and anxiety fucked me up bad
Yup, nice one. I can relate, I just haven’t Made the move yet. I know it’s the best thing for me to do, yet I’m stalling…
I really need this. Thanks a lot 🙏
The artists way….. a great book. My daughter and I did this when we homeschooled.
Love your energy and the way you explain things
I,m moving with my mom.... It's a scary change... Really it is .. but it helps me know what is happening in my life..b
Having your thinking trapped in past memories....yikes..am in this rut...
Right going back to my 🎨
I need your exact help, thank you for giving all of us your time
I understand now why you and your channel are so successful. You keep bringing your real experiences with enthusiasm. Well done. Thank you. 🙏🏻
You sir, are not only an amazing artist… you are an outstanding educator and inspiration to so many already… please keep the valuable content coming 👏👏👏