TOXIC PARENTS...
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Sometimes I make videos that are quite obvious. That's because I want you to feel validated & less alone. Posting this one as a virtual hug. Maybe you've been doubting yourself recently - I hope these words come to you at the right time and make you feel a bit better.
#raised #by #narcissists
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Sometimes I make videos that might seem quite obvious. That's because I want you to simply feel validated & less alone. Posting this one as a virtual hug. Maybe you've been doubting yourself recently - I hope these words come to you at the right time and make you feel a bit better.
P.S. If you’re still young and live with your parents, remember that ONE DAY, your happiness and wellbeing will no longer depend on them.
"Every child deserves to have parents but not every parents deserves to have a child."
Every single statement you said at the start is true for me, including the reason why I clicked on this video.
This video is so relatable. Sad that our parents have treated us like this.
O.O Thanks for the heart
What’s the difference between toxic and abusive
kattt could you do one about toxic, manipulative, victim complex mothers? i would love one like that :( the type of mother who loves to look like a martyr for taking care of their children to other people and manipulates you because of it
This is so relatable it honestly made me cry...
Thank you Kat for your wise words ❤️
When I need to cry, they say " Stop feeling bad for yourself. " When I tell them it's not my fault, they say " You always mess up. Your selfish. Go do something productive. Its probably that stupid phone. "
This shouldn’t be so relatable regarding my father
Constantly being criticized by my mother eventually led to me developing a severe social anxiety disorder, and your channel is just perfect for me.
For me, the worst part of having an abusive parent is that I have this notion in my head that all parents automatically love and care for their children. I hear this message all the time and things like "parents always do what's best for their children!" That makes me feel horrible because it makes me wonder why my parent just had to be the one who didn't care for her child, or it makes me try to justify her abuse as doing "what was best for me," or makes me question if what I experienced was really abuse. It makes me wonder what the heck is wrong with me that my own mother treated me that way. Luckily I'm in therapy now, but still need a lot of help and support. Videos like these and the comment sections showing that I'm not alone help so much.
I will pray to God so that you will get all the happiness the world has to offer. Stay Strong.
A stigmata many of us wear, not as a badge but as a heinous scar that has to re heal; every day you see a commercial that you know isn't talking about you and how your parents/family functioned.
🌟 Many points stood out for me here. For example :: “Not every parent is a good caregiver.” (1:45) … “and most importantly, STOP expecting THEM [your parents] to change.” (2:45)
I have extremely abusive parents, thankyou for this video, it was comforting in a way that somewhere, someone, understands.
THANK YOU FOR THESE WORDS AND EMOTIONS ❤❤❤❤
I got kicked out of our house, yesterday. My mum called me at midnight and told me that i should come home. I didnt.
I felt used. I didnt wanted to be a toy for her Controlling/Power Needs. I’ll now start to find a carehome for people in my age, in germany. I feel worried and confused, kinda apathetic. She called me a sl*t, h**e. That it is now wonder why some of my friends and boyfriends left me. She told me that no one could handle me. I’ve always tried to empathize and understand her
Tried to ignore what she has done to me.
That isn’t right. I know my value and I can say that I’m a very special and nice person. I could be a dream for some people. My mum tried to ruin me for many years now but I’m going to make that change for myself. I hope that one day i can Forgive her and that we can talk about our feelings in a healthy way. If someone suffers from the same situation pls search for help and accept ur situation.
It’s funny that you are uploading this video now, in this time and i love ballet☺️.
Hey, hi my name's Fin. Can we be friends?
I have a family member that wants me to get into a certain factory job and I say no. I am like I am not going to get into that job when my last factory job gave me depression and anxiety and half the time it was from the workers there. A factory job might pay good money but there is all kinds of ways to make money in this world that's less stressful with a job or with a side hustle.
Hey Alice ! I just wanted to say that I understand what it's like to leave our own family. I left mine 3 months ago and I've lived among my friends since then. It's not easy everyday, to be on my own, to not have a home where I can go back if I need to but it's definitely worth it ! I've started to heal my wounds, to find self-esteem again and to love myself for who I am. I know now it's ok for me to exist lol and I'm looking for the future and what it can bring me.
I know you feel worried, confused and alone but try to surrender control, don't worry about the next day and enjoy your freedom. The best is to come, you'll get through this and become stronger and more independent. You did the right thing.
Take care :)
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Thank you for this video, I've always felt uncomfortable around my father. For the littlest mistake I've ever made, he would always say are you stupid yes you are stupid or the littlest thing I placed out of line he would shout at me I've lived with that for years until it took a hold of me and I started having social anxiety, trying to do things perfect all the time, developing a fear of Failure. Saying to myself everyday Sating nothing is better for me a ask for something from him he says I'm ungrateful. I think that I mess up that's the only thing people with talk abt for the rest of their lives its so hard knowing that as a child I've always been an extrovert, loving to talk to people and making jokes, always wanting someone to be around me, never wanted to be alone. Until my mother said learn to be be myself it had haunted for years, She kept on shouted at me saying look at my little sister and how she likes to be be herself. Eventually I took hold of her advice and got social anxiety, locked myself in my room forcing myself not to speak because If I do ill say something I shouldn't or I'd mess up. As I got devoured by social anxiety she says I'm hoping crazy and I need help. I remember the times I'd vent to her telling her all my problems about my father, but now they are merging into one.
I'm not a people pleaser, I'm a people avoider that pretty much always says no to everything
Dieses Thema und das Video - es passt so gut zusammen
Thank you! Your content is incredible 💙
Like the universe knew I needed to hear this, Thank you
Imagine being this spot on to everything I am feeling.
Gabor Mate once said: when we're born we have 2 basic needs: need for a secure attachment and a need for authenticity.
When we grow up with toxic parent/s we often have to choose one over the other. Pretty much always child chooses attachment (one that is not secure) just to "survive". The longer this carries on the more suffering we develop into our adulthood and more wounder our inner child becomes. To distract ourselves from the pain of our inner child we may develop addictions, we may become distant or codependent, we may hurt people or be people pleasers, we may strive for perfectionism and never be satisfied with ourselves or we may have no motivation to get out of bed everyday.
Good news is that we can reverse that through let's say therapy. We can deconstruct the patterns, the conditioning/programming, we can move from the position of false Self towards our true Self. That's liberation and freedom. We can build a relationship with our inner child, accept her with all trauma, flaws and imperfections. In return we get a gift of all her qualities such as joy, creativity, energy and love.
It works both ways, we love and accept, we receive the love from within.
Simple but very difficult to do.
You are amazing Kat! Keep up the good work! Much love!
This video is making me think of so many Bad memories i've never had before 🥺 idunno how to express that but i know y'all have that feeling.... It's just cold 🌬️
Heyy, I love you :)
They ignored that I had social anxiety when I was children and now I also have social anxiety but less. I discover that the main reason of my social anxiety is because they was very protective with me and they didn't help me to build a self-steem
Thanks. I really needed to see this today.
I wish babies came out of a factory and they were raised by experts.
cried while watching this whole thing
Thanks for this. This is the video I didn't know I'd be needing.
My parents really fucked my life up financially lowkey . Lol I might as well die now
I swear I wish I had better parents 🥲
Don’t give up. You aren’t solely what your parents have done to you, there’s more to a person than trauma. You deserve life and you will know that one day. I hope you are okay though
@@tessmorris1692 thanks 🙏🏽 I’m trying so hard not to off myself every single day.
@@YungChaseShawty just drop a reply to this comment every once in a while, remind a stranger you’re still alive so I can be proud without any judgement
dance for me wallis...
all i can say about this video is thank you.
i needed this
Oh Kat I saw your social anxiety videos and that was well made I liked your vdo good job of spreading mental health awareness 👏 hope we can be able to reach a large chunk of people to help them 👍 😀 😊 ❤
Your films are wonderful!
relatable
Everything is on point. Thanks for the video 🙂
Amazing video as always, the cinematography, the sound quality, and the message of the video are all top notch !
Definitely resonated within me, as I am healing from my relationship with my parents, so thank you for the kind words, it's always helpful !
Thank you for what you give to us, I hope you are receiving as much in return. Take care of yourself :)
Good job :)
Me encantan tus vídeos :)
They’re not always bad to me. Sometimes I think it would be easier if they would be always mean so avoiding them would hurt less.
I know they love their daughter but I’m not sure if they know who that really is.
And I instinctively know they don’t really wanna get to know me.
They like the idea of who I am.
Instead of being there for me they want me to be their emotional trash can.
But I also see that they try sometimes.
But however, they don’t try enough.
Hope tells me they‘ll change someday for the sake of our relationship.
Deep inside I know I can’t wait on that to happen.
Thank you
You are such amotivation ✨
thanks for opening my eyes I love you soo much now I'll try to get better whith those advises
I literally just fought with my narcissistic mom cause she (and my father too) keeps pushing me through the edge... They're pressuring me too much to decide what I'm going to do this year about my future (I'm 18yo and just finished a 1year prep course) and I'm absurdly stressed out. We came from a 3 year long pandemic and just started to live "normally" again... I still feel like a teenager without any emotional maturity to overcome this really important period of my life that was wasted, but somehow my parents keep forgetting these """"little""" details, forcing me to make important decisions quicker (and mostly trying to decide for me, arguing that's for the better...pretending to understand what I'm going through but also saying that I still too immature and that I'm making selfish and naive choices.) I'm really lost in this situation but trying to always remind that's not my fault. Trying to take control of my own life even if they call me egocentric... that's really hard and I still suffer a lot, but this video was a reminder to keep going, so I'm really grateful that it came for me in the right moment. Tysm, Kat!
(Sry for the possible grammatical mistakes, English is not my native language)
Ok I go cry now
Keep going with your good work🙏❤️
❤❤❤❤
tank you(:
Hello Kat! I am a 17 years old boy who was an severe anxiety disorder and I wanted to ask you how should I begin getting the help I need in order to become better. At the moment I am afraid to go to school anymore because I was put in a very embarrassing moment and I'm afraid to go there. I wear a hoodie on my head all the time because I am afraid to show my true self. I feel very uncomfortable otherwise and I am afraid to make a change because everyone will notice it and I don't want people to stare at me if for example I try some new clothes or have a different haircut. It was always hard for me to live like this but now it feels like it got worse. I don't really have friends neither a supportive family so my best shot is to find a therapist but I wanted to hear your thoughts because I have been following your channel for a long time and I relate to what you are saying in your videos.
please add Polish subtitles
I can't find home
Hi
Thank you for that film. I'm too tired of fighting for a change. I’m 40, and I am still afraid of womens, people. Maybe it is time to give up
I’ve been always blamed, for every damage in the house, forced to wear clothes chosen by my Grandmother and mother. If I say no, they said they would put me in an orphanage. because I am a bad and degenerate son. After my Grandmother started touching the genitals, with claims “I raise you, bath you. So I have the right to do so, and they are her possession” I went to my Mother, and she said that is, only a play. She started doing the same. Few times, I was thrown out of the home, just because I was eating too slow, she claimed I will eat with a better appetite, after. It is my fault, my burden, an indelible disgrace. Always will be. My father was always at work. Maybe it is toxic, maybe it is normal.
I hate my self, for it.
Can you make video how relationship with parents affect love realationships?
I made one 10 days ago, you can find it on my channel :)
@@KatAmarie thanks🥰
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Kat i wanted to ask you how do you know if you are depressed i don't want to go a therapist because i think i am just making it up
You have to go to a therapist. If youre making it up, they will tell you. Self diagnosing is not the right way. If you’re suspicious, ask someone who diagnoses people for a living.