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1) Walking on eggshells 2) Comments on flaws 3) Mean jokes 4) You’re not good enough 5) You’re to blame 6) Violates boundaries 7) Try to guilt trip 8) Jealous 9) You can’t do the things they end up doing 10) No return on favors / Make you feel bad for them doing something nice 11) Rare apologies 12) You’re good news is bad news 13) Won’t finish a conversation to resolve issue 14) Say you’re overly sensitive 15) Love to focus on your mistakes 16) Withhold information 17) Compare to others negatively
one way to know a person is toxic (which goes along with these disordreed people), is if even when you are not around them, and you think about them, you get angry/or mabye not necissarily angry, but your blood pressure feels like it is going up. you feel streessed. your body is literally telling you
thanks Kat 💗 my parents are in all those traits, but i’m not surprised. you helped me remind myself to evaluate myself and not let anyone else do it and i’m happy to be one of your little friends 💜
yeah i know a few people like this. i just found out last year that being a narcissist was a clinical mental illness. i had no idea it was that serious.
could you call it a toxic relationship when it’s just another person disrespecting my time and boundaries? like i’m always the one who has to start talking about our issues and every time she’s like “i’m tired of it” and if i don’t push the conversation , we get nowhere she’s always late, like REALLY late, the average is 40mins i tried setting my boundaries a few times and she completely ignored them or got offended at that other parts of our friendship are good but these particular things make me wonder if i want to continue this relationship
I don't know but it sounds draining. Someone getting offended by a loved one boundaries and level of comfort to me and refusing to even discuss them is always a red flag to me and also why continously waste someone else's time , what's the reason anyone would do that? Do they genuinely think their time is more valuable or they're not enthused about hanging out with you? Either way it's not a good sign, can you really do this for the rest of your life.
@@pepliok if i is okay I want to ask how did you do it? I mean leaving. Because I find it really hard to leave someone who says I love you but pretend differently.
@@meralsenses1376 it's hard to say what exactly happened, it was mostly a lot of things combined together like the person just ignoring my boundries and me having enough of that to the point i was like "i love her but this is not worth it anymore" i wouldn't say the person didn't particularly love me, it's just we both were too much for each other to the point we both had enough and just went into silent treatment altogether i guess what i would recommened to you after all of my years of therapy and knowledge is that you always gotta listen to yourself, because actions speak louder than words, if the person says they love you but don't act that way and make you feel bad in any way, what's the point of keep hurting yourself? i want you to know that you're not being a bad person for putting yourself first and choosing your mental health over someone else, sadly in life you have to pick one of those at some point what i did in most of these situations is try to do a final resolve, tell them how i feel, "give the, the last chance" and if nothing changes i call it quits and slowly stop talking or telling them stuff about myself, i stop any initiative to the point we're over or you could be more mature and just straight away tell the person that you love them but you don't think this friendship is gonna work out anymore i hope i got your question right, if there's anything else you want to know please don't hesitate to ask
just a few days ago I realized that I was in a relationship that all 17 behavior was included and I was not sure until I saw this video. And I always feel guilty when I am around this person. And I thought that she was my best friend. Now, I do not know what to do, say or how to heal. I really love her but I started to not like myself and it hurts.
@@rock9121 ...she is a good person and helping people in need not feeling all alone with their battles - or what What? With a "bright" personality I mean "good"..
Why do these people act like that? For me it's so hard to give a minimum explanation on why people are toxic and treat others in bad ways. They should be alone and have no meaningful relationships so they cannot damage others...
Unbelievable, you just described myself. Now, i am depressed and an energy vampire. Just when i thought it couldn't have gotten worse... Thank you for heads up. Anyway to fix that?
I'm not sure you can self-diagnose out of a youtube video... Also maybe your low self-esteem might drag you into believing this, and also "toxic people" may exist but, in general I think we should talk about toxic traits rather than people. Try to be gentle with yourself, and I advise to talk about it with a therapist you trust.
@@lorenemoinard6267 i dont really think there is a decent "therapist" at the area i reside at. Psychology is just not evolved enough area yet. So all i got are RUclips videos and my old moronic self. By the way being gentle with myself is one of the first things that got me into this mess.
maybe a brother-sister relationship isn't what you are talking about. but, with some tiny variations, you described both of my sisters perfectly. small example. one sister always sticks to a lie, no matter how illogical it is. and then blames me for not accepting the lie. she will always use excuses why we lost contact, sometimes for years. last time she ''lost'' my contact information...(seriously?...she knows where I live...) this is why she never responded to my emails or letters. see how much sense that makes? the other is always adversarial. when I told her about something that she did in my youth, and how it really hurt me (emotionally) she attacked me for being a liar and demanded I tell her what I hoped to gain. then she questioned my recollection of the event. asking me all kinds of irrelevant questions like what wallpaper looked like. yeah, we don't really interact anymore. and I'm trying to be okay with that.
Btw. Trying to convince you that something didn’t happen and asking about some ridiculous stuff like the wallpaper… that’s gaslighting. Very common with narcissistic personality disorder.
I can totally relate to this, but it is my older brother. We have almost cut off contact more times then I can count. We still talk, but quite often forced. I totally get the opening up about how you felt as a child, and then they attack by trying to prove that your wrong. And then bring up ridiculous things to try and make you question yourself and prove that they are right. Same with my brother. I will tell him time and time again that how I feel is how I feel. A person can’t easily change that, and he can’t control that. It is not right or wrong…it just is. I have been there for him to listen too, but I can’t ever have that back. He has in the past at times used things I have opened up to him about against me. I know it can take two to argue, but it is like you said in the video, sometimes others can see easier what is wrong with the relationship.
you know that toxic people are only those who perceive others as toxic ? You see only reflection of your own mind. Without toxicity in you , you only see others as dumb, immature or annoying etc, but never as toxic. The moment you see them this way, it's you, not them. It's your way only to see this way, because what others say simply hits your weak spot that comes from that. And if not that then you never would be affected.
@@merlokiii Yeah, but the fact that it affects you is only because of relation within you, and that makes you see them that way. They just expose your weakness. otherwise you would never get chance to fix it.
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1) Walking on eggshells 2) Comments on flaws 3) Mean jokes 4) You’re not good enough 5) You’re to blame 6) Violates boundaries 7) Try to guilt trip 8) Jealous 9) You can’t do the things they end up doing 10) No return on favors / Make you feel bad for them doing something nice 11) Rare apologies 12) You’re good news is bad news 13) Won’t finish a conversation to resolve issue 14) Say you’re overly sensitive 15) Love to focus on your mistakes 16) Withhold information 17) Compare to others negatively
So I see you've met my mom.
@@Khaeysa OMGOSH🤣 I feel that!
*They don't respect your NOs, not nose, just in case it sounds weird. 😂 Some of them will probably disrespect your nose too, tho. 😜🤨
🤭🤭🤭🤣🤣🤣
The worst part is when they don't for their own rules but enforce it on you.
I hate that I'm probably the toxic person in relationships,
I delt with some very toxic people in the past, and yeah, all the traits you've listed are pretty accurate
one way to know a person is toxic (which goes along with these disordreed people), is if even when you are not around them, and you think about them, you get angry/or mabye not necissarily angry, but your blood pressure feels like it is going up. you feel streessed. your body is literally telling you
thanks for the video kat♥️
hope you're doing well, you got it!♥️
thanks Kat 💗 my parents are in all those traits, but i’m not surprised. you helped me remind myself to evaluate myself and not let anyone else do it and i’m happy to be one of your little friends 💜
yeah i know a few people like this. i just found out last year that being a narcissist was a clinical mental illness. i had no idea it was that serious.
Thanks kat 💜 for this video
could you call it a toxic relationship when it’s just another person disrespecting my time and boundaries?
like i’m always the one who has to start talking about our issues and every time she’s like “i’m tired of it” and if i don’t push the conversation , we get nowhere
she’s always late, like REALLY late, the average is 40mins
i tried setting my boundaries a few times and she completely ignored them or got offended at that
other parts of our friendship are good but these particular things make me wonder if i want to continue this relationship
I don't know but it sounds draining. Someone getting offended by a loved one boundaries and level of comfort to me and refusing to even discuss them is always a red flag to me and also why continously waste someone else's time , what's the reason anyone would do that? Do they genuinely think their time is more valuable or they're not enthused about hanging out with you? Either way it's not a good sign, can you really do this for the rest of your life.
They obviously don’t care abt the friendship if they turn up 40 minutes late bro. just drop them
@@rock9121 funny but we ended up splitting and i think for good
feels bad being ghosted but i guess it’s for the best
@@pepliok if i is okay I want to ask how did you do it? I mean leaving. Because I find it really hard to leave someone who says I love you but pretend differently.
@@meralsenses1376 it's hard to say what exactly happened, it was mostly a lot of things combined together like the person just ignoring my boundries and me having enough of that to the point i was like "i love her but this is not worth it anymore"
i wouldn't say the person didn't particularly love me, it's just we both were too much for each other to the point we both had enough and just went into silent treatment altogether
i guess what i would recommened to you after all of my years of therapy and knowledge is that you always gotta listen to yourself, because actions speak louder than words, if the person says they love you but don't act that way and make you feel bad in any way, what's the point of keep hurting yourself?
i want you to know that you're not being a bad person for putting yourself first and choosing your mental health over someone else, sadly in life you have to pick one of those at some point
what i did in most of these situations is try to do a final resolve, tell them how i feel, "give the, the last chance" and if nothing changes i call it quits and slowly stop talking or telling them stuff about myself, i stop any initiative to the point we're over
or you could be more mature and just straight away tell the person that you love them but you don't think this friendship is gonna work out anymore
i hope i got your question right, if there's anything else you want to know please don't hesitate to ask
just a few days ago I realized that I was in a relationship that all 17 behavior was included and I was not sure until I saw this video. And I always feel guilty when I am around this person. And I thought that she was my best friend. Now, I do not know what to do, say or how to heal. I really love her but I started to not like myself and it hurts.
Is it rain in the background? 😌
This is so truth and everyone should pay attention to this red flags 🚩 Kat I adore your content 💕 keep going ❤️🤟🏽
Thank you love. 🥰
Your videos make me cry🙃
Wow your voice is so beautiful 🥺
Nice smiling Kat, it is contagious - great video :)
They barely smiled tho?
@@rock9121 The calm and ever bright personality brings the light and smile
@@nicolaijrgensen2733 wtf
@@rock9121 ...she is a good person and helping people in need not feeling all alone with their battles - or what What?
With a "bright" personality I mean "good"..
Why do these people act like that? For me it's so hard to give a minimum explanation on why people are toxic and treat others in bad ways. They should be alone and have no meaningful relationships so they cannot damage others...
Yeah, being friends with a toxic person is like trick or treat
Thanks for another video ! Take care and stay safe in these crazy times…always loving your content !
she descibed me, i am the toxic person
Unbelievable, you just described myself. Now, i am depressed and an energy vampire. Just when i thought it couldn't have gotten worse... Thank you for heads up. Anyway to fix that?
I'm not sure you can self-diagnose out of a youtube video... Also maybe your low self-esteem might drag you into believing this, and also "toxic people" may exist but, in general I think we should talk about toxic traits rather than people. Try to be gentle with yourself, and I advise to talk about it with a therapist you trust.
Lovely advice, thank you Lorène. 🥰
@@lorenemoinard6267 i dont really think there is a decent "therapist" at the area i reside at. Psychology is just not evolved enough area yet. So all i got are RUclips videos and my old moronic self. By the way being gentle with myself is one of the first things that got me into this mess.
@@mrdragonage7446Trust me I understand, I am an expat, have you searched online ?
Oh yeah! A video about my mother.
I love the rain in the back ground :)
Thank you, I’m glad you like it!
I hear rain
Ok but like why you’re describing my father !!!
same 🤝
Yes all my siblings are toxic to me
Spot on!
My ex is exactly like this!💀
Welcome to the club. ☠️
You are the best
All the signs are with my parents
people using this +1 toxic trait
im getting angry...
Przykro że chociażby brak Pl napisów:((
Motywacja by uczyć się języków obcych
Nic złośliwego oczywiście, ale język i się też przydają, pozdrawiam
maybe a brother-sister relationship isn't what you are talking about. but, with some tiny variations, you described both of my sisters perfectly.
small example. one sister always sticks to a lie, no matter how illogical it is. and then blames me for not accepting the lie. she will always use excuses why we lost contact, sometimes for years. last time she ''lost'' my contact information...(seriously?...she knows where I live...) this is why she never responded to my emails or letters. see how much sense that makes?
the other is always adversarial. when I told her about something that she did in my youth, and how it really hurt me (emotionally) she attacked me for being a liar and demanded I tell her what I hoped to gain. then she questioned my recollection of the event. asking me all kinds of irrelevant questions like what wallpaper looked like.
yeah, we don't really interact anymore. and I'm trying to be okay with that.
I am… I’m taking about ANY relationships in your life. Sorry you have to go through this love. I’ve been there with my family. I understand.
Btw. Trying to convince you that something didn’t happen and asking about some ridiculous stuff like the wallpaper… that’s gaslighting. Very common with narcissistic personality disorder.
I can totally relate to this, but it is my older brother. We have almost cut off contact more times then I can count. We still talk, but quite often forced. I totally get the opening up about how you felt as a child, and then they attack by trying to prove that your wrong. And then bring up ridiculous things to try and make you question yourself and prove that they are right. Same with my brother. I will tell him time and time again that how I feel is how I feel. A person can’t easily change that, and he can’t control that. It is not right or wrong…it just is. I have been there for him to listen too, but I can’t ever have that back. He has in the past at times used things I have opened up to him about against me. I know it can take two to argue, but it is like you said in the video, sometimes others can see easier what is wrong with the relationship.
you know that toxic people are only those who perceive others as toxic ? You see only reflection of your own mind. Without toxicity in you , you only see others as dumb, immature or annoying etc, but never as toxic. The moment you see them this way, it's you, not them. It's your way only to see this way, because what others say simply hits your weak spot that comes from that. And if not that then you never would be affected.
It's just a way of describing mean/abusive people, it is quite popular right now. Your comment doesn't make sense.
@@merlokiii Yeah, but the fact that it affects you is only because of relation within you, and that makes you see them that way. They just expose your weakness. otherwise you would never get chance to fix it.