I'm gonna try this. I have my plans, but when I tell people about them, I never make it anywhere. So I'm just gonna stop talking and start doing. And also I'm getting tired of hearing myself talking and not doing
@@BusinessWolf1 I actually went in my back yard and meditated a few mins after I got off work, actually starting to get it. Now I jus need to start working out and stay away from alcohol
it’s difficult to watch things like this, but I’m making myself…it’s like I just don’t want to be better but I keep trying, i want it to stick. I was so disgustingly broken once, and after so much work I feel like I’ve maybe gotten a few bruises healed. I still feel like a crying little boy hiding inside the big strong toughness I spend hours putting on daily. Im going to keep watching. Thank you.
The way you explained what types of things are worth doing inner work for, really helped. I thought I didn’t have much shadow or inner work to do, but I do. However,it will be hard, because I’m sick with Lyme. I’m going to try not to fixate on that, though. 🙏💫🌷
@@h4zeh Often pain is inflammation. Making dietary choices to eliminate it helps. Not always, honoring you, if your pain is caused by illness or accident. Keep breathing. Sending loving vibes to you now.
Thank you so much for this. I’m 29, I’ve had 18 brain surgeries and 2 brain tumors the past 6 years. I’m still fighting another one, but this was the only way I was able to accept what had happened- I started searching for my “what” instead of the “why” ❤️
People often forget their shadow and many don't even know what this really means. Everyone has one, I do, you do, everyone. But most people are scared of their shadow. Most people avoid their shadow through a variety of healthy and unhealthy outlets. Embracing your shadow and understanding the meaning of the trauma and darkness, will lead you to true freedom and peace in your life. Find the shadow. Embrace the shadow. Understand the shadow. And finally, make peace with the shadow to open up your world!
I suffer from crippling anxiety around people who are smarter than me and I’m trying to understand why I can’t act normal when I’m in those social settings, thank you for this video
@@AppleTY2015 after spending a lot of time reflecting, I realized this stemmed from childhood trauma, being singled out teased and embarrassed in class by teachers and students…this manifested into me constantly being afraid of being judged and messing up, especially in professional settings. Hate the feeling of being looked down on or belittled, just like how I felt in that classroom as a kid.
@@TrvisXXIII I’m so pleased for you that you took your time to reflect on the source. I asked because I’ve had a similar experience that I’m just starting to come out the other side of. It surrounded having to “have a voice” now, as a parent, when advocating for my children at school. Extremely triggering for me the past 3 years. Crying. Shutting down. I uncovered my childhood “chronically wrong” conditioning. I’m wrong in every way, in every situation & therefore standing up for my children was nearly debilitating. But the strong woman in me would not step down. After a lot of practice and meditation/breath work, I have more psychological flexibility- so, things still feel scary, but I can come back to baseline quicker and more easily. It’s an incredible journey!! What’s your next step? 🙂
I think a lot of it starts from a) self love (I am worthy, and no matter what happens (ridicule), I’ll be ok; and b) understanding the meanness on the part of others is a reflection of them, not you. In “the four agreements,” Miguel Ruiz talks about not taking anything personally. Why? Because all of us are (and he explains this better and more tastefully) screwed up by our own experiences and have beliefs that form this fake “story” or version of reality that we use to interpret everything. Those kids who chose to be mean were probably criticized and belittled by their own parents. It’s what they know. They didn’t know love, and didn’t have it to give to you. But that’s their story, and it has nothing to do with reality or anything to do with your worth. That said, I recommend the “charisma on command” RUclips channel to help with your social skills. Everyone benefits from growing those!
There arent smarter people. People have different ways of expressing their intelligence. Some are great at maths, others at languages, others at art, sports and the list goes on. There is something called multiple intelligences. Research it and find yours 😊. And one thing is to be smart and another is to have knowkedge on certain matters. So if you want to improve, read, research, watch documentaries on the things that interest you the most: history, animals, politics, etc. I know lots of people who barely went to school but they have so much knowkedge that it is a pleasure to talk with them
I just started my shadow work journey a little over three weeks ago and can already see a huge shift in myself as a person. I love who I'm becoming and have never felt more comfortable within my own skin.
@@kieransimpson4965 hey, thanks for asking 🥰 truthfully, there's a lot of things I've had to implement one by one over the course of 3 to 4 years. I just started shadow work intentionally about a month ago with the help of a shadow work journal and workbook so having my foundation from these last few years has made that process faster and easier for me. But my top tips (in no particular order) would be: - learn to accept and flow with internal and external chaos - keep a journal for emotional dumping, patterns, progress updates, gratitude entries, etc. Write in it whenever you feel the need to, it doesn't have to be an everyday thing unless you want it to be. - interrupt the negative self-talk, start looking at yourself from a neutral perspective, then level up (at your own pace) to positive self-talk and affirmations - accept your shadow as an ally rather than an enemy - allow yourself to have authentic, creative expression in any form that may take (i.e. switching up your personal style or painting) - inner child work and healing - cultivate grace, patience, and compassion for yourself as you navigate the inevitability of your pain and discomfort. Be kind to your mind - develop healthy coping mechanisms that put your nervous system at ease (for me, that's dancing, singing, EFT, meditation, yoga, journaling, deep breathing, stimming, being out in nature) - radical self-acceptance which then usually transmutes naturally into radical self-love - consistently remind yourself that there is light on the other side of these dark, messy, or even scary emotions. - have literal conversations with your shadow and inner child. Love, accept, appreciate and level with them. - only follow positive and uplifting content, stay away from media that may trigger you - save your energy for what matters most to you and for what brings you the most joy, or at least contentment. - have a loving support system if you can, there truly is strength in numbers. I hope this helps! I know this was a lot and I hope it didn't overwhelm you to read all of this. It'll take time, having that patience for yourself really is a game changer. Day by day and moment by moment. Also, it's good to remember that perfection doesn't exist, healing isn't linear, and you're already doing a great freaking job as you are. I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey ❤️
@@kieransimpson4965 side note - as I continue to secure myself into this mindset, I still have anxiety... the only difference is I've learned to dance with it rather than to fight it. Anxiety becomes easier to manage with time, patience, consistency, and practice ❤️ you've got this!
It really is important to remember that trauma isn't a competition. At least, not in the context of self improvement. Everyone has their own journey to go through and putting your focus on other's paths is time and energy you should use on your own.
How ironic but not, that I land on this video. I had no idea what Shadow Work meant yet I was doing it early (3:30am) this morning. I got upset about something that had happened and a thought came to me questioning why I needed to be upset about it. I pulled out my journal and had a back and forth dialog about when and why I choose emotions that can keep me from being happy or in a good place. And I saw how I can change it if I really want to. It was was a great moment. Now this video has added more insight. Thanks.
I’m 20, I kinda developed this exercise for myself MULTIPLE years ago, and overcame and understood a lot of this then on my own volition, now I’m just lazily watching RUclips to procrastinate the boring work😂 when I think about it I’ll get up and do it almost without pushback but other than that I’m just lazy and don’t want to I find it’s easier now than it was 3 years ago to convince myself to just get work done but even now I still have an inhibiting procrastination that I really don’t understand
Less recently in my life, I was on the right path, but I didn't do the necessary shadow work to permanently quit my addictions and bad habbits. I quit smoking for a year and a half (got back into it). I was working out consistantly (injured myself from one ego rep just to prove to myself I could do it) I was doing well at my job (got fired for dipping back into old habbits) and now I am suffering my karma. I have a lot of spiritual knowledge but avoided my practices because I thought just being deeply conscious of everything was enough. It's time to put in the work and follow through.
Damn, you posted this the day I got sober lol After 3 years off drowning my issues in alcohol and feeling stuck in life, I feel ready to tackle myself. Gotta go and find my journal...
The PTS comment is very much true. I have had soldiers with very difficult upbringing coming in to serve and sometimes some days are extremely difficult. I've learned what helps is full listening and influencing negative behaviors by reinforcing any accomplishments, big or small, they accomplish. I am also coping with depression, I am not sure where it came from, but my best treatment is affirmation, a small journal to meditate and reflect, and daily progression. Inner peace trumps outward acceptance.
Every time I get depressed I resort to my formula of saying thank you from the time I wake up and all day long. And asking for help. It always comes, even if I only ask in my head (and heart). I hope you get the support you need for your depression. Love ultimately is the answer.
I'm so happy that you said don't join the trauma olympics because that's an issue I have to address I grew up hearing oh please its someone out here worse than so I help so much in and didn't express anything because someone issue was more pressing than mine so I thought...it's funny how our parents mess us up but it's our responsibility to heal!!! I'm so tired of my feelings being dismissed
Friend , with all due respect, You are the only one who can dismiss your own feelings , does that make sense to you? because when you're feelings come into your present moment , which might be even an issue like abandonment or rejection etc. and you instead of acknowledging and accepting it , and welcoming it into your present moment, that you can inturn place upon it loving kindness , you actually dismiss it and send it away or you find other ways of not acknowledging that woundedness that hurtful feeling that causes you mental anguish or psychological pain and because you don't acknowledge this particular feeling that comes up in your moment you look externally for validation instead of giving yourself validation by validating the wounded and hurtful and painful feelings that come up in your present moment does that make sense to you? I can only suggest that when those painful feelings come into your present moment, that you acknowledge them and accept them with loving kindness and with hospitality, giving space to your uncomfortable wounded or hurtful feelings and as you do the acknowledgment and acceptance and loving-kindness that you place upon that woundedness in your present moment will actually transform into healing as we allow our feelings space to process. We are supposed to have a parental child relationship with our feelings we being the parent in our Consciousness and our feelings being the child as the feeling and as we place this loving acceptance Upon Our feelings/ inner child we are placing loving acceptance upon ourselves and thereby we are validating ourselves and in turn as we place this loving acceptance upon ourselves we are now able to authentically give others the same loving acceptance as we give ourselves. Therefore, if we validate our wounded selves, then others cannot hurt us by what they tell us or they cannot invalidate us because they dismiss what we have to say, Because if you understand that your validation is no longer requiring something external, so you're going to find as you start processing these feelings and placing the loving acceptance upon them that when people invalidate you externally , it's not even going to affect you. I think it's important to understand that you have your objective impersonal self which is the parent / consciousness and then you have your subjective personal self which is the child which is your feelings and whenever you take things personally it means that you are not being in the place of the objective impersonal parent and that's where you always need to be because that's the place of victory you are there to minister to your feelings you are there to minister to your personal self and if you identify as the personal self that's when you get your feelings hurt , does that make sense to you you? You can't take things personally, if you are in the objective and impersonal state of being you can only take things personally when you are in your personal subjective self. Let me know if this helps thank you!
@@stevemiller8895 I definitely realize that now I should have been more specific this is when I was younger between 5-11 and my feelings were dismissed by my parents but I learned that less as a child and I'm better for it!!
What am I avoiding? My initial response was "everything". Everything is stressing me out. I'm sure most people that know me have no idea but it feels like everything.
“The Science of Stuck” by Britt Frank is an EXCELLENT new book on this topic. Exceptional! Informed!!! and helpful!!! Check it out at your local library!! Best wishes fellow journeyers!
This reminds me of parts work in the Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). Very Helpful. In IFS you talk and interview all of your parts that make up who you are. You make sure everyone has a seat at the table and their concerns are heard.
This video has come at the right time for me.Majorly helpful throughout and very interesting point about the shame,guilt fear Vs peace love feelings . My emotions of late along with your explanation have proven you can't be high vibing whilst carrying low vibe feelings proving the importance of dealing with them and your video has given great tips on how to do this so thankyou truly greatful for this content 🙏
Yes! by going to the low vibe feelings and clearing them at the root, we can greater access and intensity to the high vibe feelings that we are desiring! We turn that which is undesirable , into that which is worthy.
@@kevji absolutely but I've watched various videos on what shadow work is,which is good but this video actually has good input on the questions to ask yourself as it's not always easy knowing where/ how to start in order to get to the root so that you can begin to move forward 🙂
Random video suggestion and I'm glad I clicked. I had to pause it on the part of taking up ram with the tabs open .. makes total sense. Have to close them and make room to free your computer..which is your mind.. good video so far and I will continue to watch.. like. Sub. And bells on.. I can tell this new find which is you will bring more inspiration into my life. Enjoy your day 😊
Hey Clark! Loved, loved, loved this video. I am impressed with the quality of all you do. Thank you! (The blue light circles reflecting on your glasses are distracting).
this is very much so along the lines of what happens in the persona series of games, especially the 4th one. Seeing what seems to be negative in what you're doing/feeling, accepting that it's there, and seeing what you can do constructively with it. it's not quite what happens in that game, though it's really good and totally worth playing btw :p
I really wanted to comment and say that your channel is really, really good. Your manner of approaching topics and articulating ideas is sooo easy to grasp and engaging. This is the one self improvement channel whose videos aren't a drag or bore to get through. You should really pat yourself on the back :)
why did i become so much more miserable after shadow work? :) i was hoping for a big change but maybe there's just something too deep-seated that i can't put a finger on. i concluded i might have ADHD.. what does shadow work do to persons like us or rather neuro divergent people..is it any different? i am sure adhd has roots which i may be able dig up through shadow work but being hyperfocused on shadow self and overanalysis might easily lead to rumination. that's what happened to me atleast. any thoughts on this? anybody.
I have ADHD, and I can totally relate to what you’re saying. Something that I’ve learned in my years doing shadow work and spiritual practices, is that I can research ‘how to’s…’ and learn from them, but then I should only apply what works for me, and create my own processes. Neurodivergent people think and process things differently, and we tend to feel like failures because we can’t focus long enough, we lose interest, etc. My advice is to think about past experiences where you had a challenge such as this, and overcame it. Then, break it down and see what helped you solve that issue, and try and apply that solution to your shadow work process. Also, I think a big part of shadow work in general is step number 4 in Clark’s process (10:28)-acknowledgment without judgement-because judgement is a big shadow for us with adhd, always secretly thinking there’s something wrong with us. I hope this helps ❤
I can understand , there is a saying that says,"Over analysis , becomes paralysis". which means you might be overwhelmed by the information necessary in order for you to achieve some sort of healing, but I want to encourage you to just read through what I wrote and this might help you because it's really simple it doesn't require that you go back anywhere or do anything except for whenever an emotion or feeling or an issue comes up that you place acknowledgment of it and acceptance and loving kindness to it and hospitality and letting it remain with you instead of trying to suppress it let it come up and let it be with you and then of course, I discuss your relationship to your feelings and the way that I go about it but let me know if this helps and take care of yourself! I am in the process of becoming self aware and therefore I know that I am not my feelings but I am the space for my feelings and in a more relationship oriented representation, I am consciousness and it is / I AM the parent to my inner child who represents my feelings. So when I am feeling lost I know that the feeling is my inner child and within that relationship I know that children have needs and being lost. For example , is part of being wounded so I want to console my inner child by first acknowledging and accepting and treating with loving kindness and giving him Hospitality which means although he is wounded and I feel the wound, i do not run away from it , but rather, I welcome it and in doing so through all of this love that I am placing upon my feelings my inner child is able to transform from being lost and wounded and feeling unacknowledged and unaccepted and unloved (because I may have felt the feeling and did not want to deal with it and instead i ran from it,) to now the feeling transforms into being found and healed all because of the acknowledgment and acceptance and the loving kindness that I place upon my feelings and that's how I heal.That's how I increase my confidence my self-esteem my value and sense of worth which is the result my process this also increases my ability to validate myself internally so that my inner child is not crying out for some external validation because I failed to validate my inner child internally, through acknowledgment and acceptance and loving kindness and validating my inner child's presence. I also give my feelings the highest priority that sense of self that sense that I am number one or my inner child is number one who happens to be in charge of my feelings, what he feels, Is the very most important thing to me, and because of this he feels that importance and value That I give him and since he feels that way i also am feeling what he feels. like he's number one and now he is very confident and that confidence comes out through my expression and in my projection into the world and from that it is reflected back on to me because I am omitting a higher frequency / vibration and that frequency / vibration returns to me in that I walk this Earth confidently with high self-esteem as a result of the acknowledgment the acceptance the loving kindness and internal validation that I am able to place upon my own woundedness my own wounded inner child and by this it transforms into healing and because of this I am becoming more authentic in everything I say and do and I keep improving and becoming the functional person that I was created to be as I am embracing my dark side unauthentic personality because of woundedness but through acknowledgment and acceptance of it It transform from wounded and unauthentic into my healed and authentic personality much like a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly and it is in the psychological heart , that for a caterpillar also represents the Cocoon where this transformation into my authentic personality represented as a butterfly , takes place.
I just did this and it was sooo liberating. I'm planning to do it for at least 2 weeks till I get a new job. Afterwards I'll keep working on healing at least once or twice a week. thank you so much for sharing. You are helping me heal from traumas that have been holding me back my entire life. Your way of explaining everything is simple easy and applicable. Keep shining I'm sending you vibes of love and prosperity.
I just want to say, your videos popped up out of no where and kind of ride along with my direction. I enjoy the ones who can can break stereotypes and not assume just because someone is wearing a cool ass leather jacket that he is somehow threatening in a way, but yet you are not. However you could be, so that is were the power is I think for me is in the restraint
Lol! I do almost all my shadow work with crystals. I unexpectedly triggered kundalini through crystal meditation 20 years ago, then stopped meditating because it got too intense and ungrounding. Fastforward to Covid, got really bored and started working with crystals again. Signs that a crystal is doing shadow work and moving blocked energy, sharp pain, muscle contraction, tiny electric sensations, thinking of issues you usually avoid (usually surrounding the need for boundaries), feeling bottled up emotions like shame, sadness, heartbreak or anger. Grounding crystals are what eventually made me understand what grounding my excess spiritual energy is supposed to feel like. Tiger iron on the root chakra (mix of hematite, red jasper and tiger eye) is the most intensely grounding crystal I've ever experienced. It rips emotions you didn't even know you had and pulls them down through your root chakra down into the Earth. It's not for the faint hearted. There are gentler and more graceful grounding crystals. I really enjoy brown calcite and dravite because they gently pull the energy down my legs, through my feet, to the Earth star chakra. It's sooooo relaxing. One of the best ones for getting rid of negative energy is supposed to be aegirine. I've only recently acquired one. At first it made me feel more confident, but upon repeated use I've had really weird and spiritual experiences with it where I felt in touch with purer aspects of my soul. Shadow work has been a long and hard journey for me. I've worked seriously at it with crystals for the last two years. I wanted better grounding and I've had a lot of breakthroughs with my root chakra recently. I am very grateful I have done the work. I have less anxiety and it's getting better and better. It's hard work but it pays off. Loved the vid : )
I did shadow work before 'Shadow work' was mainstream. My relatives are from Siberia. We been doing this 'social' way of being in the world 🌎 for 10,000 years. Then we came to America. The central US we are the Snake people. Yes I'm also Slitheran house 🖖. We just watching your 260 year social experiment: USA From the Far North. I'm J. I approve these methods ☮️
Great video. I stumbled on this and i really have to say your way of presenting this info (despite not me knowing the content) was great, concise, and really easy to consume. Good job :)
None of this will help you. The only thing that can even half help you is direct action. You have to work ... plant gardens, clean your house, organize the paperwork, take care of animals/pets, get that certificate, deal with that bill collector, cook that healthier food, take a daily walk... And stay off the internet, stay off the social media, stop texting, stop watching RUclips all day ... This right here is the stuff, non-stop "self help" supposed "coaches" and "gurus," non-stop chattering... that's making us sick.
Oh my! I could never make sense of that inner child thing. And then, you just said it: it is shadow work, pure and simple. Thank you! I was making it too complicated for myself... as usual 😂
You know if you do the work you have no idea how much your life will change if I can make it simple for you though whenever you have any negative or uncomfortable feeling from an issue that you had growing up as a kid or you are triggered when that feeling comes into your present the Temptation is to suppress it and be distracted or let yourself be distracted and that's a way of running from it but instead embrace it like you would your own physical child who's hurting but instead it is your inner child that's hurting but don't run from it acknowledge it and accept it and place loving kindness upon it and let it remain with you as long as it wants and you will find that within minutes that that feeling of discomfort or the woundedness or the psychological pain or trauma well suddenly transform and subside and you have just completed one processed feeling because that's all feelings really want to do is just process but instead of letting them process we hold on to them and try to use them as a weapon or we hold on to them thinking that if we suppress them they'll go away but they don't they need to process so if you can just get that into your mind that feelings need to process and feelings need to be loved because loving your feelings you are loving yourself and when you love yourself you're able to authentically love others outside of yourself the other Advantage is when you validate your wounded inner self inner child you won't have a need to search for external validation from other people and I'm not kidding you I've been doing this for over a year now and it has completely changed my life and the effort is not as much as you might think but if you just understand the concept it's definitely worth your while it's a game changer anyways I just thought you should know because I know what it's done for me and if I could tell everyone I would!
Thank you for explaining it so much and trying to make it easier to understand and starting the very important work that needs to be done first for every human 🙏
Great approaches. I'd like to throw in that this kind of therapy is very successful throughout the history of mental health nursing & there's a lot more evidence than the one example illustrated about how useful these approaches are. I really like the way you explain it here. Something I would add, is that none of this works too well for the 30% of people who insist on bringing, and persist in keeping "supernatural" théories or other unscientific ideology in the process. This is about your own thoughts and not about what imaginary beings you might be using to avoid thinking about problems. You might realise this quite early on, in the process, by yourself, but if you don't and you keep getting nowhere with it, I advise some consideration of the facts, with some kind of additional approach related to journaling, like CBT CBT is where you focus on the emotions and analyse exactly where anxiety arises in your thoughts that trigger it. This helps unpick over-reliance on ideology as a method of coping with difficult circumstances.
I know that feeling, many of us do. We are all bound to fail from time to time, perhaps even seasons where it seems like failure is inevitable, but if you can fail yourself, you can forgive yourself. IF you can forgive yourself, you can be worthy of success. If you can can be worthy of success, you will find success. The success must first happen on the inside, then it so too will be on the outside.
RUclips showed me this suggestion simultaneously while I was doing day two of an 'inner child' journaling exercise my therapist gave me. I was worried because I saw "law of attraction" and I basically think that stuff is woo-woo. You can't positive yourself into something; you just won't get anywhere by negativing yourself out of everything. However, this video was actually extremely useful (and kinda similar to the thing I'm doing.)
Doing shadow work is crucial before finding your twin flame or you will fight with them a lot because they’re your mirror of everything you hate about yourself or reminders of your unhealed traumas, once you heal everything and they’re healed, the twin flame relationship will be bliss, otherwise stay away from them lol it’s the worst pain possible being rejecting by your other half
Nah, just don't get it. Self acceptance before self improvement. I drink smoke, weed, fuck up conversation.... But no "negative vibes" from it all, despite a religious upbringing. Self Acceptance people... "Shadow work" fun buzz word. Just accept yourself, and see confidence grow. Don't take on other people's preconceived judgments. Your doing fucking fine. (Just keep physical health to a reasonable state, and go see your dentist)
Hey thanks for another shadow work video. I recognize a pattern in my life. Time and time again, when I lost some weight, I wanted to put some fat back on, and I always did. As a result, I was always yo-yoing. I really think it stems from my low self-worth, and there's this shadow part of me that wants to sabotage myself. That shadow part of myself doesn't want me looking good and feeling good. I need to look at that part of me straight in the eyes and have a conversation. Why are you here? Why do you not me being happy, healthy and attractive? I think there's a lot of pain and shame in there, that keeps me from moving forward and truly stepping into the highest version of myself.
I think you missed a pretty important and obviously successful method of shadow work… 12 Step Programs. Especially considering how much you mention the distractions of substances.
Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Wanted to send a quick thank you for so much help. You've helped me be me and be able to have th courage to live my life. Still working at it, but this helps.
To me it's like going to the deep end of a swimming pool when I try something new just turn 55 May 29 5 years working at Goodwill just really part time dead end job
I really like this video. How u explain that shadow work doesn't have to be something from witchcraft. I looked into witchcraft myself for a time. But I was also starting to fall into a mental fog/ a lighter type of depression than what I've had b4 in the past. I started to learn about shadow work. & have been wanting to actually try it myself. But I also didn't like the fact that it was tied to wc so much. So I'm glad u made this video bcuz I can show it to someone w/o it being something wc like. & maybe they can use it too. & also not feel like it's something from wc.
So excited to come across your videos. This is what I’ve needed. Gonna click the link and ck it out. I need someone there to help push me or should I say guide me. Doing it alone I can never seem to do it. So thank you for your videos much love
2 years in theraphy.. thats why i understand what you are saying…its not possible to understand for a person who hasnt been through theraphy, because none of the techniques are self-evident
Shadow Work, in it's many forms and methods, is deeply commected to witchcraft ❤️ That is one of many reasons why the practice/craft can be extremely healthy and can be a positive catalyst for inner realization, change, healing, and confidence to take action steps in life for individuals. It encourages this type of work in many ways. It makes me sad that it is laughed at and dismissed so often when it has been so crucial to our development since the dawn of our time as a species... The telling of history really did witchcraft dirty.
i seeeeeee... so what you're saying is, that if you're a parent, arrange to have your child get lost in the forest at night so they have something real to be traumatized by instead of some pansy ass shit like me picking the wrong toy for christmas that he'll moan about endlessly to his therapist later. that's a good tip!
There's not much anyone can do when they need to fart they worry they might follow through and fill their pants. It's good manners to the world that you keep that frown upside down until you get home.
This is the best, most thorough and simplest way I’ve ever heard this explained. I’ve been interested in doing it and I’m really going to explore it now. Thank you!
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You, my brother, are doing brilliant work. Blessings!
There's such a need for this work in the world it's beyond belief. Most damaging and damaged people don't even know that it exists. Thank you 💕
You are really intelligent🍀
Shame it doesn't work for Anhedonia :(
Sounds great x
Doing work without telling anyone and then showing the results has been the biggest contributor to my productivity thus far.
anytime I share what I wanna do I end up not doing it.But when I stay quiet I do a lot
I'm gonna try this. I have my plans, but when I tell people about them, I never make it anywhere. So I'm just gonna stop talking and start doing. And also I'm getting tired of hearing myself talking and not doing
Thank you for sharing this! Absolutely!! 😊
@@jamesmason9016 It's been 6 days, how's it going?
@@BusinessWolf1 I actually went in my back yard and meditated a few mins after I got off work, actually starting to get it. Now I jus need to start working out and stay away from alcohol
it’s difficult to watch things like this, but I’m making myself…it’s like I just don’t want to be better but I keep trying, i want it to stick. I was so disgustingly broken once, and after so much work I feel like I’ve maybe gotten a few bruises healed. I still feel like a crying little boy hiding inside the big strong toughness I spend hours putting on daily. Im going to keep watching. Thank you.
Inspired journal prompt: what would I look like without shame? What am I ashamed about and how can I forgive myself?
The way you explained what types of things are worth doing inner work for, really helped. I thought I didn’t have much shadow or inner work to do, but I do. However,it will be hard, because I’m sick with Lyme. I’m going to try not to fixate on that, though. 🙏💫🌷
Just wanted to say that i tried this and uncovered a lot of insights! Thanks Clark.
This video was enough to make me cry.
who knows what evil Lurks within the hearts of Men, The Shadow knows!
Be so free that you can only bound with yourself....
Build the grid, light the candles and burn the incense! 😉Subconscious LOVES the drama of it all! It makes a huge impression!
True Story! 😂
@@LanaALaBonte ❤️
I have to agree!!
Seriously, the more emotion you can bring into it, elevates the work. Light that candle!
So true, love your answer 💗
"If the problems are within, the solutions are within too..." We can bring peace and healing by strengthening our minds. 💪💌
@@h4zeh Often pain is inflammation. Making dietary choices to eliminate it helps. Not always, honoring you, if your pain is caused by illness or accident. Keep breathing. Sending loving vibes to you now.
Thank you so much for this. I’m 29, I’ve had 18 brain surgeries and 2 brain tumors the past 6 years. I’m still fighting another one, but this was the only way I was able to accept what had happened- I started searching for my “what” instead of the “why” ❤️
You’re tough as hell! You’re in my thoughts. I wish you nothing but the best. I know you will beat that shit. Keep fighting!!!!!
Stay safe and strong!
I wish you all the love
I wish you the best, you are truly amazing and strong
Let god give u all the strength
A truly enlightened thought 🥰 I wish you the best. Merry Christmas. I hope you and your family celebrate while you're here.
People often forget their shadow and many don't even know what this really means.
Everyone has one, I do, you do, everyone.
But most people are scared of their shadow. Most people avoid their shadow through a variety of healthy and unhealthy outlets.
Embracing your shadow and understanding the meaning of the trauma and darkness, will lead you to true freedom and peace in your life.
Find the shadow. Embrace the shadow. Understand the shadow. And finally, make peace with the shadow to open up your world!
Technically everyone has several, but obviously it's possible to look at "the" shadow as a category containing several subcategories.
Well that was vague
I suffer from crippling anxiety around people who are smarter than me and I’m trying to understand why I can’t act normal when I’m in those social settings, thank you for this video
🙂 hello, does this happen in a specific situation? Such as being around a teacher? Or a grandparent?
I wish you peace.
@@AppleTY2015 after spending a lot of time reflecting, I realized this stemmed from childhood trauma, being singled out teased and embarrassed in class by teachers and students…this manifested into me constantly being afraid of being judged and messing up, especially in professional settings. Hate the feeling of being looked down on or belittled, just like how I felt in that classroom as a kid.
@@TrvisXXIII I’m so pleased for you that you took your time to reflect on the source.
I asked because I’ve had a similar experience that I’m just starting to come out the other side of.
It surrounded having to “have a voice” now, as a parent, when advocating for my children at school. Extremely triggering for me the past 3 years. Crying. Shutting down.
I uncovered my childhood “chronically wrong” conditioning. I’m wrong in every way, in every situation & therefore standing up for my children was nearly debilitating. But the strong woman in me would not step down. After a lot of practice and meditation/breath work, I have more psychological flexibility- so, things still feel scary, but I can come back to baseline quicker and more easily. It’s an incredible journey!!
What’s your next step?
🙂
I think a lot of it starts from a) self love (I am worthy, and no matter what happens (ridicule), I’ll be ok; and b) understanding the meanness on the part of others is a reflection of them, not you.
In “the four agreements,” Miguel Ruiz talks about not taking anything personally. Why? Because all of us are (and he explains this better and more tastefully) screwed up by our own experiences and have beliefs that form this fake “story” or version of reality that we use to interpret everything.
Those kids who chose to be mean were probably criticized and belittled by their own parents. It’s what they know. They didn’t know love, and didn’t have it to give to you. But that’s their story, and it has nothing to do with reality or anything to do with your worth.
That said, I recommend the “charisma on command” RUclips channel to help with your social skills. Everyone benefits from growing those!
There arent smarter people. People have different ways of expressing their intelligence. Some are great at maths, others at languages, others at art, sports and the list goes on. There is something called multiple intelligences. Research it and find yours 😊. And one thing is to be smart and another is to have knowkedge on certain matters. So if you want to improve, read, research, watch documentaries on the things that interest you the most: history, animals, politics, etc. I know lots of people who barely went to school but they have so much knowkedge that it is a pleasure to talk with them
I just started my shadow work journey a little over three weeks ago and can already see a huge shift in myself as a person. I love who I'm becoming and have never felt more comfortable within my own skin.
HI Bri, can you define what changes you've made? implementing your shadow when you have anxiety is quite difficult.
What are the steps you are following?
Thank you @ Bri V. x
@@kieransimpson4965 hey, thanks for asking 🥰 truthfully, there's a lot of things I've had to implement one by one over the course of 3 to 4 years. I just started shadow work intentionally about a month ago with the help of a shadow work journal and workbook so having my foundation from these last few years has made that process faster and easier for me. But my top tips (in no particular order) would be:
- learn to accept and flow with internal and external chaos
- keep a journal for emotional dumping, patterns, progress updates, gratitude entries, etc. Write in it whenever you feel the need to, it doesn't have to be an everyday thing unless you want it to be.
- interrupt the negative self-talk, start looking at yourself from a neutral perspective, then level up (at your own pace) to positive self-talk and affirmations
- accept your shadow as an ally rather than an enemy
- allow yourself to have authentic, creative expression in any form that may take (i.e. switching up your personal style or painting)
- inner child work and healing
- cultivate grace, patience, and compassion for yourself as you navigate the inevitability of your pain and discomfort. Be kind to your mind
- develop healthy coping mechanisms that put your nervous system at ease (for me, that's dancing, singing, EFT, meditation, yoga, journaling, deep breathing, stimming, being out in nature)
- radical self-acceptance which then usually transmutes naturally into radical self-love
- consistently remind yourself that there is light on the other side of these dark, messy, or even scary emotions.
- have literal conversations with your shadow and inner child. Love, accept, appreciate and level with them.
- only follow positive and uplifting content, stay away from media that may trigger you
- save your energy for what matters most to you and for what brings you the most joy, or at least contentment.
- have a loving support system if you can, there truly is strength in numbers.
I hope this helps! I know this was a lot and I hope it didn't overwhelm you to read all of this. It'll take time, having that patience for yourself really is a game changer. Day by day and moment by moment. Also, it's good to remember that perfection doesn't exist, healing isn't linear, and you're already doing a great freaking job as you are. I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey ❤️
@@kieransimpson4965 side note - as I continue to secure myself into this mindset, I still have anxiety... the only difference is I've learned to dance with it rather than to fight it. Anxiety becomes easier to manage with time, patience, consistency, and practice ❤️ you've got this!
It really is important to remember that trauma isn't a competition. At least, not in the context of self improvement. Everyone has their own journey to go through and putting your focus on other's paths is time and energy you should use on your own.
Well said!
How ironic but not, that I land on this video. I had no idea what Shadow Work meant yet I was doing it early (3:30am) this morning.
I got upset about something that had happened and a thought came to me questioning why I needed to be upset about it. I pulled out my journal and had a back and forth dialog about when and why I choose emotions that can keep me from being happy or in a good place. And I saw how I can change it if I really want to. It was was a great moment. Now this video has added more insight. Thanks.
I’m 20, I kinda developed this exercise for myself MULTIPLE years ago, and overcame and understood a lot of this then on my own volition, now I’m just lazily watching RUclips to procrastinate the boring work😂 when I think about it I’ll get up and do it almost without pushback but other than that I’m just lazy and don’t want to I find it’s easier now than it was 3 years ago to convince myself to just get work done but even now I still have an inhibiting procrastination that I really don’t understand
Less recently in my life, I was on the right path, but I didn't do the necessary shadow work to permanently quit my addictions and bad habbits. I quit smoking for a year and a half (got back into it). I was working out consistantly (injured myself from one ego rep just to prove to myself I could do it) I was doing well at my job (got fired for dipping back into old habbits) and now I am suffering my karma. I have a lot of spiritual knowledge but avoided my practices because I thought just being deeply conscious of everything was enough. It's time to put in the work and follow through.
Damn, you posted this the day I got sober lol
After 3 years off drowning my issues in alcohol and feeling stuck in life, I feel ready to tackle myself.
Gotta go and find my journal...
That was so helpful, Clark! Because of you I started my shadow work journey & I’m very excited to see where I go ❤
The PTS comment is very much true. I have had soldiers with very difficult upbringing coming in to serve and sometimes some days are extremely difficult. I've learned what helps is full listening and influencing negative behaviors by reinforcing any accomplishments, big or small, they accomplish. I am also coping with depression, I am not sure where it came from, but my best treatment is affirmation, a small journal to meditate and reflect, and daily progression. Inner peace trumps outward acceptance.
Every time I get depressed I resort to my formula of saying thank you from the time I wake up and all day long. And asking for help. It always comes, even if I only ask in my head (and heart). I hope you get the support you need for your depression. Love ultimately is the answer.
Love it!!! Don't compete in the trauma Olympics! Best way to put that and best advice ever!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣👍
I'm so happy that you said don't join the trauma olympics because that's an issue I have to address I grew up hearing oh please its someone out here worse than so I help so much in and didn't express anything because someone issue was more pressing than mine so I thought...it's funny how our parents mess us up but it's our responsibility to heal!!! I'm so tired of my feelings being dismissed
Friend , with all due respect, You are the only one who can dismiss your own feelings , does that make sense to you? because when you're feelings come into your present moment , which might be even an issue like abandonment or rejection etc. and you instead of acknowledging and accepting it , and welcoming it into your present moment, that you can inturn place upon it loving kindness , you actually dismiss it and send it away or you find other ways of not acknowledging that woundedness that hurtful feeling that causes you mental anguish or psychological pain and because you don't acknowledge this particular feeling that comes up in your moment you look externally for validation instead of giving yourself validation by validating the wounded and hurtful and painful feelings that come up in your present moment does that make sense to you?
I can only suggest that when those painful feelings come into your present moment, that you acknowledge them and accept them with loving kindness and with hospitality, giving space to your uncomfortable wounded or hurtful feelings and as you do the acknowledgment and acceptance and loving-kindness that you place upon that woundedness in your present moment will actually transform into healing as we allow our feelings space to process.
We are supposed to have a parental child relationship with our feelings we being the parent in our Consciousness and our feelings being the child as the feeling and as we place this loving acceptance Upon Our feelings/ inner child we are placing loving acceptance upon ourselves and thereby we are validating ourselves and in turn as we place this loving acceptance upon ourselves we are now able to authentically give others the same loving acceptance as we give ourselves.
Therefore, if we validate our wounded selves, then others cannot hurt us by what they tell us or they cannot invalidate us because they dismiss what we have to say, Because if you understand that your validation is no longer requiring something external, so you're going to find as you start processing these feelings and placing the loving acceptance upon them that when people invalidate you externally , it's not even going to affect you.
I think it's important to understand that you have your objective impersonal self which is the parent / consciousness and then you have your subjective personal self which is the child which is your feelings and whenever you take things personally it means that you are not being in the place of the objective impersonal parent and that's where you always need to be because that's the place of victory you are there to minister to your feelings you are there to minister to your personal self and if you identify as the personal self that's when you get your feelings hurt , does that make sense to you you? You can't take things personally, if you are in the objective and impersonal state of being you can only take things personally when you are in your personal subjective self. Let me know if this helps thank you!
@@stevemiller8895 I definitely realize that now I should have been more specific this is when I was younger between 5-11 and my feelings were dismissed by my parents but I learned that less as a child and I'm better for it!!
I'm a dad. I think about this kind of stuff when I parent my kids. Part of why I have such a great relationship with my kids.
What am I avoiding? My initial response was "everything". Everything is stressing me out. I'm sure most people that know me have no idea but it feels like everything.
“The Science of Stuck” by Britt Frank is an EXCELLENT new book on this topic. Exceptional! Informed!!!
and helpful!!! Check it out at your local library!! Best wishes fellow journeyers!
So7nds good, is it about the shadow?
Carl jung is the originator of all shadow work
This reminds me of parts work in the Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). Very Helpful. In IFS you talk and interview all of your parts that make up who you are. You make sure everyone has a seat at the table and their concerns are heard.
Really nice video Clark, you truly changed my life! I really like the way you talk and make videos. Thank you so much! Wish you the best always
Happy to hear your life is improving.
I love your channel, i love when channel like yours are really helpful and practical and not only talking basic motivation stuff over and over again.
This video has come at the right time for me.Majorly helpful throughout and very interesting point about the shame,guilt fear Vs peace love feelings .
My emotions of late along with your explanation have proven you can't be high vibing whilst carrying low vibe feelings proving the importance of dealing with them and your video has given great tips on how to do this so thankyou truly greatful for this content 🙏
Yes! by going to the low vibe feelings and clearing them at the root, we can greater access and intensity to the high vibe feelings that we are desiring!
We turn that which is undesirable , into that which is worthy.
@@kevji absolutely but I've watched various videos on what shadow work is,which is good but this video actually has good input on the questions to ask yourself as it's not always easy knowing where/ how to start in order to get to the root so that you can begin to move forward 🙂
Random video suggestion and I'm glad I clicked. I had to pause it on the part of taking up ram with the tabs open .. makes total sense. Have to close them and make room to free your computer..which is your mind.. good video so far and I will continue to watch.. like. Sub. And bells on.. I can tell this new find which is you will bring more inspiration into my life. Enjoy your day 😊
Been doing Shadow Work for years without knowing that's what it's called XD Great crash course, I'm gonna be looking at it from a new angle now!
Hey Clark! Loved, loved, loved this video. I am impressed with the quality of all you do. Thank you! (The blue light circles reflecting on your glasses are distracting).
I love them! They are like little, mini halos, and little mini orbs with a little imagination!
I thought it was just me being me. I can’t ignore the reflections
this is very much so along the lines of what happens in the persona series of games, especially the 4th one. Seeing what seems to be negative in what you're doing/feeling, accepting that it's there, and seeing what you can do constructively with it.
it's not quite what happens in that game, though it's really good and totally worth playing btw :p
You're a cool looking dude. Thanks for the info. I've been needing some help clearing out my brain.
I really wanted to comment and say that your channel is really, really good. Your manner of approaching topics and articulating ideas is sooo easy to grasp and engaging. This is the one self improvement channel whose videos aren't a drag or bore to get through. You should really pat yourself on the back :)
why did i become so much more miserable after shadow work? :) i was hoping for a big change but maybe there's just something too deep-seated that i can't put a finger on.
i concluded i might have ADHD..
what does shadow work do to persons like us or rather neuro divergent people..is it any different?
i am sure adhd has roots which i may be able dig up through shadow work but being hyperfocused on shadow self and overanalysis might easily lead to rumination. that's what happened to me atleast.
any thoughts on this? anybody.
I have ADHD, and I can totally relate to what you’re saying. Something that I’ve learned in my years doing shadow work and spiritual practices, is that I can research ‘how to’s…’ and learn from them, but then I should only apply what works for me, and create my own processes.
Neurodivergent people think and process things differently, and we tend to feel like failures because we can’t focus long enough, we lose interest, etc.
My advice is to think about past experiences where you had a challenge such as this, and overcame it. Then, break it down and see what helped you solve that issue, and try and apply that solution to your shadow work process.
Also, I think a big part of shadow work in general is step number 4 in Clark’s process (10:28)-acknowledgment without judgement-because judgement is a big shadow for us with adhd, always secretly thinking there’s something wrong with us.
I hope this helps ❤
I can understand , there is a saying that says,"Over analysis , becomes paralysis". which means you might be overwhelmed by the information necessary in order for you to achieve some sort of healing, but I want to encourage you to just read through what I wrote and this might help you because it's really simple it doesn't require that you go back anywhere or do anything except for whenever an emotion or feeling or an issue comes up that you place acknowledgment of it and acceptance and loving kindness to it and hospitality and letting it remain with you instead of trying to suppress it let it come up and let it be with you and then of course, I discuss your relationship to your feelings and the way that I go about it but let me know if this helps and take care of yourself!
I am in the process of becoming self aware and therefore I know that I am not my feelings but I am the space for my feelings and in a more relationship oriented representation, I am consciousness and it is / I AM the parent to my inner child who represents my feelings.
So when I am feeling lost I know that the feeling is my inner child and within that relationship I know that children have needs and being lost. For example , is part of being wounded so I want to console my inner child by first acknowledging and accepting and treating with loving kindness and giving him Hospitality which means although he is wounded and I feel the wound, i do not run away from it , but rather, I welcome it and in doing so through all of this love that I am placing upon my feelings my inner child is able to transform from being lost and wounded and feeling unacknowledged and unaccepted and unloved
(because I may have felt the feeling and did not want to deal with it and instead i ran from it,)
to now the feeling transforms into being found and healed all because of the acknowledgment and acceptance and the loving kindness that I place upon my feelings and that's how I heal.That's how I increase my confidence my self-esteem my value and sense of worth which is the result my process this also increases my ability to validate myself internally so that my inner child is not crying out for some external validation because I failed to validate my inner child internally, through acknowledgment and acceptance and loving kindness and validating my inner child's presence.
I also give my feelings the highest priority that sense of self that sense that I am number one or my inner child is number one who happens to be in charge of my feelings, what he feels, Is the very most important thing to me, and because of this he feels that importance and value That I give him and since he feels that way i also am feeling what he feels. like he's number one and now he is very confident and that confidence comes out through my expression and in my projection into the world and from that it is reflected back on to me because I am omitting a higher frequency / vibration and that frequency / vibration returns to me in that I walk this Earth confidently with high self-esteem as a result of the acknowledgment the acceptance the loving kindness and internal validation that I am able to place upon my own woundedness my own wounded inner child and by this it transforms into healing and because of this I am becoming more authentic in everything I say and do and I keep improving and becoming the functional person that I was created to be as I am embracing my dark side unauthentic personality because of woundedness but through acknowledgment and acceptance of it
It transform from wounded and unauthentic into my healed and authentic personality much like a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly and it is in the psychological heart , that for a caterpillar also represents the Cocoon where this transformation into my authentic personality represented as a butterfly , takes place.
Want to watch, but keep watching ring light reflection and realize I'm not hearing. I will see what other shadow work videos are out there.
I highly recommend the vipassana meditation technique. Going to one 10 day retreat has purified a lot of my shadow. I am a different person today
I just did this and it was sooo liberating. I'm planning to do it for at least 2 weeks till I get a new job. Afterwards I'll keep working on healing at least once or twice a week. thank you so much for sharing. You are helping me heal from traumas that have been holding me back my entire life. Your way of explaining everything is simple easy and applicable. Keep shining I'm sending you vibes of love and prosperity.
I just want to say, your videos popped up out of no where and kind of ride along with my direction. I enjoy the ones who can can break stereotypes and not assume just because someone is wearing a cool ass leather jacket that he is somehow threatening in a way, but yet you are not. However you could be, so that is were the power is I think for me is in the restraint
Lol! I do almost all my shadow work with crystals.
I unexpectedly triggered kundalini through crystal meditation 20 years ago, then stopped meditating because it got too intense and ungrounding.
Fastforward to Covid, got really bored and started working with crystals again.
Signs that a crystal is doing shadow work and moving blocked energy, sharp pain, muscle contraction, tiny electric sensations, thinking of issues you usually avoid (usually surrounding the need for boundaries), feeling bottled up emotions like shame, sadness, heartbreak or anger.
Grounding crystals are what eventually made me understand what grounding my excess spiritual energy is supposed to feel like.
Tiger iron on the root chakra (mix of hematite, red jasper and tiger eye) is the most intensely grounding crystal I've ever experienced. It rips emotions you didn't even know you had and pulls them down through your root chakra down into the Earth. It's not for the faint hearted.
There are gentler and more graceful grounding crystals. I really enjoy brown calcite and dravite because they gently pull the energy down my legs, through my feet, to the Earth star chakra. It's sooooo relaxing.
One of the best ones for getting rid of negative energy is supposed to be aegirine. I've only recently acquired one. At first it made me feel more confident, but upon repeated use I've had really weird and spiritual experiences with it where I felt in touch with purer aspects of my soul.
Shadow work has been a long and hard journey for me. I've worked seriously at it with crystals for the last two years. I wanted better grounding and I've had a lot of breakthroughs with my root chakra recently. I am very grateful I have done the work. I have less anxiety and it's getting better and better. It's hard work but it pays off.
Loved the vid : )
I did shadow work before 'Shadow work' was mainstream. My relatives are from Siberia. We been doing this 'social' way of being in the world 🌎 for 10,000 years. Then we came to America. The central US we are the Snake people. Yes I'm also Slitheran house 🖖. We just watching your 260 year social experiment: USA From the Far North. I'm J. I approve these methods ☮️
Thanks you changed my life i watch your video that made me improve myself a lot so thank you
Good for you! Happy to hear you're improving yourself.
@@christhornham ya, thankyou sir
Great video. I stumbled on this and i really have to say your way of presenting this info (despite not me knowing the content) was great, concise, and really easy to consume. Good job :)
None of this will help you. The only thing that can even half help you is direct action. You have to work ... plant gardens, clean your house, organize the paperwork, take care of animals/pets, get that certificate, deal with that bill collector, cook that healthier food, take a daily walk... And stay off the internet, stay off the social media, stop texting, stop watching RUclips all day ... This right here is the stuff, non-stop "self help" supposed "coaches" and "gurus," non-stop chattering... that's making us sick.
Still putting out great content with your vids!!! Thank you!!!
Oh my! I could never make sense of that inner child thing. And then, you just said it: it is shadow work, pure and simple. Thank you! I was making it too complicated for myself... as usual 😂
Dude. Cut to the chase. Damn. Unsubcribed
You know if you do the work you have no idea how much your life will change if I can make it simple for you though whenever you have any negative or uncomfortable feeling from an issue that you had growing up as a kid or you are triggered when that feeling comes into your present the Temptation is to suppress it and be distracted or let yourself be distracted and that's a way of running from it but instead embrace it like you would your own physical child who's hurting but instead it is your inner child that's hurting but don't run from it acknowledge it and accept it and place loving kindness upon it and let it remain with you as long as it wants and you will find that within minutes that that feeling of discomfort or the woundedness or the psychological pain or trauma well suddenly transform and subside and you have just completed one processed feeling because that's all feelings really want to do is just process but instead of letting them process we hold on to them and try to use them as a weapon or we hold on to them thinking that if we suppress them they'll go away but they don't they need to process so if you can just get that into your mind that feelings need to process and feelings need to be loved because loving your feelings you are loving yourself and when you love yourself you're able to authentically love others outside of yourself the other Advantage is when you validate your wounded inner self inner child you won't have a need to search for external validation from other people and I'm not kidding you I've been doing this for over a year now and it has completely changed my life and the effort is not as much as you might think but if you just understand the concept it's definitely worth your while it's a game changer anyways I just thought you should know because I know what it's done for me and if I could tell everyone I would!
These terms are so pretentious lol “shadow work” like get a job
What you resist - persists. Amen.
Thank you for explaining it so much and trying to make it easier to understand and starting the very important work that needs to be done first for every human 🙏
Yes crack the michelobs, 😂 it’s been 6 months now since I quit drinking, totally opened up a major shift for healing!
Shadow work was life changing for me!
Great approaches. I'd like to throw in that this kind of therapy is very successful throughout the history of mental health nursing & there's a lot more evidence than the one example illustrated about how useful these approaches are. I really like the way you explain it here.
Something I would add, is that none of this works too well for the 30% of people who insist on bringing, and persist in keeping "supernatural" théories or other unscientific ideology in the process.
This is about your own thoughts and not about what imaginary beings you might be using to avoid thinking about problems. You might realise this quite early on, in the process, by yourself, but if you don't and you keep getting nowhere with it, I advise some consideration of the facts, with some kind of additional approach related to journaling, like CBT
CBT is where you focus on the emotions and analyse exactly where anxiety arises in your thoughts that trigger it. This helps unpick over-reliance on ideology as a method of coping with difficult circumstances.
Please share your thoughts on casual sex...sex in general.
I appreciate this content. One if the hardest things for me to deal with is the trauma is because I failed me.
I know that feeling, many of us do.
We are all bound to fail from time to time, perhaps even seasons where it seems like failure is inevitable, but if you can fail yourself, you can forgive yourself. IF you can forgive yourself, you can be worthy of success. If you can can be worthy of success, you will find success.
The success must first happen on the inside, then it so too will be on the outside.
Thanks Clark 🌎 Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
RUclips showed me this suggestion simultaneously while I was doing day two of an 'inner child' journaling exercise my therapist gave me. I was worried because I saw "law of attraction" and I basically think that stuff is woo-woo. You can't positive yourself into something; you just won't get anywhere by negativing yourself out of everything. However, this video was actually extremely useful (and kinda similar to the thing I'm doing.)
Doing shadow work is crucial before finding your twin flame or you will fight with them a lot because they’re your mirror of everything you hate about yourself or reminders of your unhealed traumas, once you heal everything and they’re healed, the twin flame relationship will be bliss, otherwise stay away from them lol it’s the worst pain possible being rejecting by your other half
Great info. Have to be honest, the light reflections in your glasses is very distracting lol
When god keep silent for our questions, people like Clark Kegley starts to talk. 💕
Nah, just don't get it. Self acceptance before self improvement. I drink smoke, weed, fuck up conversation.... But no "negative vibes" from it all, despite a religious upbringing. Self Acceptance people... "Shadow work" fun buzz word. Just accept yourself, and see confidence grow. Don't take on other people's preconceived judgments. Your doing fucking fine. (Just keep physical health to a reasonable state, and go see your dentist)
Hey thanks for another shadow work video. I recognize a pattern in my life. Time and time again, when I lost some weight, I wanted to put some fat back on, and I always did. As a result, I was always yo-yoing. I really think it stems from my low self-worth, and there's this shadow part of me that wants to sabotage myself. That shadow part of myself doesn't want me looking good and feeling good. I need to look at that part of me straight in the eyes and have a conversation. Why are you here? Why do you not me being happy, healthy and attractive? I think there's a lot of pain and shame in there, that keeps me from moving forward and truly stepping into the highest version of myself.
I think you missed a pretty important and obviously successful method of shadow work…
12 Step Programs. Especially considering how much you mention the distractions of substances.
Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Extreme curiosity! I Iike it a lot!
Sounds like you have some
“Chemical Dependency” issues; maybe there are some RUclipsvideos you can watch to help overcome your shortcomings..?
Wanted to send a quick thank you for so much help. You've helped me be me and be able to have th courage to live my life. Still working at it, but this helps.
I concur on most of what you’re saying ,however Some things that happen are just that bad that there is No Way Possible of Making Sense of It ,…
As a experience of 2 years of manifestation this technique has changed my life completely.
Thanks for the great video. You talk about parts, have you read about Internal Family Systems?
Isn't it sad you have to say "it's not witchcraft"? Some religious people are a handful sometimes XD
To me it's like going to the deep end of a swimming pool when I try something new just turn 55 May 29 5 years working at Goodwill just really part time dead end job
I really like this video. How u explain that shadow work doesn't have to be something from witchcraft. I looked into witchcraft myself for a time. But I was also starting to fall into a mental fog/ a lighter type of depression than what I've had b4 in the past. I started to learn about shadow work. & have been wanting to actually try it myself. But I also didn't like the fact that it was tied to wc so much. So I'm glad u made this video bcuz I can show it to someone w/o it being something wc like. & maybe they can use it too. & also not feel like it's something from wc.
lovely stuff..but brother please..lose the light-flair in your glasses..I want to listen to you, but the flair is distracting.
As a Palestinian fan and follower, I feel pure disgust in my stomach at this level of betrayal.
How dare you.
These educational videos are very helpful. Most people are robotic zombies who are asleep.
Very informative! 😃
“What am I avoiding?” Well, myself?. That’s quite big too handle 😞
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Thanks for interesting method to face our shadow. Once question? There is a background sound. What is it?
lol, ive been doing shadow work with my jurnaling and analisys all this time? :D excelent :D
Really awesome content. ❤ I'm a new follower!
One small note, the light on your glasses is a bit distracting.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this video!! Made so much sense to me. I’m excited to begin ❤🎉😮😊❤
Thank you!!!!!!!
So excited to come across your videos. This is what I’ve needed. Gonna click the link and ck it out. I need someone there to help push me or should I say guide me. Doing it alone I can never seem to do it. So thank you for your videos much love
2 years in theraphy.. thats why i understand what you are saying…its not possible to understand for a person who hasnt been through theraphy, because none of the techniques are self-evident
Shadow Work, in it's many forms and methods, is deeply commected to witchcraft ❤️ That is one of many reasons why the practice/craft can be extremely healthy and can be a positive catalyst for inner realization, change, healing, and confidence to take action steps in life for individuals. It encourages this type of work in many ways.
It makes me sad that it is laughed at and dismissed so often when it has been so crucial to our development since the dawn of our time as a species... The telling of history really did witchcraft dirty.
i seeeeeee... so what you're saying is, that if you're a parent, arrange to have your child get lost in the forest at night so they have something real to be traumatized by instead of some pansy ass shit like me picking the wrong toy for christmas that he'll moan about endlessly to his therapist later. that's a good tip!
Haw ! Psychedelics aka Psycho-laxatives ! Alice D . was good to me.
Do you have or know any books on this? I am highly interested and would like more info if possible.
There's not much anyone can do when they need to fart they worry they might follow through and fill their pants.
It's good manners to the world that you keep that frown upside down until you get home.
I always why and I’m still asking.
Hahaha. There's a disturbance in the force. Peace will only be an illusion until (ya know lmao)
I really like using eft tapping (emotional freedom technique) for shadow work. It works super well!!
Its can stop thoughts??
@@gurmanbrar8945 🤔 Do you mean can it stop rumination? I would say yes it can.
Wohh Clark but pls make ur vds lit bit fast ⏩. We wait. For it
This the video that made me SUBSCRIBE lol...Hi fam🙌
Thank you for this video! Any book recommendations on shadow work?
This is the best, most thorough and simplest way I’ve ever heard this explained. I’ve been interested in doing it and I’m really going to explore it now. Thank you!